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November 2015 Prime Magazine

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November 2015

Contents

Volume 7, Issue 8

The Tasting Room Versatile Holiday Standbys

Fall Into Art The 6th Annual Art Showcase Returns

Living Well: Kathy and Charlie Digges Sr.

15 Prime Time Can’t-Miss Events For November

Boone Hospital Center Four Boone Hospital Professionals You’ll Want To Know

Tinseltown Talks Henry Darrow on the set of “High Chaparral”

30 Tell Me About It Get Angel’s Relationship Advice

Fun & Games Sudoku, Tiger Vision & More

Hugo Vianello: The Man, The Maestro, The Mentor

Reader Submission A Childhood Hero

Recipe Box A Spirited Holiday

Columbia Confidential Publisher Fred Parry Takes On The Issues Columbians Are Talking About Prime Magazine November 2015

Welcome

Celebrating 20 Years It’s hard to imagine that it’s been 20 years since we produced our first senior’s publication in the Columbia market. We launched Columbia Senior Times in 1995. While many things have changed, from the name of the publication to editors and advertisers, our focus remains the same: providing seniors with a timely, well-written and useful monthly magazine. We’ve highlighted many of you throughout the past two decades and you’ve inspired us with your stories and insight. This month it feels like I have returned to my roots. I was the editor of Mid-Missouri Mature Living for several years in the early 2000s. Now I’ve returned to take the place of Anita Neal Harrison, who recently stepped down as the managing editor. I think you’ll agree that she did an excellent job with Prime magazine and we wish her much happiness and success. Profiled in this month’s issue of Prime are two couples that have made a big difference in Columbia’s landscape. Kathy and Charlie Digges Sr. and Lucy and Maestro Hugo Vianello are both profiled and share their love of Columbia with us. I’m grateful for the opportunity to celebrate 20 years with you. I hope you’ll continue to share your stories with me. Email me at prime@insidecolumbia.net with story ideas.

staff Publisher Fred Parry Associate Publisher & Managing Editor Melody Garnett Parry Associate Publisher & Executive Editor Sandy Selby Editorial Assistant Peg Gill Graphic Designer Trever Griswold Joe Waner Photo Editor L.G. Patterson Marketing Representatives Rosemarie Peck Joe Schmitter Digital Marketing Coordinator Sean Zullo Director Of Customer Retention Gerri Shelton Operations Manager Kalie Clennin Operations Assistant Lilly Smith Finance Manager Brenda Brooks Distribution Manager John Lapsley Contributing Writers Kathy Casteel, Jeanne Dzurick, Peg Gill, Pam Ingram, Saralee Perel, Angel Donnette Robertson, Nick Thomas

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The Tasting Room

A Toast To Tradition

Set your holiday table with these versatile standbys. BY KATHY CASTEEL

Add some sunny California tradition to your Thanksgiving repast this month — it doesn’t get any more traditional than offerings from the oldest winemaking family in the Golden State. Mirassou Chardonnay and Pinot Noir bring versatility to your wine choices for holiday meals, no matter which entrées grace your table. Fruitful and food-friendly, these wines celebrate the harvest season with a cornucopia of aroma, taste and texture. Chardonnay is a traditional choice for pairing with poultry. The flavor foundation of apple and oak spice notes complements the harvest bounty we celebrate this season. But don’t overlook the possibilities for red wine in your holiday menu. Pinot Noir, with delicate fruit flavors and medium body, pairs surprisingly well with turkey — especially smoked or grilled bird — as well as hearty vegetables and

casseroles. Both varietals complement appetizers and cheese plates when keeping the hungry hordes at bay on Turkey Day. They do a pretty good job of dressing up leftovers, too. Cover all the bases and serve both at your feast. Mirassou Chardonnay smells delightful from the moment it’s uncorked. The intense fruity aroma leads to layers of apple, peach and pineapple flavor with a creamy undertone. Vanilla and toasted oak spice wrap up the flavorful bounty on the satisfying finish. Mirassou Pinot Noir opens with jammy aromas of cherries and strawberries. The delicate flavor carries a taste of ripe cherries and plums for a smooth sip and long finish. Upon tasting it, a friend declared it “a jolly wine.” Jolly. What a great way to usher in the holiday season. ❖

Hello, Sunshine! The family that founded Mirassou Winery has been making wine longer than any other family in California. For six generations, the descendants of Pierre and Henrietta Pellier have tended to their craft in the sun-splashed hills of northern and central California. The Pelliers sailed from France to California in 1854, Pierre carefully carrying prized grape cuttings. When water ran short on the ship, Pellier purchased potatoes onboard and inserted his cuttings into the spuds to keep the vines alive. The couple settled in Santa Clara County, an area better known in this century as Silicon Valley. Daughter Henrietta married the boy next-door, French vintner Pierre Mirassou, and a dynasty was born. Mirassou innovations in the wine industry

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include introducing Pinot Noir grapes to California and the technique of field-crushing grapes to prevent spoilage. As urbanization encroached upon Santa Clara agriculture, fourthgeneration vintner Edmund Mirassou moved the operation to Monterey County in the first wave of Central Coast winemakers. Today, sixthgeneration member David Mirassou continues the family tradition, working with new owners EJ Gallo in marketing Mirassou wines. The winery, he notes, currently produces wines that are less oaky while still reflecting his family’s original wine philosophy. All eight varietals and a red blend are available in Columbia, easily recognized by their iconic sun label. “The Mirassou name can be hard to remember,” he says, “but our label is easy on the eyes — just look for the sun!”

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Melding Art & Philanthropy Fall Into Art returns for a sixth year

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The Plaza Event Center at Parkade will be overflowing with art in support of a good cause the weekend of Nov. 14 and 15, when the sixth annual Fall Into Art showcase returns. Free and open to the public, the showcase blends art, music and education with fundraising for the Food Bank for Central & Northeast Missouri. “It’s a great organization and we are delighted to be of service and help it out,” says event organizer Farah Nieuwenhuizen. “We are very happy that we can raise funds for the food bank and happy that the artists can showcase their work. We raised $1,500 last year and hope to raise even more this year.” For 2015, Fall Into Art will feature fine arts and crafts by more than 50 artists, as well as art students from Lee Elementary School and Moberly Area Community College. According to Nieuwenhuizen, “When we started, we had only 20 artists but as time has gone on, we’ve grown; now, in our sixth year, we have close to 60!” Nieuwenhuizen says the event came about because Columbia didn’t have many opportunities for artists to showcase their work, particularly as the holidays approach. She adds that although Fall Into Art is not as large as Art in the Park, held in June, it has the same caliber of work. The many talented artists are predominately local, but the event also draws artists from a broader area. “Last year we had people from Arkansas, Kansas City, St. Louis and Iowa,” Nieuwenhuizen says. A wide variety of art in all different mediums will be for sale, with certain pieces earmarked for the silent auction, Nieuwenhuizen says. “There will be ceramic pieces, wood, jewelry, paintings, collages, glass and more. We have one person who does printing on cloth and another person who does clothing with recycled fabric.” Another artist — a painter who has illustrated a

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children’s book — will be signing and selling books. All artists were asked to contribute a piece of their art for the silent auction that benefits the food bank. A sheet listing the minimum bid accompanies each item. People can sign up with their bid, and the artist will call and alert the highest bidder on Sunday around 3 p.m. Winning bidders may come to the Event Center to write a check directly to the food bank and pick up their items. Volunteers handing out cookies

and cider will greet attendees at the showcase entrance, and a donation box will be set up for cash contributions. Nieuwenhuizen says that last year visitors gave $700. Some also brought in canned goods and nonperishable items such as noodles, which were packed up and sent to the food bank. The showcase runs from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Saturday and from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday at 601 Business Loop 70 W. You can find more information at www.fallintoart.org. ❖

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His wife of 45 years, Kathy, smiles and calls him “low key,” to which he quickly agrees. But Charlie and Kathy don’t let too much dust settle under their feet.

had open heart surgery to repair a heart valve in 2010, “Nurse Charlie” took care of her. As part of her recovery, 30 minutes of walking per day was required.

