Girls Approaching Guys
The Do’s and Don’ts for Dating BY GABRIELLE LONDON, FRESHMAN, COLUMBIA COLLEGE CHICAGO
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hen it comes down to dating, generally you picture the male approaching a female, striking up conversation and landing the number in the end. Afterwards they go on a few dates, and “BAM!” – they’re dating. Now what would happen if it were the other way around? If girls were the ones to approach guys? There is the argument that girls aren’t to tell a guy they like them because she’ll seem desperate, or the fact that it’s more “proper” if a guy approaches the female first. But nowadays, women are even proposing to their boyfriends. Is the world turning backwards or are we just evolving? David Jackson, a senior in high school, gave True Star his take on girls approaching guys. “I think it’s rare nowadays. But it’s a desirable trait to meet a women who sees what she wants and goes for it,” he says. When asked has he ever been approached by a girl, he said, “Yes. She asked for my name and age, said I was cute and the conversation just went on from there.” Jackson doesn’t think that there is a proper way to approach a guy. “It depends on how the guy likes to be approached.” TJ Lusby, a college student, agrees with Jackson. “I think there is nothing wrong with it; if she is really into him, then go for it!” He says it’s as easy as a simple “Hello.” “For example, if you see someone you are interested in, just politely walk up to them and say ‘Hey, how you doing today?’ and continue the conversation from there. Follow up with some compliments to show him you’re interested and then lead into asking him to hang out one day.” It seems that girls are truly taking over, even in the dating world. Although, some guys still like to be old-fashioned, others don’t really mind switching it up. When it comes to asking a guy out, you have to be confident and sure about what you are about to get into. Be sure you approach a guy properly, follow the guidelines, and still remain a lady. 48 TRUE STAR MAGAZINE
GUIDELINES IN APPROACHING A GUY DO’S: • INTRODUCE YOURSELF AND SAY HELLO • GIVE A GOOD REASON TO WHY YOU APPROACHED HIM • BE POLITE • GIVE COMPLIMENTS BUT DON’T OVERDO IT • ASK FOR A CONTACT VIA PHONE OR SOCIAL MEDIA • SHOW INTEREST • FIND SIMILARITIES WITHIN ONE ANOTHER • BE YOURSELF • BE HONEST DON’TS • RUSH INTO THINGS • BE RUDE • TRY TO BE SEXY RIGHT AWAY • BE DESPERATE • TALK ABOUT YOUR EXES • PRETEND TO BE SOMEONE YOU’RE NOT • LIE • PUSH YOURSELF ON HIM In the end, whether you decide to approach or not, always be yourself and don’t ever let anything overwhelm you. You never know, you just might meet the one for you by simply saying “Hello.”