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A NEW MAGAZINE FOR TODAY’S TEEN Volume 1: Issue 1 - Winter 2012
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4 EDITOR’S LETTER
IN EVERY ISSUE
5 THE FACES OF REAL GIRL
13 MUSIC REVIEW DA TRUTH
31 FIT AND FUN SKATING By: Camea Dobbs
15 LIFE QUESTIONS Ask Jackie
32 FIRST ANNUAL REAL GIRL MAGAZINE CONTEST
FEATURES 9 WHY BEING A GIRL
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17 WHAT IS A REAL GIRL? By: Jamie F., Mackenzie, Gabby and Jamie A. 19 GIRL TALK MAKES A
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By: Elizabeth Bennett
25 PURITY AND A YOUNG WOMAN’S HEART
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36 Letter from a
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23 BOOK REVIEW
HINDS’ FEET ON HIGH PLACES
By: Bethany Gaal
24 DELECTABLE DELIGHT
OREO® ICE CREAM SUNDAE BROWNIES By: Missy Davidson
33 AROUND TOWN BOWLING By: Jenna Correll 34 Word of the Month Plethora
26 Poetry and Art Submissions
35 Top Ten List THE BEST THINGS ABOUT WINTER
29 CRAFTY CORNER
36 WINTER FUN-
MAKE A CRAYOLA MASTERPIECE By: Jenna Correll
S’MORES INDOORS
By: Camea Dobbs
Grandmother
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MISSION STATEMENT Real Girl Preview Issue Fall 2011 Publisher & Editor-in-Chief Elizabeth Bennett Copy Editor Jill Marceau Director of Marketing Candy Creighton Contributing Writers Joy Allen Lindsay Brett Camea Dobbs Keisha Prime Missy Davidson Kelli Lambert Bethany Gaal Juanita Moffett Walker Editorial Intern Jenna Correll Graphic Design Intern Pete Farris Photography Jeff Chao Heidi Cheatham Real Girl Magazine P.O. Box 2267 Clinton, MS 39060 tel: 601.529.7933 e-mail: Elizabeth@realgirlmag.com www.realgirlmag.com copyright Š 2012. No part of this publication may be reproduced in any form without permission of the publisher.
Real Girl Magazine exists to be a positive and wholesome influence in the media to inspire teen girls to be confident and value inner beauty.
editor’s letter
DEAR REAL GIRL, I am glad you are reading this magazine! This debut issue marks an exciting era in the media for all teenage girls everywhere. Real Girl Magazine is the culmination of many years of dreaming, hard work and a plethora of talented people working together. Being a teenager is an interesting time. It is a time when you are not a kid anymore, but you aren’t an adult either. It is a time to grow and to develop your interests. You might have a lot going on during this time such as lots of homework and after school activities, working a part-time job or just having fun all the time. You might be having an excellent and easy time of your life or your parents might be going through a divorce. Whatever stage of life you are in during your teen years, this magazine is for you. The message of Real Girl Magazine is simple. True beauty is on the inside, not the outside. Of course, it is important to take care of yourself and you want to look the best you can, but that is not of ultimate importance. What is most important is your character, how you treat people and letting your inner qualities shine brightly. This is a main theme of Real Girl Magazine. Our goal is to ignite positive change in the media for teen girls. We want to provide a healthy alternative to what is in the market today. There are many exciting articles in this debut issue! Kelli delights us with a wonderful essay on the greatness of being a girl. You will find fun activities to do in Winter Fun and Crafty Corner. Joy talks about the importance of purity and gives tips on remaining pure in Purity and a Young Woman’s Heart. Also, Missy tells you how to make an Oreo® Ice Cream Sundae Brownie! Yum!! Today, you have the option to fill your mind with trash or fill your mind with things that are wonderful and pure. Real Girl Magazine gives you the opportunity to fill your mind and heart with uplifting messages of truth. The staff of Real Girl Magazine cares about you and what is going on in your life. We invite you to share your thoughts with us as well as your creativity. Your feedback is very important to us. We want the subject matter within these pages to be relevant to you. We want you to know that you are valued and loved! Enjoy reading. Be sure to tell your friends about Real Girl Magazine and like us on facebook!
Keeping it Real, ELIZABETH BENNETT EDITOR - IN - CHIEF
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REAL GIRL 1. Elizabeth Bennett Elizabeth was born in Texas, lived in Oregon for a few years, spent most of her life in Alabama, but currently resides in Mississippi. She is discovering that Mississippi is full of many creative people and that makes her very happy. Elizabeth majored in print journalism and minored in art at the University of South Alabama. She enjoys reading, writing, painting, dancing, singing, being outdoors, talking and of course spending time with her wonderful husband, Jonathan.
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2. Candy Creighton Candy Creighton is originally from Satsuma, Alabama. She attended the University of South Alabama and graduated with a degree in Communications. She has worked in the banking industry for the past three years and has been able to work while developing her skills as a designer. Candy strongly believes each person has unique gifts and talents that sets us apart from the next person, yet still binds us together for a greater purpose. That’s as true for you as it is for her. Candy’s passion is design and she looks forward to developing this talent for many years to come. She currently live in Mobile, Alabama with her family and spends her spare time kayaking, hiking, traveling and dabbling in photography.
3. Joy Allen Joy Allen grew up in a small town in Alabama and is a graduate of the Univesity of South Alabama and the University of Southern Mississippi. She married her husband, Jared, in 2007 and now lives as a Navy wife on a beautiful island in the Pacific Northwest. She enjoys teaching, good fellowship with good friends, and loving on her beautiful baby girl.
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4. Jenna Correll
6. Camea Dobbs
Jenna Correll is a child of God and princess of the King. She is from Charleston, South Carolina and loves to write, read and sing. She has been a real girl since 2001 when she stood up to a bully who was making fun of other girls. Jenna is a senior at Mississippi College and is studying public relations and journalism.
Camea Dobbs is a 20 year old student at Mississippi College. Nutrition and fitness have always been an interest and priority in her life. Running, yoga, biking and aerobics are just a few of her favorite ways to stay active. Camea has a passion to not only be an encouragement, but also see teenage girls strive to reach their full potential in becoming spiritually and physically healthy
5. Lindsay Brett Lindsay Brett teaches theatre, character education and English as a Second Language in a public middle school. She studied Spanish, Sociology, and Communication at Mississippi State University and holds a Masters Degree in TESOL from Regent University. Lindsay has served as a youth minister for eight years and travels speaking and teaching drama workshops. Gladys, Lindsay’s alter ego, was created as a teaching tool in both church and school settings. Gladys feels everyday she wakes to a blank canvas to which she is able to apply the massive amount of make-up to decorate and create the masterpiece. Lindsay, on the other hand, just loves sweet tea.
