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Power Players By Christy Coughlin, Kelly Konrad, Laura Hine and Susan B. Noyes
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Bloggers Find Power Through Vulnerability By Kelly Konrad Teens Rule on These Vacations By Andrea Guthmann Family Health Guide By Talia Beechick, Christy Coughlin, Nora Dudley, Stuart Greenblatt, Lindsay Roseman, Hilary Shenfeld
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Your Health at Every Age Tests to Get, Tests to Skip By Lindsay Roseman 2 Controversial Tests: Should You Get Them? By Hilary Shenfeld 9 Healthy (and Tasty!) Fast Food Options By Talia Beechick
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Modern Dating Finding love in a high-tech, hook-up world By Marjie Killeen
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Be an Athlete in 2013 By Christy Coughlin
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The Truth About Long-Term Care Insurance By Stuart Greenblatt
9 Financial Websites Women Should Know By Meghan Streit
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Bobby’s Deerfield Third time’s the charm By Julie Chernoff Hey, Diners, Drive-ins and Dives: Listen Up! By Julie Chernoff Take 2 By Robert Loerzel
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Better Makers and Their Impact Power of Pops Social entrepreneur Mishika Narula’s sweet idea By Kristina Tober
Carrying forward the best of magazine
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girl power by susan b . noye s Happy New Year!
We hope that 2013 is your most empowering year yet. Therefore, we proudly focus this issue on empowering women and girls. The females we feature are barrier breakers—like Northwestern University coach Kelly Amonte Hiller—or they are helping to break down barriers for less fortunate others. We also hope that our stories empower you in any number of ways, whether it’s to tell your own story with lives made pride, improve your financial literacy, advobetter cate for the best health at every life stage, get 82,582 organized in the new year or take up a new sport. $$ raised for nfps As we begin a new year on such a strong $1,811,122 note, I am empowered by the women that surround me at work—a wonderful all-female staff that strives to make this magazine the best it can be every month. On top of each of their individual and familial pursuits, at that. It really is amazing what we achieve when we work together. Most empowering for me, though, is thinking about the historical trajectory of the women in my family—my mother, who broke all sorts of barriers as a state senator in Indiana, and now my daughters, their generation and the bright future available to them. Thanks to those that came before them and battles already won, young women today can work to lift up their friends in less enlightened areas of our world. That’s empowerment.
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letter to our daughters To Our Daughters, You are empowered like no other generation of women in history. You can and will do anything to which you set your mind and heart. So please, relax and enjoy your life journey. Thanks to great women and men who came before, glass ceilings have been shattered. For example, as of January 1, women run three of the six largest defense contract firms. A recent Forbes article describes Linda Hudson of BAE Systems as “the most powerful person in the global defense industry.” Thanks to the freedom accorded you as American women, and to the education and opportunities you earn by growing up in the northern suburbs, your employment options are equal to those of any man. (Well, maybe not if you pursue Major League sports...) Thanks to a contemporary, educated, affluent culture, which more fully accepts the concept of equality of the sexes, your life partners are quite likely to share child rearing and domestic responsibilities as they support your other pursuits too. The growing number of fathers waiting for Kindergarten pick up each year since you were in grade school has been startling. This trend will only increase because of the
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extraordinary shift in demographics for those under age 40. Management consultant and Wilmette resident, Marilyn Moats Kennedy, concludes based on multiple studies that women under the age of 40 are outpacing men in almost all endeavors. (Shhh - please don’t tell your brothers!) More women than men graduate from college and most graduate programs. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, 58% of current U.S. undergraduates are female, 42% are male. Women also substantially outnumber men in graduate degrees for medicine, biology, agricultural sciences, arts & humanities, law and psychology. Women also are leading the charge in new job development from entrepreneurial endeavors. According to data projections from The Guardian Life Small Business Research Institute, by 2018 job growth will be created primarily by women-owned small businesses. Given this tidal wave of demographic change, you can be assured that you will not face the barriers that our generation did. Furthermore, a woman’s innate ability to multi-task and find win/win scenarios for ourselves and others is perfectly suited for the demands of a complex, developed world.
Women—especially mothers—know how to get things done while nurturing a better world. Anne-Marie Slaughter’s recent Atlantic Monthly article, “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All,” stimulated much debate. Women may not be able to be the primary parent raising great kids, reach the apex of an ambitious career, and find perfect work-life balance all at the same time. But no one— male or female—should ever expect to do all things perfectly at the same time. It’s not even healthy to aspire to that! Life is long and good. There will be plenty of time to accomplish multiple goals. Focus on what you love most at each phase of life, and the rest will follow: you have time to do it all - make a mark, make a home and family, make a difference. Also, please stop worrying about what school you will attend or what job you will land! You are smart, talented, beautiful and healthy. Follow your heart. Put energy into creating new opportunities to do what you most enjoy. It’s not about where you start, but rather about where you end and how much you enjoyed getting there. We are enormously proud of you. You go girls!
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THE LAKE COUNTY HAVEN IN LIBERTYVILLE: Much appreciation goes out to our friends at Make It Better, who have partnered with us in so many ways to help further our mission in helping the homeless women and children in our community. From donating winter coats to spotlighting our fundraising events, Make It Better has been a true partner to the Haven.
I just received my lastest issue and was surprised. You have listed restaurants in Chicago and Lincolnwood, but nothing in Glencoe and Wilmette? On the North Shore. Frank and Betsie’s Restaurant in Glencoe is available for private parties on Sundays and semi-private during the week and Convito Italiano in Wilmette has multiple rooms. Why would I go to Chicago or Lincolnwood off the North Shore when there are wonderful local restaurants like these to give my business to? List the others if you want, but please list locally first. Sincerely,
EDITOR IN CHIEF LAURA HINE RESPONDS Dear Nancy, “Spiritual Journeys” was not envisioned as an encyclopedia of any and all religions found on the North Shore. If it was, I would have included my own church, Fourth Presbyterian Church of Wilmette. Instead, we focused on community and church leaders whose ideas about spirituality are new to many of us, and those whose faith is leading them to work for positive change in the world. I pass the Bahá’í House of Worship daily, but before I interviewed Valerie Dana and Ellen Price, I had no idea what they believed or about their commitment to peace. Eboo Patel works with youth of all religions to increase interfaith cooperation, and Bill Hybels, an evangelical Christian, brings together leaders of many faiths to learn how to pastor and inspire their congregations. It’s also worthwhile to note that “mainstream” Protestants were featured—author Pamay Bassey, a member of the non-denominational Christian church, Trinity Church of Christ; and Dr. Frank Yamada, president of McCormick Theological Seminary, who is an ordained Presbyterian Minister.
DINING EDITOR JULIE CHERNOFF RESPONDS Kay Kay, I certainly understand your comment about the October “Where to Party?” directory, however, it did feature many places on the North Shore: Deerfield, Evanston, Glenview, Highland Park, Highwood, Lake Bluff, Lake Forest, Northbrook, Northfield and Winnetka. I make an effort not to use the same restaurants repeatedly. It’s all about mixing it up! And many people on the North Shore have offices in the city, which is why a number of Chicago restaurants were included. Also, we consider Lincolnwood part of our North Shore footprint, so they were included as well. I wish I had room to include every wonderful restaurant in each issue, but space precludes it. Thanks for reading!
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PADDLE ANYONE? Looking for a stylish yet functional paddle and tennis bag? Check out Posh Sport’s new line of women’s bags and backpacks, which feature compartments for your racquet plus sunglasses, gloves, hat and more. Their bags can be customized for individuals, teams or clubs. When you’re on the go from games to the grocery store to the office, these bags will keep you looking stylish. poshsport.net -TB
FASHION FORWARD NORTH SHORE Talia, a new boutique in downtown Evanston, is filled with light… and style. Gracious owners Asia Cavallo and Agnieszka Lewandowska designed an airy, contemporary space that reflects their joy. The clothing is sourced from smaller, hands-on European designers; the lush fabrics are all beautifully cut and tailored. Local artisans provide the necklaces, rings and bracelets. Close your eyes, and this store could easily relocate to Paris. Or better yet, stop by and visit. TALIA BOUTIQUE: 1526 Chicago Ave., Evanston, 847-424-1855, taliaboutique.com -JC
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ARLINGTON HEIGHTS GETS BBQ Pitmaster—and 30-year barbeque veteran—Thanos “Tom” Grigorio serves up favorites like baby back ribs, rib tips, turkey tips, pork shoulder, beef brisket, hot links, Texas sausage and chicken smoked for fourteen hours over hickory and apple wood chips. To complement the meat and three house-made sauces, JD’s offers over 99 bottles of beer (just like the song!), including domestic, imports and craft beers, which are featured in their monthly Brew & Q pairings. If BBQ’s not your thing, check out their fish dishes, soups, hearty salads and sides to take you down south. JD’S SMOKEHOUSE BBQ: 286 West Rand Rd., Arlington Heights, 847-670-0100, jdsqandbrew.com - TB
SIZE DOESN’T MATTER! Wilmette has a new dining destination. Noodle owner Rob Garrison and Chef Molly McGrath have opened a long, thin slice of a wine bar that fills a lot of roles. Grab sauce, fresh pasta, dressing and a loaf of garlic bread for a quick dinner at home. Or opt for table service: The inventive flatbreads, salumi and cheese platters, flavorful grilled skewers, tasty spreads and a flight of wines are just what we need at the end of a long day. Happily, they’re open for lunch, too—but you can only get the made-to-order doughnuts at dinner. So you make the call! THE NOODLE SMALL PLATES & MARKET: 1156 Central St., Wilmette, 847-251-1183, thenoodlecafe.com -JC
CLOCKWISE, STARTING TOP LEFT: PHOTO COURTESY OF TALIA, COURTESY OF POSH SPORTS, COURTESY OF ARLINGTON HEIGHTS BBQ, NOODLE PHOTO BY NATHANIEL PERRY
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Glencoe Winter Carnival January 12 | Watts Ice Center, Glencoe | glencoeparkdistrict.com Welcome Old Man Winter with this daylong festival—skating races, a hockey shooting contest, sledding, ice sculptures, s’mores and snow (we hope!). jan
editor’s pick Second City Guide to the Opera January 5 | Civic Opera House, Chicago | lyricopera.org jan
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Renée Fleming hosts this original combination of comedy and opera, guaranteeing a night you won’t soon forget. Would you expect anything less from these two entertainment powerhouses? This show will be one for the history books, but not one for the kids. Get a sitter and go!
El Circo Cheapo! Cabaret 1 Ongoing, Saturdays 2041 W. Carroll Ave., Chicago elcircocheapo.com It’s a new year and a great time to make that entertainment resolution to try something different downtown. El Circo Cheapo offers family friendly shows alongside edgier late night performances, and includes top-notch circus arts entertainment. jan
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Maxwell Street Market Ongoing, Sundays | Desplaines St. and Roosevelt Rd., Chicago explorechicago.org Kick the new year off with a new place to shop—try the South Loop for an afternoon of great finds and family fun at this weekly market. jan
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14th Annual Polar Bear Plunge January 1 | Waukegan Municipal Beach, 201 Sea Horse Dr. | waukeganparks.org Kick off the New Year with a refreshing … yeah, right. This one is for anyone who has “Do a polar bear plunge!” on his or her bucket list. And if you don’t? Then you can watch and cheer from the sidelines. jan
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The Chicago Sketch Comedy Festival January 3 – 13 | Stage 773, Chicago chicagosketchfest.com Looking for a good laugh? Here’s a week jan
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Volo Bog’s WinterFest January 13 | 28478 W. Brandenburg Rd., Ingleside | friendsofvolobog.org When you can’t fight ‘em… The cold weather is here to stay but don’t let it keep you indoors. Take a daytrip up north to Volo and enjoy an afternoon of live music, storytelling, bog hikes and, if there’s snow, a little sculpting, too. jan
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Martin Luther King, Jr. Celebration January 20 | Nichols Concert Hall, Evanston | musicinst.org It’s a win-win show—you get to catch a phenomenal performance from The Brotherhood Chorale of the Apostolic Church of God, and contributions support the William Warfield Endowed Scholarship Fund. jan
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2013 Progressive Strictly Sail Chicago January 24 - 27 | Navy Pier, Chicago strictlysailchicago.com We know summer seems so far away—but it doesn’t have to be if you start daydreaming about that sailboat now. Take a spin around Navy Pier to check out the latest, greatest and maybe even fantasy versions of what will be in the water in a few months’ time. jan
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Northwestern’s Dolphin Show: “My Fair Lady” January 25 – February 2 | Cahn Auditorium, Evanston | nudolphinshow.org It’s the 71st year for the nation’s largest student-run musical, and a tradition on the North Shore. Don’t miss this year’s presentation of the classic, “My Fair Lady.” jan
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North Shore Jazz Fest January 26 | Glenbrook South High School | northshorejazzfest.com A daylong festival dedicated to area high school talent, for sure—but don’t miss your only chance to see the Marine Corps All Star Jazz Band on the North Shore this season, along with featured saxophonist Chris Vadala. jan
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Winter Block Party for Hip-Hop Arts January 26 | Metro, Chicago wbez.org DJs throw down, boys and girls dance and everyone celebrates the art of hip hop at this day-long event downtown. jan
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Jill and Julia Show 26 January 26 | SPACE, Evanston evanstonspace.com A fan favorite, the Jill and Julia Show returns for another one-night-only run at SPACE. Catch satirist and singer Jill Sobule alongside comedian and writer Julia Sweeney for a highly entertaining evening. jan
Warner Bros. Presents Bugs Bunny at the Symphony 26 January 26 | 220 S. Michigan Ave., Chicago | cso.org Probably one of the coolest ways ever to introduce your little ones to the orchestra. The CSO brings Looney Tunes to life, playing classics including, yes, “What’s Opera, Doc?” and “The Rabbit of Seville.” Geared for kids ages 5 and up, we’re pretty sure there’s a legion of adults who’ll line up for this show, too. jan
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Where to go to warm up Try Curt’s Café (2924 Central St.) for organic coffee and hot paninis. Daredevil boys in the back of your SUV? Hit Five Guys (816 Church) for a bag of fries. Glencoe For sledding and skating Watts Park, 305 Randolph St. There are two lighted rinks at Watts Park. For hours, prices, and events, call 847-835-3030
For conditions, call 847-681-2189.
