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WHATISAHEALTHYRELATIONSHIP? WHATISAHEALTHYRELATIONSHIP?
Ahealthyrelationshipiswhentwopeopletrusteachother.Andthey Ahealthyrelationshipiswhentwopeopletrusteachother.Andthey don’thavetogothrougheachother’sphoneorseewhatthey’redoing don’thavetogothrougheachother’sphoneorseewhatthey’redoing 24/7.Iftheygothroughtheirphoneit’salossofloyalty.Iftheydon’t 24/7.Iftheygothroughtheirphoneit’salossofloyalty.Iftheydon’t trusttheotherpersonoutinpublicoranywhere,it’snotahealthy trusttheotherpersonoutinpublicoranywhere,it’snotahealthy relationship. relationship.
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IFYOU’REINAHEALTHYRELATIONSHIP,HOWDOESTHATAFFECTYOU? IFYOU’REINAHEALTHYRELATIONSHIP,HOWDOESTHATAFFECTYOU?
IfIhadagoodboyfriend,hewouldwanttobearoundme.Iwouldfeel IfIhadagoodboyfriend,hewouldwanttobearoundme.Iwouldfeel relievedthatIhaveagoodboyfriend.Hewouldnottalktoothergirlsor relievedthatIhaveagoodboyfriend.Hewouldnottalktoothergirlsor lookatthem.Iwouldfeelimportant. lookatthem.Iwouldfeelimportant.
WHATARESOMEQUALITIESIT’SIMPORTANTFORAPARTNERTOHAVE? WHATARESOMEQUALITIESIT’SIMPORTANTFORAPARTNERTOHAVE?
IIwouldwantthemtohaveagoodpersonality.Iwouldwantthemto wouldwantthemtohaveagoodpersonality.Iwouldwantthemto havegoodfriends.I’dwantthemtohavegoodparentsthattakecareof havegoodfriends.I’dwantthemtohavegoodparentsthattakecareof them. them.
WHATQUALITIESDOYOUHAVETHATWOULDMAKEYOUAGOODPARTNER? WHATQUALITIESDOYOUHAVETHATWOULDMAKEYOUAGOODPARTNER?
IIhaveagoodpersonality.Iamfun.Iliketodostuff,likegoouttothe haveagoodpersonality.Iamfun.Iliketodostuff,likegoouttothe store.Iamveryloyalandhonest. store.Iamveryloyalandhonest.
IFADULTSHAVEHEALTHYRELATIONSHIPS,HOWDOESTHATAFFECTKIDS? IFADULTSHAVEHEALTHYRELATIONSHIPS,HOWDOESTHATAFFECTKIDS?
Ifmymomhadahealthyrelationship,Iwouldfeelhappyforherand Ifmymomhadahealthyrelationship,Iwouldfeelhappyforherand knowhe’stherightone.Kidswouldtalktotheirparent’spersonandget knowhe’stherightone.Kidswouldtalktotheirparent’spersonandget morecomfortable.Ifthatperson morecomfortable.Ifthatperson makesyourparenthappy, makesyourparenthappy, theycouldalsomakeyouhappy. theycouldalsomakeyouhappy.
WHEN WE HURT OURSELVES & OTHERS WHEN WE HURT OURSELVES & OTHERS
Violence is a very traumatic experience. Violence is a very traumatic experience. It can leave you with physical and It can leave you with physical and mental scars for life. Violence affects children as they grow up by leaving mental scars for life. Violence affects children as they grow up by leaving them with trust and commitment issues. Victims of violence can be left them with trust and commitment issues. Victims of violence can be left mentally unstable and go on to avoid building relationships with people mentally unstable and go on to avoid building relationships with people out of fear that they might experience traumatic events again. out of fear that they might experience traumatic events again.
