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February, 2012 Volume VII • Issue 2 Advisory Board Becky Barnes Hamilton County Department of Health Dan Challener Public Education Foundation Mai Bell Hurley Community Volunteer Shawn Kurrelmeier-Lee Read 20

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I can’t wait for the summer camp listings. Which issue will they be in and will you all have a camp expo this year? Mom of 3 in Hixson Dear Mom! We can’t wait for summer season too. You will find listings online at www.chattanoogaparentmagazine.com and in the March issue of the magazine. Please join us at Coolidge Park on Saturday, April 21 for the Spring Fest 2012 with Outdoor Chattanooga, The City of Chattanooga and Sustainable Chattanooga. We’ll have inflatables, games, activities and lots of summer camp exhibitors. Call us at 423-643-8499 for more information about this event. Dear Editor, I heard that the deadline for magnet student applications had been extended. I am new to the city and unfamiliar with the process. Concerned in East Brainerd Dear Concerned, The HCDE has extended the deadlines for families who want to apply for magnet school status. Parents interested in sending their children to one of the 15 magnet schools in Hamilton County can be picked up at any magnet school or at the Central Office. Please call Sandy Lowman at 423-209-8475 or visit www.hcde.org for more information and deadlines. The Magnet Lottery will be held and can be seen on a live feed on February 28, 2012. We welcome your letters! If you have a question or comment for Chattanooga Parent or North Georgia Parent, please e-mail it to JCrutchfield@ChattanoogaParentMagazine.com. Letters may be edited to meet space requirements.

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Live and Learn: Smile - What would we do differently if we were teens again?

Childwise: Smart advice for Parents

House Calls: Preparing your teen for surgery

Kid’s Plate: Smoothie snack treats

Servings from the Cereal Bowl

The List: Ten terrific books about Abraham Lincoln

14 It’s a Mitzvah 15 Adolescents and acting out 16 Be the wall between teens and alcohol 17 Parents, partnerships, prevention and prom 18 What state are we in? 19 The faces of technology on Frazier Avenue 20 Making time for homework - and for fun!

History Mystery: The Fracas over Franklin

21 Because I said so: Balancing act

Calendar Listings

22 The Dad Dispatch: Dads teach the language of

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Being a camp counselor teaches leadership, management experience and people-skills that turn a teenager into an attractive job applicant with proven skills. Read more in this issue. Photo Courtesy of Joanne Bryan.

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February 2012

What would we do differently if we were teens again?

f you are among those who have considered revisiting your teen years to determine if another try at it would get a better outcome, you may want to rethink it. Even in movies like Freaky Friday and 17 Again, the trip back doesn’t have much appeal and accomplishes little more than a brief escape from present regrets. Unless you were prom queen or captain of the football team, going back is sure to mean teenage feelings of inadequacy, pimples, and hokier fad diets. In the book, Dear Me: A Letter to My Sixteen-YearOld Self, editor Joseph Galliano and some famous folks try their hands at sharing the advice they would give themselves as teenagers. Here is a glimpse at what some contributors wrote: Rock Singer Alice Cooper’s advice to his sixteen year old self: “Trashy girls are excitin’ for about 5 minutes. Keep your eye out for a really good-lookin’ church girl. Then you’ll have the best of both worlds.”

“It was a truly illuminating exercise. It made me look at my seventeen-year-old daughter and remember, in a more powerful way than ever before, just how raw and vivid life is for her, in a way that it has been only intermittently for me as an adult.”

“Yes, that inadequacy. It’s there all the time, isn’t it? Will you remember your lines? Will that girl ever put her arms around you and tell you that she loves you? Dweezil Zappa, son of Frank, is pictured Enjoy those feelings of inadequacy… What will be, will be, Stephen King (The Shining, Misery) here with his daughters Zola and Ceylon. and although there is much you can do about it, in the end, “It’s simple, really, just five words: stay away from recrethere isn’t much you can do about it. The idea is to keep trying. Don’t let up. Things ational drugs.” happen---good, bad, dull, and exciting. Survive, struggle, and keep the love in your JK Rowling (Harry Potter) heart.” “Attempting to isolate those life lessons I could pass back to the girl I used to be. It Lu and I think that the advice “to your teenage self ” is covered nicely in made me look at my seventeen-year-old daughter and remember, in a more powerful way than ever before, just how raw and vivid life is for her, in a way that it these lines, so we thought about the advice we could offer to teenagers still has been only intermittently for me as an adult. I would not go back to sixteen for out there and reading this column. It’s rather important and still within anything you could give me, and yet I still recognize that she has something I have your control. It could be the most important advice you take within the next ten years! lost along the way— something I had to lose, to stay sane.” Here it is: Begin now thinking about what you will name your unborn William Shatner (Star Trek) children. We won’t lecture you but we’ll build a case for consideration. A name can be special enough to say “Hey, world, I’m here!” but it should not say, “Hey world, I’m the child of parents who may have been delusional 15 years ago!” It must be great, for example, to be a celebrity kid, but how will they feel explaining these names in high school: Apple (child of Gywneth Paltrow), Dweezil (Frank Zappa), Blanket (Michael Jackson), Kal-el (Nicholas Cage). This name thing is just something you still have time to think about before you write history on your child’s birth certificate. Take it from two “happy to have plain names”---Lu and Edna. Veteran educators Lu Lewis and Edna Varner collaborate each month to address a topic of particular concern to area parents. If you have a concern you’d like them to discuss in print, send it to Lu and Edna at either ChattanoogaParent@ gmail.com or KnoxvilleParent@gmail.com.

February 2012

Art therapy is a good choice for teens who are reluctant to talk about their problems. Many need help identifying their feelings and expressing them appropriately. for her behaviors and their outcomes. She named her drawing “fuzzy” because of its prickly sharp edges and claws. Other examples of the payoffs/benefits for this behavior followed by several examples of the consequences/costs, ending with a new character, “Fluffy,” with softer and smoother edges. The drawings reflect her understanding of behavior and consequences, moving from “fuzzy” to “fluffy”.

