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June 2015

Contents

Volume 7, Issue 3

Game On! It’s Senior Games Time

Get ‘Art’side Art In The Park Returns

10 Snack Attack Wines For Noshing 12 Granny’s House Pam Ingram’s Mission Of Love

18 Money Matters Retirement & Inheritance 21 Prime Time Can’t-Miss Events For June 26 Boone Hospital Center Meet Dr. Mark Cohen 28 Tinseltown Talks Shatner’s Fatherhood Trek 30 Tell Me About It Get Angel’s Relationship Advice 32 Life Lessons Being Right Is Overrated

34 Fun & Games Crossword, Sudoku, Tiger Vision & More 38 Recipe Box Father’s Day Steaks 42 Faces And Places Cosmos Spaghetti Supper 44 Readers Share Enter Our Essay Contest!

46 Columbia Confidential Publisher Fred Parry Takes On The Issues Columbians Are Talking About Prime Magazine June 2015

Welcome

This World Needs Heroes staff Pam Ingram, tireless founder of Granny’s House, had a day off, but she was at Granny’s House to talk with me for her story in this issue. Near the end of our conversation, a few little girls came knocking. Excusing herself, Ingram opened the door. “Hello, girls,” she said. “Granny’s House is closed today, remember. But don’t go too far. There’s something I want to talk to you about.” The little girls turned to go, and Ingram closed the door. I had to know. “What do you want to tell them?” “Oh, I want to take them to see ‘Cinderella,’” she said. For 14 years, Ingram has been showing unconditional love to Columbia’s children, believing that they deserve such love and that she is blessed to minister God’s love to them. It’s not always easy, but she perseveres. Granny Pam is a hero. We like hearing about heroes here at Prime, and we want to hear about yours. Through the end of June, we are running an essay contest on childhood heroes. Did you have a childhood hero? Maybe a parent or grandparent? Teacher? Friend? Tell us about your hero. You will save precious memories to share with children and grandchildren, and you will also be entered to win $100 worth of Columbia restaurant gift cards. Find full details on Page 44. Happy writing!

Publisher Fred Parry Associate Publisher Melody Garnett Parry Associate Publisher & Executive Editor Sandy Selby Managing Editor Anita Neal Harrison Graphic Designer Trever Griswold Joe Waner Photo Editor L.G. Patterson Marketing Representatives Rosemarie Peck Samantha Cook Joe Schmitter Operations Manager Kalie Clennin Operations Assistant Lilly Smith Finance Manager Brenda Brooks Distribution Manager John Lapsley Contributing Writers Kathy Casteel, Peg Gill, Saralee Perel, James Preston, Angel Donnette Robertson, Nick Thomas

Have a story idea? Email me at anita@insidecolumbia.net.

Prime Magazine is published by OutFront Communications, 47 E. Broadway, Columbia, MO 65203, 573-442-1430. Copyright OutFront Communications, 2013. The magazine is published 12 times a year on the first day of every month. All rights reserved. Reproduction or use of any editorial or graphic content without the express written permission of the publisher is prohibited.

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Community Event

Game On!

It’s Time For Missouri’s Senior Games BY ANITA NEAL HARRISON

Get ready, get set, go have some fun at the annual Missouri State Senior Games, coming up June 11–14 in Columbia. This Olympic-style sports festival gives individuals 50 and older the chance to compete for medals in a wide variety of sports and skill contests, from throwing horseshoes to racing in a triathlon. “We’ve got more than 20 sports for all ability levels,” says Emily Lorenz, a spokesperson for the Show-Me State Games, which oversees the Senior Games. “Some of the events are very competitive, but then other events are more accessible and don’t require as much training.” The purpose of all Show-Me State Games is to provide all Missourians the oppertunity to participate in activities of health, fitness, family and

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fun. The Senior Games also aims to create an awareness of the abilities and capabilities of older citizens. “The atmosphere is really fun,” Lorenz says. “People come from across the state, and we accept people from across the region as well. People get together for a sense of community, as well as a competitive spirit.” Volunteers are needed for all events. Examples of specific opportunities include serving as a course marshal for cycling or as a timer in track, working at water stations for the road race and distributing T-shirts at registration. “The Senior Games is a fun event to volunteer at,” Lorenz says. “The participants are very enthusiastic, and they train really hard, so volunteering and helping those individuals succeed is very rewarding.”

Registration for competing in the Senior Games has closed, but it is still open for some of the events in the Show-Me State Games, which offers sports for all ages and ability levels and also takes place in Columbia. Some Show-Me State Games events will take place June 12–14 but will be separate from the Senior Games. The rest of the Show-Me State Games will take place July 17–19 and July 24–26. Competing is a great way to support the Games’ mission, and the Show-Me State Games will also need lots of volunteers to be a success. Volunteers can register for the Senior Games online at www.smsg.org/senior_ games/, or they can call Cindy Garcia at 573-884-2946. To learn more about competing or volunteering in the ShowMe State Games, visit www.smsg.org. ❖

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Community Event

Get ‘Art’side For A Weekend Art In The Park Returns BY PEG GILL

On Saturday and Sunday, June 6–7, Stephens Lake Park will once again be transformed into an enormous outdoor art gallery, courtesy of The Columbia Art League’s annual Art in the Park weekend festival. This marks the festival’s 57th year, and as always, it promises to be an inspiring event. The free festival will showcase the creations of 110 artists from across the country, and offer visitors an incredible array of artwork, including paintings, sculptures and more. You’ll find art for both indoors and out, pieces that are practical, wearable or simply beautiful. Many of this year’s entrants are new to the festival and will bring never-before-seen artworks to Columbia. “It’s a different festival every year,” says Diana Moxon, executive director of CAL. The long-standing local festival is one of Columbia’s most popular, drawing nearly 20,000 visitors each year. It’s the perfect place for artists — both local and national — to gain exposure. Whether you’re an avid art lover on a mission to find that perfect piece to add to your collection, or simply out for a leisurely look around, you won’t be disappointed. The key to the festival’s success, Moxon says, is that patrons don’t have to have a lot of money to find something unique. “You can arrive at Art in the Park with $20 and go home with something no one else has, like a fabulous pair of ear-

