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LETTER

18th Annual

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EDITOR

Like most of you, I dreamt about my wedding from a young age. People will tell you, “It’s your day.” And they’re right—but don’t forget that it is simply that—one, single day. Don’t become so bogged down by the stress of planning that you lose sight of the greater purpose, which is starting a new life with your fiancé. That’s not to say that details don’t matter because they do. There’s no way around the “To Do” lists that come with engagement, but they don’t need to be unbearable. And at the end of the day, the important thing is that when the wedding ends, you’re going home with the one you love. With our 18th annual Central Virginia Bridal Guide, our goal is to act as an honorary advisor, one who can share some time tested tips and tricks to save you unnecessary headaches and stress. Check out page 16 for input on creative ways to involve loved ones in your wedding and page 19 for expert advice on selecting just the right wedding soundtrack from ceremony to final sendoff. To keep you looking—and feeling!—your best, we did some research on the ideal foods to eat in the days leading up to the wedding. Nothing is worse than feeling sluggish or frumpy on the most important day of your life! So read page 24 to find out why you may want to avoid even seemingly innocent things like chewing gum (it surprised us too!). We’ve also filled this book with inspiring tips and trivia that you’ll notice throughout and some special sections focused on current trends. If you’re looking for some fresh takes on wedding traditions, see pages 26 and 29 for some of our favorite items. To make sure you have things in place to safeguard your memories for years to come, we have recommendations on creative guestbook concepts and the latest in photography trends starting on page 39. You should also try to highlight your personalities throughout the wedding, and we share some ideas on doing so with our piece “Express Yourself” starting on page 34. Of course, the best way to learn is from experience. So we asked a number of local couples to share what they wish they had known before they got married. From humorous to heartfelt, we hope you enjoy their collective wisdom (and some throwback wedding photos!) on page 49. Last but not least, the “fine print” of marriage can be tedious but is not to be overlooked. See what the experts advise for successful financial planning and deciding if a prenup is for you on page 51. With more than 10 checklists all ready for you near the back, we hope this guide will serve you well in the days leading up to your wedding! Best Wishes,

Jennifer Redmond, Managing Editor Jennifer@lynchburgmag.com

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TABLE OF CONTENTS 18Th Annual Central Virginia Bridal Guide

THE PLANNING Time to Turn Dreams to Reality

THE LOOK Helping You Put Your Best Face Forward

THE DETAILS Making Sure You Don’t Miss a Thing

THE MEMORIES How to Preserve Your Day for Years to Come

THE MR. & MRS. Welcome to Married Life

THE CHECKLISTS Keeping Track of All the Details

THE INDEX Complete List of Advertisers

SPECIAL FEATURES 8 Bride of the Year: Kaili Schmelz 12 19th Annual Bridal Showcase 38 Venue Guide 49 “I Wish I Had Known” 65 2016 Bride of the Year Luncheon

ON THE COVER The bridal bouquet is a combination of dahlias, garden roses, pink mink proteas, poppy pods, thistle, scabiosa and luscious greens. Full of color and versatile for any season. Bouquet by bloom by Doyles. Photography by B Psi Entertainment.

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Kaili Schmelz admits it’s a wacky story, the way she and fiance Aaron Falwell got together for keeps. “It’s really strange,” she said. “This is the part that makes me sound crazy. I can’t not tell this part of the story. It’s the truth, how it all went down.” Before revealing “how it all went down,” here’s how it originally began many years before: Kaili and Aaron met a decade ago in high school. She was a senior; he was a junior. He was dating someone else, but Kaili says when they passed in the hallways their “eyes would lock.” Kaili thought Aaron was cute and told a friend as much in a note—a note she asked Aaron to deliver. “He read the letter and the next day had broken up with his girlfriend,” Kaili said. Fraught with teenage drama, Kaili and Aaron soon broke up. Kaili graduated, moved away, started college, and that was it. Except that it wasn’t. By 2009, Kaili was back in the area. She was at the Garlic Festival in Amherst, when a girlfriend pointed out an attractive guy. It was Aaron. “He looked the same,” Kaili recalled. “He’s always been handsome. I went over and started to talk to him, and we started dating again.” Again, they broke up after a few months. A couple more years passed, and this is where things start to get crazy, or if you ask Kaili, supernatural. Kaili was in the car running an errand one day, when she heard a man’s voice say, “You’re going to see Aaron today.” The radio was off, and Kaili was sure it wasn’t a random thought. “It weirded me out,” she said, but she shrugged it off. >> story by SUZANNE RAMSEY photography by B PSI ENTERTAINMENT hair and make-up by LACI FORE MAKEUP ARTISTRY Venue: SIERRA VISTA Bouquet arranged by BLOOM BY DOYLE’S

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She was almost back home when she saw Aaron. “One stoplight from my house, I could see him from a mile away,” she said. “The sun literally had a spotlight on his car. Literally, like a spotlight on his car; it was glowing. I thought, ‘Oh, my God, that’s Aaron.’ Then I got freaked out. Did God tell me I was going to see him? Am I a psychic? He drove right past and never saw me. My mouth was on the floor.” Kaili called Aaron. She started with “This is going to sound really crazy, but this just happened, and I can’t let it pass,” and continued with, “I don’t know if I need to call you, check on you, say, ‘Hi.’” She added, “People get placed on your heart for a reason.” They’ve been together ever since. “It makes me sound like a lunatic, but it’s the truth,” Kaili said. “He still jokes, ‘Yeah, you called and pretended you had a premonition or God talked to you’ and I say, ‘Trust me, I would have thought of a better reason than that.’”

“I feel like God definitely placed us in each other’s lives for a reason. I feel like He sometimes gives us signs. Maybe I needed something that wasn’t quite so subtle because I’m stubborn.” When Kaili describes her relationship with Aaron, she doesn’t use words like “mushy,” except to say they’re not. “We have a picky relationship,” she said. “We give each other a ton of crap all the time. We’re not that mushy, saying, ‘Oh baby.’ That’s not us.” So on Dec. 13, 2014, when Aaron—hunter, fisherman and professional landscaper—carried out a TV-worthy proposal, Kaili was as stunned as the day she heard the mysterious voice. “His proposal was literally the sweetest thing in the whole world, shocking on its own,” she said. He had it all planned out: breakfast at Market at Main, then shopping, followed by dinner at Veritas Vineyards and one more surprise. As they sat in front of the winery’s fireplace, the waitress handed Kaili a bottle of champagne. The label said, “Will you marry me?” and suddenly Aaron was on one knee.

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Kaili’s “Yes” was followed by a flood of tears. “I literally cried and cried and cried, with the biggest smile on my face, but the waterworks were on,” she said. “I cried off and on for the next four hours. I was a big mess.” “I was so happy. I’ve had a long journey to happiness, and I just never really was sure it was going to happen. It’s just been a long time coming, being happy and building my life to what I wanted it to be.” Kaili’s “journey to happiness” was a long one. When she was 13, her mother died of cancer. She was a Renaissance woman—among other things, a Class A contractor, lifelong student and artist—and Kaili’s best friend. “She was such a strong and phenomenal woman,” Kaili said. “She really instilled in me, from an early age, ‘You are smart, you are beautiful, you can be anything you want to be. There’s nothing you put your mind to that you can’t do.’” At the wedding, there will be a seat with Kaili’s mom’s photo on it. “I would like to be able to see her that day,” Kaili said. It won’t be the first time Kaili’s mom has been “there” on a special day. Over the years, Kaili said, she’s believed her mom was “in heaven, painting the sky for Jesus,” and sometimes she painted sunsets, just for her. “There have been spectacular sunsets on very special days, and I’ve just always felt it was a way for my mom to let me know she is still with me, always watching over me,” Kaili said. It happened again the day her bridal portraits were taken. “The sunset was nothing short of beautiful—neon pink, lavender and dark blue clouds next to the green mountains,” Kaili said, adding, that while the photographer was setting up the shot, she spent some time alone with her mom. “I told her thank you and that I missed her, and I loved her, too. I took a deep breath and continued on. It was a very special moment for me.”

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THE CALENDAR 2015

Before setting your wedding date, check these holiday observances. Other big events, (Super Bowl, World Series and Olympics) are dates to avoid as well. Don’t forget to attend CVBG events! SEPTEMBER

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7 LABOR DAY 23 FIRST DAY OF FALL 27 BRIDAL SHOWCASE

12 COLUMBUS DAY 31 HALLOWEEN

1 DAYLIGHT SAVINGS ENDS 3 ELECTION DAY 11 VETERANS DAY 26 THANKSGIVING DAY

7 HANUKKAH BEGINS 22 FIRST DAY OF WINTER 25 CHRISTMAS DAY 26 KWANZAA BEGINS 31 NEW YEAR’S EVE

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1 NEW YEAR’S DAY 18 MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR. DAY 30 BRIDAL OF THE YEAR LUNCHEON

2 GROUNDHOG DAY 10 ASH WEDNESDAY 14 VALENTINE’S DAY 15 PRESIDENT’S DAY

13 DAYLIGHT SAVINGS BEGINS 17 ST. PATRICK’S DAY 20 FIRST DAY OF SPRING 25 GOOD FRIDAY 27 EASTER SUNDAY

1 APRIL FOOL’S DAY 22 PASSOVER BEGINS

8 MOTHER’S DAY 30 MEMORIAL DAY

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22 FIRST DAY OF WINTER 25 HANUKKAH BEGINS 25 CHRISTMAS DAY 26 KWANZAA BEGINS 31 NEW YEAR’S EVE

5 LABOR DAY 23 FIRST DAY OF FALL 25 BRIDAL SHOWCASE

10 COLUMBUS DAY 31 HALLOWEEN

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SIX CREATIVE WAYS

to Involve Family and Friends in Your Big Day By Evelyn Hylton

While anyone who has been to a wedding will probably tell you that the day belongs to the bride, almost every bride will tell you that her heart, mind and energy belong to the people surrounding her. For most brides, the wedding day is a time when their dearest friends and family members can partake in a huge step from one phase of life into the next. Friends and family play important roles before, during and even after the cake is cut and the last cocktail is served, but sometimes, the people with whom you spend your most cherished

moments are unable to share all of the hallmark moments of your wedding when the big day arrives. Even if they can’t be in your bridal party, walk you down the aisle or give a toast at your reception, you can still find creative and meaningful ways to include them in your wedding plans.