Dear Childwise: My teen daughter is struggling. She has been resistant to talking with us and is afraid of going to a therapist. She is very creative so we have thought about art therapy. How can it help her? Debbie M.

Dear Debbie, Many teens struggle with social issues and exhibit rebellious tendencies as they seek their “place” with peers, family and school. Art therapy is a good choice for teens who are reluctant to talk about their problems. Many need s help identifying their feelings and expressing them appropriately. Most r importantly teens need help making the connection between attitude, behavior and consequences. L. was a quirky, intelligent adolescent diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Diagnosed with ongoing behavior issues she has had exposure to several types of therapy – equestrian therapy and vision therapy - but she loves to draw. Art therapy enhances her self esteem and builds on an existing area of strength. She came to art therapy as she was transitioning from home school to “real” school after several years of small group and 1:1 adult time. This pre-teen was out of touch with her feelings and not interested in other people’s. The onset of puberty and returning to a typical school classroom inspired her to work on her social skills. These drawings were prompted to lay out the causes and effects of negative social behavior. This implies selfawareness and discernment between Learning the relationship between behavior and negative and positive behaviors and consequences changed L’s empowers L. to take full responsibility drawings from fuzzy to fluffy.

Jas Milam graduated from Sarah Lawrence College and has a Masters degree in Art and Art Therapy. Jas conducts workshops and facilitates art therapy groups. The responses provided by Jas are for general information only and are not intended to represent or replace professional consultation or intervention specific to a particular child or family. Do you have a parenting question? Send it to Childwise c/o Chattanooga Parent via e-mail: ChattanoogaParent@gmail.com, or to Childwise c/o Knoxville Parent via e-mail: KnoxvilleParent@ gmail.com.

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February 2012

Preparing your teen for surgery By Lisa A. Smith, M.D.

t’s been said that “minor” surgery is surgery on someone other than yourself. One exception to this old adage is when your child needs surgery. All children can benefit from psychological preparation for planned surgical experiences. Adequate preparation can help children feel less anxious about the surgical process and have a smoother recovery. Studies show significant differences in post-surgery anxiety between children who were prepared for surgery and those who were not. The differences are consistent across age groups and between genders, and regardless of the pain level involved. Preparing yourself To prepare your child for surgery, you must first prepare yourself as a parent. Become as knowledgeable as possible about the planned surgery. At the preoperative office visit, ask your child’s surgeon about the length of the procedure, expected time in the operating room, pain control, wound care and recovery time. Most surgeries are now “same-day” procedures requiring no overnight or prolonged stays. At least one parent may stay with the child at all times except while the surgeon is operating. After surgery, you may stay with your child in the recovery room. If hospitalization is required, many hospitals, like T.C. Thompson Children’s Hospital at Erlanger, allow parents to stay overnight, minimizing separation anxiety for both parents and children.

“Children cope much better with medical procedures if understand what will happen and why it is necessary.” As a parent, you can help your child by remaining calm. Simplify your life during this time, and don’t be afraid to ask for help from family and friends. Children, including infants, will sense if you’re feeling frightened or stressed. Even nonverbal communication—relaxed facial expressions, gestures and body language—can give positive assurance to your child before surgery. Preparing your child Once you’re prepared for your child’s upcoming surgery, you’re ready to prepare your child. How you do so will depend on your child’s age, maturity and level of development. Children cope much better with medical procedures if they have some idea of what will happen and why it is necessary. Try to explain in terms appropriate for your child’s level of understanding, correcting misconceptions and dispelling fears and feelings of guilt. Teens Common fears and concerns of teens who are facing surgery include: • loss of control • being away from school and friends • having a body part damaged or changed in appearance • fear of surgery and its risks • pain • dying during surgery • fear of what others will think about their sickness or hospitalization. Books and Internet articles can help your teen learn more about the upcoming surgery. Let your teen know that it is acceptable to be afraid and to cry. Recording thoughts and feelings in a journal may be helpful to your teen. Encourage friends and family to call, visit or send cards after surgery, so your child will be assured of a strong support system. Surgical care Pediatric surgeons specialize in the surgical care of children. They are surgeons who, by training, are oriented toward working with children and understanding their special needs. By discussing a proposed surgery ahead of time with the pediatric surgeon, parents can help their children cope effectively with the experience. Parents are the most important resource for answering children’s questions. So it is vital that parents understand what will happen during their child’s experience with the hospital/surgery. Dr. Lisa A. Smith is a pediatric surgeon with University Surgical Associates and an assistant professor of pediatric surgery at the UT College of Medicine Chattanooga. For more information, call Erlanger’s physician referral line at 423-778-LINK (5465).

February 2012

Nutrition, food, and fun

Smoothie Snack Treats By Liza Blair

Photo courtesy Samantha Paty

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Jack and Gabe Paty are master chefs, fueling their high energy fun with healthy, fruity concoctions.

moothies are a fresh, delicious and nutritious snack option. Made with fresh or frozen fruit and juice, smoothies have a thick, creamy texture from the addition of milk, yogurt, or ice base. Natural sweeteners, such as honey, can be added for flavor and extra healthy benefits. Smoothies in America date to the early part of the 1920’s with recipes printed and distributed by blender and appliance manufacturers. At this time, smoothies were still considered a specialty drink. It wasn’t until the mid-1960’s that smoothies became a healthy food choice. And in the mid 1980’s, smoothies became a mainstay in American culture. With the proliferation of frozen juice stands and drive-thru establishments, the smoothie became a healthy snack alternative to chips and soda. When making a smoothie, have your kids help gather ingredients. Or, let your kids create their own smoothie by experimenting with different fruits and juices. Giving your child control in making their smoothie could result in having a child more likely to eat new foods. Smoothies are a great choice for picky eaters. Favorite fruits, combined with ice and a little bit of dairy, have a similar consistency of milk shake but with less fat and calories.

