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A treatise on progressive change for Charlotte’s LGBT community Mecklenburg County moved forward with LGBT-inclusion on Oct. 15, finally adding employee protections on the basis of gender identity and expression eight years after it added similar protections for sexual orientation. The 6-3 vote is a victory, no doubt. Advocacy from groups like the Mecklenburg LGBT Political Action Committee (MeckPAC) and from individual members of the community helped mark that achievement. While it’s clear the majority of our leaders understand the need for non-discrimination protections, what also became clear during the meeting was the realization — at least to me — that we still have a long, long way to go before we can say our larger community has been adequately educated on issues affecting LGBT people and, in particular, issues around gender, gender-identity and transgender people. The causes are many, but chief among them, I believe, has been Charlotte’s lack of public dialogue, activism and awareness-building on important LGBT issues. Mecklenburg County commissioners should be applauded for their political courage — for agreeing to take these issues on in public votes at the dais. Public votes by elected officials create opportunities for the community to engage in dialogue. Yes, sometimes those conversations are harsh and rough. We witnessed as much on Oct. 15, as slurs and insinuations flew from our opponents and even friendly and well-intentioned leaders used phrases like “lifestyle” or honestly questioned what it really is to be transgender as sponsors of the policy revision struggled to give even the most basic of responses. (A friend said the debate contained some of the most discriminatory language he had ever heard.) The same level of conversation has not happened at City Council, where we’ve missed at least two opportunities to have important public dialogue on issues like employment protections for sexual orientation and gender identity. I’ve long pushed for Council to vote publicly from the dais on issues like these. But, conversation can do more than change policies; it can change culture. We may be making significant policy progress, but movement for our local political and social culture has been stalled for quite a long time. It will never move again, or if it does, only very slowly if we don’t begin to engage in the kinds of dialogue, education, activism, advocacy and reconciliation that are important tools to shape and change culture. On this journey toward conversation and education, I believe we must begin to understand concretely several important concepts and begin to undertake several important initiatives. Some ideas to get us started listed below. It’s lengthy, but it’s important, so I hope you’ll stick through it. Reality, not fantasy First and foremost, we must fully invest ourselves in reality and stop this fantasy-thinking that allows us to pretend that Charlotte is something it’s not. We’re making progress, sure, but that progress, at least at the city level, has only been mostly achieved in the past four years. That’s not a shining history of progressive political leadership and courage. We must understand the true, unvarnished, unbiased and un-whitewashed history of our
local LGBT and larger Civil Rights Movement. LGBT advocacy in Charlotte has been a hard road — one for which we’ve been judged harshly, even as recently as last year (think: 1996 and “Angels in America”). The harsh reality is that the larger Charlotte community really isn’t a “progressive” place. What seems like “progressive” culture is merely the deceptive veil of a conservative laissez-faire mindset — you do your thing, I’ll do mine. That’s great, until folks start thinking their thing is discriminating against and silencing others. We and our surrounding suburbs are the home of Billy Graham, the president of the North Carolina Baptist State Convention, the speaker of a reactionary, anti-LGBT and racist North Carolina House of Representatives, an internationally-known anti-gay leader who counts among his associates a radical evangelical who advocated anti-gay genocide in Uganda, a local base of followers (including elected leaders) who revere a national hate group and religious leader who calls gays “beasts” and Jews “Satanic” and too many other anti-gay churches and leaders to count. We are also the home of leaders like Bill “Your son’s a homo?” James and Karen “Gay Bowel Syndrome” Bentley. We often laugh at their throwback bigotry. But, dear friends, your neighbors have elected them to office; what does that say about how they view you? Don’t think for an instance these all-too-present and all-too-vocal anti-LGBT leaders and organizations don’t have an effect on LGBT people’s lives — legally, economically, socially, religiously and more. They do, every day, mostly lived out silently by people who, unlike me and other mostly white, mostly male LGBT leaders, don’t have the privilege of voice, leadership and status. Civic engagement The work of changing political and social culture cannot rest with one organization alone. Since the late-1990s, MeckPAC and its volunteer members have worked hard to move our city and county forward. Where they have fallen short is in lobbying and education — a failure for which we can hardly blame them. Lobbying and education is hard work and it’s probably best if it’s full-time and paid. But, we don’t have that luxury here. If we seek to truly change local culture, local LGBT organizations will have to unite and rally. Non-profit organizations that purport to lead our community must put aside their irrational fear of the “political” and engage themselves when necessary and appropriate in civic conversations for change, working publicly, strategically and collaboratively with MeckPAC. Intentional inclusion LGBT organizations in Charlotte have done a phenomenal job at including and welcoming transgender members of the community. I’d dare say that we’ve done better than other LGBT communities across the state and nation. Yet, we lack visibility from transgender people in the leadership of our community. A handful of names rise to the top — the late Pamela Jones, activist Janice Covington, current LGBT Community Center Chair Roberta Dunn. But, we need more. Just as we hope that LGB leadership reflects a diversity of age, gender and
race, we must work to ensure that a diversity of transgender people are represented among our organizations’ leadership ranks. Where are our trans people of color, trans men, and trans youth? We must work with intention in our inclusion efforts; many of us, myself included, have failed in some way, in some organization, in some activity as we watched a room full of mostly white gay men make decisions on behalf of others. That will no longer do. It’s not enough to say, “We are here, so come and join us.” We must reach out. We must engage. We must create spaces where new voices are welcome, not shunned and shut out. Self education We must educate ourselves. It is fully irrational that we would expect straight allies — not even to mention our opponents — to understand the complexities of LGBT people’s lives and needs while many of us still do not understand these concepts ourselves. We must commit to providing members of our own community opportunities to learn more about ourselves and our LGBT siblings. It’s outrageous that longstanding leaders of our community would ask people like me and others to explain to them concepts like queer identity and the existence of intersex people or that longstanding leaders never recognized the harm that might be done when straight allies — not LGBT people themselves — lead our movement and give it their — not our — direction. (For a primer understanding of the harm that can come from “moderate” and not-fully-invested allies of minorities, read Martin Luther King, Jr.’s “Letter from a Birmingham Jail” and pay particular attention to his remarks on “the white moderate.”) These concepts are important and we can’t teach others without understanding them ourselves. Non-profit groups should commit themselves to educating their boards and their staffs. They should attend conferences like the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force’s Creating Change, plan more conferences and trainings like the recent Carolina Conference on Queer Youth or Campus Pride’s Stop The Hate Trainings and host professional LGBT organizers and educators for panels, lectures and trainings that are publicized and open to the community. Advocacy, but also activism We must learn that activism and advocacy are not one in the same. They are different, in both scope and effect, and each have their place and their purpose. We have advocacy in Charlotte, but we lack significant activism that can shape and mold public conversation. The same non-profits and leaders who must put aside their fear of “politics” must also make room to support and encourage grassroots activism, direct action, civil disobedience, youth organizing and more. Becoming allies We must be allies, instead of only seeking allies. The same leaders and organizations that oppose LGB equality, also oppose equality for transgender people, people of color, immigrants and women. Just imagine how truly progressive Charlotte could be if our LGBT community began to work hand-in-hand with our natural, progressive allies, not only for our issues but also for theirs. Our community missed an opportune moment to lead with our allies in December 2009, when Bill James struck out with some of his worst bigotry, attacking gays, people living with HIV/AIDS and African-Americans. With the notable exception of two organizations,
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Why I Got Arrested I got arrested on Oct. 8. And, my mom was proud of me. In fact, I did it for her. I got arrested with 200 other activists and eight members of Congress in a peaceful act of civil disobedience. I got arrested in front of the U.S. Capitol because we must send a loud message to Congress that the time is now to pass comprehensive, compassionate immigration reform with a path to citizenship. I got arrested for the 11 million undocumented immigrants who dream about becoming U.S. citizens, being able to drive a car, travel without fear and get a college degree. I got arrested for the 267,000 LGBT immigrants like me who will benefit from immigration reform if the one-year bar on applying for asylum is eliminated, if conditions are improved for people held in detention facilities and if detainees aren’t placed in solitary confinement solely based on sexual orientation or gender identity. Some are suggesting that we offer undocumented immigrants work permits, but not full citizenship. That approach would leave millions of people in a permanent underclass. Others are suggesting that Congress should address the status of immigrant youth only and leave the rest of the 11 million aside. We are mobilizing for all 11 million, who are Americans in all but paperwork. In fact, as DREAMers with United We Dream, including the LGBT people who have played such a critical role in the fight for reform, we have spoken out strongly against policies that would give us a path to citizenship, but deport our parents. We don’t want half-measures that don’t fix our broken immigration system once and for all. We don’t want any more families to be separated. While Congress continues to debate reform, we must stop deportations that tear
families apart. Every day that Congress fails to act, 1,100 families are separated. This must end. We have an historic opportunity to get it done and get it right. This is the best chance we’ve had in a generation to pass real immigration reform that provides protections for our families and gives us a chance to fully contribute. The time is now for a real solution: reform with citizenship. We want nothing less than an inclusive path to citizenship for all undocumented immigrants and an end to senseless deportations. Our movement is strong and getting stronger every day. Support for reform comes from across the country and across the political spectrum. Our movement is comprised of immigrant, ethnic, faith, labor, business, LGBT, progressive and conservative groups. We will not stop until immigration reform is enacted. We believe that America works best when the “them” become “us” so that all of us become stronger. Getting arrested to demonstrate my support — my urgent need — for immigration reform was a difficult decision. But, it was the clearest message I could send to Congress that we must pass immigration reform now because we must remind Congress there are millions of other people like me whose families suffer every day because of our immigration system. : : — Juan Ramos, originally from El Salvador, calls Charlotte, N.C., home, where he is involved with United 4 the Dream, a local immigrant rights organization. He is also a member of United We Dream’s National Coordinating Committee and UWD’s Queer Undocumented Immigrant Project.
