Charleston’s OUT Crowd
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ATTRACTION Feeling Good!
Introducing the Eligible OUT Crowd
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1 0 A KA I
22 MEET CHARLESTON’ S ELIGIBLE OUT CROWD
5 0 PLA N N I NG YOU R BE AC H W E DDI NG
BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE
Gardener, wood worker, husband, and father, Akai Antia-obong believes you can change someone’s life just by changing how they perceive sound 1 2 A NOT H E R BROKEN EGG CA FE BEAUTIFUL FOOD
Courting foodies in Charleston: biscuit beignets, buttered grits as well as gluten-free and vegetarian offerings-- need we say more?
S U M M E R AT T R AC T I O N
An introduction to some of the most dynamic people who embody Charleston’s OUT Crowd 40 PATTI O’ F UR NITURE BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE
Meet one of Charleston’s most beloved, charming, philanthropic, and entertaining drag queens
BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE
BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE
Body, mind and soul all working together is the core principal of structural integration
4 4 UPCOMING REGIONAL PRIDES ROOTS
1 6 TA K E OV E R CHA RL ES TON: C ON N E C T ING THE C OM M U NITY ROOTS
Marshall Morris and Trevor Donovan share a dream of turning Charleston’s LGBT population into a connected community 1 8 FE E L ING GOOD IS L OOK ING GOOD
50 MY F I R ST W E DDI NG OUT CROWD WEDDINGS
Sixty-year-old, Jo Whinnery, plans her gay wedding in Charleston 5 4 M A R SH A LL LIG E R BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE
42 CHASE GLENN A gender transition is a unique experience, but what Chase has learned in the process is universal
1 4 AIM E É RATNER
OUT CROWD WEDDINGS
Insider tips from expert wedding and event planner Shawn Rabieau
Your 2015 Lowcountry Pride Agenda: Augusta, Charleston, Charlotte, Savannah, SC Black Pride & more 46 CONGRATS NEWLY WEDS OUT CROWD WEDDINGS
People in our BEAUtiful community who have decided to tie the knot 48 AF F IANC ED: TIM & J R
S U M M E R AT T R AC T I O N
OUT CROWD WEDDINGS
The power of self-assurance is intoxicating, and, as with other intoxicants, you will find yourself wanting more
Memorialize the moments that begin the lifetime of memories ahead in the enchanted elegance of beautiful Charleston
Animal lover, licensed veterinary technician and business manager who enjoys giving back 56 P OSSU M S G E T NO RE SPE C T FURRY BEAUS
Retired teacher, Cindy Leland, is an unlikely possum angel among us 6 2 T H I S I S F ORT Y, DA DDY SAME SEX IN THE CITY
It was a night at the gay bar like the hundreds (ok, thousands) before it 6 4 SU E ’ S HORO SC OPE S BEAU’DIACS
A look at seasonal horoscopes guided by the larger planets 6 6 A SK AVA BEAU Q&A
“Dragging” out answers to community questions
Cover Models: Lindsey Craft and Mandy Horne
Charleston’s OUT Crowd
Summer
ATTRACTION Feeling Good!
“WHAT YOU RADIATE OUTWARD IN YOUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, MENTAL PICTURES AND WORDS, YOU ATTRACT INTO YOUR LIFE.” - C AT H E R I N E P O N D E R
Introducing the Eligible OUT Crowd
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B EAU MAG | P UBLI SHER’ S NOTE I T ’ S F I N A L LY S U M M E R !
I love the heat…until August of course when we’re all melting and all begging for a cool breeze. Until then, it’s all about the sunshine! I’m sure there are some of you who read the above and joyfully agreed. I’m also aware that there are some who will read it and totally disagree having no need for such oppressive heat. Funny thing is, there are some who won’t read this at all and go straight to the picture pages, zodiacs and “Ask Ava”. There will also be others who will read BEAU Magazine and have nothing but critical things to say. There are then those who will read it cover to cover and sing our praises. We welcome you ALL! The truth is, ALL readers, believers and non-believers are welcome. BEAU Magazine is a groundbreaking publication. We will not always be submerged in Charleston’s historical “roots” like our premier first edition, yet when we go historical, we will highlight and celebrate Charleston’s pioneers that have paved the way for LGBTA citizens. We won’t always have LGBTA wedding pictorials filling the pages like our Spring Wedding edition, yet when we do, they will have the most desirable, highly fashionable and original shots. We won’t always put out an edition featuring Charleston’s Eligible OUT Crowd like we have done here in our Summer Attraction edition, yet when we do, we will have so much fun highlighting faces and personalities that make up our vast community. And just wait until our autumn edition when we highlight and celebrate LGBTA youth and their challenges and triumphs. The point is that in efforts to successfully be Charleston’s LGBTA lifestyle publication, we must encompass everyone. “Everyone” is a huge word. It also means that not every issue is going to please “everyone.” But that’s what equality is all about, coexisting. Our goal is to create a publication with the help of our community that caters to different literary preferences. Thank you all for sending in your ideas and helping build Charleston’s LGBTA lifestyle focused publication, BEAU Magazine. Oh! One more thing, and then I’m hitting the waves. Being a free publication, it’s the very businesses in these pages that pay for our BEAUtiful cover and high quality creation. So thank you to all of our BEAU advertisers who fund this production. I would also like to thank all of you who are actively supporting the advertisers and letting them know that “BEAU” sent you to their business. The whole BEAU Magazine Team has gotten great feedback from our advertisers. They want to thank the BEAU readers for support and representation of their businesses. Because of this symbiotic act, BEAU Magazine has grown 16 more pages, 5,000 more distributions and achieved over 260 distribution locations within our second edition. I guess that means you like it! Stay classy Charleston! See you on the beach! Maria Rivers Publisher publisher@beau-magazine.com
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W R ITTE N BY E M ILY DZ IU B A N
Why We Love...Akai is as
In addition to teaching himself to make and
unique as Akai Antia-obong, a bartender
play didgeridoos, Akai is a gardener, a wood
at the Oak Barrel in West Ashley who plays
worker with pallets, a husband, a father to
music for the crowd in down moments. A wind
a young son, a brewer of craft beer, and the
instrument developed by indigenous people of
owner of an awesome handlebar mustache.
northern Australia, the “didge” makes a long,
And he is an ally. “I count myself as a friend to
continuous vibration that you can feel in your
everyone who is a friend to me,” Akai said.
