Our initial preferences begin to finalise shape around the ages of 10-14

to Mr Rife’s comments. It’s an idea that has been around for a while now and one that has been examined by sociologists. It is said that it is “caused by a complex interplay of genetic, hormonal, and environmental influences”. Our initial preferences begin to finalise shape around the ages of 10-14. Simply put, there’s a whole heap of factors, and time, that goes into making us attracted to who we are attracted to. This preference in attraction is what has been keeping the human race ticking. We’re all the

But, I don’t really have to tell you this, do I? The science gives us the answer to the where, when, and how, but this isn’t needed to prove that this preference exists in the first place. We all have our preferences on who, or who we aren’t, attracted to.

A 2016 survey found that 80 percent of people say they assess other people’s looks. I would go as far as saying that the other 20 percent are lying. While, as my Gran says, personality is the most important thing, people do initially judge their potential partner on what they look like as well. A 2009 survey conducted out of the University of Texas found that we do partly judge people’s personality based on what they look like. Now, obviously, this is all skin deep. The bloke with a mullet and a moustache may actually not be a beer-loving rugby player, but rather a sensitive soul who loves chess. What I am showing to you is that our sexual preference is something that does influence who we romantically pursue. Unfortunately, due to our current online culture that has taken a step too far, we’ve been made to believe this is a negative thing. It’s not. As long as you go further than the initial attraction.

Now that we’ve established that sexual preference is alive and essential, the next question comes in: is Matt Rife in the wrong? Is he the bad guy? Online culture has begun to bring to light the issue that comes with preference. There are just some things you shouldn’t verbalise to an audience. Impressionable people may feel they have to fit a cookie cutter mould of who they should be or what they should look like. It’s something that has seen many, with emphasis on the younger generation, succumb to drastically trying to become somebody they are not. So, there lies the issue. Is there a way to vocalise what we are attracted to at all? I think it’s just something we need to be smart about. Does the world need to know who, or what traits, you are attracted to, or is that something you can keep to yourself?

It’s important we don’t let our preferences become as shallow and sexualised as Matt Rife’s, and that we don’t let them shield us from who is actually right for us.

Here’s the problem with influencer status and the pull that has. Anyone can obtain it. The Tiktok generation is hell-bent on growing their following, developing their voice, and building an empire worthy of the drool they believe has merit. An opinion based on pulled fake facts that help perpetuate the truth in whatever it is they’re wanting to say. Though as a counter, when is it considered a violation of free speech when it’s online and doesn’t adhere to any specific societal influences or guidelines. This is all a majorly douchey way of saying that everyone has an opinion and likes to flex it.

Prejudice can exist in all forms, whether subconscious or not. It’s easy to pretend you don’t have a bias when discussing romantic encounters or when looking at potential partners. Though, I want to revisit that mentioned point of when it becomes problematic and whether it borders on censorship as we [current online generation] take it upon ourselves to fight for the voices of those unable to speak coherently for themselves. There are facets within all cultures where underrepresented people allow for support, but it’s not always required. I’m not making a lot of sense here, because there’s really no sense to be made. The online community is an amalgamation of confusion and people fighting to understand the world around them.

That’s where you find the root of the problem–easily influenced rangatahi waiting for a leader/prophet to solve their issues so they don’t have to. I’m talking, of course, about the Andrew Tate’s of the world.

This is not going to become a hate piece about men utilising their freedom of speech, but rather a topic of debate as to whether we’ve taken that idea of opinion and gone past the point of return. From a purely academic state, freedom of speech in online settings is highly contested, with scholars arguing that we’re under no obligation to abide by any standard codes of conduct but to exist in that setting where we see fit. “-the cases indicate that free speech considerations favor preserving intermediaries’ editorial discretion unless the relevant technologies fall within a narrow range of exceptions” Yoo, C.S. (2010).

Why is this pertinent to the conversation surrounding preference? Well it’s not. But it does matter when you consider how those with any social media influence use their platform to express their preference without considering the carry-on effects of social commentary. In short, you look like an idiot when you’re expressing preference through something minute like the size of one’s clitoris. But is that just our impression of the comment made as opposed to an actually violating quote taken out of context? It’s all a complex narrative for what is an under-researched area of the internet and how chronically online users don’t take in the complete message. This is not a defence case for the actions of Matt Rife, but rather a commentary on the inability to separate actual crime from one’s offensive opinion.

Let’s take a look at some stats surrounding opinion then. I want to use this as a supplement rather than just arguing a menial side of a non-started argument. In a survey conducted at a university in Seattle in 2018, with a pool of 250 students, the results were:

Of the 250 students surveyed, 60% were women, 35% were men, and 5% identified as other.

Of the men surveyed, 95% said they did have a preference when dating online. 55% of Women said yes while 100% of others said no.

In the comments of the survey, when prompted, students discussed their preferences when approaching online dating and what plays into their decision. Some key words, or words of interest, were:

Colour, Height, Hair, Tits, Ass, Eyes–and to a lesser extent there was mention of feet.

