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Publishers Details: Vashti Derrick t/a Gigibug Publisher of Brides Essence magazine. Cape Town, South Africa PO BOX 39233, Capricorn 7948 Publisher: Vashti Derrick publisher@bridesessence.com Editor: Grant Derrick editor@bridesessence.com Design & Layout: www.gigibug.co.za Website design: www.bridesessence.com Gigibug Website Hosted by: Texo, Fish Hoek Sales & Marketing: sales@bridesessence.com e-Published 2012 © Quarterly Vashti Derrick t/a Gigibug. All rights reserved. Brides Essence is still registered by Cherry Berry Blue Publishing SA cc ISSN 2079 - 5815 While every effort has been made to ensure the accuracy of information in this edition of Brides Essence, no responsibility can be accepted for quality of goods and services supplied by advertisers. The publisher accepts no responsibility for material submitted by any client for reproduction, in regard to all relevant laws and regulations. Concept, text, covers, images and title of Brides Essence is Copyright © and may not be reproduced by any process without the prior written permission of the publisher. The Publisher would like to thank all photographers, contributors, sponsors, advertisers and all parties involved for this remarkable 9th issue of Brides Essence Magazine.
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Publisher and Editor’s message
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elcome to our first issue of Brides Essence magazine. We hope that you enjoy reading this magazine and find it informative, helpful and bright. We are now publishing a bi-monthly magazine as of the 1st November 2013. We have recently taken ownership of Brides Essence Magazine from former publishing editor Justine Engelbreght. Justine would like to focus more time on her other publication TravelMagSA. We will be ever grateful to Justine for this wonderful opportunity and hope that we can continue the success of Brides Essence magazine. If you have ideas or letters you would like us to publish, please contact us via email as we would love to hear from you and have feed back on our mag or hear your unique and special story. We endeavour to publish true-life wedding stories. Our September issue is jam-packed with topics such as flowers, venues, photography and many other interesting and helpful articles. We have an”Ask the Expert” page, a fantastic photo spread by Kaimara Photography and some wonderful competitions and give-aways from various suppliers. If you are about to get married, we wish you the very best and many blessings on your special day. We would like to take this opportunity to thank all our advertisers for your support and hope you are as excited as we are with our latest publication. We are very excited to see Brides Essence grow and reach more readers in the future. ‘till Summer (our December issue) – Have a blessed time and enjoy Spring.
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Contents
Message from the Editor & publisher
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How to interact with the magazine
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Contributors
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A Wedding to be remembered
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Picture perfect wedding location steeped in rich history - Grand Provence Heritage Wine Estate
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True life Wedding - Tanya & Simon Hendry
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A Toast with a twist
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True life Wedding Megan & Greg Scott
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From Rio to Cape - Made in Brasil launch
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Ask our experts
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From Bride to bloom
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Angelcare reaches out to Ubuntu House
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What springs to mind...
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Wedding on a shoe string budget
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‘The Beautiful Store’ for the perfect gift
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Choosing the “right” wedding planner
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Feel free about your special day
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Romance in the wilderness
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The Reviews
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A Wedding to be remembered
by LĂŠsa van Rooyen
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aimara was born in the golden city of Jaisalmer, India. It was created by photographer, Lesa van Rooyen, and is based on the ideals of freedom, creativity, passion and beauty. Kaimara is based in a gallery in Pretoria, but we love working internationally. The company comprises of three legs; photography, videography and events planning. We have put together a team of extremely talented and passionate people who flourish in their respective fields. Photography is not an exact science, so we do not follow a formula to get the shots. We work with what the couple
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gives us, and shoot to capture them in such a way that their personality and style sets the scene. We want them to stay true to who they are when expressing the love that they share. Whether the couple wants something daring and elaborate, or classic and romantic, we are up for the challenge. We have enough confidence in our capabilities to give our couples the freedom to choose what they want to do. When filming, we try to make each video as unique as possible to suit the feel and setting the couple has chosen for the video. It is important for us to
Photographs supplied & taken by: Kaimara
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make our couples feel at ease so we can capture the unstaged essence of their love. We make use of only the best equipment to get creative shots from interesting angles, to ensure high quality videos. We find great joy in making the impossible possible, which is why we love when couples come up with an original idea, and we get to rise to the challenge and create a piece of art. Our events focus on destination weddings with a difference. By our definition, a destination wedding is a wedding as you might know it, but it is set in a remote location not many have seen, let alone experienced. We embrace the enchantment of nature’s beauty, and couple it with the passion, love and magic that form part of a wedding day. Our destination weddings are for more adventurous couples that thrive on uniqueness and exclusivity. The world truly is our oyster!
We do cater for couples that have an established venue in mind by offering a bouquet of wedding planning services. With our comprehensive wedding planning package we walk you through it from start to finish. We are the bride and groom’s own personal assistant, so it really does take the load off of the stress and chaos that might arise from planning a wedding. For those brides who have a handle on things and only need assistance in some departments, we offer custom-built packages. We chat about what still needs to be done and determine the areas in which we can help to make sure all the loose ends are tied together for the big day to run smoothly. Some of the other things that fall under the events umbrella are dÊcor styling, engagement setups and special events planning. We are passionate about people, about love, and about the role we play in creating memories.
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Win a Luxurious 2 night stay
at an exclusive and picturesque wine estate and renowned wedding venue in Franschhoek. One special couple stands the chance to win 2 nights in the luxurious Owner’s Cottage including breakfast daily at Grande Provence Heritage Wine Estate. To enter and stand a chance to win this extravagant prize simply answer the question and email the answer to competition@bridesessence.com. Don’t forget to include your name and contact details.
