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EVERY MONTH 4 From The Publisher 5 Contributors & Testimonials SASS FACTORY: STUFF WE LOVE 6 Sassy Time SASSY Recipe 7 Harvest Pear Salad With Spiced Pomegranate Vinaigrette

By: Katie & Theresa Slott

Book Reivew 23 Marthaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Vineyard: Isle Of Dreams By Susan Branch

Reviewed By: Anne Britton

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Throwing An Autumnal Cocktail Party

By: Andrew Skipper

ON THE COVER 10 Paqui Kelly The Woman Behind Kelly Cares Foundation

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By: Cyndy Searfoss

HEALTH 14

8 Ways To Eat Organic On A Budget

By: Kerrie McLoughlin

LIFE 16

11 Things To Do On A Lazy Sunday

By: Rasonda Clark

Creating Your Ultimate Dream Bedroom

By: Rasonda Clark

Making Nice With The Neighbors

By: Ashley Talmadge

Skip The Costume This Halloween

By: Rita Miller

BALANCE 20 How To Make Better Decisions

By: Meagan Church

WORK 28

How To Get On The Promotion Track

By: Allison Boelcke Smith

SCENE AND BE SEEN 31 Kelly Cares Foundation: The Game Day Chase

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an you believe it’s October already? What has happened to the time this year? The weather this summer was so nice and continued so long into September that it doesn’t seem possible that it’s really fall. And, yet it is. When I think of October, I think of cider and doughnuts, colorful leaves, wood fires in the fireplace and pumpkins. And, of course, the month ends with witches and goblins on Halloween. We are lucky to live in this part of the country where the fall foliage ranges from beautiful to absolutely gorgeous, with brilliant yellows, bright oranges and deep reds. When I lived in Texas, the only trees that changed colors were the Bradford Pears that had been planted on the IBM campus. I really missed the beauty of the maples and oaks and the other trees we have here. The extended summer weather has really delayed the changing leaves this fall. I am usually saddened in August when I spy the first reddish leaves on a tree. This year it was well into September before I saw any. It will be interesting to see what the colors will be this year. It may be Halloween before we see the prime viewing here rather than Columbus Day as usual. And, that could add to the list of reasons why I like Halloween. I think Halloween is one of my favorite holidays. For me it is purely a fun day. No big family dinners to cook, no gifts to buy, no travel necessary, just dress up in costume and eat candy. What could be better? When I lived in Texas, I lived in a development with lots of children. I loved handing out treats to the kids and seeing what crazy costumes they were wearing. Where I live now there are no trick-or-treaters, which is sad. However, I am lucky enough to be invited to an annual Witches Brew where we all dress like witches and do crazy scavenger hunts, have cackling contests and bring Halloween themed treats to eat. If you are out an about in Edwardsburg around Halloween, watch out for the ladies in black pointy hats! As for this month’s issue of Sassy Magazine, we have an article about having fun on Halloween as well as one about throwing an Autumnal Cocktail Party. You will find stories about how to eat organic on a budget and how to enjoy a relaxing and lazy Sunday, which you might want to spend in your Ultimate Dream Bedroom! There is an interesting article on making better decisions and another on Making Nice with the Neighbors. And, of course, in honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, we have the inspiring cover story about Paqui Kelly and the Kelly Cares Foundation. I hope you enjoy your October and our October issue of SASSY!

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CYNDY SEARFOSS

ANDREW SKIPPER

ALLISON BOELCKE

Rasonda Clark

is a mom, fundraiser, writer, equestrienne, creative writing adjunct instructor, volunteer and insomniac (which is how she manages to fit everything into the space of 24-hour day). Her professional history includes stints as the managing partner of an advertising agency, director of creative services, director of alumni services at IU South Bend and director of advancement at a local independent school. She received her bachelor’s degree from Indiana University in journalism and her master’s degree in creative writing from the University of Notre Dame in 1995.

is an interior decorator and lifestyle expert who believes that life should be celebrated every day. His company, Andrew Skipper Everyday, focuses on helping people elevate the everyday tasks they perform and objects they live with. He is the lifestyle expert for NBC affiliate WNDU TV in South Bend, IN, giving decorating and entertaining tips. He is also the official lifestyle expert for Elkhart County, IN, working with the Convention and Visitors Bureau.

is a digital marketing specialist for Indiana University South Bend, and a freelance writer who loves to focus on topics of career and personal finance geared toward working women and mothers. She resides in South Bend with her husband and toddler daughter. During any free time she can manage, she is a foodie whose goal is to actually make more recipes on her Pinterest boards.

Rasonda Clark is a marketing assistant by day and avid freelancer at night. As a busy mom trying to keep up with three busy kids she tries to find the best way to balance life, family, work and relationships. Writing about everything from fashion, budgeting, beauty and home decor helps elevate the days stresses while relating to women from all walks of life.

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Amy Reinert is Michiana's Premier HS Senior, Teen and Fashion Photographer. She grew up working in her father's studio and then decided to start her own. Her style is clean, modern and with a flair for fashion. She shoots a variety of sessions in her downtown Elkhart studio as well as on location. www.amyreinert.com amy_reinert@yahoo.com 574-903-6383.

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Oktoberfest Begins

Elkhart County Bicentennial Torch Relay, 8:30 A.M., Downtown Elkhart

Pink Out Zumba, 5:30 P.M., Notre Dame Stadium

Oktoberfest, 5:00 P.M., Downtown Bremen

Granger Fest, 10:00 A.M., Granger Community Church

The Miracle Worker, 8:00 P.M., The Round Barn Theatre At Amish Acres-Nappanee

Every Play Counts, 2:00 P.M., St. Joseph Health Systems

Here Come The Mummies: Love Fest Tour, 8:00 P.M., The Lerner-Elkhart

The Color Run Tropicolor™ World Tour, 9:00 A.M., Four Winds Field-South Bend

Hotel California, 7:30 P.M., The Lerner-Elkhart

Dressing Downton: Changing Fashion For Changing Times, All Day, The History Museum South Bend

Tennis & Tapas, 5:30 P.M., South Bend Racquet Club

Haunted Hill Half Marathon, Terrible 10K, Frightenting 5K, 8:30 A.M., Bonneyville Mill County Park-Bristol

Gorgeous Gala, 6:00 P.M., Knollwood Country Club-Granger

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Free Showing Of “Rocky”, 8:00 P.M., Goshen Theater

Meditation Yoga, 5:30 P.M., Elkhart Environmental City

Fiddler On The Roof, 8:00 P.M., The Round Barn Theatre At Amish Acres-Nappanee

Mystery At The Mansion: Inside Job, 5:00 P.M., The History Museum-South Bend

Happy Halloween!

