Holiday 2018
Stuff that just might make your life better
25
ways to experience true Christmas
Joy Fashion finds
It's sweater weather Making it a good
[mental health]
Holiday
The one gift that works for pretty much
everyone
3 Cookies
you're going to make for Christmas
Kristi & Chris Ver Steeg
The 10 lessons that could change your life
Take this magazine with you. When you’re done, give it away.
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19 . Bigger is better
SUVs. You gotta have some room.
20 . Your place
Tips for making your home your own.
21 . Floor first aid
Be ready for holiday spills and stains.
23 . It's sweater weather
Fashion finds for winter wardrobes.
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25 . Doing things different
Basket photo by Vadim Zakharishchev, Cranberry nut bread photo by Brent Hofacker, and Family tree lights by Impact Photography/Shutterstock.com
Dr. Rhett Ruehle is making a new way.
26 . It's time to get it right
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Proper contraception for no surprises.
26 . How to win the holiday
Make a plan to keep your diet on track.
27 . Making it a good holiday Merry mental health.
29 . Understanding the big 4 Top conditions that cause blindness.
29 . Commit to it
Tips for buying exercise equipment.
30 . Healthy relationships Education is coming soon.
30 . Don't live with crooked
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7 . Christmas stories for all
Be inspired by a South Dakota writer.
9 . Better stuff
Stuff to make you smile.
10 . Tips & Trends
What people are talking about now.
Invisible option for teeth straightening.
12 . Top 5
Things dog owners may not know.
13 . My best advice
31 . Why your Christmas party could be causing your back pain.
32 . Brain benders
Three experts weigh in.
Feed your noggin.
BETTER HOME
15 . Christmas countdown
Advent counters to track the time.
BETTER LIFE 33 . The 10 lessons
that could change your life.
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51 . Healthy turkey leftovers Protein-packed recipes you'll love.
51 . Sweet potato toast Yep. It's a thing.
52 . Zero-hassle holiday spread Fun and fast foods from kits.
54 . Food focus: Cranberries Tart and tasty seasonal treats.
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BEING BETTER MAGAZINE, LLC. Sioux City, IA
Editor-in-Chief
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Copy editors
MIKARA BONHAM BARB MICKELSON
Editorial assistant
RACHEL KOERTNER
38 . Stuff you don't think about
Photography
Care giving isn't always in the plan.
MARK KARRER
Things behind the scenes that matter.
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41 . 25 ways to Christmas joy We can have a magical season.
BETTER FOOD
49 . 3 Cookies for Christmas Siouxlanders' favorite cookies.
SALES Account Executive
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40 . At work
Having a very merry Christmas
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ears ago, a group of young men from the Sudan were relocated to the United States from a refugee camp that they had been living in for a number of years. They had mentors who showed them how we do things in America - how to cook, shop, open a can of vegetables, get from one place to another, and even how to take a shower. For them it was both amazing and overwhelming. As they got jobs and settled into life, the holidays came. At Christmastime they were very confused. When an interviewer asked what they thought of it, one of them, puzzled, answered, "There is so much busyness. In Sudan, we just celebrate Jesus." I think we have all felt the excess and too-much-ness of Christmas. For those of us who believe it is all about Jesus, we don't even know how to celebrate in a way that makes it about Him. Whether you believe in the baby sent from heaven or not, the craziness of the holidays can make it anything but merry. The good news is, we can do some things to calm the crazy and get to a good place where we find joy and peace. That's what we all want after all. We have 25 tips to help you get there! To really put things in perspective, Chris and Kristi Ver Steeg share some life lessons that help us carve through the muck and get to the heart of how to do life in the best way. Take their lessons to heart, and you may start the New Year as a new you! This issue has plenty of great tips from everything from, health to holiday baking to help you take care of yourself and organize your season. This year, let's focus on what's really important, and purge some of the gobbledygook so that we can truly have a Very Merry Christmas! May God bless you like crazy!
I totally forgot I needed a photo of myself until the day before this was going to the printer. I snapped a quick selfie in my office when I was making the final edits. Ignore the pile of stuff on the floor. It's just a good thing you couldn't see what my desk looked like.
Sneak peak.
Next issue we're going to be all about transforming our lives. The number one resolution is always to lose weight and get in shape. We're done resolving. This year we're DOING. We'll show you how other Siouxlanders have done it, and how you can succeed. Plus we'll have lots of transformation tips for other areas of life: finances, home, health, relationships, and so much more. Pick it up in the New Year!
Holiday graphic by ShustrikS/Shutterstock.com
Jennifer Winquist, Editor-in-Chief jennifer@BeingBetterMagazine.com
And this is the way to have eternal life to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one you sent to earth. -Jesus [John 17:3]
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Inspiring Christmas stories for everyone. They may look like children's books, but the message they deliver speaks to all holiday travelers.
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ith a message that reminds us of why we celebrate Christmas, these books also have a mission to make a positive difference in the lives of children and families. South Dakota author, Tom Roberts, and his wife, Tammy, began their Christmas Book effort 17 years ago as a volunteer mission project to help raise awareness and much needed funds for the programs and services offered by Children’s Home Society of South Dakota (CHS). On That One Christmas Eve and The Greatest Gift: The Wise Ones’ Journey (gold medal winner of the 2018 Illumination Book Award) are two of the author’s six books created for this project and have generated sponsorships and sales that have netted nearly $1.3 million for CHS. Each year, Tom and Tammy do between 80 and 90 events, ranging from sharing their stories at church services, school and library programs, service clubs, senior centers, and retailer book signings. Tom says, “As a storyteller, I am so grateful to be able to creatively express my faith in a way that will provide an opportunity for others to support a worthy cause that makes a meaningful impact on people here in the Siouxland area.” Tammy & Tom Roberts
On That One Christmas Eve is a story of a college student, home for Christmas, who decides that he no longer believes in the extraordinary circumstances surrounding the birth of Jesus. So the young man refuses to go to church with his family, but an encounter with a cluster of freezing birds set in motion a realization that renews his faith. The Greatest Gift: The Wise Ones’ Journey is based on the journey of the Magi. This Christmas parable creates a poetic perspective that invites children of all ages to consider their own journey and the valued gifts that they have to offer. If your church, school, or organization would like to schedule a storytelling program with Tom Roberts, contact Tammy at tammy.roberts@chssd.org. For a list of retailers, events, or information about Tom’s other books go to www.chssd.org/books. www.beingbettermagazine.com / Holiday 2018
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BETTER Stuff Kid stuff
A curious child asked his mother: “Mom, why are some of your hairs turning gray?” She jokingly answered, “Because of you. Every time a child is bad it turns another one of his mother's hairs gray!” The boy replied, “Now I know why Grandma is completely gray!"
Chocolatey stuff
This is just one of those staples of life everyone should know how to make, 'cause it's super simple, and hey, who doesn't like hot cocoa? In a saucepan, mix 1/4 c unsweetened cocoa powder, 1/2 c sugar, a dash of salt and 1/3 cup of hot water. Whisk in 4 cups of milk and cook over medium heat until hot but not boiling. Stir in a teaspoon of vanilla...with a candy cane if you're a rebel. Sit. Drink. Smile.
Super fast stuff If you are nuts about taking pictures and video - like everyday - then this is the app for you. Download it now so you are ready for the new year. One Second Everyday lets you grab just one second of video to represent each day. It doesn't sound like enough, but it's surprising what happens in a second. The app lets you customize compilations. Have it stitch together one second to represent your month or the whole year. Do groupings of just one person for birthdays and other milestones. It's very easy to use, and it's totally free. Go to https://1se.co/ to check it out.
Quotable stuff “Gratitude is riches. Complaint is poverty.” ─Doris Day “Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change the ordinary opportunities into blessings.” ─ William Arthur Ward “Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever.” ─ 1 Chronicles 16:34 NIV
Hot chocolate by baibaz/Shutterstock.com
Old stuff Ever wonder what the very first toy was? The National Toy Hall of Fame awarded "oldest toy" to the stick in 2012.
Robot stuff
Reel stuff Feel the nostalgia! Give a gift that reflects on days and an era gone by with this retro reel viewer. The best part is you get to pick the images for the reel. The package includes a code to redeem for one reel of 7 images. Your finished reel is shipped within 5 business days of photo submission. $29.95. Order from uncommongoods.com.
Need a gift for a kid 6 on up? Meet Bit, an OZOBOT coding robot. He's pocket-size, and kids can customize his look with stickers and accessories. Kids can command bit to move by drawing color coded lines. Around $50 on Amazon.
Defining stuff In the story A Christmas Carol, we meet a man called Scrooge. That name conjures up everything bad that he was. However, there may have been a reason the author named him Ebenezer. The word Ebenezer is actually from the Bible (1 Samuel 7:12). The Hebrew word means a commemoration of divine assistance. After a little next-world assistance through the night, Ebenezer Scrooge was a changed man.
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Tips & Trends The one gift you can literally get for pretty much everyone Everyone has a phone or some sort of a device that needs a charge, so that means these are the perfect gift for all. These lil' guys have enough power when fully charged to recharge an iPhone 6 four times! Also works for Samsung and other devices. And if you press their tail, their ears will light up to indicate how much battery power is left — Ears light up = 70%-100%, Ears flashing slowly = 30%-70%, Ears flashing quickly = 0%-30%.
Go back in time About 45 minutes north of Sioux City, in the tiny town of Nora, SD, you'll find an old country store called Nora Store. At night, during the Christmas season, you'll find it crammed with people singing Christmas carols. They're probably enjoying some hot cider and homemade cookies too. Years ago, Michael Pedersen got a beautiful old pipe organ and restored it inside the store. A few nights each year, he opens the store for any and all to sing along as he plays. Come join the fun! This year the store will be open 12 times between Nov 23 - Dec 16th. Check the Nora Store Facebook page for times and dates. It's all free, but donations are welcomed.
You can order them from Amazon for around $19.99 to $24.99, and they're available in three colors. About 3 1/2" h. Christmas shopping is now complete.
With so many ways to buy a car these days, you may not get all the info you need. Factory recalls happen all the time, and if the previous owner(s) didn't make the repairs, how will you even know what's wrong? You can go to www.safercar.gov/vin and look up your car by the VIN - Vehicle Identification Number. You can quickly learn if a specific vehicle has not been repaired as part of a safety recall in the last 15 years. Not sure where to find your vehicle's VIN number? Stand outside the vehicle on the driver's side, and look at the corner of the dashboard where it meets the windshield. If you don't see it there, open the driver's side door and look on the frame where the door latches to the car.