For skating Sunset Woods Park, 1801 Sunset Rd. Rink is lighted. For conditions, call 847-432-4303 Where to go to warm up Try ArrivaDolce (1823 St. Johns Ave.) for locally roasted coffee and a grilled cheese. Lake Forest/Lake Bluff For sledding Blair Park, 355 W. Washington Rd. Lighted and open until 9 p.m.
Where to go to warm up Try the Glencoe Coffee Shop (700 Vernon Ave.) for a quick pick-me-up.
For skating West Park, Green Bay and Woodland Rds. For rink conditions, call 837-234-6702.
Glenview For sledding and skating Flick Park, 3600 Glenview Rd. Lighted until 10 p.m. nightly
Where to go to warm up Caputo’s Cheese Market (231 E. Wisconsin Ave.) serves up hot sandwiches made with artisan cheeses and savory hot chocolate.
For sledding Johns Park, 2101 Central Rd. Lighted until 10 p.m. nightly. For conditions, call 847-724-3337, ext. 4.
Northbrook For sledding: Wood Oaks Green Sledding Hill, 1150 Sanders Rd.
Where to go to warm up Head into The Glen Town Center and visit Via Gelato (1853 Tower Dr.) for a full line of coffee drinks and homemade soups.
Techny Prairie Park, 1750 Techny Rd. For conditions, call 847-291-2985.
Highland Park For sledding Danny Cunniff Park 3100 Trail Way St. (at the end, north of Half Day Rd.)
For skating Meadowhill Park, 1479 Maple Ave. Tower Rink, 1225 Cedar Lane For conditions, call 847-291-2985, ext. 3.
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Where to go to warm up: Leonard’s Bakery (2776 Dundee Rd. in Dunbrook Center) offers fresh baked treats and a hot cup of coffee. Northfield For skating Clarkson Park, 1950 Willow Rd. Free for Northfield residents. Call 847-446-4693 for more information. Where to go to warm up Your best bet? There’s a Starbucks on the corner of Willow and Happ Rds., a few blocks away. Wilmette For skating Gillson Park, Sheridan Rd. and Michigan Ave. West Park, Dartmouth Ave. and Thornwood Ave. For conditions, call 847-256-6100. Where to go to warm up Rock House (1150 Central Ave.) is your goto destination to please everyone in your cold party. This rock music themed coffee house has tea, coffee and warm snacks. Chicago For sledding Cricket Hill, 601 W. Montrose Ave. Soldier Field, 425 E. McFetridge Dr. (southeast of the stadium). For conditions, call 312-235-7000. For skating Millennium Park (McCormick Tribune Ice Rink), Michigan Ave. and Washington St. Free admission, visit millenniumpark.org for more information. John Hancock Building (Skating in the Sky), 875 N. Michigan Ave. Not exactly an outdoor rink, but worth it for the scenic view from the 94th floor. Opens January 1, visit jhochicago.com for more information and to book a skating session. Where to warm up The Magnificent Mile offers plenty of eateries across the street, but for quick and kid-friendly spots, try Caribou Coffee (20 N. Michigan Ave.), Panera Bread (2 N. Michigan Ave.) or Foodlife (835 N. Michigan Ave., Water Tower Place).
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omen and power. Some need it, some fear it, but together, when we embrace our power, we can change the world. We’d like to introduce you to eight brilliant women using their talent, intuition and passion to empower women and girls in our communities and across the globe. They are standing up for women who have been abused, encouraging girls to go all out on the playing field, giving young women a say in their reproductive health, educating mothers, teaching women how to negotiate for what
they deserve, and joining with other women to make their philanthropy count. While none of these women can move the mountains of prejudice and ignorance alone, they have the courage to try. Imagine the power if we joined them. If a few more of us used our skills, money, charisma or voice to give our strength to the next generation or to those who have been marginalized by society. We’re beginning a new year. Let’s make it a powerful one for women.
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SPORT KELLY AMONTE HILLER Women’s Lacrosse Coach, Northwestern University Evanston
KELLY AMONTE HILLER, Northwestern University’s phenomenal Women’s Lacrosse coach, took a new lacrosse program, and within a few short years, developed her Wildcats into the top team in the country. Hiller followed her talent and passion to create a distinctive, successful sports career, a path usually reserved for men. Hiller joined NU in 2001 and her first varsity squad of lacrosse recruits began their journey in 2002. After just four seasons of play, her team won the NCAA Championship. Under Hiller’s leadership, Northwestern has won the championship seven out of the last eight years—setting a new standard
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for the sport. While a player at University of Maryland, Hiller was a four-time All-American, was twice named the NCAA Division 1 Player of the Year, and in 1996 was the ACC’s Female Athlete of the Year. Kelly played on the U.S. National team for more than a decade. She was inducted into the U.S. Lacrosse Hall of Fame in 2012. Kelly knows how to win. NU took a risk hiring such a young, first-time head coach. What qualities convinced them you were right for the job? I had long talks with NU about my coaching philosophy. It’s very important for female athletes to have confidence. Players get that with a positive coaching style. With the drive, playing experience, and success that I had, NU knew that would translate to good things as a coach. They definitely did take a risk and I am glad they did.
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How did your playing experience help develop your coaching philosophy? Confidence again. I was a very confident athlete growing up. My parents were so positive. My Dad always believed in me. When I went to college, I was very hard on myself if I didn’t succeed, which is normal for female athletes. My collegiate coaches taught me how to turn failure into a positive. What do you try to teach your girls about life through your coaching? I try to teach them to have confidence in all aspects of their life—lacrosse, academics and social. They should stand up for themselves, each other, really support other females. I hope they will step off this campus and have the confidence to achieve anything they want to do.
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What character traits do you look for in your recruits? The biggest thing I look for is passion. I have a lot of passion for this sport, this game, this opportunity. You have to have that passion to come into this program and succeed. Passion will push you to work hard and to want things more. At this level, that’s what it’s all about. Unlike club lacrosse, you only get 17 (game) opportunities at the collegiate level. Every single game has to be the end-all-be-all. That passion is so important. You took a brand new program to the highest level in a few years. What are the keys to that accomplishment? In the beginning of the program, it was injecting them with a sense of belief. We were in situations where we were playing teams that had won championships and we had read about their talented players. To go up against a team with a storied history with players that are intimidating—you need a deep-rooted sense of belief that you can achieve. Every single day they got more confident. We went out there in that fourth year, and did it. They had something to prove, and that was fun. It was all about making them believe in themselves. Why is lacrosse becoming so popular? It’s a game that is fan friendly, easy to watch, with a lot of scoring. The athleticism of the girls is incredible. Lacrosse has aspects similar to soccer, the speed of ice hockey and tactical aspects of basketball. As a player, it’s just fun to play. So girls are taking to it and it’s spreading quickly.
How do sports empower girls? Girls learn how to succeed and to fail just like they will throughout their lives. Hopefully from successes they gain confidence; from failures, they learn to bounce back. Our program has been defined by how we bounce back. We have had failures, and they motivate us in a big way. How are women empowered by sport? General health is huge. Everyone is so busy. Sports make you feel healthy and better about yourself. Exercise gives me so much positive energy. Sports leagues, like women’s soccer, are a great way to get that camaraderie from team sports. It’s important to teach your kids to be active. They will learn that it is important to take time for yourself and take care of your own wellbeing. What do you do to be a successful manager and empower your staff? At this level, I can’t get into the nuts and bolts of everything. I have to empower my staff to make great decisions. I push them and show them what it’s going to take to be successful. I love that we have been able to hire young staff members and mentor them to be great coaches at the next level. We empower them to go out there and run with it. Sometimes their suggestions aren’t taken, but many times they are. When they do get that head job, they’ll be ready. Careers in sports have traditionally been for men. Is that trend changing? Where are the opportunities for women? Women can teach the principles of having fun, and pushing to get better, even if they didn’t play the game. There are so many opportunities for women, and they need to step up. Women can officiate, coach at all levels, manage and serve as athletic directors— the more women the better. It’s my goal to encourage women in the field and create opportunities. As a working mom, how do you balance work and home? It’s always a challenge. I want to be there for my kids. That’s my number one priority. I am very fortunate to have an incredibly supportive husband; that’s how we stay on top of things. We have good balance. Scott has a different voice and perspective, and he brings lacrosse experience to the table. He’s a huge asset. —By Christy Coughlin
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The injustices women suffer in the other half of the world are mind-boggling and heart breaking. Girls are uneducated, women are marginalized and they are the victims of both poverty and culture. Most of us are unsure how we can change these women’s lives, but Katy Drucker did just that when she spent a year post-college volunteering in Africa and Asia. For several months, she lived at Antardristi, an organization dedicated to rescuing girls who are survivors of sexual assault. “It’s violent; it’s toward young girls,” says Drucker describing why she chose this project in Nepal. “It’s so common. Rape on the other side of the world; it’s a method of war, it’s power, it’s so frequent it’s terrifying, and little girls have to worry about this.” Founded by Vinita Adhikari, Antardristi provides
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safe houses, counseling, education and works with prosecutors to bring the perpetrators to justice. While Drucker was there, the girls ranged in age from 3 to 22. “I just wanted to help them because these girls meant so much to me,” says Drucker as we talk about her time in Nepal and how it changed her and the girls with whom she lived. “It was a heavy project, but even though I couldn’t do all that much, I felt like I was helping them. I showed them maps, we talked in English. It was great to see them smile and get excited about something.” Antardristi is the only program of its kind in the country, and Drucker says that Adhikari is barely scraping by, trying to keep the home open. “She’s the first one to bring attention to her country and community,” says Drucker. “She’s trying to re-educate the community that this is not the girls’ fault and they need to be supported in this.” When asked why anyone would consider the victim to be at fault, Drucker explains that it’s not a religious issue in Nepal, but one of culture. “Women in their culture are so below the men that if the men say it’s their fault, then it’s their fault.” It’s a cultural thing, she says. “Women do everything over there. We do a lot here, but they do everything over there.” Drucker also saw some of the same attitudes toward women when she traveled through Africa living and volunteering at a refugee camp. Everywhere she went, she asked girls if they liked being a girl, and none of them did. “They wished they were boys, or girls in America or even a cat in America,” she remembers with a laugh. “It was a very eye-opening year. I would go back and do it all over again in a heartbeat.” Drucker continues to work to raise awareness and support for Antardristi. She has held exhibits of her photographs from her year, and hopes to figure out a way to return soon. To contribute to Antardristi, donors can use firstgiving.com and search for Antardristi Nepal. It’s a secure site that takes a minimal fee for processing donor’s credit card donations. As Drucker notes, $100 goes very far in Nepal. —By Laura Hine
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COLLABORATION 100 Women Making A Difference, which are philanthropic circles of women who donate at least $1000 a year to fund college scholarships for girls, and other charitable causes voted on by their group. 100 W describes itself as “a unique way for women who are philanthropically minded to give back and make meaningful contributions to their local communities without adding to the already hectic demands of their day-to-day lives, family and work.” With her typical candor and charm, Sabatino describes 100 W even more succinctly, “This group is for women who no longer want to spend their volunteer efforts choosing napkin colors, asking for silent auction items and selling raffle tickets.” The 100 W concept is elegantly simple. Through collaboration with other like-minded women, each woman’s donation of $1000 or more becomes part of a significant pool, which is thoughtfully and personally awarded by the group each year. Meetings are minimal and nonmandatory; there are just enough social opportunities—like a fall recruiting luncheon at a local club, evening cocktail party with spouses and spring awards dinner—to allow new friendships to form. A blonde, blue-eyed, can-do dynamo who resembles Reese Witherspoon, Sabatino launched the first 100 W group in New Jersey in 2008. When she and her husband moved back to the North Shore in 2010, she launched this area’s 100 W soon thereafter. Friends of Sabatino recently started the newest 100 W chapter in Orange County, Calif. Women in other states also have expressed an interest in starting their own 100 W groups too. Last year’s North Shore group awarded a scholarship of $10,000 a year, for up to four years, to Emily Andre of Antioch, allowing her to attend American University. They also funded Holy Family Food Pantry Youth Garden Project, A Safe Haven, Lambs Farm, NICASA, Lake County Haven and Our House of Hope K-9 Rescue. To date, the 100 W groups have awarded scholarships to six young women. Each 100 W group stays in close contact with their scholarship recipients, main-
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taining personal, supportive ties. So it isn’t a surprise that some of the winners are already looking for ways to “pay it forward” through participation in their own 100 W-like groups, too. There is zero overhead cost for these 501c3 organizations. The Sabatinos assume all expenses. From her passionate comments, it’s clear that 100 W is a labor of great love for someone who enthusiastically believes in the collaborative power of women. Her vision empowers busy women to become significant philanthropists and allows talented young women to achieve educational dreams. For more information about 100W, go to their website: onehundredw.com. —By Susan B. Noyes
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advocacy Empowering parents to advocate for their chil-
dren is Jacquelyn Dortch’s job and passion. She manages and teaches Stand University for Parents (Stand UP) at Stand for Children, a nationwide organization that empowers parents, teachers and community members to advocate for excellence in schools. “It’s like professional development for parents,” says Dortch. Stand UP is testing the idea that involved parents can help Illinois students bridge the huge achievement gaps in math and reading scores. According to Stand for Children, only 32% of Illinois students are proficient readers by 4th grade and only 37% meet math standards. For minority students, the gap is even larger with just 6% of CPS students graduating from college by age 25. Stand UP classes start with the jargon of education and what it means. “Many parents drop their children off at school and they don’t know that the school is a level 1, 2 or 3 or what teacher turnover is,” says Dortch. “Why should I be concerned that the third grade class has had three substitutes this year?
