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JANUARY CONTENTS
6 FITNESS A Purposeful Approach
26 DEVELOPMENT Zach Klein
8 SCENE Holiday Party
28 MOSAIC Friend Seeker’s Guide
12 SARA SHARES Take a Step
30 SCENE Project Fight AIDS
14 CULTURE Cultural Bucket List
31 RESOLUTIONS Realistic Resolutions
16 JANUARY BARTENDER Billy Besaw, Local Bar
34 COUPLE Brittany Preston + Dena Glassco
18 PERSPECTIVE A True You
36 SEXPERT Kick Your Habit
20 THE TASTE BUDS Explorers Club
40 TRANSlation Advice from Jackie
22 FEATURE Crystal Park’s New Venture
45 ADJOURN Lynne Bowman
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LET IT BE RESOLVED | MICKEY J. HART Welcome to 2014 and our New Year – New You issue. I discussed the theme with the writers in November, but the full intent of it did not truly hit me until the remembrance montage during the Columbus Gay Men’s Chorus’ holiday concert at King Avenue Church. As the video played and the members sang the Christmas Canon, I was reminded that less than a month prior I was in the same church for the Transgender Day of Remembrance. I reflected on the losses we, as a movement and community, have endured over the years. We stand on the shoulders of many of our sisters, bothers, lovers, mentors and warriors. We owe it to them and to ourselves to build an enduring legacy – individually and collectively. We only get so much time in this life, and January marks the start of our next trip around the wheel of the year. Imagine what all you will do this year. Image all that is possible. No, really, what will transpire in your life this year? Where were you last year? Where are you now? Where will you be in 12 months? I am excited about the year ahead for me and this publication. Last year at this time, Isaac, Eric and I were brainstorming a name for a new LGBTQA community magazine, and now here you are reading the ninth issue of Quorum Columbus. We kick off this issue in the same mindset many people will have this month (or the first week of the month): fitness. Michael Greenhouse reminds us to have a purposeful approach to fitness. We tour the scene of a few of the local holiday season festivities. Our columnists share their take on our New Year – New You theme. We shine a spotlight on Crystal Park and her new venture: Cray Eatery & Drinkery. We conclude with Lynne Bowman’s forecast of the state of LGBTQ equality during the year ahead. Here’s to a most fabulous new year! Mickey J. Hart Editor
A Purposeful Approach FITNESS
| MICHAEL GREENHOUSE A new year offers a chance for new beginnings, or at least the renewal of old commitments. Yet New Year’s resolutions often fade from steadfast determinations to merely reserved aspiration. Commitment means following through with what we say we are going to do, long after the emotional state we were in when we made our resolution has left us. So we can only conclude that when we retreat from our highest aspirations, resolutions fade because we have succumbed to an emotional state that binds us to where we are. It forbids us from the journey toward the actualization of who we were engineered to be. Emotions are the precursors to our thoughts. When we break our commitments, we have virtually become a different person than we were when the commitments/ resolutions were made. Our lack of resolve is because of our inability to remain steadfast in the face of a constantly changing outer environment and inner state. Perhaps the secret to lasting change is to attach our commitments to that which is unchanging. This requires an unwavering focus. Focus is the root cause of all effects in our lives. How we focus renders us either victims or victors over the forces in our lives.
With every change or goal, we need a start date. New Year’s Day seems to be the most popular start date. So I ask, “What is your purpose this year?” Be careful how you answer. Whatever your purpose, you must be willing to make the necessary sacrifice to achieve it. In order to change a present condition or accomplish a future goal, you must leave behind things that are affecting your life today. Whether this year’s goal is to get into better shape, make more money or learn a new language, each goal will mandate some sacrifice. There will be difficulties and times where you want to quit, but that is why they are goals. Whatever your change, goal or purpose is, it will be hard and it will take time. Begin by searching for your purpose. Once you have declared your mission, make benchmarks to keep you on track. Stay focused on the task in hand, and when 2015 comes around, you will be a better person in a better body, with a stronger mind, who has a greater purpose.
Commitment means following through with what we say we are going to do long after the emotional state we were in when we made our resolution has left us.
Focus begins with the ability to inwardly direct our thoughts and actions, rather than having them directed by the influences around us. The power of focus emanates from the capacity to ask of ourselves the right questions. Those questions will create the meaning to which we attach life’s events. They create our ability to navigate through life’s storms with confidence and precision. To uphold the inner state of mind that serves as the means to progressively attaining a worthy end, perhaps the most fundamental question we need to ask is, “For what purpose is my change or goal?” Understanding or admitting why you are doing something gives you a greater state of mind and drive to achieve such goal. Again, goals and change are difficult, a common reason most people fail to change or reach a higher level of excellence.
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| Josh McConaughy
Ever since I was a young boy, I have loved everything about the holiday season, including excessive decorations, Christmas music and gathering with friends and family. Seeing old cartoon Christmas specials like Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer and How the Grinch Stole Christmas on TV and decorating the tree with ornaments from when I was a child makes me feel like a kid again. Holiday traditions also play a big role in making the season enjoyable, and one that I have adopted as my own is having an annual holiday party. This year’s party turned out to be one of the best I’ve ever had and was an evening of great times with a really fun group of people. The festivities started around 7 p.m. as the first guests arrived, and by 8:30 p.m., the party was in full swing with guests rockin’ around the Christmas tree and sharing holiday cheer. The house filled up quickly, and my homemade Italian meatballs and whiskey kielbasa were the first things to disappear from the spread of food on the dining room table; so if you got there late, you’ll have to wait until next year to taste them. Luckily, the booze didn’t run out, so the party continued on and everyone had a great time. The holiday season has now wound to a close and the new year is upon us. Every year that I host my party and attend holiday parties of friends, I am reminded how incredibly lucky I am and we all are to be a part of a thriving LGBTQ community in an amazing city like Columbus. It is now a time of fresh starts and new beginnings for everyone, but don’t forget to carry that Christmas spirit along with you for a little while. Forgive your ex who broke your heart, forget about the stupid fight you had with a friend, treat people the way you would like to be treated and make 2014 the best year of your life.
