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Contents

Volume 7, Issue 9

6 The Tasting Room The Magical Wine Of Midnight

Freezing For Food Don’t Miss The One For One Holiday Food Drive

Keeping Up With Santa Extraordinaire Don Waltman

15 Prime Time Can’t-Miss Events For December 20

Boone Hospital Center Four Boone Hospital Professionals You’ll Want To Know

Tinseltown Talks Richard Anderson answers questions about “The Six Million Dollar Man”

28 Tell Me About It Get Angel’s Relationship Advice

Fun & Games Sudoku, Tiger Vision & More

Verna Laboy: Columbia’s Social Entrepreneur

Reader Submission Living With A Childhood Hero

Recipe Box Try These Delicious Holiday Recipes

Columbia Confidential Publisher Fred Parry Takes On The Issues Columbians Are Talking About

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Welcome

Happy Holidays What’s your favorite month of the year? Many people would undoubtedly say December. It’s when we reconnect with family and friends over the holidays and enjoy traditions that many of you have developed over the years. Whether it’s going to a special evening worship service or caroling in the neighborhood, those traditions just make the month special. December is definitely the favorite month of the year for our feature profile Don Waltman. Since 1992 he has been delighting all ages as he pulls on his Santa outfit. He is the Santa for my children who are now teenagers. You’ll enjoy reading about his experiences in and out of the Santa suit. You can also read about the traditions of Columbia activist Verna Laboy in this issue of Prime. At age 57, she’s made a difference in her neighborhood and throughout the city. It’s inspiring to see the difference one dynamic woman can make. Have a wonderful holiday season. I’d love to hear about your holiday traditions or how you celebrate your favorite month of the year. Email me at prime@insidecolumbia.net.

staff Publisher Fred Parry Associate Publisher & Managing Editor Melody Garnett Parry Associate Publisher & Executive Editor Sandy Selby Editorial Assistant Peg Gill Graphic Designer Trever Griswold Joe Waner Photo Editor L.G. Patterson Marketing Representatives Rosemarie Peck Joe Schmitter Digital Marketing Coordinator Sean Zullo Director Of Customer Retention Gerri Shelton Operations Manager Kalie Clennin Operations Assistant Lilly Smith Finance Manager Brenda Brooks

Melody Parry Associate Publisher

Distribution Manager John Lapsley Contributing Writers Kathy Casteel, Peg Gill, Pam Ingram, Michael Murry, Saralee Perel, Angel Donnette Robertson, Rebecca Smith, Nick Thomas

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The Tasting Room

Midnight Special

Celebrate the magical hour with a deep, dark blend. BY KATHY CASTEEL

Daddy always said, “Nothing good happens after midnight.” Clearly, my father knew nothing of the magic of wine blends. (Daddy was a Crown Royal guy.) The latest release from Ménage à Trois, a dark red blend named Midnight, should send that old adage back to the dustbin of curious truisms. The California wine with the naughty name, Ménage à Trois built its business with its blends — easy-drinking combinations of three varietals in red, white and rosé styles. The winery in Napa Valley also produces 10 varietal wines, many sourced from three appellations and blended in the spirit of the label’s origins. But the blends are the best and by far the most popular — the original Ménage à Trois Red Blend is the best-selling red wine in America. Now comes a racy new concoction, just in time for the most celebrated midnight of all — New Year’s Eve. Midnight Dark Red Blend goes beyond the Ménage à Trois formula with a handcrafted mingling of four wines —

predominantly Cabernet Sauvignon and Merlot, adding a dollop of Petite Sirah and a dash of Petit Verdot. The opaque purple wine’s ripe cherry aroma leads to a mélange of rich, crushed-fruit flavors — black cherry, blackberry, black plum and black currant. A hint of chocolate with a touch of oak spice on the finish keeps things interesting. This is a velvety smooth wine with just enough tannin to stand up to any steak or other hearty dish you may choose to ring in the New Year. Midnight comes from the Napa Valley winery of Folie à Deux, parent company of the Ménage à Trois label. A step up from other Ménage à Trois wines, Midnight compares well with many pricier Napa blends, but it could also claim a place on your everyday table. As a small-batch production, it’s in limited release this year but widely available in Columbia, so you might want to snag a few extra bottles at your favorite wine shop. Create a little midnight madness whenever you like … just don’t tell Daddy. ❖

Crazy Good

When it comes to naming wineries, psychotic conditions usually aren’t at the top of the list of contenders — unless, of course, those with the naming rights happen to be mental health professionals. That’s what happened in 1981, when psychiatrist Larry Dismang and his counselor wife, Eva, founded a boutique winery they named Folie à Deux, a French term that literally means “a madness shared by two,” and known in medical circles as “shared psychosis.” The couple preferred to define their new venture as a shared passion; their friends declared the two crazy. With Dr. Dismang as winemaker

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and a frolicking Rorschach inkblot on the label, the couple boldly went about establishing a collection of fine Napa Valley wines. Alas, the marriage didn’t survive the passion; the Dismangs split and sold the winery in the mid-’90s. New owner Richard Peterson brought in winemaker Scott Harvey, whose Ménage à Trois creation was an immediate commercial success. Trinchero Family Estates purchased Folie à Deux in 2004, and now sources grapes for both labels throughout Napa, Sonoma and the Central Coast. The Napa Cellars tasting room for Folie à Deux and Ménage à Trois is in Oakville.

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Community Event

Freezing For Food

The One for One Holiday Food Drive returns

Starting in the very early morning hours of Dec. 16, some local volunteers will face a chilly challenge for a worthwhile cause: collecting donations for the 2015 One for One Holiday Food Drive at the intersection of Broadway and Providence Road. The food drive, benefiting The Food Bank For Central & Northeast Missouri, asks Columbians to donate $1 or one nonperishable food item for every member of their immediate families. It’s one of the food bank’s largest fundraising initiatives of the year. According to Kimberly Kent, food bank special events coordinator, last year’s effort netted 5,700 pounds of food and raised almost $97,000. “For every dollar, the food bank can purchase 15 pounds of food,” Kent says. “Every $10 feeds 110 people.” The drive began in 2007, and has been going strong at the busy intersection ever since. “It’s a high-traffic intersection,” Kent says. “We’ve been lucky enough to be there for all these years.” As in years past, bundled up volunteers from local sponsors and organizations will be “freezing for food” from 6 a.m. to 6 p.m. Volunteers from sponsors Zimmer Radio & Marketing Group and Inside Columbia magazine, along with Columbia Professional Firefighters, will be among those joining food bank volunteers and braving the brisk temperatures. You’ll sometimes see volunteers decked out in Santa suits or hats — it’s just another way to call attention to the effort. No specific food items are requested; all the food bank asks is that the items be nonperishable. “We don’t ask for anything specific, such as peanut butter,” Kent says. “Honestly, there isn’t any one thing we can use over another. Canned items are definitely desired.”

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ONE FOR ONE HOLIDAY FOOD DRIVE Benefiting The Food Bank For Central & Northeast Missouri 6 a.m. to 6 p.m. Wednesday, Dec. 16 Broadway & Providence Road

Monetary donations are strongly encouraged; with its contacts and resources, the food bank can make a dollar stretch well beyond what it could normally buy at the grocery store. And for those who aren’t aware of the drive, or forget that it’s happening, dropping a few dollars into the collection cans is an easy option that takes only a few seconds. “The food bank is grateful to our incredible sponsors and donors who participate in the One for One Holiday Food Drive, now in its eighth year,” says Executive Director Lindsay Young

Lopez. “Both food and monetary contributions received help us serve more than 114,000 of our neighbors in need each month. We encourage people to join us in the fight to end hunger, which impacts one in every five adults and children in this community.” Looking beyond the holiday season, Lopez also asks Columbians to remember the hungry all year long. “Please help us share food and bring hope both during the holiday season and all year long,” she says, “because hunger knows no season.” ❖

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n Iowa native, Waltman and his wife, Mary, moved to Columbia because they wanted to move “south” in retirement. Having lived in a college town before, they loved the feel of that kind of community and decided to settle in the home of their son’s alma mater, the University of Missouri. Waltman grew up in Muscatine, Iowa, on the river. A graduate of the University of Iowa, he has black and gold in his veins. So, when he applied for a job in the University of Missouri Athletics Department to get out of the house shortly after they moved here, it felt somewhat natural to him. His fortune came at the urging of thenMU Assistant Athletic Director Joe Castiglione. They met at a Rotary Club of Columbia Northwest meeting, and Castiglione suggested he apply. Waltman’s first event as an usher was an MU men’s basketball game against Oklahoma. “Boy, I thought I’d died and gone to heaven,” he says with a grin. A quick study and with a can-do attitude, Waltman found himself being given more responsibility. His

managerial experience was useful and he was eventually put in charge of event staff scheduling. As events grew and new venues were added, and before computers were utilized as they are today, the job of fitting more than 300 events, at one point, and attending those events into his 40-hour work week became unruly and he decided to step down. But stepping down didn’t mean stepping out. Instead, he is still the go-to guy when the department has a need. If someone gets sick or can’t come in, he gets a call. He has performed almost every job in the athletic department, from telephone receptionist to data entry to event staff. “Whatever they want me to do, I’m glad to do,” he says, and that often includes playing the role of Santa for the holiday party.