THE
SOUND
OF
THE
DIDGERIDOO
heart as strongly as you hear the
“It doesn’t matter
sound.
if you are gay or straight as long as
Akai describes
you are good people.
a night that a
It doesn’t matter
group of people
who is kissing. And
sat around a
if people are making
fire, practicing
out, I will put on
reiki and playing
some Barry White
the didgeridoo.
vinyl.”
“Everyone said they felt
Akai put a string on
like they were
the first didgeridoo
flying,” Akai
he made and carries
said. “I realized
it everywhere.
how easy it is to
Walking in the
emote through
alley full of local
the instrument.”
art murals behind
He plays to be
the Oak Barrel,
intentional and
a stranger sees
increase the
Akai and calls
positive energy.
out, “Whatcha got there?” Charleston is interested in the
A couple years back, someone threw away a
didgeridoo culture that Akai is trying to
Christmas tree. It was in its stand upside down
build. “You can change someone’s life just by
in a ditch with all the lights still strung on it.
changing the vibration and how they perceive
“I couldn’t help myself,” Akai said. “I went and
sound. Ten or fifteen people can get together
picked it up. It was a live tree that they had
and decide there is nothing better to do than
just discarded, and it hurt my feelings.” This
make these sounds together. This beautiful
moment sparked something. Akai went around
harmony comes together, and you look at
his neighborhood, collected seventy-five trees
each other and you smile and you know you
and felt like a hoarder. Then it occurred to
are doing something meaningful,” he said. And
him that he could make didgeridoos from the
in a time of meaningful change for the LGBTQ
Christmas trees. He went through fifteen or
community, doing something beautiful and
twenty trees until he made one that worked.
coming together is everything. •
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W R ITTE N BY E M I LY D Z I U B A N
Another Broken Egg Cafe
BROKEN EGG CAFE, a more-than-breakfast restaurant at 99 South Market Street, is courting foodies in Charleston’s spectacular restaurant scene. Open every day from 7:00 am to 2:00 pm, Another Broken Egg takes its Charleston locale seriously despite its status as a chain. ANOTHER
VISIT
ANOTHER BROKEN EGG CAFE
99 S MA R KE T STR E E T, C H A RL ESTO N, SC 2 94 0 1 A NOTH E RB RO KE N E GG. C O M
Framed photos of iconic Charleston images and places greet hungry folks at the door: downtown, the Ravenel’s diamonds, an oak tree, and a historic home. Copper pots and pans hang on the wall, accenting the copper tabletops. Two walls of the interior are exposed brick, beautiful in their irregularity and imperfection, covered in nicks and white spackling. These walls display original art worthy of one of our downtown galleries, and pictures of seashells recall Charleston’s beaches. From the second floor dining room, patrons can look down on Charleston’s famous Farmer’s Market.
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Yet the way to a Charlestonian’s heart is through the food. For an appetizer, order the Biscuit Beignets that are served with fresh orange slices, covered in powered sugar, and come with a side of honey orange marmalade for dipping. They are served hot and crunchy with a warm, doughy center, and even with the sugar coating, are not overly sweet. These alone are worth the trip. The main menu is divided into benedicts, omelets, scramblers, “from the griddle,” salads, burgers, sandwiches, and many specialty items that defy categorization. The Popeye’s Favorite scrambler mixes in spinach, baked bacon, onion, and Monterey Jack cheese. The scrambler is delish, the bacon crunchy and flavors rich, playing off each other. It is served with an English muffin and fresh whipped -
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butter. Give them the Southern test and order steaming buttered grits on the side. Another Broken Egg offers many vegetarian options as well as gluten-free, including a jumbo gluten-free pancake. An entire section of the menu is devoted to healthy eating, with choices including steel cut oats, quinoa, a skinny omelet, and salmon. The space includes a small but comfortable bar featuring specialty coffee drinks and other libations for thirsty Charleston shoppers. Everything in the place bespeaks comfort. The service is responsive and friendly, there whenever I need them, but not intrusive. The music, an acoustic version of “Say a Little Prayer for You,” is pleasant and low key. Ceramic coffee mugs, serving skillets and flower vases on tables remind one of home. A visit to this foodie-friendly, pretty, mellow, peaceful respite in downtown Charleston is definitely worth it. •
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A Profile of Aimeé Ratner 1. W HAT BR O U GH T YO U TO CH A R L E STO N ?
I grew up in Miami Beach in the hotel industry. I was quite overweight for the majority of my life and could not handle the oppressive heat. I moved to Boston for college at Northeastern University and made my life there. After 25+ years in Boston, and after losing 125 pounds, I could no longer stand the cold. I worked my way down the coast and found Charleston. I totally fell in love with this place. You can’t beat the weather. And I love the history here. The history is similar to Boston in the way that it’s very old and the architecture was kept through its years of progression. 2. W H AT LE D YO U INTO DEDICAT I N G YO U R LI FE TO HE ALI NG OTH ERS?
I have always been that way. At a very early age, my mom would have me massage her feet for hours on end. Through my studies in the holistic healing profession throughout the years, I was always the one that people asked to help with their aches and pains. I grew up with the survivors of the Holocaust. Through their stories and humbling teachings, I learned so much about empathy. I learned things that cannot be put into words. It made me want to be a part of the core root process that helps people begin to live without pain. 3 . HOW DO E S “STRU CTU RA L INT E G R AT I O N ” T RANSLATE TO O NE’ S EV ERY DAY L I F E ?
I believe it is the true embodiment of body, mind and soul. Structural integration sets the stage for powerful and lifelong healing. However, true and lasting healing comes from
4. WH AT WO U L D B E YOUR ADVICE FOR BE AU M AGA ZI N E R EAD E RS ON THE TOP IC OF “ F E E L I N G G O O D? ”
Well, when people feel good or “better” in general, they feel good about themselves. When people are in pain, it is extremely difficult for them to feel good about themselves. If you have movement with no pain, it’s a lot easier to feel good. Having thoughts throughout the day without regret or sadness will also limit pain. If you are thankful that you feel good, then that ensures longevity without pain. Body, mind and soul all working together is the core principal of living without pain. I’m thankful to help others in working towards achieving this life. •
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W R I TTE N BY J E N B E N N E T T
Takeover Charleston: Connecting the Community O N M A R C H 1 8 T H , 2 0 1 0 , Takeover was birthed
through the success of its first event. Marshall Morris and Trevor Donovan, both Charleston natives, shared a dream of turning Charleston’s LGBT population into a connected community. Lots of people have lofty dreams. Fortunately for Charleston, these guys know how to make a dream a reality. Now, with a Facebook group of nearly 1,500 members, and a long list of accomplishments and collaborations with other organizations, it seems safe to say they have realized that dream. Takeover Charleston brings LGBT folks and their allies together for fun, drinks, laughter and community. Over the past five years of Takeover, there has been eating, drinking, swimming, sleeping, dancing, bowling, brunching, donating, floating, laughter, tears and many of the other
Trevor and Marshall ARE Takeover Charleston.
things that a large connected community entails.
