The Harbinger: Issue 10

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SHAWNEE MISSION EAST 7500 MISSION ROAD PRAIRIE VILLAGE, KS 66208 FEB 5, 2018 VOLUME LIX ISSUE 10

We learn. We sing. We fall. We laugh. We lose. We love.

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It’s a wonderful, difficult, amazing, confusing thing – something we don’t always understand.

But whether we understand it or not, it’s a part of life every single day.

We wanted to write a story about love. But we realized that we couldn’t show every aspect in one story.

To show the story – the full story – of love, we need every story. The joy of growing with a partner. The reseilience of being independent in the face of love. The heartbreak, the grief that comes from love.

Our attempt isn’t perfect – but neither is love. We hope that if nothing else, these stories can show what we do.

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LACK OF SEXUAL EDUCATION . . . 12

A lt- C o p y

TEACHERS ON LOVE . . . . . . . . . . 13

F e at u r e s THREE COUPLES . . . . . . . . . . . 14/15 GRIEF IS PART OF LOVE. . . . . . . 16/17

the harbinger staff.

PRINT EDITORS-INCHIEF Grace Chisholm Robbie Veglahn

A&E

PLAYLISTS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18

OPINION

AGAINST TEEN ROMANCE. . . . . . . 19

editorial policy.

The Harbinger is a student-run publication. Published editorials express the views of the Harbinger staff. Signed columns published in the Harbinger express the writer’s personal opinion. The contents and views of the Harbinger do not represent the student body, faculty, administration or Shawnee Mission School District. The Harbinger will not share any unpublished content, but quoted material may be confirmed with sources. The Harbinger encourages letters to the editors, but reserves the right to reject them for reasons including but not limited to lack of space, multiple letters of the same topic and personal attacks contained in the letter.

The Harbinger will not edit content though letters may be edited for clarity, length, libel or mechanics. Letters should be sent to room 521 or emailed to smeharbinger@gmail.com.

ASST. PRINT EDITORS Emily Fey Lizzie Kahle HEAD COPY EDITOR Daisy Bolin ART & DESIGN EDITOR Katie Hise ONLINE EDITORS-INCHIEF Reser Hall Kaleigh Koc ASST. ONLINE EDITORS Annabelle Cook Will Tulp ASST. DESIGN EDITOR Grace Padon PRINT SECTION EDITORS Editorial- Gracie Kost News- Lucy Patterson Opinion- Ava Johnson & Sarah Wilcox Features- Abby Walker & Gabby Leinbach Spread- Caroline Chisholm & Lila Tulp A&E- Carolyn Popper & Grace Padon Sports- Elias Lowland & Meg Thoma

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Three East Forensic students qualified for state at their first tournament of the year in Lansing, KS on Jan. 26 and 27. Senior Matthew Trecek qualified in Prose, sophomore Lucy Brock in Poetry and Impromptu and sophomore Emory Apodaca in Informative.

“We had some good results for it being the first tournament, but the squad is looking forward to getting more qualifiers before state,” Brock said.

In a given tournament, participants perform either a prepared or impromptu piece in front of judges. By the end of the three preliminary rounds on the first day, six East students had qualified for finals.

Other students that made the finals but didn’t qualify for state were senior Emma Hunt in Poetry, senior Jacob Roberts in Program of Oral Interpretation and sophomore Aaron Berlau in Prose.

Forensics students that didn’t make the cut for state can try for qualification in the upcoming tournaments, according to Brock. Tournaments are held nearly every weekend and students sign up for them independently. The state tournament is set to be held at Olathe North High School May 4 and 5. The students already headed to state are now preparing for another goal: nationals.

“There are two national tournaments over the summer that we haven’t qualified for,” Brock said. “That is the biggest thing we’ll be working towards for a while.”

A school-based health clinic opened at Merriam Park Elementary School on Tuesday. SMSD partnered with Health Partnership Clinics, a health service similar to a minute clinic, to offer an exclusive medical service to all students in Shawnee Mission including the Early Childhood Education Center.

The new clinic offers medical and behavioral care provided by doctors for students ranging from elementary to high school. The hours on Tuesdays are 12:30 to 3:30 p.m. for walk-in health services and 8:30 to 11:30 a.m. on Wednesdays for behavioral health services.

The center is focused on pediatric care including sick child visits, well-child sports physicals, immunizations, chronic disease care such as asthma, nutritional guidance and mental health services.

School day hours make it difficult for students to utilize the center. Senior Paige McClelland always seems to have the common cold and thinks it is a great step in helping kids in SMSD, but that the hours are limiting.

“I think it’s great to have a health clinic within our district,” McClelland said. “[But] since the hours aren’t very long and only open during school I probably wouldn’t be able to go often.”

Shelby Rebeck, the SMSD Health Coordinator, believes the program provides an opportunity for students to receive critical health care they otherwise wouldn’t receive. With the clinic, students will have proper access to the resources they need for their health which will lead to success in the classroom and improve attendance.

“The idea is to break down barriers to health care,” Rebeck said. “Barriers for many of our students include low income, lack of transportation, lack of awareness, and parents’/guardians’ inability to take time away from hourly jobs.

FORENSICS EVENTS

O R A L INTER PRETATION OF LI TERATURE P L ATFOR M SPE AK ING L I MITED SPE AK ING DEBATE

President Donald Trump commemorated the U. S.’s past and gave way to new beginnings in his first State of the Union Address Tuesday. He addressed both the Senate and House of Representatives in a joint Congress at the Capitol.

Sophomore Tatum Hood believes that Trump’s speech was informative, but that he countered his statements as the address continued. NowThis Politics calculated that Trump averaged one false statement every five minutes.

“I think he made good points about unity in his speech,” Hood said. “But he also contradicted himself when talking about ‘the wall’ and standing for the pledge.”

Trump pointed to several statistics to mark the progress that the country has made since he took office. He listed the successes thus far, such as the 2.4 million new jobs created since the election, the lowest unemployment rate in 45 years and enactment of tax cuts that will save the average American family $4,000.

“We have gone forward with a clear vision and a righteous mission – to make America great again for all Americans,” Trump said.

The majority of Trump’s speech elaborated on goals for the future.

Among other plans such as improving veterans health care and lowering costs of prescription drugs, he introduced the proposal for a “Merit-Based Immigration System.” The new legislation would reform family immigration rules and build a wall at the southern border.

The President called upon Congress to set aside differences and seek common ground. According to Trump, there has never been a better time to start living the American dream as we move towards a stronger and safer nation, according to Trump.

TOP | Sophomore class president Ian Gould

communicates with his teammates during the annual StuCo trivia night. | LUKE HO FFM A N

MIDDLE | Junior Max Bare smiles and remains PROSE, POETRY, DRAMA, DUO, READER’S THEATRE, PROGRAMMED ORAL INTERPRETATION

INFORMATIVE, PERSUASIVE, COMMUNICATION ANALYSIS, SPEECH TO ENTERTAIN OR AFTER DINNER SPEECH

calm while a bird lands on his head during Environmental Science. | K AT HE RINE M cGinNE S S

BOTTOM | Lancer Band members play flutes

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and other woodwind instruments during a boys varsity basketball game last week. | K ATE INFORMATION COURTESY OF S CCOLLEGE .EDU

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FANDOM The video game Fortnite: Battle Royale has become the number one played game on Xbox and an obsession at East

BY HARRIS ON GOOLEY Copy Editor

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deploy DECISIONS LOOT LAKE Loot Lake is full of buildings with hidden chests, including a mansion, a tower, stone house and two warehouses.

In order to start a game of Fortnite, players must “deploy” to one of the map’s 18 locations. Here is a look at East’s favorite places to start the game

information courtsey of http://orcz. com/Fortnite_Battle_Royale:_Map

TOMATO TOWN This small town is home to a fast food restaurant and gas station.

Chests are often found behind the counter of the restauant DUSTY DEPOT Explore abandoned warehouses, which can hold up to three chests. The small alleyways between the warehouses are known for their potential to hold legendary gear.

FATAL FIELDS Located on the southern part of the map, Fatal Fields is a big farm with barns and crop fields. The barns have a high chance of loot spawns inside them. Players find this location very similar to Anarchy Acres, which is located at the nothern end of the map.

he storm eye is closing.

Senior Sam McKnight is racing through Dusty Depot to get to the eye of the storm that’s closing around Loot Lake. He has a gold SCAR assault rifle, a blue Burst, a blue AR, four grenades and a medkit.

There are three people left and one of them is building a massive stone fort on the center island.

McKnight hides in a bush until it’s only him and one other player. The other player jumps from his fort as the storm closes on top of it and McKnight picks him off as he’s jumping through the lake for the win. #1 Victory Royale *** Fortnite: Battle Royale– the most popular game on Xbox One, according to Microsoft. From Tilted Towers to Lonely Lodge, 100 players dive into locations on an island to fight in a free-for-all battle, searching through gold chests, houses and stables to find shields and guns. Throughout the game, players make their way into the eye of the storm that is constantly closing in over the island. The storm forces players to move across the map, bringing them together to battle and slim the number of fighters down to one winner. If a player is hit by the storm, their health is decreased until they escape.

Since its release on Sept. 26, the game has gained a massive following. Within the first 24 hours after the launch, Battle Royale reached one million players.

They hit 10 million after two weeks, and on Jan. 19, Epic Games announced they had reached 45 million players total and a record of two million concurrent players.

Walking through the halls at East, you’ll hear “I got a sick snipe last night in Fortnite,” or “I had a purple SCAR, two green pumps, a gold RPG and two medkits when I won Sunday.” Fortnite has replaced other popular games, filling the spots of Call of Duty and FIFA. For players like McKnight , it’s become a daily ritual. Run to the parking lot, drive home, grab some Doritos and start playing. Senior Matt Hogan has been playing since Fortnite’s release in September,

55.9 PERCENT* of East males play Fortnite: Battle Royale

while the craze hadn’t hit East until late December.

The aspect of the game that keeps him playing is not the winning, but the losing.

“When you lose it’s like ‘I gotta play another game. I gotta get a dub,’” Hogan said. “And once you get that first win of the day, you can’t stop trying to win again and again.”

There are three different game modes: solo, duo and squad, which is a group of four players who work together to be the last alive. In a poll sent out to the student body, 47 percent of students who play Fortnite said their most played game mode was squads.

For McKnight, having played since winter break, Fortnite has brought back the middle school Xbox 360 gaming days.

“We used to get on Live all the time in middle school,” McKnight said. “We played all day and night, only taking bathroom and food breaks.”

Today, many high school students are back to their old gaming antics. Xbox Live and PlayStation Plus allows players to join parties and talk over a microphone, giving them the social aspect of playing the game together while in separate places.

But the talk of Chug Jugs and Launch Pads doesn’t stop at just students. Teacher and soccer coach Jamie Kelly got into the game after hearing the buzz from his students.

“One of the best things about being a high school teacher is hearing about all the new games that everyone is playing,” Kelly said. “So I downloaded Fortnite and I just love it, I can’t stop playing.”

The game didn’t launch to the number one played game on Xbox because of the 100 versus 100 free-for-all aspect or the sniper rifles only Sniper Shootout game mode. Unlike most games, Fortnite is completely free to download and play. You can download it from the Xbox or Playstation Store. Not only is it free, but there are no advantages for players who have played the game longer than others.