Ghouls And GoodiesGoodies And Crafts, 2:00 P.M., Battell Community Center-Mishawaka Free Showing Of “Young Frankenstein”, 8:00 P.M., Goshen Theater

The Newsboys, 7:00 P.M., Morris Performing Arts Center-South Bend

Tea Time For The Arts 2016, 3:00 P.M., Morris Inn- University Of Notre Dame

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2. Place two blackberries on each lavender sprig and set aside. 3. Juice lemon and add spirits, syrups and juice to a cocktail shaker filled with ice and shake until cold.

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Harvest Pear Salad

with Spiced Pomegranate Vinaigrette By: Katie & Theresa Slott

Time: 10 minutes prep Makes 4-6 servings Ingredients:

Spiced Pomegranate Vinaigrette: 1/3 c. olive oil 1/3 c. pomegranate juice 1 T. sugar 1 t. cinnamon 1 t. ginger 1/8 t. kosher salt Harvest Pear Salad: 6 oz. mixed greens 2 ripe pears, thinly sliced 1/3 c. dried cranberries 1/3 c. walnuts, preferably toasted 1/3 c. crumbled blue cheese

Steps: In a cruet, mix the dressing ingredients. Shake or stir well. On plates, arrange greens and top with remaining salad ingredients. Drizzle with vinaigrette.

Tips: Change it up by trying other dried fruits or crumbly cheeses! Katie and Theresa Slott are sisters-in-law who write the food blog, Cooking for the Fam, where they share lots of tips, family-favorite recipes and meal plans. For more recipes like this one, or to see step-by-step photos of this recipe, check out their website, www.cooking forthefam.com. SASSY | OCTOBER 2016

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By: Andrew Skipper

Throwing An Autumnal Cocktail Party Perfectly placed between the end of summer and the beginning of the holiday season, October is the ideal month to host a cocktail party. As the temperature changes outdoors, we turn our thoughts to indoor activities and creature comforts, while the holiday schedules and travel have not yet taken over. Hosting a cocktail party may sound fun, but it can often leave potential hosts and guests with a few questions. Do I need to have a fully stocked bar? Should I dress up? Should I serve food? Do I take a gift to the host? Lifestyle Expert, Andrew Skipper, shares some tips to answer these questions and help put the fun back in your cocktail party!

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Timing is everything. Most people work during the day, so having a cocktail party from 6 P.M. to 9 P.M. allows some to come directly from work and others to go home, freshen up and join the party a bit later. Think of it like a long happy hour! Friday and Saturday evenings are ideal, as a festive cocktail party sets the tone for a fun weekend. The good news is that if the party is a hit, you can always order a couple pizzas and extend it!

Having a fully stocked bar is certainly nice, but not necessary when hosting a cocktail party. If you’re just starting to build an inventory for your home bar, start with a few basics like gin, vodka, whiskey and rum. Complement these with a variety of mixers such as soda, tonic, cola and fresh juices. It’s also important to offer non-alcoholic beverages in case someone is abstaining and for designated drivers. A selection of still and sparkling water, ginger ale and juice should suffice. For autumn, it’s fitting to keep apple cider on hand so you can heat it up and spike it (or not). There’s nothing like walking into a cocktail party and smelling hot apple cider simmering on the stove. This is a great first drink to serve guests as they come in from the crisp outdoors!

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When it comes to food, keep it simple. Cocktail parties are not meant to be full dinner parties. Most guests will arrive before dinner, so it’s nice to have light appetizers that stimulate the appetite. Since autumn is synonymous with comfort food, why not offer little pulled pork sliders served on potato buns? You can purchase the meat from your butcher or grocery store already cooked and simply heat and serve. A big cheese and charcuterie board is also a classic cocktail party piece. Plenty of meats, cheeses, crackers and toast points give guests options and satisfy hunger nicely. Take a tip from luxury hotel happy hours and serve little bowls of savory and salty snacks like chips, pretzels, party mix and nuts.

To Mix Or Not To Mix: This is completely up to personal preference. Some people enjoy playing bartender and crafting fun cocktails for their guests while others want to mingle. If you’re the latter, consider creating a signature punch that guests can serve themselves. You can make the base of the punch the day before, and simply add some bubbly just prior to the party. Since punch can sneak up on you, don’t make it too strong. It usually goes down pretty easily, so count on about four cups per person.

How To Decorate: Most importantly, bring a fun attitude and enjoy yourself!

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Autumn is the time to take your cues from nature. Use pumpkins, gourds and acorns to decorate tabletops. Simply fill big bowls or apothecary jars for an autumn-chic look. Fill vases with tall branches snipped from the garden, and take color inspiration from the changing trees. Don’t forget lots of candlelight to make the evening feel special, and curate a playlist in advance so there is always something nice playing in the background. Bossa Nova and jazz music is perfect to get the night going. It’s all about creating a cozy environment for your guests.

What To Wear: Unless a formal invitation precedes the party, the dress code is typically not formal. For a Friday night, some people will be coming directly from work so business casual is a safe zone. Even a nice pair of jeans is usually appropriate.

