May Prime 2015 by Inside Columbia Magazine

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May 2015

Contents

Volume 7, Issue 2

The Tasting Room Riesling Season In Bloom

On The Road With Ray Shop The Lost And Found

10 Bob Gerding: How To Do It All Better

16 Special Section: How-To Guides 50 Boone Hospital Center Neuroscience Specialties 53 Prime Time Can’t-Miss Events For May 60 Fun & Games Crossword, Sudoku, Tiger Vision & More 64 Tinseltown Talks Leslie Caron

66 Tell Me About It Get Angel’s Relationship Advice 68 Readers Share Enter Our Essay Contest! 70 Columbia Confidential Publisher Fred Parry Takes On The Issues Columbians Are Talking About

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Let’s Ask The Expert A friend of mine in college once said all of us are experts in something, and by expert, she meant all of us have a subject we could rock if it came up in “Jeopardy!” Her subject, thanks to her dad, was Broadway musicals. At first, I thought I might be an exception to her rule, but then I thought about my own dad and his musical interests and realized I had soaked up what must equal a graduate degree in classic country music. I not only know Johnny Cash but also Johnny Horton. I can sing along with Hank Williams, Marty Robbins, Loretta Lynn, Roger Miller, Patsy Cline, George Jones and several of their friends. If you want expert advice on how to appreciate classic country music, I can help you. This “How To” issue of Prime is all about bringing you advice from experts. From how to shop at a farmer’s market to how to choose a mattress, the articles in our special how-to section will be your guide to finding and choosing a wide range of products and services. We also asked Bob Gerding, subject of the upcoming Alzheimer’s Association’s annual roast, to share some of his best how-to advice. The humor he shows in his guide to life will serve him well on May 28 when family and friends poke fun at him to raise funds for Alzheimer’s research. Read his tips on Page 10. In the words of Hank, “If you wanna have fun, come along with me.”

staff Publisher Fred Parry Associate Publisher Melody Garnett Parry Associate Publisher & Executive Editor Sandy Selby Managing Editor Anita Neal Harrison Graphic Designer Trever Griswold Joe Waner Photo Editor L.G. Patterson Marketing Representatives Rosemarie Peck Samantha Cook Joe Schmitter Operations Manager Kalie Clennin Operations Assistant Lilly Smith Finance Manager Brenda Brooks Distribution Manager John Lapsley Contributing Writers Kathy Casteel, Angel Donnette Robertson, Ray Speckman, Nick Thomas

Have a story idea? Email me at anita@insidecolumbia.net.

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The Tasting Room

A Vintner’s Bouquet Riesling Season Is In Bloom BY KATHY CASTEEL

Spring is busting out all over — even in your wineglass. Enjoy the ambience of May flowers with an aromatic Riesling. This German-born white wine with a distinctive floral aroma is a popular warm-weather sip when served well chilled. In sweet, semidry or dry styles, it boasts a heady bouquet and fruitful flavors that pair well with a wide range of spring and summertime fare. Riesling grapes trace their roots to 15th-century Rhine region vineyards, where they were known as Rießlingen. German botanist Hieronymus Bock christened the varietal Riesling in his Latin work, Herbal, in 1552. Today, it is the most widely grown wine grape in Germany; it also thrives in the Alsace region of France and throughout Europe, Australia, New Zealand, Canada, South Africa, China and Ukraine, plus the American states of Washington, California and New York. Climate plays a major role in developing Riesling flavors — coolclimate grapes carry apple and other tree-fruit flavors, while grapes in warmer areas develop peach and citrus notes. The wine’s high acidity levels and range of flavors make premium Riesling a good candidate for cellar aging; as an everyday wine, however, serve Riesling young at the height of its fruity, floral bouquet and crisp flavor. St. James Winery Riesling is one of those crisp, everyday Rieslings that can add a garden of floral delights to your table all season long. Sourced from

Washington vineyards, this semi-dry wine features a floral aroma of orange blossoms and peaches, leading to a peachy flavor with a bit of tart apple and an undercurrent of lemon. The satisfying finish lingers without any traces of cloying sweetness. As Rieslings go, it’s not too sweet, giving it a wide range of pairing choices. Serve it — chilled, of course — with spicy Thai and Mexican dishes, pork, chicken, seafood, salads and soft cheeses. Listen up, anglers: Pan-fried trout is this wine’s soulmate. St. James Riesling is part of the Frontier Selections line the winery rolled out two years ago, rebranding five varietals — Cynthiana, Estate Norton, Moscato, Riesling and Vignoles — and developing two new dry wine blends, Pioneer Red (Norton/Chambourcin/Rougeon) and Pioneer White (Chardonel/Seyval/ Vignoles). The line is a tribute to emerging wine regions such as the Ozark Highlands, depicted on the screen-printed label design as an iconic one-room schoolhouse and rolling hills. The Pioneer red and white blends honor winery founders Jim and Patricia Hofherr. The line’s eco-friendly packaging has earned kudos for its carbonless footprint that utilizes labels directly printed on the recyclable bottles with organic, soybased inks that are free of heavy metals, cadmium, solvents and volatile organic compounds. St. James wines are available throughout the Columbia area; check with your favorite local wine merchant. ❖

Among the wines stored in the cellars of Bremen’s town hall in Germany are aged Rieslings, in barrels dating back to the 1653 vintage.

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On The Road With Ray

Shopping The Lost And Found A Trip To Scottsboro’s Unclaimed Baggage Center BY RAY SPECKMAN

For years, I have heard and read about the Unclaimed Baggage Center in Scottsboro, Ala. For years, it was not on my way as I traveled. This March, after a yearly trip to the St. Louis Cardinals’ spring training camp in Jupiter, Fla., when cold and rain caused my significant other, Joyce, and I to cancel our visit to Louisiana Cajun country, Scottsboro was sort of on the way home. First, we kept an annual tradition, stopping in the Gulf Coast town of Apalachicola, Fla., to enjoy the greatest oysters on earth. From there, it was a short drive along the Gulf of Mexico to Panama City Beach, Fla., where we headed north. After an overnight in Birmingham, Ala., we arrived in Scottsboro.

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Joyce searching for a bargain. We were surprised to encounter a huge lake in the foothills of the Appalachian Mountains, Lake Guntersville. Arriving in early afternoon, we were looking for lunch and saw a local spot where the parking lot was filled with vehicles. That’s always a good sign. We were not disappointed. Ever had baked tomato pie? Yum. We checked into a motel, relaxed and then sought a dinner spot and discovered local law prevented sales of alcohol on Sunday. Alas, no wine with dinner. However, a couple of mini airline bottles of vodka poured into a Diet Coke took care of that problem. The next morning, a Monday, we were off to the Unclaimed Baggage Center. The place was huge. We arrived an hour after

they opened the parking lot, and it was almost full. A quick survey revealed license plates from more than a dozen states. We entered and were immediately met by a personable staff member. She had worked at the center for more than two decades and immediately told us a bit of its history. “It began in 1970, when the founder was contacted by a bus line that had unclaimed items and baggage they wanted to sell,” she said. “He drove to Washington D.C., rented a U-Haul and hauled back those items and opened the shop. Now we have 18-wheelers traveling all over the United States to pick up unclaimed baggage and freight from airlines, railroads, cruise ships, bus lines.”

She went on to tell us that some people come to the center every day because the inventory turns over quickly — more than 7,000 new items arrive daily. The center estimates that nearly 1 million people visit every year. We received a map of the center, which occupies a full city block and has around 60,000 square feet of display area. The clothes on the racks have been cleaned and pressed. Hundreds of shoes, dresses, slacks and scarves are artfully displayed, in the same fashion as at quality department stores. There are hundreds of jewelry items, cell phones, iPads, computers and cameras. There are also some items not for sale. The center has “museum pieces,” such as huge McDonald’s signs and a Tibetan headdress. There is a coffee shop and deli in the center. Clerks are helpful and knowledgeable in each department. We shopped for two hours. The bottom line: We found no bargains. Joyce is an obsessed shopper, and we walked away from the center empty-handed. Her comment, which I regard as that of an expert shopper, is that it was no big deal. The discounts were not that substantial, and while there were thousands of items to choose from, none were priced so low as to warrant taking home. Was it worth the trip? Well, we had our curiosity satisfied. But the Unclaimed Baggage Center turned out to be a big deal with no big deals. ❖

Ray Speckman can be found looking for bargains locally or at rayspeckman@ emmesannex.com. Prime Magazine May 2015

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Bob Gerding, 63, was born and raised in nearby Boonville and came to Columbia to attend the University of Missouri. He spent his early career working for the University of Missouri and for a local accounting firm before founding his own firm, Gerding, Korte & Chitwood CPAs, with partners Fred Korte and Joe Chitwood in 1981. Today, the firm has eight partners and 14 professional staff members who help mid-Missouri clients navigate the complex world of personal and business finance. Community service is a passion for Gerding, who volunteers his time and talent to organizations that include the Community Foundation for Central Missouri and the Columbia Chamber of Commerce. He currently serves on the boards of Boone County National Bank, Central Trust and Investments, and Columbia Insurance Group. Gerding has been married for 22 years to his wife, Rosie. Daughter Maggy is a teacher in Wisconsin, but sons Matt and Tim are perpetuating the Gerdingsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; Columbia dynasty. Matt Gerding recently took over as co-owner of The Blue Note and Rose Music Hall, and Tim Gerding is a local attorney with the firm of Evans & Dixon.

