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Kevin and I both went to Marysville High School. He was a senior when I was a sophomore. We were both on the swim team and hung around with the same group of friends, so we became very close. Kevin would always give me rides home from school and could always make me laugh. I always had a crush on him, but thought he was unattainable. After high school, we both pursued life goals and lost touch. I moved to San Diego to pursue my B.A. while he moved to Eureka for his career.

How did he pop the question? For the first two years of our relationship we lived in Shell Beach, located on the California’s central coast. One day we went on a hike on Highway 1 and had an amazing time. On that hike, we saw a large blue whale. Later that day, Kevin mentioned to me that he thought that the blue whale was my dad saying hi. My father lost his battle with cancer when I was 13 years old and since then, I have always felt him particularly present when I am around nature. A few months later, Kevin kept saying how he wanted to go on another hike. As we were getting ready to leave for the hike, I grabbed our hiking backpack and went to put my camera in the slot holder. I felt something in there, but my intuition told me not to open it. I ended up just throwing the camera in the main compartment. We began our hike and as we came across a clearing, a lone deer came into sight. It wasn’t scared of us at all and actually stayed within sight for the rest of our hike. As we got to the cliff, I took the camera out and began taking pictures of the beautiful view and of the deer. When I turned back around, Kevin was on his knee holding a jewelry box. My first thought was that he was trying to pop his hip. Then I realized what he was doing and I went into shock. He then said, “I love you with all my heart and want to spend the rest of my life with you. Will you marry me?” I could barely say yes because I was so excited and overcome with emotion, but I finally managed to accept. Later on that day, as we were replaying all of the events, we both agreed that the deer on our hike that had stayed with us the whole time was definitely my dad.

12 Local I Doâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s 34 From the Kitchen of...Sharman Kobayashi

4 The Root of the Problem 6 Coping With Loss

8 Being the Parents Teachers Love to Communicate With 10 Talking to Teens about College and Careers

2 From ME & Mine 22 Share with ME 24 ME and My Home

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Fall has arrived….and it will be Halloween and Christmas before we know it!! The changing seasons remind us of how quickly time passes and things change. It’s amazing how much little things can change our lives. It might be the changing colors of the leaves and comforts of the season (pg. 34), a lifealtering experience (pg. 6), or simply doing something for yourself (pg. 4). In this issue, we have shared many

fascinating features that will move you, inspire & entertain you (pg. 24), and remind you of what it is to be human. This season, along with all the hustle, people to host and fabulous feasts to prepare, we hope you will take time to enjoy yourselves. Allow yourself to see change, and give thanks! It’s good for your soul!!

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Laser Hair Removal (LHR) has become a worldwide phenomenon. It is the most widely-used and talked about hair reduction procedure. The industry has exploded and continues to grow as the leading cosmetic procedure today. Some modalities are not technically lasers, but we have generically labeled them LHR because they deliver similarly beautiful results. Current LHR methods are safe and virtually side-effect free, typically causing less discomfort than waxing— without the mess. In the hands of a skilled clinician, LHR is the optimal method of choice for unwanted hair. Dollar for dollar, it is the superior method to rid yourself of unwanted hair.

As a Registered Nurse and licensed Electrologist working in the Laser Hair removal industry since its inception 14 years ago, I have seen the industry rapidly expand. Now there are dozens of lasers geared for LHR. It can be confusing finding which is best for you. Lasers can safely treat all skin types and types of hair, but this doesn’t mean that every salon you go into has this capability. Ask questions until you feel comfortable with your clinician. To eliminate hair, the laser emits pulses of energy that pass through the skin to the hair follicle. This energy is absorbed into the hair follicle to destroy it so it can never grow there again. This is not too different from old fashioned electrolysis, which delivered an electrical current to the root of the hair, separating it from the blood source. However, lasers do it on a much grander scale. Lasers can treat areas the size of a quarter with one pulse. Different lasers have different wavelengths of light, making their target either the blood source that feeds the hair or the darkest pigmented part of the hair (the root area). LHR can be applied to ALL areas of the body. Every nook, cranny and deep valley can be treated . Anything that pokes out from these areas is

fair game to the hunter. Don’t be shy informing your Laser specialist which areas you’re concerned about. Male bikinis are just as popular as females’! There is minimal discomfort, but it’s worth the buttery smooth end results. Hair removal should always be looked