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rings, a hand-built coffee mug or a print of a painting you really like,” she says. “Of course, if you’ve saved up and really want to splurge you can also find a new painting for your living room or a signature piece of jewelry.” Festival organizers work hard to make sure the event is fun and familyfriendly. Entertainment this year includes local magicians Steve Ferris, Jason Hollandsworth and Gerry Tritz, strolling through the event and stopping to perform. In the Children’s Tent, Kansas City’s Stone Lion Puppet Theatre will put on three shows each day. “One of the most popular areas at the festival is the Young Collector’s Pavilion,” Moxon says. Open to children ages 5 to 14, the Young Collector’s Pavilion is a childonly area — no parents allowed — where children can choose a small artwork from a selection of works, donated by the festival’s artists, to start their own art collection. Entry costs $5, with funds collected going toward CAL’s community youth programming. For the fifth year in a row, CAL will present an Emerging Artists Pavilion that features up to 20 works by emerging area artists. The Pavilion showcases pieces by high school or college undergraduates from Boone County, giving festival attendees the chance to see the talents of the next generation of artists. After Art in the Park is over, Commerce Bank, the Pavilion

sponsor, will select four works to display in a month-long show at its main branch at the corner of Ninth Street and Broadway. This year’s Art in the Park also sees the return of a music stage with four hours of live music each day featuring local bands The Follow (acoustic rock), The Kay Brothers (bluegrass stomp) and Ruth Acuff (indie rock with harp). Hungry festival visitors can enjoy jerk chicken, barbecue, tacos, burgers, kettle corn and ice cream. The festival runs from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Saturday, June 6, and 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Sunday, June 7. Parking is available at Boone Hospital Center. Entrance to the festival is free, and always will be, Moxon says. “CAL’s mission is to create environments where people can enjoy the visual arts, and Art in the Park gives us a wonderful opportunity to do that.” Learn more at www.artintheparkcolumbia.org. ❖

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The Tasting Room

Snack Attack

Jacob’s Creek Offers Wine Pairings For Noshing

BY KATHY CASTEEL Looking to shake up your snack options this summer? Australian winery Jacob’s Creek has just the resource for you — a wine-pairing wheel focused on favorite snack foods and the wines that complement them. The wheel matches classic Jacob’s Creek varietals with an international range of popular bar fare, pub grub and other munchies. Pizza fans get two options: Pepperoni lovers are advised to pair their pizza with the rich black currant and plum flavors of Cabernet Sauvignon; those who opt for the colorful tomato-basil-cheese combination of pizza Margherita should match it with the spicy plum and blackberry taste of Shiraz. Potato chips go well with the winery’s Shiraz Rosé, according to the chart; crunchy salt and sour contrast nicely with the rosé’s soft strawberry tones. If popcorn is your vice, pour a glass of Sauvignon Blanc, a crisp white wine with lively passion fruit and citrus flavors. The well-rounded melon and peach notes of Jacob’s Creek Chardonnay play nicely with a platter of pita chips and hummus, or a bowl of crunchy wasabi peas for more adventurous palates. Nachos piled high with

guacamole, salsa and other goodies are a happy companion to Pinot Grigio’s fresh apple and pear flavor with a zesty lemon finish. In a nod to its Aussie roots, Jacob’s Creek suggests fragrant Riesling for pub favorites such as sausage rolls, its sweet yet crisp lemon-line flavors balancing the savory sausage and puff pastry. If your tastes run to Scotch eggs, the winery offers a relatively new choice — Fiano, an aromatic Italian white with tropical flavors of guava, pineapple and lemongrass. You may have to wait for that pairing, though; Jacob’s Creek isn’t exporting Fiano to the United States yet. Jacob’s Creek is South Australia’s oldest commercial vineyard, producing wines from the Barossa Valley, Adelaide Hills and Coonawarra. The label traces its heritage to Johann Gramp, a Bavarian immigrant who missed the wines of his homeland so much that he planted a vineyard along the banks of Jacob’s Creek in 1847 and released his first wine, a Rhine-style white, in 1850. Today, Jacob’s Creek exports wine to more than 60 countries. You’ll find several varietals in Columbia; inquire at your favorite wine shop next time you get the munchies. ❖

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ove notes cover Pam Ingram’s office door at Granny’s House. Colorfully drawn, the notes bear such messages as “Granny Pam We Love You,” “Thank you for everything you have done for us” and “Keep Calm And Love Granny’s House.” Ingram looks at the notes and searches for the right words to share why she loves the children who wrote them. “All I can say is because they are,” she finally says. “These children are just worthy of being loved.” Then, as she is given to do, she thinks of God’s love and expands her answer. “God loved me,” she says, “and so I have his love in me, and that’s what reaches out to these kids.”

Change Of Heart Ingram founded Granny’s House in 2001. Located in the Douglass Park public housing development, Granny’s House is a place for kids to come after school to see values, manners and “God’s love and tender mercies” in action. Dozens of volunteers, most of whom are college students, help carry out the nonprofit’s mission to nurture and inspire children. As the name Granny’s House suggests, the kids receive what they might receive from a caring grandmother — nourishing snacks, guidance, help with homework and, most important of all, loving attention. “For some kids it is the first time someone has taken a positive interest in them — has conversations with them, answers their questions, takes them to lunch,” says Adrian Clifton, a Ph.D. student at MU who has volunteered at Granny’s House for about four years. “Granny builds such caring and loving relationships with children that they can’t help but love and respect her back.” Ingram’s gift for connecting with children is so central to her today, it’s hard to imagine her without it. But the truth is, Granny Pam wasn’t always such a fan of children. “I didn’t even like kids until I had mine,” she says with a laugh. “I had had some negative experiences babysitting and thought I didn’t even want to have kids.” Her view softened when she had her own children — she and her husband, Ellis, a retired medical doctor, have four, all grown — but she still had no interest in ministering to children until her eldest were teenagers. That’s when she signed up for a church mission trip to Russia, thinking she’d be ministering to adults. When she learned she’d be working with kids, the idea of spending a week coloring, cutting and doing puppets almost made her back out of the trip. “But I’d already promised my 17-year-old daughter that she could go with me, so I couldn’t back out,” she says. During that trip, Ingram amazed herself by falling in love with two little Russian girls. She spoke no Russian, and they spoke no English, but she and the girls communicated using looks and hugs. Through that experience, Ingram fell in love with children in a new way and fell in love with ministering to children. “It was just life-changing for me,” she says. “I went there, and it wasn’t even about me helping them. I believe it was something God wanted to put in my heart, that deeper love for children.” Prime Magazine June 2015

“Why do children at Granny’s House love Granny Pam? Because they know she loves them and will always be there for them. ... The ripple effect of her work will be felt for generations.” ~ Jane Williams, Love INC. founder

Building Bridges Although Granny’s House has several programs, most targeting either boys or girls of certain ages, those programs are secondary to loving the kids through simple actions, such as listening to them talk about their days, reading books with them or going outside to watch them turn cartwheels. The idea is to build a bridge of love to reach their hearts, Ingram says. “And then once you’ve built that bridge of love and trust, you can walk across that bridge with all kinds of things that can help them.” It’s a simple approach — but rarely easy. It’s one thing to supervise kids, feed them and give them lessons. It’s something else to bond with them and show them, every day, that they matter. Jane Williams, a longtime friend of Ingram’s and the founder of another Columbia ministry, Love INC., says Ingram “works tirelessly” to provide children with that unconditional love. “Pam also has the ability to see past bouts of anger and disrespect into a child’s heart of hurt and pain,”

Williams says. “She is extraordinarily patient and works hard to build trust with the most difficult-to-love children. Her perseverance has paid off time and time again as the very children who initially caused the most trouble later became leaders.” Perseverance became especially needful around 2007, when a changing population at Douglass Park presented

“That drip, drip, drip of love is something that works in any culture.” a new challenge. Several African refugees began moving into the community, and soon, African children were knocking on the door of Granny’s House. Ingram found herself at a loss as she tried to minister to them. The most difficult part was dealing with the conflict that arose between the African children and the American children. “It was a constant battle,” she says, “arguing, fighting, name-calling

— on both sides.” She blames herself in part, for not knowing how to manage the situation. Because of the African children’s pasts, she felt compelled to relax the rules a bit for them and sometimes softened their consequences. The American children — and their parents — resented the “preferential treatment.” When they complained it wasn’t fair, Ingram responded it might not be fair, but it was the right thing to do. “I told them, ‘God sent them to us to love them into wholeness,’” she says. “We wanted them to know they could come here and have a real childhood at Granny’s House.” There was no quick fix, no one action that solved the problem, but Ingram and her fellow volunteers kept affirming all of the children, kept loving them with unconditional love, and finally, after two years, the conflict faded and peace returned. “That drip, drip, drip of love is something that works in any culture,” Ingram says. “I’m so glad that, by the grace of God, we were able to hang in there.”

