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Exalte 2014 Volume 9 The
Pretty UGLY BODY
Dysmorphia
Glamour on the
High Sea
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Exalte Magazine.com
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Kymberly Soulé Kymberly@ExalteMagazine.com
Associate Publisher Mike Soulé
Contributors Desha’ Ringe Audra Warren
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Editor's Letter
I can remember being a little girl and playing with Barbie’s. I had every one of Barbie’s accessories, including the Town House with an elevator. My friends and I would pretend that we were them. We would dress Barbie up and comb her hair just right, as we got ready for our date with Ken! They were Perfect! Not a flaw on them. Unless of course your dog got ahold of them, and all you had to do was put on an outfit and they were perfect again. Unfortunately that is not the way it is in the REAL WORLD. Growing up I had just as many insecurities as many of you did. There were always girls that were smaller or prettier than me. I was fortunate enough, however, to grow up with confidence in myself. I didnt let these things affect me. I did have friends that were not as happy. Many of my friends did things to help ease the painful emotions they had because of the way they thought they looked. In today’s society there are so many ways you can fix yourself. Nip here, tuck there, injection on this line, lift on this brow....it is endless what you can do. No wonder our teenage girls are so filled with self esteem issues. They are growing up in a world with the pressure of trying to be Perfect! The inspiring story this month is on Body Dysmorphia. A very real issue that affects many of our youth, adults, movie stars and more. My hope is that more and more people realize they can get help. They don’t have to live with the pain. Life is so special and sometimes all it takes is for someone to notice. Love yourself and remember that the pain of the mind is worse than the pain of the body. Bring Christ into all that you do and know that you are beautiful, inside and out!
God Bless You Kymberly Soule’
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
Psalm 139:13-14
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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall….
By Audra Warren
I am the ugliest of them all. Is that what you say to yourself when you look in the mirror?? I sure hope not. The truth is many people actually do feel this way when they see their own reflection through that shiny piece of glass on the wall. Most everyone you know has some sort of imperfection, flaw, what have you that they’d love to change about themselves. It may be their eye color, hair texture, the bump in their nose, the ears that seem too big for their face, that inter-tube they carry around their waist, their tiny breasts that barely fill an “A” cup, thunder thighs that rub together, volcano sized pores, or they may just simply feel half-sized…in laments terms, not quite tall enough. You could ask nearly everyone you know and I can almost guarantee that each person could come up with at least one thing they don’t like about themselves. We all have things we would like to change. In some cases certain flaws can be altered or improved upon. The problem exists when these things we see as flaws become obsessive thoughts that can’t be released. When your everyday life is consumed with the negative beliefs you carry in your own mind a true problem exists. This problem actually has a name; it’s called Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD).
“If you talked to your friends the way you talk to your body, you’d have no friends left.” -Marcia Hutchinson People with Body Dysmorphic Disorder spend hours on end thinking about their real or perceived flaws. They can’t seem to control their negative thoughts, nor do they believe the positive things others say about them. We may see them as Snow White, but when they catch their own reflection in the mirror they see the ugly wicked Queen. This thought process will often cause emotional distress that may very well lead to isolation and eating disorders. Someone with BDD may avoid social settings, friends, and even family in the fear that their so-called flaws may be noticed by others. Isolation alone, as we know can lead any happy, sane person into a spiral of anxiety and depression, which is sure to only complicate matters. Many times a person with BDD will undergo unnecessary plastic surgeries to correct their perceived imperfections only to be left unsatisfied with the results. Take the human Barbie doll for instance, of course I know there are many at this point, but I am referring to Mom and Barbie look-a-like Jenny Lee. I’m sure you’ve all seen or heard about her on Oprah, 20/20, or in some random online article. Jenny’s obsession with perfectionism led her to undergo 30 plastic surgeries all before the age of 30. As of today she has had at least 59 known procedures in attempts to look exactly like Barbie and is now labeled a “plastic surgery addict.” Let’s not forget that Barbie is not real…she is indeed made of plastic, literally. After all of this time, money, pain, and effort Jenny is still unhappy with her appearance. And at this point has actually caused a true dysmorphic look to her face and a host of physical ailments.