Becoming Santa

In 1992, Waltman got his start at being Santa when he answered a want ad in the newspaper. The Columbia Mall was in need of someone to fill the role; they actually needed five someones to fill a seven-day schedule from open until close. The five Santas split the shifts and shared the suits and beards. “That’s where I started being Santa,” Waltman says. When he first started at the mall, they were using Polaroid cameras. Over the years, he learned a thing or two about Santa. Indeed, an experienced Santa is priceless. An experienced Santa knows how to sit an infant down so he’s not screaming in terror at the bearded man holding him. He knows how to coax the eight-year-old girl on the verge of unbelief into sitting on his lap, smiling wide and sharing her Christmas wish list with him. This experienced Santa even once helped a young man propose to his girlfriend. The man left the ring with Waltman and brought his girlfriend back that evening. As local media waited in the wings to capture the moment for the newscast, Santa gave her the ring. She said, “Yes.” One November, however, Waltman didn’t get a call to come in for the Santa meeting. An outside firm had been hired, but that didn’t end his Santa

In 1992, Waltman answered an ad in the newspaper and found himself with a new career as Columbia’s Santa Claus, something he has loved doing for more than 20 years.

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engagements. Being Santa had become part of his life not just a job at the mall. Today, he no longer shares his suits. In fact, he has two of his own: a nice one, custom-made by a company in Des Moines, Iowa, and a lesser suit for stickier situations like inclement weather. Velvety red with puffy white trim, they are both cut for a man with a wider girth than his. “I’m not that heavy, so I have to have padding,” he says of his prosthetic “belly.” “I always tell [the kids] I never get enough chocolate chip cookies.”

of years ago the Wii caught him off-guard. There is the occasional request for world peace, and more often than he’d like, he hears heartbreaking requests for things like keeping a parent out of jail or getting parents back together. That’s when he knows there is something missing at home, and he tries to be patient and give them as much time as he can. “I take Santa pretty seriously,” he admits.

He doesn’t have a real beard, either. “I know it’s fake and it looks fake,” he says, “but it’s just part of the costume.” It doesn’t seem to matter to the kids. This year, he has already appeared as Santa at the Voluntary Action Center’s (VAC) “Christmas in July” event held at the Missouri United Methodist Church in downtown Columbia. It’s a gig he has had for several years.

Waltman doesn’t advertise, nor does he typically accept payment. Instead, he asks that a donation be made to charity, an idea he got from another Santa early in his Chris Kringle career. He doesn’t do it for the money, but rather for “the satisfaction you can bring to kids,” he says. In addition to the VAC and MU Athletics events, Waltman has been Santa in the Columbia Christmas parade. He’s made appearances at preschools, elementary schools and high schools; area food banks; local business; and living rooms. In all of these places, most of the requests are similar: Girls want Barbies or dolls, and boys like action figures and Legos, he says. Though he does his best to stay on top of trends, a couple

Sitting in his kitchen in late October, Waltman pulls out a snapshot of him in his Santa suit during a dress rehearsal shortly before the “Christmas in July” event last summer. He was sitting on a recumbent bicycle in the grass on his lawn. It is a perfect combination, representing who he is. Waltman began cycling as a cheap mode of transportation when his family was young, “dirt poor and had only one car.” It made sense. He could ride the two or three miles across town (at that time Champagne-Urbana, Ill.) and park his bike right outside the back door of the JC Penney’s store much quicker that he could drive, find a place to park and walk the typical four or five blocks to the store. When he got to the store that first day, his legs were like rubber, he says. He could hardly walk. Four decades later, he doesn’t mind the trip to the MU campus he makes three to five times a week.

“He is all about being Santa,” says VAC Director Nick Foster of Waltman. “He is the man. He really seeks to embody that spirit.” The “Christmas in July” event is important to Waltman. A fundraiser as well as a service, it raises awareness of needs in the community throughout the year, not just at Christmas. His role is handing out gifts to the children who attend, but “kids” from the very young to the young at heart want to see Santa there.

Beyond Santa

“That seven or eight miles from Mizzou is very relaxing,” Waltman says. “I can just unwind from whatever I’ve done down there during the day or evening.”

Don Waltman as Santa sits on a recumbent bicycle just before he appears at the Voluntary Action Center’s Christmas in July. Photo courtesy of Mary Waltman

Sometimes, it’s more than putting on a red suit; it’s the “idea” of Santa. “With some of the ‘nuttiness’ that is going on in the country, there’s an awful lot of good that’s going on, too,” Waltman says. Organizations like Salvation Army, where he sits on the advisory board, and its Harbor House are stops on his holiday schedule, not just as Santa but often as a bell ringer. It’s been his experience during the holidays that bell ringing opens people’s hearts and generosity.

A cyclist for some 40 years, Waltman has ridden the Register’s Annual Great Bicycle Ride Across Iowa (RAGBRAI) for 29 of the last 30, missing only the year he and Mary moved to Columbia. The race is in July, and VAC organizers have “come to understand if you want Santa to come in July,” Waltman says with a laugh, “you have to schedule [Christmas in July] when he’s not biking RAGBRAI.” This year, RAGBRAI was special because he had just celebrated a milestone birthday. One of his goals was to ride his age in a day, a common aspiration for older athletes, he says. “I don’t do centuries (100 miles) anymore, but I thought I could do 80 miles. The first day was very hilly, and I had 83 miles. Two other days were right at 80 during the week. It was a good week.” So good in fact, that with his focus on the ride, he completely missed all the signs that an 80th surprise birthday party awaited him at the end. More than 70 family members from across the country met in Iowa to celebrate. He didn’t have a clue, Mary says, and it’s not easy to surprise Santa. Prime Magazine December 2015

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12.15 December DECEMBER 2 It’s a Show-Me showdown when the Mizzou women’s basketball team hosts Southeast Missouri State in Mizzou Arena. Price TBA; 7 p.m.; 1 Champions Drive; 573-884-PAWS (7297); www.mutigers.com

DECEMBER 4 The Charles Dickens classic “A Christmas Carol” has become a University Concert Series tradition with a full array of Christmas carols and holiday cheer. Families love the story of miserly Ebenezer Scrooge and the three ghosts of Christmas who must teach him the true meaning of the holiday before it’s too late. Nebraska Theatre Caravan will present the show at the Missouri Theatre. From $26, youth $22; 7 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.concertseries.org

DECEMBER 4 Head downtown to the Living Windows. On the first Friday of December, shopkeepers throughout The District move all the merchandise out of their front windows and stage live holiday performances for onlookers. Merchants go to great lengths to outdo one another, making each year’s displays even more impressive than the last. Enjoy open houses, strolling carolers, holiday treats and visits with Santa, all against a backdrop of holiday lights. Free; 6 to 8 p.m.; downtown; 573-442-6816; www.discoverthedistrict.com

DECEMBER 4–6 Annie and her orphan friends will sing and dance their way into your heart in this kid-friendly, abridged version of the Broadway classic “Annie.” Don’t miss the TRYPS presentation of “Annie Jr.” at the Stephens College Warehouse Theatre. $10 adults, $5 children 18 & younger; 7 p.m. with 2 p.m. Saturday matinee; 104 Willis Ave.; 573-449-4536; www.trypskids.com

