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INDEX
CONTENTS
24 >> Travel
Las Vegas New York
40 >> Look Book 48 >> Celeb
Victoria Shaw CeCe Peniston Carla Collins
56 >> Corp. USA
Wells Fargo
58 >> VIP
Irwin Drucker Josh Robbins
62 >> Fitness
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Oblique Freaks
66 >> Health
Vine Ripened Wonder
68 >> Sip It
Black Raspberry Passion
70 >> Sound
Frankmusik Grace
78 >> Flik
You Should Meet My Son
80 >> Out
Colby Alexandre
82 >> Why Steven Y
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LETTER FROM THE EDITOR: This issue of OMG! Magazine celebrates women in entertainment. We profile comedians, actresses, songwriters and musicians. We profile the women who are shaping the pop culture landscape and those who have impacted it in the past. From our cover girl Kristen Chenoweth to Nashville’s own Victoria Shaw, who penned one of the most recognizable songs in history, this issue is jam packed with girl power! In addition, beginning in this issue, we will feature an extended travel section, where we highlight LGBT travel in two amazing cities: New York and Las Vegas. With so many things to do in each city, I hope you enjoy the selection of activities that OMG! has decided to highlight. Through the power of Facebook, we found this issue’s Coming Out story. Colby Alexandre saw a recent post of mine and immediately responded with a heart wrenching story that will definitely make you tear up a little, so make sure you have some tissues handy. We profile two amazing men: Irwin Drucker and Josh Robbins, both who have had a great impact on the LGBT community in different ways. As head of international supplier diversity for IBM, Drucker has played an integral part in the corporation’s policies and outreach, while Robbins, owner of BNA Talent is one of Nashville’s most sought after talent agents and has recently launched an LGBT division, the first of its kind in the region. This issue also marks the introduction of our new business section called Corporate America, where we profile corporations who actively support the community through a variety of programs, from internal diversity initiatives to sponsorship of pride events and contributions to LGBT charities. Our inaugural profile is of Wells Fargo, an outstanding financial institution, who by year’s end will have participated in over 40 community events and festivals and will have donated millions of dollars to various causes. I hope you enjoy this issue of OMG! Magazine. We worked tirelessly to make this one of our best and most important issues ever. As always, thank you to our readers and marketing partners. None of this would be possible without your support and dedication.
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There are few cities as universally attractive to the adult traveler as Las Vegas. Vegas, however, is particularly attractive to the gay adult traveler. With gallons of glitz and more glitter than the floor of Elton John’s closet, Las Vegas’ sequined arms openly embrace the LGBT tourist. It is no surprise, then, that gay fun-seekers from around the world flock to the desert to play. While gambling may be the city’s lifeblood, it’s the shopping, shows and luxury accommodations that make Las Vegas truly fabulous. Fabulous is as fabulous does, and there is no hotel in Vegas that does fabulous like the Encore at Wynn Las Vegas. This five-star resort is The Strip’s crown jewel. It is also one of the gay-friendliest properties in the country. In fact, the Wynn hotels have their own dedicated Pride Concierge (wynnpride.com) that caters exclusively to LGBT guests.
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Visiting The Spa at Encore is like stepping into an Indian pleasure palace, exquisitely decorated and staffed by top professionals. An hour there feels like days in Nirvana. The Encore’s spacious, well-appointed rooms rival those of Dubai, and the 24-hour room service menu tops what you’ll find in many fine restaurants around the United States.
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However, if you do feel like leaving your room to eat, you won’t have to go far for the best in Vegas cuisine. Wynn features several award-winning restaurants like the hip Botero, and nothing helps you recover quicker from a Saturday night than Sunday brunch with mimosas at the Wynn Country Club. After brunch you can walk down the hall for some amazing shopping. Inside the Wynn and Encore resorts are boutiques from
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some of the world’s top designers. The Alexander McQueen store is a must stop for all gay fashionistas. There you will find everything from iconic McQueen scarfs to the latest in heels and ready-to-wear items for both sexes. If that’s not enough, there are two Chanel shops, Cartier, Hermes and Dior. A more budget conscious shopping experience can be found just across the street at the Fashion Show mall. Department stores Saks Fifth Avenue, Macy’s, Nordstrom, Neiman Marcus, and Bloomingdales all have a presence. The two-story Forever 21 is a recommended destination for young gays who want to stay hip without breaking the bank. Fashion Show is massive and holds almost any mall shop you can imagine. Highlights include: Kenneth Cole, Lacoste, Apple, Marc Ecko, Michael Kors, Coach, and Puma. A final shopping stop on your tour of hedonism is the Forum Shops at Caesars Palace. Here you will find several notables that are worth a look, including Burberry, Tiffany & Co., Versace, and 7 for All Mankind. If you haven’t maxed out the credit cards already, gambling is a great way to spend some time after shopping and before the night begins. Las Vegas offers a wide range of games and atmospheres to satisfy any gambler from the casual slot player to the poker champion. The Wynn and Wynn Encore have The Strip’s most European feeling casino floors. The low, highly decorated ceilings exude luxury, and the quiet atmosphere is perfect for people who cannot stand the noise and clutter of a traditional Vegas casino.
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The hippest place to play is the ultra-mod casino floor of Planet Hollywood. This casino seems specifically designed with the younger, cooler gambler in mind. Pop music videos play throughout the floor making Planet Hollywood essentially a video bar with craps tables and slot machines. The MGM Grand casino is perfect for those who like to play and people watch. The huge floor attracts a large and diverse crowd and has plenty of machines for everyone. When visiting the MGM Grand be sure to ask where you can find the Sigma Derby machine. This last-of-its-kind machine is a fun, and potentially profitable, throwback to oldschool Vegas. Gambling is not the only form of entertainment in Sin City. Las Vegas offers a wide-variety of shows for all ages, predilections and sexualities. Perhaps the greatest spectacle currently playing in Vegas is “Le Reve” at the Wynn Ballroom. This water-based, in-the-round performance is a one-of-akind acrobatic extravaganza. The Le Reve VIP Indulgence Package comes with exclusive seating, bottomless champagne, strawberries, and a peek behind the scenes. It is well worth the price. While “Le Reve” is a great show for families, shows like “Zumanity” and “Peep Show” appeal directly to a more
The grand entrance to the Wynn Hotel
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mature audience.
The Encore room at Wynn Las Vegas
“Zumanity,” officially described as “the sensual side of Cirque du Soleil,” goes to great pains to remind us that “sex is beautiful.” “Zumanity” is much more intimate than other Cirque shows in both size and content. The smalltheater and lack of a fourth wall draws you into the loosely connected scenes exploring various aspects of human sexuality. The drag queen hosted show pulls no punches in regards to same-sex love. With scenes involving a giant water bowl and two women plus Vegas’ only man-on-man tango; “Zumanity” is the gayest show in town. Visitors looking for some good, old-fashioned, topless fun with a little celebrity camp thrown in should be sure to check out “Peepshow” starring Holly Madison. The show, with reality TV’s favorite playmate, features little plot and lots of boobs. The dance numbers are cute - barring a slightly disturbing one that focuses on 500 gallons of “milk” - and Holly is just adorable. There is also some male eye candy and hottie Josh Strickland lends his talent as the lead male vocalist. Whether you are into topless celebrities or just want to escape, head to Planet Hollywood and check out “Peepshow. “ If you’re looking for the best in female impersonation, then head straight to the Imperial Palace for Divas Las Vegas starring Frank Marino as Joan Rivers.
club on The Strip is Krave, and while it often has a high cover, the fun inside is worth the price. Another anchor of the gay scene is Piranha Nightclub with its hot dance floor and trendy lounge. Vegas has a bar for almost every scene; Levis and leather lovers will enjoy Eagle and Buffalo, and country fans should stop by Charlie’s. A few of the casino-based ultra lounges offer occasional gay-themed nights. The most regular and popular night is Revolution Sunday’s at the Mirage’s Revolution Lounge. Las Vegas is a city of change and evolution and the LGBT traveler has not been left behind. Almost every major casino, hotel and attraction reaches out to gays in one form or another. If you’re interested in Las Vegas Pride, be sure to visit during September. Events start with the Pride Kick-Off Party and culminate with Las Vegas Pride Night Parade and Festival. Las Vegas also has tons of direct flights and hotel deals making it a perfect choice for last minute vacations. The city is open year-round, and there is plenty to do whenever you visit. Just be prepared for long days and late nights.
