ELDER BENEDICT TARINDOGIYO SYLVA Goes the way of Mortals
Gov. Timipre Slva pays last respect to Elder Benedict
he Lachrymal glands of many family members and well-wishers came close to bursting, recently when the remains of late Elder Benedict Tarindogiyo Sylva was laid to rest on Saturday 13th November 2010 in Bayelsa State in a burial ceremony which witnessed the presence of the high and mighty in the State, including the State Governor, Chief Timipre Sylva.
Mrs. Boebimoere Darius Obiene
While he lived, Elder Benedict Sylva was father, guardian and adviser to his nephews and nieces, a number of who grew under his watchful eyes. Prominent amongst them is the Bayelsa State Chairman of the Peoples Democratic Party, Chief Darius Obiene who led the bereaved family to give papa a befitting burial. Elder Benedict Sylva was eighty-one-year old when he died peacefully on the 29th of October, 2008.
Hon. Chief & Mrs. Darius Obiene with family members
Loliaba, Sylva, Nengi & Opuala
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GOV. ABDUL-AZIZ YARI ABUBAKAR: Mission to Change the face of Zamfara State
n the 29th of May 2011, the peace-loving people of Zamfara State amidst joy and State-wide celebrations jointly ushered in a new political dispensation in the State, a new beginning which is destined to harness the fortunes of the State in the coming years. It was the exciting inauguration, we should add, swearing-in ceremony of His Excellency, the Eminence, Shatitiman Mafara, Alhaji Abdul-Aziz Yari Abubakar as the new Governor of Zamfara State.
The suave and stylishly packaged event which held at the Trade Fair Complex Bye Pass Road Gusau in Zamfara State was used by the people of the State to officially bade farewell to erstwhile Governor, Alhaji Aliyu Shinkafi and His Deputy, Alhaji Mukhtar Ahmad who were equally at hand to welcome the new occupant of the hallowed complex housing the Zamfara State Government House, Alhaji Abdul-Aziz Yari Abubakar and Alhaji Ibrahim Muhammad, his Deputy. Even though Alhaji Abubakar would be
occupying the Government House for the first time, it does not in a way mean that he is a new comer to the muggy politics of Zamfara State and indeed Nigeria politics or even the nitty-gritty of governing a State. One will easily agree too that it is a no mean feat to beat and unseat a serving Governor in today's Nigeria. But not only did the one time House of Representative Member and former Chairman of the ANPP in the State beat the then Governor who himself was a member of the ANPP before he
Gov. Abubakar taking the Oath of Office
controversially crossed over to the PDP in 2009, he did it so excellently such that none was left in doubt as to his readiness to make good his promises to the people of the State who generously gave him over 514,962 votes which he used to oust Shinkafi who received 460,656 votes. Abubakar Yari will not, however, take all the credit for his success at the poll and his eventual emergence as the new Governor of Zamfara State; neither did he intend to run a solo Government. In fact, before he began to unleash his agenda for the State during his inaugural speech at the event, he took time to appreciate his leader and personal mentor, Senator Ahmad, Yariman Bakura who he said, but for his unflinching commitment and selfless leadership, the ANPP in the State would not have achieved the current position that it now occupies in the scheme of things in the State.
“The elections are over and some people may be aggrieved by the results. I urged them in the name of Allah Subhanahu to Wa Ta'ala to join hands with us to build a new Zamfara State,” he beckoned on his opponents in the just concluded elections to shield their battle-ready swords and join hands with him to propel Zamfara to the paradise of their dreams. The 47 year old who did not mince words when he iterated his conviction that politics is a platform for rendering service to the people of the State and service to the Nigerian-State as a whole, regretted that the agricultural endowment of the State has not done much to alleviate the economic growth of the State; hence the standard of living of the people remains very low. He said lamenting: “Agriculture which is the bed-rock of the socio-economic wellbeing of our people did not receive the attention it deserved in the last four
years. Fertilizer and agro-chemicals are now hard to come by. Soft loans to small enterprises have dried up, while the youth have been abandoned to roam the streets aimlessly”. His outcry gave rise to an array of interventionist packages which he said will be the focus of his four-year-tenure. For a start, he said: “Agriculture, Commerce, Women and Youth Empowerment will receive the attention that they deserve in order to make our people self-reliant. In fact, the sale of fertilizer for this year's cropping season will be flagged off one week from today, Insha Allah”. He disclosed to the mammoth crowd of supporters that had gathered to listen to the programmes of their new Governor that the development of Zamfara State would be based on an achievable policy thrust that emphasizes collective stakeholdership.
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Gov. Abubakar acknowledging cheers
This policy direction, he explained, is anchored on special attention to the following strategic areas: security, Agriculture and Rural Development, Improved Infrastructure, Education, Science and Technology, Health and Social welfare, women and youth empowerment through the implementation of a skill acquisition programme. Abubakar Yari who said that the greatest injustice that can be done to the future of the youths of Zamfara origin is to ignore the imperatives of good education frowned at the current situation where only a small number of children of the rich and powerful have access to quality education while the majority are idle making them a veritable tool for causing mayhem and destruction.