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DECEMBER 5 Make a magical connection on the Santa Hotline! Children between the ages of 3 and 10 may call the North Pole and talk with Santa or Mrs. Claus or one of the elves. This opportunity is available for one day only. Free; 9 a.m. to 3 p.m.; 573-874-7473 or 573-8746335; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

DECEMBER 5 Celebrate the African-based festival that honors family, community and culture. The city Kwanzaa Celebration in the Frederick Douglass High School gym offers entertainment, a community feast (covered dishes are welcome) and community awards. Free, 2 to 5 p.m.; 573-874-6379; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

DECEMBER 5 The Cheese and Sauerkraut 10-Mile is a no-wristwatch race in which participants must guess their finish time. The runner with the closest prediction wins a basket of cheeses; the runner with the least-accurate prediction takes home a can of sauerkraut. The race, organized by the Columbia Track Club, will start at the Katy Trail’s McBaine trailhead. $3 for non-CTC members; 8:30 a.m.; 7149 W. Route K; 573-874-2906; www.columbiatrackclub.com

DECEMBER 6 The Odyssey Chamber Music Concert Series presents “Russia & Slovakia” at First Baptist Church. Enjoy the lush, romantic sounds of Russian, Czech and Slovak composers. Performers include soprano Christine Seitz, flutist Kristine Poulsen and harpist Maria Duhova Trevor. Peter Miyamoto and Ayako Tsuruta will perform Rachmaninoff ’s last work — exciting and gorgeous “Symphonic Dances, Op. 45” on two pianos. $20 general admission, $10 students, free children 12 16

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& younger; 7 p.m.; 1112 E. Broadway; 573825-0079; www.odysseymissouri.org

DECEMBER 6 Come strut your stuff during the Katy Trail Tunnel Trot! This family-friendly event offers a 5K run and a more challenging 12K run. Both races start at the Rocheport trailhead and head west on the Katy Trail. Runners will experience the historic 243-foot-long tunnel at Rocheport, the only stone tunnel on the Katy. Awards and refreshments will follow the races. $25/5K, $30/12K; 1 p.m.; First Street, Rocheport; 800-334-6946; www.mostateparks.com/race#katytrail

DECEMBER 7 A holiday tradition returns to the University Concert Series, when The Moscow Ballet’s “The Great Russian Nutcracker” comes to the Missouri Theatre stage. Read more on Page 31. From $26,; 7 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.concertseries.org

DECEMBER 6–8 Dickens is alive and well, and greeting guests on the Stephens College campus during A Dickens Victorian Christmas, an annual Columbia holiday tradition. Revel in this authentic recreation of a 19thcentury Christmas celebration in the parlors of historic Senior Hall. Join Mr. and Mrs. Charles Dickens, along with the Stephens Concert Choir, for a spirited evening of holiday music, period dance, refreshments, games and frivolity. Appropriate for all ages. $16; 7:30 p.m.; 100 Waugh St.; 573-8767199; www.stephens.edu/events

DECEMBER 9 Cheer on the Mizzou men’s basketball team when they take on the University of NebraskaOmaha Mavericks at Mizzou Arena. Price TBA; 7 p.m.; 1 Champions Drive; 573-884PAWS (7297); www.mutigers.com

DECEMBER 11 Get a first look at this year’s Mizzou gymnastics team at the Black & Gold meet in the Hearnes Center. Free; 7 p.m.; 600 E. Stadium Blvd.; 573-884-PAWS (7297); www.mutigers.com

DECEMBER 11–20 Arrow Rock Lyceum Theatre’s “A Christmas Carol” will get you and your entire family in the Christmas spirit. Read more on Page 31. $35.50; 2 & 8 p.m.; 114 High St., Arrow Rock; 660-837-3311; www.lyceumtheatre.org Prime Magazine December 2015

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Wear a holiday-themed costume, tie jingle bells to your shoes and raise funds to help find a cure for arthritis at the Jingle Bell Run/Walk in the John and Mary Silverthorne Arena at Stephens College. The nationwide 5K of the Arthritis Foundation draws attention to America’s leading cause of disability and raises funds for research, health education and government advocacy. The event includes an Adult 5K Run/Walk, a Youth 5K Run/Walk and a 50-yard Santa Dash for children 5 and younger. Adult 5K/$40, Youth 5K/$35, Santa Dash/$5; 8 a.m.; 141 Dorsey St.; 314-447-4883; www.jinglebellruncolumbia.org

Dress to impress in your swankiest ’60s garb and head down to The Blue Note for the Mad Men Holiday Soirée, sponsored by Inside Columbia and featuring the Amalgamation Jazz Ensemble. Read more on Page 31. $20; doors open at 7 p.m., soirée starts at 8 p.m.; 17 N. Ninth St., 573-8741944; www.thebluenote.com

DECEMBER 12 The University Concert Series presents Don McLean live at the Missouri Theatre. The legendary singer/guitarist will perform some of his new tracks and his greatest hits, including one of the most recognizable songs in pop history, “American Pie.” From $32; 7 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-8823781; www.concertseries.org

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Chorus and Chamber Players. Free; noon to 4 p.m.; 2208 Bernadette Drive; 573-875-0600; www.mosymphonysociety.org

DECEMBER 12–13 Mizzou wrestling hosts Ohio grapplers in a pair of weekend meets at the Hearnes Center. The Big Ten’s Ohio State Buckeyes arrive in Columbia for a Saturday night meet, followed by the Tigers’ first MAC conference meet of the season against the Ohio Bobcats on Sunday afternoon. $5, $3 seniors & youth; 7 p.m. Saturday, 1 p.m. Sunday; 600 E. Stadium Blvd.; 573-884-PAWS (7297); www.mutigers.com

DECEMBER 13 The Missouri Symphony Society Conservatory fundraiser at Barnes & Noble in Columbia Mall will feature The Children’s

DECEMBER 16 No holiday season is complete without giving, and the 12-hour One for One Holiday Food Drive asks Columbians to donate $1 or one nonperishable food item for every member of their immediate families. The proceeds and the food go straight to The Food Bank for Central & Northeast Missouri. Read more on Page 30. Free; 6 a.m. to 6 p.m.; corner of Broadway and Providence Road; 573-4741020; www.sharefoodbringhope.org

DECEMBER 18 Enjoy some of Columbia’s beautiful holiday lights from the comfort of Parks & Recreation’s mini-buses in the Lights and Sights Tour. Two tours depart from the city’s Activity & Recreation Center. Call ahead to reserve your seat. Please bring a car sear for young children. $7.50; 6:15 to 7:30 p.m. or 7:45 to 9 p.m.; 1701 W. Ash St.; 573-874-7469; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

DECEMBER 20 The Missouri Symphony Society Symphony of Toys Holiday Concert at the Missouri Theatre will feature a variety of festive music to benefit the U.S. Marine Corps’ Toys for Tots program performed by The Children’s Chorus, Chamber Players, Young Artist Philharmonic, Junior Sinfonia and The Missouri Symphony. Children and students who bring a new, unwrapped toy receive free admission. $17 adults, $9 students & children; 3 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-8750600; www.mosymphonysociety.org

DECEMBER 31 Bid farewell to 2015 with a rousing

crosstown rivalry women’s basketball game. The Stephens College Stars host the Columbia College Cougars at Silverthorne Arena. $5, $3 students, Stephens students free with ID; 2 p.m.; 141 Dorsey St.; www.stephensstars.com

Columbia Art League, Missouri United Methodist Church and the Ninth Street Stage. Enjoy live music, art, children’s entertainment and more. $6 in advance, $8 at the door, free for children 6 & younger; 7 p.m.; downtown; 573-6738477; www.columbiaevefest.com

DECEMBER 31 Kick off Columbia Eve Fest with the traditional Columbia Eve Fest 5K Run/ Walk. This out-and-back race starts and ends near Cyclextreme, with the midpoint in the parking lot of the Hearnes Center. Entry to the race includes an activity admission pass to Columbia Eve Fest. Register by Dec. 16 to get a T-shirt. $25 adults/ $15 children in advance, $30 adults/$20 children on race day; 4 p.m.; 19 S. Sixth St.; www.columbiatrackclub.com

