REALISTIC NEW YEAR’S GOALS
THE FUTURE OF SPRING
FASHIONS FOR THE WORKPLACE THE CREATED WOMAN The New Face of Philanthropy and Fresh Starts
TABLE OF CONTENTS January/February 2013 issue
“Created to Be: New Beginnings & Love Through Philanthropy”
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EDITOR’S NOTE Learning to Be Different and Learning to Love Differently
10 GIRL ON THE STREET Journey of the Working Woman 26 WELL WOMAN Out with Your Past… In with Your Present 32 FASHION FEATURE Spring Forward 38 THE CREATED WOMAN The Intersection of Always and Never 58 SPECIAL FEATURE Relationships: I’m Not Afraid of the Dark Anymore 62 INSIDE/OUT How to Love
EDITOR’S NOTE
Created To Be
Learning to be Different and Learning to Love Differently
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ew beginnings bring both the feeling of excitement and anxiety; it’s a mixture of emotions that always seems to come hand-in-hand. You’re excited that you finally landed the job you always wanted, but now you feel anxious because you have to prove you deserve it. The feel of a newborn baby up against your chest brings a rush of delight and love like you’ve never felt; yet the fear of the unknown hovers over you. Will I be a good mom? Will I teach her to make wise choices? Will she love who she is? So many questions and anxieties along with feelings of sheer delight overwhelm us when we begin anew. A new year seems to always have that mixture of emotions, even before its arrival. In the midst of the holiday season’s hustle and bustle, most of us think or even say out loud, “In just a few weeks, I can finally rest, get my house in order, start to exercise more, study more, have more time, and begin fresh!” We thrive on making ourselves better – in the New Year.
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It’s a journey of a lifetime; one that’s ongoing and ever-changing. The good news is that we can do and be something now!
But what’s with the wait, really? Created Woman Magazine was founded on the idea that we’re continually becoming and being the women we were created to be. It’s a journey of a lifetime; one that’s ongoing and ever-changing. The good news is that we can do and be something now! This past year marked a huge year for us at Created Woman. We launched the first magazine and boy did we learn a lot! So, it just made sense that after a year of learning, growing, and being stretched so much that our first issue of the year’s theme would be “Created To Be.” Who were you really created to be? What were 4 | Created Woman January/February 2013
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you created to do? Now that we’re on the cusp of 2013, don’t just come up with a list of well-meaning yet senseless goals. Make strategic goals that align with who you are; make goals that make you feel excited and anxious all at once. The truth is, all of us were created to love; it’s the foundation of who we are that sometimes gets lost in translation. Who do we love? What do we love to do? How do we love? It’s a characteristic that’s a common thread through time as we’ve seen women overcome so many obstacles. We fought for our country or a cause we believed in because of love; we cooked and cleaned for hours to make a home for our family because we loved them; we’ve gone to great lengths to salvage a relationship all for love…. and the list goes on. (Created Woman, pg. 38 & February’s special feature pg. 58)
(Fashion Feature, pg 32). But even though our core may look similar, the journey for each one of us is different and will never look like anyone else’s. This is what makes each of us unique. So as we leap into the New Year and ponder which goals to inscribe into 2013, ask yourself one question: “Who was I created to be?” In finding that truth, you’ll discover ways to love better, give better, and become a healthier version of who you are today: mentally, physically, and spiritually. (Well Woman pg. 26 Inside Out pg 64). You may even choose a new career! (Girl on the Street, pg 10) It’s a question we dare you to ask! Enjoy becoming and being the woman you were created to be in 2013!
Heather Frierson
As you look back over the years, you’ll find that at the core, we haven’t really changed much – even fashion keeps revolving back to the days of yesterday as we move forward
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GIRL on the STREET
JOURNEY OF THE WORKING WOMAN 1970’s - Era of the Working Woman Tennis shoes paired with bland business suits
1980’s - Era of the Power Suit Shoulder pads and glam
1990’s - Era of Casual Friday Khakis and cardigan sets
Today - From Day to Night!
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Trend Stylist: Nichole Gorham Favorite Fashion Trend: “I’m in love with Oxblood right now. It’s the perfect color. Pair it with leather, lace, and boots and it’s a trifecta.” Nichole is an everyday woman figuring out life in Austin, Texas, with her husband, Chris, and their beloved dogs. She’s a fashion lover, editor, writer, and singer who loves using all of her talents and dabbling in multiple projects that interest her. A graduate of the University of Texas-Austin, she recently started a new chapter in her life as an English teacher. Trend Stylist: Eskarleth A. Gonzales Favorite Fashion Trend: “ Currently, it would be the Peplum tanks and Baroque (Brocade) embellishments and patterns.” Born and raised in Monterrey Nuevo Leon, Mexico, Eskarleth’s now living in the beautiful Austin, TX, along with her loving family while finishing her senior year of Fashion Merchandising at Texas State University. Described as a “lovely and cheerful” young woman with big dreams and aspirations, she’s preparing for a new beginning overseas next year and hopes that France will fill her with precious knowledge about fashion and art. She’s honored to be a part of Shoreline’s Church worship team and is thankful for the many talents and smiles she can bless others with.
