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Healthy LifeStyle Winning the Fight Against Heart Disease: 3 Women’s Stories ........12 Heart Attack Warning Signs for Women ........................................26 Top Ways to Help Children Develop Healthy Habits ......................26

Broaden Your Horizons The Game of Love............................................................................4 Forgiving Without Words ................................................................8 Reader’s Lounge ............................................................................38

Looking & Feeling Good Fitness for Couples ..........................................................................6 Big Day Beauty ..............................................................................16 Let’s Get Intimate ..........................................................................19 Dr. Hubbard Stresses the Importance of Reducing Stress................36

Interior Ideas Conquer Your Clutter: Keeping the Collections You Love Under Control ........................10 Sanctuary: The Master Suite ..........................................................28

A Taste of Something New Recipes Taste of Paradise Recipes Shish Kabob Chicken Sandwiches ................................................20 Lilikoi Mayonnaise........................................................................20 Sweet Bread Pudding Parfait ........................................................21 Soul Delicious & Heart Healthy Recipes Pineapple Upside-Down Cake ......................................................27 Curried Pork and Sweet Potato Stew............................................27

Out & About Faces and Places............................................................................ 18 Go Red for Women with Diana Nyad ............................................32 Events Calendar ...................................................................... 30-35 Date Night.................................................................................... 35

Faces in Healthcare Meet area healthcare providers on a more personal level. Be sure to check out the medical advice each of them offers. Dr. Brian D. Bearie..........................................................................23 Julie A. Bekius RN, MSN, FNP-C ....................................................23 Michael L. Bennett, M.D. ..............................................................24 Michael T. Burcon, B.Ph., D.C. ......................................................24 Kevin P. Flood, DDS........................................................................25 Michael Kwast, DC, CSCS ..............................................................25 Prerana Manohar, MD, FACC ........................................................26

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The Game of

by Angela Klinske

How do I Love Thee – Let Me Count the Ways This love-filled narrative reveals all of Women’s Lifestyle Magazine’s favorite romantic movies and perhaps some of yours. Can you find them all? Circle or underline your finds. Here’s a hint: There are 75 in all!


efore sunrise, Sabrina took a walk in the clouds with Dr. Zhivago. They arrived in the City of Angels for what was supposed to be an affair to remember. “There’s something about Mary,” he said of another pretty woman. “She’s all that.” “You’re clueless,” she replied, and thus, the forces of nature triggered the breakup – a failure to launch love at first bite if you will, and this runaway bride called off the wedding singer. “You’ve got mail,” said her Blackberry, and in an instant she was gone with the wind to Casablanca. Upon her arrival, she found the notebook, inscribed with the words, “I miss the way we were.” Filled with pride and prejudice and just a tinge of serendipity, she stopped to have breakfast at Tiffany’s. Perusing the menu and contemplating to have or have not, she wondered, is this as good as it gets? Six days, seven nights and then gone in a splash? “Love actually feels just like heaven,” she heard a ghost whisper. She listened to the music and lyrics to One Fine Day as she pursed her lips against the tin cup of coffee. As she realized something’s gotta give, her heart sank like the Titanic. Finally, she mustered the strength of King Kong and wrote out


a list of 10 things I hate about you and what’s mine, yours and ours. Making sense and sensibility of what women want, this working girl realized she had never been kissed, knew all too well how to lose a guy in 10 days, and thought about jumping out the rear window. Moonstruck and sleepless in Seattle, she headed to the place where Harry met Sally and cried over her 50 first dates. Suddenly, she was swept far and away by the phantom of the opera. Off they went somewhere in time. Enchanted, she thought this felt a lot like love. After spending an autumn in New York, she gave her two weeks’ notice, hired the wedding planner and asked her best friend Annie Hall to be made of honor. She tried on 27 dresses (she looked pretty in pink) and planned a downto-earth affair that rivaled my big fat Greek wedding. Along came Polly, Mr. Deeds, Kate and Leopold and they were all bringing down the house, dirty dancing to Sweet Home Alabama while you were sleeping. Within nine months she was knocked up and America’s sweethearts lived happily ever after. It could happen to you…

February 2009

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How’s your heart? Find things this month you can do to keep your heart healthy – physically through finding a fitness activity you enjoy (how about yoga or ballroom dancing?); emotionally through concentrating on what matters most to you; and even romantically, by strengthening your relationship with your significant other or building friendships and connections with the people in your life. We have some wonderful news to share with you: Now you can flip through the pages of Women’s LifeStyle Magazine by visiting our newly updated Web site at Search for recipes, articles, even our advertisers on the Web site, where you’ll find links to all of our advertisers and to all Web sites mentioned in WL. What a great way to read more about the topics covered each month and learn more about local business.

