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IN THIS ISSUE MAY 2016 - VOLUME 4, ISSUE 4 1 COVER 3 IN THIS ISSUE IN THE NEWS: 6 NATIONAL CALENDAR OUT FRONT: 10 GWEN STEFANI SPEAKS HER (GAY) ‘TRUTH’ 14 BE SCENE SPECIAL INSERT: 15 2016 LGBT

GALA JOURNAL OUT AND ABOUT: 43 CUMMING AROUND AGAIN: AN INTERVIEW WITH ALAN CUMMING 47 Q-MUSIC: SOLOS AND SIDES 48 Q-MUSIC: QUEER THROUGHOUT THE YEAR POINTS OF VIEW: 53 LAUGHING AT THE ABSURDITIES OF BLACK HOMOPHOBIA LIVING SMART:

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Guns Brought into Restroom To Protect Against Trans People in Target Locked and loaded at….Target? Following an announcement of Target’s gender-neutral bathroom policy, President Anita Staver of the theocratic law group Liberty Counsel proudly announced that she will be packing heat with her Glock .45 handgun to protect against assaults by transgender patrons. The right-wing think tank President made headlines last year for claiming that the Vatican received death threats over the “private audience” they claimed Kentucky Clerk Kim Davis had with Pope Francis.

Gay rights activists hacked to death in Bangladesh Two people, including a U.S government employee who worked as an editor of a magazine for the transgender community, have been hacked to death in the capital of Dhaka. A Bangladesh-based militant faction linked to al-Qaeda has claimed responsibility

Target Sticks To Their Own Guns Despite a petition started by the American Family Association garnering more than half a million signatures calling to boycott Target due to their inclusive bathroom policy, Target is standing firm in their decision for equality. According to their blog post Target will not give in to what critics have dubbed as transphobic demands. The announcement comes as legislation on transgender issues across multiple states has spurred several major corporations and businesses to speak out on LGBT righs.

Mississippi Passes Sweeping LGBT Discrimination Bill More and more states and municipalities are declaring states and cities that discriminate against the LGBT community as off-limits. Portland, Maine now joins the ranks. In April, The Portland

His Purpleness: Gender-bending Queer Icon Prince Dies at 57 The world is in tears as news of the purple-clad superstar’s death whose persona embraced gender-fluid extravagance while pushing boundaries of gender and sexuality has become a gut-wrenching reality. Prince’s sudden and shocking death prompted an outpouring of responses on social media, particularly reflecting on his influence on queer people. His purple majesty – the undisputed pop and R&B icon – introduced his earthshattering albums with unabashed pansexuality and gender norm dallying— decades before the leaders of the lesbian and gay community began to embrace a more inclusive, less dualistic notion of queerness. 6

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Protest over HB2 sparks arrests at North Carolina statehouse Police officers arrested at least 54 protesters who came to voice opposition to North Carolina’s controversial “bathroom bill,” known as House Bill 2, or HB2. The arrests culminated a day of dueling demonstrations that also included thousands of supporters who gathered to praise the law.

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Struck out: ESPN Fires Curt Schilling Over Transphobic Comments Former MLB pitcher Curt Schilling is no longer employed at ESPN. Schilling’s offense was to comment on a photograph posted on Facebook showing a transgender woman with this caption: ‘‘Let him in! To the restroom with your daughter or else you’re a narrow minded, judgmental, unloving, racist bigot who needs to die!!!” Responding to the comment, Schilling posted, ‘‘A man is a man no matter what they call themselves. I don’t care what they are, who they sleep with, men’s room was designed for the penis, women’s not so much. Now you need laws telling us differently? Pathetic.” “ESPN is an inclusive company,” ESPN posted in a statement. “Curt Schilling has been advised that his conduct was unacceptable and his employment with ESPN has been terminated.”

Trans Activist Proves North Carolina Bathroom Bill is not enforceable Mara Keisling, a transgender woman was arrested in Raleigh but not for using the women’s bathroom in the Capitol building. “They are not even enforcing this stupid law in state office buildings, which is where it applies,” she said, adding that “they can’t enforce this.” Kiesling is the executive director of the National Center for Transgender Equality. At the time of her arrest she was delivering proposed legislation that would repeal the state’s anti-LGBT law. Her arrest does not appear to be linked to her use of the women’s bathroom, which she documented on Facebook. Kiesling was arrested with other protesters while holding sit-ins during the protest.

Baby Carmen is coming home! A gay couple has won a longstanding custody battle against a Thai surrogate mother who changed her mind when she found out they were gay. Gordon Lake and Manuel Santos faced a draining legal fight after the surrogate mother who gave birth to their daughter later refused to sign the paperwork to allow the baby to leave the country when she found out they were gay. “We are just overwhelmed with emotion. We always knew our story would have a happy ending and we just can’t wait for the four of us to be together again.”

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Obama thanks his kids for changing view on gay marriage Who says children can’t change the world? In a town hall meeting in London late in April, President Obama opened up about his evolution toward understanding the importance of marriage equality. “My notion was initially that labeling those partnerships as marriage wasn’t necessary as long as people were getting the same rights and it would disentangle them from some of the religious connotations that marriage had in the minds of a lot of Americans.” And guess who is credited for his evolution? Obama’s views had changed, especially, due to his daughters, Malia and Sasha. “I have to confess that my children generally had an impact on me,” he said. “People I loved who were in monogamous same-sex relationships explained to me what I should have understood earlier, which is it was not simply about legal rights but about a sense of stigma, that if you’re calling it something different it means that somehow it means less in the eyes of society.”

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POP STAR TALKS SHARING A QUEER POSSE WITH BOYFRIEND BLAKE SHELTON, _THE DANISH GIRL_ AND HER GAY SUPPORT SYSTEM by Chris Azzopardi Don’t speak? Gwen Stefani can’t help it as she opens up about her latest release – the “record that saved my life.” Featuring a multitude of diary-like outpourings related to Gavin Rossdale, whom the No Doubt frontwoman divorced in 2015 after 13 years of marriage, _This Is What the Truth Feels Like_ is Stefani’s third solo album and first since 2006’s _The Sweet Escape_. “It’s so therapeutic to talk about it,” she says the day before the album’s release. “And I hope it saves some other lives. I really, really truly do hope that. That’s the message I wanna give.” During our candid tell-all, Stefani also talked about her gay besties who “made me look pretty when I didn’t feel pretty,” being a (mostly) respected woman in a man’s world and how she and boyfriend Blake Shelton hang with the same “big posse” of gays. In the last year, when the going got tough, which gay friends of yours could you count on to have the wine cupboard fully stocked? Most of my gay friends are talented, close people who work with me: my hairdresser, my makeup artist. Those are probably my two closest gay friends, and what I love about them is how unique they are and how spirited they are and how talented they are. I think “passionate” would be a really good way to describe them. They’re not representing all gay men, but they represent the ones in my life who’ve had a huge impact on me. I turned to them this whole time period, during my whole tragedy, and they have been really, really super supportive and loyal and made me look pretty when I didn’t feel pretty. How did collaborating with Justin Tranter of Semi-Precious Weapons, who’s gay, affect your recording sessions for _This Is What the Truth Feels Like_? I didn’t know who he was or anything, but the thing that was so great about working with Justin was that he had followed my career for the longest time. He knew everything about every song I’d ever done, whatever I’d worn, every piece of jewelry. It was like, whoa. And he’d wanted to work with me for a long time and I didn’t know that, but it was like God put us in the same room at the perfect time because I needed his understanding and compassion. He was so supportive of me and so confident in me, and I had lost a lot of my confidence, so he really brought that out of me. I felt so comfortable around him from the moment that I met him. So, he was a huge support in making this record and a good friend – an instant friend, weirdly, because I didn’t know him at all. But now I feel like he’s one of my closest friends.

