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HHHHH, the month of LOVE!

Not only does Valentine’s Day give me the best excuse to eat as much

chocolate (Brach’s Peanut Clusters, to be exact!) as I want, but it’s a great reminder to give extra love to those around me. I express my love by writing love letters to my children and telling them why I love them, making “love buckets” filled with candy and usually a little cash. While all of that is good, I have learned that the greatest expression of love that I can show my children is spending one-on-one time with them. They eat it up!

Publisher • Todd Lemke Vice President • Greg Bruns Omaha Publications Editor • Linda Persigehl City Editor • Sandy Lemke Family Spectrum Editor • Bailey Hemphill Family Spectrum Contributing Editor • Paige Edwards Editorial Intern (#19) • Stacie Ortmeier Art Director • John Gawley Graphic Designer • Katie Anderson Production Artist • Mike Bruening Account Executives • Gwen Lemke, Gil Cohen, Greg Bruns, Stacey Penrod, Paige Edwards Sales Assistants • Vicki Voet, Alicia Smith Hollins Operations • Tyler Lemke Accounting • Jim Heitz Warehouse Distribution Manager • Mike Brewer

This issue of Family Spectrum is full of great information! We seem to hit every topic. Our cover story features preschool teacher Susie Hart and the importance of finding the right preschool;

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our “What’s On Your Mind” columnist, Deb Fuller, answers a parent question about searching for a counselor for your child; Bev Carlson with Lutheran Family Services follows up last

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month’s article with part two of “Permission to Relax;” and Family Connections gives great tips on how to manage sibling rivalry (I need to post this one on my fridge!).

Family Spectrum welcomes two new partners this month. Children’s Hospital will continue

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giving us advice on what they do best—taking care of children; and Nebraska Elite Sports & Fitness Complex is going to help us moms get back into shape with “The Mommy Makeover Chronicles.”

So relax…grab some chocolate…and read on!

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family fire escape plan permission to relax, part 2 mother of the year stories: streaker sticks & stones: sibling rivalry at its best family spectrum’s family success story

16 the mommy makeover chronicles when teens aren’t working up to their potential: a potential problem turning the tide: how parents can influence school attitudes young hero: emily koesters winter sports safety what’s on your mind?

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preschool: when is a good time to start?

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teen voices: the dating game february 2012 event calendar on the go: plan your perfect parent getaway

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Family Fire Escape Plan

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ith the winter months upon us, families nestle in their homes trying to stay warm, spending time by the fireplace, and preparing comfort foods. As the temperature drops, a rise in residential house fires occurs. Several factors contribute to the increase, including the use of personal heating devices, candles, and unattended cooking equipment. Knowing how to prevent household fires, along with what to do when a fire occurs, will be beneficial to your family when every minute matters.

Where to Start The National Fire Prevention Association suggests your family start with the basics by: • Checking your household smoke detectors monthly • Replacing batteries in smoke detectors annually • Ensuring that your house or building number is visible from the street • Memorizing the emergency phone number to the fire department • Ensuring all exits are working properly and free of obstructions, specifically windows Designing a home fire escape plan It is also recommended that families conduct a fire safety walkthrough of their home monthly, to eliminate any potential fire hazards such as overloaded electrical circuits and faulty wiring.

Fire Escape Plan Boys Town Pediatrics knows that developing a plan is important for these times when seconds are critical. Making a family fire escape plan can be a great opportunity to remind children about the importance of safety. Designing a fire escape plan can be easy with the following: Step 1: Start by making a copy or drawing of your house, showing all windows and doors.

Step 2: On the plan, make note of two exits out of every room, along with the quickest outside exit.

Step 3: Pick a meeting spot outside the house where the family will gather after the emergency happens.

Step 4: Go over the basics in fire safety, such as staying low to keep out of the smoke, never opening doors that are hot to the touch, and how to find the most immediate and safe route out.

Test the Plan The best way to ensure your plan will work is to hold a fire drill. Inform the family that there will be a fire drill within the next week. Waking your child in the middle of the night may be alarming, but it is advised to plan a drill in both the evening when it is dark as well as during the day.

After the mock drill, tweak your plan as needed. Remember to revisit the family fire escape plan every six months, or after any changes have been made to a child’s room locaSPECTRUM tion.

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For more information on fire prevention and safety visit the U.S. Fire Administration website at www.usfa.fema.gov.