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Take a Step – Change Your Life SARA SHARES | SARA ERNEST
HAPPY NEW YEAR! Here’s to the most wonderful time of the year! I know the song says Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year, but I have to disagree. The presents are great and all, but really, how could the fresh start of a new year not be as good as Christmas? New Year’s Day is a chance to start over, to make things better than last year. I don’t know about the rest of you, but I think the chance to revitalize my outlook and make improvements over last year is just as important as the time spent with family and friends during the holidays. What does it take to capitalize on the most wonderful time of the year? Arguments could be made that the most important element is desire: desire to keep building on the improvements we’ve made in the past year or desire to change overall. It can be either of those forms of desire or another form altogether different, but desire is key. I would posit that a resolution is the most important piece of the puzzle to change and take advantage of the new beginnings of a new year. They are the most important piece because they are what we use to hold ourselves accountable. We have to identify what our goals are in order to meet them. Sometimes it seems that people over-think resolutions. I think that’s why there are so many people who scoff at them, sneer at them or get overwhelmed by them. Let’s take a second to simplify the New Year’s resolution; it’s just a goal that we write down at the end of the year to implement in the next. That’s not so scary, is it?
Maybe if we started looking at resolutions a little differently, say as just a step on the path to self-improvement, they would not seem so out of reach and frightening. 12
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I know, you guys are probably still saying, “But that’s the whole point! It’s a big change at the beginning of the year, and if I mess it up, my year is ruined.” I get it. I used to be vehemently opposed to New Year’s resolutions. As I was sitting down to write this column, I finally realized why that was. I didn’t believe in myself enough to commit to them. I was ‘that guy’ who was scoffing and sneering at people who asked if I’d thought about my resolutions for next year. The past four years have been dedicated to a lot of personal growth. I came to understand that if I wanted to continue my growth, I owed it to myself to change my stance on these pesky little lists of changes I wanted to make. Did I meet all the goals I set for myself? Heck, no. That’s kind of the point of life though, right? We are given this opportunity at the beginning of every year to evaluate where we stand and set new goals for ourselves to continue improving. I’m not saying that everyone who reads this column should change their stance and adopt my way of thinking. It would be pretty awesome to know I had that much power, but I digress. As discussed in my back-to-school column, we should be learning, growing and improving every day. Not only do I think it’s necessary for us to do this, but I think we all deserve nothing less. Maybe if we started looking at resolutions a little differently, say as just a step on the path to self-improvement, they would not seem so out of reach and frightening. Personal change and enlightenment is a journey; the New Year’s resolution is just the first step. With that being said, I’ll leave you with some ancient and seasoned words of wisdom: even a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Take a step. It could change your life.
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Your 2014 Cultural Bucket List
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| QUE JONES While we ring in the new year, resolutions abound. But how many of us actually follow through? Whether we are losing weight, making personal changes or even helping others, we all strive to better ourselves. My challenge to you in 2014 is to enrich your life culturally. While I know this is hard, below is a list of six things (that’s only one every two months) that will challenge and enrich your sense of culture.
ATTEND A GALLERY OPENING Gallery openings are hotbeds for mixtures of people. You will have the moochers who are looking for a free meal, the rich who are looking for a new work of art to adorn their mantle and students who are looking to learn and be inspired. There will be countless people there from different walks of life, and the conversations alone will make the event worth it.
See an opera Yes, most are in a foreign language, and even if it is in English, who can understand what they are saying? The music is not what most of us listen to on the radio, yet it serves as a window into our pop music past. At a time when there wasn’t mass entertainment, operas served as an escape from reality. Even if you don’t enjoy the overly dramatic story lines and over-the-top acting, you will learn something about our heritage.
Listen to all nine Beethoven symphonies Beethoven was one of the greatest masters of form ever to grace the musical world. He was also extremely emotional and passionate. Listening to his symphonies in order (not all at once of course) will give you a glimpse into his life. From youth to maturity, hearing to deafness, the music will inspire and is something everyone needs to experience once in their lifetime.
See a ballet Seeing an entire story told without words is an amazing experience. The way those athletes move on the stage is inspiring. Plus, who can resist perfectly in-shape people dancing in tights? Go to a jazz concert or bar Whether you hear a swinging big band or a small jazz combo in a small bar, jazz is truly American music that can communicate in a unique language. Not bound by the rules of classical music and rooted in folk and armature traditions, this form will speak in so many ways. 14
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Listen to or look at something new once a week It is so easy to find what we like in the world and tune everything else out. These pleasant blinders hide so many wonderful things from us. Be adventurous and try new things. Go to the library and pick up a book of photographs, a CD of some unknown music, an anthology of paintings, anything! You may or may not like what you find, but either way, you will experience something from it. Don’t let 2014 be another stagnant year. Live it to the fullest and claim some culture for your own. Happy New Year!