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discrimination protections for public employees. Now, we must turn our attention to those who need the same protections in the private sector. And, we must begin to address other important topics that affect the health and well-being of not only our own community, but also of our allies. We must institute awareness campaigns, activism and advocacy and lean on our leaders — elected and otherwise — to make change on issues like hunger, poverty and economic privilege, affordable housing and homelessness, the all-too-unjust criminal justice system, alcohol and drug abuse, prostitution and sexual exploitation, reproductive rights and sexual freedom and privacy, along with the dramatically rising HIV/AIDS infection rate. Minorities of all stripes — LGBT people, women, people of color — are affected by each of these intersecting issues. Making truly progressive, sustainable change is hard work. It takes dedication and sacrifice. It is never solely achieved in a suit and tie or at fancy fundraising dinners. Many in Charlotte are yearning for change. Many have already begun the hard work required for it. They deserve applause and our united support. Let’s join them and craft a Charlotte we can all be proud to call home. : :
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Time Out Youth Center and Campus Pride, the reaction of our community’s leading organizations — the LGBT Community Center, MeckPAC, the Charlotte Business Guild, PFLAG and others — was silence. As I wrote at the time, “Their unwillingness to act on, or, perhaps, their complete ignorance of, the situation was a lost opportunity to build bridges with progressive allies across racial, sexual, health, political and religious lines.” (For more on that, revisit goqnotes.com/4805/ and goqnotes.com/6041/.) Our allies are leading for us, when and where they can. Three black Mecklenburg County commissioners stood in our place on Oct. 15 when our community, and their advocacy on behalf of us, was attacked by their colleagues. We have a debt to pay. Expanding the movement And, while we are working with allies, we must begin to recognize that our movement is about more than just marriage. Local advocacy groups like MeckPAC have done their part to raise debate on topics like employment non-
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Charlotte Conference features ‘Project Runway’ winner
CHARLOTTE — The Annual United States Conference on AIDS was held during early September and local advocates and healthcare workers were able to attend and represent the Charlotte area. Advocates from all over the U.S. joined together to share experiences and learn from each other during the educational conclave. Included in the contingency was Different Roads Home CEO and President Dale Pierce. “The atmosphere was one of revitalization of the spirit of what we do,” he said. Pierce added, “One of the themes that came out of the conference was that as great as the Affordable Care Act may be for those with HIV, we still have to advocate for more changes and make sure the focus does not shift off of education and prevention.” A spotlight on HIV/AIDS in the south was targeted during the conference. Conference-goers were able to meet Denver, Colo.-native Armando Thomas “Mondo” Guerra, a winner of “Project Runway All Stars.” During his time on the reality show, he revealed his HIV status. Guerra spoke at the conference’s main plenary and reminded everyone about being aware of one’s HIV/AIDS status, as well as being true to dreams and desires, no matter the circumstances. He tirelessly works to educate the public about the issues surrounding HIV/AIDS. In other news, Different Roads Home is seeking Ryan White Memorial Scholarship Fund applications. Deadline is Nov. 1. Recipients will receive the awards at the 4th Annual Evening of Hope & Inspiration on Nov. 23. The Good Road Project is in search of mentors who can share their experience with those who have received a positive diagnosis and “is having difficulty coping with illness, and/or struggling with treatment, knowledge and adherence. Training for the post must be completed before pairing with a mentee. Email kstrong@differentroadshome.org to learn more. An application is available online. info: nmac.org. mondoguerra.com. differentroadshome.org. — L.M.
Triad Foundation to host fundraiser
WINSTON-SALEM — The Adam Foundation will hold its 24th Annual Adam Festival on Nov. 2, 7-11 p.m., at the Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, 251 N. Spruce St. This year, attendees will be able to enjoy the “big top” with a fun circus atmosphere, meet the 2013 grant recipients and enjoy food, dancing, silent and live auctions, door prizes and more. Monies taken in for the event will fund the 2014 grant cycle. All festival sponsors who contribute $250 or more through Oct. 31 are entitled to receive tickets to the event as part of their sponsorship package. They are listed on the foundation’s website. A pre-party for sponsors will take by place by special invitation on Nov. 1, 6-8:30 p.m., at Sawtooth School for Visual Art, 251 N. Spruce St. It comes complete with heavy appetizers, drinks and other treats. Tickets are $80/advance and $15/students which are available online and , $85/at the door. info: adamfoundation.org. — L.M.
Law students lend hand
WINSTON-SALEM — The Associated Press reported that Wake Forest University gay and lesbian law students availed their services for free at Winston-Salem Pride on Oct. 19.
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They were joined by friends as they dispensed legal help to who needed it with regard to completion of healthcare power of attorney forms. info: wfu.edu. — L.M.
Triangle Robinson addresses religion issues
RALEIGH — Bishop Gene Robinson, who was the first openly gay Episcopal bishop, was at North Carolina State University on Oct. 14 speaking on the subject of God Believes in Love, Straight Talk about Gay Marriage at Witherspoon’s Campus Cinema. This event was part of the school’s Diversity Education Week. The Technician reported that during his introduction, the university’s Center for Leadership, Ethics and Public Service Vice President Dani Lechner presented Robinson with an honorary Role Model Leader Award. During his address, Robinson shared that “thirty years ago, most Americans would have told you that they didn’t know anyone who was gay…And now, there isn’t a family left in America who doesn’t know one family member, one coworker or one classmate who isn’t LGBT.” He added that society had advanced and evolved, thus making it possible for the LGBT community to be more accepted. He also said that even with progress, there are still “some elements of religion” that place pressure on the LGBT people, however, he indicated that
Cooper to be keynote speaker at gala Award winners to be recognized
GREENSBORO — The Equality NC Foundation has announced that the state’s Attorney General Roy Cooper will serve as the keynote speaker at its 2013 gala, “A Celebration of Home,” on Nov. 9 at the Empire Room, 203 S. Elm St. qnotes reported on Oct. 15 that equality advocates in North Carolina have praised Cooper’s supportive personal remarks with regard to same-sex marriage. “The Attorney General has long been an advocate for equal rights for all people and we applaud him for publicly aligning with a fast-growing majority of North Carolinians who now support the legal relationship recognitions between committed LGBT couples,” Chris Sgro, executive director of Equality North Carolina, said in a release. Cooper was a vocal opponent of anti-gay Amendment One. During the evening’s program, the Equality NC Foundation Gala Awards will be presented to: N.C. Sen. Josh Stein, Jamie Kirk Hahn Ally Award; Janet Joyner, Bob Page Equality Champion Award; N.C. Rep. Tricia Cotham, Legislative Leadership Award; and Freedom Center for Social Justice, Organization of the Year Award. Stein, of Raleigh, voted against Amendment One and believes that sexual orientation and gender identity should be included in the state’s workplace non-discrimination law and actively worked to include sexual orientation and gender identity the School Violence Prevention Act, the K-12 anti-bullying legislation that passed the General Assembly in 2009. Joyner, of Winston-Salem, has been a decades-long proponent of safe schools and as such helped to formulate the statewide anti-bullying policy proposal to the State Board of Education in 2004, but it failed. Subsequently, it did become a basis for the model of legislation for 2009’s School Violence Protection Act. Cotham, of Charlotte, was an opponent of Amendment One and has spoken out against discrimination as well. In 2013, Cotham upped the pro-equality ante, sponsoring historic legislation that would offer statewide workplace protections for all state employees and teachers. The bill hasn’t yet passed, but Cotham remains committed to seeing it through. Bishop Tonyia Rawls, founder of Charlotte’s Freedom Center for Social Justice, will accept an award honoring her organization. The work of the center focuses on enhancing the quality of life by increasing the number of healthy options and opportunities available to low income communities, communities of color, sexual minorities and youth. Registration is $160 until Oct. 27 and will increase to $190 until the day of the event. Active-military duty rate is $50. The Proximity Hotel, 704 Green Valley Rd., serves as the hospitality host for the gala. Reservations can be made online. Be sure to ask for the special gala rate when booking accommodations. Cost is $159/night for king loft and $169 for double queen. Transportation to the gala is included in the room rate. info: equalityncfoundation.org. proximityhotel.com. — L.M. & M.C.