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Because it impacts learning.” The curriculum continues through test scores, grades, the learning environment at home, student performance and responsibility. The principals talk to parents, but most important are the changes parents make at home. One mom told Dortch about setting aside Mondays as reading nights—no television. Another talked about sitting with her children and studying for her GED. She said, “I want to do my best and I want them to do their best.” They also talk about the path to college, and how parental expectations and written goals can make a difference. When she talks about the curriculum, she’s passionate. But it’s the parents and their successes that make her job. She told me about one mom who was in court with her ex-husband in a dispute over their two children. “She told the judge, ‘I’m enrolled in a parent engagement class at our school. I’m doing everything I can to try and help my son.’ The kid was in the second grade and failing.” The mother completed Stand UP and then her ex-husband and current husband enrolled and also took the course. “They both had perfect attendance and they both graduated, and they’ve come together. They learned that the failing grades were a direct impact of their inability to get along.” At the graduation, the mother spoke and performed a tribute dance to a gospel song. Standing in front of the stage were her children, exhusband and husband. Not a dry eye in the house. In the program’s inaugural year, Stand UP graduated more than 500 parents in three states. This spring, in Chicago, they plan to expand to 200 parents at four schools, and in the fall they will grow into 8 to 10 schools with more than 50 parents at each school. And Dortch is the perfect person to lead this effort. She grew up in the Austin neighborhood, and she tells parents, “My parents were young, in fact my mother was just 15 years older than me, but one thing my mother did was she encouraged a love of reading in all of us.” The parents see Dortch as a role model, a success story. “They’re so used to people being put in front of them who don’t understand who they are or where they’ve come from.” And Dortch is committed to giving parents the tools to help their children rise up to better futures. “Many times the people I meet, they lack education so the idea of coming in and empowering people through education, I was like, this is great!” For more information about Stand for Children, go to stand.org/illinois. —By Laura Hine
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justice A shocking statistic: Most perpetrators of sexual assault are never arrested, let alone charged. According to Human Rights Watch, the arrest rate for rape in Illinois is 11%. The reasons why this statistic is so dismally low are complicated, says Kaethe Morris Hoffer, legal director of the Chicago Alliance Against Sexual Exploitation (CAASE). She is working to help rape victims be heard and not victimized a second time by police and legal systems. “In Illinois, it continues to be the case that only a minority of survivors ever report to the police,” she says. Part of the reason is the stereotype that most of us have about rape. We fear dark alleys, parking lots and stairwells; we fear being attacked by a stranger with extreme violence. But according to crime statistics, the reality is that most women who are raped know their attacker. As Morris Hoffer notes, “He’s not a stranger, maybe he’s a friend of a friend. And overwhelmingly, the level of force he uses is sufficient to overcome her will, but not to injure her.” There are no witnesses, and after the crime, if they go to the police, they are often met with disbelief. Which is why Morris Hoffer and CAASE got a grant in 2010 from the Department of Justice to provide legal services to the victims of sexual violence in Chicago. In 2011, they helped 121 survivors, and in 2012, served even more, but the need is so great, Morris Hoffer is launching a pro bono attorney project with CAASE. “Most people don’t lie about being raped, and when they do tell the truth, they’re surprised when the system doesn’t respond,” says Morris Hoffer. “Being subjected to a sexual assault is horribly traumatic, but it’s equally traumatic to learn that the community doesn’t believe that it happened to you.” When the criminal courts fail, a law that Morris Hoffer worked on allows victims to seek a civil nocontact order and to pursue the perpetrator in civil court. It’s not perfect, but it does give victims a way to take charge of what’s happened and to see some measure of justice. Morris Hoffer found her calling early on. In high school, she was a peer counselor for Planned Parent-
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hood. “People started talking to me about sexual assault, and it wasn’t even identified that way. A 15-yearold girl who has been subjected to something she didn’t want to do by her boyfriend doesn’t call it rape.” Along with helping victims of sexual assault, Morris Hoffer also works to end sex trafficking and prostitution in Illinois. CAASE started the campaign, “End Demand Illinois,” to refocus law enforcement’s attention on pimps, johns and traffickers, while proposing a network of social services for survivors of the sex trade. “In Chicago, 16,000-24,000 girls and women are involved in prostitution on any given day,” says Morris Hoffer. “And most women enter the sex trade as young teenagers. In one Chicago study, the average age of entry was 16.” The goal is to increase the level of anxiety that men have about purchasing sex. If police are actively arresting, charging and prosecuting johns, men are less likely to purchase services on the street, in strip clubs, massage parlors or the Internet. As she works to empower and protect women, Morris Hoffer says that the trick is to be outraged without allowing anger to be a corrosive force in your own life. “On most days, it doesn’t feel like we’re making progress. But then we hold a perpetrator accountable in civil court, or we connect a survivor with a pro bono attorney, and that helps motivate me.” For more information about CAASE and its work, go to their website caase.org. —By Laura Hine
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health Parenthood has played a powerful role in women’s reproductive health, helping women and girls advocate for their bodies and their lives. Close to 5 million people annually get sexual and reproductive health care, as well as education, through the organization. And while the organization has always had detractors, it wasn’t until recently that the organization faced larger partisan attacks, including threats of complete defunding—something that from a fiscal perspective is confusing to Planned Parenthood Illinois’ CEO, Carole Brite. “Not only do we provide cost effective service,” she says, “we’re a very efficient provider as well. For every dollar that’s invested in family planning, nearly 4 dollars are saved in Medicaid-related costs in the first year of a woman’s pregnancy alone.” PPIL’s programming and services are critical, especially in Cook County, where the chlamydia rate tops the national charts. What’s more, the county’s rate of gonorrhea ranks second in the country, and
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the rate of syphilis ranks third. “It’s all important,” says Brite. “For young people, it’s particularly important that they get tested. As part of that same visit, we are also providing comprehensive education about STD prevention and treatment. We are also constantly advocating to protect access to reproductive health care and ensure that all teens receive the comprehensive sex education they need to stay healthy and safe.” Brite is passionate about PPIL’s comprehensive approach toward girls’ and women’s health. While the organization is often lassoed in the press to its abortion services, “We’re so much more than that. The power to choose when and if to have children is a fundamental right of women.” To support this goal, she says contraceptive counseling is a very important service that’s offered, and PPIL is actively promoting long-acting reversible contraception. When Planned Parenthood’s funding from the Susan G. Komen for the Cure Foundation for breast screenings was surreptitiously cut last year, Brite was taken aback. “I was astounded at how loud women’s voices were during the Komen crisis,” she says. “Women really rose up and said ‘No, this is not going to happen. We are not going to politicize breast cancer.’” Brite is pleased with the outcome—the reversal of Komen’s decision. “Planned Parenthood hoped Komen would reverse their decision and we look forward to working with them—to have two critical women’s health organizations working toward the same goal, the early detection and prevention of breast cancer,” comments Brite. Educating girls about their own reproductive health is an important, but sometimes awkward, step in empowering their future. Brite points out that parents remain the go-to source for girls. “The first step is for parents to talk to their girls,” she says. “I’m a mom as well, and the first time or two is not always comfortable.” But, she adds, there is a wealth of material available online, including at plannedparenthood.org/parents, that assist in getting the conversation going. “Those chats are going to make our girls feel empowered because they’ll have that knowledge to make their own good decisions down the road.” She also recommends to keep that conversation going, especially in the face of the myths your child is sure to encounter. “Continue to talk as she grows older. The questions are going to change but you are the one she is going to look to for the right information.” —By Kelly Konrad
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We all need what Vicki Medvec has got—a better way to negotiate what we want while making the other person feel good about giving it to us. Medvec is the Adeline Barry Davee Professor of Management & Organizations at Northwestern’s Kellogg School of Management. She’s also the Executive Director of the Center for Executive Women, a consultant who regularly works with Fortune 500 companies like General Electric and Abbott Labs, and the mother of two savvy teenagers. Her passion is helping women grow into leadership roles, and empowering them to be better negotiators. As Medvec explains, it’s not that women don’t negotiate well. “In fact, they’re fierce negotiators for their kids and organizations!” she declares. “They just don’t negotiate for themselves with the same conviction as they do for others,” she says. According to Medvec, research has determined at least four reasons for this poor self-advocacy: • Men and women hear “no” differently. Men think, “not at this time,” but try again. Women think, “This is not negotiable—no means no.” • Women set less ambitious goals and perceive themselves as less qualified than their male counterparts in otherwise equal circumstances. For example, if a job description includes five criteria, women don’t apply unless they possess all five. Typically, men apply if they have only one. • Women view accomplishments—like a board seat or officer position—as a reward that is passively received for a job well done, rather than as a career path to be actively pursued. • Women don’t want to damage relationships.
Medvec recommends strategies to overcome these issues and create win/win outcomes. • Prepare for negotiations by identifying the important issues—yours and the other party’s. • Set ambitious goals—not just what you have to have, but what you want.
vicki medvec Professor, Kellogg School of Management, Northwestern University Lake Forest
•M eet face to face, acknowledge that you have their needs at heart, and make the first offer, which should be a package with multiple, equivalent possible outcomes. • Give yourself room to concede. As an example, Medvec describes her work with the female CEO of a small pharmaceutical firm, whose job required extensive travel. The CEO became pregnant, and thought she needed to quit. “Women don’t think to negotiate a change for themselves, the way that men do,” Medvec states. “So I helped her craft a proposal.” The firm was about to bring two new drugs to market at the same time; a situation that the company had never faced before. The CEO proposed that it was in the company’s best interest to reassign her traveling responsibilities to the sales force, so that she could focus full time on the successful launches. Her board agreed. She helped the company see and solve a problem, and she created a better future for herself in the process. Win for the company, win for the CEO. Whether you are negotiating in an employment, volunteer or family setting, Medvec’s strategies can empower you to craft a better future for yourself and others. — By Susan B. Noyes
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service Founded nationally in 1901, in Chicago in 1912 and on the North Shore in 1924, the Junior League has long empowered women by developing their potential. Through the volunteer efforts and leadership of its members, the League helps build better communities for others too. League members work together to tackle some of society’s most difficult problems—by identifying unmet needs, forging effective coalitions and working for change.
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francee harrington JP Morgan Chase Senior Vice President for Civic Affairs; former president of the Junior League of Chicago
The skills developed through League service often propel members to business, political and civic success. JP Morgan Chase Senior Vice President for Civic Affairs and former President of the Junior League of Chicago, Francia (Francee) Harrington, embodies this. Harrington is a natural to grow good ideas and good civic institutions: she’s smart, listens well, likes to collaborate and elevates others with her leadership. However, she credits her League service for substantially developing those skills and her vision—particularly her tenure as President from 1998 - 2000. During that time the League launched “Next Step,” a program that teaches teen mothers parenting skills, and helps them get a college education. The University of Chicago and the Illinois Subsequent Pregnancy Prevention Initiative were partners. The program was so successful that teen fathers asked to be included. The Chicago Child Care Society assumed responsibility for this program from the League several years ago. Since then, Harrington has become a civic powerhouse, using her skills and JP Morgan’s philanthropic dollars to facilitate a multitude of programs that substantially improve life for others in our city. For example, Harrington helped create the “Chase Your Dreams Program” at Lurie Children’s Hospital, which mentors youth in Chicago’s most underserved communities and provides professional, hands-on experiences that inspire them to continue their studies and pursue a career in health care. These days, Harrington is particularly enthusiastic about her board work on behalf of the Chicago History Museum and the Chicago High School For The Arts. “In the history of Chicago, this is the first free high school for the arts,” she says. “This provides a pipeline of diverse students into our world class arts organizations.” Originally, the Junior League was perceived to be an exclusive organization—probably because it was founded in 1901 by a debutante—but now, members reflect a wide range of backgrounds, interests and professional pursuits. The League recruits women of all races, religions and national origins who demonstrate an interest in and commitment to volunteerrism. They are empowered to be problem solvers, collaborators and leaders. And they empower others through their work finding good solutions to difficult societal issues too, like Harrington. —By Susan B. Noyes
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YOU’RE STRIPPED BARE. You’re emotionally spent. You’re baring your soul. You are …. powerful. It’s hard to imagine expressing the emotions that make most everyone want to hide under the covers— and finding power, strength and results. But for two Chicago bloggers, it’s their most intimate moments that inspire and empower a growing legion of followers. Chicagoans Katy Maher (aka “I Want a Dumpster Baby”) and Sheila Quirke (aka “Mary Tyler Mom”) write what any good writer does—what they know.
birthday. It’s powerful stuff. Her blog has made a tangible impact on pediatric cancer awareness. “Donna’s Cancer Story” led to involvement with the WTMX Eric and Kathy 36-Hour Radio Marathon and raised $306,000 in a single hour. “It (the original blog series) just morphed into something bigger, and the power of it is that Donna has become real, and meaningful. I still can’t wrap my head around it.” “There’s immense strength in showing your vulnerability,” says Quirke, “because it’s sacred.”