at as a long-term investment, especially when advanced technology is involved. Waxing and shaving are less expensive initially, but what you pay each month will continue to add up over time, and the annoyance of the constant repetition of those methods can’t even be put into numbers. However, laser treatments offer permanent hair reduction, meaning less need (and sometimes none at all) for additional maintenance. So, try to compare laser hair removal costs in terms of years and decades instead of weeks or months. For hairs on the lips and cheeks, facial laser hair removal costs are even competitive enough to trump simple at-home procedures like bleaching or tweezing. There are many seemingly competitive pricing offers being advertised, but buyers beware! Older lasers have flooded the market and may be the cause of pricing fluctuation in a local area. Older, rebuilt machines may not emit adequate energy and could potentially cause extreme harm due to the inability to stay calibrated adequately. It’s like using a computer that’s 13 years old compared to a recent model. Newer models will just perform better! Prices may be less expensive for clinics that have older models, but be careful...you get what

you pay for! Your clinician should have a well -rounded knowledge of lasers beyond the ones that are used solely in their clinic. Generally, prices for Laser Hair Removal costs can be equivalent to two or three years’ worth of waxing. For optimal results, the required amount of treatments will vary based on an individual’s needs. Physicians agree that men need several more treatments for a body part to achieve optimal results, likely due to testosterone levels being higher in males. Some advertisements claim 3-6 treatments are all you need, but in my opinion, 6-8 treatments is a better estimate to achieve long-term hair removal success. Don’t let false advertising fool you. The industry lures you in with “only 3 treatments to see results.” Results will be seen from the first treatment, but that doesn’t

mean you’ll be satisfied with the results after one treatment! Light hairs may receive minor benefits from LHR, but the reduction may not justify the costs. Results are more predictable with darker hair. Many variables may affect an individual’s optimal results including hormonal imbalances, ethnicity, and following post-care directions. Most clients want to change the post-care directions to fit their lifestyle instead of following the directions and eliminating unpleasant shaving. Scheduling a follow-up treatment within 4-6 weeks is necessary for great results, as regrowth hair cycles occur every 6-12 weeks. Please allow your clinician to suggest a plan of care that is best for you, then follow it for your best results to be achieved. A compliant client is a satisfied Laser Hair Removal client.

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One’s pattern of grief is as unique as their pattern of love. Grief is not a finite process that ends after we pass through a series of predictable stages. Nobody can tell you how to mourn or when the massive swells of sadness will stop flowing through your broken heart. Bereavement must be embraced and acknowledged, seeing each moment of sorrow as a time to reconnect with and remember the loved one we’ve lost. Here, two amazing women share their stories of loss and their journey to a“new normal.”

Tonie Bautista-Pauly lost her husband, Geoff, to brain cancer in 1998. Geoff was just 44 years old, and left behind a 29 year old wife and two small children. Now, 13 years later, Tonie shares her words of loss and healing with us…

They say that time heals all wounds. Apparently, “they” have never suffered a loss unexpectedly or watched a life be cut short. Until you have looked death, cancer, or any other life-changing issue in the face, you cannot understand the depth of its destruction. Time does lessen the pain, but the pain always remains. It is hidden in the sunsets not shared and the milestones missed. Normal stopped the day of Geoff ’s diagnosis. Nothing really seemed important after this; not the nice home, the fancy cars, or the trips to exotic places. All I could focus on was not allowing his 30 day sentence to come true. If I could get one more day, one more smile, one more opportunity for my kids to know their dad, then it was a milestone met with “the happy dance.” To me it felt like my grief would never get better, and that sleeping was the only thing that brought me comfort. I still take long naps and sometimes dream of him. As the years pass, my children and I age, but he will forever be 44. Pictures and dreams keep him youthful and handsome. My children handled the loss of their father in a different way. I remember one day when my son Harrison was about 3 1/2 or 4. He came in so serious (as he still is) and said, “Mama, can we get some tickets for the airplane?” I asked why, and he said, “So we can go to Heaven and see Daddy!” His innocent little face with those big blue eyes will forever be a memory I cherish ... and yes, if Heaven wasn’t so far away, I would pack up the kids and go for the day! I admit, I could not identify with what my kids were going