These guys dedicate hours and hours of their
Many people have met future spouses, partners
time to organizing and creating Takeover for
and lifelong friends or reconnected with long-lost
everyone to enjoy. They welcome and encourage
pals at these events. Although Takeover events
collaboration with organizations looking for
are often at bars and restaurants, there have also
other organizations to be friends with, and have
been some at hotels (sleepover!) and on the river,
spawned an interweb of connections between
cleaning up trash along the way.
folks that has helped our community grow and flourish. They do this by allowing Takeover events
Regularly drawing a crowd of over 100 people,
to raise money for the other organizations around
Takeover offers LGBT folks and their straight
town and by providing them a platform to reach
friends an opportunity to see friendly people
new people.
outside of regular circles, which are often not as diverse. After 53 events, Trevor and Marshall have
Takeover Charleston allows the Charleston area
seen it all, with some events as small and intimate
to experience firsthand the similarities between
as 50 people and others blowing off the roof with
straight people and LGBT people. It provides
over 400 attendees!
an opportunity for LGBT people, with safety in numbers, to come out from the enclaves of the
What distinguishes Takeover from other area
segregated “gay bar” into the rest of the world,
LGBT organizations is that it is entirely volunteer
and by doing so increase an acceptance and
run. There is no Executive Director, no board
understanding of LGBT people.
president, nor even a board to speak of. Takeover doesn’t ask for donations or for you to volunteer
The best way to find out about Takeover events
your time. Takeover just asks that you show up
is by joining the Takeover Charleston group on
and have a good time. In large part, the collective
Facebook. To support it, show up at the next
community runs Takeover simply by showing
event. And to support it even more, bring friends!
up. Businesses also participate in the success of
For businesses looking to host a Takeover event,
Takeover by openly welcoming LGBTA people into
feel free to call (843) 573 7049 and Trevor or
their spaces.
Marshall will be happy to talk with you. •
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F EELING G OOD IS
LOO K I N G G OOD
W R I T T E N B Y D R . R O B E R TA K A R N O F S K Y, M D
We all understand that a complex balance exists between how we look and how we feel, and that the two are intricately entwined in many ways. Countless factors affect this precarious and ever-changing relationship, from our age, personal interactions, jobs and sex lives (or lack thereof) to our physical health, mental wellbeing and overall sense of self-satisfaction. I want you to ask yourself where you are right now on this grand proverbial scale and the journey to self-actualization. Are you more focused on how you look or how you feel at the moment? Why? More importantly, how might you tip the balance in a more positive direction, or, at least, one you would be happier with? Just think about it. Unless, that is, you absolutely love where you are at this very moment and can’t possibly fathom any room for improvement. You feel great, emit that healthy glow and project pure confidence in your presentation. In that case, God bless you, and I’ll have what you’re having. (For those of you too young to understand that, go watch “When Harry Met Sally” on Netflix.)
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Even if you are currently basking in the perception of near-perfection, you still need to figure out how to maintain that elusive sensation. Nothing in life stands still. Not ever. No matter how much you may want it to. It is a dynamic world we live in and we need to keep moving along with it, or get left in the dust. For those of us who feel we could use a little tweaking in one direction or another, let’s consider a few things. First of all, what really matters is not how good you look, but how good you feel about what you see in the mirror. Your perception of yourself determines what you project to others, and, in turn, their perception of you. Maybe you bought a great new outfit, or are sporting a fresh cut and color. You ran an extra mile, or lifted ten pounds more than your max and the six-pack is finally coming back. Whatever it is, you are feeling pretty darn sassy. “Wow, check that out,” they will say (or at least think to themselves), as you strut your hot self into the room with the confidence of the Queen. On the other hand, if you slink in halfhidden behind your perennially poised partner, you will be invisible. And that will surely make you feel worse.
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How do we become so dependent on others’ impressions of us? There is no simple answer, and everyone’s story is different. For some, it starts at home. Perhaps you felt more worthy of love if you were defined as the “pretty little girl” or the “handsome boy.” Did you ever come down the stairs to a disapproving frown, followed by the simultaneous pained sigh, head shake and eye roll as a teenager just discovering your sense of style? Think about the message. For many, it was the constant assault on our self-esteem we encountered in our everyday environment. We were told by the media, our classmates, colleagues and acquaintances that, in order to be noticed, to succeed or to be loved, you have to look good society’s idea of good, not yours. At a certain age, or stage of maturity, you realize that beauty is a very individual and subjective concept. What I find attractive you may find repulsive. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, and the only beholder that matters is the one in the mirror. As we approach this realization, we also discover that it’s okay to care, or not to care, about how others perceive us. It does not have to be a priority to you. On the other hand, you are allowed to feel good about how you look and what you choose to do for yourself and your self-image. That is not conceit, narcissism, or petty self-absorption. It is selfacceptance. Do what you want in order to feel better, to look better, or to feel better about how you look. Your time, your energy and your money
“Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, and the only beholder that matters is the one in the mirror.”
are yours to spend any way you choose. You will find that the power of self-assurance is intoxicating, and, as with other intoxicants, you will find yourself wanting more. Don’t apologize and, for heaven’s sake, pay no attention to the haters. They’re just jealous. •
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M E E T C H A R L E S TO N ’ S
Eligible OUT Crowd What you are about to see here are some of the most dynamic people
who
embody
Charleston’s
OUT
Crowd.
Who
is
Charleston’s OUT Crowd? We are straight people, we are gay people, and we are everything in between. We are different ages, different races, and have different political, religious and spiritual beliefs. What connects us as Charleston’s OUT Crowd? We make our own path through coexisting peacefully with each other. We thrive on positive and creative energy.