“It’s not a pay-to-win game,” Kelly said. “Every player starts out with the same thing, so no matter how long you’ve been playing, everyone is on the same playing field.”

44.8 percent* of students who play Fornite: Battle Royale play in “squad” more the most *taken from a poll of 356

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ady Gaga mumbled two words under her breath before she began to sing her hit song “Joanne” on Jan. 28 at the 2018 Grammys. With a white rose pinned to her chest she said, “Time’s up.”

Multiple artists, including Sam Smith, Miley Cyrus, and Cardi B wore white roses to spread awareness of the Time’s Up campaign – a movement started by a group of actresses, lawyers, and more to eliminate sexual misconduct against women in the workplace according to timesupnow.com.

Time’s Up was established by a group of women who wanted to not only speak out about their own experiences with assault, abuse and harassment, but for other women, too. They created timesupnow.com to give all women a platform to speak out against such misconduct.

The timesupnow.com website states: “To every janitor trapped nightly in a building with a predatory supervisor, every waitress grabbed by a customer and expected to take it with a smile, we stand with you. We support you.”

The East feminist club has been following

Actresses, lawyers and others speak out against sexual misconduct with the “Time’s Up” movement

BY MEGAN FUNKEY Staff Writer

this movement.

“It is helping our club here at East and is hitting home because we’re building off of that momentum,” senior and Feminist Club co-president Ellie Van Gorden said.

The campaign first entered the public eye on Jan. 7, the night of the 2018 Golden Globe Awards. Actors and actresses who attended the Globes wore black dresses, tuxedos and small black pins that said “Times Up” to support the movement.

Retired director Joel Feigenbaum wrote, directed, and produced movies and TV shows in Hollywood for 28 years. He now does smaller projects in Kansas City, and he has been following the movement as well.

“It gets more attention, than if someone in a profession that some people might say is not as glamorous comes forward, their revelations are equally as important but it might not make headlines,” Feigenbaum said.

“There’s always bad actors, and I don’t mean actors in the profession of acting, I mean people that act badly, now they are being called out and paying the consequences. Its long overdue what’s happening.”

After receiving the Cecil B. DeMille award for lifetime achievement at the Golden Globes, Oprah Winfrey made a speech addressing the movement. Her speech was an introduction to the younger generation of what should be expected in the future and when the future comes it will be because of

What’s Up with Time’s Up Nearly 50 percent of men think women are wellrepresented in leadership in companies where only one in ten senior leaders is a woman.

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Nearly half of working women in the U.S. say they have experienced harassment in the workplace.

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the men and women that are speaking out now.

“So I want all the girls watching here, now, to know that a new day is on the horizon!”

Winfrey said in her acceptance speech. “And when that new day finally dawns, it will be because of a lot of the magnificent women ... and some pretty phenomenal men, fighting hard to make sure that they become the leaders who take us to the time when nobody ever has to say ‘Me too’ again.”

After the Globes, Reese Witherspoon, Hugh Jackman and Claire Foy auctioned off their gowns and tuxedos on eBay with minimum bids starting at $2,500 and going all the way to $10,000. The money made was donated to the Time’s Up GoFundMe. The GoFundMe is a website being used to raise money for women and men who have experienced sexual harassment, assault, or abuse. This site is administered by the National Women’s Law Center. Anyone can donate any amount of money on the website.

Their goal is $20 million, and the site is updated every day.

The funds raised will go directly to those in need and provide money for legal resources to support men and women in court if they do not have the resources for legal assistance. In less than one month, they have raised around $19 million. Actresses including Witherspoon, Meryl Streep and Jennifer Aniston have each donated

Statistics of misconduct against women in the workforce

One in three women ages 18 to 34 have been sexually harassed at work.

Seventy-one percent of those women said they did not report it.

$500,000 to the GoFundMe. “No one has more influence over our culture than celebrities and they have finally used their voice for good and they are people that the whole world is watching,” senior and Feminist Club co-president Iman Jaroudi said.

Over three hundred women signed the letter on the Time’s Up website to start talking and breaking the silence. Since then some of the women have been interviewed about their experiences with harassment and abuse such as Witherspoon and America Ferrera. They have come together to use their high platforms to put an end to the silence and share their stories of harassment.

“Backing this movement in the very public eye, everyone is wearing black and everyone is wearing a white rose,” Van Gorden said. When you have that, there’s no stopping it. It’s done. This isn’t going away.”

A QR code to the Time’s Up official website

Approximately one third of women think women are wellrepresented when they see one-in-ten in leadership positions.

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AS SMSD TRANSITIONS into a new partnership with Republic Services, 31 elementary schools and two middle schools have been left without recycling dumpsters, forcing recyclable material into the trash.

Republic Services, the trash service provider for SMSD since 2014, is now working to deliver new recycling dumpsters to all schools within the next few weeks. Currently, all five area high schools, three middle schools and two

Schools are left without recycling services after SMSD switches providers

elementary schools have received new recycling dumpsters.

The SMSD Board of Education switched from Waste Corporation of America, its previous recycling provider, due to inconsistency according Joan Leavens, SMSD Coordinator of Sustainability and Community Engagement. Some buildings were having recycling picked up on a regular basis while for others it was irregular, and some schools did not receive service at all, Leavens said.

“Because our recycling service has been intermittent during the past six months or so, the Shawnee Mission School District is transitioning to a new recycling partner in order to provide consistency in our recycling service,” Leavens said.

East has received

one new dumpster and will receive another sometime in the next several weeks. To ensure the material would be recycled and not just sent to a landfill, some schools saved their recycled material until the new bins arrive.

The new bins will be picked up twice a week according to East Building Manager Dale Clark, but until then schools will have a build up recyclable material, such as papers and plastics, in the trash.

“I think it’s terrible, and that this kind of oversight shouldn’t be a possibility at all,” Junior Camille Vandergriff said. “I believe that even if this problem seems insignificant, it’ll make quite a bit of an impact in our landfills because of our school containing so many people, together creating a crazy amount of trash.”

Though Vandergriff thinks the lack of recycling services for schools is a major error

on the part of the district, SMSD is excited to have the new partnership with Republic, according to Leavens. They believe the implementation of Republic Services as the recycling partner will be beneficial for the school system due to the responsiveness and reliability of its work picking up trash in the past.

In previous years, the district has made a point in watching the amount of trash the schools are producing. SMSD has consistently diverted 80 percent of waste produced in school cafeterias and compost it back into school gardens or new materials instead of going into landfills.

“We are excited to have this new partnership in place as we complete implementation of cafeteria recycling and composting in all schools and administrative centers in Shawnee Mission this spring,” Leavens said.

INTENTIONS

BY MIRANDA HACK Staff Writer

SMSD chooses list of “top tier” candidates in search for new superintendent

IN AN EXECUTIVE session with Ray & Associates, the firm leading the search for a new superintendent, the SMSD Board of Education narrowed down the initial superintendent applicants to a short list of “top tier” candidates Jan. 20.

The first round of interviews for the candidates has begun, initiating one of the last stages in this process.

According to the official timeline established at the meeting, the process has now entered the fourth out of five stages in the search. In this stage, called “Candidate Presentation”, the top candidates are selected and interviewed by the board “There’s a possibility that it could take us all the way through February, into March perhaps,” board member and East parent Dr. Mary Sinclair said. “The lack of specificity on that, actually, as I’m learning in that process, is also about providing the confidentiality for the applicants.”

Through surveys sent out by R&A, as well as cri-

teria established by the Student Superintendent Search Team, the East and district community added valuable input to the search, according to Sinclair.

Additionally, questions that district members would want their superintendent to answer were submitted and are being used in the interview, according to Sinclair. She believes that these criteria, which include good communication and strong instructional leadership, will aid in selecting a superintendent who will fit the needs of the district.

The SSST, a group of district high schoolers formed last September, also provided their own feedback on what the district should look for in a superintendent. According to junior Luke Bledsoe, a member of the team, experience and authority were considered to be some of the most “top priority” attributes to the students.

“I think it’s important that students get involved

in this,” Bledsoe said. “I think these district administrators don’t always engage with students on a personal, day to day level, so I think adding students to that decision process is adding a voice for the people who are actually affected by the choices made.”

In addition to direct community participation, Dr. Sinclair is responsible for representing the East community as the process moves forward, according to Principal John McKinney. The board hopes to have a final candidate selected and an offer made

by March, Sinclair said.

“We elected [Dr. Sinclair] to represent our community, and I trust her to do just that,” McKinney said. “I am confident that the seven members of the board will do their due diligence and make sure they choose a candidate who will represent the district as a whole, equally and fairly.”

IN DEMAND The most-desired qualities of the new superintendent

“STUDENTS FIRST” PHILOSOPHY “committed in all decisions”

STRONG COMMUNICATOR “speaking, listening and writing”

SUPPORTS PARENT INVOLVEMENT “build consensus among groups”

EFFECTIVE LEADER “respond to challenges presented”

CONSISTENT WITH DISTRICT INTERESTS INFORMATION COURTESY OF SMSD.ORG

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After having her near future already planned out by her parents, the far future is taken into own hands

BY SARAH BLEDS OE Staff Writer

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y fourth grade career planning test told me I should be a funeral director. I was crushed. My whole entire life I have been told “you have street smarts sweetie and your brothers are just book smart”.

This seemed to promise me that once school was over, I would flourish in the working world with a personable job.

But instead, I got funeral director. That was the day I decided I needed to take control of my future – not some randomized career website.

My family moved into the East district when I was in fourth grade, specifically for the International Baccalaureate program. My brothers participated and excelled in it, so naturally I’m expected to do the same. I, of course, would start debate and forensics just like both my brothers had. My mom who has always had a passion for journalism and wish she pursued it as a career, made it clear she wanted to live vicariously through me and the Harbinger since I was nineyears-old.

My whole high school career was completely planned out for me by the time I was in fourth grade. All of a sudden, I didn’t have to wonder whether to take AP Calc or stats, or whether I’d be on Harbinger or Hauberk.

But as a nine-year-old I wasn’t focused on my high school classes, I wanted to plan the future. With my immediate

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future decided whether I liked it or not, I could start to plan out the distant future exactly how I wanted it, not anyone else. So I fell in love, I fell in love with the dream and idea or being able to control my destiny.

Throughout my endless plans, I have figured out a few things. First, there is a strange sense of security in having an idea of what you are going to do in the future, and second, that no matter how much you think you have planned, there is always more you can do. But it’s the idea I love; the idea that I finally have control over something.

So here is the plan: I will graduate high school close to the top of the class and head off to college. I want an acceptance letter form Columbia University, but with only a six percent acceptance rate and a whopping $75,000-a-year price tag, I need a backup. New York University, an amazing school in its own right is the perfect safer option with a 33 percent acceptance.

Once I graduate from college I plan to stay in New York because I have always loved the city ever since I visited for the opening of the American Girl Doll store when I was six.

I want to work at Cosmopolitan or Buzzfeed in marketing and sales.

I want to get married at the age of 24, which may sound young. But my parents have now been married for 26 years and were married at the age of 22, which is something I am extremely jealous of and plan for myself. Once I get married, I want to move to Seattle because I absolutely love the rain and the public school system is one of the best for when I have kids.

After I have three kids - two older boys and the youngest

a girl named Elizabeth, I will start working again. I plan to start my own interior design business when I am about 35 and my kids are in school. I have loved interior design ever since I was 12 and accidentally painted my room brown with lime green accents and HATED it. But I loved planning so I began planning my ideal bedroom. I put myself on a budget and had multiple layout plans scattered around my room.

