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Brockville Collegiate Institute 125 Years of Excellence Boomers A growing concern
More Than Just Blue
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Our Hometown Where does our future lie?
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LIFE • SPACES • PERSONALITIES • ENTERTAINMENT • BUSINESS
BCI Students 1930’s Photo courtesy of BCI
BCI Students 2013
Faculty - 1890s
INTHISISSUE
March 2013
A Brockville landmark, BCI shares it’s past, present & future.
Lysko): Our guest writers for the BCI feature: (L-R) Brittany Cassell, Rafay Mirza, Sarah Ried.
Triple-P - Self Esteem
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Brockville, Our Hometown Where is the future of our community
CONTRIBUTORS
INEVERYISSUE
FEATURES F amil y M atters
BCI Celebrates 125 Years
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Cover Image (courtesy of Jacqui
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Photo courtesy of BCI
(L-R) After the fire - 1929
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S enior M atters the Boomers
Editor: Connie Deir Staff Writers: Jacqui Lysko (LIB)
Russ Disotell
Editorial Contributors:
more t h an j ust blue Childhood Depression
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W ine W it h R uss
It’s about timing: Wine Kitz
• Rafay Mirza, Brittany Cassell & Sarah Ried • Dawn Edgley, CARP Brockville • Leigh Bursey
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Yout h in k
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R etail T h erap y
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A d v entures in datin g
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B rea k B oredom
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Home S paces Spring Dressings
• Kelly Bateson, The WeeSource • Professor Matt Sanders Graphic Design, Marketing & Sales:
Just E at , B roc k v ille
Calamity Jane’s
& Bud’s on the Bay
Jacqui Lysko: ingenius@ripnet.com Photography: InGenius Images
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EDITOR’SNOTEBOOK I’m not springing into Spring, I’m leaping. Winter can feel long; especially after putting away Christmas décor, the end of the festive gatherings. The snow is not as picturesque and we’re longing to store away the shovels, clear away the salt and sand and waiting for the first peek of green grass, tulips and crocuses to pop their heads up. It the time to clear the layers of cozines you’ve surrounded yourself with and throw open the windows and let the sun shine in. Living in Brockville welcomes the new season with feeling of exuberance, fresh ideas a renewed spirit that speaks of Spring. Spring Dressing (HomeSpaces) is all about lightening up your home’s decor. Get out to the local shops and find those simple treasures you can revive. This issue we celebrate 125 years with BCI, discuss important issues affecting us all and reflect on our future. We have a great community - get out and support it, we are all living in Brockville! We love hearing from you, the reader, so keep in touch!
Your story about Alzheimer’s really struck a cord with me. My mother suffered for eight years with the disease and it was devastating for our entire family. I was really inspired by Mary’s story. Thanks for making this an important issue and telling both sides of the story. Kathy L. Brockville I read the story about dental care in the February magazine and had to send you an email. With so many people having financial problems it seems that dental care is one of those luxuries many just can’t afford. I had no idea that this service was available. I love Living in Brockville because it always has something important to share. Thank you! Anthony W. Brockville I read your magazine online and really enjoyed it. Especially the ‘Adventures in Dating’ story. So funny and so true! I’ve tried the same site (I think...) and my experiences were almost exactly the same. I hope this will be a regular feature - I can’t wait to read the next one. Great magazine, I look forward to every month. Keep it up! Caroline D. Brockville I pick up Living in Brockville for my wife every month at ValuMart in Brockville. The story on Hybrid cars caught my eye and I found myself reading the whole magazine. This is a really great magazine! I guess I’ll be grabbing two magazines from now on - one for my wife and one for me. Congratulations for doing such a great job. Just call me a new fan and loyal reader. (via voice mail)
Connie Deir
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Sincere Congratulations to Brockville Collegiate Institute on 125 years of community service! Good Neighbours for 125 Years The BCI auditorium was used for graduations and other special functions for the hospital and the BGH School of Nursing prior to our new North addition in the late 1960s. Pictured is a nursing graduation in the BCI auditorium in 1961. Speaking at the podium is Leslie Frost, the 16th Premier of Ontario.
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Brockville Collegiate Institute 125 Years
Written By: Brittany Cassell, Rafay Mirza, Sarah Ried Photos: Courtesy of BCI, The Brockville
Museum & InGenius Images
1888-2013 It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity...