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In Quirke’s case, it’s motherhood, or more precisely, mothering through cancer and beyond. Her series, “Donna’s Cancer Story,” is one of the most intimate and profound pieces of blogging anywhere. Quirke takes her readers on a journey through her daughter’s brain cancer experience, beginning with her diagnosis, and ending with her last moments in her parents’ arms, just three months past her 4th
Maher’s decidedly more adult story is equally intense—blogging since early 2011, Katy shares her journey from homeless alcoholic to married, working and mother-to-be of twins. Writing about begging for money to buy more alcohol and openly admitting she was once the “stinky boozey homeless dudette” is maybe one of the riskiest things a blogger can do. But Maher owns and
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embraces her story, and in fact admits blogging about impending motherhood “is vulnerable for me.” The power in Maher’s blog posts doesn’t necessarily come from the open and honest discussion of her past. It’s the way she lives her life now—yes, open and honest—but also full of compassion and empathy. She’s a big believer in avoiding judgment and actively practicing gratitude. “It’s surprising to me how much people relate,” says Maher. “That’s incredibly humbling, and I’m really honored.”
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Both admit detractors can make comments that “stick,” but they don’t shy away from them. “I try to be sensitive and respectful,” says Quirke.
“I listen to them and ask myself, ‘Is this about me, or is it about them?’” says Maher. And both carry with them the full support of their families. “My parents are hugely supportive and proud,” says Maher. And when it comes to the really scary stuff—thoughts and feelings that could make people really uncomfortable? “There’s almost always that fear when you put it out there,” says Maher. “But if I’m not afraid, that’s when I want to do more. You want to challenge yourself.” Ask their readers— they’ll tell you these women are the coolest people on the planet. Ask them … “Oh, no, no, no, I’m not,” laughs Maher. Quirke is equally surprised at the online adoration. “It’s still shocking, and really overwhelming.”
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teens rule on these vacations By Andrea Guthmann
Planning your family’s spring
Got teens? As any parent knows, an unhappy teen can be the difference between an epic adventure and an epic fail. Thankfully, hotels, resorts and cruise lines are amping up the fun factor providing teen-specific options, from lounges and spa treatments to outdoor adventures. Here are some vacations where teens rule: break?
Caribbean Beat All-inclusive resorts in the Caribbean are some of your best bets when trying to please a too-cool teen. Just ask Cindy Richards, former travel editor of Chicago Parent and editor of the family travel-planning website, travelingmom. com. Her top pick? “Crush, the teen lounge at Atlantis Resorts in Paradise
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Island, Bahamas, is Shangri-La for just about any teenager,” says Richards. “A floor-to-ceiling video gaming tree, social media computer terminals—and best of all—no parents or younger siblings allowed after 8:30!” Crush also has a mocktail bar and uber-hip dance floor with pulsating lights. Knowing teens often talk tech better than face to face, an iPad is set up by the DJ booth for song requests. Another Caribbean hit with teens is Beaches resorts in Negril, Jamaica, and the islands of Turks and Caicos. After water-skiing, windsurfing or scuba diving, teens can chill at the game room or mix and mingle while making their own CDs. The reggae party continues at Club Liquid, a staff supervised alcohol-free nightclub just for teens and tweens.
Cruising Together “Teens can wreak havoc aboard ships, pushing elevator buttons and bothering other passengers,” says Carolyn Spencer Brown, editor of cruisecritic.com. “That’s why the cruise industry long ago started paying attention to teen customers. They know if teens are happy, typically everyone else is happy.” Spencer Brown’s top pick? “Hands down, Royal Caribbean is the best for teens. Between zip-lining, ice skating, teen lounges and Broadway shows, there’s no time to get bored. It’s also smooth sailing with teens aboard Princess Cruise Lines, and if there are younger siblings, Disney Cruises are a great choice, as they have something for everyone.” Mega ships aren’t your only teenfriendly option. “There are ships perfect for teens that have nothing to do
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with teen clubs,” says Spencer Brown. “Offbeat experiences aboard expedition boats can make for a great family vacation where you really get to learn about a place. Lindblad Expeditions and InnerSea Discoveries do a great job with these vacations.”
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Next time you’re planning a vacation, consider combining family bonding time with boredom-busters that include active adventure and a chance for your teen to meet up with other kids their age. Give your teenager the freedom to choose their own fun and you’ll end up with a family vacation where everyone wins. For great cold weather destinations for and with teens, download our iPad version or visit makeitbetter.net/family.
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Cruises and the Caribbean are exciting, but you don’t need a passport to plan a beach vacation your teen will warm up to—a new wave of U.S. beach resorts is reaching out to teens. It’s “no parents allowed” at Ritz Carlton Palm Beach’s Coast teen lounge. It features a gaming area, production studio, DJ booth and young staff that serve as unofficial teen concierges with information on where to go, what to see and what to do. Surfboard rentals and lessons, as well as
boogie board rentals, make going to the beach an adventure. A heavenly vacation will be had by all at Paradise Point Resort, San Diego’s island resort. It sits on a 44-acre island in Mission Bay, across the street from SeaWorld. A water taxi shuttles you to the back entrance of the amusement park, and if you buy your tickets at the resort, you get to skip any long lines. They can also make waves at the resort’s new surfing school. End your day in paradise with a beach bonfire— the hotel offers s’mores kits and plenty of fire pits. Another Southern California favorite, Loews Coronado Bay, has partnered with Pottery Barn to design a PBTeen lounge and even a PBTeen spa room. What better way to relax after a typical California day spent biking, surfing or jet skiing?
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Full gynecological exam. The American Cancer Society now recommends a Pap test every three years—rather than annually—until age 65 to detect early signs of cervical or ovarian cancer.
your health at every age Tests to get, tests to skip B Y L I N D S AY R O S E M A N
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Skin check. Since skin cancer is the most common form of cancer in the U.S., Dr. Amy Brodsky of Glenview suggests you start now and get checked every few years. Make visits an annual event once you hit 40. If you’ve had skin cancer or are fair-skinned with light eyes and moles, talk to your primary physician about more regular checkups earlier. Clinical breast exam (CBE). You should actually be getting this physical exam starting at age 20, so if your doctor doesn’t perform one at each check-up, be sure to request it. And don’t forget your regular self-exams. Thyroid function tests. Thyroid diseases affect millions of Americans, so it’s important to get screened every five years starting around age 35. If thyroid problems run in your family, talk to your doc about earlier testing. Blood pressure and cholesterol. These two health tests should be routinely performed at checkups starting in your 30s (or even sooner). If the initial results are in the normal range, there’s no need to test annually until your 40s. TESTS TO SKIP
HPV. Unless your regular Pap test comes back showing abnormalities, don’t worry about getting an HPV test on a regular basis. Vitamin D blood level. There’s a lot of hype, but not much evidence that Vitamin D levels need to be routinely tested if you maintain a healthy diet. This test is, however, important for older women with osteoporosis.
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Mammogram. Starting at age 40, the American Cancer Society recommends annual mammograms. If you have a family history of breast or ovarian cancer, talk to your doctor about additional tests starting at an earlier age. Comprehensive eye exam. Even with perfect vision and no signs of trouble, this is an important test to get because one in three Americans will have a visionimpairing eye disease by age 65. Blood glucose test. The American Diabetes Association strongly suggests annual tests beginning at age 45. Since men are more likely than women to have undiagnosed diabetes, it’s especially important for them to be proactive. Those who are overweight, obese or who have elevated blood pressure should start screening at an earlier age. A physical. Dr. Claudia Tiwet of Des Plaines recommends patients come in every one to two years for a general checkup starting at age 40. At 50, up to annual visits and be sure to ask for blood pressure, cholesterol and blood glucose tests. Dental screening. Since early detection is key for many oral cancers and pre-cancers, an exam of the entire mouth and throat during regular dental checkups is crucial. Any abnormal bumps or changes in tissue color could be cause for concern. So if it’s been a while since you’ve seen the dentist, make that appointment! Tests to skip
MRI screening. Unless your doctor strongly recommends one, you can skip an MRI to screen for cancers or other conditions. Recent studies have found that MRIs are often misinterpreted, so you could be in for a scare. C-reactive protein. This test that checks for heart disease is generally not recommended because it does not add any additional valuable information to your routine screening.
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Colonoscopy. For those at average risk, physicians recommend a colonoscopy at age 50 to screen for colon and colorectal cancers. If results are normal, you should be in the clear for about ten years; however, if you have polyps (potentially cancerous growths in the tissue of the colon) you may need a follow-up sooner. Tests to continue: Pap test (every 3 years), skin check (annually), thyroid function tests (every 5 years), blood pressure (annually at checkup), cholesterol (annually at checkup), blood glucose (annually, unless instructed otherwise), dental screening (every 6 months, or whatever your dentist recommends), mammogram (annually).
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Screening for age-related eye diseases. The American Academy of Ophthalmology strongly recommends complete eye exams every year or two after age 65 because of the high risks of conditions such as glaucoma and cataracts. Audiogram. If you’re noticing changes in hearing (or family members are complaining), pencil a hearing test into your schedule. However, this is not a routine test. Bone density scan. At age 65, both men and women should talk to their doctors about when and if they need one. This is typically recommended every two years to screen for thinning bone mass, which can increase the risk of fracture.
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Prostate cancer. BUT not everyone should skip this controversial test. It’s important to talk with your doctor to make an informed decision depending on your age and what a potential false positive may or may not mean for you.
Mental status exam. Your physician will start with a simple questionnaire in the office to detect early memory impairment starting with patients in their 70s and 80s. If this test yields abnormal results, the doctor may ask for more extensive testing.
Fecal occult blood test. Patients are generally safe with just the colonoscopy, but this test is important to do annually for those who refuse a colonoscopy. If combined with a double-contrast barium enema every five years, it can be just as effective as a colonoscopy.
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Cervical cancer. If regular testing for cervical cancer yielded normal results throughout your lifetime, the American Cancer Society says there’s no need to continue testing past age 65 (unless you have a history of cervical pre-cancer). EKG. Unless you show symptoms of heart disease, such as chest pain or shortness of breath, routine EKG or stress tests aren’t necessarily recommended.