1. PLAN A GIRLS’ WEEKEND AWAY You can only fit so many people in your bridal party, but you can steal a few more of your girlfriends away on a weekend getaway. Find a weekend where you and the girls—especially those you do not get to see as often—can kick back and enjoy a couple of nights in a beach house rental, a hotel in the city or a camp under the stars (“glamping”—

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camping with nice amenities—is a real thing these days!). Let this be a time when you can de-stress and enjoy one another’s company before the wedding chaos hits. Think extended bachelorette party! Hint: this might be a great idea for your groom and his friends, too.

2. INVOLVE THEM IN THE CEREMONY Depending on how you choose to organize your wedding ceremony, there are many ways to involve family members. You can ask a new

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sister-in-law to sing during the prelude to the ceremony, you can have a favorite uncle read a meaningful passage during the ceremony and, of course, you can have a young relative act as a flower girl or ring bearer. There are many other options as well from asking young men to serve as ushers to having young women hand out programs at the

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It doesn’t matter if your reception dinner will be a buffet, plated meal or family-style servings: A smart seating chart is vital to ensuring your guests have a good time. Try to group people together with similar backgrounds and interests, so they’ll have something to talk about even if they’ve never met before.

beginning. You could also ask a family member to “oversee” certain details—simply having a way to contribute and know that you thought of them is plenty of recognition for those you love but may be outside the range of traditional wedding party parameters. Hint: If someone seems to be sensitive about their involvement, ask if there is something they would like to contribute. You may be surprised at what they suggest!

3. CHOREOGRAPH A DANCE NUMBER Choreographed dances are not just for the bride, groom and parents. Friends and other family members can tear up the floor, too! Creating a fun, energetic group dance routine for you, your wedding party, and especially others close to you and your groom, is a fantastic and often hilarious way to connect with one another and add some unique flair to your reception. And that is not even half the fun. Collaborating together on the dance routine, practicing and making mistakes—maybe lots of them—provides plenty of opportunity to laugh and make lifelong memories. What bride wouldn’t crack a few giggles at her posse getting saucy on the dance floor? Hint: YouTube is a treasure trove of zany dance routines. Have fun researching all the montages out there and gain some inspiration.

4. GOT TALENT? Do any of your friends or family members have a special skill or talent? If they could tastefully show off at some point during your wedding day, why not invite them to work their magic? Examples can range from musicians, dancers, comedians, food and ice sculptors— you name it. You could even ask a tech savvy relative to put together a special slide show that highlights your lives and new life together and then display it at the reception. Having friends and family members contribute their talents to an event as significant and personal as your wedding would probably mean a great deal to them, not only as artists, but as your cherished loved ones. Hint: If you’re on a tight wedding budget, this may be an opportunity to involve family members and save the cost of a professional vendor; just be aware that expectations need to be clearly communicated—and any associated costs—well beforehand.

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rehearsal dinner or even during the ceremony. Highlighting a few precious or humorous moments you and each of these people shared together will go a long way in letting them know the depth of your appreciation for them! You can also display photo books—easily made from a variety of web sites—that allow guests to read about your lifetime of memories. Hint: Sharing memories also allows you to know your fiancé’s family and friends better and vice-versa.

6. MAKE-YOUR-OWN DESSERT FAVORS If you can muster up the time and energy to spare a couple of hours in the week before your wedding, gather the family and friends together for a session of food, fun and creativity in the form of dessert favors! Just make sure you have enough ingredients and supplies for everyone to help making and designing the desserts which you can then use at your rehearsal dinner or reception—and plan to make a few more for necessary “taste tests,” and possible mistakes, along the way. You and your fellow bakers will have a blast designing and tasting your unique and delicious favors where messes and mishaps are welcome. Make sure you leave enough for the guests if you can! Hint: If you absolutely cannot spare a minute within a week of your wedding, relax. You can do this activity even a few months in advance and simply freeze the cake pops or sugar cookies until they are needed.

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FINDING YOUR RHYTHM: Planning a Winning Soundtrack for Your Day From Start to Finish By Tiffany Lyttle

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Infectious beats bring the timid to their feet and sentimental songs give meaning to nuptial rites of passage. Music can make or break a wedding, but finding the right music for your wedding doesn’t have to be difficult. We’ve asked two local wedding music professionals to weigh in on how to find the best music for your wedding. Brandon Cyrus, owner of B Psi Entertainment and an experienced DJ, and Steve Freeman, a wedding performer for over 20 years with The Steve Freeman Band, shared their wisdom with us. With their advice in mind, finding the perfect music can be one of the most enjoyable and gratifying wedding planning experiences. LIVE MUSIC VS. A DJ This point is really a matter of preference and budget, but knowing what to expect from your selection is an important part in helping you choose. While good DJs typically run anywhere from $500-$1,200, a live band can range from $500 to the upper-thousands depending on the type of music and length of playtime. Freeman suggests that the couple will want to be prepared with the right questions such as, “Does this fee include sound equipment, stage and lights?” and “Is there a travel fee?” Not all entertainment packages include the lights, stage and smoke machines and not all performers have the ability to >>

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most couples spend less

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than $10,000.

pack up everything to head

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to a destination wedding. If

If it’s a DJ you’ve selected, Cyrus advises that you meet face-to-

this is what you are hoping

face before the wedding day. Not only does it give the DJ the ability

for, make sure that is what

to get to know more about you and your expectations, but you will

is included.

have the opportunity to see their demeanor and ability to converse.

Next, ask “How long can we expect the music to be playing?” Discuss timing

with your entertainment and anticipate where in the wedding schedule would be best to insert regular breaks for them. Remember, music isn’t a last minute affair, so be sure to have your preferred entertainment booked at least 6 months to a year in advance. Also, be clear about wedding attire; it’s embarrassing for everyone if the band or DJ show up in a three-piece tux, and the wedding is barn-themed. Most importantly, after having these discussions with your entertainment choice, Freeman suggests, “Get a contract.” Having a solid contract in place protects

Cyrus suggests that couples pay close attention to their potential entertainment. “Look for someone who can articulate…and is good with a microphone.” While this may not seem initially important, remember that the DJ is running the party and keeping the crowd both informed and happy. Additionally, Freeman suggests, “See who’s playing and go listen to the bands.” Most bands have a demo, but members/instruments can change and the best way to see how a band works a crowd is to actually be part of their crowd. Freeman advises couples to meet with the band leader and make sure he/she is the right fit for your wedding.

everyone’s interests.

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selections. Cyrus recommends the couple make specific lists for their

Cyrus offers the advice that a couple should keep their guests in mind when selecting music. If you prefer Country music, but your guests are inclined to Motown and Pop, then no one is getting out on that dance floor and that’s the point. Cyrus explains, “If they are having fun, you’ll have fun!” Outside of the sentimental music set for particular wedding events, it’s absolutely appropriate to ask your guests what music gets them to the dance floor. Social media makes it incredibly easy to poll the wedding party and guests. Ask them what their favorite wedding songs are and use their list to pull your favorites. This way everyone is happy and knows to bring their dancing shoes.

Stay in contact with your entertainment about wedding music entertainment: “The Must Play” list, “The Play if Possible” list and a “Don’t You Dare Play It” lists. This approach gives your entertainment the opportunity to prepare appropriately for your perfect day. Additionally, if your DJ has already set up the most amazing playlist for your wedding he/she may not be able to download THAT song from the wedding location. Freeman explains that bands usually have a 200 to 400 song repertoire, but may not be able to play “The Chicken Dance” on the fly. If they need to learn a song, then it will take practice to perfect it.

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are located throughout the day, of equal importance is where your entertainment will be located. Freeman suggests that, other than the wrong music, nothing is more insulting to guests as the wrong volume of music. Play too loudly or too quietly, and the party will fizzle. Locate the entertainment on a dry, flat surface near electricity, close to the dance floor and with respect to the size of the venue. Picking the right entertainment and staying in communication with guests and your entertainment about musical expectations will guarantee that your reception is left in good hands. The right music and entertainment will result in guests leaving saying, “Now that was a great wedding!”

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YOU DON’T HAVE TO FIGHT DIRTY: Some Advice on Handling Conflict By Jennifer Redmond

1. APPRECIATE YOUR DIFFERENCES One of the most difficult aspects of a relationship is learning how

it’s important to openly “share your expectations about everything, from what you’ll do on your honeymoon (yes, including that) to how

differently your partner approaches life. Take a simple scenario: you

you will spend holidays and where you will live when you retire. The

may be a chronic “list maker”—without a written list, your productivity

more you talk about in advance, the smaller the likelihood of someone

tanks. Your fiancé, on the other hand, hates lists and thinks they

being disappointed, angry or frustrated because their expectations

only add to the clutter. Neither of you is “right” per se—but you are

were not met.”

definitely different. And once you’re living together the differences only seem to multiply—tooth paste on a dry toothbrush? folding t-shirts like that? Says Larry Compter, Executive Director of Compass Marriage and Relationship services, “Your way of doing some things will likely be very different from your partner’s way. Recognize that ‘different’ is not necessarily better or worse; it’s just different!” The key to success is time together and open communication. Differences can

3. AVOID ABSOLUTES Experts agree—few things can be more damaging to a relationship than the use of absolutes. “‘Never’ and ‘always’ are dangerous words when preceded by the word ‘you’,” Compter explains. “They tend to come across as character judgments, such as ‘you always leave your clothes on the floor,’ [which] is heard as, ‘you’re a slob!’” When you

actually make each of you better individuals!

start throwing absolute accusations at a partner, it can discourage

2. DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS

change behavior—it’s more difficult to change our character.” The

them from even trying to improve. As Compter says, “People can

This advice dovetails off of number one, but many a fight could be

truth is that genuine change takes time, so be patient. Explain your

spared if we didn’t assume the motives of the other person. When

frustration with more measured terms. Compter recommends a simple

you feel yourself becoming frustrated, pause for a minute and ask

formula: “When you did [specific behavior], I felt [emotional effect].”

yourself what you’re specifically upset about. Is it the action or the assumed motive? Remember, as much as you think you may know why they did what they did (or didn’t do), you actually don’t know. “Better

Then talk through it together with openness and honesty!

