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Say “No” to make “Yes” sound better Are you a “pleaser”? Do you habitually give in to other people because you just can’t stand the thought of upsetting them? Do you put your needs to one side because you get a buzz from someone else’s happiness, only to find that he or she is not a bit grateful? If so, you are a classic „people pleaser,” and you are, in all probability, not getting what you want out of life. It’s time to shift the focus from others to yourself, and stop being a martyr. Kris Rowlands
I
’m quite sure that there is more than
Setting our own goals and being
People don’t like to hear the word „no”,
one person reading this that can
organized enough to accomplish them
but when coupled with the explanation
answer „yes” to that question. But
is a very important part to the humans’
of why you are saying „no”, you can
I have a question back at you:
psyche. The psyche is geared to feeling
inform them that you would not be able
good about itself when you are able
to invest the time it would take to see the
How do you ever Get Things Done?
to accomplish tasks for yourself. Now
task to fruition and be able to do it with
Saying “yes” is an affliction that the even
you might be thinking “How the heck am
quality.
the best of us have. A good deal of the
I going to get anything done for myself?
time, it’s a great deal easier to say “yes”
I have so many things to do for other
when we are asked for something rather
people…..”. There is a way….and it may
or project, people will realize that
than to say “no”. But how can you be
take you some time to learn it, but learn it
they will get your best quality work
personally productive if you are always
you must. You have to say
that you can offer, and that it is indeed
But when you do say „yes” to a task
doing for others? The simple answer is that you can’t.
A good deal of the time, it’s a great deal easier to say “yes” when we are asked for something rather than to say “no”.
an exception point that you have said
Saying „no” is a key component of being able to be organized and Get Things Done.
„yes” to their request. When you learn to say „no”, people will begin to value what you do for them and value when you say „yes”.
About Kris Rowlands
NO. Saying no is a key component of being able
Kris, being the
to be organized and Get Things Done. You
child of a hoarder,
have to be able to use this word in order
has grown up her
to fulfill your own agenda and also in order
entire life organizing
to be able to feel good about yourself. When
things around her: it
you say “no” to people, and you have the
is as natural to her
time, list for them a few reasons why you are
as breathing. With
track, you must have time to be able
saying „no”. Such as, “I would love to be able
over twenty-five years experience, she is
to complete the tasks and goals that you
to take care of that for you, but due to tasks
honored to offer you her services, in this
have set out for yourself. Not only for the
A, B, and C, I would not be able to do this
time of need for busy professionals and
obvious reason of being organized, but
for you in a timely and efficient manner. My
entrepreneurs. She’s running a productivity
for the unobvious reason: you cannot feel
other commitments have my plate full at
blog „Fresh Focus”.
productive and organized if you aren’t
the moment. Might I suggest that you speak
doing so.
with X in order to complete your task?”
In order to keep your own life on
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