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YourLife Start living your best life today!

KRISTINA KARLSSON FOUNDER OF KIKKI.K tells us what real success means to her

MAKE 2011

YOUR BEST YEAR EVER

Happy HOW TO BE

ASK

Look, think & feel

10 YEARS YOUNGER

for a pay rise, and get it!

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PROMOTION

YOUR BEST LIFE

WORKSHOP Have you been to the Your Best Life Workshop yet? This transformational workshop is a companion program for Domonique’s book Your Best Life. The program is designed to help you implement the three simple steps to success into your life, so that you too can create the life you really want. This is not an auditorium event, but an interactive workshop where you will have plenty of opportunity to focus on your own goals, dreams, hopes and ambitions.

WHAT PEOPLE SAY:

f DISCOVER WHAT IT IS YOU REALLY WANT FROM LIFE AND WHY YOU HAVEN’T BEEN LIVING THAT WAY UNTIL NOW

I just wanted to touch base with you & let you know that I have a new job now that is my dream job I have been wanting for a while, & also there is a great man in my life too! I wanted to say thank you again for the workshop - it seriously has changed my life and I am just so happy!” Priscilla, Vic

f OVERCOME YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS AND CONQUER YOUR FEARS f BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE AND SELF BELIEF f LEARN THE SECRET TO ENDLESS DISCIPLINE AND STAYING POWER f DESIGN INSPIRING GOALS AND CREATE A PLAN-OF-ACTION TO HELP YOU TO ACHIEVE THEM f LEARN HOW TO APPLY THE THREE SIMPLE STEPS AND BEGIN TO CREATE THE LIFE YOU REALLY WANT f BEGIN TO TURN YOUR DREAMS INTO REALITY!

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INSIDE THIS ISSUE

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Your Life is published quarterly by DBC Media. Nothing in this magazine can be reproduced in whole or in part without the written permission of the publishers. Although Your Life has endeavoured to ensure that all information in the magazine is correct, details may be subject to change.

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EDITOR’S LETTER

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WHY DON’T YOU Find 10 minutes of peace and quiet

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YOUR LIFE SALUTES Karen Miles

10 STRATEGY Make 2011 your best year ever

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16 INTERVIEW Be inspired by Kristina Karlsson

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20 FEATURE 10 Steps to Happiness 22 EXPERT ADVICE How to think, look and feel 10 years younger 25 HOW TO Ask for a pay rise, and get it

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28 BE INSPIRED Real life inspiration

Please direct all enquiries to yourlife@domoniquebertolucci.com

30 COACHING Desperately seeking… a coach

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“We don’t have an eternity to realise our dreams, only the time we are here.” - Susan Taylor -

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EDITOR’S LETTER

MESSAGE FROM DOMONIQUE

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elcome to the first issue of Your Life, my new quarterly magazine filled with all sorts of information and ideas to help you to really live Your Best Life.

Starting a magazine has been a long held dream of mine, but the marvels of online publishing have meant that I have been able to bring this dream to life, much sooner than anticipated. One of the most important outcomes of writing Your Best Life, was knowing that I am now able to reach the widest possible audience; telling as many people as possible that creating the life of your dreams really is possible. But writing a book is a huge project and definitely not one I am able to deliver every couple of months, which is where Your Life comes in…

Domonique Bertolucci is Australia’s most popular life coach and the best-selling author of Your Best Life: the ultimate guide to creating the life you want. Her client list reads like a who’s who of CEOs and corporate figures, award winning entrepreneurs and celebrities, and her workshops are attended by people from all walks of life, from all around the world. Domonique regularly appears on live television and radio, and in a range of print media; more than 10 million people have seen, read or heard her life coaching advice. Domonique divides her time between Sydney and London. www.domoniquebertolucci.com

KEEP IN TOUCH SUBSCRIBE

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Subscribe and be the first to read Your Life when each issue is published. www.domoniquebertolucci.com/your-life

The launch of this magazine allows me to connect with my readers, old and new, on a much more regular basis as well as inviting some other brilliant experts to share their wisdom. In this issue we have Dr Adam Fraser telling us how to feel 10 years younger and image expert Elena Reed telling us how to look it. Communications guru Hugh Gyton, tells us how to ask for a pay rise… and get it, and I’ve shared both my 10 principles for creating true happiness in your life and my strategies for making 2011 your best year ever. I want this magazine to be inspiring as well as informative and in this issue we have Kristina Karlsson, founder of kikki.K and multi-award winning entrepreneur telling us what real success means to her, as well some wonderful real life success stories from my readers. In Your Life Salutes we celebrate Karen Miles for the work she has done raising awareness of domestic violence. I’m very proud of this new project, but it is still well and truly in it’s infancy. Please send me your feedback – let me know what you loved, what you want more of, what you can take or leave and what you just can’t live without. Take care and remember, real success is not about having it all… it’s about having the things that matter!

FACEBOOK Join Domonique’s Facebook page and find out what she’s thinking and what she’s doing.

TWITTER Follow Domonique on Twitter for up to the minute news, information and daily insights from Your Best Life.

EMAIL Visit www.domoniquebertolucci.com and sign up for Domonique’s Monday morning message of inspiration and encouragement, motivation and support.

p.s. the best way to send through your feedback or suggestion is domonique@domoniquebertolucci.com

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Find 10 minutes of peace and quiet IN THIS HUSTLE, BUSTLE WORLD, IT CAN FEEL LIKE THERE IS NEVER ANY PEACE AND QUIET IN YOUR LIFE. TRY THESE TIPS AND SEE IF YOU CAN FIND TEN MINUTES OF SILENCE IN EACH AND EVERY DAY.

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TAKE YOUR LUNCH OUTSIDE AND EAT IT SITTING UNDER A TREE.

GET OFF YOUR BUS OR TRAIN A COUPLE OF STOPS EARLY AND STROLL THE REST OF THE WAY.

PUT ON THE KETTLE, MAKE YOURSELF A WARM DRINK, SIT DOWN AND LOOK OUT A WINDOW.

FINISH WORK TEN MINUTES EARLY; EASY TO DO IF YOU CUT DOWN ON PERSONAL EMAILS AND FACEBOOK TIME.