February 2012

Servings from the Cereal Bowl

By Dave Loftin

Sample the Saturday Morning Cereal Bowl

Grab you kid and a cup of coffee and tune in to the “Saturday Morning Cereal Bowl,” hosted by Dave Loftin Saturdays from 8 to 10 a.m. on the Web at WAWL.org. He posts his weekly playlists on SaturdayCerealBowl.com. And now you can take your cereal bowl with you�in podcast form! Go to SaturdayCerealBowl.podbean.com, or simply search the iTunes store. Don’t worry, parents, it’s free!

Gustafer Yellowgold Infinity Sock (DVD/CD Combo) © 2011 Apple-eye Productions Morgan Taylor continues the story of this little guy from the sun on the fourth Gustafer Yellowgold release Infinity Sock. This amazing CD/DVD collection continues Gustafer’s adventures as he settles into his home on Earth. We start off with his pet eel’s affinity towards socks on “Slim Gets in ‘Em”. He takes into the secret world of bees and snakes with “Beehive” and “Snake Proms”. The music of Gustafer Yellowgold is top notch and fun to say the least, but the real treat is the DVD. It includes a beautifully animated video for every song with the lyrics on-screen so the whole family can sing along. Socks, snakes and cheese, Infinity Sock is the best release from Morgan Taylor in the Gustafer juggernaut and his song writing and animation shines through stronger than ever. If you and your family haven’t experienced this former sun dweller yet, Infinity Sock will make you wonder how you ever got by without him.

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Magic Cardboard Ride New Release: March 2012 © Matt Clark

Matt Clark captures the wonder and innocence of childhood once again with his latest offering Magic Cardboard Ride. Clark graduates from songs about toddlers and preschoolers of his Funny Little Fella series to full-on pop rock gems about bigger kids. “Cardboard Box” opens the CD with wonders of what the imagination can create when playing with the simple storage device. The generational gap and days of yore abound in “Shoe Had Laces”. And what kid doesn’t want a pet? Of course they also have to take care Batteries_HalfPgAd_PrntMag2012_CTP_HR.pdf 1 1/7/12 2:45 of PM it, unless they have “The Perfect Pet”, which in this case is a pet rock.

February 2012

Ten Terrific Books About Abraham Lincoln Compiled this month by Shelley Headrick Children’s Department, Chattanooga Public Library

Abe Lincoln Crosses a Creek By Deborah Hopkinson Reading level: PreK – 2nd A faithful friend rescues our future President from a dangerous dare.

A. Lincoln and Me By Louise Borden Reading level: PreK – 3rd When a boy discovers he has the same birthday as Abraham Lincoln, he is inspired to find other similarities with the great leader.

Abe’s Fish: A Boyhood Tale of Abraham Lincoln By Jen Bryant Reading level: K – 3rd After fishing all day with little success, a young Abe Lincoln gives his only fish to a hungry soldier.

Ghosts of the Civil War By Cheryl Harness Reading level: 2nd – 4th The ghost of Willie, Abraham Lincoln’s son, teaches a modern day girl about the Civil War.

Just in Time, Abraham Lincoln By Patricia Polacco Reading level: 2nd – 4th Two boys travel back in time to the Civil War.

Lincoln: A Photobiography By Russell Freedman Reading level: 3rd – 7th In this award-winning book, discover the life of Abraham Lincoln through photos and words.

The Lincolns: A Scrapbook Look at Abraham and Mary By Candace Fleming Reading level: 6th – 12th This historical account traces the Lincoln family.

Who Broke Lincoln’s Thumb? By Ron Roy Reading level: 2nd – 4th In this book from the Capital Mysteries Chasing Lincoln’s Killer series, two children By James L. Swanson discover that the Lincoln Reading level: 6th – 12th Memorial is missing a The days following digit. Lincoln’s assassination are detailed and explained. Lincoln and His Boys By Rosemary Wells Reading level: 3rd – 5th Learn about the President through the eyes of his sons, Willie and Tad.

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February 2012

The Fracas over Franklin By Jennifer Crutchfield

and grabs, duels, treason In 1784 North Carolina ceded territory from the and secession marked the birth and death of the “State earlier land grant to the federal government. That attempt of Franklin”. A handful of to repay Revolutionary War fortified outposts between the Appalachian Mountains and debts inspired the citizens of the area to secede from North the Mississippi River seceded to form their own state in 1794 Carolina. When the State of Franklin issued its declaration but the drama began decades of independence they cited earlier. The fertile Watauga The Chickamaugas and British fought against John Sevier on Lookout Mountain in what is distance from the North region had been neglected by known as the Last Battle of the Revolutionary War. Carolina capital, the lack of the post-Revolutionary War government, separated from cities and society by an imposing mountain range and protection against indian attacks and the absence of legislative representation. John Sevier had made his name in the Indian Campaign, claiming 35 victories in plagued by encroaching explorers and the constant threat of Indian attacks. as many battles, earning the moniker “Chucky Jack” for his love of his land along Translated as “Land of the Free” the renegade republic was originally called “Frankland”, its name changed to curry the favor of Benjamin Franklin. The saga of the Nolichucky River. Born in Massachusetts John was 27 years old when he settled in the Watauga territory. Sevier was sent by his fellow citizens to Congress to the de facto independent republic was an early symptom of the conflict between federal bureaucracy and local autonomy. request statehood, to make treaties with Cherokee leaders and made Governor of their fledgling republic in 1785. The 1775 Treaty of Sycamore Shoals and the 1783 Holston Treaty ceded millions Sevier was paid 1,000 deerskins as his government salary, other men receiving of acres of the Cherokee Nation, land purchased largely by legislators and their business partners. The encroaching pioneers inflamed the warrior chief Dragging otter skins, raccoon skins and minks for their roles as state treasurer, secretary, clerks and constables. By 1788 tensions were at a boiling point. Governor John Canoe and increased the number of Indian attacks on unprotected settlements. Sevier was charged with treason for trying to negotiate aid from Spain and led a retaliatory battle against his rival, John Tipton, remembered as the “Battle of Franklin”. A Cherokee named Slim Tom visited John Kirk’s homestead that Spring, a visit that would change the history of the region. When father and son returned they found 11 members of their family massacred, victims of Slim Tom and his warrior brothers. John Sevier and John Kirk, Jr. led 150 men against Cherokee villages, bent on revenge. Following pledges of friendship the village of Hiwassee was burned to the Chief Dragging Canoe’s warriors, led by Chief Skyuka, faced John Sevier atop ground and Old Tassel and three other revered chiefs were brutally assassinated Lookout Mountain in what is called the Last Battle of the Revolutionary War. Fought in September of 1782 while peace negotiations were taking place in Paris under a flag of truce. Chief Dragging Canoe and Young this battle and the Cherokee alliance with the British showed the split between the Tassel waged war against the Cherokee Nation and the warrior Chickamauga tribe. settlers, soaking the land that had been theirs in blood and making good the ominous Camp Juliette Low promise that “There is a cloud Atop Beautiful hanging over it. You will find Lookout Mountain its settlement DARK and BLOODY.” In Cloudland, Georgia The State of Franklin For Girls 7 - 17 collapsed in 1789 and John June 3 - July 28, 2012 Sevier served his region as a Congressman from North horseback riding * ropes course * climbing wall * archery * tennis * hiking * overnights Chief Dragging Canoe led the bloody Carolina, later elected in 1796 sailing * canoeing * swimming * diving * crafts * OLS * campfires Chickamauga Campaign against the settlers as the first Governor of the and the loss of Cherokee lands. Camp Juliette Low, Inc. State of Tennessee.

