IT MANNERS A LOT
Here comes the bride
a casting call for another Dukes of Hazard remake. For men, slacks and a collared shirt are best for daytime. For ladies, young and old, the best rule of thumb is something along the lines of what one might wear to a place of worship, although nowadays even those By Lisa Kimble lines are more blurred than Lenten ashes. The focus of the attention Last month’s royal nuptials gave a global television audience should be on the bride, not the clown who doesn’t know he should of uninvited guests, glamorous video and photographs to relish, remove his 25-gallon cowboy hat, or the guest who looks like her and also served as an important reminder to anyone asked to wit- shift at the strip club just ended. The time of day will dictate the ness such an important occasion as the marriage of two people formality. Rules for women wearing black and white have relaxed – that everyone has an obligation of some sort. Being on time, over the years, but avoid wearing white. Regardless of how you not detracting from the bride and groom, and wearing appropriate may feel about the union, as long as you don’t dress as if you are in attire are but a few things guests should bear in mind heading into mourning, you can get away with wearing black. wedding season. When your invitation arrives, before circling the date on the Dear It Manners A Lot: We’ve been invited to a wedding calendar, take note of the names of invited guests on the envelope. we cannot attend. Do we still need to buy a gift? If it says Mr. and Mrs. Smith and family, then bring the kids. Dear Reader: If you cannot attend but still feel like sending By all means, don't forget to reply. An event such as a wedding a gift, do so, although you are not obligated. Invited guests who has been in the planning stages for months, or longer, with costs attend are, however, expected to give the bride and groom a wedcalculated down to the number of people expected to attend. The ding present. Ideally it should be delivered to the bride’s residence addressee should be specific. It’s not a come-one, come-all affair before the big day. to bring stray friends and co-workers to. When the bride begins her march down the aisle, give her a beaming smile should your Dear It Manners A Lot: I have a schedule conflict the day of eyes meet. Don’t whistle or wave to try to catch her attention. my neighbor’s wedding. Is it OK if I’m a little late? You’ll have plenty of time to share the love at the reception. Dear Reader: No! Arriving late is an insult to the Remember, an invitation to witness the union of two hosts of the affair. Wedding guests should participate people is an honor. Respect the privilege. After all, it in the celebration, not detract from the stars of the really does manner a lot. show – the bride and groom. It is doubtful the bride will enjoy the photographs of her at the Dear It Manners A Lot: Is it alright to wear back of the church, about to walk down the aisle black or white to a wedding? How formal is too on her father's arm, with her guests snapped in formal? the background trying to slip into the church. Dear Reader: I think the real question here in Once seated, guests should only acknowledge meat-and-potatoes country should be ‘how informal is friends and relatives with a smile and nod. Leave too informal’? I never cease to be amazed at how the high-fives for the reception. casual some people will dress for the most important of events such as a wedding. One Agree, disagree? Send your questions, doesn’t need to wear white tie and tails or comments or topics you’d like to read a long gown (unless the invitation speciabout to me at itmannersalot@ fies so), but jeans, T-shirts and pajama bakersfield.com or visit itmannersalot. bottoms should never be seated. It isn’t Lisa Kimble blogspot.com.
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