On a Saturday night in seventh grade my dream started to become a reality - I moved all my furniture to the center of the room and started to paint. I chose a beautiful light blue and painted for three days straight.

The next day when I went over to a friend’s house, I found out that my grandmother came over and repainted my whole room to fix the “imperfections”. It was just another dream that I was unable to control myself, so I went further in the future when I would finally be an adult and no one could sneak in my room and change my hard work.

After I retire, I want to move to wherever my children have migrated to so I can spend the most time with them, without being too much of an insane, clingy parent. But instead to be the grandmother who bakes famous chocolate chip cookies.

I know I can’t predict the future and I know everything won’t turn out exactly how I planned it because after all I’m only fifteen. But even if nothing goes the way I hoped I fell in love with the process of planning. I fell in love with the sense of security you get when can imagine the perfect world for yourself. Because overall my favorite part of my day is planning yet another dream that I can hopefully achieve someday.

spring 2020 Sarah wants to graduate at the top of her class after completing the IB Diploma program

2026 Her dream wedding will occur in 2026 when she is at the young age of 24

fall 2020 class

After graduating, Sarah wants to attend the University of Columbia. She then dreams of living in NYC and working for a fashion magazine

2028 No matter when she has kids, Sarah just wants three kids –two boys and one girl.

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STEP IT UP, PRESIDENT TRUMP

Trump’s rhetoric doesn’t just hurt him – it hurts America, too

BY BRET T WAINWRIGHT Staff Writer

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use Twitter as a way to watch highlights of KU basketball and look at memes.

But now, every time I scroll through Twitter, I see my President acting like a child.

Whether it’s beef between him and Jay-Z or a bunch of political analysts having a roast session about his latest controversy, I loathe the daily Trump Twitter battle.

Before Trump was the most powerful leader in the world, his outlandish rhetoric only reflected poorly on him.

Now as the president, it reflects poorly on all of America.

The ability to share thoughts with the world instantly is powerful and valuable – but Trump has no ability to refine his public thoughts.

It is not that I disagree with the President about everything; I’m just sick of his antics. After one year in office, Trump has tweeted more than 2,500 times. That’s seven tweets per day.

When it comes down to it, Trump’s tweets are just plain unpresidential.

Between his bad grammar, misinformation, and unnecessary aggression, he’s acting like an angry teen ranting, not a president.

Just the other day Trump tweeted out about government funding and he used the word “past” to say that a bill “passed.”

I mean, come on man.

Trump, when you say things like your nuclear button is bigger than Kim JongUn’s and that a female senator “would do anything for” campaign donations, it reflects on poorly all Americans. Mr. President, you are telling everyone that

it’s okay to spread hate – and you’re supposed to be the leader of the greatest and most powerful nation on Earth.

And it’s not just his tweets. His public statements have caused more backlash and controversy than I’ve ever seen.

Trump’s biggest blunder came in early August, when a Robert E. Lee statue was set to be removed in Charlottesville, VA. In response to the two days of protests between white supremacists groups and counter protesters, Trump said: “We condemn in the strongest possible terms this egregious display of hatred, bigotry and violence on many sides, on many

But America? It was different.

Trump’s comments circulated the news for a few days before it faded away and was forgotten. If we don’t keep him accountable, nothing’s going to change.

B R ET T WAI N W R I GH T SEN I O R sides.”

How can the President be allowed to say this publicly to the nation? It should have been easy to discredit Neo-Nazis and Klan members, but that just would’ve been too easy.

His statement condemned the racist protesters and counter protesters equally. In the moment, mistakes can be made, sure. We’ve all said stupid stuff.

But Trump defended his comments with three more subsequent comments.

That’s no mistake.

Trump should have gotten this right the first time and not screwed up.

And by not owning up to his error and apologizing, his defense racism lets

other countries see America as racist, too.

In a European poll taken in December, Trump’s approval rating was at 23 percent. Trump has hurt America’s image with his obscene comments.

The list doesn’t end there. Trump’s most recent error was a quote released

by The Washington Post. Trump in which he said immigrants from Africa and Haiti are coming from, “shithole countries.”

The next day, Der Spiegel, a German newspaper, depicted the President as devolving from man to monkey.

Now, that’s exactly how we want America to look.

There was even more worldwide backlash from this comment when the UN President said that the Trump cannot dismiss entire continents as “shitholes” and Haiti’s former President responded on Twitter with, “Shame on Trump.”

But America? It was different.

Trump’s comments circulated the news for a few days before it faded away and was forgotten. If we don’t keep him accountable, nothing’s going to change.

We’re becoming immune to the problem, and that’s a major problem.

In Trump’s first year he used his power to offend, not lead. Trump is one of the most powerful people on earth – and he needs to act like it.

I would like to see Trump dial down his activeness on Twitter and really think. I mean really sit down and give his comments some good thought before tweeting.

He could learn a lesson or two from an age-old preschool lesson: if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

If only he could just keep his fingers off the keyboard, Trump may be able to survive his second year as president.

If only.

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@realDonaldTrump 2h Lightweight Senator Kirsten Gillibrand , a total flunky for Chuck Schumer and someone who would come to my office “begging” for campaign contributions not so long ago (and would do anything for them), is now in the ring fighting against Trump. Very disloyal to Bill & Crooked- Used!

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FEBRUARY 5, 2018

OPINION

BY S COUT RICE Staff Writer

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his p---grabs back.”

“I’m OvaryReacting? Nope.” “Girls Just Want to Have Fundamental Rights.”

These signs popped up at women’s marches nationwide Jan. 20, the one-year anniversary of Donald Trump’s inauguration.

Whether you went to a women’s march or not, it only takes a simple Google search and you’ll find thousands of different posters from women’s marches in DC, London or any other major city, fighting for equality. Participants are marching for equality for all races, social economic classes and genders.

A classmate once told me that a sign reading “Bitches get shit done” isn’t “ladylike,” the language is not appropriate and such language should be censored in public.

I wanted to tell her to go straight to hell, but I doubted she wouldn’t have been able to overlook the “profanity” to understand the intent of the message.

I don’t find those signs with harsh language inappropriate – in fact, I find them to be badass.

There is no reason a person can’t positively utilize the negative words women have been called over and over again, even by our president. I’ve seen women fight back with their words – and in the funniest way possible.

Clever plays on words and humor in protests has become more relevant in today’s society than ever. One of my favorite signs at a climate change protest this past April in DC read “It’s getting hot in here, so take off all your coals.” Puns like this address a controversial topic without lessening the seriousness of the situation or blatantly hurting the opposing side.

And that’s the point. Using humorous signs with puns about Princess Leia and the resistance is empowering and

CLEVER, NOT CRASS Women’s March signs are empowering in their profanity

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makes people remember the message.

Princess Leia and Carrie Fisher references aren’t the only ones that showed up on colorful posters around the world. While the goal for equality unified women, everyone marched for their own reasons.

Some held up signs purely against President Trump and his derogatory statements about women. But then next to them is a little girl in a pink Statue of Liberty crown holding a pink sign that read “Little girls with dreams become women with a vision.”

Thankfully for that little girl and her dreams, this isn’t the 19th century and its time for everyone to wake up and realize this. Women are no longer meant to sit and serve. We speak out, regardless if spoken to. And we can and will use colorful language to get our points across.

The language sends a message, a powerful one in order to build confidence and unity – not to tear others down. It’s not to call out others negatively but rather to take the insults thrown at women and turn them into something positive–and shocking.

That’s freedom of speech and part of our rights living in the United States, even if it isn’t in a ladylike fashion. The same USA that pledges liberty and justice for all in the national anthem.

Amidst a sea of protesters, a group of young women holding signs reading “P— Power” isn’t negative nor derogatory. They are united in idea, marching for equality like everyone else and focusing on how the language may not be ‘ladylike’ does nothing.

The women’s marches nationwide are meant to empower people. In these past few years, the amount of women powerfully speaking up for themselves, either at a march or as part of the MeToo or TimesUp movement, has grown tremendously.

And it’s not just women. Men participate in marches, holding signs like “feminism is the radical notion that all people are equal.” Crazy, I know.

Whether it was a woman, man or child holding the sign at a women’s march, none of the signs I have seen have been anything less than empowering–regardless of the language.

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FANFICTION FAMOUS

THE HARBINGER

10 F E AT U R E S

Junior has found a love of writing fanfictions on her Tumblr page

BY ALLIS ON WILCOX Staff Writer

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t’s 3 a.m. and junior Jessica Moore is sitting on her bed, meticulously checking her story for spelling and grammatical errors. After proofreading, she posts her story – a romantic fanfiction – on Tumblr.

Just after she hits post, she’s on to the next, checking her DMs to see what her next requested story is.

Moore has found a love for fanfiction. She crafts stories based on games and TV shows and now makes money off of them, up to $150 for a single story.

Moore’s fanfiction stories are based off the DM requests from her 2,135 followers – to the average 500 for other accounts. She writes mostly romance stories about existing characters from TV shows going on adventures including defeating dragons and searching for lost golden treasure “It also kinda helps me live vicariously through characters,” Moore said. “I’m probably never going to go beat up a dragon but I can kinda live through the characters doing that and experience it for myself.”

But Moore wasn’t always sharing her fanfiction online.

Her mom, Jill Moore, wasn’t totally sold on the idea in the beginning.

Moore finally talked to her mother, Jill Moore, about setting up her own fanfiction account on Tumblr.

“I was a little skeptical,” Jill said. “From a parental point of view I was worried about safety and so we set up an email account that doesn’t use her name and a separate PayPal account that doesn’t have records to her name or location.”

Moore has been posting her fanfiction under the username “hypno-rose” since her freshman year. The name came to her immediately when she was watching a TV show and the show portrayed a screen of roses that seemed to

hypnotize her.

Within the past six months, Moore’s account has gained over 1,000 followers.

In order to keep spreading the word of her fanfiction, she uses hashtags such as #writer, #writingcommunity, #commission and many more. This way, more people find and read the stories she has written.

In addition to writing fanfiction about Miraculous Ladybug and Disney characters, she also likes viewing other user’s work. Two of her favorite accounts are “bullysquadess” and “thelastpilot.”

Not only do these accounts write their own fanfiction, but they post writing tips which help Moore. “Show don’t tell” has been their most helpful piece of advice; now, Moore creates vivid images for a reader to imagine with her words, rather than telling them exactly what a scene is like.

Once Moore realized that people were interested in her fanfiction through all the compliments she had received praising her humorous writing style, Moore realized she could make money off her stories.

Different usernames will direct message her through Tumblr and ask her to write about characters from “Grey’s Anatomy”, “True Blood”, and “The X-Files,” to name a few.

They will then negotiate a price. Moore charges $5 for every 100 words and gets her money through PayPal when she posts the completed story. Her stories are often 2,000 to 3,000 words. After writing for commission for three months, Moore has already made over $200.

“I like that it kinda gives me independence from my parents,” Moore said. “I used to ask them for money a lot and I definitely don’t need to do that now.”

Without all of her support from her family and teachers, Moore would not be nearly as successful as she is on Tumblr. One of her teachers in specific, English teacher Amy Andersen, has helped further her writing.

Before she posts, Moore seeks out many opinions.