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I don’t think it’s too far of a stretch to say that any gay man would instantly connect with you. Awww! That makes me happy. Did Blake have to get your gay friends’ approval? Well, I mean, Blake’s definitely like – how would I describe it? All the same people all the time are always in the room together and we do everything together, so it’s like we’re all a big posse. It’s funny, too, because Blake’s mom was a hairdresser growing up, so he was definitely introduced to that world a _looong_ time ago. As the frontwoman of No Doubt, there have been many times you’ve been the only female rocker on a festival bill. For you, what’s that experience been like? Did the boys take you seriously from the beginning? No, it’s crazy. I’ve been so unbelievably blessed. I grew up in a man’s world and it really doesn’t make any sense either. In the past, as a girl – a baby girl – I was a girly girl and I wasn’t guyish at all, but when I did discover music, I really got into this niche music, which was ska. I really related to it. All of the people who were my mentors as far as music, they were all guys, and to be in a band with my brother (Eric Stefani) and then my boyfriend (Tony Kanal), I was in this little family and very protected. I always felt like my opinion was counted, and not even counted but even counted with double stars. My creativity was respected. There _was_ a moment back in the day when I was doing festivals and we were just getting known and I do remember being disrespected here and there – they’d want me to take my top off or whatever – but it really didn’t take long

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for me to be able to prove that I wasn’t gonna stand for that. I don’t know where the confidence came from, but I would get up there and I just knew I was gonna win them over and do whatever it took _to_ win them over. I was not gonna leave the stage until I had a pit going. That’s it. No question. It was a fire that was inside of me. I wasn’t rebellious; I had this really normal, easy, beautiful, loving family. But I feel like I’ve always been respected and never had to really worry about, “Oh, I don’t get respect because I’m a woman.” And that’s a really good thing, because that means if I can have that, other women and other people can have that and we are making some progress. You’re known for your sonic soul-barings, but lately, you also seem especially candid in interviews. Why did you decide to be so open about your life in the last year? Because I’m the kind of girl that’s just not good with secrets. I tell everybody everything. If ate too many Oreos, I’mma tell you about it! I grew up Catholic, so I just need to confess everything. I feel like I’ve always been really open, but there was a point in my marriage and in my relationship (with Gavin Rossdale) – because maybe we born out of the ’90s – it felt cooler and more protected to not talk about the relationship, or it felt awkward because maybe we were both doing the same thing and I didn’t wanna say something and he’d be like, “Why’d you say that?!” There were probably some limits during that relationship. And then with my children, obviously I can’t talk about them because they’re gonna be 15 and like, “Mom, why did you say that? You’re embarrassing me!” I have to think a little bit about that now. But I just think… I don’t know how else to be. Everybody knows what happened to me. I got a divorce. It’s the worst thing that can happen to me besides death. My whole life all I wanted to do was be a mother and a wife, and I had the dream of having this family because that’s what I had. I have parents who’ve been married since high school, who are in love, and they’re still in love and having their big wedding anniversary. I had a perfect example, so it’s super tragic for me. My dreams are shattered and I feel so embarrassed about what happened. I don’t feel embarrassed to talk about it though, with respect to my kids. I just think what happened was: In February (2015), my family fell apart. It was devastating. I didn’t know what to do. It was a real big secret, but as I just explained, I’m not good with that. I tried everything to fix it. By June (2015), I went into the studio and started writing. I was praying. I had already started on a spiritual journey when I got pregnant with Apollo (in 2013) that was sort of like, “Wow, really? I’m gonna be blessed with a baby... now?” That was a miracle. It just started me on this spiritual journey and thank God it started then because I was prepared when I had the tragedy. I had that nest of spirituality in me.

and all that’s important. So, it doesn’t really bother me. As long as my boys are protected and happy and I’m spending quality time with them, whether it’s doing sports or doing nails, it really doesn’t matter. What would you say to one of your boys if they came out to you one day? I would be blessed with a gay son. You _know_ that I would feel blessed about that. I just want my boys to be happy and healthy, and I just ask God to guide me every day to be a good mother because it is not an easy job. I’ve been lucky enough to have such a blessed life. I’ve been able to travel the world and meet so many different kinds of people. And it doesn’t really matter if you’re gay, straight, whatever. There are good and bad people, and I would be happy. I just want my kids to be happy, and whatever journey God gives them is their journey. I just need to be there to be the most supportive mom that I can be and that’s what I’m gonna be. I always ask my gay friends, “OK, so what was it like when you were a little boy?” Because I do know that it’s gotta be difficult to be the alternative, to not be the mainstream, or to be different, if you want to call it that. I feel like it’s less and less (like that) these days, and it’s hard for me to understand because it doesn’t seem different or weird or anything anymore because it just seems so normal to me. I just saw that movie… what was it… _The Dutch Girl_?

MY WHOLE LIFE ALL I WANTED TO DO WAS BE A MOTHER AND A WIFE, AND I HAD THE DREAM OF HAVING THIS FAMILY BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT I HAD

They say everything happens for a reason. And you kind of can’t see it until you go through it and look back at it and see all the signs. I had the baby. Then I got _The Voice_, which was so needed. I needed to do something like that. I needed to play that role, and I also got in the room with Pharrell again who’s been like a guardian angel to me. You mentioned Apollo, and you also have two other sons: Kingston and Zuma. There are people who don’t appreciate the fact that you allow them to explore their feminine sides by painting their nails. How would you respond to those critics? Obviously I’ve lived my life with criticism for a very long time and my personality is, I live in truth and reality, and if somebody says something about me and I don’t know them and they’re not my friend or part of my life, it really doesn’t affect me. Of course everyone’s gonna have their perspective and their opinion, and I know what’s real and what’s honest and true, and that’s really all that matters to me

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_The Danish Girl_…? Yeah, _The Danish Girl_. I think what was so incredible about that movie was just – that was so long ago. I mean, can you imagine back then? Whoa. Now it feels like nothing anymore.