BEAU Magazine sent out an email blast to BEAU Magazine readers asking the eligible single and proud “OUT Crowd” to stand up and represent! Our goal is to celebrate Summer Attraction by highlighting some of the faces that make up Charleston’s eligible OUT Crowd. Needless to say, we had SO MUCH FUN with this.
Thank you to everybody who participated!
Y’all ROCK!
PHOTOGRAPHY BY ABIGAIL MARIE
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RIC K Y J. DUARTE I’m a gypsy by nature. Fortunately my passion for acting, singing, dancing, and writing has afforded me the opportunity to utilize my talents in my travels across the country. Most recently transplanted from New York City, I came to Charleston to get a taste of southern charm and I am so excited to be a part of this strong, growing, powerful community.
CYN TH I A K E NN EDY My friends call me Cyn. Born and raised in Charleston, SC, I lived in Northern California for several years. Family and commitment brought me home where I now study criminal justice in hopes of becoming an investigator when I grow up! Love Charleston, practicing yoga, riding my motorcycle, and enjoying all of what Charleston has to offer!
MEG RICHICHI I recently relocated “my life” to Charleston from NYC. What I love most about Charleston is its pace of ease and grace. There’s a real sense of community with a progressive vibe. As an Integrative Health Practitioner and Acupuncturist I find this exciting!
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JA IS EE GREENE Third generation Charlestonian. Received a Bachelor’s of Science in Anthropology with a focus in gender and sexuality crossculturally. I find purpose in life through personal relationships and helping others. I love Charleston’s food and architecture, but find more joy in breaking its rigid social rules & expectations. Self proclaimed Fem Dom Glamazon!
STE V E N W IL L A RD Navy brat turned Charlestonian. I’m a yoga teacher and spiritual student. Happiness is way more important to me than any outer ‘success’. I rock the ‘sexy librarian’ look 24/7. I love the food, sights and smell of Charleston… and the constant libations don’t hurt either!
T OP H ER LARKIN Charleston transplant by way of Tampa, Boston, and Los Angeles. Found a passion being a community activist dealing with issues in HIV Prevention, LGBT Youth advocacy, and Charleston Pride. I’m a modern day socialite who appreciates theatre, being on the open water, sailing or surfing. I am a citizen of the world who refuses to be limited to a single place, cause, or idea.
AU S T E N WOOD S Texan by birth, Gamecock grad, Newbie to Charlie City. I love a good book and a good hard cider as well as a walk at waterfront park with my fur baby, Luca. Avid runner and aspiring yogi. Dates, drinks, and southern gents - These are a few of my favorite things. 26 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
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CODY JACKSON I’m a small town country boy with a big heart and a lot of ambition. I love good food, good music, and good vibes. I’ve spent so many years worrying about finding love that I forgot to love myself first. So I have decided that the year of 2015 is dedicated to loving me for me.
TI F FA N I L . CRIDER I’m a small town girl from Orangeburg with a gigantic heart for people. I love spending time with my friends and family, especially my 5 nieces and 2 nephews. I know who I am and what I love and when I love I do it with all I have within my being. I enjoy my job working in law enforcement because it gives me an opportunity to work with people, especially the 1,000 kids I work with on a daily basis. Charleston has my heart because of the BEAUtiful people and the BEAUtiful places.
DANETRA RICHARDSON Born in Virginia Beach, VA. My parents are native Charlestonians so I moved here to do a culinary internship. I decided to stay because I had a feeling that I haven’t made my mark on Charleston quite yet. I fell in love with the culinary scene here and the pure natural BEAUty of this city! I’m the owner of Swank Desserts, an online dessert shop. I specialize in making the most flavorful and sexy desserts that people have ever tasted! I look forward to helping my dessert loving people INDULGE, one sweet tooth at a time. 28 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
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T R AVIS STUREY Grew up wranglin’ cows in Pennsylvania. Moved to Charleston eight years ago and love it. I am a Police Officer working at the Federal Base and in the National Guard. I enjoy going on adventures with my dogs, cuddling and working out. I also like to shoot pool… It’s okay if you don’t, I like to win anyway.
T E RRI E B U L L OCK I was born in Knoxville, TN but I’ve lived here in Charleston since I’ve was six. It’s my home. I couldn’t imagine living anywhere else! The people here that I have bonded with are genuine and beautiful. The history of Charleston, the landscape and the water is also why I’m here. The water is what helps me breathe. I love Sunday Fundays because I get to see my buddies and wherever they are, the scenery is AMAZING!
C H A S E GLENN I was born in a small town in “middle America.” I found my way to Charleston 10 years ago by way of Nashville, London, and a few other places in between. I pay the mortgage working for a software company in town, but my heart is fullest when I’m fighting the good fight for justice and equality, and living life with ever-increasing moments of honesty and authenticity. 32 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
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N IC OL E BAXTER I moved from Ohio about 18 years ago (before the Ohio invasion). The beach has my heart. I’m a water baby! Now music… I love everything about music. My dream is to have constant theme music playing behind me all the time. I play it and I live it.
LAURA L. ANDRATHY Transplanted Yankee, chasing the dream of a life well lived, while maintaining the balance of caring for others and the planet. I don’t trust anyone who doesn’t laugh… or like animals. Dorothy Parker says it best when she declared, “Beauty is only skin deep but ugly goes clean to the bone!“
K RIS T I WERTAN I’m a Charleston native born and raised. I enjoy my career as a massage therapist and love spending time with my daughters. We surf when the ocean calls. I love small waves!
B OB BY S H EA LY I’m Charleston born and raised and love everything about the Lowcountry. I have too many hobbies to list but cooking, eating, photography, gardening, and being a tourist are a start! To me, there’s nothing more important than my family and friends. As Owner of Redefy Real Estate, I do spend a lot of time working, yet often break to enjoy the beauty of Charleston. 36 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
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DWAY NE HICKS I’m originally from Brunswick, Georgia. I moved to Charleston for new experiences and adventures. What I love most about Charleston is that there is always something to do and somewhere to be.
M I K E Y TABA KIA N I just came back from School of Acrobatic and New Circus Arts (SANCA) in Seattle Washing. Native Savannah GA but Charleston has my heart! From working with hospice by day and twerking by night, I stay active and busy. My favorite thing about Charleston is the outdoor festivals and music. Oh… and drinking on the patio!