4. PLAN FOR CONFLICT

to ask and talk about it, rather than jump to conclusions or indulge

Conflict is part of the human experience, so don’t be surprised

in negative interpretations of his or her words or actions,” Compter

when it happens. As Compter warns, “If you don’t learn to manage the bad stuff, it will make it impossible to enjoy the good stuff.” >>

advises. You won’t know their reasoning unless you ask. Compter says

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Stay mindful of why you love your partner and why you chose to marry them. Some couples have gone so far as to plan for conflict in very concrete ways. You can “get some training in Structured Dialogue or active listening” according to Compter. Planning ahead allows you to discuss conflict and how you each handle it before a larger problem arises. “Learn how and when to take a ‘time out’” says Compter. “But be sure there is also a ‘time in’ when you come back to the table and talk it through. Otherwise, you’re just avoiding the issue.”

RESOURCES FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE: • www.betterlove.org—Compass Marriage & Relationship Services —a local source for relationship coaching and marriage enrichment • www.smartmarriages.com—a great collection of healthy marriage programs and resources • Fighting For Your Marriage, by Scott Stanley et al., an excellent book on communication and conflict resolution • The Five Languages of Apology, by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas; learn how to say, “I’m sorry,” and how to forgive • Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti, by Bill and Pam Farrel; a wonderful and funny book about dealing with the differences between the sexes

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EAT TO FEEL BEAUTIFUL By Ashley Bunner

With wedding planning comes the pressure to look perfect in your wedding dress, and so workout routines and crazy crash diets are an all-too-common fix many brides turn to in desperation. But achieving the ultimate body for your big day doesn’t have to be stressful. It’s simply a matter of learning which foods are harmful to your diet and why you should choose a healthier alternative to munch on. Whether it’s the month, week or day before your wedding, learning the most nutritious foods for your body will result in a healthier—and happier—you. THE MONTH BEFORE

ONE WEEK BEFORE The foods you eat the week before your wedding can help determine whether or not you’ll feel light and energetic or puffy and lethargic on the big day. For the week before your wedding day, you want to eat foods that will nourish your body without excess salts and sugars. Surprisingly, many foods that we think of as “harmless”—and maybe even healthy—are actually sugar and salt traps in disguise, leading to unflattering bloating and cramps.

SOME FOODS TO AVOID INCLUDE: • Dairy: Shockingly, salty cheeses, like cheddar, have more salt per ounce than potato chips! If cheese is a must for you, try switching to varieties that have lower sodium such as mozzarella or Swiss.

It may not come as a surprise that junk foods—chips, ice cream,

• Cruciferous Vegetables: While you may think that you can’t

candy and soda—are laden with sugar and fat. Not only are these foods

go wrong eating raw vegetables, varieties like kale, cauliflower,

unhealthy for you, they tend to zap your energy levels, leaving you

broccoli and Brussel sprouts are loaded with cellulose. Cellulose

feeling tired and lethargic. One month before the wedding, consider

is a type of fiber that is hard for our stomachs to break down,

cutting back on refined carbohydrates (such as cookies and white

therefore resulting in bloating. Avoid this the week prior to keep

bread), refined sugar, dairy, caffeine and alcohol. As a result of cutting these foods out of your diet, you will discover a much-appreciated

the bloat at bay. • Beans: While beans are a great source of low-fat protein, they

increase in energy and be able to fight off further cravings. An added

also contain a type of complex sugar that is not digestible by the

benefit is that it may also be a good time to figure out if you have any

human body, therefore causing bloating and cramping.

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“The first thing we notice about someone is their face, and, as a bride, all eyes are going to be on you. Communicate with your make up artist how you want (and don’t want) to look; doing a trial run in advance will keep you relaxed and confident on the wedding day.” — Chantay Salido, InYourFace Makeup Artist

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• Chewing Gum: Chewing gum is probably one of the last things you’d expect to cause bloating. But chewing gum contains bloatinducing sugar alcohol. Not to mention, the more you swallow when chewing, the more air you are inhaling, which also leads to bloating. Pop a breath mint instead and carry on.

THE DAY BEFORE On the day before your wedding, it’s important to opt for foods with detoxing properties such as lemons, avocadoes, bananas and asparagus. Foods that help to alkalize the body also help decrease belly bloat, which is an added benefit when you’re ready to zip up your dress. Staying hydrated by drinking plenty of water, green tea and green juice is also important. Try to avoid coffee as its acidic properties can cause the body to hang onto more fat and cause you to feel puffy.

THE DAY OF The day of your wedding you may be tempted to skip meals to keep from consuming extra calories and feeling bloated, but this is one of the biggest mistakes you could make. It’s important to eat a light, healthy breakfast that will keep you satisfied and give you the energy that you need for the day. Make sure you ask someone—like your mom or maid of honor—to remind you to eat something energizing that morning. For a healthy breakfast try eating whole grain toast with natural peanut butter, a side of fruit and a cup of black coffee (if you must) with plenty of water to drink as well. Once you’ve made it to this point, relax and enjoy your day. Indulge in some cake later because the honeymoon and time to rest are just around the corner!

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Graciously Guide Your Guests with Savvy Event Signage By Laurel Feinman

All the signs are there: custom event signage is a terrific way to share valuable information with your guests. Once just a utilitarian thing pointing which way to go, wedding and special event signage now delivers the message with style. Cheerful signage welcomes guests and contributes to their overall experience by helping them know where to be and what to do. Plus, signs are decorative accents that may be the backdrop in some of your wedding’s most memorable photos! Don’t wait to use them—a hand-lettered sign held by the happy couple in a photograph can announce the engagement and let guests know to “save the date” for your upcoming nuptials. Depending on the font style, size and colors you use, signs can evoke an elegant, glam, rustic, preppy or contemporary vibe. Chic shapes, cursive and calligraphy in your signature color palette elevate messages from “ordinary” to “extraordinary.” Here’s how to make the best possible statement with your event signage.

CLEAR INDICATORS Good guests want to know what’s expected of them and since you can’t be everywhere to answer questions, let your event signage do the talking. Don’t stop at directional signs in the parking lot—there are many opportunities to use event signage such as: • Prominently display an event schedule in a frame on an easel (it begs for a caption reading “Eat, Drink and Be Married!”). Many eco-minded brides now display event schedules in place of printed programs. • At rehearsal dinners and receptions where the meal is plated and served by waitstaff, a seating chart is a must-have. Guests find their seat assignments with the names of other diners at their table, cutting down on that confusing “where shall I sit/with whom shall I sit” dilemma. • Small decorative plaques attached to chair backs identify reserved seating for the bride and groom and their wedding party. • Some brides post placards requesting guests to forgo the use of smartphones during the ceremony, and others establish a social media “hashtag” to help visitors collect and share pictures from the event. Create a social media backdrop and include the hashtag information on it as a festive no-cost alternative to having a professional photo booth. Decorate it with banners, garlands or pennants to contribute to the fun of letting your guests create your digital guest book.

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When planning an indoor wedding consider the pros and cons: “With an indoor wedding, you can setup and decorate the day before and have some peace of mind that everything is ready to go for the next day. But, depending on the venue,

—Meghan Wall, Coordinator, Old Pate Chapel

Though smaller and more subtle, the written word can be used to add special touches on the food buffet or at the bar. Maintain the theme

• If your handwriting isn’t up to par (or you prefer a more polished look), download fonts and templates from the Internet. You can find them in any style and size, often for free.

you’ve established through your larger event signage by using similar font styles and colors for these small printables: • Petite signs describe food/convey pertinent information (“Gluten Free” or “Vegetarian”) to assist diners as they make their selections.

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you may if you have an outdoor site as your backdrop.”

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you may have to bring in more floral/décor elements than

• Show off your new monogram with a cake topper made of white chocolate or fondant. • Whimsical paper “chargers” (placemats) with the menu printed on them made from heavy, decorative cardstock complements place settings and enhances the tablescape. • At the bar, personalized coasters, beverage napkins or cups can feature the ingredients for the signature cocktail/party punch you’re serving. • At the party favor table, gift tags reading “A Sweet Ending” would be adorable on the take-home treats.

Inspiration for the materials you’ll use to create your signs can be drawn from the theme/site of your wedding: • Use driftwood accented with shells for a beach wedding. • Repurpose an old shipping pallet, wood barrel or a weathered, whitewashed window for signage at an outdoor wedding. • Antique shops, yard sales and estate sales are great places to look for items to repurpose as event signage—even the most dinged up platter can be beautifully transformed into a fashionable sign with a coat or two of paint!

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IT’S NOT JUST “WHAT” YOU SAY, BUT “HOW” YOU SAY IT Clever wordplay mixed with a dash of whimsy sets the tone and keeps the mood light. • Circulate a basket of confetti launchers with a sign reading, “Cue the Confetti!” as a cute way to signal to revelers that it’s time to send the bride and groom off with a bang. • Send your attendants through the crowd holding signs announcing event milestones like, “Here Comes the Bride” and “First Dance” instead of asking the DJ to make such announcements.

The best signs include a balance of text and graphical elements, pleasingly arranged. The text is the anchor for the sign, so center the message and let graphics frame your words and support it. Contrasting colors make your graphics “pop”—helping them stand out. Try out several color combinations until you find the look that best complements your theme. By following these suggestions, whether you decide to frame it elegantly or spell it out with lights, the message you communicate on your customized event signage will certainly be worth reading.

But remember, there’s nothing wrong with keeping messages simple, so don’t feel like every sign must be witty—sometimes, we just need to know where to find the restroom.

WRITE ON! Hand-lettered event signage—like chalkboards—lends an air of personable authenticity to your message, making guests feel as though you’ve taken the time to convey a message directly to them. • Chalkboard paint comes in no-mess spray paint or brush formulations so even an inexperienced DIY-er can figure out how to transform any surface into something they can write on. You can also try paint pens or a Sharpie—they come in every color of the rainbow.

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EXPRESS YOURSELF Ways to Incorporate Your Personalities and Interests in Planning Your Reception

By Ashley Bunner

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A wedding reception is all about fun and celebration. After the stress of the actual ceremony is over, it’s time to party with your friends and family. From traditions such as tossing the garter, father/daughter dance and cutting the cake, to newer quirky trends, your wedding reception is a time to express yourself and your new spouse. Classic traditions aside, there are a variety of ways to personalize the wedding celebration. SONG REQUESTS What better way to get your guests involved in the celebration than to have the DJ play their favorite songs? Have guests send in song requests along with their RSVPs—that way you have a better chance of getting more people out on the dance floor once their requested song comes on. This method also gives your DJ a starting playlist sure to involve people. You could also have the DJ announce that he will be taking song requests for those who missed their chance to send one in.