through, but I did know that the loss they suffered could not be filled without acknowledging it. I kept the lines open and allowed them to have their experience. Trust me, I don’t pretend to know the pain they feel. I do know that they were required to deal with the reality that life was unfair, but has to be faced. I take responsibility of the fact that yes, there were times when roles were reversed and my kids, especially my daughter Hara, had to step in and be little adults. Do I regret that? Yes, they deserved to be kids, but there were days that I just couldn’t get it together. Do I make excuses? No, it is what it is. I was living this nightmare, and so were they. One of the biggest fears I have is that we will forget. Harrison was so young that he can’t remember much about his dad, and that is a huge hole I cannot fill. The fact that he doesn’t remember causes major frustration and anger for him. I can’t make him remember, but I can certainly show him videos and pictures of his dad. I also don’t want to forget, so I place my memories of Geoff deep inside and when it is still and I am alone, I can remember what was and what should have been. My tears are carefully released; I have allowed them to flow from time to time. Immediately after losing Geoff, I held the tears in for many reasons. My kids needed me to keep it together, and I was honestly afraid that I would never stop crying. The pain is still sharp, but now it comes in waves. A song can trigger a flood of emotion. The anniversary of the passing can catapult me into sleeping all day, where Geoff ’s birthday makes me want to have cake and release balloons. I try to do what makes me happy! I say live your life and don’t worry about those who judge. Grieving comes in many forms, and everyone has the right to do it the way that works for them. Some wallow, some celebrate. Respect the way one grieves, because there is no time frame on feelings of grief and loss. Awkward silence will sometimes follow a loss, but know that sometimes in that silence is great emotion. Often, words cannot express emotions or heartfelt condolences. A silent hug, a squeeze of the hand to let someone know they are not alone can make a world of difference. Life doesn’t always turn out the way we plan, so we need to be open to change at all times. Danny Gokey sings, “I will laugh, I will cry, shake my fist at the sky, but I will not say goodbye!” Goodbye seems so permanent, but believing you will see your loved one again someday makes each day more bearable.

In January 2009, my family was faced with an unbelievable situation that shook our lives to the core. My son, Lorenzo Jr., was shot and killed while riding in a car with a friend. The sudden and shocking murder of my son left my life in shambles. I had a choice to make: lie down and die or fight. I chose to fight and give my son a voice. The day of my son’s death was amazing and certainly gave his family some comfort. The morning of his death he attended church, where he was surrounded by many of his friends and family. Knowing that we all got to see him, talk to him, and tell him we loved him before he was taken from us is a gift that many families do not get in a situation like this. Planning your child’s funeral service is something a parent should never have to be faced with. It is the most unnatural thing a parent can go through. It was friends and faith that gave us the power of hope and helped us through this process. It was so amazing how many of our friends, family, and even strangers came out to be with us and provide the very care and support we needed during this time. We found comfort in groups such as Compassionate Friends and Trauma Interven-

tion Program (TIP), as well as local bishops and ministers who came to pray over us and help us through our grief. Although our community is small, we are so blessed to have these local groups who are so willing to help during tough times. The feeling of being alone and believing no one understands unless they have been in your shoes has been the hardest to overcome. When I feel that way, I always think about my children and grandchildren and remember how blessed I am. I see all my blessings every morning and give thanks to the Lord for everything I still have. My turning point was the realization that I didn’t walk alone—that there are so many families out there who are faced with the same situation of losing a child, and that they truly don’t know what is available to them. There are many volunteers in our community who want to help. What I found I so needed was that one word of encouragement that can lift someone to a whole new level. Words have incredible power, and can bring hope and healing to someone today! Be a healer by the power of your words. Please don’t walk away or avoid speaking to those who grieve. It really hurts. We know that sometimes it’s hard to know what to say, but just a hug or a touch or speaking an encouraging word helps heal.