What do all these things mean? I don’t know, I’m not a statistics professional (no idea what they’re called but I’m not one of them). But it shows a clear divide between genders in preference when dating online. Unsurprisingly, men said they had a preference, a statistic that was expected.

All of this is a culmination of online culture and how we view our opinions due to the urgency set from influencers on freedom of speech. There’s an inherent need to express opinions and thoughts on everything, laid out in an online space. We’re entitled to have our own opinions, and we’re allowed to have preferences, but sometimes, only sometimes, it’s probably best to keep more things to ourselves. At what point is it no longer appropriate to mention your preference? Probably when you refer to a large clit as a thumb war. Keep it on your private my bro.

Just like last year, DJ Boomie blessed our ears and faces with his hella dope sounds on the green while also made several features in our reels highlighting the depravity of life during O’week. We’ve definitely not recycled him but rather taken the opportunity to grace you all with his greatness a second time around. Lots of love, kid.

Jak: How are you?

I’m bloody tired after O’Week.

Jak: How would you describe your sound? But do it without using music terms

- Fun

- Energetic

- Horny

Jak: If you could collaborate with anyone, dead or alive, who’s your first pick?

Fatboy slim Big beach boutique Mount Maunganui edition

Jak: What should we be on the lookout for in the near future?

“BiG tHiNgS cOmInG SoOn” nah just a mashup/edit pack maybe some more merch?

Jak: What would be your high school leavers quote?

“You gotta jump in to swim” a Mac Miller lyric I try to live life by

Jak: Give us a list of locals you’re currently fucking with.

- Scarfie

- Johnny Calvert

- Tooley

- Ava

- Calx

- Nic Tims

- TwoFöld

Jak: Tell the kids the reason for the name.

It was literally my nickname in high school and I put dj in front of it

Jak: What’s the five year goal?

I would like to somehow do a party tour of nz/Australia and just dj and destroy my liver. Then ease back on djing and start training/sharing my knowledge to new djs

Editor’s Note: Admittedly we were expecting a bit more of a response but DJ Boomie is a man of very few words. And that’s okay. We wanted to just add a few points. Definitely not a futile attempt at padding out a double page spread. So we asked a few students their thoughts from the Silent Disco [which old mate DJed] and to give some feedback and here’s what they had to say.

“Wow, such amazing choices of music. He really knows how to use those hands” Unnamed

“He’s so cool and has such good taste in tracks, and far out did you notice his mixing skills?” Unnamed

“DJ BOOMIE IS MY FAVOURITE DJ” Lara Dashfield

“I’m in love with DJ Boomie, man he is so dang handsome” Jordan Fritz

You’ve decided that you’re wanting to hook up with someone new, that’s awesome news. But now comes the awkward question of, “When were you last tested?”. There’s no easy way of answering without sounding like someone who’s sexually promiscuous or completely unaware of their sexual history. Well I’m here to help. Should mention that I’m not actually a doctor but someone who has been sexually active since they were young and has been around the block. Think of me like a mate who just is way too open.

Let’s talk about testing and why it’s important. Recently I’ve been pretty run off the road with work, not really allowing time for myself. But that doesn’t mean I’ve found myself without sex. Recently I’ve been casually hooking up with someone and it’s been amazing but I was hit with a “last test?” text prior to our first transaction. Now I’m pretty proactive about sexual health and like to think I’m a pretty onto it kinda person but it’s actually been a minute since I last got the old equipment service and had a decent oil change. No better time than the present right? So after booking in with the sexual health nurse, I was on my way.

After what was a pretty in depth swabbing sesh, my parts were chapping at the bit to get put away before engaging in the safe sex convo. I got my free protection and packed my to-go bag before hitting the road. It’s honestly that fucking easy that it baffles me that more people aren’t doing it right? But is it that easy when the fear of judgement and taboo surrounds the entire experience. You shouldn’t have to shroud your head in shame as you go in and get your tick of cleanliness. So let’s clear some misconceptions.

But it hurts… Most tests are done through blood and urine. Unless you have symptoms (I didn’t but the swab is apparently more effective) then it’s usually a swab. Plus the clap hurts more cunt, sort it out.

I used a condom though… A condom can help lower your risk, but it’s not guaranteed. Don’t avoid using them though, it’s just not the only means of protection and doesn’t mean you’re completely safe.

We only do oral… Be so FUCKING FOR REAL RIGHT NOW. STDs are easily spread through all forms of sex: vaginal, anal, and oral. The infections are caused by bacteria or a virus that can enter your body through tiny cuts or tears in your skin and mucous membranes. So that means the mouth bro.

What’s your takeaway this week? Sex is amazing and how fun. Gonorrhoea is not. Lets not skip over sexual health and safety in return for a quicker meet up time. Would prefer you not scratching at your junk aye.

Lots of love, Dr. S