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New York City is one of those places that makes you feel at home every time you visit. Okay, I may be a little prejudiced, having been born and raised there, but there is still something about the Big Apple that cannot be replicated in any other city in the United States.
Having relocated after college, one of my favorite things to do when visiting the city is to take a day or two to tour any one of the numerous fine-art museums. My first stop was the distinguished Metropolitan Museum of Art. The MET is one of the world's largest and finest art museums, comprising of more than 2 million works of art spanning 5,000 years of world history. Opened in 1870, the 2-million-square-foot building spans four blocks and represents a series of collections, each of which ranks in its category among the finest in the world.
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The museum holds nearly 2,500 European paintings to form one of the greatest such collections in the world, including wonders such as Rembrandts and Vermeers, not to mention the collection of Impressionist and PostImpressionist canvases. Other major collections include Egyptian and Islamic art, Asian art, Medieval and Renaissance art and contemporary art. More than a million objects are on view from every corner of the world. Just a few blocks away is the Guggenheim, completed in 1959 by Frank Lloyd Wright. The museum is called one of the 20th century’s most important architectural landmarks. Most of the Guggenheim Foundation’s
By Joey Amato exhibitions premier here, but its galleries are also used to exhibit the Guggenheim’s renowned collection, which ranges from Impressionism through contemporary art. The Guggenheim’s exhibitions have spanned a wide variety of approaches and artists, including historic monographic shows with exhibitions devoted to many of the great postwar artists and exhibitions of 20th- and 21st-century design and architecture. And what journey to New York would be complete without a little shopping spree? Of course, the choices are abundant depending on taste and price point, so be sure to research the city in detail to discover what neighborhoods fit your profile. One of the most iconic landmarks in the city is Macy’s Herald Square. The ten-story structure, comprising of an entire city block, is a must-see
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attraction. With numerous designers represented, Macy’s is definitely a onestop-shop for men and women alike. Those who are a bit more budget conscious should head to H&M. The Swedish retailer has numerous stores in the city, and one can always find the hippest European fashion trends there. H&M is a great place to visit if you forgot to pack an article of clothing for your trip or just want to replenish your existing wardrobe. Fashionistas should make a b-line for Fifth Avenue, where designer brands such as Louis Vuitton, Gucci and Versace abound and glisten as far as the eye can see. When it’s time to unwind, head to one of the hottest properties on Madison Avenue - the Carlton Hotel. The hotel originally opened
as Hotel Seville in the early 20th century as a tribute to the ornate elegance of old New York. Now, more than 100 years later, the hotel completed a multimilliondollar transformation by world-renowned architect David Rockwell infusing the hotel with an ultra-modern spirit while preserving the design-forward elements of the hotel’s historical aesthetic. Guests entering the lobby are immediately greeted by a grand staircase descending into a large reception area complete with plush sofas and a cascading waterfall. A member of the Preferred Hotel Group, the Carlton features 317 guest rooms, complete with luxurious linens, oversized bathrooms and views of New York City’s Madison Avenue. The rooms are accented by traditional materials with a modern twist and
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The lobby inside the Carlton Hotel located in Midtown Manhattan
come complete with iHome docking stations, leathertopped work desks, dual-line phones with personalized voicemail, electronic inroom safes, private bars, and complimentary in-room wireless Internet access. New York is a virtual culinary pantheon of flavors. If you survey a hundred people, each person will recommend a different restaurant. One that came highly recommended to me was Millesime. From the moment you enter the restaurant, you notice the ornate 1904 Tiffany-style glass dome skylight and the extraordinary mosaic floor. The raw-oyster bar seen at the front of the restaurant is also quite impressive. As my guest and I settled into our oversized banquette, our knowledgeable server for the evening described the specials in detail. We decided to begin our evening with the Smoked Herring Salad and Warm Fingerling Potatoes. Although the taste of the herring was a bit strong, it was complemented perfectly by the subtlety of the potatoes. An interesting selection that followed our starter was the Calamari with smoked bacon and Parmesan. The calamari was prepared in strips, resembling linguine and served in a delightful cream sauce. This dish is definitely not for everyone, but if you like calamari, I suggest you give it a try. Also available is a selection of Mules, or mussels, prepared in a variety of styles from the classic white wine and shallots to Créole with curry, apples, lime and coconut bouillon. In all, Millesime is a seafood lover’s paradise. The casual setting and formal service
are inviting, making me wish I had another day to sample more selections from the menu. New York City has many options when it comes to LGBT nightlife. Neighborhoods such as Hell’s Kitchen, Chelsea and the Meat Packing District have become epicenters in recent years, drawing an eclectic crowd comprising of young professionals and hipsters looking for a good time in the Big Apple. One of my favorite new spots is located in Hell’s Kitchen. Industry offers something for everyone. The 4,000-square-foot space is a combination bar/club and is open seven nights a week. Industry has also featured live performances by some of today’s hottest stars including Ari Gold and Jessie & the Toy Boys. Another interesting choice is the rooftop Gansevoort Hotel, which is not necessarily considered a gay establishment, even though it draws a large LGBT crowd. Guests can sip delicious - yet reasonably priced - martinis while gazing at both the New Jersey and Lower Manhattan skylines. Sports fanatics can get their game on at Boxer’s, one of the best places in the city to enjoy a sporting event or kick back and have a beer without the pretention that may come along with other Chelsea establishments. Like Frank said, New York City is “the city that never sleeps,” so if you are looking for a relaxing getaway, then New York may not be your best choice, but if you are looking for a destination steeped in culture and history, then the city should be on top of your list.
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Kristin Chenoweth Born and raised in Broken Arrow, Okla., actress and songstress Kristin Chenoweth goes back to her country music roots with her new album “Some Lessons Learned,� to be released on Sony Masterworks in September.
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Her debut single, “I Want Somebody (Bitch About)” is a tongue-in-cheek song about finding unconditional love. All of the songs on Chenoweth’s album are very personal and explore her life experiences as a woman. The music video for “I Want Somebody (Bitch About)” takes place in a retro hair salon and recently debuted on Country Music Television. Chenoweth was very involved in Nashville’s annual Country Music Festival in addition to appearing on the 2011 CMT Music Awards and performing on the finale of CMT’s “Next Superstar.” “Some Lessons Learned” was produced in Nashville by the legendary Bob Ezrin (Peter Gabriel, KISS, Pink Floyd). It features songs by elite pop and country songwriters including Diane Warren, Desmond Child, Tom Douglas, Hillary Scott, Jodi Marr, Victoria Shaw, Dolly Parton, Eric Bazilian, Gary Burr and Shane McAnnally. Chenoweth herself contributed two songs: "What Would Dolly Do?" in honor of her hero Dolly Parton and "Mine To Love" about a woman who struggles with an emotionally unavailable man. This is Chenoweth’s fourth album with Sony. "Look at my recording career and it's kind of funny. It's all so different.” says Chenoweth who counts Dolly Parton, Patsy Cline, Trisha Yearwood, Reba McEntire and Linda Ronstadt among her major influences. “This album is more along the lines of what I grew up singing, like the music I sang in church in Oklahoma. “When I was hired at 19 to sing at Opryland in Nashville, that's what I wanted to do,” she said. “I never anticipated my career going in all these great directions, which I'm grateful for. I'm finally getting to do what I want." “Some Lessons Learned” is the culmination of a natural progression for Chenoweth as a recording artist. She singles out the title track "Lessons Learned" saying, "It's about what we learn and how we learn and what we do with it.” Hence, she relied heavily on one of contemporary pop's most prolific songwriters, Diane Warren, who wrote a number of songs on the album. "I feel so lucky to be able to have worked with Diane. Her songs really capture who I am. She pushed me and gave me confidence to go for it," says Chenoweth. Warren also hooked her up with Ezrin, "and
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it became a great partnership," she adds. "On paper you wouldn't think of having Pink Floyd's producer, but it really worked." Ezrin has certainly succeeded in bringing out Chenoweth's hopeful, humorous and inspirational qualities. Additionally, “Some Lessons Learned” showcases the work of "some of the best songwriters and musicians in Nashville," notes Chenoweth, who also points to her sole duet, "What If We Never," with Randy Travis, not to mention the cover of Dolly Parton's "Change." "I'm so glad that as an artist, I'm in a position to work with such incredibly talented people," Chenoweth concludes. "I’ve always wanted to make this album, especially in Nashville, where the musicians are amazing and everyone is so wonderful to work with. I can’t wait to go back.” Chenoweth has had an extraordinarily diverse career. In November 2010 she was inducted into the Oklahoma Hall of Fame for her achievements. She won a Tony Award for her role as Sally Brown in the Broadway musical “You're A Good Man, Charlie Brown,” and is also celebrated for originating the role of Glinda in “Wicked.” In 2010, she appeared as Fran Kubelik in “Promises, Promises” alongside Sean Hayes. She won an Emmy Award for her performance as Olive Snook in the television dramedy “Pushing Daisies.” Chenoweth is best known on TV for playing Annabeth Schott in “The West Wing,” and most recently as April Rhodes in “Glee,” a part for which she was an Emmy nominee last year. In that role, she was able to use her multifaceted voice on covers like “Last Name” (Carrie Underwood) and “Alone” (Heart). This season she reprised her role singing “Dreams” (Fleetwood Mac). She also had her own TV series, “Kristin,” and her film credits include “Bewitched,” “The Pink Panther,” “Running With Scissors,” “Stranger Than Fiction,” “Four Christmases” and “RV.” Chenoweth documented her life in her 2009 memoir “A Little Bit Wicked: Life, Love, And Faith in Stages.” Next, Chenoweth will star as Carlene Cockburn in the new ABC drama series, Good Christian Belles, alongside Leslie Bibb, David James Elliott and Annie Potts. For more information on Kristin Chenoweth visit KristinChenoweth.com.