Billy Besaw | Local Bar BARTENDER OF THE MONTH Billy has been tending bar for nearly 10 years. He worked at La Fotaga and now can be found mixing it up at Local Bar in the heart of the Short North. “One of my favorite things about bartending is the availability to make connections with people,” he said. Billy touts the fact that Local Bar’s Happy Hour goes a little later so customers can take advantage of the lower prices from 5-9 p.m. on the weekdays. Additionally, on Thursdays nights they offer half-off discounts on Ohiomade products.
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“Our staff is knowledgeable about our selection of beers and liquors. We want people to feel comfortable asking questions and trying new things,” Billy said. As for his New Year’s Resolution, he said he would go with his usual one: work hard, play often and have fun! Sounds like a good one.
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| ADRIAN NEIL, JR HOW MANY OF US have made tons of goals for ourselves for each new year and have not followed through with them? I know I am guilty. Each January I tell myself I am going to work out at least three times a week for the rest of the year, and I end up failing miserably. The reason I give myself this yearly goal, to be honest, is so I can look sexy and attractive for others. After all, that’s one of the pressures we put on ourselves, isn’t it? When I look back, most of the goals I have tried to set for myself have been what others (family, friends, society, etc.) have wanted me to achieve, how others thought I should live. While certain people in your life may have some very good advice and suggestions, at the end of the day, it’s you who has to live with the changes, good or bad, that you have decided to make in your life.
It’s you who has to live with the changes, good or bad, that you have decided to make in your life. Many people make resolutions each year hoping to be better versions of themselves instead of making goals that help them be true to who they are. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing bad about wanting to change. In fact, that should be the goal: become better than what we were the previous year. But for what and for whom are we changing? When we begin to change who we are for the benefit of others, we lose focus of who we are. 18
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When you become the image of your own imagination, it’s the most powerful thing you could ever do. ~ RuPaul I can’t count how many times I have looked at myself in the mirror and wondered who was staring back at me. (Cue Michael Jackson’s, Man in the Mirror.) Usually when I am attempting to change because of what someone else has suggested, I never follow through with it because it’s not what I truly want. When we attempt to change to fit someone else’s view of who we should be, we give them power, the power that was given to us at birth. We give up our free will and then we find ourselves in a cycle of always seeking approval and acceptance instead of staying true to who we are. Of course no one, as far as I know, has been able to dodge the overwhelming desire to be a part of something or to have someone’s approval. Whether it’s the approval of your parents, boss, friends or lover, there comes a point in each of our lives when we have to start living for what we want. We must start to fight to be accepted for who we are. I suggest we make 2014 the year that we discover and embrace our true selves and learn to love ourselves unconditionally. I challenge all readers to move beyond resolutions in order to dig very deep to identify the characteristics that you want to change and to embrace the qualities that make you unique. As RuPaul says, “When you become the image of your own imagination, it’s the most powerful thing you could ever do.” Let’s take back our power and be our true selves as we enter into 2014.
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A Safari in TASTE! | CRAIG CHADWELL & MIKE MOFFO When you first walk in the door at Explorer’s Club, just south of German Village on High Street, the welcoming décor feels like home. Not that it isn’t a beautiful space – just not one where you would expect the Charcuterie Plate to contain the exotic arrangement that it does. Duck, sausage, rabbit, and head cheese adorn the plate. We won’t talk about that last one, as Taste Bud Craig gets a little nauseated. We covered the gamut with our menu selections. Starting with the charcuterie, we were palate pleased from the word go. Moving on to dinner (after a few glasses of delicious wine, of course), we ordered the Mofongo Meatloaf. It comes presented with two thick slices of meatloaf sandwiching absolutely delicious smoked pulled pork. Served on a bed of onion-filled mashed potatoes and covered in jalapeno slaw, it proved to be about that level of deliciousness where you don’t even want to chew.
Ok, that part isn’t true, but we couldn’t let him off that easy. We all sampled from each other, and we were all more than pleased at what we found. The presentation of the food is masterful. The atmosphere is very conducive to conversation and relaxation. The service that we received from Angie, our server, was absolutely on-point. And, at the end of the experience when we received the bill, we were not at all sticker-shocked. It was incredibly reasonable for the quality of food that we enjoyed. Without a doubt, we will be back. There were so many things on the menu that we wanted to try, we will make several trips. They achieve their motto of “Simple. Pioneeroing. Flavor.” All in-all, we gave Explorers Club four very enthusiastic thumbs up (six, after we got Luis’ hands out of his chicken). We are excited to explore the Explorers Club menu again!
Secondly, Lamb Pastrami on Rye. Unlike your grocery store pastrami, and most lamb, the texture of this was very smooth. It wasn’t slimy like some pastrami can be, and it was full of flavor. Nothing about this sandwich was wrong. It had just enough Swiss cheese to add flavor but not overpower the other flavors of whole grain mustard, and of course, bacon. Alright class... what makes everything better? You guessed correctly: bacon. We brought with us a celebrity guest Taste Bud, Luis, owner/operator of Crimson Design. We watched in awe, mouths watering, as he destroyed his Half Roasted Local Jerk Chicken. It looked delicious, and he said it was perfect. Of course, he didn’t offer us a bite, so we can’t say for sure. He just rubbed it in that it was amazing and guffawed as we looked on, green with envy.
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| ISAAC BENDELE CRYSTAL PARK IS bringing something special to the old Wonder Bread building on Fourth Street. Cray Eatery & Drinkery is going in at the Italian village hot-spot, and many residents can’t stop talking about it. The space has a great feel, just like the old Wonder Bread factory, and Park’s venture in the New Year is the story of following her passion.