What To Bring: It’s not expected for guests to bring a hostess gift to a cocktail party, however the gesture certainly would not be forgotten. If you don’t know the hosts very well, a nice bottle of wine or bubbly is always appreciated. Unless asked, don’t bring any food to share, as the host usually knows what she is serving, and in fact, may have allergies you are unaware of. Most importantly, bring a fun attitude and enjoy yourself!  SASSY | OCTOBER 2016

Paqui Kelly

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o much of how the world knows about us is contained in our labels: mom, wife, daughter, teacher, sister. Of all the labels Paqui Kelly wears – and there are many – two-time breast cancer survivor is the one neither she nor those

close ever thought she’d ever wear. Words and phrases particular to cancer patients and survivors are sprinkled throughout her conversation, like signposts. She notes that she’s not one to remember dates, a lingering symptom of chemo brain, as she calls it. Another phrase, “survivor’s guilt” (which, on the surface, seems like an oxymoron when used by someone who has endured two bouts with two different kinds of breast cancer), pops up in her conversation as well. It becomes apparent that although she’s cancerfree, the trip she’s made to get to this point has left its mark.

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Paqui’s story seems tailor-made for the plot of a Hallmark or Lifetime movie. There’s the obligatory girl meets boy (in her case, she began dating University of Notre

Paqui Kelly at Football 101 with her mother, Ginesa, and five sisters: Eli, Monie, Rosie, Gini, and Mary.

Dame football coach Brian Kelly when he was an assistant coach at Grand Valley State University and she was “the lowliest person in the financial aid office, giving presentations on the weekend,” she recalls with a laugh). After a romantic courtship that includes horseback rides, they get married and start a family. She continues to teach high school, enjoying her work.

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Paqui Kelly and LaPhonso Ellis meet participants at Kelly Cares Foundation's Tennis & Tapas event. Tennis & Tapas is part of their annual Paqui Playbook October Event Series happening now.

After their family of three children is complete, the gynecologist recommends a baseline mammogram. It shows some cysts but at her age and with no family history of breast cancer that she’s aware of, Paqui is reassured that there’s very little risk that she has cancer. But after further testing a few months later, that’s exactly what it turns out to be. Surgery is followed by chemotherapy and radiation. Treatment is successful and she resumes life with a new label – cancer survivor. But then the plot takes a turn. Just as Brian is leaving Central Michigan University to become head coach at the University of Cincinnati, Paqui is diagnosed with breast cancer once again – a different, more aggressive type this time. Testing reveals that the second occurrence is due to mutations in the BRCA 1 gene, a genetic trait that frequently runs in families (in fact, one of Paqui’s sisters finds she has same mutation and also elects to have a double mastectomy). And so Paqui begins treatment again. This time surgery is a double mastectomy, followed again by chemotherapy. With the assistance of family and friends, she became a two-time cancer survivor. A fitting end to the movie would be a series of clips showing Paqui’s involvement with the many fundraising events put on by the Kelly Cares Foundation, the foundation she and Brian began right before her second occurrence of cancer.

To Notre Dame football fans and those living in the Michiana area, Paqui Kelly may be best known as the wife of Notre Dame’s head football coach Brian Kelly. Or perhaps because their names appear in giant letters that announce the “Paqui and Brian Kelly Comprehensive Breast Center” at Saint Joseph Health System in Mishawaka. The center exists in part because of the generosity of their foundation, which began in Cincinnati where Brian was head coach at the University of Cincinnati from 2006 through 2009, and is now known as the Kelly Cares Foundation. That support reflects the organization’s mission, which is to support health, education and community initiatives. Through the center, women throughout the community are educated about breast health and receive mammograms and other diagnostic tests. And while having her name ?? in a prominent place seems at odds with her very down-to-earth personality, it becomes evident that Paqui sees this as part of something bigger than she is – or the letters themselves. “God puts you where you’re supposed to be, so put my name on the wall, if that’s what it takes for women to be able to get the tests they need…” she said with a laugh. With the three pillars in mind, the foundation also “fills needs, whatever is needed,” throughout the Michiana area and beyond. Their logo, a green shamrock was designed to symbolize both the foundation’s purpose and need. The left side, featuring heart-shaped clovers, represents faith and love and strength of family. The right side represents God’s blessings of the gifts and talents of the foundation’s team and its responsibility to share those gifts with others. The foundation is funded primarily through numerous events in Michiana and other places. Local fundraising events include Football 101, Game Day Chase 5k/10 k and the Annual Paqui’s Playbook in October. A month long series devoted to health & wellness initiatives. The foundation is involved in other events across the country, many of which are supported by Notre Dame alumni. “Event-based fundraising is very time intensive,” Paqui said. “We are blessed to have so many people get behind what we do.”

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“Kelly Cares Foundation is blessed to be part of a very supportive, very generous Michiana community.”

That involvement is an indication of an important aspect of the foundation’s philosophy – that partnerships with other organizations increase the likelihood that answers and cures can be found. The Kelly Cares Foundation works closely with a number of local healthcare organizations including Saint Joseph Regional Health System, the IU School of Medicine – South Bend and the Harper Cancer Research Institute. The backstory to Paqui’s story is her reliance on faith, family and friends. One of six sisters and the mother of three teenagers, the theme of family is woven through all of Paqui’s stories. There are stories of how she came to be called Paqui rather than Francisca and the stories behind her sisters’ names. References to Brian, her children and her mother make their way into most of her stories. It’s easy to see her in front of a classroom, teaching high school students. Lessons learned are illustrated with a story. Her voice and mannerisms are never over-powering but command attention. Although her life has been full of dramatic moments, you never get the sense that the drama has ever gotten the better of her. Paqui is quick to note how fortunate she is to have had the amount of support she’s received along her journey. She’s quick to add that the Kelly Cares Foundation is blessed to be part of a very supportive, very generous Michiana community. “I don’t think people here really realize just how great this area is when it comes to supporting nonprofits,” she said. “People here never say, ‘we’re done giving,’” she said. She gives an example to illustrate her point. “We did two events in Cincinnati in 2009, a golf outing and Football 101, which raised between $40,000 and

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Pink Out Zumba October 3, Notre Dame Stadium

Come join in with 1000 other participants for this amazing free hour-long event, where we team up with St. Joseph Health System to help "dance away cancer."

Tennis & Tapas October 11, South Bend Racquet Club

Help raise awareness and funds for the foundation while spending a night playing competitive matches, participating with skills and drills with the Notre Dame tennis team, and enjoying food and beverages throughout the evening.