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VICTORIA SHAW:
“EVERYONE IS GAY UNTIL PROVEN OTHERWISE”
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In today’s world of country music, women reign on the charts, stage and radio. Singer-songwriter Victoria Shaw has penned some of the most recognizable songs in the past two decades. Her big break came when a young Garth Brooks recorded a song called “The River.” That song captivated the hearts of music fans and catapulted both Brooks and Shaw into superstardom. A year later, Shaw won an Academy of Country Music Award for “I Love the Way You Love Me,” a song she wrote for John Michael Montgomery. However, fame did not come overnight for Shaw. The native New Yorker originally wanted to be a singer even before she embarked on her songwriting career. “I wrote my first song called ‘Hollywood Glamour’ at age 12,” Shaw recalls during our interview at her Music Row office. “My sister and I formed a band and we began writing our own songs in addition to performing Top 40 covers.” Early on, Shaw would play local gay bars in New York and Pennsylvania to earn a living. “I really think that everyone is gay until proven otherwise,” Shaw states referring to her love for the community. “My children know that some of my best friends are gay and all families are different, but as long as they have loving parents, that’s all that matters.” Dreaming of hit records, the Emmy Award-winning Shaw relocated to Nashville and wandered into the famous Bluebird Café; that’s where it finally all came together. “It was like an epiphany. I wanted to learn how to be a songwriter and write hits for other people.” Shaw also realized that songwriting might have been an easier way to a record deal. It took Shaw eight arduous years to achieve a publishing
deal, but by 1994, she had three No. 1 hits to her name, including Doug Stone’s “Too Busy Being in Love.” Also a recording artist, Shaw draws inspiration from some of her musical idols including Bruce Springsteen, Billy Joel, Queen and Elvis Presley. Her debut album, “In Full View,” was released on Warner-Reprise records in 1995. “I love to record and perform just enough to satisfy my urges. I like to walk into a room empty and see what happens. To me, the first line of the song is more important than the hook, so that’s what I focus on.” In addition to performing and songwriting, Shaw also likes developing new talent. A few years ago, she befriended a young artist named Hillary Scott, who in 2006 became the lead singer of the Grammy Awardingwinning Lady Antebellum. “I helped land them a record deal and co-produced their debut album along with Paul Worley,” says Shaw. “We all knew we had something special, and the album was filled with hit singles.” Following the release, Lady Antebellum went on to become one of the biggest acts in country music. With credits including Jim Brickman, Olivia Newton John, Ricky Martin and Christina Aguilera, Shaw has worked with top artists in all genres of music, but there are a few artists Shaw aspires to write with. “I would really love to work with Tom Jones, Dolly Parton, Bette Midler and Keith Urban.” Shaw, who achieved a Billboard smash with Martin and Aguilera’s duet “Nobody Wants to Be Lonely,” composes 25-40 songs per year, and offers aspiring songwriters a bit of advice: “Don’t aim so high in the beginning. It is better to find that diamond
in the rough and begin collaborating.” Some of the talent she worked with at the start of her career are now successful Music Row songwriters. As far as the future of Nashville goes, Shaw believes the city is really starting to catch on to mainstream America. “Our studios are first class and our community is so creative. People can’t come here and not be inspired.” Shaw noted it was an exciting time for all genres of music in Nashville and even stated that there was a vibrant hip-hop community flourishing in the city. Shaw recently completed production on Robin Meade’s debut album “Brand New Day.” Meade is also the host of HLN's “Morning Express with Robin Meade.” “Robin stalked me until I fell in love with her,” laughs Shaw. The album, which is being distributed exclusively by Target, includes collaborations with John Rich, Sarah Buxton and American Idol finalist Bo Bice. The first single, a remake of Don Henley’s “Dirty Laundry,” can be heard on country music radio. In addition, she contributed three songs, “God in Me,” “I Was Here,” and “What More Do You Want,” to Kristen Chenoweth’s upcoming album due out in September. Currently, Shaw is working with renowned fashion stylist, author and former host of “How to Look Good Naked,” Carson Kressley on his debut album. For more information, visit VictoriaShaw.com or follow her on Twitter at VictoriaShawCom.
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CECE‘Finally’
RELEASES “STOOPID” CeCe Peniston isn’t ashamed to admit that she’s been stupid. She’s even written a song about it. For the first time in 15 years, Peniston, whose signature song “Finally” soared up the charts in 1991, is gearing up to release her first full-length album and recently debuted the first single, “Stoopid.” Upon hearing the track for the song, she knew immediately she had to have it and began playing around with lyrics. In her mind she kept hearing the word “stupid” over and over until deciding that’s what the song had to be about. She built it around scenarios she says you’d find yourself talking about with your girlfriends.
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“There are many people in our lives that make us stupid,” Peniston says. “Every once in a while you meet somebody who makes you like that. Not very often, though, because I’ve grown up, so I know a little bit better now.” Love is one thing Peniston has learned about. After saying “I do” twice, she’s come a long way from the girl she was in her college chemistry class who wrote a poem called “Finally” after thinking what she would say if Mr. Right came along. A few years later her words were set to music and became her best selling single. While at the moment she doesn’t feel “stoopid,” she is getting out of a relationship with a man she still calls beautiful and a good friend.
“Life isn’t always easy. Relationships are something you have to work at, and it is the love that makes you motivated to work at it,” says Peniston. “There are a lot of things you can work through when you really love someone. Sometimes time and space happens in a relationship and just because you love somebody doesn’t mean you’ll be with them.” Peniston was born in Dayton, Ohio, but moved to Phoenix, Ariz. at age 7. By 13 she already knew she was destined to be in the spotlight. She remembers turning to her mother and telling her, “I’m going to be famous one day.” At the time she didn’t know how that would become a reality, but knew she loved singing. For fun she would play talent show – always as the director – and would often sing Billie Holiday songs in her room. Her parents Ronald and Barbara Anne encouraged her, and by the late 1980s, she was on the pageant circle. In 1989 she was crowned Miss Black Arizona and a year later became Miss Galaxy. After gaining attention as a background singer, Peniston was signed to A&M Records at 22 years old. With the success of “Finally,” Peniston was primed to become one of the biggest acts of the 1990s. However, it also pigeonholed her, and many didn’t know she was capable of singing songs outside of the dance genre. Still, she has no regrets when it comes to singing the song that brought her recognition.
a trainer and had liposuction. In total she lost 30 pounds. However, she says she had the surgery because she wanted to and not because there was pressure from the industry.
“Life isn’t always easy. Relationships are something you have to work at, and it is the love that makes you motivated to work at it...”