religion could become an “integral part” of the LGBT community. The day after his engagement, The Technician reported that there was some backlash from its anti-LGBT student body. Gregory McClanahan reported that Robinson was being demeaned, even after he received the highly distinguished role model award. Some students felt that Robinson was a hypocrite. They even questioned how he could believe in God. These attacks, McClanahan shared, “In a world where Christians claim to want love and
peace, there is an awful lot of hatred around the Christian community.” He even went so far as to say that every student should take “courses like USC 100, Transition into a Diverse Community” to develop more understanding about those “who are different from them.” McClanahan indicated that by if a “stable social environment that promotes the care and respect from every single member of this university” could not be maintained, “then how are we going to have a community that
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‘Ex-gay’ group threatens Va. colleges by Amber Galaviz :: GayRVA.com
RICHMOND, Va. — The “ex-gay” group, Voice of the Voiceless, is urging the LGBT student resource centers at universities in Virginia to provide ex-gay therapy and resources on changing sexual orientation. The group sent a letter to all Virginia state colleges late last month threatening legal action saying current resources are unsupportive and discriminating against their faith. Christopher Doyle, co-founder and director of Voice of the Voiceless (VOV), went undercover with another ex-gay activist to see what services the LGBT departments at several Virginia universities would tell them when they asked about ex-gay treatment options. “Myself and a colleague went into seven state-funded universities in Virginia presenting as a graduate student with unwanted same-sex attractions, meaning that we didn’t identify as LGBT,” said Doyle. “We were conflicted, unsure about our homosexual feelings, and we’re looking for specific referrals or options for individuals who did not wish to live a gay life or identify as gay but would rather pursue sexual orientation change-over therapy or a helpful organization that would support us.” The resulting conversation with school officials was not what Doyle and VOV wanted to hear. One counselor at George Mason University told him ex-gay therapy would cause him to “become psychologically-damaged, depressed, and even commit suicide.”
“What we found out was the LGBT resource centers and the multicultural centers, which are supposed to be places where students can go and get bias-free and neutral counseling from counselors, were anything but that,” said Doyle. “They did not work with us on our goals, they did not provide us any resources.” According to VOV, information provided by the schools was biased and their viewpoints were discriminatory. This led the group to seek legal aid from Liberty Counsel, a Floridabased non-profit litigation firm that advances “religious freedom, the sanctity of life, and the family” according to its mission statement. Doyle said Liberty Counsel “sent a letter to these universities saying that they’re engaging in viewpoint discrimination because as a public forum they have an obligation to present all views on sexuality and not just one view.” Wayne Besen, founder of Truth Wins Out (TWO) and a former staffer of the Human Rights Campaign, says Doyle and other ex-gay advocates are pushing therapies that have been discredited. “Chris Doyle is out of his mind,” Besen said. “What you actually have these people doing is absurd.” Besen calls ex-gay therapy “child abuse” saying there’s no reason for reputable establishments to offer it, and said he’s got the science behind him to prove it.
A statute of Thomas Jefferson at the University of Virginia. Photo Credit: Phil Roeder, via Flickr. Licensed CC.
“The American Psychological Association (APA) says point-blank that attempts to change sexual orientation can cause anxiety, depression and self-destructive behavior,” Besen said about a resolution adopted by APA in 2009 which condemned ex-gay therapy.
Virginia’s public universities have not publicly responded to Doyle’s letters. The ex-gay leader said the schools had until Oct. 25 to do so. : : — A longer version of this article was originally published at GayRVA.com (bit.ly/H40LTP). Republished here with permission.
QUICK HITS —————————————————————————————— New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie said on Oregon will now recognize same-sex Oct. 15 that if one of his children came out as couples’ marriages performed in other states. gay, he would “grab them and hug them and more: bit.ly/16efSoN tell them I love them,” but that “Dad believes ———————————— that marriage is between one man and one Four men in Chile have been found guilty woman.” The comments came during a debate of first-degree murder in the brutal October with Democratic challenger Barbara Buono 2012 killing of a gay man. The perpetrators also during a debate at Montclair State University. carved a swastika into the man’s body. more: bit.ly/H43w7y more: bit.ly/1i01alc
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promotes academia for everyone?” He added that the “Pack” would have to see its failures and hold students accountable for their actions” before this could occur. Adding to this, he called upon the university’s parents, faculty, students and more to end discrimination, as well as promote an accepting environment. Elsewhere on campus, students sold “I [heart] Diversity” T-shirts to promote the week’s observance at the university’s Brickyard. Justine Hollingshead, GLBT Center director, said it was a way to begin a dialogue on diversity. It is the hope of the center and those who
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partner with it to keep the process going well after Diversity Education Week. A cabaret is slated for Nov. 15 as part of the center’s programming. info: ncsu.edu. — L.M.
GCN reports successes
RALEIGH — The Gay Christian Network has announced that its 2012-13 fiscal year was one infused with achievements. It launched a new website design and welcomed over 500 attendees to its annual conference. The annual report is available online at gaychristian.net/pr/annual-report-100713.php. In order to keep GCN growing, it is asking for board members with specific skill and experience to join them. Areas of interest include non-profit work, fundraising, marketing, public speaking or writing and more. Board members are asked to make a financial giving and time commitment (approximately five hours a week, the monthly board meetings, annual planning meeting and conference). Candidates should be able to advocate for GCN’s position, lending a voice for LGBT Christians. Email nominations to office@ gaychristian.net. The organization is also working with North Carolina State University Public Relations students to revamp its communications’ strategy, GCN said. Visit ncsu.qualtrics.com// SE/?SID=SV_6EV3rbtcLlhK8y9 to take part. As with any non-profit, contributions are always welcome to support its work, especially during economic times of stress the U.S. has seen.
In other news, GCN has shared that its 2014 conference keynote speaker will be author and blogger Rachel Held Evans. She has been featured on NPR, The Washington Post and oprah.com to name a few. info: gaychristian.net. — L.M.
Western Official accepts marriage apps
ASHEVILLE — The Buncombe County Register of Deeds accepted marriage license applications from 10 same-sex couples on Oct. 15. Though he did not process them, the official says he wants to and will seek an opinion from the state’s attorney general. Register of Deeds Drew Reisinger announced on Oct. 14 that he would accept the applications after activists from the Campaign for Southern Equality informed him that couples would visit his office. The Asheville protest action follows a similar event in Charlotte the week before, when three same-sex couples were denied marriage licenses. “I will let each couple know that it is my hope to grant them a license, but I need to seek the North Carolina Attorney General’s approval,” Reisinger said in a release. “I have concerns about whether we are violating people’s civil rights based on this summer’s Supreme Court decision.” Reisinger did as he said he would and accepted the license applications. He withheld his own signature pending an opinion from state Attorney General Roy Cooper.
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Mecklenburg commissioners vote to add transgender protections 6-3 vote brings county policies in line with city’s, federal government regulations by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com CHARLOTTE — Mecklenburg County commissioners voted 6-3 on Oct. 15 to add protections for transgender workers to the county’s non-discrimination policy. Commissioner Kim Ratliff, a Democrat, introduced the motion with the support of Democratic Commissioners Trevor Fuller and George Dunlap. Ratliff’s policy revision adds the phrase “actual or perceived gender as expressed through dress, appearance, or behavior” to the equal employment and nondiscrimination policy for county workers. The proposal also adds “political affiliation” to the policy. The county last updated the policy in 2005, when it added sexual orientation. Scott Bishop, chair of the Mecklenburg LGBT Political Action Committee (MeckPAC), said the revision was necessary for the county to continue to compete for good employees. In the past five years, he said, the number of corporations including employee protections for transgender workers has more than doubled. “Corporate America recognizes that talent comes in all forms,” he said. “Many municipalities are also following suit and realizing they need to compete for this talent pool. Providing
these protections at the local level is an important step in ensuring transgender Americans are provided the same opportunities as other candidates in hiring.”