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8 Ways to Eat

By: Kerrie McLoughlin

Organic on a Budget

Have you ever wished you could feed your family organic foods, but when you check out the price tags your eyes pop out of your head? Yeah, me, too. So I decided to figure out some ways to feed my family of seven organic foods on a tight budget. Here’s what I found out:

1. Local Produce. Hit the farmer’s market to help out some local farmers while you save money on organic items. You can also try Local Harvest to search for farms, farmer’s markets, CSA (community supported agriculture) and more.

2. Grow your own organic garden. Sounds hard, doesn’t it? But trust me, if I can do it with my two nongreen thumbs, so can you. My husband is usually the gardener in our family but one summer he was traveling and the responsibility fell on me! I found out how easy it is to pull weeds and water tomatoes, carrots and green beans. I finally realized we never bought any weedkiller or pesticides, which meant we basically have an organic garden. Even if you live in an apartment you can grow herbs in a pot, have a patio garden or even consider renting space from a local gardener. Renting space is still cheaper than buying organic fruits and veggies from the leading natural foods market. You can go online to browse garden space for rent by city. 14

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3. Coupons and sales, baby! Watch, wait then POUNCE on those items your family loves when they go on sale or when you have a sweet coupon. Head to My Organic Coupons. You’ll find a list of companies you can write to, and ask for coupons for their specific products. Combine coupons with sales for some extreme couponing and you’ll be dancing in the aisles!

4. Seasonal Items. Why pay $5/carton for organic strawberries when they can get as low as $1.50/carton in the good old summertime? It’s easy to find out which fruits and vegetables are in season on Field to Plate’s site.

5. Stock Up. When you find a good deal, stock up! It’s easy

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Canning is easier than it sounds.”

to freeze certain items while you make jellies, jams, etc. with the rest. Can your own spaghetti sauce, carrots, beets, green beans and more from what you grow yourself (sometimes you have way more than you can eat coming in all at once), get a good deal at the farmer’s market or find on sale at the natural foods market. Canning is easier than it sounds, and you can find a used pressure cooker or borrow one for a weekend. Simply Canning has a wonderful site with many great resources, then hit YouTube for how-to videos.

6. Buy in bulk. Because you’re not paying for packaging and name brands, some organic basics like cereal, grains and beans are much cheaper when dispensed from a bulk container.

7. Skip the “junk.” Organic graham crackers and fruit snacks cost a fortune. Why not try some carrots and hummus or make your own yummy granola bars to save a bunch of green?

8. Bake Your Own. We all need a good carb fix now and then. Rather than pay crazy baked-good prices, find a used bread machine for a steal and make your own. It’s so easy these days to get the dough ready, pop it in the machine and just wait while your house fills up with the intoxicating aroma of baking bread. AllRecipes.com has tons of wonderful bread machine recipes that will impress your friends and family. Likewise, bake your own organic treats (think muffins and granola bars) using organic flour, cocoa, oatmeal, etc. that you find for cheap using my tips above!  SASSY | OCTOBER 2016

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Lazy Sunday 11 Things to do on a

By: Rasonda Clark

n busy lives full of conference calls, grocery shopping and bills there is nothing to be relished more than a lazy Sunday. Our weekends are our much-needed getaway from hectic weekday lives. Often times, between the kids activates and other obligations, the weekends are no longer a reprieve. While being busy is a good thing, being too busy can take its toll. A lazy weekend can help manage your life and keep you mentally balanced. So if you do find yourself with a no commitment Sunday, be sure to savor it and give these lazy day ideas a shot.

Breakfast in bed

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While it’s not a good idea to get in the habit on eating in bed, it can’t hurt once in a while. Have someone pamper you in bed with the old standby of bacon and eggs, or go healthy with fresh fruit and egg whites.

Blogs are today’s version of the newspaper for busy DIY moms. Break into those old missed posts like it’s that thick Sunday Tribune. Brew a good cup of coffee and snuggle on the couch with your laptop and favorite chenille blanket and get lost in the writing.

Use this little bit of free time for some retail therapy. Research some good sales and hit up your favorite stores online. Get some needed shopping done all from the comfort of your home. Christmas will be here before you know it so use this time to plan ahead.

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Pamper yourself Take a long bath, try a Pinterest DIY face scrub, give yourself a pedicure or do them all. Watch that tutorial on contouring that you have had bookmarked for forever. Whatever you do, just take some time for yourself, relax and have fun.

Binge on television Start watching those shows you have had saved on your DVR for months or dive head first into four seasons of Orange is the New Black. Check out “The Walking Dead,” “Freak and Geeks,” or “Breaking Bad,” which were the top three shows on Netflix ranked by Uproxx.

Cook a delicious meal and try a new recipe Bust out that hand me down cookbook full of dog-eared recipes and make an amazing meal. Be sure to do it leisurely with music playing while sipping on a glass of wine. Even more importantly, properly enjoy the meal after all that hard work.

Get the blood flowing with light exercise You don’t have to stay on your couch all day for a lazy Sunday. Don’t hesitate to get outside and do some gentle exercise. Go for a brief 30-minute walk or spend some time on your yoga mat next to some beautiful scenery. You will be amazed at how good a little work will make you feel.

Organize your closet Simplify your closet and potentially change your life… or at least your room anyway. Get rid of things that haven’t been worn in two years and then organize what’s left. Arrange articles of clothing according to what you wear and organize accessories in baskets or bins. Wardrobe consultant, Kathy Friend has lots of organizing tips and tricks, but she strongly recommends using all the space in your closet “from the top of ceiling, into the corners of the closet.” When you’re satisfied, head to the Goodwill to get rid of the closet clutter. While you are out, treat yourself to a delicious calorie filled coffee.

Brunch

Prepare for the upcoming week

If you dare venture off of your couch on your lazy Sunday, spoil yourself with a fabulous brunch. Order the special coffee and go for broke and get a mimosa too. Check out Evil Czech Brewery for their Sunday hangover brunch, or go to Uptown Kitchen in Granger for a handcrafted bloody mary.

