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Around the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .6 Community Calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36
JEWISH THOUGHT Rabbi Zvi Teichman. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32
PEOPLE 613 Seconds . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15
HUMOR & ENTERTAINMENT Centerfold. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 50 Notable Quotes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52
LIFESTYLES World Builders. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34 Fulfilling Dreams They Never Dreamed. . . . . . . . . . 38 HaRav David Feinstein, zt”l. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42 Parenting Pearls. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46 Mind Your Business . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48 Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks, z”l. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55 Dating Dialogue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 58 Mental Health Corner. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 66 Gluten Free Recipe Column. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68 Your Money. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69 Life Coach. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70
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Dear Readers, So much unknown. Will President Trump successfully challenge the election in the court system? Who will control the Senate? How many more seats will Republicans gain in the House? Will the lockdowns continue? Will the vaccine be mandatory? Will rioting subside or increase? While not having the answers to these questions can make one feel helpless, perhaps for us it is a great opportunity to internalize that there is a creator of this world Who controls everything that happens in it. There is no reason to feel anxious. There is zero reason to worry. We need to suspend our calculations and surrender to His control. In addition to being a great idea on an emotional level it is also the truth. If our Zaides and Bubbes lived, and when necessary gave up their lives for this truth, then we can certainly rise above the current defeatist atmosphere and focus more on our Davening, our learning Torah and take advantage of opportunities for good deeds. We are now in Chodesh Kislev and the Nes Chanukah is just around the corner. A minority can persevere over the majority and light wins over darkness. May we experience this very soon in the literal sense with the coming of Moshiach. When the occupation of all nations will be the pursuit of G-dly knowledge. Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos, Shalom The OCA “Be the Light” article on page 10 in our 11/12 issue should have started with the 3rd paragraph. We regret the printing error.
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JEWELS Celebrates Major Milestone!
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he JEWELS School of Baltimore recently celebrated a major milestone. On a bright and beautiful sunny Sunday morning in the parking lot of the new campus, students, staff, parents, and community members joined for JEWELS’ very first Haschalas Chumash. Rav Yaakov Hopfer Shlita, Rabbinical Advisor to JEWELS, delivered words of chizuk to the joyous students and their parents in his characteristically warm manner. Dressed in their Shabbos finest, each student beamed with pride as they received their very own chumash. Just as proud were their incredibly dedicated teachers and JEWELS leadership who have worked for years to help these amazing talmidim and talmidos reach this milestone. The highlight came as Rabbi Mordechai Abrahams, JEWELS Rebbi, led the 5 boys in the TA Satellite class and the 4 girls in the BY Satellite class in a recitation of their first posuk. There
were few dry eyes in the crowd as they witnessed and experienced this precious moment, demonstrating what patience, hard work, and parents t’filos can accomplish.
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The glorious day ended with a k’vius mezuza (placement of mezuza) on the front door of the new JEWELS building on 31 Walker Ave. Joining Rabbi Hopfer in affixing the first mezuzos was Mr. Sholom Tenenbaum, a dear friend of JEWELS. Sholom spearheaded the construction over the past year and selflessly dedicated himself to ensuring that the students, staff, and parents of JEWELS would have a spacious and beautiful facility for their school and therapy clinic.
Everyone returned home with hearts full of gratitude to HKBH for enabling these special students to arrive at this sweet stage of receiving Chumash. May the learning of these tinokos shel bais raban bring blessings to their families and community!
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he middle school boys of Torah Institute of Baltimore have been exercising their creativity in a recent contest that took the school by storm. Under the General Studies Coordinator, Dr. Suzanne Cotter’s guidance and coordination, all 6th through 8th graders were invited to enter in the annual President’s Education Awards Program. The program honors talented students all over the USA for their achievement and hard work. The program provides individual recognition from the President and the U.S. Secretary of Education to the students whose incredible efforts have enabled them to meet challenging standards of excellence. Coming up with a theme for the annual contest was not easy. An informal group of student advisors helped the administration choose the incredible theme: Gedolim. Each student researched different gedolim from over the course of history and ultimately chose one to draw. The boys’ creativity shone through their actual drawings, in addition to the Gedolim they chose. The boys’ choices spanned a plethora of categories covering Sephardi, Ashkenazi and Chassidishe Gedolim from different generations. One artist, Rafael Green, drew an immaculate picture of The Rogochover Gaon, R’ Boruch Ber Liebowitz, and R’ Chaim Soloveitchik sitting together on a bench with beautiful foliage all around; portraying a stunning final image. One student, named Dovy Goodman, drew the Chofetz Chaim in his younger years. Another creative artist named Shlomo Kirshenbaum decided to draw his image of a ‘hidden Tzadik’. Shalom Chaim Halberstam drew a picture of Rav Shlomo Halberstam, and you can guess if they are related. A stunning image of the Belzer
Rebbi was illustrated by Yechezkel Heyman as well as a beautiful depiction of the Ponovizher Rav by talented student artist Shimon Rottenberg. The Presidential Winners received a Gold Presidential Certificate of Educational Achievement signed by President Trump himself. In addition, the PTA sponsored a $25 gift certificate to Shabsi’s Judaica Center. All amazing entries received a small prize as well. When interviewing Dr. Cotter as to how she came up with this annual contest, she relayed the following: “When you hear the word intelligence, the concept of IQ testing may immediately come to mind. Intelligence is often defined as our intellectual potential; something we are born with, something that can be measured, and a capacity that is difficult to change. At Torah Institute however, we believe intelligence, capacity to learn, to lead meaningful and beautiful lives, comes from Hashem, therefore our boys represent an expansive compendium of varied talents and intelligences. With that in mind, TI sponsored this art contest; we love to recognize our talmidim who are indeed many and varied in the intelligence Hashem has bestowed upon them. We aim to highlight each individual student’s strengths.” Rabbi Hirsch, the school’s Menahel commented on the im-
portance of the program: “There are many talents that the talmidim have, which would not necessarily be brought out in a constructive manner. Dr. Cotter has been successful in broadening the curriculum in the afternoon to facilitate such talents. It has added a special touch, and is very welcomed by the students and their parents.”
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fter a rained-out Sunday, November 1st, The Chesed Fund and Project Ezra, in coordination with Rite Aid, ran the first annual Community Flu Clinic AllDay Marathon on Sunday, November 8th. It was held at Bnos Yisroel, from 9:00 am to 9:00 pm, to accommodate community members’ busy Sunday schedules. Foreseeing the need for the community to better protect ourselves and boost our immunity during the pandemic, Frank Storch, director of the organizations, started planning for the event months before. “Our healthcare systems and employees have been working tirelessly for us for almost nine months now. It’s our responsibility to them and each other to avoid overwhelming them when flu season hits. And now with the recent surge in Covid-19 cases across the country and the world, even more so.” The overwhelming response resulted in over 400 community members, socially distanced and masked, of course, getting vaccinated. Originally, the clinic was scheduled to be outdoors in tents, however since rain was in the forecast, even for the rescheduled November 8th rain date, it was held indoors. The pharmacists,
however, were very considerate and even administered shots outdoors to immunocompromised people who had not entered any public buildings for months. Rivkah Hain commented, “When I heard there was a flu clinic where my husband and I could take our older kids and get shots, I made reservations right away. I did not want to have to visit doctor’s offices or pharmacies and have any unnecessary exposure to anyone not well. I hope they do it again next year even if imy”h this corona nightmare will be a thing of the past. From making the reservation to getting in and out of the building quickly, it was so streamlined and simple.” Shira Pepper, Creative Director at AMF Creative said, “The Chesed Fund and Project Ezra contacted me a few
weeks ago and informed me that they were rolling out this flu clinic. They weren’t sure if there would be enough time to quickly upgrade their website to allow for a more user-friendly experience and an easy reservation process, but our web development team got right on it. We were happy to be able to play a role in helping to keep our community safe.” To accommodate women’s need for modesty, a cubicle was made available where a female pharmacist administered shots to any women or girls that wanted privacy. There were also special shots available for seniors 65 and older. A reduced rate for anyone without insurance was also provided. The clinic was so successful that towards the end of the event the Rite Aid pharmacists even ran out of syringes. “For years, I have always wanted
to help the community by setting up an easy and efficient method to get immunizations, but now it made even more sense than ever before. Having masks and other discounted PPE available at the clinic also made it easy for anyone who needed to stock up some more since unfortunately as we can see the virus is not ready to let up yet.” Frank continued, “What was also really nice was the offer to volunteer and help out by our community pharmacists offering. Everything was already setup, but next year, we plan to ask them to join our efforts.” For more information about The Chesed Fund and Project Ezra, visit chesedfund.com. If interested in volunteering or for any questions or comments, please contact Frank Storch at info@chesedfund.com or 410-3401000.
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n Wednesday November 18th, the Baltimore Police Department announced the arrest of 14 individuals responsible for several carjackings and stolen autos, mostly targeting residents in the Northwest District. Detectives closed 10 carjacking and stolen auto incidents, with eight of them occurring in the Northwest District and one each in the Southeast and Southwest Districts. “These acts of violent crime are unacceptable and will not be tolerated by our communities or members of this department. Our officers are determined in apprehending these violent offenders and working with our partners in the criminal justice system to ensure the certainty of consequences for these types of violent acts to better protect our communities,” said Com-
missioner Michael Harrison. In October, the department sent out a Public Safety Alert after detectives noticed several distinct similarities used in multiple robbery and carjacking incidents. Officers were able to gather information from witnesses and tips in apprehending those responsible for these violent incidents. “I want to thank the men and women of the Baltimore Police Department for their incredible police work and quick apprehension of these violent offenders,” said Mayor Bernard C. “Jack” Young. “I also want to thank the members of our community who stepped up to say ‘enough is enough’ and assisted our detectives by providing valuable information in these cases. This is how we will reduce violent crime in our city by rebuilding the critical trust between the community and the police. That is how we make Baltimore safe for all.” Detectives are still working to
close several other investigations and are looking at the connectivity of these suspects to several other incidents. “We will no longer accept that our residents should have to deal with acts of violence towards them or anyone in their neighborhoods,” said City Council President and Mayor-elect Brandon M. Scott. “Moving forward, we will take a targeted approach to hold those continuously terrorizing our communities accountable, work to build and strengthen relationships with our partners across the public safety spectrum, and develop systems to ensure accountability, rehabilitation, and opportunity for all.” Two of the suspects have been charges as an adults, while 12 of the suspects have were charged as juveniles and have since been released. “I have called on our state leaders to introduce legislation at the next session to create a database where victims, witnesses and communities
effected by crime can track cases and see all information surrounding a particular case and any prior incidents by the same suspect with the exception of the juveniles name and contact information,” said Public Safety Council Chair Isaac “Yitzy” Schleifer. “This will establish transparency and accountability for cases in the juvenile system.” The Baltimore Police Department has stepped up patrol in the neighborhoods most affected by this recent string of incidents and have added additional resources from our Mobile Metro Unit and Regional Auto Theft Task Force. Anyone that has information related to a carjacking can call Citywide Robbery at 410-366-6341. Those who wish to remain anonymous can utilize the Metro Crime Stoppers tip line, at 1-866-7LOCKUP. You can also submit an online text tip to Metro Crime Stoppers.
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The Kitchen Spot won with grit, effort, timely hitting, defense, and correct me if I am wrong, but there may have been a smile or two. The Kitchen Spot, led by Yaakov “Cody B” Furman’s offense, the incredible eye of Dr. Tommy Azman himself, Adam “Nelson Cruz” Ben-Zev’s walk off hitting, Gershon “Tim Hortons” Jakobovitch’s special softball bat, and another 37 strike out performance by David “Sandy ‘K’Fax” Insel. In the outfield, no balls landed thanks to “Road Runner” Avi Friedman and his dream-team partner, Mr. “Seeing-Eye single” Ayden Felps. They covered ground and ran the bases.
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In a wild back and forth affair, LBSI pulled off the impressive win thanks in part to a huge, bases-loaded triple by David “Big Daddy” Addi. LBSI held on in the last inning to close out Kayla Diamonds 15-14, despite Kaylah having the tying and winning runs on base. Game 6
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Shimz Cars took the 2nd game of the evening against the scrappy Seven Seas Sushi team, pulling off an impressive 11-9 victory. It was a close, hard-fought battle by both teams. Shimz pitcher Yaakov Rappaport shut down the heart of the or-
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Pollard Finally Free
Convicted Jewish-American spy Jonathan Pollard is now free to emigrate to Israel. Pollard is now free to fulfill his dream of moving to the Holy Land after the U.S. Parole Commission lifted all the restrictions Pollard had been subject to since his 2015 release. “After a review of Mr. Pollard’s case, the U.S. Parole Commission has found that there is no evidence to conclude that he is likely to violate the law,” said the Justice Department. Ever since his release five years ago, Pollard had been subject to a slew of draconian restrictions, including a ban on contacting the media, a nightly curfew, and U.S. government monitoring of his home computer. Pollard was also prohibited from emigrating to a different country, preventing him from moving to Israel until Friday’s decision. Pollard celebrated his newfound freedom by releasing a video on Sunday of him cutting the electronic bracelet he was forced to wear since his release. While expressing their happiness at being able to move to Israel “as soon as possible and fulfill their dream of living together in Israel,” Pollard and his wife Esther said that they first needed to arrange treatment for the latter’s breast cancer. The Pollards are expected to move to Esther’s home in Jerusalem, where she lived prior to marrying the longtime prisoner. Senior Israeli officials hailed the news, telling Pollard that they await the day in which he will finally move to Israel. “The prime minister was committed to his release for many years and worked tirelessly for his
return,” said a statement released by Prime Minister Netanyahu’s office. President Reuven Rivlin added that Israel “felt his pain all these years and felt a responsibility and an obligation to bring about the release of Jonathan Pollard.” Speaking to The Jerusalem Post, Health Minister Yuli Edelstein said that the State of Israel stood ready to make the necessary arrangements to facilitate Pollard’s aliyah. “We will do whatever it takes in terms of medical treatment,” Edelstein said. “I am sure everyone in the Israeli health system will cooperate with the necessary treatments to enable the Pollards to come home. It is so clear to me that they will get the best medical treatment,” he added. “Israel is waiting for Pollard. This is happy news after the state abandoned him for too many long years. Soon we will be able to see Jonathan in Israel.” Pollard was released in 2015 after serving a 30-year sentence for spying on behalf of Israel. Until his arrest in 1985, the U.S. Navy Intelligence analyst passed highly classified information to his handlers from an obscure Israeli scientific-intelligence unit. Pollard’s espionage caused a serious rift between Israel and the U.S. which refused to release him despite decades of Israeli pressure. In 1998, President Bill Clinton reneged on an agreement with Prime Minister Netanyahu to free Pollard in exchange for concessions to the Palestinians after senior U.S. intel officials threatened to resign.
