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WHY ARE WE ARGUING? BY PAM FARREL
“DO EVERYTHING WITHOUT
Once I refereed an hour long argument over if the Chevy my dad was driving was a 1959 or 1958!!! Couples can get into a cycle of disagreement where everything becomes a point of contention. We could have repeated this unhealthy, destructive, time-wasting way of life but instead, we made a simple choice: Let God’s Spirit select our words.
warped and crooked generation .“ (Phil 2:14-15). In the small group Bible study for Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti we joke: “Argument (ar*gyou*ment) n. A discussion that occurs when you’re right, but your mate just hasn’t realized it yet.”
Psalm 141:3: Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.
GRUMBLING OR ARGUING, SO THAT YOU MAY BECOME BLAMELESS AND PURE, “children of God without fault in a
“WE JOKE ABOUT ARGUMENTS BECAUSE IT IS SO EASY FOR EVERYONE TO FIND THEMSELVES IN THIS ROUGH PLACE. WE BOTH GREW UP IN HOMES WITH A DAILY DOSE OF DISAGREEMENTS.“
Now that we have the principle in place to think and pray before you speak. In our book, A Couple’s Journey with God, we look a little closer at the type of words to avoid and why: Proverbs 4:24: Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. Perversity is words that are “bent,” “crooked,” or “twisted,” applied to persons involved in moral error.” You know when you twist words just to make your mate feel bad or look bad.
Corrupt talk is a pretty strong word meaning things like: to debase, brutalize, demoralize, degrade and ruin. This {14.} - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- --