As she celebrates her 20th anniversary as a recording artist she couldn’t be happier, but there is still much she wants to accomplish, including acting and even doing voiceovers – something she isn’t afraid to demonstrate on the spot. All at once her voice drops as she mumbles, “Hey baby, how ya doin'? My name is Willie, know what I’m sayin’ baby girl,” and in the next breath she becomes Marge Simpson brilliantly. Peniston describes herself as a woman who loves to dream and live life to its fullest. She’s grateful to still be making a living at what she’s loved doing since she was a little girl. However, there are times she feels her talent has been overlooked. Through the ups and the downs, she’s learned that people in show business are just normal people, but she isn’t about to disappoint the audience who wants to see the eyelashes, the glitz and the glamour. Off stage she says she’s like everyone else, sometimes “Stoopid.”
“That’s like my baby; it’s the first song I ever wrote,” Peniston says. “It’s a song that’s close to my heart because it’s what I was feeling at the time.” No matter where she goes, she has to sing it, and that is just fine with her. “Honey, as long as I’m getting a check, I’ll sing it another 250,000 times, okay?” In the last decade Peniston has kept active in the music industry, but nothing has been able to match the success of “Finally.” Even though radio play and chart appearances have diminished over the years, the LGBT community has remained devoted. Peniston continues to play countless Pride events and relishes in the love she receives. “’Finally’ was such a song about finding Mr. Right, the man of my dreams; it’s very descriptive of what goes on in the gay crowd,” she says. “It’s an anthem – people have told me they came out to the song or met their boyfriends to the song.” Although content with the level of success she’s achieved, she’s hungry to do more. That’s why she felt that if she was going to come back, she had to do it in a big way. Peniston's new outlook on life all started after she says she got a “YouTube reality check.” After not liking what she saw she said to herself, “Really, Ce? Is this how we’re doing it now?” She changed her diet, began working out with
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Stands Up to Co medy
CARLA COLLINS Carla Collins is honored by being dubbed as the Canadian Tina Fey. In her native country, you name it; she’s done it – weather anchor, radio and talk show host, soap opera actress, and star of her own reality show, “Carlawood.” On stage during her stand-up routines the petite blond is wild, brassy and sharp, but don’t let the smoke and mirrors of show business fool you. Collins says she’s really quite nerdy.
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“On my most private nights I can be found at home wearing my monkey pajamas, nursing a bottle of Zinfandel and masturbating over a ‘Criminal Minds’ marathon.” Collins, who’d love to be a modern-day Lucille Ball or Mae West, says she’s laughter’s pimp because she can sell that bitch to anyone. And in Canada, where she’s hailed as “The Queen of Comedy,” she has done just that. Now she’s trying to do the same in the United States. In 2007 Collins moved to Los Angeles to live the Hollywood dream, which she says is just doing what
she loves in front of even more people. While she hasn’t hosted “Saturday Night Live” yet, she does have a part in the film “The Extra,” to be released in July, and she recently wrote her first book, “Angels, Vampires & Douche Bags.” She refers to it as a “different kind of self-help book.” Looking back on it now she admits that she may have been a tad too honest and says, “The book feels like the world’s biggest drunken Tweet.” She’s adapted quite nicely to her Malibu lifestyle where she practices yoga and Kabbalah and consults with a psychic colon therapist.
She says she’s “now officially one adopted African baby away from becoming a complete Hollywood cliché.” Nevertheless, she will always remain a Canadian at heart and often goes back to visit her friends and family. “I didn’t say ‘I’m leaving and never coming back.’ You go where the work is or where your heart is,” says Collins. “When I slip back in, it’s in some ways like I haven’t left. Plus, you want to give people the opportunity to miss you.” Growing up in Ontario, Collins, who went on to become her school’s prom queen and valedictorian, had what she calls a fabulous childhood. Although she has a younger brother, she always felt a tad isolated. Thankfully she had 72 imaginary friends; something she freely confesses. She even mourned the loss of one when she was 5 years old after her father backed his car out of the driveway hitting her little pal. Some parents may be concerned with their child having such an imagination, but Collins’ parents embraced it. Her mother Rosemarie, a high school teacher, used to tell her daughter, “If you’re not yourself, you’re screwed.” Today at 46, Collins still considers her mother her angel and soul mate. The same cannot be said for her father. In 2005 Collins’ world came crashing down when she discovered her father had been living a double life for years. At one point she had to post bail for his release from a Florida prison and learned he had a severe gambling addiction. To this day they don’t talk. Around that same time her first marriage fell apart, and she realized her career had come to a standstill. Laughter helped heal Collins’ pain and after going through rough times,
she decided to pursue stand up once again. She tried it years before while living in Montreal and working at The Weather Network. It all started one night when out with her friends comedian and owner of The Comedy Nest, Ernie Butler, overheard her telling some jokes at their table. According to Collins he came over to her and said, “I’ve been listening in, and I think you’re hilarious. You should try standup.” She had done theater and won speech contests, but never thought of doing comedy in front of a live audience. It took her about a year to get up the courage, but she finally did an open mic night. She nailed it. Collins then went on to do the “Just for Laughs” festival with Ray Romano where she got a standing ovation but scathing reviews in the next day's papers. One wrote: “Barbie does standup.” Collins didn’t have the skin for the criticism and quickly retired. Along with age and a dedication to her craft, she’s learned that she can’t take reviews personally and says, “You can never be what you do.” As reviewers became kinder toward her act, the focus turned to her appearance. Collins is candid about her plastic surgery. First she had her nose done. Then she had breast implants. She says they were an impulse buy and likes to refer to them as Tom and Katie because “they’re not for real either.”
“I love to sit back with a big box of wine, a pack of Marlboros, give myself a little touch and judge the people on ‘Intervention."
issue for you than they are for me, you should check with your mom to see if you were breastfed.” One person who isn’t complaining about her breasts is her husband of four years, Tyrone Powers, Jr., son of famed movie star, Tyrone Powers. They first met after he attended her one-woman show in Melrose. Seven months later they married in Las Vegas. Even though Collins loved him, she doesn’t deny that they married when they did so she could get her green card, but insists it was his idea. Nevertheless, she calls him a crazy romantic and couldn’t be happier. Collins isn’t sure what the future holds, but she’d like to move more into scripted comedy. That’s one of the reasons why she decided not to do a third season of “Carlawood.” She’s in the process of bringing a sitcom she wrote to TV. She’d also like to open Buster House, an animal rescue shelter named after her black lab that died last year. With all that’s on her plate, she does manage to find time for a little R & R. “I love to sit back with a big box of wine, a pack of Marlboros, give myself a little touch and judge the people on ‘Intervention.’”
Collins continues to be driven by the ability to give someone a good laugh when they really need it because she’s learned you never know who is in the audience and what they might be going through. Her confidence has grown, By LA standards, though, she still feels like an amateur. and she no longer worries about what everyone thinks. She did the surgeries for Interestingly, she says the herself and advises others second you don’t care, who are considering it to everyone likes you. follow suit. “Don’t ever get it done for someone else. “When I stand up on stage, That’s never going to end well, as far as I’m concerned,” I just don’t say, ‘Please like me,’” Collins says. “I think my says Collins. message is, ‘I love all of you, and you can either dig my For those who choose to stuff or not.’” dwell on her alterations she thinks they have something For more information on deeper affecting them. As Carla Collins, visit www. she writes in her book, “If carlacollins.com my new boobs are a bigger www.omgmag.com | OMG! 53
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CORPUSA By Rick Desmond
In addition to some of the country’s largest Pride festivities taking place in New York, San Francisco and Washington, D.C., Wells Fargo is also excited to announce support of 2011 LGBT Pride events in Boise, Idaho and Birmingham, Ala., as well as Black Pride in Philadelphia. The iconic Wells Fargo Stagecoach will appear in 22 of these celebrations, making LGBT Pride one of the company’s busiest seasons for stagecoach appearances. “Wells Fargo believes that building and strengthening its relationship with the LGBT community is a year-round endeavor," said Shelley Freeman, Wells Fargo's Florida regional president and LGBT National Spokesperson. "Our Pride Month activities reflect Wells Fargo’s long-term commitment to our LGBT customers and our LGBT team members -including the thousands that participate in our 27 PRIDE team member networks across the U.S. -- and the positive impact we’re able to make in their lives." Wells Fargo's support of LGBT team members and customers extends far beyond Pride month. For the last 25 years, the bank has supported
WELLS FARGO ANNOUNCES ITS BUSIEST LGBT PRIDE SEASON EVER Wells Fargo & Company, a leader among U.S. financial services providers in its commitment to the LGBT community, has begun spinning the wheels on its busiest LGBT Pride Season to date. By year’s end, the bank will have participated in 40 LGBT Pride parades and festivals. Wells Fargo sponsored its first LGBT Pride event in San Francisco in 1992. Since that time, the company has continued to broaden its participation, culminating with a presence this year in Pride festivals and parades coast to coast, in locales both familiar and surprising.