“The saga of the de facto independent republic of Franklin was an early symptom of the conflict between federal bureaucracy and local autonomy.”

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Jennifer Crutchfield, managing editor of Chattanooga Parent, chases mysteries along with her boys George, Will and Max. Contact Jennifer at JCrutchfield@ChattanoogaParentMagazine.com

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February 2012 February 9, 2012

Knoxville Ice Bears vs. Fayetteville FireAntz www.knoxvilleicebears.com Knoxville Civic Coliseum, 500 Howard Baker, Jr. Avenue, Knoxville

February 10, 2012

Valentine Sleep in the Deep at the Tennessee Aquarium During a night of adventure you and your family will enjoy and IMAX 3-D movie, explore behind the scenes in the River and Ocean Journey and bed down in the Undersea Cavern of Ocean Journey. Includes overnight, IMAX movie, guided tours, special activities, pizza and continental breakfast. www.tnaqua.org 423-267-3474 Knoxville Opera - Romeo and Juliette Tennessee Theater, 604 South Gay Street, Knoxville, TN 423-215-5901 or online at www. knoxvilleopera.com Valentine’s Day Weekend Dinner Cruise Volunteer Princess Cruises, 956 Volunteer Landing Lane, Knoxville. www. volunteerprincess.com

February 11, 2012

Cupid’s Chase 5K Run Tennessee Riverpark - Registration at 8:00 am, run at 10:00 am. www.comop.org. Mardi Gras Magic Masked Ball and Parade The 2012 Mardi Gras Ball and Parade will be held at 7:00 pm at the Car Barn (6721 Heritage Business Ct). www. chattanoogaroomintheinn.com Breakfast with the Penguins 8:30 am - 9:45 am. Enjoy a Continental breakfast and a special feeding show by a penguin keeper at 9:30 am, see art make by the penguins and explore the Aquarium. www.tnaqua.org CSO Presents: Big Band Fever! Tivoli Theatre, 709 Broad Street, Chattanooga, TN. www. chattanoogasymphony.org The Importance of Being Earnest Chattanooga Theatre Centre, 400 River Street, Chattanooga, TN 423-267-8534 www.theatrecentre.com

Stargazing at Marble Springs Marble Springs State Historic Site, 1220 West Governor John Sevier Highway, Knoxville, TN. marblesprings@gmail.com or call 865-573-5508

February 12, 2012

Winter Jam 2012 UTC McKenzie Arena The WInter Jam Tour Spectacular features top names in Christian music. Visit www.jamtour.com for more information and call 423-266-6627 for tickets.

February 14, 2012

Broadway at the Tennessee: Shrek the Musical Tennessee Theater, 604 South Gay Street, Knoxville, TN

February 15, 2012

UT Men’s Basketball vs. Arkansas (8:00 pm) Thompson-Boling Arena 1600 Philip Fulmer Way, Knoxville, TN 1-800-332-8657 or visit www.uttix.com

February 18, 2012

Bluegrass Jamboree Harrison Ruritan Club, 5709 Tyner Lane, Harrison, TN www.harrisonruritanclub.webs.com Humorist Jeanne Robertson Tivoli Theatre, 709 Broad Street, Chattanooga, TN 423-642-TIXS or visit online at www. chattanoogaonstage.com Hunter Underground Hunter Museum of American Art, Chattanooga, TN Join the fun at the Hunter Museum for great food, drinks, entertainment, a silent art auction and the ever-popular Smash & Grab, hosted by Avant-art. www. huntermuseum.org UT Symphonic Orchestra Concert James R. Cox Auditorium, 1504 Middle Drive, Knoxville, TN. www.music.utk.edu Sweet WeePeets Kid’s Consignment Sale 6933 Lee Highway, Chattanooga, TN www.sweetweepeets.com 9:00 am - 6:00 pm through February 25th.

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February 19, 2012

Disney’s Phineas and Ferb: The Best LIVE Tour Ever! UTC McKenzie Arena, Chattanooga, TN 2:00 pm Visit www.tkt.xosn.com for tickets and information.

