BSBI’S Chai Lights
Vol. 5779 No. 9
May 2019
BSBI Annual Board Meeting May 14, 2019 6:30 PM Minyan Followed by a Light Dinner 7:30 PM Meeting See page 6 for details TEMPLE
TOPICS
Spring Cleaning Day
Updates from Clergy & President— 3-4 RLWRS Update—5 BSBI Annual Meeting-6 BSBI Community — 6-8 Library Corner— 8 Social Action— 8 Sisterhood Speaks — 9-10 Brotherhood Corner —11-12 Celebration Dates— 13 Leave a Legacy— 14 The Endowment Foundation — 15 Contributions from Thoughtful People —16-17 Evening Minyan Calendar — 18 Activity Calendar —19 Ads from Our Sponsors — 21-23 Abitz-Angel Golf Tournament —Back Page
May 5, 2019
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BETH SHOLOM B’NAI ISRAEL
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Clergy Rabbi: Randall J. Konigsburg Cantor: Sarah Bolts Rabbi Emeritus: Richard J. Plavin Staff Office Manager: Judy Sawtelle Marketing Coordinator: Tova Haley Bookkeeper: Eileen Kean Maintenance Specialist: Dave Pastula BSBI Board of Directors President: Phil Margolis Co-Executive Vice Presidents: Dawn & Jack Steigelfest Vice President of Administration: Sally Ivaldi Co-Vice Presidents of Finance: Alan & Hope Igdalsky Vice President of Fundraising: Ken Wichman Co-Vice Presidents of Membership: Bea Brodie & Ellen Frankel Vice President of Ritual: Steve Cohen Vice President of Education: Debbie Benblatt Vice President of Properties: Ed Reilly Vice President of Memorial Park: Liza Mandel Brotherhood Co-Representatives to Board: Steve Cohen & David Alter Sisterhood Representative to Board: Brina Abrahams Chair, Social Action: Carol Hatch Chair, Personnel: Debbie Cinquemani Co-Chairs, Youth Activities: Teri Norman & Ilene O’Neil Recording Secretary: Spin Zucker Board of Trustees Representative: Marshall Grodofsky Immediate Past President: Ron Abrahams Legal Counsel: Bruce Beck Services Monday through Thursday: 7:00 PM Friday: 6:30 PM Saturday: 10:00 AM All service times are as listed above unless otherwise noted in the calendar. The entire community is welcome to attend any of our services. Our Saturday morning service is followed by a community Kiddush. This would be an excellent opportunity to meet our congregation and clergy. You may contact us via e-mail at: Rabbi Konigsburg: rabbenu@myshul.org Cantor Bolts: cantor@myshul.org Judy Sawtelle: admin@myshul.org Tova Haley: programming@myshul.org Eileen Kean: accounting@myshul.org
calendar on page 19 Wednesday, May 1 7:30 pm: Brotherhood Yom HaShoah Saturday, May 4 10:00 am: Learner’s Minyan with Michelle Konigsburg Sunday, May 5 10:00 am: Spring Cleaning Day 9:30 am: Brotherhood Breakfast & Speaker Saturday, May 11 10:00 am: Shirat HaLev with Cantor Bolts Sunday, May 12 No Religious School Tuesday, May 14 1:30 pm: Knit & Kvetch 7:30 pm: Annual Board Meeting Saturday, May 18 10:00 am: Family Shabbat Sunday, May 19 Last day of School 12:00 pm: School BBQ Saturday, May 25 10:00 am: Life, the Universe & Judaism with Michael Chernicoff 10:00 am: Krieger Anniversary Kiddush Tuesday, May 28 7:30 pm: Sisterhood Board Meeting Looking Ahead: Sunday, June 2 9:30 am: Brotherhood Breakfast & Speaker Wednesday, June 5 7:30 pm: Sisterhood Campership Saturday, June 8 6:30 pm: Tikkun Leil Shavuot; an Evening of Food & Learning Tuesday, June 12 8:30 am: Abits-Angel Memorial Golf Tournament
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Mazel Tov to Beverly Byk for completing her Bachelors degree at ECSU Condolences to:
Dan Cole and his entire family on the loss of his brother, Jack Cole
Richard Kaplan, Ashara Stansfield, David Kaplan and their entire family on the loss of their mother, Constance (Connie) Kaplan
Saul Nesselroth and his entire family on the loss of his son, Joseph Nesselroth 2
Faithcraft On the door of my daughter’s home is a sign that reads, “Vote as if your rights depend on it.” I love that sign. Ever since I finally attained voting age I don’t think I have missed even a handful of elections, and most of those were because I just didn’t know about a local special election. I don’t care how “significant” an election is; in my mind, they are all important. And I don’t just show up to my polling place; I spend sometimes hours preparing for an election. I want to know who supports which side of a referendum. Who has endorsed a candidate? What are the positions of each candidate on the issues that are important to me? I am not a “one issue” voter. I always go with the candidate who stands for the most issues I care about. The fact that foreign countries tried to change the outcome of the last Presidential election is well known. But how did they “steal” our election? Did they hack our voting machines to change the number of votes? Nope. Did they have people ineligible to vote come to certain precincts? No again. Did they bribe vote counters to adjust the votes in a state or two? Didn’t happen. So how did they do it? They spread false stories through social media knowing that there were enough people who go to the polls uninformed about the issues that they could manipulate their votes just by confusing them. The fact that there are many sites on the internet devoted to “urban myth busting” should remind us that there is little on the internet that should be believed without checking on it first. We expect that the news outlets will check their stories before they publish or broadcast them. But given the amount of false sites, fake sites, secret sites and “astroturfing” (the name given to sites that take a fake story and then repeat it over and over until it has gone “viral”) there is almost no way we can ever be sure that we are getting a real story and not something made up for a nefarious reason. So what can we do? I employ several tests to stories that I find hard to believe. First I check its age. There are stories on the internet that have been around for years and they still find new people who believe them long enough to repeat them. If we get such a story from a friend, we do need to tell them they have been fooled. If they are wise, they will send out a retraction. I also only take my news from sources I have already vetted as reliable. Since I know some of these sites have a point of view they promote, I have several sites from different points of view, liberal, conservative, Jewish, secular, etc. and I compare what they have to say. Much of what we read is just filling up space. When I read the news I keep asking “What is new here? What is here that I need to care about? How much of this is “fluff” and really unimportant no matter who is saying it?” (It used to be “All the news that’s fit to print.” Now it is “all the news that’s print to fit”; after all there is only so much time to give to the news). My final test is to see what people I know and whose opinions are important to me are saying. I have colleagues, mentors, and friends who I trust to help me see the sides on an issue that I might have missed. Of course, if I really want to vet a story, I just repeat it from the bima and a dozen people will come up to me after the service to tell me I am out of my mind. The point of all of this is that voting is hard work. We are being asked to make decisions about our future and how our representatives will represent us in the years ahead. Everything we care about in this country depends on us voters, and we are responsible for being informed voters. I will never tell you who to vote for, but I do insist that everyone gets up and gets out to vote. If foreign agents want to meddle in an election, they will not do it with my permission. I know who I am. I know what I stand for, and I go out and vote as if my rights depend on it. I hope you will too. Rabbi Randall Konigsburg
Jewish History 101 By Rabbi Konigsburg 26 Nisan – 26 Iyar 27 Nisan – Declared to be a day of memory to the martyred six million of our people killed in the Holocaust and in honor of those ghetto fighters who battled the Nazis of Germany. 29 Nisan – American troops liberated the Buchenwald concentration camp with its 20,000 inmates who were still living on this date in 1945. 5 Iyar – The State of Israel was declared on this date in 1948. It was the single most important event in Modern Jewish History. Within 12 minutes, the United States granted de facto recognition of Israel; it was the first country to do so. 14 Iyar – Adolf Eichmann, who was responsible for shipping Jews to the extermination camps during World War II, was captured by Israeli agents in Buenos Aires on this date in 1960. 26 Iyar – War broke out between Israel and Egypt, Jordan and Syria on this date in 1967; the beginning of the “Six Day War”. 3
Notes from the Cantor
Words from the President
Please feel free to contact The first half of our shul's name is Beth me directly at Sholom, and many of us look forward to philipmargolis@icloud.com spending Shabbos together. Yet if you come here on a Friday night or a or at 860-657-9951. Saturday morning, someone is likely to wish you a "Shabbat shalom." Most of us In his State of the State Address earlier this year Connecticut do this without thinking much about it, Governor Ned Lamont said “Giving but if someone asks, we are likely to say back is the highest form of that the former is the Ashkenazic pronunciation of the word, citizenship. I am excited about while the latter is the Sephardic pronunciation. This is true up to your willingness to partner with us a point, but it only captures a small part of the linguistic and to invest in our future. I am confident we will do great cultural history attached to these two variants of Hebrew. things together.�
The truth is that there are multiple Ashkenazic pronunciations and multiple Sephardic ones, which vary depending on geographical region. And what is most often referred to as "the Sephardic pronunciation" (i.e. the one spoken in Israel) is actually a combination of some Sephardic and some Ashkenazic features. It developed in the 20th century along with the modern Hebrew language, and spread due to a deliberate effort to make modern Hebrew the standard form of Hebrew. As a result, today most schools that teach the Hebrew language will teach it according to the modern Israeli pronunciation. There is a common perception that the Israeli pronunciation is more "authentic" or "correct" than the Ashkenazic one, and that Ashkenazic Hebrew is outdated or a relic of an older time. Some even go so far as to modify liturgical melodies that were written for an Ashkenazic pronunciation, attempting to make them fit the sounds and stress patterns of Israeli Hebrew. But in fact, both of these pronunciation systems are authentic dialects of Hebrew, along with many others that are less commonly heard.