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Fitness for Couples:


While Building Better Bodies

By Kimberly Monaghan

Kimberly Monaghan is a freelance writer and certified yoga instructor.


he 14th of February, Valentine’s Day, is a day traditionally filled with romantic surprises. Roses, romantic getaways, rich chocolates and gourmet dinners with sparkling champagne are all ways couples celebrate their love. But what about the 15th? The 16th? Still want to keep that romance going all year long? How about a romantic indulgence with a much lower cost and zero calories? What better way is there to say I love you, I care about you, and that I want to spend time with you than finding a fun activity in which you and your partner can get in shape. Not only will you be building better bodies, you’ll be encouraging one another to stay healthy, to live longer and to stick to a fitness program, all while spending quality time together.

A “Couple” of Good Reasons Encouragement, bonding, accountability and upping the ‘fun factor’ are major reasons couples find ways to get fit together. Through her teachings with couples on how to incorporate a healthy partner practice into life, Kimberlee Jensen-Stedl, a traveling yoga instructor and owner of 8th Element Yoga in Missoula, Montana, explains that when you partake in a fitness program together, “you practice your compromising and collaboration skills and you feel wonderful that you are sharing a healthy lifestyle.” Safety, motivation, support, faster goal attainment, developing common interests and reducing stress are all proven benefits when couples workout together. Dr. Ronda VanderWall and her husband J.R. met playing sports in college and continue to swim, cycle, run and compete in triathlons as a couple. “It was only natural to continue to workout together after graduation,” said VanderWall. “Spending time together has been our biggest proponent now. The level of fitness when working out together is actually more enjoyable because we can push each other and see the results day to day. If you can leave all your other issues out of the gym, then the time spent together will be that much more powerful. Exercise has the ability to connect you on a more personal level when both people are focused and enjoying themselves.”


Time Together If finding time is an issue, there are many fitness activities such as walking the dog, gardening, biking to the store and learning to dance for social events, which can be time-conscious as well as productive. If you’re not ready to commit hours each week to a new fitness regimen, start with something that is readily available, requires less set-up, and can be broken down into small time increments. Hiking, Frisbee, race walking, resistance training – even hula hooping – are just some of the activities that can be worked into a busy schedule. Just being with someone you care about makes the time go by much faster, explains Jensen-Stedl. “That’s the beauty of yoga. You can squeeze out just ten minutes if that’s all that you have.” There are also other factors that must be considered when carving out a fitness time, such as busy professional lives, family schedules and varying peak energy hours. Whereas one person may prefer a morning activity, their partner may feel more energized in the evening. “We try to alternate the

times we workout during the week,” explained Vanderwall. “We do have different motivation levels and energy but, thankfully, we have similar schedules so we can do this.” Despite the challenges, keep in mind that setting aside the time is more than just making a fitness commitment; it’s about committing to one another.

Isn’t It Romantic? Just about any sport, athletic activity or fun fitness craze can be turned into a romantic rendezvous. Whereas some activities naturally bring two people together like dancing, fencing, tennis and badminton, other activities forge a deeper bond as you learn and teach one another. Horseback riding, bowling, archery, scuba diving, skiing and cycling can not only be shared, but can lay the foundation for other related activities including preparatory weight training, competing in challenges or shopping for equipment together. Selecting an adventurous activity may be a way for you to demonstrate teamwork while sharing a life long dream together. Scuba diving, Argentinean Tango, skydiving, surfing, martial arts and base jumping all require some forethought, planning, as well as developing a level of fitness prior to trial. Setting aside time together to prepare, train and participate provides an opportunity for fun dialogue, dream sharing and motivational support, and it naturally heightens the romance and anticipation of experimenting in a new adventure together.

Couples Fitness Inspiration: “The ABCs of Couple’s Fitness,” DVD. Razor Digital Entertainment, 2007. “Yoga with a Friend” by Kimberlee JensenStedle and Todd Stedle, Ph.D. 8th Element Yoga, Web site for people looking for sports, hobbies and fun activities to bring couples and singles together.