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This well-known line from ‘A Tale of Two Cities’ seems to be a perfect description of what high school means to most of us. When will you ever again have the opportunity to spend six hours a day surrounded by peers in an environment of academic and social learning? Our high school years help shape us as people and offer opportunities to discover ourselves while creating memories that last a lifetime. BCI has given wisdom to Brockville for 125 years. Three grade 12 students explain what their school means to
In 1955, the north technical wing opened. In 1986, the large addition of the west gymnasium was added. These were some of the most significant structural changes to the building.
When Thousand Islands Secondary School opened in 1960 and industrial arts and home economics were offered there, the school resumed its original name – Brockville Collegiate Institute. Thousand Islands Secondary School became the top rival of Brockville Collegiate Institute. T.I.S.S. may be known for their proficient athletics, but B.C.I has a history of success as well. The gymnasium has been home to boys’ and girls’ basketball, volleyball, badminton, and gymnastics teams. Hockey and curling teams were also featured on the ice. Rowing has long been a major competitive sport for B.C.I students, competing in regattas since 1921. Women’s crews were added in 1966 and continue to compete today. On the field, soccer, baseball, track, and rugby have all been a part of B.C.I’s past and present. The main sport at B.C.I has always been football. Many championships and great seasons have been had by past and present Red Ram footballers. In 1942, an army Cadet Corps was formed in affiliation with the Brockville Rifles. Bands, orchestras, Glee clubs, and Drama clubs have all been a part of B.C.I’s art department. This is just a small peek into the history of B.C.I. The school plans to celebrate 125 years of success May 24th-26th 2013. Former and current students will gather to share past and present memories at the event that is sure to be remembered for years to come.
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On March 8, 1929 a fire completely destroyed the school. It was reconstructed with brick and reopened on April 12, 1930 renamed Brockville Collegiate Institute and Vocational School. New educational departments – manual training and home economics were added.
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The school was made up of two gymnasiums, a laboratory, an assembly room, and offices. Teaching departments included Mathematics, Science, History, English, Art, Physical Culture, Commercial and General Work. Night courses were also offered free of charge. Due to a growing student population, the north wing addition was added to the school in 1908.
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Brockville Collegiate Institute began as Brockville High School in 1865 on James Street. Classes were held in a small building until enrolment increased in 1885 and plans were made to construct a new building. In the summer of 1888 reconstruction took place. Classes began in September of 1889, and the school was renamed to its current name, Brockville Collegiate Institute. Through the years, many things have changed at Brockville Collegiate Institute, but some have also remained the same. Omnia Vincit Labor (Works Conquers All) has been the schools motto since 1926, as well as the colours of black and red.
BCI Football Team - 1890 Photo: BCI
BCI Cadet Corp - 1914 (Photo: BCI)
BCI Band - 1921 (Photo: BCI)
BCI Front Entrance - 1930 (Photo: BCI)
BCI Musical Production - 1940 (Photo: BCI)
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BCI Girl’s Basketball Team - 1954 (Photo: BCI)
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Brockville, Our Hometown where does our future lie?
By Russ Disotell
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ndrew Pyper is an accomplished, young Ontario writer who grew up in Southwestern Ontario. His latest novel, The Guardians, has been critically acclaimed and I would unreservedly recommend it to anyone. To say that it is a chilling, haunted house, Gothic horror story that is sure to scare the daylights out of you is just scratching the surface. Full of twists and turns, sympathetic characters, outstanding dialogue and an evocation of small town life that is perfect it is closer to the style of Wilkie Collins and Joseph Conrad than Stephen King. Now you may be asking yourself, “Why a book review in Brockville Ink?”. For two reasons really. I really liked the book and thought it was the best thing I’ve read in ages. Secondly, writers tell our story. At their best they hold a mirror to the world with a reflection that is of such clarity and focus that it makes you pause. Pyper has done that in this novel. Consider the following passage that describes the protaganist’s fictional hometown of Grimshaw. “Never industrial enough to be outright abandoned in the way of the ghost towns of Ohio, Pennsylvania and Upstate New York, but not alert enough to attempt re-invention, Grimshaw was content to merely hang on, to take a subdued pride in its century homes on tree-lined streets, the stained facades of its Victorian storefronts, its daughters or sons who met with success upon moving away.”