“We are determined to return every child to school and guarantee their future through adequate funding of the education. The payment of scholarship will be restored along with payments for WAEC/NECO examination fees,” he assured. The new Governor who also said that appointments into his cabinet and other public offices in the State will not be hinged on any political inclination, noted that only people who are competent, honest, diligent and upright in character and who will not see the public office as an avenue for fleecing the State treasury at the expense of the populace, will be called to serve in his Government. “Now is the time to transcend the boundaries of politics as we embark on governance. May I reiterate that our people must not only see but feel the
dividends of our nascent democracy; we need your support and prayers. In-shaAllah, together, we shall succeed,” he said. The posh swearing-in ceremony, aside from the outgoing Governor and his Deputy, was also witnessed by Distinguished senators and Honourable Members of the House of Assembly, Honourable members of the House of Assembly, the Chief Judge of the State, the Honourable Grand Kadi, and the executive members of the ANPP, both National and State. Others are the outgoing Secretary to the State Government, the Head of Service, the Commissioner of Police, the Commanding Officer, 1 Base Ammunition Depot, Gusau, Permanent Secretaries, Head of Extra Ministerial Departments and a host of other invited guests.
Gov. Abubakar in a chat
Gov. Abubakar inspects the Guard of Honour
Gov. Abubakar acknowledging cheers from supporters on leaving
Gov. Abubakar in a chat with Dr. Bello Barmo, Emir of Mafara
Sen. Ahmed Sani Yerima on arrival
A mammoth crowd at the Swearing-in
Gov. Abubakar welcomes Makaman Marafa, Alh. Salihu Mafara
Deputy Gov. Alhaji Ibrahim Muhammad taking Oath of Office
Garba Muhammed & Ibrahim Bisu
Chief Judge congratulates Alhaji Ibrahim Muhammad
Alh. Ummaru, Alh. Muh'd Na'ila & Maman Takoki, Magajin
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Gov. Abubakar (c) with Hon. Ibrahim Shehu & others
Gov. Abubakar with Mustapha Mai Gandi Sokoto
Gov. Abubakar in warm hand shake with Shehu Baraya Dr. Bello Barmo, Emir of Mafara
Makaman Marafa, Alh. Salihu Mafara
Their Excellencies, Gov. Abubakar & Sen. Ahmed Sani
Alh. Sani Dan Galadima & Alh. Abubakar Dantabawa
Abara Gusau & Sen. Sa'idu Dan Sadan Alh. Muhammed Bawa Gusau
Sen. Sa'idu dan Sadan
Cross section of the participant at the Dinner, centre are Gov.
His Excellency, in a tete-a-tete with Samahu Mafara
Gov. Abubakar & Sen. Kabiru G. Marafa
Sani Dan Galadima, Usman Kaura, Sani Gwamma & others
His Excellency helps himself
Gov.Abubakar being congratulated by supporters
Gov. Abubakar, with Hon. Mu'azu Lawal & Usuman Kaura, (ANPP Secretary)
Gov. Abubakar exchanging view with Musa Isah (Hakimi)
Gov. Abubakar & Abdulahi Shinkafi, MD Zamfara State Mass Transit
Alh. Ibrahim Gwamma (Chief Judge) & Belo Umar Karika (Head of Service) His Excellency Gov. Abubakar addressing members at Talatar Mafara
Gov. Abubakar with Sen. Samahu Mafara
Emir of Mafara Alh. Bello Barmo, Emir of Kaura (c) & Emir of shinkafi (r)
Alh. Hassan Hamza Sambo & Alh. Bashiru Kabir Muhammed Dan Baba
Muhammed Bawa Gusau & Alh. Sani General
Hon. Salisu Musa Tsafe, Hon. Lawali Hassan & others
Former Head of Service Yusuf Garba Mini (r) with friend
Hon. Mu'azu Lawal & Usman Kaura
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RELATIONSHIP By Ami
Dating Behaviors that Scare Single Men Away You're dating a guy, and it's the crucial first few weeks. You really like this guy, and you're wondering what you can do (or avoid doing) to keep this relationship going and not scare him away. The truth is that there are certain things that women can do that will scare men away. Don't sabotage a potentially great relationship that could have gone somewhere by scaring a man off right at the beginning. Here are some dating behaviors guaranteed to scare men off that all women should strive to avoid TRASH-TALKING YOUR EX: Don't talk negatively about an exboyfriend in front of a guy you're dating. I don't care if you're on your first date or on your 15th date with a guy, don't ever trash-talk your ex. Your ex is somebody you dated, invited into your life, and with whom you spent a lot of time. So don't talk negatively about your ex in any way, because what a guy thinks when you do this is that if he ever becomes your ex, that you're going to trash-talk him the same way. So, when a man asks you about your ex, you can politely say, "We are no longer together. It was a great relationship while it lasted, and I learned a lot." That's it. PARANOIA RUNS RAMPANT Here you are dating a man you really like, and the first couple of weeks are going well. Then, that first boys' night out happens. In the beginning, you send him a text that says, "Have a great time tonight!" As the night progresses, however, seeds of doubt start forming in your mind about what he's doing, and you start to think "Is he cheating on me? Is he flirting with other women? Where is he right now?" So then, you lob another text in to him asking "What's going on? What are you doing right now?" Even though he tells you he's just hanging out with his friends, you proceed to make a major blunder: You start checking up on him with continuous texts throughout the night. This paranoia will push a man away. So when you are dating a man and he's out with his friends, respect his "guy time". It will make you the cool woman he's always wanted to find. TRASH-TALKING OTHER WOMEN A huge mistake many women make is trash-talking other women in front of the man they're dating. For example, you are out with him when a woman walks by wearing a skimpy short skirt.