Written by: Michael Dawson, M.D. Boys Town Pediatrics Dr. Dawson practices at the Boys Town Bergan Pediatric Clinic, 7710 Mercy Road, Suite 334, (402) 343-8585. Visit Boys Town Pediatrics online. Find up-to-date pediatric health articles and podcasts, search for a physician, or register for an upcoming Parent Talk class at www.boystownpediatrics.org

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discovered how inexpensive laundry service can be—and, glory hallelujah, I found out that my cleaner offered free pick-up and delivery to my home, twice a week. I hang the bag on the door and, like magic, my husband’s beautifully pressed shirts are waiting for me when I get home.

I also credit my Milk2You man for cutting my family’s food budget. Every week, I leave our cooler with an order for basics (milk, bread, juice, eggs, etc.) outside on my porch before I go to bed.

In the morning, everything is there, along with an order form for the following week. Although you can’t use coupons, most prices are very comparable to the grocery store, and I no longer make those trips that end with “I came in here for milk, and walked out with $80 in groceries.”

Permission to Relax, Part 2

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ast month, I talked about working parents giving themselves a break when it comes to all of the demands we face outside of the office. After 14 years of balancing work and home, I’ve picked up a few easy shortcuts that might seem really insignificant on the surface, but save time, energy, and stress in the long run.

Use paper plates. At first, I had a hard time with this. I suppose it’s the Southerner in me and that whole “hospitality/happy homemaker” image, but I would’ve never stooped to using paper plates. One day, something in me just snapped. I asked myself, “Why am I creating dirty dishes for hotdogs, sandwiches, or leftovers when it’s my immediate family?” Now, unless it’s a meal that involves sharp knives, soup, or company, my family eats on paper plates. Until you’ve experienced the freedom of cleaning the kitchen by throwing the dirty plates in the garbage, you cannot appreciate what a timesaving joy this is. And before you start fussing about being “green,” the plates are biodegradable.

Hire help where you can. The challenge here, of course, is determining what you can and cannot afford. When my children were small, I worked odd hours and could have desperately used some help cleaning, but I firmly believed that it wouldn’t fit into our family’s budget. After asking around, I was pleasantly surprised to find someone who could come in every couple of weeks and clean my house for a very reasonable rate. All I really wanted was someone to take care of the regular maintenance stuff like floors, bathrooms, and the kitchen; and I could handle the in-between times. Best. Investment. Ever.

Take advantage of free delivery. Two examples immediately come to mind: dry cleaning/laundry service and the milkman. My husband wears a tie to work every day. Thankfully, I

Buy in bulk and buy online. While I bow to the couponers who live and breathe their savings, I also know that I simply don’t have time for a lot of clipping and organizing the right coupons for the right store. Instead, I visit my warehouse store every couple of months for paper towels, toilet paper, canned vegetables, and pasta.

Then, between the warehouse and milk delivery, I make far fewer trips to the grocery store.

I have also become a big fan of buying bulk online. Two of my best examples are nylons and lotion/hand soap. I get regular emails from my favorite retailer letting me know about discounts and free shipping; and when one of those great “half-price/free shipping” weekends hits, I buy enough to last six to nine months AND use my “loyal customer” discount. No more emergency trips to the store.

I’m always on the lookout for other cost-effective “little helpers” to allow me more freedom and relaxation. Some of the best solutions are the simplest. We just have to give ourselves permission to take advantage of them.

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We brought Riley in his cutest birthday party attire and changed him into his swim trunks for water play. When water play ended and we called the kids inside for cake, our very freethinking little guy apparently decided that since water play was over, there was no need for swim trunks either! So he took it upon himself to undress and become Tiny Town’s first streaker. There we were, in the middle of this family attraction with a naked two-year-old letting it all hang out while our conservative neighbors looked on…laughing (and probably deciding our social fate at that moment!). We finally got to him and convinced him this was not an episode of Jersey Shore, but much to our embarrassment, we were the laughing stock of Tiny Town, the party, and alas, our new neighborhood for a while.

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What Parents Can Do • Set a Positive Example: Be aware of how you, as parents, handle conflict with others.

If you resort to yelling and name-calling, your children will also learn to use this to solve problems. Set a positive example by demonstrating self-control and positive problem-solving skills.

• Recognize the Individual: Know your children and their strengths. Be careful not to compare children to each other. Set expectations and goals for each individual child based on their own strengths and abilities.

• Feelings are Okay: Reinforce that your children’s feelings of anger, frustration, or disappointment with their sibling(s) are okay.

Help them understand their feelings and identify positive ways to express them.

• Stay Out: Try not to intervene as much as possible. This may be difficult, but children learn valuable life tools when faced with resolving conflict on their own. If you must step in for safety’s sake, try not to focus on placing blame. Instead, guide your children to a resolution without solving the problem for them, and make suggestions that create a win-win situation for everyone involved.