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7. Keisha Prime Keisha Prime is a Trinidadian-American who graduated at the top of her class with a Bachelor of Arts in Music Technology-Voice from University of Alabama at Birmingham and a Bachelor of Science in Psychology-Counseling from Oakwood University in Huntsville, Alabama. Despite her achievements, she knows that nothing she does is possible without her Creator and Redeemer Jesus Christ. She has dedicated her life to His cause and seeks to glorify God and uplift mankind through the performance, creation, and education of music. Keisha currently resides in Apollo Beach, Florida; where she teaches music at Julestarz Performing Arts Academy and with her business PRIMED 4 PURPOSE, is studying for her Masters in Creative Music Technology through Royal Welsh College of Music and Drama. She also serves as a worship leader at Lakeview Presbyterian Church and Ignite Youth Service at Beth-El Mission for Farmworkers.
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8. Missy Davidson Missy Davidson is a stay-at-home mom living in Clinton, Mississippi with her wonderful husband Chris, their two year old son Hayden, baby Aubrey Ellyn and their crazy basset hound Gus. Missy loves cooking food…especially sweets. Her husband politely obliges to be her chief taste tester, and he always tells people that he works out each week so he can break even at the end of the week.
9. Kelli Lambert Kelli Lambert lives in Lexington, Kentucky with her husband Josh and dog Zeke. Kelli teaches 9th grade English at Lexington Christian Academy as well as coaches the LCA cheerleading squad. Her life’s mission is to represent Christ in everything she does and challenge young ladies to be “real girls”.
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10. Bethany Gaal Bethany Gaal grew up in Mobile, Al, and graduated from the University of South Alabama with degrees in broadcast journalism and political science. She currently lives in Fairhope, Alabama with her sweet kitten. Bethany is involved in leading the youth ministry at her church and is also the training director for a local restaurant.
12. Heidi Cheatham Heidi Cheatham is a Campus Minister at Mississippi College. She enjoys discipling students and serving with them on the mission field. Heidi is a graduate of Mississippi College and Beeson Divinity School at Samford University.
11. J. Moffett Walker
13. Pete Farris
J. Moffett Walker, native Mississippian, lived and worked in Gary, Indiana for 34 years. Her credits include Church Folk, Muh (Mother), The Powerful Web of Kinfolk, the Mississippi I Love and Muh’s Cookbook: Recipes Before 1930. She writes for a Mississippi newspaper and Real Girl Magazine. Walker and her husband reside in Mississippi.
Pete Farris is a native of Southaven, MS and graphic design major at Mississippi College. He loves all things artistic and works for Real Girl Magazine as the graphic designer. He is also active at Highland Chapel Church in Ridgeland, MS, and Lifespring United Methodist in Southaven, MS.
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WHY
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dolescence was awkward for me. My thick bangs hung over my eyebrows like curtains and I had a gap the size of Texas between my front two teeth. I was the shortest in the class, thin as a rail, and as white as paper. Back then I didn’t know how great it was to be a girl. I thought it was a burden. My chest was flat as a board and starting my period was like living out a horror movie. Not to mention the vast array of emotions that I experienced on a daily basis. But being a girl is beautiful. It’s an incredible journey with surprises, disappointments, and a ton of joy. To be a girl is like nothing else. As girls we have sisterhoods, compassionate spirits, tender hearts, goofy moments, and flowing dresses. We are the apple of our daddy’s eye, our mama’s best friend, a little bit of sugar and spice and everything nice. Being a girl is great! We were made to be the more beautiful half of the human species; created to balance out our rugged male counterparts. Our soft skin, feminine features, and curves are the inspiration for art. We are a mysterious and gorgeous jewel. The best thing is that these features appear in all shapes and sizes, making each one of us unique, yet lovely. Each girl is their own entity, specifically knitted together to create a precious treasure to be adored. This adoration is natural. We are to be
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pursued. Men open our doors, pull out our chairs, pick us up for dates, present us flowers, and eventually one day humbly kneel down and ask to be with us forever. The majority of the love songs and poems are written to woo us. We are a desired treasure to be sought after. In fact, we are the earth’s finest treasure— surpassing gold, diamonds, rubies, and sapphires. Our feminine spirits keep the world going. A girl’s character is care-free, with sunny smiles, giggly, silly conversations, shy eyes, talkative lips, and a perceptive and intuitive nature. We create friendships that boys don’t understand. Our friends become our sisters, who we would defend till the very end. You can’t hold us back; we are stubborn and animated, smart and superbly nurturing. It’s a brilliant mixture. Girls are great. So, what’s the greatest part of being a girl? During the day we can be just as successful, tough, smart, or strong as men. But as the sun sinks behind the horizon and the moon takes its position in the sky—we get to dress up and be a completely different creature—gorgeous, lovely, giggly, spontaneous girls. I think it’s true; girls do just want to have fun. That’s why it’s so great to be a girl! Embrace it.