Roy and Barbara Dalio heard the call. The Greenwich couple kick-started an initiative to engage Connecticut high school students with a $100 million donation. Together with state funds and private donations, the state hopes to create a $300 million effort. They heard the call, and they stepped up. I’m thankful that so many people step up every day at BSBI. Every year about 40 members donate $1,000 or more above their membership contributions to join our Hineni Society. Each month, dozens of congregants choose to donate to BSBI to honor a friend, relative or someone who has passed.
And every day, people step up with their time to volunteer and make a meaningful difference in our congregation. Some are visible, like our talented core of Torah readers or the leadership of our Brotherhood or Sisterhood. Many Growing up in a primarily Ashkenazic community with one others help behind the scenes, such as the individuals who proofread, stuff and address our bulletin, organize Kiddush Ashkenazic and one Sephardic parent, I spoke a combination dialect. I used Israeli Hebrew in conversation and when praying, or make sure things work around the building.
but I used the Ashkenazic pronunciation for common words like Shabbos and tallis. In cantorial school, my Hebrew professor acknowledged the legitimacy of both systems, but advised us to choose one system and be consistent. Full of indignation, I went up to him and explained that my hybrid system was part of my cultural background as a mixed Ashkenazic-Sephardic Jew. His response: "Well, then, that's a consistent system." And so I embraced the hybrid system. I say both "Shabbat shalom" and "Gut Shabbos." I pronounce most liturgy in the Israeli style, but I don't try to make melodies fit into a style that they weren't made to fit. And I am happy to hear others speaking and leading in either style. There are many dialects of Hebrew, and they are all valid, all authentic, all rooted in their own cultural time and place. Cantor Sarah Bolts 4
While we have many great donors and volunteers, our community would be that much stronger with more help. We need to raise more money so that we can maintain the services, educate our next generation and keep our building secure and in good operating condition, today and in the future. Most people reading this could not afford to foot this bill. However, perhaps there are a few who could jump-start our effort. Little changes can also make a big difference. Have you given the same donation amounts to recognize occasions or during the high holiday fundraising appeal? Raising donations from $18 to $25 or even $36, or increasing a high holiday gift 10% would make a large positive impact. Continued on page 8
RLWRS Update Upcoming Events: Saturday, May 18: School Shabbat and Luncheon Sunday, May 19: Last Day of Religious School & School BBQ Please let me know if you are aware of anyone interested in enrolling their children in religious school for the 2019-2020 school year. It is up to all of us to work together to grow our community. After services, on our last day of religious school Iwould like to meet with the parents to hear your feedback, suggestions and share exciting upcoming plans. Our family Passover program included a Bibliodrama set in the desert leaving slavery behind and acting out different scripts. How did we feel when we saw the sea part? Was Moses a good leader? How did our lives change? What did we bring for the sojourn? We wrote invitations to our seder thoughtfully choosing who we would invite and what we would want them to learn. Finally, we had a grab bag of Pesach items and we shared their importance. Kindergarten and First Grade have worked hard to learn their aleph-bet as a basis to begin reading Hebrew. They have also been learning the importance of the Passover story and made afikomen covers. Hopefully, they had a turn to participate in asking the four questions at your seder. Grades 3 and 5 were excited to begin using our new I-pads to learn how the melody for the prayer Ein Keloheinu sounds in Jewish communities around the world. Knowing that the words stay the same regardless of the melody students were able to record their favorite Ladino, Hebrew or English version. Students learned to be able to identify the Passover Mitzvot including telling the story of the Exodus, the importance of liberation and understanding the importance of the individual items on the seder plate.
Grades 6-7 learned about the history of migration of Ashkenazic Jews during the early to mid 20th century. Students are working on L'dor V'dor Project to be put on display the last day of school. This is a great opportunity to connect generations in your family. Please help your students gather the information they need. Hebrew classes are practicing Adon Olam, Aleynu, and Ein Keloheinu in preparation for leading the congregation during school Shabbat. We all know that regular attendance is essential for learning and becoming comfortable with our service. Music class has been enjoying Passover songs culminating with our family program where we all enjoyed the music together. Feel free to join us at the end of each class on Thursday and Sunday when you pick up your students. Ellen Frankel 5
BSBI Community In The Lobby
YOU’RE INVITED! TO OUR TENTH ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION! Where were you on August 13, 2009?
Written by Sissy Seader Submitted by Marilyn Lassow
Many of us were here in our very own building, to vote on the merger between Temple Beth Sholom and Congregation B’nai Israel! On that auspicious day, both congregations voted unanimously to become Beth Sholom B’nai Israel. The Certificate of Merger was signed by President Ira Fink and President Gayle A. Block after months of meetings to plan the “marriage” of the two shuls. On the evening of August 13the 24th of Av—we joined together to celebrate the beginning of a beautiful friendship and a new family. While the “wedding” did not take place until September, when the sifrey Torah from CBI were carried in procession to BSBI, the anniversary of our union will be marked this year on Sunday, August 25th (the 24th of Av in this year’s calendar). We’ll celebrate, beginning at 5:30 p.m., with a silent auction, dinner, music, reminiscences, and photos of our family journey. RSVP forms will be included in the June/July and August bulletins (and online). We can’t wait to celebrate!
I pondered if it is really right To recite a poem on Shabbat night But, I said to relax don’t get uptight So I offer you, without being slobby, My little verse called-“It’s in the lobby”. When at Temple you feel down and out Just let us know-we’ll hear your shout And help you better as we scout Happenings found “in the lobby”. When a course sounds really good But joining is something hard to do We’ll all help you to see it through With directions found “in the lobby”. When you are informed of upcoming dinner But to the Temple you are a beginner We guarantee the food won’t make you thinner Read about it “in the lobby” When there’s a meeting you wish to take place And having trouble finding space News information might help your case You can read about it “in the lobby”. There are all sorts of sheets With abundance of news Far too many to set on the pews But notices and such you must not lose Always right there “in the lobby”. There’s nothing special about that place Except it’s roomy with plenty of space But for us it still remains the base Cause all notices surely are “in the lobby”.
BSBI Annual Meeting
I believe our Rabbi, so full of grace Often pronounces with just in case How to find the news with times and dates But frankly I think our Rabbi has a new hobby Mobilizing us all to say “it’s in the lobby”.