DECEMBER 31 Ring in the New Year at Columbia Eve Fest. This alcohol-free event, themed “Color Your Dreams In 2016,” will take place within one block of Ninth Street, between Elm and Locust streets; venues include the Missouri Theatre,

SAVE THE DATE JANUARY 3 The internationally acclaimed Harlem Globetrotters are making a stop at Mizzou Arena on their 90th anniversary world tour. A star-studded roster will have fans on the edge of their seats to witness the ball-handling wizardry, basketball artistry and one-of-a-kind entertainment that thrills fans of all ages. From $33; 2 p.m.; www.bigstub.com

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GET TO KNOW YOUR DOCTOR MARIANNE LOPEZ RHODES, MD Dr. Marianne Lopez Rhodes is both a “boomerang” Columbian and Boone Hospital Center employee. She lived here while she was an undergrad and worked at Boone Hospital Center while applying to medical school. She then returned to Columbia after completing her residency in Denver. Settling here was the perfect choice for Lopez Rhodes because it’s halfway between St. Louis and Kansas City, where both she and her husband have family. Lopez Rhodes was drawn to medicine because it is an altruistic profession. “I wanted to do something where I could help people,” she says, “but also where I would constantly be challenged. Medicine is always evolving and every day is different, which is great.” Lopez Rhodes credits her family for her success. “My grandparents and parents all immigrated here from the Philippines. They started with hardly anything, just so all of us could have a better life. I would not be where I am today if it were not for all their hard work and support.” If she weren’t a doctor, Lopez Rhodes would be a teacher. “I get jealous of family and friends that get to be around their kids when they are off from school,” she says. Lopez Rhodes says the word that best describes her is “determined” and that her proudest moment as a person was when she became a mom. Now expecting her second child, Lopez Rhodes likes to spend time relaxing with her family. “We love watching Kansas City, St. Louis and Mizzou sports,” she says. “We are also often outside, hiking, playing or hanging out at the pool.”

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GET TO KNOW YOUR DOCTOR RUBAB NAQVI, MD Dr. Rubab Naqvi was born in Pakistan to an Air Force officer and his wife and as a result, spent much of her youth in different cities around the world, from Pakistan to the Middle East to New York City. She’s the only daughter out of four children, a situation she found exciting and enjoyable. After finishing medical school at Fatima Jinnah Medical University in Lahore, Pakistan, Naqvi moved to the United States with her husband and began her career with Boone Hospital Center. Naqvi says, “I always wanted to help people and being a doctor has given me ample opportunity to do so.” She says the best advice she ever received was from her husband to complete a fellowship in geriatric medicine. Her proudest moment as a doctor came working at a charity hospital in a small village in Pakistan. She cites her father as a key influence in her life. “My father was a great influence because he taught me discipline, organization and respect for others,” she says. “I believe that it is due to my father’s influence and husband’s great support that I am a doctor today.” Naqvi says she has always had an inner artist, and she enjoys singing, photography and minor painting. In fact, if she hadn’t become a doctor, she feels she would probably be an artist or a singer. When not tending to patients, Naqvi likes to relax by listening to music.

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GET TO KNOW YOUR DOCTOR BRITTANY KAMMERICH, MD Dr. Brittany Kammerich is a native Missourian who was born and raised in Boonville along with her younger brother. She completed her undergraduate and medical school studies at the University of Missouri, and then completed her family medicine residency training at Glendale Adventist Medical Center near Los Angeles. Dr. Kammerich is happy to be at Boone Hospital and “to have the opportunity to serve the area of my community.” She was influenced early on by many people. “Growing up, I was blessed with many wonderful teachers, including my parents, who provided me with much support, love and encouragement,” she says. The best advice she ever received was to work toward her goals and never give up. She chose to become a doctor because “every day is different, challenging and exciting,” she says. “I particularly chose primary care for the opportunity to provide continuous care throughout the lives of my patients and their family members. I find utmost importance in preventative health and healthy lifestyle. I value my relationships with my patients and enjoy working to help them achieve their best possible health and wellness.” If she could have one superpower, Dr. Kammerich would choose the ability to teleport so she could visit her friends in other states. If she hadn’t become a physician, she says, she would have become a middle-school teacher. Dr. Kammerich describes herself as “dedicated,” but when she does get a chance to relax, she enjoys spending time with friends and family, going out to restaurants, being outdoors, jogging and working out.

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GET TO KNOW YOUR NURSE PRACTITIONER SEDRA KETCHAM, NP Sedra Ketcham is relatively new to the Columbia area. She and her husband, their 1-year-old son and their lab/vizsla mix dog moved here a little more than a year ago. Her husband is also in health care — he’s a physical medicine and rehabilitation resident at Mizzou. Not only is Ketcham married to a health care provider, she comes from a family of them. Her father is a physician and her mother is a registered nurse. “I literally grew up in medicine watching my dad provide compassionate care for his patients,” she says. “I knew someday I wanted to do the same.” She says her proudest moment as a nurse practitioner is being able to help her patients set goals for their health and aid them in achieving them. “I’m thankful to be able to do this each and every day,” she says. Ketcham says the one word that best describes her is “conscientious.” She has a detail-oriented personality, which she credits to her third-grade teacher. “My third-grade teacher was the first person to stress to me the importance of following directions and to pay attention to the details,” she says. Another word that describes her is persistent. She says the best advice she ever received is “when you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.” If she weren’t a nurse practitioner, Ketcham would love to be a real estate agent or have a professional photography job. She relaxes by exercising, reading a book or doing something mindless, such as spending time on Pinterest.

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Tinseltown Talks

Richard Anderson: From MGM to “The Six Million Dollar Man”

BY NICK THOMAS

Richard Anderson appeared in more than 200 films and TV shows throughout his career. But it’s not just his well-known role as security chief Oscar Goldman in “The Six Million Dollar Man” that elicits fan questions on the classic film/television convention circuit. “They always ask about ‘Curse of the Faceless Man’ which we made in 1958 and was my first lead film role,” says Anderson from Los Angeles. “It was a low-budget remake of ‘The Mummy’ two decades earlier, featuring a stone monster rather than one wrapped in bandages. I really just learned my lines and tried not to bump into the furniture.” Two years earlier, Anderson appeared briefly in the venerable sci-fi classic “Forbidden Planet.” “That was the last of two dozen movies I did for MGM,” he says. “Scifi feature films were rather new in 1956 and it changed the genre forever. The whole movie was shot on one stage and as filming progressed, the studio gave us more money and the best production staff. We turned out a first-class movie that’s still impressive today.” Born in New Jersey and raised in New York, young Dick and his brother Bob were weekend matinee regulars at the 96th Street Motion Picture Theater, absorbed in their favorite films: westerns. “The stories had heroes and happy endings – I really wanted to live in that world,” recalls Anderson, who outlined his career in the 2015 autobiography “Richard Anderson: At Last ... A Memoir, From the Golden Years of

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Richard Anderson in “Curse of the Faceless Man,” which was filmed in 1958.

Leslie Nielsen (left) and Anderson (right) in “Forbidden Planet.”

Lee Majors (left) and Anderson (right) in “The Six Million Dollar Man.”