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One stunningly beautiful sentence that, with an economy of words, describes the past, present and future of fictional Grimshaw as well as conveying an overriding sadness at its fate. While telling any and all about this wonderful book, I have quoted this passage to a number of friends. Invariably they comment that it is an apt description of Brockville, to which I reply, “Maybe yes, maybe no.” Andrew Pyper has never been to Brockville. While the passage is meaningful to our situation it also evokes the same feelings in any small sized city or town in Ontario. This is a condition we all share. The sentence is not the last in the story, just as this isn’t the end of Brockville’s story, there’s much more to be written. I view it as a possible future as opposed to a pronouncement of certainty. To my mind the key phrase is, “alert enough to attempt re-invention”. Cornwall, the city of my birth, was known as the home of the Howard Smith Papermill. Until it wasn’t. Smiths Falls was the home of the Hershey Chocolate plant. Until it wasn’t. Brockville was the home of Black & Decker. Until it wasn’t. As quick as that, the mere stroke of a pen by corporate headquarters, or now a simple keystroke and the industrial heart is torn from your town. With numerous communities facing the same harsh economic reality how does one recover? As Pyper implies it is more a matter of re-invention as opposed to recovery. Times have changed and it’s a brave new world. The days of a new
industry smoothly sliding in to replace the departed are long past. So where does a community start? Let’s begin by eliminating a couple of popular solutions frequently served up, but ultimately futile. The migration of jobs and plants to low wage Third World locations is still in full swing. It’s what started this economic crisis and to look for an all encompassing panacea in the same sector is counter-intuitive. Any gains are welcome, but unlikely to offset the losses. Sure you could hit the jackpot, like another of my hometowns, Woodstock Ontario, with the arrival of an auto plant, but these are one of a kind stories and do you want to bet the house on it? Not likely.
be found in the cultural community. Ask anyone who has recently relocated to Brockville and they will tell you they are amazed by the number of cultural events that take place in the city. That’s where our strength lies. It is a vital part of our economy and more importantly arts and culture doesn’t pack up the shop and leave town! It is irrevocably rooted in the community. The beauty of the cultural approach is that it works on a number of levels. Events such as the Jazz Festival, Concert Association, Food and Wine Show and hopefully Tall Ships Heritage Festival draw large audiences to the city. I would love to add an Oscar Wilde Theatre Festival to the mix, but that is something for the future.
Cornwall, the city of my birth, was known as the home of the Howard Smith Papermill. Until it wasn’t. Smiths Falls was the home of the Hershey Chocolate plant. Until it wasn’t. Brockville was the home of Black & Decker. Until it wasn’t. As quick as that, the mere stroke of a pen by corporate headquarters, or now a simple keystroke and the industrial heart is torn from your town. I have seen talk of the “cyclic nature of business” theory of recovery. The gist of the argument is that business and the economy are cyclical and all we have to do is ride out this storm and when the cycle turns businesses will come streaming back. Pseudo-science at best and junk science at its worst. There is no precedent for industries returning from abroad, it has never happened before. Adam Smith never envisioned circumstances like this. Waiting for the worm to turn is absurd, the jobs are gone and not returning. Common sense has to take over at some point. Many have tried to foist the burden on municipal governments, in a politically driven recovery theory. After all they are the politicians on the ground, so to speak, and they should do something. Sorry, but strictly speaking municipal governments aren’t in the job creation business. I mean no disrespect, but municipal politicians are keepers of the coffers, and guardians of the public purse. They balance the budget, and try to keep taxes in line while maintaining services. They can help create an atmosphere conducive to business but there are restrictions placed on them by their very nature. So that’s not where to look for a solution. Regular readers of this column will know where all of this is leading. To further reinforce my hypothesis I think we should look no further than our local economic development office. I think it is quite telling that arguably their two largest announcements in the last year have both dealt with arts and culture, the agreement with our Russian partners to bring a Ghenghis Khan extravaganza to Brockville and the announcement of The Tall Ships Heritage Festival to replace Riverfest.
On another level are festivals and events such as the festival I am associated with, The Thousand Islands Writers Festival (which is presenting An Evening with Terry Fallis on May 10th, cost $15). We don’t draw the audiences the large festivals do, but authors attending have gone home and posted warm comments about the city on their blogs and authors’ websites. It all helps. The events at this level all contribute to the fabric of our cultural community. Sometimes ideas to promote Brockville’s cultural diversity are eye-opening in their simplicity. Here again I have to divulge my personal connection to this item. Many of you will know that I have been the weekend anchor at Leeds County Books for many a year now. Earlier this year a customer pitched an idea he had for a promotion. He thought Brockville should be promoted as a booklover’s (actually he used the term bibliophile, which might be a little elitist) destination. The city has the only independent book retailer between Montreal and Kingston and suburban Ottawa, a thriving used book store, a fabulous library and the genealogical archives. Add an antiquarian bookshop (more on that at a later time) and the picture would be complete. Many cities would give their eye teeth for a lineup such as this. Finally, one of the strengths of this type of re-invention is that it relies on a broad spectrum of the community, not just one business, industry or group. It is a pervasive approach that includes all aspects of the cultural community, large and small. It places the onus of Brockville’s future where it should be, squarely on the shoulders of its citizens. All comments are welcome! Email brockvilleink@hotmail.com
Arts and culture should be the new economic cornerstone of the city. Not the only one, but at this juncture quite possibly the most vital. The energy needed for re-invention can
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The baby boomers are the most important and influential demographic in history.