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Total recall
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Shop local. Give generously
The sights & sounds
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Here are just a few of Siouxland's favorite events this holiday season.
his year when you make your gift shopping list, take a moment to think about which of those items you could buy locally. Shopping online is definitely convenient, but it lines the pockets of those far away. Make a concerted effort this year to support retail locations in our community when possible. November 24th is Shop Local Day, but they won't mind if you come in on any day!
Saturday & Sunday, Nov. 17th-18th Holiday Collections Craft Fair will be held at the Tyson Events Center Saturday 9- 5 & Sunday, 10 – 4
Black Friday, of course, is the Friday after Thanksgiving - Nov. 23rd. Small Business Saturday (AKA Shop Local Day) is the Saturday after turkey day. Cyber Monday, November 26th, is when you can find great online deals. And Giving Tuesday is November 27th.
If you've been blessed with abundance this year, don't forget to share that blessing with your favorite charity. November 27th is Giving Tuesday. If you're looking for a great charity, there are plenty right here in Siouxland that survive and thrive completely by local contributions. Some are even featured in this issue if you need some ideas.
Woman reading by Alexander Raths, Think big sign by ESB Professional, Coffee image by marekuliasz/Shutterstock.com
Self-care is essential
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Friday, Nov. 23rd Mannheim Steamroller Christmas by Chip Davis, now in its 31st year, is still met by sold-out audiences and was one of the top 20 concert tours in the nation last year. Orpheum Theatre.
usy women are finally realizing that me-time isn’t a luxury but a necessity. Just like the airlines tell us, it's vital to put on our own oxygen mask first, so we’re better equipped to take care of our family, community, and the world! And it's not just going for mani-pedis. It's carving out time in our schedule for things that revive us - getting to bed at a regular time, scheduled prayer time, prioritizing exercise, and making space to read each day.
Friday, Nov. 30th Jill Miller Christmas Show at the Orpheum Theater, benefiting Sunrise Retirement Community. Join the fun and festive atmosphere listening to Jill and her guests sing original Christmas music and timeless classics. Monday, Dec. 3rd Moscow Ballet’s Great Russian Nutcracker. The Orpheum Theatre hosts world-class Russian artists, hand-painted sets, Russian Snow Maidens, and jubilant Nesting Dolls – Great Russian Nutcracker brings the Christmas spirit to life for all ages. Saturday, Dec. 15 Christmas with the Symphony. The Symphony offers a variety of music from cherished old carols we have all grown to love to the timeless classics that truly make this time of year special. Special guest appearance by Grammy award-winning cellist, Zuill Bailey!
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Dogs dream like people, which you may have noticed when your pooch is moving in their sleep. Researchers find that dogs have similar sleep patterns to people. Studies show small dogs dream more than large dogs.
Now hear this
Dogs hear much higher and lower frequencies than we do. Dogs hear as high as 47,000 to 65,000 Hz while the average adult human cannot hear sounds above 20,000 Hz. Because of this, dogs have a difficult time with very loud noises. Sounds that may be acceptable to you can be bothersome for your dog.
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The nose knows
No two dog noses are the same. A dog’s nose is the equivalent of a human fingerprint with each having a unique set of ridges, dips, and bumps. Plus, their sense of smell is off the charts. Compared to humans, dogs have double the olfactory receptors and 40x greater smell processing ability.
Smarty pants
Dogs are as smart as a 2-year-old. Man’s best friend can count and understand over 150 words (especially "Treat" and "Bye-Bye"). Some dogs will figure out how to trick or manipulate people and other pets in a way that results in getting a treat or other perk. Intelligence varies by breed. Research indicates Border Collies are the smartest followed by poodles and German Shepherds.
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The sixth sense
Most pet owners say their pets have an uncanny ability to sense potential danger and regularly alert their owners to impending events. 72% of dog owners reported them acting strangely (anxiety, trying to hide, whining) before a storm or earthquake. 43% acted oddly right before something bad happened. Dogs have been know to alert people before a seizure, blood level spikes, and detect when a woman is going to go into labor or when cancer strikes. Most experts believe much of their ability is due to their highly sensitive sense of smell - yet much is still unknown.
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experts in their field weigh in
DR. PAT LUSE
SUSAN ERICKSON
NICK BERMEL
TRI-STATE PHYSICIANS & PHYSICAL THERAPY CLINIC
SUSAN ERICKSON LIFE COACHINGS
ROYALTY ROOFING
AUTHOR OF THE 7 SYSTEMS PLAN
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“Imagine how it would feel to be at your ideal weight, have great energy, and have a younger body. Instead, many struggle with obesity, diabetes, high cholesterol, low energy, gut issues, medications, and just not feeling good.
“We all need different things to feel energized and complete. For some, its time alone with a good book, for others it may be a night out with friends. It takes time and attention to identify our own authentic requirements. Below are some ways to get started:
“We all want quality home renovations done at the best price, with the best materials, and quickly. But, we buy into great-sounding sales pitches and wind up disappointed all too often. That's why it's so important to have a good relationship with your contractor. The more expensive your project (like your roof), the more important the relationship. Meet with them to talk about the project before you hire them. If you feel like you can't talk to your contractor, that you don't understand what they're going to do, or you just don't see eye to eye, find someone else.
“Eat real food”
“Having helped thousands of patients regain their health over the past 38 years inspired me to write The 7 Systems Plan. There are seven main systems in the body. When these are working optimally, you feel great. When one system isn’t working, there is a domino effect causing other systems to malfunction. So, fix your systems! “One of the best places to start is changing what you eat. All food falls into three categories: real, processed, and ultra-processed. Real food anything from the vine, bush, tree or earth - should make up the biggest part of your diet. Go easy on processed foods, and read labels. Strictly limit ultraprocessed foods, especially those with sugar, artificial sweeteners, and bad fats. “Every day eat lots of vegetables, nuts, healthy oils, beans, fish, and other real food.” Attend a Free seminar at Tri-State Physicians and Physical Therapy Clinic to learn more on improving your Systems. Call 402-494-5173
“Invest in self-care”
Pick one thing. In The Art of Extreme Self Care, Cheryl Richardson suggests you develop your own rhythm and routine by asking yourself what one routine you could put in place this month that would improve your life. It may be 15 minutes of meditation or walking. Establish your center. We all have important things that need our attention. If we are not careful, our hearts and minds can be consumed by tasks. If we keep our focus on a meaningful "center," then less important items fall in around it. Your center is anything that is meaningful to you, your authentic self, such as faith, family, friends and health." Maintain. Self-care comes from the constant repetition of many tiny habits, which together calm you and make sure you’re at your best.” To identify and develop your own self-care, join me in Feb. for a Self-Care Retreat to be held at Oscar Karl Vineyard in Sioux City. Call 515-257-6804 to find out more.
“Build a relationship”
Get personal. If you don't know your contractor, get references, and check them out. Make sure they have proof of insurance. Check with the BBB. You should feel comfortable with them and be able to share thoughts, ideas, and concerns easily and respectfully. Deal locally. It's a lot easier to get to know someone you can actually meet with through the process. Low prices and quick turn around can be enticing, but building a relationship with someone who you like and trust can be so much more valuable. Royalty Roofing & Renovations Sioux City & Omaha . 402-216-8850 www.RoyaltyRoofing.org
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Christmas Countdown Enjoy the
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BETTER / Home ith just a few supplies you can whip up one of these Christmas countdown ideas in short order. Don't pass on this just because your kids are older or out of the house. Christmas is for everyone so include everyone. Take it to work, take turns with older family members, put it in your spouse's lunch box each day, or let guests do the honors.
Cutout counters. Cut out simple holiday shapes from craft paper that has been doubled over (so you get two of each shape). Insert a goodie, then stitch together on a sewing machine or glue edges and draw stitching lines with a marker. Number 1 - 25. Insert idea: Try something flatter like a stick of gum, small candy, or an encouraging message. Vary the contents so it doesn't get boring. Paper pouches. Cut pieces of brown craft
Basket photo by Vadim Zakharishchev and hanging packets by Andrei Yarashevich/Shutterstock.com
paper or wrapping paper about 51/2" square. Fold side edges in so one side overlaps the other about 1/2". Glue the seam. Fold up 1/2" on the bottom and glue over seam. Insert a treat and fold down top and glue. Punch a hole
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BETTER / Home Tube tally. This is a great idea when you want more impact and it works well for classrooms, offices, or your own kids. Collect potato chip or cookie cans with lids. Cover cans and lids with holiday wrap or scrapbook paper. Cover a large piece of heavy cardboard with wrapping paper. Arrange cans in the shape of a tree and hot glue the bottom of the cans to the cardboard. Insert idea: Ornaments to hang on the tree, a special note of encouragement, or an action idea ("Do 20 jumping jacks" or "Smile at 25 everyone you meet today.")
in the top and hang from a decorative branch with metallic thread. Decorate pouches and number each one. Insert idea: For something really interesting, find a unique holiday poem or short story, or write your own. Include a couple lines each day so they need to continue the process to complete the story.
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have it in you to create 25 markers. Instead, make one for each week of advent or create them for days you know a grandchild or friend will be visiting. Simply wrap your treat in a paper, decorate, date, and hang from a rod, hooks, or bulletin board. Insert idea: Flat candy like Ghirardelli squares or packages of gum.
Organized envelopes. This idea also works
well for businesses, classrooms, or groups who meet daily. It can be part of an incentive program or opportunity for each individual to take part. It could also be an idea as a Secret Santa recipient. Wrap small gifts or envelopes (or a combination) and organize in a rustic box or festive basket. Insert idea: Good books you've read, handmade cards with a different greeting/focus each day, gift cards, mini books of encouragement, poetry, or humor. Definition
Ad∙vent Noun
∙ ∙ the first season of the Christian church year, leading up to Christmas the arrival of a notable person, thing, or event.
and including the four preceding Sundays.