Whenever Andersen can find time to edit a paragraph or two in between editing ninth grade English essays, Moore appreciates it. Moore sends her pre-work to Tumblr friend “writersoffice” too, who spends one to two days critiquing and polishing Moore’s work.

Andersen says that Moore is an incredibly talented writer and a “rockstar.” Her favorite piece was a story about a girl named Serena who saved a castle ball from a dragon where Moore went above and beyond.

“She designed and sewed costumes for the characters in her stories, and it was amazing,” Andersen said Ever since Moore had Anderson as her creative writing teacher, she has been able to critique her work, even though she is no longer in her class.

In addition to Tumblr, Moore also shares her stories in print, such as East’s literary and fine arts magazine, The Freelancer.

Moore submitted two pieces, both highly-rated on Tumblr, which will both be published in this year’s Freelancer after being accepted.

Moore’s work is spread across the country – even to the small town of Billings, Montana.

Moore’s grandfather lives in Billings and prints out each of her stories and runs them all across town showing the librarian, who continues to show more people so that everyone in the area knows the name, Jessica Moore.

Moore said that even if the demand for fanfiction ever drops, she still wants to continue writing and explore different genres to write about, whether it’s ghosts in the supernatural world or Greek goddesses in mythological stories to keep improving her writing skills. Her top goal is to graduate college and become a professional writer.

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FEBRUARY 5, 2018

F E AT U R E S

Without Latin, junior Nat Nitsch would not be the same person she is today

BY GABBY L EI N BAC H Staff Writer

T

hen-sophomore Nat Nitsch frantically makes her way through the crowd. The loose folds of the blueand-white-pinstriped bed sheet functioning as an ancient Greek peplos billow as she runs.

“Someone please help!” she screams.

“Caesar has been killed!”

She directs her fellow actors to the Shawnee Mission Northwest stage where the 2017 Latin convention is being held, and where then freshman Oscar Conway lies “dead.”

At the end of the convention, Nitsch and the rest of Latin club were awarded first place for their murder mystery skit “Search and Caesar.” The reward: a paper-mache pig they named “Porkus.”

But performing skits at convention is only part of why she loves this language.

Latin has influenced all aspects of her high school career from her relationships to her IB classes.

Outside of Latin conventions or fifth hour Latin 3, the language has changed the way Nitsch thinks about other subjects. Knowing that the ending “ides” means “children of” helped her quickly grasp that chloride is an ion, or child, of chlorine in chemistry.

Knowing that “tangent” means “they touch” made tangent lines in IB Higher Level Math make more sense. But, according to Nitsch, her Latin knowledge helps her most in English.

“I think a lot of people take Latin expecting it to be useful in the same way that Spanish is useful, but it’s so useful in a

completely different way,” Nitsch said. “The language is very complex and grammar heavy. It changes the way you think about English because you see all of those structures a little bit differently, and you pay attention to them.”

Nitsch has always been one of those rare students that looks forward to going to school every day, but Latin has made her enjoy each subject even more.

Through Latin club and her fifth hour Latin class, Nitsch has met over 50 people

I think a lot of people take Latin expecting it to be useful in the same way that Spanish is useful, but it’s so useful in a completely different way.

N AT N I TS C H JUNIOR in the last three years, including some of her closest friends and her boyfriend, 2017 East graduate Caleb Hanlon.

Nitsch and Hanlon met at a Latin club meeting her freshman year. In April of her sophomore year, Hanlon asked her to prom at a Latin convention, with a sign that read, “Life without you would be pain itself. Nat, prom?” an inside joke about “lorem ipsum,” commonly used as placeholder text.

“It’s in Latin,” Nitsch said. “It’s kind of like word salad. It doesn’t actually mean anything, but the first couple words translate roughly to, ‘Pain itself,’ and that was on our T-shirts two years ago.”

Nitsch, Hanlon and other Latin club members took a 10-day trip to Italy last summer. While touring Venice, Florence, Sorrento and Rome, Nitsch was able to read signs in Latin, making her realize once again how much she loves the language.

Though Nitsch wasn’t yet elected consul, Latin for co-president, Hanlon saw her taking it upon herself to make sure everyone was having a good time, even if they were jetlagged or just having a bad day.

“I’ve never met someone who puts so much hard work into making sure that others are cared for,” Hanlon said. “Obviously Latin is something that she absolutely adores, and she cares about the people there.”

Since a young age Nitsch has loved classical music and other classical things.

According to her mother, Susan, it isn’t a surprise that she chose to study this ancient language freshman year.

“Latin has really impacted her because it’s opening up a whole new vocabulary that’s been used in so many other languages, or in professions like law and medicine,” Susan said. “She just loves it, she loves learning about the ancient civilizations and all that, and then getting to travel there just kind of pieced it all together for her.”

Nitsch struggles to imagine her life without the ultimate discus competitions, Latin conventions or Cena Romanas — Roman dinners — at Cinzetti’s with Latin teacher Athanasia Worley.

“Without Latin, I honestly have no idea what I would be like as a person,” Nitsch said. “I would be completely different, and probably not as enthusiastic about anything as I am now.”

Nat’s favorite LATIN CLUB activities ULTIMATE DISCUS: ultimate frisbee, but with a latin twist

COIN CLEANING.

polishing and restoring old roman coins

BREAKOUT: latin themed breakout rooms

CENA ROMANA: a Roman dinner held at Cinzetti's

ABOVE | Nitsch focuses on her most recent Latin

assignment: reading and translating De Bello Gallico.

ABOVE | Nitsch laughs in her Latin three classroom as her teacher makes a funny expression.

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THE HARBINGER

SPECIAL SECTION EDITORIAL

PROTECTION PROGRAM FOR: 15 AGAINST: 0 The United States education system needs to provide a cohesive and comprehendable sexual education program that proves beneficial to teenagers

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on’t have sex. Because you will get pregnant, and you will die.”

“Mean Girls” characterized it best – the non-comprehensive sex education plaguing our nation.

While real sex education isn’t this extreme, teens often do hear scare tactics when learning about sex. Many adults are uncomfortable with the idea of teenage sexuality, even though 47 percent of all high schoolers have had sex, according to a 2011 survey from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention.

When the Harbinger sent out a poll to students including questions about sex, parents complained to administrators saying the questions were inappropriate.

If we can’t have discussions about sex, we can’t expect teenagers to practice safe sex.

The system is failing because of an inability to agree nationally on a sex education curriculum that will inform and protect youth from unplanned pregnancy,

STDs and more. We need comprehensive sex education that covers more than just abstinence. We need to redefine sex education so students actually benefit from the information.

There is no consistency in sex education in the U.S. Some states teach abstinence alone, while 24, including Kansas don’t even mandate sex education. In Kansas, there isn’t a set curriculum for schools to follow, though every program must stress abstinence, as required by law.

SMSD enforces an abstinence-plus program, meaning abstinence is pushed, but information on HIV and contraception is also included.

At East, many don’t feel their sex education was beneficial. In a poll sent out to predominantly upperclassman group chats, 50 percent of 208 students who took health – both in class and online – didn’t remember learning anything about sex education. Of students who remembered covering sex, only 10.9 percent of online

and 24.1 percent of in-class students found the information helpful. The remaining students recorded that the information was only “somewhat” helpful or not helpful at all.

Inadequate sex education isn’t just a Kansas problem — it’s an America problem.

Even though the national pregnancy rate is declining, we still have the highest teen birth rate in the industrialized world, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures.

The Netherland’s teen birth rate is five times lower than the U.S.’s. In the Netherlands, comprehensive sex education is taught as early as age four. In fact, sex must be taught in primary school by law.

Students don’t just learn about abstinence – they learn about different sexual preferences, birth control and condoms.

Some might think the Netherlands’ early exposure to sex would cause teens to have sex early and often, but according to the World Health Organization, Dutch

teens don’t have sex any earlier than other European countries, or the United States.

However, 90 percent use contraceptives the first time, compared to the 60 percent of U.S. teens who reported condom use and 23 percent who reported birth control use, according to a 2011 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention survey.

Teenagers are going to have sex, and we need to talk about it in order to prevent unwanted pregnancy and STDs. Learning about sex at a young age causes the act to be less of an elusive mystery.

The teen pregnancy patterns in U.S. states are similar, with comprehensive sex education being connected to lower teen pregnancy rates. As shown by a poll from Guttmacher Institute, four of the six states with the highest teenage birth rates have no mandate requiring sex or HIV education mandate.

To quote the health teacher in “Mean Girls,” “Everyone take some rubbers!”

A Matter of Facts 47%

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7/10 PEOPLE ENGAGE IN SEXUAL INTERCOURSE BEFORE 19

SCHOOLERS HAVE HAD SEX NINETY PERCENT OF SEXUALLY ACTIVE TEENS THAT DON’T USE CONTRACEPTIVES HAVE THE CHANCE OF BECOMING PREGNANT WITHIN A YEAR

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38 STATES REQUIRE PARENT INVOLVEMENT FOR MINORS SEEKING ABORTIONS

TEENS MAKE UP 1/4 OF SEXUALLY ACTIVE POPULATION BUT ACCOUNT FOR 1/2 OF STD CASES PER YEAR

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hours after intercourse “THE PILL” has many other uses than preventing pregnancy CONDOMS are prone to

failure during use, leading to STD’s or pregnancy

PLAN B is an “anytime” emergency backup plan to prevent pregnancy “THE PILL” & PLAN B are the same thing CONDOMS will always be a safe contraceptive

FEBRUARY 5, 2018

s r e h c a te l ives e v h a oo! t Teachers confess to their favorite relationship moments

DESIGN K ATIE HISE PHOTOS JULIA PERCY

S P E C I A L S E C T I O N A LT- C O P Y

Mr. Paris

married 40 years 3 stepchildren & 4 grandkids His first date: “I took a young lady to a dance at Shawnee Mission North and I had known her before but she was really a daughter of a friend of my folks. Before, she was kinda shy and had braces on but when I picked her up her braces were off and she was gorgeous. I mean I fell madly in love with her, I just went “wow” when she came around the corner in her yellow dress: I can still see her.

So that was a very special first date. Unfortunately she didn’t respond the same way I did, she just liked me. But you know it was pretty memorable”

Mrs. Feinberg married 12 years 2 kids & expecting

most memorable part of her wedding: “The only thing I wanted to do on our wedding was have fun. We have pictures, like I was on a table and I was dancing on the table and they picked up the table too. ... It was pretty fun and I was like sweaty, I was dripping sweat. It was so great. It was just really fun. Like it was nice, I liked our flower arrangements and we had a really nice cake and like the place was really cool and the food was great and all of that was important but I just wanted to enjoy it you know. I think some people work so hard on weddings but then they don’t have fun right I just wanted to have fun and we had a pretty good time.”

What her husband would say about their relationship: “Um he would say that I’m crazy. And that we try to have as much fun as we possibly can because life is long and hard.”

Love advice to high schoolers: “Don’t. Fall in love. Do not fall in love. It’s too stressful, just say high school romances are doomed. The only chance you have is if you go to a different school cause you don’t see each other all the time and then you can maybe maintain it. So I would wait and just have nice, light-hearted friendships.

The love thing, wait until you can handle it so maybe about 25? That’s what I tell them, don’t fall in love. Now if you have already, I’m so sorry, hope you’re okay.”