Question: What are the chandeliers in The Jonkershuis made from? Clue : The answer lies within the article on page 16 Terms & Conditions apply
The prize cannot be used during peak or high season and is subject to availability. It does not include transfers to and from Grande Provence Heritage Wine Estate. All drinks, meals not included and any extras are for the guests own account. The prize cannot be transferred to another party or exchanged for cash. Sep/Oct 2013 Brides Essence Magazine 15
Picture perfect Wedding location steeped in rich history
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rande Provence Heritage Wine Estate wears her 300-year history with dignity. She sits in the beautiful Franschhoek Valley in South Africa’s Western Cape – her lush vines spread across 30 hectares, with gentle vistas over the valley floor, at odds almost with the rugged mountains beyond. This is heartland South African wine country. The honest simplicity of its Cape Dutch architecture in harmony with the precision and clarity of modern design brings a new pièce de résistance to the magnificent valley of Franschhoek. Framing the entry road are rows of vineyards, heavy with the promise of next year’s Cabernet. Here, one bears witness to the duality of old and new settling into an elegant co-existence; as mature trees take root amongst the 300-year old oaks and manicured hedges blend with the free form of the natural surroundings to create a landscaped Eden. Gracefully governing the setting is the 18th century Manor House, while The Owner’s Cottage and La Provençale welcome guests to boutique accommodation. The Owners Cottage offers guests four sumptuous rooms and a honeymoon suite that provides a quiet and intimate repose, while the tranquillity of the lake provides a restful escape for the soul. Added to the rejuvenation of the historic, is the originality of the new. Culinary excellence may be found in local fare prepared with passion, flavoured with global influences
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and served with nouveau simplicity, an ethos mirrored in the modern but receptive setting of the Grande Provence Restaurant. Languid views of vineyards and mountains are invited in, as The Restaurant opens to create fluidity between the outdoors and in. During the summer months, grand old oaks provide a dappled canopy under which to savour the estate’s cultivars, while double volume doors welcome connoisseurs in from the cold to a striking, but comfortable, fire lit winetasting area.
New Wedding Options at Grande Provence The Estate proudly offers guests The Owner’s Cottage, La Provençale, The Restaurant, The Winery, The Jonkershuis, The Gallery, The Sculpture Garden and The Shop. Grande Provence Heritage Wine Estate in Franschhoek, part of Huka Retreats, is proud to present its latest and unique wedding and honeymoon options available at this magnificent Estate for the year ahead. The wedding and ceremony can be created outdoors within the beautifully manicured gardens or indoors in the superbly decorated private room of The Jonkershuis watched over by the famous chandeliers made from recycled wine bottles. Alternatively, guests may choose the awardwining restaurant boasting superb cuisine by the renowned Executive Chef, Darren Badenhorst, who will co-create your very own signature menu,
influenced by the elegance and style of Grande Provence. This can be created for up to 60 guests in this venue. Further options available, especially for honeymooners, are romantic dinners in the candlelit wine cellar or next to your own private pool, or choose The Jonkershuis and during the summer months dine in the middle of the vineyards to fully immerse yourself in this majestic environment whilst enjoying the award-winning collection of wines paired with a signature menu. A truly unique option is to dine in The Gallery surrounded by the latest art exhibition. Due to its unparalleled location in the picturesque Franschhoek Valley, set within 47-acres of pristine vineyards, Grande Provence offers an exceptional venue presenting areas rich in heritage and contemporary design. It is the ideal setting, with towering mountains as the backdrop for exceptional photography with endless photographic opportunities, indoors and out, to capture the special day. Grande Provence Heritage Wine Estate is a sister property to Huka Lodge, New Zealand and Dolphin Island, Fiji (members of Relais & Châteaux), with all three exclusive properties comprising The Huka Retreats. Contact Details: Grande Provence Wine Estate - 021 876 8600 or email reservations@grandeprovence.co.za www.grandeprovence.co.za Facebook Twitter @grande_provence
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Date of Wedding: 20 April 2013 Bride and Groom: Tanya Greeff & Simon Hendry Venue: Hartford House www.hartford.co.za Hair: Lana Joubert www.kznhairsolutions.co.za Make up: Gayle Davies gdavies@mobileemail.vodafonesa.co.za Caterers: Chef Jackie Cameron www.jackiecameron.co.za Cake: Kanya Hunt www.kanyahunt.co.za Music/DJ: Soundmechanix info@soundmechanix.co.za Wedding stationery: Mercia M Designs merciamdesigns@gmail.com Wedding planner: Emma Stephenson emma@hartford.co.za Photographer: Brett Florens www.brettflorens.com Jewellery: Lilly Blue www.lilyblue.co.za
What was most memorable to me: We found unspeakable beauty at Hartford House on a horse breeding farm just outside Mooi River. Summerhill Stud Farm is described as a place where you can lose yourself in all that inspires you. It is a country of great space, spectacular mountains and big skies. It is filled with traditional cultures and splendid style. It epitomised everything that Simon and I love. Every decision in respect of the style we bade to achieve for our wedding was based on this magnificent place. We wanted a warm, welcoming, but stylish atmosphere, with good food and comfortable conversation. Our dreams came true... I woke up the on morning of our wedding to the sound of heavy rain. At first I was devastated as most of the wedding was supposed to take place outside under the big autumn coloured trees surrounded by the quiet of horses grazing in the shade. It was clear that the cold wet weather had set in for a few days and our outdoor wedding dream would not be realised. Fortunately, before I could panic, my wonderful friends and family directed my attention to the warm atmosphere and beauty that the weather had created. The farm’s colours were brighter than ever. Every fire place was in full flame. It was simply stunning. Hartford House took care of all the arrangements and in a matter of minutes the wedding was moved indoors. When the quaint little chapel’s doors opened and I looked up into Simon’s tear filled eyes, it was as though we were all alone. The day couldn’t have been more perfect! As the day drew to an end and we settled in conversation with our friends and family, Brett Florens (our photographer) suddenly grabbed us, stuck us in his Land Rover and rushed to one of the paddocks where the horses were settling in for the night. The rain cleared for but a moment, revealing the most beautiful sunset. It was as though the horses knew how special this day was to us. They all started playing and running around us, resulting in the most incredible memories captured by spectacular photographs. Sep/Oct 2013 Brides Essence Magazine
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Advice for future brides: We are often asked why our marriage will work; why is it different to so many others’? The simple answer is that getting married didn’t change our relationship. Our love and friendship remained the same. Only now we made a promise before God and declared to all our friends and family that when times are tough we will always work through it. Love, trust, faith and communication are the cornerstones from where we build our family. Photographs Supplied and taken by Brett Florens
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A toast with a twist We all enjoy a glass of bubbly or two at a wedding, and now Belvedere Vodka has created an innovative update on the expected champers, the Earl Grey Fizz. Made with Belvedere Vodka, Earl Grey Syrup, a dash of grapefruit bitters and Moet & Chandon - this is a wedding toast you won’t forget! Created in Poland, the birthplace of vodka, Belvedere represents the pinnacle of the Polish vodkamaking tradition. Distilled exclusively from the finest 100% Dankowskie Gold Rye and quadruple distilled to create the perfect balance of character and purity, Belvedere Vodka is the true expression of luxury vodka – what better to pair with your bubbly than the best vodka on offer?