Take this time to prepare for your busy week. Unorganized time can cause stress. Get rid of that anxiety by organizing your date book or appointments in your phone. Plan your meals for the week and get your grocery list ready. Being prepared sets the tone for a great week and it will make you feel more relaxed.

Get immersed in a good book If you don’t have a good book in your home library, venture out to the local St. Joseph County Public Library or bookstore. Most libraries are closed on Sundays so be prepared and check out some attention grabbing books before Sunday rolls around.  SASSY | OCTOBER 2016

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Creating Your

By: Rasonda Clark

Dream Bedroom The world can be rough. Days full of deadlines, chaotic traffic, screaming kids and emotional co-workers can leave us drained. Coming home at the end of the day should be a reprieve from all the craziness in our little worlds. If our homes are our comfort zones, then our bedrooms are our sanctuaries. Unfortunately, if you have an unorganized bedroom or have fallen out of love with the décor, your room may not be the retreat it was meant to be. An organized and fresh bedroom can help you to feel relaxed and sleep better. If you are ready to create the sanctuary that you finally deserve, or are just craving a change, follow these tips on how to pull together the ultimate dream bedroom space.

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Gather Inspiration One of the worst ways to begin your process would be to dive in headfirst without being inspired. Research is important in everything from work projects to interior design. This can include the obvious, flipping through magazines and pouring through Pinterest, but you can also get a little creative. Physically go to your favorite stores and look at their displays. Something as simple as one luxurious pillow can be the whole inspiration for your new room. Make notes about things that seem to speak to you over and over again. You may love the bohemian style, but if you constantly find yourself drawn to crisp spa like rooms then that is something to consider.

to dark is open to play with. If you’re working with a small room that has no natural light, the lighter the color the better, Canarecci explains. If you have a small room but really want dark colors look into a potential accent wall or “add darker items in for added contrast and interest,” recommends Canarecci. If you want romantic or glamorous go for a darker color, but if your room is small find a lighter variation. Since your bedroom should be a tranquil place for rest, avoid bright and high-energy colors.

Incorporate what you have Make a list of what every bedroom needs and what you want in a room. Then take stock of what you already have. Using items already in your arsenal not only saves money, it also ensures that your new room will reflect you. This is a good time to think about limitations. Be realistic and really consider factors that can take away from your goals. Timing, budget and space are all things that turn your new room into an epic fail if not thoroughly considered before hand.

Choose a color Refer back to your inspiration here and review the colors that you are repeatedly drawn to. Obviously what you like is a big factor when deciding on bedroom color. However, there is more to it than that according to Carley Canarecci, Interior Designer and Design Consultant for Ethan Allen of Mishawaka. “When it comes to choosing paint colors the size of the room matters. If you’re working with a larger bedroom that boasts lots of natural light, any color option from light

Bed Your bed is literally the focal point of your bedroom, it should be a showpiece, but also comfortable. Whatever you choose for your headboard and frame just make sure it is in line with the rest of the room's style. If you want the perfect oasis invest in a good but affordable mattress. While comfort is the number one goal, styling is important as well. If needed, use a bed skirt and remember that not all great sheets have a high thread count or have to be super expensive. Find out what works for you and have fun with your bedding. Use lots of layers to create that perfect Pottery Barn style. Let your personality show in your sheets and fun details like pillows. Don’t hesitate to go overboard with your pillows, you can never have too many.

Lighting Aside from the bed, lighting is one of the more important elements of a bedroom. Once again you’ll have to work

with your theme here. If your room is full on glamour look into some crystal chandeliers. If you are thinking modern minimalist go for wall lamps installed near your headboard. Whatever style you choose Carly recommends mixing it up. “The challenge is making lighting both attractive and functional. Have chandelier and lamp lighting. That way when you want to change the feel of the room you can do it easily by turning on or off certain fixtures. Task lighting is the specific goal here. If you have areas you want to use a computer or read in, lamps are golden. If you have an area with a table, lighting from the ceiling is prime real estate because you don’t want to take up room on the task area and it adds a focal point to the space.” Whatever light fixtures you choose, make sure you use soft light bulbs to create a cozy and relaxing atmosphere.

Details Fine details are important in interior design, especially when it comes to your room. If you have hardwood floors find a luxurious rug to step onto in the morning. Use fresh flowers and greenery. Hang art or photos that truly reflect you. Find window treatments that reflect your room, yet make it feel open.

Forget the fads... or not A lot of designers recommend staying classic with bedroom décor and avoiding trends. However, Canarecci says it is all about personal preference. “In the design world, everything is a passing trend. Every trend eventually comes back around. The key here is whether or not you want to be keeping up with the trends. If you always want to keep up with the biggest trend, then it is worth the time and money. If you only want it for the trend and don’t truly love that look then it wouldn’t be worth it.”  SASSY | OCTOBER 2016

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How to Make

Better Decisions By: Meagan Church

Ever wonder why it is harder to resist that carton of Phish Food ice cream at night than it is in the morning? You can blame decision fatigue for that one. Decision fatigue is the idea that people make worse decisions after having to make a lot of them. In other words, willpower is a muscle that can become fatigued by having to make too many choices. "The Victorians talked about this vague idea of willpower being some form of mental energy," said John Tierney, co-author of Willpower, during an interview on NPR. "In the last 15 years we've discovered that it really is a form of energy in the brain. It's like a muscle that can be strengthened with use, but it also gets fatigued with use."

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Look at it this way; how many times have you found yourself endlessly scrolling through Netflix, trying to find something to watch? When you’re hooked on a show, there’s no choice to make. You click. You watch. You watch some more. But, when it’s time to choose something new, you can spend more time scrolling and deciding than actually watching. Why? Decision fatigue. Tierney went on to say that you only have a finite amount of willpower to use throughout the day. When you have spent your day making a host of other choices, by the end of the day, your brain energy is exhausted. At that point, making a choice like what to watch or whether you should pass up the ice cream becomes more difficult.

So how can you avoid decision fatigue and make better choices (beyond just Netflix)? Try these tips: Decide the night before.