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How To Prepare Fish And (Or) Chips For Dinner 1. Find your waders and inspect them to make sure they are free of holes. 2. Put your left foot in the left foot and the right foot in the right foot of your waders, and cinch belt tightly around your waist. 3. Borrow a fishing pole and tackle box. 4. Seek out the best fishing spot in Flat Branch Creek, of which there are none, but if you find one, wade in, taking care to avoid beer bottles and plastic bags that may be littering the bank. 5. Attach lure to fishing line and skillfully cast your line into the 3-foot-wide creek. 6. Give up on your ill-fated attempt to catch a fish. 7. Remove waders and scrub them clean of crud. 8. Return fishing pole to its rightful owner.

9. Move to alternative plan. 10. Retrieve your granddaughter’s toy wagon and a couple of reusable shopping bags. 11. Walk to the corner of Providence and Cherry, pulling the wagon behind you. 12. Look both ways and cross Providence Road at your own risk. Note the absence of sidewalks heading into Lucky’s Market. Dodge speeding vehicles. Trudge up hill. 13. Enter Lucky’s and become distracted by products you did not intend to buy. 14. Peruse the selection of healthy, organically grown fish. 15. Buy potato chips instead. 16. Also buy a six-pack of Bur Oak Beer. 17. Ride wagon back down hill and hope you can stop at Providence Road. 18. Return home and enjoy your meal of potato chips and beer.

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How To Make Money From Downtown Parking Meters 1. Walk around downtown and make note of meters that are broken and those that are used most frequently. 2. Search the ground nearby for coins that have been dropped accidentally or thrown down by angry parkers who pulled up next to a broken meter. 3. Collect your found money in a Boone County National Bank coin bag. 4. Deposit coins in the coin counting machine in the bank lobby. 5. Use the proceeds to buy more potato chips and beer.

How To Clean Graffiti From Walls 1. Search out new graffiti. (Note: It’s easier to clean freshly painted graffiti than graffiti that has been allowed to “mature.”) 2. Look upon the graffiti with the eye of an art appreciator and determine that it is not, in fact, art. 3. Obtain free graffiti removal spray from the CID (Downtown Community Improvement District). 4. Dig through your T-shirt drawer to find an expendable shirt. 5. Squirt graffiti remover on the graffiti and wipe clean. 6. Repeat Step 5 as needed.

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How To Live Downtown 1. Search for an apartment with affordable rent and without 20-year-old neighbors. 2. After checking out those three apartments, determine which is furthest from Bengals. 3. Pay the deposit. 4. Buy cheap furniture. 5. Buy a box fan. 6. Turn on box fan at night to create white noise. 7. Buy earplugs. 8. Insert earplugs at night in case white noise is inadequate. 9. Buy two pillows — one to put your head on and one to put over your head in case white noise and earplugs are inadequate. 10. Allow extra time in the morning to detour around barf on sidewalk. (Caution: Do not retrieve the morning paper in your bare feet.)

How To Maintain Your Downtown Apartment Landscape 1. Sell all lawn tools on Craigslist. 2. Use proceeds to buy a high-quality broom. 3. Sweep your parking lot once per season or as required based on volume of plastic bags, cigarette butts and beer cans. 4. Hire Columbia Landcare for snow removal. 5. Use Flat Branch Park for walks in green grass. 6. Kick back and enjoy a cold Bur Oak Beer to celebrate a job well done.

The Roast Of Bob Gerding Each year, the Greater Missouri chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association taps a well-known local citizen to be the “honoree” at a raucous, hilarious roast. This year, Bob Gerding puts his pride on the line as friends and family members share funny stories and more than a few jokes at his expense at the annual fundraiser. The event takes place on Thursday, May 28, at the Holiday Inn Executive Center. Learn more at the Alzheimer’s Association website, www.alz.org/greatermissouri, or by calling 573-443-8665. Gerding has learned through personal experience that the Alzheimer’s Association is a valuable resource. “My father received great help while my mom suffered for several years with the disease. The caregiver support group for men was most appreciated.” He looks forward to helping the organization raise needed funds to continue its work here in mid-Missouri. “I would venture to say that everyone in attendance has a family member, a friend, or is aware of someone who is dealing with Alzheimer’s,” he says. “Certainly, as a group, we can help.” Prime Magazine May 2015

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How To Choose A Pool Or Spa

A visit to your favorite spa leaves you feeling refreshed and relaxed. But all those spa visits become expensive if you go there often, and they eat up a lot of spare time. So why not have a pool or spa installed at home? If you want to re-create that decadent and luxurious feeling at home, there are a few things you need to know before you get started. Home spas have become quite affordable in recent years as the demand for them has risen. There are even easy-to-install models for accomplished DIYers and portable ones that you can pack up and take along on vacation. Many people who suffer from chronic pain or who have circulatory problems find them a great help. Innovations such as ozonators and aromatherapy fragrances have reached the home-spa industry, too. Many available for home use are nearly as elaborate as those found in high-end hotels and resorts. You may even be able to find some of these in stock at your favorite big-box home-improvement center. Home spas are now available with TV and DVD combinations, along with therapeutic and eye-catching LED lighting. Spas can be entertaining and relaxing, but consider another aspect: hydrotherapy. Water has the ability to help in healing and repairing tired bodies. It massages muscles, improves circulation, relaxes nerves and eases aches and pains. Jetted tubs are known for their tension- and stress-reducing effects; they suspend tired muscles in weightlessness, allowing them to rest. Back pain sufferers are among those most vocal in their praise of home spas’ pain-relieving possibilities.

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Everyone has a different reason for wanting a home spa. Regardless of your reasons, you can order a custom spa built to your specifications. You can order whichever bells and whistles you want: entertainment systems, fragrances, lighting, cabinets and umbrellas. Home swimming pools are also a favorite installation for the health-conscious. These are not your grandfather’s aqua bathtub-sunk-in-the-yard pools of yesteryear. Natural stone, manmade waterfalls and landscape detailing transform a pool into a private oasis. Ask lots of questions before choosing a pool design. How is the pool going to be used? Do you want an in-ground or an above-ground pool? Above-ground pools are substantially less expensive, but some people prefer the look and durability of an in-ground pool. It’s a decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly because the pool will be a part of your home for many years. You’ll also want to consider the materials, style and features that will surround your pool; you are no longer restricted to a plain concrete-lined pond. You will need to work with a builder to blend form and function in your backyard environment. One thing to consider: Many people will build their dream pool over time as it fits their budget, so it’s important to start with highquality installation and a plan in place for what you want your pool to become. Even if you can only afford a basic pool right now, you can plan the space to include more features later. When life gets to be too much sometimes, wouldn’t it be nice to have your own private relaxation and restoration place? Create your own “staycation” with a pleasurable home pool or spa. v

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How To Choose A Funeral Home

It’s never comfortable to think about making funeral arrangements for a loved one, but it’s wise to think ahead so you can be clear-headed and deliberate making the difficult decisions. Most people do not have a lot of experience planning funerals and have to learn as they go. Funerals are costly, prices can vary dramatically, and your emotion can sometimes cloud the decision-making process. Here are some things to think about before your time of grief, so you’ll be able to make the wisest choices possible. The first order of business will be to determine if the deceased has made any funeral arrangements and whether those arrangements need to be altered due to changes in circumstances.

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Even if no arrangements were made, ask family members and close friends to determine if the deceased made any specific wishes known. If possible, those wishes should be respected. If the deceased had any pre-arrangements with a local company, contact them. Be aware that pre-arrangements purchased years ago may no longer cover the cost of the funeral or represent the later wishes of the deceased. In this case, don’t be afraid to shop around to see if you can find a more suitable arrangement or to make adjustments as necessary. To find a funeral home, ask friends, relatives and ministers for a referral. Getting a good referral is a good way to weed out funeral homes that might not have impeccable reputations. It’s also

helpful to think back on funerals you have attended and the impressions you had of the funeral homes in your community. Cost is a major concern for most families. Ask the funeral director about the basic fees. Ask about the services they offer and any payment arrangements that can be made. Ask lots of questions and take notes. Funeral home personnel should patiently answer all questions asked. Request written estimates for everything. Ask about hours for viewing, in-house services versus off-site, cremation services, what is included and the cost of extras and special requests. Once you have decided on the funeral home and type of service, the next step is to get the paperwork in order. Your funeral director can help navigate the necessary forms and permits. You will need to obtain copies of death certificates and make the actual burial or cremation arrangements. If there are other relatives or friends involved, sit down with them and compare notes to find a funeral home that fits your family’s needs. Stay within your budget, and do not allow yourself to be pressured into extras you don’t need or can’t afford. Let the funeral home know who in the deceased’s family is authorized to make decisions. Be very specific about the arrangements, and speak up if something is not being done according to your intentions. A good funeral home has the expertise to guide you through the process and to ensure the funeral runs smoothly for everyone. In your time of bereavement, you’ll be grateful you made a plan so you don’t have to worry about making decisions while mourning your loss.v

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How To Choose A Mattress

You spend a third of your life in your bed, so take your time to get what you need in a mattress. Trying to sleep on an old mattress or a mattress that does not fit your physical needs can deprive you of a good night’s sleep. Sleep deprivation can affect not only your mood but also your health and job performance. A new, good quality mattress that provides you with a restful night’s sleep is worth what you pay for it. Lots of choices are available. It’s easy to get confused by the multitude of styles and various materials available. Taking it a step at a time, however, you can find the perfect mattress. Start by asking friends and family about their mattresses, and then go window shopping. Get as much information as you can, and start narrowing your choices. As you figure out how much you can afford, remember that the purchase of a mattress is a long-term investment in your health. Buy the best mattress you can afford even if you need to wait for a sale or closeout. The better mattresses also last longer so are not really more expensive over the long-run.