Netanyahu’s Secret Visit to Saudi Arabia
Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu met with U.S. Secretary of State Mike Pompeo and Saudi Arabia’s Crown Prince Mohammed Bin Salman (MBS) in a clandestine visit he made to the kingdom on Sunday. Netanyahu was accompanied by Mossad chief Yossi Cohen and trav-
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tions. The Gulfstream IV had lifted off at 5:40 p.m. on Sunday morning from Ben Gurion Airport and hugged the Israel-Jordan border before landing at Neom 90 minutes later. The aircraft then waited on the tarmac for a little over three hours before heading back to Ben Gurion Airport at 9:50 p.m. The rising speculation as to the purpose of the trip led the IDF military censor to impose a gag order on the matter until permitting the press to report the historic journey on Monday morning. Netanyahu’s spokesperson had originally disguised the journey to Neom by telling the press pool that the prime minister spent Sunday evening examining new software developed to fight Covid-19. Netanyahu reportedly kept Defense Minister Benny Gantz and Foreign Minister Gabi Ashkenazi in the dark about his unusual meeting with Pompeo and MBS, leaving them to learn about the trip from the media. While MBS is said to support normalizing relations with Israel, Saudi Arabia’s aging King Salman has quashed the move until the establish-
ment of a Palestinian State. Nevertheless, the Kingdom began allowing Israeli-bound flights to overfly its territory in September and gave Bahrain the go-ahead to sign the Abraham Accords. “We have supported normalization with Israel for a long time, but one very important thing must happen first: a permanent and full peace deal between Israelis and Palestinians,” said Saudi Arabia’s Foreign Minister Prince Faisal bin Farhan Al Saud on Sunday.
IDF Tank Mistakenly Attacks Gaza
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after a tank crew pounded Hamas positions in the Gaza Stirp without authorization. The tank in question fired at least three shells at Hamas observation posts on Saturday evening after a missile landed in Ashkelon. In the hours after, the IDF Spokesperson’s Unit denied Arab media reports that it had struck the terror-run strip despite a wealth of evidence to the contrary. On Sunday morning, however, the military admitted that the tank crew had fired upon preselected targets even without receiving the necessary authorizations. While the probe is still ongoing, the IDF said that the troops had been approved to hit the aforementioned targets in the past after a Hamas missile strike and were unaware that the order had been rescinded. While causing no injuries, the rocket in question completely destroyed a warehouse in the heart of Ashkelon. None of Gaza’s terror groups took responsibility for the launch. The IDF commonly compiles a target bank for troops to fire upon automatically following a Hamas mis-
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which didn’t recognize Israel’s right to exist until this past August. It comes despite opposition from Israel’s defense establishment, with the Shin Bet internal security service strongly opposing the visa exemption on the grounds that it would make it harder to track who entered the country. “This is the first Arab country with which we have signed such an agreement, and this is a step that will facilitate reciprocal tourism,” said Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu after the vote. “Of course, this will develop and strengthen ties between the countries as well as economic links. I believe that every citizen of Israel, the entire world, sees the great change that we are bringing to our region in every field.”
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Israel-UAE Visa Exemption The Israeli government ratified the visa exemption agreement signed with the UAE last month, the first time it has reached such a deal with an Arab country. The agreement was approved during Sunday’s cabinet meeting and allows UAE and Israeli citizens to visit each other’s countries without needing to apply first for a visa. The UAE had already ratified the deal earlier this month.
The visa exemption agreement will now go into effect in late December, making it easier for Israelis to visit the UAE. The deal was inked on October 20 during a visit by a high-ranking Emirati delegation to Israel. The unprecedented agreement is designed to spur tourism in both countries and highlights Israel’s close relationship with the UAE, a country
The Trump administration will now allow products originating in Judea and Samaria to be labeled as “Made in Israel.” Secretary of State Mike Pompeo announced the new guidelines during a visit to the West Bank town of Psagot last Thursday. “Proud to support American policy and stand with our great ally Israel,” tweeted Pompeo. “New guidelines outlined today protect Israeli producers and put the United States, and the world, on track towards recognizing reality.” Under the new guidelines, all goods manufactured in areas where Israeli authorities have full authority – especially Area C in the West Bank where Israel has full security and civilian control – will be required to mark the products as “Made in Israel” when exporting to the United States. The new regulations cover both Israeli and Palestinian products that were made in the West Bank’s Israel-controlled Area C. Goods manufac-
tured in the Palestinian Authority-run Areas A and B and the Gaza Strip will continue marking their products as “Made in the West Bank.” “We will no longer accept ’West Bank/Gaza’ or similar markings, in recognition that Gaza and the West Bank are politically and administratively separate and should be treated accordingly,” confirmed the State Department. According to Pompeo, the new policy “recognizes that Area C producers operate within the economic and administrative framework of Israel and their goods should be treated accordingly.” The announcement is a fundamental policy shift and is viewed as de facto U.S. recognition of the territories Israel captured during the Six Day War in 1967. Refusing to recognize Israel’s presence in Judea and Samaria, the U.S. had traditionally mandated that goods coming from the disputed territories be labeled as such. In 2016, the Obama administration reissued the labeling order and introduced fines for West Bank companies that used the “Made in Israel” tag. Pompeo’s announcement reflects the Trump administration’s different approach to Jewish communities in Judea and Samaria that saw the secretary of state declare in 2018 that such settlements do not violate international law. Pompeo’s visit last week to Psagot was also unprecedented, as it marked the first time that a U.S. foreign policy chief visited a settlement. During his tour of the Psagot winery, the secretary of state was presented with an ancient coin discovered in a local wine cave bearing Hebrew writing.
Israelis Rescued from Ethiopia
war-torn Ethiopia in a complex mission involving the United Nations, the foreign ministries of both countries, and international aid organizations. “The Israelis were rescued from the battle zones in Tigray in a complex rescue operation conducted by the Foreign Ministry in cooperation with the Ethiopian government and the local army, the United Nations and the international aid organizations in the area,” announced Israel’s Foreign Ministry last week. Those rescued included five employees from the Netafim and Beren irrigation companies that were overseeing a project in the area. They were evacuated by a battalion of Ethiopian soldiers. An additional four Israelis had been volunteering with the Collective Aid NGO and were rescued by UN forces. The rescue operation was led by Aliza Ben-Nun, the Director General of the Foreign Ministry’s Africa Division. The mission included a personal phone call from Foreign Minister Gabi Ashkenazi to his Ethiopian counterpart to coordinate the extraction. Israel’s envoy Addis Ababa was also in frequent contact with the Ethiopian Prime Minister’s Office until the Israelis returned home. The aforementioned Israelis had been trapped after fighting broke out between rebel forces from the Tigray People’s Liberation Front and the Ethiopian military. Hundreds of people have died since the Ethiopian army began its offensive against the rebels earlier this month, with the Tigray region being pounded by airstrikes. The United Nations said last Friday that hundreds of instances of war crimes were documented and warned that the fighting could soon spiral out of control to engulf much of Western Africa.
UN Res. for Palestinian Statehood Passes
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A UN resolution calling for the establishment of a Palestinian State was approved in a landslide margin of 163 to 5 last week. The decision called for the immediate end of Israel’s “occupation” of Palestine along with a call for the two
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The Palestinian Authority hailed the vote as an answer to Secretary of State Mike Pompeo, who had made history earlier in the day by becoming the first U.S. foreign policy chief to visit a West Bank settlement. The vote is “a natural response from the international community to the Israeli occupation’s violations, as well as a response to the U.S. Secretary of State Mike Pompeo’s visit to the colonial Israeli settlements,” asserted Palestinian Authority Foreign Minister Riyad al-Maliki.
Vaccine on Its Way The first doses of Pfizer’s Covid-19 vaccine will arrive in Israel as early as December after the pharmaceutical giant asked the Food and Drug Administration for an emergency use authorization. According to reports, the first shipment will arrive in Israel in mid-December and will include be-
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Gantz’s Commission into Sub Deal Defense Minister Benny Gantz has established an official commission of inquiry to probe the massive fraud scheme connected to Israel’s purchase of submarines and missile boats. Known as Case 3000, the sprawl-
ing investigation revolved around several senior defense officials who gave and took bribes on behalf of German Shipyard Thyssenkrupp. The case has already landed a slew of decorated officers behind bars and is considered among the worst corruption cases in Israel’s history.
Despite his closest advisers having played key roles in the affair, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu has never been investigated regarding what he knew. The immunity Netanyahu received from Attorney General Avichai Mandeblit has enraged left-wing parties, who have called for a commission of inquiry to expose what role the prime minister had in the matter. Netanyahu himself has torpedoed similar attempts to establish an investigatory panel in the past, including a contentious Knesset vote he narrowly won last month. Gantz announced the formation of the investigatory panel on Sunday morning after weeks of deliberations with close aides whether to move forward. The probe will be headed by retired judge Amnon Straschnov and will be tasked with rooting out Netanyahu’s role in Case 3000. Specifically, the jurists will examine why Netanyahu ordered the Defense Ministry to purchase seven Dolphin-class nuclear submarines despite unanimous opposition from the IDF because of their exorbitant cost. Also on the agenda is the go-ahead Netanyahu gave to German Chancellor Angela Merkel to sell the advanced warship to Egypt without first consulting with, nor informing, the defense establishment. Gantz decided on establishing the commission of inquiry following months of pressure the former IDF chief of staff received from hundreds of retired defense officials. In op-eds, petitions, and television interviews, figures such as former Defense Minister Moshe “Bogie” Ya’alon and ex-Mossad Chief Tamir Pardo alleged that Netanyahu endangered Israel’s se-
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Illegal Pics?
Photos with Israeli celebrities are landing an Egyptian singer in hot water. Mohamed Ramadan, an Egyptian singer and actor, is being accused of causing “offense to the Egyptian people” with the pictures, which sparked charges on social media of “betraying” the Palestinians. The case against him is set to be heard on December 19. Ramadan, a 32-year-old actor and rapper, boasts millions of followers in the Arab world. He is a close friend of Morocco’s King Mohammed VI
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Turkeys that receive a pardon from the president live the high life. Before President Trump pardons a turkey on Tuesday, two birds in the “presidential flock” are selected to come to Washington, D.C. There,
they are privileged to enjoy swanky accommodations in their own room at the historic, five-star Willard InterContinental Hotel near the White House. The National Turkey Federation, a trade association that represents more than 95% of the turkey industry, says it has provided the president with a Thanksgiving turkey each year since 1947. The tradition of the “turkey pardon” started in 1989 with President George H.W. Bush but has roots in President Abraham Lincoln sparing a turkey from his Thanksgiving table because his son had grown to like the bird and asked him not to kill it.
Two presidential turkeys – only one of whom normally gets an official presidential pardon – travel with their farmers who raised them across the country each year. This year, turkeys “Corn” and “Cob,” raised by Ron and Susie Kardel, came from Walcott, Iowa. And like all White House guests, they need somewhere to stay before the official pardoning ceremony. What better spot for the portly poultry pair than the hotel that has hosted heads of state and historical figures like Martin Luther King Jr.? The special fowl have been staying in a hotel each year since 1991. The hotel room has a connecting door to another room in which the farmer stays so he can take care of them during their stay. Plastic tarps are spread out on the floor, and the fowl are corralled into a special section with wood chippings and food and water. After the pardoning ceremony, Corn and Cob will live the rest of their lives at Iowa State University.
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charged in a slew of crimes. The suspects are accused of everything from illegal sports betting to heroin-peddling to offering loans at 400 percent interest along with plotting to kidnap and possibly murder a drug dealer to save their reputations after the man sold them fake narcotics. Anthony “Tony Meatballsâ€? Gifoli, 72, was named in the superseding grand-jury indictment along with others including accused La Cosa Nostra underboss Steven “Stevieâ€? Mazzone and alleged capo Domenic “Mr. Hopkinsâ€? Grande. Underlings targeted by the indictment include Louis “Louie Sheepâ€? Barretta, Joseph “Joey Electricâ€? Servidio and Daniel “Harryâ€? Castelli, the FBI said. The crime syndicate has been working from Philadelphia to Atlantic City, NJ. Federal officials said that, unlike New York City, where several crime families have ruled over the years, Philadelphia and its surrounding area has been continuously under siege from the same single Mafia family since 1931. The court documents only identified the family’s current “street bossâ€? by the initials “M.L.â€? The street boss can serve in place of the boss when the higher-up is “incapacitated due to imprisonment,â€? the papers said. The Philly crime family’s consigliere – “typically an older, experienced mobster who counsels [the boss] on important issuesâ€? – was referred to by the initials “J.L.â€? “Made menâ€? or “soldiersâ€? in a Mafia crime family, according to the indictment, must be of 100 percent Italian ancestry and vow at a secret initiation ceremony to “burn ‌ if I betray my friends.â€? If they turn “ratâ€? and break “Omerta,â€? or the mob “Code of Silence,â€? they can be killed. Mob “associates,â€? on the other hand, are not “made menâ€? because they either haven’t been initiated yet or they lack full Italian heritage. The group’s main hangouts included the now-defunct Broadway Theatrical Club in South Philadelphia, an Italian restaurant in Collingswood, NJ, and a cafe and lounge in Margate, NJ. “The charges unsealed today against these 15 alleged members and associates of the Philadelphia La
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The White House hosted the head of the exiled Tibetan government for the first time since 1960, in a move that is likely to enrage China. Lobsang Sangay, who serves as president of the Central Tibetan Administration (CTA), met U.S. Special Coordinator for Tibetan Issues Robert Destro at the White House last Friday. The visit is the first such meeting in six decades and is highly unusual, as the U.S. has refrained from hosting Tibetan leaders to avoid infuriating Beijing. The CTA later released a statement that pointed out the U.S. policy shift vis-a-vis Tibet and revealed that Sangay has secretly met with American officials dozens of times over the past decade. “This unprecedented meeting perhaps will set an optimistic tone for CTA participation with U.S. officials and be more formalized in the coming years,� said the CTA. Sangay added that he was happy and proud to hear that there is a formal recognition and respect for the Tibetan exile administration. In the past, Sangay was barred from the U.S. due to longstanding policy that does not recognize his government. The public welcome given to Sangay is just the latest step by the Trump administration in its battle to stem China’s expanding world influence. Located on the Sino-India border, Tibet has been occupied by Beijing since 1950, with the latter killing an estimated 1.2 million residents and exiling Tibet’s leadership. While China calls the invasion and
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How do you say “tall” in Chinese? Better yet, how do you say “really tall” in that language? Ren Keyu just recently celebrated his 14th birthday but it’s not just his age that he’s celebrating. The teenager
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Shidduch Flight Watch out Saw You At Sinai, EVA Air may have the answer to dating in a pandemic. The Taiwanese carrier has launched a speed-dating event for singles in which 20 men and 20 women board a plane for a three-hour ride – to nowhere. The flight lasts three hours, and the passengers disembark right where they started. After the flight, a two-hour date is scheduled for when they’re back on terra firma.