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WELL WOMAN Out with Your Past… In with Your Present
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ere we go again. A new year has begun with new hopes and goals that usually include some type of program to exercise and eat healthy. The idea of starting a new fitness regimen at the beginning of the year is nothing new and pretty typical.
Take Sharon, for example, who’s in her mid-40’s and hasn’t exercised regularly since her early 30’s. She’s frustrated with the weight she’s gained over the years. She suffers from a lack of energy and feels she’s always taking care of everyone but herself. She’s ready to get started with all new workout clothes and a new gym membership along with the schedule of all the exercise classes. She’s decided to cut out all cokes and fast food and will start cooking every night of the week. She recalls the eating plan she once followed to quickly shed those extra pounds and has purchased all of the products and ingredients needed to get started. Sharon is confident she’ll stick to her exercise and eating plan since she was once motivated and disciplined enough to do it before. Then, suddenly, after a few short weeks, it seems to be a struggle to stay consistent and she falls back into her old ways and gives up. She’s completely frustrated at her inability to stick to any type of exercise program and feels hopeless about her lack of motivation and discipline to eat healthy. However, there is hope. A lack of discipline and motivation may not be her real struggle. 28 | Created Woman January/February 2013
Sharon, unfortunately, has attempted to start an exercise and diet program that was successful in a previous time in her life. She hasn’t stopped to evaluate her current lifestyle enough to realize that what worked in the past will most likely not work in her present. Sharon forgot that when she was single, she had no other responsibilities or obligations except for herself. Then, when she got married, she and her husband were able to spend their evenings at the gym before children came along. She also forgot that she was fresh out of college with an entry-level position at work that had few demands and responsibilities. If Sharon’s story sounds familiar to you, take a few minutes and walk down memory lane. There may have been a time in your past that you were exercising consistently and eating healthier; however, life for you today is much different. How has it changed? Are you married and trying to adjust to new schedules, interests and routines? Do you have young children, juggling new responsibilities with less sleep? Are your children involved in extracurricular activities and most of your days spent in the car? Has your career blossomed with new responsibilities and demanding deadlines?
I’ve worked with so many women, to Are you a proud grandparent who assists in create a fitness and food design for their babysitting along with many other volunteer lifestyle, who realize they can be successful projects in your community? If any of these at weight loss, eating scenarios describe your Create a new program healthy, exercising, current lifestyle, it’s preparing healthy unrealistic to think that that’ll work with your present meals and having more you can exercise and lifestyle and fitness level. energy; but it can’t eat as you did in your happen trying to do past. If you haven’t yet what worked in the past. To exercise and evaluated your current lifestyle before starting eat healthy consistently, forget about what a new program, you may be setting yourself may have worked in your past. Create a up for failure. Trying to exercise and eat new program that’ll work with your present the way you did in a past life with different lifestyle and fitness level. Remember, there responsibilities, schedules, and fitness levels are different seasons of our life and we have will simply not work in your new season of life. to adapt to each one. Your season may It’s self-sabotage. even change month to month and require a new plan. However, with a little effort, preparation, knowledge, and flexibility, you can have discipline and stay motivated to take care of your health by working out regularly with a healthy diet.
Slow Cooker Orange Chicken
8 boneless, skinless chicken thighs 3 Tbsp flour 1/3 cup orange marmalade 1/3 cup Kraft Original Barbecue Sauce 2 Tbsp soy sauce 1 Tbsp grated, fresh gingerroot
As you prepare your resolutions to exercise and eat healthy for 2013, do it with a realistic plan you can stick with longer than a few weeks. Throw out your past way of doing things and embrace your present with a completely new plan.
1. Toss chicken with flour in slow cooker 2. Stir in all remaining ingredients and cover 3. Cook on low for 6-8 hours or high for 3-4 My tip: Serve with rice and steamed green beans. Substitute chicken breasts (nutritional value may change). Serves 4 Calories – 340 Fat – 11 gms Fiber – 1 gms Protein - 28 gms
About Author: Crystal Breaux www.yourfitnessdesigner.com facebook.com/@yourfitnessdesigner Favorite Trend: “Ankle boots, flats and heels” As a fitness and food designer for busy women, Crystal’s passionate about helping women design fitness and food plans that actually work for their lifestyles and meet their health goals. Happily married for sixteen years and mom to two children; Hannah, age 8, and Zach, age 4.