Submitted by: Dawn Edgley, Representative, Eastern Ontario CARP - A New Vision of Aging for Canadians
With Baby Boomers starting to reach the age of 65 en masse, Ontario is awaiting a massive demographic shift. The number of Ontarians over the age of 65 is set to double from 1.9 million or 14.2 per cent of the population to 4.2 million, or 23.6 per cent by 2036.
Leeds Grenville ‘Zoomers’ put the ‘Shock’ in Demographic Shock 55% of residents in Leeds Grenville are over the age of 45 Zoomers encompass both the Baby Boomers (in Canada, 4462) and those who are older. It’s a vast group of more than 14.5 million and accounts for 44 percent of the population, while controlling more than 70 percent of Canadian wealth. Statistics Canada 2011 reports that there is approximately 55% of the population aged 45 plus in Leeds. In Ontario 43% of the overall population are over 45. It’s critical for communities to recognize that this mass demographic will make financial, social and political impacts that have never before been seen. If current trend continues, Leeds Grenville will continue to grow it’s senior demographic. This year, 2013, the Ontario Seniors’ Secretariat released Ontario’s Action Plan for Seniors which is a good tool for Ontario communities to take note of. It’s also important for communities such as Leeds Grenville, to focus on other government initiatives made available to us such as the World Health Organizations AGE FRIENDLY COMMUNITIES initiative.
Understanding Zoomers People age 45+ are ACTIVE, HEALTHY and LIVING LONGER It’s reported that Healthy Living in Canada will be a billion dollar business in Canada and, a trillion dollars business in America before 2020. Healthy Living includes physical, financial and psychological well-being. Canadians are also living longer. According to Statistics Canada, the average life expectancy for Canadians at age 65 is 20 years, with women living even longer than men. Stats Can also predicts that 17,000 Canadians could reach age 100 by the early 2030s.
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Living longer requires financial security for a longer period of time so one of the things we are seeing is that Zoomers are not giving up their positions in the workplace to the younger generation. The top 6 concerns of baby boomers are: 1. Having enough money to retire 2. Overall financial health 3. Having enough energy to do what they want 4. Having enough money for health care 5. Taking action to prevent disease; and 6. Getting good advice from doctors
Age Friendly Brockville and Leeds Grenville Its important to remember that the Zoomer demographic is more than good business, a demographic shock or a group to be generalized. They are individuals who are part of a community. A community of people make up their own unique ‘community personality’. To really understand the other side of aging, you have to look at the community as a whole identifying the demographics, characteristics, resources and needs to ensure a comprehensive plan for excellent quality of life for everyone. It’s also connecting with organizations to understand the real issues facing aging in your community. There are many important organizations, businesses and groups who work very to impact the community. But to be truly successful in developing an Age Friendly Community where people want to live, it requires government, businesses, groups, organizations and people to be knowledgeable and share knowledge, to network, combine resources and come together for a greater good. Some of the most important area of needs (not all and in no specific order) in communities are: • Elder Abuse • Ageism • Seniors living in poverty • Alzheimer’s and Dementia • Seniors living in sickness • Loneliness, lack of social inclusion, helplessness • Lack of education about rights for seniors • Struggles facing those with physical and mental disabilities • Financial and other support needed for nonprofit organizations to succeed
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Give young people appropriate and important responsibilities within the family. Kids don’t really mind helping out around the house. Just remind them sometimes why having these responsibilities is so important. Try doing some household jobs together and put some music on to help make them more fun. Or try giving them a few jobs and letting them choose one at a time.
Encouraging children, showing them positive values, helping them cope with stress and giving them responsibilities can help raise healthy, caring, responsible children and build a brighter future.