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Date of Wedding: 20 April 2013 Bride and Groom: Megan Morris & Greg Scott Venue: Walkersons Hotel www.walkersons.co.za Dress: Ella chantal@olivelli.co.za Shoes: Paradox of London (Pink!) www.christiaanmichael.com Singer: Emil Struwig emil.struwig@gmail.com DJ: John O’Donovan Wolf Entertainment Bridesmaids Dresses: Peachy Krafts peaches.bouchet@gmail.com
What were your memorable moments on your special day? All the personal touches and effort our family and friends made in creating the day, truly made it all so meaningful. It poured with rain most of the Saturday, and although some Plan B’s had to be made, the rain and mist created a magical atmosphere with the autumn colours, cosy fireplaces and English-countryside feel of Walkersons and Dullstroom. I loved getting ready with my bridesmaids, laughing and chatting excitedly. Seeing Greg’s face and the emotions of my family and friends as I walked down the aisle was definitely a moment to remember. No sooner had the ceremony ended when the rain stopped and the most beautiful sunset backlit our photographs. Instead of having individual tables for our 87 guests, we were all seated at one long T-shaped banquet-style table. Sitting at the head of the table, clinking our champagne glasses and seeing everyone’s smiling faces, lit up by the beautiful candles and flower arrangements was also a special memory. The evening was filled with laughter, great food, cutting the cake, throwing the bouquet, tossing of the garter and dancing into the early hours. All our guests stayed at Walkersons or nearby. We all shared breakfast on Sunday morning, where once again we laughed and shared in the memories that made this happy occasion! What advice do you have for other brides getting married? ..don’t stress about the small things, enjoy every moment and don’t forget to breathe! This is your special day, so enjoy all the magic and celebration of the day!
Wedding stationery: Jadine van Breda jadine.vanbreda.nmmu@gmail.com Flowers: Tumbleweed Florist www.tumbelweedflorist.co.za Photographer: WhiteCliffs Photography www.whitecliffs.co.za Wedding Favours: The Heartfelt Project www.theheartfeltproject.com - Issue 9 Sep/Oct 2013 Brides BridesEssence Essence Magazine
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Walkersons Country Hotel and Spa, a two and a half hour drive from Johannesburg, is nestled in the rolling hills of the Mpumalanga Highlands. It boasts magnificent surroundings and the scenic beauty is matched only by Walkersons fine dining which is a carefully crafted journey of the senses. Few occasions rival the romance of a country wedding, and the hosts at Walkersons revel in the opportunity to match your highest expectations. The stunning surrounds create picturesque backdrops allowing you to capture life long memories. The Amani Spa is a timeless place of peace and tranquillity embraced by nature which is the ultimate escape for pure self indulgence. The harmonious, romantic and luxurious suites warmed by log fires, feature an array of facilities designed to ensure a peaceful nights rest. We are able to offer a variety of tailored packages based on your preferences and requirements. Let our professional team treat you and your wedding guests to an incredible experience. Our wedding venues offer the perfect canvas upon which to paint memories of your special day. From the ceremony in our quaint Chapel, on the water’s edge or on the grassy lawn outside the Terrace, your day will be framed by a magnificent backdrop of the rolling hills and lakes of Walkersons Estate. For receptions of up to 100 guests, we have our Walker Room and it’s courtyard, or the Terrace. The Walker Room is designed to host such events with overflow to the courtyard that is set between the Walker Room and the Chapel. The Terrace overlooks a lake with rolling hills splashed in the background. It has warm open fireplaces and canvas blinds that allow us to maximize and match the ambience and weather conditions.
Contact us reservations@walkersons.co.za T: +27 13 253 7000 F: +27 13 253 7230 PO Box 185, Dullstroom, 1110, South Africa W: http://www.walkersons.co.za/
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To enter, please answer the following question: What date did “Made in Brasil” open their doors to the public? Email your answers and your contact details to competition@bridesessence.com, T’s&C’s apply.
TERMS AND CONDITIONS: 1. This competition is not valid for employees or relatives at Made in Brasil or Brides Essence magazine. 2: The prizes may not be exchanged for cash or be transferred to someone else. 3: Only entrance with the correct answer will qualify for the Prize. The draw will take place on the 7th October 2013. 4: The Prize will be valid until January 2014. 5: Winners will be notified via email.
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From Rio to Cape Made in Brasil launch
Brides Essence magazine had the privilege of attending one of Cape Town’s newest and most glamorous launches on the 18th July 2013. “Made in Brasil”, a beauty and boutique store with a difference, celebrated the opening of their doors for the first time last night in true Rio Party style. This little gem has brought the celebrations of the Fiesta to Cape Town. You will find some of the sexiest female underwear and bikini collections in the world that are produced in Brazil – the brands worn by the stars. They emulate a rare mix of beauty and sensuality. These soughtafter items are renowned for their ability to enhance the female form and bring out natural beauty. Whether you are looking for the perfect sultry bikini, lingerie that will make a grown man cry,
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beautiful gym wear or alluring clothes, dresses and shoes – you can be sure that you will end up looking and feeling like a Brasilian goddess with this boutique’s collection. Stunning Brasilian landscapes cover the walls and set the perfect environment for those relaxing beauty treatments and massages. You can expect to find hot stone massages, waxes, and hair treatments (like Brasilian blow dries and colouring), while the nail bar will take care of luxury manicures and pedicures The salon is based in the Cape Sovereign,(close to Beef Cakes and the Cape Quarter), near to the V&A Waterfront and yet close enough to the CBD and Greenpoint for you to pop in over lunch and get that much earned and deserved “you time”. Place your cares in the hands of those who care best. Made in Brasil is an ideal place to host a bridal shower or just about any type of pamper party. Brides Essence - Issue 9
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I can’t afford a wedding planner but need some advice on where to start. There are a myriad of bridal books and magazines that offer ‘checklists’ for brides planning their own weddings, which can be helpful if you really have nowhere to turn. There are an increasing number of Wedding Planners out there that offer once off meetings to brides not booking a planner, but needing help getting off on the right foot. This gives give you the opportunity to sit down with a professional coordinator, discuss your dreams, and walk away with a personalised planning document, items you should priorities, a budget outline and whole wealth of advice and experience. This sort of assistance can be truly priceless to the bride planning her own wedding. “From This Moment” offers such a package, www.fromthismoment.co.za/
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What if you are on a very tight budget, can wedding planners work within your budget? A lot of wedding planners can accommodate small budget weddings. It is worth bearing in mind too that working with a competent and connected planner can often save you a whole lot of money too. I’ve worked with clients who have saved more than their entire wedding planning fee because of the discounts and options we were able to secure for them. Of course there are other options available to brides on a tight budget too, like the stand alone consultation discussed above.