Learning to compromise is a valuable lesson.

Sticks & Stones: Sibling Rivalry at its Best

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f there is conflict between the children in your home, you are not alone; and, actually, your family is quite normal. Sibling rivalry, or conflict between children that live together in the same home, dates back to B.C. time periods (think Cain and Abel). Even fairytale princesses are not exempt (think Cinderella and her wicked stepsisters). Although the problem seems to have persisted over the centuries, we have developed better strategies for recognizing and dealing with the conflict.

Causes Factors that lead to sibling rivalry include the child’s position in the family, age, and gender. In addition, with multiple children in one home, each child has to share the one or two people they want attention from the most: the parents!

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• Get Support: If sibling rivalry escalates to the point of causing problems in the marital relationship, causes self-esteem issues for any of the children, or seems to be related to an underlying mental health disorder, seek professional support. Therapy for the individual children or the family as a whole may be needed to help get life back on track.

Promote peace in your home by modeling this yourself. Make time to do fun things together as a family and recognize the importance of each person having their own space. Most of all, know that you are not alone. Until next time, we will be keeping families connected!

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Written by: Bailey Hemphill

Family Success Story The Linders

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eet the Linders—Jake and Mindy, and their children, Paige and Neenah of Blair! The family also has an English bulldog named Meatloaf, who the kids love. The family tries to stay as normal as possible, Mindy jokes: “Whatever normal is…”

Jake and Mindy have been married for 17 years. “We have a strong marriage based in love and trust; and that’s helped us form basic morals for our kids,” says Mindy. But it wasn’t until Paige’s health became a constant concern that their marriage underwent its true test of strength.

When Paige was 3, and Neenah was barely 5 days old, the Linders found out that Paige had acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL). After her diagnosis, Paige went through two and a half years of outpatient treatment at Children’s Hospital & Medical Center, which involved lots of oral chemotherapy, intravenous chemotherapy, shots, spinal taps, bone marrow biopsies, and time at the clinic. After 11 months of therapy, Paige was finally cleared of the ALL, but when she was 6, the cancer reared its ugly head once again.

This time, the treatments became much more aggressive, requiring Paige to spend more time in the hospital. “She went to the clinic weekly, if not multiple times a week,” says Mindy. “At that time, we looked for a bone marrow donor, so that she could get a transplant.” The Linders then received both bad and good news.

Unfortunately, the hospital could not find a good match for a transplant; but Paige’s leukemia was in remission. After another two and a half years of therapy and what seemed like an eightmonth “home-free” streak, the ALL returned when Paige was 9.

“We knew she had to get a transplant. We tried the registry again, hoping for a cord blood transplant. [This time], they were able to find an appropriate match.” But the Linders couldn’t get the

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transplant in Omaha. They had to go to the University of Minnesota in Minneapolis in June 2009 to get Paige’s transplant. Mindy stayed with Paige in Minnesota while Jake stayed home with Neenah, coming up for frequent visits on the weekends. After a couple months, Paige came home in September, only returning to Minnesota for checkups; but eventually, she was cleared to have the rest of the work done at Children’s and is currently cancer-free.

“It was hard on everybody, especially because we have a really close family. [Our extended families] were tortured by the diagnosis each time,” Mindy says. “Jake and I had to be with Paige most of the time, so we needed help with Neenah.” The Linders’ friends and family both pulled together and helped take care of Neenah and looked after the house while Jake and Mindy were at the hospital with Paige.

It was that support that kept the Linders going through the tough times. “I don’t think we could have done it if we didn’t have them. We’ve met people who didn’t have that support system, and I can’t imagine doing that. If it weren’t for [our family and friends], Jake and I wouldn’t have been able to keep our jobs and be there with Paige.” Mindy also feels grateful for the staff at Children’s Hospital for their extraordinary help and attention. “There’s no comparison! We wouldn’t want to be anywhere else.”

Mindy believes Paige’s health struggles made her and Jake’s marriage stronger.

“It was kind of one of those blessings in disguise. It made us work together as a team at the hospital and at home,” Mindy says, adding that, to strengthen a marriage during difficult times, a husband and wife need to work as one. When asked why she thinks her family is successful, Mindy responded that her family really focuses on communication. “Communication is a big success for our family…just making sure everyone is in the loop with the schedule and the plan…it works for our family.” But above all, Mindy says the family has “that love that is never going SPECTRUM to go away.”