As a pop star over 40, what’s it like navigating the pop world with so much pressure on youth, age and beauty? There was a moment right before I did _The Voice_, in between (2012’s No Doubt release) _Push and Shove_ and _The Voice_, where I was concerned about it and desperate to have new music and it took a little earthquake to be like, “OK, let’s get some perspective here. You’ve already had the longest career. You’re so blessed to have any of this and any of this that happens after this is literally icing on the cake.” I’m not delusional about where I’m at in my career. I know that this opportunity to have new music is magical, and there’s not one second that I don’t appreciate it and I think it is what it is. I feel proud of the career that I’ve had and I feel so grateful for it and I mean, we all have to go through life. This is life. Life is… “born to blossom and bloom to perish.” That’s it. That is what it is. And the way to do it is to be grateful and to be spiritual and try to do the best you can every single day – to be in the moment. I’m not thinking about the future. I’m really trying to focus on right now, today. I wanna be in the moment right now because it’s so much better if you’re not thinking about the past or the future. Gwen, you have such a healthy perspective on life. Oh, I have to work on it! I work on it every single day. Some days I’m a mental case. Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. He once made Jane Fonda cry. Reach him via his website at www. chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter (@chrisazzopardi). LIVING OUT

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Gather for this annual time-honored tradition kicking-off the summer season at the home of LGBT civil rights trailblazer Edie Windsor benefiting the LGBT Network, a non-profit organization serving Long Island's LGBT community since 1993. Classic BBQ. Proceeds support the LGBT Network's Hamptons LGBT Center in Sag Harbor that provides services and a safe space for LGBT youth, adults, older adults, and LGBT-headed families of the East End throughout the year. Free and confidential testing for HIV, For more information and tickets, please contact development@lgbtnetwork.org Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and Hepatitis C. or 516-323-0011 www.lgbtnetwork.org, 631.665.2300

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SAGE-LI Nassau County Mingle Tuesdays, 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury SAGE-LI’s weekly social for LGBT seniors 50+ at The Center at Woodbury. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

SAGE-LI Women at Nassau Wednesdays, 7:30-8:45 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury (SWAN) A social and discussion group for lesbian, bisexual, & transgender women as well as women questioning their identity. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Senior Advocate First Monday, 11a.m.-1 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore A Senior Advocate from Suffolk County Office for the Aging is on-site each month to offer SAGE-LI members benefits and entitlement counseling. From Social Security to Food Stamps to Medicare Part D and everything in between, the Senior Advocate will be available during the Mingle to answer your questions and point you in the right direction. - See more at: http://lgbtnetwork.org/content/ senior-advocate#sthash.uCvFgOxV.dpuf. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Senior Focus Discussion Group Last Monday, 1-2 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore Last Tuesday, 1-2 p.m. Nassau: Center at Woodbury, 20 Crossways Park Dr. North, Suite 110, Woodbury Part of a monthly series of coed peer-led, issue-focused discussion groups. www.lgbtnetwork.org, 516.323.0011

Women 2 Women Tuesdays, 7:15-8:45 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore W2W is dedicated to providing a safe and supportive space for lesbians age 40+.

You Gotta Believe Mondays, 6-9 p.m. Suffolk: Center at Bay Shore, 34 Park Ave., Bay Shore The Long Island LGBT Community Center has partnered with You Gotta Believe, a non-profit organization that places teenagers into permanent adoptive homes, to provide Adoptive Parent Preparation Classes! If you are interested in participating, please call 631.665.2300. www.lgbtnetwork.org

PLEASE NOTE THERE WILL BE NO PROGRAMS AT ANY OF THE LGBT NETWORK COMMUNITY CENTERS ON MONDAY, MAY 30TH.

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26TH ANNUAL LONG ISLAND PRIDE PARADE & PRIDEFEST SATURDAY, JUNE 11TH HUNTINGTON, NY ANNUAL SUMMER-KICK OFF BRIDGEHAMPTON TENNIS & SURF CLUB SATURDAY, MAY 28TH MEMORIAL DAY WEEKEND BBQ AT THE HOME OF EDIE WINDSOR SATURDAY, MAY 28TH FOR A FULL LIST OF EVENTS, PLEASE VISIT OUR WEBSITE: LGBTNETWORK.ORG/CALENDAR

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MISSION As a champion for LGBT people and their allies, the LGBT Network pioneers programs, builds supportive communities, and leads social change in suburban and underserved communities.

ABOUT The LGBT Network is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization that is a home and voice for LGBT people, their families, and support systems of Long Island and Queens. The LGBT Network has a 23-year history of pioneering advocacy and change to promote safe spaces, not only within its programs, but also in schools, workplaces, organizations, and in the greater community. The LGBT Network’s direct services help more than 5,000 people annually through outreach, support, youth development, advocacy, counseling, and other services. Education and training services reach 10,000 people each year, while outreach campaigns engage nearly 90,000 people. The LGBT Network’s community centers in Woodbury, Bay Shore, Sag Harbor, Little Neck, and the upcoming flagship center in Patchogue help LGBT people to be themselves, connect with others, get healthy, and be empowered. The LGBT Network is known for its “firsts” – the first LGBT prom in America’s suburbs, the first LGBT center on Long Island, the first LGBT parent-teacher-student association (PTSA) in the nation, and the first LGBT-friendly affordable senior housing complex in the NY Tri-State Area. Most recently, the LGBT Network also announced the first Pride Night of any major NY sports teams for this August in partnership with the NY Mets. Additionally, the LGBT Network has plans for even more “firsts,” including Long Island’s first LGBT health center located within its new Patchogue center so that LGBT people can feel safe accessing health care. The new health services will also fill a gap in services for the transgender community, who currently must travel into NYC to access a full range of health services; now those services will be available right here on Long Island. These achievements reflect the overarching purpose and goals of the LGBT Network: developing a better, more inclusive, and more supportive world for LGBT people and their families and friends.