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oin me as we take a step back in time. Picture the Great Gatsby of the 1920’s, a time where luxury and opulence was at its peak; where parties were in full swing and extravagance overflowed. Now imagine that you could bring that ambience to your wedding in 2013 and have the biggest trend for this year. The vintage theme has continued into spring 2013 but brings along with it, the lavishness and the charm of the 1920’s. As you walk into your reception space the aroma of the abundance of flowers meets you and your guests with the sweetness of spring. Your vision comes to life with the use of feathers, pearls, fringe details and beads, blended in and amongst the volumes of flowers which are set in varying sized vessels filling the room in every available space. Luxury blooms, and still a huge favourite amongst our brides, are the Orchids, which will be spilling out of every vase. The trusted favourite, the classic rose, brings the vintage feel with the wide variety of colours available. Pastel colours have been a favourite for brides over the past few years
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and is still colouring the scene. Living walls designed with flowers creates a beautiful backdrop for photographs and for guests to tie special notes onto for the bride and groom. Where last year the idea was to have that “just picked from the garden” feel, designs this year are more controlled. To complete our bride’s style of elegance, larger cascading designs are now suggested, with unique ideas being included to complement each individual bride. There is a big move to outdoor ceremonies where beautiful arches, made with an abundance of flowers, frame the bride and groom. Designs created with petals line the aisle which will lead the way towards your future husband. This year there is no minimalism, just pure luxury. This does not however mean that you need to break the bank for your budget on flowers. Work with your florist and discuss your ideas together and you will be able to bring this vision to reality within your budget.
Tulips
Orchids
Roses
Gladiolus
Carnations
Kale
Lillies
Lisianthus
Gerberas
Hydrangeas
Sunflowers
Anthuriums
Alstroemeria
Bells of Ireland
Ranunculus
Ferns
Beautiful spring flowers that are available and will help to establish the theme include: Tulips, Orchids, Roses, Gladiolus, Carnations, Kale and succulents, Lilies, Lisianthus, Gerberas, Hydrangeas, Sunflowers, Anthuriums, Alstroemeria, Bells of Ireland, Ranunculus, and a variety of greenery such as ferns & monster leaves. Most importantly, have fun designing your magical day. Brides Essence - Issue 9
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Angelcare reaches out to Ubuntu House “Ubuntu - is the essence of being human. Ubuntu speaks particularly about the fact that you can’t exist as a human being in isolation. It speaks about our interconnectedness. You can’t be human all by yourself, and when you have this quality you are known for your generosity.” – Desmond Tutu
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n 2006 a newborn baby was discarded in a field with no more than a towel wrapped around its naked body for protection. A passer-by found the baby in the field and delivered it to the nearest police station who in turn rushed the baby to a hospital where it was nurtured back to health. After 12 days of searching there was no trace of the biological mother. On the 13th day of this innocent childs’ life a compassionate social worker delivered him into the loving hands of Ubuntu House. This is just one of many such tragic stories of abandoned children in our country, but this is one that has an happy ending. Today the little boy found in a field, whose heart has been healed of the scars of abandonment, has found peace & the unconditional love of two adoptive parents. Ubuntu House, a merciful non-profit organisation in the Western Cape, has cared for more than 470 unwanted babies since it was first established in September 2003. These children have all been given up by their mothers, saved from abortions or simply discarded. This remarkable safety / halfway house has ensured that almost 80% of these babies have found permanent parents and that almost one fifth of them have been re-united with their biological families by the age of 5 months. The importance of the relationship between a mother and her new born child can never be overemphasized. It is from this relationship that all human relationships grow and develop. During those first few critical hours, a child has the right to medical attention. In fact a mothers touch and warm caress is a child’s birthright. Ubuntu is a part of the greater uMephi Project that has 18 such baby halfway houses under its wing. It also has 20 satellite houses, where older children have a home and a loving family to nurture and equip them for life. uMephi also has a number of hospices, where the sick and terminally ill are cared for. When Lauren Daws, Marketing Director at Angelcare heard of the little babies at Ubuntu house she without hesitation sent them an Angelcare Baby Sound & Breathing Monitor. It was our aim, she said, to not only provide them with an Angelcare Baby Sound & Breathing Monitor but to spread the word of such an amazing organisation and appeal to others to reach out and help where they can.
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What springs to mind...