K EL LY FEELY I’m just your typical California guy, if I am not in a business suit, it is a safe bet that I’m in board shorts and flip flops chasing the sun. I am a neuroscience nerd who moved to Charleston about a year ago to help start up a pediatric neurology practice. I am loving the copious amounts of water that surrounds Charleston. It serves as the perfect playground for a guy like me! • 38 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
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Meet Patti O’Furniture WHERE AR E YO U F RO M O RIG INAL LY ?
I am a native South Carolinian and got my start performing in Columbia. Seven years ago, I was asked to be the show director at Patrick’s in West Ashley. I worked there for four years and developed some great friendships in the Charleston area. But it wasn’t until Daniel Brinker took over at Dudley’s and hired me to host our Thursday night drag shows that I really got connected to some great organizations like Charleston Blockade Rugby Football Club, We Are Family, Charleston Pride, AFFA and others. Daniel really believes in giving back to the community, which is a sentiment that I share. We make a pretty good team! H OW LO NG HAV E YO U B EEN P ER F O R M I N G DRAG?
My first show was on October 11, 1998 at the
WH AT ’ S T H E F U N N I E ST OR W E IRD E ST THIN G
University of South Carolina. Initially, I did
T H AT ’ S E V E R H A PPE N E D W HIL E YOU’VE
limited benefit performance to raise money
BE E N O N STAG E ?
for charity (every dollar I get tipped on stage
I was emceeing a fundraiser for an AIDS
is donated back to various causes). In 2001,
service organization and my mother was in
I began hosting a weekly show in Columbia.
the audience. I had to read a question to the
In 2006, I was chosen to reign as Miss South Carolina Pride and recently added a weekly show each Saturday in Charlotte, NC as well as hosting a monthly charity drag brunch. I spend a lot of time on the road but Charleston is home! WHERE DID YOU R STAG E NA ME C O M E F R O M ?
My stage name was given to me my dear friend, Tabatha. Originally, I had selected the name “Krystle Stone” but everyone agreed that I needed a name that evoked humor and let audiences know that I was in on the joke.
audience that was VERY sexual. Normally, that would not be a problem but with my very polite, Southern mother sitting twenty feet away… I was blushing through all my makeup! I N YO U R O PI N I O N , W HAT S E TS THE C H A R L E STO N LG BTA COMMUN ITY APART F R O M OT H E R S ?
We are a celebration of opposites: a great mix of the old and the new, old money and service industry, traditions and innovation. I have always been impressed with how the Charleston community will take an idea and come together to devote time, money, energy and passion to make ideas into reality. Just look
My nickname “The Yard Sale With Legs” comes
at how quickly Charleston Pride has grown to
from two things: my long legs and the fact that
be a weeklong celebration or how the Trans
many of my costumes are hand-me-downs
Love Fund has emerged to serve a growing
from other queens.
need in the community. •
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Chase Glenn: Charleston’s Main Man IT IS REALLY EASY TO DEVELOP A CRUSH ON CHASE GLENN. You might find him at a board meeting for Charleston Pride, wearing a Brackish Bow Tie at a ball in the Old Exchange downtown, at Sunday brunch after taking his dog Cooper to the beach, in a meeting for the South Carolina Equality Board, or in a YouTube video openly describing his female-to-male transition. He keeps a lot of balls in the air. Regardless of where you find him, prepare yourself for a handsome, intelligent, well-spoken, kind soul who is worthy of your crush. Involved with Charleston Pride since its inception as a graphic designer for the Pride Guide, Chase was elected to the Board in 2013. Charleston Pride has grown tremendously; what began as a one-day event is scheduled for eight days this year, July 25 through August 1, with events spanning all sorts of topics and themes. “It’s all about visibility,” Chase says, “and expanding in a constantly intentional way.” Pride wants to be bigger, but it is not just about the numbers. When he serves as board chair next year, he will continue to produce the events Pride is known for and focus on education, outreach and advocacy. “Pride is not just about connecting with the ‘L’s the ‘G’s the ‘B’s the ‘T’s and the ‘Q’s,” Chase says. “The goal is also to connect with the entire community, which is where the real change is going to happen.” Chase has also become a de facto leader of Charleston’s trans community, partly because of his openness. “My transition is integral to who I am and how I see the world,” he says. He also says the outpouring of support has been overwhelming.
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Even more heartwarming is the fact that he cannot recall one negative comment from anyone. A gender transition is a unique experience, but what Chase has learned in the process is universal. All of us, he thinks, live with the concern that if we reveal what we are scared to reveal, we will be rejected and shunned. He admits that this does happen sometimes. But in his community and among friends, Chase’s experience is that being open leads to “conversations with people that are really real and meaningful.” He compares it to the greater joy in giving gifts than receiving them. “For people to witness and be present to someone else’s vulnerability is really powerful,” he says. “To be the one who is putting themselves out there as vulnerable is also powerful, and then you have a moment when both of you realize what is happening and it is beautiful and great.” Pitter patter. • PHOTO G R A P HY BY JE N B E N N E TT
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Upcoming Regional Pride Festivals J UNE 2 4 - 2 8, 20 15 South Carolina Black Pride (SCBP) is celebrating its 10th year. SCBP’s mission is to unify and celebrate the diversity, creativity, and beauty of the South Carolina black LGBTQ communities, as well as to empower and promote the human rights of all families and communities. You will not want to miss the PRIMETIME surprises this year! Visit SouthCarolinaBlackPride.com for more details. J UNE 2 6 - 2 7, 20 15 Augusta Pride is a non-profit organization dedicated to creating and promoting pro-LGBT events for Augusta and the surrounding Central Savannah River Area. The goal is to bring the community closer together for the two purposes of celebrating diversity and helping educate our community about the very real and persistent threat of HIV/AIDS. The Pride rally will be on June 27th at 11 am at 11th and Jones Street. Join August Pride and Live Out Proud. AugustaPride.com J ULY 2 5 - AUGUST 1, 20 15 Charleston Pride is a week full of events! Don’t miss LGBT Film Night on Tuesday, July 28th and the BEAU Magazine-hosted Happy Hour on Friday, August 31st to kick off Pride Weekend. The Pride Rally will follow the Parade on Saturday, August 1, 2015 at Brittlebank Park. Charleston Pride is true to its mission statement to provide lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender persons with cultural and educational programs and activities that enhance mental and physical health while providing social support through community activities and services. Visit CharlestonPride.com to see all the week’s events.