May 14, 2019
Save the date and plan to join us on May 14th for the BSBI Annual Meeting. Minyan will be held at 6:30 pm that evening and will be followed by a light deli dinner and the Annual Meeting. Please RSVP online at www.myshul.org or email programming@myshul.org by May 7th if you plan on coming for dinner, and bring $8 per person to cover the cost of the food. Please let us know if you need a vegetarian option.
All are welcome to the meeting, but you must preregister to eat! 6
AIPAC (American Israel Public Affairs Committee) 2019 Seven BSBI members represented the congregation at the annual AIPAC Policy Conference in late March. AIPAC is a bipartisan organization of U.S. citizens committed to strengthening, protecting and promoting the U.S.-Israel relationship. The conference features prominent speakers, politicians, breakout learning sessions on a wide range of topics, inspiring stories of Israeli innovation and U.S.-Israeli cooperation, and lobbying Congress. This year's lobbying agenda encouraged our congressional delegation to support aid to Israel, support enhanced U.S.-Israel Cooperation and oppose boycotts of Israel. Israeli elections was a popular topic, and attendees heard remarks from Blue and White Party and opposition leader Benny Gantz and Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu. If you're interested in attending the conference next year (March 1-3, 2020), there is a $200 discount available for a limited amount of time. See the Rabbi for more information.
Susan Breslau, William Breslau, Susan Margolis, Phil Margolis, Ken Wichman, Rabbi Konigsburg (not pictured, Michelle Konigsburg)
Rabbi Konigsburg, Senator John Larson, Rabbi David Small (Emanuel Synagogue)
Pesach Project a Wonderful Success
Jessie’s Garden
Thanks to the generosity of the BSBI Community the Pesach Project this year surpassed last year’s total by over a thousand dollars, raising $9,416. This means that we can replenish the coffers of our Sisterhood so they can continue to enhance our building and provide programming as well as being able to send more than $5,600 to Leket and Mazon to help in the great battle to combat hunger.
The committee has decided this year to let the soil for Jessie’s Garden rest. After numerous problems with our produce last year, it was decided to take a year off. The soil will be tested to see if there is something we should do.
In lieu of the garden, it was decided to do some planting of Hosta or other shade plants in the small garden by the bench, in the front 7,839 Passover greetings were sent from one member to another. Over 100 member families of the synagogue. It was thought a good participated this year. We appreciate all those time to do this would be on Spring Cleaning th who donated and want to particularly thank our 12 Day on May 5 . sponsors who sent $250 each to include the entire If you are available to help on this day please congregation and staff in their greetings.
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May this be the year when “Let all who are hungry come and eat” becomes a reality in our world.
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Carol Hatch cadahat@comcast.net or Brina Abrahams brinaron@sbcglobal.net.
Rabbi Richard Plavin Library Corner David Alter, Librarian
Yom Hashoah, Holocaust Remembrance Day, is the 27th day of Nisan on the Hebrew calendar. The full name of the day is Yom Hashoah Ve-Hagevurah, which means the "Day of (remembrance of) the Holocaust and the Heroism which marks the anniversary of the Warsaw Ghetto Uprising. The Rockville Public Library has one of the largest Holocaust collections available in a public library in the State of Connecticut. The former Congregation B’nai Israel, Vernon, CT, donated the Dan LeBlanc collection from their library when they disbanded in 2009. Since that time Mr. LeBlanc has continued to add to this already impressive collection. BSBI also has an extensive Holocaust collection, The Halina Wind Preston Holocaust Collection. Both libraries are a great source for information and history of the Holocaust. BSBI will commemorate Yom Hashoah on May 1, 2019 with the BSBI Brotherhood Yom Hashoah program. Ari Hartstein will speak about his family’s connection to the Holocaust.
I would like to express my gratitude for everyone who supported me for the Brotherhood Keeper of the Flame ceremony on April 7th.
Sincerely, Carl Mandell Photographer: Harold A. Bernstein
Todah Rabbah from Camp Ramah
Please remember to light your Yellow Candle in memory of those who perished in the Holocaust.
Social Action News Thank you to everyone who participated in our Hametz Food Drive. Our next event is coming up on May 5, Spring Cleaning “Your organization’s support of our Scholarship Fund is Day. We will be spreading mulch in our flower beds and will helping to ensure that deserving children are able to be doing some planting as well. We will start at 10 am and experience a transformational summer at Camp Ramah. hope to finish by noon. Campers return home to their families and Please contact Carol Hatch at cadahat@gmail.com if you communities at the end of each summer energized, would like to participate. with new outlooks and Jewish practices.“ We will not be planting our vegetable garden this spring. We To learn more about Camp Ramah’s program and the are allowing the garden to rest, while we try to work out way that it is changing young Jewish lives, please visit some soil problems. I hope to see you on May 5th! www.campramahne.org Carol Hatch Rabbi Ed Gelb, Director
Words from the President continued Similarly, we need people who can help. Here are a few ideas: Interfaith effort – We need a committee to review language on our website and in other print materials with an eye to making sure that we are as welcoming as possible to interfaith families. We may want to create dialogue or programming that help us be more inclusive or help families with their concerns. Fundraising –We need to expand our fundraising and are looking for new ideas, particularly reaching outside our building. Membership – We need people to brainstorm ideas about finding new members, calling prospects and making connections when they join. These are just a few ways where we could use your help. So, if you don’t have $100 million to spare, I understand. I urge you, however, to hear this call. If you want to discuss any of these opportunities or have other ideas, contact the Rabbi or me. B’shalom, Phil Margolis, President 8
May 3 & 4, 2019
Meet the next Cantorial Candidate
Sisterhood Speaks Mimi Kalman, Editor
Sidonia’s Thread - The Exhibit Sunday, April 7, 2019
What’s Ahead for Sisterhood? Tuesday, May 14, 1:30 pm Knit & Kvetch Tuesday, May 28, 7:30 pm Sisterhood Board Meeting Monday, June 17, 7:30 pm Hadassah/Sisterhood Book Group
Kitchen Notes Have you had a tour of the kitchen lately? It’s got new almost everything. Appliances, flooring, wall coverings, lighting fixtures, and paint. It is bright, shiny and very clean. If you or your group use it, please clean up after yourselves so that it can stay that way and so we will all be able to enjoy it for many years.
Although several of our members visited the "Sidonia’s Thread" exhibit prior to April 7th, ten of us went together on that date. It was wonderful not only to view the very well-made garments and the beautiful fabrics that were used, but to realize the love that Sidonia put into making them for her daughter, and that Hanna has kept them all.