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e are Americans, so it almost goes without saying that if we can get a bigger version of something (at a good value) we are in. Volkswagen decided to embrace that fact and stretched its VW Tiguan almost a foot. After all, we've got kids and stuff. We all cheer for more room. That, and a few other tweaks, got Edmunds to pick the 2018 Volkswagen Tiguan as one of their Best Small SUVs for this year. They appreciated Tiguan's "traditional strengths carry
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over, including a quiet and comfortable ride, top-notch cabin materials, and a user-friendly tech interface that's now even easier and quicker to use." They also noted those upscale touches come without a price premium either.
Even the base Tiguan S is a great value, with standard three-row seating (optional with all-wheel drive), a rear-view camera, and roof rails for weekend adventurers. For just a little more money, the SE is a smart buy. Upgrades include keyless entry and ignition, simulated leather upholstery, heated front seats and a larger touchscreen tech interface. Since it's an SUV, it has to get around in harsh climates (like we run into often in the Midwest), so the Tiguan has an all-wheel drive package called 4MOTIONÂŽ. As conditions change, available 4MOTION distributes power between the front and rear wheels as needed to help optimize traction and stability. For winter driving, put it in Snow Mode. The engine can upshift earlier, which helps keep it in a lower RPM range and helps prevent too much power from going to the wheels too quickly. Another way Tiguan goes big is on gas economy. With 22 city/27 hwy gas mileage, it's just one more reason to see that bigger doesn't have to be wallet draining. How can I be so sure? Because I'm Jensen. www.beingbettermagazine.com / Holiday 2018
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Getting kids organized
pro tips for making your home your own Make Showering Easier
Hey guys, it's me Gina Jepsen with Smarter Spaces. You know how your kid's room is always trashed? Believe it or not, kids typically like having a clean room too. It may simply come down to providing them some organization tools to help them keep it tidy. Here are three tips to start with. 1] In-room hamper. Don't make kids go to another room to deposit dirty clothes. 2] Shelf space. Make a spot for items that tend to clutter on the floor. Kids will put stuff where it goes as long as it's easy to put it there. 3] Hideaway. Closets are the perfect spot to encourage organization. Even if it gets a little unkempt from time to time, you can just close the doors when Grandma is coming over. Gina & Jason Jepsen of Smarter Spaces can help you design, create, and organize your storage spaces.
Sometimes age, health, or a life circumstance can make everyday tasks like showering more difficult with a traditional bathtub. If you or a loved one are having trouble getting in and out of the bathtub, our CleanCut Step can make life a little easier! Within a day, we can take your existing bathtub (whether it's made of fiberglass, steel, or cast-iron) and install the Cleancut Step, converting it into a step-in shower. You can enjoy more accessibility, safety, and peace of mind. Surface Solutions, owned and run by Gary and Stacy Kaiser, has been a trusted Siouxland business for over 20 years. Call Stacy today for your free estimate.
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Avoid direct contact Hi. It's Ed at FastFrame. A mistake that people make over and over is allowing their art, photos, and items they are framing to touch the glazing (glass or acrylic covering). Proper mounting is the key to make sure your item doesn't get damaged. One problem is humidity. It doesn't take much for moisture to form under the glass. If your item is touching that glass, deterioration begins. If what you are framing is an important memory or keepsake, make sure it's framed correctly. We have over 3,000 choices of frames on display and over 1,200 different mats available. We have personal, professional design service for all your framing needs.
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ith guests and goodies abounding this season, spills and stains are bound to happen. Rachael Chapple with Fashion Floors Carpet One says, "To keep your floors looking great, all you need is a little Stain First Aid." The best cure for a spill is a speedy response. If a spill isn't dealt with right away, it becomes much more difficult to remove. Knowing what to do can make a big difference, and we can make that easy."
Even with out the holidays, life happens and so do carpet spills and stains. Knowing a few trick can keep your carpets looking new. StainmasterÂŽ carpets (above) and others have built in resistance to stains that make carpet care a breeze.
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Carpet One has an app called Stain First Aid. Rachael explains, "The app has tips and videos on just about every stain imaginable, including some tough ones like nail polish and candle wax. Just tap on the stain you're
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dealing with, and the fix is at your fingertips." Rachael adds, "If you're getting to the point where it's probably time to replace your carpet, many of the newer styles offer incredible stain resistance built in. We even have a white carpet that red wine isn't even a match for. Stains come out with a little water." Rachel has a few tips to enjoy your carpet for years to come: ON A REGULAR BASIS Vacuum weekly to remove particles that dull fibers and cause matting. Place glides under heavy furniture to avoid crushing. Rotate furniture to give carpet a rest. Avoid direct sunlight by closing blinds to avoid fading.
What happens when it's time for a professional? Rachael says, most carpet warranties require that you have your carpets professionally cleaned periodically. We'll refer you to Darrick Schubert at Heaven's Best Carpet Cleaning. They do a great job and they are experts at dealing with tough stains you've been unsuccessful with (or that you don't want to mess with). DARRICK'S TIPS Help your carpet work Did you know that your carpet can actually act as an air filter? But, in order to work effectively, it is recommended that carpets be cleaned every 6-12 months depending on the amount of traffic and other factors. Don't make things worse People often try to clean a carpet stain on their own with over-the-counter products. In many cases those products leave sticky chemical residues that actually attract dirt. Plus, they are not always pet or child friendly. Go easy Using a detergent/water solution or vinegar/water solution to clean spots may do the trick, but be careful not to oversaturate the carpet. It's hard to blot up all the liquid once it seeps in. Your carpet may look good but damp conditions beneath can breed mold. We offer carpet cleaning that is dry in one hour, rug, upholstery, cleaning & protection, tile & hardwood floor cleaning and polishing, & duct cleaning. Heaven's Best Carpet Cleaning Tri-State Area Residential & Commercial 605-232-6230 or 712-899-4289 schubertdarrick@gmail.com www.heavensbest.com Follow us on Facebook for more tips.
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It's sweater weather! Style #1 This fuzzy sweater is a cropped style with a bright design featuring surface work.
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weaters are cozy and warm, but they don't have to be plain and boring or a basic knitwear only," says Kristi Pittman, owner of A La Mode boutique in Sioux City. “The current sweater trends include oversized, tucked in, cropped, cowled, layered, surface work, fringed, and fuzzy.” Different sleeve styles are popular including a bishop sleeve. "Now's the time to think cozy and choose your favorites for yourself or for those on your gift list."
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Doing things a little different
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e all know how it works when you go to the doctor. You make an appointment a couple of weeks ahead. You arrive at your appointed time, and you wait in the big waiting room for awhile. Then you move to the treatment room, and wait some more. On the way out, you deal with insurance and copays. Chiropractor, Dr. Rhett Ruehle, thought there should be a better experience. So he created it.
Owner Dr. Rhett Ruehle, DC
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First visit is $29 - maybe free
"During your first visit we’ll spend some time talking about your health. This is to make sure that you are a good candidate for chiropractic care. After we visit, if I believe an adjustment is warranted, it will be performed. That session is $29. Recently there was a woman who actually needed to see a medical doctor, not receive an adjustment. No adjustment, no charge."
Come when you want
"Following the initial visit, the office works simply on a walk in basis, thereby allowing chiropractic to fit into your day rather than your day fitting into chiropractic. Additionally, visits are brief, typically less than 15 minutes. If you have enough time to fuel your car, you have enough time to get your spine checked."
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Pay what you want
"In my experience, regular care produces the best outcome. In order to make care affordable, the office uses an Honor Fee payment system. On each visit you pay a fee that is reasonable for you and your family. Because “affordable” is different for everyone, we allow you to set a fee that is within your means – not a dollar less, but not a dollar more. At Ruehle Family Chiropractic, these are the lengths we go to to ensure that chiropractic care is both affordable and convenient, so you can make regular care a lifestyle for you and your family."
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It's time to get it right Plan for those major life events. Don't let them happen by accident.
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alf of all pregnancies are unintended. Half. And, Dr. Hannah Dewald, with Siouxland Obstetrics & Gynocology, PC, adds, "For those who do have an unintended pregnancy, most were using some form of birth control." So what's the problem? Do birth control methods fail more often than we think? Dr. Dewald says there are two sets of statistics on every birth control method. Perfect use and typical use. "There is a way that the product should be used and the way most people actually use it. When you don't follow the methods for the best outcome, effectiveness drops. "The most popular contraception
How to win the holiday season WITH ERIN KIEL & JEFF BAHRENFUSS
method is birth control pills, followed by tubal ligation (surgical), and condoms are also popular (and are the only type of contraception that prevents STDs). "If you are using pills perfectly, they are 99% effective. Because people forget to take them, the typical effectiveness is 90%. For condoms, the pregnancy rate is 2% if used perfectly. Typical use: There's an 18% chance of pregnancy. A big problem is carrying them around in your pocket or for too long. They get old or the latex breaks down leading to tears and breaks. "The solution that is the most effective in preventing pregnancy and can't be used wrong is known as LARC - long acting reversible contraceptive. These work by changing the cervical mucus so sperm
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or those of us who already have weight to lose, the depressing reality that the average American will gain 8-10 pounds before the new year does not help us have a happy holiday. Personal health coaches Jeff Bahrenfuss and Erin Kiel with Strive Health & Wellness have some tips to help you win the season.
Set yourself up for health throughout this season
1. Create a plan. Set goals for the next two months. Perhaps add an additional 5,000 steps each week or strive to eat well five days out of seven. 2. Bring health to others. Bring healthy options to get-togethers for
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The doctors of Siouxland Obstetrics & Gynecology, PC. From left, Dr. Melissa Holtz, Dr. Tauhni Hunt, Dr. Paul Eastman, Dr. Angela Aldrich, and Dr. Hannah Dewald.
can't reach the egg. A familiar version of LARC is an IUD (odds of pregnancy are just 0.2%), with or without hormones. One big benefit is about 20% of women using IUDs with hormones stop having periods all together. And hormone dosage is less than a pill. Nexplanon is the most effective form of birth control (pregnancy chance is just 0.05%). This sits in your arm under your skin. Both IUD or Nexplanon are inserted and removed in the office." Finding a contraceptive that works with your lifestyle and expectations can make all the difference to getting it right. yourself and others trying to succeed. 3. Surround yourself with like-minded people. Stay in contact with friends and family who are also striving for a healthier life and body. 4. Focus on fun. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t make holiday time all about the food. Enjoy the time youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re spending with friends and family. Take time to engage in healthy conversations and activities. Health coaches Erin Kiel and Jeff Bahrenfuss
Contact Jeff & Erin if you could use help being successful through the holiday season. Strive Health & Wellness 605-937-8450 or 8457 . strivehealthandwellness E: Strivewellness@hotmail.com
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Making it a good holiday WITH CATHOLIC CHARITIES
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my Bloch, Executive Director with Catholic Charities of the Diocese of Sioux City has a Hatchimal on her desk. If you don't know what that is you haven't had kids around lately. A couple of years ago her daughter really wanted one for Christmas. And so did every other kid, and they were scarce. At one point, Amy had three different staff members on a mission to help her find one. She eventually did. Today, it sits on her desk because it was going into the Goodwill pile. No one cares about the little blue fur-ball anymore. For some of us, the biggest stressor we'll face this holiday season will be trying to find the latest item to have under the tree. For others, it can be a very hard time. At Catholic Charities, they see a lot of different hurts people are experiencing. Amy has some insight and ideas.