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Once you are ready to buy your new mattress, here are a few things to consider: • Do you need a soft or hard mattress? If you have neck or leg pain, a bad back or circulatory problems, you might need firm support to keep the spine aligned or require flexible support that contours with the shape of your body. • Do you sleep with another person? A memory foam mattress, which contours to the shape of each person’s body, can be beneficial as one person’s movement will less likely disturb the sleep of the other person. • Do you have allergies? Standard mattresses commonly aggravate allergies in people who are sensitive to lint, cotton, dust or dust mites. If this is the case with you or your partner, you should consider latex, foam or water mattresses. Another option is to purchase a hypoallergenic mattress cover. Regarding your actual mattress options, the following are popular choices: • Pillowtop mattresses have an extra layer of softness for additional comfort. Although they do not generally

provide a very firm sleep surface, they do come in various levels of firmness. It should be noted that these mattresses usually require a larger bottom sheet because the pillowtop adds extra thickness. • Coil spring construction can come in very firm styles for people who want a firm mattress. When buying a coil spring mattress, choose the best construction you can afford. Most mattress stores can show you cross-section samples of their product lines to show the coil spring construction. • “Memory” or high-density foam and latex mattresses are also widely available. These are helpful for people with physical issues such as skeletal pain or circulatory problems. They conform to the shape of the body while minimizing pressure points from the head, shoulders and hips. • Adjustable air mattresses. Air mattresses are equipped with electronic and mechanical devices that adjust the firmness or softness of certain areas of the bed by controlling air chambers. This is ideal for partners who have different mattress firmness requirements for sleeping. When shopping for a mattress, don’t be afraid to try them out. Wear comfortable clothes, and lie down on the mattress. Roll over and pay attention to whether it fits your comfort level. Ask whether the mattress comes with a guarantee or warranty. A good warranty length is 10 years. If the warranty is shorter or non-existent, consider looking elsewhere. As you shop, keep in mind that a good mattress is not a luxury but a requirement for feeling your best. Choose wisely and your purchase will reward you with years of wonderfully restful sleep.v

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How To Recognize The Signs Of A Heart Attack • Chest Pressure The chest pain experienced by women is often lower than that felt by men. This leads some women to feel that this discomfort is coming from their stomach rather than their chest.

• Shortness of Breath Almost six out of 10 women who are having a heart attack feel that they are short of breath. Like men, women will feel the need to rest, which will lessen the symptoms in some cases.

• Extreme Fatigue A woman having a heart attack may feel unusually tired. She cannot seem to get enough rest or sleep. In fact, this extreme fatigue can precede a heart attack by several weeks.

Signs of a heart attack vary by gender. Most heart attacks start slowly, with mild pain or discomfort. Often people aren’t sure what’s wrong and wait too long before getting help. Here are signs that can mean a heart attack is happening: MEN • Severe Chest Pain For men, the first sign of a heart attack is often chest pain that lasts several minutes. While everyone experiences minor chest pains from time to time, a person having a heart attack can feel severe chest pressure. It can feel like uncomfortable pressure, squeezing or pain sometimes traveling from the chest to the shoulder area, arms and back. The chest pain from a heart attack will not go away. Normally, it will intensify.

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• Back Pain Men will seldom complain about back pain when having a heart attack. Women, on the other hand, often experience severe back pain.

• Shortness Of Breath A man who is having a heart attack may experience shortness of breath with or without chest discomfort. It will feel like he has run a marathon when he is totally out of shape. A man who is having a heart attack may get so short of breath that he faints.

• Other Signs Less frequent signs include dizziness, teeth and jaw pain, cold sweats, frequent burps and excessive yawning. These signs may be in combination with the symptoms described above.

WOMEN As with men, women’s most common heart attack symptom is chest pain or discomfort. However, the signs of a heart attack in women are harder to diagnose.

• Nausea Many women who are having a heart attack will feel like they need to vomit. Doctors do not fully understand this feeling in women. Many women will, in fact, vomit when they are having a heart attack.

It is important to know the difference between men’s and women’s heart attack symptoms. Knowing these signs can save a life. Seconds really do count, so make sure and follow through by seeking emergency treatment immediately. Call 911 if in doubt. If treatment is not sought quickly, lasting damage may occur. v

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How To Fall In Love With Your Farmers’ Market

There is nothing like buying fresh, locally harvested produce from the farmer who grew it. At summertime farmers’ markets, local growers and merchants offer their fresh fruits, vegetables, jams, baked goods and locally grown meat to people who want to put healthful food on their tables. The sights and smells from a farmers’ market make it a pleasant way to spend a morning or afternoon. There are many compelling reasons why people shop at these markets. First, you are supporting local small businesses and the environment. Once you have tasted berries picked that morning by the grower himself, it is unlikely you will want well-traveled, two-week old berries — not to mention the ecological cost of trucking fruit 3,000 miles. Second, farmers’ markets offer an extensive variety of produce. Local growers have varieties of vegetables unavailable in supermarkets because they don’t ship well. You can also find a larger selection of berries, peppers, corn, potatoes and tomatoes than you will see in a large retail setting. Third, local vendors have plenty of knowledge to share about their produce and baked goods. For example, they can tell you what type of flavor to expect from a vegetable or the heat level for a specific pepper variety. Local growers can also advise you on the types of peaches, tomatoes or apples that are best for cooking. Some growers may even give you recipe ideas or introduce you to a type of produce you have never eaten before. Many

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vendors may give you the opportunity to sample fruit, vegetables and other home-grown items they are selling. Fourth, farmers’ markets sell more than just produce. Some vendors have items such as honey, herbs, baked goods, handmade pastas, farm-fresh eggs, milk, cheese, meats or homecanned jams and jellies. You can often sample freshly baked herb breads along with locally produced goat cheese. You may also see plants and flowers for sale. Most vendors will have tips on how to care for them. Fifth, if you regularly shop at the same market, you can often get insight into what will be coming in the future. You will learn the best days and times to shop. It will help you get some fantastic deals. Buying produce at the local farmers’ market is not only pleasant and healthy but it is also a frugal way to shop. It gives you the opportunity to experience new fruits and vegetables at the peak of their freshness and at prices less expensive than you might think. A visit to a farmer’s market is more than just a buying trip. It can be an educational experience and a pleasant outing for the whole family. In fact, it is fun to visit farmers’ markets in other locations while on vacation. We all know that we should be adding more fruits and vegetables to our diets. Yet, sometimes out of habit, we buy the same few items every week at the nearest retail supermarket. Try something new. Take a trip to your local farmer’s market. You will be glad you did. v

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How To Choose A Flooring Dealer

When choosing new flooring for your home, it is important to select something that is not only going to look good but that is also durable. There are so many different materials to choose from, including but not limited to carpet, hardwood, bamboo, laminate, stone and tile. For someone who is not familiar with the industry, shopping for flooring can be an overwhelming experience. With so many types of materials, it may be difficult to make this decision on your own. The best way to ensure that you are getting the right flooring is by choosing an experienced flooring dealer, especially one that is familiar with all of the various brands and types available. A good dealer will assist you in determining the flooring material best suited to your needs. Budgets may be tight, and consumers are concerned with the prices of the