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GET OUT OF THE HABIT OF AUTOMATICALLY TURNING ON THE TV OR RADIO; LEARN TO CHERISH THE SILENCE. LEAVE YOUR IPOD AT HOME.

BE EARLY FOR YOUR ENGAGEMENTS AND ENJOY THE QUIET BEFORE EVERYONE ELSE ARRIVES.

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GO FOR A WALK.

GO TO BE EARLY, RELAX AND UNWIND FROM YOUR DAY.

HAVE A LEISURELY BATH.

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YOUR LIFE SALUTES

KAREN MILES BEING A VOICE FOR WOMEN WHO CAN’T BE HEARD IS PRETTY MUCH A LIFE MANTRA FOR KAREN MILES, 2010 MRS AUSTRALIA NATIONAL FINALIST AND TV PRESENTER/PRODUCER, AUTHOR, PROFESSIONAL SPEAKER, AND MUM OF TWO.

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roducing a deeply thoughtprovoking documentary on domestic violence titled ‘Behind Closed Doors’ is one of the many contributions this promising TV star has made to the WIN (Women in Need) Foundation, the charity of the Mrs Australia Group.

“Domestic violence is something we keep a secret, which contributes to its power over women, its tolerance in society, and to the shame and guilt women feel who have been victims of domestic violence,” says Karen. “It’s not ok that sexual violence affects one in five Australian women, and that physical violence affects one in three.” After researching and shooting the film Karen also learned first-hand the damage violence has on children. “The fact that one in five kids in Australia will witness violence against their mum or step-mum is hard to get your head around. Home is not meant to be where the hurt is.” Karen’s goal was to provide an educational tool for the WIN Foundation to use in

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their support programs so Australian women who have experienced domestic violence could hear survivor’s stories and find solace and support. Working on the project was new Australian film company, FilmStretch, who met Karen at a networking event at which she was speaking. The film makers identified with the cause through their own personal life circumstances and agreed to film and edit the documentary at no cost. Several media calls were placed for women to interview in the film however, many women pulled out as the shoot day drew near, feeling unsafe talking about their experience. Undaunted, Karen found replacements (one 24 hours before the cameras rolled) to profile the stories of three powerful women, told through a child’s eyes growing up in a violent home and from the adult woman’s perspective. As well as an educational tool for the WIN Foundation, Karen designed the documentary for web broadcast, creating a viral campaign to ensure maximum airtime. So what big idea is Karen working on next? “I love the quote ‘A mind once stretched by a new idea never regains its original dimension’ by Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr,” says Karen. “You can never be the same person you were once you experience the satisfaction and magic of your ideas becoming reality, especially when those ideas help other people. The plan is to make a longer documentary on domestic violence for national Australian TV – fingers crossed!” You can view ‘Behind Closed Doors’ on You Tube, as well as Karen’s short films on motherhood and post-natal depression at www.karenmiles.tv. YL In each issue of Your Life, we celebrate the efforts of someone who is making the world a better place. If you would like to nominate someone for Your Life Salutes, please send your suggestions to yourlife@domoniquebertolucci.com

Karen organised a WIN Foundation fundraising event and private screening of the documentary. Here’s what the audience said.

“Thank you for the documentary. Maybe more women will realise that it is ok to speak up.” – Melissa (interviewed for the film)

“I was surprised at how much it affected me. Incredible what the women have managed to cope with. The film was really powerful.” - Dr Mataji Kennedy, Clinical Psychologist

“Congratulations on your screening last night Karen. The women were so brave to share their stories and you threaded them together beautifully to help shine a light on such an unspoken issue.” - Julia Palmer, Business Networking Academy


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STRATEGY

START A

REVOLUTION AND MAKE 2011 YOUR BEST YEAR EVER

FORGET MAKING NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS THAT YOU GIVE UP ON BEFORE YOU EVEN GET STARTED. INSTEAD, START YOUR OWN REVOLUTION BY CHANGING THE WAY YOU THINK AND ACT FOREVER.

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STRATEGY

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ne of the most popular New Year’s rituals, second only to off-key singing of Auld Lang Syne at midnight, is the setting of New Year’s resolutions. Unfortunately for most people the commitment to these resolutions has often faded before the New Year has properly begun. In fact research shows, 40 percent of people have given up on their resolutions by the end of January unless those resolutions were about diet and exercise in which case the quit ratio is closer to 50 percent. Only 20 percent of people actually maintain their resolutions over a full twelve months. If it’s so unlikely that you will succeed at your resolutions, is there any point in setting them? Yes, and no. People who set resolutions are ten times more likely to change their life than people who don’t, so setting goals and targets at the beginning of the year definitely has its merits. What really needs to change is the attitude and approach you take towards the goals you set. Rather than taking a traditional approach to resolutions, where you choose a dramatic change and expect to make it overnight, set yourself up for success not failure by looking at the goals you have for the year as a long term project; one you commit to continually working towards, regardless of any ups, downs or slip-ups you might experience. To give yourself the best chance of success at the goals you set, regardless of the time of year, try the following:

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GET BACK ON THE WAGON

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– Look at the environment and events that are most likely to trip you up and put in place strategies to help you to stay on track.

BE AN INSPIRATION TO YOURSELF – Remind yourself why you wanted to achieve your resolutions in the first place and how good you will feel when you achieve them.

– Make sure the goals you set are realistic and achievable. Realistic in a general sense and achievable for you personally, given your available resources.

– If you slip-up or have a bad day, don’t let that be an excuse to give up. Get back on track quickly and sensibly without resorting to drastic measures.

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– Find a friend or colleague who is working towards similar goals to yours and encourage each other to stay committed.

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– Focus on how you will reward yourself when you achieve your goal. This has a far more powerful impact on success than keeping your attention on the negative consequences of failure. YL

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Strategies FOR MAKING 2011 YOUR BEST YEAR EVER:

1. COMMIT TO YOUR POTENTIAL: Decide that 2011 will be the year that your potential becomes your reality. Believe in yourself and all that you can achieve.

2. STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: Boost your confidence levels by doing something that challenges you; physically, intellectually, emotionally or spiritually.

3. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY:

Make this the year that you exercise regularly, eat wisely and learn to love and respect the body you have.

4. CHOOSE YOUR COMPANY WISELY:

Spend the majority of your time with people who support, encourage and accept you unconditionally.

5. GIVE UP ON PERFECTION:

Perfection is unachievable, so stop striving for it. Make a commitment to simply being the best that you can be in all that you do.

6. START DOING LESS:

Do one thing at a time and focus on just doing the things that really matter. Dump or delegate everything else.

7. CHERISH THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE: Prioritise the people you value in your life. Be there for them and let them know how much you care.

8. MANAGE YOUR MONEY:

Look after your money; don’t spend more than you earn, save at least ten percent and to give some to those less fortunate than yourself.

9. HAVE A CLEAR VISION:

Don’t just sit back and hope for a good year, get really clear about what a brilliant year looks like for you and then go out and make it happen.

10. GET ENOUGH REST: Domonique Bertolucci Visit the online shop for your copy of Domonique’s Self-coaching Course - Settting and Achieving Desirable Goals www.domoniquebertolucci.com/online-shop

Stop running on empty and plan sometime to recharge. Get enough sleep, take all your annual leave and have some quiet time every day.

11. LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE:

Living your best life isn’t a destination, it is a way of life. Some days will go well, others will be more of a challenge, but what matters is that you never give up. Do this, and you will be living your best life.

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PROMOTION

COACHING Domonique has a created a range of audio programs and e-books to help you live Your Best Life. These self-coaching courses allow you to focus on your goals, dreams and aspirations in your own time, from the comfort of your own home, and for a fraction of the cost of working with a professional coach.

Each course includes an MP3 file, which you can listen to on your computer or download to your iPod, an e-book containing a transcription of the audio and a workbook to work through the course exercises. Choose an individual course or buy the whole series for a fraction of the price.

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PROMOTION

S E S R U CO TOPICS INCLUDE: f f f f f f f

REDISCOVER YOUR DREAMS UNDERSTANDING YOUR VALUES HOW TO SET GOALS AND STICK TO THEM ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION AND DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE MANAGING YOUR TIME AND GETTING THE MOST OUT OF YOUR DAY BOOSTING YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE … AND MANY MORE

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INTERVIEW

Be inspired by... KRISTINA KARLSSON KRISTINA KARLSSON OPENED HER FIRST BOUTIQUE IN MELBOURNE CENTRAL IN 2001. KIKKI.K, NAMED AFTER HER CHILDHOOD NICKNAME AND LAST INITIAL, WAS AN IMMEDIATE SUCCESS, STRIKING A CHORD WITH MELBOURNE’S DESIGN-CONSCIOUS. NOT LONG AFTER, THE BOUTIQUE WAS NAMED MELBOURNE’S MOST INNOVATIVE STORE BY THE LORD MAYOR.

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y 2005 there were kikki.K boutiques in Melbourne, Sydney and Brisbane. The following year saw incredible growth with eight new boutiques opened, including the first foray into the international market in Auckland, New Zealand. There are now 50 kikki.K stores in Australia and around the world.

Melbourne my home. I was really restless, not knowing what I wanted to do with my life in a career sense. I had lots of ideas but was just bouncing from idea to idea without any direction. One night around 3am after tossing and turning, not able to sleep, Paul got a little fed up and encouraged me to grab pen and paper, and make a list of what was important to me, to guide my thinking.

Kristina has twice been a finalist in the Telstra Business Woman’s Awards, has been named Young Entrepreneur of the Year by Women Chiefs of Enterprise International, and has received numerous other business awards.

We created what I now call ‘my 3am list’ which included the following to guide my career choice.

Kristina chatted with Domonique Bertolucci about her incredible journey and some of the things she has learned along the way. You started kikki.K with a small loan from your partner Paul. Can you tell us a bit more about the lead up to starting your company? Before I started kikki.K I travelled, studied languages and had a diverse range of jobs in different countries; from tour guide, to waitress, to nanny. At 18 I was taking tour groups from Sweden to Germany so I could improve my German, anything that could keep me travelling and immerse me in a country, so I could learn its language. I met my partner Paul in the mountains of Austria, and that eventually took me to Australia. After being in Australia for a year I decided to find a career and make

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I want to do something that: z Has me excited to drive to work on a Monday morning and that I am passionate about z Will keep me in touch with my family & friends in Sweden. z Has something to do with design z Will lead to a business of my own z I can make $500 week at My 3am list gave me the focus and the traction I needed to refine my thinking. Then when setting-up an office at home I struggled to find gorgeous stationery products anywhere, to turn my home office into the organised and inspiring space I wanted. I wanted my office to be an extension of my home, my personality and my ideas on fashion and design. I could find all this at home in Sweden, but nowhere here in Australia. And that’s when the idea for starting kikki.K was born. I realised that I could combine my passion for

Swedish design and my love of stationery to create a business. I remember how excited I was when I grabbed Paul and told him I’d found what I was going to do. I would open beautiful stationery boutiques around the world – in all of my favorite cities! New York, Tokyo, London… I saw no barriers and my vision was crystal clear. How has that vision changed or evolved as your business has grown? The original vision hasn’t fundamentally changed and it’s still what we’re aiming for. To have a vision that big right from the start really pulled us along and inspired us so much. It’s evolved only slightly, to help guide our team as we grow. Now when we talk about our vision we also talk about ‘creating a world class enduring business in every sense’ and having ‘something kikki.K in every stylish life’. Dreaming big.

My vision was crystal clear. Did you always know you would be successful? Success wasn’t something that I ever stopped to think about or define, but being an optimistic person I guess I always felt confident I could succeed, whatever that means, at whatever I decided to take on. But for me, I’ve always seen failing


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In terms of real success, I am really happy with the way we’ve approached the challenges we’ve faced, the integrity and principals we’ve demonstrated at all times, the many lessons we learn every day, the wonderful team we’ve built and the fun we’re having doing what we love.

or making mistakes as an important part of success too, as they bring essential lessons and experiences that help down the track. After I’d convinced Paul to sell his house and put the money into opening our first store in Melbourne, we were driven more by a desire to survive, not wanting to fail, than by any big desire for success. As we grew rapidly I started to get a sense that kikki.K could provide us with a wonderful relaxed lifestyle one day... but for at least the first 10 years it was an all-consuming exhausting but totally satisfying adventure that we threw ourselves head first into. Working 12 to 14 hours a day 7 days a week for years on end. Overcoming barrier after barrier. The concept of success became getting to a place where we could stop working weekends, enjoy a break every now and then, spend more time with family and friends. And slow down what had become a very frantic and stressful pace. I never had grand plans for overwhelming entrepreneurial success.