You say, "Look how promiscuous that woman looks! I can't believe she is going around in public like that!" What you are doing when you make comments like this to a guy you're dating is telling him that you're not confident in the way you look. It tells him that you don't love who you are and haven't embraced your own body. You are planting a seed of doubt in him, causing him to wonder if he should date someone else who is more confident (and tolerant). Don't trashtalk other women. It makes you look really insecure and jealous. FISHING FOR COMPLIMENTS This is something that can drive a man crazy. Here is a typical scenario: The guy you're dating looks at you and says, "You really look beautiful tonight!" Ten minutes later, you look at him and ask, "How do I look tonight?" Stop fishing for compliments. Real compliments come from the heart. Allow us to compliment you when we really mean it. If we don't give a compliment at the exact moment you desire it, just accept it and be OK with that. CLINGY AND POSSESSIVE You don't need to do everything together. You're still getting to know him. If there are things he likes to do that simply don't interest you, be cool with it. You don't have to be joined at the hip. If you are going to a cocktail party together, you don't have to be next to him at every moment. If you see him speaking with some woman at the party, do not immediately run over and start grabbing his hand and giving him a big hug, and certainly don't do this all night long. You are being clingy and possessive when you do this. PUSHING FRIENDS ON HIM Avoid pushing friends on us too soon. Example: A woman will hang out with a www.xcelmediaonline.com
guy on the first or second date and say to him, "You have to meet my friends Jessy and Timi. You also have to meet my friends Phil and Anne; they're such a great couple, and you'll love them!" A man hears this and thinks, "I don't even know you yet. Can I get to know you for a month or two before I have to go meet all of your friends and be put on display as 'the boyfriend?'" We don't want to be "the boyfriend" right away. It's too much pressure. We want to get to know you slowly and learn what you're all about. Believe me, once we get to know you, and like you, we will be more willing to get to know all of your friends. ATTEMPTING TO GET BENEFITS IMMEDIATELY It is ironical that many girls do not see anything wrong with asking for this or that even on a first date. You must try as much as possible to curtail your excesses in this direction. Even your orders as much as possible, should be reasonable as it goes a long way in showing the kind of person you are. We like to see reserved women who are not too keen about eating out as though they don't eat at home. Stop seeing outings as opportunities to take your own bite off his finance or pocket. Even asking for recharge cards, toiletries and such things as though you wouldn't survive or do those things if he had not met you is silly and reduces the regards we have for you. Following these tips will no doubt help you get past the first month of a new relationship with a man and avoid some of the major pitfalls that can end a new relationship before it even starts. Be the confident woman you really are so we have a chance to embrace you. Don't scare us off before we have a chance to get to know you!
oda, pop, cola, soft drink whatever you call it, it is one of the worst beverages that you could be drinking for your health. As the debate for whether to put a tax on the sale of soft drinks continues in the developed world, you should know how they affect your body so that you can make an informed choice on your own. Soft drinks are hard on your health Soft drinks contain little to no vitamins or other essential nutrients. However, it is what they do contain that is the problem: caffeine, carbonation, simple sugars or worse, sugar substitutes and often food additives such as artificial coloring, flavoring, and preservatives. A lot of research has found that consumption of soft drinks in high quantity, especially by children, is responsible for many health problems that include tooth decay, nutritional depletion, obesity, type-2 diabetes, and heart disease. Why the sugar in soft drinks isn't so sweet Most soft drinks contain a high amount of simple sugars. The USDA recommendation of sugar consumption for a 2,000-calorie diet is a daily allotment of 10 teaspoons of added sugars. Many soft drinks contain more than this amount Just why is too much sugar so unhealthy? Well, to start, let's talk about what happens to you as sugar enters your body. When you drink sodas that are packed with simple sugars, the pancreas is called upon to produce and release insulin, a hormone that empties the sugar in your blood stream into all the tissues and cells for usage. The result of overindulging in simple sugar is raised insulin levels. Raised blood insulin levels beyond the norm can lead to depression of the immune system, which in turn weakens your ability to fight disease. Something else to consider is that most of the excess sugar ends up being stored as fat in your body, which results in weight gain and elevates risk for heart disease and cancer. One study found that when subjects were given refined sugar, their white blood cell count decreased significantly for
What They Do To Your Body - By Dr. Maoshing N. several hours afterwards. Another study discovered that rats fed a highsugar diet had a substantially elevated rate of breast cancer when compared to rats on a regular diet. The health effects of diet soda: You may come to the conclusion that diet or sugar-free soda is a better choice. However, one study discovered that drinking one or more soft drinks a day and it didn't matter whether it was diet or regular led to a 30% greater chance of weight gain around the belly. Diet soda is filled with artificial sweeteners such as aspartame, sucralose, or saccharin. These artificial sweeteners pose a threat to your health. Saccharin, for instance, has been found to be carcinogenic, and studies have found that it produced bladder cancer in rats. Aspartame, commonly known as nutrasweet, is a chemical that stimulates the brain to think the food is sweet. It breaks down into acpartic acid, phenylalanine, and methanol at a temperature of 86 degrees. (Remember, your stomach is somewhere around 98 degrees.) An article put out by the University of Texas found that aspartame has been linked to obesity. The process of stimulating the brain causes more cravings for sweets and leads to carbohydrate loading. Carbonation depletes calcium Beverages with bubbles contain phosphoric acid, which can severely deplete the blood calcium levels; calcium is a key component of the bone matrix. With less concentration of calcium over a long time, it can lower deposition rates so that bone mass and density suffer. This means that drinking sodas and carbonated water increases your risk of osteoporosis. Add in the caffeine usually present in soft drinks, and you are in for even more trouble. Caffeine can deplete the body's calcium, in addition to stimulating your central nervous system and contributing to stress, a racing mind, and insomnia.Skip the
soda and go for: Fresh water Water is a vital beverage for good health. Each and every cell needs water to perform its essential functions. Since studies show that tap water is filled with contaminants, antibiotics, and a number of other unhealthy substances, consider investing in a quality carbon-based filter for your tap water. On the go? Try using a stainless steel thermos or glass bottle, filled with filtered water. Enhance the flavor of your water with a refreshing infusion of basil, mint leaves, and a drop of honey. Fruit Juice If you are a juice drinker, try watering down your juice to cut back on the sugar content. Buy a jar of organic 100% juice, and then dilute three parts filtered water to one part juice. You will get a subtle sweet taste and the benefit of antioxidants. After a couple of weeks, you will no longer miss the sweetness of sugary concentrated juices. Tea Tea gently lifts your energy and has numerous health benefits. Black, green, white, and oolong teas all contain antioxidant polyphenols. In fact, tea ranks as high or higher than many fruits and vegetables on the ORAC scale, the score that measures antioxidant potential of plant-based foods. Herbal tea does not have the same antioxidant properties, though it is still a great beverage choice with other health benefits, such as inducing calming and relaxing effects. If tea doesn't satisfy your sweet tooth, try adding cinnamon or a little honey, which has important health benefits that refined sugar lacks. I hope you find the ways and means to avoid soft drinks. May you live long, live strong, and live happy!