- Tyanna Goodteacher - Tyanna Goodteacher
In my experience, when a child grows up in violence they become more
In my experience, when a child grows up in violence they become more violent. As they get older they believe that violence is acceptable violent. As they get older they believe that violence is acceptable behavior. If a child grows up in a violent home it affects their relationships behavior. If a child grows up in a violent home it affects their relationships and makes kids want to be around people they can trust who won’t make and makes kids want to be around people they can trust who won’t make them feel threatened. I want to make sure that I commit to living a life them feel threatened. I want to make sure that I commit to living a life free from violence by trying to stay away from the wrong crowd and free from violence by trying to stay away from the wrong crowd and thinking responsibly when it comes to certain situations. thinking responsibly when it comes to certain situations.
- Javari Woods - Javari Woods
RELATIONSHIPS... RELATIONSHIPS...
There are a lot. There’s family and friends, and just dating
There are a lot. There’s family and friends, and just dating relationships. They are not all gonna be good, but they are relationships. They are not all gonna be good, but they are not all gonna be bad because everyone is different and not all gonna be bad because everyone is different and people go through different things. I have mostly had a people go through different things. I have mostly had a great relationship with my family, but sometimes we fight great relationship with my family, but sometimes we fight and argue. The bad relationships sometimes hit hard. 2 and argue. The bad relationships sometimes hit hard. 2 months ago I was in a relationship with someone from my months ago I was in a relationship with someone from my school and was happy with them, but we broke up and I school and was happy with them, but we broke up and I was really hurt. 2 weeks after we broke up, we got back was really hurt. 2 weeks after we broke up, we got back together. This happened again 3 times and every time I together. This happened again 3 times and every time I would hurt and hurt more. When we broke up for the fifth would hurt and hurt more. When we broke up for the fifth time she tried to come back and I stood my ground and time she tried to come back and I stood my ground and told her no. I’m not just gonna let you come back whenever told her no. I’m not just gonna let you come back whenever you want and just use me whenever you’re bored. We you want and just use me whenever you’re bored. We barely talk now, which is good for me. Good relationships barely talk now, which is good for me. Good relationships include loyalty, trust, thinking of the other person’s include loyalty, trust, thinking of the other person’s feelings, being considerate, and setting good boundaries. feelings, being considerate, and setting good boundaries.
Velasco - Segundo Velasco
One thing I’m thankful to my family for is showing
One thing I’m thankful to my family for is showing me love and caring for me love and caring for me. I’m thankful to my mom for taking care of me, making sure I’m well, me. I’m thankful to my mom for taking care of me, making sure I’m well, and making me a better person. My culture is Mexican and that has made and making me a better person. My culture is Mexican and that has made me a proud person - in my experience we have wonderful personalities full me a proud person - in my experience we have wonderful personalities full of energy! We are also very community oriented and show up for each of energy! We are also very community oriented and show up for each other when we need support. One of the most important lessons I learned other when we need support. One of the most important lessons I learned from this program is that even though some people have experienced from this program is that even though some people have experienced hardships, they are still able to have a smile on their face. I am thankful to hardships, they are still able to have a smile on their face. I am thankful to myself for being a good person and having a wonderful mother. myself for being a good person and having a wonderful mother.
- Angel Buscio - Angel Buscio
WARRIOR FOR MY PEOPLE WARRIOR FOR MY PEOPLE
My name is Faith and this is my interview with my mom about what makes My name is Faith and this is my interview with my mom about what makes a person a warrior. a person a warrior.
WHAT IS A WARRIOR?
WHAT IS A WARRIOR?
A warrior to me is someone who is strong emotionally and mentally,
A warrior to me is someone who is strong emotionally and mentally, someone who can overcome things [that] are thrown at them. someone who can overcome things [that] are thrown at them.
WHAT KIND OF IMPACT DO PEOPLE HAVE WHEN THEY STEP UP TO HELP
WHAT KIND OF IMPACT DO PEOPLE HAVE WHEN THEY STEP UP TO HELP THEIR FAMILY AND COMMUNITY? THEIR FAMILY AND COMMUNITY?
You never know who needs a helping hand, a little help goes a long way. You never know who needs a helping hand, a little help goes a long way.
WHO ARE FAMOUS WARRIORS OF PAST AND PRESENT?
WHO ARE FAMOUS WARRIORS OF PAST AND PRESENT?