“Perfection is the disease of a Nation…you can’t fix what you can’t see. It’s the soul that needs the surgery.” –Beyonce’
And then there was the infamous Octomom who was obsessed with being a celebrity look-a-like. Although, she denies it, it’s pretty apparent that she is quite fond of the ever-exquisite Angelina Jolie. Nadya Suleman, better known as Octomom, underwent surgery after surgery, kid after kid, in attempts to feel a void that only comes from within. But Body Dysmorphic Disorder is not just a disease of the average middle class or below. No one person or income bracket is exempt. I mean who could forget the numerous celebrities who have undergone horrific plastic surgeries or struggled with eating disorders in an effort to fit society’s picture perfect mold. Karen Carpenter, of the famous brother/sister vocal duo of the 1970’s suffered and lost her battle to anorexia at the young age of 32. She had it all, fame, money, family, beauty, and talent. Women around the world envied her. It did not matter that Hollywood welcomed her into their elite society; it was obvious that she did not see what everyone else did. Another more recent example is the beautiful and talented, actor/pop star Demi Lovato. She admitted to battling an eating disorder for years. Lovato finally faced her fears, got help, and is doing better than ever. Most of these stories you’ve probably already heard about at some time or another. But the stories I want most to share with you are the ones you may never hear about otherwise. They are from the people who live lives’ very much like yours. In this case it happens to be a 35 year old blonde beauty named Brianna. I just recently met Brianna in an interview for this magazine. At first glance I saw this little bright-eyed bombshell wearing a dazzling smile…just beaming from ear to ear.
I would be the first to cast her on Dancing with the Stars based on body type alone. That’s what I see anyway. Would you believe this is a complete 180 from what she sees when she looks in the mirror every day? At the age of 10, while most young girls are still playing with Barbie dolls, Brianna was actually turning into one, or at least starting to experience the changes that lead to womanhood. Puberty hit early-on and fast, she developed breasts, acne, and a variety of other complications that come along with such hormonal fluctuations. While she was trying to come to terms with her new body and be comfortable in her own skin other girls began to take notice. She was made fun of for what other kids saw as different, not normal. Not only did she already have her own insecurities of her ever changing body, but now young girls were constantly adding to them one by one. And so began the generation of Mean Girls. Brianna started cheering at age 7 and continued all through school. After trying out and making the cheerleading squad in junior high she started to feel her old insecurities creeping in again. The pressure to fit into the stereotypical idea of a skinny cheerleader rang loud in her own head. She thought not being selected as the “flyer” (the girl they throw up in the air) must be because she was not thin enough. In an effort to be what she assumed others preferred Brianna tried hard to lose weight. Her initial healthy attempts to drop a few pounds eventually led to an eating disorder.
“Self-Esteem comes from being able to define the world in your own terms and refusing to abide by the judgments of others.” –Oprah Winfrey If she consumed more calories or bad food than she thought she should she was left guilt-ridden. The guilt took over and forced her to purge everything she ate. This type of behavior is considered to be Bulimia Nervosa. Bulimia is an eating disorder, in which a person will typically binge eat and then make themselves vomit in order to keep from gaining weight. The issues did not stop there though. When recurrent compensatory behaviors did not seem to fulfill her weight loss goals she then decided not to eat at all. When a person limits their caloric intake to the bare minimum and refuses to maintain a weight less than 85% of normal this is a disorder known as Anorexia Nervosa.
“Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion of death.” -Coco Chanel While speaking with Brianna she actually confessed that the best and most beautiful she ever felt was while she was pregnant with her daughter. Keep in mind that she was eating whatever she wanted and weighed more than she ever had. The difference here is that she did not feel guilty about what she ate or the weight she gained because she was providing nutrients to her growing baby. Hearing this really struck a chord with me. This is how our thinking towards our own bodies should be. Your body is a machine and much like a vehicle it needs fuel to get you where you need to go. A person battling an eating disorder is most likely also extremely malnourished. When the body lacks the nutrients it needs to function properly the brain is sure to suffer. This becomes a vicious cycle that can and should be stopped. Already being so fascinated with the body and the importance of nutrition I took it upon myself to reach out for some expert advice I could share. Nutritionist, Dr. John Stump at Integrative Medicine Centre in Fairhope, Alabama performs what is called a Trace Mineral Analysis on patients. This test helps to identify specific vitamins and minerals the body is lacking as well as certain toxins found to be hormone and chemical disruptors. Stump said, “People need to understand the whole concept of food and that all foods are not created equal.” Furthermore, he goes on to say, “Truly understanding the difference between a protein, carbohydrate, & a fat, and how all three of these contribute to the overall balance of the body is so important.” If you are able to change your thinking about food and be excited about all of the vitamins and minerals you are receiving through the food you consume you can actually look at calories in a whole new light. The term diet seems to give people anxiety. Healthy eating should not be considered a diet. The word “diet” alone screams deprivation. And everyone knows you only want more of what you feel like you can’t have. I believe that it is our job as a society to set an example for generations to come. In a televised interview, Kate Winslet said once that she never heard any of the women in her family talk positive about their bodies. For this reason she made it a point to say positive things about her body in front of her daughter at a very young age. Brianna, who is married and was once in real estate, is now a proud stay-at-home mother to a ten year old little girl. She is constantly working to improve her self-image and set a good example for her growing daughter.