“It was just on a fluke that I met Charlie,” Kathy says. Charlie’s first wife, Margaret, had passed away from breast cancer at 48, and Kathy’s parents knew Charlie and invited him over for a dinner party, at which Kathy had volunteered to help serve. The blind date they had set up for Charlie didn’t have a chance, Kathy says, because “Charlie and I looked at each other and that was that.” That was 1967.

“It occurred to me that that was a good thing,” she says, “and even though I’ve always exercised, I started walking. And I then made my goal to exercise 365 days a year—30 minutes either walked or on a treadmill or biked.”

“I like having an age difference because every day we live in a heightened relationship,” Kathy says, adding, “this could be our last day and we have to enjoy it. So we still hold hands watching the news at night. It’s just been a true blessing for both of us.”

“If it wasn’t for Kathy, I wouldn’t probably do all of those exercises,” Charlie confesses. She is his motivation.

Charlie, now 96, and Kathy, 69, are arguably more active than most thirtysomethings. “I play golf a couple of times a week and still fish when I can,” he says. “Kathy and I floated the Piney River last week, fished for small mouth.” In addition to golf and fishing, Charlie attends Round Table lunches three times a week. This group, made up of prominent businessmen, has met since the 1920s. Over the years, typical discussions consisted of local business issues, and still do, though these days they have a good dose of “whose been where and done what,” golf games and a little city politics on the upcoming mayoral race sprinkled in, Charlie says. It was at a Round Table meeting 50 years ago that Dr. Jack Modlin from the Columbia Surgical Group encouraged the members to start exercising and gave them all a copy of the Air Force exercise book. Charlie took his advice to heart, and regular exercise is a large part of the Digges’ daily routine to this day. “They didn’t have all the exercise facilities at that time,” Charlie says. “Back then, it was up to you.” So for a long time, they exercised at home in their basement with weights and such for 45 minutes several times a week, Kathy says. Over the years, they’ve had health ups and downs, too, but their exercise regimen is what they credit with getting healthy again and moving on, that and their friend and doctor, Jerry Kennett. When Kathy

“It’s turned out that we have fun. We encourage ourselves to think of it as fun, and it really works,” Kathy says. “That’s why we’re still here.”

Charlie, now 96, and Kathy, 69, are arguably more active than most thirty-somethings So maybe not always fun, but necessary. “You know, if you exercise three or four times a week, then you say, ‘Well I won’t do it today, but I’ll do it tomorrow,’ ” Kathy says of her daily regimen. “Then maybe tomorrow you say, ‘I don’t think I’ll do it today.’ So, if you exercise everyday, then there are no excuses.” In its simplest form, Kathy’s definition of “fun” is really one basic concept. “I work very hard to keep Charlie healthy, happy upright and alive,” she says laughing, “especially through November 14, at the gala.” She’s referring to the annual event held by the Boone Hospital Foundation, which she and Charlie both believe does great work for the Columbia community. They will be recognized at this year’s gala as Boone physicians have helped Kathy and Charlie live a healthy lifestyle. For Kathy, the foundation’s outreach is one of the most important things it does, specifically through health screenings. “I’ve always been very intrigued with knowing your ‘numbers,’ ” she says. “That’s really important to encourage

people to get healthy, stay healthy. The foundation supports the hospital’s inpatient services, too.” Part of staying healthy for the Digges involves having a personal trainer at their home twice a week and working with Dan Smith, another personal trainer with whom they meet once a week at Optimus Fitness. Smith knows to work Charlie at his speed and Kathy at hers, she says. Indeed, Charlie is quick to point out that Smith knows he’s 96 and takes care to adjust his exercises accordingly. They also walk on the University of Missouri campus on weekends. Well, Kathy walks, while Charlie walks and rests now and then on one of the benches on Carnahan Plaza. “I can walk as long as I want, my 30 minutes, and Charlie can walk a little bit and rest on the bench admiring the flowers and grounds.” The beauty of the MU campus appeals to Charlie. He was born a couple of blocks from the plaza where they walk, and over the years MU has been a large part of his life—he’s been going to university athletic events since he was five. Though his love for MU sports, golf and fishing, exercise and Round Table lunches keep Charlie busy since he retired 23 years ago, there are still some things he misses about going to work every day at the company he helped build, The Insurance Group. “Our office was right downtown in the Landmark building. All of the businesses on Broadway were owned by local people, and they had great stores,” he says. “We wrote the insurance for most of those businesses. That was the most rewarding thing. We helped those people. They were good friends. The Insurance Group continues to insure some of those same stores today.” These days when he visits the office, now located in the same building as Optimus Fitness just south of Rock Bridge High School, it’s hard for him to keep up because the business has grown and has new employees. Granted, he only makes it in about once a week to check in with Skip Grossnickle and his son Charlie Digges, Jr. who has followed in his dad’s footsteps. But truth be told, meeting new people and continuing to foster and grow existing relationships is perhaps just as big a part of what keeps both Charlie and Kathy going as any activity they do. They go hand-inhand, just like Charlie and Kathy. Prime Magazine November 2015

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11.15 November NOVEMBER 1 The Stephens College Senior Dance Concert takes place in Macklanburg Playhouse. You won’t want to miss this culmination of graduating dance majors’ experiences and time at Stephens. Every move has been carefully choreographed to create an unforgettable dance performance that will entertain and inspire. $8 adults, $6 students/seniors older than 60; 2 p.m.; 100 Willis Ave.; 573-876-7199; www.stephens.edu

NOVEMBER 2 The University Concert Series presents the Arianna String Quartet at the Missouri Theatre. The quartet has firmly established itself as one of America’s finest chamber ensembles. Watch as it performs “Dream Corner” with Yoko Reikano Kumura, Yumi Kurosawa and James Nyoraku Schlefer in a fusion of two distinct musical worlds. From $13.75; 7 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.concertseries.org

NOVEMBER 4 The Missouri women’s basketball season gets underway in Mizzou Arena when the Tigers host the Southwest Baptist Bearcats. Price TBA; 7 p.m.; 1 Champions Drive; 800-CATPAWS (228-7297); www.mutigers.com

NOVEMBER 21 Catch all the offensive and defensive action at Faurot Field when the Mizzou Tigers play the Tennessee Volunteers. From $25; time TBA; 600 E. Stadium Blvd.; 800-CAT-PAWS (228-7297); www.mutigers.com Prime Magazine November 2015

NOVEMBER 5 Get your first glimpse of the 2015 Mizzou wrestling team at the Black and Gold Meet in the Hearnes Center. Last season, the Tiger grapplers were Mizzou’s most successful athletic team, winning the National Duals championship and placing fourth at the NCAA tournament with an individual national champion. Free; 3:30 to 6:30 p.m.; 600 E. Stadium Blvd.; 800-CAT-PAWS (2287297); www.mutigers.com

NOVEMBER 5 The Missouri Tigers host the Mississippi State Bulldogs at Faurot Field. Come out and cheer on the team in this SEC game! From $25; 8 p.m.; 600 E. Stadium Blvd.; 800-CAT-PAWS (2287297); www.mutigers.com