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products they are choosing for their home. This is not one of those cases where it pays to be overly frugal. When selecting flooring and a respective dealer, you must think about the long term. You need to make sure that you are getting the best value possible. It is always nice to find a great product at a great price, but what if something happens in 10 years and you have no reliable warranty? Even worse is the possibility that the installers might ruin the job and leave your flooring permanently damaged. Another important factor to consider is the types of additional services and support that a floor dealer can offer. This is where customer service plays a crucial role. Your choice of flooring dealers should be based on the services they provide in the long term. If at all possible, it’s best to find a locally based dealer with a track record

of great customer service. It’s worth spending extra money on flooring and buying from a flooring dealer you can trust. You are buying more than just flooring; you are building a relationship that comes with a guarantee for your product. When picking out what flooring dealer you want to use, the first instinct of most is to search using the Internet or the local phone book. Remember that phone book ads are paid for; larger ads will go to the companies with the larger budgets. Money is all it takes to advertise, so these ads are no sign of the kind of service you will receive. The Internet can also be misleading when it comes to searching for qualified flooring dealers. One should be wary of the top search engine results, as these don’t necessarily mean that the dealer is reputable. Instead, it simply means that the website is ranked highly, which can happen for various reasons that aren’t based on service. Also, be sure to read any consumer review websites with a discerning eye. These review sites can be appropriate but anything read online should be taken with caution. Make a list of potential flooring dealers you are considering, and give each of them a call. You can ask if they can provide any referrals from prior customers for references. Find out what installation services they use and how reliable they are. Ask if they use in-company groups or outside contractors. Be sure to inquire about their warranty coverage and the guarantees they offer on their flooring. Finally, you can check with your local Better Business Bureau or Chamber of Commerce for any complaints against the business, or lack thereof. While shopping around, you might find that local dealers can offer comparable or lower prices, and a better variety of materials, than the larger chain stores. Overall, most people have better experiences using a flooring dealer that has been in business for many years. v

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How To Choose A Water Treatment Company

Is your tap water as pure as you think? Public tap water can contain additives such as chlorine, fluoride, calcium and more. If you don’t like such substances added to your drinking water, there are alternatives. One reason you might object to additives in your drinking water is the effect on taste. Not only will a glass of water be affected, but your coffee and tea might not taste like you want. And tap water with high levels of calcium, or hard water, forms deposits in pipes, requires the use of more detergent in laundry and leaves spots on your dishes and silverware.

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Most of these unwanted minerals can be removed or reduced by water treatment companies. Your water will taste better and your dishes will be spotless. Water treatment and spring water supply companies service their filtration systems or deliver bottled water to your home or business on a regular schedule. They save you the worry of thinking about your drinking water. As you choose a water supplier, balance your desire for water that tastes better with how much it will cost. Some companies might be quite expensive, while others might not give you the highest quality product. Research various

brands to compare pricing, quality, purity and healthfulness. You’ll probably be using purified water for several things, too, such as drinking and cooking. Decide on whether you want to use a treated water company or bottled water based on how much you’ll use for these purposes. Water treatment companies typically deliver their water in five-gallon jugs, which is much more convenient and costeffective than buying your water in 16- or 20-ounce bottles or two-gallon containers. Bottled water can come from nearly anywhere, including springs, rivers and public water systems, but to be labeled “purified,” the water must meet FDA standards. Generally, that means the water must be treated, through filtration and disinfection, before it is bottled. If the water comes from a public water system and has not been treated to meet FDA’s definition of “purified” or “sterile” water, the label must state that the source is from a community water system. Keep in mind that filtration removes minerals, good and bad. Besides the taste, the mineral content of water has a nutritional aspect: Your body requires sodium, calcium, magnesium, copper, sulfur and iron. Over-filtration removes these good minerals along with the bad, so it is vital that your drinking water has just the right balance. It might take a little effort on your part to find the right water treatment that meets your needs. If you live in an area where the local water supply’s mineral content is too high, it’s likely that many of your neighbors feel the way you do and want to find an alternative. Likely, then, there are businesses in your area already set up to offer you something better. v

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How To Succeed At Estate Planning

If the only certain things are death and taxes, it makes common sense to plan ahead for both. While many people think only the wealthy need to worry about estate planning, the truth is, making a plan is the best thing you can do for your loved ones, regardless of your financial standing. Rich or poor, old or young, it’s best to write a road map for handling your property and other assets in the event you die unexpectedly. Not having a sound estate plan can result in legal difficulties, great inconvenience, unnecessary taxation and family strife. Taking the time to consult with an estate planning professional can have a significant impact on your lasting legacy. Keeping those thoughts in the forefront, consider these tips for creating a sound, logical estate plan.

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Seek Legal Counsel It’s easy to find a form online to draft a will, but most people would benefit from consulting with an estate planning professional. An experienced lawyer can create documents with your specific circumstances in mind. Everyone should have a will, regardless of age, but that only represents one piece of an estate plan. You should also consider a living will, power of attorney and possibly a trust. Each of these things should be done in consultation with a lawyer with experience developing estate plans for clients whose situations are similar to yours. Life Insurance Policies A life insurance policy can help provide for loved ones in the event of your death. The life insurance market offers a wide range of options, only some of which will

make sense for your situation. Find a professional who can guide you through the possibilities and help you make a suitable choice. Many people choose term life insurance policies because they are generally less expensive than other types of coverage. Whole life policies, annuities and other insurance vehicles may be more appropriate for your circumstances. In some cases, policies may benefit the salesperson more than they do the customer, so know what you’re buying. It’s important that you take all the time you need to learn about your insurance policy before you decide to buy it. If you feel any sense of hesitation or confusion, ask another professional or keep researching until you feel certain you are choosing the best policy for your needs. Funeral Expenses Funerals can cost tens of thousands of dollars. That’s why it is important to plan ahead to cover your funeral expenses. You don’t want to leave your family holding the bag for large bills. Pre-paid funeral plans are a popular choice, or you could simply purchase your burial plot in advance so that one major task will be handled before your passing. It may be uncomfortable to think about, but it is something that must be addressed as part of a solid estate plan. Visit funeral homes in your area to discuss the types of prepayment options they offer. Communication Is Key Don’t keep your family in the dark about your estate plan. Telling them in general terms what to expect in case of your unexpected death could head off estate disputes and heartache. This is another area in which a good estate planner can be helpful. Estate planning is their professional focus, and that includes the complicated family dynamics and concerns that can frequently accompany the process. With the right estate plan and experienced professionals to help, your estate can be a blessing that your heirs will treasure for the rest of their lives. v

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How To Choose The Right Pet Food

If you have dogs or cats, you know that they are an important part of the family. There are many things you can do to look out for their well-being, and one of the most important changes you can make to improve their health may be as close as your kitchen. Excellent nutrition is a wonderful first step towards better overall health for your furry family members. Poor quality foods can affect your pets’ bodies in a variety of ways, including poor coat, frequent scratching, gas, poor digestion and weakened immune systems. Feeding pets healthy pet food cannot only save you money, but it can also lengthen your pet’s lifespan! Unfortunately many popular brand-name pet foods are loaded with cheap fillers, high allergens and artificial preservatives that your pets don’t need. The most important step in selecting a healthy pet food is to simply look at the ingredients in the food you’re buying for your dog or cat. Your dogs and cats are carnivores, so a nutritious choice will start off with a specifically named meat or a concentrated meat meal, for example, chicken or chicken meal. The more meat sources at the beginning of the label, the better.

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It’s best to avoid foods with unspecified meats or by-products, such as “meat and bone meal” or “chicken-by-product,” as they can include beaks, feathers, hair and other undesirable food additives. Corn and soy are other ingredients that are best left on the shelf. They are often used as inexpensive fillers in pet foods to replace the meat but are known allergens to many pets. These are common ingredients found in many mass-market and grocery-store-brand foods, but there are many corn- and soy-free alternatives available at smaller specialty pet stores that deliver a much healthier product to your pets. What makes feeding a more nutritious food even better is knowing you are very likely going to be saving money as well: Pets can eat up to 40 percent less when they’re on a healthier food, and they are less likely to have health issues that lead to special vet visits. Feeding your pet a healthy food is an investment in their overall health and longevity. With all the love and devotion they give to you, making the right food choice for them is one of the easiest ways to return that love right back to them. v

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When it comes to hearing and balance disorders, audiologists specialize in various areas, including: ➤ Hearing tests. Various diagnostic tests can help assess hearing from infancy to adulthood. ➤ Hearing aids. Not all hearing aids offer the same features. It is important for your audiologist to discuss how hearing aid features can be matched to your lifestyle.