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SPRING FORWARD As we’re bundled in chunky sweaters, boots, and leggings, wrapped in a scarf that gives our outfit that perfect touch it needs, sipping on warm lattes and delicious hot chocolates, those steeped in the fashion world are bustling around preparing what you and I will be wearing for seasons to come.
Fashion can be quite exhausting to keep up with. The season hasn’t yet arrived and next season’s looks are invading the runways at Fashion Week. The beauty of modern fashion is that from season to season, you can take your favorite pieces and work them into the current “Must-Have List”. Let’s talk spring. I know it’s hard to fathom, but soon the sweaters and scarves will go back into hiding and the colors of spring will be popping up everywhere.
SHEER DETAILING Summer of 2012 was all about cut-out detailing. The up and coming spring looks have a similar take on this. Those cut-outs that were showing all that skin in the summer are now being lined with the most gorgeous lace detailing. This will be a trend that you can carry into summer, and this Michael Kors dress is the perfect dress to go out to dinner in. It’s definitely a show-stopper.
Color Blocking Coloring blocking hit the scene in modern day fashion during the spring and summer of 2012, and it has yet to leave! The colors on the runway range from bright reds mixed with blues to gorgeous sea-foams mixed with pale pinks and turquoise, like this Diane Von Furstenberg ensemble. For spring, you can easily work in some of your corals and lighter jewel tones from last year’s summer wardrobe.
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Classic Jewelry For several seasons past, the verdict on jewelry has been “the bigger, the better.� The more recent trends, however, are classic pieces mixed in with the bold colors seen on the runway. Simple earrings, a dainty bracelet, or a classic watch are just some of the classic accessories that you should incorporate into your look this season. Finding that perfect detail can be difficult, but this strand of pearls from VeritasBoutique.com is the perfect piece to mix into your wardrobe. Not only will this amazingly simple statement be great for spring, but you and your wardrobe can enjoy this piece for years to come.
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Bold Stripes From pants to blazers and classy A-Line dresses, stripes are a great way to make a bold statement. For years we’ve been told that vertical stripes can add on the pounds, but don’t be afraid to play with this trend. Although this bold black and white number might be a little too much for some, you can try stripes in other ways! Try layering a fun cardigan printed with a bold stripe over a simple black dress, or even try striped accents on the end of your pant cuffs. Don’t be afraid to branch out and try something new. Any way you choose to incorporate stripes into your look, you can be sure you’ll make a bold statement!
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Hard and Soft Spikes mixed with loose and breezy tops, leather mixed with silk; “Hard and Soft” is a concept we’ve come to know and love in our wardrobes. Spring is all about the frilly, girly details mixed with tough leather accessories. This amazing look from Saint Laurent gives you an idea on how to add that perfect touch to a super feminine look. Adding in an accessory like a great belt will give your look the edge it needs.
Any time the seasons change, the fashion changes that come along with it can be overwhelming. This spring doesn’t have to be overwhelming! Find those trends that work for you and stick with them. Also, try to incorporate timeless fashion inspirations along with your favorite, seasonal pieces! Don’t forget to have fun, be bold, and wear whatever you have with confidence!
About Author: Amy Riojas twitter.com/@fancyladyjane Favorite Trend: “Brightly colored faux fur in and shade!” Lifestyle blogger, fashion lover, wife to husband Ryan and mom to her two Chihuahuas, Beauxregard and Liam.
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The Created Woman The
Intersection
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t was the beginning of my sophomore year in college. Mom, Aunt Rose and I were driving to move me into my very first apartment; one I would share with three other girls. The sincerity of their encouragement for me was only exceeded by my excitement to begin this next step toward independence. Their comments were intended to be a celebration, a rite of passage and a reminder of generational responsibility. They believed in me and told me how proud they were that I would be one of the first generation of college graduates in my family. Their words painted a picture of me as a responsible adult with a career and a bright and successful future. As I listened, I counted the remaining drive time, wishing the clock would miraculously move faster; anything to hasten our arrival and thereby end the “lecture”. Finally, with a groan and as much sass as I could muster, I rolled my eyes, took a loud, deep breath and responded, “The last thing I want is to live like you two! Your lives are boring. I want excitement!” (Somehow it didn’t occur to me that my parents’ “boring” lives were paying for my apartment, living expenses and tuition.) Fast for ward three decades. I am on the road again, this time I am driving. My cell phone set to hands free, I dial the number of the woman I had come to recognize as the wisest woman in the world. “Mom, would you please send me your Cornbread Dressing recipe? I want mine to taste just like yours!” We hung up and the traffic light turned from amber to
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“I suspect that women all over the world have had the epiphany I experienced at the intersection. It’s easy to look at the generation before us and wonder.” red. Suddenly it hit me. In my teenage years and even through my twenties, I NEVER wanted to be like my mom, conventional and oh so predictable. Yet, I ALWAYS watched and imitated her because she was elegant, generous and so ver y fearless.