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Better Days Ahead As
SEN. ABIOLA AJIMOBI Takes Charge As Governor Of Oyo State S
enator Abiola Ajimobi was born to the renown Ajimobi family of Ibadan on the 16th of December, 1949. Abiola Adeyemi Ajimobi had his elementary education at St. Patrick, Abebi, ICC Primary School, Aperin and later attended Lagelu Grammar School for his secondary education. Whilst in school, Abiola was very active in sports, athletics and school curriculum. He was the tennis captain, football captain and the Games Prefect. For his sporting exploits, he was nicknamed ARCHIPELAGO.
After his secondary education which he came out in flying colours, he proceeded to the United States of America where he attended the State University New York, in Buffalo, New York and the Governor's State University, Park Forest, Illinois. He graduated with B.Sc (Honours) in Business Administration and Finance. He also obtained his Masters of Science (MBA) degree in Operations Research and Marketing. As a result of his academic credentials and excellent performance at the New York Insurance examinations, he was engaged as the first Nigerian state certified underwriter by Equitable Life Assurance Corporation, which was the 2nd largest Insurance Company in America. Returning to Nigeria in 1977, he joined Management and Industrial Consulting Firm as a Senior Consultant. He worked briefly with Modulor Group as the Finance and Admin Controller before joining Nestle Foods Plc as the Operations Controllers and later as
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Marketing Controller. In 1979, Senator Abiola Ajimobi joined National Oil & Chemical Marketing Company as the Consumer Products Manager, and became the youngest to occupy such a sensitive position. His excellent performance in a short while earned him promotion to the level of Division Manager within eighteen months. He was seconded to head a newly created Corporate Credit Division reporting directly to the Managing Director. He was later deployed to Ibadan Business District as the Area Manager to ensure the repositioning of the entire company activities in the area. The company and the district experienced his landmark achievements in modern retail network, which resulted in the company's first 3 in 1 largest retail outlet in Nigeria.
Addressing the people of Oyo State
In 1987, based on a worldwide international strategic positioning of the lubricants business desired by Shell International Oil Company, Abiola Ajimobi was appointed the Lubricant Manager, He later held sway at the aviation department. By 1993, he was again posted on international assignment to Shell International Storage Company of Togo, serving the whole of West Africa as Chief Executive. He returned to Nigeria in 1998 and was appointed to the board of the company as Executive Director Marketing, a position he held before his appointment on February 2001, as the Managing Director/Chief Executive Officer of the National Oil & Chemical Marketing Company. In 2003, he voluntary retired after 26 years of meritorious service in the Oil Industry. In that same year, he contested and became a Distinguished Senator of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. He was principal officer in the senate where he served as the Deputy Minority leader of Senate. During his senate days, in 2005, he established the first and the largest FREE VOCATIONAL TRAINING CENTER, in Oyo State, offering training in Computer Engineering, Computer Operations, telephone engineering, fashion design, hair dressing, tie & dye to mention a few. The center has shunned out over 15,000 students to date, majority of them self employed and others have gained employment in banks and many other industries in Nigeria. In 2007, he contested, and is believed to have won, the gubernatorial election under the banner of All Nigeria People Party (ANPP). But like most of his peers in the opposition XL
Gov. Abiola Ajimobi acknowledging cheers from well-wishers at the inauguration
parties he was denied his mandate. As characteristic of him, he leaves everything to God, after exploring all the legal avenues available. He, however, never gave up his desire to serve his people and as God Almighty will have it, he re-contested in the 2011 Gubernatorial election on the platform of Action Congress of Nigeria and emerged victorious in what, for sometime to come, will remain a reference point in the annals of Nigerian History as, perhaps, the most keenly contested Governorship election in contemporary times.