Hearing allows us to engage in the world of sound around us. It offers us both comfort — the soothing sound of a mother’s lullaby — and protection — a fire alarm — while enhancing our ability to learn, to communicate and to experience pleasure through music and other sounds. An estimated one out of 10 people have hearing loss, and this condition can affect people of all ages. In fact, 65 percent of people with hearing loss are younger than 65. One in six Baby Boomers has a hearing problem, and one in 14 Generation X-ers already has hearing loss. At least 1.4 million children have hearing problems. Qualified audiologists are able to specifically identify, evaluate, diagnose and treat hearing disorders in children and adults. In addition to hearing disorders, audiologists are able to assess and treat balance system dysfunctions, tinnitus (ringing in the ears) and hyperacusis (aversion to loud sounds). Audiologists are also experts in hearing loss prevention and provide counseling and resources to help prevent noiseinduced hearing loss. They also monitor hearing and balance disorders that may

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result from the administration of ototoxic medications. When finding an audiologist, look for a specialist who is certified by the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association. Professional credentials such as Au.D., M.S., M.A., FAA and CCC-A are also signs of quality. Then look into the audiologist’s history. Find out how long they have been in practice, if any malpractice suits have been filed and how those were resolved. Find out if any of the audiologists on your list have treated patients with the particular problems you are facing. If you can find an audiologist who is well-skilled in treating your ailment, you stand a better chance of receiving proper treatment. Ask friends, family and your family physician for recommendations. Patients are more than happy to share positive experiences with their doctors, and your general practitioner is a great source of information when looking for a specialist in a particular area. When you choose an audiologist with positive reviews, you will have the peace of mind that comes from making an informed decision. v

➤ Osseointegrated hearing devices. These medical devices are anchored to a surgically placed abutment behind the ear. It is specifically designed for conductive hearing loss or single-sided deafness. It uses the body’s natural ability to conduct sound through bone conduction. ➤ Cochlear implants. This device is surgically implanted into the inner ear for patients who no longer can understand speech with traditional hearing aids. ➤ Balance disorders. Audiologists work directly with otolaryngologists to assess the inner ear and the state of the balance system. ➤ Tinnitus assessment and management. 50 million Americans have tinnitus and audiologists can offer sound therapy tools for tinnitus relief. ➤ Central auditory processing disorder. Children with this condition cannot process what they hear in the same way other children do because their ears and brain do not fully coordinate. Something interferes with the way the brain recognizes and interprets sounds, especially speech.

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How To Choose Care At Home

We all want to live life to the fullest, but when health issues start to interfere, what do you do? People don’t always realize that there are many services available to help you or a loved one improve quality of life and stay safe and independent at home. Choosing someone to provide help at home is one of the most important decisions you will make. Not only are you choosing a care provider, but you are also choosing someone to come into your home or the home of a loved one. Home care services should help provide support and relief, not add to your worries with unexpected costs or unsatisfactory care. Following are some areas to research as you make this important decision: Access To Care It can take some research to find care and help for someone at home. There are many services and community resources available, but it isn’t always easy to find them. It is important to choose a home care agency with the experience and knowledge to know all the options and to help access the individualized care you need. Range Of Services Not everyone requires the same services, so it is important that a full range of services are available to meet your ongoing needs. A full-service provider that offers all types of home care services can help you transition to various types of care as they are needed, while tailoring services to meet your individual needs. This way you get the services you need and not just what the company happens to offer.

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Experience And Quality It is important to choose an experienced agency that has a way to measure their quality. Ask if they are certified by the Joint Commission or other accrediting organization — the same organizations that assure quality for hospitals. Choose an agency where the employees coming into your home receive training and support and where supervisors come to the home to evaluate the employees’ work. Make sure someone is available to answer your questions 24 hours a day, 7 days a week — including holidays. Qualified, Dependable Employees Because caregivers will be coming into your home and working independently, it is critical that they have been thoroughly screened and that extensive background checks have been done, including a thorough interview, reference checks, Family Safety Care Registry checks, criminal background checks and drug testing. They should also be insured and bonded. Payment Sources There are many payment sources available for home care, and it is important to select an agency that understands and accepts all of them for your maximum benefit. Some of the sources include Medicare, Medicaid, Missouri Children’s Waiver, Insurance, Veteran’s Administration, Worker’s Compensation and private pay. Some agencies are also aware of free community resources available. There are many benefits to choosing home care. With these guidelines, you can have more confidence in choosing the best home care agency for you or your loved ones. v

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How To Choose An Architect Interviews Don’t skip the face-to-face interview. Plan to spend at least an hour with each prospective architect. Be sure to ask questions concerning their design philosophy, approach to building and how they will delegate the work. Your potential architects should leave the interview with a clear idea of your budget and expectations.

Architects combine science, technology and art to create buildings that are not only beautiful but also practical. Choosing a bad architect can lead to buildings that are beautiful but nonfunctional or those that are structurally sound but not so attractive. Selecting an architect is a big factor in determining the stability and success of your building project. Have A Plan Before you can communicate effectively with an architect, you must be able to answer some basic questions about how the building will be used. Many architects specialize in certain styles and types of buildings. You don’t want an architect who specializes in doctor’s offices, for instance, if you are looking to build an addition to your home. When writing your project description, be sure to consider the location of the structure, the budget, time and space requirements, as well as the use, layout and style of the building. Any architect you hire will need this information for their blueprints and project management.

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Options Keep your options open. Create a list of several candidates that you glean from referrals, advertisements and research. Referrals are an excellent way to shorten your list of candidates, as you will have honest opinions of the architects’ previous work. Drive around town and look for structures built by the architects on your short list. If you see a building you really like, find out which architect managed the project and add him or her to your list. If you want to conduct research online, go to websites such as www.aia.org and www.servicemagic.com. Both sites match architects and clients based on various factors, including budget and location. Use Your Short List Once you’ve narrowed your list to a handful of candidates, contact their firms and provide a project description. Find out if the firm is available for your project, and ask for any literature or brochures that describe past projects and experience. After you’ve reviewed the literature, further narrow your list to two or three candidates and set up interviews.

Payment Methods While architects have many contract options — hourly rates, flat amounts or fixed fees — the cost for services is typically directly related to the work you are requesting them to complete. Time is money, so the more work an architect has to do for your project, the more it will cost. One common method of calculating service costs is by percentage of building costs. The percentage rate will vary depending on the size and complexity of the project, as well as what services you want your architect to provide, but typically falls between 7 percent and 12 percent of the building cost. Come to an early agreement on exactly what services you want your architect to perform and on how budget overruns and project delays will be handled. It is ultimately your responsibility, not the architect’s, to control the costs of the project by the decisions you make along the way. Final Decision A good architect will take notes during the interview and ask questions. Your participation in the project will be welcomed, and the architect will show genuine concern for the quality of the project. When making your final decision, choose the architect with whom you were most comfortable. A great architect will be easy to work with and will show the appropriate amount of respect for the client, the project and the budget. v

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How To Choose A Garden Center

Robert Fuller published the first seed catalog in 1732. For many years after that, gardeners anxiously awaited its arrival every January. They used these catalogs to plan their spring gardens and to help fill the long winter days. In many cases, those seed catalogs have been replaced by the Internet, but gardeners across the world still use the winter to dream of their spring gardens. They have a wide selection of products to seed those dreams. Gardeners today can choose products from more than 2,600 garden centers spread across the United States. So, how do you make the right choice? Do The Research When researching a garden center, look at its catalog or Internet site. It should be filled with information that is aimed at helping the gardener be more successful. This information should be easy to understand and easy to apply, proving that the garden center is an expert in gardening. Also look for a garden center that is

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active in the media. When the media has questions, the experts at the garden center you are considering should be on the short list that the media uses. Ask your friends and neighbors for referrals. Do you have a friend or neighbor who loves to garden? Have you noticed a beautiful garden in your area? If so, then ask the owner whom they use. Determine the specialty of each garden center. While some garden centers have a wide variety of products, most have a few products that they specialize in. Are those the products that interest you? Visit The Garden Centers After you have researched the garden centers, then visit two or three before making a final decision. Look at the quality of plants in the garden center. Do they look healthy? Do they seem to be well taken care of? Is there a good variety? Ask the salesperson a question. Think about a problem you have experienced in the past and ask about a solution. The salesperson should be

knowledgeable about possible solutions. Notice if the salesperson is friendly and personable. Find out how long the garden center has been in its current location. Good businesses usually stay in the same location for a long time and are usually operated by the same people for a long time. Ask about who owns the garden center. Usually plants grown for local greenhouses are better quality. After all, they are produced to be grown in your area. Plants grown locally usually have fewer diseases. Some of these diseases will not be apparent until you take the plants home. Find out how the plants are produced. Open pollinated designates a seed or plant that will reproduce itself purely if a seed is properly saved from the fruit of the plant. An organic seed or plant has been produced without artificial or chemical pesticides. Genetically modified plants are created by laboratory technology that manipulates the plantâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s genes. For example, instead of mixing two different kinds of corn to create one that is more resistant to diseases, they may combine genes from corn and a totally unrelated tomato plant. These modifications do not happen naturally in the breeding process. People are very wary of genetically altered seeds and plants. But there are many advantages to this type of plant. On commercial farms, this type of plant can give distinct advantages over those that are not genetically modified. In a backyard garden, however, this is usually not necessary. When shopping at a garden center, you should know what types of plants are being offered. Many will have identifying points listed on the tag. If not, check with the staff to get information. Generally, commercial crops are more likely to have genetic modification. v

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How To Choose An Accountant

You work hard for your money. A good accountant can ensure that money stays protected and works for you. The right accountant knows how to plan ahead and advise you accordingly. A bad accountant can waste your money and hurt you financially. Take your time and do your research to find the right accountant. An accountant is a licensed professional who can examine, organize and keep track of the financial matters of people and businesses. Accountants must have the ability to crunch numbers and be familiar with legal issues as they relate to finance. Choosing the right accountant will give you someone who will be able to tell you both the financial and legal implications of your decisions. As you search for an accountant,