Wake Up I suspect that women all over the world have had the epiphany I experienced at the intersection. It’s easy to look at the generation before us and wonder why they settled for so little when we’re young. As we mature and travel through life, the day arrives when we hear our Mother’s words come out of our own mouths or we look in the mirror and see Aunt Mar y’s double chin or bushy eyebrows. Without losing our love of life or the desire for more, we accept and respect those whose bare feet went before us so that we might walk that same path in our stilettos (unless a boot or wedge is more your style). The last centur y has been full of technology advances that inspire creativity and provide a broader platform to share accomplishments, thoughts and whims (deep or other wise). The only aspects of a woman’s life that are hidden are those she works to keep private. With social media so fully integrated into our day-to-day lives, the things we do and say are readily available for the ears and eyes of many.
Society Changes But Woman Remain Constant I think there are those who believe women have gradually evolved into courageous social activists and entrepreneurs but I believe the core strength of women has always existed and remained constant. During the Civil War, women were successful as spies because no one suspected them. In spite of their fathers and brothers doubting their emotional constitution for such challenges, their actions proved otherwise. Intel messages were sewn into the uniforms women made in their sewing circles. Others wrapped their bosoms tight, cut their hair, snuck into the militia and fought; willing to die for the cause they believed in. Their sisters and cousins tended the injured in makeshift hospitals, giving comfort and encouragement to soldiers who may have resembled their own siblings or sons. Their stories may not have been covered by the media, but it doesn’t change the fact that these brave women were creating a legacy. Altruism, courage and ingenuity were no less evident then, than today. The 1960s were pivotal for women with the passing of the Equal Pay Act and the invention of permanent press. My grandmother was a fulltime wife and mother during the same time period. When Muriel Siebert was making history as the first woman to purchase a seat at the New York Stock Exchange, my grandmother didn’t even have a driver’s license. Crowds sat in the movie theatre mesmerized by Audrey Hepburn playing Eliza Doolittle and Grandma Dora did her weekly grocery shopping at the local Piggly Wiggly. While Twiggy trotted around the world as the first supermodel, Grandma was chauffeured (by my Grandpa) around town in
a ‘57 Chevy. She never lived in the city, couldn’t have told you who Henri Matisse was and wouldn’t immediately understand the value of Instagram yet she still created movement. As a child, I watched her provide a nightly meal to Walter, a neighbor without a job or electricity. No one ‘facebook-ed’ or ‘tweeted’ her good deed. It did not need to be known for her to create a shift in the environment. Her children watched and imitated; their children watched and imitated.
“There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and there is only one you in all time...” Martha Graham (1894-1991) Dancer/Choreographer Women make movement. We are the heart of our communities, homes and neighborhoods. We are entrepreneurs, nurturers and organizers. We have the creativity to give birth to a concept and the humility to play second fiddle as it grows and matures. We hold our sisters’ secrets. From the beginning of time, women have been moved by the needs of others as well as created paths for others to follow. Perhaps life has evolved into a world that can diagnose and deliver on a dime, but women are what we have always been: intuitive, responsive and determined to forge a future for ourselves and others. THE CREATED WOMAN| 41
Assess your strengths.
Model: Lucrecia Rodriguez
Your time has value.