February 21, 2012

WDVX’s Blue Plate Special - Free Noon Time Concert The Knoxville Visitor Center, 301 South Gay Street, Knoxville 865-544-1029 or visit online at www. knoxville.org/events

Laissez Le Bon Temps Rouler at Avanti Savoi 7610 Maynardville Pike, Knoxville, TN www.avantisavoi.com

February 2012 Menopause the Musical Bijou Theatre, 803 South Gay Street, Knoxville, TN. www.knoxbijou.com

February 25, 2012

Kid’s Zone Consignment Sale Gateway Mall, 4031 Cloud Springs Road, Ringgold 9:00 am - 4:00 pm through March 3, 2012 Visit www.kidszonesale.com Denim & Diamonds: Starstruck Chattanooga Convention Center Come dressed as your favorite star from Hollywood, Broadway or Nashville and join Project Access and Chattanooga physicians and health care leaders for an evening of music, food and a celebration of healing. www.chattdenim-efbevent. eventbrite.com Visit ChattanoogaParentOnline. com for more event listings in your area. Have an event you want to share? Email your listing information well in advance to Calendar@Chattanooga ParentMagazine.com or KnoxvilleParent@gmail.com

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February 2012

Camp counselors are prepared for any job

Feeling pressure to add a resume-builder to your summer schedule? Spending your summer in an office working an unpaid internship isn’t necessarily the answer. By Joanne Bryan. Photos courtesy Camp Juliette Lowe

“By the end of the summer, most camp counselors have experienced the thrill of creating something and executing it successfully, allowing them to speak passionately to wouldbe employers about the programs and activities they have planned and implemented.”

his summer, camps across America are offering the opportunity to live in the outdoors, work with people from different backgrounds, and gain valuable skills that will make you stand out in a sea of job applicants. Employers recognize the hard work, time management, planning and teamwork that it takes to be a successful camp counselor. No other summer job prepares you as well for the workplace by providing opportunities to lead and manage a group, work in a diverse team, and create and implement programs. The principles and techniques required to successfully manage a group of 10 year olds are the same techniques used to manage any group. Although counselors are encouraged to “think big” when they create programs, Every camp counselor knows that a they are also required to take a number of other factors into consideration, such makes camp counselors stand out busy group is a happy group. By being as safety, age appropriateness, and budget. among their peers. a skilled observer and a good listener, a Employers are looking for applicants successful counselor ensures that every who will work well with the rest of their team. Camp counselors learn to appreciate camper is included and feels important. Even when the work is hard, counselors are and tolerate differences in personality and background because they live and work enthusiastic, encouraging, and positive. When things don’t go according to plan, so closely together. As leaders, they recognize potential in others, and make the they are flexible and prepared for the unexpected. They problem-solve on the go, most of their co-worker’s different talents to benefit the group. As a team member, and they think on their feet. This type of leadership and management experience counselors learn to rely on others and have others rely on them—they follow through, show initiative, and support the team. The ability to work well within a group is a skill that is valuable in almost every work situation. Camp counselors quickly learn that a lot of thought and preparation goes into planning a hike, hosting a talent show, or teaching canoeing. Although counselors are encouraged to “think big” when they create programs, they are also required to take a number of other factors into consideration, such as safety, age appropriateness, and budget. In addition, summer camp is a friendly and forgiving atmosphere where

Camp counselors learn valuable management skills leading activities and even planning fun talent shows.

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he Jewish Federation of Greater Chattanooga made Barger Academy it’s focus as they celebrated Mitzvah Day, meaning a “Day of Service”. People of all ages from the Jewish Federation worked to help Barger with a number of different projects to improve the elementary school and its facilities. There was tremendous participation from college students, teens and even younger children. Students worked to restructure a path on the school grounds, rebuild a garden, dismantle and reconstruct a ramp and hand rails to one of the classrooms and many other projects to improve the school. College students from Southern Adventist not only joined the Jewish Federation on their Mitzvah Day but returned to continue work on the outdoor projects. At one point a group of students worked together to evaluate how to build a garden area. They created a plan and executed it, demonstrating valuable skills and social commitment. Participating in service projects builds new skills, creates pride in community and a sense of giving. “It was amazing to see all these people come together to help our school” said Principal Greg Bagby. Support from all areas is needed to sustain a successful school, and there are many ways to help. Even a young student committing their time to a service day will make a difference. As teens begin to prepare college Teens gain valuable experiences volunteering, application packages, scholarship often proving themselves and their commitment applications and job applications alongside community leaders. These teens volunteer service can be a wonderful from Southern Adventist University joined the way to illustrate qualities which members of the Jewish Federation to improve a make a student stand out in a pool of local elementary school. applicants.

February 2012

Adolescents and Acting Out by John Kie Vining, D. Min.

onceiving a child is not the same as deep bitter angry resentment. Abuse cuts to parenting and providing the basic the heart of a child’s sense of personhood. necessities of food, clothing, and shelter is This provocation to anger can be turned not the same as nurturing a child. Surviving inward with crippling emotions and is often is not the same as thriving. Children of turned outward in wayward behavior. all ages need committed parents and a Abandonment dependable home context in order to thrive. Taking leave of expected parental Younger children can discern when things responsibilities, whether the abandonment are not quite right but cannot articulate their is physical or emotional, will leave angry perceptions or their feelings. However, they impressions in children and adolescents. can act and their behavior is often key to Parental abandonment strikes the adolescent understanding their emotional and mental heart as a choosing of something or status. somebody else more important than one’s Adolescents develop the capacity own child. Expressed hatred and emotional for putting words to their feelings and withdrawal from the abandoning parent can perceptions. Often there is a mixture of be a sign of deep seated anger. verbal and behavioral expression that can be Irresponsibility frustrating for the child and very trying for During adolescence communication between parents and children Adolescents should never have to assume the parent. As adolescents mature they can is critical to reducing frustration and “acting out” while building a adult responsibilities because of parental perceive inconsistencies in home life; adult framework for healthy self-perception and decision-making. irresponsibility. Angry resentment faulty reasoning, dysfunctional relationships, manifests when parental irresponsibility and other confusing patterns in the home. is demonstrated through behaviors like demeaning name calling, unfair labeling, Adolescents notice when things aren’t as they should be even if they don’t know and, especially, profane language. Demeaned adolescents can retaliate with angry how to talk about it. Often those realities are symbolized in “acting out” behavior. behavior representing their fear. So, what does provoking a child to anger look life in real life? There are two elements vital to a child’s development—identity and stability. Divorce Both of these essentials are dependent upon the parent-child relationship. A lack The experience of divorce impacts children, even adult children. Adolescents or loss of identity will give rise to a sense of instability or chaos in the child’s life. question their identity and struggle with instability after divorce. Adolescents Unpredictability and identity confusion are provocations that often manifest in sometimes display angry behavior patterns as a result of the provocation that behavior labeled as angry, rebellious, defiant and oppositional. divorce engenders. Infidelity Adolescents experience the hypocrisy of marital affairs as a betrayal of trust too. The offending parent not only violates his/her spousal vows but also violates the commitment of being loyal to all the members of the family. Adolescents experience this lack of loyalty as an assault against them as well.