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Self Esteem Children with healthy self-esteem are likely to make friends easily and be happy, cooperative and successful at school. They cope with stress effectively and are fun people to be around. However self-esteem doesn’t come built-in at birth. We first learn our view of ourselves during childhood. As parents it is therefore very important to help your child develop a true sense of their own strengths and weaknesses. Encouraging self-esteem in children comes down to a consistent, positive approach to their upbringing. Children who receive plenty of praise and encouragement feel good about themselves. A child who believes their parents have confidence in them, by allowing them to do certain things by themselves, will learn confidence. Telling your child you love them and spending time with them will help your child feel valued and cared for. It’s important to encourage children to follow a healthy lifestyle. Regular exercise and good grooming habits help children develop a positive image. It’s equally important for the development of healthy self-esteem that children learn how to deal with disappointment.
By: Professor Matt Sanders A child who is not chosen for a team may put themselves down, saying: “I’m dumb, you hate me” or “I’m just stupid”. If this happens, try to avoid being too sympathetic; instead encourage your child to try again after the set-back and enjoy the activity or game even if they aren’t chosen every time. Rather than simply reassuring your child that everything will be alright, let them know you understand their disappointment. Work with your child to find a reasonable way of dealing with that disappointment. Remember too, concentrate on the effort your child puts in, not the results. Praising your child for trying and making an improvement will motivate them to continue trying at a difficult task. Parenting Tip: Laughter really is a great medicine. Children who feel good about themselves laugh spontaneously, develop a sense of humour and learn to tell funny stories. Encourage your child to laugh by listening to their stories, playing games and having fun together. Professor Matt Sanders is founder of the Triple P - Positive Parenting Program. Contact Leeds Grenville Lanark District Health Unit or visit the web at www.triplep.net or www.triplepontario.ca
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veryone experiences ups and downs and it’s natural to be unhappy when confronted by problems and setbacks. These unhappy feelings are usually temporary, but for some people, sad feelings last a long time and are quite severe. “Depression” is a clinical term used by psychiatrists to describe a long period when a person feels very sad to the point of feeling worthless, hopeless and helpless.
important to consider depression does not affect only adults. The pressures of school and growing up can be overwhelming and difficult for children to cope with and can lead to loss of appetite, aches and pains, and lack of energy. Children and young adults can feel the affects of their parents’ problems as well. If there is a job loss, a marriage breakdown or financial difficulties and it’s almost impossible to keep this from our children, no matter how a parent tries.
Depression can be caused by stress, a loss, or a major disappointment, but sometimes, it seems to happen for no particular reason at all. Whatever the reason may be, depression can affect all aspects of our lives: work, family relationships, friendships, and even our physical health. It’s
Regardless of the reasons, it’s very likely a depressed child will think that no one else feels the same way and that no one will understand. Sometimes it can be hard for adults to understand how difficult children’s problems can be because we look at their problems through adult eyes. It is important
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that we remind ourselves that, while their problems may seem unimportant to us, they can be overwhelming to them.
automatically schedule family counselling sessions when they are working with a depressed child.
They are unlikely to talk about it but your first warning signs will probably be changes in behaviour that may suggest a troubled and unhappy state of mind. Your child, who used to be active and involved, may suddenly
Be honest with siblings, and other family members; your child will have several sources of support and understanding. It’s often easier for a child to talk to extended family members such as grandparents or siblings about their feelings.