Decisions that we make each and every day can be draining. Instead of starting your day by depleting your willpower, make some decisions ahead of time. Before you go to bed, choose what you will wear to work, what you will eat for breakfast, when you will workout and what tasks you will prioritize the next day. Don’t wait until the morning to see how you will feel. Get these decisions made, so when you wake, you are ready to hit the ground running instead of fatiguing your reserves. Make big decisions early in the day.

If willpower can be drained throughout the day, then expend your best energy on the high-priority decisions. That means starting your day with what is most important. Have a big work project or an important email to write? Don’t put it off until the afternoon. Dig in first thing in the morning when your mind is freshest and most prepared to make good choices. Simplify your options.

If willpower is finite and you don’t want to use it all on small decisions, then simplify. Take a look at Steve Jobs. The man wore the same outfit pretty much every day. He didn’t do it because he was fashion inept. He did it because once that choice was made, it freed him up to use his decision making in other areas. Perhaps wearing one outfit for the rest of your life doesn’t sound worth the payoff to you. Find other ways to simplify your choices. Maybe you eat the same breakfast each morning or schedule your workouts for the same time each day. Perhaps you decide to not login to social media until after you’ve cleaned out your inbox. Just like you don’t decide whether or not to wear a seat belt every time you get into the car, automate as many decisions as you can to save your willpower for other decisions. Rest.

The solution for any kind of fatigue is to get rest, so follow that same advice and get a good night’s sleep. In the end, making good decisions comes down to prioritizing and simplifying. As for the willpower to resist that carton of ice cream, a good night’s sleep may be the key.  Source: http://www.npr.org/2011/09/18/140516974/ resistance-training-for-your-willpower-muscles

World Stroke Day Oct. 29 WORLD STROKE DAY, established by the World Stroke Organization, is observed to underscore the serious nature and high rates of stroke, raise awareness of the prevention and treatment of the condition, and ensure better care and support for survivors.

Learn more about stroke and your risk at

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THANKSGIVING DAY FEAST

Meet Santa and his elves in the festive Morris Inn. You’ll enjoy a delicious breakfast buffet and entertainment for the whole family. Don’t forget your camera!

Join us for our traditional buffet in the Morris Inn private dining space. We will be serving a bountiful array of salads, soups, entrees, side dishes and desserts.

December 3rd, 10th and 17th in the Morris Inn Private Dining Space 9:00 am – 11:00 am

Thursday, November 24 // 11:00 am – 3:00 pm $39.95 Adults // $10.95 Children 5-12 years // 4 and under free

$24.95 Adults // $10.95 Children 3-12 years // 2 and under free

(Prices do not include tax and administrative fee.)

Make your reservation by calling: 800.280.7256

CHRISTMAS DAY BUFFET

AFTERNOON TEA IN SORIN’S

Celebrate the season at Morris Inn. Enjoy food and merriment as we roll out an expansive buffet of appetizers, entrees, side dishes and sweet treats.

Featuring Rishi Tea

November 26th through April 15th

Sunday, December 25th in the Morris Inn Private Dining Space 11:00 am – 3:00 pm

Three Seatings Daily – 2:30, 2:45, 3:00 pm

$39.95 Adults // $10.95 Children 5-12 years // 4 and under free

Every Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday

(Prices do not include tax and administrative fee.)

Reservations strongly recommended by calling 574.631.2020

Make your reservation by calling: 800.280.7256

MORRIS INN GIFT CARDS Morris Inn gift cards can be used for dining at Sorin’s, Rohr’s, Wind Family Fireside Terrace and for lodging. Purchase a $100 gift card and receive a complimentary $25 bonus card.

HOLIDAY CHOIRS Select weekdays in December. Enjoy your favorite carols as local choirs perform in the lobby.

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Martha’s Vineyard:

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book review

Isle of Dreams By Susan Branch

Reviewed By: Anne Britton, Para Reference Librarian, Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Public Library, Bittersweet Branch

Photo Courtesy: Amazon.com

his is a beautifully illustrated memoir by Susan Branch that takes place in 1982. Susan ran away from her home and life in California at the age of 34 to have a three month period of recovery from a broken heart. “I’d kept trying to pretend I was okay when I wasn’t – I was relieved to be away from it. It I was going to be miserable I wanted to be miserable in private.” What was supposed to be only three months became a life-changing move to the Island of Martha’s Vineyard in New England where she ultimately begins a new life. Follow Susan on her journey as she buys a car and then “accidentally” buys a house but you quickly realize that you are following her on a journey to find herself and her independence as she makes her way through the grieving process of lost love. What follows is a new release on her life: to believe and trust in her own decisions as she creates a new life alone without friends or family. This memoir is told from the heart and will bring both tears and joy as you feel like you a good friend is telling you her life story. Written in handwritten type and based on excerpts from her diary, Branch adds charm to the memoir with vivid watercolors and portraits that provide warmth and depth to her descriptive language. Martha’s Vineyard: Isles of Dreams is book two of a three-book trilogy that can be read in any order. You can find this book at any of our MishawakaPenn-Harris Public Library locations. 

Editor Picks

Two By Two By: Nicholas Sparks

Small Great Things By: Jodi Picoult

The Magnolia Story

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Making Nice With the Neighbors: It’s All About Communication “The Golden Rule (treat others as you wish to be treated) goes a long way in building a community among neighbors.”

t’s been said that neighbors are like roommates you see less frequently. But few of us buy homes based on whether we’ll enjoy the regular company of our next door neighbors. In fact, research indicates fewer than half of us know our close neighbors by name. And State Farm’s “State of American Neighbors” survey found that while a whopping 83 percent of us say we’d be willing to help a neighbor in need, 60 percent have complaints about our current neighbors. Certainly there are myriad ways a neighbor can drive us nuts. A list of top nuisances includes outof-control kids and pets, noise and poor property upkeep. The way we handle a problem with a neighbor affects not only our relationship with that neighbor, but also our very satisfaction with the neighborhood. In addition, neighborhoods tend to be safer when residents talk to and look out for one another. Pat Appelgren has lived in the same house for 19 years, and has raised two children there. Though her urban neighborhood has seen some turnover, Appelgren says she’s never had a serious problem with a neighbor. How does she achieve such harmony? Appelgren believes “it’s important to think about another’s perspective.” And the Golden Rule (treat others as you wish to be treated) goes a long way in building a community among neighbors.