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hether you are a mayor, teacher, pastor, mentor, baker or candlestick-maker Boyd Patterson and the City of Chattanooga call on you to join in the fight for the future. An initiative called “The Future is Ours” is looking for Chattanoogans to use their skill sets to mentor youth as a part of prevention and intervention programming. Operation Rescue Schools, recreation centers and Prom provided dresses, faith-based programs will provide suits and tuxedos to the framework for a prevention hundreds of victims of and intervention initiative the 2011 storms. This targeted at children and their The Prevention Youth Development initiative of the year several thousand parents. Designed to empower Chattanooga Dept. of Parks and Recreation sponsors dresses are available parents and communities to make a variety of events for the city’s youth, including an for students in the a difference, this initiative seeks annual talent show and internship program. region. to engage at-risk children and inspire them to dream and achieve. Chattanooga’s Community Centers bustle with activities after school as the Prevention Youth Development (PYD) programs inspire and educate teens and ever-growing list of troubles, temptations and traumas and our “microwave society adolescents. “I’m Unique” redefines beauty and teaches young ladies self-esteem and puts a lot of pressure on today’s kids.” healthy habits. “Grilling with B” emphasizes healthy eating, safety and independent When a community works together amazing things can happen. Last year our living skills while job readiness programs teach life skills, computer literacy, resume entire region was rocked as tragedy struck thousands of families. In the wake of the development and ACT/SAT/GED preparation. storms, wreckage and ruin good things happened as partnerships formed and people Internship programs, music, a sound studio, photography and art programs balance worked together to help each other rescue the prom. with job etiquette classes and financial planning lessons to offer students safety, Parents and donors worked together to provide prom dresses, tuxedos and suits enrichment and a view of a positive future with achievable goals. Marcus Thomas for hundreds of storm victims. The dresses came from all over the United States (643-6800) welcomes ideas and volunteers as he and his team create programs to and from as far away as Mexico. This year Rescue Prom has partnered with the enrich and inspire Chattanooga’s youth. Chattanooga Department of Parks and Recreation and the Chattanooga Parent to Lt. Scott Shepherd, supervisory School Resource Officer (SRO) for Hamilton serve thousands of area teenagers. County, oversees officers in 23 schools. These professionals serve in equal parts as Donations of clean dresses on hangers will be accepted at the South Chattanooga role models, educators and life advisors. They show that interaction with officers Recreation Center at 1151 West 40th Street, on Friday, February 24th from 9:00 am is not always negative, teaching prevention, safety and self-esteem as they serve as until 8:00 pm. Teens from participating organizations will be selecting dresses and resources for both students and their parents. accessories at the Center on Saturday, February 25th from 9:30 am to 6:30 pm. Lt. Shepherd and Gang Czar Patterson both encourage parents to talk to their Please contact Crystal at crystal.cadieux@yahoo.com or at 423-298-4246 for children, and to watch for changes in their behavior and remind them to reach out information on donating, volunteering or signing up to participate. to the SRO’s and teachers when they notice differences. Children are exposed to an

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Giving them credit

3 credit-building options for teens by Sarah Clark Oster

our personal credit history affects your ability to obtain housing, transportation, insurance, and even employment. It’s important for teens to begin building a healthy credit history as early as possible if they plan to buy a car or move into an apartment. Here’s how can you help your teen begin building credit in a safe and responsible way: Encourage your teen to establish checking and savings accounts at a bank or credit union. Though checking and savings accounts will not appear on a credit report, lenders will often check an applicant’s banking history when performing a credit check. By exhibiting responsible banking behavior, teens can prove that they are capable of handling other financial obligations. Furthermore, balancing a checkbook, making deposits and withdrawals, and using a debit card is great practice for future responsibilities. Talk about the advantages of a secured credit card. Teens and young adults are often denied credit because they have no credit history. A secured credit card can be a great way to overcome such a hurdle. Secured credit cards are easier to obtain because the cardholder is required to put down a deposit against the credit limit of the card. The bank holds that deposit as collateral in case the card holder fails to make payments. Though a secured credit card can be a great option, it’s important to read the fine print to make sure you’re getting a good deal. Some cards can carry an exorbitant annual fee and don’t report to any of the credit reporting bureaus. Of course, this option is only for teens 18 and up.

Consider establishing your teen as an authorized user on your own credit card. Making your teen an authorized user will allow the account’s credit activity to appear on the minor’s credit report. You don’t even have to give your teen access to the account, but your account activity will still show up on his personal credit record as if he were using his own card. Establishing a minor as an authorized user is an option that should be weighed carefully. This will only help your teen if you have a healthy credit lifestyle of your own. Making a late payment and/or retaining a large amount of outstanding debt will hurt your teen’s credit rather than help it. This is only an appropriate option if you are absolutely confident that your habits will build your child’s credit. Above all, teens should be well-informed about the negative consequences of using credit irresponsibly. They should know that making late payments, maxing out credit cards, and applying for multiple accounts will damage their credit score. They should develop the habit of consistently checking their credit report at least once a year for free at www.annualcreditreport.com. Sarah Clark Oster coordinates Marketing and Education Outreach at Consumer Credit Counseling Service. If you or your teen has questions about building or improving credit, call 423-490-5620 or visit www.CreditHelpToday.org for free information and assistance.