Hanna Marcus answering questions at the exhibit
A big thank you to Dave and Allene for the great job helping out with the whole kitchen project, especially the painting and cleaning. Please ask me for any assistance or questions you have about using the kitchen, and especially if you are interested in baking. We may have some staple items, so please ask before you shop. Thank you, Stacey Poutre stacey@poutres.com
Torah Fund Cards Mimi Kalman; sympathy card to Stuart and Esther Horn in memory of Stuart's sister, Terri Magee and sympathy card sent to Penny Sussman in memory of her father, Ron Sussman. To order cards for all occasions contact our Torah Fund Chairperson Lynn Cohen at (860-298-0457) or lynnbcohen@att.net
Our group prior to going in. Carol Guttman, Ellie Flink, Eveleen Zimmerman, Paula Finkelstein, Blanche Ross, Elaine Vinick Back: Mimi Kalman, Audrey Davis, Diane Keyser. Taking photo: Judy Meyer 9
Sisterhood Speaks Continued Knit & Kvetch
Hadassah/Sisterhood Book Group - Monday June 17
We will be meeting this month in the BSBI library on Tuesday, May 14, at 1:30 pm. If you are making an afghan for us please make it at least 36 x 48 inches. Remember we can always use yarn or monetary donations to continue our mitzvah. It doesn't have to be a huge amount; $5.00 goes a long way towards buying yarn. We do appreciate all donations of yarn, however please no wool. Our items need to be machine washable so we can only accept 100% acrylic. Please make sure that all donation checks are made out to BSBI Sisterhood and marked "Knit and Kvetch" on the memo line. They can be left in the BSBI office for us. Any questions, call me at 860-649-6551 or at IRANNEFINK@AOL.COM. Anne Fink
Our group had a very stimulating discussion about The Aleppo Codex this past month. We hope you will join us for our next meeting at BSBI on June 17 at 7:30, when we will discuss Lucky Us, by Amy Bloom. Copies of the book will be placed on hold for us at the Mary Cheney library reference desk. “Brilliantly written, deeply moving, fantastically funny, Lucky Us introduces us to Eva and Iris. Disappointed by their families, Iris, the hopeful star, and Eva, the sidekick, journey across 1940s America in search of fame and fortune. Iris's ambitions take them from small-town Ohio to an unexpected and sensuous Hollywood, across the America of Reinvention in a stolen station wagon, to the jazz clubs and golden Come Walk With Us, Again and Again Unfortunately, we won’t be walking in May because mansions of Long Island. With their friends in high and low places, Iris and Eva stumble and it will be Memorial Day weekend. But we thought we’d share pictures of April’s walk. We saw deer and shine through a landscape of big dreams, scandals, betrayals, and war. Filled with gorgeous writing, memorable characters, and ducks, never know what we might find! surprising events, Lucky Us is a thrilling and resonant novel about success and failure, good luck and bad, the creation of a family, and the pleasures and inevitable perils of family life. From Brooklyn's beauty parlors to London's West End, a group of unforgettable people love, lie, cheat, and survive in this story of our fragile, absurd, heroic species.” Happy reading! Maxine Lerman Myrna Spector Ann Labb and Margie Partney, Co-Chair
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Sisterhood Gift Shop - Your Source for All Your Simchot
Would you like to enhance our services in honor of a special occasion of yours? Call either of us; we’d be happy to help you.
“Spring is sprung The grass is ris” I wonder where the customers is? It's lonely behind this counter... Since the Judaica Store in West Hartford is closing its doors forever, now would be a great time to give our BSBI Gift Shop a second and even a third look. We have purchased a number of great items from Rifka, so how 'bout stopping by and checking us out? Don't delay--Remember wedding, graduation and B'nai Mitzvah season is now in full swing! Important Reminder: revenue from all your purchases goes towards upkeep of the Synagogue and other good works!
Stacey Poutre (860-432-7083), stacey@poutres.com Kiddush (Desserts only) Chairperson Mimi Kalman (860-649-3890), mimrk524@gmail.com Pulpit Flowers Chairperson
As usual, we are still looking for volunteers to help run the gift shop from 20 minutes to 2 hours- dates and times up to you. For more information or to schedule an appointment, please contact Rima at: 860-649-8507 or rimarainbow@cox.net 10
Brotherhood Corner Carl Mandell, Brotherhood President
Our monthly Breakfast Meeting was held on April 14, and Ken Wichman and Phil Margolis spoke about this year’s AIPAC (American Israel Public Affairs Committee) convention. May’s speaker, May 5, will be Scott Selig, UCONN Hillel Director. Scott will discuss BDS (Boycott, Divestment, Sanctions) on campus. In addition to our monthly breakfast meeting on April 14, our Keeper of the Flame event took place on April 7 at the Emanuel Synagogue in West Hartford. This event is a part of the Federation of Jewish Men’s Clubs. This year’s recipient was our club President, Carl Mandell. May 1 is our Yom HaShoah Program. This year’s speaker is our own Brotherhood member and Treasurer, Ari Hartstein. Ari will speak about his family’s connection to the Holocaust. If you have not yet returned a donation for your yellow candle, it is never too late to do so. Our June Breakfast Meeting will take place on June 2. The Brotherhood will also do the cooking for the last day of Hebrew School this year. Volunteers are welcome. We look forward to seeing you at our events.
June 12 is our Annual Abitz-Angel Golf Tournament. Items for raffle, as well as volunteers, are still needed. Great news is that our Golf Tournament has secured a celebrity speaker and golfer for the June 12th AAMGT event. Local celebrity newscaster and Connecticut legend, Al Terzi, will join us for a fun filled day of Golf, Fun and Food. Al will assist us with an auction where we have dozens of great prizes that have been donated in addition to a raffle. For golfers, we have several on course events like closest to the pin, 50/50 raffle, longest drive and chance to putt for a Hawaii vacation or Hole-in-One for a new Toyota (Courtesy of Lynch Toyota in Manchester). Those who don't golf can join us for a delicious catered Kosher dinner. Our partner again this year is Connecticut Children's Medical Center/Pediatric Oncology Unit. Last year, we donated a check for $10,000 for their wonderful work. Hopefully with everyone's help, we can give an even bigger gift this year. Please come and support the tournament, volunteer on the day of the tournament or help us find golfers or sponsors who would like to support our efforts. AAMGT Co-Chairs Jack Steigelfest Glenn Hauer Spin Zucker
On April 7th, 2019 at The Emanuel Synagogue in West Hartford, Dr. Carl Mandell was the recipient of the Keeper of the Flame Award. This award is given to those individuals who were distinguished for their outstanding service to their community and their devotion to the men's club. Other members across the region also received this award from the Ct Valley Region Federation of Jewish Men's Clubs.
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Brotherhood Corner Continued Carl Mandell, Brotherhood President
Brotherhood in Action 2019 Thank you The Manchester Brotherhood in Action Breakfast, held on February 24, 2019, was a huge success, thanks in large part to the generous support from the BSBI community. The breakfast is a long-standing, charitable effort that helps families of children within our community who experience life-altering illnesses. Representatives from BSBI Brotherhood help run this annual event in partnership with other Manchester fraternal organizations (Knights of Columbus, Masons and UNICO). Well over 300 persons attended the breakfast, including many from BSBI. Several BSBI members were also volunteers at the event, and 83 members generously contributed a total of $1,327 in response to our January tickets mailing. Many others contributed through advertising and on-site ticket purchases and donations. On Sunday, March 13, Brotherhood In Action presented the proceeds from the Breakfast event to the families of Nate Rosario and Xavion Williams ($3,700 each).
Nate Rosario
Xavion Williams
We, the BSBI representatives to Manchester Brotherhood In Action, say Todah Rabbah to all BSBI congregants who generously supported this year’s Breakfast event. Respectfuly, Steven Cohen, Glenn Hauer, Harold Meyer, Calvin Vinick, and Spin Zucker.
Important: Update Your Contact Information!
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Have a new cell number or gave up your landline? Rabbi Konigsburg visits the local hospitals on a regular basis. An Want to be added to our e-mail list to get our bi-weekly important part of his duties is to bring comfort and healing to those announcements, sad news notifications and other who are sick. Due to privacy laws, the hospitals can’t tell him if one of important information related to the congregation? our members has been admitted. He could be just down the hall, but if Think you signed up to get e-mails but haven’t received he doesn’t know someone is there, he will not know to make a visit. any? Please call the Rabbi if you or someone you know is in the hospital so a Planning on moving or getting a new e-mail address? timely visit can be made: 860-643-9563 Have a child who has gone off to college and would like to keep up to date with life at BSBI?