Depression can be caused by stress, a loss, or a major disappointment, but sometimes, it seems to happen for no particular reason at all. become quiet and withdrawn, a good student might start getting poor grades. Do not assume that your child is experiencing a major depression, your child may, however, be depressed and need professional help if there are unexplained changes in their behaviour or if you notice several of the following signs of depression: Your child may show signs of being unhappy, worried, guilty, angry, fearful, helpless, hopeless, lonely or rejected. There are often physical changes as well; your child may start to complain of headaches, or general aches and pains. He/she may have a lack of energy, sleeping or eating problems, or feel tired all the time. They may say things that indicate low self-esteem, self-dislike or selfblame. He/she may have difficulty concentrating or frequently experience negative thoughts. They may even think and talk about suicide. Changes in behavior may be present as well; your child might withdraw from others, cry easily or show less interest in sports, games or other fun activities that they normally like. they might over-react and have sudden outbursts of anger or tears over fairly small incidents. Depression in children is not uncommon and you should talk to your child and reassure them that it’s OK to feel sad sometimes. Encourage your child to talk to you about how they feel and what is bothering them. But, if you think your child is seriously depressed, do not panic, professional help is available and depression is very treatable. Start by checking with your family doctor to find out if there could be a physical cause for your child’s feelings of fatigue, aches and pains, and low moods. Talk to your child’s school to find out if any teachers have also noticed changes in behaviour and mood. Many school boards have professional counsellors on staff and they may be able to refer you to individual or group counselling to help children and teens cope with stress. It is important as well to recognize your own feelings about your child’s depression. Since it is not always known why children become depressed, you might find that you are feeling guilty or frustrated. Without wanting to, you may let your child know this and make them feel rejected and misunderstood. It is not easy to cope with the needs of a depressed child. You may need help in learning how to help your child deal with their unhappy feelings as well as how to deal with your own feelings about their problems. Consider counselling for yourself as well as for your child. Many therapists
Exercise and a healthy diet can also help. Research on anxiety, depression and exercise shows that the psychological and physical benefits of exercise can also help reduce anxiety and improve mood. When your child is feeling down exercise can have a positive affect by releasing feel-good brain chemicals that may ease depression (neurotransmitters and endorphins). Exercise also has many psychological and emotional benefits too, it can help take their mind off their worries, add more social interaction and exercise has the added benefit of helping your child sleep better. A healthy diet is important for any child and restricting the intake of sugary treats and caffeine (soft drinks) can help alleviate the affects of depression. Consider a multi- vitamin and healthy snacks, decrease the amount of sugar and processed foods in your child’s diet as well. Teens have a multitude of emotional strife in their lives. The stress of school, dating and just wanting to fit in can seem overwhelming at times. They often find the themselves trapped between wanting to be treated like adults and needing to be carefree children at the same instant. The onset of puberty amplifies this period of their lives as hormones wreak havoc. It’s impossible to convey to your teen that high school and popularity will not define their future. The number one way you can help with your child’s depression is to simply encourage them to talk about why they feel sad. Set aside your own feelings and let them explain why they feel the way they do - and really listen, focus on what they are saying. Plan time alone with your depressed child, take a drive or a walk every evening and allow them to express their feelings without judging them. Problems that may seem trivial to you could seem overwhelming to them. If you feel your child is in crisis, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. Depression can be a serious problem and it’s often up to you, as a parent, to admit your child may need more help than you can offer. Allowing your child to express their feelings and learning to cope will encourage them to become healthy adults. After all, all we want as parents is to raise happy, healthy children.
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Bud’s on the Bay, in the heart of Downtown Brockville, has always been known for being the place to go during the summer, their roof-top patio offers spectacular views of the waterfront that are second to none. But, Bud’s on the Bay offers so much more all year round. The recently renovated bar is charming with lots of room for both small or larger groups and its a fabulous place to meet with friends and unwind any time of the day. Bud’s claim to fame is the great menu; steaks and seafood cooked to perfection and a variety of appetizers and entrees that please even the fussiest palette make Bud’s one of the most popular spots for residents and visitors. They open daily at 7:30 am and serve up a great breakfast, and this is one of the few restaurants in Brockville where you could easily eat every day. Start with breakfast, drop in for lunch and meet friends for dinner - the menu is that diverse. Bud’s owner, John Ackerman and his staff are always friendly and welcoming, the service is top-notch and they are sure to have your favourite brew on tap. This local landmark is one of the most highly recommended eateries in Brockville check it and you’ll know why! Send in your vote for Bud’s on the Bay as one of Brockville’s best spots - it’s far more than just a Summer favourite.
Calamity Jane’s Dining Lounge Just a short drive from Brockville in Addison you’ll find Calamity Jane’s Dining Lounge. Opened in 1984, this fine-dining restaurant is family-owned and operated. Linda Smallgange and Chef, Rick Sequin offer a true fine-dining experience where every detail is important; atmosphere, table settings, presentation, food quality and service - no detail is too small. Award-winning chef, Rick takes great pride in the menu, offering local or Canadian fare whenever possible and each entree is made-to-order. “We cut each steak fresh when it’s ordered and grill it to the patron’s specifications.” Calamity Jane’s ensures the steaks are well aged, Canadian Prime and seasoned to perfection. Well known for it’s Prime Rib, this restaurant has a reputation for serving the best cut thick as not to disappoint. Calamity Jane’s has a soothing and relaxing atmosphere that’s perfect for intimate dinners for two or family/friend gatherings. Fine food, great wines and beverages and professional service has helped to make this Dining Lounge well worth the drive. If this is your favourite dining spot, let us know. Bon appetite!
