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LA JOLLA LIGHT - november 28, 2013 - Page B3
From POEMS, B1
Poems for healing
La Jolla Cultural Partners
For Josefowitz, her 20th book is a departure from her usual subject matter. She has written many humorous books of poetry for different groups of people (family, friends, lovers) at different stages of life (mid-life, retirement, aging). A wellknown business consultant and social worker, she has also written several books for women in management, including “How to Be An Effective Leader,” “You’re the Boss,” “Paths to Power,” and “16 Ways for Women to Succeed at Work.” Josefowitz describes herself as a late bloomer. Born in Paris, France to Russian Jewish parents, she came through Ellis Island in 1939 with them and grew up in Beverly Hills, where she’s in the Beverly Hills High School Hall of Fame. She earned her bachelor’s degree in philosophy from Scripps College in Claremont, Calif., married and had two children. Not until she was 40 did she go back to college
■ La Jolla author and social psychologist Natasha Josefowitz wrote ‘Living Without the One You Cannot Live Without’ after losing her husband of 35 years, Dr. Herman Gadon. Among the poems appearing in the book are the following:
Lost in the Periphery
After my husband died I was no longer the center of anyone’s life nor is anyone the center of mine family and friends are supportive and comforting but they are peripheral as I am peripheral in their lives they can continue without me as I am supposed to continue without him without the one person I cannot live without (Columbia) to earn a master’s degree in clinical social work and then a
Give the
Natasha Josefowitz
Two Dreams
Two childhood dreams: becoming a famous poet and falling madly in love I became a poet and married that love and now that he is dead what is left are the poems they will have to do
doctorate in social psychology at the age of 50, while living in Switzerland.
It was there she met, began working with and eventually married Swiss-
born Dr. Herman Gadon. Together they taught classes in business management, moving to New Hampshire, where Josefowitz taught the first class for women in management in the United States. They continued teaching after moving to La Jolla, with Gadon at UC San Diego and Josefowitz at San Diego State University. A speaker and business consultant, Josefowitz has appeared on TV shows, including “Larry King Live” and “All Things Considered,” and hosted her own radio show. Today she writes columns for local publications. Although she wrote her latest book to help herself, she is delighted that it is helping others. “I like to make a difference,” she said. She is also using her social psychology skills to do research into how people grieve after the loss of a spouse. After interviewing 24 survivors, ages 60-90, she says she learned that people go through several steps to healing: First, there is the pre-grief of the caretaker;
second is shock and numbness when a partner dies; third is disbelief, “this can’t be real”; fourth comes when reality sets in and there is a feeling of alienation, of walking around like “half a couple”; finally, there is becoming a whole person, re-inventing oneself, with being alone the “new normal.” Not surprisingly, she sees a difference in how men and women cope with the loss of a spouse. Men don’t like to talk about it and will tell friends who have lost a wife, “don’t dwell on it.” “Men have a 6 percent higher suicide rate, they’ve lost a caregiver, but within a year they are usually hooked up with a casserole,” Josefowitz said. Speaking of food, men alone usually eat take-out with their hands standing up at the kitchen sink. Women, on the other hand, like to talk through grief and will go over and sit with a friend who has lost a husband. “And women will sit at a table and eat, even if it’s not elaborate,” Josefowitz said.
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