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Thank you to the experts consulted: Dr. Claudia Tiwet, internal medicine, Advocate Health Care; Dr. Amy Brodsky, dermatologist, Glenview; Dr. Matthew Plofsky, primary care physician, NorthShore University HealthSystem; Dr. Melissa Lopez, dentist, City Kids Dental; Dr. Jim Limperis, dentist, Wilmette; American Cancer Society; American Diabetes Association; American Thyroid Association; American Academy of Ophthalmology
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more effectively than mammograms. Four states require that women getting their mammogram results also be told if they have dense breasts. Illinois has no such “must inform” law, but is one of only two requiring insurance companies to provide free coverage (no co-pays or deductibles) for an ultrasound screening if a mammogram reveals a woman has dense breasts, according to Are you Dense Advocacy. “If density information is not shared with women, they are uninformed participants in their own health care and therefore unable to advocate for themselves,” says JoAnn Pushkin, executive director of the organization. For women who would take action if they found out they have dense breasts—get annual mammograms, do self-exams, have in-office exams—"it would be important to know,” says Dr. Peter Jokich, a radiologist and director of the Breast Imaging Center at Rush University Medical Center in Chicago. So is getting an ultrasound the right move for most women? According to Jokich and other experts:
By Hilary Shenfeld
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mograms and Pap tests. Now two newer cancer detection tests that you may not have heard of—ultrasounds for women with dense breast tissue to search for breast cancer and the CA-125 blood test to look for ovarian cancer—are gaining attention. But does that mean you should get them? Ultrasounds for women with dense breasts
One of the first questions you’ll probably ask is “Do I have dense breasts?” It’s not easy to know, and you can’t tell by looking or feeling; imaging is the only way to find out. Breasts are composed of both connective tissue, which is dense, and fatty tissue, which is much less so. Connective tissue appears white on a mammogram, but so does cancer, so tumors can be difficult to spot. Mammograms measure density in breasts, which are classified from almost entirely fatty at the low end to extremely dense at the high end. The vast majority of women—80 percent—fall into the two middle categories, according the American College of Radiology. Having dense breasts raises the risk of developing breast cancer by up to sixfold (though not the chance of dying from the disease, according to recent research.) Ultrasounds and MRIs can spot problems
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Better at finding breast cancers than mammograms alone for women with dense breasts Widely available I s painless and does not expose you to radiation L ess invasive and expensive than MRIs The Cons
Has high false-positive rates, which can result in added testing and unnecessary biopsies Can be more expensive than mammograms Not enough evidence to recommend routine screenings, according to the American College of Radiology and the Society of Breast Imaging M any medical centers don’t offer screening ultrasounds
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In most cases, the minuses outweigh the pluses, Jokich says, so routine ultrasounds for women without dense breasts are not recommended. But that doesn’t mean women are stuck without options: “Mammography remains the gold standard for finding early breast cancer,” he says. CA-125 blood test
You may have gotten an email or been told by a friend to “demand this life-saving test!” which detects elevated levels of CA-125, a protein associated with ovarian cancer. So should you? Many doctors say for most women, the answer is no. “There is no controversy among experts in the field. We all agree it should not be offered in the general population,” says Dr. Lauren Streicher, an assistant professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago and author of “The Essential Guide to Hysterectomy,” adding that “major medical organizations such as The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists don’t recommend it.” The U.S. Preventative Services Task Force also recently recommended against screening for ovarian cancer for asymptomatic women, noting that it can lead to “important harms, including major surgical interventions in women who do not have cancer.” Most women don’t need it, Streicher says, because the test: Has a high rate of false-positives and can miss up to 50 percent of stage 1 cases Can show conditions other than cancer, such as endometriosis or fibroids Doesn’t decrease the number of women who die of the disease annually Could lead to unnecessary testing and surgeries Those who might benefit from CA-125 testing, according to Streicher, are women who: A re at high risk, which includes having a family history of the disease H ave tested positive for BRCA1 or BRCA2 mutations, which increase the risk of breast and ovarian cancers D isplay symptoms, such as persistent abdominal bloating, pelvic or abdominal pain or a significant increase in urinary frequency ad an ultrasound that showed a mass on an H ovary
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You’re starving, on the road, and have only seen fast food restaurants for miles. In other words, you are desperate. We can help! Not all fast food has to be crammed with calories, carbs, fat and sodium. Check out these healthier, lighter options at easy-to-find restaurants — all of which may sound slightly more enticing than the infamous Big Mac.
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1 Head to Panera Bread for a Breakfast Power Sandwich: all-natural egg, Vermont white cheddar and smoked, lean ham grilled on freshly baked whole grain bread. This sandwich is packed with protein and has 4 grams of fiber and 340 calories. 2 We liked McDonald’s breakfast options, such as the Fruit and Maple Oatmeal (under 300 calories and 5 grams of fat) and the Fruit and Yogurt Parfait (150 calories, 2 grams of fat).
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3 Check out Subway’s “6 grams of fat or less” menu, offering salads and sandwiches that are under 400 calories and, of course, under 6 grams of fat. Tempting options include the Veggie Delite and Oven Roasted Chicken with Spinach sandwiches, and the Turkey Breast and Sweet Onion/ Chicken Teriyaki salads. These are loaded with lean protein and are low on carbs, fat and calories. 4 Panera’s soup/salad/sandwich combo helps satisfy the carb craving without overloading on calories and sodium. Try choosing one of the delicious soups marked “LF” for low-fat, such as the Vegetarian Vegetable and Chicken Noodle, or the Classic Salad with only 90 calories and 5g of fat (including dressing). Healthy sandwich options include a half of the Roasted Turkey and Avocado BLT or the Tomato and Mozzarella Panini. By splitting the sandwich,
you’ll stay under 400 calories even with the side salad.
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5 For a decent balance of carbs, protein and fat, try Wendy’s Grilled Chicken Go Wrap. It’ll satisfy a hungry stomach while staying under 300 calories. 6 McDonald’s Real Fruit Smoothies are as nutritious as they sound: made with real fruit, ice and low-fat yogurt, these blended beverages contain 80% of your daily vitamin C, leaving you both refreshed and full!
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7 We are all about Chipotle’s Burrito Bowl option, which offers all the deliciousness of a burrito, minus the 290 calorie tortilla. Fill ’er up with fresh veggies, low-fat beans, lettuce, salsas and antibiotic- and hormonefree meat. This dinner is so nutritious, you can feel guilt-free adding on that scoop of guac … avocadoes are good for your skin, right?
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8 If you aren’t in the mood for Mexican, swing by Pizza Hut for their Fit and Delicious Pizza with flavors ranging from Chicken, Red Onion and Green Pepper to Ham, Pineapple and Diced Red Tomato. An eighth of these 12-inch pizzas will keep you under 200 calories and 5g of fat. Sodium and carb count are also relatively low.
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Salad Alert: Although we generally think of salads when we think healthy, research found that fast-food salads are often loaded with cheese, croutons and dressing, resulting in sky-rocketing calories and fat. Ask for the dressing on the side so you can add a little flavor
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(avoid Caesar dressing), hold the croutons and ask for your chicken grilled rather than breaded. Healthy Sides: Most fast food spots now also offer apple slices, carrot sticks or side salads as alternatives to that side of fries, so be sure to hit those up!
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9 Everyone needs to indulge their sweet tooth sometimes! Head to Burger King and grab a strawberry sundae or some vanilla soft serve. At less than 200 calories and 4 grams of fat, these options satisfy the craving without a heaping side of guilt.
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natural energy boosters B Y L I N D S AY R O S E M A N W I T H A D D I T I O N A L R E P O R T I N G B Y N O R A D U D L E Y
With shorter days and longer nights, you might be feeling the effects of seasonal affective disorder (SAD), a kind of depression that occurs at this time of year. Since SAD is more common in places with longer winter nights (hello, Chicago), we compiled a list of the best ways to naturally boost energy during the day and prevent that slow, sluggish feeling that goes hand-in-hand with winter months.
EAT A PROTEIN-PACKED SNACK
Jonny Bowden, certified nutritionist and author of “The 150 Most Effective Ways to Boost Your Energy,” (Fair Winds Press, 2011) recommends protein-heavy snacks during the day. Protein helps manufacture neurotransmitters that increase focus and energy, Bowden says. So reach for sliced deli meat or an apple paired with string cheese, a hard-boiled egg, or almond butter spread onto a few celery sticks.
GET MOVING FOR 30 SECONDS
When you’re looking to perk up during the workday, it’s important to think about what zapped your energy in the first place. If it’s because you’re sitting for long periods of time and not using major muscle groups, Bowden suggests 30-second high-intensity cardio bursts to get you going. Try 30 seconds of jumping jacks or running up and down the stairs a few times.
POWER UP WITH PEPPERMINT
Don’t stash away the peppermint just because the holidays are over! The smell of peppermint decreases fatigue and increases alertness, according to a study in the North American Journal of Psychology. Chew peppermint gum or mints to wake up your senses.
AVOID ENERGY DRINKS
These drinks are filled with artificial ingredients, chemical sweeteners and additives, which are destructive to our bodies.
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Fixing a project or getting something off your chest can be a “very energizing experience,” Bowden says.
EAT ONLY UNTIL SATISFIED, NOT FULL
Your stomach is the size of your fist, so it doesn’t take a lot to fill it. “Stuffing yourself taxes the digestive system and zaps energy levels, because all of the body’s energy is devoted to digestion,” says Northfield-based certified health counselor Christina Chodos.
DRINK MORE WATER
Dehydration is a common cause of fatigue, so load up on fluids to combat grogginess.
CATCH A FEW RAYS
Vitamin D is also known to boost energy, so get out of the office and walk to pick up lunch on sunny days.
SWAP COFFEE FOR GREEN TEA
Green tea gives you an energy boost minus the coffee-induced side effects. “I’ve found that tea provides not quite as much caffeine, but gives you a much brighter feeling for a much longer period of time,” Bowden says. “Theanine [an amino acid in tea] is very relaxing, so tea drinkers don’t get the jitters in the same way that coffee drinkers do.” Plus you’ll be burning fat, win-win.
FIND INNER PEACE (AND ENERGY) THROUGH YOUR BREATHING
Better breathing regulates oxygen flow in your blood and increases alertness, says certified health counselor Karolina Dolecka of Barrington. Set a timer for four minutes and sit with palms open on your knees, feet on the floor, eyes closed and breathe in for four counts. Hold in the breath for a few seconds and exhale slowly. Repeat.
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Take swim lessons to learn or perfect your stroke. Sign up for tennis or paddle at your local park district. Take a beginner yoga or pilates session. Get back on a horse and experience the thrill of riding. Give cross-country skiing a try. Take figure skating or hockey lessons. Work with a personal trainer to learn proper strength training techniques. Take a jazz or ballet dance class. make it happen
be an athlete in 2013 By Christy Coughlin
Instead of setting that same generic New Year’s resolution to lose 20 pounds and get fit, consider a more ambitious and inspiring goal. Choose to celebrate 2013 as an athlete noun 'ath-lēt, : a person who is trained or skilled in exercises, sports, or games requiring physical strength, agility, or stamina. Recognize yourself as an athlete and set a goal that will require training, planning and determination. The journey toward your goal will improve your health, get you out of your comfort zone and challenge you all year. You can do it if you give yourself a chance.
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Listen to that inner voice that has been urging you on. You know, that one that says someday I’ll ________. Instead of applauding only your kids and friends on their athletic accomplishments, set out to complete your own. Find something challenging but doable, then fill out the entry blank, pay the fee and hit “send” to make it
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real. Pick spring, summer and fall events, and commit now. Active.com is a great place to start event shopping. Start training toward your goal
R un your first 5K or move up to a half marathon. Complete a triathlon. P articipate in a long-distance charity walk. B ike an event of 25, 50 or even 100 miles. J oin that tennis, hockey, basketball, soccer, volleyball or swim team that’s always sending you emails. Commit to climb that mountain peak, walk around the lake or bike that destination that you have been talking about for years. learn and grow
Focus on a new sport in 2013. Your body will grow stronger and your brain will expand as you move in a new way. A new challenge will help defy the aging process.
Setting the goal, is the first step. Committing time, energy, focus and possibly money are next. Here are some action steps to make your goal a reality: Display the event poster, inspirational picture or a word to remind you of your goal throughout the day. Share your goal with family and friends, and solicit their support and participation. Develop a training plan for your event. Use a professional coach, online resources or a book to progress at an appropriate pace. Block training time on your calendar. You may have to get creative to accommodate travel and family commitments, but if it isn’t on your calendar you won’t do it. Record your workouts and progress in an online log or written journal. Invest in the right equipment to keep you comfortable, safe and healthy— good bike, running shoes and clothing designed for your sport. Make healthy decisions that support your goal—eat to power and nourish your athletic body, get adequate sleep and cut back on alcohol. Make this your year to be an athlete. We all have one inside. This year my goal is to complete one organized athletic event every month. I will run, swim, bike and maybe even paddle in 2013.
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Ready to start your 2013 fitness journey? Check out one of these fitness facilities on our Better List. bit.ly/move2013 Body Science PFT Wilmette
Deerfield Park District Deerfield
Midtown Athletic Club Bannockburn
Forever Om Yoga Lake Forest
North Shore Yoga Northfield
Birkram Yoga North Shore Glenview
The Dailey Method Kenilworth
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in the hearts of most parents. According to statistics, 1 out of every 100 girls between the ages of 10 and 20 struggles with anorexia, and four percent of college-aged women have bulimia. So how can parents distinguish between normal adolescent insecurities and the start of a dangerous eating disorder?
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“The most important thing a parent can do is listen,” says Dr. Susan McClanahan, a clinical psychologist who specializes in the treatment of anorexia and bulimia. She also is an instructor in psychiatry at Northwestern University Medical School and co-founder of Insight Behavioral Health Centers. “Early intervention is extremely important in the treatment of this disease,” says Dr. McClanahan. “If you notice your teen focusing on body image and weight issues, it can be an early warning sign that it’s time to get professional help.” Here are some behaviors Dr. McClanahan says may signal a child in the early stages of an eating disorder: Talking about feeling “fat,” criticizing her looks, avoiding situations where she would show her body (such as wearing a bathing suit). Dieting, especially with significant
weight fluctuation. Early dieting is associated with later development of eating disorders. Restricting what is acceptable. First she wants to be vegetarian, then vegan, then gluten-free. She may seem obsessed with only eating “healthy” foods. Hiding or hoarding food, or food going missing. Refusing to eat in front of you. Changing moods or personality traits, such as withdrawing, easily angered or unable to concentrate. Wearing baggy clothing, or clothing inappropriate for the season (long sleeves on a hot day). Increasing the amount of exercise, exercising at the expense of social activities or school work, becoming anxious or angry when unable to exercise, or compensating for eating
“bad” foods by over-exercising. Purging or compensating for overeating or eating “forbidden” foods, such as vomiting, or use of diet pills, diuretics, enemas, and laxatives. “If a child is exhibiting any of these behaviors, parents should start a conversation emphasizing their concern for health and wellbeing,” says Dr. McClanahan. “Don’t be afraid to seek professional help. Eating disorders are very complex and tough to navigate without a trained therapist.” Insight Behavioral Health Centers provides treatment for adolescents and adults dealing with eating disorders including anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating disorder. Insight offers a comprehensive program with locations in Northbrook, Evanston, Willowbrook and Chicago. For more information, visit insightbhc.com, or call 312-540-9955.