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Meaning, no matter our loved one’s choice of behavior, we will always hope to keep our heart open, compassion written upon its door post. We will try to understand and forgive – without the usual prerequisite of bending, bowing or groveling – because we know that through their own unwise choice, they are conflicted within themselves. We are able to forgive without words because we love without barriers.

The Blessings of an Apology On the other hand, there is cleansing value in offering an apology when one has erred. By saying we are sorry, the air is cleared. We also clear out the clutter of our own mind. We are better able to identify and give voice to troublesome emotions or behavior patterns when we are able to perceive the error of our ways. By owning up to them, by apologizing, as humbling as the act can be, we will actually begin to feel better about ourselves. And, we get to learn something new about ourselves, too, which is always a good thing. By receiving an apology, we are invited into graciousness. When our loved one says, ever so sincerely, “I’m sorry,” we are beckoned to lay down the gauntlet and engage hospitably. We open our hearts, open our arms, and welcome them in. Accepting an apology gently, graciously, softens us. It reunites us as friends and lovers, deepening our intimacy in profound ways. Apologizing is an act that has tremendous healing benefits for both the giver and the receiver. alentine’s Day is one of those rose-laden holidays that comes with its fair share of thorns. As February 14 rolls around, we may find ourselves reflecting on celebrations of the past: those that made our hearts dance with joy, as well as those that sorely disappointed. Yet isn’t that the nature of love itself? Romantic love, any day of the year, can lift us to the heights of bliss or cast us into the depths of despair. It seems to me that we might appreciate love in all its guises a bit more if we could give a little more of ourselves, minimize our expectations, and keep our hearts open to one another.

“Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry.” The first time I heard this phrase was in 1971. I was 15 years old. Sitting in a darkened movie theater, holding my boyfriend’s hand, I sobbed uncontrollably as a dying Ali McGraw uttered this now famous sentiment to Ryan O’Neil. The words flowed from her lips into my heart but, truthfully, I wasn’t sure what they really meant. I was an idealistic and naive teen. I thought they sounded romantic, but were they true? If you love someone, is it really possible to never say you’re sorry? My parents said they were sorry to one another when a misunderstanding occurred. So did just about everyone I knew, including me. I was a bit confused.


Today as a more mature woman, I believe I understand what the author of Love Story, Erich Segal, meant by the phrase. When difficulties occur between two individuals, instead of reacting with anger or judgment, we can thoughtfully respond. We can choose a higher road, seeking to understand why our loved one might have said what they did. Instead of a knee jerk response to a perceived slight or hurt, we can hold our silence and try to access a more peaceful place inside of us where clarity prevails. We can adopt a stance of compassion to “walk in their shoes;” to get the story behind the story; to uncover their motivation – especially their underlying hurt or pain – and offer a merciful response, rather than our own emotion-laden one.

Author Kent Nerburn wrote, “Forgiveness alone, of all our human actions, opens up the world to the miracle of infinite possibility.” I believe this to be true. When we keep our hearts open to one another, especially through the act of forgiveness, anything is possible. Old wounds are healed. New bonds are created. Love flourishes in an atmosphere of compassion and forgiveness. This Valentine’s Day my hope is that we will be gentler and kinder to one another. May we focus on our relationship’s fragrance rather than its thorns. May we create unlimited opportunities for love to grow and thrive. May compassion prevail, so no one need apologize anymore.

When Segal penned, “Love means never having to say you’re sorry,” he may have been inviting us into a deeper understanding of love and relationships. He seems to be asking us to explore a new model of human intimacy. He believes, as I do now, that an apology would never be necessary if we could perceive others (and their issues) with wise eyes and an open heart. Then, any response we might offer would be a compassionate one. Granted, this is a very exalted level of communication, but certainly one worth striving for. We might label this form of interaction as “unconditional love.”

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C o n q u e r Yo u r C l u t t e r You know the story: You went on a trip and wanted to pick up a small something to remember the place – a little salt and pepper set maybe. How cute. Trip after trip, they added up. Friends and family found your collection so cute that they too began to pick up salt and pepper shakers when traveling… for you. The salt and peppers outgrew the kitchen display shelf and then the hutch. You even tried serving Thanksgiving dinner with a small pair by each place setting – cute idea, but a lot of pepper-filling sneezing going on. When does that beloved collection become clutter? Collections often start by accident, as like items begin to accumulate, but pretty soon they’re out of control. That’s what you want to stop in its tracks.