Slow down
"People can be so focused on the stress, they forget what's really important. Slow down and remind yourself what's really important to you and your family. If you feel really overwhelmed you may need to take
a step back. Are there things you can eliminate? Maybe there is one event you can skip."
Reach out
"While some are excited and looking forward to all the happy family times they'll be having, be sensitive that not everyone has that. Holidays can magnify grief and loss. People have more time off, and they may remember past losses. Winter is cold and can feel depressing. If you are blessed with family and events to attend, could you invite someone who is alone to join you? Even opening the door to conversation about how they are feeling about the holidays can let them know you care. "If you are going to be alone for the holidays, prevent yourself from becoming overwhelmed by loneliness or sadness. Find others. Plan time with friends. Many churches have community events. Volunteering is a great thing to do and can be a way to feel so good."
When to get help
"These are some signs it may be time
to get help: thoughts and feelings are interfering with your life, you are isolating yourself, are withdrawn, have any thoughts of hurting yourself, or even have lasting changes in your sleep or appetite. There's no need to suffer any longer when there is a way to be better. Call right away. We never turn anyone away and we serve people of all faiths and backgrounds." This holiday, be proactive and take charge of this time. Plan to make it a good one with memories you'll cherish, and set the stage for many happy holidays to come.
If you could use some help making it through the holidays call us: Catholic Charities in Sioux City 712-252-4547 ◆◆◆
If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, call now: National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
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Commit to it
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equipment Exercise buying tips
oing BLIND is a GREAT FEAR for most people. But, can you do anything to protect your vision? The leading cause of vision loss for adults over 50 years old is from one of the "BIG 4". 1. Cataracts is significant in underdeveloped countries. In the U.S., blur and glare at night are common symptoms and most can be removed.
2. Glaucoma can cause a painless and permanent loss of vision from damage to the optic nerve. In many cases, eye drops to reduce elevated eye pressure are prescribed. New technologies allow easier detection and better treatments to maintain vision.
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3. Macular Degeneration comes in two types. Wet is caused by leakage from blood vessels. New and early treatments to stop leakage has slowed vision loss for many patients. Dry is the most common and vision loss can be mild to severe. Research shows the progression can be slowed with a hearthealthy lifestyle and proper nutrition.
Equipment buying tips
TIP #1: Always test the equipment in the store with a five-minute workout. Try out all the features, touch screens, and add-ons if you think you'll use them. TIP #2: Ask about their service policy. If something goes wrong with your machine once you get it home, what will the process be to get it serviced? Make sure you know what that experience will be like.
4. Diabetic Reinopathy. Poor control of glucose damages the small vessels of the eye and leads to vision loss. Good control of glucose along with a heart-healthy lifestyle is key.
TIP #3: Ask about delivery and setup. Is getting it home up to you? How much assembly will be required - and who will do it? TIP #4: Ask about the durable parts and don’t get locked into fancy displays and programs.
Make the commitment
Jim has been selling and servicing exercise equipment for 27 years. He says, "If I won’t own it myself, I won’t sell it in my store. Since I use the equipment I sell, I buy equipment for the durable parts, not the bells and whistles." If you need help finding just the right home exercise equipment, Jim can help.
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f you or a loved one are going to get serious about getting in shape, now is a great time to buy exercise equipment. But how do you make sure you get what you really want? Jim Ewoldt, owner of Peak Perfomance in Sioux City, has some tips to find the right fit for your life.
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XT385 Treadmill Spirit Fitness Home Equipment available at Peak Performance
At Drs. Kincaid, Fett and Tharp, all of our eye exams include ocular health evaluations and recommendations to maintain great vision your entire life. Give yourself the gift of vision; see your eye specialist yearly.
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Healthy Relationships
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hen half of all marriages end in divorce and television shows give you the impression that people view intimacy as entertainment, it's hard to figure out what a healthy relationship looks like. We're getting some help. Her Health Women's Center is starting a Healthy Relationships Education program that they will be rolling out in Siouxland schools, churches, and other organizations. Robyn Lieber, Healthy Relationships Coordinator with Her Health says, "We are so influenced by our culture on so many levels that it's hard to know what's best. Young people want to know when it's love or just infatuation. Many may not know the normal process for cultivating a healthy relationship. We want to give students the tools to succeed in love." With their new program, Her Health hopes to do just that. To find out more about their classes for your group, contact them. Starting next issue, we'll be featuring some of their tips and advice, so stay tuned!
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Don't live with crooked
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e remember Mother Goose's poem about the crooked man who walked a crooked mile, found a crooked sixpence against a crooked stile. He bought a crooked cat which caught a crooked mouse, and they all lived together in a little crooked house. Don't you think he had a crooked smile too? A whole bunch of us have a crooked smile, but we don't have to live with it. For many, we don't have to endure a mouthful of metal to fix it either. You've probably heard about Invisalign® - the clear braces. They seem almost too good to be true, but do they really work? "Yes." Dr. Phunog Nguyen with Lilly Family Dentistry (an affiliate of Family 1st Dental) says they are actually better in some ways. Why clear braces may be better 1. Looks. "First, it's a more cosmetic option to straighten teeth. If you are five feet or farther, you can’t really tell someone is wearing Invisalign braces." 2. Comfort. "With traditional braces, you have metal brackets and wires that are secured to the teeth. It's not uncommon to have a lot of gum irritation while your mouth adjusts to them. Plus, there are fewer restrictions on what you can eat." 3. Care. "With Invisalign, patients are able to brush and floss without the braces being in the way. With standard braces, if you're not caring for your teeth properly, you can end up with
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discolorations and cavities simply because you can’t clean as well because of the hardware. With Invisalign you just take them out to brush." 4. Application. "Invisalign works so well it can correct a wide variety of issues – crooked teeth, rotated teeth (that are not a surgical case), and readjusting formerly straightened teeth." 5. Ease. "Buttons are bonded to your teeth to hold the clear trays in place. To affix the buttons, there's no numbing, just adhesive. You wear your braces about 22 hours a day (other than eating/flossing/brushing)." Other facts you may want to know: Duration: "About the same time as traditional braces. Most of the time with Invisalign it's one to two years." How they work: "We do molds of your teeth and trays are created. Trays are worn 1-2 weeks, then you move to a slightly altered tray and so on." See the future: "Because we start with a digital view of your mouth, we can give a digital view of how your teeth will look when completed." Price: "Comparable to standard braces. Some insurances will cover a certain percentage." Even if other things around you are crooked, your smile doesn't have to be one of them. Lilly Family Dentistry and all Family 1st Dental offices offer Invisalign and other straightening options. To find an office nearest you visit www.familyfirstdental.com. “Where your family comes first.” www.familyfirstdental.com.
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Why your Christmas party could be causing your back pain WITH DR. KEITH ROED
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t’s that magical time of year when the Christmas lights go up, offices are full of cookies and tins of chocolate, and after working hard all year, our festive office parties are just around the corner. While planning what you’re going to wear and how you’re going to get home from your festive get-togethers, have you ever thought about the morning after? Now I’m not trying to put a downer on your Christmas party plans. I want you to make the most of your festive celebrations and feel great the next day! Why? Well let me share with you a quick story about one of my patients… Sarah came to see me at the end of January suffering with a bad back. As a manager of a coffee shop, Sarah is on her feet all day long, so she tends to wear flat cushioned shoes so her feet remain comfortable. But what happened to Sarah was that she decided to treat herself to a brand new pair of heels especially for her work Christmas party. And even though the right pair of heels can
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make an outfit complete, they can also cause a few problems. Aching, swollen feet, and worse yet – terrible back pain. Of course, while you’re enjoying yourself, it probably doesn’t cross your mind. Sure, your feet may feel a bit sore while you’re dancing, but that’s normal right? The thing is, Sarah woke up the next day in agony. Not from drinking a bit too much but from wearing her new pair of heels all night long. The pain in Sarah’s back was so bad
BETTER / Body the next day she could barely get out of bed. A few days later the pain eased off, but as soon as she went back to work, a few hours into her shift, her back was making it painful to walk around. Even driving and putting her shoes on became difficult. Here’s why: Wearing high heels (especially when you’re on your feet for hours) increases the pressure through your back by about 25 times. Heels can alter the way you walk (as it’s an un-natural position for your body to be in), which can lead to bad posture bringing on back pain and all sorts of problems. Now, although it’s tempting to put on a pair of heels for any special occasion, if you know you’re going to be standing most of the time, I’d advise you to go for a soft-cushioned pair of shoes instead. Your back and your feet will thank you for it. And a general tip – for the guys and gals – to help ease those next day aches and pains, drink plenty of water. And if you forget to drink lots of it before you go to bed, drink a couple of glasses as soon as you wake to help restore the fluids in your body. Also, a hot and rejuvenating shower as soon as you wake will leave you feeling ten times better. It’ll help raise your body temperature and relax your muscles so you’re not left with all of that tension. If you’re suffering with back pain or would like to know top tips on how to prevent it, visit our website for a free special report with 9 quick and easy ways to live with less back pain at www.impactptwellness.com
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Riddle me this
Can you answer each of these riddles?
Find the missing letter What letter is missing to complete this holiday greeting? We'll tell you right now: there's no L. (Ha Ha Ha. Get it? NO-EL!)
Changing season These holiday images may look the same, but there are five subtle differences. Can you find them all?
