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Relationships By Amanda Lee Nazario, Junior, Foreman High School
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eople say trust issues in relationships come up when someone in the relationship breaks the trust, but this is not always the case. Trust issues can come from personal insecurities and past experiences as well. When a person has insecurities about themselves, it can make them jealous, get them thinking negatively about every situation, and cause them to be overly-possessive over their boyfriend or girlfriend. Some people feel that being in their business helps their trust issues. They start looking through everything: phone, Facebook, Twitter and whatever else they can get their hands on. But sometimes doing these things can have negative consequences. One insecurity a lot of teens deal with is with their looks. If a person has insecurities with the way they look, they tend to gain the impression that they are not good enough for their significant other and that can cause jealousy issues. Another insecurity that a person can have in a relationship can be one of economic differences. If their significant other makes much more money than them, they can begin to feel inadequate. These issues then cause them to react irrationally and that’s when suspicion leads to investigation and investigation leads to trouble. If a person is constantly being checked on and told that they are doing wrong when they aren’t, this can cause one of two things. The person either uses the accusations as an excuse to do wrong or gets so fed up with it, and eventually walks away from the relationship. The person can potentially do wrong because they feel since they are already being accused of doing wrong, it wouldn’t change the situation. The person may also just walk away from the relationship because they can become frustrated and feel powerless to the situation, thinking nothing they do will make them happy. Re-evaluating your self-worth can help you overcome insecurities. When you reevaluate your self-worth, start thinking about all the good characteristics you have as a person. Think of the good that you bring to your relationship and also 44 TRUE STAR MAGAZINE
ask your significant other what they feel you bring to the relationship. Remember that they are with you for a reason. Accept that for what it is and it will help you understand those things that make you valuable as a person. Trust is something that is obviously difficult to achieve. But understand that in order to have a healthy relationship, one MUST trust. You have to dig deep within yourself and give the person the benefit of the doubt. Understand also that checking up on your significant other will not stop them from cheating. If they are inclined to cheat, nothing you can do will stop them. You also can’t use your past experiences to judge present ones. Just because one person cheated on you in the past does not always mean everybody will. “Someone who cheats will cheat regardless if you check up on them or not. Just know that the truth always comes out and at least you can walk away from the situation knowing that you gave them trust and they took it for granted” says Michelle Plaza, 25, of the north side of Chicago.
Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be lifethreatening. ~Maya Angelou
Photo Credit: Amyrikal Adams, Junior, Victor Andrews
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