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LGBT NETWORK STAFF David Kilmnick, PhD, MSW Chief Executive Officer Andrey Bashlyk Finance Officer Aaron Braun Community Educator Stephanie Buxbaum Health Promotion Coordinator

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Rebecca Panarello Early Intervention Specialist

Melissa Holly Linkage to Care Coordinator

Christopher Polistena East End Program Coordinator

Adam Lombardi Social Media Manager

Chris Scarpati, MA Assistant Director of Development

Johnathan Chenkin Development Officer, Corporate and Business Relations

Ariel Mahler Community Educator

Sean Collins Development Assistant

Jacqueline Masse Community Program Coordinator

Alyssa Cottone SAGE-LI Program Coordinator

Nicole Medici, MSW Director of Community Services

Matt Grady HIV/STD Outreach and Testing Specialist

Elizabeth Munsky LGBT Training and Leadership Institute Coordinator

Chandra Grant Executive Assistant Ernesto Hernandez Early Intervention Specialist Larry Kelly Human Resources Generalist

Kerrie O’Neill, LMSW Director of Community Engagement

Michael Serao Director of Community Development Lyndsay Smith Q Center Program Coordinator

Mike Murphy Assistant Director of Communications Jeff Natt Chief Grants, Research, and Evaluation Officer

Irene Tsikitas, MSW Director of Programs Robert Vitelli, MA Chief Operating Officer & Director of Development Christina Wilk, LMSW HIV/STD Program Manager

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CONGRATULATIONS AND BEST WISHES TO The LGBT Network for its service to Long Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community And to HONOREE DAVID MEJIAS

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LETTER FROM THE CEO DAVID KILMNICK Thank you for joining us tonight to support the LGBT Network and to pay tribute to our honoree, Dave Mejias. Dave Mejias has been a friend and supporter of the LGBT Network for years, joining the organization’s advocacy and education efforts to advance marriage equality by lending his expertise as an attorney. He has also helped the LGBT Network in fundraising endeavors so that the LGBT Network can continue to fulfill its critical mission. He has enlisted the support of his firm, Mejias Milgrim & Alvarado P.C. to support the LGBT Network as a Corporate Partner as well. Dave has a demonstrated commitment to equality and social justice, for which we are immensely grateful. I would also like to extend a thanks to our Gala Event Committee led by the incredible Linda Armyn, representing the LGBT Network’s largest corporate supporter, and tonight’s Presenting Sponsor – Bethpage Federal Credit Union. With the support of people like Dave, Linda, and our event committee, and companies like Bethpage Federal Credit Union and Mejias Milgrim & Alvarado, P.C., the LGBT Network has been able to make great strides on behalf of the LGBT community. We have grown the LGBT Network’s programs and services each year helping to reach and serve more people. With community centers in Bay Shore, Woodbury, Sag Harbor, Little Neck, and soon Patchogue, LGBT people and their allies have access to our services that are less than one hour from their homes – a great accomplishment given the unique geography and limited public transportation system of our region. They are the only LGBT community centers on Long Island. But our work is not done. Families still kick LGBT youth out of their homes and into the street. Religious institutions reject LGBT people and deny same-sex marriages. Communities are still discriminating against and stigmatizing LGBT people. And LGBT youth are still bullied in school. That’s why we need your help tonight and throughout the year. We need to create families and homes that are supportive, places of worship that are welcoming, communities that are inclusive, and schools that are free from bullying … because if we can’t feel safe, we can’t live our lives – and that’s why the LGBT Network and the people we serve need you. Thank you again for being a part of this night, and thank you for Boogeying Down Against Bullying as we honor and pay tribute to Dave Mejias. Sincerely,

David Kilmnick, PhD, MSW Chief Executive Officer & Co-Founder

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ABOUT OUR HONOREE DAVE MEJIAS David Mejias is a Long Island attorney specializing in family law and divorce. He is a managing partner at Mejias, Milgrim & Alvarado where he has practiced law for 18 years. He currently serves as the Chairman of the Long Island Hispanic Bar Foundation, the charitable branch of the Long Island Hispanic Bar Association where he has previously served as President. In 2003, Dave Mejias became the first Latino elected to the Nassau County Legislature, where he served from 2004 to 2010. In 2013, Dave was recognized by Long Island Pulse as a Top Ten Legal Eagle, winning the Family Law category. Awardees are acknowledged by a select group of Attorneys who peer review their colleagues’ expertise and skill throughout Nassau and Suffolk Counties. At Mejias, Milgrim & Alvarado, Mejias has won precedent setting victories for his clients in cases involving custody, maintenance and child support, and overturning post nuptial and pre-nuptial agreements. His firm has also been recognized by the Coalition against Domestic Violence for continuing to fight for the rights of victims of domestic violence.

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As a Nassau County Legislator he led the effort to keep our children safe from sex offenders by sponsoring the toughest Megan’s Notification Law in New York State and wrote the legislation implementing residency restrictions for sex offenders. He sponsored and passed legislation that allows law enforcement to install computer monitoring software on the computers of registered sex offenders. One of his top accomplishments as Legislator was his proposed and passed Natalie’s Law, establishing a mapped website showing heroin arrests in neighborhoods in order to increase public awareness and mandates that police alert school districts when there is an arrest nearby. For Mejias, the business of law is personal. It is this principle that distinguishes his conduct in this area of practice. At 13, Dave lost his father in a tragic auto accident at the hands of a negligent driver. Facing emotional and financial turmoil within his family, David vowed to help people in whatever way he could when dealing with the pain and suffering symptomatic of devastating loss. It is with that memory that Dave fights for his clients creatively, pragmatically and strategically – but most importantly, with compassion for the loss his clients are dealing with.

Past awards including recognition by Long Island Business News as one of “40 Rising Stars under 40” and named to the Long Island Press Power List as one of the 50 Most Powerful and Influential Long Islanders. Dave Mejias was born, raised and still lives in Farmingdale, New York. He is a graduate of The University at Albany School of Business and Fordham University School of Law.

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BENEFITING THE LGBT NETWORK’S SAFE SCHOOLS ANTI-BULLYING INITIATIVE Proceeds from tonight’s “Studio 54” Gala benefit the LGBT Network’s Safe Schools Anti-Bullying Initiative. The Safe Schools Initiative is a multi-faceted approach to creating safer schools for LGBT youth that are free from bullying. Since 1993, the organization has been a presence in Long Island schools delivering harassment prevention workshops for students to address anti- LGBT bullying, and to train school staff about how to prevent and respond to such incidents. The growing needs of LGBT youth in schools guided an expansion of services through the Safe Schools Initiative.

LIGALY’s Safe Schools Initiative works to achieve the following five objectives: 1. Train youth to start gay-straight alliance (GSA) clubs in their schools to create a safe space and become peer advocates; 2. Educate the student body about LGBT people and reduce homophobia through classroom workshops; 3. Train teachers about how to prevent and address anti- LGBT bullying, and anti- LGBT language; 4. Implement a school campaign that engages an entire school community to take a stand against anti- LGBT bullying; 5. Builds leadership skills of youth involved with their GSA clubs through the weekly Safe Schools Team program.

The Safe Schools Initiative is the only local resource for GLBT students and school-related issues offering a broad range of programs and services to address GLBT-harassment in schools. The Initiative is building a support network for both students and educators to take action, and to become the leaders and agents of change in their own communities.

Thank you for joining us tonight to Boogie Down Against Bullying to create safer schools for LGBT youth!