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By: Keisha Prime On September 13, 2011, it dropped. The wait for the most recent album by one of the biggest names in the Gospel Hip Hop music industry was finally over. The anticipation behind this album had to do with much more than just fans waiting to hear tight beats and bangin’ 808s. You see, those who have kept up with Da Truth’s career and ministry were waiting to hear the answer to one question. “If we fall, can we really get back up again?” Some of you may be wondering what in the world am I talking about. Well my mates, let me take you on a journey, a journey that will be the backdrop that will help you to understand why this album means so much to me and why it could probably end up being one of your favorite albums of all time as well. Da Truth, whose birth name is Emmanuel Lee Lambert, Jr., took the Christian rap scene by storm with his successful debut album, “Moment of Truth” which was released in 2004. He became the fastest selling Christian solo rap artist picking up two Stellar Awards for Rap/Hip Hop Gospel Album of the year for his albums “The Faith,” and “Open Book.” It seemed that nothing but success and achievements were laying in wait for this hard working minister
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of the Gospel. But in December, 2009, something happened. Da Truth wrote a public apology on his website stating that he would be taking a break from music and ministry while he sought restoration for moral indiscretions that took place within his marriage. Some were hurt. Some were outraged. Some were sympathetic. But Da Truth was silent for almost two years. Will he ever be able to lift his head up again? Would he ever get the courage to minister in front of people who will only see him as a fake or hypocrite? Well, on September 13, 2011, we all got our answer to that question. Actually, the release of Da Truth’s album just reminded us of something that was already stated for us in the word of God: “Where sin abounded, grace did much more abound.” Romans 5:20 The first track from the album “Lights” sets the tone for the entire project. There are no excuses being made for his sins. He lays it all out in the open. He speaks of how God exposed his sins, even giving it media coverage to show him that no one is exempt from the consequences of sin, even a successful gospel artist. He warns us of how slippery the slope into
darkness can be when he raps, “It wasn’t all of a sudden. It was subtle. What ended up as a flood started out as a puddle.” In “Can’t Believe” Da Truth does something new musically having a track with a dance/electro pop sound. This dance tracks seems just perfect as it oozes with the same joy that radiates from Da Truth when he sings “You came and took my hand, and you give me strength to stand, and yeah, now I know I can make it through another day. I JUST CAN’T BELIEVE! I JUST CAN’T BELIEVE. I JUST CAN’T BELIEVE IT!” Then a few tracks over we are taken to a track that reminds us of why some of us fell in love with Da Truth’s lyrics some years ago. He speaks the TRUTH about how modern culture sometimes attempts to say that Christians are brainwashed. In “Brainwashed” he says if being a Christian means that he is brainwashed, he feels great to be brainwashed by the Truth of Christ rather than by the lies of the world. Now here is a song that will make the ladies say “awww”. Cece Winans is Da Truth’s wife’s favorite artist. He asked Cece to feature on “Cherished” a song he wrote showing his love for his wife and his renewed commitment to her and the vows he made. It begins with a beautiful string arrangement that sounds perfect for a bride to walk down the aisle to. “I don’t see nobody else. I don’t want nobody else. I don’t wanna be by myself. You’re cherished. I love you for who you are, even though I left some scars. Let’s fly off to mars. You’re cherished.” On the count of three everyone, 1..2..3.. AWWWWW! Ok guys, let’s return from the sappy fest (or maybe it was just me). Da Truth surprised us again with a rock/guitar laced song called “Ain’t Going Back.” He talks about having bruises and scars left from buying into sin and how heavy the weight of guilt was on his back. He begs and pleads his listeners “Don’t do it because we did it, and God spared us.” This hard-hitting rock anthem will have you declaring to your spirit “I ain’t going back, back, back, back to the pain, back to the same, back to the shame, back to the lame.” We stand
and declare that we are not going back to our old lives, our lives of selfishness, low self-esteem, lack of purpose, lack of joy. Let us never ever go back! If I had to choose one track that would sum up all of the things this album has to offer, I would choose the title track called “The Whole Truth.” You see, this emotional ballad has two meanings. In this track, Da Truth tells the whole truth about his sins that led to his time off for spiritual restoration and realignment with the word of God. He speaks the whole truth exposing a contrite heart that understands the gravity of his actions and seeks forgiveness from God and fellow believers. When I hear this song, I think of the Psalm that says “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise. (Psalms 51: 17) But make no mistake; he by no means wallows in self-pity in this song. He shows that by being willing to tell the whole truth to God and repenting, God made Da Truth whole. The whole truth made way for Da WHOLE Truth. As the chorus explodes with the violins, cellos, and piano, you are overtaken with a sense of how deep God’s grace and love can go that it can reach us even when we are in the very pit of hell, scoop us up and soothe our wounds with just one touch from our Savior. The chorus: “He takes the broke and makes them whole, takes the bound, makes them free, takes the weak and makes them strong. All of my sins have been erased. He has lifted my disgrace. I’m overjoyed, overjoyed that Jesus would make me whole.” Oh, Glory to God in the highest guys! Jesus is still in the saving business. He has not closed shop and moved out leaving us to do this thing called life on our own! So the answer to the question, “If we fall, can we really get back up again?” is an astounding, “YES!!!” Like the gospel singer Donnie says “We fall down, but we get upfor a saint is just a sinner who fell down, and got up!” It’s never too late for you. Run into his arms. He’s there waiting for you. Run and tell him the whole TRUTH, and you better believe it. He will most definitely make you WHOLE!
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JACKIE Dear Jackie, What is okay to see in a movie and where should you draw the line? Can it really change my morals? -Not sure in movie land Our culture has become somewhat numb to what we see on T.V. I found myself questioning this very thing last year. If I believe sex before marriage is wrong, why do I watch movies or shows that promote it? Years ago, there was a movie released entitled Bridge Over Madison County. In the movie, I found myself wanting the male protagonist to be united with the lady. Unfortunately, one was married. So, basically I was rooting for an adulterous relationship. Don’t I view adultery as sin? Of course I do, yet here I am justifying it because the movie had moved me emotionally. I won’t lie. I love blow ‘em up kill ‘em terrorist movies. However, I must refer back to the garbage in, garbage out analogy. We have to guard our hearts and minds. If I watch something that is immoral, am I agreeing with it? What does this do to my reputation? Years ago, there was another movie series released entitled America Pie. The movies basically explored teenage curiosity of sexual natures. Hello....are we not curious enough? The last thing my curious brain needed was a visual image of what I was already struggling with. Therefore, I chose not to watch these movies. I chose to protect my mind. We are visual people. We see the action, we contemplate the action, we justify the action, we do the action and we pay consequences for the action. 15
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Dear Jackie, How far is too far with a guy? -Somewhere in Georgia You can touch pinkies after year one. Honestly, the person with whom you are in a “relationship” is also your brother in Christ. We are obligated to protect them and their purity, too. Also, there’s a pretty big chance you won’t marry every guy you date. Therefore, you’re dating someone else’s future husband. How far do you want your future husband to go with another girl? Remember the golden rule? We are hormonal people. Protect it your body. Be wise. Know you, know your weakness, and for Pete’s sake don’t put yourself in a compromising situation. I know me. I, personally, have a very strict line. I don’t kiss for a long time. How great it is that two people can say the first time they kissed was when the preacher said, “You can now kiss your bride?” A kiss is not a guy’s reward for dinner. It is not a proof of love. Proof of love is kindness, patience, being careful of your words, protecting the other at all cost. That means their purity, too. Having trouble with your relationship? Think taking it to the next level will draw you together more intimately??? Here are some pearls of wisdom girls...take them and wear them around your neck : YOU CAN NEVER SOLVE AN EMOTIONAL PROBLEM WITH A PHYSICAL ANSWER. Bam! There it is. And finally, love yourself- shoot. You are priceless. There is only one you. Set your boundaries. Don’t let some crazy boy come along and help you set boundaries. He will be pushing those boundaries
just as far as he thinks possible. Be very choosy who you date. A few last tips: keep lights on, sit up, and try not to be alone. Set boundaries early, stand firm and there will be no worries. Instead of kissing each other good night my boyfriend and I pray together. It’s hard to wake up the next morning feeling guilty over that. Dear Jackie, How important is modesty? Everyone I see on T.V. and in ads seem to think wearing less is best. -Confused in Kansas The Lord said “low and behold” but He wasn’t talking about our chest and shirts. He also said “high and lifted up” but that wasn’t referring to our shorts or skirts. Sometimes, it is hard to find clothing that is stylish yet modest. Put your own twist to it. There’s nothing classier than a girl who can win you over with her smile that lights up the room or eyes that calm you in her presence. A girl who wears immodest clothing is giving more attention to her body which screams insecurity. Remember, the physical never solves the emotional. And the boys...poor boys. They are so visually minded. If they ask you out because of your revealing clothing, what does that say they are after?