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Michelle Stephenson is a former spokes model. As a kid, she modeled clothing for Winnie the Pooh and Carter’s. She went on to star in Little Texas’ country music video for their song “God Bless Texas,” and was even on the cover of Muscle & Fitness magazine’s bathing suit issue. She won the title “Miss Looking for the Body USA” in Mexico City and held the title of Miss Arenacross for 10 years with the AMA Arenacross Series.

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they brought home C’s and B’s. But because they scored so high, their parents expect A’s. There is much more, however, to earning straight A’s than a mere high aptitude test score.

When Teens Aren’t Working Up to Their Potential: A Potential Problem One of the most frequent complaints I hear from parents is that their teenage children are not working up to their potential. These complaints are usually based on a mismatch between the score a child earns on an aptitude test and his or her current grade point average (such tests are similar to IQ tests; a popular example is the Iowa Test of Basic Skills).

Although a high score on an aptitude test suggests certain kinds of abilities, it is a poor indicator of a child’s full potential. After I meet with the parents and hear their complaints, I meet with the child and often joke, telling them that if only they’d “bombed” the aptitude test, their parents would be delighted when

More closely linked to success are capacities such as being able to defer gratification, focus on and put forth effort, organize tasks and self-motivate. Unfortunately for parents (and children and teachers), there are no widely used standardized tests that measure these capacities. Consider this: There are homeless persons in cities across the country who have high aptitudes (high IQ’s).

But I would be willing to bet my last dollar that no homeless person anywhere in this country has well-developed capacities such as those I just mentioned. Why? Because these are the capacities that always lead to success. A person who possesses these capacities and can achieve high aptitude test scores has an even greater potential for success. But a person who possesses these capacities and earns only average aptitude scores still usually does much better than average.

My recommendation for parents with children who have exhibited a high aptitude but are currently performing at an average or below average level is to assess whether their sons and daughters are deficient in the capacities I have sketched. If that is the case, and I strongly suspect it usually is, I suggest that parents stop talking about potential and start a conversation about how to help their teens develop those capacities. Obtaining professional assistance might be a good idea, but only if the professional is willing to work on developing capacities needed for success and avoids diagnosing or discussing “failure to meet potential.”

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“Family involvement is a positive way to reinforce good behaviors and habits. For instance, if the children complete their homework every night, at the end of the week we, as a family, will have movie night or enjoy another activity like ice skating,” says Dr. Vance. “We all respond to reinforcers, even something as simple as ‘Thank you,’ or ‘Good job on that assignment.’”

Turning the Tide: How Parents Can Influence School Attitudes

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ays without sunlight, winter weather, even boredom with routine—all affect mood, and

just as they can impact adults, they can also disrupt a child’s interest in school and learning.

A family approach can help turn the tide on this often seasonal lull, says Michael Vance, Ph.D., lead psychologist with Behavioral Health at Children’s Hospital & Medical Center.

“Even as adults, we tend to be less active this time of year. Working in some form of exercise or activity can influence a more positive attitude. Consider taking the dog for a walk, go sledding, or head to the gym. Look for entertainment options that focus on activity rather than technology,” he explains.

Changes in the classroom may also contribute to decreased enthusiasm about school. Older students experiencing a new semester, new teachers, classes and classmates may face a more challenging transition than they expected.

Generally speaking, Dr. Vance says parents can gauge their child’s feelings about school by watching social and academic signs, as well as shifts in attitude and behavior. “Children may be involved in fewer activities with their friends. Older kids may make fewer phone calls or have less frequent exchanges of e-mail or text messages,” he says.“They tend to isolate themselves.”

Academic signs include spending less time on homework and fewer conversations about school.

In extreme instances, parents may receive phone calls or notes from teachers about slipping grades and missing assignments. Parents should also consider a child’s attitude. Is the child less cooperative at home? Does she resist getting up and ready in the morning? Younger children may talk about not liking school and not wanting to go.

Written by: Michael Vance, Ph.D. Children’s Hospital & Medical Center With more than 20 years of experience, Dr. Vance provides treatment for many different psychological disorders affecting children and adolescents.

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Dr. Vance also emphasizes the importance of family dinners and “together time.” In addition to staying in tune with the kids, it allows different topics like school to come up in a routine conversation without causing the child to become defensive.

It’s also important to limit work hours for older students. Dr. Vance says the goal is to keep their hours manageable and help them balance their time between school, home and work.

Another tip for parents: hang up favorite school assignments or tests. Whether they are on the refrigerator, a cabinet or bulletin board, this positive recognition is a sign of encouragement to young students. And just as adults can find excitement in a new environment, so can the kids. Offer to help reorganize or redecorate their study area. Changes can be as simple as adding a new bulletin board or stickers.