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Dr. David Kilmnick, CEO The LGBT Network 20 Crossways Park Drive North Woodbury, NY 11797 Dear Friends: Greetings to all those gathered this evening for the Annual Gala hosted by the LGBT Network to benefit its Safe Schools anti-bullying initiative. An association of nonprofit organizations devoted to serving lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people on Long Island and in Queens, the Network was established to enable its constituent groups to work together more effectively and efficiently to provide safe spaces for the LGBT community and to advance the struggle for equality. Special congratulations are due to this yearâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s honoree: Honorable Dave Mejias, Partner, Mejias Milgrim & Alvarado PC, and former Nassau County Legislator. By facilitating the sharing of staff and resources and the coordination of efforts, the LGBT Network helps its members channel 80 cents of every dollar raised directly to vital programs and services. The Network includes Long Island Gay and Lesbian Youth (LIGALY), Services and Advocacy for LGBT Elders on Long Island (SAGE-LI), the Long Island LGBT Community Center (the Center) and the Queens LGBT Community Center (Q Center). In addition to assisting members in fighting prejudice, reaching out to care for people throughout the lifespan, and nurturing community, the Network publishes Living Out magazine and sponsors the annual Pride Parade and PrideFest celebration. The dedicated officers, board and staff of the Network, LIGALY, SAGE-LI, the Center and the Q Center are protecting human rights and human dignity, and building a brighter future for all New Yorkers. Best wishes for a joyful celebration and continued success. Sincerely,

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INTERVIEW

by gregg shapiro

Cumming around again:

an interview with alan cumming

Cumming is performing on May 14th at Landmark on Main Street in Port Washington

and I love singing his songs. I’m looking forward to Alan Cumming is a gay renaissance man. He sings, he dances, he writes, he acts – there doesn’t seem to be anything he can’t do. Few people can also claim the size and scope of his audience – from youngsters who know his voice from animated features such as Strange Magic and The Smurfs to adults who are fans of his work on television (The Good Wife and Web Therapy), on stage (Cabaret) and on film (Any Day Now, X-Men 2 and Burlesque). Cumming’s latest musical endeavor, the live recording Alan Cumming Sings Sappy Songs (Yellow Sound), is another chance to experience the man in all of his splendor. I spoke with Cumming about the disc and his career in February 2016. Gregg Shapiro: The last time we spoke I interviewed you about I Bought A Blue Car Today, your first album which was a studio effort. Your new album Alan Cumming Sings Sappy Songs is a live album recorded at Café Carlyle, based on your show of the same name. What was behind the decision to record a live disc for your second release? AC: It was because I feel the songs and the show are so connected. I feel they’re emotional songs that I chose because I have some connection to them. I feel that they actually work best in that moment with an audience. Usually, there’s a story I’ve told that leads up to why I’m singing the song. The whole concept of the show was about being authentic and connecting with these songs. The best way to do that was in a room with an audience and for people to listen to that. GS: Would you please say something about your use of the word “sappy,” which has a positive not pejorative meaning in the context of the album’s title? AC: It’s interesting, for me sappy means sentimental and something that gets you in your heart, gets you emotional. That’s what I mean. Also, of course, it means that I’m slightly setting up the audience that there’s a bit of fun involved, as well. “Don’t be so sappy” is kind of a nice way of saying to someone, “I get why you’re being emotional about this, but don’t go too far with it.” I’m saying to the audience, “Be warned – you’re going to be moved, but at the same time it’s going to be a lot of fun.” That’s why I did it. I like alliteration as well. But, also, these are songs that I find have a message in them that is a lovely sentiment and is often intensely emotional. GS: I’m glad you said that, because one of the things that I found surprising about the song selection on …Sappy Songs is that you sing not one, but two Billy Joel songs, “Goodnight, Saigon” and “And So It Goes.” Do you think Billy Joel gets the respect that he deserves? AC: Personally, I don’t. I think he’s an amazing songwriter. Because what I think he does is capture a feeling in his songs. He captures emotion. “Goodnight, Saigon,” is an incredible song about war and about how it damages people and how people would get PTSD, and also how people are so disregarded by their governments. “And So It Goes” is such a beautiful song in terms of it saying that you’re always going to be able to love again. The idea that even though things have happened to you and you’ve closed off, one day you’re going to say, “OK, you can break my heart if you want to. I’m ready for it.” It’s something we’ve all done and we can all relate to and yet it’s very intricate and detailed. I think he’s a genius

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singing more of them. I think sometimes when you know songs from someone who’s a singer/songwriter that maybe their style or the time they were recorded evokes something in you that is actually different from what the song is, or could, be about. I’ve always loved Billy Joel and going back and listening to his songs again I’ve rediscovered an appreciation for what a poet he is. GS: You know how cabaret artists or vocalists will do a songbook album? Do you think you might ever do a Billy Joel songbook album? AC: Maybe. There are others I would like to do. It might be something I do in the future, maybe for my next show. “Billy and Alan.” GS: You also found a place for Stephen Sondheim in the show. What does Sondheim mean to you as a performer? AC: He’s incredibly clever and incredibly full of ideas that are so stimulating. The song I sing, “Ladies Who Lunch,” I sang in a workshop version of Company where some of the gender and the sexuality of some of the characters were being changed. I was playing the Elaine Stritch role. That’s why I started singing that song. In the course of working on it, I’d always loved the song and Elaine’s interpretation of it, but after looking at it for a few weeks (I discovered that) it’s not actually at all what I thought it was about. With all of these songs that are well-known, I think I’m trying to say, “Listen to this again. It might not be what you thought.” This is a huge example of that. It’s a searing, lashing out at everyone. It’s not just about the ladies who lunch. (I think he’s saying) the people that you might mock the most, give them a break, it’s hard for everyone. It’s beautiful and much more nuanced and detailed. It’s not a funny song, but I love the fact that the second line is “Everybody laugh.” When I do it in concert, (sings) “Here’s to the ladies who lunch,” usually there are a few titters, and then comes “Everybody laugh,” and I think the response is, “Oh, it’s not what we thought.” I’ve never performed in a Sondheim show and I’ve only performed a few of his songs in public, and this one I’ve recorded and I end my show with it . I drink an actual martini while I’m singing it. GS: It doesn’t hurt your throat?