NOVEMBER 5–8, 12–15, 19–22 Columbia Entertainment Company presents “Sylvia.” Greg and Kate have moved to Manhattan after 22 years raising their children in the suburbs. Greg’s career is winding down as Kate’s is beginning to offer her more opportunities. When Greg brings home a dog he found in the park and names Sylvia, the pup becomes a major bone of contention between the couple. $12 adult, $10 children/seniors/ students; 7:30 p.m. with 2 p.m. Sunday matinee; 1800 Nelwood Drive; 573-4743699; www.cectheatre.org

NOVEMBER 6 Catch the season opener of the 2015 Columbia College Cougars basketball season with a double-header at Southwell Arena. The women’s team is up first, hosting McPherson College, followed by the men’s game against Cumberland University. $8 adults, $5 students; 5 p.m. & 7 p.m.; Range Line Street (Columbia College campus); 573875-7433; www.columbiacougars.com 16

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NOVEMBER 6 Mizzou opens the men’s hoops season with an exhibition game that pits the Tigers against Missouri Western in Mizzou Arena. Come check out the 2015 team. Free; time TBA; 1 Champions Drive; 800-CAT-PAWS (228-7297); www.mutigers.com

NOVEMBER 6–7 Join Allen’s Flowers for a little Christmas cheer as it kicks off its Holiday Open House with an evening of Wine & Trees on Friday, Nov. 6th. Allen’s staff will help you create winter warmth for a memorable Christmas season in your home. The open house continues on Saturday. Mention Wine & Trees on either day and you’ll receive $5 off your purchase of $25. Free; 5 to 7 p.m. Friday, 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Saturday; 111 S. Ninth St.; 573-443-8719; www.allensflowersinc.com

NOVEMBER 13 Mizzou volleyball hosts Georgia in an SEC contest in the Hearnes Center. Catch every kill and dig of the Friday night match. $5 adults, $3 youth & seniors; 6:30 p.m.; 600 E. Stadium Blvd.; 800-CAT-PAWS (228-7297); www.mutigers.com

NOVEMBER 14–15 Come out and enjoy the sixth annual Fall Into Art at The Plaza Event Center at Parkade. The event blends art, music, education and fundraising to benefit The Food Bank of Central & Northeast Missouri. Read more on Page 8. Free; 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday, 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday; 601 Business Loop 70 W.; 573-445-6853; www.fallintoart.org Prime Magazine November 2015

NOVEMBER 19 Begin the holiday season with a musical extravaganza when the University Concert Series presents MU Choral Union: Gloria! The Sounds of the Season at the Missouri Theatre. Everyone knows about Santa Claus, but how many are familiar with the legend of St. Nicholas â&#x20AC;&#x201D; the original Santa Claus? Composer Benjamin Britten set this masterful text to include various stories from Nicolasâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; life, both the serious and lighthearted. An exciting, joyful launch into the holidays! $19 adult, $14 faculty/staff, $9 youth/student; 7 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.concertseries.org

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NOVEMBER 21 The David Bromberg Quintet is appearing at The Blue Note in an intimate seated show. Bromberg is an astonishing performer whose range and musical depth have delighted audiences for more than 40 years. $30; doors open 7 p.m., show at 8 p.m.; 17 N. Ninth St.; 573-874-1944; www.thebluenote.com

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Get a jump on your holiday shopping with a Holiday Bazaar at the Hillcrest Community Center and Moss building at Waters-Moss Wildlife Area. The bazaar will feature a variety of arts, crafts and home-based business vendors. Purchase presents for everyone on your list, or take home a little something for yourself! Free; 11 a.m. to 3 p.m.; 1905 and 1907 Hillcrest Drive; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

Have a little Gamecock with your turkey leftovers. South Carolina volleyball visits Mizzou for an SEC contest in the Hearnes Center. $5 adults, $3 youth & seniors; 6:30 p.m.; 600 E. Stadium Blvd.; 800-CAT-PAWS (228-7297); www.mutigers.com

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NOVEMBER 26 Start off your Thanksgiving by burning off those calories in advance! Take part in the Boone Hospital Center Turkey Trax Run 5K. The race gives friends and families a chance to do something active before they start their traditional celebration, while benefiting the Boone Hospital Foundation. From $35 adult, $25 children younger than 12; 8:30 a.m.; 700 E. Broadway; 573-445-2664; www.turkeytraxrun.com

Head downtown to enjoy the Living Windows. Every year on the first Friday of December, shopkeepers throughout The District move all the merchandise out of their front windows and stage live holiday performances for onlookers. Merchants go to great lengths to outdo one another, making each year’s displays even more impressive than the last. Open houses, strolling carolers, holiday treats and visits with Santa — you’ll find it all against a backdrop of holiday lights. Free; 6 to 8 p.m.; downtown Columbia; 573-442-6816; www.discoverthedistrict.com

DECEMBER 12 The University Concert Series presents Don McLean live at the Missouri Theatre. Don’t miss your chance to see this legendary singer/guitarist as he performs some of his new tracks and his greatest hits, including one of the most recognizable songs in pop history, “American Pie.” From $32; 7 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.concertseries.org

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GET TO KNOW YOUR DOCTOR BRITTANY KAMMERICH, MD Dr. Brittany Kammerich is a native Missourian who was born and raised in Boonville along with her younger brother. She completed her undergraduate and medical school studies at the University of Missouri, and then completed her family medicine residency training at Glendale Adventist Medical Center near Los Angeles. Dr. Kammerich is happy to be at Boone Hospital and “to have the opportunity to serve the area of my community.” She was influenced early on by many people. “Growing up, I was blessed with many wonderful teachers, including my parents, who provided me with much support, love and encouragement,” she says. The best advice she ever received was to work toward her goals and never give up. She chose to become a doctor because “every day is different, challenging and exciting,” she says. “I particularly chose primary care for the opportunity to provide continuous care throughout the lives of my patients and their family members. I find utmost importance in preventative health and healthy lifestyle. I value my relationships with my patients and enjoy working to help them achieve their best possible health and wellness.” If she could have one superpower, Dr. Kammerich would choose the ability to teleport so she could visit her friends in other states. If she hadn’t become a physician, she says, she would have become a middle-school teacher. Dr. Kammerich describes herself as “dedicated,” but when she does get a chance to relax, she enjoys spending time with friends and family, going out to restaurants, being outdoors, jogging and working out.

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GET TO KNOW YOUR NURSE PRACTITIONER SEDRA KETCHAM, NP Sedra Ketcham is relatively new to the Columbia area. She and her husband, their 1-year-old son and their lab/vizsla mix dog moved here a little more than a year ago. Her husband is also in health care — he’s a physical medicine and rehabilitation resident at Mizzou. Not only is Ketcham married to a health care provider, she comes from a family of them. Her father is a physician and her mother is a registered nurse. “I literally grew up in medicine watching my dad provide compassionate care for his patients,” she says. “I knew someday I wanted to do the same.” She says her proudest moment as a nurse practitioner is being able to help her patients set goals for their health and aid them in achieving them. “I’m thankful to be able to do this each and every day,” she says. Ketcham says the one word that best describes her is “conscientious.” She has a detail-oriented personality, which she credits to her third-grade teacher. “My third-grade teacher was the first person to stress to me the importance of following directions and to pay attention to the details,” she says. Another word that describes her is persistent. She says the best advice she ever received is “when you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.” If she weren’t a nurse practitioner, Ketcham would love to be a real estate agent or have a professional photography job. She relaxes by exercising, reading a book or doing something mindless, such as spending time on Pinterest.