Dr. Vance points out parents ultimately help set the tone for their children. Adults who model enjoyment in what they do help their children develop a more positive outlook about school and related activities.

“If we sit around and complain about our day, it is difficult for the kids to believe us when we’re telling them they need to have a better attitude SPECTRUM about school,” he says.

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But, no matter what life has thrown at her, Erin says Emily fights back with a smile. “Despite all of this, she cares to find ways to raise money for endangered species and has compassion for others around her. She has many hospital friends, and unfortunately knows all too well that life can be taken from us far too quickly.

[She] reaches out to these children and their families.”

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Young Hero: Emily Koesters

While Emily is no doubt a young hero, she is also special in that she teaches her doctors and nurses about how to care for children and what makes them feel more comfortable when they come to see their patients—like taking off their coats, sitting down, and talking for a while. Erin believes Emily is an excellent role model for other children because she can take pain. After multiple IVs, shots, and over 40 surgeries, Emily knows what pain is and how to make it through. “She is also a model student in the classroom and has had to climb her way out of losing many of the abilities she once had and continues to try and overcome,” says Erin.

mily Koesters is a strong, smart, and kind 8-year-old in second grade

at Gretna Elementary. She has a 6-month-old baby sister named Taylor-Jo, an indoor cat named Bo, and two outdoor cats named Bingo and Princess Sparkle. “Emily is an animal lover and activist…She has been for years,” says mom Erin. “She loves her pets and also raises money for the endangered Cheetah and to keep ice and food for the penguins and polar bears at the zoo.”

“Emily inspires me, her dad, and our family and friends ever day.

We believe in her and her strong zest for life, and that she will live to find the help she needs to prolong her life. No matter what she faces, she meets it head on and tackles it. Emily questions life, wonders about her future, and keeps us on our toes. We are proud of her and amazed by her beauty within.”

Emily came into the world eight weeks early at 2lbs., 14oz. and has been fighting ever since. When she was 4, Emily was diagnosed with SIOD, or Schimke Immuno-osseous Dysplasia, a rare genetic dwarfism. With this disease comes short life expectancy and years of medical issues. In her eight years, Emily has already received a kidney transplant from her dad, battled lymphoma twice, and has suffered seizures and debilitation. She has spent more than two years straight in the hospital and countless trips thereafter and in home healthcare.

The Koesters will be involved in a fundraiser called “Share Your Heart” for the Little Giants Foundation, which raises money for rare dwarfism research. The fundraiser will be held at the Sarpy County Fairgrounds (100 Main St., Springfield, Neb.) from 6-11pm on February 11. There will be food, music, and fun. For more information or to make a donation, visit SPECTRUM www.littlegiantsfoundation.org.

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Submitted by: Ann Freestone for National Safety Council, Nebraska

Snowboarding and Skiing Snowboarding causes more than two times the injuries than sledding.

In fact, AAP recommends that children under age 7 do not snowboard.

It is important that children take snowboarding or skiing lessons from a qualified instructor in a children’s program. Slopes should also fit the ability and experience.“Know your limitations and ability,” says Moffat.

“Be aware of everyone around you, especially skiers with less experience and control who could be uphill from you. Avoid crowded slopes. And as with any sport, the equipment must fit properly. Skiers should wear safety bindings adjusted every year, and snowboarders should wear gloves with built-in wrist guards.

Snowmobiling Children under 16 should not operate snowmobiles, and children under 6 should never ride on snowmobiles. Approved helmets are key. Never use the snowmobile to pull a sled or skiers.

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inter sports and activities combine ingredients that potentially

can be a recipe for injuries—cold temperatures, slippery surfaces, and vigorous activities. Remember, for young children especially, supervision, proper cold-weather clothing, and protective equipment are extremely important. In addition, one should never ski, sled, ice skate, snowmobile or snowboard alone. Here are safety strategies for popular winter sports from National Safety Council – Nebraska, American Academy of Pediatricians (AAP), American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons (AAOS), and Kody Moffatt, M.D., sports medicine specialist at Children’s Physicians.

Sledding “Sledding injuries are related to speed,” explains Moffatt. An extremely dangerous combination is a child who lacks self-control and control of the sled. To keep kids safe, survey the scene, and provide supervision. Moffatt says, “Make sure there are no rigid obstacles, no terrain changes, or a big hill that could be used as a ramp because kids could become airborne.” Use a sled they can steer—it’s safer than flat sheets, toboggans, or snow discs. Never go downhill headfirst, but sit facing forward and steer to avoid obstacles.