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Mr. Kramer dating

His first crush: “If you would’ve asked me when I was in elementary school I would have told you that I was going to marry this particular person and they actually at the time probably would’ve said the same thing. It was kind of a cute little deal... It was a really small school, everybody knew everybody. I liked the fact that, you know, on the playground she seemed to be into sports. She was a good basketball player and she was actually a national champion in the what used to be called the Elks Hoop shoot, it was a free throw contest. Other than that it’s all the same stuff we always like about people.”

Worst love advice ever received: “The worst dating advice I have ever received has probably been given to me a dozen times. Anything that encourages a person to be something they’re not, is terrible advice.

To “play the game”, or to “play hard to get,” or anything that paints an inaccurate picture of oneself. What is the point? I’ve never wanted to do that. I just wanted to find the person that lets me be me, to let me love them and care for them, and to share a relationship that is as easy as it’s supposed to be.”

how she met her husband: “So nerdy but I actually always sort of knew him at KU, we were kind of friends.

People would tell me that they thought he was cute and I was his friend and I started setting him up on dates all the time cause I didn’t want him to

know that I thought he was cute. But we started dating when he was the president of his fraternity and I was the president of my sorority. So we started doing all of this leadership stuff and something called president forum and that’s when we started dating.”

First crush as a kid: “I just was not, like, into boys. I’m trying to remember a date. Also even in college people would be like ‘how was the date?’ I’d be like ‘it wasn’t a date.’ I was always in denial about anything. Except the girl I lived with my sophomore year,

when Matt would call, would always write ‘your husband called’ and it would just completely make me mad. I always said ‘what is wrong with you?’ and she still, of course, reminds me of that. I was just really weird about it.”

Dr. Leonard married 18 years 2 kids

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S P E C I A L S E C T I O N F E AT U R E S

XOXO, Henry

Junior Henry Kartsonis has been in love and out of love, but his self love never ends

BY LIZZIE K AHLE Assistant Print Editor

W

hen junior Henry Kartsonis came out as gay to his mother at the age of 13, she fell to her knees.

She raised her palms to the sky, praising the Lord above for blessing her with a gay son. While this was the first time it was verbalized, they both knew in their hearts since Henry was young enough to pick out his own outfits. As Kartsonis entered his teenage years, as well into the world of dating, his mother’s love was the first to encourage him to embrace his sexual identity.

The concept of love has always played a key factor in Kartsonis’s life. The platonic love between his two best friends, juniors Patrick Barnickel and Joey Albano, perseveres him through tough breakups.

His own self love allows him to freely express his flamboyant personality and fashion sense. And the love within the East community kept his head held high amongst the signs that read “God Hates Fags” during the Westboro Baptist Church protest.

“And I’ve been in love twice,” Kartsonis said as his freshly manicured, white acrylic nails nervously tapped the table.

His first romantic relationship at the age of 14 lasted for three months. When they broke up, Albano gave him the best relationship advice he’s ever received.

“He told me to ‘go home, curl up in bed with a box of chocolates, turn on a rom-com and fall asleep,'” Katsonis said. “‘When you wake up the next morning, the outlook you have will determine how you will feel for the rest of the breakup.’”

But like any first heartbreak, emotional pain took over. His first loss of love was so severe, he lacked the energy to find direction in his own life, and the pain in his chest caused his lungs to shut down from the stress, landing him in the emergency room.

“Love almost killed me once,” Kartsonis said with a laugh. “But I’m still here, fabulous as ever!”

He wouldn’t find out the reason he lost his first love until he met Reis. After being introduced through a mutual friend at a football game in Sept., they instantly clicked. After exchanging Snapchats that night, within a week Reis invited him to a barbeque. Their first date consisted of talking and laughing for hours, with no room for awkward silences or forced conversations.

“I finally felt like I could be myself around someone,” Kartsonis said. “It’s not that I can’t be myself [at East] or I can’t be myself around my friends, but it just felt different. It felt like love.”

They became the epitome of the cliche “opposites attract.” Kartsonis describes himself as a “gaygay” while he describes Reis as a “straight-gay.” As Kartsonis would scroll through Instagram checking out the new Dior foundation, Reis talked through the headset of his Xbox. Kartsonis would try on dresses and five-inch heels, while Reis would sit back and laugh at how ridiculous he looked.

The night before second semester began, Kartsonis remembers falling asleep at exactly 9:59 p.m. and waking up at 5:00 a.m. to a Snapchat text from Reis sent the previous night, explaining how he was “too busy” to be in a relationship. Kartsonis stared at his phone screen as his fingers hovered over his keyboard. Did he seriously just break up with me over Snapchat? Who does he think is? “Too busy?”

What does that even mean?

Kartsonis’s mind raced.

After reaching out to Reis in person, the answers to their sudden split became evident. It was the differences that attracted them in the beginning that ultimately became the ones that drove them apart. As Reis continued on his culinary path at the Broadmoor Bistro, Kartsonis continued developing his love for fashion. As their paths diverted, so did their relationship.

“Three weeks is a long time to spend on your own after being with someone for four months,” Kartsonis voice shook. “And I would stop talking to him altogether, but I literally just want my favorite white denim shorts back! Like if he doesn’t give them back I will text his mother.”

As much as Kartsonis wants to curl up in a ball and watch “Sleepless in Seattle,” he knows he can’t let his heartache take over like it did in the past. He knows the only way to get over it is to go through it – this time, with a positive outlook.

So instead, he drives to Savers to model used dresses with Albano, and flaunts cute selfies on his Snapchat story. To him, staying busy in his own life is the only way to keep his mind off of the pain of losing Reis.

According to Kartsonis, every day gets a little bit easier for him, and he truly believes that if their love was real, it will find its way back to them. But for now, he is perfectly okay just being in love with himself.

“Once I told him I was going to put on a pink tutu and a shirt that read ‘I’m gay and I love it’ to a LGBTQ+ pride march this summer and he told me I would look stupid,” Kartsonis said. “Now, I’m for sure going to do it – who cares what he thinks!”

And for anyone going through a breakup, he truly believes that on the days when it seems impossible, chocolate can, and will, solve everything.

henry’s

LOVE LINE Henry came out when he was 13

His first relationship with a boy began at 14 Henry had his first breakup three months later

FEBRUARY 5, 2018

Couple Chemistry

DESIGN BRYNN WINKLER PHOTOS DIANA PERCY

S P E C I A L S E C T I O N F E AT U R E S

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BY JULIE FROMM Online Section Editor

Lotus & Jane

Kiki & PJ

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hen-freshmen Kiki Ehrich and PJ Spencer sat at Spin Pizza, nervously eating a pepperoni pizza on their first date. The two made awkward small talk about their first days at East and their classes at school.

Three years later, eating out at Chickfil-A, spending time at each other’s houses watching their favorite movie Forrest Gump or going to parties with friends is routine.

The two have been dating for twoand-a-half years, but have known each other through mutual friends since they were in elementary school. In sixth grade, Ehrich and her friends Peter and Sarah Grimm had a glow-in-the-dark birthday party. Grimm invited Spencer, and the two met for the first time.

Although they weren’t close when they were younger, the couple got to know each other at the beginning of freshman year when Ehrich came to East and had choir with Spencer. They exchanged quiet “hi’s” during class, but that was the extent of their relationship until Spencer finally broke the ice by snapchatting her. Their friendship, and later relationship, skyrocketed from there, Spencer said.

The two spent around three months constantly talking and snapchatting each other before they started dating, said Erich.

Ehrich has always been outgoing, but Spencer was more reserved.

He was excited and relieved to find

Reltionship builds a strong friendship someone with a bubbly personality that complemented his shyness.

“I was kind of a quiet kid freshman year,” Spencer said. “She liked to talk a lot, or at least I think so, she’d probably say different,” Spencer said. “It was nice not having to hold conversations that long on my own.”

Now, after almost three years of dating, Spencer confidently says he’s less shy. Ehrich has introduced him to many of her friends, which are now close friends of his as well.

Spencer enjoys tricking Ehrich and playing jokes on her whenever he can.

He’ll tell her fake, elaborate stories that she often believes.

“She’s really gullible, I like messing with her,” Spencer said.

The two spend most of their date nights at the Chipotle in Prairie Village, or going to dinner and a movie at Standees. The couple also spends time with each other’s families, and every once in a while one of the two will come over for family dinners.

Both Spencer and Ehrich’s families love them as a couple.

“My parents like Kiki, and they just think it’s like healthy friendship more than anything,” Spencer said.

The couple sees no roadblocks in their near future, and hope to spend much more time together as a couple, and as best friends.

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n February of 2017, then-freshman Jane Sonnichsen paced through the AMC Town Center theatre. She was waiting for her date, then-freshman Lotus West, who was running late. Sonnichsen had a bought a new white dress just for the occasion–she wanted to look her best.

West walked in the doors with an excited smile, red rose in hand.

“I’m trying this romance thing,” West said as she handed Sonnichsen the flower.

This casual movie date was just the beginning of Sonnichsen and West’s year long relationship.

West is lesbian, while Sonnichsen is pansexual, meaning she is not limited to genders and doesn’t have a preference on sexual orientation. West came out at the end of first semester freshman year. Sonnichsen began questioning her sexual orientation at the end of eighth grade, and came out at the beginning of freshman year.

The couple first met through a mutual friend, sophomore Elizabeth Frederick. Frederick noticed that the two enjoyed the same things, like their favorite artist, Halsey. Frederick introduced them to each other in the East cafeteria by pushing them together and telling them to “be friends.”

After meeting, West and Sonnichsen got to know each other during Journalism 1. West spent the entire semester trying to get Sonnichsen’s attention in any way possible.

“There was one point where I crawled across the ground to grab her ankles,” West said. “It worked. She was scared, she nearly kicked me.”

At school, they have first hour EHAP together, and occasionally hang out before school to do homework in front of Sonnichsen’s

Couple finds love after meeting freshman year locker on the second floor. Both are happy to go along with each others hobbies. Sonnichsen is a photographer, and West is her muse most of the time.

“One time we were hanging out in Hen House, and the light was hitting her perfectly,” Sonnichsen said. “Whenever I see a certain moment like that, she lets me take pictures of her.”

If they aren’t with each other drinking coffee or having a mini photo shoot, the two text and FaceTime to stay in touch. Sonnichsen and her family live far away, so it’s hard for the couple to see each other on weekends. Recently, Sonnichsen was able to meet all of West’s family at West’s birthday dinner. Sonnichsen said she was very nervous about making a good first impression, but quickly was made comfortable

by West’s welcoming family.

“They all love her,” West said. “They didn’t even know her before [my birthday party], but they always talk about her.”

Sonnichsen and West have never received any mean or rude reactions when they tell people they are dating. According to West, the two “may as well have a fan club.” Their friends fawn over them, even if they are fighting about an EHAP project, Sonnichsen said. They are both very grateful for their accepting friends and family, but nothing makes them happier than the love they have for each other.

“She is caring in a way that others aren’t.” said Sonnichsen. “She sees things about me that others don’t usually take the time to see. It makes me feel special.”