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ast year Living In Brockville Magazine published a very timely editorial named “Brockville’s Disappearing Youth.” When this article first came across my desk, I had mixed feelings about it. I’m always frustrated by what appears to be a negative view of youth in our community, but I am also encouraged to see this as a reoccurring topic of conversation. It’s important to be aware of the challenges facing our area youth, and that we do our best to address them. In the article, the work that my youth committee had been doing was cited, which was also encouraging. So I felt it incumbent on me to share the information that we’ve gathered from community exercises that we have participated in, including our Brockville Youth Survey Report.
In spring 2012, the Brockville Youth Advisory Committee began circulating a youth questionnaire, focusing on demographic issues, viewpoints and local lifestyle trends of young people. The survey focused on specifics like their age and what gender they identify as, while asking broader-based questions based on volunteerism, shopping trends, youth engagement, and what can be improved. In total, 118 surveys were examined. We had youth and young professionals take part from every age between thirteen and thirty. Over 77.6% of respondents live in Brockville. Others live close by and commute to Brockville for school or work. The highest percentage of participants (66.2%) ranged between ages fourteen and eighteen, making this analysis very representative of teenage adolescence. 46.8% of participants were male, while 48.9% were female, offering almost an even gender-bias. 56.9% of
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those who identified themselves as eighteen years of age or older, do vote or plan to at their first opportunity. When asked “Do you believe there are enough services available to youth in need? If not, provide examples of which ones you’d like to see made available.” Two-thirds of our respondents said yes. Some disclosed utilizing resources that they did not know were available until the time came where they were in need, and most seemed fairly enthusiastic. For those that did not feel that our community offered enough services to at risk youth, items highlighted included jobs, shopping choices, youth shelters, low-cost entertainment options, more counseling for teens, and more arts and recreation options. Others highlighted specific items, like more snow clearing on non-priority sidewalks with higher density of apartment dwellers, more affordable housing options, a desire to see more hobby fairs, and more userfriendly public transportation options.
“There are great employment resources but the ‘old boys’ town does lack career options for youth.” – male, 27 years.
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When asked if youth “feel welcome in this city,” three quarters of respondents said yes, which is positive considering how often adolescent youth feel isolated or challenged in any community setting. A concurrent theme that dominated this question’s many responses was that even though our youth feel welcome, they find that this city tends to focus on older adults, which creates cultural challenges. “As a youth who has disabilities, people judge very quickly in this town. I want to be passionate, but there are so many roadblocks that it frustrates me.” – female, 23 years. “A lot of people here are great and they do what they can.” – male, 14 years. Next, participants were asked “what are three challenges that you feel are facing youth in this community?” Drugs, alcohol, lack of jobs, bullying, and lack of things to do led the pack.
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“Bullying is a huge concern. There is a lot that happens here. And it is not just a lack of jobs, but the types of jobs we have available.” – male, 19 years. “Bullying is a big problem in this town. Many of my friends and I have been bullied. Another big one is drugs. I have never done drugs, but I have lost friends to drugs. It’s hard to get a job, and whenever one opens, they get snatched up quickly.” - male, 15 years. “Too many kids are in desperate need of guidance, especially to do with addiction. – female, 21 years. “The biggest challenge is that kids don’t believe in themselves.” – male, 13 years. Many of these findings depict life throughout eastern Ontario, but regardless of how common some of these feelings may be, there are action items that could make way for improvements in many of these areas. Remind our youth that there is plenty to do in our community, but opportunities need to be sought out and explored. In next month’s issue of Living In Brockville, I’ll continue this analysis, highlighting other themes in the areas of downtown shopping trends, volunteerism, and employment.
Leigh Bursey is a 25 year old Brockville City Councillor, chair of the Brockville Youth Advisory Committee, and volunteer coordinator at the Volunteer Centre of St. Lawrence-Rideau.
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Nothing says Spring like fresh flowers. Even though it’s still months away from gardenfresh, treat yourself to a bouquet of fresh-cut and add some much needed touches of Mother nature to every room in your home. Don’t be fussy with containers and vases just use anything that speaks to you of warmer weather.
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Adventures in Dating: Identifying Your Prey Valentine’s Day is behind us for another year. Can I get an “Amen!”? Last month we touched on one of types of daters we seem to stumble upon, the “needy” guy/gal. You know the ones that after the first date want to skip any actual getting to know one another, call it a monogamous relationship and start shopping for pillow shams? Next!