Model: Amber West
Share your biggest dream with someone you trust
Model: Lindsay Chapman
Loving Through Philanthropy Alex Winkleman, Founder
Citizen Generation (www.citizengeneration.org) Susie: Aunt Betty, your butt’s not THAT big! Mom: (gasp) Susie, what did you say? Susie: MOM, that’s what YOU said! Remember, you said you would be surprised if she would be able to get that big butt into her new sports car. There is a moment in every parent’s life when you are 100% certain that your child has been watching and listening to you, whether you wanted them to or not. These moments make a parent shine like a moonbeam or shrink like a wool sweater in the dryer. Alex Winkleman’s Mom and Dad are no different. However, they aren’t embarrassed by their daughter’s lifestyle because she learned it from them. Alex remembers the example of financial giving at the weekly Shabbat (Sabbath) meal when the Tzedakah Box was passed from person to person and everyone pulled money out of their pocket or purse. Money was collected at the family dinner table and donated to someone in need. With warmth in her voice, Alex says, “I watched my grandparents and parents give. My parents took me to charity events from the time I was in elementary school. We participated in “hands-on” service projects as a family.” It’s not surprising that Alex developed a desire to inspire people to live with an open hand because she was raised in a home where giving was a way of life. She began an initiative to teach others about philanthropy at the ripe age of 20. Alex discovered that people between the ages of 25-45 are interested in helping their communities but many don’t know how or where to plug in. She founded CharityBash in 2009, a program that “makes philanthropy fun and affordable.” She and her team create festive and memorable experiences that appeal to
Citizen Generation Staff (left to right): Kathryn Hamilton, Alex Winkleman, Taylor Davis
their target audience and cost between $10 and $100 to attend. CharityBash event nights differ from typical charitable donations or transactions because attendees enjoy food, music and hear the heartfelt stories from the ‘beneficiary’ of the night. They meet other donors and before the night is over, they have connected with other like-minded individuals. If all goes according to plan, first-timers will leave knowing that giving is a privilege that enhances the giver’s life. “We’re all about donating talent, time and treasure.” In 2011, CharityLadies, CharityLunch and CharityVolunteers were added to the Citizen Generation lineup. Each department has a unique focus that creates a niche for the giving of time, talent or financial resources. The Citizen Generation team has made it simple for the Austin community to find other open-handed people, those who want to make a positive difference in their community. While charity is defined as generous acts to aid the poor or sick, true charity is the result of man’s love for man. It is best said by Paul the Apostle, “If I gave everything to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.” 1Cor. 13:3 NLT CW:
I ALWAYS …
Alex: … have my dogs with me. I take them to the office, lunch, everywhere. CW:
I NEVER ...
Alex: … eat meat. I’m a vegan.
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Live with an Open Hand! GIVE: Pay for someone’s coffee, meal or groceries and DON’T tell anyone about it.
GIVE: Listen to someone who needs to be heard. Your time has value. GIVE: Pick something you do to pamper yourself and give it up (just once). Take the money you would have spent on yourself and give it away. GIVE: Find a complete stranger and pay her a compliment. GIVE: Make someone’s day by telling a joke or emailing a funny video to a stressed friend.
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“ You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.� -Mae West
Model: Jessica Wendell
“ I watched my parents and grandparents give. We participated in hands on service projects as a family.� -Alex Winkleman, Citizen Generation
Model: Santiago Lopez
Taylor Davis, Development Director
Citizen Generation (www.citizengeneration.org) CW: Name one woman who has paved the way for you and what you do. How do you identify with her? TAYLOR: I have had so many great female mentors in my life, but my mom has without a doubt been the most influential. She has been a teacher for 25 years and cares so much about her students’ success. She is also a cancer survivor who throughout six months of chemotherapy never missed a day of work and maintained an amazing level of positivity. My mom is an incredible Christian example, and to say I identify with her is a stretch because I’ll never be half as strong or awesome.
CW: Historically, philanthropy is associated with wealth and measure. Your website uses the word “affordable.” How is Citizen Generation different from other philanthropic endeavors? TAYLOR: At Citizen Generation, we are changing the misconception that to be philanthropic you have to be ver y wealthy. Our programs are affordable at a cost between $10 and $100. This allows anyone to give back and make a significant impact on a local nonprofit without having to break the bank. Many nonprofits overlook our audience of 25-45 year olds because they may not represent high value gifts at the moment. We are cultivating those donors now, getting them in the habit of giving so they are always philanthropic, regardless of their socioeconomic status.
CW: Where did the idea of Citizen Generation come from? TAYLOR: In 2009, Founder and Executive Director Alex Winkelman saw a need in the community to provide fun and easy ways for
the next generation to give. CharityBash was then born as a way for her peers to donate money to local causes. Wanting to expand outside of financial philanthropy, we rebranded as Citizen Generation in 2011. With a larger organization, Citizen Generation’s programming now includes CharityBash, CharityLadies, CharityVolunteers and the soon to launch CharityLunch. Based on making philanthropy an experience rather than a transaction, our programming allows our audience to give time, talent and treasure.
CW: How do you want to inspire the generation that comes after you? TAYLOR: I grew up volunteering and participating in community ser vice with my family and through the local 4-H program, so giving back has always been important to me and influenced my decision to work in the nonprofit sector. I would love to be seen as an inspiration for younger people to find something they’re passionate about and give back regularly. I believe we are each responsible for contributing to our communities to maintain them and make them places we are proud to work and live in. This philosophy must be passed down from generation to generation.