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“Adolescents are often too prone to jump in with advice and say, ‘You XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO never done. As people cope with loss, moments like Clemente’s can bring “For a couple days last week I just iced [my boyfriend] out and didn’t “We really stress individual pathways, no longer universal stages” shouldn’t feel that way,’ or ‘don’t worry, be happy,’” Schuurman said. “Just XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO back both fond and heavy-hearted emotions, which grief experts say is talk to him much. If I did, it was just one word responses,” Terlouw said. “I Doka said. “It’s a nice contingent idea. It’s fun to learn it.XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO It makes life so include them in things, even if they might feel sad or depressed or distant, XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX normal.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX wanted to be left alone I guess. I didn’t want to deal with anybody. It was predictable, but there really is no evidence to support it.XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Do a service to and say ‘come with us anyway, it’s OK if you don’t want to talk, because you In the past, grief has been looked as formulaic, following the “stages of XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX just really hard.” your fellow students by letting them know that nobody of XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO any substance or don’t have to.’” grief” model that has been commonly accepted since the ’60s. But now grief XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO According to Ken Doka – former President of the Association for Death of any currency looks to stages anymore.”

Doka stresses that grief is not on any timeline, and describes grief as a “What you want to see is that at least after a experts emphasize that there is no wrong way to grieve – and that grief can XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Education and Counseling and co-editor of the book series “Living with Just like there are many different styles of grief, there are different constant journey with loss. short period of time that people are able to be most difficult for adolescents dealing with loss.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Grief” – a common misconception about grief is that it occurs only after approaches to helping those who are grieving, according to Associate “I always tell people in counseling that the first sign that you are XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX In the past three weeks, three high schoolers in the community – one XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO function in the world again and that grief is a person experiences death.

In his teaching and research, Doka stresses Pastor of Pastoral Care at Village Presbyterian Church Len Carrell.

Carrell, doing better is when you can laugh about a story about the person,” Doka XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO from Blue Valley North and two from Shawnee Mission Northwest – have not disabling.”

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX that the loss of romantic relationships, friendships or even the thought of who has been running monthly support groups for grieving families for said. “What you want to see is that at least after a short period of time XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO died, sending many into their own struggle with loss. But grief can be XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO graduating high school can be just as difficult to process. It’s different, but years, thinks it’s important to listen to each individual person’s story before that people are able to function in the world again, and that grief is not generated by things other than death. According to grief experts, losing XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Doka said in a phone interview that it can take many of the same forms of deciding the best way to help. disabling.”

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“It’s your grief; it’s your need,” Carrell said.

“No one is the expert on your It’s the moments that Clemente remembers how hard he and Rupp used XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO A SSOC IAT ION FOR D EAT H ED UCAT ION grief. But whether it is a loss of life or not, all of these forms of grief stem East social worker Emily MacNaughton said that in her day-to-day grief. No one can tell you that your grief isn’t as important XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO or isn’t as healthy to hit each other in their hockey games and bursted out laughing, instead of XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX from a place of love. experience with East students, she sees all different forms of grief. or isn’t as strong as someone else’s.” crying, in which Doka believes people are starting to heal.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO When people love deeply, they grieve deeply, according to Donna XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO “There’s a lot of things as human beings, like navigating your everyday Many intuitive grievers, like MacAdam, tend to experience grief very Sometimes those in grief need to be listened to. For Terlouw, it was her In her years of experience counseling and educating the grieving, Schuurman, the Emeritus Executive Director of the Dougy Center for XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO life, that you don’t associate with grief,” MacNaughton said. “Moving, losing emotionally. While they may isolate themselves because of the intensity of theater teachers, Brian Capello and Tom DeFeo, that listened to her and Schuurman has realized that grief not only stems from love, but is love in Grieving Children and Families. In a phone interview, Schuurman said that XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO a job, getting a lower grade than you expected, ending a relationship; all of their feelings, they can also benefit the most from support groups or sharing helped her begin to process her grief. itself. In remembering the good of how people lived and loved, there will it can be particularly difficult for adolescents to deal with this grief because XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO those tap into the same emotions.” their emotions with friends, according to Doka.

Sometimes those in grief need to take action. For Clemente, it was always be grief, and for Schuurman, “grief is a form of love.”

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX they are at an age where they are seeking independence, meaning they are XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Senior Katie MacAdam has felt grief, but it wasn’t from the death of “I definitely isolated myself,” MacAdam said. “My friends would wonder starting a foundation and raising awareness for suicide prevention that “Grief is a normal response to the loss of someone that we love,” XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO less likely to talk to parents and adults about their grief. a loved one.

The struggles of her long distance relationship with East what was going on.

In a way, I was like, ‘They will never understand.

No one helped him find some solace in his own life.

Schuurman said. “And in my view, how could it be otherwise?”

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO As a director and counselor at the nation’s first-ever center for grieving alumnus Alex McWard have left her feeling “empty” since September will understand what this is like.’”

Sometimes those in grief need to relate. For MacAdam, it was hearing XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO children, Schuurman has found that teens are more inclined to confide in XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX when he left for college. And while they are still dating, she feels the pain Instrumental grievers, like Clemente, are much more active in their from others who had been in the same situation and understood her feelings XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO their peers. But Schuurman said that this can be difficult when their peers XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO of the loss because he isn’t around her – something Doka, Schuurman and grief, Doka said. These grievers will often “do” something to try and “fix” that brought some relief.

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love Love me, Love me not In love, or all alone – these songs are for you

BY GRACE CHISHOLM Print Editor-in-Chief

WHETHER YOU’RE DROWNING yourself in pints of Ben and Jerry’s “The Tonight Dough” or selecting a treat from a gifted box of Russell Stover’s chocolates, you’ll need a playlist to

match your mood. For the ghosted, cheated on and broken-hearted, I’ve put together a mixedgenre playlist with songs to match the tears in your eyes. But if you had a surefire date for

Heartbroken Heartbroken PALACE // SAM SMITH Sam Smith blesses every mascara-streaked face with “Palace.” Smith cuts deep with this soft, tortured ballad from “The Thrill of It All” about lost love. The sweet melody haunts as he sings that “real love is never a waste of time,” and listening to this record isn’t either. It may be of happiness at his honeyed vocals or sadness at his desolate words, but either way you’re bound to shed a tear.

HURT // JOHNNY CASH Disclaimer: only listen to “Hurt” by Johnny Cash if you have ample alone time – you’ll need a while to recover from this anguished track. It’s just a guitar, a piano and regret. Cash owns his “empire of dirt” – the damage he’s caused everyone he loves. The verses are gloomy while a building chorus hints at hope for redemption, but the abrupt end of the song shows it’s only a fantasy. Let the wallowing begin.

I FALL APART // POST MALONE

Heartbreak with a modern spin. Hip-hop’s current it-boy Post Malone delivers a rhythmic, yet cryworthy listen with “I Fall Apart.” He laments about having “never caught a feelin’ this hard” only for his girl to walk away. A melancholy melody paired with soulful lyrics will leave you reaching for tissues as you’re “whippin’ in the foreign.” If you’ve been dumped, but need to keep up a fire aux, add this Stoney mix to your playlist.

LIAR // LEON “Heartbreak’s on its way” and so are the feels.

Swedish singer Lotta Lindgren, known as Leon, is cheated on and left to wonder what went wrong all while her boyfriend doesn’t see her sorrow. This song is stripped down to a piano, strings and Leon’s rich alto voice, and with no embellishments, you can feel the pain of every note. It’s devastatingly beautiful, the perfect song to accompany a heartbroken ice cream-binging phase.

Lovestruck

MAKE YOU FEEL MY LOVE // ADELE

YOU AND I // LADY GAGA

FROM THE DINING TABLE // HARRY STYLES

NIGHTS WITH YOU // MO

PALACE // SAM SMITH

DOG DAYS // FLORENCE AND THE MACHINE

ALL I COULD DO WAS CRY // BEYONCE

MAY I HAVE THIS DANCE // FRANCIS AND THE LIGHTS

BACK TO BLACK // AMY WINEHOUSE

ALL THE STARS // KENDRICK LAMAR, SZA

HURT // JOHNNY CASH

LOVE ON TOP // BEYONCE

IN A WEEK // HOZIER

SYMPHONY // CLEAN BANDIT ZARA LARSON

I FALL APART // POST MALONE

REAPER // SIA OUI // JER-

STONE COLD // DEMI LOVATO

BABY YOU MAKE ME CRAZY // SAM SMITH

FOR WHOM THE BELL TOLLS // J. COLE

BROWN SKIN GIRL //LEON BRIDGES

LONELY LULLABIES // KWEKU COLLINS

CAN’T HELP FALLING IN LOVE //HALEY REINHART

FIX YOU // COLDPLAY

TUYO // RODRIGO AMANTE

LIAR // LEON

SWEET CREATURE // HARRY STYLES

IN A WEEK // HOZIER

WPA, your phone bill is racking up and your cheeks are constantly blushing, I’ve also got a playlist for you. Here’s my breakdown of four songs from each:

OUI // JERMIH

NIGHTS WITH YOU // MO You can’t help but sing along to “Nights With You.” MØ belts and the synthesized drums pound away throughout this sultry, pop number about loving and spending time with friends.

The background becomes metallic, boosting your mood with each computer-crafted “ching.”

Whether on your way to a Chipotle or Netflix date, you’ll want to roll the car windows down for this one.

MAY I HAVE THIS DANCE // FRANCIS AND THE LIGHTS Featured in the movie “Everything, Everything,” “May I Have This Dance” is honestly everything.

A marimba-like melody steadies this remix from Francis and the Lights and Chance the Rapper while quiet verses burst into a brilliant, electric chorus. Chance soothes on a soft bridge, while Francis wows throughout with vocals that ring.

“Can I say something crazy? I love you!” New to love? This one’s for you.

BROWN SKIN GIRL // LEON BRIDGES

Leon Bridges takes us back to ’60s with “Brown Skin Girl,” a song about a beautiful girl. His wellcrafted retro sound, complete with a sax, oozes “cool.” This tune has rhythm, but thankfully lacks all the blues, and paired with Bridges’ rich baritone, you can’t help but sway. “Let me tell you, darling,” this song will make you feel that giddy, honeymoon stage feeling.

TUYO // RODRIGO AMARANTE

What do cocaine and love have in common?

“Tuyo” by Rodrigo Amarante, the theme from Netflix’s hit show about Colombian cartels, “Narcos.” Amarante entrances with the story of an addictive, drug-like love on this track. Don’t worry, you don’t have to know Spanish to enjoy this. His husky voice hypnotizes while guitars, harmonicas and even flutes sizzle. He sings “tu el aire que respiro yo” (you’re the air that I breathe).

Fitting, because “Tuyo” will take your breath away.

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BY ELIZABETH BALLEW Copy Editor

L

et’s start out with my third favorite viral video circa 2015. A teenage couple is making out in a Walmart store aisle.

They bump into an employee while kissing, and the employee responds with,“Um, hello excuse me? Are y’all on drugs or something?”

Not only does this sight make me sprint for the nearest trash can, but it also has me wondering if someone dropped acid in their coffee.

(If you tell me the drug you are on is love, you run a serious risk of me projectile vomiting on you. Take a lap for that awful cliche.)

I find high school relationships to be cringe-tastic, s**t shows. Spit swapping-induced mono outbreaks and the constant “will-they, won’t-they” via Ross and Rachel make high school relationships one of the better teenage experiences to miss out on. Unlike the suave Troy Bolton, high schoolers, in reality, are just bad at dating.

In my experience, a couple is either so invested in one another that they alienate all of their other friends, or they’ve got more drama than a soap-opera, and pin their friends against each other in their quarrels.

