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Când se vorbește despre mască, fiecare încearcă să o vadă pe a celuilalt fără a se observa pe sine sub propria mască. Buna comunicare cere ca în relațiile sociale să afișezi o mască, deoarece celălalt nu trebuie să-ți preia starea. Societatea în sine poartă diferite măști pentru protocol, astfel că persona se distanțează iremediabil de ființa primordială ce fusese. Este deja o modă de a nu-ți afișa sentimentele în public, de a plânge în secret. Omul modern este deposedat de stări, iar cele câteva pe care le mai afișează, le preia din filme și imagini publicitare. Cabinetele psihologice iau amploare în lipsa prietenilor cărora să le spui, fără cost, ce tristețe îți inundă inima.

Cinematografia a exploatat acest subiect, astfel că există mai multe realizări cinematografice în care apare masca pentru a transmite același mesaj. Bruiser (2000), regia George A. Romero este un film despre Henry Creedlow, un tânăr care lucrează la o agenție de publicitate și care își reprimă o mulțime de gânduri morbide. Soția îl înșeală cu șeful său, și îi fură investițiile cu ajutorul celui mai bun prieten al lui. Servitoarea fură frecvent din casă, nimeni nu-l respectă, nici măcar propriul câine. La o petrecere, o colegă îi face o mască de ipsos lui Henry, care se trezește într-o zi și descoperă că fața sa a fost înlocuită cu o mască lipsită de expresie. Această masca are rol dublu - de metaforă și alegorie, pentru că Henry a vrut să se integreze mai bine în societate, iar acum a ajuns să aibă un chip fără expresie. Ceea ce urmează sunt crime și traume. În The Orphanage (2007), regizorul J.A. Bayona utilizează masca pe fața unui copil ca semn al disperării. Sound Of The Mountain (1954), regia Mikio Naruse, este o dramă japoneză despre relația lui Kikuko cu tatăl ei vitreg. Masca de teatru a unui copil sugerează modul în care personajele își ascund sentimentele. V-V for Vendetta (2005), regia James McTeigue, aduce în prim plan celebra mască ce a devenit simbol al luptei pentru dreptate și libertate, preluată de celebra organizație de hackeri Anonymos. Această mască își are originile la 1500, când un catolic a pus la cale un complot împotriva monarhiei din Anglia, mânat de persecuțiile religioase În film, masca devine simbol al revoluției împotriva sistemului. În filme, în general, masca ascunde fie un salvator fie un criminal.

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Masca face parte din personalitatea noastră, nu știm să funcționăm altfel, suntem educați în spiritul măștii, ne confruntăm cu oameni care o poartă, astfel că singurul mod de a-i rezista este cel al conștientizării și al analizei.

5 masks we wear

Prof. Alina Lucia Grapini Liceul Special „Sfânta Maria” Arad

Imagine, for just a moment, a world where no one cared what car you drove, what designer handbag you carried, or what job you worked at. Can you sense the freedom? But this isn’t reality, because we do care. And because we care we’ve developed habitual masks to please and impress others.

We all wear masks.

There’s a good chance, too, you change your masks so habitually you don’t even notice doing it. Maybe you’ve done it your entire life.

What mask do you wear?

How do you feel about the face you’re portraying for the world to see? Are you truly yourself? Do you feel that you can be you, no matter what social situation you’re in? In your mind, gather up everyone you know and put them in a room, friends, family, coworkers, and acquaintances. Everyone is surely cautiously mingling with their masks perfectly placed. But then, imagine a strong wind gust sweeps through the party, blowing all masks off. It’s may them, faces are exposed, for maybe the first time, wrinkles and all. Now imagine that instead of using this vulnerability against one another you patted each other on the back, encouraged uniqueness and supported one another. Why are we so afraid to be authentic? Becoming authentic is a process to begin knowing ourselves. To understand our own personality traits, behaviors, values, beliefs, needs, goals and motives. It’s having the courage to acknowledge our limitations, and

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Noi toți purtăm măști!

embrace our own vulnerability. Wearing a mask protects us from vulnerability. I fear that if I stand tall and exposed, I’ll be “weak” in some way. But when you wear a mask you stand in resistance to your true life and end up attracting realities that conflict with who you really are.

Below are five common masks we wear and keep tucked in our costume drawer. 1. The “Positive” Persona

We are all performing, all of the time. We pretend we have it all together, that everything is perfect. There are many different types of masks spiritual, superficial confident and overly friendly. All these masks are usually wrapped in fake smiles. Most of us are guilty of this façade and it’s causing many friends and loved ones to feel hopeless, shameful, and sad. I’m sure that’s not the reaction we’d hoped for. No one’s life was perfect, despite what we want everyone to believe.

Show Us You’re Imperfections. I Dare You.

Why can’t we admit that we’re perfectly imperfect? Our imperfections make us human, unique and relatable. Life is life, it will never be perfect. But exposing your true imperfect self opens you up to a world of deeper, meaningful, and supportive relationships. 2. The Over Contrived “Strength” Persona I’m amazed at how many people pretend to be strong even when everything is falling apart inside. Coping with everything life throws is tough. From the outside, others seem to be holding it all together. Just like you. Just like me.We juggle all our different roles, trying to be all things to all people.

You’re not alone, you know. You don’t have to be alone either, you know.

We all have moments when our troubles feel big and our faith feels so small. We all get to the point too, when we can’t take another step. There’s no shame in that, and you don’t have to pretend to be strong. Let those who love you carry you. Tell them what you need.

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Ask for help. See that as an act of courage — not of weakness. Because that’s what it is. And your part? Open yourself up to love and support. Tell others your fears, hopes and hurts. People care about you, people want to help you. You don’t need to be stronger. You don’t need to pretend everything is okay. Throw that mask away and let others in.

3. The “Intellectual” Persona

“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” — Kurt Vonnegut We all want to feel or to be special. Suddenly being “special” and “smart” is very important. This need for validation continues into adulthood. This leads to what’s known as “the imposter syndrome,” not a diagnosed condition, but a label to describe the self-doubt that many people, especially high achievers experience. It’s the gnawing feeling of knowing deep inside you’re not perfect or superior — because no one is — and this gnawing feeling makes you jumpy, like your always on the verge of being “found out.” Feeling special, influential, valuable, or better than others can be an encouraging and motivating feeling. But you can’t avoid failure, and you can avoid disappointment. When we throw that mask away and no longer put so much emphasis on being “special,” we can taste freedom, we can just be whoever we actually are. We stop draining our energy maintaining this persona. We grow the wisdom to understand that mistakes and failures are a part of the human experience. When you stop searching yourself and everyone around you for the “special” and “superior” qualities, and start appreciating basic humanity, then special qualities naturally arise. Superiority is only an illusion. It’s not real, we are all special and unique, yet also all strangely the same. Why not listen instead of pretending you know everything. Take space, contemplate, think before you speak and be humble. Give others a chance to talk, dream, and brainstorm.

4. The “Nice” Persona

Like most people, I want to be liked by everyone. I’m a people pleaser. I want to keep people around at all costs. And

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Suntem ceea ce pretindem că suntem!