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Celebration Dates in May
Birthdays Jayden Raymond-1 Robin Kohler-1 Stu Horn-1 Lorin Pasternak-2 Mitchell Wurmbrand-2 Joshua Abrahams-3 Barry Weinbaum-4 Richard Guttman-6 Linda Grodofsky-7 Corinne Fisher-7 Rosalyne Pingree-8 Seth Marks-8 Carl Mandell-9 Bev Ladue-10 Evan Carlson-10 Aaron Bayer-11 Alex Shongut-12 Sherry Shamash-13 Rose Bayer-14 Delilah Miller-14
Tobi Krutt-15 Rabbi Richard Plavin-15 Sarah Bolts-16 Daniel Cohen-16 Andrew Stevens-17 Irma Menschell-17 Glenn Blumenstein-19 Randi Friedman-19 Rabbi Randall Konigsburg-20 Philip Bayer-20 Abraham Bayer-20 Sam Krutt-20 Dave Abrams-22 Sarah Poutre-23 Becky Rumbo-23 Brenda Lerner-23 Norma Cantor-23 Mimi Kalman-24 Sharon Woodley-24 Scott Stevens-26
Scott Brennan-27 Philip Brennan-27 Justin Brennan-27 Daniel Brennan-27 Bernie Krutt-28 Sue Margolis-28 Lois Falkenstein-28 Dan Kaye-29 Cara Mallett-29 Bernie Apter-30 Susan Breslau-30 Elaine Charendoff-30 Anne Fink-31 Donna Plen-31
Anniversaries Mel & Elyse Spielberg-3 Barry & Renny Resnick-8 Richard & Carole Guttman-12 Stu & Esther Horn-17 Ilene & Robert O'Neil-17 Jeffrey & Sandi Garfield-25 Loren & Sharon Reichlin-25 Russ & Debbie Benblatt-29 Herb & Ellie Flink-31
Have a simcha you want to share with the congregation? Make sure to notify Tova at programming@myshul.org so she can include it in the bulletin!
If we have overlooked a special date please contact us at: 860-643-9563 ext. 100 so that we may celebrate it in the future. 13
Leave a Jewish Legacy How Can We Help? The BSBI Endowment Foundation has periodically published Bulletin articles about legacy giving and our collective obligations to future and current congregants. The by-laws of the Endowment have been changed to allow greater flexibility in the way the Endowment can help current and future donors reach their philanthropic goals. In addition to traditional endowment funds created in support of BSBI, we would like to offer several examples of recent donations to the BSBI Endowment that have taken advantage of this enhanced flexibility. The recent donations fall in to three broad categories: 1) Payment of a pledge over time, 2) Spend down fund over a period of years; and 3) the Endowment Foundation serves as custodian of Synagogue funds while the Synagogue remains the owner of those funds. Payment of a pledge over time: One family wanted to establish a “Perpetual Hineni” fund which requires a minimum donation of $25,000. Rather than donating a lump sum, the donor decided to contribute $5000/year from their IRA using the tax advantages associated with directly donating the RMD [Required Minimum Distribution] to the Endowment, for 5 years. While the fund is being established, they continue to make their yearly Hineni contributions. Once they have donated a total of $25,000 to the Endowment all future Hineni contributions will be made by the Endowment, in perpetuity, on behalf of the family. In addition, they will receive perpetual recognition of their endowment in support of the Synagogue once their fund reaches a minimum commitment of $25,000. The family can increase the fund in the future to be eligible for the designation of “Perpetual Hineni C’hai” Spend down fund: One donor family wanted to have a meaningful impact on summer camp scholarship. They donated a lump sum to the Endowment that is to be spent down over 10 years. This allows the yearly contribution to camp scholarships to have a greater impact than the usual 4% spend rate used by the Endowment for gifts given in perpetuity. This does not preclude additions to be made to the fund to increase the amount available to be allocated each year or to extend the life of the fund. Endowment as custodian of Synagogue Funds: One donor family wanted to pre pay synagogue dues and Hineni several years in advance. Their motivations were multiple but included the fact that by making a lump sum payment they could achieve certain tax advantages that would not be available if they paid their dues and Hineni contributions on a yearly basis. The Synagogue had asked the Endowment to invest the lump sum in the interim. Since these funds are not subject to the distribution rate imposed by the Endowment by laws the Synagogue may ask for all or part of these funds at any time.
We hope that these examples of imaginative ways to structure a donation to the Endowment or the Synagogue will stimulate you to examine your own charitable giving and motivate you to consider contributing to the BSBI Endowment in the tax advantaged ways that are most suitable to your needs and at the same time provide support for the Synagogue and future generations. As always, we recommend you speak with your advisor(s) prior to making any decision to ensure that it is in your best financial interest. If you are interested in learning more about giving opportunities you may reach out to either Roy Filkoff or Jeff Wasser at BSBIendowment@myshul.org Sincerely, Jeff Wasser, MD President BSBI Endowment Foundation 14
The Endowment Foundation Scholarships
Rabbi Leon Wind Religious School
Adult Education
Community
Emanual Hirth Fund
Bayer/Davison Fund
Sylvia A. Cheikin Fund
Berkman Family Fund
Maxine & Efrem Jaffe Fund
David Sherman Foster Fund
Clare-Kramer Fund
Ann and Emanuel Hirth Fund
Hochberg Family Fund
Ruth and Sidney Cohen Fund
Klemens-Wiener Fund
Seymour B. Kaplan Fund Sonia and Max Karp and Anita Karp Treston Fund
Jacobs Family Fund
Jack Goldberg Fund*
Joseph Kopman Fund
Rose Jaffe Fund
F. Ruth and S. I. Kummer Fund
Anne and Leon Kramer Fund
Katz-Robbins Fund
Max Lundy Fund
Ruth Podrove Melton Fund
Laurie Margolis Fund Cantor Israel and Irene Tabatsky Fund Marsha and Samuel Yules Fund Pauline and Isadore Zackin Fund Diane and Jeffrey Wasser Ramah Scholarship Fund
Barney, Jean, Rachel, and Sarah Moses Education Fund Gertrude and Abraham Podrove Fund Podrove - Resnick Fund Martin L. Rubin Fund
Fay and Benjamin Levy and Max Mandel Fund* Aida S. Nesselroth Educational Enhancement Fund* Saul and Carol Nesselroth Fund for Israel Advocacy George and Lillian Sandals Fund Ruth and Jack Sandals Fund Rabbi Jeshaia and Hilde Schnitzer Fund
Gordon Barshay Lassow and Jay Joshua Lassow Fund Esther Margulies Lessner and George C. Lessner Fund Jerome and Louise Nathan Fund Ella and Herman Plavin Fund
Israel and Lillian Abramovitz Fund Sheldon and Doris Adler Fund Louis and Sadye Apter Family Fund
Raymond Bernstein Fund Nathan Chesler Fund A. Elmer Diskan Fund Ruben Fialkoff Fund
Jay E. Rubinow Fund
Morris and Ann Firestone Fund
Rita and David Schmerler Fund
Rhoda Goldstein Fund
Leonard Seader Fund
Edith Gottlieb Fund
Nat N. and Gertrude Sturm Schwedel Fund
Saul and Rebecca Silverstein Fund
Shapiro Family Fund
Leo and Shirley Juran Fund
Berdine Spector Stoltz Fund
Weil-Braunsberg Fund*
Eileen & Fred Stern Family Fund
Kahaner Family Fund
Elliott and Eveleen Zimmerman Library Fund
Blanche and Robert Stone Fund
Ethel and Nathan Kasowitz Fund
Continuity Fund
Marcus Family and Bula Family Fund
Youth
Maintenance/Capital Improvements
Memorial Park
Irving and Ethel Mehlman Rose Fund Irma and Merwin Meridy Fund
Max and Sally Glaiber and Joseph and Gertrude Snider Fund
Anna Brita Chilberg Fund
Bayer-Marlow Fund
Temple Beth Sholom Memorial Park Fund
Howard Gold Fund
Nellie Katz Cohen Fund
Elaine and Leo Charendoff Fund
Congregation B’nai Israel Memorial Park Fund
Bernard and May Kahn and Eli and Rose Lerman Fund
Murray H. and Celia D. Novins Fund
David S. and Norma C. Garber Fund
Reichlin Family Fund
Miriam Barshay Lassow and Herman Lassow Fund
Pauline and Nathan Rubin Fund
Rubinow-Schwolsky Fund Rebecca Ann and Herman Seidman Fund Irene and Henry Springer Fund Diane and Barry Weinbaum Fund Rabbi Leon Wind Fund Irene and Abraham Zimmerman Fund
The Time is Now, The Need is Great!