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Make contact. Introduce yourself and your family to your neighbors next door, across the street and over the back fence. It’s much easier to address future problems when you know your neighbors’ names and have had some friendly exchanges. And if you’re new to the neighborhood, don’t wait for the welcome wagon. Take introductions into your own hands—and shake some hands!

Buying a New Home?

Do Your Neighborhood Research! Does your potential neighborhood match your personality? Remember, a piece of real estate that looks like a “good deal” can quickly turn into a very bad deal if you hate your neighborhood. Buy with an eye toward being comfortable in your home for several decades, and you’ll avoid many headaches. Visit on different days and at different times. Take note of: Physical characteristics. What is the general state of upkeep of houses, lawns and outbuildings? Are the houses uniform in color with manicured lawns? Or do people let their personalities flourish with vibrant paint and quirky garden art?

Be a good neighbor. Appelgren says, “You can do small things for your neighbors, keep up the niceties. When I rake my leaves or pull dandelions from my yard I’ll do it along my neighbor’s strip too.” She says it’s also important to respect what’s important to a neighbor. An elderly gentleman on her street kept a meticulously manicured lawn, and Appelgren explains, “You could see how important his lawn was to him. So I never let my kids run on his lawn. It wasn’t that he was mean or ever yelled at them. You could just tell that he didn’t need to have kids running on his lawn.”

Address an area of conflict directly. Professional mediator Stuart Watson advises, “Do not leave an anonymous note or talk to other neighbors about your frustration—this often fuels the conflict.” Too many people neglect a direct discussion with a neighbor, and instead go straight to law enforcement. This may or may not resolve the current problem, but it definitely lessens your chances of ever having a positive relationship with that neighbor.

Traffic density and speed. How many cars are on the road on a weekday? A weekend? How fast are people driving? Are people riding bikes? Children and pets. Are there kids similar in age to your kids? Are there sidewalks? Are pets in abundance? Do they seem well-cared for? Noise level. Do people pump up their music? Is there ambient freeway noise? Do residents start lawn care activities at 7 A.M.? Or is everything Monday-church quiet? Speak to residents. What do they love about the neighborhood? What annoys them?

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life Don’t go in anger. You’re leaving for work and see that your neighbor has left his garbage bin out overnight again, allowing animals to strew refuse all over the street. Avoid the impulse to bang on his door at 7 A.M., screaming about code violations. Wait until you can talk about it calmly at a time when he’s likely available.

Don’t assume. Watson says, “Do not assume they know it is bothering you – approach them with curiosity.” Though your four-year-old cowers every time your neighbor’s St. Bernard lopes into your yard, your neighbor may see the dog as nothing more than a big affectionate fur ball. Gently remind her of your child’s pint-size perspective (“There’s a huge scary beast running at me!”), while still acknowledging the dog’s friendly nature.

10 Ways to Be a Good Neighbor

“There’s a huge scary beast running at me!”

1. Pull your neighbor’s weeds, or shovel her walk. 2. Show interest in your neighbor’s family, pets and landscaping. 3. Turn off the TV, and sit on your front stoop. 4. Put up a swing in the front yard. 5. Bring a loaf of banana bread to the notoriously “difficult” neighbor. 6. Walk with your head up and greet people. 7. Refrain from gossip. 8. Fix it, even if you didn’t break it. 9. Pick up your newspaper and coffee at the corner shop. 10. Volunteer at the neighborhood school, library or community center.

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Use “I” statements. Talk about how the problem affects you, rather than telling the neighbor what she “needs to do.” When you speak to the neighbor who regularly revs the mower at 7 A.M. on Sundays, explain that you’re often up with your new baby in the middle of the night, and getting another hour of sleep in the morning is pure heaven. (It doesn’t hurt to start this conversation looking a little disheveled and bleary-eyed.)

Be a part of the solution. When you’re willing to meet your neighbor halfway, it’s likely you’ll get better results. Offer to have your fouryear-old get better acquainted with the friendly St. Bernard while it’s on a leash. If your trash-strewing neighbor’s work hours make it difficult for him to curb his bin in the morning, offer to do it for him.

Seek mediation. If you are unable to resolve a problem yourself, it’s worth enlisting a professional mediation service before going to law enforcement. Resolutions Northwest states that 80 percent of people who are asked to engage in mediation agree to try it, and that 94 percent of those who engage in mediation are happy with the outcome. In addition, mediation services are often offered free or at low-cost. See the National Association for Community Mediation website (www.nafcm.org) for a state-by-state listing of providers.

5 Ways to Get Neighbors Together 1. Have a block party. 2. Create a babysitting exchange. 3. Develop an email group to share events, lost/found, services and freebies. Try nextdoor.com or frontdoorforum.com to get started. 4. Plant a community garden. 5. Have a potluck that encourages neighbors to sample many cuisines.

Use law enforcement only as a last resort. Watson acknowledges that the police should be called “when there are threats to harm people or property…[and a] person’s safety is jeapordized.” Be sure to document any ongoing threats or dangerous illegal activity, and get other neighbors to band with you when possible.  SASSY | OCTOBER 2016

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How to Get on the

Promotion Track By: Allison Boelcke Smith

If you are enjoying and excelling at your job, but are starting to feel stuck at your current level of responsibility, it’s time to start laying the groundwork for a promotion. For the most part, promotions aren’t handed out like rewards for high performance, but are more of a matter of timing and fit. Landing a promotion is a long-term strategic process that requires demonstrating your value and preparedness for a higher level position. Get started on the promotion track by following these steps:

1. Let It Be Known Never assume that your boss knows you want to move up. Some people are content in their roles and don't want additional responsibility or their personal lives don't allow for it. Communicate your long-term goals with your boss. They can offer you feedback to help you hone the skills needed for a higher level role or even possibly serve as a mentor to you. At the very least, when a promotion opens up, they know you would be interested and to consider you. 2. Make People’s Lives Easier Companies want to move up the employees who are most likely to help with its growth and achieving organizational goals. Show that you have the potential to play an integral part at a high level in the company. Develop solutions to issues that could be holding the company back from maximum productivity or profit, and you'll get on the radar of influential people. 3. Take Ownership of Work

“Develop solutions to issues that could be holding the company back.”