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Auto insurance? Check. Health insurance? Check. Longterm care insurance? Not so fast. The subject is not typical dinner conversation. But with the impending onslaught of baby boomers entering their senior years, the question of their ongoing care is a real concern. According to the AARP Bulletin, the odds that you’ll need longterm care after the age of 65 are 70%—that’s how many Americans the publication estimates will likely need nursing home care or assistance with activities of daily living. Is long-term care insurance (LTCI) the answer to quality care at home or in a first-class nursing care setting? And, what does it provide, who should buy it and what does it cost?
What about Medicare? “Medicare does not pay for day-to-day care in the home,” says Gail Steingold, principal, Burling Insurance Group Long Term Care in Chicago. The general advice is to first talk to your financial advisor about your goals as well as a reputable insurance broker who has expertise in LTCI. The top three providers are Genworth, Northwestern Mutual and John Hancock. “We talk about the limits of LTCI in terms of a pool of money,” says Steingold. “For example, people buy $200 to $500k and more, depending on their assets. That amount could cover their care for up to five years at home, or three years in an institutional setting.” Dawn Helwig, a LTCI expert, principal and consulting actuary with the Chicago office of Milliman, says the insurance “buys you financial freedom and avoids the possibility of going on Medicaid.” Also, LTCI is not just for older adults. Cancer is the leading cause of claims for insureds under the age of 65. “Health insurance does not cover custodial care, such as help getting dressed or help eating,” explains Steingold.
Your Health Status Is Important “The longer you wait, the harder it is to get coverage because of health status,” says Steingold. “If you have MS, ALS or have had strokes or are already receiving assisted living services you are not insurable.” Statistics indicate that the average age of policyholders is 58. “Seven to 10 percent of the non-Medicaid population has LTCI,”
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said Helwig. The American Association for LongTerm Care says Alzheimer’s is the leading cause of claims over age 65, and is the most frequent, longest and most expensive claim.
What Does It Cost? For a husband and wife, both age 55 and in good health, the average annual premium is $2,350, according to a reference in the AARP Bulletin. The range is $2,085 to $3,970 depending on your health history and the insurer. Premiums can rise over time, but increases are never based on your personal medical history, and require state regulatory approval. LTC insurance is not limitless. In the above scenario, the 55-year-old couple qualifies for $338,000 in coverage as soon as they pay their first premium. That amount increases over time to $821,500 by age 85. Many plans also have deductibles, meaning you will have to pay out a certain amount for care before coverage kicks in. And if your medical needs exceed those amounts, you will have to pay the balance. Finally, Helwig said that females are the leading purchasers of LTC insurance. “They live longer, are usually the caregivers and are most likely to become single first.”
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Michael Del Piero helps a newly married North Shore couple blend their styles by TAT E G U N N E R S O N photos by J A N E T M E S I C M A C K I E
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Palette To create a palette that would appeal to both, Del Piero selected neutral shades of gray, blue and ochre. She also convinced the owners to tone down their crisp white trim with a more muted color. “It gives the home a soft, serene, sophisticated feel,” Del Piero explains.
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and took up residence in a new Shingle Style home in Winnetka, they hired interior designer Michael Del Piero to help them design an interior that would appeal to their blended family. “It was important that all our kids feel comfortable in our home and that everything isn’t new. We didn’t want to start over,” the owner says. During the nearly one-year renovation project, Del Piero helped the owners to select a new interior color palette, repurposed their existing furnishings and incorporated an eclectic mix of accessories. “They both have excellent taste, but he’s more contemporary and appreciates a little more color while she’s more traditional and prefers neutrals,” Del Piero explains.
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Furnishings With seven children in total, space is at a premium during family gatherings. To make the most of the modestly sized living room, Del Piero designed it as a salon with a banquette for seating. She also recovered an existing contemporary Italian chair and ordered a matching chair in the same fabric. “Everybody feels like it’s home,” the wife says, pointing to the many pieces that Del Piero re-used, including a much-beloved tapestry of a deer that now commands attention on a prominent dining room wall. “We talked about putting a hutch for storage there instead, but this has been part of the family for 25 years, and we love it,” the wife says. Having familiar objects around is even more important to me now because of our combined family situation.” Accessories Del Piero is known for the globally sourced artifacts that she carries in her Bucktown design studio, Michael Del Piero Good Design, and she introduced many such pieces throughout the home, including a French textile in the living room, Chinese pottery on the mantel and a hand-carved marble dish from India in the kitchen. After learning that the owners were both Swedish and celebrate Swedish Christmas every year, Del Piero suggested that they incorporate an antique Swedish lantern, which sits in their front foyer. “We wanted pieces that we have connection with,” the wife explains, pointing to a pen and ink drawing that hangs above an antique Chinese altar table in the front foyer. “For ten years, it was in the entryway of my husband’s apartment downtown. I love that it greets us here, and I know my stepchildren are happy to see it. After working with Michael, I have a greater appreciation for loving what you live with.”
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10 things you can throw out right now By Laur a Hine
Now that the holidays are over, take 10 minutes for the next 10 days and throw out 10 things each day. You will dramatically change the way your home looks and feels, and at no cost! Here’s my handy list of 10 things that you don’t have to donate or find a home for—toss them guilt free.
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Clothing with holes or stains Sorry to tell you, but not even charities want your ratty clothes. Toss them with a clear conscience.
Stacks of old magazines The content is online (and in Make It Better’s case, also on the iPad for free!). You don’t need physical magazines all over your coffee tables, end tables and stacked up in your kitchen. Keep the current month and toss the rest.
Product boxes
The box your DVR came in is of no use to you once you’ve plugged it in and started using it. If it works, toss the box.
You can’t donate it if it’s not pristine, and if your kids aren’t playing with it, toss.
Beauty products you don’t love The scent isn’t quite right or it makes your hair greasy, not shiny. The product isn’t improving with age, so toss.
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Old bank statements, credit card bills, etc
Open food packages
If you opened it more than 7 days ago, toss it. Chances are it won’t kill you, but it’s not optimally fresh either. And face it, no one is going to cook the last 2 ounces of pasta that are rattling around in a box.
Toys or games that are missing pieces
The exercise DVDs you don’t have time to use, the self-help book your sister-in-law sent. If it’s staring at you, making you feel guilty, pitch it. (You can donate, if it’s in tip-top shape, but I say why pass on the bad karma?)
If it’s for your taxes, obviously hold onto it, but anything older than three years should be shredded. All your records are online, so no need to have duplicate paper copies (and sign up for online statements while you’re at it!).
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If you’re not working on it, it’s just clutter. I kept a halffinished baby quilt until I went to the “baby’s” bat mitzvah and realized I would never finish it. Out it went!
Broken anything
I have a beautiful glass bowl with a chip that has sat on my husband’s workbench for six months now. Even if he does try to fix it, the bowl will never be the same. I have other bowls, time to let this one go.
Check out the online version of this article for our reader’s ideas on what to toss, plus some donation ideas. It’s at makeitbetter.net/ at-home.
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Many jobs require you to dress the part, but we believe your personality should also be highlighted in your workwear wardrobe. From the board room to a casual office, we’ve created a variety of looks that you can mix and match and make work for your personal style and job description.
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Bejeweled sweater, $90, Top Shop
Vince blouse, $275, Frances Heffernan
Slim pant, $170, Karen Millen
Graziella necklace, $340, Frances Heffernan
On the Rocks bangle, $128, Kate Spade Coated jeans, $130, Karen Millen
Marc by Marc Jacobs satchel, $598, Bloomingdale’s
Snake print tote, $175, Karen Millen
Leopard print heels, $225, Karen Millen
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Stone necklace, $178, Kate Spade
LUNCH MEETING Tailored cotton shirt, $170, Karen Millen
Wool jumper, $40, H&M
Dress, $290, Karen Millen
Tory Burch dome bag, $550, Bloomingdale’s
Leather tote, $340, Karen Millen
Isaac Mizrahi tweed pumps, $150, Bloomingdale’s Salvatore Ferragamo burgundy pumps, $550, Bloomingdale’s
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Mima necklace, $165, Frances Heffernan
NETWORKING EVENT Bow blouse, $190, Karen Millen
Theory blouse, $215, Bloomingdales
Quilted skirt, $140, Top Shop
Suit jacket, $380; Skirt, $190, Karen Millen
Python bag, $548, Kate Spade
MICHAEL Michael Kors large tote, $398, Bloomingdales
Ballet flat, $178, Tory Burch
Ivanka Trump pumps, $110, Lori’s
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try hot yoga BY FORE VER OM YOGA
FOCUS AND STRESS REDUCTION
OUTSIDE, it’s time to heat it up indoors.
Stoll emphasizes the meditative element of hot yoga. Practitioners develop a keen sense of focus as they concentrate on movement and breath rather than the heat. This total focus requires taking a mental break from the daily grind to hold warrior or move into down dog. Hot yoga becomes an effective strategy for stress reduction and a way to eliminate built-up tension.
Popular since the 70s, hot yoga has grown and evolved into different variations to appeal to a wide audience. The one thing all hot classes have in common is sweat! BASICS OF HOT
At Forever Om in Lake Forest, the focus is on an athletic, meditative and spiritual version of hot. The room temperature is hot and humid, 90° with 60% humidity. “The moisture in the air allows for a complete body detox, and is the key aspect of our hot classes,” says Priscilla Stoll, Forever Om owner. During the Power Vinyasa classes, movements are linked by breath as you flow from one asana (posture) to the next in a room designed specifically for high heat and humidity.
HOT FOR ALL
Most of us can benefit from hot yoga, but Stoll cautions those with medical restrictions to consult their physician first. Forever Om offers classes at all levels, but suggests newcomers begin with a shorter, hourlong class. Basics workshops are offered once a month. Practitioners are guided by their own abilities to move into various poses. You may move to
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To prepare for a hot class, drink plenty of water and come well hydrated. Stoll suggests eating a light meal a few hours before class. Makeup, lotions and perfumes are discouraged. Hot yoga is done barefoot on your own mat, possibly with the help of a special yoga mat designed to prevent slipping. Forever Om provides towels to help wipe the sweat. And you will sweat! Stoll recommends drinking during and after the class along with eating a healthy meal shortly after. If you haven’t tried hot; winter is the season. Chase away the chills, get a body detox, move freely with warm muscles, and reduce stress as you focus ... and sweat.
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write to change the world There is power behind a pen. If you are a passionate advocate for the ideas and causes you believe in, here is your chance to make your message both meaningful and powerful all at once. Join Make It Better and The OpEd Project for an engaging one-day writer’s workshop and leave empowered to find your voice and to better advocate for the ideas and causes you believe in.
• Thursday, January 31, 2013 • 8:45 a.m. - 3 p.m. • Winnetka Community House • $295 per person • Lunch provided • Register at mibwritersworkshop. eventbrite.com
The OpEd Project’s highly energetic, dynamic curriculum is built on experiential learning: high-stakes scenarios, Socratic dialogue, and interactive exercises that challenge participants to think more carefully and more expansively about their knowledge and why it matters, and to communicate it with greater urgency and impact.
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financial websites women should know By Meghan Streit
There’s so much financial advice
floating around on the Internet it can be hard to separate the good from the bad. That’s why we’ve rounded up some of our favorite finance-focused sites to help you make the most of your money—whatever your personal goals or stage in life.
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Philanthropic ladies will want to bookmark Charity Navigator. This site evaluates thousands of non-profits based on their financial health, transparency and accountability, making it easier for you to decide which groups deserve your donations.
Sign up for daily doses of practical financial advice delivered right to your inbox. Recent emails tackled topics like keeping your money separate from your spouse’s and beauty products that deliver bang for your buck. The emails are entertaining and short enough to read in line at the supermarket.
Sadly, it takes more than a setit-and-forget-it 401(k) to have a secure retirement. Brush up on investing, social security, retirement plans and managing money as a divorcée or widow on this site that is dedicated to educating and empowering women.
msmoney.com
seekingalpha.com
mominventors.com
This info-packed site covers all of the basics, from investing to estate planning, all with an eye toward women’s unique financial goals and challenges—without frothy pink graphics or condescending copy.
Stay up to date on market news, get alerts on stocks you own and find investment ideas on Seeking Alpha, a website for the savvy woman (or man) who wants to get down to business.
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If you’ve got a child in high school (or in diapers, for that matter), this site will give you an education in saving for college and choosing the best 529 plan for your family.
From drafting a basic budget to building a killer portfolio, LearnVest has a range of tools for the actionoriented woman who wants to take control of her finances.
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This site provides a place for moms to exchange ideas and inspiration with other mothers who are entrepreneurs and small business owners. You’ll find resources like a financial forecast worksheet and profit margin calculator.