When I think of my beautiful son I remember his smile, his laugh, his kindness, and what a difference he made in everyone’s life. I remember all the wonderful things he did and how he loved his family. One of the greatest gifts he gave me was a granddaughter who I cherish with all my heart. His life was only just beginning, but I am so grateful for the 25 years I had with him. The love between a mother and a child is forever. It is a bond of the strongest kind, which can withstand anything. It is a love of the present with memories of the past and dreams of the future. I will today, tomorrow, and forever honor my son by helping give a voice to other families who are seeking justice for their lost loved ones. The ability to give a loved one a voice beyond the grave can be a great source of comfort, not only during the criminal justice process, but on a personal level as well. I think my personal experience brings a unique perspective to helping families. My wish is to help other families in similar situations. I was honored to be asked to be a guest speaker at UCI for Marsy’s Law First Training for attorneys and judges. While there are marches to bring attention to crime victims, legislators to hold accountable, and funding to fight for, it is the outside volunteers that make a day-to-day difference in individual families’ lives. My wish is to provide the support and compassion needed to help guide families through the difficult heart-wrenching journey for justice. It is my desire to help others that have to travel a similar road, and doing this has been able to give me purpose on my own journey. - Corrina Aguilar

Being the Parent

Written By Meghan Hamilton Photography by Wow Now Photography

Teachers Love to Communicate With

A relationship built on mutual trust will build and grow throughout the school year.

t is amazing how quickly those lazy summer days go by. You love having your children home and enjoy every minute you spend together. Summer is a time of relaxation; a time when homework, tests and projects all seem like a distant memory. Then the new school year begins approaching and you start seeing the ads on TV for new clothes, new backpacks, and new iPhones…and that summer serenity begins to slip away. You start to think about the upcoming school year, and the anxiety that had so conveniently disappeared last June is back. You remember that last year you had difficulty communicating with your child’s teacher and were not as informed about your child’s progress as you would have liked to be. You are scared that this year may be no different. After all, how DO

you most effectively communicate with your child’s teacher? How do you become a parent that teachers WANT to communicate with? Follow these three steps and you will be well on your way to having a school year filled with AMAZING parent-teacher communication.

Step 1:

Get to know your child’s teacher and let them get to know you. Sometime during the beginning of the school year, take a moment to personally introduce yourself to your child’s teacher. Make it a memorable interaction by taking time to share something interesting about yourself (i.e. you own a business, write a blog, take pictures). Also share something about your child (i.e. siblings, a favorite color, a special interest). Be sure

to ask the teacher a couple questions about themselves as well (i.e. How did you get into teaching? What is your favorite subject to teach? What are you most excited about this schoolyear?). The conversation needs to go both ways so that both parties begin to develop a trust for one another. A relationship built on mutual trust will build and grow throughout the school year. This first interaction should take no more than five minutes and be at a time that is not a disruption to the school day.

Step 2:

Find out what their preferred method of communication is. Most teachers have an e-mail address that they use strictly for school communication and give it out to parents on the first day of school. In this tech-

When your whole life has been one day, you want it to be a very good day. At Fremont-Rideout’s Women & Infants Center in Yuba City, you’ll find everything to make your baby’s first day a good one. nology-driven climate, e-mail is many times the best way to get in touch with your child’s teacher. Take advantage of being able to communicate with your child’s teacher in this manner and send them an e-mail establishing a virtual relationship as well. E-mail gives you an opportunity to describe your child’s abilities in greater detail, thus giving the teacher a more complete picture of your child. If your child’s teacher’s preferred method of communication is the phone, ask how often they feel it would be appropriate for you to call them each month. You need to establish some communication guidelines so that you do not overwhelm the teacher with frivolous e-mails and/or phone calls and, no matter how tempted you may be, do not “friend” your child’s teacher on Facebook. You are trying to establish a friendly and professional relationship with your child’s teacher, and asking them to be your “friend” on Facebook could lead to awkward in-person interactions between you both.

Things like spacious, private bedrooms. As much time as you like with your baby in your room. And the same helpful nurse for mother and child, there to answer all the questions you will have on the first day.

Step 3: Be a supportive parent. Throughout the school year periodically ask your child’s teacher what you can do for them (i.e. Is help needed in the classroom? Is the classroom lacking in supplies? Is there something you can be doing at home to help sharpen some of your child’s skills?). By offering your support, your child’s teacher will see you as someone they can rely on. You will find that they will reach out to you when help is needed and will be more likely to come to you when even minor issues, behavioral or academic, arise with your child in the classroom. Part of being a supportive parent also means that when your child comes to you with concerns, that you ask questions of them instead of automatically placing blame on the teacher. Chances are that because of the relationship you and your child’s teacher have been building throughout the year, any dispute between your child and their teacher can be easily addressed with a couple of e-mails or a friendly phone call. These simple steps can be applied to building a relationship with any teacher at any grade level, creating a united team of adults dedicated to the well-being and educational success of students everywhere. From these relationships will emerge confident, respectful, well-prepared individuals anxiously awaiting the scholastic adventures that lie ahead.