It all started out as me just genuinely wanting to achieve what I’d set down in my 3am list. What does ‘real’ success mean to you? Do you think you have it? For me the concept of success varies as you go through life – but that it’s not something I spend much time dwelling on. Success for me has been driving to work on Monday mornings and being excited about the day ahead, as well as knowing that I have the freedom to choose what I want to do with my time and my life. It’s about knowing I can contribute in meaningful ways to help others and to be a good person. It’s not about money or things for me, although I am very satisfied that I am more able to afford to surround myself with the beautiful design pieces I’ve always craved. I’ve never actually stopped to consider if I’m successful. I’m really happy with what we’ve achieved to date …but I feel we’re just getting started. Probably the curse of the entrepreneur that you never quite feel satisfied!

KRISTINA’S BIGGEST LESSONS HAVE BEEN: z Having a simple, clear & compelling Vision is absolutely vital. It keeps you on track and pulls you and your team, through all challenges. z Doing something you’re passionate about is so important. Being able to have fun along the way doing something you love makes everything easier. z Don’t easily take no for an answer. We’ve literally had thousands of examples where we’ve been given a ‘no’ answer, only to find our way to a ‘yes’ by being more creative or persistent. If I’d taken ‘no’ for an answer easily I would have missed so many opportunities. z You can’t do it on your own – build a great team. No matter how attached you become to your business, at some point you realise that you can’t do it all on your own, even the things you believe no one could do as well as you can! You need great people along for the journey, who you can delegate responsibility to, so you can focus on the important things and the things you love doing. Then you have to work together with a clear goal or focus in mind.

What has come easiest to you and what have you had to work hardest for? The easiest for me has been to set the vision and to create beautiful products. It’s something I love and am very passionate about. The hardest has been the financial and detailed operational sides of the business. Fortunately we’ve built a great team of people, and Paul’s skills have been very complimentary, in that he has been able to run with the things I found hardest. To achieve the success you have had to date, what sacrifices or compromises have you had to make along the way? Oh, where do I start on this! I had to have a very clear and big vision and keep my eye on that the whole time, even in the tough times. I was determined from the beginning to never give up and not take no as an answer, to always find a way. I worked very long hours in the beginning and worked very hard to make it work, and as a result spent so much time working that I did sacrifice a lot of social or fun time with friends and family. At times the work rate and stress also impacted my health and well-being. You began your business with no background in retail or stationery, what have been the biggest lessons you have learned along the way? When I started my business I had no formal training, and English was my second language, so there were always going to be some hurdles. I didn’t even know what X

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INTERVIEW your decision-making and your team. When times get tough, and they will, your vision has to be strong enough to pull you and everyone else though. Write a business plan that becomes your road map for achieving your vision. Going through the process of putting it on paper is a must, and a great discipline that forces you to face reality. Review it regularly and don’t be afraid to refine it. What does the future hold for Kristina Karlsson and kikki.K?

the word ‘invoice’ meant. I thought it was something to do with talking, as in, ‘in-voice’! Apart from not understanding much business terminology, I also had almost no skills in the areas of finance, accounting or bookkeeping, no idea about marketing, no idea how to run a retail store, no idea how to recruit employees and no idea what performance management was. I’d never even heard of logistics or operations and had no idea how to put together a product development schedule, run a trade show, negotiate a lease, make a sales presentation, build a website or write a position description. Having said all that, I had a clear vision, boundless enthusiasm and I knew that I could always find a way to overcome challenges. What do you think are the biggest challenges or issues for people who juggle owning a business, or working in general, with the other things they want from their life; people who want to be successful at work but also in their whole life. And how do you address this? Finding and maintaining a sense of balance in my life has always been the biggest challenge for me, and I imagine that applies to many ambitious people, male and female alike. The special demands of motherhood no doubt put more pressure on mums. A key tool for me to create a sense of balance has been to define and try to stick to a ‘generic week’ plan, where I allocate days/ times to all of the important things in my life for a ‘normal week’. It’s my starting point to ensure I priorities everything I want to, and to help me allocate time for anything that comes up during a week. I also find that doing some kind of exercise every morning is really useful for me; to help clear my mind and set myself up for a productive day. Working with a coach has also been very helpful for me. To say things out loud to someone who is completely on your team and knows your goals and priorities is enormously helpful, particularly when grappling with challenges.

Nobody ‘has it all’, what goals are the hardest for you to achieve, what things slip when other things ‘take over’ I just love what I do for work, so I find myself working very long hours, which is often very fun and very satisfying, but leaves me needing a little more time for other important things. Balance has probably been the toughest for me, its something I still work on to achieve. How have your relationships (romantic and platonic) been impacted by your success? Working with my partner Paul together in the business for the last 12 years has meant we talk work a lot, which isn’t always great and becomes a bit all-consuming at times. Having a business with my partner has been challenging for us both at times, but has also been very positive and our relationship has become stronger as a result. We’ve learnt so much about each other and have developed enormous mutual respect. We work really well together, quite intuitively and have different, complimentary skills. I’d say our relationship has been impacted in a highly positive way and we’ve managed to create a life style together that we both love. How do you unwind and de-stress? I love exercise and keeping fit. It’s a great passion and I find it really helps to clear my head and help me remain focused. I love yoga, it’s great for both body and mind. I also love spending time with family and friends. Did I mention good food and good wine? Sitting browsing cookbooks for hours on end is a wonderful tonic for me. What advice would you give someone who was thinking about starting their own business? Do something you love and that you’re really passionate about. You’re going to need to invest considerable energy and time into it, so make it something you really enjoy. In other words, have fun! Create a crystal clear vision of what you want to achieve and let that guide