by Grant Derrick
The Venue Spring - is about “lings” …ducklings, nestlings, saplings, lamblings and such.. The Dream All little girls dream of that perfect wedding. There must be a prince charming, oh and a princess. There needs to be a host of cuddly toddlers bearing cushions with rings and baskets of petals. There should be strings of bridesmaids that are beautiful, yet pale in comparison to the bride. It must be set in some quaint cathedral in the countryside with lots of doves and the choicest of blooms. The reception must have all the latest fashion knit together with the finest cuisine and décor fit for a queen. Who wouldn’t want a string quartet in some idyllic garden at one of the finest establishments in the land? 3434
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The Reality Sadly for most this remains a dream. It all boils down to what you can afford and how creative your imagination is. There are some fixed costs involved when planning a wedding but don’t let budget restraints dash your hopes. I think the starting point is the theme. Many wedding venues offer a certain ambience that pairs excellently with certain wedding styles. One would hardly have a “beach party” theme at the Michael Angelo Conference Centre; or a formal white wedding at Wimpy. Once a theme is conceived, it gives birth to ideas and eventually grows up to be your perfect wedding. The Location It is easy to see that opting for one location
for both the ceremony and celebration is more cost effective, easier to organise and the least disruptive to the procession. Choosing an indoor or outdoor venue can be a little risky in Spring as there could be rain that may parade on your wedding. If you insist on an outdoor wedding, make sure your faith is strong, or find a location where it never rains, like Alexander Bay in the Northern Cape which has the least amount of rain in South Africa. Everyone knows that there is no gain where nothing is ventured. I am sure that after hibernating all winter like hamsters that an opportunity to venture out into the sunshine is most welcome to all. Once you have decided on which side of the doors you want to spend your exciting and wonderful day, you can then begin to imagine the theme related aspects. There are not enough pages in this publication to go into all of the possibilities. Check our facebook page for readers’ suggestions. Indoors or out What about Spring is the thing? It is about sights and sounds and smells…
An indoor wedding reception is predominantly the norm. The safe bet for the feint-hearted. Just because you are not in the sunshine does not mean that you cannot create the feeling of Spring through your décor, colouring and lighting. Why not bring Spring indoors. Read our Spring flowers article on page 28 for some ideas. If you can afford it, you can even lay down artificial grass, or green event carpeting on the floor. A Spring melange of fruits could be a great table piece – that your guests can eat. Sweet smelling blooms of lily, lavender and jasmine give an aura of Spring. You could even burn scented candles to fake it. Have you ever thought of adding some Springy background noise (other than the blaring ‘80s music)? You could use some “birds of the forest” sound tracks or “ocean shores and seagulls”. Potted plants add real greenery to the scene. How about a pot plant (not the Bob Marley kind)arrangement that guests can take home at the end of celebrations. For outdoor receptions you could have a formal garden party with pergola and bandstand. Or it could be an informal picnicky sort of venue. As true South Africans - Issue 9 Sep/Oct 2013 Brides Brides Essence Essence Magazine
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Here are some interesting venue ideas that you may not have imagined. I won’t mention the typical venues as I am sure that you have already thought of them.
there is always the “braai” (barbeque for our international readers) option, that mostly goes overlooked. This is a nobrainer for us SA men as it is one of our favourite pastimes… now if only we could include sport and beer! Outdoors in Spring may limit the times at which you have your wedding reception to daylight hours, but that is the idea – to enjoy the fresh air and warm sunshine. Added benefits are reduced rates for brunch and lunch time receptions. Colours Spring is a time of re-awakening, new shoots, calves and lambs and newly hatched birdies with fields of bunnies and butterflies. You cannot compete with nature so embrace it. Regardless of your decision, there are some things that work well indoors and out. The colours of Spring are greens and earthy browns, pastel yellows, blues, pinks and purples with vibrant roses and reds. Walk through any budding meadow and take note of the colours, it is plain to see. Here is the wedding venue formula : location + good food + great vibe Good wedding venue =
couple + friends + family
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1. A forest picnic 2. A farm or barnyard using bales of hay for chairs and tables 3. A botanical or public garden 4. A nature reserve with fold up chairs and tables 5. A family member or friends’ garden 6. A waterfront – be it a river or lake or a pond with ducks 7. Hire a ferry or barge 8. Hire an open topped double decker bus 9. A mountain top. 10. Somewhere in the bush ( not a bush, the bush ), unless you find one big enough… Bear in mind that certain locations have certain legal requirements eg. no alcohol in public places, no loud music etc. Make inquiries with local authorities to discover what can and cannot be done and then work out your plan around the obstacles. You could always have a sane reception and have a raucous party later (after the non-partiers have gone to rest).
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Wedding
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ith only 4 months to go and R12000 budget we were to get married. At the start it seemed enough to have a wedding in court, with 10 guests, followed by a slap up binge at a local take away. Our budget had to cover the following : A venue Table and chair hire Catering Wedding Dress Suit Photographer Flowers Wedding cake Decorations and table settings
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Food Beverages Champagne (oops - sparkling fermented grape juice drink not made in France) Honeymoon suite Gifts for the guests DJ A flower girl’s outfit Rings Kids Entertainment We had a fantastic wedding within our budget and catered for 90 people. You may wonder how such a little amount of cash could even cover just one of the items in our list, well here is how we
did it. We scanned the local news ads for specials. By now you realise that we were going the “self-catering” route. Don’t be afraid, read on. When there was a great saving to be made on bottled water, soft drinks, wine and “not the fizzy French stuff in bottles made from fermented grapes whose name we cannot mention because it was not made there”, we stockpiled. We bought enough wine to have 1 red, 1 white and 1 sparkling wine per table, with enough soft drinks to last the entire feast. There was a fantastic special on whole lamb so we bought 1 and the butcher managed to cut the whole lamb into chops, bar 1 or 2 little pieces. We bought boerewors (strange long sausage that really rocks) on special and froze it. Some pork chops were on special and we stockpiled a few kgs. We
arranged with our local supermarket that made roasted chickens to make 10 for us for the day at a special price. The same supermarket also made special rolls for us at a great price. When you negotiate with people and tell them something is for your wedding then generally they will try and assist you. We had a cash bar with free mixers for those who wanted hard tack (strong liquor, or drinkypoo). My fiancé’s aunt stayed on a little small holding out in the countryside and a few weeks prior to the wedding we went and laid some grass and other plants and flowers to neaten up the area where we would hold the ceremony. Everyone stood – no chairs, but the ceremony was concise and lasted 20 minutes. No hymns, no lengthy sermons, just a good short message on the meaning of the