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many causes of importance to the LGBT community and developed strong alliances with key LGBT organizations, including the Human Rights Campaign; the National Center for Lesbian Rights; Out & Equal Workplace Advocates; the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce; and the Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network (GLSEN). This year, Wells Fargo is placing a particular emphasis on a timely and important issue – anti-bullying – within the company’s broader Pride Month participation, particularly at events in New York and San
Francisco. Students, educators and other GLSEN supporters will march alongside Wells Fargo team members distributing information about GLSEN’s Safe Space Campaign. Sporting purple t-shirts emblazoned with the message "Turning our schools into safe places for everyone," the delegation will spread the word about the campaign, designed to reach every middle and high school in the United States, and the GLSEN Safe Space Kit at its core. "Wells Fargo’s early and generous support of the Safe Space Campaign enabled us to launch our effort to ensure that every student in America, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity or gender expression, is safe in school and free to learn," said Eliza Byard, GLSEN's Executive Director. "Wells Fargo is helping us reach more than 75,000 schools, serving 25 million students, during the three-year Safe Space Campaign." “Bullying is not just an LGBT concern, it is something that impacts all students,” said Sylvia Reynolds, Wells Fargo's Chief Marketing Officer. “At Wells Fargo, we believe that when students learn the value of inclusiveness at school, they’re
better prepared to help build stronger communities that embrace and accept all people for who they are.” Wells Fargo also views Pride as an opportunity to connect with its LGBT customers and the community to provide relevant financial education and resources. In 2009, the company developed the Accredited Domestic Partnership Advisor SM (ADPA) program. A first in the financial services industry, Wells Fargo Financial Advisors who have earned this certification are able to offer LGBT clients guidance on key domestic partnership issues, including joint ownership of property, beneficiary designations, trust services and other arrangements. “As Wells Fargo celebrates Pride with more local LGBT communities this year than ever before, we also seek to take the time to better understand the issues impacting their lives,” said Mark Tristan Ng, Wells Fargo’s LGBT Segment Manager. “Across the country, our bankers are available to meaningfully engage with our LGBT customers, discussing and providing the right financial education and guidance that will help them on the path towards financial success.”
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The National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC) is the largest national not-for-profit advocacy organization dedicated to expanding the economic opportunities and advancements of the LGBT business community. With the help of Irwin and a host of other dedicated people, the NGLCC boasts more than 135 corporate partners in every industry, 29,000 members in the U.S and abroad and 68 affiliate chambers. “We lovingly refer to Irwin as the grandfather of LGBT diversity,” said Justin Nelson, co-founder of the NGLCC. “He has brought the full-weight and power of IBM to our group and without his vision, leadership and passion we would not have achieved such great success.”
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WHAT THE NGLCC DOES: gFacilitate cooperation among state and local LGBT chambers and business groups. gProvide the ability to collect and disseminate news and information central to the success of LGBT businesses and professionals on a national level. gPartner with the financial services sector to enhance opportunities for members to start or grow their business. gWork with corporate partners, other organizations and the community at large to ensure increased opportunity and equality for LGBT professionals. gProvide supplier diversity certification to help LGBT businesses gain more procurement opportunities. gStay on the forefront of legislative issues and provide strong advocacy efforts for LGBT business causes.
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Irwin Drucker (LEFT) with Chance Mitchell and Justin G. Nelson, Co-founders of the NGLCC (National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce)
As a Board Member, he is the Chair of the Procurement Council of the NGLCC, and was the recipient of their First Supplier Diversity Advocate of the Year Award in 2007. In addition, Irwin is a member of the Board of Directors of the International Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce and the Pride Center in Fort Lauderdale. He is
GIVING BACK TO THE LGBT COMMUNITY: MEET IRWIN DRUCKER Giving back to others is one of the most rewarding experiences and for some it is the only way to live. Irwin Drucker is one of those special people who is not happy unless he is giving of himself. And that he does as a champion for LGBT economic and universal equality. Growing up in a middle class Jewish family in Brooklyn, Irwin embraced his parent’s philosophy about working hard and being a good person. His dad was a career IBM finance guy, while his mother was a loving stay at home mom. After graduating from NY University with an MBA in International Business, Irwin made his career choice to work for IBM and til this day he is still a great representative of the same company. The only difference is that Irwin impacts our community as Program Director of LGBT and International Supplier Diversity. In this role, Irwin has an overall responsibility for the coordination of all of IBM’s supplier diversity programs outside the US, as well as continued global responsibility for the LGBT program.
What does that mean? IBM took a giant leap forward years back as the only company to ignite a LGBT Supplier Diversity Program. This program makes it possible for LGBT businesses to get a piece of the pie as IBM outsources a host of opportunities. Across the country and even outside the U.S., gay owned businesses can enjoy sharing in the wealth of this company giant.
also a member of the IBM LGBT Executive Taskforce, the International Committee of the National Minority Supplier Development Council (NMSDC) and the Women’s Business Enterprise National Council (WBENC).
“The start of this program speaks volumes about IBM,” Irwin said. “From the start of this program it was not all about a return on investment, but it was about doing the right thing.”
When not working, Irwin is very content at his Boca Raton home that he shares with his four kids (2 cockers and 2 lab mixes). Single and available for some lucky man, Irwin is surrounded by so many who think the world of him.
Irwin adds, “I feel so lucky since being gay was never an issue at home, because I know so many others who have not had that kind of love and support. And then I also get to be an openly gay man at work, which is really a labor of love.” As part of his savvy business skills, he made a connection with the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce founded by Justin Nelson and Chance Mitchell, and now the rest is history. IBM was the first funding part of NGLCC.
“I have never thought of myself as an activist, but I guess I have become one. Business activism is a different twist, but I think it is vital for the LGBT community. We’ve definitely come a long way!” Irwin adds.
Humbly Irwin said, “I am so blessed to have a great job, friends and family. I truly love what I am doing and am so grateful for the opportunity. It is just inside of me to give back and I am not done yet.” Roman poet and philosopher Lucretius said, “We are each of us angels with only one wing, and we can only fly by embracing one another.” Irwin is that rare find with both wings: spreading his love and caring for our community.
VIP ALWAYS EVOLVING: JOSH ROBBINS AND BNA TALENT GROUP Establishing yourself in the business world takes networking and creativity. Josh Robbins used what he calls “creative networking” to help get Nashville’s BNA Talent Group off to a successful start.
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“I was working on a very popular television show shooting in the Southeast, and I couldn't get casting to return my call as a new agency,” Robbins said.
ways previously unseen in the region. Robbins said, “You must change your business model and answer opportunities for clients that they don’t even know they have.”
After some online research of the film and television commission where the project was based, Robbins used a new strategy. “I never lied, nor did I insinuate that (the) commissioner and I were friends,” he said. “I just name dropped to get attention; it worked, and I'm still working on that show.”
BNA Talent Group includes a children's agency that is green and fully electronic, a path Robbins sees the company as a whole following soon.