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The flights are set to take to the skies on December 25, December 31, and January 1. Each flight will take off from Taoyuan International Airport in Taipei. Daytime treks will soar over Taiwan’s east coast with views of mountain ranges, while the nighttime ascents will fly over the western shore with vistas of illuminated cities below. Singles will be given assigned seats and will be offered meals prepared a Michelin-starred chef. “Because of COVID-19, EVA Air has been organizing ‘faux travel’ experiences to fulfill people’s desire for travel. When single men and women travel, apart from enjoying the fun in travel, they may wish to meet someone – like a scene in a … movie,” Chiang Tsung-Wei, the spokesperson for Mobius’ speed-dating arm You and Me, explained. This is not the first flight to nowhere that has gained traction. In Australia, a seven-hour Qantas flight to nowhere scheduled for October sold out in 10 minutes. They’ve also been popular in Hong Kong as a method for sightseeing. The cost of the Taiwanese speed-dating flight? A mere $295 a person – a bit cheaper than a Coke in a hotel lobby and parking in Manhattan.
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Flower Power By Rabbi Zvi Teichman
Love and hate are immensely powerful words. The only place in the Torah we find its usage in actual circumstances is from Yitzchok Avinu and his descendants onward. At the Akeidah, Yitzchok is described as the beloved son of his father Avraham, אשר אהבת (בראשית כב...בנך )ב, your son that you love. The sentiment continues with the testament of Yitzchok’s love for his wife Rivkah, )ויאהבה (שם כד סז, and he loved her. The Torah then goes on to attest of love for their sons Esav and Yaakov, respectively. It segues to the seething hatred Esav harbors for Yaakov after his having stolen Esav’s blessing, the professed love of Yaakov for Rochel, the hatred Leah senses from her husband, an emotion she so desperately seeks to be free of through the bearing of sons unto him. Finally, the hatred that rears its ugly head between Yosef and his brothers. When Reuvein is born he heralds a departure from “Uncle” Esav’s spiteful ways. ראו מה בין בני לבן חמי (רש"י שם כט לב); ראו בןSee the difference between my son and Esav, the son of my fatherin-law. Esav despised the birthright
and sold it contemptuously to Yaakov and then vowed to kill him, but Reuvein lost his cherished birthright to Yosef and not only did not hate him, he tried to save his life. In the first half of the Torah’s recording of the births of the tribes, there appears to be much underlying tension. Each of Leah’s first four children’s names reflect her struggle to capture the love of her husband. Rochel is described as envious of her sister and with much frustration blames Yaakov for her failure to bear children. Rochel in her barrenness and Leah having ceased from becoming pregnant again, both submit their maidservants, Bilhah and Zilpah respectively, to Yaakov, producing four more sons. Suddenly in the middle of all this raw emotion a strange episode takes place that subsequently leaves calm and blessing in its wake, with nary a trace of any remnant of all the previous high anxiety. The Torah reports how Reuvein went out to the field in the days of the wheat harvest, וימצא דודאים בשדה (שם )ל יד, and discovers mandrakes in the field.
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He presents them to his mother But what precipitated this new Leah. Rochel observing all this, re- friendship? Wasn’t the undercurrent quests of her sister to give her some in the house of Yaakov stormier just of the mandrakes. Leah incredulously a bit earlier? responds, “ ,המעט קחתךIsn’t it enough The Zohar ): (תולדות דף קלדsays that you have taken away, את אישי, the word דודאיםis rooted in דודים, my husband? ...Now you even want to friends, perhaps a reference to the altake my son’s mandrakes!” ) (שם שם טוliance between the body and the soul Rochel retorts, “Therefore, he shall who are dear and loyal friends or to lie with you tonight in return for your the quality of this fragrant flower that son’s mandrakes.” can induce love and camaraderie in Yaakov returning from the field is others. greeted by Leah who informs him that So often we get caught up in the she ‘hired’ him with the mandrakes, struggle for our own definition. Our and he acquiesces without any protest. personal hopes and aspirations cloud From this union is born Yissacher our ability to see accurately the master followed by Zevulun and Dinah. Ro- plan of God. We allow ‘our’ expectachel is remembered and bears a son, tions to drive our ambitions which so Yosef. The flood gates of blessing often lead to resentment. spurt forth! We have to stand back a moment What happened here that suddenly and ‘smell the roses’ reflecting on the transformed a world of tension into a larger picture that is being played out. home of tranquility? Reuvein possessed an ability to roll At face value it would appear as if with the punches. Despite his errors this interaction was laced with cyni- and its consequences for his future, he cism, anger and contempt. How could remains unperturbed and unresentful, Leah accuse the sister who saved her unlike his dear uncle Esav. He never from the clutches of Esav as “having let his failed expectations lead him to stolen her husband”? become morose and bitter. In a departure from other commenReuvein was deeply aware of his taries, Rav Samson Raphael Hirsch mother’s frustration and pain. He offers a remarkable and innovative sought to inspire her with a bouquet of understanding of these events. flowers, a touching expression of his Rather, the whole matter appears thoughtfulness. Flowers give off an as an instance to show a state of the intangible scent which represents an two sisters living together in the most awareness of a hidden beauty that is confidential intimacy. While Yaakov present in every facet of life. is out in the fields the two wives sit With that new reality check, Leah together. His evenings he spends al- and Rochel’s previous apprehensions ternatively with each one of them. quickly melted away in a moment of Reuvein, who was still a boy, brings humorous honesty. some wildflowers home to his mother. When they bridged that distance “Give me some of them”, says Rochel. the gates of God’s benevolence rushed “What audacity to ask for my precious forth to fulfill their greatest hopes. flowers, etc.” says Leah jokingly, but The word דודאיםis the numerical of course she gives her some. “Now”, equivalent to the name of God, י-אדנ, says Rochel, “because you have been reflecting the loving presence of hashso kind, he shall come to you this eve- gacha behind all our encounters in ning”. life. There is no indication Leah initiMay we remove the artificial barated a barter as she makes no evident riers we create that block us from request. She seems to have given from healthy relationships and may we disher flowers before the ‘deal’ is struck, cover our common greatness and be indicating it was the loving sister Ro- deserving of God’s magnificent bound 24/7 Division chel who was gladly offering to A giveC h e tysine turn. the night to her sister.
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Fulfilling Dreams They Never Dreamed The Story of Kalman and Malki Samuels’ Journey BY SUSAN SCHWAMM
This is a story about a man and his journey through life. It’s a story about his wife and her determination to give to others. It’s a story about a sweet boy facing and overcoming immense challenges. It’s a story about hundreds of children with disabilities whose lives are brightened each day. It’s a story of hope. A story of pain and perseverance. A story of challenges and courage. A story about dreams dreamed and dreams fulfilled. B A LT I M O R E J E W I S H H O M E . C O M
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“We came into this as a family. We are leaving as a family.”
alman and Malki Samuels, living in Israel, were the proud parents of two children in October 1977. Malki was expecting their third child when she took their youngest, Yossi, for a vaccination at the baby clinic. Yossi was just shy of his first birthday when he received the DPT shot. What should have been a routine doctor’s visit abruptly changed the family’s course forever. It was mere hours after Yossi received the shot that Malki noticed that something was wrong with her infant. His eyes appeared glassy; he didn’t look well. Malki’s concern prompted her to call the doctor, who waved away her worries and then suggested they give Yossi medication to clear his nasal passages.
A mother’s intuition is not to be ignored. Kalman and Malki knew that their infant was experiencing something abnormal. Aside from his glassy eyes and stuffed nose, Yossi’s movements became jerky. It wasn’t until a few days later that an astute physician made the connection between Yossi’s behavior and the shot he received. “Did this child recently receive a DPT vaccination?” she asked. It took many more doctors’ visits and persistent advocating by Kalman and Malki for them to finally get a diagnosis. The vaccination that Yossi had received was faulty. After six months of administering that vaccine in Israel, the government halted the serum. But the damage was done.
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Kalman and Yossi at the White House with then-President George W. Bush and First Lady Laura Bush in December 2006
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alman’s story begins way before Yossi’s birth. Kenny Alfred Samuels was born in Vancouver to a traditional family. He loved sports and attended Hebrew school in the afternoons after public school. His family would attend synagogue services on Saturday but would park the car a few blocks away out of respect. A trip to Israel during university sidetracked Kenny’s trajectory. During the weeks he spent there – and he went to the Holy Land only because of his mother’s urging – Kenny visited the Kotel. He had never heard of the Temple or the Western Wall, despite years of Hebrew school. Spending Shabbos in Bnei Brak made him cancel his next leg of his journey to France. Spending time in Kfar Chabad tickled something inside of him, and he took the next year off from university to explore that feeling of thirst. “The burden of trying to figure this out intellectually and spiritually was extremely
she and the family and Yossi himself experienced at that breakthrough moment was unparalleled. “I remember when she ran out to tell us that he finally understood. It was an unbelievable experience. I remember when he had 10 words and 40 words,” Kalman recalls, “when he had 100 words. It was huge milestones.” Once Yossi mastered signing, he was ready for the next challenge. Another teacher taught Yossi how to speak Hebrew. Initially, she needed to put her fingers into his mouth to teach him how to move his mouth and tongue. He would use his hands to feel her face and neck to feel the vibrations of the sound. It took two painstaking years, but eventually Yossi emerged victorious – he could speak! “He speaks a thousand languages,” Malki would say. And indeed, he did. This young boy instinctively knew how to communicate with all the people met, connecting with them and joking with them. Yossi became famous, meeting Chaim Herzog, the president of Israel. In the media, they referred to Yossi as the “Helen Keller of Israel.” Although Yossi was making strides, Malki wasn’t content with basking in her nachas. Years before, in New York, Malki had made a “deal” with G-d: If You help my Yossi, I will dedicate my life to helping other mothers of children with disabilities. Now, she said, it was “payback time.” Malki’s vision was borne of compassion and concern for fellow mothers. She would “break down and cry” when she saw the disabled children in her neighborhood or their mothers struggling with them. She also understood – from experience – that a family with a child with challenges has specific needs
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heavy,” Kalman recalls of his searching at that time. “But I felt that I had to do it for the pinpoint of light I see in the future, that maybe my future generations will be able to enjoy this.” Kalman’s journey led him to luminaries like the Gerrer Rebbe, Reb Noach Weinberg, Rabbi Chaim Brovender, and Rabbi Yitzchok Shlomo Ungar. After intense learning and months of introspection, a world-traveling college kid had become a chassidic-looking, Yiddish-speaking baal teshuva. When Kalman and Malki married, they began their new life together in Israel. Yossi’s diagnosis threw the young family into a tailspin. Desperate for answers, information, and the right services for Yossi, the family eventually moved to New York. During this time, the Samuelses endeavored to force the Israeli government to admit that the vaccination that was administered was faulty. This was, of course, before email and the internet, and the government was extremely reluctant – even obstructive – to admit any wrongdoing. (It took nine years of legal wrangling for the government to finally admit to what went wrong.) After a few years of living in New York, the family moved back to Israel, settling in Har Nof. Finding a school for Yossi was a challenge. He was both blind and deaf and extremely bright. Eventually, a special class was created for Yossi in a school for deaf children. At that point, Yossi was not able to communicate but a special education teacher – who was deaf herself – poured herself into the task of teaching Yossi sign language by signing letters into the palm of his hand and tapping vowels into his wrist. The teacher spent hours tapping into Yossi’s palm until Yossi finally understood what she was doing. The joy
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A few children who had received the vaccination were irreparably damaged and put into a vegetative state. Others had died. Yossi, unfortunately, became blind. His optic nerve became bleached. He would never fully see again. Eventually, Kalman and Malki noticed other abnormalities with their son. Yossi became deaf. He developed encephalitis of the brain and suffered from convulsions. His gait was uncertain, and he was constantly moving and breaking things. Despite his challenges, though, Yossi instinctively knew how to connect with others. He made many friends and developed a sense of humor. And he was also the impetus for his parents to reach out and create a magnificent program for those who face similar challenges.
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that weren’t being addressed at the time. First and foremost, caring for a special needs child is a full-time job. But many families have other children at home, and they need to divide their attention amongst all the children whom they love. As such, Malki envisioned a center that would provide after-school programs and therapy for challenged individuals. This way, parents can focus on their typical children during that time, and the special needs child would be enjoying his or her time at a program designed specifically for him or her. Additionally, this center would give the family time to lead a more “normal” life. Taking care of a challenged child is all-encompassing. During the time that the challenged child would be at the center, his or her family would be able to spend time doing things that other families do – going to the movies together, eating out at a restaurant, even taking leisurely walks at night. When Kalman heard of Malki’s dream, he understood that there was a need to get a program like this off the ground. But, he told her, it would be impossible for him to raise the funds while working full-time and caring for his family. Malki, though, was adamant. This project was something that needed to happen.
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n Sunday, June 10, 1990, Shalva opened its doors for the first time. It was housed in an apartment in Har Nof and provided an after-school program for six children. It was a labor of love. Malki would pick up the children from their homes, care for them, and feed them dinner before dropping them back off at their homes. Life, of course, was hectic for the Samuels family. But
Malki told Kalman to keep his eye on the ball. She gave him a photo of a herd of horses galloping – pointing out that he’s the lead horse and the other horses, the Shalva children, are the ones racing behind him. “You must understand that whenever you speak to someone about Shalva, you are not alone,” she said. “The Shalva children are always there with you.” Kalman kept that image in mind when he fundraised for the organization. The Samuels children would spend their afternoons at Shalva helping with the children. Nechama, their oldest daughter, would read to a paralyzed girl while embracing her. Their son, Avi, would sing and play his guitar for the children. Neighborhood children would drop in to volunteer. Shalva was a happy place – a fun place for children and volunteers alike. But Malki wasn’t content with what she was offering. When summer came, Malki envisioned a sleepaway camp for the children, and so they set off to a kibbutz for a week, to enjoy the outdoors and to give their families an added respite. As word spread about the magic of Shalva, school buses would drop the children off after school. And the programs kept expanding. Malki started an overnight program for the children in which different groups of children would stay overnight one night a week. This way, the children would gain social skills and their families would have respite for two days and one night. Word of Shalva and the work they were doing spread. Eventually, Shalva needed to move into a larger space. In Shalva-Beit Nachshon – named after Nachshon Wachsman, Hy”d, whose brother, Raphael, went to Shalva – Malki worked to
ensure that the center remained a “home” and not an institution for the children. Bright colors and warmth enveloped the children each day. There was laughter and games, therapy and fun. But something was bothering Malki. The center wasn’t being used in the mornings, and she suggested that they invite mothers who recently gave birth to children with cognitive disabilities to meet other mothers and receive five different therapies for their babies in the mornings. Loneliness for those who give birth to children with challenges is the most devastating feeling, Malki maintained. She envisioned a program for mothers to see that they’re not alone and to connect with others in their same situation. They’re also taught via therapy how to best help their children. One mother with a son with challenges wrote that the Me and My Mommy program helped her to love her new baby. “I was completely shattered when my son was born. He was my first child, and it was so unexpected. I couldn’t hold him. I couldn’t even look at him…. “I remember the moment when everything changed. I was with him in the hydrotherapy pool for the first time, and I suddenly had a rush of feeling toward the baby I was coddling in the water. I understood: you are my son and I love you.”