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GET TO KNOW YOUR DOCTOR AARON WHITING, MD He’s not all that old, but Dr. Aaron Whiting has already led quite a colorful life. He grew up the middle of three boys on an Indian reservation in South Dakota, as a member of the Lakota Sioux tribe. For college, Dr. Whiting traveled to Chicago, where he met his wife, Rebecca, who is from Missouri. He and Rebecca then lived here in Columbia for seven years while he completed his medical training. After he finished his residency, they moved to New Zealand for a year, where Dr. Whiting practiced in a small farming community. Now the Whitings are back in Columbia. Rebecca is a member of the research faculty at Mizzou, and Dr. Whiting says, “I’m getting to know the wonderful community of Boonville.” Dr. Whiting says his parents had a tremendous influence on him during his childhood. “My dad was the first in his family to graduate from college and made a lot of sacrifices so that my brothers and I could have better opportunities in life,” he says. “My mom made sure we knew we could become anything we wanted to be.” For Dr. Whiting, that meant becoming a physician. He says he chose to become a doctor because “I enjoy connecting with people and being a positive influence in their lives. Medicine combines this with complex problem solving, and I enjoy the challenge.” When asked what one word describes him, Dr. Whiting says “lighthearted.” In addition to practicing medicine, he enjoys hiking in beautiful places. When he can’t get outdoors, he relaxes by reading a good book.

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GET TO KNOW YOUR DOCTOR MARIANNE LOPEZ RHODES, MD Dr. Marianne Lopez Rhodes is both a “boomerang” Columbian and Boone Hospital Center employee. She lived here while she was an undergrad and worked at Boone Hospital Center while applying to medical school. She then returned to Columbia after completing her residency in Denver. Settling here was the perfect choice for Lopez Rhodes because it’s halfway between St. Louis and Kansas City, where both she and her husband have family. Lopez Rhodes was drawn to medicine because it is an altruistic profession. “I wanted to do something where I could help people,” she says, “but also where I would constantly be challenged. Medicine is always evolving and every day is different, which is great.” Lopez Rhodes credits her family for her success. “My grandparents and parents all immigrated here from the Philippines. They started with hardly anything, just so all of us could have a better life. I would not be where I am today if it were not for all their hard work and support.” If she weren’t a doctor, Lopez Rhodes would be a teacher. “I get jealous of family and friends that get to be around their kids when they are off from school,” she says. Lopez Rhodes says the word that best describes her is “determined” and that her proudest moment as a person was when she became a mom. Now expecting her second child, Lopez Rhodes likes to spend time relaxing with her family. “We love watching Kansas City, St. Louis and Mizzou sports,” she says. “We are also often outside, hiking, playing or hanging out at the pool.”

Tinseltown Talks

A “High Chaparral” Thanksgiving with Henry Darrow

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Come November, Henry Darrow’s thoughts typically turn to turkeys … and burros. Darrow, who turned 82 in September, played Manolito in the popular 60s western television series “High Chaparral.” He recalls the memorable Thanksgiving episode, “For What We Are About to Receive,” first broadcast on NBC on Nov. 29, 1968. “We spent that episode looking for a lost turkey that I’d won in a shooting contest,” Darrow says, from his home in North Carolina. “The bird falls off my wagon and in one scene we’re all out in the desert making various turkey sounds trying to catch it. That was a fun episode.” Earlier in the plot, Manolito’s buckboard holding the turkey is stolen, forcing him to seek alternative transportation. “A burro!” recalls Darrow, laughing. “I can still picture myself riding that animal – it was very boney and uncomfortable!” Darrow appeared in all 98 “High Chaparral” episodes, as well as more than 130 film and television roles, many discussed in his 2012 autobiography “Henry Darrow: Lightning in the Bottle” co-written with Jan Pippins (see www. henrydarrowbook.com). “High Chaparral” was one of numerous TV westerns dominating network television in the 60s. “About 15 of the top 20 shows were westerns,” Darrow says. But the series stood out with its realistic treatment of life and conflict in the old West. “It was also the first show to feature a Hispanic family alongside an Anglo

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Henry Darrow (far right) on the set of “High Chaparral”

family in primetime.” The show was created by “Bonanza” producer David Dortort, who was looking for a Hispanic actor to play Manolito. “I got lucky when he saw me in a play,” Darrow says, whose parents were from Puerto Rico although he was actually born in Manhattan. Darrow was a teenager when his family returned to Puerto Rico, where he studied at the university before heading back to the United States to take up acting. “As a kid in Puerto Rico, I’d get out of school and go down to a small, local

theater and for a quarter could see all the great cowboy stars like Charlie Starrett (the Durango Kid), Buck Jones, Gene Autry, and Roy Rogers,” he recalls. “Then, as a young adult, I got to play one on TV!” Darrow says he wanted Manolito to have his own easy-going personality, but also drew on previous stage work. “I styled him after two Shakespearian characters I played: Mercutio from “Romeo and Juliet,” which added a comedic touch, and Iago from “Othello,” which mixed a little darkness to the character. He was a free spirit!”

“High Chaparral” also starred Leif Erickson, as head of the Cannon family’s Arizona ranch, as well as Linda Cristal, Mark Slade, and Cameron Mitchell. “Cam (Mitchell) was quite a character,” Darrow says. “He introduced me to horse and dog racing, and poker, but I learned a lot from watching him and his inventiveness on the set.” During summer shooting on location, Darrow says ground temperatures could exceed 120 degrees. “If you got knocked down during a fight scene and brushed your skin against a rock out in the sun, it would burn you.” Despite the heat, Darrow remembers Mitchell usually dressed in black. “Cam would jump into the horse troughs when it was hot and after dripping a bit when he got out, you couldn’t tell his black shirt and pants were wet. Very smart!” Planning for the final banquet scene of the Thanksgiving episode, after a turkey is finally caught and cooked, Darrow remembers Mitchell saying he would serve the peas, leaving the mashed potatoes for Darrow. “But Cam grabbed the potatoes,” laughs Darrow. “He was always doing something unexpected.” The meal also was interrupted by neighbors and local Indians, each claiming ownership of the turkey. “Instead of fighting, we ended up sharing the meal,” Darrow says. “It was like the first Thanksgiving all over again – a wonderfully written episode for the season.” v Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University in Montgomery, Ala. His features and columns have appeared in more than 600 newspapers and magazines. Follow him on Twitter @TinseltownTalks. Prime Magazine November 2015

Life Lessons

Reminders, Notes and Calendars

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“What’s the word for the thing we use every day that has a monitor and a keyboard?” I asked my husband, Bob. That question was not a test. It was part of a word-finding teaching program that Lee, Bob’s speech therapist, has taught us to practice. “A computer,” Bob said. Elated that he got it right, we gave each other a high five. “Want to keep going?” I asked. My husband is so very brave. “Sure,” he said. It stuns me that we’re at this stage. “Okay,” I said, showing him a picture of a camel. “What is this called?” He thought for a moment. His shoulders drooped when he said, “I don’t know.” Lee taught us about clues. She said, “The words are still there. It’s like a well, and the word is at the bottom. You just need a line to pull it up.” So I said to Bob, “It starts with a ‘c.’” I waited until he asked me for another clue. “It lives in the desert.” Still nothing registered. Ten years ago Bob began having memory problems, the most obvious of which was word-finding. Our first neurologist was a smug, know-it-all. Bob passed the neuropsych paper and pencil testing just fine. As I began to speak of the varied problems I’ve noticed at home, the doctor wouldn’t hear a word of it. And so, nothing was done. The second neurologist sped through the appointment. He also wouldn’t or couldn’t allow any time for me to speak. He ordered an MRI. The results were seemingly normal, although we were told differently, eventually, by a doctor who had the time to examine the films more closely.