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look for someone who has a proven track record and satisfied client base. Check the Internet. Many sites offer reviews from individuals and business owners who have used accountants. But be aware, as with any online reviews, that people who are dissatisfied are more likely to post than those who are happy with the service. Ask friends and family which accountants they have used. Word of mouth is often the best way to measure the trustworthiness and performance of any professional. If you know someone who is already using a particular accountant, that person should be happy to tell you whether you should consider using that accountant, too. The newspaper and telephone business directory are also valid sources of

information. If you choose to use the phone book as a source, call several accountants and ask for references. Ask questions of the accountant or ask to set up a consultation where you can meet the professional face-to-face. Also look at the Better Business Bureauâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s website. Many accountants are listed, and you can get a better idea of the satisfaction of former clients. Check with the American Institute of Certified Public Accountants as well. Once you have a short list of accountants, set up meetings. Remember that you will be sharing sensitive financial details with this person. You want to hire an accountant who puts you at ease, radiates professionalism and gains your trust. v

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How To Look 10 Years Younger

A youthful appearance can make a difference in how people see you and how you feel about yourself. Are you unhappy with your reflection in the mirror? Would you like to turn back the clock on your appearance? If you answered, “Yes,” to either of these questions, then decide to make changes. Create confidence by embracing a healthy lifestyle and using the latest anti-aging technology. Anyone who wants to look younger should start with these simple steps. 1. Get plenty of sleep. Exhaustion will deplete your energy and add years to your face. 2. Maintain a positive outlook. Stress can make you vulnerable tage and illnesses.

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3. Maintain healthy eating habits. Colorful fruits and dark green vegetables help restore important nutrients. 4. Drink plenty of water. Rehydrating flushes toxins out of your body. 5. Get plenty of exercise. A cardiovascular workout will keep your blood flowing and your skin glowing. Along with these do-it-at-home changes, more Americans are also choosing to use the latest advances in cosmetic procedures. Botox, Restylane, Collegen, Juvederm and a regular regimen of facials have helped redefine what it means to grow older. What was once available only to Hollywood is now regarded as routine. You, too, can look at least 10 years younger with these treatments.

1. FotoFacials. These treatments are an antidote for skin conditions, such as distinct lines, wrinkles, enlarged pores, pigmented lesions, age and sun spots, acne scars and rosacea. FotoFacials use light pulses to reverse sun damage and broken capillaries. They are usually painless procedures. 2. Injectable skin fillers. Dermal fillers are one of the most popular cosmetic procedures. Minimally invasive, this treatment will increase tissue volume. It reduces the appearance of wrinkles and improves your skin’s overall contour. Your face can look rejuvenated and fresh without surgery. One of the most common injectable skin fillers is Botox. It can stop your facial muscles from making involuntary contractions. As a result, Botox minimizes lines and wrinkles around your eyes, forehead and mouth. One treatment generally lasts between three and four months. Some physicians are so skilled at administering Botox injections that the treatments last for as long as six months. These injections are becoming a common procedure for men and women. According to the American Academy of Cosmetic Surgery, more than 17 million Americans received some type of cosmetic beauty procedure in 2009. This represents the largest number ever. And that number is growing annually at a rapid rate. A healthy lifestyle costs nothing and returns priceless benefits. Botox and specialized facials are easy, cost-effective ways of looking and feeling better. A commitment to work for a healthy youthful appearance can give you the boost you need to get more out of every area of your life. v

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How To Choose An Awesome Bakery

Do you love the smell of freshly baked bread? Does the aroma of cookies or pies coming out of the oven give you a warm, wonderful feeling? For people who love baked goods, finding the best bakery is a priority. Whether you are planning a special event or looking for a simple treat, high-quality baked goods are perfect for any occasion. There are times when store-bought goodies just aren’t good enough. The hardest part of finding a bakery is deciding what you want to order. You have the option of buying muffins, delicious bread, doughnuts or cakes. While many bakeries have a specialty, there are some things that all great bakeries share.

as the food is consistent regardless of who is making it. The bakery should create your baked goods with top-notch ingredients, combined in the same way each day.

High-Quality Ingredients An awesome bakery uses high-quality products. Imagine fudge made with pure Belgian chocolate or a cake topped with an organic chocolate drizzle. Top bakeries combine the best ingredients in ways no one else can.

Budget You will find bakeries that fit in all budgets. The absolute best products will cost more because the supplies are expensive, but bakeries strive very hard to accommodate all spending levels. Make your purchases depending on what you can afford. There is no need to be embarrassed about admitting a budget. If you are purchasing food for a special occasion, look for a bakery that shares in customers’ excitement and is eager to make the event as memorable as it can be. Ask your friends and family for referrals, and ask them to be specific in their praise. Ask someone working at the bakery why people love them, and then pay attention to how easy it is for them to answer, as well as the reasons they give. If those are reasons that are important to you — and you have heard similar testimonies from friends and family — then there’s a good chance you have found yourself a bakery. v

Atmosphere When you visit a great bakery, the staff should greet you promptly. The bakery should have an inviting atmosphere. The employees should be there because they like helping customers. The best bakeries smell like wonderful memories of childhood. They might even give you free nibbles to encourage you to buy their newest product. Consistency The bakery should take great pride in the products they create. There should be no need to worry about who is working, 48

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Specialties Some bakeries have specialty products that are unique to them. Whether you are looking for cake pops or pies how Grandma made them, there is a bakery that will suit your every desire. Many bakeries use family recipes to make mile-high dinner rolls or unique wedding cakes. Whatever you need, you will find a bakery that is just right for you.

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05.15 May MAY 1–3, 6–8 Stephens College Performing Arts ends its season with “Gypsy” at the Macklanburg Playhouse. Join Rose, June and Louise on their trip across the United States during the birth of burlesque. Tap your toes to favorite tunes such as “Let Me Entertain You,” “Everything’s Coming Up Roses,” and “Together.” $16 general, $8 student/ senior; 7:30 p.m., 2 p.m. Sunday matinee; 100 Willis Ave.; 573-876-7199; www.stephens.edu/services/performing-arts

MAY 1 The North Village Arts District hosts First Friday, showcasing collections of art and entertainment offerings. Free entertainment and light refreshments are on tap. Free; 6 to 9 p.m.; North 10th St.; 573-864-6641; www.facebook.com/NorthVillageArtsDistrict

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Be in the front row for the Mizzou New Play Series as MU’s talented playwrights spin tales of daring, drama and desperate desire. Each spring brings a festival of exciting new plays to the stage of Rhynsburger Theatre, developed during the nationally recognized Missouri Playwrights Workshop. $5; 7:30 p.m., 2 p.m. Sunday matinee; Hitt St. and University Ave.; 573-882-PLAY (7529); www.theatremissouri.edu/onstage

Look to the sky over Memorial Day weekend for the 27th Annual Salute to Veterans Air Show at Columbia Regional Airport. Honor our veterans while enjoying spectacular flight demonstrations and aerobatic performances. On the ground, explore vintage and modern aircraft on display. Saturday evening also brings the Honored Guests and Volunteers Banquet. The public is invited to this 6 p.m. carved buffet with fine wine; banquet tickets are $45. Free Air Show; 9 a.m. to 4 p.m.; 11300 S. Airport Drive; www.salute.org

MAY 1–3 Maplewood Barn Theatre presents “Darker Shores,” an old-fashioned Victorian ghost story that manages to be playfully intelligent, emotionally resonant and also quite scary. It takes place in foggy London and a haunted mansion overlooking the sea. When a professor finds his anti-Darwin writing sessions interrupted by “hauntings,” he consults an American spiritualist to solve the mystery of Sea House. $7 adults, $1 children younger than 10; 8 p.m.; 2900 E. Nifong Blvd; 573-227BARN (2276); www.maplewoodbarn.com

MAY 2 Join the members of the Columbia Youth Choirs for World Music Festival at First Presbyterian Church. The choirs will be celebrating music, dance and visual art from around the world in their final concert of the season. $10 adults, $5 children; 5 p.m.; First Presbyterian Church, 16 Hitt St.; www.columbiachorale.com

MAY 2 There will be some amazing country crooning at The Blue Note when Home Free appears. The world’s first country a cappella vocal band, Home Free was the winner of season 4 of “The Sing Off ” on NBC. Come out and hear this five-man singing

sensation. From $30; doors open 6 p.m., show at 7; 17 N. Ninth St.; 573-874-1944; www.thebluenote.com

MAY 2 Spring into action and get your green thumb in gear at the Central Missouri Master Gardeners’ 18th Annual Plant Sale at the Jaycee Fairgrounds in Jefferson City. Find great buys on annuals, perennials, hanging baskets, plants from Master Gardeners’ own gardens and native plants. Explore the wide variety of tomato plants, pepper plants, other vegetables and herbs. Free; 7 a.m. to noon; 1445 Fairgrounds Road, Jefferson City; 573-295-6263; www.centralmissourimastergardeners.org Prime Magazine May 2015

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Head into May with a 5K. Columbia Jumpstart hosts its Spark A Life 5K Run/Walk at Flat Branch Park. Jumpstart is a national early education organization that trains college students and community volunteers to serve at-risk preschool-age children. $25 Jumpstart members and alumni, $30 general public; 9 a.m.; 101 S. Fourth St.; 909-725-4662; www.getmeregistered.com