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Ice Skating and Hockey “Skating on a frozen pond is wonderful,” says Moffatt. “But ice that is not thick enough is dangerous.” Check for signs posted by local authorities or call to find approved areas. At rinks, advise children to skate in the same direction as others, avoid darting across the ice, never skate alone, and don’t chew gum or eat candy while skating.

Also, consider a helmet for your child. For ice-hockey skaters, be sure they have the right proper-fitting equipment. Never tolerate dangerous play, such as checking from behind.

Frostbite, Sunscreen, Appropriate Dress Sunburns and frostbite happen in winter weather. To avoid sunburns, apply sunscreen with an SPF 15 minimum on exposed areas. “Obviously, the colder the temperature, the higher the wind speed, the less time you should spend outdoors, no matter how you are dressed,” Moffatt says. It’s important to dress appropriately with layered clothes that keep kids dry. AAP’s rule of thumb for young children is to dress them in one more layer of clothing than an adult in the same conditions.

Finally, winter sports will help kids get needed exercise. Playing it safe will keep them having fun and creating lasting memories, SPECTRUM too.

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arents often experience mixed emotions when they hear this recommendation, but

generally their strongest feelings center around guilt. Please know this isn’t about what you should or shouldn’t have known, but rather about ensuring that your daughter gets the help she needs. Ask for recommendations from the school counselor, your doctor, or other trusted adults, such as a coach, youth pastor, or another parent. Call the counselors to find out more about them; or if they have a website, check out their bios. Do they have experience working with children and adolescents? While their value systems shouldn’t influence their ability to counsel, if this is important to you, it’s okay to ask.

Consider office location, available hours, and if your insurance is accepted, as these things can become an issue if you attend more than a couple sessions. Protect your daughter from feeling responsible for your possible worries by keeping her out of discussions regarding the cost or other challenges you are facing with getting to regular appointments.

At the first session, note how the counselor interacts with your daughter. Does she talk to your daughter, or just to you? Clarify the approach to what information is shared with you. As a parent you have a right to know what’s going on, and some situations must be brought to your attention.

Other discussions can, and need to, safely stay between the counselor and your daughter.

If the counselor doesn’t feel like a good match, don’t feel obligated to schedule another appointment.

It’s worth taking the time to find someone you and your daughter both feel comfortable with. Your daughter may not want to go to counseling, but this is for her, and finding a counselor she can conSPECTRUM nect with will influence its success.

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Preschool: When is a Good Time to Start?

Written by: Susie Hart | Photos by: Jess Ewald

Left: Susie Hart, who has been involved in early childhood education for over 20 years, plays with Addy, 2, developing motor and social skills that Addy will use throughout her life.

Above: Hart’s teaching partner Linda Hirth watches Colton, 4, build a tower through pattern recognition, which will fortify math concepts for years to come.

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lthough we’ve just greeted the New Year, it’s already time to start thinking about back-to-school. At least, it is if you have a child between the ages of 3 and 5. Many preschools are starting their enrollment process for the coming academic year. Now is the time to begin your research and find the best fit for your child and family.

Why Preschool?

I have been involved in education for over 20 years and have my M.Ed. in elementary and early childhood education. In those years, I have witnessed firsthand the long-term benefits of a good preschool experience.

Studies have repeatedly shown the long-term benefits of a preschool education. It gives children an opportunity to develop independence and social, physical, and academic skills that will help them transition to kindergarten and beyond. The National Institute for Early Education Research cites repeated studies that indicate children who attend a quality preschool enter kindergarten with stronger pre-reading skills, richer vocabularies, and better early math skills than those who do not (www.nieer.org).

Preschool gives children the important group experience that helps develop social skills such as sharing, taking turns, and listening when others speak. Separating from parents at this stage is a huge milestone that makes transition to kindergarten easier. Independence and a sense of accomplishment are important for emotional growth as well. Preschool play lets children find out about their world in a way that is fun and safe, which leads to curiosity in learning about the world around them.

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There is a phenomenon in our schools today called the “push-down effect.” Grade level curriculum/concepts are being pushed down to younger grades. For instance, the work children now encounter in kindergarten used to be what children would meet in first grade. Elementary curriculum is so jam-packed these days that it’s hard to fit everything in, much less allow time for additional practice and exploration during class time.

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When you have narrowed the field, give the schools a call and find out about the fees, registration processes, and curriculum. Arrange a visit to the school if possible or find out over the phone: • Is the school licensed through the state?

(This will ensure staffing ratios and safety considerations).

• What is the curriculum and philosophy of the school? Does it match what you are looking for?