CW: Complete this sentence, “I ALWAYS …” TAYLOR: … write handwritten Thank You notes. My parents got me in the habit when I was in elementar y school.
CW: Conversely, “I NEVER ...” TAYLOR: … say never!
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“ We are changing the misconception that to be philanthropic, you must be wealthy.� -Taylor Davis, Citizen Generation
Model: Katherine Dusham
“ I think of myself as an artist and my clients are my canvas.” -Vivianne Pearson, Lock CoutureTM
Model: Amber West
“ I am free to express my creativity, be my own boss and spend more time with my family [as a wife and mother].� -Vivianne Pearson, Lock CoutureTM
Model: Amanda Rook
New Beginnings Vivianne Pearson, Wife, Mother, Founder Lock Couture (www.lockcouture.com) Vivianne Pearson, native Floridian, is that woman: The one who glides into a room instead of walking in like the rest of us. Just one glimpse of this exotic looking ‘fashion artist’ and it is difficult to believe that six years ago, she worked as an Operating Room Specialist in the US Army. After years of planning, study and work, Viv exited the path of predictability and took a side road that led her straight into the fashion world. It is here that she is creating a niche for herself. With the same courage it took to leave medicine and launch into fashion, her life shows other women how to plan big, live big and hold on to your dreams with tenacity. Viv has recently opened the doors to Lock Couture, her salon in Round Rock, Texas. “I depended on God and took HIS leap of faith. I have impacted so many people and in return they have been a blessing to me. I thank God for opening my ears and giving me a clear mind to receive His direction for my life.”
CW: Name one woman who has paved the way for you and what you do. How do you identify with her? VIV: That’s not fair, just one? I struggle with this question mainly because God has surrounded me with so many women who have paved a way for me. Janeice, Lina, Tangela and Yvonne all have impacted my life; whether through dedication, encouragement, prayer, a shoulder to lean on or simply their unfailing love. When I need wisdom, these ladies always have time for their “daughter.” I am who I am, through the power of endless prayer and encouragement. These are just a few of the super women in my life and I love them abundantly.
CW: You made a huge change in your life, going from nursing to the fashion world. How did you decide which path to take? VIV: Honestly, FAITH. I took a leap of faith. I have been in the medical field since I was 17 years old. Ser ving as a Medical Transcriber, Operating Room Specialist in the US Army and then attending nursing school, medicine was all I knew and I loved it. I got great joy out of helping people and it was also a steady paycheck. However, I started to dabble in the hair and fashion industr y while pursuing my nursing degree. During my second year in nursing school, I realized I didn’t have the same drive that I had in the first year. As much as I studied, I couldn’t pass my next entr y exam so I started to fast and pray, “Show me my purpose God.” I’d always thought my purpose was to help people and the only way I thought I could do that was in the medical
most people think is common and ever yday. I wanted to add my own spin since hair to me is an art. I think of myself as an artist and my clients are the canvas. It doesn’t matter if I’m contouring their face or sculpting their hair, I am releasing a creative and passionate side of myself that is unique. Whether the client is in my salon or on set at a photo shoot, I think ‘one of a kind.’ In other words, couture, more specifically, “Lock Couture”.
CW: How do you plan to affect the generation that comes after you? VIV: First, in 2011, Lock Couture presented the Natural Bombshell Hair & Fashion Expo here in Austin and it was a great success. I want to continue having these shows and mini-events to help young girls and women of all backgrounds know that they are beautiful. I want to get the message across that the Most High, took His time when He created you and you are stunning […a bombshell]. In our society, women deal with acceptance issues. I’m passionate for women to know they are beautiful. Some lack confidence because of their size, the texture of their hair or color of their skin. I want every woman to know she is a Natural Bombshell. Next, since my mission trip to Haiti in 2010with Mission of Hope (MOH), I thirst to continue helping Haiti which was once known as the Jewel of the Caribbean. I believe it can turn
around and claim that name again. Though I can’t be there physically, proceeds from the Natural Bombshell Hair & Fashion Expo will be donated to MOH to encourage their work in Haiti. Finally, I am also ver y interested in helping to stop human trafficking. I am in the process of working on a few projects to bring awareness to this important cause.
CW: Complete this sentence, “I ALWAYS …” VIV: …depend on Jesus Christ, who is the foundation of everything thing I am. I wouldn’t be here and my business would not be what it is without Him. I will always and forever be grateful for His mercy and unfailing love for me.