Robbins, 28, didn’t learn on the job to be persistent. In fact, the now veteran talent agent used his diligence to get started as one of the youngest in the profession with the DAN Agency. “I called every month for a year; I said, 'I want to work for you, do you have a job for me?'” Robbins said. “Finally I called, and the owner said ‘yes.’” Robbins calls it over ambition. “Some say, ‘it can’t be done,’ and that usually makes me focus and think outside the box to make it happen,” he said. Robbins spent more than nine years at the DAN Agency. In September 2009, he launched BNA Talent Group. “I wanted to get on this side of the desk and make deals,” Robbins said, “I always like making deals.” As evidenced by unrequited calls, BNA had yet to make the deals for which Robbins hoped. He unabashedly admits at one point he had $127 to his name. “We opened in the middle of the recession, which lacks sense to established businessmen,” Robbins said, “but to entrepreneurs, it’s smart to be able to operate a business on bare bones and turn a profit.” Robbins wanted a different way to brand the talent group without directly competing against the largest agencies. “I wanted to have the best clients and be the most selective,” he said. “I wanted the exclusivity that Facebook creators had when they launched.” For BNA to keep growing as a unique mid-range agency, Robbins persistently brands it in
Along with colleague Trish McClanahan, Robbins created the joint artist-management effort, JR-Management. Their clients include country music duo and reality TV stars, The Wilsons. NASHWOOD Productions is Robbins's creative think tank for television concepts. Gretchen Bonaduce, is part of the fourperson collaborative and is thankful for the chance to work with Robbins. “I feel like I have surrounded myself with the best team possible,” she said, “and given myself the greatest advantage to obtain as much exposure as they can possibly deliver.” Robbins specifically wanted to launch the first casting service in the South for LGBT clients, so he acquired the domain name LGBTcasting.com. “I felt it was important that they had a division of their own,” he said. “Advertisers have recognized the economic impact of the LGBT community as well as their spending power.” The full-service talent agency itself is also reaching new highs. Two BNA clients secured roles in the upcoming DreamWorks film, “The Help.” This is a first for the company according to Robbins. For BNA’s success to continue Robbins knows he will have to change the business model yet again, and he has the experience to do so. “This agency reacts to our buyers’ needs immediately,” he said. “We’ve recreated ourselves twice, and we’ve been open less than two years.”
Robbins will undoubtedly adapt again by feeding his principles of creative networking and over ambition into his motto, “If I can’t be first at something, I want to be first at something else.”
name : Josh Robbins age : 28 co mpany : BNA Talent Group title : Owner relationship status : Single
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Multiple Choice : Mac or PC: I’m an Apple man Dogs, cats, other: Dogs only Prom king or drama queen: The agent of the Prom King – simple here. Early bird or night owl: Early bird gets the worm
about me :
die hard weather fanatic. professional google'r. i put people in the movies. i am always living life closer to the edge, instead of the center. i love hard. i fail hard. i work hard. i crash hard. there never seems to be enough hot water in the shower. i like chocolate donuts & sweet tea. my family is numero uno! my sister really is my best friend. i'd never recommend opening your own business, but it is the best thing you can ever do for yourself. I have fallen 12,000 feet (skydiving). Boxer briefs. Tennis shoes. Below ankle socks. I have watched the same the 3-4 movies every night before bed for almost 6 months. I absolutely am unpredictable. DUH!
favorite quotation :
"An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything." Lynn Johnston
Short Answer Biggest fear: Reacting too slowly in business by not making a decision Guilty pleasure: Miniature chocolate donuts Fav. Celebrity Couple: I’ve always wanted Britney & Justin to get back together Most embarrassing memory: Honestly, in college failing one course which should have been so simple for me – The History of Film
Essay: On dating: “Going to dinner freaks me out. It's like the old days when someone invites you over and offers food, but you don't want to eat it, but you feel obliged. You're on your best behavior in an environment you’re not comfortable in. And what if it is terrible and awkward? Spending the day skydiving would be a killer date. I want to get to know someone in a place where they are the most open and typically dinners and movies aren’t really that place.”
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FITNESS By Scott Herman
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Ab Pulldown: Find a cable machine and adjust the pulley so that it is at face-level when standing. Attach an easy-curl bar. Hold the bar with your palms facing you head and as close together as possible. Proceed to lower yourself to your knees and be sure to sit back far enough so that you can maintain a 90 degree angel with your legs when in the starting position. Hold the bar at the top of your head or behind your neck. While keeping your hips stationary, proceed to bring your elbows to your knees. Breathe out as you bring your elbows to your knees and then return to the starting position slowly and repeat.
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Note: For heavier weight, have a spotter stand on your toes.
exercise 2: Deep Crunch: Find a short seat or bench that will allow you to hook your feet and hold yourself firmly in place and touch your head to the ground with no back support. Sit at the edge of the seat with your arms reaching toward the ceiling and lower your body to the floor almost allowing you head to touch the ground. Be sure to keep your face parallel to the ceiling throughout the whole exercise. Breathe out as you lift your body back up while reaching toward the ceiling with your hands and flexing your abs as hard as you can. NOTE: For those with a weak lower back, start off not going down as far. www.omgmag.com | OMG! 63
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exercise 3: Reverse Crunch: Lay down on the floor with your feet shoulder length apart and with a 90 degree bend in your knees. Next, interlock your fingers behind your head. Once in place, breathe out as you bring your knees in toward your chest. Be sure to maintain the 90 degree angle through the exercise and keep your feet shoulder length apart as well.
exercise 4: Side Oblique Crunch: While on the ground utilize your right arm as a post and hold yourself up with your hips barely off the ground, legs straight, and feet together. Place your left hand behind your head and while maintaining a neutral spine, breathe out while thrusting your hips toward the ceiling. Hold for 1 second, and then return to the starting position. Complete a full set on one side before moving to the other 64 OMG! | volume 3 | issue 7
HEALTH By Wm . Cory Jeffries, LMT
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THE FOOD THAT CURES ALMOST ANYTHING:
A Vine-Ripened Wonder! Nothing says summer like a garden bursting with tomatoes on the vine! Now, research shows that the ubiquitous fruit – or vegetable (it’s classified as both!) not only guards against several types of cancer but may also reduce your risk of heart disease, osteoporosis, even diabetes. The primary nutrient behind tomatoes’ healing power is lycopene, a powerful antioxidant that works by neutralizing free radicals (errant oxygen molecules that cause cellular damage in the body). Current research supports a theory that eating foods high in lycopene can help protect from a wide range of cancers, like prostate, lung and breast cancers to be exact! Tomatoes can also help prevent heart attacks, primarily by lowering cholesterol. Research indicates that simply drinking one 13 ounce glass of tomato juice a day for three weeks actually lowered LDL, “bad” cholesterol levels by almost 13 percent. It is also believed that there is a potential link between dietary lycopene and increased bone mass. But lycopene may not be the tomato’s only star quality. Another important nutrient, 9-oxooctadecadienoic acid has been shown to lower cholesterol and fat (lipids) in the blood stream. These lipids, left unchecked can lead to diseases such as arteriosclerosis or type-II diabetes. Three or more servings of tomato in your diet is optimal to reap the true benefits of this POWERFUL health food!
A fun way to get MORE tomato in your diet:
Ho memade To mato Salsa Yields about 2.5 cups • • • • • • • • • •
Take 2 cups seeded, chopped tomatoes (make it colorful – use red, yellow, and orange) ¼ cup diced red onion ½ teaspoon minced garlic ¾ teaspoon freshly ground roasted cumin 2 tablespoons freshly squeezed lemon juice 1 jalapeno pepper – seeded & diced 1 banana pepper – stemmed & diced ¼ cup diced green mango (optional for flavoring) Salt and pepper – to taste ½ cup minced cilantro leaves (for garnish)
Combine the first seven ingredients and the mango, if used. Season to taste with salt and pepper. Refrigerate, and then just before serving add the cilantro as a garnish. Mix in with fresh warm tortilla chips and it makes a great causal appetizer for your next summer mixer! Here’s to your health!
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SOUND By Rick Desmond
It was already turning cold in the U.K. in November 2009 when Frankmusik (aka Vincent Frank) zipped up his Eastpack with the last remnants of his London life: laptop, headphones and a few articles of clothing. The BMX bike – a mainstay of his former life as a championship junior rider – would have to stay. “Just as well,” thought Frank, “the less, the better.” And with that, he set off for Los Angeles.
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But why? After all, Frankmusik’s first album, Complete Me, had charted top 15 in the UK generating no less than 3 singles in “3 Little Words,” “Better Off As Two,” and “Confusion Girl.”
had been exact and the vibrant downtown environment began to inspire new songs in him. “Everything felt new,” he remembers. “Scary, but new.”
He’d helped launch the career of label-mate Ellie Goulding who’d go on to have two no. 1’s in the UK. He’d sold out his own 20-date headline tour across Britain. And, he’d discovered and helped bring recognition to upand-coming artists and producers such as Sky Ferreira and Starsmith not to mention handcrafted cutting-edge remixes for the likes of Lady Gaga and Pet Shop Boys. But Frank had always listened to his internal, creative compass and, now, it was firmly pointing in the direction of California.
It was just then that Frank went to meet with songwriter, producer and head of Cherrytree Records, Martin Kierszenbaum, on the recommendation of his label Island Records.