Debate, like the vote, fell largely along party lines, though Democrat Vilma Leake questioned the definition of “transgender” and the need for the additional language.
Ratliff and other supporters said the policy revision was simply meant to bring the county’s policies in line with federal regulations. In 2012, the federal Equal Employment Opportunity Commission ruled that discriminating against a person on the basis of their gender identity constituted illegal sex discrimination under Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. “It’s really straightforward,” said Dunlap. “It’s updating our policy to reflect what federal policy says we have to follow. I don’t think anyone would argue that it’s wrong to update our policies when they need to be updated.” Yet, Republicans Bill James, Karen Bentley and Matthew Ridenhour each objected. James said the policy would allow “men in dresses” to use women’s restrooms. “I don’t think that Mecklenburg County employees — the female ones — are going to want to be sitting in a stall in a bathroom and see a man in the stall next to them,” James said. “Just because a guy dresses like Little Bo Peep does not mean he gets to go into the women’s bathroom.”
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MeckPAC responds to vote An Oct. 18 statement from Mecklenburg LGBT Political Action Committee following the county commission’s vote: “MeckPAC would like to thank the Mecklenburg County Board of Commissioners for voting to expand protections in county employment to include transgender employees and applicants. MeckPAC would like to especially thank Commissioner Kim Ratliff for her leadership on this issue. “Voting with us on this issue were Commissioners Clarke, Cotham, Dunlap, Fuller and Leake. “MeckPAC would also like to explicitly condemn the ill-informed, ignorant remarks made by Commissioner James about who transgender people are. Transgender people are not “men in dresses” dressing like “bo-peep” just waiting to go to the bathroom in county buildings. Transgender people are human beings with the same safety concerns and biological needs as any other human being. “Mecklenburg County now joins Orange County and Buncombe County in ensuring transgender employees and applicants will not be discriminated based on who they are but instead, will be evaluated based on their performance and their potential ability to do the job.”
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End-of-life Estate Preparation by Judson Gee JHG Financial Advisors
There is an old saying that is so true; “There are two things in life you can’t avoid: Death and Taxes.” I just experienced both in my life as my best friend and father passed away of a rare cancer. Unfortunately, it’s a part of life we all will experience, and as much as we don’t like to talk about our mortality, we must be prepared for it. As a Certified Estate Planner CEP®, we did a lot of planning strategies to prepare, thus only paying the fair share of estate taxes. Let me express I am neither a licensed attorney nor a CPA, so this information should be confirmed with a proper designated expert. The following is a short list of things one can do for estate planning. 1. W ill, Healthcare Power of Attorney, Durable Limited Power of Attorney 2. R evocable Living Trust 3. D esignate accounts under single ownership as Transfer on Death (TOD) This is short list indeed and there are many more aspects of estate planning, but the misnomer is that if your estate is less than the current estate tax rules under federal tax law ($5.1 million), one doesn’t need to do much planning. That is absolutely not true! The above mentioned aspects are even more important for the LGBT community than for straight allies given current state laws, even though DOMA was struck down recently by the Supreme Court. But, many people think that once you get these legal documents in place, you’re all set. Not true again! A will is crucial to all those who want their estate handled in the manner they wish, versus dying “incontestate,” which means without a will. Without a will the state will handle the estate settlement and probate, and that may not be the way you want it. Wills are available from many outlets, but I advise using an attorney who specializes in Estate Planning. That specialist can help with the other components of your estate while you’re alive or after you pass away. Having a Healthcare Power of Attorney and Durable Power of Attorney can be crucial to the LGBT community given North Carolina doesn’t recognize same-sex marriage. I learned a good lesson with my father’s passing, as some of the assets he wanted to bypass probate did not. A Revocable Trust, which follows one’s social security number, may help your estate bypass Probate; however if you don’t “fund it,” it’s almost worthless.
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The next step once the trust is formed is to re-title all of your non-retirement assets in the name of the Trust. Some examples are your mortgage/deed, bank accounts, investment accounts, vehicle title, or any other asset that isn’t in joint name or Transfer on Death (TOD). TOD, which is fairly new to North Carolina, is a very inexpensive and simple way to avoid probate and make sure your assets flow smoothly to your beneficiaries. One might assume that you give up control with TOD, but this also a misnomer. For the LGBT community, where a family member might not accept your relationship, these aspects of estate planning are key. It’s very hard for someone to contest a Revocable Living Trust or TOD assets. These legal aspects are so important, yet often overlooked until it’s too late. As humans, we often procrastinate when it comes to discussing and coordinating topics centered around our mortality. As a Certified Estate Planner and having gone through this recently with my own family, as well as countless clients over my 20-year career, I understand how important planning for the future can be for our loved ones, tax implications, and to keep family relationships intact during these rough times. At JHG Financial Advisors we have the experience, expertise, and time to listen to your unique needs, so reach out to us so we can assist you with all aspects of your financial planning needs. Follow me on Twitter: @JhgFinancial. Visit me on the Web: www.jhgfinancial.com. Securities and advisory services offered through LPL Financial, a Registered Investment Adviser. Member FINRA/SIPC The opinions voiced in this material are for general information only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual. To determine which investment may be appropriate for you, consult your financial advisor prior to investing. The information is not intended to be a substitute for specific individualized tax or legal advice. We suggest that you discuss your specific situation with a tax or legal advisor.
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The successfully-passed policy change applies only to the county’s Equal Employment Opportunity policy and does not affect other areas, like James’ concerns over public bathroom usage at county facilities. James also questioned if citizens would support the change. “This will have a much more longerreaching impact in terms of negative reaction,” James said. “Most people don’t even know it is on the agenda and when they find out and they start thinking about their mothers and girls who are county workers, they will wonder what’s going on.” Bentley said the policy revision was redundant. Ridenhour asked why the county couldn’t simply adopt a one-size-fits-all policy. “Can’t we just simplify the policy by saying we won’t discriminate against anybody for any reason?” he asked. Equality North Carolina, a statewide LGBT advocacy group, praised the local action in Mecklenburg County. “Tonight’s historic vote by the Mecklenburg County Commissioners sends a clear signal that LGBT employees and their families deserve equal treatment,” Chris Sgro, executive director for Equality NC, said in a release prior to the meeting. “In the wake of this vote from North Carolina’s most populous county, we urge other cities and counties in North Carolina to also take this vital step, and join the county of Mecklenburg in protecting hardworking LGBT employees from discrimination, harassment, mistreatment and being fired simply for who they are.” The commission’s vote brings Mecklenburg County’s human resources policies in line with those in the City of Charlotte. In 2010, former Charlotte City Manager Curt Walton added sexual orientation to his human resources policy. In 2012, he also added protections for transgender workers. Sixteen city and county governments across the state provide some form of LGBT employee protections. Mecklenburg becomes only the third county, following Orange and Buncombe, to protect transgender workers. Only five cities — Asheville, Boone, Carrboro, Chapel Hill and Charlotte — also include protections for gender identity or expression. : :
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Best Non-Profit Organization Time Out Youth Honorable mention: Campus Pride Since 1991, Time Out Youth has worked to provide support, social opportunities, education and empowerment for Charlotte’s LGBT youth. Time Out Youth is one of the most organized, solvent community organizations in the city. The group is soon moving to a new, larger location and holding their first Carolina Conference on Queer Youth this month. Their work hasn’t gone unnoticed, evidenced by QList voters who chose to name Time Out Youth this year’s Best Non-Profit Organization. Best Support/Social Group Time Out Youth Best Young Adult Leader (under 30) Micah Johnson Honorable mention: O’Neale Atkinson Like the organization he works for, Micah Johnson has been front-and-center in advocating for the needs of LGBT youth in the Charlotte area. Johnson, the director of school outreach at Time Out Youth, is relatively new to Charlotte, but in that short time has worked to support queer youth organizing for change in local schools across the region. Voters decided to honor Johnson with Best Young Adult Leader this year, but Johnson’s fellow Time Out Youth staffer, O’Neale Atkinson, wasn’t very far behind. Best LGBT-affirming Faith Institution Holy Covenant United Church of Christ Honorable mention: Metropolitan Community Church of Charlotte Best LGBT-friendly, Locally-owned Restaurant Dish Honorable mention: 300 East Best LGBT-friendly, Locally-owned Retail Store Brief Honorable mention: White Rabbit, Paper Skyscraper Best LGBT-friendly, Locally-owned Coffee Shop Amelie’s French Bakery Honorable mention: Smelly Cat Coffee, Central Coffee Co.