To be seen as someone who goes above and beyond and is deserving of a step up, it's necessary to shift your mindset in regards to your work away from "just following orders" and really take a vested interest in the outcome and feel accountable. When you take ownership of your work, such as by taking initiative to volunteer for tasks or conducting additional research, you will be more engaged and more likely to make a positive impression with leadership.

4. Tighten Up Your Professionalism As strange as it may seem, when you want to be considered for a promotion, it's necessary to revisit the behavior you exhibited when you were just starting with the company. Think back to when you were trying to make a great first impression and contrast it to your actions as you became more comfortable. If there's a discrepancy, such as becoming more lax with punctuality or deadlines, it's time to become more strict with your professional reputation. 5. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone Finding your niche and sticking to it may seem like a way to shine, but there's a downside to being too good at a few specialized tasks: you could be seen as so indispensable in that area that your boss won't be able to envision you in a different role. So take a chance and step out of your comfort zone to try to tackle new projects and learn new skills. So go ahead and volunteer to lead a project or deliver a presentation - even if you're not sure you'll be great at first. You'll expand your qualifications and show that you aren't afraid to take necessary risks to grow professionally. 6. Set Out to Overdeliver Make it clear that you have the talent and drive to be successful in a higher role by committing to delivering more than asked for or expected of you. When you're given an assignment, brainstorm ways to improve upon the original request or be ready to offer up helpful suggestions. Approach your work in an upbeat manner and take pride in being helpful. A positive attitude is often the little extra you can offer that others can't.

“It's time to become more strict with your professional reputation.”

Staying under the radar and doing satisfactory work isn’t enough to fast track your career. But never assume a promotion is out of your hands until you try being proactive in making your professional goals clear and demonstrating that you have what it takes. Your higher ups will have you top of mind when it comes time to start deciding who deserves a bump in responsibilities and pay. If you put in the time and effort, and no opportunities for advancement are presented, then it may be time to move on to a new company with a culture that aligns with your professional development.  SASSY | OCTOBER 2016

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Skip The Costume This

Halloween By: Rita Miller

“The business of looking for a costume has begun.”

alloween is just around the corner: parties are being planned, pumpkins are purchased. The business of looking for a costume has begun. No matter what age you are, picking out the perfect costume can be a challenge. The stores are full of “Sexy Catgirl,” “Snazzy Skeleton” and “Cruel Diva” costumes. They all seem ill fitting and expensive for such little substance! Glamour magazine recently had a column by Bobbi Brown, the makeup guru, regarding being yourself. Anyone who has been to a Bobbi Brown counter knows that her colors are natural colors, emphasizing the beauty of all skin types and shades. She wears her dark hair straight, not overly highlighted. Her eyebrows are normal looking. Her blush colors are subtle. The entire effect is striking, but not fake. Surprisingly, the article was about her need to fit in, the need to look just like everyone else in her school. Her epiphany came when “Love Story” was released with a very beautiful, but natural looking, Ali McGraw. Bobbi realized that being yourself was the very best thing you could ever be. She went on to develop her successful business based on that premise. Reading that article led me to rethink the traditional Halloween thought process. It’s fun to don a costume and become someone else for a night. It’s exciting to see a roomful of people dressed as movie stars, while indulging in tasty treats. But how often does the pretending continue way past October 31st? Every day we present ourselves to the world, whether at work, shopping or even at home. We have our makeup on and our clothes are carefully chosen. Have we ever crossed the line to pretend to be someone else? Do you remember the scene in “Legally Blond” when Reese Witherspoon is invited to a Halloween party and she shows up as a Playboy Bunny? Problem was, it wasn’t a costume party. Her friends had told her to dress up, knowing that she would be ridiculed. Fortunately, Reese realized that she could stop pretending to fit in and she continued on to graduate from Harvard Law School.

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So this Halloween, have fun, wear a neat costume and enjoy yourself, but remember that your true self is your best self! 

Scene Be Scene

Please send us some of your favorite photos from your organization’s or charity’s best events and fundraisers. They just may make the next issue of SASSY Magazine! We prefer snapshots of people that are full of life and enjoying the moment, so please send them our way: Jessy@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com.

Photos Provided By: Cory Dennie, Michiana Runners Association

Kelly Cares Foundation: The Game Day Chase

rainy morning couldn’t stop the more than 800 runners who converged on Eddy Street to participate in the 2016 Game Day Chase. On September 17th, the morning of the Notre Dame vs. Michigan State game, participants gathered bright and early to run for a great cause. Runners came from far and wide for the event. The Game Day Chase was put on for the third year by the Michiana Runners Association in conjunction with the Kelly Cares Foundation. It was an event for the entire community - Notre Dame fans and MSU fans as well runners from all fitness levels came together to participate in a fun and festive game day morning. Cheered on by the Notre Dame Leprechaun and Cheerleaders, participants ran either the 5k or 10k route through surrounding neighborhoods, starting and finishing on Eddy Street under a giant football goalpost. Paqui Kelly, co-founder of the Kelly Cares Foundation, was on hand to run as well as cheer on her fellow participants. Proceeds from the Game Day Chase support the Kelly Cares Foundation, established in 2010 by Paqui and her husband, Brian. Kelly Cares aims to focus on three main pillars that align with the values of the Kelly family: Health, Education, and Community. The Game Day Chase is in part sponsored by Harper Cancer Research Institute and Saint Joseph Health System. The money raised from the event is designated by the Kelly Cares Foundation toward funding research supporting improvements in breast cancer screening by molecular imaging. Kelly Cares looks to continue expanding this amazing event next year. Mark your calendars for the 2017 Game Day Chase – September 9th, the morning of the Notre Dame vs. Georgia game!  SASSY | OCTOBER 2016

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