Meghan Hamilton is a Co-Owner/Founder of Fusion Schools (www.fusionkids.com). She is the author of the Fusion Early Learning Curriculum which has been developed and implemented at Fusion Schools over the last 5 years. Meghan lives with her husband, Tom, and her two children, Jack and Emma, in Loma Rica, CA. Photo by Aurora Studio.

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Talking to Teens About College and Careers Written By Miriam Root Photography by Samantha Prather Photography

I’m sure all of our teenage sons or

daughters have, at

one point or another, announced that they are “through with

school!” They’ve been going to school since they were five and they’re sick of it!

chool is hard enough, but thinking about a future career can often be even more stressful for teens. Figuring out what they’re going to do with their life, or what they’re going to be when they grow up, can be overwhelming. They are busy figuring out who they are, where they fit in, and maneuvering through the drama of high school. But as parents, we know that it is important for children to start matching their interests and skills with a suitable vocation that they will enjoy for years to come. By the time high school rolls around, you’ve hopefully been able to observe your child and help them to recognize their strengths. Encourage them to choose a path which will ensure that they have a fulfilled and happy career and life. Here are a few tips to help parents broach the subject of college and the future with their teens. Begin by dropping little hints when the opportunity arises. Whenever you see a chance to talk about a career or higher education, seize the opportunity! This breaks the whole discussion down into manageable pieces so as to not overwhelm your child. Help to open your child’s eyes to the endless possibilities that will be revealed to them by continuing to pursue a degree in higher education. When your teen shows an interest in a certain career or job, do a little research. The Bureau of Labor Statistics’ Occupational Outlook Handbook has a plethora of job listings that includes what level of schooling is generally required for the profession.

It also lists the average salary someone working in that field can expect to earn. It’s a wonderful, free online source! http://www.bls.gov/oco/ It’s also helpful if your teen weighs the pros and cons of their different career interests. Encourage them to narrow their choices down to about five career paths and then let them shadow someone in our community that is doing the same or similar job. Have them ask lots of questions, including what type of schooling or training was required for them to achieve their level of success and what different choices (including schooling), they make if they could. If all else fails, let your teen know these hard facts:

Median Weekly Earnings in 2009 Less than a high school diploma High School Diploma Some College, no degree Associate’s Degree Bachelor’s Degree Master’s Degree Professional/Doctoral Degree Source: Bureau of Labor Statics

$454 $626 $699 $761 $1,025 $1,257 $1,532

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Here is something else for your high school student who is thinking about college to consider: Someone with a bachelor’s degree earns nearly $1 million more over his or her lifetime than a high school graduate. A Census Bureau survey shows that a college graduate who works full-time between the ages of 25 and 64--which is considered a typical work-life period--can expect to earn $2.1 million. A master’s degree-holder is projected to earn $2.5 million, while someone with a professional degree, such as a doctor or lawyer, could make even more — $4.4 million. Contrast this with a high school graduate who can expect to make $1.2 million during the working years, according to the bureau report. After brainstorming some careers that interest your teen, figure out the path they would have to take in order to obtain the schooling for their career choices. This is a good time to begin reviewing college school catalogs, visiting colleges, and going on college tours. Use the catalogs and any other information you find when you visit the prospective college, either in person or on the college website, as an ice-breaker for more conversations with your teen. The ultimate decision lies with your teenager, but you do have the right to have input. Make this a clear message. Teach your teen that part of being independent is knowing when to lean on someone they trust and respect. Miriam Root has been an Administrator at Yuba College for 25 years; she enjoys her student services role which includes mentoring Yuba College student leaders.She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Information and Communication Studies with a minor in English and a Master’s Degree in Organizational Management. Miriam has successfully shepherded two children through college. Photo by Samantha Prather Photography.