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Best LGBT Leader (Male) Scott Bishop Honorable mention: Rodney Tucker Scott Bishop is a man who wears many hats. He serves as a member of the national Human Rights Campaign Board of Governors, has been involved in local HRC Carolina Gala planning and is currently the chair of the Mecklenburg LGBT Political Action Committee. Additionally, he was an instrumental Charlotte-area volunteer and organizer during last year’s antiLGBT state constitutional amendment campaign. Best LGBT Leader (Female) Charlotte City Councilmember LaWana Mayfield The city’s first-ever openly LGBT elected official, LaWana Mayfield has earned her place in local history. It came after years of hard work, organizing at the neighborhood and community level and working for a Charlotte that is safer and more inclusive for all people. Best Transgender Community Leader Janice Covington Honorable mention: Roberta Dunn Janice Covington has worked tirelessly to advocate for transgender equality, often putting herself front and center in the debate on inclusion and the stillpending federal Employment Non-Discrimination Act. In 2012, she became the first openly transgender delegate from North Carolina to the Democratic National Convention. Best LGBT Bar/Club Cathode Azure Honorable mention: The Bar at 316, Hartigan’s Irish Pub Cathode Azure is one of the newest kids on Charlotte’s gay bar block. They must be doing something right. Voters chose the bar as their best local LGBT bar/club this year. The Bar at 316 and Hartigan’s Irish Pub tied in second place. Best LGBT-friendly Bar/Club Snug Harbor Bar/Club with Best Drink Value The Scorpio Honorable mention: The Bar at 316, Hartigan’s Irish Pub Bar/Club with Hottest Bar Staff The Bar at 316 Honorable mention: Cathode Azure Bar/Club with Best Drag Show The Scorpio Honorable mention: Cathode Azure The Scorpio, one of the state’s oldest and longest running gay clubs, is known across the region for its drag shows. So well known are they, the bar should really just be called a Drag Palace!
Best AIDS Service Organization Regional AIDS Interfaith Network The Regional AIDS Interfaith Network has worked for more than 20 years to support Charlotte’s HIV-positive community, their family and friends. They do so by offering not only direct support, but also by working with community organizations and faith institutions to build a caring, attentive support network. Best LGBT Arts Group One Voice Chorus Honorable mention: Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte Best Annual LGBT Event in Charlotte Charlotte Pride Honorable mention: HRC Carolina Gala Best Man About Town Dan Mauney Honorable mention: Tommy Feldman Dan “the Shoe Man” Mauney is perhaps best known for his role in organizing Takeover Friday, a monthly social outing that’s proven popular and stood the test of time. It’s likely the reason why QList voters chose him as Best Man About Town — the guy everyone loves to hang with, the hip guy who seems to always be “in the know,” networking, making friends and being seen out and about. Best Woman About Town Janice Covington
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Best Drag Performer Roxy C. Moorecox Honorable mention: Bethann Phetamine, Buff Faye From Los Angeles and London to Chicago and right back here in Charlotte, Roxy C. Moorecox is on a globe-trotting adventure taking her unique drag humor, song and dance across the world. Here in the Queen City, she’s become a regular at community events and emceed at this year’s Charlotte Pride Festival and Parade. Best Local DJ DJ Little Betty Honorable mention: DJ Ghost
Best Openly LGBT or LGBT-friendly Politician/Elected Official Charlotte City Councilmember LaWana Mayfield Honorable mention: Charlotte Mayor Patsy Kinsey
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Helping to keep you in the know with up-to-date information by Frederick Cruickshank ~ Medical Director
After many successful installments of “Ask Dr. C” in the past, Rosedale wants to bring back this opportunity to offer our readers information about HIV from basic questions to in-depths explanations. The questions have provided us a forum to debunk myths and remove stigma from those living with HIV and AIDS. It is important to educate yourself, get tested, and protect yourself! Send your questions to info@rosedaleid.com. Dr. C looks forward to responding to as many emails as possible. How do HIV tests work? Do I have to get my blood drawn? — Charlotte from Charlotte Once HIV enters the body, the immune system starts to produce antibodies (chemicals that are part of the immune system that recognize invaders like bacteria and viruses and mobilize the body’s attempt to fight infection). In the case
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of HIV, these antibodies cannot fight off the infection, but their presence is used to tell whether a person has HIV in his or her body. In other words, most HIV tests look for the HIV antibodies rather than looking for HIV itself. While most common HIV tests use blood to detect HIV infection, there are tests that use saliva. The blood tests can be a finger prick or a blood draw. The tests that use saliva are just a mouth swab. Some tests take a few days for results, but rapid HIV tests can give results in about 20 minutes. All positive HIV tests must be followed up by another test to confirm the positive result. Results of this confirmatory test can take a few days to a few weeks. At Rosedale, we offer free testing! Feel free to come in any day of the week for a free test and opportunity to talk to one of our trained healthcare professionals. We do have both oral and blood tests. So, please do not let a fear of getting blood work stop you from knowing your status. Why recommend HIV testing for all pregnant women? — Sally from Gastonia HIV can be passed from mother to child during pregnancy. It is important to identify a mother’s HIV positive status early in the pregnancy because antiviral therapy can improve the mother’s health
and greatly reduce the chance of passing the virus on to her child. The treatment is most effective for babies when started as early as possible during pregnancy. However, there are still great health benefits to beginning treatment, even during labor or shortly after the baby is born. CDC recommends HIV screening for all pregnant women because risk-based testing (when the healthcare provider offers an HIV test based on the provider’s assessment of the pregnant woman’s risk) misses many women who are infected with HIV. HIV testing provides an opportunity for infected women to find out that they are infected and to gain access to medical treatment that may help improve their own health. This also allows for an educational opportunity for women who are not HIV positive to reduce their risk behaviors in the future. I had sex with a partner that I know is HIV positive and the condom broke, what should I do? — Alex from Charlotte If it has been less than 72 hours since the condom broke, you may be able to take medication that could keep you from getting infected with HIV from your HIV positive partner. This preventative treatment is called post-exposure prophylaxis or PEP. You can call your doctor or
health department and ask for the medication. Also, you can call us at Rosedale so that we can help you access the medication. Often times there are patient assistance programs through the drug companies that make the medication to help with cost. If it has been longer than 72 hours, PEP will not protect you from possibly contracting HIV and you will need to explore HIV testing options. You can always come to Rosedale for a free HIV test and counseling! In most cases, you will have to wait 2 weeks after possible exposure before an HIV test can show accurate results. It should be noted that Alex was contacted as soon as we received his email, and was able to successfully receive PEP treatment. Always remember that this is an advice column based on your questions and the best possible knowledge out there. We need your questions to help educate the community, so email them to info@rosedaleid.com and be sure to include a first name and location. All respondents will remain anonymous. We will try to do our best to answer, educate and inform from your responses to this column. Don’t forget to visit our website at rosedaleid.com and friend us on Facebook for community and clinical updates. — Sponsored Content —
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Attorneys Kelly Durden and Sarah Demarest of the LGBTQ Law Center in Charlotte lead a popular workshop on students’ rights in schools.
CHARLOTTE — The 15-year-old transgender female student felt uncomfortable using the boys’ bathroom at his Charlotte-Mecklenburg high school. So one day this year, she said, she opted for the girls’ restroom, prompting screams from some of the girls inside. Within minutes, police handcuffed her and put her in the back of a patrol car. The youth, who wasn’t charged with any crime, recounted the episode to CharlotteMecklenburg Schools Superintendent Heath Morrison at the inaugural Carolina Conference on Queer Youth at UNC Charlotte on Oct. 18. The youth hopes that CMS can someday better accommodate her and students like her by providing gender-neutral bathrooms. The one-day conference drew at least 210 students, teachers and school administrators, primarily from the Charlotte and Piedmont Triad areas. They came from CMS schools and colleges including UNCC, Johnson C. Smith University, Lenoir-Rhyne University in Hickory and Winthrop University in Rock Hill. They discussed and raised awareness of a range of issues facing lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning students. And they heard from such leaders as Morrison and Bishop Tonyia Rawls, founding pastor of Unity Fellowship Church Charlotte. Rawls also is founder and executive director of The Freedom Center for Social Justice, which launched the region’s first LGBTQ Law Center and Transgender Employment Program this year. Conference workshops included “The School to Prison Pipeline,” which delved into how a disproportionate number of LGBTQ students and students of color are suspended, arrested and pushed out of school. Other workshops included “Bias, Bullying and Bystanders,” “Dating and Respect,” “Finding Your LGBTQ-friendly College,” “Youth SpeakOUT: Realities of Queer Southern Youth” and the one that Morrison and the 15-year-old transgender youth spoke at: “Progressive
Policies?: Charlotte-Mecklenburg Schools in the 21st Century.” “Differences are not deficiencies, they are our greatest strength,” Morrison told the conference in UNCC’s Student Union. “We can celebrate differences because that has always been the greatest strength of the country.” “The more unique you are, the more marketable you are” in today’s business world, Morrison said. Students were an integral part of Friday’s conference, with some serving as presenters of the various topics, including the 15-year-old and another 15-year-old transgender CMS high school sophomore. The students requested that their names not be published, because they haven’t disclosed that they are transgender to all of their teachers. Having teachers and administrators learn from students was a key aim of the conference, said Micah Johnson of Time Out Youth, a Charlotte-based center for LGBTQ youth that helped arrange the gathering. So was raising awareness of the need to make “safer space” available for LGBTQ students in schools. One part of the solution: Developing a transgender policy that addresses preferred names, appropriate dress code, locker room and bathroom access and other issues, Johnson said. CMS lacks such a policy. Some school systems across the country have gender-neutral bathrooms and locker rooms, he added. The conference – and Morrison’s words – were a good start to getting more done, said Michael Sharpton, a 49-year-old UNCC student and member of the steering committee of the Charlotte Human Rights Campaign, which advocates for LGBT equality. “It’s a start of a journey,” he told Morrison. “I appreciate you being here.” : : — Originally published Oct. 19 by The Charlotte Observer. qnotes is a member of The Observer’s Charlotte News Alliance. Republished with permission.
