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A relationship isn’t healthy if partners aren’t on level footing. Couples in a romantic relationship have to be equal in order for the partnership to work. When you strive to seek control over your boyfriend’s actions, you can bet there will be unintended consequences.
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ou don’t see eye to eye, you have trust issues, or maybe you think your partner’s way of thinking and handling things are inferior to yours; whatever the source of the tension is, when one refuses to back down, it will almost always end in a disaster.
When Does Control Happen in a Relationship? Paranoid behavior breeds anxiety, which never fails to put a strain in a relationship. When you don’t trust your partner, whether romantically or in terms of life decisions, you force him into a place that is beneath you, thereby shattering whatever semblance of equality you might have had in your relationship. The bottom line is, when you think your partner is beneath you, regardless of how much you think you love him, it will not work. Control issues are commonly born out of lack of trust and confidence in your partner.
By CHLOE AMBROSIA MILLER
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And speaking of inequality, it’s not just your partner whom you think low of; the root could be from within you. Control issues sometimes spring up when you are suffering from low selfesteem and seek to feed the ego by imposing dominance over your partner. This way, you are feeding your need for dependence by not admitting it out