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GROOM’S CAKE Don’t forget that it’s the groom’s special day too! Consider having a custom made groom’s cake that expresses his personality or interests. Some options include his favorite movie/TV show, favorite sports team or a place that he’s traveled. The whimsical possibilities are endless! Ask On average, your baker to see some sample photos of past creations, and you’ll be amazed at the options.

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If you’re having a child-friendly reception, consider having a table designated specifically for the children. Not only will this make them feel special, it will also relieve their parents by having an activity available. Give them a special craft to complete or have a coloring book and crayons at each place setting. Steer clear of markers and messy paints though as they’ll more than likely be dressed in their best!

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COFFEE OR CANDY BAR Not serving alcohol or just want to spice things up a bit with a quirky twist? Have a coffee bar at your reception with a variety of flavored creamers, milks and sweeteners. Traveling coffee vendors have been popping up more and more recently giving you the option to even have a barista or two whipping up specialty lattes. Or, for those with a sweet tooth, have a candy bar where guests can mix and match candy combinations. Make sure to point out the bride and groom candies of choice!

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“One of my personal favorites is an arrangement or center piece of all shades of greens with elements of nature gathered in that particular season. Colorful dried or fresh leaves are a lovely way to add texture and color. A green archway or trellis creeping with vines is a beautiful way to implement nature for an indoor or outdoor ceremony.”

— Debbie Miller, bloom by Doyles

FAVORS If you have a specific theme for your wedding and reception, consider getting creative with the favors you select for your guests! • If your theme is rustic, you could serve drinks in mason jars and let guests take them home as favors. • Potted succulents are also a new trending favor. Succulents make for the perfect favor because they’re small and can easily fit at home or on an office desk. • Homemade treats such as cookies, jams and brownies are a sweet treat to remind your guests of your special day. Who doesn’t love homemade baked goods? • Doing an outdoor garden theme? You could give guests seed packets as a favor. Not only is this is a creative gift, it’s also friendly to the environment. When choosing seed variety, keep in mind that not all of

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FUN AND GAMES For guests who would rather not bust a move on the dance floor, have some games and other activities to keep them entertained. Games such as corn hole make for a fun alternative to dancing during outdoor receptions and allow for easy conversation among guests. For indoor receptions, try having guests go on a photo shoot scavenger hunt or have a photo booth and props set up.

GUEST BOOK Guest books are a great way to collect advice from your friends and family and also to keep a record on who was there on your special day. But your guest book doesn’t necessarily need to be an actual book. There are plenty of unique ways to have people leave you their well wishes and advice. • Have guests sign a piece of art on a canvas that can be hung in your new home. • Have guests sign squares of fabric that can be sewn together to make a quilt. • Couples who have a love for travel can use a world globe as their guest book. Have guests sign near the state they are from or a favorite vacation spot.

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Guest Book Ideas for the Modern Bride By Emily Hedrick

When it comes to planning a wedding, the following items and services are typically near the top of the checklist: wedding dress, venue, photographer and flowers. It is fitting that the most expensive and time-sensitive aspects of your big day receive priority, but it is easy for brides-to-be to get burned out when tackling one large task after another. If you want to check something off your list without much stress, consider the guest book. It may be near the bottom of your list because it is a small purchase that sometimes seems uninspired, but guest books don’t have to be boring; in fact, they can be vibrant and touching reminders of those who shared in celebrating your marriage.

Harry Potter fans can buy or construct The Monster Book of Monsters

And consider this: guest books needn’t be books at all! For minimal investment, you can choose a concept unique to your and your partner’s personalities that preserves the memories of your day.

two sets of photos: one for themselves and one for the guestbook.

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your fiancé for guests to sign; just be sure to allow plenty of time for

Adding a few whimsical touches to complement the theme or style

and provide a wand pen or quill that guests can sign with, “Doctor Who” fans may want to consider a Tardis guest book with a sonic screwdriver pen, and Star Wars fans could offer a space-themed book with a lightsaber pen. Don’t be afraid to embrace your inner nerd!

PHOTO BOOK Photo albums have a unique ability to transport us to a treasured time and place, a fact that makes a photo guest book an ideal medium to remember your guests. There are two main options for incorporating guest photos into your book: Polaroid cameras and photo booths. For the former option, either provide one Polaroid camera at the guest book station or one camera per guest table. Be sure to include a brief note near the camera with instructions. If you decide to splurge a bit on your photo book, you can rent a photo booth. Place a sign outside the booth to encourage guests to take

WALL DISPLAY PIECE If you would rather not store your guest book on a shelf, there are myriad options for guestbook wall display pieces. You may want to use a photo service like Shutterfly to create a canvas print of you and shipping. If you would prefer to display artwork, you can buy a canvas

of your wedding keeps a signature book from being ordinary while

and have someone draw or paint the image of your choice. Guests can

still keeping it low-maintenance. For instance, if your wedding is

sign the artwork, or you can involve them even more by leaving out

themed around a book, movie or TV series (or if you just want to pay

stamp pads and having guests add their fingerprints; they may add

homage to your fandom of choice), you can purchase or make a book

leaves to a painting of a tree, petals to flowers or balloons to a house as

that represents an object or character from your chosen fandom.

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license, have them make fingerprint doppelgangers of themselves, using markers to add personal touches. Other potential wall art projects include a burlap board lined with small envelopes containing guest advice and well wishes, a large wooden rendering of your new last initial signed by your guests and “autographed” LP records.

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“You, as the couple, should address your guests during the toast time. Both my husband and I said a little something, and our guests told us how much it meant to them because at so many weddings you only hear from the best man and the maid of honor.”

DIGITAL GUESTBOOK The most modern guestbook option is the digital guestbook, a medium that captures your guests on film and allows you to experience their excitement

STAND-ALONE DISPLAY PIECE For those who want their guest book to be a stand-alone part of their home décor, the range of choices is considerable. For a sweet and simple display, put out smooth white stones and permanent markers and store the signed stones in a clear vase. If you are inviting

again and again long after your wedding. The easiest way to

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create a digital guestbook is to assign an attendant to your iPad or video camera and have him or her record guests as they congratulate you.

guests from a variety of locations, provide a globe and pins with paper flags on them; guests may sign their names and write their hometowns on the flag and place the pin on the globe accordingly. If you want a standout stand-alone piece, you can have guests sign a in the add quilt, guitar or bench.

Regardless of which guestbook option you choose, you can’t go wrong. Amidst the stress of dress alterations and catering decisions, approach the guestbook as a fun diversion that you will treasure on your wedding day and beyond.

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The Latest in Photo Trends to Capture Your Day in Style By Danielle Verderame

Wondering what hashtag Queen Victoria may have used to tag her trend-setting white dress makes us realize just how much bridal portraits have evolved. While the wedding is shaped around timeline and budget, the storytelling method ties together trends. Some studios, like Stone Blue Productions, are bringing cinematic filming techniques from the big screen down to your private event. Other couples are mixing modern technology with the help of friends. Whatever methods you select, the pattern is clear. Start recording early and keep the cameras rolling until after the big day has finished. SHARING THE ENGAGEMENT As engagement ideas get bigger, so has coverage of the special moment. Paparazzi proposals are popping up as a new trend complete with photographers hiding out in the bushes to capture the special moment. Some couples have also incorporated flash mobs composed of family and friends to be part of that “Yes!” moment. Before your engagement grows into a wedding, it’s time to

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start your story with Save The Date postcards. Engagement photos are a great option for personalized cards. Many couples are also now creating introductory videos. Bringing guests up to the moment, these videos play like movie trailers. They can be either cinematic or documentary style bringing your romance to the small screen.

PLANNING FOR THE BIG DAY When interviewing photographers, ask them about trends

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like stop-motion photography or family first looks. And that

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Pinterest board you’ve been building for the past year will

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also come in useful to show your photographer a sense of your style. Jeremiah Guelzo, owner of Stone Blue Productions, explains, “Use that board as a basis for creativity.” Instead of exactly recreating your favorite pin, the photographer can use it to inspire a shoot to suit you and your style.

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For less stress on the actual day, Guelzo suggests breaking up the big moments into the weeks leading up to the nuptials. If you plan a separate portrait session, far-off family can get a sneak peak of your dress or you could display your bridal portraits at the reception. Planning separate times for portraits also guarantees that you won’t feel as rushed and can take as much time as you would like to get just the right shots. And remember that if you plan to run a wedding video at the rehearsal dinner or reception, the footage from these little moments will add to the presentation. Think about your loved ones and ask, “What do I want them to remember?” Aim to have a mix of little memories and big moments; making

a brief timeline helps prioritize coverage of your big day and lets your photographer know which highlights are really important to you both.

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CREATIVE CAPTURES Recent photography trends can truly set apart your wedding footage. The setting for your wedding can be captured using unmanned aerial vehicles (UAV). Although UAV photography started in the commercial field, innovators like Guelzo and his team offer it for weddings. He explains, “UAV photography really shows the venue from the start with a sweeping shot over the trees or a pan up over the building like in a movie.” Preferring to film before the ceremony starts, Guelzo says, “[UAV] isn’t limited by the venue—just the creativity of the operator.” The rise of social media has created competition as camera phones can cloud shots during the ceremony. So some brides are opting for a “digital blackout” during the vows, meaning they request that guests don’t have phones or cameras out. If you’re not comfortable restricting your guests, find an experienced photographer who can work around random flashes and guests even jumping into the aisle. Guelzo says, “During a ceremony, you can’t control everyone. So some ask for ‘no flash’ photography.” Guelzo explains that an advantage of professional photographers is their expertise and equipment. “I have lenses that allow me to shoot from all ranges,” he says. Of course, the positive aspect of camera wielding wedding guests is their help in capturing many different moments from the day. Post a custom wedding hashtag at the entrance of your reception and at each table to maximize tagging by guests. This allows you to gather all of the photos into one place for easy saving later on. “Selfie stations” with selfie sticks and vintage props are one step beyond last year’s photo booths. Freeing up your second shooter and giving instant access to photos can also be a way to entertain and engage your guests. And, after the event has wound down, your photographer may be able to share a few same-day shots on social media.

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Finally, the party doesn’t stop when the reception ends. Follow the festivities with gestures of gratitude. A creative way to thank everyone is with an online video of opening gifts. Just as personal as penning thankyou notes, a video can include small stories and shout-outs. Another trend turning into tradition is gifting portraits of bridal party members as a thank you. Surprise each member of your wedding party with a printed, framed photo of you together. This keepsake will have special meaning and show the appreciation you feel for their participation in your wedding. As you’re working with all those raw moments to put together an album—printed, digital or video—you’ll find that a little foresight went a long way. You’ll remember the joke behind each smile and the tale that sparked your “something blue.” As the years go on, the memories you preserved will only increase in value.