Dear Jackie, Can guys and girls really just be friends? -H.B. in Sweet Home Alabama
Oooooh, now that’s a tough one. There is a billboard series that says the best marriages are the strongest friendships. In a perfect world, all relationships- guys and girls will be great friends, etc. The closest friends will become married, etc. and we all ride off into the sunset. Sometime, though, this is a tough issue when a guy or girl is dating someone else and the someone else says they are jealous. Heard this before? Really, yes I think they can just be friends. Just make sure emotions or romantic longings don’t get misplaced on the relationship out of desperation or discontent with other relationships. People get hurt when this happens because the person has become the “object” of our affection simply out of the longing to love “something.”
Dear Jackie, If it wasn’t against the law for a teenager to drink would it be wrong if they didn’t get drunk? -Wanting a Budweiser People deal with drinking differently for adults. Some believe any alcohol intake is wrong while others believe that drinking in moderation is permitted. I will not tackle that aspect as it is one you should carefully pray and seek for yourself. However, I can address alcohol intake for a teenager. The brain doesn’t fully develop until your early 20’s. Alcohol affects the development. I mean come on gals, we aren’t all playing with a full deck and some of us are already blondes. Should we slow ourselves down more? Seriously, what teenager doesn’t drink with the hope to get drunk? Let’s ask ourselves these questions: do I drink because I want to escape a problem? Well, then it becomes an escape mechanism and a dependency forms which means you now do not have a healthy way to deal with issues. It also can become an idol because we turn to it instead of God. Next question, do I drink because I want to look cool and others are drinking? If so, we have an insecurity and identity problem. At that point, we need to take time out and really learn to love ourselves and take off the mask. Do I desire to drink because it makes me feel more like an adult? Be content with where you are. Bloom where you are planted and live each stage of life. Finally, you cannot become an alcoholic if you never take the first drink. Alcoholism has ruined many lives, many families, many careers, and many dreams. We are not as strong as we think and we never know when the disease will latch on to us. I don’t drink because I have a family lineage of alcoholism. I saw my grandmother afraid to take food to her son because she was afraid of finding him dead. I refused to put my child, parent, friends, or family through that. I know I have an addictive personality. I drink enough tea for all of us. I can only imagine had I taken the first sip of alcohol how dependent to it I, too, would become.
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What does being a “real girl” mean to you? Jamie A. - 19, freshman in college -likes to read, watch movies, color and sing -wants to go skydiving -would like to be a family psychologist or school counselor Vacation destination: Hawaii. She loves the beach and water. “ A real girl is a girl that God is okay with everything she does. She relies on God and never thinks that she can do it on her own. A real girl encourages others, has a smile on her face and is humble.” Jamie F. - 17 years old, 12th grade
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now affect my legacy. Everyone has a legacy to leave behind and everyone has the choice to make it something others and yourself can admire or something bitter and disappointing. I try to be joyful always.” Mackenzie - 15 years old, 10th grade -likes to go horseback riding, hang out with friends, run, read, watch football -would like to go skydiving. She wants to do this on her senior trip when she graduates from high school. -wants to be an attorney Vacation destination: Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. “My parents have been and said it was beautiful.”
-likes to sing, play piano, read, work out, shop -wants to go cliff diving -would like to major in vocal performance during college. “I just want to sing. I will be happy as long as I’m singing.” Vacation destination: Ireland! Her birthday is on St Patrick’s Day. She loves the pictures she has seen of this beautiful country and will be going in March for her 18th birthday!!
“Being a real girl means standing up for my beliefs and being a true friend.”
“A real girl is someone who doesn’t put up a facade. I strive to be someone who others can look up to not by my words but by my actions. When I die, I want people to remember me as a person with integrity. I think about how my choices
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Gabby - 16 years old, ninth grade -loves singing and dancing, wants to work with children, is from the Ukraine. She can speak Russian, Ukraine, Italian, English and some Spanish together.
Jamie F., Mackenzie, Jamie A. and Gabby tell readers what being a “Real Girl” means to them.