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erhaps the most famous of Shalva’s programs is the Shalva Band. Comprised of Shalva members and two singers who are blind, the Shalva Band made headlines during the Eurovision, when they refused to play on Shabbos despite their popularity. Asked about how they had the strength to walk away from the fame and fortune that could have come from winning at Eurovision, Anael, one of the singers, said, “Look, we saw bright lights. It could have been confusing,” asserting, “We did not allow ourselves to get confused.”
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arlier this year, Kalman’s book, Dreams Never Dreamed, was published. In it, he pens his journey and thoughts and brings the reader along with him on his voyage through life. Living in Vancouver, eating cheeseburgers and playing sports, little Kenny would never have dreamed that he would be bringing up a vibrant, religious family in the Holy Land. He and Malki would never have dreamed that their young son would be forced to endure and persevere in the face of seemingly insurmountable challenges. And little could they have known that Malki’s vision of providing succor and solace to those with disabilities would evolve into a small, vibrant city in the center of Jerusalem where thousands of children grow, laugh, and play each day.
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Another band member noted, “We came into this as a family. We are leaving as a family.” Before coronavirus, the band played professionally a few times a week. When they performed on Rising Star, Israel’s version of America’s Got Talent, they received a resounding 91 on the show’s thermometer. Yair, one of the band members, spontaneously walked off the stage to give a hug to the judges. The crowd and the judges broke down emotionally at the beauty and purity of their music. The night before their performance, Kalman sat down with the Shalva members at the Shalva Café. “Whatever happens tomorrow,” he told them, “you’ve already won. You’re on a national stage – people with disabilities on a national stage. Whether you actually win tomorrow night or you don’t, it’s irrelevant. You’ve already won.”
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that yeshiva or in the Kollel,” Kalman says. “They’re rabbanim, dayanim. And many of them have said, ‘We’re only able to do what we do because of the fact that our child is cared for until 6:30 at night. Otherwise, I would never be able to sit and learn.’” It’s not just the parents that are tended to by Shalva. The center has programs for children whose siblings are disabled. For many families, when a child is born with disabilities, the mother is no longer able to give her full attention to the other children. One teenager in a session told the therapist, “We used to be family of six. When Mommy gave birth to a baby with disabilities, we become a family of one. All of a sudden, no one else counted.” The pain and the loneliness, the questions and the shame – all these thoughts swirling around youngsters’ heads are addressed. The programs at Shalva no longer end at age 21. Now, Shalva offers group apartments for those with disabilities who are older. There is vocational training, too, for those who want to learn a trade.
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ities help to run the restaurant. Shalva children and young adults prepare Shalva Teas, a gift box of special teas sold throughout the country. At the grand opening of the new center, the Shalva Band entertained the entourage. There are programs at Shalva around the clock, starting with the Me and My Mommy in the mornings. Shalva, says Kalman, “is all about the family.” It’s a family comprised of people from all walks of life – from the ultra-Orthodox to the secular. One woman flew in from Eilat each week for her Me and My Mommy session last year. When asked why she spent the past few months flying back and forth, she told Kalman, “You don’t understand. This is not a burden to me. This is my oxygen.” Children ages one to three attend a six-day a week early childhood program. Once they graduate from there, they’re ready for Shalva’s four-to-six-year-old preschool. The preschool program has parallel classes for children who do not have disabilities, a model of inclusion for the children that is “working wonders.” Kalman quips that Shalva is one of the biggest supporters of Torah because many of Shalva’s students come from religious families. “Many of them are people sitting and learning, whether it be in this yeshiva or
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HaRav David Feinstein, zt”l Tower of Torah, Humble in Spirit
The Jewish world was impoverished this week with the loss of a very great man. HaRav Hagaon Rav David Feinstein, zt”l, was the leading halachic authority in the United States, dean of Mesivta Tifereth Jerusalem, an incomparable talmid chacham and a brilliant posek. The Rosh HaYeshiva was world renowned as an unsurpassed yoetz (advisor), a paragon of chessed, and a warm and loving family man. He passed away this week at the age of 91, far sooner than his family, students and fellow Jews were ready to take leave of him.
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was Rav David? His personality seemed quiet and retiring and may even have appeared mild to those who did not know him, but though he eschewed publicity, the Rosh HaYeshiva assumed leadership when he felt it was necessary and important. The Rosh HaYeshiva was indomitable in his transmission of hala-
cha and confronted challenging halachic shailos. Rav David became the world’s primary address for complex halachic questions relating to business, education, and family. Most impactful were his piskei halacha relating to life and death medical issues. He responded to shailos on medical ethics that few rabbanim dared to approach, including questions regarding end-of-life issues, brain death, cancer treatment options, and termination of pregnancy. A kind and warm person, Rav David always bore the burden of other Jews’ grief in full. He felt their pain, answered their intricate health questions, and prayed for their recovery. Rav David’s humility was unparalleled. He was unpretentious and never assumed rabbinical garb, dressing like any average religious man, and publicly conducting himself the same way. At the most recent Siyum HaShas, before HaGaon HaRav Rav Shmuel Kamenetsky, shlita, Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva of Philadelphia, began the Hadran that would conclude the last cycle of the Daf Yomi, he paused to thank the Rosh HaYeshiva. Rav David had been asked to recite the Hadran but had demurred and did not accept the honor. Rav David asked instead that his long-time friend Rav Shmuel stand in his place. Despite Rav David’s simple veneer and unassuming ways, Rav David’s Yeshiva office and home was rarely quiet, with phones ringing constantly with needy petitioners from around the globe. No local or national political candidate failed to make a stop at Mesivta Tifereth Jerusalem before an election. Those that sought his advice made up a varied and broad assembly. One could come into the Bais Medrash for Mincha on any given day and join a real estate mogul, judge or even the Chief of Police of Israel. To each visitor, he would respond patiently, firmly, and with bell-like clarity. Rav David was never wordy. He always answered what you asked and if you were done – and only when you were done – would he move on. Rav David’s distinctive personality and the impact that his humility and chessed had on his family was uniquely evident at his funeral. At most funerals, the maspidim ask the deceased for mechila for having hurt or slighted them in any way. At the Rosh HaYeshiva’s funeral, his son Rabbi Mordechai Feinstein, shlita, and his grandson, R’ Shlomo Fishelis, asked forgiveness if at any time they accidentally did not treat others with the respect and compassion that their father and grandfather expected of them. Whereas at most funerals, the eulogizers ask for forgiveness, in a unique reversal, Rabbi Mordechai Feinstein expressed how he had the impression from some of his father’s words that Rav David would want to apologize to the
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David Feinstein, zt”l, was born in 1929 in Lyuban, in the former USSR, in what is today called Belarus. Rav David was named after his paternal grandfather, who was the rabbi of Uzdan and was a great-grandson of the Vilna Gaon’s brother. His paternal grandmother was a descendant of Talmudist Yom-Tov Lipmann Heller, the Shlah HaKadosh, and Rashi. Rav David’s father was the gadol hador Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt”l, who, before the family’s immigration to the United States, served as the rabbi of Lyuban for sixteen years. By 1937, life under the Soviet regime had become increasingly difficult, and the family, Rav Moshe, his wife Shima, and their surviving children, Fay Gittel, Shifra, and Rav David, were fortunate to attain visas, allowing them to escape the USSR’s crushing anti-Semitism and ultimately, the 1941 Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The family settled in the Lower East Side of Manhattan where Rav Moshe accepted a position as the Rosh HaYeshiva of the Yeshiva Tifereth Jerusalem, a growing yeshiva founded in 1923. Rav Moshe’s son, Rav Reuven Feinstein, shlita, presently the Rosh HaYeshiva of the Staten Island branch of the yeshiva, was born on American shores. Rav Moshe led the yeshiva for over sixty years until his death in 1986, serving the community and the world and gifting us with his clarity, scholarship, and a voluminous collection of his halachic decisions. With his father’s death, Rav David Feinstein was catapulted into the limelight and took over the leadership of the yeshiva and Kollel L’Torah V’Horaah, as well as many of Rav Moshe’s, zt”l, responsibilities. Rav David became a prominent chaver of the Moetzes Gedolei HaTorah of Agudas Yisrael of America; a member of the Vaad Roshei Yeshivah of Torah Umesorah; and was involved in Chinuch Atzmai, Agudas Harabbonim, and many other communal organizations. Most recently, Rav David worked extensively with Chinuch Atzmai to address the needs of thousands of French immigrants to Israel, providing them with a religious education that was culturally appropriate and targeted to their needs.
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proached the Rosh HaYeshiva in the Bais Medrash and asked for a bracha. “Rebbe, I want to win the jackpot at my weekly Bingo game. It’s forty dollars. Can you give me a bracha?” At the same time, Rav David’s son, Rav Berel, approached holding a phone. Someone was calling from a Los Angeles hospital with a halachic health issue. Rav David signaled to his son to wait a moment and briefly continued his conversation. He wished the man not only a jackpot win, but a double jackpot! The man thanked the Rosh HaYeshiva and left happily. Without missing a beat, the Rosh HaYeshiva pivoted, picked up the phone, and addressed a complicated medical issue. To those learning in the Yeshiva who had witnessed similar scenarios, it was no surprise. Rav David could be all things to all people. His heart was big enough to carry any Jew, and his scholarship never flagged. The love his family, students, neighbors, and community felt for him was reciprocated in full, and it in no way impinged on the time he needed for learning Torah. Rav David’s ability to hone in on a person’s needs and supply the audience for any hurt he may have caused them, and he did so on appropriate encouragement surpassed that of any mental health prohis father’s behalf. fessional. A teenage boy was once brought to Rav David for chizuk. He had experienced many serious challenges in his young life and a person who had so many demands on his time, and was drifting from the religious path upon which he had been brought who valued his time so preciously, Rav David constantly up. He told the Rosh HaYeshiva that his life was horrible. He was indulged in the ultimate chessed of lending a listening ear. In earconstantly gaining and losing ground, always ending up at square one lier days, before the problems of Klal Yisrael became weightier and – a dangerous and unhappy place where he didn’t want to be. Now his burden greater, it was well-known that anyone could walk into this teenager is a successful adult and recalls the Rosh HaYeshiva’s Mesivta Tifereth Jerusalem and speak with the Rosh HaYeshiva. He succinct advice. “He said that this was all a part of didn’t slot appointments or have any handlers superwhere I had to go. And that Hakadosh Baruch Hu vising his schedule. Rav David admired his father Rav David doesn’t play ball with people. Hashem doesn’t just Rav Moshe’s ability never to waste a moment and randomly throw people up and then throw them yet to have all the time in the world for anyone who admired his father down. It’s all part of a process and it would all be needed him, and he exemplified this attribute as well. good – and it was.” Rav David Feinstein had an uncanny talent for Rav Moshe’s In a similar scenario, a young teenager was introunderstanding a person and recognizing what he ability never to duced to Rav David and told him that he felt like he needed, no matter what kind of person he was. His had reached the lowest point a human being could son-in-law, Rabbi Shmuel Fishelis, eulogized Rav waste a moment reach. Rav David sprang up from his chair and told David and described him as an “Ish asher ruach bo” (Bamidbar, 27:18), which Rashi explains to mean a and yet to have him, “I’m mekaneh (jealous of) you! You are at the lowest point? That means the only place for you to person who could deal with the spirit of each indiall the time in the go is upwards.” vidual. Rav David knew how to give encouragement, The Rosh HaYeshiva’s thinking was so clear and advice, and empathy to all types of people. And Rav world for anyone forthright that, when he issued a psak, it almost David was always on the mark. Somehow, no matter how faulty your delivery of how unlikely the situation who needed him. looked easy. Rav David would break down a problem into parts and could make complicated issues clear seemed, Rav David always “got it.” and concise. It was all about adherence to halacha A very shy young man was beginning to blossom and serving Hashem. by developing a hobby in photography. He would During his most recent illness, Rav David was come to the Yeshiva on Chol Hamoed when he was unable to daven in a minyan or to fast on Yom Kippur. Unlike many off and take pictures of the Rosh HaYeshiva. There were a few regwho might have been disturbed at these limitations, Rav David was ular mispallelim that didn’t take kindly to the young man’s hobby content. If it was not the will of Hashem for him to pray communally and gave him somewhat of a hard time, though the Rosh HaYeshior halachically permitted for him to fast on Yom Kippur, it presented va consistently welcomed him and was not offended by his camera no problem for him. He was in full acceptance that this was the way work. One Chol Hamoed, the boy came into Yeshiva and presented he was obligated to serve, and his focus was always on doing the Rav David with a laminated poster featuring a collage of the many ratzon Hashem. On the first night of Sukkos, late in the evening, photographs he had taken of him. The Rosh HaYeshiva responded Rav David felt well enough to go downstairs to the sukkah and did with genuine pleasure, that, in turn, gave pleasure to the new phoso with great pleasure and joy. tographer. He especially enjoyed one picture of himself learning and A rabbi tells a story of how he approached Rav David with a shaila enthused, “This is my favorite! I have to show it to the Rebbetzin!” he did not feel qualified to answer on his own. A woman was diagOnce, after the regular Mishnayos shiur, a sincere person ap-
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the death of Rav David Feinstein, the Jewish people face an irreplaceable void. More than 100,000 people participated in his funeral, both virtually and in person, and many thousands more gathered at the Shamgar funeral home in Jerusalem on the following day to take part in the funeral procession to Har Hamenuchos. In describing our communal loss, Rav David’s brother Rav Reuven Feinstein, Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Staten Island, explained how chachomim are called the einei ha’eidah — the eyes of the congregation. They have the ability to foresee the consequences of what takes place in the present. Rav David lived through turbulent times (in Russia) and times of rebuilding (in America) and witnessed the troubles of our present era. He acquired a vast wisdom over time. “We need him so much now, to analyze events and guide us,” Rav Reuven lamented. “If we do not understand our loss, then we should David was a prolific and scholarly author, publishing cry for that lack of understanding alone.” his works through Artscroll Publishers/Mesorah PubA Rav with a halachic shaila, a boy in trouble, a shy youth in lications. Rav David was the rebbi of Artscroll’s deceased founder need of encouragement, a man who wants a simple and first president, Rabbi Meir Zlotowitz, z”l, and bracha. Rav David had time for them all. Yet whenthey became lifelong friends. Rav David assisted Rav David could ever you approached him, he was sitting at his desk Artscroll financially during a difficult time in the involved in Torah learning, making notes in company’s growth and recognized, as his father be all things to all deeply the notebook at his side. What will the world be like Rav Moshe had before him, the dramatic impact without the Torah, chessed and leadership of a Rav Artscroll books would have on the English-language people. David? Jewish public. Among others, we have Rav David to The venerable Hagaon HaRav Rav Shmuel thank for that impact. The Rosh HaYeshiva showed Kamenetsky, shlita, Rosh HaYeshivah of Yeshiva of continued commitment to disseminate Torah in the Philadelphia, eulogized Rav David in an unusually English language by joining the Board of Trustees of brief speech that took just under three-minutes. The reason for the the Mesorah Heritage Foundation. brevity, he explained, was that no one can accurately or adequately The Rosh HaYeshiva authored many books and seforim on haladescribe Rav David Feinstein, zt”l. cha, Torah, and the Jewish calendar, as well as several well-received “He was a min b’fnei atzmo, a completely unique individual and Pesach Haggadahs. The title Rav David used for his series of publia particularly special man.” cations, “Kol Dodi,” originated in the 1970’s when Rav David’s father Rav Kamenetsky described Rav David as a chaver, yedid, kulo Rav Moshe Feinstein was still alive. In deference to Rav Moshe, Rav tov and kulo geshmak (a friend, an intimate friend, all good and David would not allow his own name to appear on the cover of his altogether pleasing). “He was a person who understood everybody, seforim. The first three letters of “Dodi” are the same as the letters understood what they wanted and was always ready to help anyone. in David. “Dodi” means “my Beloved,” which refers to Hashem. That was his metzius.” To those who may wonder why Rav David always spelled his May the Rosh HaYeshiva be a meilitz yosher for the Jewish naname with an A (“David” not ‘Dovid’) it was because this spelling has tion. more phonetic integrity (the phonetic “schwa” sound is pronounced
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nosed with leukemia while pregnant. Her doctors accelerated the birth of her baby so that she could begin treatments immediately. The infant, a little boy, was born prematurely and there was a lengthy delay before his bris was halachically permissible. When the infant was finally slated to have his bris milah, the mother was still hospitalized – but was scheduled to be released the very next day! Any warm-hearted individual would empathize with this emotional shaila and recognize the mother’s yearning to see her son enter Bris Yisroel. Delay the bris by one more day so that the mother could attend or not? Rav David’s psak was straightforward. The halacha directs that a bris take place on its assigned day. He gave a warm bracha to the mother that her mesiras nefesh for the mitzvah of bris milah (abnegation for the sake of the good deed) should serve as a merit for her complete recovery and for the health and wellbeing of her new son. Uncompromising adherence to halacha. Uncompromising love for his fellow Jew.