Keeping Collections You Love Under Control By Alexandra Fix

GIVE IT A SPACE Determine just how much space you want to give to a particular collection and firmly maintain that decision. If you decide on one shelf for your cookbook collection, don’t let it spill onto a second shelf. It will just keep growing. Instead, purge the first shelf periodically so there’s always room for one more cookbook. One way to handle a large collection is to display only part of the collection at a time. Allot a certain display space in your living area and enjoy your arrangement. Clear a shelf in your basement and store the remainder of the items there. If you have easy access, it will be simple to rotate pieces as you wish. Another interesting space might be a mixed arrangement. Try displaying those salt and pepper shakers among your cookbooks. Mix collectible figurines and frames among the book collection on your bookcase.

GIVE IT A SEASON Collections are meant to be displayed, not to be hoarded away, but sometimes there is just too much for too long. This is when a seasonal collection can be quite satisfying. My own personal collection is an assortment of nutcrackers. Naturally associated with the Christmas holiday, I’ve extended that season to include Thanksgiving because of the setup work involved. As much as I enjoy being surrounded by this collection for a couple of months, I am just as delighted when January comes and I put them all in storage. I replace their space with minimalism. Many


of their former surfaces are dusted and bare and the curio cabinet simply holds glass and clean lines for the rest of the winter season.

GIVE IT A USE If possible, don’t just display your collections, use them. Enjoy them. Serve tea in your teapots. Wear your vintage aprons while cooking and offer them for pleasurable guest use. Incorporate your collectibles into clothing or objects you might make. Sew button and ribbon treasures you find onto sweaters or pillows.

GIVE IT SOME ORGANIZATION There are Internet sites available (try that allow you to catalog your collectibles, post pictures, find their potential value, share your collections with others and sell or trade items if you wish.

GIVE IT A LIMIT If your collection is growing wild, stop purchasing on impulse. Leave the store, think it through and come back if you really must add it to your collection. What do you do if your collectible of choice suddenly has become a trend and it’s everywhere? You don’t need every single shirt/glass/mug with a chicken emblazoned upon it. Smile when you see it in the store, but don’t purchase it unless there is a distinct draw to that one particular item. If need be, play a game of “chicken” with yourself – you can only buy the 10th chicken item you see.

How do you stop the influx from well-meaning friends? Spread the word and let them know that you have decided to limit your collection. If there’s a particularly prolific offender, send that individual a personal note saying how much you have appreciated her gifts but how you’ve now decided to reduce the collection acquisitions. In fact, along with the note, gift her with a favorite she gave you in the past. (If necessary, keep re-gifting her past gifts until she gets the hint or begs for your whole collection.)

GIVE IT AWAY Have you somehow acquired too many heirlooms from relatives? Why not invite family over, display the stash, and maybe oldest to youngest, let them choose what they would love to take home. Is your collection boring you? Sometimes it’s necessary to accept that interests change as time passes. Not all collections are meant to be forever. Try this: Click a photo of your wonderfully abundant collection and then let it go. Frame the photo and simply enjoy the memory forever. When you’re ready to let your collectibles go, consider giving them to a favorite charity thrift store or a silent auction for a cause dear to you. Again, there are Internet sites ready to come to the rescue. Check out or and find people in your city who are interested in your items for free, for exchange or for purchase. Share your collectible wealth.

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WINNING THE FIGHT Against Heart Disease

ore than 42 million American women are living with one or more types of cardiovascular disease, yet only one in five women view heart disease as their greatest health threat. In fact, more women die of cardiovascular disease than the next five causes of death combined, including cancer.


Here are just a few stories of women who have fought – and are winning – the fight against heart disease.

paramedics took my blood pressure and it was 236 over 160. They said ‘we can’t let you walk anywhere.’” Stephanie went to the hospital, then spent the next year trying to manage her conditions with medication. “But we couldn’t get my blood pressure down. We couldn’t get my blood sugars under control. I was tired all the time and then I started having chest pain.” Stephanie was diagnosed with coronary artery disease at 24, when she learned that two of her arteries were 90 percent blocked. She had surgery to insert three stents. The next week she felt miserable as she recovered. But the week after, she felt great. Healthy. “When I got out of the hospital, I felt like I could do anything I wanted,” she said. “I immediately became 10 times more active. I started playing a lot of tennis. I started running.”