The Gift of Grace The grace of God is a recurring theme in Ingram’s life. Her intuition for what the children need in order to trust her and to believe in themselves comes from her own childhood memories. Because Ingram, too, grew up in public housing. Her family, which included her mother, father and three sisters, lived in the projects of Kansas City, where, she says, “some really scary things” were always present — “boys who carried guns in their back pockets and girls whose entire wardrobes came from shoplifting from the best downtown department stores. “[I remember] seeing girls getting beat up after school because ‘they thought they were cute,’” she adds. “And then there were the weekly parties held in a nearby church basement, where I remember gunfire erupting not that many feet from where my sisters and I were dancing.” A love for books and writing helped Ingram escape that life, first through her imagination and then through college. She was the first of her family to go to college 16

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and graduated from the University of Missouri School of Journalism. She met Ellis Ingram during her last semester. He came to Columbia from Detroit for a residency in pathology at the University of Missouri Hospital and Clinics. Within two years of meeting, they were married and had their first child. Until she became a mother, Ingram had never spent much time thinking about God, although she had grown up believing in the Bible. She recalls thinking, “I’ll probably give my life to God when I’m old, but I’m going to have me some fun first.” After having her first child, she was surprised that despite being in love and married and a mother, she didn’t feel satisfied, and she began reflecting on why that might be. “And I saw how I had lived my life so selfishly,” she says. “It was all about me.” She spent several painful months examining her “unvarnished” self, and that, she says, “was when I felt my need for God, when I could actually hear the good news that Christ had died for that unvarnished me I was seeing in the mirror.”

The day she decided to give her life to God and follow his ways, she knelt down and, to her great surprise, found herself sobbing — not with the sorrow she’d felt for the last several months but with relief and gratitude. “I remember getting up, and I just felt like a different person,” she says. “I know they say Christianity isn’t about feelings, but something happened to me that morning. I just felt clean and loved. Before, I felt so dirty and despised, especially despised by God, and I just remember feeling so loved and I knew that God had been listening.” Ingram’s story of receiving grace brings new meaning to her statement that she loves the children at Granny’s House because God first loved her. While the Granny’s House name reveals how Ingram sees herself, the name of the ministry behind Granny’s House, Hidden Jewels, reveals how she sees the children she serves. “I feel like one of my chief roles is to unveil the kids,” she says, “so that people can see how wonderful they really are.” ❖

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Money Matters

Mixed Blessing

Beware Of Taxes On Unused Retirement Account Money

BY JAMES PRESTON, SENIOR DIRECTOR OF ADVANCEMENT, UNIVERSITY OF MISSOURI Retirement can be fulfilling and wonderful for well-prepared retirees. Tools available for individuals to build a comfortable retirement make it possible to create significant wealth over time. Most people are familiar with 403(b) and 401(k) qualified retirement accounts and individual retirement accounts, or IRAs. These instruments are revolutionizing the way that Americans prepare for their post-working years. While qualified retirement accounts are excellent for building wealth, they can pose a tax liability when distributions are received. The wealth a retiree has accumulated before taxes during work years may push him or her into a higher tax bracket in retirement when fewer deductions may be available. Following the account holder’s death, the tax treatment of these accounts when passing to heirs can create a mixed blessing. Retirement accounts of a deceased individual hold income that the deceased was entitled to at the time of his or her death. Such income is referred to as “income in respect of a decedent” (IRD). The final income tax return only reports income received during the lifetime of the decedent. In most instances, children or other heirs who are beneficiaries of a retirement account will be responsible for the income taxes. The size of such accounts and the amount of the potential tax make such bequests a concern, potentially eroding the value of the inheritance.

Taking action now and planning for the future will help preserve your wealth and preserve your legacy to family and to charity.

Pay Now And Give Later Converting a Traditional IRA to a Roth IRA will create a tax-free source of retirement income and can provide a great strategy to reduce the potential IRD in your estate. The conversion will require you to pay income tax now, so consult a tax advisor to determine the best way to do this. Having already paid the taxes in a Roth account makes it a better asset to pass to heirs, as well, because it will not carry IRD. Another option is to spend down existing retirement accounts incrementally, spreading out the tax burden over a number of years so that

the size of the accounts are reduced or used during your lifetime. Some people will use part of the income after taxes from their retirement account to create a life insurance policy to help preserve the value of their heirs’ inheritance. Perhaps the most straightforward method to reduce the tax liability of IRD is to designate a charity as a direct beneficiary of an IRA or other retirement account. By having such a beneficiary designation, the estate avoids all income taxes associated with IRD and also receives a charitable deduction. Consult your legal and tax advisors for assistance with any gifts from your retirement accounts. Tax law governing gifts from retirement accounts change from time to time. The information in this article is intended for educational purposes only. ❖

Charitable IRA Rollover Another year and the situation looks the same as last, leaving us to wonder: Will Congress reactivate the charitable IRA rollover law in 2015? The charitable IRA rollover has been popular with taxpayers who are required to make a minimum distribution (RMD) from their retirement accounts. The rollover has allowed them to meet the require18

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ment through transferring funds from their IRA directly to a qualified charity. Passed mid-December of last year, and only for 2014, donors who moved fast or acted earlier in the year anticipating Congress’s action were able to take advantage of the law. A push to make the charitable rollover permanent is already afoot in 2015, but Congress may or may not extend the provision to this year.