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February 2012

The faces of technology on Frazier Avenue Story and photo by Jennifer Crutchfield

“‘Curiosity is a great teacher,’ says Woople founder Paul Cummings.”

Learning has come to Chattanooga and the faces of its technology have been fascinating families for several months. Drivers and pedestrians on Frazier Avenue near Coolidge Park have been agog whenever artist Kevin Bate has been on duty atop his ladder. Mystery surrounded the faces that appeared on the wall of a business relocating to Chattanooga and the answer inspires. “Curiosity is a great teacher”, says Woople founder Paul Cummings. Mr. Cummings believes that education should inspire a “shout of un-abandoned joy” and his revolutionary eLearning educational software company reflects that goal. As a way to inspire Chattanooga children Paul asked his team to name the six people who most impacted the history of technology and he hired Chattanooga artist Kevin Bate to paint 15-foot tall murals of each one. Charles Babbage was a mathematician, philosopher, inventor and mechanical engineer. He is considered to be the originator or the programmable computer, the “father of the computer”. He was born in 1791 and lived and dreamed until 1871. Nikola Tesla was born in 1856 and was a Serbian-American inventor, mechanical engineer and electrical engineer. He is known for developing the AC (alternating current) electrical supply system and for his contributions to the birth of commercial electricity and the field of electromagnetism.

Chattanooga children have been fascinated by the faces appearing on Frazier Avenue, each face representing a leader in technology who can inspire today’s students.

Vannevar Bush was an American engineer who founded Raytheon and the memex, an adjustable microfilm viewer that catalogued data and was analogous to the structure of the World Wide Web. Alan Turing was a cryptoanalyst, mathematician, logician and computer scientist. This Englishman created the ‘Turing Machine’ which played a pivotal role in the development of the modern computer. Claude Shannon was an American famous for having founded informational theory. He was a mathematician, cryptographer and electric engineer who is called the “father of information theory.” The sixth famous face is still a mystery and Woople encourages Chattanooga families to visit their new Northshore offices for the April 14 grand opening of the facility. The innovative educational software company is designing a state-of-theart headquarters with a library and an open community room where families can read, browse through the revolutionary learning management systems and enjoy education. Simple, affordable, fun and efficient (SAFE) are the keywords to a system that is currently providing over a million minutes of content each week to users across the world. Families will be able to use Woople to learn, share their lives, and access enrichment through world-class educators alongside international corporations as everyone is challenged to become one who will inspire others. A lifetime of being a father, proud son and inspired educator came to a head when Paul Cummings’ daughter suggested that he make his software “so simple that adults could use it.” Chattanooga families will join millions of users as they reap the benefits of that goal and lives are changed through dynamic instruction. Woople and Big Bang Technology are building dreams and inspiring future leaders right here in Chattanooga, Tennessee.

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Making Time for Homework— and for fun! by Jason Isaacs

hat does your teen enjoy doing when he or she is not doing homework? I often hear “sports” or “video games.” What would your teen say if you presented the following challenge, “You know- you are not spending enough time playing sports?” Would his jaw drop? Would she believe you? Most teenagers can learn to study more efficiently. Time is lost to distractions- music, cell phones, and television offer a barrage of distractions that make study time too long and less effective. Challenge your teen to accept the following: there are ways to spend less time on homework, improve grades, and make time each week for the things they enjoy.

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Set up a time to study Set your student’s “office hours.” Make the time consistent so they can tell their friends when they are not available. Your teen should be expected to show up on time for his or her “office hours.” Encourage your teenager to do the following: show up, get the work done, and move on! Many students will be thrilled to hear that they are expected to have an “end time.” Set up a place to study This place should be for “studying only” during that time. The study area should be free of background noise such as televisions and music. The kitchen table, a desk in a spare room, or the student’s bedroom are all good places- as long as there are no distractions in the room. Plan time for everything else In order to focus, students need to know that time has been made for “everything else.” Writing out a weekly schedule helps them to remember that time has been allotted for everything that is important. Have your student agree to the schedule- you won’t be just a “parent with a bunch of rules,” you will be the parent helping the student keep the commitment he or she has made!

Time lost to distractions makes studying take longer and be less effective.

“Challenge your teen to accept the following: there are ways to spend less time on homework, improve grades, and make time each week for the things they enjoy.” These skills are imperative for students to improve grades today; learning the benefits of making commitments and building structure will also teach them the independence they need when they graduate! Jason Isaacs is the Center Director of Sylvan Learning Center in Chattanooga and has been an active member of the Sylvan team since 2005.