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News Notes continued from page 8 Cooper, who is expected to run for governor in 2016, told The Associated Press on Oct. 15 that he supports equality for same-sex couples. His personal views, he said, would not prevent him from defending the state in a current lawsuit challenging the state’s anti-LGBT constitutional amendment and an adoption ban for same-sex couples. Cooper’s office has said they will not be able to recognize the marriage license applications. “The State Constitution says that these marriage licenses cannot be issued, and this is the law unless the Constitution is changed or the court says otherwise,” Noelle Talley, a Cooper spokeswoman, said in a statement, according to The Citizen-Times. “This very issue is the subject of pending litigation against the State of North Carolina.” Equality advocates in North Carolina have praised Cooper’s supportive personal remarks. The North Carolina Family Policy Council the previous week criticized Cooper’s upcoming appearance at the Equality North Carolina dinner where he is scheduled to speak on Nov. 9. full story: goqnotes.com/25476/. — M.C.
Race raises resources
ASHEVILLE — The Western North Carolina AIDS Project (WNCAP) will hold its 2013 Positive Prevention 5K and 12K races on Nov. 3, with proceeds going to expand HIV/AIDS prevention programs throughout 18 counties in Western North Carolina.
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The 12K will begin at 7:15 a.m., beginning at Antler Hill Village at the Biltmore Estate, One Lodge St., and traverse through a picturesque route which takes participants past such places as the Biltmore House and the French Broad River. The first half of the race’s course ascends one hill, while the second half descends, leveling off to flat terrain. The 5K will begin at 7:30 a.m. from Antler Hill Village and will parallel the French Broad River using a flat course. The races will utilize chip timing. Participants will receive a finishers medal, long-sleeved T-shirt and food from Earthfare. Age group awards will be given to the top three finishers in the following age groups: male and female, in addition to the first male and female finishers overall. Spectators must purchase a ticket to enter the estate. Cost is $20 per person. Upgrades are $25 which includes a tour of the Biltmore House. There is a cap on the number of runners each race may start, with 250 for the 5K and 550 for the 12K. Space is available on a registration time and date basis up until packet pickup on Nov. 2 at Highland Brewing Company, 12 Old Charlotte Hwy., from 3-6 p.m. For the safety of racers, no stroller, bikes or dogs are allowed on the course. info/registration: wncap.org. — L.M.
It’s a spook-tacular benefit
ASHEVILLE — Just Us For All (JUFA) will hold its Halloween night “Night of the Living Queers” on Oct. 31, 10 p.m., at BoBo Pho, 22 N. Lexington Ave. Enjoy local beers, dancing and great music by DJ Cable. A costume contest and drag show will provide attendees with lots of entertainment. The event is LGBTQ + Ally Safe Space focused. JUFA provides education on LGBTQ issues, workshops and community events. It even helps to raise funds for gender confirmation surgeries, as well as other local initiatives. A $5 contribution at the door is suggested. info: facebook.com/JUFA.AVL. — L.M.
South Carolina Mayor blasted for online slurs
WEST UNION — Mayor Linda Oliver is under fire for sharing her disdain for same-sex marriage. She made comments of Facebook where she used the word “queers” as well. The post said: “What’s it gonna take to get these queers to realize they don’t need a piece of paper. God will not bless their union because he plainly speaks against queers in the Bible. Want to cover your queer with insurance? Buy a policy. Want your queer to get your stuff when you die? Make a will.” The posting has subsequently been removed. USA Today reported that this statement allegedly came after Drew Reisinger, register of deeds for Buncombe County in Asheville, N.C., allowed same-sex couples to apply for a marriage license. The posting even spirited a Recall West Union S.C. Mayor Linda Oliver page. FOX Carolina in Greenville, S.C., reported the news and carries an interview with the mayor. info: facebook.com. foxcarolina.com. — L.M. info: Have news or other information? Send your press releases and updates for inclusion in our News Notes: editor@goqnotes.com.
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omedian Caroline Reid’s laugh-packed character Pam Ann is a hoot — on stage and off. She’s coming to Charlotte on Nov. 15. Folks have been chatting about it for weeks. qnotes got the opportunity to chat with Reid via phone before her visit. And, even on phone, she knows how to make a gay laugh. Check out our conversation below. Learn more about her upcoming show atpamann.com. Matt Comer: Have you ever toured through North Carolina or South Carolina before? Caroline Reid/Pam Ann: No, I’ve never been there. Anywhere in the South? Atlanta, maybe? Yeah, I’ve been to Atlanta. I loved Atlanta. I had an absolute ball there. Well, you’ll have to imagine Charlotte like, uh, maybe a miniature Atlanta. Oh! Wow! Awesome. I’m really excited about that. How did you first get started doing comedy and what drew you to it? I always really wanted to do acting, but I was horrible at auditions. I never got the really good roles. I was always the mute role in a play. I was playing a mute revolving door in this play and the cast would go through this door and I would make fun of all their characters. The play got slated, except that they said they loved the revolving door. So, that was kind of the catalyst of, oh, I think I’m funny. But, it was never something that as a kid I thought I’d be doing — comedy. I wanted to do fashion and art. It was just an organic process from just doing some sort of amateur plays, to working in the clubs and doing P.R. that kind of allowed me to sort of hang around drag queens and such. I ended up having a dress-up party where I dressed as a Pan Am flight attendant. When you’ve had a few cocktails and you say Pan Am so many times, it starts to sound like Pam Ann. I thought that was a good idea for a character. I liked the fashion and the whole jetset thing. So, I just went out on a stage and did it and pretty much read from a safety manual a friend had given me. It kinda was a good night. I thought this was good-ish (laughs). I just kind of kept doing it. It was never really a planned thing. Did you know anything about airlines before this one gig that launched Pam Ann? Not really. I had only ever traveled once before to Greece. That was my only international flight. I had flown a lot in Australia as an unaccompanied minor from Melbourne to Sydney. Other than that, I knew nothing. I knew I liked the architecture, the graphics, the Pan Am logo. James Bond flew Pan Am. And, that was back in 1996. Travel then really wasn’t what it is today. To travel from Australia, you had to have a bit of money or you had to save for years to go away. It was just living out on that island and dreaming of getting off it. So, you had a lot of drag queen friends, you say? Yeah, there were all my friends. Just hanging around them and being at their shows, they just took me in under their big feather boa (laughs). And, the gay community, too, has really been a core fan base since your beginning? Absolutely. I don’t think I’ve ever really been to a straight club. And, when I do, I’d want to leave. I’ve been hanging around with my gays since I was like 16. And, I’ve fallen in love with a couple of gay men and I thought, “No, he’s not gay.” And, my friends are like, “He is. He’s a choreographer and he’s into ballet. He’s gay.” And, I’m like, “No! He’s not!” Total denial (laughs).