CW: Conversely, “I NEVER ...” VIV: …say “What did I do? Why did I choose fashion?” I will never look back on my decision to be in the fashion world. Being a stylist, make-up artist and fashion consultant has been so liberating in comparison to what I thought I should be doing. I am free to express my creativity, be my own boss and spend more time with my wonderful family that I love so dearly. There was a little person screaming inside of me and now that she’s out, she’s saying “Hello world!”
REAL WOMEN
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!
DO: Assess your strengths. Make a list of what you do well and how they can best benefit you and others.
DO: Share your biggest dream with someone you trust. It will feel great when you hear yourself say it out loud.
DO: Surround yourself with people who can give you sound advice; people who have something you want to attain (tangible or intangible).
DO: Create a plan. Those who fail to plan, fail! DO: Believe that you are worthy of a great life!
Time, talent, treasure.
Model: Jessica Wendell
About Author: Yvonne Sanchez Favorite Trend: “I think boots are as great as a freezer full of different flavors of ice cream. There are boots with heels, boots with a wedge, flat boots and even bootees. I love a western boot as well as an equestrian. Each one makes its own statement and allows a woman to be who she wants to be on any given day.� Yvonne loves words and inspirational stories. This love has led her to write and direct four original plays and her premiere book: Fingerprint, Uniquely Marked for a Purpose. She is a daughter, wife, mother and grandmother. She shares the things she learns while fulfilling these life roles with others. Like her grandmother and mother before her, the learning begins in the kitchen where she is thankful for the relationships she builds with the aroma of flavorful food in the background. Fingerprint, Uniquely Marked for a Purpose can be purchased at Amazon.com & Barnes and Noble.
SPECIAL FEATURE Relationships: I’m Not Afraid of the Dark Anymore Every photographer knows that light is essential. Without light, there is no picture. There’s nothing to see and nothing to share. Every GREAT photographer knows that they need more than light to capture an exquisite image; they must also have shadows. Shadows reveal the true beauty of light. We all have light and shadows in the big picture of our lives. We soak up the sunshine, but it can be hard to own those darker days. I spent years denying the dark places in my life, pretending I had no shadow.
Let me tell you about one of my brightest days. Our second son was born 20 minutes after we arrived at the hospital. Contrast that with 20 hours of labor, four hours of pushing, and the cesarean delivery of our first born, and you can see this was a glorious day. I felt like I could conquer the world. My body was made for this. It was one of the most empowering moments of my life. Now before you go picturing me in bohemian floral with braids and a headband, I did say we were at the hospital, not in my bathtub.
Something in me died that night. The next four years were blurred through the lens of denial. All that hiding, and pretending made a mess out of me. I was the walking dead before zombies were cool. Trust me, nobody would DVR my drama. Our busy boys were the two shining stars in my night sky. I can’t image what depths I may have sunk to without their light. They were gifts of life to me.
The challenges we faced didn’t define us, but they did shape us.
A week after we brought our son home, I was up late feeding him and noticed the light seeping under the door of our home office. Glad that I wasn’t the only one awake in the middle of the night, I opened the door. I was overwhelmed by the steamy enticement of lust followed hard by the suffocating oppression of shame when I saw pornography on the computer screen. I closed the door and walked away. I didn’t want to know that was a part of my husband’s world. 60 | Created Woman January/February 2013
Things shifted for me when a friend shared her freedom story. There’d been a betrayal in her marriage, but they got help. She was on the other side of all the pain I was drowning in. Hope flooded my heart. I saw, for the first time, that there was an “other side” for me. My husband and I spent the next two years in counseling. It was amazing how quickly his life changed. Once the secret life of sexual addiction was brought to light, he was able to break free. Those counseling sessions were brutal for me. I was agonizing over an activity in group therapy, trying to squeeze words out
of the vice grip around my throat, when I yelled to our counselor, “Why is this so hard for me?” He leaned back in his chair, popped a mint in his mouth and said, “It’s hard for an ostrich to pull her head out of the sand.” Can you believe our therapist called me on ostrich? Fear of the dark drove me deeper into darkness, and I got pretty comfortable down there. I’ve managed, over the years, to pull my head out. It’s good to have tissue handy when light floods your darkness. Light and truth will sting eyes that have grown accustomed to the shadows. If you’d tried to suggest, in the middle of our pain, that we would one day be grateful for the struggle, I would’ve thrown something heavy at you. Thankfully, I see more clearly now, and it’s true. The challenges we faced didn’t define us, but they did shape us. Our
struggle added depth and texture to our story and maturity to our lives. We appreciate light because we’ve known shadow. It doesn’t scare us anymore. We know that whatever life brings our way, we’ll face it together.