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And so, nothing was done. One day it made me cry (silently) when I heard Bob on the phone, stuck on a word I could tell would be “blizzard.” I quickly wrote it on paper, then rushed the note to him. There just had to be a better way than this. In the middle of the night, a vicious beast I call “the future” hovers directly over me. I have an attitude when I’m told that nothing can be done. It just makes me all the more determined to find answers. What else was I going to do? Give up? Why would I? We went to three more neurologists until we finally found one who actually asked to hear from me. He said, “How can I know what’s going Memory and word loss have plagued Bob for 10 years. on when the patient Calendars and notes have helped him cope. can’t remember?” He specializes in Or even just yesterday? There’s a cure Bob’s diagnosis. Along with cognitive for that. With Lee’s advice, Bob keeps memory impairment, he has Primary a calendar in which, daily, he writes Progressive Aphasia, which essentially down what he’s done. He reviews it involves word loss. again and again. There aren’t many The doctor recommended medication people I know who can remember that has helped tremendously. He was things they did last month. But my the one who referred us to Lee. Yet, this sweet husband can. doctor’s greatest gift to us? Hope. Bob used to avoid socializing, for You know how you often can’t fear that he’d lose common words. remember what you did last week? When inevitably that would happen,

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he’d so sadly and desperately look to me for help. He felt humiliation and shame and embarrassment. Now, he still looks to me for help, but you know what? He could not care less. We’ve learned that if anyone thinks less of him for not knowing a word, then they’re probably not tolerant of others as well, and certainly not the kind of person we’d want as a valuable, trusted friend. We’ve learned that acceptance doesn’t mean hopelessness. We’ve learned that inevitable doesn’t have a definite date. Inevitable doesn’t mean giving up. You know what it means? It means it’s fight back time! Bob never did come up with the word “camel” that day. But that doesn’t matter. As long as he can say, “I love you,” then he’s remembered everything that’s important. v Award-winning columnist, Saralee Perel, can be reached at sperel@saraleeperel.com or via her website: www.SaraleePerel.com.

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Home Instead Senior Care Offers Free Alzheimer’s Caregiving Training for Businesses Training Addresses Isolation Among Family Caregivers

Home Instead Senior Care is launching a campaign designed to make the community more Alzheimer’s friendly. The Alzheimer’s Friendly Business program will provide free training to local businesses to help equip employees with information and resources needed to welcome families who are caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease. To complete the training, employees will be asked to work through an interactive, online module available at AlzheimersFriendlyBusiness.com. Once the training is successfully completed, businesses will receive a window cling with the Alzheimer’s Friendly Business designation. The designation will be valid for two years. In a recent survey of Alzheimer’s caregivers by Home Instead, 74 percent reported that they and their loved ones have become more isolated from the community as a result of the disease. Furthermore, 85 percent reported that they feel a reduced quality of life due to isolation. According to Alzheimer’s Disease International, the number of people with dementia worldwide is expected to grow to 75.6 million by 2030 and 135.5 million in 2050. For more information, visit AlzheimersFriendlyBusiness.com or call 573-442-4333.

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wrong way first and then having to go back and redo it the right way the second time.” When asked to explain the firm’s continued success in Columbia, Kliethermes offers a simple explanation. “Do the right thing when no one’s looking,” he says, and “if you have to ask yourself, ‘is it good enough?’ then it’s not!” This philosophy has served the firm well, and helped it weather the many economic challenges of the housing market. Kliethermes feels that Columbia supports his business because “we do what we say we’re going to do.” The business makes it a priority to support the community in return, by giving back when it can, either with time or money.

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Tell Me About It

With Angel Donnette Robertson

Our daughter-in-law shops every day. She has filled their house with every gadget and their closets with clothes. Our son has a good job, but she can’t seem to stay within their budget. My husband and I have given them money, but she spends the money on more junk rather than the electric bill. How can we make her stop?

Honestly? You can’t. Some of us struggle to adjust to a budget, but we eventually learn after some false starts. However, if your daughter-in-law’s shopping is at the level of an addiction, she will not adjust her behavior until the pain of staying the same is worse than the pain of change. She needs to feel the pain of staying the same. For her to do so you will have to abstain from rescuing her. Your son needs to do the same, although you cannot control his behavior any more than hers. If your son is willing to listen, you can encourage him to seek support from those groups formed specifically for spouses of addicts. He can also seek counsel from financial or legal advisers on ways to protect himself financially. But your son has to choose how he will respond to his wife’s shopping. You have to choose how you will respond. If you absolutely feel you must help, you don’t have to offer cash. You can pay the electric company directly. Or you can buy them groceries. As long as you provide your daughter-in-law with the means to continue her addiction, she will. She has no reason not to.

Last month, I finalized my divorce. We had been married for 34 years. It wasn’t an amicable split. I had discovered not only a seven-year affair but also the depletion of our savings and retirement funds. So, I am now living alone and looking at working until I am long past retirement age. And, of course, the holidays are upon us. My daughter wants us all to celebrate the special days as a family. All of us — myself, my ex-husband and his other woman. Is this what life after divorce looks like? Do I have to agree to such an arrangement for the sake of my family?

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No, of course, you do not have to agree to celebrate the holidays with your ex-husband. As you are probably still in a stage of rather raw emotion, I imagine a shared holiday would be tense at best, a free-for-all at worst. You need time to grieve — the end of a marriage, the end of the life you had planned. You may discover a grander life than you ever expected, but, even so, you cannot rush your healing to meet someone else’s timeline. Next year or the year after, you may agree to a shared holiday. Some do. Or you may not. Some don’t. However, I encourage you to understand that your daughter also is grieving a loss. When you explain why you are asking for a separate holiday, you should keep the conversation focused on your needs, not her father’s sins. Also, be willing to work with her. Her family responsibilities have suddenly doubled. Attending holiday celebrations is wearying for any family. Adding another dinner due to divorce is stressful. Acknowledge that truth, offer flexibility, and take on as much responsibility as you reasonably can. Your empathy for her may encourage her empathy for you. She still may not understand. She still may not be willing to compromise. She may think all she needs is to have her family “together.” If so, then you have to decide what you want and what you are willing to accept. The first holidays after divorce are hard. Attempting to navigate those holidays without family will only increase the difficulty. You still do not have to choose to spend the days with your ex-husband. But only you can pick what is the best option for you. v

Angel Donnette Robertson is not a professional counselor, but she has a lifelong appreciation for the beauty and complications of relationships.

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Do You Have Tiger Vision? We’ve hidden this tiger face somewhere in the magazine. Find it, and send an email to prime@insidecolumbia.net telling us the page number where the tiger is hiding. Readers with a correct answer by Nov. 30 will be entered into a drawing for a $25 gift card to Smokin’ Chicks BBQ.

WINNER! Congratulations to Georgina Coder, winner of our September Tiger Vision contest and a $25 gift card to Smokin’ Chicks BBQ!

Cryptogram Decipher this quote by unraveling the secret code. Each letter stands for another letter. We’ve given you a few hints to get you started.

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Nostalgia Knowledge Here’s the story behind three albums you might have in your record cabinet.

The mastermind behind The Beach Boys, Brain Wilson, created a musical masterpiece in “Pet Sounds.” While this record is The Beach Boys’ most iconic work, it was initially seen as a failure before its release by Capitol Records. According to The Beatles’ Producer George Martin, “Without ‘Pet Sounds,’ ‘Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band’ never would have happened, as ‘Sgt. Pepper’s’ was an attempt to equal ‘Pet Sounds.’”