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reader requested a more indepth look at reading for one of my columns. It’s such an important subject that it deserves the extra discussion. I’ve seen students at all stages of the reading process during my professional work but I’ve been fortunate to watch my children at every step as a homeschooler. When parents call me regarding homeschooling, reading often comes up and for good reason. It’s crucial but also a very difficult subject to learn. While children spend the first years learning to read, they then spend the next years reading to learn. If they don’t have strong reading skills, it can affect other subjects, as well. This article is not meant to replace your child’s teacher/therapist who is the best person to consult regarding your child. This is simply to guide you as you practice with your child at home and assist them in their learning. Disclaimer: While teaching reading is, of course, covered in my general and special education degree, I do not have the additional reading specialist certification.
Setting the stage for success Material should be presented in clear, large print and a simple font, not one that distorts the letters. The item to be read should be isolated unless it’s meant to be read within a word or sentence. Some struggling readers may find it helpful if you isolate the word by blocking off the surrounding words,
even if they will be reading it within the sentence. An index card or blank piece of paper with a rectangle cut out of the center can be used to cover the other parts of the page while exposing only the target word. Sessions should be timed based on your child. Some children do better with longer, uninterrupted sessions, while other children need shorter sessions with breaks. Some children benefit from moving or being active during breaks. While some children will learn best sitting at a table, other children may prefer sitting on the couch, cuddling, standing or moving. Some children will benefit from having something in their hand, while other children will find that distracting. Pick the time of day you read with your child based on their needs. Some children may be fresher earlier in the day, while others may prefer relaxing to a story together at night. Know your child, and go based on what they need to succeed. Some children find it easier if their parent/adult alternates reading with them, taking turns after each page or paragraph. Don’t be afraid to help them with a word if you know the word is above their reading level. Discussing the picture before reading the page not only interests them in the upcoming passage but it also helps by providing context clues they can use when reading. For example, “mouse” is a hard word but if there is a mouse in the picture, they may recognize the word just
from the beginning sounds. Depending on the sibling dynamic, new readers can read with older siblings instead of, or in addition to, a parent. Also, reading to younger siblings is a great way for a beginning reader to get practice. Younger children enjoy being read to, and they are less concerned with the accuracy or time it takes the reader. Obviously, this may not work if their younger sibling is at the age when they turn pages quicker than the reader can read or if they have a very short attention span.
Choosing reading material When possible, choose reading material that interests your child. They’ll be much more interested in reading and comprehending a story or subject that interests them. There are books, even books for beginners, that cover a wide range of topics. Not only do children enjoy reading about topics that interest them but they can learn more about those topics. We have books on everything from baseball (and the science behind pitching and batting) to extreme weather. Children, especially younger ones, often enjoy books that are funny or silly. Books with rhyming or word repetition are also great for encouraging the newest readers to join in. The P.J Pepperjay series is hilarious and a great read for children that are up to that level or want to read with a parent. Older, struggling readers don’t want to read baby books but the books for
their age category are often above their reading level. There are books that are specifically geared to older children that are still struggling with reading. These books provide age appropriate material for an older child while still controlling the reading level. You can search online for “high interest readers” or “high interest books.” There are books geared to every reading level. The Bob Books Series starts at the earliest of reading levels. There are so many graded readers (readers that are set according to reading levels) but to help you in your search here are some that our family has enjoyed: National Geographic Readers, I Can Read, DK Readers, Ready to Read and Step Into Reading. Please note that each series or program has its own breakdown for reading levels. In other words, your child may be “level 2” in one series but “level 4’’ in a different one. Each series will usually have a quick guide to picking out the right level and reader for your child. It always helps when you read an actual page or two of the book before purchasing to ensure it’ll meet your child’s needs. You can often see sample pages online, if you’re not purchasing in-person. I was frustrated that so many wonderful Jewish books are on the market but they’re mostly written for a parent to read to a child or for an experienced reader to read to themselves. In my humble opinion, there weren’t many books for children to read by
47 children to spend their time, and you’ll be amazed by how much your child can learn from the books they read in their spare time. Books don’t need to be expensive to be wonderful and second-hand books
become devoted readers after some professional assistance. There are a variety of barriers to learning, and a professional can help discover and remove those barriers. Children naturally resist work that
Reading to younger siblings is a great way for a beginning reader to get practice.
Respect their journey It’s not uncommon for children to have difficulty with reading nor is it uncommon for children to need extra help. Don’t be afraid to reach out to their teacher if you see your child is struggling. There is no shame in needing extra help, and many children can
is hard for them. It’s easier when you know to expect it and you can sympathize with the challenges they’re facing. Knowing how hard it is can help a parent find that extra patience and give that extra hug that their child needs. It always helps to daven for your child’s success. Reading is such an important skill but it’s so hard to acquire. Additionally, English is potentially one of the hard-
Sara Rayvych, MSEd, has her master’s in general and special education. She has been homeschooling for over 10 years in Far Rockaway. She can be contacted at RayvychHomeschool@gmail.com.
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est languages to learn to read (and to speak). There are often more exceptions to the rules than words that follow the rules. Have a little compassion on your new readers; they have a big and challenging but rewarding journey to literacy. Children are naturally curious and enjoy learning. Many children particularly enjoy reading time. Reading to your children is one of the best steps you can take to create a desire to read. Your child is never too young for you to read to them. Let your children see you read and see you value reading; your kids will naturally follow your lead. Let your child associate reading as a time to relax, bond with you, and learn something new.
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themselves when they were at the beginning stages. I’ve been excited to see that over the past few years the Jewish publishing companies have come out with some wonderful, beginner readers and early chapter books for Jewish children. Some of the Jewish series my children have enjoyed are My Dog series (by David A. Adler), The Children’s Learning Series (by Menucha Fuchs), and Jelly Eli Z. series (by David A. Adler). There are many more, and it’s worth your time to spend a few quiet minutes looking around your local Jewish bookstore to see what they have in stock. Many sites will have sample pages online if you’re unable to shop in-person. The more children read, the better they’ll read, and the better they read, the more they’ll enjoy it. Once they enjoy reading, your child is on their way to a lifetime of learning. I personally try to make sure my kids have plenty of interesting reading material to encourage reading practice and enjoyment. Reading is an excellent way for
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always trying to help other women start their own companies and do cool things out there, because there’s a lot of space for more females in the business world.
amazing journey because who isn’t trying to figure out how to break through the noise and get attention these days and get their clients to tune in?
YS: Let’s move on to Mindset Digital. Tell us the backstory. How did you get into this work? DJ: I was teaching at Ohio State. I wrote my dissertation on the art of powerful micro storytelling. We launched the first social media fellowship for journalists in the world. We were working with CNN, 60 Minutes, Chicago Tribune, and Los Angeles Times. And a lot of businesses started coming to us and saying, We love how you’re teaching them to communicate and how everything has to be short, organized, and skimmable. Can you do that for us? My business partner and I looked at each other and said, Why, yes, we can. We left our teaching jobs and we launched Mindset Digital a decade ago. We’ve now trained people around the world. I’ve worked with the Ukrainian Council of Ministers. I’ve worked in Dubai. It’s been an
YS: Perhaps you could explain the power of story. Why is storytelling so critical for any executive in a company to master? DJ: Here’s what we’re up against right now that is so intense. Our clients have always been distracted with really short attention spans. We know that. Here’s the added layer: the big challenge now is that they’re not just distracted, they are also distant. We’re communicating on small screens, and we’re distressed. How do you get people to tune in when we have so much coming at us every day between Covid and the election and the Supreme Court battles? Just so much coming at us every day. And we’re all trying to stay in business and get our clients to listen to us and act on what we’re telling them. We need to communicate with tremendous clarity and impact, if we have
any hope that we’re going to drive action and faster responses. YS: Why is it so important to have an online presence, especially on LinkedIn? DJ: Because people are looking you up every day and making a decision about whether you are old school or savvy. We are judging each other online these days because we’re not meeting in person nearly as much. And too often people make the mistake of thinking, Oh, you just put up a resume. That’s not going to build relationships. Your online presence has to tell the powerful story of you. You’re either driving business with your online presence or you’re driving business away. You may not even know, I may look you up and say, You know what? I don’t want to talk to you, and never take that call. Or I may look you up and say, Wow. I should bring three more people into this call. So, it’s an important part of doing business today. YS: What should your mindset be when creating or posting on
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definitely know you want to know, but not everyone. It’s fine if you do link into me and then you spam me; I can unfollow you or disconnect from you and you don’t get notified. YS: What is LinkedIn’s social selling index? What is that goal? People should really know the before and after. What happens before they engage with Mindset Digital and where they’ll be afterwards. DJ: LinkedIn has something called the social selling index. I actually don’t like the name because I think it should be called the Social Influencer Index, because it’s more about measuring your influence. It’s measuring if you have a robust network, how often are you engaging with insights? They don’t completely tell you the secret to the algorithm. Google “the social selling index and LinkedIn,” put your name in, and it will give you a score. And on average, we see people in finance, their score is like 18. The scores can be pretty low. You want to have a score of at least in the 50s – ideally, it’ll be higher than that. YS: Once someone has built up their network, they perfect-
about how they get so tired of seeing those 40-under-40 lists. And I commented, yes, I’d love to see a 50-over-50 list and a 60-over-60 list, you know, because there’s a lot of us, over 50, including me, that are still doing cool work. I have more than 43 comments on that and tons of people have engaged and so many people have reached out to me and said, “Debra, I love this post. Let’s link in. We should talk.” I posted about this work we’re doing with physicians. We do a lot of physician LinkedIn makeovers. I want to say this isn’t just for business leaders. Doctors are thinking about their profiles. Executives in hospitals are thinking about their profiles. I was commenting on this and I had a CMO (chief marketing officer) at a major health care organization link into me and say, I didn’t know you were doing this, and we should meet. What’s wonderful about that is it’s much better when people reach out to you and say, I’d love to meet with you, than you desperately trying to get the meeting. This goes into when you post really thoughtful content. People think you’re thoughtful and they want to do business with savvy business
leaders. This is your opportunity to showcase a lot of what you do. Having said that, though, I was coaching another guy the other day who was running kind of academic white papers. This is not the space for that. These blog posts, the good news for all of us is they can be short, organized, and skimmable, and a lot more friendly. You should write like you talk – not like you text – but like you talk. And that can make them a lot more powerful. YS: Can you discuss how important it is or is it important at all for one to try to get video content on their LinkedIn page? DJ: We definitely work with you on visual assets. I have a five-minute keynote speaker reel. When people come to decide whether to hire me as a keynote speaker, they can watch that. People don’t even recognize that you can do this. Business leaders out there, if you have a recruiting video, or you have a video describing your business, or you gave a recent talk and you have that video, you can post all of that. Our brains are wired for visual content and we’re more likely to watch that. So, it’s absolutely important to think about that visual. Overall, 70 percent of the information we take in, we take in through our eyes. You want to make sure your photo, your videos, your visual background, all of that really hangs together and is impressive.