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06.15 June JUNE 3–7, 9–13 Don’t miss the Arrow Rock Lyceum Theatre premiere of “Les Misérables.” Set against the backdrop of 19th-century France, “Les Misérables” is an unforgettable story of heartbreak, passion and the resilience of the human spirit that has become one of the most celebrated musicals in theatrical history. Featuring a timeless score and beloved songs such as “I Dreamed a Dream,” “Bring Him Home” and “One Day More,” it packs an emotional wallop that has thrilled audiences all over the world. $35.50 adults, $31.50 seniors, $20 students 13–21, $15 children 4–12; 8 p.m., 2 p.m. matinee; 114 High St., Arrow Rock; 660-837-3311; www.lyceumtheatre.org

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Break out your blankets and low lawn chairs for the June installment of the Stephens Lake Park Amphitheater Concert Series, featuring the Missouri Symphony Society. The series, sponsored by KPLA-FM 101.5, features a performance on the first Thursday of every month through September. The Columbia Office of Cultural Affairs and Missouri Arts Council are sponsoring the June concert. Free; 7 p.m.; 100 Old 63 N.; 573-8747469; www.gocolumbiamo.com

The 21st annual Missouri State Senior Games returns to Columbia. Read more on this Olympic-style sports festival on Page 6. Free to spectators; venues throughout Columbia; 573-882-2101; www.smsg.org/senior_games

JUNE 4 Head to The Blue Note for a free all-ages show that’s a triple treat! Experience New Orleans-based band Galactic, St. Louis’ own Al Holliday & The East Side Rhythm Band, and Collegiate Shag Brass Band, mid-Missouri’s flagship brass band. The concert is brought to you by The Blue Note and Boone County National Bank. Free; 6 p.m.; 17 N. Ninth St.; 573874-1944; www.thebluenote.com

JUNE 5 It’s First Friday in the North Village Arts District, an open-door night to explore and appreciate the district’s ever-growing collections of art and entertainment. Free entertainment and light refreshments. Free; 6 to 9 p.m.; South 10th Street; 573-864-6641; www.facebook.com/ NorthVillageArtsDistrict

JUNE 6 Celebrate National Skateboarding Day with Shred Fest at Columbia Skate Park in Cosmo Park. All ages are welcome to participate in a trick contest, plus enjoy great music, helmet giveaways and free food. The event is presented by Columbia Parks & Recreation, Parkside Skate Shop, Blue Springs Tiger Pilot Club, Youth

Community Coalition and Gumby’s Pizza. Free; 4 to 7 p.m.; 1615 Business Loop W.; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ ParksandRec

JUNE 6 Are you up for a Treasure Hunt? Celebrate National Trails Day with a self-guided tour and hunt for the golden hiking boot! You could win a $100 Parks & Recreation gift certificate. Parks & Recreation will post a riddle on its Facebook page and Twitter account at 7 a.m. June 6. Or listen to the clue by calling 573-874-7663, extension 5. Find the boot and claim the prize by calling 573441-5495. Free; Columbia trail system; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ ParksandRec

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Debuting in 1958, Art in the Park is now the oldest and largest fine arts festival in midMissouri. More than 100 visual artists from across the country display a variety of artwork. Read more on Page 8. Free; 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday; 100 Old 63 N.; 573-443-8838; www.artintheparkcolumbia.org

Columbia Entertainment Company presents “Lucky Stiff.” This murder mystery farce propels a mild-mannered English shoe clerk into a lunatic mix of a murdered Atlantic City croupier, his nearsighted jilted mistress, her hen-pecked brother and several hundred (off-stage) dogs. With a tuneful score and a well-oiled plot, “Lucky Stiff ” guarantees hilarity for all. $10 opening night, other nights and matinee $12 adult, $11 student, $10 seniors & children 12 and younger; 7:30 p.m., 2 p.m. Sunday matinee; 1800 Nelwood Drive; 573-4743699; www.cecthreatre.org

JUNE 8 The Great Circle Golf Classic for Kids returns for its 14th year. The annual golf tournament takes place at Columbia Country Club and raises funds for Great Circle and its mid-Missouri programs. These programs include a residential treatment program, outpatient therapeutic services, foster care, case management and other community-based programs. The June 8 program starts with registration and lunch, followed by a shotgun start. The tournament concludes with a happy hour. Play as an individual or as part of a foursome. $150/individual, $600/foursome; 11 a.m. to 6 p.m.; 2210 Country Club Drive; 573-442-8331; www.greatcircle.org/ ColGolf15

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JUNE 12 Movies in the Park presents Sing Along “Frozen.” Join in the family-friendly fun and “Let It Go!” Bring a blanket and watch the PG story of Anna, Elsa, Olaf and the others unfold on a large inflatable movie screen. Concessions available. No rain dates. Sponsored by Columbia Parks & Recreation, KPLA-FM 101.5 and Boone Electric Community Trust. $2,

free for 8 and under; 9 p.m.; Locust and Fourth streets; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

JUNE 13 Come cheer on the bands of the 2015 CoMo Girls Rock! Camp Showcase as they perform the fruits of their week’s labor at The Blue Note. $5; doors open at 2 p.m., show at 2:30; 17 N. Ninth St.; 573874-1944; www.thebluenote.com

JUNE 17 Enjoy an evening of nature with the family at Family Fun Fest: Explore Outdoors at Cosmo Park. Families can learn about Missouri’s fish, birds, parks, camping and more. Sponsored by the Convention and Visitors Bureau, KLPA-FM 101.5, KOMUTV8, and Rockin’ Rents. Free; 6 to 8 p.m.; 1615 Business Loop 70 W.; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

JUNE 20 On June 19, 1865, Maj. Gen. Gordon Granger arrived in Galveston, Texas,

and declared that slavery had ended. Commemorated as Juneteenth, the date is celebrated all over the country with festivals. Come out to Douglass Park and celebrate! You can enjoy bands, choirs, speakers, games and food. Bring your lawn chair or blanket for an enjoyable time in the park. Free; 3 to 7:30 p.m.; 400 N. Providence Road; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec

JUNE 20 Dig into some delicious chicken or mouthwatering mutton at the 58th Annual Olivet Christian Church Chicken and Mutton BBQ. You can either eat in or carry out. Proceeds benefit the Campaign for Woodhaven “aging in place” apartments for people with developmental disabilities, and the “Buddy Pack” program of The Food Bank for Central & Northeast Missouri. $10 in advance for adults/$12 at the door, $3 children 10 and younger in advance & at the door; 3:30 to 7:30 p.m.; 1991 S. Olivet Road (3.8 miles east of U.S. 63 and East Broadway); 573-442-0336

JUNE 20–21, 23–28 Bali Ha’i may call you … to the Arrow Rock Lyceum Theatre to see “South Pacific.” Social tensions and exotic romance collide in Rodgers and Hammerstein’s groundbreaking musical set in a Polynesian paradise threatened by the dangers of prejudice and war. This classic tells the sweeping romantic story of two couples as they search for happiness through trying times and differing backgrounds. It features such well-known favorites as “Some Enchanted Evening” and “I’m Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta My Hair.” $35.50 adults, $31.50 seniors, $20 students 13–21, $15 children 4–12; 8 p.m., 2 p.m. matinee; 114 High St., Arrow Rock; 660-837-3311; www.lyceumtheatre.org

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JUNE 22 Swing your trusty clubs for a cause! Tee up at the annual FORE The House Golf Tournament. Proceeds from this four-person scramble benefit the Ronald McDonald House Charities of Mid-Missouri, which provides families with free housing while their children receive medical treatment. Enjoy food, greenside drinks and snacks, tee gifts, and the opportunity to win great prizes, all while helping families who are handling some tough times. $225/player, $800/foursome; shotgun starts 8 a.m. or 1 p.m.; The Club at Old Hawthorne; 6221 Highway WW; www.rmhcmidmo. org/golf