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Ryan and Sarah Wulfert May 21 vintage-inspired wedding in the country was perfect for a beautiful day in May! This super-creative couple hosted a wedding that was fun and filled with personal details. Most importantly, it allowed them to enjoy their special day with the people they love. Ryan and Sarah decided on a vintage country wedding, and the perfect wedding site, which included a barn, was carefully chosen by the couple. Sarah told us that “it had everything I could have ever wanted: it’s private, beautiful, rustic, and surrounded by walnut orchards and horses.” Leading up to the wedding, Sarah’s family pitched in to refurbish the barn and grounds in time for the big celebration. Big time family camaraderie!

yan and Sarah are one of those amazing couples who have a unique personal

style, so their wedding was, naturally, a brilliant reflection of all the things they love. It was full of magical moments from the beginning of the day to the end. With accents like vintage tablecloths, tables set with milk glass vases and mismatched china, several cakes displayed on vintage cake stands (served in lieu of wedding cake), galvanized buckets and hand painted wooden signs, Sarah and Ryanâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s wedding was a treat for their guests.

ostalgia was an additional

theme to the day, and details present were representative of the people and memories that Sarah adores. A collection of brooches from Sarah’s grandmothers and friends were made into a beautifully unique bouquet. Ryan and Sarah celebrated the successful marriages of their parents with pictures of their wedding day on the cake table, as well as pictures of loved ones that are no longer with them. One of the most nostalgic parts of the wedding was Sarah arriving in her papa’s truck, Old Red. She says, “Almost all the women in my family have arrived at their wedding in papa’s truck. This was my way of paying tribute to him”. The most important detail of the day was the representation of their relationship and personalities in the many aspects of their wedding day. Ryan and Sarah believe that “weddings don’t have to be so traditional. They should be fun and represent the two of you.”

Zachary and Stacy Dennis May 28

ain. Wind. Hail. Not words you

would normally want to associate with an outdoor wedding. Mother Nature had a different plan on the day Zachary and Stacy Dennis were married, and they didn’t mind a bit. Although they had poured countless hours into creating their very own wedding venue, complete with many charming details, the couple remained calm and focused on the most important event of the day… getting married! Photography by: Moments To Remember Photography

The weather in the valley was harsh this day in May, but it gave this couple a break just as their guests arrived. The clouds cleared, and the sun graced them with the most gorgeous weather for their walk down the aisle. Zachary and Stacy decided early-on to create their own vision for the wedding. They began by selecting a location on one of the groomsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; family ranches in Maxwell. The area they chose as their wedding site started out as an old homestead with a deteriorated sheep coral. After months of preparation, with the help of family and friends, they created a magical location that was simply divine. Zachary and Stacy tied the knot in a wedding that was thoughtful, creative, and overflowing with personal meaning from beginning to end. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m not sure if the couple even realized that 200 guests surrounded them. They were focused only on each other, and the vows they wrote together. It was a sweet ceremony that demonstrated just how committed they are to growing together as a couple.

At the top of their list of priorities was providing a great party centered around what would be the most fun for their guests. For Zachary and Stacy, that meant creating an atmosphere of energy and fun, focused on amazing music and delicious food! After the ceremony, a surprise to the guests was a crop duster flying over them dropping rice! This kicked off the party, and let the guests know it was time to head to “the saloon.” Zachary and Stacy wanted everyone to have a great time, and said they wanted, “No fluff, no delay, [just] a lot of fun!” The location of their wedding provided a perfect mix of elegance and casual fun! They had the freedom to turn up the music and even have a bonfire. Later in the evening, the clouds rolled back in, winds blew, and thunder struck, giving a romantic ending to this amazing evening in the orchards.

Tim and Nancy Elrod June 18 Photography by: Moments To Remember Photography

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elegant, and totally relaxed, a beautiful almond ranch in South Yuba City was the perfect backdrop for Nancy and Timâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s rustic and elegant summer wedding. Nancy and Tim were inspired by the venueâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s natural surroundings, breathtaking views and grand almond trees.

ancy and Tim designed a wedding

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his stunning estate was once a dairy ranch in the early 1930’s. Now it is renovated into a home for Gary and Sara Smith and their two daughters. Sprawling landscape, lavender fields, a beautiful pool and plenty of outdoor living create an ambiance of Tuscan romance with lots of room to play! The area surrounding the estate was called the Sunset Colony and developed around 1908. The estate is located between Yuba City and Live Oak, offering a great view of the Sutter Buttes. Gary and Sara purchased the fifteen acres of property out of

cold storage rooms, which have now been renovated into an additional

foreclosure in 2001 and built their new home on the exact site of the

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area of the dairy is now converted into a huge playroom, and the ad-

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Describe a perfect evening at your house. I love cooking for my family every evening and talking about the day’s challenges, as well as winding down the evenings with a good bottle of wine at the fireplace.