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covenant of marriage and the vows. Two days before the wedding we had tables and chairs arrive that we had hired at a bargain, along with crockery, cutlery, glassware and linen. In a large clearing in the garden we arranged the tables and chairs. Everyone chipped in to help where they could. We had friends and family volunteer to help us the day before our wedding to make entrees, salads, desserts and other culinary preparations. All were so blessed to be a part of our day and in contributing their love gifts. Right, that was the catering sorted. The cake, a most delicious and gorgeous cake, was a gift from one of our guests. She was going to make one but at the last minute could not, so she commissioned one of her confectionary friends to make one for us. For the flowers a good friend or ours made beautiful arrangements as her gift to us for the tables. Another of our acquaintances was in the business of entertaining kids, and for a nominal fee was only too happy to get some exposure. She had all sorts of activities for the kids to do – the little angels were under a large tree and running through the garden having fun all afternoon filled to the brim with all manner of sugary delights. My fiancé managed to order a dress online well ahead of the wedding just in case it was a disaster, but it was gorgeous and great value for money (Under R1500). I had a new double breasted suite that I had only worn once before, so I had it dry cleaned and bought a new tie and sash to match the wedding colours. The rings – my mom gave me my grandma’s old engagement ring. She had fingers like sausages and was almost a bangle on my fiancé. I had it resized and polished up like new. For myself, I still wear my inexpensive stainless steel ring today. It could be white gold or titanium but it is a sign of a covenant and certainly not the main ingredient. Another of our close friends, my best 40
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man’s wife, made a gorgeous dress for two of our bridesmaids at no cost, her love gift to us. My dad, being retired, was accustomed to taking photographs of everything that moved, or didn’t move, yep, I suppose that means everything. He offered to do the same at our wedding, which he did. I also asked my best man to take pics with my camera, which he did. Double the pics and throw out the ones you don’t like or want. For music, we ripped our cd’s onto an old laptop and I borrowed an USB FM transmitter from work that simply plugged into any USB port and then transmitted the music. We had 2 mini HIFI’s that we tuned to the channel and thus had hours of our favourite music playing without anyone having to intervene. There was no dancing, no “hours of boring speeches”, no hullabaloo and such…I was the only one to give a 5 minute speech with our thank you’s to all who helped make our special day blessed. For wedding favours, being handy, I made some myself. I have a friend who has a sheet metal workshop. He supplied me with stainless steel off-cuts, all cut to the correct size. I sanded the edges and rounded the corners of the little plates. I sent them for laser engraving with our initials and made them into napkin rings. Each guest received a white linen napkin (which we also had made) and stainless steel custom made napkin ring. The larger families scored entire sets. Every time they use them they will remember our special day. Finally, I had managed to find a little guest house near to the wedding venue that offered us a great deal for our overnight stay. They went out of their way to help make our stay special. So with a little innovation, some good friends and some close family members it is possible to turn a pumpkin and a couple of rats into a horse-drawn carriage fit for royalty. Brides Essence - Issue 9
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‘The Beautiful Store’
for the perfect gift
For those stumped on what to buy for someone’s birthday, anniversary or on a special occasion, or simply looking to spoil themselves, the recent launch of a brand new niche online store, ‘The Beautiful Store’ is a must-see. A beautifully curated collection of premium and luxury home, décor, lifestyle, jewellery and fashion accessory products are available at the touch of a button. The already extensive and ever-growing supplier list features an interesting mix of top local and international brands – all hand picked by founder Rachelle Bricout. The site offers items that are of exceptional quality and boasts an extensive price range so that there is something for everyone and all occasions. Founded and curated by Rachelle Bricout in 2013, The Beautiful Store has a desirable list of brands that includes Porsche Design,
L’Orangerie, Julina, Menu, Sanders, Von Geusau, Aliverti, and Lavazza, to name a few. ‘The Beautiful Store’s’ inherent French aesthetic comes from Bricout’s love of Paris. Says Bricout, “I am mad about Paris, and without purposefully setting out to, have created a store that has a real French-inspired feel to it.” Overcoming the trust issue that many South Africans still have for online shopping, The Beautiful Store has made the entire shopping process extremely user-friendly - from browsing the site, purchasing, free delivery, and receiving your product timeously and beautifully wrapped to your door, the experience was created to be seamless and effortless. Bricout has placed a lot of focus on creating a particularly friendly, personalised customer experience, something that Sep/Oct 2013 Brides Essence Magazine
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is rare in the online shopping environment today. Her customers even get birthday reminders, and advice with shoe sizes! Another unique feature of The Beautiful Store is their Gift Vouchers (which do not expire). These can be purchased at any time, and hand delivered or sent electronically to that special someone to redeem at their leisure. In addition, if you are looking for that something special and are unable to find it on the store, all you need to do is fill out the “Seeking Beauty” page and it will be sourced for you. To the casual observer, The Beautiful Store might look expensive but there are a range of high-quality products at very diverse price points, with some starting at as little as R46. Rachelle selects her products based on beauty and quality, not price, and says she doesn’t care whether something costs R10 or R10,000, if it is beautiful, and of exceptional quality, she would select it for her store. The Beautiful Store stocks mostly handcrafted items with a focus on luxury, craftsmanship and uniqueness. One of their latest additions is the launch of a Gift and Wedding Registry, where you can have a selection of just about anything you like in your own personal online registry for your big day. Shopping for birthday gifts, wedding presents and baby showers has never been this easy! It is nice to know that The Beautiful Store also has a charitable component to their business, with a section where people can contribute towards “Blankets for Charity” 44
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and the store donates 10% to DARG for any WagWorld purchases. The Beautiful Store will continue to enhance its range of products and brands, and will always reflect Rachelle Bricout’s personal style and focus on customer service as it grows. Be sure to visit them on http://www.thebeautifulstore.com/ and sign up for their regular newsletters to stay updated on their latest finds.
Choosing the ‘right’
Wedding Planner by Naomi Lewis
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f you haven’t been lucky enough to receive a fantastic recommendation it can be a rather daunting task to select the right wedding planner. Searching the Internet, wading through a stack of bridal magazines… and just how do you choose? There seem to be so many options out there. Fortunately there are a couple of key indicators that you’re on the right track. To keep it simple, the most important questions you can ask yourself are Does he or she make you feel comfortable? Does he or she make you feel confident? First off you must be entirely comfortable with your choice and with your Planner. Have a meeting with a potential coordinator before making your booking, or at least have a good long chat on the phone. No wedding planner should deny you this. Do you feel some sort of rapport? Are they genuine, and genuinely interested in giving you good service? Are they actually listening to what you want, or are they pushing you into their ideas of what your wedding should be? Remember you’re going to be working very closely with this person for many months. You must be comfortable! And then do they make you feel confident in their ability to do their job... 46
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Do they know what they’re talking about? Can they answer all your questions? Do they have a bit of experience to back up their ideas? Can they provide references of previous clients if you ask for them? Can they show you pictures or videos to give you a good visual grasp of real weddings they have put together in the past? Even though you may have only had one meeting at this point, you can still draw out some good gauges of their efficiency and the service you are likely to receive. Did they respond quickly and clearly to your enquiry? Here is a good clue – did you receive a generic response, or was it personal and tailored to your questions and needs? Obviously the proof is in the pudding, so to speak – and you will really find out how good (or not) a planner is when you work with them. So if you cannot answer ‘yes’ to both of these key questions... you’ll probably be best advised to keep looking! But if you feel confident and comfortable from the outset, you’re most likely making a great choice.