“I wanted to sever any semblance of a safety net,” recalls Frank, “I’d been to L.A. before and I’d always felt a kindred city spirit but the idea of pulling out the rug from under myself also appealed to me on a creative level.” Los Angeles was far from the clubs of London where Frank had honed his new, bold style: a combination of alt-synth pop, hardknocking beats and flowing melodies. Again, on pure instinct, Frank set up shop in the downtown L.A. area. With its burgeoning art galleries, studios and boutiques, downtown was beginning to enjoy a creative resurgence. In fact, the area would soon spawn the G6-flying, alt-electrohip hop group Far East Movement with whom Frank would go on to collaborate on their song “Fighting for Air” and Frankmusik’s “Do It in the AM:” the title song of Frankmusik’s new album. Once again, Frank’s radar
“I was a big fan of Frankmusik’s first album,” recalls Kierszenbaum, “so I jumped at the chance to meet him. It didn’t take long for us to figure out that we both shared a love for progressive pop music, but I remember Frank hard-eying my Yamaha CP-70,” says Kierszenbaum laughing, “so I invited him to play. His extraordinary voice and musicianship instantly filled the room and I knew then it would be an honor to be involved in any way.” Sure enough, the two began songwriting and producing together and a creative relationship was forged that would lead to Frankmusik joining the roster of Cherrytree Records in the US. Their collaboration would also yield the first single from Do It in the AM: “The Fear Inside” the video for which was shot in downtown Los Angeles. “’The Fear Inside’ is a song about relieving the pressures and complications of the modern world through the strength of a close and intimate relationship,” explains Frankmusik smiling. “And it wasn’t too bad getting to show that with Natalie [lead actress] in the video.” Helmed by cutting-edge director Guillaume Doubet (Charlotte Gainsburg, Blaqstarr, Natalia Kills), “The Fear Inside” clip is a gritty
look at contemporary life but also a metaphor for Frankmusik’s journey across borders in which initial disorientation leads to creative rebirth. In other songs from Do It in the AM, Frank expands on that concept and touches on the universal themes of an interconnected world while, at the same time, laying down some floor-burning beats. In the title track, for instance, Frankmusik explores both the communal and isolating aspects of club culture while celebrating the general swagger of late night life. In the instantly appealing “No ID” – a duet with Cherrytree label mate Colette Carr – Frank explores modern romance through rampant, unabashed, late-night party hopping. “Footsteps” is trademark Frankmusik pop: engaging and uplifting with melody and heart simultaneously. “Wrecking Ball” and “We Collide” deal with destructive tendencies in a relationship while “Struck by Lightning” addresses the repercussions. The inevitable break-up and beautiful melody of “No Champagne,” a poignant duet with Natalia Kills, slowdances between acceptance and regret. With the new album, Do It in the AM, Frankmusik continues to push himself creatively and evolve a sound he’s pioneered: a mixture of progressive electro-pop, banging club beats and soaring melodies in which personal emotion and dark sonic impulses thrive. As Frankmusik explains, “everything great is always conjured up in the late hours of the night. And, that’s why we do it in the AM.” For more information, visit Frankmusik.com www.omgmag.com | OMG! 71
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AMAZING GRACE
Grace is bringing a fresh-faced passion to pop music. As the newest discovery of American Idol’s Randy Jackson, she is using the club stage to express her own deep-seated thoughts and opinions insisting to top brass, “I will only sing what is dear to my heart.” One thing dear to her heart is inspiring gay fans to embrace their voice and make themselves heard. The Moscow-born artist aims to empower gay youth to not only love who they are but make others love them too. According to Grace, its not enough to speak your pride, we need to shout it out! And if you need a microphone, she’ll lend you hers. 72 OMG! | volume 3 | issue 7
How did you come to the attention of Randy Jackson? I flew to Los Angeles to meet with producers who introduced me to Randy. He listened to me singing and signed me to his record label. It was that easy? I was really lucky! Coming from Russia, were you aware of Randy Jackson’s prominence in American music? Yes, of course. I watch it all the time. American Idol should be called International Idol because people from all over the world love it. It airs in Russia with the voices dubbed in Russian. How are you different from other pop artists today? I have my own things to say and my own outlook on the world. I'm all about knowing yourself; loving yourself, understanding your needs and getting them met. My message is about empowerment and ownership: in love, sex, finances, emotionally and spiritually. It's a deeper message than what most pop artists are putting out today. I'm trying to get my fans to think. At the same time, I want my music to be fun. Do you mind comparisons to Britney or Kylie? No way! I'm a huge fan of both. They are talented, beautiful women. If I achieve anything even close to the success they have found, I'll be absolutely thrilled. What’s something your fans would be surprised to know about you? Even though I grew up in Russia, speaking Russian, American pop music has always been my passion. I would sing to Michael Jackson, not knowing the meaning of his words. At four-years-old, I couldn’t take it anymore and I asked my parents to hire an English teacher so I could understand what I was singing.
Most people learn English because they have to in school, or because they hope to work in America. I did it because I love music so much. Are you as bold as your single suggests? Most days, I'm the girl next door. I like pop music, clothes, food and flirting just like any other girl my age. When I'm onstage, though, I give it everything I've got. I turn into a rockstar. I'm bold, fierce and ready to take the spotlight. But underneath, I’m still the girl that likes to go shopping and eat sweets. Can't I have it all? I love how you start the song with “Give Me the Microphone” as if you’re ready to take over the stage from all the other female pop artists. It’s important for everyone to claim the microphone every once in a while. We all have something to say. We all need to get something off our chests. Some people might not feel empowered to speak up. I hope my music makes people feel alive and strong enough to do anything. What’s your message to gay fans who might be afraid to speak up? Coming out is a very sensitive thing that needs to happen at the right place and time, but when that time comes, take that microphone…shout it out! It’s important that we know ourselves and embrace ourselves. Love others, love yourself. There's a really beautiful thing about becoming part of a community. What do you hope fans will take away from “When the Lights Go Down”? The main message is that you shouldn't be afraid to be yourself. Show others what you want and what you need, and express yourself. We all have the power. For more information, visit http://www.graceofficial. com. www.omgmag.com | OMG! 73
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WTF Our words define us. Music is lyrical communication over a dance beat. Simply, story-telling over rhythm. Texting and social media vernacular has crept into our everyday life and conversations, Webster’s Almighty Dictionary and of course the music we listen to. And….OMG! Even the magazine you are reading! You’d have to be living under a rock to have missed the increasing trend of provocative lyrics and titles in current popular music. Artists such as Cee-Lo Green, Enrique Iglesias, Lily Allen and countless others have scored on the charts by dropping a few “choice words”. The expletives get them noticed but current consumer’s miniscule attention spans and universal over stimulation make them popular.
By DJ Joanie
I stand by the rule that expletives are to be used when you want to put that special turbo exclamation point on a thought. They are for special occasions and especially catastrophic events, like bashing a toe. If they creep into a song it better be good and have substance. It has to be used creatively and ultimately mean something beyond its shock value. I guess being a fan of songs that stir the soul and having survived a few mouth washings with the proverbial “parental bar of soap” helps. On to the music…
WTF by Matt Zarley The facts: Broadway hunk darling veteran of Cats, Kiss Of The Spider Woman and The Who’s Tommy gets dumped by his high-profile A-List un-named actor boyfriend. The result: Frustrated, confused and jilted Matt gets revenge and pens this little ditty. In keeping with this article’s subject matter I have to say that indeed the song’s title and lyric will get the release noticed. The Wideboys mix is fine for quick consumption and a perfect anthem for anyone who has been a victim of a cheating liar of an ex. Just approach this as a gay version of Cee-Lo’s big hit.
Put Your Hands Up by Kylie Minogue Here’s another feel-good winner from MyFlexRadio’s fave Aussie-diva. For anyone who has ever performed for an audience and felt a returned positive energy from a crowd, this song is for you. Sure, the world and our lives are twisted but all we need is each other and while we’re at it…put your hands up! Rooted in religious ritual or just plain following orders…crowds ALWAYS like to reach for the rafters! Kylie’s been through a lot and this song is a testament to her strength and loyal fan-base. It hits me squarely in the Solar Plexus and makes me joyful, ‘nuff said. The Bimbo Jones mix is pop-dance and contains the full lyric while the Basto Mayhem mix shakes the paint off club walls with epic monster keys and crowd effects. And God said….the adrenaline shall flow…. Give It by Amoray Sounding like a cross between Kevin Aviance and Sylvester incarnate this San Francisco native fuses dance music, fashion and attitude to great effect. My pick is the Rafael M. Vocal Vibe mix, a progressive underground jam that oozes self-empowerment over a banging bass line. Also available is a Gustavo Scorpio and Lenny B. mix. Don’t let anything hold ya down….