• What are the backgrounds of the teaching staff? Do they have experience, training, or a degree in early childhood education?

• What kind of communication/interaction is there between home and school?

Conferences, newsletters, family events?

• Is there a consistent, daily schedule so children feel the security of a predictable day at school?

During a visit, pay attention to the following: • Is the school clean and well maintained?

• Are the toys age-appropriate and in good repair?

• Are there fire alarms, first aid kits, and a security system?

• Is the staff welcoming and friendly?

• Is children’s work displayed and valued? Are pictures all the same, adult-directed, or is there evidence of individuality in the work?

Once you have made your decision, make sure your child gets a chance to visit the school and meet their teacher through a visit or open house. Reading books and talking about school can help prepare children for that first day.

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erri English is an advocate and a product of Catholic schools. She attended Catholic schools in both elementary and high school at St. Thomas More and Paul VI High School.

She graduated from the University of Nebraska at Omaha with a bachelor’s in elementary education with an endorsement in early childhood education. She has been teaching for 23 years, and for the last 20 years has been teaching first grade at St. Columbkille Catholic School in Papillion. Terri is married and has three children—Patrick, Brigid, and Peggy—all of whom attended St. Columbkille. When Terri’s not busy with schoolwork, she enjoys baking, reading, playing volleyball, and golfing. She walks four miles every night with a friend, which she believes keeps her healthy and focused. “I love my job. I have found my passion: teaching children to read. It is very rewarding work. Because I have been at the same school for so long, I have taught many siblings, cousins, and now even some children of former students. St. Columbkille is my extended family. I feel very blessed to be a part of this community for so many years,” she says.

“Terri is one of those teachers who adapts to the learning styles of individuals. She puts in the time and effort to meet each student’s needs. Her attention to detail, her devotion to creating a positive learning environment, and her ability to notice each of her students’ talents makes her a treasure to have at St. Columbkille School. She was a role model and an inspiration for my entire family, whether we were in her class or not,” says former student Josh Riesberg.

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Alexis is a 6th grader at Pawnee Elementary.

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Last Thursday and Friday the entire 6th grade went to camp. We did five activities: three on the first day and two on the next. My favorite activity was the zip line. The zip line our group went on was longer than the other one.

We went to the zip line right after lunch. When I got there, we had to get a harness and a helmet on. I was the fourth one to go on. The other y Ashle people seemed to have fun on it.

Finally it was my turn up. I had to climb boards to get to the top.

When I got up, Mr. Perry hooked me on to the rope and I jumped off. Jackie, my friend, took a video of me on the zip line.

I had such a fun time up there. When we got done on there, we got down off a ladder. After that, I did it three more times. Wow! I had a really good time at camp, but the best thing for me was the zip line. I wish I could go there. Everyday, I wish I could be at camp. I miss all my new friends I made and all the stuff I learned.

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Teen Voice: He Said/She Said The Dating Game

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ove. That’s what everyone is looking for, right? All those myths about love at first sight and romantic TV shows seem to be skyrocketing these days. Not that it’s surprising. Teenagers are falling under the spell—the spell of seeking the perfect relationship.

In middle school, your dating options are slim to none. Then you hit high school and everything drastically changes. People are going on one-on-one dates and falling blissfully in love (though the average high school relationships lasts a mere month). Of course, you have to get used to the changes gradually. One-on-one dates should be only for people who can actually drive, whereas group dates are acceptable as young as the age of 14.

Of course, the parents always have to approve of your date before you go out with them—especially one-on-one. I believe that in order to go out on a date with just one other person, the parents should meet the person first. It’s like you always see in romantic movies—the dad interrogating the boyfriend.

It’s just like that. If the parents approve, then you can go out together. Instead of the parents riding directly in the car’s backseat, they should be able to contact you at all times.

In the end, love is a common thing for everyone to seek out. Dating is a tool to see what kind of person you want to spend the rest of your life with. High SPECTRUM school is just the beginning of the dating game.

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he title of “dating” can cover a broad range of relationships between young people. I personally don’t consider “dating” while in middle school or in elementary actual dating. To me, it’s more of a glorified friendship because the only interaction that occurs is maybe a few hugs and an occasional holding of hands. Also, excluding going to the movies with a large group of friends, you never go on an actual one-on-one date during the pre-high school years. It is just a label placed on a close friendship.

I think you can date in high school because you have more exposure and freedom in your daily life. You also have more privileges and independence as you are growing older. When you get into high school, there are also more social events where you can meet others and expand your group of friends. Even though you can date in your early high school years, I don’t think real dating occurs until you are old enough to drive. This expands your list of options greatly, and it reduces the awkwardness of someone in your family driving you and your date around.