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Feel free about Your special day
by Grant Derrick
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he church was just as it should always be….silent, neat, orderly and of course, proper. Dark wood pews silently creaking from decades of decent church folk’s visitations and piety. An organist sits miming some sombre piece to make sure that she can reach the pedals well enough, glancing over her spectacles at the sheet music to make sure she has the correct piece. Somewhere a mother and other family members flit about on tiptoes, ensuring all the notices are laid out, the flowers are just so, the guests are smiled at. An usher stands at the door with white gloves on and maybe a top hat and tails smiling and nodding as guests enter…..I’ve seen this before….ah, yes, at funerals. Way too old school for today’s Renaissance of colours and choices. I say “out damn spot”….no not that one….yes, out with tradition, although she has served us well for centuries, and in with variety, a “fiesta salvaje” (google it). Your wedding day should not be what tradition dictates, but what will make your wedding a day to be cherished with comfortable and happy memories that you have created.
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White and black is great if you are a penguin, panda or a nun …or a sharks supporter, but God gave us a few more options than that - thanks!!. Why not enliven your day with multicoloured shoes or sashes, why not even go for a rainbow of bridesmaids? It is not the similarities that make a wedding memorable, but the differences. More than ever you are given so many choices with which to paint your wedding canvas and the liberty for you to be the artist. You could get married on a train… why not? or in a forest or on the top of a mountain. A Picnic in a meadow (the veld for South Africans). How about a half day hike into some wild location; it will certainly reduce the catering costs as many won’t be able to make it (ag, shame!!) /;>). Too much emphasis is placed on pleasing everyone else at a wedding. The seating arrangement that caters to everyone’s
likes and dislikes, where to put the families’ herd of black sheep without offending someone - (Please let me know if you have the answer to this one )…it is like wearing a corset; pleasing to everyone but you; you can hardly breathe or speak or smile. Sod putting everyone else’s happiness and joy above your own. I’m not advising that you disregard others, simply that you regard yourselves more. Hopefully you only get married once. When you reminisce about that day, it should be with warm smiles and girlish giggles, not with or shame or burying your head in your hands. Instead of passing on some out of style, moth-eaten or mothball smelling garment to your daughter or granddaughter, let them inherit the liberty and life that you celebrated on your special day. The only limitation is your imagination. Sep/Oct 2013 Brides Essence Magazine
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Romance in the wilderness
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At the foothills of the majestic Cederberg Mountains, only 270km from Cape Town, Bushmans Kloof Wilderness Reserve & Wellness Retreat offers an exceptional setting for the truly romantic. Be it a proposal, the wedding itself or the honeymoon – the lodge caters to all occasions, making sure that the bride and groom will be swept off their feet by the romantic wilderness location, decadent luxury and impeccable, warm service. For those who are ready to pop the question and wish to make the occasion extra special, Bushmans Kloof offers an exclusive ‘Enchanting Proposal’
engagement package. The offer features accommodation for two nights in one of the lodge’s plush guest rooms, daily culinary treats (full English breakfast, light lunch, High Tea and dinner) and a range of scenic lodge activities, including nature drives and rock art excursions. To set the scene for the big moment the loved up couple will be able to enjoy a romantic picnic for two in the reserve, and will be pampered with a relaxing “B Together” dual spa treatment in Bushmans Kloof’s indulgent Spa. The highlight of the stay is a candlelit dinner at Kadoro, a secluded cottage in the heart of
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the reserve. Lit entirely by candles, this is a breathtakingly romantic setting and the perfect proposal location. Bushmans Kloof is also a soughtafter wedding destination. An array of unique settings and dining venues, together with effortless service, delicious organic cuisine, and superb facilities and accommodation, distinguish the world-class offering at this award-winning reserve. A dedicated team will take care of every aspect of the wedding, leaving the happy couple free to enjoy every moment of their special day. Bushmans Kloof’s ‘Memorable Moments’ wedding package includes a choice of location at the lodge or within the reserve; one of the most popular locations, weather permitting, is Embers - built into a natural sandstone Amphitheatre, the outdoor dining venue is perched on a dramatic cliff, overlooking the spectacular valley below. The wooden deck is lit by a roaring fire, and a myriad of candles and lanterns create a truly magical atmosphere. Also included are a bouquet of African indigenous flowers for the bride and buttonhole for the groom; a wedding cake for up to four people; a romantic rose petal turndown with South African sparkling wine; and a set of ‘his’ and ‘hers’ bath sheets with embroidered initials. Bushmans Kloof also offers the services of a dedicated minister to take care of all formalities. The morning after the big day, Mr & Mrs can start their new life together with a leisurely 52
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breakfast in bed or at one of the lodge’s scenic locations. Last but by no means least – the Honeymoon. Bushmans Kloof’s ‘Beginnings’ package is the perfect honeymoon option for those seeking to get away from it all following the wedding. Start your new life together in total privacy, with a romantic dinner at Kadoro; a private picnic at a secret location within the reserve; a bottle of sparkling wine upon arrival; romantic turndown; and a dual Crystal Steam Rasul treatment in the Bushmans Kloof Spa. For more infomation on Bushmans Kloof Wilderness Reserve & Wellness Retreat Tel: +27 (0)21 437 9278 info@bushmanskloof.co.za www.bushmanskloof.co.za
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Bundu Food for the African Bush Rita van Dyk
ISBN: 9781432301842 RRP: R180.00
by Grant Derrick
From the author of several bestsellers, including: The 4x4 Cookbook and The 4x4 Safari Cookbook. Rita is well qualified to write a book on safari cooking as she cooked for Penduka Safaris during the early 90s as a freelancer, visiting remote places in Botswana, Namibia and Zimbabwe. She was also the food editor for WegRy/DriveOut magazine. She lives, with her husband, on a farm in the Rhenosterspruit Nature Conservancy. Bundu Food for the African Bush – Whether you are going fishing, camping, hiking or even for that extended 4 X 4 safari trip to some location that is only a bunch of numbers without a name, decipherable only by your Garmin, then you must have this exquisite cooking “biblette” with you. Thank you baked beans, although you have kept outdoorsmen alive for centuries you’re no longer number 1 when it comes to bush-tucker. From the comprehensive kitchen packing and grocery list, to the 10 day meal plan, to the many loved favourites and many new recipes that are simple and easy to prepare on the fire or gas burner, there is nothing that you might need more in order to rough it in the bush. This well thought out book not only caters to the braai lovers but also for vegetarians and those with a lesser palate for meat, meat and some more meat. To top it all, mouth watering deserts that will tame even the toughest hiker-climber-hunter-gathererfisherman. What a refreshing take on outdoor cooking as we know it! A must have if you wish to survive the harshest outdoors in style.