AC: No, but I do feel pretty smashed. I slug a whole martini during the course of the song [laughs]. GS: I also appreciate the way that you worked popular new songs into your repertoire, including tunes by Rufus Wainwright, Keane, Miley Cyrus, Adele, Lady Gaga and Katy Perry. How important do you think it is for cabaret artists to include that kind of contemporary material in their sets? AC: It’s important for me. If you are a cabaret artist and you are mostly singing other people’s songs, you’re asking them to rethink a song, listen to it in a different way. The most impact you can have while asking them to re-listen to a song is if it’s a song they know very well. Often for me, if I hear a song I know, it clicks for me and I hear it in a different way and I think, “I could sing that song. I’ve got something to say about that song. Wanting to connect with an audience and wanting them to rethink songs; it is actually important to do songs they’re familiar with. Also, I love those songs. In a way, I think I’ve changed people’s perceptions of what a cabaret show like this could be. GS: Earlier this year, the music world suffered a great loss with the passing of David Bowie. Do you have a favorite Bowie song? AC: I’m a big fan of “Changes.” It’s an amazing song. GS: Do you think you might cover a Bowie song at some point? AC: I would love to sing some of his songs in the future. I’m actually going to do a project later in the year, a cabaret based on a painter. The painter had lived in Berlin and Bowie is so connected to Berlin. I’m just forming that show in my mind right now. I was so lucky I did a little bit of that Lazarus show at (New York) Theater Workshop. I knew him a little bit over the years. One of my most prized possessions is this email from him – I actually laminated it [laughs] – after he came to see me in Macbeth. I was so blown away – he wrote me this really beautiful email about my performance. GS: On …Sappy Songs you make mention of The Good Wife. It was recently announced that The Good Wife would be coming to an end. What has being a part of that show meant to you? AC: it’s been an incredible thing for me. I think it’s such a well-written show. To play a character for that length of time who is so loved. I think Eli’s a great character and I am so happy to have been able to play him. To be in a show that is so nuanced and doesn’t tell people what to think – I think it’s actually morally ambivalent – and I think that’s really grown up. I’m full of praise for the writers. Also, in a personal way, to be at home in New York for nine months of the year and have that stability and structure and financial security has been a great thing. It’s enabled me to have the time and luxury to do lots of other things like this (cabaret) show. I probably wouldn’t have been able to write my book if it hadn’t been for The Good Wife. It’s allowed me to be very creative while doing something that I really enjoy and that I’m proud of. LIVING OUT

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Q-music

by gregg shapiro

Solos and Sides

Talk about staying power! Singer and songwriter Dion (DiMucci), the original wanderer, has been at it steadily since the late 1950s, as the leader of doo-wop group Dion & The Belmonts and later as a prolific solo artist. On New York Is My Home(Instant), Dion continues his ongoing exploration of the blues over the course of eight originals, as well as a Lightning Hopkins cover. The album’s best (and least bluesy) tune is the title cut, a duet with Paul Simon, that has the potential to become a hit.

The city of Chicago (and its suburbs) had a lot to live down following the `70s and `80s domination by schlock rock bands such as Chicago (the band) and Styx. Thankfully, the `90s brought about a fresh new wave of acts such as Smashing Pumpkins, Liz Phair, Veruca Salt and others. This burst of creative energy continued into the 21st century in Chicago with Kanye West, Fall Out Boy and The Fiery Furnaces. Eleanor Friedberger of The Fiery Furnaces has been on a solo path since the release of 2011’s marvelous Last Summer. Backed up by the band Icewater on her latest solo release New View(French Kiss), Friedberger has made an album that sounds as psychedelic as the album cover looks. This is especially true of “Sweetest Girl,” “Does Turquoise Work?,” “Two Versions of Tomorrow” and “Cathy With The Curly Hair.” Also worth noting are the folky “Never Is A Long Time” and the soulful “Because I Asked You.” Ben Folds is one of those creative people with too much talent to contain in one setting. As a member of Ben Folds Five, as a solo artist, working with a cappella groups or collaborating with writer Nick Hornby, Folds has talent to burn. So There (New West), described on the cover as “8 chamber rock songs with yMusic,” also includes Folds’ “Concerto for Piano and Orchestra with the Nashville Symphony conducted by Giancarlo Guerrero.” If you’re a Folds fan, all of that info doesn’t scare you off; in fact, if probably thrills you. What’s Ben up to now? Of course, he’s at the center with his piano, his pleasing singing voice and his irresistible songs, but now there are strings, woodwinds and brass. Standout numbers such as “Phone In A Pool,” “Not A Fan,” “Capable of Anything” and “Long Way To Go” would probably sound strong in almost any setting, and that speaks to Folds gifts as a songwriter and performer. The three movements of the concerto are also outstanding additions to Folds’ canon. Rachel Taylor, formerly of He Is We, has launched her soaring solo project She Is We with the debut album War (Vanguard). Intimate and defiant, Taylor sees these songs as a way of making fans who may only know her from her previous outfit aware of who she truly is as an artist and a person. In case you didn’t get it from the title, She Is We is geared for battle. Taylor sings “Fear has gone away,” on opener “Boomerang,” wailing as confidently as Pink. That song certainly sets the tone for what follows on “Better Now,” “Monster,” “Fight For Me,” and the Alanis Morissette-like “Lead The Fight On.” Shearwater, a side-project led by Okkervil River’s Jonathan Meiburg, returns with the impressively new wavy Jet Plane and Oxbow(Sub Pop), easily an early contender for one of the best albums of 2016. Stylistic avenues and shifts aside, what’s really on display here is stellar musicianship (listen to “Backchannels” and “Wildlife In America”). But it’s hard to resist the call to dance to `80s-inspired tunes such as “Quiet Americans,” “Radio Silence” and “A Long Time Away,” as well as the Death Cab For Cutie meets Bowie of “Filaments.” As the front-man of lo-fi alternative band Grant Lee Buffalo, Grant-Lee Phillips was a musical presence throughout the 1990s. Phillips embarked on a solo career shortly after the band split up in 1999, releasing a handful of albums under his own name during the 21st century. The latest, The Narrows (Yep Roc), continues in the countrified vein of much of Phillips’ solo output. The self-titled debut disc by Mass Gothic (Sub Pop) veers from pleasant electro-pop to screamo to theatrical rage and back again as it progresses through 10 tracks. A solo project from Noel Heroux formerly of Hooray For Earth, Mass Gothic retains some of the synth play from his previous band while expanding in different directions. Just try not to get up and move to the aptly named, “Want To, Bad,” as well as “Pier Pressure” and “Territory,” as well as the retro pop of “Every Night You’ve Got To Save Me.” But be sure you are prepared for the extremes of “Soul” and “Nice Night.”

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queer throughout the year track) as it did to straightforward classic rock and roll (“So Dark,” “I Will Never Go Home,” “Arise” and “Grotesque”). Galbraith’s passing is a loss, but at least we have The Mean Days by which to remember her.