“Pet Sounds” The Beach Boys After hearing Brian Wilson and The Beach Boys’ iconic album “Pet Sounds,” The Beatles were inspired to create one of their many masterpieces in “Sgt Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band.” The song “A Day In The Life” was a supposed clue into an urban legend that Paul McCartney had died in a car wreck and he was replaced by an imposter by the name of Billy Shears.

“Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band” The Beatles

“Dark Side of the Moon” was on the Billboard Top 200 chart for nearly 14 years! They say if you play “Dark Side of the Moon” with “The Wizard of Oz,” the two sync up. This experience is highly recommended, although the band denies the connection.

“Dark Side of the Moon” Pink Floyd Nostalgia Knowledge is sponsored by Vinyl Renaissance.

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Time Travel Quiz Use the blank lines to order these No. 1 top grossing movies from the earliest release to the latest.

“Cinderella”

“Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid”

“Love Story”

“Kramer vs. Kramer”

“South Pacific”

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ianello founded the Missouri Symphony Society not long after moving to Columbia in 1968 because there were no orchestras, only bands, in Columbia’s public schools. His finest legacy, however, may well be found in the many young musicians he’s influenced over the years. The poet, Robert Frost, once said, “I am not a teacher, but an awakener,” and the same could be said of Vianello. He has spent most of his nearly 90 years awakening passion and excellence in young musicians. “My ideas about what I could do playing the viola were small ideas. He really expanded my universe. He changed the way I looked at music,” Winston Reid says, who met Vianello 39 years ago when Vianello invited him to perform with the Missouri Symphony Society. “I wound up playing in symphony orchestras for at least 25 seasons because of him,” Reid says. As a 13-year-old, he could hardly believe he was allowed to play alongside professional musicians at their level. “He was a serious individual that made us think about what the music demanded from us and he told us that we could do it,” Reid says. Reid now works for a bank software company in Springfield, Mo., and still performs at church and, from time to time, helps organize groups of musicians to perform at events. He has never forgotten the role Vianello played in his life and often expressed that appreciation by giving him a call on Father’s Day. Michael Ingram, “Kapellmeister” (conductor) for the symphony orchestra, opera, and ballet in Nordhausen, Germany, will never forget the day he met Vianello 12 years ago while still in high school. Ingram’s oboe teacher had arranged for him to play with the Symphony Society.

Now retired, Maestro Hugo Vianello spent decades awakening the passion of young musicians.

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“When the conductor was late to rehearsal, Mr. Vianello left his viola, and conducted the orchestra…from memory,” Ingram says. At the time, Ingram had his sights set on, one day, becoming a conductor himself and saw something in Vianello that he wanted to tap into. “His musicianship left a strong impression on me, and I decided that he was a man I simply had to meet,” he explains. The two have kept in touch since that first meeting in 2003, spending long afternoons together whenever Ingram returns to Columbia, “talking shop, listening to old records from his archive, watching footage of my own concerts, and reminiscing about the good old days,” he says. Ingram describes Vianello as a quiet, wise man with a feisty sense of humor. “During our very first visit [after sharing his dream of becoming a conductor], he said, ‘But don’t you want to make any money? Why not study law or medicine instead?’ Mr. Vianello awakened in me a hunger for greatness and modeled the diligence required to attain it,” Ingram explains. It was 30 years ago that flautist Jennifer Lloyd, then a middle-school student, auditioned to play with the Missouri Symphony Society, or “MOSSPAC” as she fondly calls it. “He was pleasant, but serious,” she recalls. “After he heard me play, he was complimentary, but immediately started telling me what I needed to do to improve. Lloyd had been taking private flute lessons for years before that audition, but this was the very first time she had worked with a conductor instead of a band teacher. “More striking was that he didn’t speak to me as if I were a child. He talked to me like I was a real musician, auditioning for a real job. It was life-changing!” Lloyd says. “When young musicians are exposed to professional-level playing, it can be a paradigm shift. It’s mentoring at an extremely high level.” After Lloyd graduated from Indiana University, Vianello hired Lloyd to play as a professional with the orchestra’s

summer series – her first professional job as a musician. She later earned a Master’s Degree in Flute Performance and eventually left Columbia to enter the PhD program at the University of Maryland, where she’s finished all but her dissertation. “He was monumental to my musical development, but had a great impact in my overall personal development as well,” Lloyd says, who now lives and works in St. Louis. “Although I only spent a few years playing as a professional flutist, the in-depth education I received in the arts, the travel, exposure to people from all over the world – those things shaped who I am today.” The comments from those he’s mentored serve to illustrate just how much his passion spilled over onto the pages of his protégés’ lives. “I feel very, very fortunate that there has not been one day since I began working in music in 1946 that I got up in the morning and said, ‘Darn it! I’ve got to go to work today!’” Vianello said. “I’ve just enjoyed every minute of it! I was having fun and they paid me.” Although he’s been devoted to classical music for most of his life, as a young kid Vianello only reluctantly accepted his dad’s offer to play violin. He hesitated because what he really wanted to play was baseball. But he couldn’t resist his dad’s offer to pay him a dollar a week if he practiced for at least one hour each day. “That was during the depression, so a dollar was a lot of money,” he said. His dad eventually found a violin teacher who would instruct him for two dollars per lesson. Vianello reneged on his promise to practice daily, so his dad cancelled the lessons. “I’m not going to pay for lessons if you’re not going to practice!” his dad chided. Vianello did eventually return to playing the violin, but this time, he had to pay for the lessons himself with his two-dollars-a-week-salary earned by sweeping the floor of a local drug store. “And I always made sure the teacher taught for the full hour!” he said. Growing up in Brooklyn, New York’s tough Bedford Stuyvesant neighborhood, he not only learned to play the “fiddle” but

also how to fight. He often found himself having to fend off boys who didn’t like the sight of a kid “walking around carrying a fiddle case,” he said. That was during the height of the big band era when Thomas Dorsey and Frank Sinatra were popular – not fiddle players. At Vianello’s home near downtown Columbia, Lucy Vianello, his wife of nearly 65 years, proudly shows off the mantle and walls that display their many awards. Earlier this year, Columbia’s Historic Preservation Commission honored the Vianellos with their “Notable Preservationist” award for saving the Historic Missouri Theatre from destruction. The couple helped arrange for the Missouri Symphony Society to purchase the theater in 1987 to give it a permanent home. Before they purchased the property, the property was slated to become a modern cinema complex or a parking lot. The theater restoration project was completed in 2008 and the auditorium was named after the Vianellos. A passionate lover of opera, Lucy Vianello founded Kansas City’s Women’s Civic Orchestra League in 1960 and after moving to Columbia, founded the Missouri Symphony Society’s Women’s Symphony League to provide support for the newlyformed Missouri Symphony Society. She beams as she pauses to comment on each award, especially the Missouri Arts Council’s Lifetime Achievement Award presented to her husband in 2006 by Gov. Matt Blunt. Today, there’s hardly any space left for more awards on the couple’s mantle. Along with the foyer wall, it’s already crowded with plaques, trophies and commendations for not only preserving classical music in mid-Missouri, but for expanding it beyond. When asked what he wanted to be remembered for, Vianello couldn’t come up with an answer. His many awards, however, aptly mirror the sentiments of his protégés. Reid, perhaps, speaks for every one of them when he says, “There are not enough words to say enough great things about Mr. Vianello,” the Maestro. v