1. When does
Christmas come before Thanksgiving?
2. What did Mrs.
Claus say to Santa when she looked up into the sky?
4. What do elves learn in school?
How many gifts?
A family packed up the car and went to Grandma's for Christmas. When they got there, Tommy took half the presents in the house. Tessa took half of what was left. Dad came back for the last three gifts. How many presents were there?
Tricky tree
Place a number in each one of the ornaments below from 1 through 6. Use each number only once. Organize the numbers so that each side adds up to the number on the present.
Find the missing letter: R . MERRY CHRISTMAS!
Riddle me this: 1) In the dictionary. 2) Looks like rain dear. 3) The turkey. He's always stuffed. 4) The
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1 Elf-abet. Full moon vs. crescent moon; tree on right has 3 big snowflakes vs. 2;the bottom 6 4 Changing season: clown has an extra button; the round red package has an extra star in the bottom image; the lantern on bottom has an extra light twinkle. 3 2 5 theHow many gifts?: 12
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3. Who is never hungry during the holidays?
Life
The 10 lessons
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that could change your life CHRIS & KRISTI VERSTEEG At age 16, on a snowy December morning, Chris Ver Steeg experienced a horrific event that would teach him important lessons. What he learned that day was the beginning of several deep lessons. Those lessons would change his life. They can change yours too.
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t was early in December, and it was Chris's turn to drive his buddies to high school. A few guys drove in from Inwood, IA, and met up with friends in Rock Valley, and they all car pooled from there.
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"I remember freezing sleet coming down that day. We were running late, so I pulled out to pass the guy in front of us, and I hit a patch of black ice. We spun out, and hit an oncoming car head on. Three people were killed. Two of them were very close friends. Two other friends were in intensive care, and there were a few days we didn't know if they were going to live. I walked away without a scratch." Chris swallows hard, still feeling the gravity of it 30 years later. "That was a lot to live with as a teenager." At 16, Chris was about to go through things most people can't even imagine. But the things he would learn were some of the most important lessons every human should know. The first two lessons were about to begin.
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10 lessons Lesson 1: You are created for community. Make sure you are part of one. The best thing in tragedy "The first thing that really made an impact on me was the importance of community. That same day, the amount of outpouring of love and community from family and friends and our church was huge. People who were there that sat with us, and grieved with us - and the other families - I had never seen that before in my entire life. The way that they all rallied around us. Even the school made sure that no one had to go through this alone."
I went to one of my best friends' family first and sat down in their living room with tears pouring down my face. They were willing to forgive me. I went to each home involved in the accident, and to hear those words, 'Chris, we forgive you,' man, that was a powerful deal. "I saw the value of forgiveness. I have seen that it goes both ways, too. If there is unforgiveness, it is toxic in people's lives. Forgiveness isn't necessarily for the other person it's for yourself just as much. It's the thing that releases all that hatred and bitterness that can become a cancer in your own life. I've seen cases where
to happen. And I wasn't getting any answers about it. All I was getting was bitter and resentful about it. "I came to this point in my life where I knew I had a choice to make. I could choose to continue to ask the why questions, not get any answers, and continue to get bitter and resentful, or I needed to change the question. "My new question was, 'What do you want me to learn through all of that?' I can now say that was where God began this journey of showing me the answers. I saw how important community is in someone's life and how important
Chris took a breath. "I saw the importance of community, but the most powerful thing I learned was because of my dad." Lesson 2: Be brave enough to ask for forgiveness, and gracious enough to give it. The hardest thing "The day after the accident, we were sitting in the living room, and my dad came to me and he said, 'Chris, you know you're going to have to go to each one of these families that was involved in the accident, and you're going to have to ask them for forgiveness. And I'm not going with you. This is something you have to do on your own.' "As a 16-year-old kid, that was terrifying. But I'll never forget, a friend who was sitting there with me, Steve Dirkson, said, 'Chris, I'll go with you.'" Chris paused to choke back the emotion...unable to do so, "That act of kindness was unbelievable to me. To know that I didn't have to do that alone was a big deal." "So I went to each one's house. People told my dad, 'You know, I don't know if that's such a good idea. You might be opening up yourself to a lawsuit.' My dad said, 'I don't care. It's the right thing to do.'
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Chris Ver Steeg, (bottom left), and friend, Matt Holmes (upper right), and their team on their lifechanging mission trip to Argentina.
people haven't been willing to forgive, and it leads to mental health issues. Lesson 3: The best way to grow is not through answers but through life's tough questions. Coming to the crossroads Just because Chris had been forgiven by the families, didn't mean he had peace with any of it. He needed some answers. "I was wrestling with a lot of questions with God. The whys. Why did you allow this to happen? Why am I here? Why am I still here? I remember for a time being really angry at God...and wondering why this had
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forgiveness is in someone's life, but ultimately I remember God saying, 'You're here for a reason, and I have a special purpose for you.'" Lesson 4: Put yourself out there. If you want to know what the point of your life is, try stuff on to see if it fits. Serving others is a great way to find out who you are. Changing the scenery Chris wasn't going to get the answer to what his purpose was for awhile, but when he was an athletic trainer at Briar Cliff University, a trip to South America was going to point him in the right direction.
BETTER / Life "Shortly after college, I was working at Briar Cliff University, and we decided to put together a basketball team to go on a mission trip to Argentina through Sports Ambassadors. Our team was comprised of guys from Briar Cliff, Dordt, and Northwestern. God put together a very unique team. Before we left, as a team we decided we were going to meet for Bible study every single night while we were over there. That was a life-changing decision for me. Lesson 5: Find a group of people you can be authentic with and go deep. Together, take your questions to God. Support each other and love one another. Finding a safe place Over the three-and-a-half-week trip, we had a 20-game schedule, plus every night we did clinics. But no matter what time we got back, we did our Bible study. This was the first time I had ever experienced what I would call authentic community. We had guys that were not Christians, guys who were baby Christians, and guys who were going off to seminary the next year, so we had a huge dynamic of guys. But pretty quickly we all saw that this was a safe place to talk about anything. We had one guy whose dad had murdered his mom. So he had all kinds of questions about forgiveness. Was he supposed to forgive his dad? Did God forgive his dad? And how do you wade through a situation like this? Another guy said, 'I never told anyone about this before, but I struggle with [sexual sin]. What does the Bible say about that?' And so this became this incredibly safe community, where you could talk about anything going on in your life, knowing that you would not be judged and that you would be loved anyway. Then we would dive into God's word and see what it had to say about a situation and begin to apply that wisdom to our lives. We'd begin to wrestle with it and discuss it and that environment changed my life forever!" Chris had a huge revelation after that
trip. "To be able to be fully known, and to experience love and grace anyway is life changing. God used that experience to really get a hold of my life. Lesson 6: Share what you know with others. You'll continue growing yourself as you pour into others on their journey. Recreating magic "When we got back, my friend Matt Holmes, who was also on the trip, and I started a similar group. I was the head athletic trainer at Briar Cliff at the time. We started with four players meeting every Monday night, and by the end of the year, we had 60-70 people coming every week. We tried to recreate this same kind of community we experienced in Argentina, and we had a blast. And just like us, we saw people grow, and lives were changed over the three years we did that program." But Chris wasn't done with his journey. This was just the beginning. He was about to make a big move. Lesson 7: We need to get comfortable being uncomfortable. A journey doesn't stop till the end Chris saw that when people got authentic with God everything changed. He wanted to do that full time, and he started working at Sunnybrook Church in Sioux City. Chris said, "Being on staff, I was blessed to be able to oversee many different areas during that time:
small groups director, college ministry director, marriage ministry director, connections team director, etc. I learned so much, but after more than a decade there, I started feeling that God was calling me to do something different." Lesson 8: Find God and find yourself. When you take the time to uncover who God really is and what he wants, the side effect is that you'll find yourself. Stuck in a bad experience Over the years, Chris kept seeing the same thing with people. "I've talked with a lot of people over the years, and you don't too often find a flat-out atheist. Most people who are antireligion or anti-church have just had a bad experience, so they walked away. For people who are skeptical, maybe curious, or far from God, they often just have a wrong idea about God." Chris challenges, "Maybe God's not who you think he is. Maybe you aren't either. People make assumptions and get bad information. We also have some very wrong thoughts about ourself (both good and bad). It's amazing when people really see who God is. Everything changes." Lesson 9: Pay attention. God isn't giving you random experiences. It is all leading up to something unique just for you. Put the puzzle together. Chris had a lot of different experiences, Kristi & Chris Ver Steeg (right) with their four daughters and son-in-law.
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10 lessons but suddenly they were all coming together into one focused mission. "I saw that when people get into a safe environment and experience the grace of Jesus Christ, it's life changing. I felt God was telling me to create a place where that could happen." Lesson 10: Have faith in your purpose. If you're passionate about God you can trust your passions. Hearing big After lots of prayer and encouragement from friends, and plenty of sleepless nights Chris couldn't argue that he felt called to start a church. His wife, Kristi, wasn't so sure that was right. Kristi said, "When Chris initially began talking about starting a new church I was not on board. The thought was overwhelming. I mean, this was such a big deal. I couldn't imagine how someone like us does this. How do we do this? "Chris could see that I was struggling, and he was very patient. He gave me time, and we took six months to pray about it to see if we were both feeling that leading." Kristi spent time discerning God's direction, while Chris had his own set of doubts. "God used that six months to reaffirm my commitment to this too. I had a bunch of doubts while I was waiting for Kristi to hear from God on this." In the end, the time was well spent, and they both felt that this was what God wanted. Kristi said, "I just thought, God will provide if it's meant to be. He'll provide and make it happen. But we won't know until we take a step of faith." Stepping out As they started making plans to launch their new church, God provided every step of the way. A team, finances, worship director, and the space all came together. Chris was astounded at how God showed up.
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Chris praying for his congregation at Elevate Community Church in Sioux City.