Obviously, not all couples are like this. But for every couple that doesn’t have attachment issues, there are three more that make me wish I had a mute or censor button every time I see them together.

If you’re an offended couple ready to fight, don’t worry.

It’s not you, it’s me. It’s not the individuals involved, but the institution and culture of high school romance. It’s a culture of everyone being up in your business about who is dating who. A culture of awkward couple pictures, even more awkward text convos filled with heart emojis, and the most awkward PDA filled interactions in the halls.

Maybe I shouldn’t pass judgment considering I have less dating experience than most seventh graders. Maybe I’m just another bitter prude who is dumping on what I don’t have. Maybe I just need to shut up and let people in love be happy.

But come on. Don’t tell me there isn’t that couple that you see sucking each other’s faces off in the stairwell and holding hands on the way to class. Look me in the eye and tell me you won’t do a victory dance when they break-up.

We, the teens, have no idea what we are doing. We have a hormonal imbalance equivalent to an elephant and a mouse on a seesaw and tend to make irrational and impulsive decisions. It’s already overwhelming enough to be a teen, so trying to make a relationship last isn’t worth the stress.

Only two percent of high school relationships last into marriage according to a 2014 survey by BrandonGaille Marketing. Chances are your boyfriend or girlfriend will matter as much to you in five years as the seating chart in Spanish does to you now, so I don’t get why people spend more than five minutes stressing over someone who’ll soon be nothing but a few old Instagram posts and a running “remember when..” joke between you and your friends.

This may seem unfair to the couples who were dating at their first middle school dance and ended up walking down the aisle. But keep in mind that was the generation where everyone got perms and mullets by free will. So how much can we really trust the success rate?

To those who make videos of themselves cuddling with no room left for Jesus and send it to their streaks...

To those who can take the question “what is your favorite color” and somehow by the power of God make it a five minute convo about your boyfriend or girlfriend...

To those who are in a high school relationship and even your teachers know because you are just that obnoxious about it...

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BELOW | Senior Jonah Golder video tapes Fay

during his comedy bit. “Sam could barely even watch the video,” Golder said. “He couldn’t bear to watch the cringe of his three minute standup show. I think overall this year’s punishment was well deserved and fulfilled.” | ELLIE T H O M A

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Senior Sam Fay performs at Stanford Comedy Club as a consequence for getting last in his fantasy football league

ABOVE | Senior Sam Fay reads his notes on stage during his performance. “The only jokes people laughed at were the ones that I made up on the spot,” Fay said. “Which was kind of cool.” | CA RS O N HO LTGRAVE S

LEFT | Seniors Nick Wohler and

Owen Hill watch Fay perform.

“The bottom few in the league, like me, were all pretty nervous about losing fantasy except for Sam.” Wohler said, “Him having some on stage experience before helped him with his performance.” | CA RS O N HO LTGRAVE S

RIGHT | Fay looks at his script before being called onto stage. “I checked my lineup once the whole season, so I wasn’t surprised when I lost,“ said Fay. “Just disappointed and scared.” | ELL I E THOM A

FARRIGHT| Stanford’s

Comedy Club displays all of the different celebrities that have visited their club, including big names like Pamela Anderson and Michael Jordan. | LUCY MORA NTZ

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February will bring many new shows to Netflix — here is a look at three shows being added soon

DISMISSED Feb. 9

4/5 Stars

THE ONLY REASON this movie initially interested me was because of Dylan Sprouse, most famously known for his role as Zack in “The Suite Life of Zack and Cody.” Sprouse’s character Lucas Ward is a high school student who wants nothing more than a perfect GPA — and will do anything to maintain it.

After his English teacher gives him a B+ on a paper, Lucas sets on a path sabotaging his teacher to convince him to raise his grade to an A. He starts off by drying out all the teacher’s markers, then steals and poisons his lunch. When that doesn’t work he tells a peer that his English teacher romantically likes her, and it all escalates from there.

Lucas is essentially a psychopath, but I didn’t find him scary. He just reminded me of happy memories from my young Disney-loving self. Maybe it was because

THE BACHELORS

Feb. 21

DON’T LET THE title of this movie fool you. It has nothing to do with rose ceremonies or exotic group dates. “The Bachelors” is about a father who lost his wife and decides to move with his teenage son, Wes, to a new city hoping to start a new life. This movie deserves a 5/5 because of the perfect balance of humor and drama, reminding me of a John Green novel.

Bill Palet, played by J.K. Simmons, has trouble moving on from his deceased wife, and faces many obstacles in his new relationship, including depression.

Wes is assigned Lacey, played by Odeya Rush, as his homework partner who quickly becomes his love interest. There were many moments between Wes and

LINCOLN

Feb. 21

New seasons of popular shows will also make an appearance this year

5/5 Stars Lacey that caused my friend who was watching with me to smile and squeal, “They’re so cute!” She refused to leave until she knew what the fate of the two lovers was would be, and I don’t blame her.

I normally find myself rooting for the romantic couple, but the father-son relationship was the one I cherished most. Bill and Wes’ relationship collapses in the beginning, so seeing whether Wes made up with his father kept me engaged.

If you find yourself tired of rose ceremonies and spiteful women, then I would suggest giving “The Bachelors” a chance.

2/5 Stars

“LINCOLN” IS A movie dedicated to Abraham Lincoln, portrayed by Daniel DayLewis. It revolves around Lincoln’s contributions to ending the civil war and how he strived to better the U.S. up until — spoiler alert — his assassination.

Although the movie seemed to capture Lincoln’s image accurately, the first half was tough to follow — the Oscar-nominated film felt more like a historical lecture than entertainment. There was constant talk about Lincoln’s reelection and what was happening in the government during the American Civil War. Staying awake in World Regional Studies is hard enough, so I don’t understand why a page from my textbook was turned into a movie.

My dislike for the historic plot might stem from the fact that I dislike history class or because Lincoln said phrases like, “Time is a great thickener of things.”

When my phone buzzed with a Snapchat, I was too eager to respond than I should’ve

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when I see Dylan Sprouse I see a character from my childhood who I loved, so I really just wanted Lucas to get the grade he so rightly deserved, even though he was the criminal.

“Dismissed” is not supposed to be a comedy, however I found myself continuously laughing at the unrealistic movie. There were many cheesy lines written for every character which made for entertaining acting.

I was still pleasantly surprised by the way the movie ended. Sprouse’s character had an unpredictable twist causing his deranged actions to make sense. This movie is perfect for those who don’t like horror movies but would still like to have that unsettling feeling when the creepy music turns on. Who knows, maybe you’ll find more in common with Lucas than you’d like.

been during a movie, but as the film continued the notifications remained on my lock screen.

The second half of the movie was easier to comprehend, especially for someone who doesn’t spend free time studying presidential biographies. You get to see more of Lincoln’s personal life and how Mrs. Lincoln handled things like the early death of her son. Two-and-a-half-hours weren’t wasted, as the movie taught me a things about the war and slavery’s abolishment.

This movie could be a conversation starter with a future history teacher, so if that’s what you’re into, give “Lincoln” a try. But I wouldn’t recommend this movie unless you have a strong grasp on how the U.S. government works, otherwise it may be hard to understand.

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opened NEIGHBORHOOD CAFECafe in Lee Summit In between Dollar General and Lew’s Grill and Bar, you can find Neighborhood Cafe with an old fashioned, red neon sign and a cinnamon roll out front.

Located on 75th and Wornall, this spacious and homey place is the perfect spot for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Between the Lee’s Summit and Waldo locations, both restaurants attract a large crowd because they are always packed; but not just because of the food. The original Neighborhood

over 150 years ago and the cinnamon roll scent wafts out of its doors to this day.

Walking through the double glass doors, my family of four was greeted by a waitress who enthusiastically yelled “Happy Sunday Y’all! ” After waiting 15 minutes (which wasn’t bad considering how many people were there), we were taken to a cozy booth. Old newspaper articles mounted in

the glass between booths gave me something to look at until our smiley waitress came with a plate of warm, melt-in-your-mouth cinnamon rolls.

At that moment I knew this was going to be a weekly spot.

Free cinnamon rolls and Sunday breakfast? Yes please!

As I skimmed the menu my usual Sunday order, biscuits and gravy, was calling my name. The “Country Breakfast” with biscuits and gravy, hash-browns, eggs, bacon and sausage sounded

delightful… and it was. For $8 I got a plate full of food that held me over until dinner. All prices were fairly reasonable for the amount of food that came with them.

Our waitress came back and checked on us from time to time and even told us the story behind the place. I left fuller and happier than when I came to Neighborhood Cafe. If you’re looking for great service and some tasty biscuits and gravy, this is your spot. Oh, and don’t forget about the free cinnamon rolls!

ABOVE | Neighborhood Cafe’s biscuits and gravy paired with potatoes

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PAPU’S CAFE

At the back of run down Shell gas station off of 75th and Wornall is the some of the best Mediterranean food you can find in KC; Papu’s Cafe.

As soon as I stepped out of my car, I could smell the Mediterranean food and a hint of gasoline. I walked in and there was not a single person in sight, which was peaceful in a sense but confusing because I didn’t know where to order my food.

Luckily, someone came to the

counter on the left side of the gas station so I wasn’t stuck in the place alone. I was handed a menu and noticed they didn’t have much to offer besides the classic gyro and a chicken shawarma sandwich. I decided to order the traditional Gyro sandwich and baklava for dessert.

Three ladies made me food behind the counter, the baklava came before the gyro. As a kid growing up, most people are told not to eat dessert first but the

layered pastry looked too good, I had to try it (don’t tell my mom).

The sweet taste of honey flooded my taste buds while the nuts provided the perfect essence of crunch that made me want to order more.

I waited 10 minutes in the otherwise desolate gas station for my gyro. I tried my best to get my mouth around the massive creation of lamb, tomato and onions inside the gyro. I don’t know why I was surprised; hole in

the wall places are always better than overrated chains.

The lamb was cooked just right, and paired with a crisp cucumber dressing gave it a fresh taste wrapped in warm pita. For $9 I got enough food for a meal and had to take the other half of my sandwich home. Being in a rundown gas station, the environment didn’t feel inviting, but the food is a must have.

ABOVE| A gyro from Papu’s

DINNER

TAJ MAHAL RESTAURANT Walking into the Taj Mahal restaurant I immediately felt immersed in a different culture due to upbeat Indian music sounding throughout the dimly lit restaurant.

I was greeted by a woman at the bar who began to walk me to a booth. I could smell the spices that made my nose run as soon as I sat down at booth near the kitchen.

Browsing through the lengthy menu, which was nicely organized

by lamb, chicken, goat, and various other items, I couldn’t decide what to get. Our waiter sat a tray of three mild, spicy and extremely spicy salsas on the table to start us out.

Since I was a newbie to eating Indian food I asked what to get and the Chicken Tikka Masala was recommended to me, which consisted of diced chicken cooked in a mild sauce and spices. A short four minutes after I ordered my

food, it came out prepared in a small bowl served with rice.

I was hesitant to try the food at first because I’m not into anything spicy but after smelling it, I decided to just go for it. The sauce tasted very similar to marinara sauce and it was perfect on the tender chicken.

Taj Mahal also offered a dessert menu so while I was already trying new things I decided to try the Kheer, which is the Indian word

for rice pudding. It was served in a bowl the size of a large spoon but when it comes to the rich sweetness of Kheer, less is more.