February 2012

Balancing Act

y closet has become a veritable three-ring circus. Every morning as I enter my not-so-big tent to get dressed, I wave to the animal print garments and fauxfur accessories surrounding me, nod approvingly at the crowd of shoes below me and then begin my daily high wire act. This precarious routine requires me to stand unaided as I foolishly attempt to balance on one foot and put on whatever socks or boots or pants I have deemed critical to my outfit. My rational self begs me to sit down on the floor or to lean on the doorframe in order to simplify this task. But my stubborn impatient self insists, “Nah, you got this,” as I tempt fate with every shaky maneuver, just barely getting my foot into said sock or boot or pant leg before all balance is lost completely and I somehow manage to land on two feet. But unlike the Ringling Brothers, my act is done without a safety net. And so as one might imagine, a few months ago the inevitable happened – in the middle of my balancing act I fell. And it was not a graceful fall, one that landed me on a cushion of cocktail dresses or on a bed of Banana Republic pants. This was a clumsy, awkward, downward descent that left me lying on the floor with a pair of leggings twisted around my ankles, a cowboy boot piercing the back of my neck and a vision of that woman in the commercial pleading, “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!” My head just barely missed hitting a corner shelf, so although I was shaken, I eventually emerged from my closet unscathed and fully dressed. I thought about this episode recently when I was asked to speak at a training session for the Junior League of Chattanooga. The topic was, “Achieving Balance in Life.” I was five minutes late to the session, having stayed to watch the final minutes of our son’s basketball game, and was also double booked that evening because the training session overlapped with a retirement dinner my husband and I had agreed to attend. As I was searching in vain for a parking spot, in the pouring rain, assuring the Junior League woman on my cell phone that I was indeed on my way, and simultaneously reaching under my seat hoping to retrieve that emergency lip gloss I usually keep in the cup holder, I could only laugh at the pure irony of the situation. I can barely achieve balance in my own closet, much less my own life, and here I was about to reveal the secret behind a balancing act that was clearly more act than balancing. But isn’t balance in the eye of the balancer? And do the number of balls we are expected to juggle on a daily basis truly reflect or measure up to the multiple acts we manage to balance throughout our lives? So if achieving literal balance in my own closet had become so difficult, I needed to figure out the ways I was managing to successfully balance my life elsewhere. I started paying attention to all the minor and major parts of my life that do have balance. For instance, I always let a car go in front of me in the car rider line at school, and I even let two or three cars in when someone ahead of me fails to do so. Balance. I usually order my burgers without the bun so I can eat the French fries without as much guilt, and I always drink Diet Coke with my popcorn at the movies. Balance, balance. And for every time I have grown

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“But isn’t balance in the eye of the balancer? And do the number of balls we are expected to juggle on a daily basis truly reflect or measure up to the multiple acts we manage to balance throughout our lives?” impatient with one of our sons, forgotten to sign one of their permission slips for school or even missed one of their sporting events, I have sat quietly and listened to them play piano, trombone or drums, have committed to memory what toppings they each like on their frozen yogurt or pizza, and have never missed a single birthday. Balance, balance, balance. So when I look at all the things that happen under the Big Top of my life, it seems I’m not such a bad ringleader after all. And even if I can’t achieve the perfect balance all the time, or even in my closet, it’s okay. It’s still the Greatest Show on Earth!

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February 2012

Dads teach the language of good By Rev. Keith Moore

ou might be thinking, Language is a special thing. “Just what I need - another It reflects our understanding of preacher telling me how to raise the world around us while also my kids.” Admittedly, there shaping that understanding. are plenty of us religious types If I see the world as a place of making a living doing just that, frustration my language will telling people how to run their reflect that view. Using that families. Most of them probably language will color my view of hope no one takes a good hard life and the world in general. look into their households. The thing that worries me Then there are the “preachers” is that my language also colors like me. It seems like everyone the way my children will see the has a story about the preacher’s world. As a parent my language kid (PK for short). Truth be told plays a huge role in defining PKs are just like any other kid what my sons understand to except they have the misfortune be “good”. The conflict that of being born into a fishbowl. parents face is played out Even as a preacher I like to before our children and they are Rev. Keith Moore, campus minister at the UTC Wesley Center and ROTC students think I am not much different listening. participated in tornado relief work days in Bradley county, practicing the language of from any other dad. I want my I call this conflict the Scrooge service. sons to grow up healthy, happy and successful. In short, I want them to become people who know what is good and seek it out not only for themselves but for others as well. You know that golden rule thing – “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” The problem is that this is so much more difficult than it might seem. I often fear that I’m simply not the person to do it. My own unique moments of pettiness and peevishness aside, I just don’t know if I have the language to teach them what “good” really looks like. I don’t mean words like please and thank you. They are important but what vs. Fred dichotomy. You know, good ‘ole Uncle Scrooge and his Nephew Fred? I am thinking about is a language that allows us to conceive of and value the Each of them had his own outlook on life, the world and his responsibility to things that are truly good - both good for us as individuals and as members of a his neighbor. They were always at odds with each other. The conflict coming to community. a head in their debate over the “good” of Christmas. In Ebenezer’s view, the whole idea of the holiday is bad because it doesn’t profit him monetarily. Fred sees good in the very spirit of the season and even sit. stay. eat.. though it never put a penny in his pocket, he believes it has done him an MORE THAN JUST inestimable good. You might ask what the difference is. Fred and Ebenezer both think that GOOD DOGS. www.eatatgooddog.com whatever benefits them personally is good. The real difference lies in the commodities that they value as good. daily hand cased sausages. (bratwurst, italian sausages, chicken This difference is the moral of the story. Scrooge values wealth, power and sausage, chorizo) fiscal security while Fred values family, friendship and the love of his neighbor. The uncle and his nephew use competing views of the good and their language hearty seasonal soups. shows it in word and deed. I am especially aware of the ways that my language makes me more Scrooge housemade sides. on the north shore near coolidge park than Fred when I see it reflected in back to me in my children. The good news 34 frazier avenue. is, there is redemption for every Scrooge, even me. We just have to learn a new (423) 475-6175 language. veggie and gluten free options available.

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ADULT SOFTBALL LEAGUES! Sign-Âups Going on NOW! Games Played at the Summit of Softball! # # -ÂEd Industrial and Church! Season Starts in April! Call Richard West at 643-Â6055! RBI BASEBALL For Ages 4-Â12 FREE! Season Starts in April! Call Kenneth Simpson at 355-Â3021!

STAY INFORMED! TEXT: PARKSREC to 22828

Â 16 Community Centers for YOU!

Open M-ÂF 11:30am-Â8pm Saturdays 10:30-Â6:00pm -ÂFree Tutoring -ÂTeen Fun -ÂFitness -ÂArts -ÂCooking Classes -ÂEducation/Black History Month -ÂLine Dancing -ÂZumba -ÂSenior Activities and more!

Stop by YOUR Local Center Today! More info at chattanooga.gov and 423-Â757-ÂPLAY!

Chattanooga Parks and Rec!