various attires and different shapes of head gears suggested a memorable event was ahead. Prayers were offered both by the Christian and Islamic Clerics. Most. Rev. Felix Alaba Job, prayed and the Chief Imam of Ibadanland, Sheikh Haruna Suara also prayed in Islamic way. Senator Abiola Ajimobi was sworn in at
12 noon by the Chief Judge of the State, Justice Badejoko Adeniji while his deputy, Chief Moses Alake took the oath of office at 11:48 am. Ajimobi said during his inaugural speech that as part of his campaign promises and in accordance with his party manifestoes, he promised to create 20,000 jobs within the first 100 days of
The inauguration of the new governor of Oyo State, Senator Abiola Ajimobi was unique in many respects. The large turn-out of thousands of people to the epochmaking event at the Obafemi Awolowo Stadium was a testimony to the fact that people willingly elected their governor and that their votes indeed counted. The glowing colours of
Gov. Abiola Ajimobi taking salute at the State Box
Their Excellencies, Deputy Gov. Chief Moses Alake, Asiwaju Ahmed Tinubu, Gov. Abiola Ajimobi & wife with Ogbeni Rauf Aregbesola
his administration. He also said that he would start free health care facility by the provision of free health services to children under the ages of five, pre-post natal healthcare for pregnant women, as well as cater for the health care of our aged ones above the age of 70. The glamorous event was well attended by important dignitaries from near and far. Among those that attended includes Chief Bisi Akande,
ACN Chairman, Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, ACN Chief; Ogbeni Rauf Aregbesola, Gov. Osun State; Dr. Kayode Fayemi, Gov. Ekiti State; Chief Lam Adesina, former Gov of Oyo State. Also the General Officer Commanding, 2 div. Nigerian Army, Major Gen. Abubakar and the Commissioner of Police, Mr. Baba Adisa Bolanta.
Adeyemi, Alaafin of Oyo, Oba Jimoh Oyewunmi, Oba Samuel Odulana, Olubadan of Ibadanland who was ably represented by the Otun Balogun Olubadan High Chief Omowale Kuye, while other dignitaries includes, Senator Lekan Balogun, Mrs. Florence Ajimobi, wife of the Gov. and Alhaja Sikiratu Ajimobi, mother of the Governor and many others.
Some of the traditional rulers that were in attendance were Oba Lamidi
Gov. Gov. Rauf Aregbesola (2nd right), Ahmed Tinibu, and Chief Bisi Akande, (ACN National Chairman) XL
Gov. Abiola Ajimobi, taking Oath of Office
...Signs the Oath of Office
Justice Badejoko Adeniji congratulates His Excellency
Gov. Abiola Ajimobi & amiable wife, Mrs Florence Ajimobi
A Colourful Military Parade added colour to the ceremony
His Excellency, Chief Moses Alake (Deputy Gov.) taking the Oath of office With wife beside him
Their Excellencies, Gov. Abiola Ajimobi & Deputy, Chief Moses Alake Adeyemo
Gov. Abiola Ajumobi warmly embraced by wife, Florence
Gov. Rauf Aregbesola on arrival
Asiwaju Ahmed Tinibu (left) on arrival
Gov. Abiola Ajumobi & HRM Oba Lamidi Adeyemi, Alaafin of Oyo
ACN Chieftain, Ahmed Tinubu & Gov. Abiola Ajimobi in a tet-a-tet
Gov. Abiola Ajimobi & Gov. kayode Fayemi exchanging pleasanties
Gov. Kayode Fayemi & Chief Bisi Akande
Justice Badejoko Adeniji, Chief Judge Oyo State & others
Gov. Rauf Aregbesola & Gov. Kayode Fayemi. His Excellency, Lam Adeshina & wife
Asiwaju Ahmed Tinubu addresing the people
Gov. Abiola Ajimobi thanks Chief Bisi Akande (National Chairman, ACN) with Gov. Fayemi (behind)
Gov. Rauf Aregbesola & HRM Oba Lamidi Adeyemi, Alaafin of Oyo
Dr. Kayode Fayemi of Ekiti State & wife
Their Excellencies celebrating amidst a jubilant crowd
Parents & Adolescents P
rofessor and Dr. (Mrs.) Adenifuja (not real names) were stunned as their 15year-old daughter entered the living room. Her hair, one black, was now tilted gold! Even more baffling was the conversation that ensued.
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”Did we give you permission to dye your hair?” “Well, you never said I couldn't.” “Why didn't you ask us?” “Because I know you'd say no!” Adolescence is a time of upheaval not just for youths but also for their parents. Indeed, many fathers and mothers are utterly unprepared for the dramatic changes that take place when their child reaches puberty. “When he became an adolescent, my son tended to be more secretive and wanted to have more privacy. Often, he preferred to be with his friends rather than with me” exclaimed Hajia Sa'adatu who is a single mother. As the parent of an adolescent, you may have experienced this situation or some others and you may wonder; “what could I do?” The book, shaping them into responsible adult” says “Parents need understanding to look beyond the behaviour and perceive just what their children are going through. They also need wisdom to respond in a way that continues to guide their teen toward responsible adulthood.” Do not be fooled by what appears to be an ever-widening gap in the relationship between you and your son or daughter. The fact is, adolescents need and even want their parents' involvement during this challenging stage of life. The Role of Understanding. A youth's desire for independence is not always a sign of rebellion. To prepare for greater responsibilities in adulthood, youths need at least some experience in making decisions. Like little children, teenagers repeatedly ask, “why?” Now, however, a brief, simple reply may not end the discussion. As youths develop their ability to reason, they need more extensive explanations so that their “perceptive powers” can be trained. Whether it occurs early, late, or
right on time, the growth spurt of puberty makes many youths overly aware of how they look. Girls may greet their new curves with excitement or apprehension, or better still, both. Add the discovery of acne and make up and it is easy to see why teens may seem to spend more time in front of the mirror than in front of a school textbook.
