Before CFS Many patients report that they were: ~
active people,
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with many commitments
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having high achievement
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some having perfectionist
standards tendencies
If you expect 100% of yourself all of the time then ~
You will spend more energy than those with lower expectations.
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There will be increased arousal of the nervous system and adrenaline production which causes fatigue, aches, headache, dizziness, palpitations and sore throat.
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There is less tolerance of tiredness
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The result is a person who will continue to push themselves.
High expectations can make you feel like a failure no matter what you do. If you do not reach your own expectations you can view your effort as a failure. The constant expectation to be perfect becomes a chronic source of stress when that individual fails to meet his or her high standard. -:
Perfectionists and those with very high standards often miss out on fun, relaxation and satisfaction.
Ways of Coping with Perfectionism ,.
Make a list of the advantages and disadvantages
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Increase your awareness of the all-or-nothing way of thinking. For example, viewing everything as good-bad, success-failure.
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Be realistic about what you can do. Don't expect too much.
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Learn how to deal with criticism. Learn to acknowledge your mistakes and assert your right to make mistakes.
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of trying to be perfect.