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Park comes from Waverly in southern Ohio. From modest beginnings and a large family, she took a chance and moved to Columbus looking for broader employment and education opportunities. Stumbling into a job at Huntington at age 19, she joined the corporate environment and quickly advanced. She’s learned about the banking industry and was always made to feel comfortable being herself. While complementing Huntington on their support of her schooling and development, Park also says she simply wasn’t meant to stay there forever. She hopes to take much of what she learned from her former boss about balancing strong expectations with approachability and support and apply that in her own leadership style as she heads in this new direction. Park slowly came to the decision it was time to make the leap into being a small business owner. “You can only sit at a computer for so long, and after 12 years...I’m done.” She reached out to her friends and her family to start researching everything she could about running her developing business. Her five brothers and one sister are excited about her journey. They have shown support by asking many excited questions and seeking details and exchanging messages online regularly. Amy Brennick from the Columbus Food League has been a tremendous resource and support, as was Catie Randazzo from Challah Food Truck, whom she asked to help develop the gourmet sliders for the menu. After deciding to move forward with her idea, things soon started to get hectic. “I was working at Huntington and setting up appointments after 5p.m., and I didn’t have time for much other than working. I finally decided it was time to make a change.”
An avid traveler, Park wanted to visit some destinations before things go into full swing in mid-February. Park went to Denver in December to hit the slopes and research the bar and restaurant scene. She will be heading to Florida to visit her mom and, as a final treat, traveling to Bali soon. Park’s past travels have helped her stock her bar at Cray. “When I visited Cambodia, there was this amazing bar with crazy infused liquor shots,” she said. The choices on the bar chalkboard piqued her curiosity. She’s started infusing liquors at home and figuring how long to infuse flavors into everything from vodka to bourbon. Her work infusing liquors at home will come in handy when Cray opens, as the drink menu will offer many options for infused liquors. Park mentioned Gummy bear vodka, Werther’s Original vodka, and Slim Jim bourbon as some of her favorite flavors that may make it on to the bar’s list of infused options,. Park’s love of creating drinks started when she began bartending at Wall Street Night Club as a favor to help out a friend. It turned into something she really enjoyed. Tending bar brought the joy of interacting with people back into the forefront. “I love making friends and building my own clientele. The routine I was in had me excited for working on the weekends at Wall Street.” Making many friends quickly and thriving on the energy of others around her she feels very at home behind the bar. She is excited to feel the same way in her new restaurant. This year is bound to be an interesting one for Park. Through her hard work, research and preparation, plus the booming growth of Italian Village, Cray Eatery & Drinkery and Crystal Park, are poised for success. PHOTOS | RAY LAVOIE
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| JM RAYBURN City Councilmember Zachary M. Klein joined Columbus City Council in January 2011 and serves as the chair of the Development and Recreation & Parks committees. Councilmember Klein sat down with Quorum Columbus to talk about public service, development and the LGBTQ community. JM: Where did you grow up? ZK: I grew up in Belpre, Ohio. It’s in Washington County, right across the river from Parkersburg, West Virginia. So I’m an Appalachian kid that came to Ohio State and Capital Law school. With the exception of working in Washington, DC and Lima, Ohio for a year a piece, I lived in Columbus the past 13 years. And I love calling Columbus my home. JM: Who inspired you to pursue your career in public service? ZK: I’ve always been interested in government and politics. I wanted to find an opportunity where I thought my skill set would serve the job. And that’s where the opportunity came around. I thought that my background and working in Washington and working for Richard Cordray in democratic politics would give me an opportunity to serve the citizens of the City of Columbus.
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But I have to give all credit of being my political mentor to Rich Cordray, who is now director of the Consumer Finance Bureau in Washington, DC. I got my start in politics with him. As an attorney and working for Rich, one of the brightest attorneys in the United States, and being able to work for him and under him was just a tremendous opportunity. And to be able to translate that skillset right here to the Columbus City Council. JM: Using 2011 data from the US Census, Gay Census, and the Media Audit, the buying power of the Columbus LGBTQ Community is roughly $7.5 billion. What developments are needed to further protect and empower the LGBTQ community? ZK: We are getting close to the limits of what we can do as a city. City Council President Andrew Ginther mentioned the Human Rights Campaign Municipal Equality Index ranked Columbus #1, 100 percent across the board. We can’t score any higher. There are certainly things we could do as a state and as a society about recognizing samesex marriage. If I had the ability, I would stand at the courthouse steps with Mayor Coleman and marry people. But unfortunately our hands are tied because of the state constitution and federal constitution—until the U.S. Supreme Court tells us otherwise.
If I had the ability, I would stand at the courthouse steps with Mayor Coleman and marry people. But unfortunately our hands are tied because of the state constitution and federal constitution— until the U.S. Supreme Court tells us otherwise.
JM: What is your favorite word? ZK: Equality! JM: Smart answer! JM: How can the City of Columbus be more attractive to LGBTQ graduates of local universities and colleges and help retain these persons in the city? ZK: We have to market ourselves better. Columbus is a great city and it has a lot to offer in terms of a vibrant nightlife, a diverse community, an education base, a science center, a fashion scene, and a deserving respect for the arts, all of which are important factors people consider when searching for a place to live and raise a family. JM: How does Mayor Zach Klein sound? ZK: It is my hope that Mayor Michael Coleman stays in office for as long as possible because he has had such a positive impact, not only on the city, but on me as well. He is an individual that has my respect and admiration.