At the moment we’re focusing on opening more stores and bringing kikki.K to more people. One day I’ve love to have stores in all my favorite cities around the world; Stockholm, New York, Copenhagen, London… the sky is the limit! As for me, heading home to Sweden to catch-up with family and friends, and working on a new range, this is what is next and exciting for me! YL You can download an ideal week planner, just like Kristina’s generic week at www.domoniquebertolucci.com/readers-resources

FAST FACTS NAME: Kristina Karlsson HOME TOWN: Melbourne, Australia & Falkenberg, Sweden AGE: 37 STAR SIGN: Aquarius I LIKE TO WEAR… I ‘m a jeans girl. FOR EXERCISE I LOVE… yoga. THE LAST TIME I CRIED WAS… out of exhaustion, I worked until I had a bit of a melt down… and then I started all over again! LAST NIGHT’S DINNER WAS… mums salmon, potatoes & cold sauce. I love my mums food and its extra special when you don’t have it very often. MY FAVOURITE GADGET IS… my Blackberry. THE BOOKS ON MY BEDSIDE TABLE ARE… Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert, and and my kikki.K ‘101 Dreams’ book. I find that I daydream a lot before going to sleep so it is handy to have my 101 Dreams book close so I can gather all my dreams. MY PROUDEST ACHIEVEMENT IS… that I have a created a business that I love. MY BIGGEST LESSON WAS… that you can’t do it all on your own. FOR ME, REAL SUCCESS MEANS… Living my dream life.

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FEATURE

Happy HOW TO BE

HAPPINESS BEGINS WITH A CHOICE.

S

o many people are waiting to feel happy. They think they will be happy when they’ve done this or achieved that. But the truth is, enduring happiness is not a result of the things you’ve done, but the person you’ve chosen to be. Somewhere in my mid twenties, I made the decision to be happy. It’s not that I was miserable before this time. If you asked most people who knew me, I’m sure they would have described me as a happy person. But as I’ve since learned, there is a big difference between being happy about things as they are and being happy with who you are. The realisation that I had to change the way I created and sustained happiness came as the result of a really challenging and difficult time in my life. While I now look back on the whole period and light-heartedly call it my quarter-life crisis, the truth was I was working for a psychopath in a job I hated, ending a relationship I never should have started and deeply angry with myself for not being in possession of the perfect life I had been so sure would have been mine by now. I cried a lot. My eyes were so puffy that I worried my face would change shape, forever! I remember thinking ‘I’m sure there is a great learning experience hidden in all this pain and heartache, but please… can I just hurry up and learn it.’

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Finally, through my tears came some very real revelations about happiness; how I had sourced it in my life up until this point and what would have to change if my happiness was to be guaranteed in the future. I learned I had to give up trying to achieve perfection; it was never going to happen. I stopped worrying about what other people might be thinking or saying about me and accepted that while some people liked me, others might not and I learned to be ok with that. I stopped feeling guilty, full stop. I discovered that I didn’t have to stress if things weren’t going my way or feel anxious about my future. Some things were within my control and others weren’t, but as long as I believed in myself and my potential, life would probably turn out just fine. I let go of the expectations I held of the people around me; they no longer angered or frustrated me, nor did they have the power to hurt me. I learned that it was no more my place to judge them, than it was theirs to judge me. I found the courage to pursue my dreams and the commitment to see them through, but I realised that even if I had goals for the future, I could still enjoy each day for what it was, appreciating all the good that was already in my life. Most of all I remembered something my mother had been telling me since I was a little girl… that as long as I was giving my best, my best would always be good enough. YL

Abridged extract from The Happiness Code, by Domonique Bertolucci

Principles of Happiness Have you ever wondered why some people seem really, genuinely happy and yet others experience a near constant state of stress, frustration or disappointment? Why does happiness come so easily to some people? And how can you make sure it comes easily to you?

1

MAKE A CHOICE

The first and most important step in becoming the best you can be is to simply decide to be that person. Of course that’s much easier said than done. Most people find plenty of excuses to avoid being honest with themselves about who they are and what they really want from life. Make the choice to own up to your true potential and step into your brilliance.


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GIVE UP CONTROL

3

LIVE FOR NOW

Don’t waste energy trying to change or control things that are well beyond your control. Instead, focus on the things that are within your control and create strategies that support the outcomes you can influence.

Don’t live in the past blaming your current reality on experiences from childhood, early adulthood or even last week. At the same time don’t be so busy dreaming of your future that you overlook or waste the opportunities that are presented to you today. It’s important to accept the past, dream of the future, but live in the moment!

4

EXPECT THE BEST

If you expect things to turn out well, they usually do. Likewise, if you expect to be disappointed, let down or to experience failure then it’s highly likely that that will be your experience. Being optimistic is not about being naïve or ignorant about potentially negative outcomes. Optimism is about expectation; expect the best from life and you will usually get it.

5

BACK YOURSELF

One of the most important ingredients in creating any success in life, is to believe in it. You need to learn to believe in your dreams your ideas and yourself. Other people will always try to lead you away from your dreams, not because they don’t want you to be happy, but because they are governed by their own fear, self-doubt and limiting beliefs. When you truly believe, it’s amazing what becomes possible.

6

GET OUT OF THE WAY

So many people don’t take ownership for the possibilities that their life holds. They constantly blame other people, other times and other situations for the circumstances in their life. The only person who can really hold you back in life is you. Overcome your limiting beliefs, ideas and attitudes and give yourself permission to truly shine.

7

BE GRATEFUL

Very few people are genuinely going without, and yet so many affluent, healthy people constantly talk about all the things that they don’t have. A poverty mentality is a serious affliction. When you focus on how much you already have your true desires will be easily met and you will discover how little you genuinely need.

8

GIVE ALL YOU CAN

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KEEP IT UP

Be generous, not just with the gifts you give, but also with how you give of yourself. To be truly generous you need to give your time, energy and spirit. Avoid judgment and be generous in your assessment of others. What you give in life will determine what you receive.