As far as whom you should include along on a date, a group date or double date is always a good option for a first date with someone. You can interact as a group and everything is less awkward.

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Long known for romantic escapes, bed and breakfasts offer charming accommodations, intimate settings and just the right amount of pampering.

Spa Packages

$30.00 off

On The Go! Plan Your Perfect Parent Getaway

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Rave Salon and Spa Retreat is an ethics based , values-driven organization dedicated to wellness and wholeness for our team and guests; the empowerment of team members to achieve career success; uncompromising, exceptional legendary customer service; and the creation of an environment where all these elements can combine in harmony and balance .

The fireplace in Cornerstone Mansion’s library is Cuban mahogany with pink onyx. The room has an original art deco-style chandelier, original wall sconces, and hand-carved details on the mantel and bookshelves.

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18101 R Plaza, Omaha, NE S.W. Corner of 180th & Q St. 402-891-0018

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For a chance to get away from the hustle and bustle without going too far away, head to Prairie Creek Inn B&B in Walton, just 40 minutes southeast of Omaha. You’ll be surrounded by trails, prairie and 100 acres of privacy. Indulge in the serenity of nature or slip into nearby Lincoln for a show or a romantic dinner.

If you’re planning a few days away, you’ll find the warmest of welcomes at Burchell’s White Hill Farmhouse Inn near Minden. This historic farmhouse, with ultramodern conveniences, offers delicious meals, country charm and beautiful sunsets and sunrises. You’ll find plenty to do in this central Nebraska area, including the sandhill crane migration, Minden Opera House, Pioneer Village and the Museum of Nebraska Art. Those interested in a rustic retreat will find the perfect setting at the Whitetail River Lodge in Niobrara. This new, Amish-built log bed and breakfast offers spectacular views of the Missouri and Niobrara rivers. Pair your trip with a hunting excursion or invite your friends to join you—the lodge can accommodate 15.

The Nebraska Division of Travel and Tourism website—VisitNebraska.gov—is an excellent resource for planning your special getaway, whether you’re looking for other bed and breakfasts, attractions or vacation packages. You can also order the brand-new 2012 Nebraska Travel Guide SPECTRUM while you’re there.

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Adult & Pediatric FA/CPR/AED Combined Classes 2012 Schedule

Certificate: First Aid 3 Years, CPR/AED 2 Years Saturday Daytime Classes Adult and Pediatric First Aid Only Adult and Pediatric CPR/AED Only Adult and Pediatric First Aid, CPR/AED

Time 8:00-11:30 12:30-5:00 8:00-5:00

Tuition $60 $65 $75

2012 Saturday Class Dates: January 21, February 18, March 17, April 21, May 26, June 23, July 7, August 18, September 1, October 6, November 17, December 29 All classes held at our location 11620 M Circle (120th & L St.)

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Call 402-896-0454 or visit www.SafeNebraska.org for more informaton or to register!

Babysitting Classes

Prepare your pre-teen or teen to care for infants and young children!

Babysitting Class Schedule

All classes held on Saturday 8:00AM-4:00PM 2012 Dates: January 14, February 11, March 10, April 14, May 12, June 9, July 14, August 11, September 8, October 13, November 10, December 8 Tuition $65, Includes Lunch Class includes: • First Aid and CPR • What to do in case of an illness or injury • Evaluating emergency situations and calling 911 • Changing diapers • Feeding (bottle and spoon) and burping • Games and activities to keep youngsters happy

Students receive a Certificate of Completion good for two years!

Driver Education The Best Drivers Start with a Great Education!

Driver Education Class Dates Available for February, March, April and May. Classes are held at Safety Council (120th & L), Omaha Northwest, Omaha Central, Benson, Omaha North and Elkhorn.

Call today for more information!

Call 402-898-7369 or visit www.SafeNebraska.org. to register!

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www.SafeNebraska.org 11620 M Circle, Omaha, NE 68137 (402) 896-6331 (402) 898-7361 (402) 898-7371

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Parent TALK

Presented by Boys Town Pediatrics If you’re expecting or have little ones at home, Parent Talk is for you! Join Boys Town Pediatrics for a one-hour informal presentation by one of our pediatricians on hot pediatric issues that parents need to know. The session includes food and prizes and is always free.

Location:

Boys Town National Research Hospital 14000 Hospital Road

on the Boys Town Campus

(139th & Pacific Street) For weekly pediatric tips check us out on facebook and twitter.

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