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| BOWEN MARSHALL “I AM SO happy for you!” I proclaimed as I got off the phone. My friend had just told me she was moving for a job, and while I couldn’t have been happier for her, I was sad because she is a person who helped make Columbus my home. Then I thought, “What am I going to do with all of my time? Who will fill this hole in my life?” And, unfairly and selfishly, “Why is she abandoning me?” I lost no time and set out on the friend prowl. Like Kate and Matt in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, I wasdetermined to find someone. Only this time the ante wasn’t a promotion, it was looking for a Columbus-based friendmate who would embrace my inner awesomeness. When we are looking for a romantic partner, the rules are clear. You go out, get your heart broken and turn to your best friend for support. But when you are dating for friends, are there rules? And more importantly, if there are rules, what are they? To answer this question, I turned to one of my childhood besties and worked out a brief survival guide to friend dating borne out of our combined years of being on different friend markets. 1) You’re gonna be lonely. Be careful of the friend rebound. Just like a romantic rebound, it’s all too easy to bounce into the arms of a new friend and end up rejecting them, not because they couldn’t have been a great friend, but because you’re not ready for the friendship. 2) Look for people who will stand up to you. I’ve always said, if people won’t stand up to me, they won’t stand up for me. Sometimes I’m not the best of friends, and I want people who will call me on my bull. I’ve found that if they are willing to do this to me, they will stand up for me when I’m not around.
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3) Take note of the cling factor. If you feel like someone is texting you all the time and getting clingy, that may be a sign to back off from friend dating. I’ve found that the only difference between finding someone clingy versus excitedly texting them back is my level of interest in that person. 4) Not every friend date leads to a bestie. Sometimes a bar friend is a bar friend and that’s okay. It’s okay to have different friends for different social settings. If someone doesn’t translate into multiple social circles, it doesn’t mean you can’t still have a great time with him once in a while. 5) Friend Around: go on multiple friend dates with multiple people. Hang out in friend groups and see how they behave around the other friends that you enjoy and value. If they don’t get along with the people you care about, then maybe they don’t deserve the “bestie” spot. 6) Beware of frenemies. You deserve people who build you up and are there for you when you are down. I think of frenemies not as people who are actively trying to hurt me, but as people who are careless with my feelings or who throw shade about me when I’m not around. 7) Your friend is just a phone call away…but they’re grieving too. So, before you launch into your latest friend dish or trial of social angst, ask how they’re doing. Remember that you’re not replacing them, but it can sometimes feel like that. Be mindful and avoid comparing a new potential bestie to your existing bestie. With the new year comes new relationships and new friends. Hopefully this friend-dating survival guide helps as you meet new people in the new year. And hey, remember that Skype means you can still share a pint of ice cream with your best friend, though don’t try to feed your friend through the screen. That’s just messy.
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I will lose 30 pounds by Pride in June. I will make better food choices in smaller portions daily and take the stairs more often.
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I will cut out most of the social activities I do each month to save money. I will send a set amount of my direct deposit to my savings account instead of contributing solely to my checking account.
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I will lose 30 pounds by Pride in June. I will make better food choices in smaller portions daily and take the stairs more often.
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I will quit smoking. I will smoke only half of each cigarette I light up to help reduce my overall intake and help me see the monetary cost.
I will research LGBT-friendly companies and better support them. Resolution: Realistic: I will support the businesses that advertise in Quorum Columbus and sponsor local LGBTQ events.
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I will get out more often to meet more friends. I will join one of the many LGBTA sports leagues or performing arts organizations.
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I will organize the entire house. I will do a couple things to help organize the most essential parts of my house. If those work out well, I will add a few more over time.
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I will cut out chocolate. (Why would you cut out chocolate?) I will eat a smaller amount of better chocolate.
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Brittany Preston & Dena Glassco
The Red Sea parted when she came into the room. | Amy Tannenbaum THE STORY OF Dena and Brittany has been complicated, over the top and full of song; a chance meeting in a Wisconsin bar led to a flash mob proposal in High Street in the Short North. But their long journey together almost didn’t happen! After Brittany – known by friends as “Bitty” – stood up Dena twice following their first meeting, they ran into each other again at a bar, and Dena explains, “The Red Sea parted when she came into the room.” Dena, a northeast Ohio native who calls Columbus home, was spending the summer in Wisconsin as part of a new job promotion, and Bitty had taken a trip to Wisconsin from her home state of Illinois and, five years later, was still there. Dena met her on her first night exploring the new city. Reluctant to start a relationship with someone planning to relocate in just a few months, Bitty blew her off twice, and Dena was discouraged; once Bitty came to her senses and began approaching her again at softball games, Dena gave her the cold shoulder. But their mutual friends knew better and facilitated the opportunity for them to give each other another chance: they forced Bitty to need a ride home from the bar. Bitty hopped in Dena’s work vehicle – a big, white windowless van Dena calls the “child molester van”- and Dena solicited payment for the ride in the form of a kiss. From there, there was no more denying their relationship. Dena returned to Columbus two months later. Their relationship continued long distance until Bitty was able to secure a transfer with her company and join Dena in Columbus. Three years later, Bitty started asking for “The Ring.” (Dena wanted one too, but Bitty says, “I asked first!”) Around that same time, an online flash mob proposal to Bruno Mars’ “Marry Me” that went viral caught Dena’s eye. At that moment, she knew she didn’t want to propose in an ordinary way. “I wanted to do something big and fun, for me, for her and for everyone!” she proclaims. Knowing they didn’t have the blessing of either of their families, she felt empowered to do it her way. Photos | Amy Tannenbaum
Just a few months before their five-year anniversary, the wheels were set in motion when Bitty spotted a ring she loved at Grandview Mercantile. Dena bought the ring and began planning the ultimate flash mob proposal – with only three months to pull it off. Dena drew on her experience doing drag and relied on help from friends to make it completely awesome and over the top. She held numerous practices, including three on the patio at La Fogata. Their friends and even Bitty’s sister came in from out of town to participate in the flash mob. Dena gave signs to VIPs to hold during the performance to distinguish them from the other 75-100 people involved – signs that she kept in the basement of their home, hidden behind a board effectively guarded by a dead insect. In the end, as you can see on YouTube, the flash mob proposal went off without a hitch this past July. When her sister presented the ring, Bitty said yes! Dena is still shocked that she pulled it off in such a short time, with so many people involved and without Bitty finding out before it all went down. In fact, Bitty, who runs a dog-sitting business, was dog sitting just down the street during one of their final practices! “I can’t believe everybody kept their mouths shut,” says Dena. “I can’t believe I kept my mouth shut!” If you haven’t seen it already (or even if you have!), you should definitely watch the video. You can find the link at QuorumColumbus.com or search “Dena’s flash mob proposal for Bitty” on YouTube. As Dena and Brittany look forward to the future, they acknowledge they face a pivotal moment in their lives. Soon after they began planning their May 2015 destination wedding, Dena learned she was losing her job – one that was key in helping Brittany start her business, as it offered partner benefits. Though some aspects of their future remain uncertain, they are in it together… along with their bulldog pups, Meatball and Betty, of course!