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There’s another particular dater out there that I think we all need to have our radars up for, the dreaded MOOCH! Have any of you ladies/gents out there ever started to wonder if they only like you for your groceries? Seriously? Do you HAVE any food in your own house? Get your own CapN’Crunch! I had one guy tell me that his date showed up for their first dinner with her three kids. Now that’s a whole other level of mooch and actually more of a career to be honest. All kidding aside, I think that it is a sign of selfishness and it isn’t apt to improve with time. If you start finding yourself hiding food before they come over, you know, in that “blind spot” under the crisper/towards the back of the fridge, DON’T have them over. Simple as that.
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The superficial type is quite specific in how they’d like you to look and ask questions like, “Do you ever wear your hair up/down/ short/long/curly or straight?” or “Do you ever wear skirts/pants/ long red underwear or a burqa?” I kid you not this happened to me once. I was having lunch with a “man” I’d been seeing for a few months when over the course of the meal he says to me, “I like my women with long hair.” OK, I understand the “my women” phrase deserves some major attention but I haven’t the time, inclination or frankly the education to properly deal with it. As well, he was sitting across the table from me who at the time had very short and spiky hair. I replied with, “Ya, I like my MEN with emotional maturity so I guess we’re both **** out of luck!” Next! Finally, (I’m sorry fellas but this one is just for the ladies as there is no female equivalent) the MAMA’S BOY. To all you mothers with sons out there: If they are 16 years of age or older and you are still washing, drying, folding and putting away their laundry, making their lunches, cooking their favourite dinner every Thursday, telling them how right they are even when they’re not and tucking them in at night, sweet Jesus!!! will you please stop!!!!! No other woman (if she has any self esteem whatsoever) will ever treat him as well as you did/do. That is if you consider teaching him no life skills and rendering him incapable as treating him well. Remember, dating is both entertainment and a sport! Keep raising the bar!
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Break Boredom! Every year our school aged kids count down to Spring Break – a whole week off of school! A full week of having our kids home is a long time to keep them busy. Many people are lucky enough to be heading South to take advantage of a warmer climate for the week. They are hitting the beach or Disney World for a week of quality family time. For the rest of us left behind….. what is there to DO?! Other than making them do their homework, clean their rooms and any other ‘make work’ house projects, how can we keep them busy? Because let’s face it…. a full day (or week!) of “I’m BORED” is not desirable. So, with Spring Break fast approaching, let’s discuss some ideas to make it fun for the kids – and manageable for the mamas and papas too! 1) What do they want to do? It’s always a great idea to ask your kids what they have an interest in doing. Involving them in the planning of the week will prove much more successful than imposing a workshop or camp that you have registered them in, without a prior discussion. Then when the time comes, your child will be excited to partake in whichever activity you have “planned” with them. After all, anticipation is half the fun! 2) Visiting with family and friends. Do you have family you could visit that also are looking for things to do with their kids? You could plan a sleep over or get together? Visiting with grandparents is also a great idea and breaks up the long days for parents. If family is too far or you have friends who have kids at home that week, plan a play date! or plan two! Having the kids all together is a blast and it allows you to have some adult time as well.
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3) Make a Fun Box. Just use a shoebox or jar which has a variety of family activities that you can enjoy at home even if the weather is bad. Do you all have a favorite board game, movie, craft, or family recipe that is fun to do together? Making a fun box can be a great way to plan the day. If you put all your ideas in the box, you can pull one activity per day to do together. Involve your kids in the making of it so they have their input too, as planning these activities in advance with your kids, will ensure they will have an interest when you pull each one. 4) Dollar Store Outing! Give your child a small budget of 5 dollars and take them to the dollar store! You can ask that from that budget they purchase a craft which you can all do together. It’s a minimal expense for a local outing and facilitates an activity together later! Not to mention how much fun it is for kids to spend their own money on things that they want. It always amazing to me how kids love the dollar store items as much or more than the expensive toys we buy them. 5) Winter Camp out! What’s that you say? In your living room that is! Dust off the tent and have a camp-out in your living room. Let the kids stay up late, make s’mores and read their bedtime books with flashlights! Don’t have a tent? Make a FORT. Even better… 6) Take some time to explore Brockville. Check out the activities being offered at various places in the community. Spend a day at the museum, a trip to the library, the YMCA and the Memorial Centre. For additional suggestions check out The WeeSource website: www.theweesource.com Submitted by: Kelly Bateson
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