Though secrecy can be dangerous, privacy, however, is different. As youths grow, they too need some personal space, and there is the need for adults to respect that space. A degree of privacy helps youths to think things through - a vital skill that will last into adulthood. When confronted with any of the above situations, parents would do well to acquire understanding so that they do not misinterpret the behaviour of their teens. Of course, understanding needs to be coupled with wisdom, the ability to respond to a situation in a way that will produce the best result. How can parents of adolescent do that? Raising an adolescent is no easy task. Besides dealing with the new set of challenges their child resents, parents may have to confront their own misgivings about the fact that their son or daughter is growing up. “Just realize that our children will be gone one day is a sad thought,” admits a mother. “It is not easy to accept the fact that a child you have lived with for the past 18years will leave you someday.” Hard as it may be to accept, adolescents are no longer little children. They are 'adults in training,' and parents are their teachers and cheer leaders. However, parents have the power both to build and to destroy a child's self-confidence. How then can parents find the right balance? Good communication is vital. The Bible admonished parents to be “swift about hearing” and “slow about speaking.” While this is good advice when one is dealing with children of any age, hearing or listening is particularly important with adolescents. And it may require great effort. Perhaps the most frequent cause of conflict between parents and adolescents has to do with the issue of independence. How much freedom should be given to a teenager? The fact that your teenager may be upset by your restrictions does not mean that you should relinquish your authority. Remember, adolescents are inexperienced in life and they still need guidance. In his book New Parent Power! John Rosemond writes: “It is easy for parents to let themselves be intimated by their children's emotional upheavals and begin allowing them more responsibility than they can handle in order to avoid confrontations. Exactly the opposite is called for. This is a time for reaffirming your authority rather than allowing children to dismantle it. Although they will surely reject the notion, it's also a time for children to know that hands other than their own are ready to take the wheels.” Obviously, granting youths unrestricted freedom will reap bad results. Youths of any age need firm guidelines, and parents should be loving but consistent in their enforcement of family rules. At the same time, youth need to be accorded a degree of independence so that they will be better prepared to make wise
decisions later in life. Think for example, of how you learned to walk. At first, as an infant, you had to be carried. In time, you began to crawl and then walk. Of course, becoming mobile can be dangerous for a small child. Thus, your parents kept a close watch on you and may even have put up barriers to restrict you from hazardous areas, such as stairways. Still, they allowed you to move about on your own so that in time, after a number of inevitable falls, you would learn to walk with ease. Attaining independence involves a similar process. At first, parents, in effect, carry their small children. They do this by making decisions for them. Later, as their children demonstrate a degree of maturity, parents allow them to make certain choices for themselves. One of the best ways a youth can bear the yoke of responsibility is to allow him learn his lessons. Likely with good intentions, some parents shield their teens from the consequences of unwise actions. For instance, suppose through frivolous spending a child gets himself into debt. What lesson will be taught if Dad and Mom simply pay it off for him? On the other hand, Parents do their children no favour when they fail to allow them to learn the consequences of irresponsible behaviour. Rather than prepare them for adulthood, this only teaches them that someone will always be there to bail them out, clean up their messes, and cover up their mistakes. It is far better to give teens the opportunity to reap what they have sown and learn how to work through their problems. This is an important aspect of having their “perspective powers trained to distinguish both right and wrong.” There is no doubt that parents of adolescents face a daunting task. At times, they will likely shed tears of frustration as they strive to bring up their children in the discipline and mental-regulating principles of God. In the end, effective parenting is, not about controlling, but about teaching and instilling proper values. Easier said than done? Absolutely, we are dealing with a changing, developing person. This means that we must continually get to know and adjust to that new person. Strive to apply the principles
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With Olawale Osolo
The Incredible Power of
hat is the secret, the mystery, of a successful b u s i n e s s interview? Well, according to that genial scholar Charles W. Elliot, “there is no mystery about successful business intercourse… Exclusive attention to the person who is speaking to you is ver y important. Nothing else is so flattering as that.” Self-evident, isn't it? You don't have to study for four years in Harvard to discover that. Yet I know and you know merchants who will rent expensive space, buy their goods economically, dress their shop or showroom appealingly, spend thousands even millions of naira in advertising, and then hire clerks who haven't the sense to be good listeners- clerks who interrupt customers, contradict them, irritate them, and all but drive them from the store. The chronic kicker, even the most violent critic, will frequently soften and be subdued in the presence of a patient, sympathetic listener- a listener who will be silent while the irate faultfinder dilates like a king cobra and spews the poison out of his system. Years ago, a poor Dutch immigrant boy was washing the windows of a bakery shop after school for fifty cents a week and his people were so poor that he used to collect stray bits of coal that had fallen in the gutter where the coal wagons had delivered fuel. The boy, Edward Bok, never got more than six years' schooling in his life, yet eventually he made himself one of the most successful magazine editors in the history of American journalism. What did he do? Hel left school when he was 13 and became an office boy at 6 dollars a