It won’t always be easy to do, be or have everything you want in life, but if your desires are genuine, over time these things will begin to come to you with ease. Don’t give up or choose a more complacent path. If you are committed to being the best you can be, then you’re already becoming that person.

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BE BRAVE

If you want to be the best you can be, you need to do the right thing, not the easy thing. I don’t mean right or wrong in a black or white, moralistic sense, the principle of courage is about doing the right thing for you and having the courage to do it, even if at the time it feels like the hardest thing in the world!

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EXPERT ADVICE

How to Think, Look & Feel

10 Years Younger

IMAGE EXPERT ELENA REED TELLS YOU HOW TO LOOK GREAT AT ANY AGE Looking your best doesn't happen by itself. You've got to plan for it, you've got to budget for it, you've got to shop for it. Your body and your face shape are genetic and your best anti-aging strategy is to choose the right pieces that accentuate the best features that you have. Find out what colours and styles work best for you. It’s worth the investment; just think of the money you will save on costly wardrobe mistakes. Tight clothing is never your best option. To avoid emphasizing your ‘not-so-favourite’ body parts; wear garments that don't cling to the body. Fabrics that fall straight are more stylish and young. Don’t dress yourself in over-sized clothing either. You can’t hide under a shapeless jackets, bulky clothes do nothing but visually add weight. Shop smarter not harder. Dressing from mismatched items of clothing adds nothing to your youthful yet appropriate look. Plan well and you'll buy right.

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Simple is glamorous. If your outfit is strong, keep your accessories neutral. If the accessories are bold, then keep the outfit simple. If your hair is fabulous, you're wearing amazing accessories and your make up looks great, you will look fabulous at any age! Elena Reed is a speaker and stylist specialising in image and business etiquette. She runs regular public workshops on colour and style as well as provides personal shopping and wardrobe revamp services for professionals to help them create a winning image for career and personal success. Find out more about Elena at www.elenareed.com.au


EXPERT ADVICE

DR ADAM FRASER TELLS US HOW TO FEEL YOUNG AND VITAL People ask me all the time what is the best thing they can do for their wellbeing. What is the real key to looking younger, feeling younger and having the vitality to tackle life head on? However when people ask this question I often get the impression that they are wanting something easy, like a potion or a juice from a rare Amazonian fruit. The number of alternative health products available is staggering, I see all sorts of people taking all sorts of products that promise the world. The reality is that their impact is little at best. You want to feel good, you want to live longer, get out of your chair and move. We know of no other therapy or lifestyle change that comes close to physical activity. You want to feel better do at least 30 minutes of exercise a day.

Age is as much a state of our minds as it is our bodies. It’s just as easy to think yourself young as it is to convince yourself that you are getting old. Don’t think about getting older; instead, think about staying as vital and energetic as possible. Rather than ‘I’m getting

This will do more to reduce your stress, protect you from disease, improve your mood, and sharpen your brain function than anything known to man. Not sexy but if you want to make a difference to your well being it’s as simple as this. So save your money. Invest in yourself and do what your body was designed to do. Move!!! Dr Adam Fraser is the CEO of The Glucose Club a company that specialises in helping people change their lifestyle to prevent or control Type 2 diabetes. He is the author of the best selling book “Sugar Daddy”. www.theglucoseclub.com.au

older’, think ‘I feel fantastic, I feel strong’. I also believe that we are far too critical of our bodies as we age. Focus on the positives and all the things that you body can still do for you, not the fact that it no longer looks the way it did at 16. YL

Try these tips for turning your old attitude into young thinking: OLD ATTITUDE: I’m too old to try that. YOUNG THINKING: There is never a better time to try something new, than right now. OLD ATTITUDE: I’m too set in my ways to change. YOUNG THINKING: I’m going to try one new thing each week, even if it’s just buying a different breakfast cereal or travelling to work a different way. OLD ATTITUDE: It’s not appropriate to act like that at my age.

DOMONIQUE BERTOLUCCI SHOWS YOU HOW TO THINK YOURSELF YOUNG

YOUNG THINKING: According to whom? If I feel comfortable doing or wearing those things I will. OLD ATTITUDE: I regret the course my life has taken, but it’s too late to do anything now. YOUNG THINKING: Life’s too short for regrets; experience has brought me to where I am now. I’ve learned some valuable lessons along the way and my life is richer for it. OLD ATTITUDE: I’m too old to find love again. There is no one left for me. YOUNG THINKING: I deserve to have a life filled with love; there is someone special for me.

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PROMOTION

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As a Your Best Life Coach the opportunities are endless; you can build a full-time practice, create a flexible part-time job or simply add the Your Best Life Program to the portfolio of services you currently offer your clients/company. The Your Best Life Coach Training and License Program is an intensive program and is only for those who are truly committed. Participation is by application only.

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HOW TO

ASK FOR A PAY RISE AND GET IT! FOR SOME, ASKING FOR A PAY RISE MAY BE AS SIMPLE AS “CAN I HAVE A PAY RISE?”, BUT FOR THE MAJORITY IT IS LIKELY TO BE MORE COMPLICATED AND FRAUGHT WITH ANGST. SO HOW CAN YOU GIVE YOURSELF THE BEST CHANCE OF NAILING THIS HIGH-STAKES CONVERSATION?

BE PREPARED

Don’t go into this conversation cold. Make sure you already know how your manager feels about your performance. What specific evidence can you provide as to why a pay rise is justified? Is it your performance relative to your job description, peers, the market? Be focused on why your employer might agree you deserve a pay rise rather than why you need one. Be specific about the value you provide. How have you improved a process, increased efficiency, positively promoted the brand, lived the corporate values, increased profitability, solved a customer issue?

Put yourself in your boss’s shoes How might they respond to your request? What is your response going to be if they say “no”? In my experience the more you prepare and address what you fear most might happen in a conversation the less likely it will. You are psychologically prepared for it and if it does appear you handle it so much better. Don’t forget the basics of timing, location, and how your employer prefers to communicate. Set yourself up for success; deal with them in the way they clearly prefer to be dealt with. If your manager is analytical, loves detail and reports, give her that. If they are not into detail don’t. The more prepared you are the more confident you will be in the conversation. The more confident you are the better you will project yourself and the more convincing your case will sound. The verbal and non-verbal elements of your message will align to project you as the professional asset that you are. Put another way, if you don’t believe you deserve a pay rise, why should they?