M-G-M to The Six Million Dollar Man to Now” co-written with Alan Doshna (see www.bionik.com). But Richard wasn’t the only celebrity in his family. “Katharine, my second wife, was the daughter of Norma Shearer and MGM producer Irving Thalberg.” Richard and Katharine were married in 1961, so he never knew Thalberg who died in 1936, but says he was close to his mother-in-law. “Norma Shearer was very nice to me, she liked and respected me,” he says. “She gave us a party when we were married – Judy Garland was one of the guests. Norma had a house on the beach and when we visited her she would talk about her career and how she ‘had it all’ at one time.” While Shearer found fame in film and retired just as television was coming of age in the early 40s, it was TV that made Anderson a household name when “The Six Million Man” exploded on the small screen in 1974 for five seasons. “It was a show that brought back the hero and happy endings, so I told my agent I wanted the part even if I had to pay the producers to let me do it!” laughs Anderson, who also narrated the show’s famous introduction. “‘Gentlemen, we can rebuild him, we have the technology,’” he quotes. “You can’t imagine how many fans come up to me and say that. It’s the best TV show introduction ever written.” Anderson continued his Oscar Goldman role in three season of “The Bionic Woman,” becoming one of the few actors to portray the same character in different television series. As to why he took so long to write a book about his life “My answer is simple,” says Anderson who turned 89 in August. “I’m still living it.” v

Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University in Montgomery, Ala. His features and columns have appeared in more than 600 newspapers and magazines. Follow him on Twitter @TinseltownTalks. Prime Magazine December 2015

Life Lessons

The Loves of Bob’s Life BY SARALEE PEREL

It was three in the morning when I was startled awake. I don’t know who was screaming louder – my husband, Bob, or my little black cat, Jordy. Jordy, whose back leg had to be amputated after we adopted him, was caught on a hanger in the closet; he was upside down, hanging from his one back leg and crying in agony. Bob and I couldn’t untangle him. Jordy was panicking. He was ripping the skin from Bob’s arms. Blood was streaming. When Jordy was finally released from the hanger, his nails were so imbedded in Bob’s skin, that we couldn’t detach him. Bob was wreathing in pain as I unhooked Jordy’s nails – one by one – out of Bob’s skin. Amazingly, Jordy was okay but Bob wasn’t. I tried cleaning him up with blood-soaked towels. At the doctor’s office, Bob’s hands were swollen three times their size. The doctor put him on high-strength antibiotics. He instructed Bob to raise his hands above his heart for 20 minutes every hour for two days. If the swelling didn’t get better, Bob would be hospitalized. Jordy, who is only two years old, is frail. He tries so hard to do what our other cats do, climb where they climb, run as fast as they run, but often fails, leaving him unhappy and alone – and out of the pack. We have his brother, Ike, as well. Ike’s missing one back foot. He is Jordy’s safe harbor – his best friend

and protector. They’re inseparable. I can’t imagine what one would do without the other. In bed, Jordy sleeps in the crook of Bob’s knee or nestled in his arms. Ike is always nearby. No matter how uncomfortable Bob may be, his rule is: You never move the cat. Any time we come home, Jordy stumbles to Bob. Yet the other cats get there first, leaving him behind. But Ike stays back – at Jordy’s side. It’s as if he is saying, like Ruth to Naomi, “Where you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will stay.” When we got home from the doctor, the swelling had started to go down. Jordy was hiding behind the couch. That night, Bob had Jordy the cat can be found sleeping with Bob most nights to wake every hour to Bob murmured to them, “I love you. raise his arms. I will always be here to protect you. No Jordy was still matter what may happen, I will always hiding. “If only he take care of you.” could understand While petting Ike and Jordy with one that I love him,” hand and touching Bob’s face with the Bob said. other, I softly said in the dark quiet of Finally, Jordy this night, “All is well. For this beautiful, came in. Purring, he took his place at shining moment – all is well.” v Bob’s knee. “Sweetheart,” I whispered to Bob. “He’s here.” Award-winning columnist, Saralee Perel, Then Ike came in – to stay with his can be reached at sperel@saraleeperel.com brother. or via her website: www.SaraleePerel.com.

No matter how uncomfortable Bob may be, his rule is: You never move the cat.

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Tell Me About It With Angel Donnette Robertson Every month we have a relationship expert who answers questions from our readers.

My husband’s brother and his family are traveling to visit us on the holidays. During their last phone call, my brother-in-law told my husband that they would stay in a hotel if I left the house as dirty as the last time they visited. We have three teenagers in a variety of sports and clubs, not to mention we own our business, so our hours are never Monday through Friday, 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. But our house is not dirty. Our children each have chores and we have a lady who cleans for us every other week. Our house is, however, often messy. I am wearing myself out trying to clean every nook and cranny, and I am beginning to believe I should have never invited them. But what can I do now?

Some of us are pleasers. Whenever anyone tells us to jump, we automatically reply, “How high?” Even when the request is uncivil at best and dysfunctional at worst. You need to stop worrying about meeting their standards. They

probably want to find something to judge, and so they will. But so what? How does their opinion really affect you? Who says their opinion is right? After all, we all have opinions, not all of them can be right. So, you only need to meet your standards. So, you can talk with them. You can explain that you appreciate their needs, but you feel your children and your business are higher priorities than an uncluttered house. And you can have confidence that your priorities are not wrong, even if they are not the same priorities of your brother-in-law. And then you can provide them with a list of local hotels along with the prices. Finally, your husband should actually be the one to have the conversation with his brother. As the saying goes, he needs to have your back. Which means his family doesn’t get to denigrate you. Besides, I assume at least some of the clutter is his. So, try to relax and enjoy the holidays with your husband and children. And tolerate the in-laws without twisting yourself into a pretzel to please them.

My parents despise each other. Even 12 years past their divorce, they make snide comments about and to each other. My oldest son is a senior and I just want to enjoy his last year. But my mom and dad stress me out at every game or fundraiser or celebration.

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How can I get them to just be polite to each other so that I can enjoy my son’s special year?

How is your relationship with each parent? Can you speak with them individually and address your concerns? Of course, if they are terribly spiteful or bitter, you may hear a few “but he” or “she always” statements. So, when you approach each one, stay calm and focused. When one tries to shift the topic to the ex-spouse, simply bring the conversation back to the one concerned. You can share your hurt and stress with them. You can ask them to respect you and your son when attending functions with you. You can ask them to love you more than they hate each other. If they are willing to listen. However, if they won’t honor your request for a truce, then you may have to limit the activities to which you invite them. And you can choose to sit in a different area at the larger functions, such as basketball games. And at the smaller functions, you can simply slip away — to another group of friends, to the restroom, to refill a drink. Just because they want to bicker doesn’t mean you have to remain a spectator. Your determined absence may actually act as a deterrent to their childish behavior. You should speak with your son, first, about his expectations and about your needs. But you are certainly entitled to boundaries. And not spending an evening with two adults who cannot control their tongues for a couple hours seems like a reasonable boundary to me. v

Angel Donnette Robertson is not a professional counselor, but she has a lifelong appreciation for the beauty and complications of relationships. Prime Magazine December 2015

Fun & Games

THEME: FAMOUS ATHLETES 44. KELLY CLARKSON AND PHILLIP PHILLIPS 46. HINDU MR. 47. JULIA ROBERTS’ BROCKOVICH 48. DAIRY CHOICE 50. NCAA TOURNEY POSITION 52. “OWNER OF A LONELY HEART” BAND 53. AFFIRMATIVE 55. INDIGO EXTRACT 57. *1968 OLYMPIC FIGURE SKATER 61. *BRUCE NO MORE 64. BAD CAR 65. ____ TZU 67. BE OF USE 69. WINE RIPENING 70. CARIBOU KIN

ACROSS

16. BITTER

28. QUEEN OF CARTHAGE

1. HASSAN ROUHANI’S LANGUAGE

17. BETWEEN GENERATIONS?

30. MEXICAN RANCH

6. FILLING STATION FILLER

18. HARBOR CITY OF ANCIENT ROME

9. “____! IN THE NAME OF LOVE”

19. *TENNIS GREAT

13. LIKE CLOSED CURTAINS 14. PALEONTOLOGIST’S ESTIMATE 15. UNIT OF ELECTRICAL ENERGY

21. KIND OF CAN

35. SALTY SEPTET 37. CHOW 39. IN NO MANNER

23. *GOLFER TREVINO

40. UP IT IN POKER

24. HEFTY COMPETITOR

41. POLYNESIAN DANCE, PL.

25. ISLAND STRINGS

43. LIKE A BROKEN HORSE

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DOWN CON’T 12. CHURCH SOUND 15. *BULL AND WIZARD 20. BLACK BEAUTY’S CRY 22. *MIKE TYSON BIT ONE 24. HUNGARIAN STEW 25. *FASTEST MAN ON EARTH 26. JAPANESE SWORD FIGHTING 27. TO ____ ____ A TABLE 29. CLOBBER 31. DO, RE OR MI 32. CHARACTERIZED BY GREAT CAUTION 33. FRIEND, SLANG 34. *CREDITED FOR CRUSHING HITLER’S MYTH OF ARYAN SUPREMACY 36. NARCISSIST’S LOVE

71. DOTS AND DASHES CODE

38. *A.K.A. THE SULTAN OF SWAT

72. A ____ ____ MOVE

42. NAPPED LEATHER

73. *RESULT OF FIRST LEWISHOLYFIELD TITLE FIGHT

45. “I’M JUST ____...”