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AUG UST 15-16, 2 0 1 5 Charlotte Pride’s two-day festival will be in Uptown Charlotte. There will be regional and local entertainers, musicians and bands, and numerous participating vendor booths. Charlotte Pride’s mission is to celebrate and empower the Queen City’s LGBTQ community. Last year, Charlotte Pride broke all records, attracting 100,000 visitors over the course of their weekend festivities. You will not want to miss out on this year’s festival and the third annual Pride Parade on August 16, 2015 on Tryon Street. For more information and vendor opportunities visit charlottepride.org. SE P TE MB E R 12, 2 0 1 5 Upstate Pride was founded in 2009 and has grown ever since. The mission of Upstate Pride South Carolina is to empower the LGBTIQ community and allies in the upstate of South Carolina by promoting acceptance through education, advocacy and networking. Mark your calendar for September 12, 2015 for the parade and festival at Barnet Park in Spartanburg, South Carolina from 11 am to 6 pm. Visit UpstatePrideSC.org for more information. SE P TE MB E R 10- 1 2 , 2 0 1 5 Savannah Pride celebrates its 16th year of providing education and activities to enhance mental and physical health. Through community activities and service, Savannah Pride provides social support to foster an awareness of the past and present contributions of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. There will be many local musical entertainers, over 90 vendors and public service organizations. Don’t miss the White Party on Thursday, September 10th at Ships of the Sea Museum Garden. Kick-off for the main event will be 11 am at Historic Forsyth Park on Saturday, September 12th. For more details visit SavannahPride.com. •
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Congrats Newlyweds What better way to kick off our quarterly OUT Crowd Wedding segment in BEAU Magazine than to start by congratulating the people in our BEAUtiful community who have decided to tie the knot! Submit your announcement with name and high resolution photo to editor@BEAU-Magazine.
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Memorialize the moments that begin the lifetime of memories ahead in the enchanted elegance of beautiful Charleston.
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Planning your Beach Wedding WHEN
YOU
THINK
OF
WEDDINGS
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Charleston, South Carolina, you either think of plantations, country clubs or beach weddings. When planning for the latter, there are often small, yet important details that get missed. Check out the local town ordinances on when you can have a wedding and where. This can also be true for how many people are allowed to witness a ceremony. On some beaches they may not allow more than 10 guests, and most may not allow more than 100. If you’re going to have a beach wedding, think of your guests and their attire. Asking guests to dress in black tie is a major “Rabidon’t”. Beach weddings are meant to be casual and less formal. Less formal means your guests don’t have to wear fancy shoes. But I often recommend that you provide a basket as they enter the beach so they can put their shoes in it and prevent their shoes from getting filled with sand. I also recommend providing flip-flops for your guests so they have something beach friendly to wear. What to wear to a beach wedding is always top of mind for guests. Help them out by easing
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Bugs in the South are always an issue. The closer you are to the water, the better off you are because of the ocean breezes. However, as you go inland it can be quite buggy. And remember those sand mites can pack an itchy punch. The best thing to do is to provide repellent and allow your guests the comfort of warding off the bugs.
their worries; put the attire on the invitation and allow them to be comfortable. “Dressy Beach Attire” is always a great to say. “No Daisy Dukes or Tube Tops, but khakis and sundresses are welcome!” Getting married on the beach also poses the question of high and low tides. Keep in mind the tides vary from beach to beach in the Charleston area, so I highly recommend you use the site tidesandcurrents.noaa.gov to help you plan out the timing of your wedding. The last thing you want is a rogue wave taking out your wedding party! 50 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
Beach weddings can also pose the issue of sunburn. Help your guests out by providing a variety of non-greasy SPF lotions and sprays to help protect them from the hot sun. Finally, always check with the local municipalities to see what permits you will need to get married on the beach. It’s important to know what permits are required, as they vary from town to town, island to island and beach to beach. You might not need one, but better safe than sorry. You don’t want the police stopping what’s supposed to be a joyous occasion. •
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My First (AND Only) Wedding IT SURPRISES ME THAT I AM GETTING MARRIED! When I was young, I was not that girl dreaming about what her wedding day would be like. Throughout high school and college, friends would discuss colors, gowns and venues. “What is a venue?” I would think. This routinely occurred whether or not they were engaged. It appeared that they just “knew” that marriage would happen. For me, the wedding idea just did not interest me. Perhaps it was the dress-up part (I was a tomboy) or the money aspect. I believed at the time that it was because I was on the career track and just did not have time for this event. Of course, I also was not in a relationship. Looking back at the age of 60, I now know that it was because I had not met the person with whom I wanted to spend the rest of my life. My wedding story started 13 years ago when that life-changing event happened to me: I finally realized that I was gay! It was a slow awakening and after about a year and a half I met Cindy, who also had recently discovered the same thing about herself. The years with her have been the happiest of my life. I still did not consider that I would have a wedding, because we are gay. As state after state became places of equality, Cindy and I began to broach the idea of having a ceremony ourselves. We decided to wait until we could marry in South Carolina where we live. Pros and cons were reviewed of a small vs. large wedding, with a large one winning out. Choosing the type of venue was next, and a beach hotel with a large deck overlooking the ocean was it! A dining room with a dance floor is attached to the deck where our ceremony will be held. Both are steps away from the dunes and the beach. 52 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
We have sent out “Save the Date” messages to family and friends. Our friend agreed to officiate and is making the preparations needed to ensure our ceremony is special. DJs will be interviewed. Colors, decorations, seating, invitations, favors, clothes and linens will be decided upon. (Who would have thought that you’d have to choose linen?) Now that we are in the middle of these preparations, I think back to when Cindy and I first stood on that deck where our ceremony would take place. I could smell the salt air and see the ocean waves. It was easy to picture how our guests would have the same view as they watch us take our vows. Tears formed in my eyes as at that moment as I truly knew that this special event would actually happen for me. I cannot wait! •
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Why We Love...Marshall Liger ANIMAL LOVER, LICENSED VETERINARY TECHNICIAN AND BUSINESS MANAGER AT SUN DOG CAT MOON WHO ENJOYS GIVING BACK . A R E YO U F R O M C H A R L E STO N O R I G IN AL LY?
Yes, I have lived in Charleston my entire life. I love visiting other cities but am always ready to return home to Charleston.
WH AT D O YO U LOV E M O ST A BO U T L IVIN G HE RE ?
I love that, even as it grows out of control, we still have a “small town” vibe. I like knowing people everywhere I go. The mild winters are also appreciated although I could enjoy a summer that’s slightly less hot and humid.