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The only rooftop venue in the city offers all-inclusive packages to make your wedding day flawless and worry free. By Megan L. House

With the beautiful hazy mountains in the

View in October 2014. “Since we had more

menu they want.” They strive to assist each

background, overlooking the river on one

of a daytime wedding, we also really liked

bride in having her own unique menu.

side and the city on the other, City View and

the fact that our guests had access to both

Terrace View by the James offer a picture-

an indoor and outdoor area to socialize.”

perfect location for any special occasion.

“The food was amazing, and the place looked gorgeous,” Basinger said. The staff

Both venues are centrally located downtown

and our wedding coordinator took care of

“We’re the only rooftop venue in the city,”

on Main Street, making the venues easily

everything we needed and everything went

said Karen Bradley, co-manager of City View

accessible to guest and hotels. Indoor parking

smoothly. They seemed to have a plan for

and Terrace View. “We have spectacular views

is also available for the convenience of guests.

anything that could possibly happen.”

of the mountains, the city and the river.”

“One of the big things that drew us to

An advantage in the all-inclusive package at

City View, located on the 20th floor in the

Terrace View by the James was the location,”

either of these venues, is that everything is

Bank of the James building, and Terrace

Basinger said. “We both have families

done for you, which means you can be worry-

on the 8th floor, both accommodate 200

who live out of town so we really liked

free, sit back and enjoy your special day.

guests seated, or 300 cocktail style. With

the idea of having our reception within

windows enclosing the venue, City View

walking distance of a hotel (Holiday Inn

offers a picturesque view of the city, river and

downtown)…I also really liked having the

mountains. The formerly used helicopter pad

ceremony and reception at the same place.”

on the roof, is used for wedding party portraits,

“The vendors that we work with all work with each other, and communicate with each other on a weekly basis,” Jennings said. “We don’t have to worry about what

The venues are equipped with dinnerware,

time the D.J is coming to set up, or what

silverware, set-up and white or black linens.

time the flowers are going to be delivered.”

“It’s a 360 degree panoramic view of the

Although there are several wedding packages

The bride needn’t worry about the details,

city,” said Kim Jennings, co-manager.

to choose from, their all-inclusive package

because they are completely taken care of.

providing a naturally stunning background.

Terrace View provides a lovely indoor/outdoor

basically covers everything you need.

“I could tell they had a lot of experience

option for ceremonies and receptions. The

“It comes with the venue rental, the catering,

with weddings and their team worked very

terrace, which wraps around the indoor

the D.J, the photography [by Capture.It

well together,” Basinger said. Whatever

reception hall, has been used for dancing

Photography], the flowers, the coordinator

you want to accomplish or any special

and even an occasional game of cornhole.

and the cake,” Jennings said. “It includes

requests you have, they will do everything

everything but your dress, and it’s under

in their power to make it happen for you.”

“A lot of them have their ceremony outside and then they have their reception, or their

$10,000 for your whole wedding.”

A bride’s only concern is deciding whether

seated part of the dinner inside, and then they

With a full-service, licensed caterer onsite,

she would like a “roof-top” feel like City View,

open up the dancing on the terrace,” Jennings

it is simple to tailor the menu to the

or the outdoor option like Terrace View.

said. “It’s a very unique setting out there.”

bride’s specifications. Repast Catering will

Even with their diverse attributes, they both

work with the bride’s budget, and does

offer a pleasantly unique experience.

Guest are drawn to the terrace both for the river overlook, and the city view, which gives the venue a “New York” feel. “The weather was perfect for our ceremony out on the patio,” said Shelley Basinger, news anchor at WSET, who was married at Terrace

everything including plated dinners, stations, buffets and heavy hors d’ oeuvres.

“If you are looking for a centralized, Lynchburg venue with a beautiful view that can take

“We’re customer service oriented,” Bradley

care of pretty much everything you need for

said. “As far as what brides can choose, we

your wedding, I would definitely recommend

are flexible, we let them choose any type of

Terrace View by the James,” Basinger said.

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A LETTER TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM

Larry Compter, Executive Director – Compass Marriage & Relationship Services

The following is adapted from a letter my wife and I wrote to our nephew and his bride-to-be. (Their names have been changed for privacy.) But it is a message that is important for all engaged couples. David & Nadine, You must be very excited about your upcoming wedding, and we are looking forward to being there to celebrate with you! As we thought about what to give you for a wedding present, we found that what we really wanted to give you could not be purchased. Because what we want most for you is to enjoy a healthy, happy, lifelong marriage together – one that is filled with joy, intimacy, true friendship and evergrowing love. Unfortunately, that is something that no amount of money can buy. Nor can anyone – including us – guarantee that future for you. Every couple has problems, as you probably know. But what many couples don’t realize is that it isn’t the problems you face, but how you face the problems that will make the difference in your marriage. Bottom line: you have to handle the bad stuff well in order to enjoy the good stuff. We don’t mean that to sound pessimistic – it really isn’t. But in my work as a marriage educator and even among our friends, we have seen it far too often – the love that is so fresh and wonderful at the wedding soon gets covered up and eroded away by the daily “stuff” of life: bills, babies, bad moods and bum breaks.

It doesn’t have to be that way, though. With conscious effort and a firm commitment to make it work (from both of you), you can learn to do marriage right, and have a lot of fun at it. We have, and so have many others. To help you do that, there are many resources available, including books, videos, and online materials. But nothing is better than a good, accurate assessment tool like PREPARE-ENRICHTM or FOCCUSTM and at least a few sessions with a trained marriage mentor couple. So we would like to pay for your premarital preparation as a wedding gift. These are just tools to help you get a realistic appraisal of your relationship, its strengths and weaknesses, and to help you work through the inevitable tough times that every couple experiences. Think of it as “marriage insurance.” Not a very exciting gift, you may be thinking, but it is one which we hope will have more more lasting value for your marriage than another toaster oven or set of wine glasses. Just going through the process can be a lot of fun, and will undoubtedly create some interesting conversations! At the very least, you will learn some critical skills and concepts for healthy communication, conflict management (yes, you will have some conflict) and tips for handling common problems. Just remember that this is more like preventive medicine than a first aid kit. Take advantage of it and practice the skills early on, and you will avoid a lot of mistakes that young couples often make (ourselves included – we wish we had had this when we got married!). Then, take a “refresher course” at least once a year by attending a good marriage enrichment seminar or retreat, or reading a good marriage book together. (For more resources, go to www.betterlove.org.) God bless you both in your life together. Live, love, laugh… and remember to always put each other first. Before you know it, you’ll be blowing out the candles on your 50th anniversary cake!

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I WISH I HAD KNOWN… Couples tell us how they would finish this statement, “When I first got married, I wish I had known:”

Here’s their wisdom for your benefit! “When I first got married, I wish I had known how wonderful it would be in 36 years to sit quietly on the front porch with my wife and appreciate the simple things in life.”

—Loren Washburn “When we first got married, I wish I had known my husband’s expectations for what our life would look like. Each of our sets of parents lived completely different lives, and we had both pictured having similar marriages. His mom worked outside the home and mine was a stay-at-home mom. Before we had children, I wanted to find a job but was actually afraid to ask Loren about it and all the time he was wondering why I wasn’t looking for a job. It’s funny now that I think about it. Needless to say, our communication skills have improved along with our marriage over the years!”

—Donna Washburn; the Washburns married for 36 years (photo from their daughter’s wedding)

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directly to the heart.

“Change is not the enemy of a lasting marriage but rather the means of an enduring relationship. Change fights boredom and stagnation and encourages personal growth and deeper connection.”

—Rick Foster “Invest as much time becoming the right person after the marriage as you did in finding the right person before marriage.”

—Tracy Foster The Fosters, married 20 years

“At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if the end of the toilet paper roll is facing up or down. Be glad that the person who used the bathroom in front of you was mindful enough to leave enough for you to use!”

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“I wish I had known just how much I would value my husband’s sense of humor and his positive outlook. Marriage has many stages and each one presents challenges, but staying positive and sharing laughter are great constants!”

“When we first got married, I wish I had known how much we would both grow through the many levels of giving and receiving between us; I would have been amazed!”

—Meg Watson, married 35 years to Scott

—Van Mauney

“We thought the day we got married was the happiest day of our lives, and that we could never be more in love than we were that day. But as the years go by, we realize that love grows and changes

“When we first got married, I wish I had known how loving this man could be and how adventurous and exciting.”

—Debby Mauney; Vice Admiral and Mrs. Van Mauney, USN, Ret., married 38 years

and transforms you...that in the end, old love is richer and more rewarding than new love.”

—Mary Ann and Troy Doss, married 22 years

“When we first got married, I wish I’d known how quickly time would fly by —so I’d have worked less and enjoyed more time together.”

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The Ins and Outs to a Successful Start

By Ashley Addington

Engagement kicks off one of the most exciting and busy periods of your life. It’s incredibly easy to get caught up in a whirlwind of tulle, seating charts, invitation calligraphy and never ending wedding Pinterest dream boards. But in the midst of the cake tastings and dress fittings, it’s easy to overlook one of the most important aspects of life after the wedding: finances.

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The dreaded “F” word could turn into a large elephant in the room. It seems easier to pretend this subject will simply go away if you and your fiancé ignore the matter. You’ll figure it out. You have enough in savings; you have a budget for your wedding and feel financially solid. But the reality is that properly planning your and your partner’s financial and legal future is an incredible must and can give your marriage a solid footing. To give your conversation some starting points, we asked the experts which topics were most critical to marital—and financial—bliss. >> THE BRIDE’S RESOURCE

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#1: ACTUALLY DISCUSS YOUR FINANCES Most individuals think they know their future spouse like the back of their hand. But spending habits, saving and debt can be something that people are less than willing to share. Financial advisor at MontVue Capital Management, John Hall, said that the most common financial scenario he encounters is actually the lack of any questions at all. “Many engaged couples don’t spend enough time discussing, planning or asking for advice on financial matters before they get married. Like so many tasks, it usually falls into the category of ‘We’ll get to that after the wedding.’ The problem with that mindset is that it allows for the possibility that couples begin their life together with no agreement (and sometimes stark disagreement) as to how their finances will work,” Hall said.