week; but he didn't for one moment give up the idea of an education. Instead, he started to educate himself. He saved his car fares and went without lunch until he had enough money to buy an encyclopedia of American biographyand then he did an unheard- thing. He read the lives of famous men and wrote them asking for additional information about their childhoods. He was a good listener. He encouraged famous people to talk about themselves. He wrote Gen. James Garfield, who was running for President, and asked if it was true that he was once a tow boy on a canal; and Garfield replied. He wrote Emerson and encouraged Emerson to talk about himself. This Western Union messenger boy was soon corresponding with many of the most famous people in America. Emerson, Phillips Brooks, Oliver Wendell Holes, Longfellow, Mrs. Abraham Lincoln, Louisa may Alcott, Jefferson Davis and so many others. He not only corresponded with these distinguished people but as soon as he got a vacation he visited many of them as a welcome guest in their homes. These men and women fired him with a vision and ambition that revolutionized his life. Another story to illustrate this was during the darkest hour of the Civil War, Abraham Lincoln wrote to an old friend out in Springfield Illinois, asking him to come to Washington. He told him he had some problems he wanted to discuss with him. The old friend called at the White House, and Lincoln talked to him for hours about the advisability of issuing a proclamation freeing the slaves. Lincoln went over all the arguments for and against such a move, and they read letters and newspaper articles denouncing him for not freeing the slaves and other denouncing him for fear he was going to free them. And after talking for hours, Lincoln shook hands with his old friend, and said good night, and sends him back to Illinois without even asking for his opinion in all he said. Lincoln had done all the talking. That seemed to clarify is mind. “He seemed
to feel easier after the talk,” the old friend said. Lincoln hadn't wanted advice. He wanted merely a friendly, sympathetic listener to whom he could unburden himself. That's what we all wants when we are in trouble. That is frequently all the irritated customer wants, that's what the employee threatening industrial action wants, that's what the dissatisfied spouse want, that is what you too want. If you want to know how to make people shun you and laugh at you behind your back and even despise you, never listen to anyone for long. Talk incessantly about yourself. If you have an idea while the other fellow was talking, don't wait for him to finish. He isn't as smart as you. Why waste your time listening to his idle chatter? Bust right in and interrupt him in the middle of a sentence. Do you know people like that? I do, unfortunately, and the astonishing part of it is that some of them have their names in the political, economical and social register. Presidents, Governors, MDs, CEOs, Actors, Actresses, Senators and so on. The man, who talks only of himself, thinks only of himself. And the man who thinks only of himself is hopelessly uneducated. No matter how instructed or informed he may be. So if you aspire to have an appealing personality, be an attentive listener. As Mr. Charles Northam Lee puts it: “To be interesting, be interested” Ask questions that the other man will enjoy answering. ”Encourage him to talk about himself and his accomplishments. Remember that the other man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is to you and your problems. His toothache means more to him than the civil war in Libya that has killed thousands. A boil on his shoulder interest him more than the Tsunami in Japan. Think of that next time you start a conversation.
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A Fresh And New Deal With Gov. Umaru Al-makura In Charge
Gov. Umaru Tanko Al-Makura Governor, Nasarawa State
ll over the world, the wind of change appears to be raging stronger with even greater sagacity. Recently, it was the turn of our brothers who occupy the Northern corner of the continent to push for the change that they so desired. Hosni Mubarak and Ben Ali are in the best position to talk about the outcome. In 2008, President Barrack Obama, the first black to occupy the hallowed
chambers of the United States White House introduced a new form of change drive. He called it, “Yes We can”. Yes We Can, not only succeeded in spear-heading the electioneering victory of the first black president in the history of the United States, it also symbolically marked the end of an old social order which heinously oppressed the fundamental rights of the black man. Such is the power of change.
brewing and it has traced to the State that has been appropriately tagged as “Nigeria's Home of Solid Minerals”Nasarawa. Championing this conflagration is Umaru Tanko Al-Makura, the new Executive Governor of Nasarawa State and he has captioned the change-drive, “A Fresh Start and a New Dawn”.
Back home, a new form of change is
Al-Makura elucidated on the components
Gov. Al-makura acknowledging cheers
and action plan for realizing this new revolution while delivering his inaugural speech at his swearing-in-ceremony in Lafia Township Stadium to the huge crowd of supporters that had thronged the stadium to lend support to the change-drive. However, unlike the Northern Africa revolution which sought to drive-away sit-tight dictatorial leaders, Al-Makura's Change message is hinged on an intense desire to initiate and install an uneven growth and development, so as to better the lots of the people of the State. â€œThe oath I have just taken marks a fresh start in the life of our State, which in the 14 years since its creation has been held hostage to the folly and excesses of its rulers. That we are in stagnation, even decline and decay is self-evident. We are caught up in a grave moral and ethical crisis. Our State institutions are poorly managed, our infrastructures dilapidated, while our economy is weak-the result of myopia, greed and irresponsibility on the part of some,â€? he said, shortly after taken his oath of office. But he was not through with expressing some of the anguish which drove him into contesting for the number one seat in the State. â€œOur men and women, especially the youth are mostly homeless. Gov. Al-makura overwhelmed by the sea of supporters Total support for His Excellency
Gov. Umaru Tanko Al-makura taking Oath of Office
Our healthcare is deficient, our education system is in dire need of reforms and our lack of power and energy threatens our economic progress. Our confidence in our ability to change all this has given way to despair,” he noted. Al-Makura who won the gubernatorial election under the platform of the Congress for Political Change (CPC) proclaimed that ascendance of the party represents; the triumph of principle over depravity, the triumph of change over reaction, the triumph of hope over despair, adding that his emergence as Governor of the State marks the end to the politics of arrogance, pettiness, division and false promises that have plagued the State in the past. He said: “So the time has come to reaffirm our faith in the democratic process; to strengthen our bond with ordinary people, to insist on the old decencies and give free reign to that noble idea that we are all equal, free and entitled to our fair share of opportunities and respect,” he announced, explaining further that, “In our quest for prosperity and freedom, it should be understood that these must be labored for with resolve and diligence. They will not come to us if we choose the easy way out, if we settle for the life of the indolent or seek the delight of easy riches and glory. Our choice, and the only choice, is the path of struggle, hard work and risk-taking, as well as openness to new ideas. Starting from here, we must pull ourselves together and begin anew the task of remarking Nasarawa State”.