Clare and Herbert Bernstein Fund
Plepler Family Fund
Program Enhancement Beth Sholom B’nai Israel Operating Fund Religious
General Endowment Fund
Rita Oshinsky Fund Phair Family Fund
Endowments are an opportunity for each of us to provide for our synagogue on a continuous basis by creating a permanent tribute to our values and principles. Our synagogue is here for you as you experience life’s greatest joys and greatest challenges. The Endowment Foundation
Israel and Shirley Snyder Family Fund
Capital Improvement Fund
Gloria and Robert Weiss Fund Edythe and Abraham Zubrow Fund
*These funds can also be used in Rabbi Leon Wind Religious School
Max Zucker Fund
For information about establishing an Endowment Fund or leaving a bequest, contact Dr. Jeffrey Wasser BSBIEndowment@myshul.org or Rabbi Konigsburg 860-643-9563 x101. 15
Contributions from Thoughtful People Thank you to those who support BSBI by remembering and honoring friends and loved ones with generous contributions. Donations appearing in the newsletter may not reflect all donations received prior to publication. Listings are as current as the newsletter deadline allows.
Special Thank You to Gloria Weiss for a vehicle In memory of William Cooper from Stephen M. Cooper MD. donation via Vehicles for Charity In memory of Irene Gordon from Stuart & Lisa Cantor BERDINE SPECTOR STOLTZ FUND In memory of Constance Kaplan from Susan StraubPost In memory of Jack Cole from Mr. & Mrs. Kenneth In memory of Eugene Spiegel. Eugene and his wife are Spector held with much affection by me and my husband. Indeed their sons and daughter are friends and, in DIANE AND JEFFREY WASSER RAMAH some cases, colleagues of our sons from Veronica Kim SCHOLARSHIP FUND In fond memory of Mimi Witkin on the occasion of her In honor of Dottie Buch's 95th birthday from Dr. & yahrzeit from Dr. & Mrs. Harold Meyer Mrs. Jeffrey Wasser In memory of Rita Oshinsky on the occasion of her yahrzeit from Joanna Rapoza EDYTHE & ABRAHAM ZUBROW FUND In memory of Irving Turk on the occasion of his yahrzeit from Mr. & Mrs. Michael Turk In memory of Abraham Zubrow on the occasion of In memory of Harriet Susnitzky on the occasion of her his yahrzeit from Victor Zubrow yahrzeit; in memory of Jacob Susnitzky on the occasion of his yahrzeit from Mrs. Sally Ivaldi ELAINE & LEO CHARENDOFF FUND In memory of Lillian Fendell on the occasion of her In memory of Judge Joseph H. Goldberg; in memory yahrzeit from Rose Ulan of Connie Kaplan from Mrs. Elaine Charendoff JOE DAVIS FUND GENERAL FUND In memory of Anna Garber on the occasion of her In loving memory of Benjamin Norman from Mrs. yahrzeit from Mrs. Audrey Davis Pearl Podrove In honor of Rabbi Plavin, glad for his quick recovery; KAHN -LERMAN TRUST FUND in honor of Carl Mandell, congratulations for your For the speedy recovery of Rabbi Richard Plavin; in honor from Mr. & Mrs. Arthur Lassow memory of Eugene Spiegel; in memory of Terri Magee; In memory of Constance Kaplan from BYC CPA In memory of Ronald Segal; in memory of Benjamin in memory of Ron Sussman; in memory of Rose Lerman on the occasion of her yahrzeit from Dr. & Mrs. Norman from Dr. & Mrs. Manuel Lerman Manuel Lerman In memory of Eugene Spiegel; in memory of Terri Magee from Dr. Kenneth Wichman LEONARD SEADER FUND In memory of Connie Kaplan from Dr. Walter Heimann In memory of Connie Kaplan from Mr. & Mrs. Herbert In memory of Ron Sussman from Howard Sohn Byk In memory of Constance Kaplan from Jill Spatola In memory of Eugene Spiegel, a man of superior LIBRARY FUND intellect who was humble, religiously observant, and in every way a good role model for his children from With sympathy on the loss of beloved husband and father, Eugene Spiegel from Ms. Jane Zimmerman Kenneth Grundfast Happy birthday to Diane Keyser from Mr. & Mrs. David In memory of Constance Kaplan from Michael Alter Caruso In memory of Connie Kaplan; in memory of Irene In memory of Marvin Weil, beloved husband of Gordon from Mrs. Mary Leon Marilyn Weil from Mr. & Mrs. James McGee In memory of Mary Louise (Delaney) Sarno on the In memory of Terri Magee, sister of Stuart Horn; in occasion of her yahrzeit; in memory of Ann (Falkowski) memory of Gene Spiegel; in memory of Ben Norman; in memory of Rabbi Konigsburg's mother, Delaney on the occasion of her yahrzeit from Mr. & Shirley Konigsburg from Mr. & Mrs. Rahim Shamash Mrs. Theodore Zupnik In memory of Connie Kaplan from Mrs. Irma NATHAN CHESLER FUND Menschell In memory of Aaron Sussman from Philip Levine In memory of Terri Magee from Mrs. Sharon Chesler In memory of David Werbner from Sidney Werbner 16
NICHUM AVAYLIM FUND
RITA & DAVID SCHMERLER FUND
In fond memory of Eugene Spiegel from Dr. & Mrs. Harold Meyer With sympathy on the loss of beloved husband and father, Marvin Weil from Ms. Jane Zimmerman
In memory of Ronald Segal; in memory of Gene Spiegel, dear husband of Fran Spiegel and father of Jeff, Paul & Cheryl; in memory of Ron Sussman; in memory of Seymour Schmerler on the occasion of his yahrzeit from Dr. & Mrs. Alan Schmerler
PHAIR FAMILY FUND In beloved memory of Ron Sussman; get well to Rabbi Richard Plavin; in beloved memory of Benjamin Norman; happy birthday to Diane Keyser; mazel tov Cantor Bolts and Michael Chernicoff on the birth of Julia Shoshana from Mrs. Sandi Phair RABBI EMERITUS' DISCRETIONARY FUND
For the speedy recovery of Rabbi Richard Plavin from Dr. & Mrs. Jeffrey Wasser RABBI LEON WIND RELIGIOUS SCHOOL-SPECIAL FUND FOR EDUCATION With sympathy on the loss of beloved grandson, Benjamin Norman from Ms. Jane Zimmerman RABBI'S DISCRETIONARY FUND In appreciation of Rabbi Konigsburg for your caring and support of our congregation. from Tanya Macher In appreciation of Rabbi Konigsburg from Mr. & Mrs. Ed Epstein In honor of Carl Mandell for receiving the Keeper of the Flame Award from the Manchester Brotherhood; In honor of Dorothy Buch on her 95th birthday from Mr. & Mrs. Ed Epstein In memory of Eugene Spiegel; in memory of Marvin Weil from Dr. & Mrs. Joel Milzoff In memory of David Seidner on the occasion of his yahrzeit from Mr. & Mrs. Ed Epstein
SHABBAT LUNCHEON FUND To Diane Wasser, thinking of you in this time of need; thinking of you Carol Lewis from Mr. & Mrs. Alan Goldstein In gratitude for the recovery of Rabbi Richard Plavin; in gratitude for the recovery of Ed Epstein; heartfelt wishes to Diane Wasser for continued recovery; in honor of Ari Zackin from Mrs. Eveleen Zimmerman In honor of the birth of Cantor Bolts' and Michael Chernicoff's daughter from Dr. & Mrs. Manuel Lerman In honor of the birthday of Diane Keyser from Mr. & Mrs. Herb Flink In memory of Ben Norman; in memory of Marvin Weil; in memory of Stu Horn's sister, Terri Magee; in memory of Ron Sussman from Mr. & Mrs. Alan Goldstein Mazel tov Dotty Buch, on the grand occasion of your 95th birthday from Ms. Jane Zimmerman YOUTH ACTIVITIES FUND With sympathy on the loss of beloved son and brother, Benjamin Norman from Ms. Jane Zimmerman In memory of Ben Norman, dear son of Sam & Teri Norman, brother of Rebecca & Daniel, grandson of Mike & Bonnie Norman, nephew of Larry Norman from Dr. & Mrs. Alan Schmerler
REBECCA ANN & HERMAN SEIDMAN FUND In gratitude; in memory of my mother, Rebecca Ann Seidman on the occasion of her yahrzeit from Mrs. Eveleen Zimmerman