BE REASONABLE

Do you deserve a pay rise? What is in it for the firm? If you were your employer would you give yourself one? Are you focused on delivering value for the company? Do you present a positive attitude and behave in a way that ensures your organisation will want you to stay and will look to motivate you by agreeing to your request?

Avoid issuing ultimatums and being emotional. Be open to what they have to say; listen respectfully and avoid getting defensive. If money isn’t an option explore options with your employer. Get creative and work together on how things could be re-arranged to meet both party’s requirements. Are there other incentives that are easier for the company to agree to that would go someway to assisting your situation, such as shorter working hours or more annual leave. If not now, when and what specifically do I have to achieve to justify the pay rise? Agree a plan of action with review points to check in on how you are going. So if a simple “Can I have a pay rise?” isn’t going to work for you; prepare, be reasonable, and be indispensible. Good luck. YL

Hugh Gyton is co-author of the book The Art of Conversation and principal of Just a conversation™, a consultancy that drives revenue and performance for their clients through the matter of conversation; improving sales performance, leadership, trust and engagement in corporates of all sizes. www.justaconversation.com

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BE INSPIRED

Surrounded by flowers Maria and her husban d

Real life SUCCESS MARIA’S STORY THANKS FOR A GREAT BOOK. YOUR BEST LIFE HAS BEEN THE BEST GIFT I’VE EVER GIVEN MYSELF”

I

have come so far and have achieved so much and I have no doubt it’s all due to that invaluable book.

I bought Your Best Life for myself for Christmas and started to work on my new life plan during the summer. Not quite the light summer read I usually delight in at the beach, actually better!

I enjoyed a wonderful week away with my husband celebrating our 25th Anniversary and am very happy to be celebrating my 45th with my family; my husband and 4 gorgeous sons treating me like a princess, my mum doting over me and many well wishers during the day at work. I feel truly blessed.

And guess what? The first thing I set out to do has just happened… I just got the promotion I was aiming for!

My next little project is buying a new car, of my own choice, not because it fits the family’s needs. Now that’s exciting!

I am now a department manager at the flagship store of an iconic retail brand and I found myself filling in as the store manager. This has given me the opportunity to shine and be able to showcase all my skills and talents. I’ve gone from running a $1million annual turnover business, to a $15million.

Your Best Life given me a starting point, somewhere to launch from, and most importantly I’ve found hope again. It’s like you’ve come along and taken a big messed up ball of wool and you’ve started to unravel it with your step-by-step guide in the book. I’m now taking small steps in rewiring my thinking patterns and very enthusiastically setting new intentions and dreaming new dreams.

I’ve just come back from holiday, catching up with amazing friends and have planned a family holiday in September.

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BE INSPIRED

Erica at Machu Pitchu ERICA’S STORY

Erica fun with friends

I HAVE BEEN WORKING THROUGH YOUR BEST LIFE FOR THE LAST 3 YEARS AND I HAVE ACHIEVED SO MANY WONDERFUL AND INCREDIBLE CHANGES IN MY LIFE.”

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here is a wonderful exercise where you can imagine your life without any limits.... and you can really let your imagination be inspired.

I have worked through these exercises for a few years and really have created some great results. Through using the exercises I have found my dream job at a wonderful Adventure Travel Company. This company has great values, cares about the environment, its people and supports local cultures. I joined an inspiring Yoga School and I now practice every day. I have been developing my skills as a

portrait photographer and have had the chance to practice my techniques in China, Nepal, Vietnam and Peru. I found a really great apartment in a location I always wanted to live in. I set up support groups such as wonderful friends, yoga teacher, financial adviser and nutritionist, and I managed my resources to create balance in my life. Reading Your Best Life has been so inspiring and I love the way it helps you to explore your dreams. The exercises help you identify what components you need in your life to make you happy and you really can use it as a handbook to help develop an inspiring life. YL

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COACHING

Desperately Seeking

...a coach!

D

eciding that you want to work with a coach is a big decision, but with a Google search returning over a 100 pages, the challenge is not how to find a coach, but how to find the RIGHT coach for you. Start by asking your coach these questions:

1 COACHING IS A BOOM INDUSTRY, BUT HOW DO YOU SEPARATE THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE UNDERQUALIFIED?

WHAT IS YOUR COACH’S BACKGROUND?

Whilst a good coach doesn’t need to be an expert in your field, they do need to be able to relate to your world. A coach who was previously a musician might be an excellent coach if you are looking to get back in touch with your creative side, but not at all suitable if you are looking for support in managing and growing business.

2

WHAT COACH SPECIFIC TRAINING HAVE THEY TAKEN?

Some people believe that because they have been good at what they do, that they don’t need to train to before they begin coaching other people, however, coaching is a very specific skill set. Being a good coach is not about subject matter expertise, but rather an ability to ask incisive questions to draw out the client’s own wisdom, in either their personal or professional life.

3

DOES YOUR COACH ‘WALK THEIR TALK’?

It’s important that your coach is an intelligent, motivated person, with strong levels of self-confidence and a robust self-belief - someone who radiates confidence and success.

4

IS YOUR COACH A MEMBER OF THE INTERNATIONAL COACH FEDERATION? The International Coach Federation is the professional body for coaches. The ICF has established a code of ethics that all members subscribe to. Whilst membership to the ICFA is voluntary, membership can be seen as a commitment to professionalism in coaching.

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WHAT DO PREVIOUS / CURRENT CLIENTS SAY ABOUT YOUR COACH? Ask your coach to provide testimonials or references from their previous and current clients. Although some people prefer to keep their coaching relationship private, your coach should be able to provide some references that include a client’s full name and occupation or address.

6

CAN YOU EXPERIENCE BEING COACHED BY YOUR COACH BEFORE YOU COMMIT TO A FULL PROGRAM? Deciding to undertake a coaching program is a significant commitment of your time, energy and financial resources. Fortunately most professional coaches are willing to offer you an opportunity to try before you buy. Some coaches offer a 30 – 60 minute free trial session. Others offer a no obligation introductory meeting to discus your requirements and provide you with background information about both coaching and your coach as well as offer you the chance to experience 20– 30 minutes of being coached.