Jesse Auditorium reopens with the “Rapunzel.” The Missoula Children’s Theatre and more than 50 local students present an original adaptation of the classic fairy tale about a golden-haired heroine. $12 adults, $7 children; 3 and 6 p.m.; Jesse Hall (MU campus); 573-882-3781; www.concertseries.org

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The 14th annual Bike, Walk and Wheel Week encourages Columbians to use active modes of transportation to get around town. Participate in trail rides, public tours, workshops and more. On Friday, May 15, take part in National Bike to Work Day and enjoy a free breakfast at various locations around town as you bike, walk or wheel. Bicyclists may ride city transit buses for free all week long. Free; various times; throughout Columbia; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

Charity and creativity will be blooming in kitchens all over Columbia when the annual Kitchens In Bloom Tour returns for its 12th year. This year’s event will showcase five beautiful, local kitchens on a self-guided home tour. All proceeds benefit Services for Independent Living, which recently merged with Boone County Council on Aging. SIL’s mission is to empower people to maximize their independence. $12 in advance, $15 at the door; noon to 4 p.m., various locations; 573-874-1646; www.silcolumbia.org

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The annual Stephens College Undergraduate Commencement takes place at the Missouri Theatre. Prior to the ceremony, graduates, faculty and staff parade from Senior Hall, on the Stephens campus, down Locust Street to the Missouri Theatre. There, seniors and their family and friends will enjoy a Class of 2015 video in lieu of a keynote speaker. Free; 11 a.m.; 209 S. Ninth St.; 573-8767213; www.stephens.edu/parents/parentsevents/commencement/

MAY 9 Columbia College Commencement takes place at the Southwell Complex Gymnasium on the Columbia College

campus. The May commencement features two ceremonies — one at noon and a second at 3:30 p.m. Each is open to all master’s, bachelor’s and associate degree candidates who register and meet the eligibility requirements. Graduating students are invited to take part in the more than 100-year-old tradition of the Ivy Chain Ceremony. Free; noon and 3:30 p.m.; 700 Range Line St.; 573-875-7658; www.ccis.edu

MAY 9 Take a 26-mile loop ride around Columbia in the Loop the City Ride. Starting at the Bonnie View Nature Sanctuary shelter, plan to ride a mix of soft surface trails, bike lanes and streets with low to medium traffic volumes. Participants must have intermediate on-road riding skills and carry self-support (water and an

inner tube of correct size and valve type or patch kit). Staff will provide support and gear for minor maintenance issues. Helmets required. Free; 10 a.m. to 1 p.m.; meet 3300 Rollins Road; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

MAY 9 The 13th annual Jay Dix Challenge to Cure 10K Run & 5K Walk/Run is a family event that supports a local cause. The event offers three distances to chose from: a 5K walk, 5K run, and 10K run. Each race is chip-timed and starts simultaneously from Flat Branch Park. The Jay Dix Challenge to Cure is run in memory of Columbia Multisport member Jay Dix and raises funds for Ellis Fischel Cancer Center. 5K $30, $35 day of race, 10K $35, $40 day of race; 8:30 a.m.; Fourth and Locust Streets; info@challengetocure.com; www.challengetocure.com

MAY 14 The ninth annual “Dancing With Missouri Stars” takes place on the Columbia College campus. Several prominent members of the mid-Missouri community will be paired with a Missouri Contemporary Ballet professional to compete for the prestigious DWMS trophy.

One dance couple will include a pro from the Ballroom Academy of Columbia. $20 adults, $15 students; 7 p.m.; Southwell Complex (Columbia College campus); 573-219-7134; www.missouricontemporaryballet.com

MAY 15–17 The University of Missouri Commencement Ceremony and Events take place over three days in various locations on the Mizzou campus. Each school/ college graduates together. Most ceremonies take place at the Hearnes Center, Mizzou Arena or Jesse Auditorium. Tickets depend on the school/college; various times and locations; Mizzou campus; 573-882-7881; www.commencement.missouri.edu/may.php

MAY 16 Break out your bikes for the Bear Creek Family Bike Trail Ride. You’ll ride at a leisurely pace to highlight points along the beautiful 4.8-mile crushed limestone Bear Creek Trail, which links AlbertOakland and Cosmo parks. Total ride distance is about 10 miles. Helmets required. Free; 10 a.m. to noon; meet at AlbertOakland Park Shelter #2; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

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MAY 16–17 Come on out to Douglass Park for Heritage Weekend. It’s the unofficial opening of the park for the summer! Activities include balloons, table games for kids and adults, live music and family fun. Bring your lawn chair and enjoy your neighborhood park. Free; 3 to 8 p.m.; 400 N. Providence Road; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

all-star band that has taken the name Dixieland Gold. This event promises to be a real toe-tapper. $20; 7 p.m.; 3801 Ponderosa St.; 573-443-8936, extension 310; www.boonehistory.org/boone-concert-series

festivities at Kemper Park. The jamboree is open to all ages. Prices vary; ride starts from 7:30 to 10 a.m.; 101 S. Fourth St. (Flat Branch Park), 757 Third St., Boonville (Kemper Park); 573-234-4642; www.pedalersjamoboree.com

MAY 18 Bike on over to Lucky’s Market for a Women’s Fix-a-Flat Workshop. Learn the basics of flat repair and inner tube replacement from female League of American Bicyclists certified cycling instructors. Stay afterward for a wine and beer social hour (don’t forget to bring cash or a credit card). Free workshop; 6:30 to 8 p.m.; 111 S. Providence Road; 573-8747460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

MAY 23–24 MAY 18 The Blind Boone Piano Concert Series presents Dixieland Gold at Montminy Art Gallery. A decade ago, musicians who performed Dixieland in Columbia during its 1960s heyday formed Reunion Jazz. When only two of those ’60s originals — Jeff England and Rich Howard — remained active, they formed an

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Make tracks for the annual Pedaler’s Jamboree on Memorial Day weekend. Bicycle riders set out from Flat Branch Park and follow the Katy Trail to Kemper Park in Boonville. This biking-based music fest is a blast for bicycle riders, and nonriders can also enjoy the Saturday lineup of live bands in Boonville. Make the pedaling pilgrimage or drive on over and enjoy the

MAY 25 The annual Salute to Veterans Memorial Day Parade pays tribute to those who served or are currently serving in the armed forces, National Guard and reserves, and U.S. allies. The parade runs down Broadway and ends at the Boone County Courthouse plaza for a military ceremony. Free; 9:55 a.m.; downtown Columbia; www.salute.org

MAY 28 During this annual “(fun)raising event,” a local business person sits in the hot seat while friends tell stories and anecdotes about them. Some are fact, some are fiction, but all are hilarious. Proceeds benefit the Alzheimer’s Association. This year, the Roast of Bob Gerding takes place at the Holiday Inn Executive Center. Read more on Page 10. $100/ticket, $1,000/table; doors open at 5:30 p.m., dinner starts at 6:30; 2200 I-70 Drive S.W.; 573-4438665; www.alz.org

MAY 30 It’s time again for the Go Girl Run, Columbia’s only all-women half-marathon and 5K-run/walk events. Grab your girlfriends, co-workers and family members to train for and run the event together. On race day, at University of Missouri Reactor Field Park, get ready for a celebration of friendship and sisterhood with each detail of the event planned by Ultramax Sports with women in mind. Men are discouraged from attending but not restricted. From $35; half-marathon begins at 7

a.m., 5K begins at 7:15; 1901 Research Park Drive (MU campus); 573-443-7036; www.ultramaxsports.com/race/events

MAY 30 Attention all young anglers! Catch the 5th Annual Fishing Derby, co-sponsored by Columbia Parks & Recreation and the Missouri Department of Conservation. Bring the whole family out to Philips Park and enjoy a morning of fishing fun! Prizes will be awarded for first fish caught and largest and smallest fish in each age category — age 10 and younger or 11 and older. Free; check in 9 to 9:30 a.m., derby 9:30 to 10:30 a.m.; call hotline at 573-874-7663 for weather-related cancellation; 5050 Bristol Lake Parkway; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

gather at Stephens Lake Park to display a variety of media including painting, drawing, photography, pottery, jewelry, fibers, sculpture, wood and glass. Free; 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday; 2001 E. Broadway; 573-4438838; www.artintheparkcolumbia.org v

SAVE THE DATE JUNE 6–7 Debuting in 1958, Art in the Park is now the oldest and largest fine arts festival in mid-Missouri, and one of the most popular festivals in Columbia. More than 100 visual artists from across the country

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Tinseltown Talks

A Parisian In America How Leslie Caron Danced Her Way To Hollywood BY NICK THOMAS