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GIRL TALK MAKES A DIFFERENCE By: Elizabeth Bennett
Do you ever need a confidential place to talk about things? Do you have important things to share, but feel like there is no one with whom to share? If so, then Girl Talk is the place for you! Girl Talk is a non-profit organization that is based in Atlanta, Georgia. It was founded by Haley Kilpatrick when she was only 15 years old! She had a dream of something big and has been able to see her dream come alive. Maybe you have a dream too. If you put your mind to it, stay in school, use your skills and have determination, anything is possible. Read on to learn more about Girl Talk! RG: Why did you start Girl Talk? HK: I’ve dedicated my life to helping middle school girls deal with life issues, so I see firsthand, everyday how tough today’s middle school world can be. Personally, helping girls get through middle school is so important to me because I lived the nightmare day in and day out! I was 15 years old when I started Girl Talk and that was the same year my younger sister, Kelly, started middle school. Middle school was a very hard time for me. I felt left out, alone very misunderstood. I would often eat lunch in the bathroom and try to avoid the “battle zone”- also known as the middle school cafeteria. Girls can be mean! I remember feeling like “the only one” going through it. No one was talking about it! I knew that there had to be a way to prevent my sister from going through the same things I did. I know that Girl Talk works! It is the simplest and most cost efficient way of helping middle school girls get through this difficult time. Statistics on cyberbullying, depression, self-harm, self-esteem, body image and stress are truly alarming. Research
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has shown that the period between sixth and eighth grades is one of the most critical times in a young person’s development. The decisions girls make during these years and the paths they start to walk down, directly affect and inform who they will become. These are also the years in which peers replace parents and other adults as major influences. The world of middle school girls has changed dramatically. These days, they face even more challenges. More than ever, they feel they must be “perfect”—in school, in sports, in other after-school activities, at home. And because of this increasing pressure, more and more girls report feeling severely stressed out, negatively affecting both their emotional and physical health. Meanwhile, this drive for perfection has dovetailed with our culture’s increasing emphasis on looks—resulting in ever-younger girls feeling pressed to conform to an unreasonable, media-created standard of beauty and thinness in order to be pretty, to be “hot” (even as a pre-teen), to stay in their friends’ good graces and to get boys’ attention. But the biggest shift in the world of middle school girls is undeniably technological. Girls in sixth through eighth grade today live in a new and different world than any previous generation of girls: This is the world of cell phones, video chat, instant messaging, texting, and facebook. In this world, it’s effortless to anonymously bully someone else over IM, to create a fake social networking account to use against someone, to harass another person through a text message. Technology has other effects, too: new studies have shown that our reliance on, and obsession with, technology has decreased the amount of time girls are spending with their families. And it’s becoming more apparent that girls who’ve grown up with a cell phone available around the clock have a
The Girl Talk chapter at Clinton Junior High in Clinton, MS harder time making decisions and trusting their instincts than girls in the past: after all, why not just text Mom or your friends to ask their advice, rather than figuring it out on your own?
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Girl Talk is a simple idea, but it works. Most of the girls involved—83 percent—become Girl Talk Leaders when they get to high school. And we’ve found that if girls feel more cared for emotionally, they’ll improve in the classroom. We found a 14 percent improvement in Girl Talk participants’ math grades and a 24 percent improvement in language arts since they started the program. And of course we’ve seen positive effects that can’t be measured; our Girl Talk Girls and Leaders report feeling more confident, kinder to others and
HK: Girl Talk was started in 2002 when I was 15. I told my favorite teacher that I was frustrated by the way girls were treating each other in middle school and that I had this idea for a program that could help. What if there was a way for middle school girls to share their experiences openly and honestly, without worrying about being judged? And what if high school girls— mentors—led the group? They’d share their experiences: what worked for them, what didn’t, and what they’d learned. They’d be there for the middle school girls, to inspire and guide them. And by sharing in this safe space, the middle school kids would learn to rely on and trust each other, rather than turn on each other. It might even be like an instant sisterhood.
RG: How did you go about beginning a non-profit organization at such a young age?
I sketched out some details for this new idea, named it Girl Talk, and lobbied my school administration for approval. After my incredibly supportive principal signed on, it started soon after. Girl Talk was born.
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The idea was to have high school girls be there for middle school girls and tell them that they are not alone, they are understood and most of all that they went through it too! Middle school girls just might listen to high school girls communicate the same lessons their parents are teaching at home. Perhaps most importantly, high school girls could learn through teaching these valuable lessons. At our first meeting, in the fall of 2002, I expected five or six girls to show up. To my surprise, 80 percent of the middle school girls came to the first meeting. It was obvious that there was a need and I realized just how much these girls needed support and guidance. Girl Talk has been growing ever since. The faculty and staff started noticing a positive difference and soon after that, our local paper and news station shared the idea with our community. By my senior year in 2004, there were eight Girl Talk programs around southwest Georgia and north Florida. Today, the basic premise is still the same as it was then: High school girls lead middle school girls in weekly discussion groups about everything from body image to self-respect; from how to deal with mean girls and bullying to the importance of being kind; from guys and dating to getting along with your parents. (Our organization offers the program for free, trains the leaders and provides themed curriculum for each meeting.) The middle school girls get instant adopted big sisters and a safe place to talk openly. The high school girls become real-life role models, and are expected to act accordingly. And we emphasize volunteering and service throughout each Chapter’s community, so every girl involved comes away with greater compassion and perspective on the world around her. RG: What kinds of success stories have you heard personally from girls involved with Girl Talk? HK: There are so many! There are stories that are deep and life changing and stories that just make you tear up or smile because you know Girl Talk somehow changed the path they were on. One that stands out was in 2009 at Girl Talk’s summer camp called “Project Inside Out”. The first day I noticed a very shy girl who sat by herself at lunch and was too nervous to talk to other girls. That afternoon, her mom shared with me that she is constantly made fun of and this camp was an attempt to help her feel loved unconditionally. The next day I saw three girls introduce themselves to her and sit with her at lunch. By the end 21
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of the week, this shy girl was in the midst of all the funsinging, dancing and opening up about her experiences. She is now giving back as a Counselor this summer at camp. It was great to witness how in just one week, Girl Talk helped her build her self-esteem and know that she is perfect just the way she is. A more serious example was reading a letter from a mom of a Girl Talk Girl that said Girl Talk saved her daughter’s life! Her daughter was cutting and her daughter’s best friend felt comfortable enough to go to her high school mentor (Girl Talk Leader) for help. While most girls who come to Girl Talk come for the fun, other girls come really needed the guidance and validation of a high school mentor. Knowing that Girl Talk is really helping girls only reaffirms that I am doing exactly what I was put on Earth to do. RG: How often do you get to interact with girls involved with Girl Talk? HK: I am very involved. I lead our National Teen Advisory Board which consists of our 40 most incredible Girl Talk Leaders across the country. They help advise our team on how to grow Girl Talk to best fit their needs. I frequently visit Chapters and it recharges me so much. RG: How would your friends and family members describe you? HK: I think my friends, family and Girl Talk Family would best describe me as a girl who sees the “yes” in a midst of “no’s”. I hope that they would look at me as inspiration. When I am faced with challenges at Girl Talk or with my health- I roll my sleeves up and get to work. I have learned that if you follow your heart and believe in people- there is someone out there who believes in you! It is just a matter of finding them. RG: What is something most people would be surprised to find out about you? HK: I have Crohn’s Disease. I believe attitude is everything. My health challenges have made me realize what is truly important in life. My health can take a significant turn for the worse in a matter of days. Knowing that makes every day count! To me, making a positive impact and spending quality time with family and friends are so very important.