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Reader Submission

Eulogy to a Hero Giving Everything She Had To Offer

BY JEANNE DZURICK

Prime magazine recently asked readers to submit articles on their childhood heroes. Below is the award-winning essay, written by Columbia resident Jeanne Dzurick. As Thanksgiving nears, take the time to give thanks to your own special hero. She wasn’t highly educated, greatly honored by society or a rock star. But she was very intelligent, a successful businesswoman, loved by her family, and admired for her grace. She was a proper lady. We called her Mam-ma, although her proper name was Ollie Eakins. Even though she never stood taller than 4’11”, like every real hero, she looms large in memory. Being the “third” girl was not an envious position in my family. Following the birth of my younger brother, circumstances led to my being “lost in the shuffle,” of the fears and concerns of my parents over his illness. Although my older sisters were available, they were enough years older than me and so close in age to each other that I was pretty much left odd man out. Somewhere in all of this, Mam-ma stepped into my life. She made me feel special simply because she made me feel appreciated. I wasn’t just the third girl, or the umpteenth grandchild, but a person in my own right. She had that gift -- that gift of making you feel you were the most important person in the world. That gift of making you feel that you could do anything, and what you want to do, is to be just like her. I learned many things from her. There are so many sayings that still ring in my ears. Such as “Never go to bed at night until the house is straightened. You never know when you might have to call the doctor in.” At the time, I’m sure I was pretty much confused as to

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Memorable summer weeks were spent with Ollie Eakins, or “Mam-ma” as she was known.

whether the doctor wouldn’t come in unless the house was neat, or whether the doctor would tell everyone you had a messy house. Regardless, I still don’t go to bed without making sure the house is

straightened…just in case. I would spend several memorable weeks in the summer with her, and it was a very precious time for me. I wasn’t one of several, I was the only one and she devoted

her time and attention to me every day. We played cards, most particularly “Dirty 8” or “Gin Rummy” and she tried to teach me to crochet. She always had Hersey bars (by the box!) and Pepsi. Her bookshelves were totally open to me, and although at the time I thought she had the most extensive, wonderful library in the world, I realize now that they were mostly Reader’s Digest Condensed Books. Imagine my chagrin when I grew old enough to realize I was reading an abridged version! Realizing my love of reading early on, she made sure that I received for my birthday, the Reader’s Digest Children’s Series. We lived in Lake Ozark at the time, and although the summers filled our resort and small town with tourists, the winters could be long and isolated and receiving those books each month, in the mail brought such excitement that I can remember that feeling even today. I didn’t take everything she said to heart. Every summer, my aunt, not having a daughter of her own, thought it was necessary that I get a permanent. I never agreed, and would sit there summer after summer with tears in my eyes as

she tightly wound every little strand of my blonde hair onto tiny little rollers, dabbing on really vile smelling chemicals. She would then admire her handiwork on what looked to me like baby doll hair gone wrong. Mam-ma would always say, “You must take pains to be beautiful.” One summer, I must have been nine or 10 years old and starting to become a “real” person, I looked her in the eye and said, “If it has to hurt to be beautiful, I don’t want to be beautiful.” Looking back, I think I cursed myself. But I don’t think I ever had to have another permanent. And although I felt guilt when I saw the hurt in her eyes, I still find it painful to “take pains.” But not Mam-ma. Her nails were always done every week, a deep dark red. Her hair was picture perfect. She was a businesswoman, who owned a trucking business, an unusual occupation for a woman in the 1950s. I remember walking so proudly with her to the office and riding the elevator. Her secretary would take me to lunch and I always returned with some trinket (and once even a doll) and I felt my grandmother was someone important to lots

of people. Not just me. Mam-ma taught me manners. She taught me that it was okay to be a “tomboy” but that I must remember I was still a lady. She taught me to accept. She had embroidered and framed on her wall the Serenity Prayer. I took that to heart, because she had taken it to hers and I try to live by that, even today. She taught me to love words and stories and to appreciate those days of summer where my world was populated with just the two of us, a deck of cards, a crossword puzzle, a good book, and, of course, a Hersey bar and a cold Pepsi. I always thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world. As I grew up and I would ask a friend, “Isn’t she beautiful?” and they would make no comment; I began to realize that she really wasn’t all that beautiful. But when we have a hero, they may not really be the strongest, the wisest, or the best looking. They are heroes because they made us feel special, loved and worthy. They make us become more than we ever thought we could be. How fortunate I was to have that hero in my life. She left me no “things” at her death, because she had already left me everything she had to offer. v

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Mature Living Festival “Vintage not Antique” These individuals and many more seniors stopped by Inside Columbia’s Prime booth on Oct. 9 at the annual Mature Living Festival held at The Plaza Event Center. Attendees enjoyed free health screenings, door prizes, live entertainment and information from more than 70 vendors. Thank you to those who stopped by to visit!

Penny Shern, Joyce Evans and Charlotte Hord

Larry Samuel

Bernard Burger and JoAnn Heichelbach

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Dorothy Neece and Goldie Avery

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Mature Living Festival â&#x20AC;&#x153;Vintage not Antiqueâ&#x20AC;? continued Hundreds of individuals in their prime stopped by to say hello at the annual Mature Living Festival presented by Services for Independent Living on Oct. 9. Paul Pepper emceed the event at The Plaza Event Center.

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Judy Denton and Marilyn Wyatt

Larry and Paulette Fick

Gerri and Len Hieke

Rhonda Kimbro and Suzanne Lewis

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Support Our Locally Owned Restaurants When you dine at local restaurants, you help support small-business owners who spend their dollars in the community. These dollars help keep our neighbors gainfully employed; the cycle continues as employees spend their wages on local arts, culture and other areas of the economy. Eating local pays BIG dividends for Columbia!

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Lyceum Theatre Kicks Off Its 2016 Season Lineup Backers of Arrow Rock Lyceum Theatre gathered on Aug. 23 to celebrate the theaterâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s support and identify the selections chosen for the 2016 performance season.

Dana Frink, Bill Clark and Leslie Naugle

Jan and Bill Goodson

The Lyceum Theatre 2016 season lineup

Ron and Judy Wood, Bea Smith and Larry McMullen

Diana & Kee Groshong

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A Taste Of Providence Point On Sept. 17, University of Missouri System President Tim Wolfe and Molly Wolfe hosted A Taste of Providence Point at the presidentâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s residence. This event featured work from local event specialists and caterers who helped showcase Providence Point as Columbiaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s newest event venue that is open for public use. Nearly 200 local business leaders gathered for the open house event. Cost of admission was a recommended donation to the Welcome Home: A Community for Veterans Capital Campaign. The event raised more than $6,000 for Welcome Home.

Lee and David Russell with Steve and Cindy Sheltmire

Penny Braun, Jane Crow, Pam James and Kerry Eastham

Peter Kinder and Greg Steinhoff

Cathy Jost and Mike Trendle

Barb and Jeff Glenn

Karen and Dan Atwill

Beth and Cameron Dunafon

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Central Missouri Auto Body Carol Miller

Central Missouri Auto Body has been providing quality collision repair and paintless dent repair for 33 years. Carol Miller, president and owner, credits her business’s longevity to both her staff and to solid business practices. “We have a fantastic staff. Our technicians go through ongoing training and certification,” Miller says. “We work directly with the insurance companies to make the process simplified for the customer. For added convenience, we offer loaner cars. We stand behind our work with lifetime warranties.”

Miller feels her upbringing and education prepared her well for a service-oriented business. She also cites her previous boss as a contributing influence. “I think the one person who helped me become a well-rounded employer is my previous boss. She made the employee/employer relationship so human. Accepting mistakes without criticism and giving encouragement with an uplifting attitude.” Miller also gives a nod to a special friend who, she says, “puts me in check.” According to Miller, the one word that best

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describes her is trustworthy. “As hard as we try, sometimes things will not come out right, and as hard as those times are, the best way to overcome is to remain calm and do everything in our power to rectify the situation,” she says. “There is no room for placing blame. Let’s find a solution and move forward, remaining true to our customers to provide our very best service possible.” In her free time, Miller has a passion for swimming and lately has taken an interest in triathlons.