WH AT G OT YO U I N TO WO R K I N G AT S UN D OG CAT MOON ?
I have loved animals my entire life. When I was 13 I discovered my love of parrots when I got a macaw. Since then, my love of birds has given me infinite joy, countless friends and wonderful career opportunities. I own “Palmetto Parrots,” which has allowed me to work with endangered species, travel the country speaking at conventions, write for international publications and presently to offer consulting services to owners of pet birds. This passion for birds led me to veterinary medicine in high school. I have made veterinary medicine my career for 18 years and counting. As a Licensed Veterinary Technician combined with my business degree, I thoroughly enjoy managing Sun Dog Cat Moon on Johns Island. I’m so proud to be part of this amazing practice that offers integrative medicine for pets. Sun Dog Cat Moon integrates conventional medicine with alternative therapies such as acupuncture, home cooked nutrition, stem cells and even canine massage. I’ve learned how to be a healthier, happier person based on the same principles. I also enjoy giving back. Presently I serve on the South Carolina Board of Veterinary Medical Examiners. Appointed by the Governor, this position allows me to give back both to the profession and to the public. It is humbling and I am flattered to have the honor of serving on this board. I feel that I am really making accomplishments for my profession but also for the pet owning public and the pets, too. W HAT DO YO U NO RMA LLY DO O N YO U R O F F DAYS ?
My partner, Jeremy, and I enjoy exploring happy hours and all of the wonderful restaurants in Charleston. We enjoy socializing with our friends and I particularly enjoy cooking and hosting friends and family for dinner. HOW DO YO U SEE CH A RLESTO N A N D T H E LG BTA C O M M U N I T Y I N 10 YE ARS ?
No doubt our country and especially our region have a long way to go with regards to equal rights of all people. I am excited to see the recent trends towards equality and am thankful for the good work of so many pro-equality groups in our state. In 10 years, we will have experienced another generational change, which I believe will give us much more progress. • 54 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
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Possums Get No Respect IT BOTHERS ME THAT ‘POSSUMS, LIKE RODNEY DANGERFIELD, “GET NO RESPECT.” Only once have I found a ‘possum picture at the SC Wildlife Expo Art Exhibit. I don’t get it. Maybe they just need some good press? The fact that they have more teeth than any other mammal (50) and a tail like a rat doesn’t help their image problem. True, they are a bit frightening when they show all those teeth and hiss at you. But if you just say “boo,” they’ll fall over and play dead. I mean, how CUTE is that!? So, given those traits, do you know anyone who would pick up an injured ‘possum and take it home, late at night, in freezing weather? Anybody? There IS an unlikely ‘possum angel among us. She’s Cindy Leland, a perky, petite retired teacher obsessed with Latin dancing. With the support of her spouse, Lee Anne, they rescue and care for everything from hunting dogs abandoned in Francis Marion Forest to a mama dog and her 6-week-old puppy a neighbor found tied to a tree on the side of a road. When Cindy told me they’d rescued a ‘possum, I had to make the trek to McClellanville to see him. On arrival, I waited for Cindy to make her way across three lush acres of fenced land and down the natural driveway to let me in. Once through the gate, I discovered that the beautiful setting where Cindy and Lee Anne live and care for their rescues includes a pond full of turtles and beautiful wading birds. Heading into the house, Cindy explained, “It must have been 11 o’clock at night when I stopped for gas on my way home from dance class. I saw this badly injured adult male opossum dragging himself across the parking lot and I just had to help him. I didn’t have any 56 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
gloves with me, so I used all the towels I had in my car to cover him and scoop him up in my arms.” “The next morning, I took him to our vet. He needed two hours of surgery to repair his broken jaw, amputate part of his mangled tail, extract two large incisors so his mouth could close and neuter him since he will be unable to return to the wild,” Cindy said. “They also had to give him an injection for pain, as well as a long-lasting antibiotic injection to keep him from getting an infection.” This wasn’t Cindy’s and Lee Anne’s first ‘possum rodeo. They’ve rescued two others in the past and both lived long lives as part of the family. When Cindy posted her story and photos of Chico the ‘possum on Facebook, she received a lot of likes. Lee Anne commented, “We have a ‘possum??? She told me it was a Lowcountry Pogo Dog!” • PHOTO G R A P HY BY GL E N N RAC IN E
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Gaycation Time S U M M E R I S H E R E , and nobody likes vacationers like burglars!
Here are some easy things you can do to prepare your home for your own vacation that will make it look less inviting for those who might otherwise rob you blind. Buy a couple of timers for lamps in the house. Nothing says “nobody’s home” like a house consistently dark for a few days. If you are one of the twenty people who still gets a newspaper delivered, make sure the paper boy stops for the time you are away. Likewise, it is good practice to put a hold on your mail as well. Ask a neighbor to check on your place once or twice while you are away. Having people in and around your house could minimize its vulnerability.
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Turn off your main water valve at the source. Most homes, condos and apartments have a main valve that can keep water from flooding your place due to a broken pipe. Go over your auto insurance policy so when you get to the rental car counter you will know if your coverage extends over to the rental. Typically, if you have collision and comprehensive insurance on your auto policy, it will extend over to the rental car if you are at fault in an accident. •
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This Is Forty, Daddy IT WAS A NIGHT AT THE GAY BAR LIKE THE HUNDREDS (OK, THOUSANDS) BEFORE IT. “Hi Daddy!” I looked over my shoulder to see if there was a “daddy” standing behind me that could clearly be related to the 20-something “twink” saying these words. There was not. And just like the first time I was called “Sir” by a barista, surprise and sting subsiding… I realized I was the “Daddy” being addressed. OUCHY? After I tallied up the money spent on moisturizers over the last 20+ years, I accepted that I have become a man of a “certain age.” What energy did I want to give this? Am I a crone or elder? Byron Katie writes, “A lot of our unhappiness comes from arguing with ‘what is’ then wishing things were different.” Rather than pine for years gone by, I choose to live in the moment I’m in. Don’t get me wrong, I can quickly lean towards the “crone” when I go out and I see all the shiny, sparkly boys with their unlined faces and an ass that you can bounce a quarter off of. But more often than not, I am grateful. Grateful that I’ve seen a lot of cool stuff! I’ve seen the transition from vinyl to cassette to CD to iPod and then back to vinyl; answering machines to voice mail; Bruce Jenner from man to woman. I remember a time when the question “Who’s Madonna?” was asked. I’ve witnessed triumphs and tragedies in history.
ciate the man almost 30 years later, I choose to love this man I am now, now! I like that the lines around my eyes portray a man who when he laughs, he goes all in! That the lines between my brows show that when I think, I think intensely!