Fun Facts about Haley
When she was in 3rd grade she learned a magic trick from a local magician.
“I felt so special that he taught me- that I never forgot it. In fact, I have since mastered it and love to make people laugh at the most random times.”
She is an author.
“I just filed my first book to Simon & Schuster last Monday! The Drama Years will be available just in time for our 10th anniversary (Fall 2012)! The book is for anyone who works or lives with middle school girls- and the experts in the book are middle and high school girls! We’ve learned so much from girls over the past nine years, and I thought it would be so helpful to shed light on this time in the form of a book.” Haley Kilpatrick, the founder of Girl Talk.
Some of Haley’s Hopes and Dreams for Girl Talk 1. For every middle school girl to have access to a Girl Talk Chapter in her school or community (11.6 million middle and high school girls in the United States alone) 2. For Taylor Swift to help us reach that goal and grow our programs! 3. To endow Girl Talk by raising $5 million, so that we can spend the time that we spend fundraising on growing our programs and reaching more girls. 4. To build a “Girl Talk Headquarters” where our team and interns can grow and work in an inspiring environment! 5. I hope to ultimately change the way this generation of young girls behave. Behavior is that hardest thing to change, but by teaching the girls the importance of leadership, being kind and giving back. I believe we can change the way they treat each other. The real fruits of our labor will be when these middle school girls become mothers and model great behavior to their daughters.
She has a passion for interior design.
“In my spare time, I decorate my friends’ homes and apartments. I have noticed that a lot of nonprofits work in donated or inexpensive offices. Most of them lack color, design and overall inspiration! If I had not had the opportunity to be the executive director at Girl Talk, I am sure I would have found a way to connect businesses, retailers and manufacturers with local interior designers and together they would go in and make nonprofit spaces feel as inspiring as the work they do!”
If you would like to start a Girl Talk Chapter in your area, you can go to: www.desiretoinspire.org
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HINDS’ FEET O n
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By: Bethany Gaal
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inds’ Feet on High Places tells the allegorical story of Much-Afraid, a young crippled girl who lives in the Valley of Humiliation with her relatives, the Fearings. Much-Afraid’s greatest desires are to be beautiful and graceful--to have hinds’ feet to leap up the mountains to the High Places. Her only joy is serving the Great Shepherd, whose flocks she tends in the valley. When her family arranges for her to be married to her terrifying cousin, Much-Afraid embarks on a journey to the High Places. Hinds’ Feet details this journey, as Much-Afraid discovers that in order to reach paradise and be made perfect, she must accept and take joy in her companions on the journey, Sorrow and Suffering. Along the way she encounters obstacles, many of which cause her to almost give up. She learns to rely on the Shepherd, is transformed by his love for her, and learns that true joy is found in brokenness. Based on Habakkuk 3:19, Hinds’ Feet is a beautiful story of growth, overcoming fears, and of the longing to have victory over trials in our lives. Hinds’ Feet on High Places is one of the most personally relevant books in print today. As you read Much-Afraid’s story, you begin to see the same story in your own life. Struggles, shame, fear, and yearnings that perhaps even remained hidden from yourself are brought to light in reading. Grief is made very present and real, but just as in any spiritual journey, the book is broken into two parts: “Weeping May Endure for a Night,” and the redemptive second half, “Joy Cometh in the Morning.” A very easy read, Hinds Feet is a must for anyone seeking insight into her own spiritual longings, dealing with trials in her life, and for those simply wanting encouragement in their daily walks. This is not simply a work of fiction, it is a journey into the deepest corners of one’s heart. It is sure
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to be a growing experience for all who embark on this journey with Much-Afraid. You can find Hinds’ Feet on High Places in your local bookstore or online.
Hinds’ Feet on High Places Hannah Hurnard Tyndale House Publishers ISBN 0-8423-1429-6
OREO® ICE CREAM SUNDAE BROWNIES By: Missy Davidson
Recipe 1 box brownie mix Eggs and oil (as called for by the brownie mix) 1 heaping half cup ice cream (I used Cookies and Cream, but you can use any flavor.) 1/4 cup hot fudge topping (chilled or room temperature) Oreos®, optional
Directions Preheat oven and grease an 8×8 inch baking dish. Combine brownie mix, eggs, and oil as directed on the back of the box, but do not add the water. Add the ice cream and hot fudge and stir to combine. Pour half of the brownie batter into the baking dish, layer with Oreos®, and top with remaining batter. Bake as directed on the back of the box, but you will want to check your brownies before this time to avoid over baking.
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love brownies! I love ice cream! I love brownies with ice cream! So, when I saw a recipe that combined the two in one recipe, I knew I would be trying it. Ice cream in brownies? Yes, these yummy brownies have ice cream added into the batter. Did I mention hot fudge, too? The wonderful thing about these brownies is that they can be personalized with any ice cream flavor. So, I decided to use some Cookies and Cream ice cream and
layer some Oreos® in the middle of the batter. Yum! The verdict? The brownies were wonderful. Add a little vanilla ice cream on top with some chocolate syrup, and it is a fantastic, gooey combination. The brownies also stayed soft for several days afterwards, because there isn’t anything worse than a hard brownie. Preheat oven as directed on the box of brownies, and grease an 8×8 inch baking dish. Combine brownie mix, eggs, and oil as directed on the back of the box, but leave out the water. My particular brownie mix (Ghirardelli Double Chocolate) called for one egg and one-third cup vegetable oil. Add a heaping half cup of ice cream and one-fourth cup of room temperature hot fudge to the mix. Stir to combine. When you stir the mix, it gets super thick and yummy. I poured half of the brownie mix in the bottom of the dish and layered with Oreos®. You don’t have to do this, but it sure was yummy! I definitely recommend leaving the Oreos® whole. You could even use other candy bars in the middle of the batter. The possibilities really are endless. Top with remaining brownie batter, and bake according to package directions. Mine were done before the time the package suggested, and you definitely don’t want to over bake them. Let’s do a close up so you can see how yummy and fudgy they get. Imagine them with some ice cream on top! Have I convinced you how wonderful they are yet? Enjoy!