"This has been a journey of trust and dependence on God. I'm so grateful. Even when things are bleak, God is in control and sovereign, and he can be trusted." Elevate Community Church opened its doors one year ago in the old Hy-Vee on Hamilton at 313 Cook St. They share space with the Siouxland Senior Center. All the learning comes together So what's the vision for this church? Chris says three things: "KNOW. GROW. GO. To know Jesus Christ, to grow in your faith, and to go make a difference in the world. Ultimately everything we do needs to be seen through the lens of the gospel. I want this to be a place where we can help people have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ that's real and authentic and safe." Chris adds, "I read a book called The Cure, and one quote has stuck with me that says it perfectly,
'What if there was a place so safe that the worst of me could be known, and I would discover that I would not be loved less, but more in the telling of it?' "Our church is a comfortable, welcoming place where people can come and experience authentic community.
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College kids are still seeking Just like those days back in Argentina and the three years following when Chris did authentic community with the guys at college, college ministry is still a big focus for him. "I just love working with young people who are making life decisions and going through the wrestlings of life." Meeting the neighbors Another group Elevate focuses on are simply those in that neighborhood. "We try to bring the church to the people. We're not here to fix or change people. We just love them." Chris adds, "Every month we serve the community in some way. Every Tuesday afternoon, we serve a meal at Cook Park and get to know the people. One guy was homeless that we got to know. He was trying to get a job and needed steel-toed boots - so we got him some. He got the job, and he recently got his own apartment. He comes every Sunday now and even helps with setup. He's so excited about what God's doing." Getting real. Getting well "Another gal started coming to one of our life groups. One week she sat in her car in the parking lot for awhile, crying. She was terrified because she felt like it was time for her to share what she was dealing with. She got herself together, and told her group that she was struggling with alcohol. Her husband
BETTER / Life said she is doing fantastic now. All she needed was a safe space where she could share. Where people cared and would help her through the struggle." What Chris wants you to hear Chris says, "Real ministry is sitting down and hearing each other's story. What you find out is that everyone has a story and that connects you. My story is as broken as the next guy. People have been hurt in the past, but no one wants to do life alone. In the midst of that, God changes lives. Despite my brokenness, God extends grace I don't deserve, and I want others to experience that same grace that changed my life." What it all means: We can all live this great life God has planned for us. When we come together, authentically, in a community that cares for one another, everything can change. Eternally change. Come find your authentic life with us.
Music Out of the silence
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was born that night.
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Wishing you a season filled with music, light, and promise, and a New Year filled with Hope. From all of us at
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woman was incarcerated. Her mother, a senior on a fixed income, suddenly became the sole provider for her young teenage grandkids. As a grandparent, no federal money or assistance is given. When you're living on a fixed income that can be really hard. No one plans for these things to happen, but all too often people find themselves in the role of caregiver, wondering how they will do it. The good news is there is help. November is national caregiver month. In many cases, adult children are caring for aging parents, one spouse is caring for another, or grandparents find themselves caring for grandchildren. No matter what the situation, it can get overwhelming and you can feel very alone.
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At Connections Area Agency on Aging, Iowa residents can find help if they are age 55 or older and providing care for someone, or simply find they
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Connections Area Agency on Aging 2301 Pierce St . Sioux City, IA 800-432-9209
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have questions about whether it's time for help. Aubury Krueger, MPA, Director of Community Engagement, with Connections says, "If folks are concerned about their parents or their spouse, we have a person who they can talk to. We often get questions about when is it time to take away the keys or wondering if they are right to worry about declining memory issues. Maybe you see a loved one not properly taking care of themselves, or having a problem with incontinence. We can help answer all your questions." Aubury says, "It can be very hard to care for someone and people just need a break. We can provide respite services as needed. If you are a caregiver and need some help, call Connections and let them know you'd like to talk to the Family Caregiver Specialist. Aubury says, "This is open to anyone caring for someone elderly, or grandparents 55 and older that have custody of grandkids. "For those caregivers who are raising grandkids, support groups are a big benefit. We can connect you to others who are in similar situations. Discussing struggles (behavior issues, financial strain, not being able to do the things you or they want) and sharing ideas helps everyone deal better and not feel alone in the battle." An elderly caregiver support group is also forming. Aubury says, "We see how much people thrive when they feel connected to a group who is on the same journey. "Caregiving can be a very difficult thing, and no caregiver should have to go through that alone. Family Caregivers and Service Navigators at Connections are here to assist. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed to have to reach out – that’s why we’re here. We can guide you. Give us a call."
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ach month throughout the year, Support Siouxland Soldiers does just that. They host over 24 support events each year where Veterans can come have a meal, socialize together, get a big box of groceries, and find out about local services.
They also offer emergency support services when a Veteran needs help financially or has additional food needs. As you can imagine, the need for these services goes up in the winter months. All of the services provided by Support Siouxland Soldiers comes completely from our community. In addition, Support Siouxland Soldiers also hosts a big holiday party for military families at no cost, sends holiday and care packages to active duty military, and provides free haircuts and other services during the year.
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Thank you for your continued support of our military Veterans and active duty service men and women.
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lot of stuff goes on behind the scenes at a business that most people don't even realize. One big aspect is doing things to keep employees safe and healthy. This sounds like a big perk for employees, but it's not completely one-sided. The safer and healthier the employee is, the less risk the business has and the more productive employees are. It's a win-win when companies embrace occupational health programs. Pulling it off can be a challenge, especially if the company lacks resources or knowledge. That's where Tri-State Nursing comes in to save the day. They are the occupational health division for many large and small companies in Siouxland. Jim Hanson, Occupational Health Coordinator with Tri-State Nursing, says this can look a lot of different ways depending on needs.
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This year, Tri-State Nursing received Joint Commission Accreditation. They are among only a handful of prestigious medical facilities in Siouxland to achieve this honor.
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Tri-State Nursing’s goal is to keep employees and the community healthy by providing programs that encourage healthy behaviors. It’s important that your company works with an occupational health provider who knows what regulations are affecting your workplace’s health and safety. Contact us at 712-277-4442 or online at TriStateNursing.com.
"For some companies, we provide a nurse to be on site at set hours each week. Many times when workplace injuries happen they go unreported because employees don't want anyone to know what they did. Or, they think a trip to the ER seems too drastic or time consuming. When a nurse is available on site, documentation of incidences increase and many small things can be treated before they become a big issue. "For other companies, we run all of the pre-employment drug testing and can administer drug tests on call 24/7. If an incident happens in the middle of the night, we can come to the site instead of wasting time and expense sending employees to ERs where there will be a significant wait, travel issues, and expense. "We also work with businesses to develop employee wellness programs which might include flu shots, hearing tests, employee safety training, and CPR classes. We can help companies stay compliant with a schedule to address OSHA requirements." Jim adds, "We are always striving to add value to our community and offer services that are not only necessary but beneficial. To do that, we strive to be the best at what we do, and we recently were awarded accreditation by the Joint Commission." The Joint Commission is an independent, nonprofit organization and the nation's oldest and largest standards-setting and accrediting body in health care. If your business could benefit from occupational health programs, give Tri-State Nursing a call. Let your work place be one where everyone wins.
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rom a distance, Christmas looks wonderful. Perfect. Serene. Peaceful. Up close it can be downright ugly. What happens? We have it all planned out. We can picture it perfectly in our minds. The trouble is we can also picture ourselves riding in Santa's sleigh while sipping hot cocoa... with marshmallows Who knew? Even with no roof on the sleigh it feels like a balmy 72° and there's no wind at all. The reindeer fly effortlessly and land silently on the roof tops. You pet one
before you slip down the chimney to help Santa place the gifts under the tree. You totally just visualized all of that didn't you? And when was the last time that happened in reality? Exactly. This year, we're going to get real with our Christmas, but that doesn't mean we can't have a wonderful, joyful season. Follow through these 25 tips, embrace the ones that speak to you, and go out and create a holiday that is way better than house hopping with St. Nick.
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ant to find more joy
this Christmas season? Here's how: 1. Let the good win
A study was done on gratitude over 10 weeks. One group was told to journal about five things that they were grateful for over the past week. Another group wrote about five problems they experienced. The last group were to jot down any five experiences they had during the week. At the end of the study, those who had written about positive things were 25% happier and had far less health complaints. This holiday season, focus on all the good stuff and joy will find its way in.
2.Stop drinking poison
People are messed up. Too bad it's not always other people either. Since none of us are perfect, let's remember that and forgive anyone we need to. Especially if that means having a
better holiday - and forthcoming life. After all, like someone once said, Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Stop drinking poison. Have some eggnog instead...and some joy.
that just a few kinds of cookies will still achieve that goal.
3. Set the bar lower
How often do we try to create this ultra perfect Christmas vision in our minds where everyone sings carols around the piano and gets along? And then we remember no one in our family can carry a tune, and we don't even have a piano. Don't start out the season thinking about what everyone else expects you to do, or the 67 things you tried to do last year. Think about what is really important, what will bring real meaning and joy to the holiday, and what is realistic for you to get done - without becoming a crazy person.
4. Ask the big question
Why are you going to do what you're planning on doing? What do you really want to experience this holiday season? Whittle it down to one or two core reasons. You probably don't want to bake 27 kinds of cookies for no reason. If your core purpose is to let your family experience joy and wonder this time of year, you may see
5. Go back in time
Think about past holidays. What are your best memories? Your worst? What made them good, or bad? Embrace the good and take stock of how you might do things differently to set the stage for the best outcome.
6. See the big picture
Christmas is one day, but the holiday season lasts for weeks. Don't get so hung up on the one day. If you're dreading Christmas Day because Uncle Jerry is bound to go off, don't discount all the other moments that will be wonderful. Stay focused on the bigger picture. Speaking of Uncle Jerry, and all those others who will Bah-Humbug their way through the season, expect them to be terrible. Expect your kids to be ungrateful sometimes. Realize that your mom will probably criticize something. When you know it's coming you can be prepared. Let it roll off and focus on those who are bringing joy to your life.
8.Let (most of) it go
A woman known for her overflow of hospitality would set a perfect table, have every item on the menu her family desired, take great pains to ensure there were decorative place cards and, of course, napkin rings. It was a feast for the eyes and palate.
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7. Lower your expectations
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9. State your intentions
This gets past the lies. "My kids (or spouse, or parents, etc.) will only be happy if..." Often we decide what people are expecting without really asking. Or, at the very least, without nipping out-of-line expectations in the bud. As you ramp up for the holidays, ask for everyone's input. Define what kind of holiday you want and what people expect. Let kids know what is possible and what's not. Knowing what the goal and plan is gets everyone to focus the right way and sets the stage for more peace and joy.