#2 HAVE A PLAN—NOT A SPENDING SPREE Because they’ll now have a combined salary, most engaged couples assume that they can immediately live a more lavish lifestyle. Unfortunately that assumption—and the lack of an agreed upon budget— can only worsen a couple’s financial situation. “Young couples in particular think they can assume a high standard of living at the onset of their marriage. The thought is ‘Together, we make $xxx,xxx! We should buy a new house and car and everything else the ‘model married couple’ should have—and right away!’ I encourage couples to start out smart—with a budget and spending goals that they save towards, not borrow against,” Hall said. Couples should also decide ahead of time whether or not they’ll have joint checking accounts and will merge retirement or saving account.

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#3 ASSUME THE WORST, HOPE FOR THE BEST Couples should also look at finances from a legal standpoint. Having your financial and legal ducks in order can help save newlyweds great heartache if an unforeseen emergency arises. “First of all, make sure all of the estate planning points are covered. From there, look forward to how those points will affect long-term planning for health and life insurance, Social Security income and other big decisions,” John P. Grove III of Wood Rogers of PLC said. Having personal wills drawn up, selecting guardians of forthcoming children and establishing a power of attorney can be priceless in providing peace of mind in the face of any crisis.

#4 TO PRE-NUP OR NOT TO PRE-NUP? Along with preparing for your financial future in marriage it’s critical to really plan and decide how couples want to handle their legal future as well. In many cases this involves discussing whether or not a pre-nuptial agreement is an option. “A pre-nuptial agreement includes documenting each spouse’s separate Property, reviewing the financial assets of each spouse (retirement accounts, other separate savings, and inheritance) and distinguishing between what is or is not considered marital property and/or separate property,” Grove said. Pre-nuptials are a personal choice and should be discussed with your future spouse at a time when both are well rested and ready to share their thoughts and concerns.

#5 CREATE A STRONG FOUNDATION The most beneficial thing you can do with your partner is talk. Be open with them in regard to where money goes every month and how much is left in the bank. Communication is the key to a successful financial relationship and to legal decisions. If discussing money still scares you, bring in a third party you trust to facilitate the conversation and most importantly, have a solid plan. “Have a budget, have a plan and maintain an open dialogue about money. Living within your means, planning for the future and saving towards your goals will set you on a path that’s more likely to lead your marriage in the right financial direction,” Hall said. Money and legal topics aren’t a fun discussion to have, but they can establish solid expectations and “house rules” on where you want to be several years down the road. After the initial planning process is over, it gets easier and then the “F” word and the term “budget” won’t seem like such a big monster impeding on your happily ever after.

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NAME CHANGE

What to Do After the “I Do.”

What’s in your new last name may be less important to you right after the wedding than how to get it officially changed. The process is a bit lengthier than you might anticipate, but we are here to help. Here is how to get a jump on switching your maiden name to your married name once you have said “I Do.” MARRIAGE LICENSE This is the first piece to officially have your new name on it. Without this document, changing your name on other forms is more difficult. So get this one done and make sure it is correct!

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DRIVER’S LICENSE This is your primary form of ID. Simply visit your DMV with your marriage license, old driver’s license and another form of identification in hand. While you’re there, you might as well change your car title and registration.

SOCIAL SECURITY CARD You can download a replacement application form from www.sscardapplication.com. Fill it out and mail it in to the supplied address or take it to your local Social Security office. Processing can only be done with your original documents in your old and new name.

PASSPORT Visit www.travel.state.gov to download your Passport Amendment/Validation Application, Form DS-19. Fill it out and send it to your nearest passport agency (view the list of agency addresses on the same site). Also, send certified documentation of your name change and your current, valid passport. It will be amended and returned to you.

VOTER REGISTRATION Call your local registrar’s office and have them send or fax you a name change form. Ask what form of proof is needed (it varies from state to state).

BANK, EMPLOYMENT/PAYROLL, INSURANCE, HOSPITALS, CREDIT CARDS, POST OFFICE, ETC. Type up a letter with the proper information. (Old/new name, account number, social security number, etc.) and include a copy of your marriage certificate. All changes are free.

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• THE CHECKLISTS

• “You want to marry me? What a

coincidence. I just so happen to

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WEDDING PLANNING The 12-Month Countdown 12 MONTHS

FOUR MONTHS

 Determine Budget and discuss division of expenses

 Finalize guest list

 Select a wedding coordinator

 Start addressing envelopes

 Reserve ceremony and reception sites

 Schedule Bridal Portrait

 Decide on the size of your guest list

 Select and reserve tuxedo and accessories

 Notify the officiant of your plans

 Reserve limousine, carriage or rental

 Begin discussing where you will live

 Order or make reception favors  Select menu with caterer  Meet with baker and select cake style and taste

NINE MONTHS  Choose attendants

THREE MONTHS

 Select color scheme and decide on any theme

 Purchase attendants’ gifts

 Shop for wedding rings

 Arrange and plan rehearsal dinner

 Select bridal gown, veil and accessories

 Arrange rehearsal details with wedding coordinator

 Decide on a photographer

and wedding party

 Select and book caterer

 Select order of ceremony

 Compile names and addresses of guests

 Select guest book attendant

 Schedule engagement photo session

 Reserve any wedding-day rentals or accessories  Plan bridesmaid luncheon

SIX MONTHS

 Make appointment for hair and make-up

 Select and order attendants’ apparel, including

 Plan order of events at reception with DJ or musicians

bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl and mothers

 Select ceremony and reception music

 Consult Travel agent about honeymoon plans

 Request vacation time at work

 Announce engagement in the paper  Select & order invitations and other stationery

SIX TO EIGHT WEEKS

 Choose ceremony music and musicians

 Send invitations

 Meet with florist, discuss style & costs

 Confirm ceremony details with officiant

 Reserve rooms at hotel for out-of-town guests

 Order engravings on wedding rings  Have all men measured for tuxedos  Prepare wedding announcement for newspapers  Practice-run with hair and make-up stylists

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 Get marriage license  Buy or make Groom’s gift  Arrange for final fitting of gown  Confirm honeymoon reservations  Plan seating arrangements and place cards  Confirm reservations for out-of-town guests  Write Thank You notes for gifts as they come in

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TWO WEEKS

 Pay clergy and musicians

 Prepare wedding day checklist, delegate responsibilities

 Pack for honeymoon – don’t forget your passport,

 Meet with photographer to go over your expectations

if needed

 Meet with videographer to discuss details

 Attend bridesmaids’ luncheons

 Meet with DJ or band to confirm your requests

 Have nails done

 Send invitations for Rehearsal and Dinner

 Have dress pressed

 Confirm time and wedding rehearsal schedule with

 Take maps and event schedule to hotel for out-of-town guests

everyone involved  Confirm wedding vendors’ arrival and set up times

 Arrange transportation for out-of-town guests

 Arrange for bouquet and gown preservation

 Discuss seating arrangements with ushers

 Arrange name and address changes on bank accounts, credit cards, driver’s license, social security

THE DAY BEFORE

card and utilities

 Decorate ceremony and reception sites

 Move personal and mutual belongings to new home

 Keep all personal appointments  Finish packing for the honeymoon

ONE WEEK

 Move all items to your new home

 Take the week off from work

 Get plenty of rest!

 Provide caterer with final guest count  Pick up wedding rings

ON THE WEDDING DAY

 Groom and Groomsmen try on and pick up tuxedos

 Stay calm & relaxed

 Consult with wedding coordinator about all details

 Have hair and make-up done

 Final consultations with florist, musicians, photographer,

 Take marriage license and rings to ceremony

video, decorators and rental company

 Above all else, have fun and cherish your day!

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SEQUENCE OF EVENTS Confused about what happens when? Use the following guide to help plan the order of your ceremony and reception. CEREMONY Every religion has their own established rituals, customs, and traditions for wedding ceremonies. Also, your clergyman or officiant may also have specific rules and procedures to be followed when they officiate a wedding ceremony. So, when planning your ceremony, be sure to consult with your officiant every step of the way!

SEATING OF GUESTS Pre-ceremonial music as the ushers seat the guests. Music usually begins 15 minutes before the ceremony.

SEATING OF PARENTS

GIVING AWAY OF THE BRIDE/CHARGE TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM Message, explanation of marriage or Scripture reading.

THE EXCHANGE OF VOWS Traditional vows may be exchanged or you may write your own personal vows to recite.

MUSIC WITH CEREMONY Music is played during the candle-lighting or other nonverbal portion of the ceremony.

After the guests are present and seated, the groom’s parents are escorted to their seats. The bride’s mother is the last to be seated. The bride’s father is waiting with the bride.

THE RING EXCHANGE

THE GROOM TAKES HIS PLACE

THE KISS!

The officiant, ushers, best man and groom take their positions.

ATTENDANTS’ PROCESSION The processional music for the bridesmaids, maid or matron of honor, flower girl and ring bearer begins as they are ready to march down the aisle.

Be sure to know where your rings are.

THE INTRODUCTION At the end of the ceremony, the officiant may introduce the newlyweds to the guests as the new Mr. and Mrs.

THE RECESSIONAL The bride and groom lead the bridal party back down the aisle.

BRIDAL PROCESSION Following the attendants, the bride’s father offers the bride his left arm as they begin down the aisle. Music is played and the guests rise in honor of the bride following the cue of the bride’s mother.

MARRIAGE LICENSE WHERE TO APPLY:

REMARRIAGES:

Circuit Court Clerks Office, 900 Court Street, Lynchburg, VA 24504 434-455-2620

Applicants will be required to give an accurate account on all previous marriages.

WHEN TO APPLY:

MEDICAL EXAMINATIONS:

You can apply up until the day of the wedding. The license must be used within 60 days of issue. The license will be issued upon completion and acceptance of the application. This must be completed by the officiant performing the ceremony. Check with your officiant to see if he or she will also send in the completed application or if you need to take care of that yourself.

There are no blood tests or exams necessary for a marriage license in the state of Virginia.

REQUIREMENTS: For all persons 18 years of age and older: The couple must both go in person to complete and sign the application. No ID is required. Persons 16-17 years of age must have a parent present to sign authorization.

FEE: There is a $30 fee for application (cash or check). These guidelines pertain to Lynchburg, VA. Call your local circuit county clerks office for your area guidelines.

