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elationships nowadays are not what they seem. It appears that whenever people meet up for drinks or meet up for a night out, the main topic of conversation always seems to be their love life. The word “relationship” doesn’t seem to mean anything at all now, and I believe the reason for this is because relationships seem to come into existence quite quickly and then fade away just as fast. People don’t seem to care much about who they hurt or what they do, and why should they? It’s 2014. You can blame the papers, you can blame the TV and all of those terrible reality TV shows but at the end of the day the one thing that people don’t realise is, the reason people get themselves into the situations they do is because everybody loves a drama. Drama is, for most people, the best form of entertainment and also a strange recreational drug that I like to call a ‘life filler’. People’s lives are so empty and meaningless in these current times that they feel the need to create these delusions in their head that they are ‘working through some things’ and ‘they can’t take the pain’ anymore. But it’s not all doom and gloom, there are still good relationships out there. They are the relationships that stay off Facebook and Twitter, stay off the lips of drunken men and women; they are the relationships that actually work and mean something. There is no real way of preparing to get into a good relationship. It will always be difficult at certain points and at times you will probably want to kill one another but that’s the way it is. Thinking about my own past and current experiences of relationships I feel I have some words of wisdom to share with you about how a relationship works. The first time you meet someone, there must be a spark. Both of you won’t realise what this spark is, it just seems to happen. At the end of the night you will realise you had a great time, and that great time was because you had met someone special. The self-analysis will begin to happen in your head and you will question actions that you did that night. It will question the looks she gave you, what she meant by saying what she said and that slightly longer eye contact than usual. The next day that person will be on your mind. Not as a giant headline, but more of an interesting little article that you tell your friends about. If she is never seen again then the memory of her and that spark will soon fade and eventually die out until it is struck again. But! If you do see her again then the process will undoubtedly be repeated and subsequently each time you meet up after that, until eventually that spark will ignite something spectacular. You may both decide to take the plunge, but this should be only after getting more and more comfortable with each other. Then you can both put a label to whatever “this” is. Your newly found relationship opens up a whole new can of worms, but that should be kept for another article. Until next time.
THERE IS NO REAL WAY OF PREPARING TO GET INTO A GOOD RELATIONSHIP.