Lesbian singer/actress/comedian/writer Lea DeLaria has been challenging our preconceived notions of what an entertainer is for more than 25 (!) years. Queer folks probably knew her first as a raunchy comedian of the highest order (“whack a butt plug,” anyone?) and will also remember her from the gay movie Edge of Seventeen, as well as her show-stopping performance on Broadway in On The Town. Of course, once we heard her sing, we knew exactly what she was born to do. Over the course of her first three musical albums, DeLaria left her distinctively jazzy mark on show-tunes, standards and punk classics. On House of David(Ghostlight/Razor & Tie), DeLaria turns her lez-laser focus on the songs of David Bowie. From the dazzling album cover (a respectful nod to Bowie’s Changesonebowie comp) to her inspired interpretations of “Golden Years,” “Fame,” “Suffragette City” (featuring Janis Siegel of Manhattan Transfer), the dramatic “Modern Love,” the out of this world “Life On Mars” and especially the aptly swinging “Boys Keep Swinging” (which deserves to be a hit!), the house that Lea built is sturdy and architecturally interesting. There is always something heartbreaking about a posthumous release. The Mean Days(307 Knox), the second album by queercore trio 8 Inch Betsy, is a good example. Lead singer and main songwriter Meghan Galbraith, who died in 2015 at the age of 35, and band-mates Eli Burke and Melissa Thomas, had a raw energy that owed as much to punk rock and riot grrrl esthetics (“Meant To Mean,” “Uh Oh,” “Avenue,” “Get In The Van” and the title 48 • LIVING OUT

Lesbian singer/songwriter Ana Egge had the distinction of being Ani DiFranco’s opening act during a series of fall 2015 tour dates. Those fortunate enough to be at those shows were able to experience Egge performing some of the songs from her luminous new album Bright Shadow(Grace/ Parkinsong). Egge’s previous release, 2011’s mental illness concept album Bad Blood, was produced by Steve Earle, and continued to incorporate a country accent in Egge’s folk tunes. That trend persists on Bright Shadow on which Egge is backed up by modern American trio the Stray Birds. Now married and a mother, Egge also suffered the loss of her own mother to whom she pays glorious tribute on “Rock Me (Divine Mother).” The wistful “Dreamer” celebrates Egge’s own motherhood and her fragrant cover of Dolly Parton’s “Wildflowers” blooms beautifully. Other standouts include “Fifth of July,” “Maps of the Moon” and “The Ballad of Jean Genet.” The reconfigured domestic re-release of pansexual and androgynous Héloïse Létissier’s eponymous debut as Christine and the Queens (Atlantic/Neon Gold/Because) addresses the gender issue right off the bat with “iT,” on which she sings “I’ve got iT/I’m a man now/and there’s nothing you can/to make me change my mind.” Létissier, who sings in English and French, incorporates synthesizers throughout, but “this ain’t no disco.” The closest we get to (modest) dance beats are in “Safe and Holy” (in which she declares, “As I dance, I am safe and holy”), the euphorically off-center “Tilted” and “Science Fiction.” The album’s centerpiece, a duet with Perfume Genius on “Jonathan” is extraordinary in its dramatic subtlety.

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Bradford Cox, queer frontman of the Atlanta dream pop band Deerhunter (and also of Atlas Sound), and Will Toledo aka Car Seat Headrest are part of the growing ranks of out musicians who are forever changing the face of queer music. The songs on Deerhunter’s Fading Frontiers(4AD) range from idiosyncratic indie rock (“Snakeskin,” “Breaker”) to exotic experimentation (“Leather and Wood,” “Ad Astra,” “Living My Life”) and are never boring. Cox and company know how to get and keep our attention, as when he sings, “My friend’s dad got bored/changed his sex and had no more,” in “All The Same.” The head-on collision that is Car Seat Headrest’s Teens Of Style(Matador) is as melodic as it is noisy. A chronic sonic delight that might take a few listens to sink in, but once it does, you won’t be able to stop listening. Standout numbers include “Times To Die,” “The Drum,” “Something Soon,” “Oh! Starving” and “Strangers.” Telling a lover to leave “nothing but the radio on” is a clever turn of phrase and one that has been used in songs by gay sax man Dave Koz and country dude Gary Allan. Perhaps the most successful application of the wordplay can be found in lesbian singer/songwriter Maia Sharp’s seductive “Nothing But The Radio On,” the catchy opening cut on her new disc The Dash Between The Dates(E-One). Sharp, whose father is songwriter Randy Sharp, has been writing songs for others (Cher, Dixie Chicks, Lizz Wright and Bonnie Raitt) as well as for herself (she released her first album almost 20 years ago) for quite some time and continues to develop into a first-rate performer of her own compositions. “You’re Alive” is a great pop tune deserving of a wide audience. The brilliant “Little Bottles” has the potential to become a country standard as it celebrates sorrowfully drinking yourself into oblivion on an airplane. That’s legendary gay backing vocalist Arnold McCuller on the soaring “Phoenix” and the aforementioned Wright on the stunning “You Know Where I’ll Be.” Oh, the dreaded sophomore slump. Making matters worse for A Great Big World, the duo made up of Ian Axel and openly gay Chad King, is a thinly disguised apology in the liner notes. The pair’s 2014 debut Is There

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Anybody Out There? came at a time when other similarly pop-oriented acts such as Fun., Barenaked Ladies and Ben Folds, appeared to be otherwise occupied (or distracted). The hit singles “Say Something,” a Grammy-winning duet with Christina Aguilera, and “This Is The New Year,” as well as “Everyone Is Gay,” held great promise. “Hold Each Other,” the first single from AGBW’s new album When The Morning Comes(Epic/Black Magnetic) has the same queer spirit as Mary Lambert’s “She Keeps Me Warm.” It’s one of a few songs that while immediately catchy, don’t quite live up to what we expected. Part of the problem is that most of the songs were written by committee; too many cooks, etc. All is not lost, songs such as “Oasis,” “One Step Ahead,” “Kaleidoscope” and the title track all have redeeming facets.

Now that Glee and The Sing-Off are no longer on TV, does that mean that the a cappella craze has come to an end? Probably not, because Pitch Perfect and its sequel were both box office hits and there is, no doubt, a sequel in the works. That’s good news for a cappella quintet Pentatonix who, after putting out a number of self-released discs, finally got around to releasing its eponymous full-length major-label debut on RCA. On its previous EPs, Pentatonix, featuring openly gay member Mitch Grassi, focused on its interpretations of songs by others, with an original tune thrown in here and there. With Pentatonix, the group focuses mainly on original collaborations, the most of appealing of which include “Sing,” “Rose Gold,” “Can’t Sleep Love” and “Take Me Home.” Nothing else sounds (or looks) like Arca (aka gay producer and musician Alejandro Ghersi). A skittering, glitched up aural assault that is alternately soothing and startling; the 20 songs on Arca’s second album, the suitably named Mutant (Mute) make Aphex Twin sound like Lawrence Welk. It’s the kind of musical experience that will send listeners crate-digging for their LP of the Liquid Sky soundtrack. As you might imagine, some songs are more accessible than others, including the title tune, “Front Load,” “Enveloped,” “Alive,” “Soichiro,” “Vanity” and “Anger.” LIVING OUT

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“BootyCandy” knowing O’Hara’s journey was difficult - like that of so many LGBTQ of African descent.