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ed their profile and they’re all set. What should be done along the way to ensure that they are keeping their score high? What are some of the content creation that is critical for a person to maintain on their LinkedIn page? DJ: Part of it is the thought leadership, it’s engaging with insights. It’s spending a little bit more time, not just liking something, but actually, commenting. And when you comment, tell me why you liked something. I commented the other day. Someone had said something
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YS: What are the most important parts of a LinkedIn profile that a person should ensure is done properly? DJ: Number one is visual because, of course, most of the information we take in, we take in visually. So, you have to have a professional photo, but you don’t want a stuffy one. You don’t want kind of that old school corporate photo, especially these days. We say casual does not mean careless, but it does mean a little friendlier and a little less stuffy. In fact, I just changed my photo, because I think in this new world, we’re moving into a whole lot less of that kind of old school photo. You want to have a great visual background. You need your summary section to truly be a mini magazine bio. You need to think about your search engine optimization words, because especially if you have a common name and people look you up, maybe six of those are going to come up and you want to come up first, and then you want to think through how you make all of it more skimmable so it’s easy for people to read and easy for people to take in, which sounds a little overwhelming, but those are the critical things.
with me? We should take 15 seconds to write a personal note about how do I know you, or did I hear you on the radio, or did I love your webinar, or your training session…some personal connection. Not doing the default is a big important point. Secondly, don’t listen to everyone. And here’s why. If you link into me and you’re just going to spam me and I accept that, then that person may link into someone else that I know. And they’ll say, Oh, Debra linked into them. So, I’m loaning them my credibility. You want to link into people you know or people that you
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your LinkedIn profile? DJ: It’s not what you love. It’s not what you do. It’s what you love about what you do for your clients. So that really gets you focused on the reader and not you.
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Corporate Placement A corporation has a few job candidates. In order to figure out in which department to place the candidates, they put about 100 bricks in a closed room and send the candidates into the room and close the door. After a few hours, they come back and know exactly where to place them… 1. If they are counting the bricks, they put them in Accounting department.
8. If they are sitting idle, they put them in Human Resources.
2. If they are recounting the bricks, they put them in Auditing.
9. If they say they have tried different combinations yet not a single brick has been moved, they put them in Sales.
3. If they messed up the whole room with the bricks, they put them in Engineering. 4. If they are arranging the bricks in some strange order, they put them in Planning. 5. If they are throwing the bricks at each other, they put them in Operations. 6. If they are sleeping, they put them in Security. 7. If they broke the bricks into pieces, they put them in Information Technology.
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10. If they have already left for the day, they put them in Marketing. 11. If they are staring out of the window, they put them in Strategic Planning. 12. If they are talking to each other and not a single brick has been touched, they congratulate them and put them in Top Management.
You Gotta Be Kidding! A freshly-minted college graduate gets a job in a Fortune 500 company. On his very first day of work, he dials the cafeteria and shouts into the phone, “Get me a coffee, quickly!” The voice from the other side responds, “You fool! You’ve dialed the wrong extension! Do you know who you’re talking to?”
“No,” replies the young trainee. “It’s the CEO of the company, you fool!” The trainee shouts back, “And do YOU know who YOU are talking to, you fool?!” “No,” replies the CEO indignantly. “Good!” replies the trainee, as he quickly slams down the phone.
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2. What does Häagen-Dazs mean in Danish? a. Today celebrate b. Craftmanship and Tradition c. Extra large d. It has no meaning 3. Why did Tote’m convenience stores change their name to 7-Eleven in 1946? a. To celebrate 100 years since their founding on July 11, 1846 b. They were open 7 days a week for 11 hours per day. c. They started being open from 7
4. How did Lego – which produces approximately 20 billion plastic Lego bricks every year – a. get its name? b. It is a combination of Danish words that translate as “play well” c. The first pieces were made from the chemical components of Legtrolicitis and Oxymyenzimes d. It means “ouch, what did I step on?” in Dutch e. The company founder wanted it to be called “Let Go and Play” but the marketing department shortened it to Lego because they found that it had “a better ring to it” 5. What does GEICO stand for? a. General Expenditures Insurance
3. C 4. A- Lego is a blend of the Danish words “leg godt,” or “play well.” 5. C- Leo Goodwin founded GEICO in 1936, on the assumption that insuring government employees would involve less risk than insuring the general population. 6. D-From 1886 until 1903, Coca-Cola did include contain levels of cocaine. In 1904, Coca-Cola began using “spent” coca leaves that have all but very trace amounts of cocaine removed. 7. A- After 39 failures at the lab, the popular water displacement spray was developed…and promptly named for the 40th try. “You see kids, you have
Company b. Geckos Entertain and Inform Customers Online c. Government Employees Insurance Company d. Goodwin Enterprises Insurance Company 6. The namesake beverage of the Coca-Cola Company is CocaCola, named after two of the ingredients: kola nuts and what other ingredient? a. Cocoa b. Chloride c. Carbon dioxide (CO2) d. Cocaine 7. What does WD-40 stand for? a. Water Displacement, 40th formula b. It is named for the chemical which is the primary ingredient c. Weathered for 40 days d. It is named for the inventor’s favorite quarterback, Winnie Denton, who wore the number 40 to keep trying! You can never give up!” (Look out for my next inspirational class coming to a WhatsApp group near you) Wisdom Key 6-7 correct: You are very Haaagewwazin Dazinfloggen! (It doesn’t mean “supremely brilliant” in Danish, but it sounds like it means that, so we will roll with it.) 3-5 correct: You are like an IKEA meatball…not bad, not great. (To taste them yourself, go to the IKEA in Netanya, Israel, which has an IKEA cafeteria with a legit hechsher.) 0-2 correct: You need to spray your brain with some WD-40.
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In Israel, the most radical left, that represents maybe 5 or 10% of the country, is very socialist, very anti-national, very anti-religion, anti-Judaism. Took control of almost 100% of the mainstream media and academia. They are brainwashing, indoctrinating. – Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s son, Yair Netanyahu
I was called by the left so many times a Nazi, but all of my grandfather’s family from Poland was murdered by the Nazis. This is what they call everyone who is conservative and disagrees with them. - Ibid.
I hope everybody moves to Georgia, you know, in the next month or two, registers to vote, and votes for these two Democratic senators.
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- New York Times columnist Thomas Friedman on CNN, urging Democrats to commit voting fraud by moving to Georgia temporarily so that they can vote in the two runoff U.S. Senate races in January
Well, it’s a nice sentiment. First, you go out and the Democrats steal five or six states, and that’s what Republicans believe we’re watching. We think we have evidence of a lot of it. Then you turn around and you say let’s forget four years of Nancy Pelosi, let’s forget four years ago of impeachment, harassment, opposition, hostility, hatred, and now that I’ve won, why don’t we make nice together? – Newt Gingrich, responding to Joe Biden’s call for unity, on Fox News
Something extremely bogus is going on. Was tested for covid four times today. Two tests came back negative; two came back positive. Same machine, same test, same nurse. Rapid antigen test from BD. -Tweet by Elon Musk last Thursday
After more than 30,000 people died in his realm, the highest number throughout the land, and with a virulent virus still raging, King Covidius Cuomo decided now was the right time to bring to you his immense wisdom gleaned from years of successful “leadership…” -From Assemblyman Dov Hikind’s spoof book, titled, Lessons In Leadership: King Covidius Cuomo, which brings out the absurdity of the governor responsible for the most Covid deaths writing a book about how wonderfully he handled the pandemic
We have so much evidence, I feel like it’s coming in through a firehose. - Trump’s attorney Sidney Powell on Fox News positing that Trump won the election by millions of votes and stating that she has the evidence to prove it
President Trump won this election in a landslide. It’s going to be irrefutable. – Ibid.
53 For millions of Americans spooked by a Black man in the White House, [Trump] promised an elixir for their racial anxiety.
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- Barack Obama, in his new book, “explaining” Trump’s rise to power
- Candace Owens, responding to Obama’s outrageous claim
We have 11 million people in our country who have already had COVID. We should tell them to celebrate. We should tell them to throw away their masks, go to restaurants, live again because these people are now immune. – Sen. Rand Paul (R-KY), who is a medical doctor, on Fox News last Thursday
To all the scientific illiterates denying immunity after COVID infection, realize you are denying the science of natural immunity which is the foundation of vaccine science. (P. S. even Fauci admits to immunity after COVID)
The most corrupt institutions and individuals in America have declared that the election was free of fraud, and that’s good enough for me. What’s wrong with the rest of you?
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Barack Obama became the president of the United States because White Americans supported him. And rather than show some unity, rather than show some respect for this country that gave him literally everything he has, he turns his back…and says, “Look at this despicable country. It’s broken.” He is the first president that has ever sat in the White House and come out hating America.
- Tweet by Scott Adams, creator of the Dilbert comic strip
I was talking with my UK colleagues who are saying the UK is similar to where we are now, because each of our countries have that independent spirit. I can understand that, but now is the time to do what you’re told. - Dr. Fauci making quite the Orwellian statement at a Washington, D.C., event this week
I would say it’s a historical moment. Something like this has never happened before. First of all, the world was faced with such a terrible situation, the pandemic, and being able in such a short time to go through what usually takes many years. Hearing that at the interim analysis we are over 90% effective — it was almost stunning to hear. — Kathrin Jansen, head of vaccine research and development at Pfizer, which has developed an effective COVID-19 vaccine in record time
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54 This week 82 years ago, Kristallnacht happened. It was the Nazis’ warning shot across the bow of our human civilization that led to genocide against a whole identity and, in that tower of burning books, it led to an attack on fact, knowledge, history and truth. After four years of a modern-day assault on those same values by Donald Trump, the Biden-Harris team pledges a return to normal. - CNN International anchor Christiane Amanpour comparing President Donald Trump’s four years in office to the Nazis’ Kristallnacht.
We find hereby the false equivalence made between the actions of a sitting U.S. president and the atrocities of the Kristallnacht pogroms which were carried out by the Nazis eighty-two years ago belittling of the immense tragedy of the Holocaust. Distortion and minimization of the Holocaust are deplorable lies that only encourage the evil voices of anti-Semitism. Employing the memory of the Holocaust for cheap shock value and to further a political agenda is a deeply troubling and offensive spin of historic and moral truths with dangerous implications. - From a letter by Israel’s Diaspora Affairs Minister Omer Yankelevich to CNN president Jeffrey Zucker demanding an immediate apology from Amanpour
Democrats were supposed to flip the Senate and didn’t; supposed to flip state legislatures, not a one. And they lost seats in the House. Liberals can either write off half the country as irredeemable or they can ask: What is it about a “D” next to a candidate’s name that makes it so toxic? - HBO “Real Time” host Bill Maher
Democrats kept saying in the campaign, “You can’t possibly think Trump is preferable to what we’re selling,” and many voters keep saying, “Yes. We. Can. In fact our primary purpose for voting for him is to create a bulwark against you. Because your side thinks silence is violence and looting is not.”
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- Ibid.
So, you know, of course the loss of the House majority is just extraordinarily upsetting to all of us. It’s upsetting to all of us who are invested in having a Democratic majority so that we can expand healthcare, so that we can raise wages, so that we can protect working people. - Rep. Ocasio-Cortez (Dem/Socialist-NY) in a virtual townhall last Thursday, not realizing that the Democrats did not lose the House majority, although they lost a whole bunch of seats
Never bet against me. - President Donald Trump, who said he expects to ultimately win the election
I do a lot of things to advance the interests of the District of Columbia. And some of them are formal, and some of them are informal, but all of them are necessary. - Washington, D.C., Mayor Muriel Bowser defending her decision to go with her staff to Delaware to celebrate with presumed President-elect Joe Biden on Saturday, even though she banned travel for anyone from Washington, D.C., to go to any other state other than Virginia or Maryland
Without the resounding support of Black people, we would be saddled with a very different electoral outcome. In short, Black people won this election. Alongside Black-led organizations around the nation, Black Lives Matter invested heavily in this election. “Vote and Organize” became our motto, and our electoral justice efforts reached more than 60 million voters. We want something for our vote. - BLM co-founder and executive director Patrisse Cullors in a letter to Joe Biden
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selling author, master orator, and renowned philosopher. When traveling abroad, I would receive compliments about Rabbi Sacks as if he were my relative. Even this week, people in the Five Towns whom I’ve never met offered condolences simply because I am a British Jew and therefore must be deeply affected by his loss. Many people like to ask us Brits if we know the Queen. As an English Jew, I can honestly say that the Jews I’ve met around the world were more interested to know if I had met Rabbi Sacks and if I had any insights to share. In fact, I was blessed to have a personal relationship with Rabbi Sacks as well as the opportunity to work with him for the last few years of his tenure as Chief Rabbi. One of the secrets to his extraordinary success was the first class team he built around him. Rabbi Sacks recognized his own strengths and weaknesses; he knew that in order to make the greatest possible impact, he had to concentrate more on his unique talents. The role I played helps to understand a
little-known aspect of his global influence. Thousands of people from around the world would write to Rabbi Sacks with questions each year. His was the address for the world to turn if they had a question on faith, Judaism, and more. It would have been impossible for Rabbi Sacks to respond personally to each query. I was attached to his office to
help draft responses so that each one was answered. I crafted many responses to the inquiries that came in from people across the globe, from Olympians to politicians, PhD students to high school teens. Rabbi Sacks did not see himself as a posek. This is hard for Americans to understand but this was not his role as Chief Rabbi nor was
being a posek a position that he sought. There is a division of functions in England between the office of the Chief Rabbi and the London Beth Din, which is known as the Court of the Chief Rabbi. He gave the poskim tremendous respect and supported them by following their psak. I only have one memory of Rabbi Sacks reluctantly but clearly giving a psak when I
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rowing up as a Modern Orthodox teenager in London, I vividly remember listening to our Chief Rabbi, Rabbi Jonathan Sacks, with immense pride as he would regularly deliver uplifting and inspiring addresses. I remember feeling comforted that we had a Chief Rabbi who was an outstanding ambassador for our faith as well as someone who had the answers to the complexities of Judaism in the modern world. Part of the magic of Rabbi Sacks was that he genuinely loved Judaism, Torah learning, secular academia and people. Above all, he had a very spiritual soul; he loved an energetic oneg with lively singing. While attending a Bnei Akiva Shabbaton in Wales, I remember watching him join in the singing and festivities by standing on his chair together with the local policeman. It was only after I came to live in the United States that I gained a deeper understanding of Rabbi Sacks’ unparalleled intellect and leadership. He had become an international icon, a best-
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“In the world of Jewish publishing, if you sell two thousand copies, you’re a success; if you sell five thousand, you’re a resounding success; and if you sell more than ten thousand, you’re Rabbi Sacks.”