10. Be honest
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Gift giving can be very stressful. After you get the kids and spouse on board with expectations, don't forget your extended family. If you'll be going to parties where gifts are expected and you're stressing because of your budget, share that. It may be others are in the same boat. See if there is another idea for gift giving this year or simply opt out of giving or receiving.
11. Get beyond the gifts
It's easy for kids (and everyone) to get hyper-focused on what they'll get. Knowing what other Christmas activities they are excited about can help spread the joy factor beyond the presents. Kids typically enjoy all sorts of things, especially if they play a role. Doing a service project for someone else can be huge. If they help choose gifts for a needy child, they can get a better perspective and move past the gimmies.
not have let them believe in Santa. We think believing in Santa makes it all magical for the kids. Doesn't part of us really want to use the story of Santa as a bargaining tool? "You know, Santa is watching...better be good." The threat looming over their heads gives us a little leverage doesn't it? I remember the Christmas the year before my kids figured out the secret. After opening the great toys Santa had left and the clothes and necessities my husband and I had put our names on, my son asked. "How come you guys don't give us any good stuff?" Ouch. In retrospect, I think we set up Christmas to be all about what Santa was doing and making him the center of everything. Christmas is about what The Big Guy in Heaven did and what He gives us: His Son. That seems pretty magical to me.
14. Have some soul
Christmas is about Jesus. If it's been awhile since you've really entertained that idea, plan on going to church. (See page 46 for some possibilities.) If maybe you went when you were a kid, revive that activity. If you had a bad experience in church, I can guarantee you were going to the wrong one. If you feel a sense of wonder and awe, a moving in your soul, don't think it's just the holiday. Go to church and see what you might be missing.
15. Look around
12. Deal with the Big Guy
This is going to be a totally radical idea, but what if you outed Santa? Having raised my kids, if I had the chance to do it all over again, I would
person on your bowling team, your great aunt, or your friend: Someone gives you a gift that you didn't expect. Now there's guilt. You didn't even think about them even remotely when you were making your gift list. Get over it. Don't say, "Oh, I didn't get you anything." People find joy in giving. Let them enjoy it without ruining it and making them feel bad - or yourself. Prepare now to feel only joy when it happens.
13. Receive well
It might happen - that co-worker,
As you go through the holiday season, pay attention to what is going on around you. Do you see joy in others on your journey? Notice people. What are the folks on your commute, in your office, and in your neighborhood looking like? If someone looks down, give them a smile, pay them a
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expensive. My granddaughter knitted me a pair of fingerless gloves because it's cold in my office in the winter. My friend gave me a single coaster with an inspiring message that I use everyday, and my daughter gave me a book she had read she knew I would like. Sometimes we think bigger is better, but often the most impactful or practical gifts are nothing grand.
16. Give joy away
Likewise, find someone you can help in some way. Pick a family who is struggling with illness, finances, or loneliness, and figure out some way to brighten their season. You'll find joy when you give some away.
other hand, is deep-seated. It's based on the big picture. While a situation may not be great, I can still find joy. If I drop the salad on the floor as I'm taking it out for Christmas dinner, I could be devastated if I'm focused on my circumstances providing my happy mood. If I'm joy focused, in the whole scheme of things I know that this is hardly a blip on the radar of eternity. It is much easier to live in the space of joy if you believe that God's got this. If you belong to God, Jesus whispers that spilled salad is no big thing. Eventually you can have joy in spite of really big things like illness, death, and tragedy. Joy happens where Jesus lives.
17. Remind yourself
18. Make a gripe-free zone
As we occasionally remind ourselves all the things we have to be joyful about, it just goes hand-in-hand that we kick out our propensity to complain - typically about things that aren't even a thing. A batch of cookies that burned (yet we have all the supplies to bake), long lines at the stores (yet we have abundance at our disposal), or we have no time to get things done (because we are blessed to have a job). In the whole scheme of things we have very little to complain about. Post the notice: The holiday season is a gripe-free zone.
20. Rejoice. Rejoice
What did the angels do when they came to the shepherds' field that night when Jesus was born? They sang. Turn on some good ole' Christmas music and belt out a few carols. Odds are you will find yourself feeling joyful.
21. Have joy, not happiness
Yes, there is a difference. Happiness happens when things are good. When the "happenings" around me are positive. When circumstances are bad then happiness goes away. Joy, on the
19. Give small
When I think back to some of the most meaningful gifts I've received, they weren't anything big or
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22. Work outward
Anyone who does volunteer work will tell you that helping others is as rewarding for the giver as the recipient. Finding a cause or place where you can give of your time and
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Despite some circumstances in our life, for the vast majority of us in the U.S., we have a lot to be thankful and joyful about. I always remember an image I saw of a child in a third world country getting a drink out of a mud hole. Puts things in perspective. If your joy barometer starts diving, remind yourself of all of the things you have to celebrate.
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24. Remember your why
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23. Be intentional
Some can dread Christmas Day because of many reasons. Maybe it's a time you'll be missing loved ones, or you know that personalities will collide at the big family gathering, and it will be anything but peaceful. Those may be realities, but they don't have to be the complete holiday focus. Plan times that you can control. Invite a core group of like-minded friends and have a special dinner. Plan an afternoon of cookie-making with your kids, grandkids, or neighbors. Gather just your immediate family and enjoy a night of holiday movies, hot chocolate, and reading the Christmas story in the Bible (it's in Luke chapter 2). Be intentional about creating meaningful moments where your joy can soar.
As the days march on through the holiday, and your to-do list isn't getting shorter, stop and take stock. I have a sign in my office that says, "Remember why you started." Review your goals, and see where you've gone off the rails. Maybe you need to purge some things off your list or re-visit expectations with your family. Focus on what's important and focus on where the joy is.
25. Accept the greatest gift
The whole reason we celebrate Christmas all started with the greatest gift God has ever given the world. In the Bible, John 3:16 says, "For God so loved the world that he gave his only son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." God gave. Because God loves. God sent his son Jesus to save us. We messed everything up, and our relationship was broken with God. Because of sin there is a great gap between us and God. There's no way for us to reach God on our own. No heaven for any of us...just this life and then eternity somewhere terrible.
you turn your back on those things (this is what it means to repent of our sins). Now, tell God that you believe that Jesus came here as a gift from Him. And, because Jesus died and shed His blood on the cross that you can be forgiven. For everything. And, since Jesus was raised from the dead, that you too will be raised and will live forever with God. Peter (one of Jesus' disciples) knew what it was like when people received this great gift! 1 Peter 1:8 says, "You love him even though you have never seen him. Though you do not see him now, you trust him; and you rejoice with a glorious, inexpressible joy." Once we start doing life with God, He will make sure we get to where we are going. All we have to do is show up everyday to let Him change us. Jude 24 says, "Now all glory to God who is able to keep you from falling away, and who will bring you with great joy into his glorious presence without a single fault."
So God sent Jesus to earth that Christmas morning to begin the ultimate rescue mission.
Joy does not have to be elusive to us this Christmas season or at any time. We just need to let Jesus give it to us.
How do you get God's gift? Simply, you decide that you want a life with God instead of the one you've been trying to lead on your own.
Now, go find your
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December 9th @ 6:00 pm St. Teresa of Calcutta Parish
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CHRISTMAS THE ORPHEUM
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LIVE NATIVITY
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Laughter Laughter is the
best medicine.
Ridiculous holiday funnies Did you hear Walmart is giving away dead batteries for Christmas? They're free of charge.
Body of Knowledge
[Water on the brain
About 75% of the brain is made up of water. So when you're dehydrated, even in small amounts, it can have a negative effect on brain functions.
[Grow your brain
While your brain is done growing by age 18 your adult brain still makes new neurons. These neurons are thought to be important for learning, memory, and stress response. Getting proper sleep, exercise, and a balanced diet may aid this process.
[No pain in the brain
Woman by Rido, Snowman by Gouraud Studio, and Jingle bell by Lorelyn Medina/Shutterstock.com
The brain can’t feel pain. It interprets pain signals sent to it, but it does not feel pain.
[Brain freeze
A brain freeze is really a sphenopalatine ganglioneuralgia. When you eat something cold, it chills the blood vessels and arteries in the very back of the throat, including the ones that take blood to your brain. These constrict when they’re cold and open back up when they’re warm again, causing the pain in your noggin.
[Not what you think
Eyewitness accounts of criminal suspects are usually only about 50% accurate because it's difficult for your brain to remember the details of someone you’re not familiar with. Traumatic events can also affect the brain's ability to remember details.
Did you hear about the man who stole an advent calendar? He got 25 days. What did the bald man say when he got a comb in his stocking? I'll never part with it! What did one snowman say to the other? Is it just me or do you smell carrots?
The Consumer Product Safety Commission estimates 15,000 Americans visit hospital E.R.s November through December from holiday-related decorating accidents.
Better perspective Improve your way of thinking
Theodor Seuss "Ted" Geisel was born in 1904 and died in 1991. He is best known for writing and illustrating over 60 books under the pen name Dr. Seuss. We think of him as being a children's author, but his insights are those that we can all learn from.
In the know
[Almost] worthless facts. The largest gathering of people wearing holiday sweaters is 3,473. They wore them at the University of Kansas on December 19, 2015. The largest display of lit Christmas trees was plugged in by The Hallmark Channel in 2015. They lit 559 trees in New York City’s Herald Square. Ethiopia is the only country in the world that hasn’t adopted the 12-month calendar the rest of the world uses. Their calendar has 13 months. In Japan, Kentucky Fried Chicken is a big deal on Christmas. Over 3 million people will place their KFC order even months in advance. Residents in a small Johannesburg, South Africa, neighborhood collect old appliances, and on New Year's Eve, they toss them from rooftops to the streets. “Jingle Bells” was the first song to be broadcast from space.
Great quotes by Dr. Seuss: "Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened." "Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is youer than you!" Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not." "The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go." "To the world you may be one person; but to one person you may be the world." "Sometimes you will never know the value of something, until it becomes a memory."
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Food
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Cookies you're going to make
Cookie photo by Magdalena Paluchowska and numbered ribbon by Martial Red/Shutterstock.com
FOR CHRISTMAs
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f you live in Siouxland, the odds are you are going to make these three cookies this holiday season. We Chocolate polled our Banana community to Donuts find out their favorites. We asked, "If only one Christmas cookie is getting made this year, which one is it?" Here are the top three vote getters with a recipe, in case you don't have one yet.