Stephanie Chan Brooklyn, NY Age: 27 Age at time of event: 24



tephanie Chan’s heart was on her mind a lot three years ago. Just walking across the parking lot to her car left her out of breath.

“I had trouble keeping up with the normal things I wanted to do. When you sit or walk, you’re not supposed to feel how hard your body works to get you around,” said Stephanie, 27. “But I could feel my heart working really hard.” At 16, Stephanie, who was overweight, had been diagnosed with diabetes, high cholesterol and high blood pressure. Stephanie said these things were mentioned casually by her physician. In short, she didn’t know they were a big deal. “Because I wasn’t well educated about those conditions, they went unmanaged for a long time.” As a college undergraduate, Stephanie said she ate a typical fast-food diet. “I rarely cooked my own food and often ate out.” The only reason she started managing her conditions was a minor car accident when she was 23. “The


Today Stephanie, a graduate student in New York, has lost 70 pounds and significantly reduced her blood pressure and cholesterol. She works out five to six times a week and is training for a marathon. She said her experience has pushed her to eat healthy. Now a “picky vegetarian,” Stephanie’s diet is heavy on protein, fiber and produce. “I’m a big label reader.” When she feels her heart beating, it’s because she’s been pushing herself physically – for example, inline skating from one place to another. “After stents, I was amazed at how much I could do. Just being able to park the car and walk across the parking lot without pain has been a big change.” Learning to trust her body has been another. “The best advice I can give is to get regular check-ups from your primary care doctor. And if you feel something unusual that you don’t understand, trust your body and go to the doctor immediately.” Stephanie said she was shocked to learn that heart disease is the No. 1 killer of women. “When you think about people having heart attacks and strokes and angioplasties, you don’t automatically think about people who are in their 20s or 30s. “I’m young. I was a regular college student and I developed heart disease. The American Heart Association’s Go Red For Women movement shows women that everyone can find someone they can relate to and that they’re not alone in their struggle.”

Theresa Volpe Lutherville (Baltimore), MD Age: 39 Age at time of event: 38



heresa Volpe has a message for every woman who puts off seeing her doctor: Don’t do it. “As women we say, ‘Oh, I have to make a doctor’s appointment, but this week I have soccer games to attend, so I’ll do it next week.’” That’s what Theresa, a wife and mother of two, told herself when she was tired, short of breath and felt back and chest pains last year. But the fatigue was really getting to her. “I wouldn’t carry the laundry up and down the steps, because I knew that it would wear me out.” She pledged to rest more. “I would get tired washing my hair. I thought, ’Well, I’m really out of shape – I can’t even wash my hair anymore.’ I’d put the girls to bed around eight o’clock, and I’d sit down to watch TV, and by nine o’clock I was asleep.” A few weeks later, Theresa saw her doctor and had a stress test. “I had a feeling that it was my heart, but all the tests were saying it wasn’t. A lot of people told me that if I had been a man who had gone to the doctor with the same symptoms, I would’ve been sent straight to the Emergency Room.”