JUNE 26 Get your blues on when mid-Missouriâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s own Megan Boyer Band takes the stage at Rose Music Hall (formerly Mojoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s). Always a crowd favorite, the band delivers a hard-driving performance. The price is right, too. Free; 5 p.m.; 1013 Park Ave.; 573-874-1944; www.rosemusichall.com

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JUNE 28 Take part in the Katy Trail Ride To Cooper’s Landing. This leisurely 32-mile roundtrip ride will take you past the scenic sights along the MKT Trail. Pack a picnic lunch or order from Chim’s Thai Kitchen (on your own). Return with the group or at your own pace. Ride self-supported with an extra inner tube, air pump and water. Free; 10 a.m. to 3 p.m.; meet at Flat Branch Park playground, 101 S. Fourth St.; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ ParksandRec

JUNE 28 Tour five beautifully landscaped gardens in the Jefferson City area during the 16th Annual Bittersweet Garden Tour. Discover fresh ideas and techniques to apply in your own garden, and enjoy complimentary refreshments at each stop. Proceeds help fund scholarships for area students. $10; 12 and younger free; 12:30 to 5 p.m.; various locations in Jefferson City; 573-462-6690; www.bittersweetgardenclub.com

SAVE THE DATE JULY 8–12, 15–18 The Arrow Rock Lyceum Theatre presents “The Will Rogers Follies.” Celebrate the life of the famed humorist who never met a man he didn’t like in this song and dance extravaganza. $35.50 adults, $31.50 seniors, $20 students 13–21, $15 children 4–12; 8 p.m., 2 p.m. matinee; 114 High St., Arrow Rock; 660-837-3311; www.lyceumtheatre.org

JULY 18 Motorcyclists and drivers can take part in a “Poker Run” fundraiser. Participants make a series of stops and collect cards in hopes of building a winning hand. Proceeds benefit the Molly S. Thomas Bowden Memorial Scholarship Fund and Blue Knights MO II. $15 registration, $5 passenger/additional hand, $10 wild card; 8:30 a.m. registration opens; Trumans Bar & Grill, 3304 W. Broadway; run ends at Mid America Harley-Davidson, 5704 Freedom Drive; 573-228-2550 or 573-268-7359

JULY 17–19, 24–26 Athletes of all types and stripes will converge on Columbia for the annual Show-Me State Games. Last year, more than 25,700 participants took part in the Olympic-style sports festival, competing in more than 40 different sports, ranging from archery to wrestling. Registration fees vary; venues throughout Columbia; 573882-2101; www.smsg.org ❖

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› MARK COHEN, MD [ ANESTHESIOLOGIST ]

I am currently the Chief of Staff at Boone Hospital Center and President of Mid-America Anesthesia Consultants (MAAC). I have been at Boone since 1999. I was born in Pennsylvania and moved to Kansas City in 1991 to undertake an internship and residency training in the field of anesthesia. I’ve lived in Missouri ever since. I am a husband, father of three, physician, entrepreneur and casual sports enthusiast.

WHY DID YOU GET INTO THE HEALTH CARE FIELD? I was drawn to medicine due to my natural curiosity about science and biological studies, and my need to do something that I thought would matter. WHAT INTERESTED YOU IN YOUR PARTICULAR SPECIALTY? Anesthesia is a field that involves continuous use of your mind, complimented by a great deal of hands-on patient care. It requires and exposes you to a wide range of medical fields. As a discipline, you must maintain current knowledge of pharmaceuticals, medical conditions, lab testing and surgical procedures. WHAT IS THE MOST REWARDING ASPECT OF YOUR JOB? Successfully getting a patient with significant morbidities through complex surgical procedures. WHAT IS THE MOST CHALLENGING ASPECT OF YOUR JOB? Getting a patient with significant morbidities through complex surgery successfully.

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WHAT DO YOU SEE CHANGING IN HEALTH CARE IN THE NEXT FIVE TO 10 YEARS? I see a change from a system that pays you for the volume and complexity of what you do per patient to one that pays for wellness, value and population health care maintenance. There is and will continue to be centralization of services, regulation and reduced autonomy for physicians. WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE SOMEONE LOOKING TO BECOME A DOCTOR? Pursue medicine as a career if it is truly your calling. Understand that it is a life requiring delayed gratification and sacrifice, but it will continue to provide fulfillment. WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING OUTSIDE OF WORK? Mostly, my life is centered on my children and their activities. I do have some entrepreneurial pursuits that I enjoy. If possible, I try to get in a little golf.

WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE WHO IS GOING TO BE A PATIENT IN A HOSPITAL FOR A PERIOD OF TIME? Seek out the best hospital and physicians you can find. There are many resources available to assist you with that endeavor. Make sure you have a good understanding of your medical conditions, prescriptions and history. Don’t be afraid to ask questions of all your providers – it’s your body and you are in charge of this process. Previously, medicine was very paternalistic; the patient would be admitted and tell providers, “Do what you need to do.” Today, the patient is – and needs to be – an active and knowledgeable participant in their health care plan.

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Tinseltown Talks

William Shatner’s Trek Through Fatherhood BY NICK THOMAS

Her father commanded a spaceship in a popular ’60s television series. Two decades later, in 1988, Melanie Shatner was featured alongside her dad in an Oldsmobile TV commercial revealing her own desire to zoom around in something “space age.” It wouldn’t be the last time father and daughter acted together. The pair shared some on-screen time the following year in “Star Trek V: The Final Frontier.” Directed by her father, William Shatner, aka “Star Trek’s” Captain Kirk, Melanie can be seen wandering the Enterprise’s bridge throughout the film. “I actually auditioned for another part but was completely wrong for it,” recalls Melanie, now Melanie Shatner Gretsch since marrying actor Joel Gretsch in 1999. “My dad called and said I didn’t get the part but there was another small role for the captain’s yeoman if I wanted it, and I said, ‘Of course.’” It launched her somewhat short adult acting career, which included two dozen movie and television roles over the next 10 years. “I didn’t fully enjoy acting,” she says. “I made a living acting for a while but wanted to be successful in other ways.” That success was soon seen on Ventura Boulevard in Studio City, Calif., in the form of Dari Boutique, which Melanie opened 16 years ago. Stocked with cutting-edge fashions, Dari is a popular destination for trendy shoppers. Melanie says her dad wasn’t too disappointed when she abandoned a career in entertainment for retail sales. “He was probably relieved because acting can be a brutal profession. But really, anything I wanted to do was OK by him. He even helped by loaning me the money to get the store started.” “She was always the kid wearing smart clothes,” recalls William Shatner from his home in Studio City. “She just knew about style. Her sisters and all the other kids used to ask her for fashion advice.” Although growing up with a busy, famous father had its drawbacks, Melanie