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Back in the ‘70’s, comedian George Carlin’s infamous “7 Words You Can’t Say On Radio” got him arrested in the fight for free speech. It wasn’t just the sensationalism that was seductive; there was a challenge and a lesson to think about the power of words. If it wasn’t for ground-breaking vanguards like Mr. Carlin we wouldn’t see these barriers falling in the communication industry. Is it right or wrong for the sake of entertainment? You, being the consumer are the ultimate judge.
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You Should Meet My Son
Everyone has his or her own story or assumptions about coming out to one’s mother. Few outcomes are as outrageously positive as Mae Davis’s (Joanne McGee) in “You Should Meet My Son.” The full-length film by writerdirector Keith Hartman has been racking up film festival awards for best feature and best screenplay leading up to its June DVD release. “You Should Meet My Son” equals and exceeds the high expectations accompanying the awards. An uproariously over-the-top comedy, “You Should Meet My Son” is the story of a Southern conservative mother, played marvelously by McGee, who along with her sister Rose (co-star Carol Goans) tirelessly introduce her son Brian to single women over Sunday dinner. After overhearing that Brian (Stuart Carrico) is gay, Mae and Rose eventually come to accept his orientation. So what’s a mother to do - how about find him a husband instead?
getting to know the drag queens, dancers and leathermen at the club. What has started as a mission to find Brian a husband detours into Mae’s and Rose’s coming out as fun loving, prejudice-free individuals. McGee and Goans have side-splitting chemistry as both bumbling traditionalists and confident queens in their own right. McGee’s performance touches on a myriad of Kathy Bates’s characters. But at the final two Sunday dinners, the drag queens steal the show. Fantasia and Salsa Roja, played by Acquah Dansoh and Matt Palazzolo, add extravagant costumes, unmatched sass and caustic wit to the lavish comedy’s finale where Brian needs to make a most peculiar decision. “You Should Meet My Son,” however is forced to over simplify such a complex concept as coming out to one’s parents. For many it will hit close to home. Mae and Rose tour a religiously based aversion therapy center. The scene is good natured and mocks the religious right who bases these tactics in fact. Yet it can strike a nerve for many who have been forced through the practice. It sheds light on the unfortunate fact that these methods are still somewhat widely accepted.
The comic duo get a crash course in the world of gay online dating before heading downtown to a gay club. The idea caters itself to hilarity and the cast delivers hysterically. Just imagine how any mother would react when asked, “How big are you?” on Man Hunt, or when surrounded by drag queens, leather-bound hunks and go-go boys. Once Mae lets go of her dream for a daughter-in-law, her and Rose take a refreshing step by 78 OMG! | volume 3 | issue 7
Furthermore, Mae zooms along the path to accepting Brian’s sexuality as she breezes through disbelief, rage, acceptance and almost excitement. Not every son and daughter has had such immediate support upon revealing his or her sexuality to a parent. To Hartman’s credit, he does touch on negative reactions through other characters; however, Mae’s adjustment is borderline utopian. Nevertheless that’s exactly what feel-good movies like “You Should Meet My Son” are for. It’s a 90-minute day dream for anyone who has thought his or her mother was crazy or would have a stroke upon learning that her child is homosexual. It shouts exactly the response for which everyone deserves: “I love you just the way you are.” OMG! Rating: Look past the low budget. You’ll be sore from laughter - OMG!
OUT
Before I left for college he gave me his black hoodie. The hoodie was decorated with safety pins, spray paint, and accented with cigarette holes. It was his favorite hoodie and he wanted me to have it."
A week later I got the phone call. He had taken his life. I felt numb, and ashamed, and I blamed myself and my peers and society. I cried for days. I didn't eat. My grades were slipping. My mother became extremely worried about the sudden decline of my emotional, mental, and physical health. She pleaded with me to tell her what was wrong so she could help. I finally came out, "My boyfriend's funeral is tomorrow... I'm sorry.�
We've all been there, at one time in our lives we had to come out to friends and family. Sometimes its painless and celebrated. For others, it can be the single worst experience of our lives. Each of us, help future generations gain acceptance. Here is one story:
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My mother was upset and forbid me from going to the funeral. She threatened that if I embarrassed our families (his included) by going to his funeral, I wouldn't be welcomed back home. I went on the computer, forwarded my coming out letter friends and a few bullies, and I left my home.
In high school, I wasn't out of the closet but I had a "secret" boyfriend that was openly bisexual and went to the same school.
I went to the funeral with a suitcase because I wasn't sure where I would go after the service. It was a beautiful ceremony. At one point, I approached his mother and offered my condolence. She wrapped her arms around me and tearfully said, "I'm sorry for your loss."
He was rebellious in every way I could imagine: smoked, drank, experimented with drugs and sex, skipped class, and played in a rock band. And for a shy, "wannabe" religious, "follower" like me, he was the perfect escape from the khakis, button ups, and bible I would hide behind to fit in with my peers. For two years we had secret rendezvous in the school's parking lot, in the locker room, or back stage of the theater. And for two years I wanted to runaway with him. He had a "notorious" reputation in the small community in which we were caged. I watched in silence as others picked on him, harassed him, and or shunned him. I was a coward; I knew if I spoke out I would become their next victim.
It's been six years since then and I've led a productive and adventurous life. My mother and I made up about a year after I came out and she has a very supportive and proud parent ever since. I'm still friends with many people from high school that I thought would hate me if I came out. And I carry the lessons and the spirit my high school sweetheart everywhere I go.
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My boyfriend recently said he is considering gender reassignment surgery. We have been together for four years and I’m having a hard time accepting the fact that he doesn’t want to be a biological man anymore. I want to be there for him, but don’t know how to tell him that I can’t be with him if he goes through with it… Help! -Dan You and I can never imagine the conflict your boyfriend is going through. When he decides to begin the process of gender reassignment, it surely took him a long time to get there. This isn’t something that is going to happen overnight. It is very expensive, requires multiple surgeries, hormone injections, pills, evaluations, etc. If your boyfriend is serious about it, now would be a great time for some open and honest communication. If you are plan to be with him through this change you should prepare yourself to be there for him. You both need to be on the same page. When he becomes she, you will both need to be there for each other.
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If you are not planning on staying with him, I would be honest with him about why. Talk about how this will change the relationship for you; refrain from blame. If you are truly in love with him you may be able to look past biology. I suggest formal relationship counseling for both scenarios. You will both need to speak to a professional in a healthy environment. There are many resources online that can assist him with his goal. There are support groups that meet online, over the phone and in person. Check with Human Services divisions in your local community/city. They are available to guide you. Information is your best friend. Soak up as much of it as you can. If you live in an area that is less accessible, look to the Internet or local library. You will get through it together or apart, but just remember to be honest.
I consider myself to be a great friend. I listen when needed. I offer advice when asked. I am extremely loyal to those that I care about. A friend of mine recently broke up with his boyfriend. None of our mutual friends ever liked him and we were honest about our feelings. Now they are back together…Help! -Adam When our friend(s) start seeing someone new; there is a kneejerk reaction to be protective of said friend. The new beau might have other motives, or at least that’s what his eyes say. Suddenly, we become a gumshoe detective and rookie court recorder. We gather evidence like a squirrel only to have our nuts squashed when presented. If your friend is happy, eventually you will get-to-know and respect him and welcome him into your heart and mind. If the relationship ends, that does not give you carte blanche to open the floodgates. Do not turn it into a bashing session. Your friend saw something about his ex that he liked. What does that say about him if you continually express your disgust? You will break down his self esteem and make it about you being right. Regardless of how volatile the relationship (if it ends) -it must be mourned and respected. Support your friend. Build a list of positives. If you focus on the negative, it will lead to an ill-fated rebound relationship. If you’ve already shared too much, it’s time for damage control. Meet with your friend privately and apologize for making things awkward. Offer to get-to-know him better. Reassure him that you will keep an open mind. Try to identify what you didn’t like about him. If after some effort you are still uncomfortable, then it becomes your choice to separate yourself. Just remember you might lose a friend in the process.