Chamberlain Birds of the Indian Ocean Islands Ian Sinclair & Olivier Langrand
First Published in 1998, Birds of the Indian Ocean Islands is the only comprehensive guide to the bird life of Madagascar, the Seychelles, the Comoros, and the Mascarenes (Mauritius, Reunion and Rodrigues) – an area that boasts high levels of endemism. This new expanded edition is fully updated to reflect taxonomic changes, and now describes and illustrates 502 species. The species accounts cover the birds’ appearance, basic behaviour, preferred habitats, geographical distribution and IUCN threat status. The text is complemented by newly designed plates with labels pinpointing key differentiating features. The introduction includes maps for each island, lists the region’s 209 endemic species, and gives pointers on where to go bird-watching.
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ISBN: 9781431700851 RRP: R250.00
Robben Island A place of inspiration: Mandela’ prison island CHARLENE SMITH
ISBN: 9781920572907 RRP: R160.00
by Grant Derrick
Robben Island – a place of pain, suffering and despair, best known as the place where Nelson Mandela and many other political prisoners spent decades incarcerated for crimes against apartheid. Yet from its dark backdrop, Robben Island has now become a beacon of hope and a symbol of human triumph over evil against all odds, where humility and compassion overcame batons, hunger and violent cruelty. Much in-depth research has made this book a must read if you wish to understand the symbolism of a little island that is renowned worldwide. Charlene Smith unfolds the evolution of the Island’s political and social history, from mail station, place of exile, and military defence post to maximum security prison and World Heritage Site accompanied by many colour and black and white photos. A great deal of research has gone into making this story-like account of the island’s troubled past. This fully revised edition of Robben Island provides absorbing accounts of daring escapes, maritime disasters, lepers ostracized from mainland society, the fates of the great Xhosa chiefs of the nineteenth century, and the unique bonds of friendship and compassion forged among the political prisoners confined on the Island during the apartheid era. Robben Island is not just a tourist attraction but it has a rich fauna and flora that is linked to the islands earliest visitors. Most importantly it holds a rich cultural value as an enduring tribute to the resilience of the human spirit.
Welcome to the real world! A young person’s guide to figuring it all out Alex Ferguson-Williams & Lisa Kretschmer
First Published in 1998, Birds of the Indian Ocean Islands is the only comprehensive guide to the bird life of Madagascar, the Seychelles, the Comoros, and the Mascarenes (Mauritius, Reunion and Rodrigues) – an area that boasts high levels of endemism. This new, expanded edition is fully updated to reflect taxonomic changes, and now describes and illustrates 502 species. The species accounts cover the birds’ appearance, basic behaviour, preferred habitats, geographical distribution and IUCN threat status. The text is complemented by newly designed plates with labels pinpointing key differentiating features. The introduction includes maps for each island, lists the region’s 209 endemic species, and gives pointers on where to go bird-watching.
ISBN: 9781770225268 RRP: R170.00
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For men only
Shaunti and jeff FELDHAHN
ISBN: 9781601425744 RRP: R79.95
Finally, you can understand her! If you’re like most men, you’ve burned up lots of energy trying to figure out what a woman wants, what makes her tick, how to make her happy. The good news: success is simpler than you ever thought. In their groundbreaking classic, For Men Only, Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn reveal the eye-opening truths and simple acts that will radically improve your relationship with the woman you love. For example: • Why she can’t just not think about something that’s bothering her • How to get her real answers without games • How your provider instinct can actually cause her heartache - and what to do about it • Why not tonight, honey may not mean what you think • Why listening to her feelings is so hard for a guy, and a fix-it plan that works • Why her I do at the altar will always mean, do you? and the answer that rocks her world Now updated with the latest scientific research to explain the fabulous female brain plus an all-new chapter that shows how to decode her most baffling behaviour, For Men Only is your roadmap to making her happy.
For woman only Shaunti and FELDHAHN
What’s going on in a man’s mind? From their early days, every woman has struggled to understand why males behave the way they do. Even long-married women who think they understand men have only scratched the surface. Beneath a man’s rugged exterior is an even more rugged, unmapped terrain. What bestselling author Shaunti Feldhahn’s research reveals about the inner lives of men will open women’s eyes to what the men in their life - boyfriends, brothers, husbands, and sons - are really thinking and feeling. Men want to be understood, but they’re afraid to “freak out” the women they love by confessing what is happening inside their heads. This book will guide women in how to provide the loving support that modern men want and need.
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ISBN: 9781601425713 RRP: R79.95
The 5 Love languages
GARY CHAPMAN
ISBN: 0802473156 RRP: R149.96
Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse’s primary love language-quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. A newly designed love languages assessment will help you understand and strengthen your relationship. You can build a lasting, loving marriage together. Gary Chapman hosts a nationally syndicated daily radio program called A Love Language Minute that can be heard on more than 150 radio stations as well as the weekly syndicated program Building Relationships with Gary Chapman, which can both be heard on fivelovelanguages.com. The Five Love Languages is a consistent New York Times bestseller - with over 7 million copies sold and translated into 38 languages. This book is a sales phenomenon, with each year outselling the prior for 16 years running!
A Couple after God’s Own Heart Jim and Elizabeth George
“New from bestselling authors Jim and Elizabeth George! Jim and Elizabeth come together to share from 40-plus years of marital wisdom and experiences to help couples grow closer to each other and to God. Husbands and wives will discover how they can enrich their marriages by looking at the lives of key couples in the Bible. As they observe the strengths and weaknesses of couples like Abraham and Sarah, Boaz and Ruth, Joseph and Mary, and others, they will learn the essentials necessary for enjoying an exciting life together, develop better ways to communicate and make solid decisions and realize the need to draw upon God for unity and strength in hard times. An outstanding resource that will lead husbands and wives to enjoy a richer and deeper union!”
ISBN: 9780736951203 RRP: R149.96
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