How do you celebrate or entertain most in your home? We celebrate and entertain outside with family and friends with poolside cooking, and keep the party rolling into the evenings with outdoor lighting. This makes for very memorable evenings.

Describe your decor? The deco is more “Rustic Tuscan” and eclectic. Our landscaping helps hide what’s around the corner and keeps your imagination wondering.

What were your goals when you began to build? We wanted it to feel like we were living in a resort.

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any of us dream of updating our current home, but few know exactly how to start the planning or even have a vision of what we really want to accomplish. Making changes to your home is a fun process, but can also be a bit overwhelming. It can take months, even years to figure out your priorities for a remodeling project. Laura and Richard Poma lived in their home 34 years before they decided to take the plunge into a full kitchen remodel. They first thought of a remodel 10 years ago, but took their time to plan, save and do it right. Their goal was to create a functional, efficient, and beautiful kitchen. Laura wanted the kitchen to be inviting to guests as she prepared meals, but she didn’t want anyone in her way. “I wanted a kitchen I could work in, but still be a part of the party! I love entertaining,” she said.

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Did you think of the plan on your own? No. This past January, we started tearing down walls, ripping out cabinets and counters, removing a ½ bathroom and a laundry room, and ripping up the flooring. Within two weeks we had a room with four

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walls with 2x4’s showing, a ceiling with insulation hanging down, and a plywood floor. I found a local contractor through the internet and gave him a call. He came to the house and at that time he suggested we go through Lowe’s for the cabinets and kitchen design. I thought only a contractor built cabinets and did the designing, so I was surprised! He measured out the room that night, gave measurements to Jan at Lowe’s, and within a week we finalized the design of the kitchen.

W hat was your inspiration, or the look you were going for? I had no idea what the end result would be but I knew it had to be better than the kitchen I had been working in for 34 years. I depended on my contractor, Dave Silva, my designer Deborah Roush, and Jan the Lowe’s designer to take me down the right road—and they did!

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I love my countertops. They are not only BEAUTIFUL, they are

All the space I have for storage and the efficiency of the kitchen. I feel

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I am part of the 21st century when playing in my kitchen. I have two

I especially like my island, as it was built for my height. My cabinets are

sinks, so when my mom comes over she has her own sink to help prepare

user-friendly, which makes working in the kitchen fun, not work.

meals or do our summer canning. I HAVE ROOM!!! We didn’t have a timeline; we just rode the wave and knew it would be

What surprised you the most about the remodeling experience? We drew the outline of the cabinets and the island on the floor before installation to get a feel of space and design, but when everything was installed I couldn’t believe how big the island was and the amount of cabinet and drawer space I had. And when the chandelier was

done one day. At times I had to have a talk with myself and breathe, but we made it and we are still married. Timelines are good, but for a project like this one I think a timeline would have put too much pressure on us. The project took just about six months to the day.

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“These are three recipes that are among those most requested by my friends. Together they make a simple menu for casual entertaining that requires only a loaf of crusty bread to make a delicious and satisfying meal. And because the butternut squash soup and the yummy ginger cookie dough can be made ahead and kept frozen for many weeks, they’re great to have on-hand for those busy autumn days when you’re preparing for the holidays, or have a busy day at work and want a fast, but homemade, meal.”