Kick Your Habit SEXPERT
| JOHN HENRY New Year’s Eve is one of my favorite holidays. It’s all about reflecting on the past and the hope and potential for the new year. While it doesn’t offer a complete “fresh start,” it’s an opportunity to look at your own life, decide what you like and dislike about it and make changes for the better. Major or minor, nearly everyone makes resolutions around this time. Eating healthier, quitting a bad habit and trying to exercise more are among the most popular resolutions, but many fail to attain their goals because they are too lofty and easily forgotten once the hustle and bustle of everyday life gets back in full swing. One key ingredient missing from most people’s resolution is accountability. I have tried to quit smoking every Januar y 1. I can remember, but I intentionally tell no one to avoid judgment or nagging when I ultimately fail or slip up. Another common flaw with New Year’s resolutions is a lack of true desire and willingness to change. I can relate to this struggle as well because I truly enjoy smoking cigarettes. It’s why I have chosen to continue for so long and have had little to no success in kicking the habit. Lastly, and probably most importantly, our plans to change fail because of a lack of planning. Back to my filthy addiction again, I’ve never looked into alternative options that have proven successful or had a back-up plan when my cold turkey method of choice doesn’t work. The first time I light up each year, I feel like a total failure and say “maybe next year.” I want to encourage our readers to make a resolution regarding their sexual health this year. We could all afford to change something in a current relationship or with our casual encounters that could make us healthier and happier. Large or small, any change is better than the alternative. Continuing to make risky choices or staying in an unhealthy relationship does not benefit anyone, especially you. Getting tested for HIV and other STIs, having a conversation with your partner about your relationship and its boundaries, increasing your condom use or limiting your number of partners are all great choices. As I mentioned before, make it something for which you can be held accountable. Tell a close friend or confidant about your plan and encourage him or her to help you live up to your goal. Don’t forget to make the change you choose something that you want to change, and make a game plan with achievable steps to attaining your goal. Maybe a support group or relationship counseling would help. Maybe something as simple as having condoms available when and where you might slip up is all you need. I guarantee that the benefits of changing risky behavior far outweigh the risks of maintaining your status quo. Every step you take to a healthy sex life makes a huge difference. Here’s to a new year and a new you!
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CRAB RACES WITH KRIS | KRIS LITTLER
FASCINATING FACT To ensure a healthy molt, hermit crabs store salt water in a special gland. The gland swells up like water balloons for the crab to live off of while molting.
UPDATE The Christmas Crab Race “SANTA CLAWS” was amazing! Exile was packed and we ran out of crabs even before the first race. It was a night filled with many laughs and many winners. The prizes were gift-wrapped surprises. Quorum Columbus’ own Isaac Bendele won the grand prize race and received a big gift bag of goodies, including a lump of coal and an Explorers Club gift card.
UPCOMING Plans for a big January Crab Race night are still in the works. Check out Facebook to get the skinny!
GREAT NAMES
NOT SO GREAT
Crab-anezer Scrooge, Tiny Tim the cripple crab, Crabraham Lincoln, Every day they see me scuttling, Chiburashka, Crab that Dough, Crustachio, Ghost Crab 9000, Claw-straphobic, I Shell come again, Crab-tain Kirk, Conch-way Twitty, Turtle Soup and Make-it-Snappy
Monday, 100, John, Lady, 25, 9-11, Crab, Ray, Larry, Mo, Steve, Lucy, Troy, Dinner, Bill, Janet, Henry, Joe, Peter, Dave, and Bob. OK, little hint: Read the great names to the left! See you at the races. Until then, stay crabbie!