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How did you launch yourself from doing Pam Ann in clubs and with small groups to your larger performances and even landing your own TV show? I always wanted to do a TV show since the very beginning. I’d written that show back in 1997. I didn’t know how I was going to get there. I guess just building up an audience is just a lot of hard work. I’ve had to do shows in dingy fuck clubs throughout London — like gay saunas — to clubs with two people and a microphone held up with sticky tape. I’ve done my fair share of years on the circuit in London. You just have to build up an audience. This was way before social media. The fans were loyal. And, as social media gets bigger and bigger, your fan base gets bigger. But, I guess the TV show came because the CEO of Foxtel use to come to my shows at the Aubrey, which is an old drag venue in Sydney. Just, over the years, we were talking and we met and I said I have this idea and he said he loved it. You just have to follow your dreams and persevere and then things pay off. What U.S. TV have you done? I’ve appeared on Andy Cohen before. I just did “The Couch” here in New York; it’s just a local morning show. And, a morning show in Dallas. But nothing like a Jay Leno. It would be my dream to do something in the states. If you could pick any show — a reality show or a late-night comedy show — which would it be? David Letterman. I’ve always loved David Letterman. He’s amazing. That would be the one to do five minutes and be interviewed. You’ve done an ad campaign for British Airways. But, you really make fun of them, too. Were you surprised some of the airlines wanted to work with you? Or, did they understand the humor? I was very shocked at British Airways approaching me. I thought they were going to come and serve me papers, honest (laughs). But, when they said they were interested in doing something, I nearly fell off of my chair. I’m constantly working now with British Airways and their charities. And, other airlines, too — Lufthansa, KLM, AirFrance — they sponsor silently my shows also. They give me tickets. I also just hosted the Apex Awards show in Anaheim which had all the heads of some of the biggest airlines. I guess some of them take offense. Some of them get the joke. But, I just tell the truth (laughs). Isn’t it a healthy thing for one to know how to laugh at oneself and not be so serious about one’s work or passion? Oh, I think so. I laugh at myself every day. You have to laugh at yourself. The airlines do have a very good sense of humor. I think Emirates — I pick on them a lot — I think they like it, but I think they are a little bit, aaah — maybe it’s a little too close to the bone for them sometimes (laughs). How do you manage the line between humor and offense, or do you just not worry about it? I think in this business you have to offend. I don’t want to be in the bracket where everyone loves me and it’s all commercial. I’d rather be loved and hated, rather than, “she’s just alright.” I’ve had people walk out of my shows, but they aren’t the kind of people I’d want to hang out
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tell trinity by Trinity :: qnotes contributor :: trinity@telltrinity.com
The boyfriend, his pets and my tiny apartment Dear Trinity, One month into dating his job was cut and “to save money,” he and his two pets moved into my tiny one bedroom apartment. Well, now six months later, I still love him, but I want my place back. He never pays rent or utilities and anytime I bring up “moving,” it ends up a bad scene. I just want some time “alone.” Trapped At Home, Wichita, KS
Dear Trapped, He doesn’t pay rent and he gets mad when you bring up the moving! Why should he move, when it’s free rent? However, unless you make it less comfortable for him to stay there, i.e., tell him you’re moving out or you’re quitting your job and need his help! Most importantly, darling, you need to get tough, which may sound like, “I love you, but I love myself more!” Hello Trinity, There’s a bartender at my local bar who’s so right for me. I visit him often at work and keep asking him out, but he keeps declining. Now, I think I’m scaring him away, plus I think he thinks I’m stalking him. Help? Stalking?, Rehoboth Beach, DE Hello Stalking, When you find out someone’s not interested in you, yet you keep appearing at his job, the only word I can think of is “stalking” which is the farthest think from “starting” a relationship. So, honey, stay closer to guys who want to date you and far away from stalking guys who don’t. (You can see how arrested I am about this when you check out my cartoon.)
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Hey Trinity, I met this guy online, got him to my home and he turned into a sex pig — spitting, swearing, pain worship and more. I’m not vanilla, but how do you know if someone wants a “scene,” not just sex? Gone Too Far, Toronto, ON Hey Gone Too Far, With one-night stands, you have to take a stand. Next time just ask, “What are you into?” And, then listen for key words like hugging and affection versus hitting and asphyxiation. Some people love to make love and some think that to love means to make war. If sex is an adventure, plan each trip wisely! Dearest Trinity, Since inviting me for dinner and a movie, I assumed it was a date, but after dinner we ended up in bed where he “accidentally” orgasmed and immediately asked me to leave. Was my beautiful date really just a bad one-night stand? Shocked, Montreal, QC Dearest Shocked, He cooked, came and kicked you out. Damn, that little monster! Sorry, pumpkin, but yes, you were yet another man’s toy. Next time read: Trinity’s Short Tips For Knowing When Mr. Cool Is Really Mr. Fool 1. W hen meeting you for a date: he arrives unkempt, in greasy work clothes, obviously
unshowered and insists on fooling around! 2. O n every date: he shows up late and gets angry if you bring it up. 3. At the club: he cruises without caring if you notice! 4. While meeting your friends: he acts confrontational, argumentative and self-righteous just to get a reaction from them! 5. At dinner: his dinner arrives first, so he starts eating without waiting or offering to share it until your meal arrives. 6. During conversation: he burps, coughs in your face and sneezes towards your food without any excuses! 7. D uring a DVD movie: you have to use the bathroom, but he refuse to pause the film because he’s so into it! 8. At breakfast: he knows you’re vegan, but makes his favorite ham and eggs with no alternative for you! 9. W hile making Saturday night plans: he says, “I’ll call you around 8 p.m. if I can make it” without caring that you’ll be left without plans if he cancels. 10. L astly, during sex: he has an orgasm first, gets dressed and leaves without offering you an orgasm or post sex cuddling. : : info: With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama performed globally, and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.
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Comedian heads to Charlotte continued from page 18 with anyways or really care to be at my show either, so I really don’t give a shit. So, if you’re really offended by it, then, please by all means, go. I understand some people come in and it’s not at all what they are expecting. They think it’s some air hostess musical review or something. I feel sorry for them. I do try to put disclaimers on my posters now (laughs). People are just so offended by things these days. I think that’s hilarious. There’s nothing really to be offended by. I think it’s a big excuse sometimes for people to say, “How could you write that? People died on that ship.� And, I’m like, yeah, people die every day. Did you know the people who died on the Costa Concordia? No. Well, the ship’s funny. It fell over. It’s funny. Yeah, they died. Sorry about that, but it’s still funny that an Italian flipped the ship (laughs). Of all the various characters other than Pam Ann that you’ve portrayed, which is your favorite? I guess Lily would be the next one — the Asian one with the glasses. I’ve had people offended at that, but not the Asians. The Asians love it. They can’t wait for it. I like doing Lily. I have performed briefly as the other characters but I didn’t really enjoy it. I would like to do a big black TSA woman. I know it’s been doing, but something in my vein. Or, a gay man (laughs). : :
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Theatre group mounts play Makes regional debut in Queen City by Lainey Millen :: lainey@goqnotes.com
CHARLOTTE — Queen City Theatre Company will present Mike Bartlett’s “Cock� (The Cockfight Play, aka “----�) from Nov. 7-23 at Duke Energy Theatre, 345 N. College. The play tells the story of John who breaks up with his boyfriend and then finds the girl of his dreams. Both suitors are willing to wait for a decision, as well as fight for him. It hails from New York’s Off-Broadway run, now making its regional debut in Charlotte. It stars Glenn T. Griffin, Iesha Hoffman, Kristian Wedolowski and Hank
West. The production is for mature audiences only and contains adult content. It received the Olivier Award in the UK for Best Original Play. Performances are at 7:30 p.m. on Nov. 7, 13-14 and 19-21 and 8 p.m. on Nov. 8-9, 15-16 and 22-23. There is a special discount for the Nov. 13 performance at $15. Tickets are $22-24 and may be purchased online. Student and senior discounts are available. info/tickets: queencitytheatre.com.