Roasted Walnut Persimmon Salad

1/4 cup chopped pecans or walnuts (they taste better if you toast them for a few minutes until they are fragrant) 2 oranges, peel removed and sliced into wedges OR 4 tangerines, in sections 2 tbsp lemon juice 1 tbsp honey 1/4 tsp salt ¼ cup Roasted Walnut Oil (La Tourangelle is good) OR a mild, tasty olive oil 4 fuyu persimmons (about 1 lb total), cored and cut into small wedges 4 cups spring greens or baby arugula (one package) 4 oz feta cheese, crumbled

In small bowl, combine the oranges or tangerines, lemon, honey, salt, and the oil. Transfer to a serving platter or individual salad dishes that have been lined with the lettuce. On top of the

Enjoy!

oranges, arrange the persimmons and feta cheese. Sprinkle with the toasted nuts and serve immediately. Serves 6-8. This is the salad I want to eat in the fall when local walnuts are freshly harvested and at their height of flavor. If you are lucky enough to get some fresh walnuts, toast them in a 325 degree oven for 10 minutes or until they get crispy, and then vacuum seal them and store them in the freezer. They will stay fresh and delicious all year. Fuyu persimmons are the round persimmons that are crisp when ripe; you can find them at farmer’s markets and fruit stands because they are grown locally. Their mild, sweet taste is highlighted by the tangy citrus and the bits of salty feta. If you have never tasted Roasted Walnut Oil, you are in for a treat – it’s delicious, healthy, and it’s locally-produced in Northern California.

Butternut Squash Soup 2 tbsp. each olive oil and butter 1 onion, chopped 2 ribs celery, sliced 2 leeks, white portion only, sliced 5 large garlic cloves, minced 1 tbsp firmly packed brown sugar 2 tbsp minced fresh thyme leaves 1 tbsp minced fresh sage leaves 1 large dried bay leaf 1 large butternut squash seeded, peeled and cubed 1 pound thin-skinned white potatoes, scrubbed and cut into 1-inch cubes ½ tsp freshly grated nutmeg 1 tsp salt ½ tsp freshly ground pepper 4 cups good quality chicken broth 2/3 cup buttermilk (optional – can be omitted for the lactose intolerant) minced fresh chives and/or parsley

In a large, nonstick soup kettle, melt butter with oil over medium heat. Add onion, celery, leeks and garlic; cover and cook 5 minutes until onion is soft. Raise heat slightly and stir in brown sugar and herbs. Cook, while stirring, for 1 minute. Add squash, potato, seasonings and the stock. Bring to a boil, then lower heat. Cover and cook 20 minutes or until potatoes are soft. Discard bay leaf and puree. You can use a blender but a stick blender is easier and safer. Return pureed soup to a clean saucepan.

Stir in buttermilk; mix well and heat without boiling. Taste and adjust seasonings, thinning with more stock and/or buttermilk as desired. Ladle soup into heated bowls and sprinkle with chives/ parsley and/or a spoonful of sour cream. Makes 9 servings, 280 calories per serving. This simple soup is not only quick to make and delicious, but like many soups, it can be made in advance and frozen. Tasty and colorful, it’s the perfect soup for cold weather and the butternut squash makes it particularly healthy!

Ginger Cookies

5 cups flour

2 1/2 cups pecans or walnuts, lightly toasted

5 tsp baking soda

until fragrant, then chopped coarsely

3 tbsp ground ginger

1 3/4 cups unsalted butter at room temperature

2 tsp cinnamon

2 1/2 cups sugar

1 tsp salt

2 extra large eggs

1/2-3/4 cups minced crystallized

1 cup molasses

(candied) ginger

Cream butter and sugar; add eggs and beat until fluffy. Add molasses and combine well. Sift flour, baking soda, ground ginger, cinnamon, and salt. Add flour mixture to butter mixture and mix well. Stir in crystallized ginger and nuts until evenly distributed. Chill the dough if it is too soft to shape. Lay a sheet of plastic wrap on your counter. Flour your work surface and divide dough into 4 or more equal portions and form into logs. Wrap each log in plastic wrap, sealing well. Re-wrap the whole thing in foil. Refrigerate at least 4 hours or up to 2 days or freeze - this dough is excellent frozen and keeps for months.

Cut thin slices (1/8-1/4 inch thick), and arrange at least 1 inch apart on cookie sheets covered in parchment; you can sprinkle them with sugar if you wish - I always do. Bake at 325 degrees until cookies are flat and a little darker – approximately 8-12 minutes. This recipe makes around 100 cookies that are 3” across and 1/4” thick. Keeps well in an airtight container. This is my all-time favorite cookie – it’s delicious and a little unusual, and the uncooked dough keeps for months in the freezer, ready to cook at a moment’s notice. I always have some of these on hand for the holidays - it’s my most requested recipe.

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