Justice Badamasi Maina (CJ, Nasarawa state) congratulates Gov. Al-makura
Governor Al-Makura while reeling out some notable items in his “A Fresh Start and New Deal” package said that his Government will stimulate the Nasarawa economy for long-term growth and impart on youths, skills which will prepare them for self-employment. He said that he will undertake road constructions, inside and outside towns and villages and improve the energy capacity of the State so as to be able to meet its power needs. “We will restore education, particularly science, to its rightful place and transform our institutions of learning to meet the standards of time. In particular, we will ensure that the benefits of information technology penetrate the State inside and outside our places of learning. Our healthcare delivery has to be improved, with its reach expanded to all of our people, and at affordable cost into the bargain,” he promised. ...Now signs
Deputy Gov., Mr. Damishi Luka takes Oath of Office
He pledged to preserve, protect and review the conditions of service and reward systems of the State's Civil Service and equip it with the skills and tools to carryout its functions, stressing that the new CPC Government will be an accountable and corrective one. He also promised to respect and support the traditional rulers in the State they have a duty as they act in the best interest of all as custodians of the tradition of the people. He however urged them to steer clear of partisan politics in order not to fall into disrepute. Umaru Tanko Al-makura, born some 57 years ago in Lafia and attended Dunama Primary School in also Lafia before he proceeded to Government Teachers College, Keffi and Advanced Teachers College in Uyo between 1972-1975. He also attended the famous Ahmadu Bello University in Zaria where he
graduated with Bachelor of Education Degree with specialization in Social Studies. His political career began from his secondary school days when in his final year, he was elected secretary of all major clubs and societies in the school among which were the Literary and Debating Society, Dancing Club and the Muslim Students Society. In 1980, two years after he ventured into politics, Al-Makura emerged the Youth Leader of the then national Party of Nigeria (NPN) in the then Plateau State. Meanwhile the presidential candidate of the CPC the last Presidential election, Retired General Muhammadu Buhari made a stunning and unannounced appearance at Al Makura's inauguration ceremony which sent the appreciative crowd into an ecstatic and euphoric jubilation.
Buhari entered the stadium at about 11:20am on foot and climbed the staircase leading to the VIP box where other dignitaries were already sitting. Midway at the staircase, he stopped and turned to face the arena, raising his two thumbs up to the people. Chants of â€œNigeria, Sai Buhari,â€? rented the air. The crowd cheered the former Military Head of State in what took additional effort from security men to calm down. Drummers and dancers including the State cultural troupe joined in the chants. The frenzy lasted for over 10 minutes and died down only after Buhari took his seat beside the Emir of Lafia, Alhaji Mustapha Agwai. Indeed, change beckons on Nasarawa State but only time and the measure of support that Governor Al-Makura receives will tell how strong the wind will blow.
More congrats for Gov. Al-Makura
His Excellency, Danishi Luka signs XL
Gov. Umaru Tanko Al-makura & Gen Mohammed Buhari
Isiyaku Ibrahim & Gen. Mohammed Buhari(Retired)
Sen. Solomon Ewuga, former CJ, Ahmed Ubaugari & Comissioner of Police
A colourful Parade
Gov. Al-makura & Gen. Buhar thumps-up for the supportersi
Gov. Umaru Tanko Al-makur addressing the people
Gov. Al-makur & Hassan Jabara
Sarkin Lafia Alh. Isa Mustapha Agwai(Chairman, Nasarawa State Traditional Council)
His Excellency chats with CPCâ€™s National Youth Leader
Osana of Keana, Emmanuel, Elayo
Sarkin Awe CP, Nasarawa State
Jibrin Suleman, Special Assistant on Special Duties XL
Deputy Gov., Mr. Damishi Luka waving supporters
Sen. Solomon Ewuga (3rd right) with supporters
Andoma of Doma, Alh. Ahmadu Ogah (right)
Badamasi Maina, C.J. Nasarawa State
Hassan Jabara (centre)
Dr. (Mrs.) Nahibi & Alh. Mustapha, CPCâ€™s Deputy National Chairman
Sen. Adullahi Aboki & wife
Hon. Ishak Ahmed Kara (6th left) & friends
Alh. Bala Ahmed & Dangaladiman Keffi
Emir of Loko
A bevy of beautiful ladies
Alh. Jafaru Sule (Center)
Sarkin Kwandare, Ahmadu Al-makura
Andoma of Doma(Center)
Congrats! Your Excellency
Prof. Mainama, DVC, Nasarawa State Uni., (centre) & Mustafa Bello (right)
Gov. Umaru Tanko Al-makur with wives, First Lady, Salamatu (left) & Mairo (right)
Maryam Adamu Musa (left), Gov. Al-makura & others His Excellency & Hon. Silas Dachor
His Excellency with Sen. Solomon Ewuga His Excellency with Jack Per
Gov. Tanko Al-makura & family at the Dinner Mario Tanko Al-makura
n behalf of the Management and Staff of XCEL International Magazine, I congratulate Your Excellency on your resounding victory at the polls: It is our believe that your victory is a demonstration of the Peopleâ€™s love and confidence in your abilities. May Allah guide you in this onerous task of piloting the affairs of our beloved Nasarawa State.
MOHAMMED DIKKO Operations, North-Central XL
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