THEGROCERYGAME.COM
Who has time for extreme couponing? For $10 every eight weeks, this site will aggregate grocery coupons for you and tell you when to use them to get the best deals.
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TODAY’S MATING GAME IS BEING played by a whole new set of rules, and they’re complicated. In a recent phone interview, relationship expert Emily Morse, radio host of Sex with Emily and star of the new Bravo TV show Miss Advised, gave me the lowdown on how singles get together.
Finding love in a high-tech, hook-up world BY MAR JIE KILLEEN
Spoiled for Choice Online dating and social media have become so popular, urban singles have access to a huge pool of potential mates that extends far beyond their social circle. As Morse says, “We now have so many options of people to date. It used to be you’d meet someone at a bar or someone would introduce you to a family friend, but now you have a match.com profile and you’ve got 60 people asking you out.” Forty million singles use online dating services in the U.S., which makes it pretty easy to find partners who share your interests, values and relationship goals. Virtual Courtship Much of the getting-to-know-you flirtation now takes place through texts or emails that can quickly become intimate, sometimes creating the illusion of a hot romance before a couple has ever even met. “All of the courtship happens online; you barely talk,” says Emily, amused by friends who get into emotional texting fights with guys they’ve never laid eyes on. “I think you should meet as soon as possible, because otherwise you start to create in your mind an image of who this person is and you have no idea how he’s really representing himself.”
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Constant Contact One of the good things about technology is that it provides easy, low-risk ways to stay in touch. There’s no longer that agonizing waiting by the phone. Couples readily connect throughout the day through light tweets, texts and photos. That frequent interaction can be flattering and fun, but it also can be distracting, says Emily. “Why do you have to be in touch with your partner ten times a day?” she asks. “What is there to say? Doesn’t it take some of the mystery out of it?” But she admits she’s as addicted to her cell phone as the next girl.
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Dates are Becoming Outdated Even for couples that meet and like each other, dinner and a movie may not be the next step. A whole evening spent one-on-one could be considered too much pressure. “People used to actually go on dates,” recalls Morse. “If someone wanted to see you on the weekend they had to call you a few days in advance. Now people aren’t dating, they’re texting: ‘What’s up, are you free tonight, can you hang out?’ It’s very last minute. I think a lot of the chivalrousness that used to come with dating isn’t there anymore.”
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50 Shades of Exclusivity In this looser, more casual arena, sex doesn’t always mean commitment, especially for online daters who may pursue several relationships at once. “You shouldn’t assume you’re exclusive unless you’ve had the talk,” warns Emily. “I don’t care if you’ve been sleeping together for six months. If you’ve never had the ‘it’s you and me babe’ talk, then you might be in a sexual relationship, but you’re not in an exclusive relationship.” Many men and women are postponing marriage and family, and this extended period of being single is creating new views on monogamy. Modern singles need to be really clear about communicating their expectations, or risk getting hurt. As Emily says, there are a lot of ways to cheat. Love Doesn’t go out of Style Modern courtship has evolved, but a true love match is still attainable, as Deborah, 35, from Evanston can attest. Over the years Deborah tried set ups and online dating but nothing seemed to stick. Deborah isn’t sure if it’s fear, or the fact that everyone is so used to dating online that “they don’t even bother trying to meet someone organically anymore.” Then 18 months ago, she met Steve at a charity event. After they were introduced, Steve contacted her on Facebook and they spent several weeks getting to know one another online until Steve asked her out—on a real date! They’ve been going strong ever since. “I always said the only qualification I had for a boyfriend was that he just be normal; so long as he wasn’t socially inept, I would give him a shot. And if you happen to find someone who’s not just normal, but amazing, consider yourself lucky,” she says. “I know I do.” Need more advice?
Check out an interview with Wilmette’s own Miss Advised, Julia Allison née Baugher, on makeitbetter.net/entertainment/movies-tv
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agree, because I saw more people dining here for lunch than on my previous visits combined. And the food, I think, warrants it. They’ve combined Italian favorites with upscale, Mediterranean takes on old standbys. So whether you’re here for a business meal, a friendly outing or a birthday lunch, they’re serving what you want to eat.
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Sweet and Spicy! And if you start your meal with the Sweet and Spicy Calamari ($10), you’ll This being the third time I have be happy. The lightly battered squid is reviewed a restaurant in this particular flash fried and tossed with a drizzle of space, I arrived with some trepidation. balsamic syrup and finely minced giarBut from the moment I walked in the dinera. It’s an unexpected but welcome door and saw that they had finally ex- pairing, with just the right amount of posed the huge windows overlooking heat and sweet; and although the dish Deerfield Road and let some light in the had cooled by the time it got to the tarestaurant—literally opening it up to ble, the squid was perfectly tender. the community around it—I had a feelWe were disappointed by the Salming that this one was a keeper. on Pastrami ($9), vaunted as a signature dish. The problem Let There Be Light was not the house-cured Bobby’s Deerfield Light changes the mood fish, silky and delicious, 695 Deerfield Rd. in a restaurant. With the two but the potato pancake beDeerfield 847-607-9104 previous tenants (Red Star neath, which was impossibobbysdeerfield.com Tavern and Townhouse, corbly oily and mushy. If they porate joints from the same get the latke right, it will parent company), that feelbe a killer dish. ing was too dark, too closed The Bobby’s Salad ($11) in. At Bobby’s Deerfield (did anyone was a pleasant mix of tastes and texelse catch that play on words from the tures, including chopped tomatoes, 70s Al Pacino film?), owners Bobby and cucumbers, roasted peppers, broccoli, Augie Arifi of Glenview’s popular Café asparagus, hearts of palm, chickpeas Lucci are going a different route. Done and bleu cheese, all tossed with mixed up in black, white, red and shades greens and a light balsamic vinaigrette. of gray, the space projects You can add Grilled Chicken ($5) or a cool, comfortable Cold Shrimp ($3 per piece) to any salad elegance that is to make it more of a meal. still playful. You won’t need to add a thing to Clearly Bobby’s Burger ($12), ten ounces of p e o p l e ground brisket and short rib beef
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topped with Gouda cheese and fixings, served on a custom Gonnella bun with a side of well-seasoned, skin-on fries. Could they have been crisper? Yes, but they were still tasty.
Don’t Miss… For dessert, you can skip the so-so Chocolate Cake ($6), which was a little too sweet and not deep, dark chocolatey enough for us. Instead, opt for the outstanding Banana Coconut Cake ($6), four layers of moist banana cake layered with coconut cream custard, frosted with vanilla buttercream and topped
with toasted coconut. Lord have mercy! Still dreaming about that one. Bobby’s is open for lunch Monday through Friday, and for dinner nightly. While our service left a little to be desired (appetizers weren’t hot, and our server tried to divvy them up for us without asking first; we had to ask for drinks—and later the check—twice), I think it had nothing to do with the kitchen. And Bobby is a constant presence in the dining room, helping servers, checking on tables and keeping things happy, so I’m not worried. And now that Deerfield can actually see into the restaurant, I have a feeling that this place is going to be embraced. Tasty food, convivial host, comfortable and stylish interior… I’d say the third time’s the charm.
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Keep Abreast of It Those fries also accompany Augie’s Cackler ($11), one of the best chicken sandwiches I’ve had in recent months. Served on a whole-grain Kaiser roll, the super moist, marinated breast is layered with sprightly arugula, feta cheese and a savory black olive/caper/ sun-dried tomato tapenade. Delish! Pasta shines here, unsurprisingly. We loved the special Rigatoni Marla ($12) with tomato-vodka sauce and crumbled Italian sausage. The pasta was perfectly al dente, and the portion
was more than ample to split; it was super rich but so yummy. Apparently they have a way with boneless chicken breasts here—the Chicken Caprese ($12 at lunch), sautéed with white wine and plum tomatoes, is topped with melted, fresh mozzarella and basil, and served with a side of sautéed Italian veggies. Again, the bird was fork tender and beautifully seasoned.
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let that deter you. At least you know they won’t run out of dough before you get there! 8541 Ferris Ave., Morton Grove, 847965-7997
hey diners, drive-ins and dives:
Cozy Noodle The grooviest Thai restaurant around, the walls are lined with wacky collections of vintage lunchboxes, Pez dispensers and bobble heads under the approving gaze of a giant Elvis (white jumpsuit and all). Great lunch specials, and the menu ranges from mild to spicy. Filled with college students. 1018 Davis St., Evanston, 847-733-0101, cozyevanston.com Cross Rhodes Carrying on in the tradition of late owner Jeff Russell, they’ve got the best Greek salad, spanakopita, gyros and Greek chicken around. I’ve been eating here for 23 years and I still crave it. And if you can resist the super-rich double chocolate cake, you’ve got more will power than me! 913 Chicago Ave., Evanston, 847-475-4475, crossrhodes.biz D’s Haute Dogs Sure, you can have a burger, or a regular hot dog or brat, but that’s not why you’re here. Aim for The Zeus (gyros sausage, tomatoes, onions, cukes, feta and tzatziki) or maybe The Reubens (corned beef sausage, Swiss cheese, sauerkraut and Russian dressing) to get the real feel of the place. The suburbs’ answer to Hot Doug’s. 551 Lincoln Ave., Winnetka, 847386-6238, dshautedogs.com
Yo, Guy Fieri! Give me a minute, dude.
Love your show, and you’ve featured a fair number of solid Chicago joints over the last umpteen seasons of Triple D, which I appreciate. But bro-ski, you’re killing us here on the North side. We’ve got some awesome places with killer food, but we are getting none of your love. Check out the list below for some of our faves, including some cool ethnic spots that you’ve missed. Hit us up!
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Ba Le Sandwich & Bakery Bite into perfectly crusty, freshly made Vietnamese baguettes stuffed with pickled daikon and carrots, fresh cilantro and your choice of filling. Go for the lemongrass-marinated BBQ pork or the Vietnamese meatballs. 5014 N. Broadway, Chicago, 773-561-4424, balesandwich.com Burt’s Place A true mom & pop, everything here is freshly prepared by Burt, who also happens to have the most incredible, heroic beard. You need to make a reservation and order your pizza in advance, but don’t
Michael’s Chicago-Style Redhots Mr. Fieri, it’s never too late for your bar mitzvah, and I suggest you have the party here (like every other kid on the North Shore). Natch, they have great charbroiled dogs, burgers and fries, but it’s the chopped salads that have the parents lined up. 1879 2nd St., Highland Park, 847432-3338, michaelshotdogs.com
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Lucky Platter Owner Eric Singer is a lover of outsider and garage sale art, and his place has a funky-cool feel that brings in families and hipsters for breakfast, lunch and dinner. From the beloved Apricot Cheese Flakey to the Tandoori Chicken Sandwich and Pasta with Turkey Meatballs, this is Evanston’s soul food. And psst! Guy! There’s a Friday night Prime Rib special you’ll dig. 514 Main St., Evanston, 847-869-4064, luckyplatter.com
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Mrs. D’s Diner If you don’t know “the D’s” on the way in, you’ll know them before you leave. It’s just that kind of place; the walls filled with hand-drawn pictures and messages of love to owners Christina and Dmitri Kapetan and their classic diner food. Here, you feel like family. 415 4th St., Wilmette, 847-256-2580 Pita Inn The lunch line is insane, and one bite of the chicken shawarma or kifta kabob is enough to make you a believer. I love the fatoush salad and the gourmet falafel sandwich. Great for party deliveries, too. Glenview, 847-759-9990; Skokie, 847-677-0211; Wheeling, 847-808-7733, pita-inn.com Prairie Joe’s If there’s a better place to play “I Spy,” I have yet to find it. Filled with the fanciful art of owner Aydin Dincer and random garage sale finds, the menu boasts homemade soups, awesome vegetarian and diner specials, fountain favorites and more. 1921 Central St., Evanston, 847-491-0391, prairiejoes.com Superdawg First opened in 1948, their trademark 12-foot hot dog icons still proudly stand at the corner of Devon, Nagle and Milwaukee Avenues on the city’s NW side. It’s the classic Chicago hot dog stand, writ large. I’m a fan of the “Whoopskidawg,” their version of a Polish sausage, especially in their whimsical packaging. Everything is “super” here! 6363 N. Milwaukee Ave., Chicago, 773-763-0660; 333 S. Milwaukee Ave., Wheeling, 847459-1900, superdawg.com Taco Diablo This feels like it’s been around forever, though it’s new this year. Wash down your chorizo and egg or your carne asada taco with a Jarrito or Agua Fresca. Or have proprietor Daniel Kelch make you a kick-ass margarita. Muy caliente! 1029 Davis St., Evanston, 847-868-8229, tacodiabloevanston.com Tank Noodle You’re not here for the atmosphere (which, for the record, is mostly formica and fake plants). Wait in line, cram into your table, and prepare your taste buds for a ride. From selfwrapped spring rolls to congee, hot steamy pho to seafood fire pots, it’s a wild one. 4953 N. Broadway, Chicago, 773-8782253, tank-noodle.com Taste of Cuba Pressed Cuban sandwiches filled with roasted pork, sliced ham and pickles are at their best paired with a tropical mango milkshake, especially with a side of Yuccas Fritas with house mojo sauce. And the Ropa Vieja! Dios mio! The closest you’ll get to Cuba without a visa. 3918 W. Touhy Ave., Lincolnwood, 847-674-2822, tasteofcubacafe.com Teddy Fabz They will win your heart with their fry basket. Zucchini sticks, fried pickles (with apricot chipotle sauce!), onion rings and sweet potato fries will bring you joy (and add a few pounds). This family-owned business is a neighborhood favorite. 663 Lake Cook Rd., Deerfield, 847-498-5656, teddyfabz.com
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take First runs and classics make way to Chicago area stages By Robert Loer zel This month, Chicago gets to see
a few plays that were already big hits in New York. These might be old news as far as East Coast critics are concerned, but the Second City is first-rate — so don’t be shocked if the plays are even better here than they were on Broadway.