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| JACKIE VANDERWORTH Dear Jackie, My best friend since college, Julie, and I have had a falling out, a really bad falling out over something silly. It escalated to other issues and peeves over the years with one another. I’d like to make the first move and make up, but I am too stubborn to do so. Any suggestions on how I can win my best friend back? ~ Barbara Dear Barbara, Friendship is like a ship: it can sail or sink. Once sunk, it may not be raised again. To keep it sailing smoothly requires patience, understanding, and good listening and communication skills, somewhat like a marriage. Since yours is sitting on friendship’s ocean floor, it may require some time and effort from both parties. Since you are the one who wants to initiate the olive branch, wait awhile longer for things to cool off. Then send a heartfelt letter, or in these modern times, an email or text, but I like the old-fashioned handwritten letter. Send flowers with a note or a coffee cup filled with an offer to meet over a cup of java to discuss your situation and how to get this liaison back on course. Hopefully you two can navigate this sisterhood vessel back on course to smooth sailing! ~ Jackie Dear Jackie, I have a friend Chad who is addicted to his smartphone. He doesn’t put it down for five seconds anywhere or anytime. I believe he sleeps and showers with it as well! The most annoying times are when we are all out to dinner and he picks up the phone and starts staring at in the middle of dinner or at crucial times of a conversation. How can I stop him from this annoying habit? ~ Doug
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Dear Doug, Turning electronics off and actually just being with people and enjoying their company and conversation has become almost as obsolete as a family sit-down dinner without the television. But there comes a time when you have to turn it off, disconnect and remember what actually matters: PEOPLE! I would suggest the next time you are dining with Chad, tell him all cell phones are face down and on vibrate. Phones can be checked prior to dinner or after, but not during. If he needs to correspond, he can go take a smoke break...I mean “cell break” with the smokers outside. And if he has a problem with that, then you personally will “cell check” his phone in coat check! ~ Jackie Dear Jackie, My friend Julie is pregnant again! This is her third child in four years. There are two problems: her husband won’t leave her alone and they don’t use birth control. I’m concerned for her mental and physical well-being. I am her best friend, and she tells me everything, so it’s not like I’m butting into her personal life. I just need some good old-fashioned diva advice for my girl. ~ Nancy Dear Nancy, Well first, I am jealous that her husband won’t leave her alone, but since I can’t get pregnant, that wouldn’t be a problem! But seriously, if she can’t get him to use birth control, she needs to start using some after this child is born. You can drive her to the nearest gynecologist or drug store and shop around for the best method. Naturally, she should discuss this with her husband, but if he’s not on board, a girl must take matters into her own hands…or that’s all that will be in her hands! It is nice that he is into her and can’t keep his hands off her, but I’m not worried about his hands. Maybe she can get him to do nights with just romance and cuddling and no sex sometimes. And, if he can’t refrain...BIRTH CONTROL, unless her role model is Kate Gosselin. Remember, condoms prevent minivans! ~ Jackie
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ENGAGE. 5 ARC OHIO Clintonville 4400 N High St 614.299.2437 24 ARC OHIO Medical Ctr + Pharmacy Short North 1033 N High St 16 Stonewall Columbus Short North 1160 N High St 614.299.7764
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MUNITY RESOURCES
LOCAL & STATE ORGANIZATIONS
NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS
Stonewall Columbus 614-299-7764 www.stonewallcolumbus.org This local community and resource center serves the Central Ohio LGBTQ community by providing programs and services that enhance the well-being and visibility of a diverse
GLAAD www.glaad.org A national organization that promotes fair, accurate, and inclusive media representations of LGBTQ people. as a means of challenging discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity.
Additionally, Stonewall Columbus hosts the annual Pride Holiday.
Human Rights Campaign www.hrc.com The nation’s largest gay and lesbian political organization.
ARC Ohio 800-252-0827 www.arcohio.org Fights the spread of HIV, works towards reducing its transmission, stigma and the resulting discrimination through education and awareness, and provides quality services to BRAD (Buckeye Alliance of the Deaf ) membership@gmail.com www.bradohio.com Protects and promotes the interests and well-being of deaf and hard of hearing LGBTQ people while increasing awareness about the needs of Deaf and hard of hearing community. BRAVO (Buckeye Region Anti-Violence Organization) 614-294-STOP www.bravo-ohio.org Works to eliminate violence perpetuated on the basis of prevention, advocacy, violence documentation and survivor services. Equality Ohio 614-224-0400 www.equalityohio.org A statewide lobbying organization working to secure equality for LGBT Ohioans. FreedomOhio 614-246-3807 www.freedomohio.com The Freedom to Marry Ohio movement is dedicated to ending marriage discrimination in Ohio. Kaleidoscope Youth Center 614-294-5437 www.kycohio.org Provides advocacy, education, support and a safe environment for LGBT youth in Central Ohio. P-FLAG Columbus 614-806-8025 awareness and understanding for Central Ohio’s LGBT citizens and our families, friends and allies. Rainbow Sisters www.rainbowsisters.info A social and community-oriented group for lesbian women age 40 and over.
NGLTF www.thetaskforce.org The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force is a leading progressive civil rights organization that has supported grassroots organizing since 1973. The National Coalition for LGBT Youth www.outproud.org A wide range of resources available for youth and educators. ARTS & MUSIC Capital Pride Band of Columbus 614-325-1590 www.cappride.org A statewide LGBTQ organization of instrumentalists promoting the joy of music, friendship, and personal growth. They provide a variety of performances each year. Columbus Gay Men’s Chorus 614-228-2462 www.cgmc.com Singing out since 1990, this chorus presents a series of concerts each year. Open auditions held prior to rehearsal for each show. Evolution Theatre Company 614-233-1124 www.evolutiontheatre.org A semi-professional theatre company that presents musicals, dramas and comedies that have not been seen in the area well as new works and world premieres. Imagine Productions 614-398-1110 www.imaginecolumbus.com entertaining and educating community stakeholders. They recognize that empowerment and growth occurs for both the audience and performer. Wexner Center for the Arts 614-292-3535 www.wexarts.org Internationally known contemporary arts center at OSU, programs, as well as a store and a café all under one roof in an architectural landmark. COUNSELING
Sisters of Lavender
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A social/support for women 40 and over. S.O.L. is the oldest lesbian organization in Columbus.
