Pacific Sun 09.07.2012 - Section 1 by Pacific Sun

INTERESTED PERSONS: Petitioner BUUNGOC TRAN DANG filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: BUU-NGOC TRAN DANG to JADE BUUNGOC TRAN DANG. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted. Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objection that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. If no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing. NOTICE OF HEARING: September 20, 2012, 9:00AM, Dept. L, Room L, Superior Court of California, County of Marin, 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA 94903. A copy of this ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in the county of Marin: PACIFIC SUN. Date: July 26, 2012 /s/ LYNN DURYEE, JUDGE OF THE SUPERIOR COURT. (Pacific Sun: August 24, 31; September 7, 14, 2012) STATEMENT OF ABANDONMENT OF USE OF FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME File No. 304386 The following person(s) has/have abandoned the use of a fictitious business

name(s). The information given below is as it appeared on the fictitious business statement that was filed at the Marin County Clerk-Recorder’s Office. Fictitious Business name(s): UNIQUE PRODUCTS, 10 SKYLARK DR. #45, LARKSPUR, CA 94939. Filed in Marin County on: August 24, 2011. Under File No: 127620. Registrant’s Name(s):SHAMILA AGHAJANLOU_MOHAMAD PAHLAVAN, 10 SKYLARK DR. #45, LARKSPUR, CA 94939. This statement was filed with the County Clerk Recorder of Marin County on July 9, 2012. (Pacific Sun: August 24, 31; September 7, 14, 2012) STATEMENT OF ABANDONMENT OF USE OF FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME File No. 304395 The following person(s) has/have abandoned the use of a fictitious business name(s). The information given below is as it appeared on the fictitious business statement that was filed at the Marin County Clerk-Recorder’s Office. Fictitious Business name(s): FOUNTAIN SPA, 817 B 4TH ST., SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901. Filed in Marin County on: August 15, 2012. Under File No: 130168. Registrant’s Name(s): DANNY NGUYEN, 600 ELLIS ST., SAN FRANCISCO, CA 94109. This statement was filed with the County Clerk Recorder of Marin County on August 31, 2012.(Publication Dates: September 7, 14, 21, 28, 2012) NOTICE OF PUBLIC SALE: ALL OVER MARIN MINI STORAGE, SAN ANSELMO. In accordance to the provisions of the California Business and Professional Code, there being

due an unpaid storage charge for which the Mini Storage is entitled to a lien on the goods hereinafter described, and due notice in the time specified in such notice for payment having expired, NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that these goods will be sold at a public auction at the MINI STORAGE IN SAN ANSELMO, 208 GREENFIELD AVE., SAN ANSELMO, CA 94960, at 11:00am WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 26, 2012. The public is invited to attend. Should it be impossible to sell all of the lots on the above date, the sale will be continued to another date as announced by the auctioneer, Duane M. Hines, Bond No. RED 1016142. The property to be sold consists of household goods and personal effects belonging to the occupant(s) identified below. Name of owner is followed by lot number: ANNA STEVENSON: UNIT #323; ERIC WHITE: UNIT #035 & #045; LOTUS FARMER: UNIT #120; TYE WILLIAM: UNIT #228; FALASHA GAINES: UNIT #332; STEPHEN ROCKWELL: UNIT #251; ALBERT DE FUENTEZ: UNIT #285. Pacific Sun: (September 7, 14, 2012) NOTICE OF LAND PATENT, PUBLIC NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN, Lawful owners Frank DeRaffele have brought forward the Land Patent and occupy the land (the tract or parcel of land and fixture), commonly located at 265 Adobestone Court - San Rafael California [94903]; all contents of public electronic notice, is available for viewing at: http://thelandpatentnotices.org/, LP#201228082, for more information please contact Frank DeRaffele 415-260-1321.

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My boyfriend of two years is best friends with his ex. During their 14-year relationship, he says they had a codependency, becoming each other’s social world. They were still roommates when we started dating, and she refused to even let me into their house. He says he’d like us to become casual friends and includes us both in group events like a recent hike. On it, I tried to be friendly, but she pretty much ignored me. Afterward, I told him it was awkward spending the day with someone who has issues with me. He became angry, saying I should be more understanding, that it was much more difficult for her. (She seems to require a level of coddling and emotional support that I don’t.) He’ll also go to events and not invite me because she’ll be there. I’m positive they’re done romantically, but he’s abnormally protective of her, always defending her feelings over mine. When I try to discuss this, he blows up. (Our relationship is otherwise good and loving.)—Excluded There’s that old Eddie Money song that goes, “I’ve got two tickets to paradise. Won’t you pack your bags; we’ll leave tonight.” And then there’s your boyfriend’s version: “I’ve got two tickets to paradise. We’ll call you from the beach.” When two become as three, it isn’t so much a relationship as it is the beginnings of a parade. Assuming you aren’t members of a polygamous religious cult or regular guests at parties where everyone throws their keys into a big bowl, a relationship is generally understood to mean two people prioritizing each other over all others. If one of these people wants more creative terms, he needs to arrange for them by mutual agreement and not just stick them on his girlfriend and hope she doesn’t notice, or at least doesn’t complain. In favoring the ex-girlfriend with the perpetually broken wing, your boyfriend isn’t just being unfair to you; he’s creating what therapist B. Janet Hibbs, Ph.D., calls “a chronic climate of unfairness.” Hibbs feels fairness violations are at the root of most relationship problems, noting in Try To See It My Way that you can’t trust your partner if you don’t expect to be fairly treated. Unfairnesses left unrepaired lead partners to “withhold care, love, affection, and finally, themselves.” Your boyfriend talks like he wants you girls to sit around braiding each other’s hair—yet foments conflict by making clear that you come second, and to a woman who treated you like a poo-covered dog she didn’t want in her house: “Just tie her to a tree and come inside!” His being so codependently cozy with his needy ex is far less risky than going all in and being interdependent with you. So, of course he blows up when you broach the subject; evading all discussion of it allows him to keep her as his human binky. Write him a note explaining that you two need to talk in a calm way about something that’s bothering you. (It’s impossible to have a relationship with somebody who goes all sixth-grade science project volcano whenever there’s a discussion he’d rather not have.) Tell him that you understand his friendship with his ex means a lot to him but that you find it painful to always come second. If he wants to remain your boyfriend, he needs to get his loyalties in order—meaning, even in the event his ex suffers some tragedy (A hangnail! A hangover!), he’ll treat you more like his girlfriend than some woman in line behind him at 7-Eleven. (Listen to Hibbs talk about fairness: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/ amyalkon/2012/08/20/advice-goddess-radio-amy-alkon) In arguments with my boyfriend, I’ll ignite—yelling, name-calling, threatening to break up. He isn’t deserving of those names, and I don’t want to break up, but I fear I’m sending us down that path.—Mean Girlfriend You’ve decided to jazz things up with a little role-playing, but forget pirate/ slave girl or housewife/UPS guy. You’re into animal magnetism—like the jackal on the downed cow. Apparently, you misunderstood; the saying isn’t “If you don’t have anything nice to say, scream it at the top of your lungs.” Every time you do, you claw a chunk out of his love and goodwill for you, weakening your relationship. Start exploring why you do this, and tell him you’re working on it (so he’ll know you’re trying, even if you aren’t instantly Gandhi). In the meantime, set up ground rules: If you start arguing ugly, the discussion’s over. Write down your points, and talk when you can remain civil. If you fail again, postpone again. Bottom line: You aren’t allowed to treat him like you forgot you love him—which is like re-enacting that romantic moment on the bow in Titanic, except that you scream obscenities at him and shove him off the ship. ✹

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