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Purity and A Young Woman’s Heart
By: Jared and Joy Allen
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urity is an important virtue to a young woman of God. Though the world tries to convince us otherwise through television, music, and movies, the Lord commands us to “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” 1 Cor 6:18 There are many reasons for a woman to pursue purity and wait to have sex until after marriage. Primary among the list of reasons to wait is the command of God to be holy. We are to be like the One who
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called us and ought to live lives worthy of our calling (I Pet. 1:15-16; Phil. 1:27; Col. 1:10). Our King, our Maker, our Father, has commanded us to be like Him in all that we do. We do not fight for purity to be saved; rather, we do it joyfully knowing that God seeks to conform us to the image of Christ (I John 3:2-3). Our future is to be lived in holiness, and God calls us through the power of the Spirit to prepare now for that day when we will be revealed with Christ in all His glory. Additionally, until that day when you covenant before God and the witnesses
at your marriage to faithfully love only your husband, you are and flee sexual immorality? Wait. “When I was waiting quietly for the Lord, His heart was turned to me, and He gave ear to my cry.” Psalms 40:1 That’s a hard thing to hear when you are so ready to experience what the world tells you you should be experiencing right now. But wait. Wait to have a boyfriend until you are ready to be married. Wait for God’s best to pursue you; don’t pursue a guy or go out with a guy just because you are tired of being lonely. Wait to reveal your body and your heart until you have entered into the covenant of marriage with a man who loves the Lord more than he loves you. And here’s a secret: there are good, no, there are some excellent parts to waiting.
more about His word, His character, His truth. Go on mission trips and serve Him in your community. Become a woman who loves the Lord with all her heart, mind and strength. “Lead me in thy truth and teach me; for thou art the God of my salvation. On you I wait all the day.” Psalm 25:5 If you are in a serious relationship, my advice is the same: wait. When it comes to physical affection, do not ask yourself, “How far can we go without falling into sin?” Ask yourself, “How far can we go to stay away from sin?” Do not put yourself into situations where you know you will stumble. Make boundaries and do not cross them. Hang out with others as much as possible, and try to never be alone at night. Have accountability with trusted friends and mentors.
“And here’s a secret: there are good,no, there are some excellent parts to waiting.”
While you wait, develop incredible friendships. Stay up late watching movies and eating candy. Have long, thoughtful conversations. Laugh until you cry over silly things. Go on road trips to fun places. Make memories with your friends that will last your entire lifetime. Get to know your Heavenly husband. Focus on your relationship with the Lord and learn
Intimacy is something to be treasured; your greatest gift to your future husband is waiting. Pursue purity with all of your heart until a man of God vows before the Lord and all of the world to commit to you with all of his.
Flee the ev il desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along w ith those who call on the Lord out of a pure hear t. 2 Tim 2:2.
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Art and Poetry Submissions Wanted! Real Girl Magazine is a place to express your creativity. If you are artsy and like to paint, draw or write poetry, then you might be interested in this. Just send your poems or a picture of your artwork and it could be featured in the next issue of RGM. *Material containing profanity or unwholesome images will not be accepted.
Send everything to
Real Girl Magazine, LLC P.O. Box 2267 Clinton, MS 39060 Or email it to: submissions@realgirlmag.com
CREATE A CRAYOLA MASTERPIECE
By: Jenna Correll
SUPPLIES • Box of 64 Crayola crayons
• Canvas • Hot glue gun and glue sticks • Hair dryer • Old towels or an old sheet
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Lay the old towels or the old sheet on the floor where you are going to be working.
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Line up your crayons in the color order you wish to have them in. Use the canvas as a guide for how many you will need. (Many boxes will have metallic or glow in the dark crayons. Take these out of the box because they do not melt the same. Also take out the white because it will not look as good on the white canvas.) Also,keep the crayons wrapped. The wrapping helps keep the crayons glued to the canvas.
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Use the hair dryer to melt the crayons. Tilt the canvas a bit for the crayon wax to melt down. If it is too steep of a tilt, the wax will splatter instead of running down. Remember, you are heating up wax and it will be hot.It will be just as hot as dripping hot candle wax on your hand, so be careful. When you are first getting the crayons hot, they will splatter some, but once they get melted enough, they will run down. Don’t let the wax drip so far down it goes off the canvas, this will create a mess.
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Warm up your hot glue gun. Make sure you put the hot glue gun on top of something that the tip will not burn. Be careful because the tip is very hot.
Glue the crayons to the canvas with the tip pointed down. One long line of glue along the wrapper will be enough. After all of the crayons are glued down, put a line of glue in between each crayon.
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By: Camea Dobbs
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Exercise with attitude
taying active is a great way to maintain a healthy body. Exercise will not only make you feel better, but also give you more energy,strength and overall better health. Most people think exercise isboring, and they would much rather be watching television, but it doesn’t have to be boring. Did you know roller skating is one of thebest workouts for your body? Skating, whether it’s rollerblading, ice skating, or simply roller Skating; burns calories, works and strengthens your muscles, and gives your body an aerobic workout. According to Roller Skating International, the aerobic workout provided by roller skating is the same as running once your speed reaches 10 mph or more. It is also a low-impact exercise, which means it causes less stress on your joints. While doing all of this, skating also strengthens
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your lower body with every glide. Having strong muscles helps keep you active and limber as you age. Roller skating for 25 minutes three times a week can burn up to 750 extra calories for the week. All you need is a pair of skates, some pavement or a skating rink and a ready attitude.
Funtime Skateland in Clinton is a great place to go with some friends and skate. Checkout their website at www. funtimeclinton.com, or call 601-924-6355 for more information!
Enter the First Annual Real Girl Magazine Contest! You can win a photo shoot to be on the cover of the Fall 2012 Issue, a feature article written about you, and a gift card to Starbucks! To enter the contest just fill out the entry form located at www. realgirlmag.com, include a picture of you, an essay entitled “What Makes Me Unique� and a check for $5. The essay must be no more than five pages. All entries must be postmarked by June 26, 2012. Mail your entries to:
Real Girl Magazine, LLC P.O. Box 2267 Clinton, MS 39060 *The winner must be able to provide their own transportation to Jackson, Mississippi for the photo shoot which will take place summer 2012.