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IS THERE A GENUINE RAPPORT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR COACH? One of the most important things to consider when selecting a coach is the level of comfort and rapport you feel when speaking with him/her. You are going be spending quite a bit of time together, so make sure you choose a coach that you instinctively feel you are going to enjoy working with. A coaching relationship is built on a foundation of trust, honesty and openness, so its critical that your coach is someone you feel you can be 100% honest with. A good coach won’t judge or criticise your choices. Instead he/she will provide you with the support you need to make decisions that are right for you, be that in your business or personal life. YL


TOOL  ЍѝK IT

WELCOME TO THE YourLife TOOLKIT, a selection of Domonique’s favourite templates to help you get the most out of your life.

My three most important life goals are… 1. 2. 3. I will achieve these three things over the next three months… 1.

ERE KNOW WH O BE: T T N A W YOU OU  ЍѝCAN’T  Ѝѝ  ЍѝY S ET  ЍѝGOAL S HIEVE WAIT  ЍѝTO  ЍѝAC

2. 3. I will achieve these three things by the end of this month… 1. 2. 3. I will make these quick wins or small changes in my life this week… 1. 2. 3. My affirmation* for the next three months is…

*An affirmation is a short statement that is written in a positive, present tense and personalised way that inspires you to achieve your goals.

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TOOL  ЍѝK IT

INSTRUCTIONS:

YOUR R U O N O H VALUES: HINGS  Ѝѝ T HE  ЍѝT M OR E  ЍѝOF  Ѝѝ ER  ЍѝIN  Ѝѝ T T A M  Ѝѝ T A TH YOUR  ЍѝL IFE

Find out more about values and how to honour yours in Chapter 2 of Your Best Life CORE VALUE

SCORE/10

STEP 1: Make a note of each of your core values. Five or six values are ideal, but if you find that you have listed more than that, aim to break your list into core (must have) values and supporting (nice to have) values. STEP 2: Give your self a score out of ten for how closely you are living your life in alignment with that value, or how much of that value is present in your life. 1/10 would mean that you never experience this value and 10/10 would mean that you experience this value 100% of the time. STEP 3: Make a note of what action(s) you could undertake to experience more of this value in your life – to live a life that is more aligned to your values.

ACTION(S) REQUIRED IN ORDER TO EXPERIENCE MORE OF THIS VALUE IN YOUR LIFE

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TOOL  ЍѝK IT

INSTRUCTIONS: STEP 1: Write down all the income you receive over a month in the income section and add these figures to get your total income. STEP 2: Write down all the money you spend in the expenses section and add these figures to get your total expenses.

YOUR MANAGE S: RESOURCE E  Ѝѝ

STEP 3: Subtract your total expenses from your total income to find out your monthly balance (surplus income or deficit). If this figure is a positive figure, this represents the spare money or savings you have each month. If this figure is a negative figure, this represents the shortfall or debt you are incurring each month.

 ЍѝWHER FIND  ЍѝOUT AL LY  Ѝѝ E R  Ѝѝ Y E N O YOUR  ЍѝM GOES  Ѝѝ

STEP 4: Adjust your budget to achieve your financial goals. If you find that you don’t have enough money left over at the end of each month to save, invest or spend on the things you want, review your budget and look for areas where you can cut back. If your surplus at the end of each month is ample, you can increase your budget in the areas where you would prefer a few more luxuries. INCOME

AMOUNT

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Salary/Wages

Rent/Mortgage

Investments

Home Insurance

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Electricity

AMOUNT

Gas TOTAL INCOME

AMOUNT

Water

TOTAL EXPENSES

Telephone, Mobile & Internet

BALANCE – TOTAL INCOME, LESS TOTAL EXPENSES

Car/Public Transport Petrol Parking Car Insurance

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Other Insurance [health, life, etc.] Loan or credit card payments Groceries Entertainment [eating out, movies, drinks etc] Clothing Gifts Babysitting/Child Care Cleaning/Laundry Education Holidays

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Personal spending [snacks, magazines, etc] resources

Fixed investments [pension, investment plan, etc.] TOTAL

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TOOL  ЍѝK IT TIME

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MONDAY

TUESDAY

6:00 - 6:30am 6:30 - 7:00am 7:00 - 7:30am 7:30 - 8:00am 8:00 - 8:30am 8:30 - 9:00am 9:00 - 9:30am 9:30 - 10:00am 10:00 - 10:30am 10:30 - 11:00am 11:00 - 11:30am

INSTRUCTIONS:

11:30 - 12:00pm 12:00 - 12:30pm

STEP 1: Make a list of all the key tasks or activities you need to spend time on each week. This could include things like work, exercise, study, family time, housework, family time, social time etc.

12:30 - 1:00pm

STEP 2: Schedule these activities into the weekly planner template.

3:30 - 4:00pm

STEP 3: Use this planner as your generic or ideal week. If you find that you aren’t able to fit one task in at the ideal time, look at your planner and make conscious decisions about what other activities you will need to shift or adjust to make sure your week works for you.

1:00 - 1:30pm 1:30 - 2:00pm 2:00 - 2:30pm 2:30 - 3:00pm 3:00 - 3:30pm 4:00 - 4:30pm 4:30 - 5:00pm 5:00 - 5:30pm 5:30 - 6:00pm 6:00 - 6:30pm 6:30 - 7:00pm 7:00 - 7:30pm 7:30 - 8:00pm 8:00 - 8:30pm 8:30 - 9:00pm 9:00 - 9:30pm 9:30 - 10:00pm 10:00 - 10:30pm 10:30 - 11:00pm 11:00 - 11:30pm 11:30 - 12:00am

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TOOL  ЍѝK IT WEDNESDAY

THURSAY

FRIDAY

SATURDAY

SUNDAY

DOMAINS WORK

COUPLE TIME

FAMILY TIME

EXERCISE

SOCIAL TIME

HOUSEWORK

PERSONAL TIME

MEALS/DRESSING

TRAVEL

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