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Two months later, Theresa had a massive heart attack at a family birthday party. She was 38. “I was throwing my plate away when a funny sensation came over me, like the blood was drained from me,” she said. “Both my arms felt heavy and numb, and I had an odd sensation of pressure in my jaws.” The pain got worse. “I felt like an elephant was standing on my chest. It was difficult for me to talk,” she said. “If I could have crawled out of my body, I would have.” At that point, Theresa didn’t doubt that it was her heart – but the paramedics and her husband, John, did. John wanted to know if it could be indigestion. The paramedics thought she could walk to the ambulance. When the EKG at the hospital showed she was having a massive heart attack, Theresa was airlifted to another hospital near Baltimore, where the doctor told John that he should bring their daughters to say goodbye. Theresa had four stents to open blockages in blood vessels that provide nutrition and oxygen to her heart, allowing blood to flow smoothly to her heart again, and spent five days at the hospital recovering. “When I was lying in the hospital bed, I thought, Why did this happen to me? I’m 38 years old.” She found out that her family history was partly to blame. Theresa’s brother had a heart attack at 47, her father died of one, and all of his siblings died of heart disease before age 60. “But I was a child when they died. And so many years had passed that I didn’t realize that I had a risk factor.” In addition, “the only exercise I got was running after my kids, and I ate whatever I wanted.” At home, she had three great reasons to get in shape: a supportive husband and their daughters, Elizabeth and Grace. She called the girls into her bedroom and drew a picture of her heart to help explain what happened. She didn’t want them to be afraid. But she wanted them to understand. “They knew I had a heart attack. Their pediatrician said to tell them that the blockage in blood vessels nurturing her heart was fixed and reassure them that I would be OK.” Her daughters also learned that their mom needs to exercise to stay healthy. Theresa and John both follow a heart-healthy diet now. “I eat completely differently than I used to. I look at each day as a gift.” The community of Go Red For Women has also played a role in Theresa’s recovery. “It’s great because when you’re 38 years old and you have a heart attack, a lot of people don’t know what you’re going through – the emotions, the fear. It’s so nice to meet other women and know, ‘OK, I’ve survived a year, but these women have survived eight years, 10 years. They’re still alive and here to tell their story. So I feel really lucky to meet them. “I want women to know that their family history is important, that they should know their blood pressure and cholesterol numbers. Even though I have a family history of heart disease, I still didn’t think, as a woman, that it could happen to me. If I had realized that I was at risk, I would hope that I would have lived differently.”

Patricia Henderson St. Charles, MO Age: 53 Age at time of event: 44



n a chilly winter morning nine years ago, Patricia Henderson caught her breath. She thought she had inhaled too much cold air. Two days later, at the gym, she felt a nagging, burning sensation in her chest.

“It just seemed like I couldn’t do anything.” That was unusual for Patricia, a busy HR professional who had never dealt with anything more serious than a sinus infection. It’s February in St. Louis – probably just the weather, she thought. Still, Patricia called her doctor, who suggested they meet in the ER. Tests revealed that her left coronary artery was 85 percent blocked. She had no family history of heart disease. She had surgery a few days later. The next day, Patricia recalls, she felt fine but as she ate soup in her hospital bed, she became faint. The next thing she remembers is waking up two days later and finding out that she’d had a heart attack and then gone into cardiac arrest. “Medically, I was dead for one hour,” she said. “My doctor manually manipulated my heart to bring me back to life.” The hospital staff called her a miracle patient. Patricia, who was 44, asked her doctor what made him continue. “He said I was too young to die, so he could not let me go. He just kept trying and trying.” After 13 days in the hospital, going home wasn’t easy, even with her family’s support. Just walking around the house for two minutes was a strain. Patricia, a self-described “cheerleader for life,” hadn’t exactly been a couch potato. Before her hospital stay, she played golf, worked out and taught aerobics. And she was driven. After the surgery, she should feel better. So when was she going to? The answer was about four months later. “I wasn’t just trying to get better physically, but mentally too. I was afraid to go out without my husband, Henry Lee – I needed him near me.” Patricia explored her feelings of fear and “why me?” with a psychologist. “I would hold my pulse just because I wanted to know that my heart was beating.” She began recovering physically and mentally and eventually returned to work. Patricia’s favorite cousin, T.C., urged her to share her story with the American Heart Association. “You gotta stop being so secretive about it. Women need to know that yes, they can have a heart attack and survive and go back to what they were doing.” Patricia learned about the community of Go Red For Women. Sharing her story has helped her recovery. “The movement shows women who have had a heart event that they are not alone – they have sisters and friends who want to be there for them. We’ve gone through it. We’re passionate about it,” she said. Heart disease kills more women than the next five causes of death combined, but it often goes undiagnosed. “Since I became a survivor, I know my numbers and the importance of listening to my body.” Her cardiologist told Patricia that if she hadn’t paid attention to the small symptoms – the shortness of breath, the burning in her chest – she wouldn’t be here today. “Your body talks to you,” Patricia said. “When you notice something different, you need to tell your doctor.” She has also learned that her active lifestyle before improved her ability to recover. Patricia’s scar makes some people feel sorry for her but she doesn’t feel sorry for herself. She doesn’t want perfect, blemish-free skin. For her the scar is a poignant reminder of what she went through. “To me it’s a lifeline. Since my heart attack, I want to live every day to the fullest, because I know it’s a day I will never see again.”