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56 was attending a Shabbaton in Israel for yeshiva and seminary students. After Rabbi Sacks had delivered several uplifting addresses, Shabbat ended, and we all gathered for a lively havdala. During the havdala ceremony, half the crowd began to “nai nai” in the middle of the brachot while others tried to shush them. The shushers had been taught or had decided that the “nai nais” were a hefsek (break) in the brachot. I was standing right next to Rabbi Sacks when someone asked him if the “nai nais” were considered to be a hefsek, and he responded that they were not. He answered that this is something we have a precedent for during Birkat Kohanim, and the “nai nais” are there in order to enhance the bracha. Knowing Rabbi Sacks, it is entirely possible that he gave this answer off the top of his head in order not to embarrass the person who led the havdala. Rabbi Sacks was always a mensch and would constantly consider the feelings of those around him. His menschlichkeit began at home; he always had his wife Elaine by his side and would credit her in all his speeches. He structured his entire life to make time for everything that was important to him, starting with his family. Each summer, he would take two
and individuals in times of need and simcha. When he heard that my brother, sister, and I were engaged at the same time, he extended an invitation to our family to join him at his home for a celebratory tea. We shared a memorable evening at his home, and I recall how much effort went in to share in our simcha. My late grandmother, Judge Myrella Cohen QC, was a well-known Family Court and Criminal Judge in England and fought tirelessly together with Rabbi Sacks to enable legislation to be passed to support agunot. Rabbi Sacks, who cared deeply about the plight of agunot, was ecstatic when the Divorce (Religious Marriages) Act 2002 was passed after a ten year long campaign. Just two months later, he gave a hesped at my grandmother’s levaya, and 18 years to the day, they share the same yahrtzeit, 20 Cheshvan. Rabbi Sacks would never speak badly about others despite occasionally coming under public criticism. On one occasion, my brother Saul felt that Rabbi Sacks had been unfairly written about in the Jerusalem Post and wrote in a response that was published the following week. In the middle of a work day, Rabbi Sacks called Saul at his work in a bank to thank him
With all the fame, accolades. and prestigious awards he received, Rabbi Sacks remained humble. months off from his duties as Chief Rabbi to work on his books. He also made time to be there for the community
for writing in his defense. During the call, many of Saul’s non-Jewish colleagues clamored to hear the voice of
Rabbi Sacks addressing the NCSY staff in 2015
the renowned religious leader. Rabbi Sacks always chose the path of peace and would never rise to the bait when provoked. He surrounded himself with a talented team whom he trusted to manage his calendar. If I wanted to book Rabbi Sacks for an event, a meeting, or even to receive a personalized greeting, I knew I needed to contact his staff. They were incredible gatekeepers who enabled him to maximize his time and strengths. With all the fame, accolades. and prestigious awards he received, Rabbi Sacks remained humble. After a year in the States, I decided to invite Rabbi Sacks to deliver the keynote address at
the NCSY staff conference in 2015. For me, there was one stand-out line in his speech: “I write books, YOU change lives.” Although he knew the power of his books, he also understood that you need educators on the ground to nurture real change. One of Rabbi Sacks’ biggest achievements, which he would proudly constantly share, was the percentage of Jewish students attending Jewish schools in England. Building on the work of his predecessor Lord Jacobovitz, the numbers grew to in excess of 70% during his tenure as Chief Rabbi! Rabbi Sacks shouldered the huge responsibility of the entire Jewish people and, in particular, the crisis of rising
assimilation. He dedicated a lot of his time to inspiring teens, college students, rabbis and outreach workers about their responsibilities to their fellow Jews. He himself was inspired as a teen by the Lubavitcher Rebbe and always felt he needed to do more to bring back unaffiliated Jews. At the NCSY staff conference, a philanthropist asked, “Why don’t more philanthropists support outreach? What can we do to change their minds?” Rabbi Sacks looked to the ground in contemplation for a few moments. He then looked up and answered, “You find the philanthropist, and I’ll come with you to convince them!” He truly felt that it was his
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Tea at the Sacks residence in celebration of the family engagements
shana, he decided to visit the backroom staff of his finance department. Sitting at his desk was a young black man who had only recently started at the office. Rabbi Sacks asked him his name, and the young man replied that it was Lincoln. Rabbi Sacks complimented the young man on his wonderful name; young
Lincoln stood tall and proud when Lord Sacks excitedly told him how honored he was to meet a young man on his staff whose name was linked to the Gettysburg Address. In his discussion with Lincoln, Lord Sacks observed that the Gettysburg Address was very short but its message was eternal.
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such high office. My father had the honor of being a member of Rabbi Sacks’ executive committee for a number of years, and he recalls being with Rabbi Sacks when he would carry out his regular walkabouts to meet the backroom staff of his office. On one occasion, on the day before Rosh Ha-
Rabbi Sacks, Elaine, and I at the NCSY staff conference in 2015
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responsibility to reach every Jew and if he had any possible means of achieving this through his writings, radio broadcasts, talks or even by soliciting funds, he felt that he had to do it. Rabbi Sacks made time for people and respected everyone of all religions and races, from the highest in the land to the humblest. He was a personal friend of Prince Charles, who spoke so warmly at Rabbi Sacks’ retirement dinner. He was also personal friends with the Archbishop of Canterbury and the head of the UK Catholic Church. As a member of the House of Lords, the British upper chamber in the legislature, he was a steadfast and reliable voice on humanity, issues of morality, antisemitism, and the defense of Israel. However, at the same time, he ensured that he was accessible to those who did not hold
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What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
I am writing this with tears in my eyes and confusion in my heart. My husband and I struggled with unexplained infertility in our early years of marriage, and after a decade were blessed with a beautiful healthy daughter followed by a wonderful son, B”H. Our daughter got back from seminary and, since we live in an out-of-town community, moved to New Jersey for college and to make it easier for dating purposes, meeting shadchanim, etc. Our daughter met with a shadchan, and we were excited to hear that she had quickly come up with a boy for her. Then we got this question: “It is odd and unusual that a frum family has only two children. Did they have fertility issues, and if so, is it genetic?” The mother of this boy asked the shadchan who then asked us. We responded in kind that, although we did have fertility issues, it was completely unexplained by all tests according to the doctor we used. Although the question stung, we understood why it was asked. We were then asked by the shadchan who was conveying the message from the boy’s parents that they would like to speak to our doctor from decades ago, directly. We were willing but unfortunately our doctor from way back then has since passed away. They probed further and asked the shadchan to ask us to see the medical documentation and files on our case to prove it. Is this normal? Is this what we should be expecting to happen? Should we disclose our medical files? We are hiding absolutely nothing – and want to do our utmost hishtadlus and don’t want people “asking questions” or feel like we are holding back. On the other hand, giving medical files to a complete stranger seems absurd and feels wrong to even have been asked. Thanks in Advance, Confused Mother
Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.
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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. he demands, comments and questions you underwent are beyond the pale of decency and sensitivity. This is not within the range of community norms. I would not give any medical records nor pursue this suggestion. People who can be so insensitive, intrusive, and have no filter probably have a home without the kind of values you are looking for. Stay away. As far as the shadchan is concerned, you need to be careful even though she exercised no discretion. She should have told the other side that they were out of line. She herself has no filter. The whole issue of fertility a generation back is probably irrelevant to begin with. Shadchanim, however, talk between themselves. You need to carefully explain to her that you don’t think this is a fit. You don’t have to go into the whys. Just nicely repeat yourself that you don’t think it’s a fit and thank her for her efforts. Be a broken record if you have to be but don’t lose your cool. Make sure to be cordial and don’t accuse her of anything. If she pushes, tell her you consulted and were given guidance on this shidduch. I would not continue to work with a shadchan like this.
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drum. Make no mistake: what you have been asked to provide, personal medical documentation from decades ago to prove you are telling the truth, is actual boundary-crossing manipulation, as well as socially unacceptable. This sheds more light on the person who asked for it than any reference call you could have ever made. So firstly, thank Hashem that you were given such a clear sign that this is not a family you want your precious daughter to marry into. Secondly, the sheer lack of social competence as well as complete disregard for emunah displayed by asking for proof of such documents speaks volumes. I can understand the initial question, “Is it genetic?” although I personally would not feel comfortable asking that directly to a parent. Anything beyond that initial question is certainly not normal. May the pain you have had to go through this ordeal be a kapara for you and your family, and may your daughter’s bashert come with clarity, smoothly, and speedily. For our readers: Please recognize when inquiring about shidduchim that your requests through a shadchan are going to families with lives and real challenges, just like your own. Just because your questions are being asked through a shadchan, does not mean they shouldn’t be heavily weighed as to whether they are sensitive and appropriate to ask. Think before you ask.
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hocked. Aghast. Appalled. Dismayed. Those are just a few of the many emotions I felt after reading your letter. I sat there and read it, and then read it again. Openmouthed, and completely dumbfounded by the thought of our shidduch system getting to the point where someone could actually have such a conun-
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ay I respectfully suggest that you ask the shadchan to provide the boy’s family with the following response from you: “We are very, very grateful to you for requesting our personal, detailed medical documentation from decades ago. “Because my husband and I have
always believed that it is neither useful nor polite to say anything negative to anyone else, we will not explicitly state what your questions reveal to us about you. “Suffice it to say, that we are extraordinarily grateful to Hashem for making it very clear to us that we want absolutely nothing to do with you and your family.”
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This sheds more light on the person who asked for it than any reference call you could have ever made.
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onfused Mother, I gasped and quickly found tears in my eyes when I read your question. I cannot imagine the pain you experienced
with unexplained infertility issues and now having to relive those times knowing that it might be “affecting” Rivka’s shidduchim. That sounds in-
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credibly emotionally exhausting. My gut reaction to your question is that this is not normal and not what you should expect to happen. Asking a person for their medical records is intrusive and inappropriate in almost all settings. In any other context, you most likely wouldn’t think twice about not sharing that information and you shouldn’t feel peer pressured to share private information like that in the name of shidduchim. That is above and beyond hishtadlus in my book. The more this mother delves into the deep crevices of your infertility struggles, the more I question and contemplate her middos, character, manners, and emunah. The sensitivity with which the family handles this says more about them than any reference can. Some food for thought: I wonder what a life would look like for
your daughter marrying into a family like this. While my gut reaction was to admonish this family, I will admit that, upon further thought, I can understand where they are coming from. They have an achrayus to do right by their son in shidduchim. They want to do the utmost research prior to agreeing to the shidduch to prevent heartbreak down the road. I can appreciate that, however, I still have an internal conflict with it. In the spirit of getting this in by the deadline, I will admit that it’s something I need to sit with and think more about. Writing from the single’s perspective, I want to take a moment to acknowledge Rivka in this equation. I cannot imagine the fears and thoughts swimming around her head throughout this ordeal. To start dat-
ing and find your parents’ long-lost unexplained infertility issues getting in the way, wondering if this is what every shidduch encounter will be like, and if the already impossible task of getting married will be that much more impossible is a heavy load. Rivka, any thoughts and concerns you have are valid and real. I’m thinking about you here, and I’m sorry that you have to experience this. Just know that the right guy will be able to look at the facts in front of him appropriately and appreciate you for who you are and where you come from. Let’s be entirely real. Hashem runs the world. End of story. The most fertile couple in the world can find themselves without children and someone with a family history of infertility could find themselves with many sets of nat u r a l ly
These parents have not only “opened the mail,” they tried to hijack the postal system!
conceived multiples. Yes, we have to do our hishtadlus, but even more so, we need to recognize Who runs the world and how little we know or have control. Please consult with your rav or mentors on how to proceed. A question like this requires an answer from an expert. A s a lways, a l l feedback , thoughts, and ideas are welcome: renafriedman2@gmail.com.
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ear Concerned Mother, This is absolutely appalling and disgusting behavior on the part of these parents. My jaw dropped and my stomach turned learning about the way these people have treated you. The lack of sensitivity and outright chutzpah to request medical documents surrounding such a delicate and sensitive matter tells me there is something deeply, deeply awry within this family. Under no circumstances should this request be honored. This behavior is so outlandish that it leaves
me wondering what else this family might be capable of and how it might potentially impact Rivka down the road. Should Rivka continue dating their son, you will need to spend a lot of time with them as a couple to see whether or not the son has their “middos” or if he rejects his parents’ values and ways. Unfortunately, sometimes children of manipulative and boundaryless parents have trouble seeing the parents’ manipulation and disrespect toward others,
and sometimes they do but have trouble mov ing away and breaking free from the ma nipu lat ion a s adults. This is typically very challenging for the spouse of the adult child. I remember sitting in my favorite professor’s class in graduate school. Dr. Belson was teaching us what to “look for” in families with a lack of boundaries. “Ask the parents if they regularly open their children’s mail,” he said. I will never forget that. He said, “Those parents have no respect for their children’s privacy. And those kids are either afraid and anxious, or angry as...” Agree or disagree if you will,
it gave me some hearty food for thought. These parents have not only “opened the mail,” they tried to hijack the postal system! In my own way, I have been in shidduchim for many years now. I’ve heard a lot (and I mean a lot). But I have never heard of anything like this. Yes, parents in shidduchim want to do their research and hishtadlus, but this is plain old tacky, classless, and downright cruel. I am so sorry for the pain this has caused you. If you send the response Dr. Galler scripted for you, you will go down in the Parents-In-Shidduchim Hall of Fame! Sincerely, Jennifer
Jennifer Mann, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and dating and relationship coach working with individuals, couples, and families in private practice at 123 Maple Avenue in Cedarhurst, NY. She also teaches a psychology course at Touro College. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516-224-7779, ext. 2. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.