Gene Kelly and Leslie Caron in An American in Paris

Only a handful of actresses danced in feature films with both Gene Kelly and Fred Astaire. One was Leslie Caron. Although her last feature film was a decade ago, she hasn’t been exactly idle since. “I won an Emmy in 2007 for a guest role on ‘Law & Order: Special Victims Unit,’ which was a grand moment for me,” Caron says from London, where she moved in 2013 from her native France to be near family. Her autobiography, “Thank Heaven,” was published in 2010, and in 2013 she appeared in an episode of the French TV crime series “Jo.” “So I’m not retired and would love to do more television or a movie,” she says. Shortly before her birthday last year, at the age of 82, Caron even tackled a demanding stage role. “I traveled to California for a play — ‘Six Dance Lessons in Six Weeks’ at the Laguna Playhouse — which was one of the best parts I’ve ever had,” she says. “It was a two-character play with six dance numbers and seven costume changes. A person of 50 would have found it a bit difficult. I would love to

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Leslie Caron at the 2007 Emmy Awards

have continued with it to Broadway, but that would have been too strenuous.” Trained as a dancer, Caron was just a teenager when Gene Kelly discovered her performing in the Ballets des ChampsÉlysées in Paris in the late 1940s. “The husband of a dancer I shared my dressing room with somehow knew Gene, who had seen me and wanted me to do a screen test for a movie,” she recalls. The film turned out to be “An American in Paris” and rehearsals were tough. “I wasn’t used to dancing in ballet shoes for six to eight hours a day,” she says. “And when I arrived in America, I had mononucleosis and was undernourished having lived through World War II and food shortages. So I was very anemic.” Throughout the ’50s, Caron appeared in other musicals, including “Daddy Long Legs” with Fred Astaire. “Fred and Gene came from different eras,” she says. “Fred danced on his toes and barely touched the ground — an elegant, fluid dancer. Gene’s dancing was very athletic.” Astaire’s wife, ill from lung cancer, died during production.

“He would bury his head in a towel and cry,” Caron remembers. “Fred loved the film, which had a lot of youth and joy, so I think it helped him through a very bad time.” Caron continued to work in film and TV into the ’90s, when she decided it was time for a change. “I was hitting 60 and beginning to think my career was over, so I embarked on a new venture,” she says. Proving you are never too old to start a new chapter in life, she purchased and renovated an old riverside building just outside Paris, turning it into a successful bed and breakfast. “I managed it for about 15 years, until the economy crashed,” she says. Today, Caron hopes for more roles. “I’m not aiming for any Academy Awards,” she says. “It just gives me a great deal of pleasure to keep working." v Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University in Montgomery, Ala. His features and columns have appeared in more than 550 newspapers and magazines. Follow him on Twitter @TinseltownTalks.

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Tell Me About It

With Angel Donnette Robertson

I don’t like how my daughter-inlaw treats my son. She treats him like a kid, telling him how to dress, what to eat, when to talk. I’ve tried to speak with her about her attitude, but she ignores me. Once she even yelled at me! How can I make her treat him with the respect he deserves?

Well, the first thing you can do is stay out of your son’s marriage. For one thing, you can’t “make” your daughterin-law do anything. And trying to control her is a useless, pointless, maddening exercise — for both you and her. More importantly, your son is the one who has to set his own boundaries in his marriage. Because it is, after all, his marriage. Not yours. If she does actually tell him how to dress and what to eat and when to talk, then he either finds her direction acceptable or he needs to discover his own voice to object. He cannot control her, any more than you can. But he can control what he accepts. However, his boundaries are his responsibility. You cannot enforce them for him for several reasons. One of the more obvious reasons is you cannot possibly spend every moment with him, in order to check every breach. At one point or another, he will have to defend his boundaries without you. The most important reason, however, is although he is still your child, he is actually an adult, and not only does his wife need to treat him as one, you need to treat him as one, as well.

After our youngest son entered college, my husband left me for another woman and filed for divorce. I waited a few years to start dating, and I am taking any relationship slowly. So, I wasn’t too concerned when the last three men I dated didn’t turn into anyone “special.” Except I just discovered that my best friend had warned all three men against me. She took some of my deepest secrets and fears from the failure of my marriage and then twisted them to make me the bad guy. Why would she want to hurt me? What could I have possibly done to her to deserve that? I must be a truly horrible person for the two most important individuals in my life besides my children to betray me.

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You did nothing to deserve the betrayal of either your husband or your friend. The choices they made are theirs to own. No matter how good, pretty, fun, loving, strong or nice (or even mean) you are, you cannot control another person’s choices — for the good or bad. We sometimes want to take responsibility for another’s decisions, in order to gain a sense of control. If we are the reason for another person’s behavior, then we can affect that behavior. If we do this, they will do that. If we change, they won’t hurt us again. The problem is that sense of control is false. We are assuming too much responsibility and absolving the other person of all responsibility. We keep changing, and they never have to. If your friend actually had an issue with your behavior, she should have talked to you. She could have given you a chance to understand and, if you deemed it necessary, to change. If she was so unhappy with you, she could have even ended the friendship. Instead, she chose to use your pain and fears against you. That choice is on her, not you. Why did she betray you? I don’t know. You may never know. You can ask her. She may give you some manner of explanation. But any reason that blames you is no answer, just an excuse. You don’t need to accept any blame. Because if you accept the responsibility for her decisions, then you will continue to accept her behavior. And you deserve a friend you can trust. v Angel Donnette Robertson is not a professional counselor, but she has a lifelong appreciation for the beauty and complications of relationships.

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Columbia Confidential: Publisher Fred Parry On The Issues Columbia Is Talking About

Let Voters Decide About Roll Carts

The city of Columbia is considering a new refuse collection system that would employ the use of rolling trash carts in Columbia’s residential neighborhoods. Instead of placing individual trash bags and recycling bags on their front curbs on designated collection days, residents would be encouraged to place their trash and recyclables into separate carts and roll them to the curb once each week. If public hearings are any indication, the concept is receiving a cool reception from citizens. Bombarded by concerns over neighborhood aesthetics, practicality and threats to public health, the city will not win any popularity contests by forging ahead with this program. The city claims that implementing a roll-cart system will reduce the city’s liability when it comes to workers’ compensation claims. Apparently, the current bag system has led to a number of repetitive motion and other types of injuries for refuse collectors. You may not be surprised to learn that the city struggles with a high turnover rate in this particular classification of worker. Another motive for city leaders may stem from Columbia’s recycling rate, which reportedly is below the national average for cities of comparable size. Early estimates indicate that a truck capable of lifting these roll carts with the specially equipped “Curotto Can” lift device comes with a price tag of approximately $282,000 per truck. I haven’t seen an official estimate on the number of new trucks that would be required, but the purchase of just 10 trucks would require another $2.8 million in funding. An additional expense comes from providing each home with a roll cart for trash and a roll cart for recycling items. The cost for these carts, which can range in size from 36 to 95 gallons, averages approximately $55 per cart. If the city provides 40,000 homes with two carts each, taxpayers can expect to cough up another $4.4 million. Granted, both of these numbers are simply rough guesstimates, but it’s a rather curious time to be making such a large investment, given the city’s self-reported revenue issues. Personally, I am more concerned with the aesthetic and public health concerns these carts pose. I feel sorry for anyone with lazy neighbors under this new system. It’s likely that once their roll carts make it to the curb for their weekly pickup, many carts will stay on that curb for the remainder of the following week. We recently drove through a city in Alabama on a Sunday afternoon on our way home from spring break. More than 50 percent of the homes we passed still had roll carts on the curb; some were tipped over, others had blown out into the street. I can’t imagine seeing this type of eyesore in our own community. I shudder when I think how neighborhoods densely populated with college students — such as East Campus and areas along Providence Road — might look if this new system is enacted.

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And then there are the health concerns. These roll carts are essentially the equivalent of minidumpsters scattered all around the city. If you’ve ever walked by one of the city-maintained dumpsters in downtown Columbia on a hot July afternoon, you have a whiff of the public health concern that could be created. Our “efficient” new roll carts will become gigantic petri dishes for roaches, maggots and “It’s likely that any type of critter looking for a once their roll quick meal. Finally, there’s the issue of carts make it to practicality. I worry about elderly the curb for their citizens and their ability to move a weekly pickup, trash cart that may weigh as much as they do. Will they need to rely many carts will on the kindness of a neighbor to stay on that curb get their trash to the curb every for the remainder week? What about residents with gravel driveways or worse yet, of the following those with driveways on a steep week.” incline? It’s not hard to imagine any number of scenarios where roll carts are simply not practical. To the city’s credit, it is willing to let citizens choose between using the current bag system or roll carts during an initial trial period. That, in itself, may be a telltale sign that the city lacks confidence in the proposed roll-cart system. Unfortunately, once millions of dollars are spent on new trucks and carts, it will be impractical for the city to go back to the tried-and-true system we’ve used for many years. If our goal is to simply show that Columbia is one of America’s most progressive cities, there are surely more prudent ways to illustrate our “hipness” to the world. When you line up all the facts, a decision of this magnitude is certainly worthy of a public vote. If the contentious debate in recent months is any indication, city leaders would be best-served by letting the voters decide whether they’re willing to embrace a new system or remain with the status quo.

Fred Parry, fred@insidecolumbia.net

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