74. LIKE TIN MAN AFTER BEING HELPED

51. ELECTRICAL CURRENT GENERATOR

DOWN

54. END OF A SHOELACE

1. HEALTH AND HUMAN SERVICES ORG.

56. CONCLUDING PORTION OF A POEM OR ESSAY

2. PARENTHESES, E.G.

57. OLD GLORY

3. HARD TO FIND

58. CHILDREN’S CONSTRUCTION BLOCK

4. TOP OF A DQ CONE 5. TRULY 6. LADY SINGER 7. EASTERN TITLE

49. X

59. WHAT EXHAUST PIPES DO 60. OPPOSITE OF STEREO 61. JESTER’S REMARK

8. PART OF A CALYX

62. *____ “THE PEARL” MONROE

9. AVERAGE

63. DO LIKE PHOENIX

10. SOUNDS OF REPROOF

66. *HE FLOATED LIKE A BUTTERFLY?

11. MEDLEY

68. LIGHT-EMITTING DIODE

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Fun & Games Sudoku

Do You Have Tiger Vision? We’ve hidden this tiger face somewhere in the magazine. Find it, and send an email to prime@insidecolumbia.net telling us the page number where the tiger is hiding. Readers with a correct answer by Dec. 31 will be entered into a drawing for a $25 gift card to Smokin’ Chicks BBQ.

WINNER! Congratulations to Nancy Hubbard, winner of our November Tiger Vision contest and a $25 gift card to Smokin’ Chicks BBQ!

Cryptogram Decipher this quote by unraveling the secret code. Each letter stands for another letter. We’ve given you a few hints to get you started.

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Fun & Games

Nostalgia Knowledge Here’s the story behind three albums you might have in your record cabinet. Every month we like to highlight memorable records and give you the story behind three albums you might have in your record cabinet. Submit a photo of you with your favorite vinyl and we’ll highlight it in an upcoming issue of Prime magazine.

“Live At The Apollo”

“Marquee Moon”

James Brown

Television

The Godfather of Soul, aided and abetted by his own Famous Flames, had been tearing up juke joints and dance halls for years by the time of this, his first live recording. Compelled to self-finance due to a lack of prescience by his record label, this album was released to massive commercial success and is still one of the greatest concert recordings of all time. Perhaps the greatest.

Arguably the finest LP to emerge from the entire NYC punk/new wave scene, “Marquee Moon” is a guitar album for the thinking man – or woman. Coming across as an inspired hybrid of Jerry Garcia and Fairportera Richard Thompson, singer/ songwriter/guitarist Tom Verlaine is also quite the poet, even if he thinks so, conjuring up compelling tales of urban alienation and ennui.

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“Maggot Brain” Funkadelic On the epic title track, and under the direction of George Clinton, and certain other illicit substances, guitarist Eddie Hazel effortlessly recalls, and some would say, surpasses Jimi Hendrix himself. “Maggot Brain” is where post-Sly funk and post-Hendrix rock meet to kick out the jams and redefine what a soul record could be. Indescribably essential.

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ver the years, hundreds have crossed the threshold of her “Worley Street Manor,” the place from which she’s mothered not only her own five children and 13 grandchildren, but also a host of other people’s kids too. She’s also launched a parade of grass roots movements from that blue manor that sits at the intersection of Ridgeway and Worley Street.

When asked to describe their mom, her adult children use words like “determined,” “passionate” and “resourceful.” And when you ask Laboy to talk about the grass roots movements she’s had a hand in creating, she giggles, “Oh my God… I have birthed so many babies right here in this living room.” One of her first babies was the Worley Street Project, an effort to add beauty and push back crime in the neighborhood. When her realtor first showed her and husband, Gil Laboy, the Victorian-style historic property in 1994, she said, “No, that’s not the house!” She wasn’t so sure she wanted to live in that part of town. “I did not want to live on drug-infested Worley Street,” she admits, though from the start, she loved the way the house looked and had a vision of surrounding it with beautiful gardens. “It just looked like a manor and [over the years] it grew into its name,” Laboy continues. “I get a kick out of the people who pull up on their bikes, snap a photo and run.” Now, most visitors to the Worley Street Manor pull up in cars and head straight for her dining room table to brainstorm ways to support those who struggle in Columbia’s First Ward. Kids, single moms, the lonely, and sometimes those who just need to take a break and sit with her on the front porch swing and sip a cup of tea. Once she noticed men were loitering near a half-way house across the street and invited a neighborhood middle school student to wait for her school bus at the manor. “Tell that baby to come and sit on my porch in the morning!” she insisted. DeeDee Jackson became a mom at age 15. She first met the woman who has been her mentor for decades when Laboy came to speak to one of her classes at Douglass High School. Jackson is now a 35-year-old advocate for the homeless and has a crystal clear memory of the day that changed her life. “She just reeked of someone who loved hard,” Jackson says. “You knew right off the bat that she was someone who really wanted to touch your life.” Laboy became the kind of mother Jackson never had. “She helped me carry the weight of the world that I had been carrying all by myself,” she says. Jackson carried the weight of raising an infant son alone without the support of family or her drug-addicted mother who couldn’t offer much of what a teenager needs. “When I met her, my mom was on drugs really bad and Miss Verna immediately gave me her number and was always checking up on me. I could tell her anything and the door of Worley Street Manor was always open for me,” Jackson says. Laboy’s longtime friend, Dee Campbell-Carter, visited the manor not long after moving to Worley Street. Right away, Campbell-Carter sensed that there was something

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first-hand, the power that comes from for the rest of their lives to climb their way special not only about the stately property relationships built on a strong foundation out of poverty. Laboy’s name is not found perched in the middle of Columbia’s of mutual respect, love and trust. among those statistics. Neither is Nicole inner city, but about Laboy herself. She McGruder, the child born to a teenage remembers the colorful lawn, a real Today, Laboy’s motto is “We teach what mother who is now a business professional oasis in what she described as a “barren we most need to learn,” and giving up with both MA and MBA degrees. Her neighborhood,” she recalls. “I remember was never an option. She learned to view youngest child, Adrian Clifton, is finishing marveling that her living room had a huge setbacks as a training ground for growth. her dissertation for a PhD in Education round table in it, and that struck me as “I failed so many times at so many things and Literacy at the University of Missouri. an ingenious encouragement of building and that just freed me up to try something community within her home.” else,” she says. She did eventually return Rather than allowing pregnancy to to college, earning a bachelor’s degree in sidetrack her, she graduated from high That sense of community was fleshed business from Columbia College in 2003. school and afterwards enrolled in Bradley out in 2005 when she launched Ladies “I wanted to make my ceiling my children’s University to pursue a business degree. Night Out, a support group for single floor,” she explains. moms that met every Thursday night at her Earlier this year, along home. There were only with daughters McGruder two women at that first and Clifton, she launched the meeting and four years Worley Street Roundtable later, 40 women were (WRS), a non-profit cramming into her dining organization whose mission room every week. They is to get parents back involved showed up for conversation, in the public school system “diaper showers,” birthday to provide support for celebrations, Bible study marginalized students: African and a host of other events to Americans, Latinos, students bring a little joy and a sense receiving free or reduced-price of belonging into their lives. meals, English-languageWhat she really wanted to learners, and at-risk students do was unveil her faith to with a special education plan. those sometimes-hurting On Sunday afternoons, parents, women who gathered teachers, pastors, physicians, around her table. counselors and administrators gather around the dining room “My grandmother told table at the manor to enjoy a me that my life is the only potluck meal together while Bible some people will they plot a course to strengthen ever read,” Laboy says, and ties between parents and the Ladies Night Out was an school system. During the opportunity for her to let Verna Laboy’s home on Worley Street has been the week, WSR members meet women read the pages of location of many grassroots movements in Columbia. with school administrators and her life. attend Columbia City Council “Five hundred different and school board meetings. women sat in this living However, she dropped out during her Superintendent Dr. Peter Stiepleman recently room during those four years of Ladies junior year to move to Hannibal, Mo., to attended WSR where he got a chance to Night Out,” she says. “We had to keep the assume the role of caretaker for her ailing hear the group’s concerns and learn of their doors open in the winter because it was grandparents. That’s where she met her initiatives to help improve the educational so crowded and got so hot.” The group Mama Jean. experience of struggling students and their eventually moved under the umbrella of families. WSR members were thrilled to Jean Dean was a 50-year-old receptionist Love INC’s Living Large program that receive the superintendent’s enthusiastic at her dentist’s office who became like a met at a downtown church. Laboy tells support for what they are doing to help kids surrogate mother. “She took me home and I of women who drove in from Ashland, prosper in public school. became her brown daughter,” Laboy brags. Holts Summit and even the strip clubs. “She schooled me about life. I was this wild Laboy is convinced that “time and She loved the excitement of not knowing little thing from the inner city of Peoria, resources spent on a child are never just who might show up on any given night Ill, and she told me who I was created to wasted… never!” And for this social to get a dose of “spiritual encouragement be and all the great opportunities that entrepreneur, time spent at the Worley with no judgment,” she says, so they could were available for me.” Now 87 years old, Street Manor, whether straggler or gather tools to help them survive their Mama Jean lights up when she talks about struggler, is never wasted either. At the end daily struggles. “I gave to the women what LaBoy. “Well yes… she’s my child!” she says of the day, all she really wants is to be an I wished had been given to me when I emphatically. “She was dear to me right inspiration for others. “I want to hear that walked in their shoes.” from the start. We just hit it off.” someone’s life is better because they were in Truth is, Laboy began walking in their relationship with me,” she muses. “I want What Laboy learned and experienced in shoes when she found herself pregnant to hear that they were going to give up, but her relationship with Mama Jean became at 15 years old while living in Peoria, decided to do this life because they found the DNA of just about every mentoring Ill. Statistics prove that the lives of teen their purpose!” opportunity and grass roots movement mothers typically spiral downward with she’s launched since then. She experienced, the onset of pregnancy and they struggle Prime Magazine December 2015