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Sidelines Halloween Sidelines Sports Bar 4544 South Blvd., Charlotte 7 p.m. It’s Sidelines’ “Creepy Slumber Party,” their annual Halloween celebration. thesidelinesbar.com –––––––––––––––––––– Good vs. Evil L4 Lounge 2906 Central Ave., Charlotte 9 p.m. L4 Lounge hosts its Halloween party with a Good vs. Evil costume contest and drink specials. $5/21+. $10/18-20. facebook.com/L4Lounge –––––––––––––––––––– Sleepy Hallow The Bar at 316 316 Rensselaer Ave., Charlotte 9:30 p.m. Ghosts, goblins and creatures of fright at The Bar at 316’s Halloween party! Costume contest with $300 cash prize. facebook.com/bar.threesixteen
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ATL v. NC Halloween SEP OCT Chasers 3217 The Plaza, Charlotte 9 p.m. Chasers Nightclub hosts Eroticized Dezires Entertainment from Atlanta for a night of Halloween fun. Cover is $10 or $8 from 9-11 p.m. if you’re wearing a costume. chaserscharlotte.com –––––––––––––––––––– Latin Drag Halloween Cathode Azure 1820 South Blvd., Charlotte 10 p.m. cathodeazure.com
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BRIEF Extravaganza 1610 N. Tryon St., Charlotte 7-11 p.m. The 2013 BRIEF-A Fete for Fashion Event returns to the runway with 24 of the hottest models strutting their stuff while raising funds for great causes like Time Out Youth Center and the Human Rights Campaign. Tickets and VIP tables range from $35 to $500 and are available online. briefafeteforfashion.org
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The band hosts their “Voyage of the Caribbean Queen” kicking off their fourth season with host Roxy C. Moorecox. Set sail with the band with highlights like “Pirates of the Caribbean,” “Danza Caribe,” “Girl from Ipanema” and Sousa’s “Hands Across the Sea.” Tickets are $10-$13 and available online. charlotteprideband.org –––––––––––––––––––– Haunted Hollywood Mint Museum Uptown 500 S. Tryon St., Charlotte 7:30 p.m. A special fundraiser benefiting Time Out Youth Center featuring Brandi Glanville of “The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.” Black-tie attire or costume inspired by a classic Hollywood horror/thriller film is request. General admission is $65 with a special $250 VIP admission including a reception with Glanville. All proceeds benefit Time Out Youth. Tickets available by mail or at Time Out Youth offices and at Brief, 1426 S. Tryon St. timeoutyouth.org
LGBT Democrats of NC Guilford College 5800 W. Friendly Ave., Greensboro 1-3 p.m. The LGBT Democrats of North Carolina hosts its statewide convention, including election of state officers and district officers. lgbtdemocrats.org –––––––––––––––––––– The Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Equality NC Gala hosts its closing party for Dining with Empire Room Friends, presented by Wells Fargo and Downtown Greensboro Kiss 95.1. Proceeds benefit RAIN’s 6:30 p.m. continuing HIV/AIDS work. Equality North Carolina’s annual funddiningwithfriendscharlotte.org raising gala, featuring keynote North –––––––––––––––––––– Carolina Attorney General Roy Cooper, History Isn’t a Drag (Show) plus this year’s Equality Champions: Upstage NoDa Jamie Kirk Hahn, state Sen. Josh Stein, 3306 N. Davidson St., Charlotte Janet Joyner, state Rep. Tricia Cotham 9 p.m. and the Freedom Center for Social Barbara Burning Bush, Bella Jade, Justice. (See more about the award Robyn O’Ladies, Shofonda Cox and Vivian Russell are returning to a Stephen winners on page 6). Tickets on sale online. Seay Productions’ stage for one equalityncfoundation.org night only. And for the first time ever, BethAnne Phetamine and Buff Faye will also be taking the stage as the audience tours this hilarious museum of historical women. Museum curator, Rachael Houdek, guides viewers as they learn that history is full of women who did their part to make a difference … and she’s giving everyone all the “T” on how things really went down. Tickets are $10. stephenseayproductions.com Dining with Friends Discovery Place 301 N. Tryon St., Charlotte 9 p.m.
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Bowling for Equality SEP NOV Ten Park Lanes 1700 Montford Dr., Charlotte 2 p.m. The Human Rights Campaign invites everyone to Bowling for Equality. Prizes, fun, games and more. Tickets are $15 for youth under 12, $15 for ages 12-21 and $35 singles. A $150 “Lane Captain” includes five single tickets. Purchase online. bit.ly/16iR9KN –––––––––––––––––––– Holiday Charity Ride Convergence Riders The Flying Biscuit Cafe (sponsor) 4241 Park Rd., Charlotte 9:30 a.m. registration 11 a.m. kick stands up Help a child in need this Christmas by participating in this fundraiser. Proceeds go toward purchase of toys for Toys for Tots. Everyone welcome, motorcycles and cars! Top prize, $100 cash; second, $50 jafrum.com certificate; third, $25 cash or certificate; and more. $20 per participant. Stops: Flying Biscuit, Dennis Vineyards ($8 tour/tasting), Sidelines Sports Bar. convergenceriders.com
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Recurring Charlotte Events: PRISM Young Adults: Weekly discussion held each Monday, 5 p.m.-7:30 p.m. For young adults ages 18-25. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. lgbtcharlotte.org. Men’s Yoga: Weekly yoga sessions for men hosted by certified instructor. Each Monday, 7:30-8:30 p.m. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. Time Out Youth: Weekly support and discussion groups, Tuesday-Thursday, 6:30-8:30 p.m. Monthly group for youth ages 11-14. timeoutyouth.org. MeckPAC: Monthly meeting of local LGBT political action committee. First Tuesdays of each month, 6:30-8 p.m. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. StillOut Photography: Local LGBT photography club. Meets monthly on fourth Tuesdays, 7-8:30 p.m. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. facebook.com/StillOutPhotography. Friends Indeed: Men’s depression support group. Every other Tuesday, 6:30-8 p.m. LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. Weekly HIV & Syphilis Testing: Hosted at the LGBT Community Center of Charlotte each Wednesday, 5-7 p.m. HIV Support Group: Open support group for men and women who are HIV-positive. Hosted second Wednesdays of each month, 6:30-7:30 p.m. Different Roads Home. differentroadshome.org. LGBTQ Adult Education and Discussion Group: Weekly on Thursdays, a safe place for LGBTQ adults to meet and discuss important issues and topics. Hosted at LGBT Community Center of Charlotte. Each Thursday, 6-8 p.m. PFLAG Charlotte: Monthly support group meeting. Second Thursday of each month, 7 p.m., Christ Episcopal Church. pflagcharlotte.org. Tradesmen: Monthly social meeting first Saturday of each month. 10 p.m.-2:30 a.m. The Woodshed Lounge. charlottetradesmen.org. Have a recurring weekly or monthly event, social, support or discussion group? Let us know. Submit your event at our online calendar at goqnotes.com/eventsubmit/.
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Q&A with Jim Thompson Veterans Day Edition by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com
Jim Thompson, right with moustache, meets former U.S. Deputy Secretary of Defense Douglas Wilson, left, during an LGBT caucus meeting at the 2012 Democratic National Convention in Charlotte. Photo Credit: David Lari/File Photo
Since Veterans Day is fast approaching on Nov. 11, we thought it’d be the perfect time to introduce you to a local community member and a veteran. And, if you’ve never met Jim Thompson, you’re certainly missing out. Jim, a supporter of a wide range of local LGBT and progressive causes, is also a lifelong lover of all things Judy Garland. Her signature ruby slippers have become Jim’s calling card and many of his friends call him “Judy.” He wears a small pair of the ruby red slippers as a lapel pin and even gives many of his friends and acquaintances small pins just like his. Originally from Massachusetts, Jim’s a proud Irish-American and a Democrat. He lives in Rock Hill. In which military branch did you serve and when? I served in the U.S. Navy, briefly from 1977 to the end of 1978. I came from a Navy family. Who else in your family served? My dad, my grandfather and his father. My mother’s side was all Army, though. When you signed up, was it something you felt called to or something of an expectation? It was sort of a bit of both. It was something that was expected and it wasn’t anything I was against doing. But, about 12-13 months into it I figured out it just wasn’t my thing. What was your brief service like? It was a good relationship. I started out as a seaman. By the time I left I was a petty officer third class. How old were you at the time? I was 18. And, where did you serve? I spent some nice time in Norfolk and then in
San Diego. I ended up in Charlestown, Mass., on the USS Constitution, where my grandfather had been a foreman in the Navy Yard there. He also had served in World War II. Were you aware that you were gay when you enlisted? Yes, but I was lucky growing up. I didn’t have too much negative stuff, even with all that Anita Bryant stuff going on. Now, you didn’t hear too much positive stuff, either. It just wasn’t something that we really thought about. A couple years before, I thought, maybe this is how I feel. I kinda skated through all that in junior high and high school. There certainly wasn’t, at least that I was aware of, any support groups. There were plenty of clubs to go to around the Navy Yard, though. Do you ever wish you had served longer? Honestly, in hindsight, I’ve said I could have done a few more months. What do you think about the inclusive progress we’ve made in the military? I’m proud and that’s fantastic. It should have been done a long time ago. Even military leaders, if they could speak honestly, would say it was a waste of a lot of talent. During the Democratic National Convention in 2012, you got to meet former U.S. Deputy Secretary of Defense Douglas Wilson. [Wilson was confirmed to his position by the U.S. Senate in February 2010 and was the first openly gay assistant secretary at the Pentagon.] Tell me about that. Yes. And, it’s a funny story. They had called all the veterans up [during the LGBT caucus] and I was there. He was going round hugging and kissing all the women veterans. He got to me, and I said, “What about me?” And, he hugged me, too. : :
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