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20th Anniversary Celebration for CoMo’s Senior Center The Columbia Senior Activity Center celebrated its 20th anniversary on Oct. 4th. An anniversary address by Columbia Mayor Bob McDavid, declarations for the center by Bob Akin from Lt. Gov. Peter Kinder’s office and entertainment from talented musicians Siri Geenen and Mary Manulik made up the memorable program. Here’s to another 20 years!

Jody Cornwell, Blanche Campbell, Jan Palmer and Bob Akin

Frank Williams, Linda Litton, Alan Murphy, Anne Mack and John Becker

Kevin Akin, Jackie March, Bob and Robert Akin

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Recipe Box

A Spirited Holiday

With the holidays fast approaching, opportunities for delicious sweets and elegant drinks are bound to be plentiful. Versatile and available year round, California dried figs are naturally sweet, nutrient rich and full of flavor. They also make a great snack during the busy holidays. Because these figs are dried, they partner well with wine and spirits and can be infused with more flavor to create delectable desserts. For recipes using figs throughout the year, visit valleyfig.com. v

CHOCOLATE CHEESECAKES WITH FIGS AND PORT Makes: 12 mini-cheesecakes

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cup finely crushed chocolate wafer cookies cup finely chopped walnuts tablespoons butter, melted cups stemmed Blue Ribbon Orchard Choice or Sun-Maid California figs cup port cup sugar ounces bittersweet chocolate, finely chopped tablespoons water ounces cream cheese, at room temperature cup granulated sugar large eggs cup sour cream teaspoons unsweetened cocoa teaspoon vanilla extract

Adjust oven rack to middle position. Heat oven to 325 F. Line 12 (2 3/4-inch) muffin cups with paper cups. In small bowl, stir together crushed cookies, nuts and

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butter. Spoon about 1 tablespoon crumb mixture into bottom of each cup, dividing evenly; press into even layer. Bake in middle of oven 5-8 minutes, until fragrant. Cut about 1/2 cup figs into 36 thin, lengthwise slices. Place in small heatproof container with lid; set aside. In small saucepan, bring port and sugar to a simmer over medium heat and stir for 1 minute to form clear syrup. Pour 1/2 cup syrup over sliced figs. Cool; cover and chill until serving time. Finely chop remaining 1 cup figs and add to saucepan with remaining syrup. Return to heat and simmer, stirring often, until liquid evaporates. Spoon about 1 tablespoon warm fig mixture over crust in each cup, dividing evenly. With back of oiled spoon, press into even layer. Place chocolate and water in microwave-safe bowl. Heat in microwave on 50 percent power for 2 minutes or until melted, stirring every 30 seconds. Set aside. With electric mixer in large mixing bowl, beat cream cheese until creamy. Gradually beat in granulated sugar. On low speed, beat in eggs, one at a time. Beat in sour cream, cocoa and vanilla. Beat in melted chocolate. Spoon batter over fig layer in cups. Bake in middle of oven 15-20 minutes, until set. Cool in pan on rack. Chill for 6 hours or up to 2 days. To serve, arrange 3 slices of reserved figs in port syrup on each cake and drizzle with about 1/2 teaspoon syrup.

fun & games solved Challenge your brain with this month’s puzzles found on Pages 32 and 35.

Sudoku Puzzle

Time Travel Answers “Cinderella” (1950); “South Pacific” (1958); “Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid” (1969); “Love Story” (1970); “Kramer vs. Kramer” (1979)

Cryptogram Answer “We’re lost, but we’re making good time.” - Yogi Berra

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Columbia Confidential: Publisher Fred Parry On The Issues Columbia Is Talking About

A Meaningful Vision For Columbia’s Future

The announcement last month that Columbia Mayor Bob McDavid would not seek a third term on Columbia’s City Council was, as predicted, met with mixed emotions. By most accounts, McDavid has been an outstanding mayor for Columbia. In recent months, however, he has hit an impasse with a faction of his council colleagues that has made moving our city forward virtually impossible. McDavid’s six years as mayor have included a number of successful accomplishments that have made Columbia a better place to live and do business. He has laid the groundwork for Columbia’s future in many key areas. Most notable are his efforts to address the pension system for police and firefighters, a system that was underfunded by more than $80 million on the day he took office. McDavid also used his tenure to breathe new life into what was once a terminally ill regional airport. Thanks in large part to the mayor’s leadership, we now have daily commercial service to hubs in Chicago and Dallas. McDavid also oversaw an era of greater financial prudence in our city government; the two most recent fiscal years have ended with surpluses. Don’t get me wrong. Not all is perfect in Columbia. We still have higher crime rates and more sluggish job growth than what is customary for this community. We’ve been unable to keep up with important public infrastructure and there are a number of critical social issues to which most people seem oblivious. Although the city might have benefited from the consistency of three more years with McDavid at the helm, his instincts to move on were probably correct. Who could blame him? Being the mayor of Columbia is a thankless job … no matter who is sitting in the chair. With every change, there is opportunity. When the mayoral gavel passes next April, I hope our new mayor will set aside personal agendas and take a heartfelt look at where Columbia is struggling. In this city, there are pockets of dysfunction where circumstances affecting our long-term viability are ignored, swept under the rug or simply kicked down the road to be dealt with by future administrations and future generations of Columbians. Columbia’s next mayor is going to have to address some of the more pressing social issues that plague our community. This sentiment certainly won’t be well-received by the large pockets of so-called “stakeholders,” but many of Columbia’s most prominent social service agencies have failed miserably to make a dent in the most severe social issues that keep Columbia from becoming one of America’s world-class cities. Despite throwing millions of dollars their way through United Way campaigns and myriad fundraising efforts, the problems now seem worse than ever. Columbia’s next mayor should have a vision of Columbia that includes the following:

for prekindergarten children in Columbia.

Efforts to reduce or eliminate the high school dropout rate. Too many students are falling through the cracks in our educational system. We must find ways to help those who are not college-bound stay in the system so they can pursue meaningful vocational opportunities.

Creating a more diverse base of economic opportunity. We need to expand and diversify our base of jobs in Columbia. We must keep growing white-collar jobs while expanding manufacturing and skilled labor jobs. To accomplish this, we must boost training in information technology, laboratory and medical assistance, and other skills that will support key growth sectors in our economy.

Creating activities for teenagers in our community. Let’s expand access to after-school programs. We also need drugand alcohol-free safe zones for teenagers where they can hang out on weekends and evenings without the pressure to participate in destructive behaviors. Like it or not, there’s not much for kids to do in our community when school is out.

Creating an environment where BIG ideas are embraced. Columbia takes pride in its reputation as a progressive community until someone brings up an idea that might affect our vision of “Mayberry, RFD” as we know it. Too often, there’s a chorus of naysayers waiting in the wings to immediately shoot down an idea that might take Columbia to the next level. Whether the idea is an improved airport, an expanded conference center, or building a vocational school, big ideas in Columbia tend to have a very short life expectancy. We need to change that culture. Columbia’s next mayor will have a full plate, regardless of whether he or she decides to take on any of these issues. Let us hope, for the sake of our community, that the City Council’s ground is fertile for a higher level of collaboration around the concept of taking Columbia to the next level.

Increased investment in early childhood education. This is the single biggest game-changer in modern society. Tangible results may not be realized for 20 years, but we need to move now on more affordable and accessible educational opportunities 54

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Fred Parry, fred@insidecolumbia.net

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