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gives her dad high marks as a parent. “Ever since I was born, he’s been on television and his office was a movie or television set,” she says. “When we were younger, he’d take one sister at a time away on location for a whole week. We all have such great memories of getting to hang out with him and watching him work.” Shatner and his first wife were divorced in 1969, but Melanie says she and her two older sisters, Lisabeth and Leslie, remained close with their father. “We spent the week- Melanie and William Shatner on the set of “Star Trek V: The Final Frontier.” days with my mother law’s inventive, restless mind. and the weekends with “He really is a dynamo, and his mind him,” she says. “He would do whatever it just never stops working,” Andy says. “He took to get home to see us, even if it meant driving all night. I think that illustrates always wants to get involved with a prowhat a wonderful, committed father he duction to make it better. So many actors was and is.” just turn it on when the cameras are roll“All divorces are traumatic,” Shatner says. ing, but he’s always cranking.” “But the girls have turned out to be wonderLike most in the business, Shatner has ful, smart women. Each is talented in some had his share of project clunkers over the area — Melanie with Dari’s, Lisabeth is a years. But, says Melanie, “working is what lawyer, and Leslie works in advertising. We keeps him young, excited and creative. get together often as a family.” You’ve got to give him points for always Lisabeth is married to Andy Clement, trying something new.” who founded the effects studio Creative And if there’s a lesson William Shatner Character Engineering in Van Nuys, has learned in more than 50 years as an Calif. He says he was a little surprised actor, it’s one he willingly shares as a father. when told who her father was. “You can only pass on endurance,” he “But the first time I had dinner with says. “Everybody has to make their own them all, he welcomed me into the family, mistakes and learn from them.” v even though Liz and I hadn’t been dating long,” Andy says. “It was incredible to see someone so attached to his kids.” Andy, whose recent movie work includes special effects for “Interstellar,” says he is also amazed by his father-in-

Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University in Montgomery, Ala. His features and columns have appeared in more than 550 newspapers and magazines. Follow him on Twitter @TinseltownTalks.

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Prime Advice

Tell Me About It

With Angel Donnette Robertson

My husband and I retired a couple of years ago. He spends several days a week golfing with a couple of friends, but all of my hobbies are solitary ones, so I am left alone a lot. I want to return to part-time work. I enjoyed working. I enjoyed who I was when I was working. But when I mentioned the possibility to my husband, he objected. He enjoys us eating lunch together when he is home, and he wants us to be free to travel together. Yet, in the last two years, he eats lunch with his friends regularly and we haven’t taken even one trip. Isn’t he being selfish to keep me from working?

One of the most important aspects of marriage is communication. Did you explain why you want to return to work? Did he understand that you feel you have lost part of your identity with retirement? Did you assure him that the two of you would still have opportunities to spend time together? Was he able to express his feelings to you? Is it possible assumptions were made by either or both of you? If your husband has always been selfish, then he is probably still in character. If you have always worked your life around his wants, he probably expects the same in your retirement. But if not, the two of you may need to a have a second conversation. And during the discussion, make sure you are listening to him as attentively as you want him to listen

to you. His concerns may have some legitimacy. You won’t be able to address those concerns, if you don’t hear them. Of course, you can return to work without his approval. You can also look for ways to enjoy solitary hobbies in a group, so that you aren’t dependent on your husband for company. But first you should try to open a dialogue with your husband. You might find the two of you are closer to agreement than you think.

I made a horrible mistake. Last year, I had an affair with my best friend’s husband. I was in a really bad place and hurting so much, and he said everything I wanted to hear. I thought he loved me, but when my friend discovered the affair, he dropped me. She took him back, but she won’t even look at me if we

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so much as accidentally meet in the grocery store. She won, I lost. Why can’t she just get over it?

First, you didn’t make a horrible mistake. You made a horrible, selfish choice. You say your affair partner said everything you wanted to hear. I imagine you returned the favor. So, he was not the only one using the relationship for his own benefit. You destroyed your best friend in an attempt to make yourself feel better. And, now, you sound bitter that you only feel worse, without any real grasp that you were the source of the damage. The truth is she may have been your best friend, but you certainly weren’t hers. It is time now for you to offer her the respect you should have always given her. Please leave her and her husband to recover their relationship, if they so choose. I doubt your friend feels she won, especially as she never knew she was in any contest. And she is left with a husband who betrayed her, although he can work hard to regain her respect and trust. Instead of wallowing in resentment, you should focus on understanding your reasons for making choices so devastating to your friend, her husband and yourself, all in an attempt to ease your own hurt. Why did you settle for so little, for bits and pieces of a man’s divided attention? Why not take up exercise or volunteering or a hobby instead of your friend’s husband? For your own sake, you need to learn how to make healthier choices. You will only continue to hurt yourself and the others around you if you don’t. v Angel Donnette Robertson is not a professional counselor, but she has a lifelong appreciation for the beauty and complications of relationships. Prime Magazine June 2015

Life Lessons

Nobody Wins In An Argument BY SARALEE PEREL

M Sam and Blanche Perel

My husband, Bob, was the first nonJewish person to marry into my strict Orthodox Jewish family. My parents never called him Bob. They called him Farmer. To them, every man who wasn’t Jewish was a cowhand. I remember one Sunday brunch, when we visited them in their condo in Baltimore. While I was helping Mom serve lox, bagels and tongue, Dad said to Bob, “So, Farmer, you know why they can’t keep Jewish people in jail?” Bob, always polite (another word for intimidated-to-death), said, “I’m afraid I don’t know.” My father, who laughed so loud at his own jokes that we could barely hear the punchlines, said, “Because they eat lox.” Bob didn’t understand. Dad, in hysterics, spelled out the word, “Locks.” We laughed, not at the joke, but at my

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father’s wonderful nature. When Bob looked warily at the tongue, I whispered, “You don’t have to eat it.” Mother, who could hear a whisper from a coalminer at work, said: “Tongue is to our people the way bacon is to your people. You either love it or you’re wrong.” She brought out cream cheese. In her screwball teaching mode, she said to Bob: “The kosher laws don’t allow meat and dairy at the same meal. But while Moses was schlepping those bulky Ten Commandments around, God declared: ‘Who can eat bagels without a schmear of cream cheese? And lox? You have to ask? Fish goes with everything — except olive loaf. Nothing goes with that.’” “Ma,” I teased, “what exactly did God say about tongue?” “He told Moses, ‘Tongue is a musthave!’” Then she added, “Shellfish isn’t kosher, but God decided that

Maryland steamed crabs are exempt from any kosher laws.” “Mo-ther! You’re making this stuff up.” “Where were you when the disciples were having a nosh?” And so, although my parents are both gone, my memories of them are filled with love and pain. There were many problems. Mom said Dad never “allowed” her to do what she wanted. If only I had put my arms around her and told her she had the strength and courage to make her own decisions — but I didn’t. My parents and I argued a lot. Once we didn’t speak for six months. I shamelessly refused to be big enough to take the first step. I will never get those months back. One day, I broke through my selfcenteredness. It was on a Father’s Day. Dad was so touched to hear my voice that he just cried. I said: “I love you, Tateleh [the Yiddish term of endearment for a father]. I’m so very, very sorry that I took this long to call.” And then I said, “Will Mom come to the phone?” I expected my mother to be distant. But she wasn’t. She said, “I’ve missed you, Saura Leah [my Hebrew name].” We didn’t discuss what happened. We never did. Maybe that was just as well. “I’ve missed you too, Mamala. I’ve been feeling terrible since this whole thing.” “So have I.” “I love you, Mamala.” “Me too.” That was the finest memory of all. That day when the three of us rose above the need to win. That day when nobody needed to be right. That day when we professed our eternal love. And that day when we hugged each other tightly over a telephone line. v Award-winning nationally syndicated columnist Saralee Perel can be reached at sperel@saraleeperel.com or via her website: www.saraleeperel.com.