Bengal Tiger at the Baghdad Zoo Begins January 30 Lookingglass Theatre, 821 N. Michigan Ave., Chicago | 312-337-0665 lookingglasstheatre.org When Rajiv Joseph’s Pulitzer Prize-finalist drama was on Broadway, it got some attention because it starred Robin Williams. But the play itself, an artful and haunting meditation about the Iraq War, was the real attraction. Lookingglass seems like the perfect Chicago theater to perform this magical story of ghosts, talking tigers and very real violence.
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Sweet Charity January 22 – March 31 Writers’ Theatre, 325 Tudor Ct., Glencoe 847-242-6000 | writerstheatre.org Musicals were almost unheard of at Writers’ Theatre until 2009, when the elegant “A Minister’s Wife” debuted here. Unlike that world premiere, “Sweet Charity” is a well-known commodity; the story of a dancehall hostess down on her luck. But don’t expect a typical Broadway show. With the estimable Michael Halberstam at the helm, musical director Doug Peck is remaking the score for a live jazz combo. The Magnificents January 18 – March 10 House Theatre at the Chopin, 1543 W. Division St., Chicago 773-769-3832 thehousetheatre.com Dennis Watkins, the magician who starred in last year’s spectacular House show “Death and Harry Houdini,” revives another play filled with illusions. It’s been done before, but Watkins will surely have some new tricks up his sleeve. The Whipping Man January 18 – February 24 Northlight Theatre, 9501 Skokie Blvd., Skokie 847-673-6300 | northlight.org At the end of the Civil War, a Jewish Confederate soldier holds Seder in a half-
destroyed house — with two former slaves raised in his household, who also happen to be Jewish. Playwright Matthew Lopez’s drama focuses on this seemingly unlikely historical moment, finding “a quiet force,” according to a New York Times critic.
Girlfriends at the Goodman Just like a good book will have you and your friends debating plot points over a bottle of wine, so can a great theater experience—and we’ve got just the play to see. “Other Desert Cities” is a fascinating peek into the lives of one family as they struggle to come to terms with a daughter’s decision to write a book about a controversial event in their past. Some things are just better left unsaid … right? Join Make It Better on January 20 for a special VIP experience, including a post-show discussion with members of the cast! There’s only 20 spaces, so grab your tickets now using the special promo code MIB at goodmantheatre.org/tickets/reserve. aspx?performancenumber=5058
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The Motherf**ker With The Hat December 28 – March 3 Steppenwolf Theatre, 1650 N. Halsted St., Chicago | 312-335-1650 | steppenwolf.org The play with the expletive in its title got lots of exclamations from critics when it debuted on Broadway in 2011. Even then, Stephen Adly Guirgis’s comedy about modern love had a strong Chicago connection — the director was ETHS grad Anna D. Shapiro, who had previously guided that landmark epic, “August: Osage County.” Now, Shapiro comes back to her home base at Steppenwolf to direct “Motherf**ker” with a cast including Jimmy Smits. Don’t let the title scare you off.
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resolving to read that recommendation B Y k e l ly ko n r a d Forget those five pounds —you promised your friend you were going to read that book—the one she’s
recommended to you every time you see her. I recommend books to friends all the time, and now it’s my turn to listen to them. Here are some of the “must read” books I haven’t read yet. What are yours?
The Red Tent Anita Diamant Perfect for anyone who loves historical fiction—it’s a look into the lives of women in biblical times, as told by Dinah, daughter of Jacob.
Cutting for Stone Abraham Verghese I know as soon as I read it, I’ll ask myself what took so long. The love of family combined with medicine and miracles—the story of twins Marion and Shiva Stone promises to entertain.
The Tiger’s Wife Tea Obrecht A “best book of 2011” favorite, Obrecht’s tome is not an easy read—a young woman’s search for how her grandfather met his fate, set in eastern Europe, is both touching and tragic.
A Prayer for Owen Meany John Irving The looks I get when I admit I haven’t read this Irving classic! (Psst … I haven’t read “Watership Down” either!) Two boys, one foul ball, and what happens when Owen believes he’s doing God’s work.
This is How You Lose Her Junot Diaz Diaz’ follow-up to “The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao” has a lot of buzz behind it as one of 2012’s best reads. Through a series of short stories lies the core of the book—the power of loving relationships in their many forms.
The Elegance of the Hedgehog Muriel Barbery Barbery’s tale of a Parisian concierge and the residents within her charge has enchanted many, yet remains sorely underrated. Magical and moving, it’s a must-read for book clubs everywhere.
Bel Canto Ann Patchett Ask someone if they’ve read “State of Wonder” and chances are they’ll say, “Yeah, but ‘Bel Canto’ was my favorite.” Set in the midst of a lavish party that goes horribly wrong, readers are pulled into the twists and turns of the relationships between terrorists and their hostages.
She’s Come Undone Wally Lamb One of Oprah’s early picks and a fan favorite, Lamb delivers a beautiful portrayal of the life of little Delores Price and what happens when you spend years in social isolation.
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SUPPORT 24 AT-RISK YOUTH Boys Hope Girls Hope of IL chicagobhgh.org Help Boys Hope Girls Hope support 24 at-risk youth in three Evanston homes by providing items from a wish list, including: 2008 or newer minivan; materials (floor tile, sink, faucet, etc) needed to renovate the Girls Home kitchen; new (or less than 2 years old) lap tops, TI-84 Graphing Calculators, Amazon or Barnes & Noble gift cards to buy text books; toaster ovens; and auction donation items like concert, sport, and special event tickets for their gala in February. Contact Elisa Kline at ekline@ bhgh.org or visit our website to access the wish list. DONATE SPORTS EQUIPMENT Dreamweaver International dreamweaverkenya.com Dreamweaver International needs used and new baseball equipment to send to impoverished children in the Dominican Republic and Kenya. They also need financial support for their medical missions
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BE AN ADVOCATE FOR A VULNERABLE CHILD CASA Lake County (Court Appointed Special Advocates) 847-383-6260 | casalakecounty.com CASA Lake County is looking for compassionate volunteers to give abused, neglected or abandoned children what they deserve; to be safe, treated with dignity and respect, and the chance to grow up with a loving family. After 40 hours of training you will work with an experienced CASA Advocate Manager to serve as a child’s voice in the juvenile court system, visit with the child, observe parent/child visits and assist with their health care and educational needs.
and educational programs, as well as help covering the cost of shipping the sports equipment. They provide medical and educational assistance for people in poverty stricken regions. Contact Dr. Warren Bruhl at dc4kids@aol.com or visit the Dreamweaver International website. COLLECT PET COMFORT ITEMS Blankets & Bowls blanketsandbowls.org Help FLEE Bags improve living conditions in animal shelters and rescues in the Chicago area. Donate new or gently used clean towels and small blankets, leashes, collars, stainless steel bowls, safe toys and crates to provide daily comforts for homeless animals awaiting adoption. Please drop off items Tuesday through Saturday, 11 a.m. to 5 p.m., 561a Lincoln Ave., Winnetka For more information, please call FLEE Bags at 847-386-7488 or suzanne@fleebags. com. To learn about Blankets & Bowls Merchant Partner program contact Lisa Robin at info@blanketsandbowls.org
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SERVE ON EXECUTIVE COUNCIL Erika’s Lighthouse erikaslighthouse.org Erika’s Lighthouse educates communities about adolescent depression and the importance of good mental health by delivering hopeful, fact-based messages that depression is common, serious and treatable. They are seeking Executive Council and Party Committee members. The Executive Council meets 8-10 times a year, generally on the second Monday of every month, from 12:30-2:00 p.m. The Party Committee plans event details such as invitations, raffle items, decorations, sponsors, food and drink. For more information please contact Ginny Neuckranz at gin.neuck@gmail.com or 847-446-8587.
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PROVIDE HOUSING ALTERNATIVES ď ľ Over The Rainbow Association otrassn.org ORT provides low-income adults with physical disabilities housing alternatives where they can direct their own care while still living independently in a residential community, as opposed to an institutional setting. One person in a state-funded nursing home costs taxpayers $143,000; the annual cost of an OTR apartment is $33,000. Please consider helping with future housing projects by donating via the website. Any questions, please contact Eric Huffman, executive director at OTR, ehuffman@otrassn.org.
MAKE A DIFFERENCE FOR MILITARY KIDS KIDS RANK kidsrank.org Kids Rank supports the physical, emotional, intellectual and social needs of military children by engaging them in hands-on skill building projects designed to encourage resilience and to establish connections with their local communities. The organization collaborates with local youth organizations serving both military and civilian children. Please visit the website to see how you can get involved.
EMPOWER KIDS TO GO TO COLLEGE I Have A Dream - North Chicago dreamassociates.org By helping our Dreamers gain access to college, we are putting them on a different academic and life trajectory. I Have A Dream provides guaranteed tuition support and equips students with the skills, knowledge and habits they need to get into and succeed in college and beyond. Visit their website to make a donation.
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Symphony Ball Fairmont Chicago Millennium Park September 29, 2012 $1 million raised (SHOWN IN PHOTOS):
(1) Emily Knight, Carl and Mary Boyer of Glencoe; (2) William and Cathy Osborn of Winnetka; (3) Rick and Cate Waddell of Wilmette; (4) Liz and Alex Rorke of Evanston; (5) The “Once Upon a Symphony” program for children ages 3-5 features a performance of Jack and the Beanstalk; (6) Judy and Joe Konen of Kenilworth. Leslie Henner Burns of Chicago, board chair; Regine Corrado and Jacalyn Gronek, both of Chicago, event chairs
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a good idea. But Highland Park High School student Mishika Narula proves that the success of any non-profit venture is only as good as the passion and innovation behind it. In her own words, it’s simply the “Power of Pops.” Like many kids her age, Mishika had been looking for a volunteer opportunity, but it wasn’t until she attended a volunteer training session with a classmate that she found her passion—and it was personal. After learning about the marginalization of and lack of respect shown to a disabled cousin in India, she was inspired by what she saw. The Northern Suburban Special Recreation Association (NSSRA) was the first organization of its kind in the country to provide and facilitate year-round recreation programs and services for children and adults with disabilities. Partnering with 10 local park districts, two cities and one village, NSSRA offers special needs individuals access to everything from music programs to Special Olympics to community outings. “Not only are the participants treated with absolute dignity and respect, but NSSRA gives them a sense of belonging and removes the obstacles to the simple things like sports and recreation that we all take for granted,” explains Mishika. What started as a bake sale item for her school’s annual charity drive soon became an engine for change. Putting her entrepreneurial genes to work (both her father and grandfather have run successful ventures), she decided to start her own part-time cake pop business to raise funds for kids for NSSRA. To date, Mishika has made over 5,000 cake pops from
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home—no small feat given that it can take up to 4 hours just to make 30. Lacking a corporate-sized marketing budget, she’s championed social media, using her website, Facebook page, and good old-fashioned word-of-mouth to spread the word about her cause. Last summer alone, she raised $20,000 for NSSRA’s first bowling tournament fundraiser, “Strikes for NSSRA” — making the total to date $25,000. “We couldn’t believe the support she received,” says Rachna Narula, Mishika’s mother. “People from as far as Brazil and Italy heard her story and contributed, believing in the power of one girl to make a world of difference.” Mishika was the event’s top fundraiser—this on top of her being recognized as NSSRA’s “Friend of the Year” at the annual Shining Starts awards banquet for her volunteer efforts and initial $2,000 donation. The City of Highland Park also stepped up, posting a Resolution on September 6th to honor Mishika, her leadership and commitment. But don’t think for a moment that Mishika is just getting a great story for her college essays. “Volunteering at NSSRA has taught me the real meaning of patience and gratitude. I’ve learned so much from the kids and their parents, most importantly how to make the most of every day and every opportunity. Of course I’m thrilled that my business is making money, but it’s only successful because it allows me to give back.” So if you’re looking for a sweet treat that’s good for you and others, visit Mishika’s website powerofpops.com and place your order. You too can help humanity “one cake pop at a time…” For more information about NSSRA visit nssra.org.
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Winnetka Animal Hospital One of the most highly regarded veterinary clinics serving the North Shore. Our clean, modern and comfortable state-of-the-art facility is equipped to handle full patient care for both cats and dogs. Your pet’s health is our foremost priority! 700 Oak Street, Winnetka 847-441-7474 winnetkaanimalhospital.com
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RNBC If your child struggles with social, emotional, or learning challenges, RNBC can help. Building children’s strengths, our multidisciplinary team provides psychological, social-emotional and speechlanguage assessments, behavioral neurology/pharmacology and educational services.
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