With social media being on the continuous rise it can be a battle for millions of others. One of the things that is much more common than BDD is the constant need to keep up with the Joneses….The whole comparison factor that so many of us fall prey to. Why?? Why do we hold ourselves to a standard of airbrushed, filtered, picture-perfect lives’?
“Real beauty isn’t about symmetry or weight or makeup; it’s about looking life right in the face and seeing all its magnificence reflected in your own.” -Valerie Monroe
The old saying, “True beauty comes from within,” speaks volumes. How you feel about yourself comes from inner peace. I read somewhere recently that the soul always knows what to do to heal itself, but the challenge is to silence the mind. People suffering from BDD are in a constant battle in their own mind. They often feel worthless, ugly, and lost without a purpose. They are imprisoned by their own distorted beliefs. The fear of what others think can leave them feeling stuck…just standing still. It is true that most of us have these same feelings from time to time. After all, we are all our own worst critics. A doctor can identify and properly test to diagnose BDD. Treatment may include cognitive-behavioral therapy and/or medication. Anyone struggling from Body Dysmorphia should start first by renewing the mind. But even without a diagnosis, if you are suffering from any of these negative thought patterns it’s time to make a change. You need to work on retraining your brain. Retrain my brain? What? Yep… that’s what I said. Every time a negative thought comes to mind replace it with a positive. Maybe you don’t like your nose, but have flawless skin that’s envied by millions…Focus on that. I know, I know, this is not always so easy. I’m not living your life of course. This is definitely a process... its work. It will not happen overnight, but it won’t always be a struggle if you stick with it. In addition, it’s also important to pay close attention to who you have around you. Adele once said, “I have insecurities of course, but I don’t hang out with anyone who points them out to me.” Those are some very powerful words of wisdom. People should take her words as good advice. There are times when we don’t even realize the negative affect another person may have on us. It is only when we choose to distance ourselves that we realize how much of their negativity has rubbed off. I don’t know about you, but I have way too much happiness to be lived out in life then to allow someone’s miserable existence to jump onto me. Practice preventive measures and learn to protect yourself….take a shot of “Set Some Boundaries” and wash it down with a glass of “Positive Thoughts.” Be happy, be healthy, and above all else just be YOU!!!
“You are far too smart to be the only one standing in your way.” Jennifer J. Freeman
“I had to grow to love my body. I did not have a good self-image at first. Finally it occurred to me…confidence makes you sexy.” –Queen Latifah
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Body Dysmorphia
Know the Facts…. •
80% of U.S. Women DO NOT like how they look
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80% of 10 year old girls have been on a diet
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Up to 50% of women are on a diet at any given time
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50% of girls between the ages of 11 & 13 see themselves as overweight
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95% of people with an eating disorder are between the ages of 12 & 25
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The #1 Wish for young girls ages 11 to 17 is to be thinner
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10% of Teens with an eating disorders die from complications directly related to the disorder
Practice Prevention… •
Make sure that it is understood that weight gain is a normal and healthy part of puberty
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Avoid negative statements about weight, body shape, and size
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Learn and share the importance of nutrition through whole foods
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Give and receive compliments freely
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Limit TV and social media that may contribute to poor self-imaging
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Keep lines of communication open with trusted loved ones who can help
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Find and participate in hobbies that may help to develop a healthy self-esteem
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Find your positive tribe and lean on them during difficult times
www.nationaleatingdisorders.com www.anad.org www.womenshealth.gov/body-images/kids www.adaa.org
*If you think you or someone you know may have Body Dysmorphic Disorder seek help from a professional in your area.
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