Donation Submission Guidelines Clearly print or type the following information and enclose it when you send in your donation payment: Your name and address as you want it to be printed Which fund(s) you would like your donation applied to The purpose of the donation, including the full name of the person you are honoring and your relation to them (parents, siblings, etc.), if applicable The name and address of who you would like to receive the acknowledgement Please note: If you are including multiple dedications on one check, each dedication should be at least a minimum of $10, and please specify how much you would like to go to each fund. All checks should be made out to BSBI and sent to the synagogue at 400 East Middle Turnpike, Manchester, CT 06040. If you are donating to an Endowment fund, note the name of the fund on the memo line. Please allow some time for the donations to be processed and receipts sent out. If you have any questions regarding donations, please contact Judy Sawtelle at admin@myshul.org. 17
May 2019 Evening Minyan Schedule Please Note: Services will begin at 7:00 PM except where noted. * Special credit to our twice a month (or more) Jewry Duty members MONDAYS (7:00 PM)
TUESDAYS (7:00 PM)
WEDNESDAYS (7:00 PM)
THURSDAYS (7:00 PM)
First Monday –5/6 Bloostein, Saul & Susan* Creem, Jerry* Delaney, Bill & Deb* Schmerler, Alan & Lea
First Tuesday – 5/7 Banks, Craig Baron, Barry & Joan Bayer, Aaron & Laurie Dashefsky, Arnold & Sandy Schiller, Richard & Amy Stern, Alfred & Eileen Vinick, Cal
First Wednesday – 5/1 Axler, Phil* Brodie, Gordon & Bea Karasik, Gail Keyser, Arnold & Diane* Lerman, Manny & Maxine Pasternak, Lorin* Rubin, Donna
First Thursday – 5/2 Burstein, David* Caplin, Bob & Donna* Luxemburg, Maury Mandell, Carl & Cruz Poutre, Stacey Riedel, Rima
People Needed
People Needed
Second Monday – 5/13 Bayer, Bill & Barbara Beck, Bruce Creem, Jerry* Delaney, Bill & Deb* Flink, Herb & Ellie* Ketai, Richard & Levine, Laura Partney, Philip & Margery
Second Tuesday – 5/14 Breslau, Bill or Susan Carter, Irma Cohen, Jack & Lynn Grad, Howard & Linda Kalman, Mimi* Lerner, Brenda Norman, Mike & Bonnie Phair, Sandi* Singer, Trudy
Second Wednesday – 5/8 Axler, Phil* Gamzon, Bill* Gottlieb, Joe Keyser, Arnold & Diane* Leshin, Steven & Barbara Pasternak, Lorin* Resnick, Barry & Renny* Zucker, Spin
Second Thursday – 5/9 Burstein, David* Caplin, Bob & Donna * Finkelstein, Paula Goldstein, Alan & Carol Norman, Sam & Teri Resnick, Barry & Renny* Zupnik, Ted & Barbara*
Third Monday – 5/20 Creem, Jerry* Delaney, Bill & Deb* Linner, Abe & Iris Ludlum, Cathy Milzoff, Joel & Irene Rubin, Paul
Third Tuesday – 5/21 Abrahams, Richard & Leslie Gross, Michael & Susan Ivaldi, Sally Meyer, Harold Meyer, Judy Orringer, Nelson & Stephanie
Third Wednesday – 5/15 Axler, Phil* Filkoff, Roy Gamzon, Bill* Igdalsky, Alan & Hope Kaplan, Jonathan & Linda Keyser, Arnold & Diane* Pasternak, Lorin* Plen, Donna Stoppelman, Julian & Susan
Third Thursday – 5/16 Borgida, Edward Burstein, David* Caplin, Bob & Donna* Klein, Phil Kovensky, Neil McGee, Marcia Murray, Becky* Phair, Sandi*
Fourth Wednesday – 5/22 Axler, Phil* Keyser, Arnold & Diane* Margolis, Phil & Susan Murray, Becky* Pasternak, Lorin* Shamash, Rahim & Sherry Zucker, Spin
Fourth Thursday – 5/23 Burstein, David* Caplin, Bob & Donna* Krutt, Sam Lassow, Marilyn Pearlson, Stan & Sue Zimmerman, Jane
Fourth Monday – 5/27 Bloostein, Saul & Susan* Creem, Jerry* Delaney, Bill & Deb* Pasternak, Lorin* Rubin, Susan Zimmerman, Eveleen*
People Needed
Fourth Tuesday – 5/28 Beede, Harriet Kalman, Mimi* Lassow, Jeff & Liza Mandel Plavin, Lisa Turk, Mike or Maddy* Zimmerman, Eveleen*
People Needed
People Needed
People Needed
Fifth Monday – 12/31 Fifth Tuesday – 1/29 Creem, Jerry* Cole, Daniel & Florence We areBilllooking to add to this Minyan List! Delaney, & Deb * for membersEllis, Joel & Susan Flink, Herb & Ellie* Kloehn, Ed & Ellen Kovensky, Neil If you have volunteered for one night, Krutt, Joel & Tobiwould you Ladue, Beverly consider committing for two per month? call Zimmerman, AllanPlease & Jennifer Nesselroth, Saul & Carol Rabbi Konigsburg at 860-643-9563 Ext. 101 or email Poutre, Stacey
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Fifth Wednesday – 5/29 Abrahams, Ronald and Brina Axler, Phil* Cohen, Steve & Elly Feir, Alan & Donna Pasternak, Lorin* Turk, Mike & Maddy* Zubrow, Barbara
Fifth Thursday – 5/30 Burstein, David* Caplin, Bob & Donna * Goldstein, Alan & Carol Lerman, Manny Leshin, Steve Zupnik, Ted & Barbara*
May 2019 Calendar Sunday
Monday
Tuesday
Wednesday
Thursday
1 (26 Nisan)
2 (27 Nisan)
11th Day Omer Yom HaShoah 7:00p Mincha/ 12th Day Omer Maariv 4:30p Journeys Teen program 7:30p 4:30p RLWRS Brotherhood Grades 2-7 Yom HaShoah 7:00p Mincha/ Maariv 5 (30 Nisan)
6 (1 Iyyar)
Rosh Chodesh Iyyar Rosh Chodesh 15th Day Omer Iyyar 9:00a Spring Cleaning 16th Day Omer Day 9:00a RLWRS Grades K-7 7:00p Mincha/ 9:00a Morning Minyan Maariv 9:30a Brotherhood Breakfast & Speaker
7 (2 Iyyar)
8 (3 Iyyar)
9 (4 Iyyar)
17th Day Omer Yom Hazikaron Yom Ha'Atzmaut 18th Day Omer 19th Day Omer
7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
4:30p RLWRS Grades 2-7 7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
14 (9 Iyyar)
15 (10 Iyyar)
16 (11 Iyyar)
12 (7 Iyyar)
13 (8 Iyyar)
22nd Day Omer No Religious School Mother's Day
23rd Day Omer
24th Day Omer 25th Day Omer
7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
1:30p Knit & Kvetch 7:00p Mincha/ Maariv 7:30p Annual Board Meeting
7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
20 (15 Iyyar)
21 (16 Iyyar)
22 (17 Iyyar)
23 (18 Iyyar)
31st Day Omer 32nd Day Omer
Lag B'Omer 33rd Day Omer
7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
7:00p Mincha/ Maariv 7:30p Calendar Meeting
7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
28 (23 Iyyar)
29 (24 Iyyar)
30 (25 Iyyar)
38th Day Omer 39th Day Omer
40th Day Omer
7:00p Mincha/ 7:00p Mincha/ Maariv Maariv 7:30p Sisterhood Board Meeting
7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
19 (14 Iyyar)
Pesach Sheni 30th Day Omer 29th Day Omer 9:00a Last Day RLWRS Grades K-7 12:00p School BBQ 7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
26 (21 Iyyar)
27 (22 Iyyar)
36th Day Omer
37th Day Omer Memorial Day 7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
26th Day Omer 4:30p Journeys Teen program 4:30p RLWRS Grades 2-7 7:00p Mincha/ Maariv
Friday
Saturday
3 (28 Nisan)
4 (29 Nisan)
13th Day Omer
Shabbat Mevarchim 14th Day Omer 10:00a Learner’s Minyan 6:30p Kabbalat with Michelle Konigsburg Shabbat 8:25p Havdalah 7:32p Candle Lighting Sunset: 7:50p Sunset: 7:51p 10 (5 Iyyar) 11 (6 Iyyar)
20th Day Omer
21st Day Omer 10:00a Shabbat Services 10:00a Shirat HaLev with 6:30p Kabbalat Cantor Bolts Shabbat 7:40p Candle 8:33p Havdalah Lighting
Sunset: 7:58p 17 (12 Iyyar)
Sunset: 7:59p 18 (13 Iyyar)
27th Day Omer 28th Day Omer 6:30p Kabbalat 10:00a Shabbat Services Shabbat 10:00a Family Shabbat 8:40p Havdalah 7:47p Candle Lighting
Sunset: 8:05p 24 (19 Iyyar)
Sunset: 8:06p 25 (20 Iyyar)
34th Day Omer
35th Day Omer 10:00a Life, The Universe 6:30p Kabbalat and Judaism with Shabbat Michael Chernicoff 7:54p Candle 10:00a Shabbat Services Lighting 10:00a Krieger Anniversary Kiddush 8:46p Havdalah Sunset: 8:12p Sunset: 8:12p 31 (26 Iyyar) 41st Day Omer 6:30p Kabbalat Shabbat 7:59p Candle Lighting Sunset: 8:17p