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Life Lessons Taught By A Hero

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We recently asked readers to submit articles on their childhood heroes. Below is the second place submission, written by Columbia resident Michael Murrah. He was quiet strength. He never wasted time with noisy displays - he didn’t have to. His way was the subtle effectiveness of moral authority, the way of a hero. As a child, I could occasionally witness this man’s selfless sacrifice and would always marvel at his genius for making those around him better people. Many years ago, he owned a small business in St. Louis. One day, he discovered that one of his three employees was pilfering cash from the register. The amount was just over a $100 total, which in those days was a small fortune. This so offended his moral sensibilities and code of loyalty that he grabbed the cheater by the arm and ushered him into the back alley for a “chat.” Once there, the desperate man began to sob while apologizing for his miserably disloyal thievery. He proceeded to explain that his wife was ill and his indiscretion had been motivated by her need. My hero explained to the thief that he would never be able to trust him again and thus, he would have to leave immediately. At the front door, my hero placed an envelope containing $200 inside his former employee’s coat pocket and said, “This is for your wife and it’s hers to keep, under one condition - that I never see your face again.” And that condition was met. My hero was the son of immigrants who

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had arrived in St. Louis, Mo. at the start of the 20th Century. Survival at this time was really a family affair, so as a small boy he would follow the nightly boxcars filled with coal, which ran down the street paralleling the river. This is the same street that is now the eastern edge of the Gateway Arch complex. This was a tough job for a kid, especially in winter, but he always came home with enough coal in his hands and pockets to keep his parents, brothers and sister safe for another night. I believe realities such as these helped shape the man my hero would become. Due to his responsibilities to his family, his formal education ended in the fourth grade, which is wonderfully ironic since he was clearly one of the brightest men I ever knew. He ran many businesses over the years, even paid for his two younger brothers to attend dental school. He was “street smart” and his common sense was remarkably uncommon. Heroes like Superman, Roy Rogers and The Lone Ranger that we cherish in childhood can fade in importance as our eyes are opened by the ways of the world, but the early lessons these heroes provided us can thankfully remain. As my collection of years greatly increased, so did my respect Above: Jim “Johnson” Murrah and his wife. Right: Jim in front of his favorite billiards parlor in St. Louis in 1930. Opposite Page: Jim in California in 1970.

and admiration for my hero. His moral convictions, loyalty, dedication to duty, sense of humor and his “do the right thing” attitude were lessons taught by the other heroes as well. But in his life you were able to see that he practiced those values. Since his values never stopped at “lip service,” it’s easy to understand how admiration for him could only increase with the passage of time. I attended his funeral, but there was nothing funereal about it. I have heard people say “funerals are wonderful,” but until that night I never got their meaning. It was a celebration, with decades of remembered joys given verbal life again by the more than 500 attendees. One of his fiercest competitors came up to me and said, “You know, he was one hell of a sweet man.” I had to agree with him. He was my lifelong hero. He was my dad. v

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Take-Along Festive Treats For Any Gathering

Between gift exchanges, holiday parties and family gatherings, this time of year is full of opportunities for delicious sweet treats. Add extra cheer to this yearâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s celebrations with these festive desserts featuring Lucky Leaf Premium Fruit Filling. These quick and simple treats allow you to impress your guests and still have time to enjoy all the activities the season has to offer. A black forest poke cake, a classic cheesecake with a seaÂsonal twist or a bubbly cobbler are sure to become guest favorites, costing you minimal prep time. No matter if your favorite flavor is cherry, apple or blueberry, these recipes can be customized to complement any holiday menu or be a great addition to a cookie exchange. With more fruit and many flavors to choose from, Lucky Leaf can help you tackle the hustle and bustle of the season. Find more flavor-filled recipes to brighten your holiday at www.luckyleaf.com. v

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BLACK FOREST POKE CAKE

Recipe courtesy of Julianne of BeyondFrosting.com Cook time: 22 minutes Servings: 12 slices

1 box chocolate cake mix 2 large eggs 3/4 cup milk 1/2 cup vegetable oil 1 jar (16-ounces) hot fudge sauce 1 can (21-ounces) Lucky Leaf Premium Cherry Fruit Filling 2 cups heavy whipping cream or whipped topping 1 1/4 cups powdered sugar chocolate bar for shavings Heat oven to 350 F. Combine cake mix ingredients as listed on box. Beat on medium speed until well combined. Bake cake in 9-by-13-inch pan for 20-22 minutes. Check doneness by inserting toothpick into center of cake. If toothpick is clean, cake

is done. Allow to cool 10 minutes. While cake is still warm, use end of wooden spoon or another round object and poke holes all over top of cake. Heat jar of hot fudge sauce in micro-wave for about 30 seconds, or until you can stir and thin it out. You may need an additional 30 seconds. Pour sauce on top of cake and allow it to absorb. Let set until completely cooled. Open can of fruit filling and pour over top of cake; spread evenly. To prepare whipped cream, put bowl and whisk attachment in freezer for 5-10 minutes to get them really cold. In cold mixing bowl, pour in heavy whipping cream and beat on medium speed about 3 minutes. Add powdered sugar and increase speed to medium high. Beat until stiff peaks form. Spread whipped cream over top of cake. Chop chocolate bar into small pieces and sprinkle over top of cake. Keep refrigerated until ready to serve.

n the SPIDER-MAN™ pinball machine, you are Spider-Man™. Your goal is to defeat the villains from all three movies: Green Goblin from “Spider-Man,” Doc Ock from “Spider-Man 2,” and Sandman and Venom from “Spider-Man 3.” There are detailed, vibrant toys of each of the four villains on the playfield with an associated shot. Defeat all four villains and experience Battle Royale! The pinball machine offers incredible features, including: Doc Ock’s magnet that simulates a “Fusion Malfunction” by holding the ball; Green Goblin hovering on his glider above Pumpkin Bomb targets; Venom’s ramp that quickly feeds the ball back to the left flipper; Sandman’s whirlwind of targets and a motor 3-bank at the center of the playfield; and a whole lot of amazing multi-ball action. Find your favorite pinball machines, arcades, and other gameroom products on our website. Something for everyone in the family to enjoy! www.ThePinballCompany.com

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Delicious Desserts For The Holidays CARAMEL APPLE CHEESECAKE Cook time: 35 minutes Servings: 12-16

1 can (21-ounces) Lucky Leaf Premium Apple Fruit Filling 1 9-inch graham cracker crust 2 packages (8-ounces) cream cheese, softened 1/2 cup sugar 1/4 teaspoon vanilla extract 2 eggs 1/4 cup caramel topping 12 pecan halves 2 tablespoons pecans, chopped Heat oven to 350 F. Reserve 3/4 cup of fruit filling; set aside. Spoon remaining filling into crust. Beat together cream cheese, sugar and vanilla until smooth; add eggs and mix well. Pour over fruit filling. Bake for 35 minutes, or until center of cake is set. Cool cake to room temperature. In small sauce足pan, heat reserved fruit filling and caramel topping for about 1 minute, or until spreadable. Spoon apple-caramel mixture over top of cheese足cake and spread evenly. Decorate edge of cake with pecan halves and sprinkle with chopped pecans. Refrigerate until ready to serve.