#1 Frosted sugar cookie
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Siouxland's favorite holiday Food
Cookies
Frosted sugar cookies
2/3 c. shortening 3/4 c. sugar 1 t. vanilla 1 egg
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2 c. flour 11/2 t. baking powder 1/4 t. salt 4 t. milk
Cream shortening, sugar, and vanilla. Add egg and milk. Beat until light and fluffy. Sift dry ingredients together. Blend into creamed mixture. Chill slightly (not more than an hour). Roll out dough onto a floured surface to 1/8"1/4" thickness. Cut into shapes with cookie cutters. Place on a cookie sheet and bake 3500F 8-10 minutes. Let cool.
Peanut butter blossoms 1/2 c. butter, softened 1/2 c. peanut butter 1 egg 1 t. vanilla 1/2 t. salt
1/2 c. sugar 1/2 c. brown sugar 2 T. milk 1 t. soda 3/4 c. flour
Preheat oven to 3750F. Cream sugars, butter, and peanut butter together. Stir in egg, milk, and vanilla. Combine dry ingredients and add to sugar mixture, mixing well. Shape into 1" balls and roll in white sugar. Place on a cookie sheet spacing 2" apart. Bake 10 minutes. Remove from oven and top with a chocolate kiss, pressing down until cookie "cracks." Makes about 4 dozen.
To powdered sugar, add milk a little at a time until it is a spreadable consistency. Add a little vanilla, if desired. Color with food coloring if you want and decorate with sprinkles.
Peanut butter blossoms
got 16% of the votes
#3 Waffle cookies 6% say this is their fav.
Waffle cookies 8 oz. unsweetened baking chocolate 1 c. butter or margarine 11/2 c. sugar
4 eggs 2 c. flour 2 t. vanilla
Melt chocolate in a double boiler with butter. Then, beat eggs well and add sugar. Beat and add chocolate mixture. Fold in flour and vanilla. Warm waffle iron to medium temperature. Drop a spoonful (about 2 tablespoons) of dough for each cookie in waffle iron and bake only about 1 minute until dough is no longer glassy. Remove to a cooling rack. Makes about 4 dozen. Frost with chocolate frosting. Add colorful sprinkles if you want to make them more festive. 50
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Healthy turkey dinner leftovers
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our Thanksgiving Day dinner (or Christmas dinner) may have been overkill, but using up the leftovers doesn't have to be. Baked turkey is a great source of protein and the start to some healthy and quick meals (since the hard work of cooking the turkey is done).
Quick fix salad. Protein per oz.
Sweet potato toast by Eleonora Tuveri, Turkey sliced By Elena Veselova, gingerbread man cup by Elena Shashkina, and snowmen by Anastasia_Panait/Shutterstock.com
8g
Light Waldorf Turkey Salad. To a mix of salad greens, add chopped apple, halved grapes, chopped celery, and chopped cooked turkey. Mix 1/2 c nonfat yogurt, 2 T mayo, and 1 t honey together for dressing.
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Q&A
Q. When was the last time you had fun with your food? A. Today. It's probably ridiculously overdue for you to play with your food. We adults are far too serious. It's time to have a laugh and to give one to someone else. Get the stuff. Make a plan. Sit around the fire or fire pit, and have a smile and some fun treats.
Quick fix soup. Turkey Veggie Soup. In a big pot, add 3 qts of chicken broth, 1 t salt, 1/2 t pepper, and 1/4 t poultry seasoning. Bring to a boil, and add 1/2 c pearl barley, reduce heat, cover and simmer 30 min. Add 3 sliced carrots, small chopped onion, and 2 celery stalks chopped, and cook covered another 20 minutes. Add 3 c of leftover turkey, and heat another 10 minutes.
Sweet potato toast
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ep, it's thing. While people continue to try to reduce carbs in their diets and add more healthy choices, someone got the wild idea to try putting a sweet potato in the toaster. It actually worked. The sweet potato has a nice subtle sweetness and doesn't overpower the toppings. Plus, you get added nutrition, including vitamin A and fiber!
To try it: Slice a sweet potato 1/4" thick, and pop it into the toaster. Top with good stuff.
Toppings to try
â&#x20AC;˘ Nut butter with fruit, avocado, hummus, eggs, cheese, and tuna salad. â&#x20AC;˘ For a twist on bruschetta, top with a mixture of ripened tomatoes, fresh basil, garlic, and olive oil.
Snowman skewers
Use a little melted chocolate and food coloring, and you've got a snowman. Skewer them then decide if they are going in a hot cocoa bath or getting roasted for a giant s'more.
Hot cocoa hot tub
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Zerohassle holiday spread
Cranberry Brie bites
Holidays are hectic, so keep your fare fast prep. Each of these items takes just a few ingredients that go together in just minutes. Let your guests enjoy delicious without all the hassle.
Cranberry Brie bites 1 pkg puff pastry (2 per package) 1 large Brie wheel 1 jar Stonewall Kitchen Cranberry horseradish sauce 1 cup walnut pieces for topping
Spoon 1-2 teaspoons of cranberry horseradish sauce on top of Brie and bake at 4000F for 20-25 min or until golden brown. Top with walnuts.
Thaw puff pastry according to package directions and cut puff pastry into 9 pieces (18 total squares). Slice Brie into thin pieces and cover puff pastry.
White chocolate peppermint cheese ball
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From the Wind & Willow White Chocolate Peppermint Cheeseball & Dessert Mix, combine the seasoning mix and 1 T of the peppermint topping with 8 oz. of softened cream cheese, and 4 T softened butter. Shape into a ball. Chill, then roll in remaining topping. Serve with animal crackers, cookies, or fruit.
Peppermint ball, cranberry brie bites, and all product photos by Mark Karrer
White chocolate peppermint cheese ball
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Items in blue available at
Pecan pie
Palmer Specialty Foods (located inside Palmerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Olde Tyme Candy Shoppe) 405 Wesley Parkway, Sioux City, IA 712-258-7790 www.palmerspecialtyfoods.com
Pecan pie Beat 3 eggs. Stir in 4 T of melted butter and the Pecan pie in a jar. Pour into a homemade or refrigerated pie crust. Bake about an hour. Cool for a few hours before serving.
Rubbed turkey
Follow the package directions based on the weight of your bird. The process is pretty painless: Mix up the brine and soak your turkey in the provided bag. Drain the bird, rub with olive oil, and sprinkle with seasoning. Bake 15-20 minutes per pound.
Get the Turkey Brine & Rub Kit.
Product pictures by Mark Karrer. Pecan pie by Foodio, Turkey by Brent Hofacker/Shutterstock.com
Roasted rubbed turkey
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Food focus Tart & tasty
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At first, cranberries were picked by hand. Today, berries are collected by wet harvesting. The cranberry field is flooded with water, and the bouyant berries float to the surface to be collected.
Cranberries The first Thanksgiving?
Rumor has it that cranberries may have been served at the first Thanksgiving dinner in Plymouth. Recipes using cranberries date back to the 1700s. It's been documented that the cranberry was harvested in Dennis, Massachusetts in 1816 - the first recorded yield in cranberry history.
Cranberry facts • Five states known for growing cranberries are Massachusetts, Wisconsin, New Jersey, Oregon, and Washington. • Cranberries have small pockets where air seeps in which allow them to float. • Cranberries are about 90% water. • Cranberries can be used as fabric dyes. • Cranberries are typically in season from October until December.
Holiday cranberry sauce
Only about 5% of cranberries are sold fresh (the rest are turned into cranberry juice, sauce, etc.). Many people buy fresh cranberries to make their own cranberry sauce for the holiday. It's pretty easy if you want to try. In a mediumsized saucepan over medium heat, dissolve 1 c. sugar in 1 c. water. Stir in 12 oz. cranberries and cook until the cranberries start to pop (about 10 minutes). Remove from heat and place sauce in a bowl. Cranberry sauce will thicken as it cools.
Better cranberry nut bread Ingredients:
2 cups all-purpose flour 1 cup granulated sugar 1 1/2 teaspoons baking powder 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/4 teaspoon baking soda 1/3 cup butter or margarine 1 beaten egg 1 teaspoon finely shredded orange peel 2/3 cup orange juice 1 1/2 cups fresh cranberries, halved 1 cup coarsely chopped nuts
Directions:
Lightly grease a loaf pan. In a mixing bowl, stir together the flour, sugar, baking powder, salt, and baking soda. Cut in butter or margarine until the mixture is crumbly. Add the egg, orange peel, and juice to the mixing bowl, stirring until just combined. Fold in cranberries and nuts. Put into pan and bake at 3500 for 60-70 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool 10 minutes on a cooling rack, then remove from pan.
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Cranberry nut bread photo by Brent Hofacker, sauce by HandmadePictures, cranberry stem by Hortimages, dinner table by Bochkarev Photography, and cranberry spill by Anna Shepulova/Shutterstock.com
Cranberries are one of the few fruits native to North America, and they have many health benefits like preventing urinary tract infections, aiding in reducing the risk of cardiovascular diseases, and helping slow down tumor progression. Maybe it's time to try them this season.
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ay your home be filled with food and love this Christmas. Sadly, many hurting men, women, and families right here in our community don’t have either. Every day, they struggle to find food, a safe place to sleep, and want to desperately know they are loved.
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very day, we feed, clothe, and provide a bed, shelter, love, and care. We are able to help them on their journey because of the caring Siouxland community. Please help us continue to offer that food and love that is truly life changing.
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eading John 3:16, it begins, “For God so loved the world that He gave his only begotten son ...” God’s love at Christmas is all about giving. Your giving this Christmas will help!
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ealistically, we are able to provide a meal for just over $2. Right now, could you take a moment and give a gift to those struggling in our community? Imagine how many smiles you could give this season.
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our support of the hurting and homeless this Christmas season is so appreciated! We wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas and we are so thankful for your donations. To make a donation online go to: www.thegospelmission.org To donate by cash or check: The Gospel Mission
P.O. Box 3745, Sioux City, IA 51102-3745 Your gift will be used in the area of greatest need. Your gift is tax deductible as allowable by law. Thank you! If you have any questions, please call 712-255-1769.
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