The overall atmosphere was enjoyable due to the dim lighting and great service. This 20 year old restaurant showcased how I expected an Indian joint to be.

I will definitely have to go back and try the lunch buffet because I think Indian food could be a new favorite of mine.

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Mahal’s complimentary Indian salsa

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TACKLING A NEW COACH New head football coach Fred Bouchard is excited to step into a winning program while sporting his own winning record

coaching position at Staley High School for the position of Executive Director of Student Services, overseeing maintenance, custody and all students athletics in the North Kansas City school.

As a district official, Bouchard wasn’t able to interact with his students in a positive way as he used to — when he sent over 100 former players onto college athletics. With his daily visits to their AP psych classes and after school practices, the dream road to college athletics became a reality.

The urge to get back on the sidelines grew too strong, and applied for his sixth head coaching position in early January.

“I don’t sit still very well. I still have plenty of work to do, I think, and hopefully plenty to offer,” Bouchard said.

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The past couple of weeks, Bouchard has been re-interviewing current position coaches for a better look at what strengths on a coaching staff are best for East. Which, according to him, will largely consist of standing coaches, but the team can expect some new faces.

According to sophomore Joe Krause, not many players worry about losing their positions.

“Depending on the offensive and defensive schemes players might get moved around more to accommodate the formations,” Krause said.

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ew head football coach Fred Bouchard said he has made “about a 1,000 plans” for the 2018 season since his hiring was approved by the SMSD Board of Education Jan 22.

As he steps into the leadership of a team ringing in 10 wins in the 2017 season, he sees their impressive record, the appeal that drew him here.

However, Bouchard boasts an impressive record of his own.

The lifetime coach feels fortunate to have been able to improve teams in his previous coaching positions. Staley High School, his most recent head coaching position of three years ago was a startup program. With no seniors, the team came out with a record of 9-3. When Bouchard took over Harrisonville High School, the team’s record was 1-9, but by the end of the season claimed 8-9.

“I’ve stepped into rebuilds before,” Bouchard said at a parent meeting Jan. 31.

“This is not one of those.”

Current head football coach, Phil Lite of Staley High School, took over when Bouchard decided to retire his head coaching position.

The 17-year-long coaching partner labeled Bouchard a master motivator and one of the best coaches in the state of Missouri.

“He’s the best I’ve ever seen when it comes to organization of a football program and staff,” Lite said.

His past success of leading his teams to five different state titles, and plans to use the same vigor with East. What used to be twohour practices, will stretch to three. Bouchard recommends non-multi-sport athletes try out a spring sport, preferably track.

Many current players are excited to experience football in the eyes of their new coach, one of these players being junior Cooper Lovelace.

“He’s energetic, like Delaney,” Lovelace said.”He was a district AD and he was tired of the paperwork, and I think that’s why he was so energetic — I would be, too.”

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uniors John Looney and Colin Hueser are two very different people. Looney wears a T-shirt with kittens floating in space every Tuesday. Hueser dedicates game day to wearing a suit and tie.

According to junior Kevin Connor, they, as the number one and two boys varsity bowlers, are the leaders of the team in different ways.

“They definitely use each other’s differences and fill where the other can’t,” said Connor. “Johnny can be joking to Colin, and Colin will use it in the game, and it helps us out.”

Together, they plan to uplift and improve the team to hopefully compete in the state championship in Wichita — a wildly different ending than last year’s winless season according to Looney.

It’s easy with their complementary strengths and weaknesses to provide a wellrounded skill set and moral for the team.

“Looney and I work together well because

he’s kind of a jokester, and I’m the ‘get this dub’ guy, so it’s a good dynamic,” Hueser said.

The two met their freshman year during practices at both AMF and Ward Parkway Lanes, and fell in love with the sport.

“I took bowling to heart after the first season,” Hueser said. “It’s the feeling you have when you get those strikes, it’s just so good.”

As different as Looney and Hueser are — Looney’s a lineman while Hueser tackles ping pong — they have similar intentions. As freshmen, they needed a leader, and that’s exactly what they want to bring, Looney explained.

“I’m trying to step up because I remember being a freshman and the help I needed,” Looney said. “They are in a similar position to where I was, and I can relate to the problems they have, so I want to help them get to where I’m at now.”

The two juniors serve as the bumpers of the team — keeping everyone focused, in line, and moving forward. To do this, Hueser plans on using a similar strategy as the older

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bowlers he timidly watched his first season on the team.

“I remember seeing the older guys hitting all these strikes, and seeing how that built respect and natural leadership,” Hueser said.

“As a bowler you naturally really want to go after that, and it becomes its own motivation.”

Looney and Hueser lead by example — any given game their scores range from about 175-200, compared to Nick Zillner at the number three spot, with a 165.

Being this role model to the freshmen and less experienced can be difficult, because it’s hard not to show frustration. At one of their meets, assistant coach Shabon Scott could tell a few missed shots were getting to Looney and Hueser. He could tell the team was losing a bit of energy.

“It sets a bad tone when your teammates see that on your face,” Scott said. “You always gotta look like you’re on top of your game regardless of if the whole world is collapsing around you.”

Looney and Hueser know what it’s like to lose — last season, the team didn’t win a meet. Hueser knows as a leader that it’s on him to keep team spirits high.

“I have a few teammates who haven’t been doing as well lately, and you can’t become worried about just yourself,” Hueser said.

“You’ve got to have their back, and drive the pressure in the right way to help them bowl a great game.”

When one isn’t there, the other is fills that void. At their Jan. 29 meet, Hueser was sick and couldn’t bowl. Looney kept his teammates spirits up through Hueser’s absence, and focused on being conscious of his attitude towards the team and his bowling.

In the middle of their meet, Looney was

We’re just developing for now. East kids bowl for fun. None of them are in a league, as compared to Olathe schools who bowl three nights a week. Olathe does bowling like we do basketball or football, or maybe golf or tennis. Our kids in those sports have their own clubs outside, not as much bowling. So we’re trying to keep up with teams that are playing all the time.

up to bowl. He stepped up to the line, took a deep breath, and launched the ball. It was a bit wide to the left, and three pins were still standing after the ball had done its damage. Looney turned, and suppressed any frustration he may have had with a smirk and shrug. He fist-bumped his teammates and opponents, and sat back down at the table, casually talking to the players.

Once his teammates were done bowling, he stepped back up to the line. The same deep breath and release, with a different result. He released the ball, and it pummeled all ten pins, earning a strike. He held his hand pistols to his side, sheathed them, and sat back down.

It was his turn again. He stood up, approached the line and got another strike.

And another. And another. A wide miss to the left, four strikes in a row, yet the same smirk and shrug. Even in the team’s struggles, and without one of the top two, the support and spirit was exemplified by Looney.

With this enthusiastic demeanor, Looney sees state-bound potential in them, as he says they consistently place second or third, and have won once.

“We have a ton of new bowlers that show a lot of promise, and we’re stronger than I’ve seen in awhile,” Looney said. “Even the less experienced guys can do it. All it takes is one great game. That can shoot a team to state, and I think we have even more than that.”

With Looney’s light-hearted demeanor, Hueser’s determined mindset and a promising team to lead, number one and two see a promising future with their senior season on the horizon. But with regionals coming up, Looney and Hueser have developed a tunnel vision this year with only one thing in the distance: the bus to Wichita.

I’m happy where we’re going. I’m happy as long as each kid has improved from their last score. And then as a team if we can add them together and do well that’s great, if not, hey, at least individually.

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Former SME swim team member Ian Hutchison returns to coach the girl’s swim team

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enior Ian Hutchison could hear the cheers from the East fans in the stands, but he knew most of them were anticipating his front triple to smack.

Hutchison could feel his heart beating out of his chest.

Being the only senior diver on East’s senior night, he knew that he had to take a risk. He stepped up to the board hovering over “The Pool” - not yet named Wiley Wright Pool – feeling the intensity rising, taking one last breath before doing his dive.

As soon as he hit the water, he realized he had completed the dive of a lifetime and could do nothing but laugh. This is one of Hutchison’s most memorable East moments.

The East athletic department hired Ian Hutchison after former girls varsity swim coach Rob Cole left last year.

Hutchison, a 2004 East graduate, mainly dove in highschool but swam enough to letter in both sports. He went on to swim at Savannah College of Art and Design, also staying active in the swim community after college by coaching for Kansas City Swim Academy, Shawnee Mission West, and Pembroke Hill. In addition, Hutchison started to swim with Masters, an adult club swim group, and competes in triathlons.

Hutchison plans to provide rewarding practices by taking some of the hardest sets from college and tweaking them to fit the skills of the team. Being an experienced college swimmer will also allow him to give tips that will help with potential injuries by showing swimmers exercises and various stretches.

“The part that I am also looking forward to is that I know quite a few of the girls from club coaching and country club

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coaching,” Hutchison said.

Hutchison is able to understand the struggles of a student athlete; having multiple tests in one day or needing to see a teacher after school as he graduated from college in 2009. Senior Zoe Ryland, a varsity and KCSA swimmer, believes that Hutchison will be able to relate to the team just because of his age. Former coach, Cole is about 50 years old, but Hutchison is only about 30 years old.

“Hutchison is a lot younger than Cole, so I think just that will really help Hutchison to be able to relate to team because his style of coaching is a lot more current,“ Ryland said.

Hutchison decided to take a break from coaching after the birth of his son a year and a half ago, he knew that he would only return if the job at East opened up because of the program’s stellar reputation. Over a course of 42 years, the girls swim program boasts 15 state titles and 25 Sunflower League championships and has had countless swimmers reach the podium at state. Coaching at East also gives him to opportunity to return to East and give back to a program he once participated in.

Hutchison previously coached alongside Alexandra Erickson, the swim JV coach. Having coached with him before at KCSA, Erickson is very familiar with his philosophies and even has a teaching style similar to him.

“I’m excited to work with him again because I haven’t really worked with him for four years,” Erickson said.

Erickson believes Hutchison was chosen for the job because of his extensive knowledge of coaching, swimming and most importantly, his familiarity to East. She believes he will be able to ensure a smooth transition into the season, based on how he has worked in the past with swimmers, parents, and his fellow coaches.

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When Hutchison was in high school, he was one of the managers for the girls swim and dive team. Through being the manager, he was able to develop a relationship with Shelly King, the current girls dive coach for Varsity and JV. Hutchison believes that having a relationship with King will be able to better the bond between swim and dive, creating a sense of one unified team.

According to Hutchison, the dive team has not been included in close knit family of the swim team just simply by having practices down at the other end of the pool and having meets in separate locations. Hutchison hopes to connect the teams by ensuring the divers and swimmers are equally supported at meets.

“Diving is really different from swimming, even though they are in the same meet they are a complete 180 from each other and that makes it hard because divers don’t get what swimmers do and swimmers don’t get what divers do,” King said.

Sophomore Anna Gunderman, a varsity swimmer, does not know Hutchison personally, but doesn’t doubt his skills as a coach.

“It makes me a lot more comfortable that he knows Rob and I think that when he talked to us he seemed on top of it with how he wants to change the program, I think that it shows initiative,” Gunderman said.

With promises to boost the program and improve the relationship between swim and dive, Hutchison is happy to come home.

“I had always hoped I would get a chance to coach at East, “ Hutchison said.

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