MLK [JR], Ceasar Chavez, Rosa Parks, Harriet Tubman, Lincoln. MLK [JR], Ceasar Chavez, Rosa Parks, Harriet Tubman, Lincoln.
HOW CAN YOU COMMIT TO BEING A WARRIOR OF PALABRA?
HOW CAN YOU COMMIT TO BEING A WARRIOR OF PALABRA?
Ummm......if you do what you say you’re going to do then people will
Ummm......if you do what you say you’re going to do then people will know you’re reliable, trustworthy and can be counted on. know you’re reliable, trustworthy and can be counted on.
I like to hear that this is how my mom perceives a warrior because that’s I like to hear that this is how my mom perceives a warrior because that’s how I perceive them too. We have similar perspectives. In my eyes, my how I perceive them too. We have similar perspectives. In my eyes, my mom is a warrior. She’s a perseverer, she’s smart, and she stays kind even mom is a warrior. She’s a perseverer, she’s smart, and she stays kind even when I wouldn’t be able to. I look up to my mom, she’s a strong woman. when I wouldn’t be able to. I look up to my mom, she’s a strong woman. - Faith Smith - Faith
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HOW DO YOU DEFINE AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP HOW DO YOU DEFINE AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP? ?
I would define an intimate relationship as having trust in the relationship I would define an intimate relationship as having trust in the relationship and being close... and just feeling safe with one another. and being close... and just feeling safe with one another.
WHEN WE SEE UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, HOW DOES IT AFFECT US?
WHEN WE SEE UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, HOW DOES IT AFFECT US?
It can ruin our perspective on relationships or it can ruin relationships
It can ruin our perspective on relationships or it can ruin relationships for us in general. It could also make us insecure. for us in general. It could also make us insecure.
WHEN WE SEE POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS, WHAT DO THEY TEACH US?
WHEN WE SEE POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS, WHAT DO THEY TEACH US? They teach us what it’s like to be, how we’re supposed to be treated, They teach us what it’s like to be, how we’re supposed to be treated, what relationships are like, and what they’re supposed to be like. what relationships are like, and what they’re supposed to be like.
WHAT CAN WE DO TO MAKE SURE WE DON’T HURT PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES?
WHAT CAN WE DO TO MAKE SURE WE DON’T HURT PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES?
We can make sure not to drag our family or friends down We can make sure not to drag our family or friends down with us and to help them whenever they’re needed. with us and to help them whenever they’re needed.
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WHEN WE HURT OURSELVES & OTHERS WHEN WE HURT OURSELVES & OTHERS
There are many forms of violence. Some types of violence and abuse include There are many forms of violence. Some types of violence and abuse include physical violence, which occurs when someone uses a part of their body or physical violence, which occurs when someone uses a part of their body or an object to control another person’s actions. Sexual violence occurs when an object to control another person’s actions. Sexual violence occurs when a person is forced to unwillingly take part in sexual activity. Emotional a person is forced to unwillingly take part in sexual activity. Emotional violence can change the nicest person into a broken person. For myself and violence can change the nicest person into a broken person. For myself and my friends, being the victim of violence has affected us by normalizing pain my friends, being the victim of violence has affected us by normalizing pain and abuse. and abuse.
As a result of normalizing violence in our lives, sometimes we react to
As a result of normalizing violence in our lives, sometimes we react to things in ways we don’t expect. things in ways we don’t expect.
Sometimes, when there is tension in my home, it affects my mood and Sometimes, when there is tension in my home, it affects my mood and makes it hard for me to control how I interact with others. I don’t always makes it hard for me to control how I interact with others. I don’t always blame the people who put me through violence, I have learned that blame the people who put me through violence, I have learned that sometimes when they are harmful it might be because they haven't sometimes when they are harmful it might be because they haven't learned any better from their homes. I have learned to forgive them and learned any better from their homes. I have learned to forgive them and work on myself. I want to be kind and understanding. I will communicate work on myself. I want to be kind and understanding. I will communicate with people without raising my voice and make sure to continue working with people without raising my voice and make sure to continue working to live a violent free life for myself and my siblings. to live a violent free life for myself and my siblings.
Malikeye Serna - Malikeye Serna