The mother’s unease to talk about sex and to accept her son’s gender expression is disturbingly highlighted when Sutter comes home one day from school to inform her that a man has been following him. Because of the “politics of silence” in the African American community that chokes a healthy conversation on human sexuality Sutter’s mother is not only dismissive of his claim she immediately wants to know what Sutter did to provoke such an unsavory encounter. Her solution, however, for her son’s unmanly behavior is for him to stop reading Jackie Collins novels, stop listening to Whitney Houston albums, and stop participating in the school’s musicals. The scene is absurdly funny yet poignantly disturbing. And just when you think you cannot laugh anymore, there’s the vignette with the hilarious telephone scene between two actresses who play a group of sisters on a phone, one of whom is pregnant and determined to name her baby Genitalia. (I personally enjoyed this scene because it reminded me of when one of my sister-friends was determined to name her new born baby girl Uretha, in honor of the Queen of Soul, Aretha Franklin.) In a later vignette Genitalia is all grown up, a lesbian and standing before a minister with her soon to be ex-

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Preaching a black queer liberation theology that excoriates the church’s gossip mongers (the “I Heard Folks” who congregate and become the “They Heard Folks”) in defense of its gay choir boys, Benson finally discloses his secret by disrobing and revealing what’s underneath his vestment. While homophobia is a running thread in many of the vignettes, particularly the Black Church and black cultural brand of it, the story line makes you laugh to keep from crying in order to look at hard and unresolved issues a young gay black male coming out confronts, like racism, homophobia, sexual abuse, rape, poverty to name a few -and at their intersections- and how that might shape one’s self-esteem and further social sexual relationships. I surmise the best way to depict “BootyCandy” is to call it a tragicomedy, a play that uses humor and comedic moments to obfuscate not only one’s painful personal journey of coming out, but, also, one’s unresolved pain and trauma from sexual abuse. One of the dark and most disturbing moments in the play is the last of several gay bar cruising scenes. Sutter and his friend pick up a drunken white “supposedly straight” male who solicit the two men to follow him home to sexually humiliate him. Sutter’s eagerness and cold indifference to fulfill the man’s request disturbingly suggests both racial and psychosexual revenge for his childhood sexual seduction by an older white man. In the vignette “Conference” there is a mock panel discussion between four African American playwrights, each of whom has written one of the previous vignettes the audience has seen, and a clueless white moderator who condescendingly asks the writers, “I’m wondering what you are hoping the audience comes away with after seeing your work?” Sutter: I think the audience should choke. Moderator: Choke? Sutter: Asphyxiate. WRITER 1: I don’t want them to digest it easily. And “BootyCandy” isn’t easy to digest. You leave “BootyCandy” knowing O’Hara’s journey was difficult -like that of so many LGBTQ of African descent. O’Hara didn’t touch on HIV/AIDS ravaging our communities, and the Black Church continued silence on it. O’Hara masterfully shows that only through humor could the absurdities of black homophobia keep you laughing from crying. LIVING OUT

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HOROSCOPES

Aries – your ruling planet in your 9th house - subtle

Scorpio – your ruling planet in your 10th house –

tactics are called for. You’ll enjoy a slower pace, more relaxed attitude and social time with familiar faces. The ability to cooperate with a group brings rewards including an assurance of greater security in the future. Food and cooking play an important role.

you can profitably pool resources with one who shares your idea of home and family life. Love of beauty, luxury and harmony are motivating forces. You’ll attract a better domestic situation through generosity of spirit. Gift-giving is on your mind.

Taurus – your ruling planet in your 1st house - a more

Sagittarius – your ruling planet in your 2nd

entertaining month is on the agenda. You will hear from someone of the opposite sex with a charming and easy going manner. Be prepared for changing plans at the last moment for spontaneous adventure. Writing, teaching, lecturing could figure prominently.

house - a family member insists you take time out to relax and mend fences. Don’t be afraid to turn to a parent or parental figure for answers - especially where your profession or career is concerned. A more creative pattern is needed; let your magnetism soar. Your lucky number is 2.

Gemini – your ruling planet in your 12th house - the urge for peace and quiet prevails. If quarrelsome persons are in your environment, you’ll have the power to settle issues in a gracious, tactful manner. Artistic abilities are highlighted. A special interest in decorating your home or office will be productive.

Cancer – Saturn in your 6th house – don’t believe everything you hear. Your sense of security could be shaken by a rumor that turns out to be completely false. Withdraw from an active social life to get to know your own self. You can benefit from real estate and home affairs. The lucky number is 7.

Leo – your ruling planet in your 10th house - the focus is on long-range projects and career goals. Evaluate your need for further training, a wider sphere of influence. Someone who limited your activities in the past is fading from the picture. Soon you can push forward more confidently. Contact an Aries.

Virgo – Jyour ruling planet in your 9th house - people you meet this month are likely to be travel-minded and full of advice and aspiration. An upbeat optimistic mood prevails. You’ll be popular with a yen to go places and do things. Your sense of humor will come in handy. Your lucky number is 3.

Libra – your ruling planet in your 8th house – a stubborn associate is ready to back down, make peace and settle financial differences. You’ll have the upper hand if you remain peaceful and conciliatory. Beautification of your environment is also on the agenda; even a bouquet of flowers will help. Another Libra is in the picture.

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Capricorn – Pyour ruling planet in your 12th house – you’ll project yourself in a glamorous way, but could actually feel alone and aloof. The time is ripe for creative self-expression. Tackle a project that has been hanging fire for some time. You’ll get to know yourself better in the process. A Pisces figures prominently.

Aquarius – Uranus in your 3rd house – the freedom urge dominates the scenario this month. You’ll resist being tied-down by schedules, time clocks or bosses. The accent is on talents, value systems and new ways to utilize assets. The purchase of stylish attire helps you “dress for success”. You’ll win with number 3.

Pisces – Neptune in your 3rd house – a physical relationship grows more intense. You can transform a situation that was headed in the wrong direction. The key is to exchange ideas as well as kisses. Discover the story behind the story - don’t be content with surface indications. Your lucky number is 5. IF YOU KNOW YOUR RISING SIGN, CONSULT THE HOROSCOPE FOR THAT SIGN AS WELL. Psychicdeb has been a professional astrologer for over 25 yrs. Self-taught, shebegan her studies in astrology when she was 8 yrs. old learning what she could from her mother’s astrology magazines. As she got older and learned geometry, she searched for books onAstrology and taught herself how to construct a chart. She teaches Astrology for a nominal fee.Psychicdeb also uses the tarot to do psychic readings channeling her spirit guide Helen. Reiki is one of her obsessions. She is a Reiki Master and loves to teach others the benefits of Reiki. Namaste. You can find her at the Original Psychic Fairs on Sundays. A listing of the Fair dates can be found on her website at: www.astro-mate.org LIVING OUT

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