Mostly I’m grateful that I’m still here, despite a lot of choices and substances. Here’s the thing, getting older is a luxury not offered to a lot of people I’ve known. I prefer to see myself “growing” older, not “getting” older.
In my many years of being on this planet, I’m constantly learning that happiness and love is in me, not outside of me. Attaching our happiness to a world that is always changing will ultimately lead to dissatisfaction. Jobs come and go, relationships end and kids’ bodies change. I’m happy not to be the man I was at 20. I’m kinder, more generous, funnier and stronger.
I’m not the man I was at 20. My mom gave me a bunch of my childhood pictures recently and I looked at my 18-year-old self and thought, “DAMN! I was hot!” Not the feeling I had on the day that picture was taken. Rather than appre-
I don’t remember if it was the Dalai Lama or Dolly Parton that said “When you’re 40, you can’t ride the fence anymore. You gotta make definite decisions about your life.” Hey, feel free to start before 40! •
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Sue’s Horoscopes IN TRADITIO NA L H O RO SCO P ES , the smaller planets are normally used for more immediate
readings. However, we will be using the major planets and their influence toward the next three months. Think of the predictions like that of a meteorologist. Just because he/she says that it’s going to rain, doesn’t necessarily mean that you will get wet. It’s more of a forecast so that one may better prepare themselves. It’s always your choice or response to the atmosphere that’s important.
Gemini There will be a tendency to overdo it, resulting in things falling apart. Your intuition is out of balance so try to deal with logic and facts. There will be losses, but in the long run you will be better off, even if it doesn’t seem so at the time. Hang in there, kids! This too shall pass. 64 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
CANCER Since you are one of the most intuitive people around, listen to that inner voice. Neptune is right with you now. There’s one fly buzzing around with Uranus in negative aspect. You can beat it with the extra energy Mars is sending by following your feelings. Love may be coming your way now, too. Enjoy!
LEO This is your year! Jupiter, the Santa Claus of the zodiac, is sitting in your wheelhouse and the world is your oyster. Love, money and joy are yours for the taking. Make the best of it - it only lasts one year and it will be 12 years till it comes back with this much power. Have fun!
VIRGO Seems like everything is going wrong, doesn’t it? Hang in there. This is a good time to tie up loose ends and finish things left hanging. I wouldn’t start anything new right now. Clean out the old and time will bring in the new when it’s ready.
LIBRA Wow, I wish I were a Libra right now! You have everything going for you. The planets are either in a great position for all kinds of celestial gifts or are doing nothing. You’ll feel good about yourself, and you will look even better. Take advantage by starting new projects and meeting new people!
SCORPIO Your ruler Mars is exactly opposite right now and
have a square from Mars so watch out for possible accidents. Drive safely and don’t go shark watching from underwater cages.
AQUARIUS Like the other air signs, your sign is kind of in the middle right now. This tells you there will be changes, mostly against your will, but they will actually be very good in the long run. Start working out or find active hobbies. This will ensure a better quality of life.
PISCES Neptune is moving into your sign and will be here for the next 12 years. It’s been quite a while since your intuition has been active and now it’s in overdrive. It may be disconcerting at first, but trust me, you’ll love it! Practicing meditation will help you adjust to your new ability.
ARIES Uranus is the major planet of change and it’s sitting right on your sun. Tighten your seat belt and let it roll! The best thing you can do is choose the changes and implement them yourself. At least then you will be happier with the outcome.
TAURUS It is okay if you are in a love lull. Jupiter’s opposition wouldn’t bode well for making commitments right now. Poor judgment can accompany the overthinking that goes with bad Jupiter aspects. Aquarians tend to spend more time daydreaming than pursuing real people anyway.
it may be draining you. Please be careful and aware of your health. Listen to your intuition and your body and use this time to refuel. Save it for next season!
SAGITTARIUS Your ruler Mars is exactly opposite right now and it may be draining you. Please be careful and aware of your health. Listen to your intuition and your body and use this time to refuel. Save it for next season!
CAPRICORN There is a possibility of meeting someone or in some way collecting some owed karma. How, I don’t know, but it should be on the good side. You
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Dear Ava, My partner isn’t as responsive to me as she normally is and I’m worried that I’m not fitting her needs anymore. I’ve tried to talk to her but she acts like she has no idea what’s going on (just like that Pink song “Just Give Me a Reason”). I don’t want to have my heart broken but I don’t want to run her off being paranoid, either. What do I do?
Dear Ava, I’m not really a late night bar person. I’ve tried online dating but it’s totally NOT working out. Do you have any suggestions that are not online dating as to where I can find a date? I’m not a bad looking guy, just an early riser! There are all types out there! That’s what makes our community so amazing. I am disappointed that you’re not a late night bar person. How are you supposed to come and see my shows?! All jokes aside, how about joining in some community programs that interest you? Do you like to read? Join a book club. Do you like to do watersports (get your mind out of the gutter!)? Then join some water enthusiasts groups. Your dream guy might be in the same boat! Friends are also a great resource. This day and age, straight women tend to stock up on their gay friends. I am sure if you talk to some friends, they might have some blind dates they can set up. These might turn out amazing, or they might turn out to be duds. Remember, you will have to kiss many frogs till you meet your prince. 66 | B E A U - M A G A Z I N E . C O M
First off, Pink is amazing and such an amazing role model for the LGBT community. Second, remember: actions speak louder than words. I recommend you talk to her about YOUR thoughts and feelings. If she is a supportive partner, she is going to want to know how you are feeling. Maybe the two of you need to bring back some of the spark. We all know about that “lesbian bed death.” Be spontaneous! Take her on a weekend trip where it is just the two of you. Go somewhere where there’s no cell service. If that doesn’t work, you can ask her to join you in counseling. There are some amazing LGBT specific therapists (look in your BEAU Magazine for references) that can help you both get to the root of the problem. It might be time to analyze your relationship. Are you getting out of it what you need? Is she? I wish you the best of luck. It is hard when you love someone so much, but they don’t seem to reciprocate. Been there, done that! My answer to that problem.... Go buy a fabulous new pair of heels and strut on out the door and onto the next sexy lady! •
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