A center for psychotherapy and growth with a long history of working with LGBTQ clients.
TransOhio 614-441-8167 www.transohio.org Serves the Ohio transgender and allied communities by providing services, education, support and advocacy.
Randi Cohen, LPCC-S 614-267-1993 www.randicohen.com Helping adult clients to create a strong sense of self, learn good communication skills, and gain a clearer sense of how others see you.
Why Marriage Matters Ohio www.whymarriagemattersoh.org A marriage equality education campaign supporting the right for any loving, committed Ohio couple to marry.
Shawn D. King, PhD., LISW 614-655-3554 www.shawnkingphd.com Providing individual, family, and group counseling services to the LGBTQ community. Specializing in relationship issues, anger management and mental health services. HEALTH & WELLNESS AHF Wellness Center & Out of the Closet Pharmacy: 614-732-5947 Wellness Center: 614-223-1532 www.aidshealth.org The AIDS Healthcare Foundation (AHF) operates Out of the full-service pharmacy, and HIV testing at the corner of N. High St., Suite 350. CHOICES 614-224-4663 www.choicescolumbus.org Since 1977 they have provided counseling, shelter, crisis intervention, education and community and legal support and advocacy to central Ohio residents facing domestic violence. Columbus Public Health LGBTQ Health Initiative 614-645-1493 www.publichealth.columbus.gov As part of the department’s mission to protect health and cultural competency trainings to health care and other service providers. Additionally, their LGBTQ Health Advocate manages The Crystal Club 614-214-4828 www.thecrystalclub.org female impersonators, and other transgender individuals. Huckleberry House 614-294-5553 www.huckhouse.org Established in 1970 to provide a safe place for runaway youth homeless or runaways. NetCare 614-276-CARE www.netcareaccess.org Provides 24 hour mental health and substance abuse crisis intervention, stabilization and assessment for Franklin County Planned Parenthood of Central Ohio, Inc. 614-224-2235 www.plannedparenthood.org The nation's oldest and largest sexual and reproductive health care organization. Trevor Project 866-4U-TREVOR www.thetrevorproject.org Determined to end suicide among LGBT youth by providing nationwide, 24/7 crisis intervention lifeline.
2014
The Work Toward Equality Continues
| Lynne Bowman Goodbye 2013. Hello 2014! It’s hard to believe another year has come to a close. And what an incredible year it was. Seven more states have marriage equality, with five of those happening through a legislative vote. Delaware added gender identity protections to the nondiscrimination law and New Jersey banned reparative therapy for minors. ENDA passed with bipartisan support in the U.S. Senate. And the Defense of Marriage Act was struck down by the Supreme Court. These accomplishments combine with electoral wins from coast to coast. I get tired just thinking about it all. After such an incredible year, no one can predict where we will see victories in the next 12 months. However, there are a number of things to think about as we approach the upcoming LGBTQ equality work. 1. Volunteer. Please. Whatever issue or candidate is important to you, if you must choose how to give, choose time. We must have deep conversations to change hearts and minds on marriage; identify and turn out pro-equality voters for ballot and candidate campaigns; and directly lobby legislators on LGBTQ issues. This means tens of thousands of volunteer hours in states like Oregon, Indiana and Ohio. Yes, it’s hard. Yes, it can be scary. And yes, it’s necessary. This movement needs you. 2. The pro-equality community must increase our presence and commitment around cross-issue organizing. While states like Ohio aren’t there yet on LGBTQ issues, we can’t forget that we need to fight for justice across the board. This means showing up fully on a wide range of social justice issues in our local communities. These issues are our issues.
4. Recognize that the pace of winning will likely slow. The most likely places where wins were possible have all started to fall in the “win” column. Where we need to win next will require an even greater effort than we’ve seen before, and we have to double down to maintain our momentum. And what are the next big LGBT issues in 2014 in Ohio? In January the Human Rights Campaign, with the Americans for Workplace Opportunity campaign, will roll out the field effort to secure a vote on ENDA in the House of Representatives, with multiple priorities in Ohio. Why Marriage Matters Ohio will ramp up the effort to move Ohio forward on marriage as we prepare for an upcoming vote. Equality Ohio will continue to lead the effort to add employment, housing and public accommodations protections based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Pro-equality challengers and incumbents like Reps. Nickie Antonio and Tim Brown will have campaigns to win election or re-election. With all of this unknown, there is one thing of which I’m certain: the article in 2015 that looks back on 2014 will report changes. But like the twists and turns the work took in 2013, I’m confident we will experience surprises along the way in 2014, whether in Ohio or in our work across the nation. And as we have been for more than 30 years, the Human Rights Campaign will be there, working our way through the ever-changing landscape next to our partners and friends as we collectively move the nation forward – one city, one state and one law at a time.
3. We cannot write anyone off when it comes to supporting pro-LGBTQ causes. Some of the strongest allies in the wins across the nation these past few years have been the unlikely suspects. Republicans, faith leaders and the business community all have come a long way toward shifting attitudes and opinions. And in states like Ohio, we cannot win without them.
Lynne Bowman is the Midwest, Northeast and Mid-Atlantic Regional Field Director for the Human Rights Campaign. She is a founder and the first executive director of Equality Ohio and currently sits on the Board of Trustees of Columbus State Community College. She has spent most of the last year working on marriage campaigns in Illinois, New Jersey, Delaware, Indiana and Rhode Island. When she’s not traveling, she makes her home in Blacklick with Nanci, her partner of nearly 20 years, and their menagerie of animals.