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The Juvenile Justice System By Delegate Dalya Attar
I was 25 years old, a young mother of two toddlers working as an Assistant State’s Attorney and prosecuting juveniles for committing crimes in Baltimore City. I was horrified by what I witnessed: Child after child was coming through the juvenile detention center after being failed. They were failed by their families, they were failed by the system, and they were failed by society. Five years later, I am still horrified. As a prosecutor in the adult system, I continue seeing many of the same individuals, but this time they are committing crimes as adults. We failed these children and continue to fail them. However, as a mother to two grade-school children, I learned a very important lesson: when a child does something wrong, we as adults must ensure the child faces appropriate consequences and understands that the consequences are a direct result of the child’s wrongdoing. Equally as important is the need to rehabilitate the child; the need to show the child we still love him or her, and we are going to continue to ensure the child grows into a productive member of society. I believe that proportionate and appropriate consequences coupled with rehabilitation are the keys to stop this terrible cycle of failure in many of our youth. Unfortunately, this is not the current reality of the system. Many juveniles are being allowed to get away with crimes and harming others. We are failing our children. If we continue to allow these children to harm others without appropriate consequences and without rehabilitation, I will very likely come across these children in the adult criminal system in the future. We have recently seen a frightening amount of violent crime committed by juveniles in Baltimore City. Per a statement released by the Baltimore Police Department, “Two of the suspects have been charged as adults, while 12 of the suspects were charged
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as juveniles and have since been released.” Many of these suspects, as young as 13 years old, pointed a gun towards random victims and robbed these victims. I cannot even begin to imagine the trauma these victims and their families experienced and will continue to experience as a result of these acts of violence. Releasing 12 of the suspects back onto the streets of Baltimore City within days of the suspects allegedly committing such violence is not ensuring that there are appropriate consequences, is not rehabilitating these children, and is definitely not keeping our citizens safe. Currently in the State of Maryland, when “a child at least 14 years old [is] alleged to have done an act that, if committed by an adult, would be a crime punishable by life imprisonment, as well as all other charges against the child arising out of the same incident”, that child is charged in the adult courts. Also, when “a child at least 16 years old [is] alleged to have committed any of the following crimes, as well as all other charges against the child arising out of the same incident”, the child is charged in the adult courts (Maryland Courts and Judicial Proceedings Section 3-8A-03). “(i) Abduction; (ii) Kidnapping; (iii) Second degree murder;
(iv) Manslaughter, except involuntary manslaughter; (v) Second degree rape; (vi) Robbery under § 3-403 of the Criminal Law Article; (vii) Third degree sexual offense under § 3-307(a)(1) of the Criminal Law Article; (viii) A crime in violation of § 5-133, § 5-134, § 5-138, or § 5-203 of the Public Safety Article; (ix) Using, wearing, carrying, or transporting a firearm during and in relation to a drug trafficking crime under § 5-621 of the Criminal Law Article; (x) Use of a firearm under § 5-622 of the Criminal Law Article; (xi) Carjacking or armed carjacking under § 3-405 of the Criminal Law Article; (xii) Assault in the first degree under § 3-202 of the Criminal Law Article; (xiii) Attempted murder in the second degree under § 2-206 of the Criminal Law Article; (xiv) Attempted rape in the second degree under § 3-310 of the Criminal Law Article; (xv) Attempted robbery under § 3-403 of the Criminal Law Article; or (xvi) A violation of § 4-203, § 4-204, § 4-404, or § 4-405 of the Criminal Law Article.” (Maryland Courts and Judicial Pro-
There is a caveat to this. A ‘reverse waiver’, also known as a ‘transfer’, can be filed on behalf of the juvenile in an attempt to give the juvenile courts jurisdiction. If granted, the juvenile’s case will be transferred to the juvenile system. Pursuant to Maryland Courts and Judicial Proceedings Section 3-8A-06, “The court may not waive its jurisdiction under this section until after it has conducted a waiver hearing, held prior to an adjudicatory hearing and after notice has been given to all parties.” In determining whether or not the juvenile’s case will be transferred to the juvenile courts, the courts must consider the following criteria: “(1) Age of the child; (2) Mental and physical condition of the child; (3) The child’s amenability to treatment in any institution, facility, or program available to delinquents; (4) The nature of the offense and the child’s alleged participation in it; and (5) The public safety (Maryland Courts and Judicial Proceedings Section 3-8A-06).” In simpler terms, a juvenile age 14 years or older who commits certain crimes that would be punishable by life in prison will be charged as an adult, and a juvenile age 16 or older who commits any one of the more serious crimes listed above will also be charged as an adult. However, if a ‘transfer’ is filed on behalf of the juvenile and it is ruled in his favor, his case would move to juvenile court regardless of the crime he committed. As I personally observed when I was practicing in the juvenile courts, there are times the courts get this right. However, there are
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consequences. The public cannot determine whether the juvenile is properly being rehabilitated. The public cannot determine whether they are safe. While we try to do what is right by these children and the public, we must remember that these juveniles are still children. The personal information, including name and contact information of these juveniles, should not be released to the public. However, we must still find other ways to do right by these children and the public. 5th District Councilman Isaac Schleifer called on our state leaders to “introduce legislation at the next session to create a database where victims, witnesses and communities affected by crime can track cases and see all information surrounding a particular case and any prior incidents by the same
suspect, with the exception of the juvenile’s name and contact information.” I fully agree. There must be transparency. I therefore am sponsoring a bill this session that would require this database be created statewide. We must do what’s right by our children. We must ensure our children face appropriate consequences when harming others. We must ensure our children are rehabilitated. We must ensure we are keeping our citizens safe. Fair and appropriate consequences coupled with rehabilitation is the way to achieve this. Wishing everyone a healthy winter and א פרייליכן חנוכה, Delegate Dalya Attar
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released from the juvenile detention center. I recall shortly after Prince Greene’s release in 2018, he was charged with second degree assault and illegal possession of a handgun. We failed this child. We failed society. This child did not face appropriate consequences coinciding with murdering another individual. This child was not rehabilitated. We did not keep our citizens safe. Unfortunately, this is just one example of many. When a crime is committed and charged in adult courts, the public has access to the court records. There is transparency. When a juvenile commits a crime that is handled by the juvenile courts, the public is kept in the dark. The public cannot access the records. The public cannot determine whether the juvenile is facing appropriate
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many others times they do not, and those other times put many people’s safety at risk. I recall in 2016 when 29 year old Robert Ponsi was riding his bicycle in Baltimore City and 15 year old Prince Greene admittedly fatally stabbed him before robbing him of his possessions. I recall the State’s Attorney charging Prince Greene as an adult. I recall sitting in the courtroom during his waiver hearing and the Judge determining his case should be transferred to the juvenile courts. I recall the State’s Attorney fervently objecting to this transfer. I recall the victim’s family and friends sitting in the courtroom listening to the Judge make this determination. I recall in 2018, Prince Greene, barely two years after murdering a man who was riding his bike in the streets of Baltimore City, being
Mental Health Corner
Transference By Rabbi Azriel Hauptman
Transference is a phenomenon that often occurs in psychotherapy that was first explained by Sigmund Freud. The concept of transference is that the client will subconsciously view the
therapist as standing in place of someone from his past and therefore the client will transfer feelings from that person to the therapist. For example, the therapist might be viewed as a fa-
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ther figure and as a result the client’s emotions and feelings in therapy will be influenced by his relationship with his father. This can also occur outside of therapy. For example, if someone at work feels very annoying to you it might be because he reminds you of your annoying next-door neighbor from your childhood. More broadly speaking, transference describes any situation where someone’s personal emotional needs creates a fictional image of the person they are interacting with. Imagine someone who never received unconditional love from his parents. He might have a very low sense of self-worth and subconsciously is desperate for someone to unconditionally value him as a person. When this person enters therapy, which is built on the principle of being nonjudgmental, he might feel intoxicated by the experience of being held in high regard without being judged and with no strings attached. In his emotional mind, the therapist is the parent who he never had. When handled properly, this can be extremely therapeutic and can start the client on the journey of developing a healthy sense of self-worth. The problem is that the therapist is not adopting the client and is just a professional who is providing a paid service. As soon as the client stops paying for the weekly sessions, the therapist will stop providing this service. Therefore, if the client’s feelings about the therapist are detached from this reality, it can lead to feelings of rejection when the client must face the reality that his therapist will never be any more than a paid professional. Let us illustrate this point with the following scenario. Shimon’s therapist was a compassionate middle-aged man who was old enough to be his
own father. Whenever Shimon went for therapy, he felt understood and valued by his therapist in ways he never felt before. His own parents loved him deeply, but it always seemed that their expressions of love were conditional on Shimon being a “good boy”. As a result, he always felt the need to be good in order to be deserving of their love. Shimon was never fully aware of these pent-up feelings as they were mostly suppressed in the unconscious. He first realized that he had an unhealthy attachment to his therapist when the therapist went on vacation and could not see him for three weeks. The feelings of abandonment and rejection were overwhelming. In his emotional mind, the man who he thought was his “knight in shining armor” is really a regular person who might be an incredible therapist but is not going to become his new father. The most practical way of working through issues related to transference is to discuss it with your therapist. The therapist can help you normalize your feelings and hopefully help you get more insight into yourself. In essence, transference can be an incredible source of information to help you understand the emotional voids that you may be harboring in your soul. Another important related topic is countertransference which is a similar phenomenon that describes the feelings of the therapist about the client. But that will have to wait for a different article! This is a service of Relief Resources. Relief is an organization that provides mental health referrals, education, and support to the frum community. Rabbi Yisrael Slansky is director of the Baltimore branch of Relief. He can be contacted at 410-448-8356 or at yslansky@reliefhelp.org
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Vegetable oil ¼ cup granulated sugar ½ tsp. ground cinnamon 1 ¼ cups Bisquick Gluten Free Pancake Mix ¼ cup packed brown sugar 1/3 cup seedless preservesmixed until smooth ¼ tsp ground nutmeg 2 Tbl. butter- melted 1/3 cup non-dairy creamer 1 tsp. vinegar 1 egg- beaten
1. In deep fryer or 2-quart heavy saucepan, heat 2 to 3 inches of oil to 375 degrees. In shallow bowl, mix white sugar and cinnamon. Set aside. 2. Mix remaining ingredients in electric mixer until smooth. Shape dough into 1 inch balls. Carefully drop balls, one at a time, into hot oil. Fry about 1 to 2 minutes or until golden brown on all sides. Drain on paper towels. Immediately roll into cinnamon-sugar mixture. 3. Fill pastry bag with preserves, and pipe through plain hole tip into the cooled sufganiot. Enjoy! Makes about 17 doughnuts.
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doesn’t have the technology to mine Psyche, it’s just a matter of time before somebody does. (Are you listening, Elon Musk?) When they do, the same U.S. government that spent $28 billion to land men on the moon will want a piece of that action. The current system we have for taxing natural resources here on
fact that the well will eventually run dry. The biggest question probably involves establishing “basis.” When Exxon buys a few thousand acres of Texas scrubland, hoping to find oil somewhere deep below, they don’t get to deduct that cost. That’s because they can hold the land, use
What happens when Spacely Sprockets invests a few billion dollars to pull an asteroid like Psyche 16 into near-earth orbit to shorten the trip from surface-to-surface?
Earth seems like a good starting point for taxes in space. Fossil fuel companies and miners can deduct the cost of drilling equipment under whatever depreciation rules exist at the time. They can deduct “intangible drilling costs” like wages, fuel, supplies, repairs, survey work, and ground clearing. And small producers can take a “depletion allowance” of 15% of their income to reflect that
the surface for other purposes, and eventually sell it. What happens when Spacely Sprockets invests a few billion dollars to pull an asteroid like Psyche 16 into near-earth orbit to shorten the trip from surface-to-surface? Will those costs be deductible, or will they have to be capitalized? Of course, asteroid mining poses some special dangers that ter-
restrial miners don’t face. What if careless quality control inspectors accidentally download the Andromeda Strain along with a payload of precious metal? What if the scientists in charge of the operation make poor decisions, or yield to unethical temptations? (You’ve seen Jurassic Park, right? Don’t ask which one – they’re all the same.) Fortunately, the tax code stands ready with all sorts deductions for disaster losses, environmental cleanup, and even tax-free reimbursements for employee medical costs resulting from space mishaps. There’s no rule that they have to occur here on Earth. And innocent victims will surely appreciate extra time to file if they live in a federally-declared disaster area — say, directly underneath a falling space rock. None of this means anything to anyone yet. But don’t be surprised to wake up in a decade and find Congress debating planetary exploration incentives as part of the Tax Reform Act of 2030!
Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.
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ast week, we wrote about the sad fate faced by astronauts preparing for a brave new world of space commerce. Specifically, they’re fated to wind up paying the same tax bills on their interplanetary income as they do on the earthbound work they do today. But that’s not the only thorny tax issue facing the budding space industry. Someday we’re going to bring valuable stuff back from space, and not just to study it or display it. What then? NASA’s Hubble telescope orbits the earth from 340 miles up, blissfully unaffected by the Boschian nightmare we laughingly refer to as “2020.” (And boy, are we envious.) One of the countless objects it’s observing is an asteroid named 16 Psyche. While most asteroids are made of rock, 16 Psyche appears to be the exposed nickel-iron core of an early planet. Those metals make it the most valuable object in the solar system, worth a possible $10,000 quadrillion. (That’s more than the earth’s entire annual economy.) It’s a fascinating example of what Mother Nature can do after a few too many Red Bulls. NASA is already planning to launch an expedition to the asteroid, leaving in 2022 and arriving in 2026. But while NASA currently
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eople ask me how I come up with topics to write about. They’re right. It gets difficult at times. Right now, some things seem better left alone. Politics: getting too controversial. Corona: getting too depressing, and too controversial. Dating: getting too confusing, and too depressing, and too controversial. If schools will stay open: getting too speculative, and too confusing, and too depressing, and too controversial. Weather? Even more speculative, confusing, depressing and controversial. And with all the climatologists and forecasters out there, there is still always 50% chance of rain, 50% chance of sun, and 100% chance that your guess is as good as theirs! What’s a person to write about? Well, I’ve decided. I’m going to write about you! No, I don’t know you. Yet, everyone seems to be an expert on everything, whether they really know about it or not. So, at least, I’m starting with an admission. You probably start your day with some mixed emotions. I’m not even talking about the big ones. More like,
get up or hit snooze? Decaf or regular? This shirt or that one? Brush teeth? Nah, that’s probably a given! But I’m guessing there are some early morning dilemmas. And the busier the household, the more you probably have to navigate. Then you probably have some time-consuming activity to do for a big block of your day, like work, par-
in our heads. Such as the history, the ego, the self-deprecation, the reaction to the other guys self-aggrandizement, and so much more. You may look like you’re living similar lives but your head is living a whole different scenario. You may even acknowledge you are living dissimilar lives and guess what? It’s even more dissimilar because your head
It is you going through your stuff, 24/7. Not anyone else!
ent, volunteer, or figure it all out. And simultaneously you are experiencing all the emotions that come with it. Like stressing, worrying, laughing, juggling, or concentrating. Am I somewhat on the right track? Does it seem perhaps all our lives are not actually so different?! But each of our lives are different. Every one of us is living such a different life. Because each one of us is living in our own heads! We’ve got to deal with the noise
still has another whole even more separate scenario. Your life is your job, and you’ve got to live it. Both the pleasant and the trying! No one else can take over and experience your joy or your challenges, though, they can try and share in it a bit. So, that’s how everyone is always different. It is you going through your stuff, 24/7. Not anyone else! And yet, as much as your life seems like someone else’s or miles
apart from theirs, the truth comes back to an overriding similarity that we are all in the same boat. We’ve all got to figure out how to deal with our own lives. And how we want to show up in the world as we do. What past voices to ignore and what healthy outlooks to embrace. That is, which way do we get pulled? Understanding/limited; generous/angry; happy/burdened; positive/negative; jealous/appreciative; frustrated/heroic; fearful/hopeful. I cannot tell you what the upcoming weather will be. Nor, with certainty, what the fallout from the election will be. I cannot pinpoint the end of this virus or when the next guaranteed date or even school day will happen. What I can tell you, though, with certainty, is one thing! That you, yes, only you, can decide how to experience the somewhat murky or sometimes seemingly more clear events that are the day-to-day occurrences of your life.
Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com.
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