About Author: Lynn Marie Cherry lynnmariecherry.blogspot.com Favorite Trend: “How many boots can I stack up in my closet? Boots are the best thing about this time of year and a great way to pull an outfit together without being stuck in heels all day.” Lynn and her husband David have been married for over 20 years. She loves the adventure of being mom to two boys. She is passionate about sharing her freedom story and planting hope in the hearts of others. She has written a 21 day e-devotional, Keep Walking, www.feedblitz.com/f/?Sub=842791, to carry people though the pain of relational betrayal. As a writer and speaker Lynn is not just informative but relatable, funny and sincere.
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INSIDE/OUT How To Love
Luke 10:27 The Message (MSG) He said, “That you love the Lord your God with all your passion and prayer and muscle and intelligence—and that you love your neighbor as well as you do yourself.” I know this may seem like a painfully obvious verse on love, but track with me for a minute. I really want to focus on the last and most tricky part. Loving others “…as well as you do yourself.” Reading it, I was immediately reminded of a quote from pastor/ author, Kris Vallotton: “The level to which you love yourself is the level at which you will love others.” That can be a little dicey, depending on how well we love ourselves, huh? Because most of the time, if we’re honest, we’re our own worst critics. If that’s how we love ourselves, what are we serving up for others in our feast of love? Could it possibly be some low grade compassion and harsh words?
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(Now, if you’re lucky enough to be loving yourself the way God loves you, then I’m sure you have a high-quality love feast for humanity going on, and God bless you for it. We need more of you!) So here’s my New Year’s challenge. Rather than looking at the scale or in the mirror for things to improve about yourself, let’s do this: Amp up the grace and mercy for yourself. Celebrate what’s fabulous about you. Cheer yourself on. Find joy in what you’re doing well. Fall in love with the awesome creation God has crafted in the unique, one-of-a-kind masterpiece that you are. As you do these things, your level of love for others will increase as well. That attitude transfers and brings love to a hurting humanity. Love “you” so that you can love others. Honestly, this creative, unlimited, awesome God made you. He delights in you and rejoices over you with singing. So tune in to what He’s saying. It’s the very thing that gives us the ability to do what He’s asking us to do for others.
About Author: Coby Gonzales www.cobysalon.com twitter/facebook handle: @cobysalon Favorite Inspiration: “Jennifer Gardner” Artistic expression is one of the delights of my life. This happens in my salon with clients, writing, painting in my free time, or making a beautiful meal for my family. It all works together to balance who I am.
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INDEX TREND CLOTHING AND JEWELRY INDEX Clothes provided by Young & Fabulous
DESIGNER CREDITS, CREATED WOMAN
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Peacock Gemstone BANGLE in Crystal $265
BLACK LEATHER - Clothes provided by Model.
Peacock Gemstone BANGLE in Lemon Topaz $265 EARRINGS: Chunky Jaipuri Rectangular Gemstone Earrings in Lemon Topaz $140 RING: Yucatan Circle Cocktail Ring on Hammered Band in Lemon Topaz $235 Pages 22, 24 RING: Capri Sail Cocktail Ring (Smokey Quartz) $295 EARRINGS: Faceted Vertical Long Drop Earrings (Lemon Topaz) $165 BRACELET: Square Bangle with Stones, citrine and amethyst, $275 RING: Small Thin Square Ring $85
Page 43 TIME - 60’s dress from Ermine Vintage, Austin, TX Page 44 WHITE FUR - Brazilian Designer - Morena Rosa; Also available at Red Stella Salon, Austin, TX Page 47 WORLD - Brazilian Designer Morena Rosa; Also available at Red Stella Salon Page 48 SERVING - 60’s suit from Ermine Vintage, Austin, TX Page 50
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CHECK BOOK - 60’s Ermine Vintage, Austin, TX.
EARRINGS: Italiano Multi Bubble Art Deco Capri Earrings $160
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BRACELET: Thick Mughal Cuff $295
MICROPHONE - Dress provided by the model.
RING: Brushed Dome Ring $160
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Peacock Gemstone BANGLE in Lemon Topaz $265
GOLD/BON APPETITE MAGAZINE - Gold Dress/Bon Appetite Magazine - Designer Megan Pinto; meganpintodesigns.com
EARRINGS: Classic Capri Stone Encased Earring Drops in Citrine, $85
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RING: Three Stone Non-Connect Ring in Lemon Topaz, $240
SCALES - Brazilian Designer - Morena Rosa; Also available at Red Stella Salon, Austin, TX
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