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Fun & Games StatePoint Crossword

30. AS A WHOLE

7. READ-ONLY MEMORY

35. SKY DEFENDER

8. PUNCTUATION MARK

37. FIRST BABY WORD?

9. ____ MALL, LONDON

39. KING HENRY VIII, E.G.

10. SERVED WITH AN ENTREE

40. ACTRESS SORVINO 41. “____ TRULY” 43. *KNOWN FOR HIS CLOWNING AROUND 44. SINBAD THE SAILOR’S HOME 46. A BUNCH 47. CRUDE GROUP 48. BAD BLOOD 50. VIETNAM’S NEIGHBOR 52. DON DRAPER’S CREATIONS 53. LADY OF “APPLAUSE”

36. OLD MACDONALD’S DOMAIN

DOWN

1. *”____ MAN” BY DISCO STARS VILLAGE PEOPLE

18. VILLAGE V.I.P.

1. MULTIPLE INDEPENDENTLY TARGETABLE REENTRY VEHICLE

16. CAMELOT TO KING ARTHUR, E.G.

29. NEW MEXICO ART COLONY

65. LENGTH OF EXISTENCE

17. EXPRESSION OF DOUBT

15. INDIAN RESTAURANT CONDIMENT

27. ZOROASTER FOLLOWER

34. *CASUAL SUMMER SHOES

ACROSS

14. PIGEON SOUND

26. CHINESE AND JAPANESE

64. CONSERVATIVE SIDE

73. *TULIP MANIA FLOWER HOLDERS

23. JOHNNY CASH’S BOY WITH UNFORTUNATE NAME

25. *SALSA EXERCISE

33. EXUDED

72. FREDDY KRUEGER’S STREET

13. ARCHIPELAGO

24. ____ OBLONGATA

60. *PART ROBE PART BLANKET

71. “____ THERE, DONE THAT”

9. ATTENTION-GETTING SOUND

22. TINY GUITAR

32. PARKINSON’S DISEASE DRUG

70. DIALECTICAL REASONING PHILOSOPHER

21. *SHORT IN FRONT AND LONG IN BACK

20. PRECEDES “SET, GO!”

57. *HER HAIR STYLE WAS POPULAR IN THE ‘90S

69. LAST LETTER

19. *ONE OF THE CULLEN FAMILY

15. GIVE IN

31. SWOLLEN LYMPH NODE BECAUSE OF PLAGUE

68. LADY’S POCKETBOOK

6. RAINBOW, E.G.

12. FEATHER GLUE

55. POOR MAN’S CAVIAR

67. *POKÉMON EXCHANGE

THEME: FADS

11. EDITOR’S MARK

2. SEAWARD

38. ____ 51 42. BOUNDED BY AN OATH 45. GOOSE EGGS, ARCHAIC 49. SIGMA ALPHA EPSILON 51. CARDINAL COMPASS POINT AT 180 DEGREES, PL. 54. DONUT TOPPING 56. WHITE HERON 57. BAPTISM OR SHIVA 58. CHILLS AND FEVER 59. *HOME OF THE BEARD TREND? 60. GIVE AN IMPRESSION 61. DASHBOARD INSTRUMENT, VAR.

3. CHOWDER INGREDIENT

62. PREVIOUSLY MENTIONED

4. FACILITATES

63. SNAKY SWIMMERS

24. MANUFACTURE

5. OS ON PERIODIC TABLE

64. CONFEDERATE JOHNNY

25. NUKE

6. HEART OR TOOTH CONDITION

66. STYLING GOO

28. FRIEND FROM DOWN UNDER

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Fun & Games Sudoku

Do You Have Tiger Vision? Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve hidden this tiger face somewhere in the magazine. Find it, and send an email to prime@insidecolumbia.net telling us the page number where the tiger is hiding. Readers with a correct answer by May 31 will be entered into a drawing for a $25 gift card to The Candy Factory.

WINNER! Congratulations to Cathy Ligon! She was the winner of our April Tiger Vision contest and a gift card to Sycamore restaurant!

Cryptogram Decipher this quote by unraveling the secret code. Each letter stands for another letter. Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve given you a few hints to get you started.

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Recipe Box

Cuts Fit For A King

Celebrate Father’s Day With Great Grilled Fare

This year, recognize Dad with the gift he’s really looking forward to receiving — a feast fit for a steak-loving king. Fire up the grill this Father’s Day, and serve up robust, savory cuts, such as Omaha Steaks T-bone or Rib Crown selections. The T-bone is a thick cut to give you more bone-in strip and butter-tender filet mignon for even the heartiest of appetites, while the Rib Crown is carved from the most prized part of the rib eye and is known for exceptional marbling, flavor and tenderness. Both cuts are grain-fed, aged to perfection and flash-frozen to capture freshness and flavor. Omaha Steaks make the perfect gift, so you can confidently ship them directly to your favorite fellow or grill them up for him at home. For more steak recipes for your Father’s Day celebration, visit www.omahasteaks.com.

10 Steps To Perfect Grilling For exceptional steaks every time, follow these tips from Omaha Steaks Executive Chef Karl Marsh. 1. Clean and heat your grill on high.

8. Use the 60/40 grilling method: Grill for 60 percent of the time on the first side; then grill 40 percent of the time after you turn over the food. This will give you an evenly cooked product.

3. Season your food before grilling.

9. Place your cooked product on a clean plate. Never place a cooked product on the plate you used to transport the raw product to the grill without thoroughly washing it first.

4. Sear the outside of steaks when grilling. This really helps with the flavor and juiciness. 5. Use tongs or a spatula to turn your meat on the grill. Using a fork can damage and dry out the meat.

Prep Time: 15 minutes • Cook Time: 15 minutes Total Time: 30 minutes • Servings: 4 Omaha Steaks T-Bone Steaks

tablespoons cooking oil

1/2

cup Dad’s Steak Rub (see recipe)

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7. Keep a spray bottle with water handy to douse any flare-ups.

2. Blot dry any moisture using a clean paper towel, and then lightly oil the steak before you put it on the grill. This helps the searing process and prevents sticking.

T-BONE STEAKS WITH DAD’S STEAK RUB

6. Cover your grill as much as possible during the grilling process. This helps to lock in the grilled flavor and will help prevent flare-ups.

10. Allow your steaks to “rest” for five minutes between cooking and eating. This will help retain moisture when you cut into them.

DADâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S STEAK RUB Yield: 1/2 cup 4

tablespoons coarse sea salt or kosher salt

tablespoon coarse ground black pepper

tablespoon coarse dehydrated onion flakes

1/2 tablespoon coarse dehydrated garlic 1/2

tablespoon crushed red pepper

teaspoon whole dill seed

teaspoon dried whole thyme

teaspoon whole cumin (toasted

and crushed coarse)

teaspoon whole coriander (toasted

and crushed coarse)

Combine all and mix well. Store in airtight container or re-sealable storage bag for up to 6 months. Note: To prepare cumin and coriander, toast by placing in dry pan over medium heat, shaking pan about 2â&#x20AC;&#x201C;3 minutes until seasonings start to brown. Crush using bottom of pan on cutting board or with mortar and pestle.

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RIB CROWN STEAKS WITH ROASTED ROOT VEGETABLES Prep Time: 60 minutes • Cook Time: 15 minutes Total Time: 1 hour and 15 minutes • Servings: 4 4

Omaha Steaks Rib Crown Steaks

tablespoons cooking oil

tablespoons Dad’s Steak Rub (see recipe)

Roasted Root Vegetables (see recipe)

Thaw steaks overnight in refrigerator or quick thaw by placing sealed steaks in sink with water for 15–30 minutes. Prepare rub and vegetables. Heat grill on high. Blot dry steaks with clean paper towel, then brush each side with cooking oil. Generously season both sides of steaks with rub. Grill steaks to desired doneness. For medium rare steak, grill for about 5 minutes on first side and 3–4 minutes on second side. Serve each steak with vegetables.

ROASTED ROOT VEGETABLES Prep Time: 20 minutes • Cook Time: 40 minutes Total Time: 60 minutes • Servings: 4 2

pounds mixed root vegetables (carrots, red beets, yellow beets, turnips, celery root, baby purple potatoes, baby gold potatoes)

tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil

teaspoon kosher salt

1/4

teaspoon freshly ground black pepper

Heat oven to 400°F. Wash and peel root vegetables. Cut into evenly sized wedges about 1/2- to 3/4-inch thick. Toss with olive oil, salt and pepper. Place on foil-lined sheet pan. Roast for 30–40 minutes or until all vegetables are done, stirring once halfway through cooking time. v

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Faces And Places

Cosmos Spaghetti Supper The three local Cosmopolitan Clubs held their annual Ready for Spaghetti supper on April 17. More than 400 people were served, and the money raised is being donated to Camp Hickory Hill, a camp in Boone County for children with diabetes. Shirley Gallaher and Alice Moon

Charlie and Barbara Hoyle

Bill Moyes and Alice Wondra

Sue Hopkins and Henry Lane

Ruth and Jack Schweitzer

Nancy and Fred Fritsch

Pat and Ron Novak

Marlin and Betty Rogers

Judy Armbruster and Kathy Osterberger

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Crossword Puzzle

Sudoku Puzzle

Cryptogram Answer “By the time a man realizes that his father was right, he has a son who thinks he’s wrong.” ~ Charles Wadsworth

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Columbia Confidential: Publisher Fred Parry On The Issues Columbia Is Talking About

Civil Unrest

I recently sat in on the interviews of the four finalists vying for executive director of Heart of Missouri United Way. The 20-member panel included community leaders, HMUW board members and the organization’s full-time staff. All four finalists were exemplary, each possessing vital skill sets and a good understanding of issues affecting those who live in poverty in our community. After the four-hour marathon of presentations and questions, I walked away with a heightened understanding of the actual causes of poverty and how seemingly “normal” conditions can contribute to pushing a community into the throes of civil unrest, such as we saw in Ferguson last summer. The intense level of media coverage of Ferguson and Baltimore in recent months has reignited a decades-old conversation about race relations and the plight of impoverished people in our communities. For many, there is a false sense of security that the level of rioting, looting and violence in those two cities could never happen in a peaceful community like Columbia. Nothing could be further from the truth. Whether we care to admit it or not, we have been tiptoeing around a virtual tinderbox of built-up tension, anxiety and frustration. Like most communities, Columbia has a tendency to sidestep the uncomfortable societal ills of drug abuse, prostitution, human trafficking and desperate poverty. The familiar mantra is that these problems only exist in larger, metropolitan communities and these things can’t happen here, primarily because we are a caring, compassionate and progressive community. This myth is often perpetuated by a well-orchestrated public relations code of silence, along with Columbia’s continual presence on the “Best Of...” lists in a variety of national magazines. It’s hard to condemn the narcissistic love affair we have with our city, but we might avoid the kind of civil unrest that would put us in the wrong kind of national spotlight if we would only stop and face reality. The unrest in Ferguson and Baltimore was sparked by singular police actions that became tipping points, but both followed years of strained relationships and perceived, if not real, transgressions against the poor and underrepresented populations in those communities. Do those types of conditions exist in Columbia? Absolutely. I learned a great deal about this issue from the United Way candidates. Each of these four individuals has spent a significant portion of their professional careers studying the conditions that ultimately lead to civil unrest. Each offered pearls of wisdom and advice for avoiding the type of incident that might cast Columbia into the spotlight of shame. The gist of my enlightenment boils down to this: Community leaders in Columbia must find a way to establish trust between themselves and those living in poverty. The old adage of pulling oneself up by his or her bootstraps is no longer a valid solution. Even my conservative ideals can’t cloud the reality that poverty in America is a brutal, centrifugal force that few can escape from on their own. Trust is lacking here because the community has made a lot of

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promises and simply not delivered on them. Actions have not matched words. We’ve heard promises of job creation, affordable housing, child care and reliable public transportation. Columbia has not delivered on those promises in any meaningful way. Despite the best intentions of welfare reform and job-training programs, Columbia has failed miserably because we did not put participants in sustainable job situations. Aid programs that originally were designed to be transitional have now become permanent because we, as a society, have failed to deliver viable alternatives. We can’t achieve trust in any relationship if we continue to break promises. Trust is the most important currency when dealing with those in poverty. Here is the most troubling news: If we don’t make significant changes in the way we handle education, job creation and the delivery of social services, the future is bleak for Columbia and Boone County. A recent study called The Impacts of Neighborhoods on Intergenerational Mobility shows that Boone County is one of the worst counties to live in for children in poverty. The study, published in early May, was a collaborative effort between Harvard researchers and The New York Times. Researchers report that Boone County is among the worst places in the United States for helping poor children up the income ladder; it ranks as the 426th worst out of 2,478 counties, in the bottom 17 percent of all counties in the United States. The study also shows that the sooner young children move away from Boone County, the more likely they are to avoid becoming single parents and to reap the benefits of going to college and earning more income as adults. My hope is that we heed these early warning signs and take a proactive stance to confront poverty in our community. We are living in what truly is a tale of two cities. We like to focus our attention on the many quality-of-life amenities we publicly fund and our reputation as Missouri’s leading producer of Presidential Scholars. In truth, we’re still one of the state’s most racially segregated cities. We seem to be content in our ignorance about those living with mental illness, hunger and a variety of social ills we’d rather not discuss. These problems won’t get magically fixed by hiring a new and enlightened United Way director. It’s going to take the entire community to reverse this tide.

Fred Parry, fred@insidecolumbia.net

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