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CHECKLISTS

WEDDING DAY CHECKLIST  Toasting Glasses

WEDDING DAY APPAREL     

Gown—alterations & pressed Shoes Bra/Undergarments Jewelry Garter

 Favors  Other

WEDDING DAY NECESSITIES  Marriage License

WEDDING DAY ACCESSORIES

 Groom’s Ring

 Guest Book & Pen  Ring Pillow  Cake Knife and Server

BRIDE’S EMERGENCY KIT  (See below)

BRIDE’S EMERGENCY KIT Essentials you need should the unexpected happen BEAUTY/GROOMING

ATTIRE

 Nail file

 Flat shoes or ballet slippers

 Nail polish (one in the bride’s color and clear

 Extra buttons

for runs in hose)

 Extra pair of hose

 Brush/comb

 Gloves

 Hair elastic

 Jewelry

 Earring backs  Lint brush

MISCELLANEOUS

 Tweezers

 Baby powder (useful for getting out last minute spills

 Makeup remover, skin cleanser/moisturizer

on a white dress)

 Deodorant

 Static cling spray

 Toothbrush, toothpaste, mouthwash, floss

 Bottled water

 Bobby pins

 Small hand towel (put around neck when doing makeup)

 Hair dryer (for hair or drying dresses after stain removal)

 Hard candy  Mints/breath spray

HEALTH

 Travel size perfume

 Straws (for drinking without ruining lipstick)

 White chalk to cover stains on the dress

 Acid relief

 Package of wet wipes

 Smelling salts

 Portable iron or steamer

 Eye drops

 Tape

 Contact lens solution

 Safety pins

 Headache medicine (two different types in case someone

 Scissors

in the party is allergic)

 Directions to reception (extra copies)

 Band-aids

 Sewing kit

 Tampons/sanitary napkins

 Super glue (‘cause you never know!)

 Tissues

THE BRIDE’S RESOURCE

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GROOM’S CHECKLIST SIX TO 12 MONTHS BEFORE  Decide division of financial obligations  Set budget  Set appointment with clergy/officiator  Choose best man, ushers and groomsmen KD BURKE PHOTOGRAPHY

 Plan your honeymoon

VIP PHONE NUMBERS

NAME:

PHONE NUMBER:

Accommodations_______________________________ ___________________ Bridal Registry_________________________________ ___________________ Bridal Salon___________________________________ ___________________ Cake Designer_________________________________ ___________________ Caterer_______________________________________ ___________________ Ceremony Location_____________________________ ___________________ Ceremony Musicians____________________________ ___________________ Florist________________________________________ ___________________ Formal Wear___________________________________ ___________________ Gown Preservation______________________________ ___________________ Hair Stylist____________________________________ ___________________

 Check passports and visas

FOUR MONTHS BEFORE  Select formal wear for you and your attendants  Make reservations for rehearsal dinner  Arrange wedding day transportation  Make arrangements for your out-oftown guests and family members  Finalize your guest list  Select wedding rings with your fiancée

SIX TO EIGHT WEEKS BEFORE  Set date with your fiancée to get marriage license  Select gifts for attendants and your bride  Pick up wedding rings  Send rehearsal dinner invitations  Select clothing for honeymoon  Confirm honeymoon and travel details and reservations

Invitations_____________________________________ ___________________ Jeweler_______________________________________ ___________________

ONE WEEK BEFORE

Limousine/Transportation________________________ ___________________

 Pick up wedding day attire

Makeup/Nails__________________________________ ___________________

 Give bride’s ring to best man

Photographer__________________________________ ___________________

 Make sure groomsmen have their

Reception Entertainment_________________________ ___________________ Reception Location_____________________________ ___________________ Rehearsal Dinner Location_______________________ ___________________

attire and are ready  Give best man officiator’s fee in sealed envelope for delivery

Rental Company________________________________ ___________________

 Pack for honeymoon

Travel Agent___________________________________ ___________________

 Give final guest count for rehearsal

Videographer__________________________________ ___________________

 Confirm time and place of wedding

Wedding Consultant____________________________ ___________________

rehearsal with all your attendants

Wedding Officiant______________________________ ____________________

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STONE BLUE PRODUCTIONS

KD BURKE PHOTOGRAPHY

CHECKLISTS

WEDDING BUDGET ITEM

ITEM

BUDGET ACTUAL

ITEM

BUDGET ACTUAL

Wedding Attire

Reception Continued...

Photography Continued...

Wedding Bands

Wedding Cake

Wedding Programs

Bridal Gown

Cake Topper/Knife

Postage

Headpiece/Veil

Toasting Glasses

Calligraphy

Undergarments

Napkins

Addressing

Alterations

Additional Services

Flowers

Groom’s Tux/Suit Bride’s Mother Bride’s Father Gown Preservation Hair & Makeup Pedicure Manicure Shoes Jewelry Lingerie

Reception Site Rental Rental Supplies

(linens, china, tables, chairs)

Caterer/Food Beverages Decorations

(servers, bartenders, valet parking)

Ceremony Site

Entertainment

Reception Site

Ceremony Music

Bridal Bouquet

Reception Music

Attendants’ Flowers

Band/DJ

Parents/Grands

Dance Lessons

Honored Guests

Photography

Other

Engagement Pictures

Clergy/Officiant

Bridal Portrait

Marriage License

Wedding Day

Attendants’ Gifts Transportation

Wedding Albums

Favors

Extra Prints

Rentals

Videography

Honeymoon

Photographer’s Fee

Spending Money

Announcements

Wedding Night

Invitations

(other than flowers)

Reply Cards

Gratuities & Taxes

Thank You Cards

THE BRIDE’S RESOURCE

Accommodations

TOTAL

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CHECKLISTS

WHO’S DOING WHAT It’s often hard enough to keep straight all your responsibilities as the bride or groom on your wedding day—from rings to vows—much less anyone else’s job. That’s why it is so important for the couple to delegate jobs to those around them who are often more than happy to help. Here’s a list of who’s doing what that will help ease your wedding day jitters and make sure everyone has a role to play.

ASSIGNED TO:

PHONE NUMBER:

Decorate Ceremony Site_____________________________ ___________________ Clean-up Ceremony Site_____________________________ ___________________ Decorate Reception Site_____________________________ ___________________ Clean up Reception Site_____________________________ ___________________ Pick Up Groom’s Tux________________________________ ___________________ Return Groom’s Tux_________________________________ ___________________ Guest Book Attendant______________________________ ___________________ Hair & Makeup_____________________________________ ___________________

ASSIGNED TO:

PHONE NUMBER:

Light Candles Before Wedding_______________________ ____________________

Aisle Runner_______________________________________ ____________________

Couple’s Transportation_____________________________ ___________________

Beverages_________________________________________ ___________________

Music at Ceremony_________________________________ ___________________

Wedding Gown____________________________________ ___________________

Music at Reception_________________________________ ___________________

Bringing Marriage License___________________________ ___________________

Paying Officiant____________________________________ ___________________

Mailing Completed License___________________________ ___________________

Photographer______________________________________ ___________________

Cake Knife & Cutting________________________________ ___________________

Videographer______________________________________ ___________________

Toast_____________________________________________ ___________________

Programs_________________________________________ ___________________

Cake Top__________________________________________ ___________________

Rings_____________________________________________ ___________________

Decorating Car_____________________________________ ___________________

Announcing the Couple_____________________________ ___________________

Deliver Bridal Portrait_______________________________ ___________________

Transport Gifts from Reception_______________________ ___________________

Distribute Flowers__________________________________ ___________________

Miscellaneous______________________________________ ___________________

WEDDING PARTY ROLES Being the Best Man or the Maid of Honor is just that—an honor. Therefore, their duties go above and beyond those of the rest of the wedding party. But that doesn’t mean your bridesmaids and groomsmen get off scot-free. Here are some roles and responsibilities you can anticipate and assign to each person in your party for smooth sailing all the way down the aisle. MAID OR MATRON OF HONOR The maid or matron of honor is a person who the bride feels she can rely on to ensure that everything on her wedding day runs smoothly. The bulk of her responsibilities are centered around the celebrations: • Assists with stuffing invitations and putting favors together • Coordinates the bridesmaids to plan bridal showers and bachelorette party.

• Makes sure the bride has her honeymoon bag packed and everything she needs for the wedding day. • Keeps the party going at the reception. • Helps with decorating and clean up.

BEST MAN The best man is more than just a glorified groomsmen, he’s the groom’s right-hand man: • Serves as the groom’s personal assistant before and during the wedding. • Helps the groom choose formal wear and coordinate the other groomsmen’s rentals. • Organizes the bachelor party.

• Helps the bride stay on time and focused the day of the wedding and accompanies her to all wedding day appointments.

• Holds the bride’s ring the day of the wedding.

• Ready to run last minute errands or help with those final details to see that everything runs smoothly for the rehearsal, ceremony, and reception.

• Makes sure the marriage license and honorarium are delivered to the officiant.

• Responsible for the groom’s ring, bride’s bouquet, and fixing train and veil the day of the wedding.

• Decorates the getaway car.

• Helps the flower girl find her place during the ceremony. • Assists with decorating and clean up. • Makes sure the gifts and bride’s belongings get to the proper place.

• Helps the ring bearer find his place during the ceremony.

• Gives the first toast at the reception. • Makes sure the groom’s honeymoon bag gets in the car. • Returns his tux.

GROOMSMEN • Assists the Best Man with the bachelor party.

BRIDESMAIDS The bridesmaid’s most important role is to provide emotional support for the bride during the planning process and throughout the wedding. There are also pre-wedding tasks that are important to perform:

• Makes sure the groom has everything he needs for the ceremony and honeymoon. • Run any errands he may need.

• Assist with stuffing invitations and putting favors together.

• Keeps the party going at the reception.

• Assist the Maid/Matron of Honor with showers and bachelorette party and keep track of the gifts received.

• Helps get the gifts to the proper place.

• Helps decorate the getaway car.

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CHECKLISTS

HONEYMOON CHECKLIST ESSENTIALS

 Jeans/Pants/Shorts

 Tickets

 Belt

 Itinerary

 Underwear

 Passports

 Overnight Bag (separate from luggage with essentials for one night)

 Phone Numbers  Wallet/Purse  Photo I.D.