SIMPLE AND SWEETIE BLUEBERRY COBBLER Cook time: 1 hour Servings: 12

6 tablespoons butter 3/4 cup sugar 1 cup self-rising flour 1 cup milk 1 can (21-ounces) Lucky Leaf Premium Blueberry Fruit Filling Heat oven to 350 F. Melt butter and pour into 2.5-quart casserole or baking pan. Mix sugar, flour and milk. Pour mixture over butter but do not mix. Pour fruit filling on top but do not mix. Bake 1 hour.

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fun & games solved Challenge your brain with this month’s puzzles found on Page 30-32.

Crossword Puzzle

Sudoku Puzzle

Cryptogram Answer “I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year.” – Charles Dickens

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Ribbon Cutting at Provision Living The staff of Provision Living at Columbia, located on Chapel Hill Road, held their ribbon cutting ceremony on Oct. 22. Former Mayor Darwin Hindman and the Chamber of Commerce Ambassadors participated in the event. Tours of the apartments and common areas were given following the ribbon cutting.

Kelly Gross, Christopher Evans, Patricia Barry, Charlene Bowmaker and Helen Taylor

Jeff Hinshaw and Darwin Hindman

Chris Evans, Kent Moberg, Martha Chaval, Lee Turor, Martha Langbartels, Jeff Hindhaw, Helen Taylor, Nancy Jones, Norma Miller, Dayna Gienger, Lillian Riechlin, Denise Falco and Jean McGill

Todd Spittal, Maria Kohring and John Greaves

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Laurie Schanot with Dayna and Carter Gienger

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Makes Scents. At this custom fragrance shop, you will find unique products D iscover that are as good for gift-giving as they are for your own wish list. Left: Create your

very own custom scent. Choose from over 300 scents and products for bath, body, and home (from $8). Top right: Live in air you love. Lampe Berger beautifully scents your home, while removing odors and impurities (from $35). Bottom right: Lovely packaging and even more lovely scents from Library of Flowers, a small batch perfumery (from $16). It smells good in here. Makes Scents • 19 S Ninth St, Columbia, MO 65201 • 573-445-1611 • www.makesscentsonline.com Prime Magazine December 2015

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Salute to Veterans Thank You Party and Auction The Salute to Veterans annual thank you party and auction was held at the Elks Club on Oct. 11. More than 100 supporters, sponsors and volunteers bid on the aviation and military memorabilia in the silent auction. Steve and Stuart Head auctioned a rare pair of earrings owned by singer Jane Froman.

Marjorie and Jim Marberry

John and Martha Rhein

Jeff and Robin Musgrove

Steve and Stuart Head with Mark Comley

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Boone County Hall Of Fame Induction Ceremony More than 200 guests enjoyed heavy hors dâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;oeuvres, wine and beer sponsored by several Columbia restaurants at the 2015 Boone County Hall of Fame Induction Ceremony Oct. 8. Inductees included Jane Froman (posthumously), Ray Beck and radio station KFRU. Platinum Sponsor Central Bank of Boone County and Gold Sponsor Columbia College helped make the event possible. Tickets plus silent and live auction proceeds raised nearly $17,000 in net proceeds to support the Boone County Historical Society Endowment Trust and the museumâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s operations.

Betsy Odle

Tricia and Doug Crews with Lisa Paten

Charlie and Kathy Digges

Nollie Moore and Lynn Condon

Sharon Lynch and Pat Jackson

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Scott Dalrymple, Ray Beck and Phil Lewis PHOTOS COURTESY OF GENE BAUMANN

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Columbia Confidential: Publisher Fred Parry On The Issues Columbia Is Talking About

Sticking Up For Mom & Pops

It’s the holiday season once again. A few weeks ago, our thoughts primarily centered on the traditions of the season, spending time with friends and family, decorating our homes and trying to remember whether it’s 11 Drummers Drumming or 11 Lords A’ Leaping. Now that Thanksgiving has come and gone, the pressures on our collective holiday spirit shift to all we must get done before Christmas morning. As is almost always the case, we start looking for shortcuts and for ways to cut corners to simply survive the hustle and bustle. Unfortunately, one of those shortcuts is shopping online for the gifts we can’t seem to find time to acquire any other way. With the click of the mouse, we send our dollars to some faraway place hoping the UPS man will deliver it in time for Christmas. If you pay attention to local news, perhaps you’ve heard Mayor Bob McDavid mention Columbia’s shrinking base of sales tax revenue. Sales taxes in our community account for nearly 50 percent of the city’s general fund, which provides for so many of the vital services we depend on, such as police and fire protection. Although Columbia continues to grow between 2 and 3 percent every year, revenues have not kept pace with this growth. Some might argue that our city government already gets more than its fair share of our money, but when push comes to shove, it’s often the nonessential amenities we cherish most that are the first to get cut. The more we shop online, the more we exacerbate an already challenging situation. I suppose it would be different if the Amazon.coms of the world were forced to compete on a level playing field with our local mom and pop shops. Along with convenience, online retailers offer the added benefit of not being required to charge sales tax on purchases. In an era when local, state and federal governments have become masterful in getting every last dime they can out of taxpayers, I’m puzzled as to why they can’t seem to put the squeeze on these online retailers to get their fair share. I guess the answer is that our locally owned, independent retailers don’t have the same level of influence in Washington, D.C. As is usually the case, all you have to do is follow the money. Jeff Bezos, the guy who founded Amazon.com, the world’s largest online retailer, is the same guy who owns The Washington Post, the most influential voice in our nation’s capital. For those of you who don’t understand why this is such a big deal, you need to spend a few minutes thinking about how your quality of life is impacted by both big and small businesses. The vitality of our community is tied very closely to the success or failure of the locally owned businesses you see in downtown

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Columbia, in the Village of Cherry Hill, at Bernadette Square and at the Crossroads Shopping Center. The businesses that populate these shopping centers are the same businesses that employ your neighbors and your teenagers. They are the same businesses that sponsor our Little League teams as well as most of the cultural activity in the community. The next time you order online, ask yourself if Overstock.com sponsors our local ballet or symphony, or if it helps fund the local food bank. The answer will be a resounding “NO!” We have to remember that small business is big business here in Columbia. Small, independently owned businesses account for approximately 63 percent of all new jobs created each year in our community. When you also consider that every dollar spent with a locally owned business will turn over six or seven times in our economy, you can begin to understand the importance of spending money locally. These same businesses tend to donate back to local causes at a rate that is twice that of national retailers. Even the big box stores with a physical presence here give back at a rate far greater than any online retailers. While the impact is not as great as local, independently owned businesses, these national retailers with local physical locations do provide jobs and contribute to our sales tax base. It’s going to take an awful lot of education to turn this tide. At some point, the perks we get from shopping locally have to outweigh the convenience of shopping online. Perhaps I’m old-fashioned, but I still enjoy the customer service and the interaction I have with our local mom and pop businesses. It’s nice to have face-to-face conversations with the people with whom you do business. It’s also the perfect opportunity to say “Thanks!” for sponsoring our Little League team or for donating a gift for the PTA raffle. This holiday season, please shop locally. Keeping our dollars in Columbia makes us a stronger community.

Fred Parry, fred@insidecolumbia.net

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