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BOWLING
BONANZA
Around town
By: Jenna Correll
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s a teenager, you have a limited budget and are looking to stretch your allowance a little bit. If you are looking to do something fun for the weekend, you will find that your dollar goes much further at Indian Lanes. This place has been around for quite some time, serving Mississippi College students and teens of Clinton. The crowds are mixed, though most bowlers are young. It does not matter if you are 13 or 18, you will find a place at Indian Lanes for you and your friends to have some fun. Prices are usually $2.95 per person, per game Sunday through Friday before 6 p.m. Shoe rental is $2.50. For less than $20 you can bowl five games. After 6 p.m. and all day Saturday, it costs $3.95 per person, per game. This is kind of like the movies. You get a special price for going a little early and pay just a little more to go later. 33 Winter 2011 Real 27
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Friday and Saturday nights, Indian Lanes has “Cosmic Bowling.” This means you pay $12 per person for all you can bowl from 10 p.m. to 1 a.m. The price includes shoe rental. If you are looking for a few hours of bowling fun then $12 is a hot deal. On Wednesday nights, there is “Dollar Bowling.” Shoes are a dollar and each game is a dollar. This is perfect for after church fun, or just something to do with your family on a school night. It is always funny to see mom and dad bowl, and you know you want to beat your brother or sister. They also have pool tables for $6 an hour. For more information you can call Indian Lanes at (601) 924-4248. To find them go to 815 E Northside Drive in Clinton. If you don’t live in the Jackson, Mississippi area, then check out your local bowling alley.
Spectacular Word The word of the month is...
PLETHORA What is plethora you say? It is an overabundance, excess, large multitude or great variety of something. Synonyms: abundance, cornucopia, feast, plenitude, plenty, superabundance Antonyms: deficiency, inadequacy, insufficiency, undersupply Try using it in a sentence today! For example: I ate a plethora of food during the holidays. Or The fireworks were a plethora of colors. Or I have a plethora of t-shirts.
Plethora is a great word. Start using it and your teachers will know you are very smart!
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TOP TEN Favorite Things About Winter
10. Sweater weather 9. Mittens 8. Hot chocolate 7. Roasting marshmallows 6. Colorful scarves 5. Enjoying the warmth of a fire 4. Ice skating 3. Time spent with family and friends 2. Snowmen 1. A fresh start and new beginnings in the New Year!
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WINTER FUN! S’MORES INDOORS By: Camea Dobbs INGREDIENTS 2 whole graham crackers 4 marshmallows 2 tablespoons bittersweet chocolate chips, melted
Directions
Looking for a sweet and tasty treat? Try this simple Indoor S’more recipe and satisfy that sugary craving without overindulging.
Ingredients 2 Whole graham crackers 4 marshmallows 2 tablespoons bittersweet chocolate chips, melted Directions Place the oven rack in the upper half of the oven and preheat broiler. While the oven is preheating, place the chocolate chips in a microwavable bowl to melt the chocolate. Microwave on Medium for 1 minute. Stir, and then continue microwaving on Medium in 20-second intervals until melted, stirring after each interval. After the chocolate is melted, proceed to next step. Place graham cracker halves on a baking sheet; top each with 1 marshmallow. Broil 45 to 75 seconds with the oven door open and watch carefully until the marshmallows are golden brown. Remove from the oven and drizzle each S’more with a little melted chocolate.
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Grandmother A LETTER FROM A
My Dearest Granddaughter,
One of the greatest gifts God gives to anyone is a grandchild. I truly believe you are a precious gift to me. Since this is my first letter to you, I need to self-disclose. Traditionally, some grandmothers have preferred to conceal their ages. But, Granddaughter, I am from the school of reality. I think it is okay to tell my granddaughter I am seventy-two years old and happy. Moreover, that means that I have lived through childhood, teen years, parenthood, and working years. Now I am enjoying the fruits of my labor, the retirement years with thirty-nine years of teaching and counseling behind me. My parents modeled and taught me values that helped me live a productive life. I joined church after my eighth birthday and have been working in the church and community since then. I chose to become a teacher and later a counselor. I did not choose teaching just because my parents were teachers. I chose teaching because that was what I wanted to do. I felt that I could make a difference in children’s lives in that career. Since you are a part of me, you have the stick-to-it-ness that it takes to accomplish the goal that you set for yourself. 37 Winter 2012 Real
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You Are Beautiful You have much to offer. Of course beauty is looking good and dressing appropriately. I still work hard to look good. Yes, it is keeping the body clean and healthy. I work diligently to maintain a healthy body and mind. However, the beauty that I speak of goes deeper than outside appearance. True beauty comes through character and personality. It is more about what one thinks of self, how one communicates with others, how one gets along with neighbors, and the way one handles self daily. I bet your friends tell you, “I like your personality.” About Being Happy
Everyone wants to be happy. Happiness is being excited about life. It is being at peace with one’s self. Being happy is knowing who you are, what you are willing to do, what you will not d o and sticking with that decision. Happy persons, including teens, usually do what they know is right for them. And, when they wake up the next morning they have no regrets or reasons to be unhappy with self. One thing that I learned― material things do not necessarily make a person happy. While it is necessary to purchase new items and replace old ones, a new outfit, one hundred dollar tennis shoes or the most recent cell phone will not determine happiness. Happiness cannot be bought. So, Granddaughter, keep that happy spirit that you have in your heart. It will help you accomplish your goal.
About Selecting Friends
At this time in your life you are selecting friends. Some individuals who want to befriend you, you enjoy hanging with. They probably like the same kinds of things that you like. They talk about the same things you enjoy. You may share the same hobbies. You may like some of the same food and you may like the same kind of music. Both of you strive do do well in school. On the other hand, there are those who want to hang with you, but you do not care to spend time with them. That is normal. You are a smart granddaughter. A true friend wants the best for you. If you do not have anything in common with another person, that person usually cannot wish the best for you. Besides, persons who try to force you to change to their ways are not your friends. Aristotle said, “Wishing to be a friend is quick work, but friendship is a slow-ripening fruit. And, Horace Walpole said it best. “Nine tenths of the people were created so you will want to be with the other tenth.” Granddaughter, it has been a pleasure sharing with you. I look forward to our continued communication.
Love Grandmother,
J. Moffett Walker
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