BRIDE’S LIST

 Reservations

 Shirts

 Traveler’s Checks

 Jeans/Shorts/Pants  Coat/Sweater

GENERAL LIST

 Cosmetics

 First Aid Kit

 Dresses

 Toothbrush/Toothpaste

 Purse/Wallet

 Umbrella/Rain Coat

 Jewelry

 Calling Cards

 Lingerie/Sleepwear

 Sunglasses

 Robe

 Meds/Prescriptions

 Shoes

 Camera/Batteries

 Bathing Suit

 Toiletries

 Evening Wear

 Deodorant

 Razor

 Sunscreen

 Underwear/Bras

 Hair Products  Dress Shoes

WILL YOU NEED?

 Luggage Tags

 Electrical Adapters

 Travel Alarm Clock

 Vaccination Records

 Walking/Running Shoes

 Language Guide Book

 Sandals/Flip Flops

 Travel Guide Book

 Credit Card

 Map (especially if you’re driving)

 Glasses/Contacts (take at least one extra pair)

 Don’t forget to take the name and number

 Plastic Ziploc Bags (for dirty laundry or

of your travel agency or booking agent

items that may leak)  $50 cash/coins (in small bills for tipping and necessary expenses while traveling)

GROOM’S LIST  Swimming Trunks  Dress Shirt and Tie  Dress Pants  Shoes/Socks  Robe  Shaving Kit  Shirts  Sleepwear

THE BRIDE’S RESOURCE

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CHECKLISTS

FLOWER CHECKLIST NUMBER

COST

Bride’s Bouquet_________________________________ ____________________________ VISIONS BY HEATHER

Groom’s Boutonniere_____________________________ ____________________________ Maid/Matron of Honor’s Bouquet___________________ ____________________________ Bridesmaids’ Bouquets___________________________ ____________________________ Flower Girl’s Bouquet/Basket______________________ ____________________________ Floral Headpieces_______________________________ ____________________________ STONE BLUE PRODUCTIONS

Hostesses’ Flowers_______________________________ ____________________________ Mothers & Grandmothers_________________________ ____________________________ Fathers & Grandfathers___________________________ ____________________________ Best Man’s Boutonniere___________________________ ____________________________ Groomsmen & Ushers____________________________ ____________________________ Aisle or Pew Decorations_________________________ ____________________________ Altar Arrangements______________________________ ____________________________ Candelabra Flowers______________________________ ____________________________ Gift Table______________________________________ ____________________________ Bride & Groom’s Table____________________________ ____________________________ Cake Table_____________________________________ ____________________________ Food Table/Décor_______________________________ ____________________________ Centerpieces___________________________________ ____________________________ Toss Bouquet___________________________________ ____________________________ Miscellaneous___________________________________ ____________________________ TOTAL_________________________________________ ____________________________

WEDDING PHOTOS Creating a “shot list” has little to do with adult beverages when it comes to your wedding. Arguably, one of the most important aspects of your big day is what will last after it is over—your vows, love, and hopefully, your photos! While more professional photographers understand what is essential to capture, here is a simple list to add to or subtract from. Give your personalized list to your photographer so he or she will know which moments you want to remember for a lifetime.

PHOTOGRAPHER:___________________________ PHONE:____________________________________ BUDGETED COST:___________________________ ACTUAL COST:______________________________ FORMAL PORTRAIT DATE/TIME:_______________

 Bride, dressing for ceremony

 Groom with grandparents

 Recessional

 Best man toasting newlyweds

 Bride, full-length solo

 Groom with siblings

 Formal bride and groom together

 Newlyweds toasting each other

 Bride with parents (together)

 Groom with best man

 Newlyweds and parents

 Cake and punch servers

 Bride with parents (individually)

 Groom with groomsmen

 Newlyweds with children/

 Musicians

 Bride with grandparents

 Groom’s, Bride’s parents being

 Bride with siblings

seated for ceremony

 Bride with maid of honor

 Bridesmaids walking down the aisle

 Bride with attendants

 Flower girl/ring bearer walking

 Bride with ring bearer/flower girl

down the aisle

step-children

 Newlyweds’ first dance

 Newlyweds with entire bridal party

 Guests dancing

 Close-up of newlyweds’ hands

 Bride tossing bouquet

clasped

 Groom removing garter

 Close-up of rings

 Groom tossing garter

 Garter being put on

 Bride and father approaching the altar

 Receiving-line guests and bridal party

 Guests throwing rice/birdseed

 Groom, full-length solo

 Bride’s father giving hand to groom

 Cake table

 Newlyweds getting into limo or car

 Groom with parents (together)

 Exchanging of vows

 Bride and groom cutting cake/

 Father/daughter dance

 Groom with parents (individually)

 Ring ceremony

feeding each other

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 Post-reception party

INDEX

INDEX OF ADVERTISERS 18th Annual Central Virginia Bridal Guide ANNETTE’S FLORAL CREATIONS (17) 434.941.2886

BOWEN JEWELRY (7) 434.845.3495

IN YOUR FACE MAKEUP ART (22) 434.944.3324

ARTHUR’S FLOWER CART (22) 434.239.2629

CHERYL’S SECRET GARDEN (52) 434.239.0247

K.D. BURKE PHOTOGRAPHY (18) 434.485.9712

AVENEL PLANTATION (14) 540.586.1814

CITY VIEW / TERRACE VIEW BY THE JAMES (44-45) 434.455.0834

KIRKLEY HOTEL (68) 434.237.6333

AVOCA MUSEUM (54) 434.369.1076 AZTEC RENTALS (46) 434.385.5116 BEDFORD COLUMNS ESTATE & CONFERENCE CENTER / BELLA ROSE PLANTATION (36-37) 540.586.1407 BELLA ROSE PLANTATION SPECIAL EVENT & WEDDING VENUE (36-37) 434.385.1827 bLOOM BY DOYLE’S (35) 434.239.4444 BODY WORKS DAY SPA & SALON (49) 434.384.9053

LEXINGTON CARRIAGE COMPANY (14) 540.463.5647

COMPASS MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIP SERVICES (48) 434.455.2117

LIBERTY MOUNTAIN CONFERENCE CENTER (28) 434.592.5600

CRADDOCK TERRY HOTEL (18) 434.455.1500 CRUISE PLANNERS (15) 434.582.1252 DIVINE DESIGNS & DELIGHTS (41) 434.525.2406 ELEGANCE ON THE AVENUE (30) 540.404.0878 FARM BASKET (30) 434.528.1107 FINK’S JEWELERS (5) 434.237.6301

MARY KAY COSMETICS, CINDY BRYANT (16) 434.841.4490 MEAD LAKE LODGE EVENT & CONFERENCE CENTER (50) 434.546.6273 OLD PATE CHAPEL & THE BOTTLING CO. (53) 434.592.3511

RE/MAX IST OLYMPIC REALTORS, NADINE BLAKELY (2) 434.444.2226 SANDERS FAMILY PHOTOBOOTH (43) 832.360.0068 STEVE FREEMAN BAND (20) 434.941.8645 STONE BLUE PRODUCTIONS (67) 434.420.2583 TIMBERLAKE TAVERN (25) 434.665.7435 TRIVIUM ESTATE AND CONFERENCE CENTER (3) 540.586.2823 VISIONS BY HEATHER (33) 434.944.1264

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saturday, january 30, 2016 11:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. at the trIVIuM estate & COnFerenCe Center Come to our Bride of the Year luncheon to enter for your chance to win a Magazine feature in Central Virginia Bridal Guide. Not only will you enjoy a delicious lunch, you’ll have the opportunity to sample wedding cakes and décor provided by the area’s best wedding caterers and florists, and tour this one of a kind wedding venue, the Trivium.

All brides in attendance will be eligible to win wonderful giveaways, including the title of 2016 Bride of the Year

YOU COULD BE OUR NEXT BRIDE OF THE YEAR! For more information visit our website: vabridal.com or call us at 434.846.2333

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LOCAL LOVE

LOCAL LOVE STORIES Whether big or small, engagements that highlight the special moments of your unique relationship are what make the difference.

Here are some engagement stories of local love: Brian and I got engaged in New York City the Saturday before Thanksgiving. The weeks leading up to it were busy, and we could not wait to go on vacation. What I didn’t know was that Brian had planned the biggest surprise of my life. What made our story unique to us is that we had the opportunity to do things that we enjoy doing together, a great story that we will remember for the rest of our lives and we got to share in our excitement as we began to officially plan for our journey together.

Matthew and I first laid eyes on each other at a camp located just outside of Lynchburg, Va., my hometown. It was one of those ‘love at first sight’ kind of moments that you hear about that come when you least expect it. To our pleasant surprise, we learned that we would both be attending Liberty University in the fall where we would have the chance to get to know one another. And that is just what we did, with every hope of pursuing a relationship focused solely on marriage. Almost two years later, Matthew proposed in the very spot of the woods at the camp where we met all those summers ago. I leaned down and kissed him, eagerly saying “YES!”

Brian and Lauren Morris, married May 2, 2015

Janey and Matthew Endres, married July 2014

Photo by Sam Stroud Photography

Photo by Adam Mullins Photography

Adam’s proposal was unique to Lynchburg in a very personal way. We are both graphic designers and love art. We spend much of our time at art galleries and love viewing local exhibits. On the day he proposed, he took me to Riverviews Art Space to view the latest exhibit. However, when we got there, I saw a painting all the way across the gallery that “we just had to see immediately!” It turned out to be a piece that he had painted just for me with the Lynchburg city skyline in the background. It was stunning and perfect.

Esther and Adam Underwood, married August 2015 Photo by Paul Brunett

Our story began years ago; Durrell attended Appomattox High School in Appomattox, and I attended William Campbell High School in Naruna, Va. Although we attended different schools, we saw each other during sporting seasons and events, but we were both too shy to approach one another. Years later, I was home from college the summer of 2008 and was out with friends to celebrate my birthday. Durrell saw me from afar and got the nerve to approach me and introduce himself. Feeling overly excited, I acted as if I couldn’t remember him, but deep down I was ecstatic to finally see him again. Before the end of the night, Durrell asked to have my phone number. Our first date was on Friday, July 11, 2008. Durrell swooped me off of my feet, and we became inseparable and enjoyed each other’s company. Years passed and we became closer and closer, and although having ups and downs, we shared a bond unlike any other. On Christmas night, December 25, 2013, Durrell found the courage to ask me for my hand in marriage. Without a doubt, I said, “YES!”

Tiffany and Durrell Mosley, married September 12, 2015. Photo by CJ Harris Tiffany and Lauren were two of our finalists for Bride of the Year 2015; to find out more about entering the 2016 contest, see page 65.

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