Please note that calendar times are listed as posted in the office as of the date Chai Lights goes to print. Any schedule changes after this time will be posted on the online calendar at https://www.myshul.org and included in the bi-weekly announcements. These sources will have the most up to date information on events. 19
BSBI has been given the opportunity to accept donations of vehicles through a partnership with Vehicles For Charity to process donated vehicles. Consider donating your unwanted vehicle in support of BSBI. It is easier and faster than selling it on your own, and you may qualify for a tax deduction! Donors say it is a satisfying way to make a larger donation than they normally could. Other vehicles accepted by this program include: unwanted car, truck, boat, motorcycle, RV or recreational vehicles. For more information go to: https://www.vehiclesforcharity.org
We have now made the switch to the new Siddur Lev Shalem! Similar to the Machzor Lev Shalem we use on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, Siddur Lev Shalem includes informational side notes and extra readings on each page to help everyone get more out of Shabbat tephillot (prayer). We are now offering opportunities to dedicate these siddurim in honor of people or events in our lives or in memory of loved ones. A siddur can be dedicated for just $50 a book. If you would like to see a copy of the new siddur, they are available for inspection at the synagogue.
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Family Camp Weekend at Camp Ramah Join Camp Ramah in New England for an unforgettable Family Camp weekend from May 24th-27th! General scholarship funds are available from BSBI for families to attend
We offer a whole array of camp activities, like sports and arts, a ride on our Alpine Tower Swing, rafting on our agam (lake), and an unforgettable Ramah Shabbat.
Throughout Family Camp we provide childcare for children of all ages from toddler on up and have babysitting at night, so the adults can go experience camp on their own.
There will be programs for adults, children, grandparents, and the whole Family! Family Camp is always a blast, and we’d be thrilled if you’d join us!
We hope you can join us! Email Simon Luxemburg at simonl@campramahne.org with any questions! Learn more at our website: https://www.campramahne.org/current-families/year-round-programs/family-camp/, sign up here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/CRNEFamilyCamp2019 .
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Email ______________________________ Additional Team Members Names / Emails: 1.___________________________________ Email: _______________________________ 2.___________________________________ Email: _______________________________ 3.___________________________________ Email: _______________________________ Mail Form and Check to: AAMGT c/o Spin Zucker 221 Margaret Dr., South Windsor, CT 06074 Please make checks payable to: The Abitz-Angel Memorial Golf Tournament
About The Tournament The Abitz-Angel Memorial Tournament is sponsored by the Men’s Club of Beth Sholom B’nai Israel to raise funds for charitable causes. Our efforts are inspired by Todd Abitz, who was a member of Congregation B’nai Israel and was instrumental in starting and sustaining a charity golf tournament. Todd was a popular and dedicated member of the B’nai Israel Men’s Club, who chaired the Golf Tournament in 1998 and 1999. The Tournament was originally renamed in his memory. William “Bill” Angel played in the tournament for most of its existence and contributed generously to it for many years. Bill was an avid sportsman and high school football coach. Bill and his wife Linda, along with their children Melanie and Derek, were members of Temple Beth Sholom. Bill passed away in September, 2017 from a brain tumor. His sense of humor, energy and compassion for family, friends and all activities that he participated in will be greatly missed by all. He asked that memorial donations go to the Connecticut Children’s Medical Center Foundation for Pediatric Oncology. That is why we are partnering with Connecticut Children’s again this year as a major beneficiary of this tournament.
BSBI Brotherhood and
Present
The 23rd Annual Abitz-Angel Memorial Golf Tournament
Blackledge Country Club Hebron, CT Sign in 8:30am/10:00 Shotgun
June 12, 2019
We are certain that Todd and Bill would be pleased that the tradition of raising funds to help local people in need has continued. We appreciate your support and encourage you to join us. Thanks in advance for helping us make this year’s tournament a success!
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DINNER SPEAKER To Be Announced!
HOLE-IN ONE FOR A NEW CAR FROM
LYNCH TOYOTA Complete Brunch 8:30 am Shotgun Start 10:00 am Full Buffet Dinner BEER & SODA ALL DAY! HOT DOG LUNCH! Included with Registration
Raffle Prizes Tournament Prizes Closest to the Pin Longest Drive
AllPUTTING Sponsor names will appear CONTEST For Tripprogram to Hawaii!! inaour
SPONSORSHIP LEVELS Platinum - $2500 + Complimentary foursome of golf, your name on all literature, recognition in participating organizations’ newsletters, and display plaque. Diamond - $1000 Complimentary twosome of golf, your name on all literature, recognition in participating organizations’ newsletters, and display plaque Gold - $750 Your name on all literature, our program, and you will receive a display plaque. Silver - $500 Official Cart Sponsorship -Your name will be listed in our program and on a golf cart Bronze Sponsor - $300 Drink Cart Sponsorship Lunch Sponsor - $200 Your name displayed at lunch and in program Hole Sponsor - $125 Your name displayed at a hole and in program. Program Sponsor - $60 Your name will appear in our program.
(two possible winners!)
SPONSOR LEVELS
LIVE AUCTION! We accept credit cards for purchases at the course
Raffle Sponsor – Your name will appear in our program.
SPONSOR INFORMATION Name or Message to Appear on Sign: ______________________________________
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Payment/Mailing Instructions on Reverse Side
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OPTIONAL It is my/our intent to leave a legacy through my/our: ❐ Will ❐ Retirement Plan Assets ❐ Life Insurance Policy ❐ Living Trust ❐ Charitable Gift Annuity ❐ Charitable Remainder Trust ❐ Other _____________________ It is my/our intention to update our estate plan at the next available opportunity, with the following provisions: ❐ Provide a gift of ____ percent of the estate. ❐ Provide a gift of a specific dollar amount ($__________ if known) to be specified in the estate plan. I/We plan to designate my/our gift to support the following: ______________________________________________________________________________ You may mention and/or print my (our) name where it may serve as an encouragement to others to make a similar commitment. If yes, please initial here: _____________________ Thank you for helping to secure a bright future for the Jewish community. Endowment Committee of BSBI, 400 East Middle Turnpike, Manchester, CT 06040
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