February 2009


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Remarkable Women

Connie Jones Stroke Survivor Connie Jones lost her father from a stroke at age 47, and it was weighing heavily on her mind when she had a doctor’s appointment on the anniversary of his death. She herself was almost the same age and she weighed 400 lbs. She tried to change her life with small steps. She lost four pounds and thought, “Maybe I can do more.” When Connie started walking around the block her knees hurt, but she kept going. Those small steps began to make a difference and she’s now up to three miles, six days a week. But Connie hasn’t stopped there; she does Pilates on Tuesdays, also cardio-salsa and cardio-aerobics twice a week. She was on her way to her current total weight loss of 163 pounds and when things were looking up, tragedy struck. Connie suffered her first stroke March 7, 2007. She was having a few odd health symptoms such as a partial loss of vision while at a friend’s home. Yet, she drove home, then called a friend and began to stutter while speaking. The friend then called paramedics.

Mike and Connie Lettinga pose with their daughters, 10-year-old fraternal twins Crystal (left) and Coral (right).

Remarkable Couple

Mike and Connie Lettinga Outstanding Volunteers By Angela Klinske Mike and Connie Lettinga of Byron Center are the recipients of Hope Network’s 2008 Outstanding Volunteer Legacy Award for their continued efforts with the organization Mike’s dad, Wilbur Lettinga, co-founded in the 1970s. As philanthropists, the Lettingas aren’t afraid to get their hands dirty. Whether donning a hairnet while serving lunch in the hospital cafeteria or serving on a board of directors, when they see a need, they find a way to fill it.

Connie went to St. Mary’s Hospital and then to Mary Free Bed for treatment and aggressive physical therapy. A large part of her recovery has been to continue with her fitness regimen even though she’s still having Transient Ischemic Attacks (TIAs), commonly called mini-strokes. Through her friend, Pam Chapman, a registered nurse and director of Spectrum Health’s Sisters in Action program, she continues to learn more about her health, take nutritional classes, and has a membership with the David D. Hunting YMCA. She is fun-loving and supportive of others who ask her for help in their own health journey. Even though Connie has temptations and family stresses, including the fact that her only child is serving his third tour of duty in Iraq, she is her own greatest motivator to stay healthy. She encourages all women to exercise on a regular basis and pay attention to their diet. We hope to see her wearing those small vintage Gloria Vanderbilt jeans that she is using for motivation!

“Our generation needs to realize it’s not about giving money… time is just as important,” said Connie Lettinga, 40. “It’s about doing things for people, like taking them to doctor’s appointments. Just listening and being a friend is helpful.” Even their 10-year-old daughter Crystal isn’t afraid to help out. “She will go and help a neighbor shovel,” said Connie. These days, the couple’s focus has been on helping people with autism, a disorder their daughter Coral (and Crystal’s fraternal twin) was diagnosed with six years ago. Since Coral’s diagnosis, she’s attended ongoing therapies and doctors’ appointments – some as far away as Detroit. The Lettingas desired one convenient location for their daughter and other people with autism to receive treatments and have spent much of the past six years making that vision a reality. Last year, through Hope Network’s “Brighter Futures” campaign, the Lettingas took the lead in fundraising efforts to construct a new outpatient therapy building at the Coral Lettinga Campus of Hope Network. The 7,000 square-foot Institute for Neurodevelopmental Differences will provide the one-stop services the Lettingas have dreamed of, including a therapeutic activity gym specially equipped to handle the sensory issues many autistic children have. The facility will house a respite center for parents and therapeutic areas for the organization’s inpatient and outpatient clients. They are about half way to raising the $1.2 million needed for construction. Connie says it isn’t hard to find help from the people of west Michigan. “When we ask for help, they step up and do it,” said Connie. “They just need a little bit of direction, or just to be asked.” photo courtesy Joe Petz of x-rite

February 2009



Big Day

By Marianne Bocheim

Beauty Must-Haves for Your Wedding Day

Having beautified many brides and their attendants, I’ve laid witness to a lot of “woulda-shouldacoulda” mishaps. So, now I offer these tips that can help brides-to-be achieve a natural and healthy glow on their big day.

Seek out a makeup artist in advance. Ask friends and acquaintances for referrals and meet with at least three artists (ask to see their portfolios). Also, hiring a makeup artist who can come to you on your wedding day can alleviate stress. Be cautious about going to a department store on your wedding day to have your makeup done. Most cosmetic counters will not do runthroughs with bridal attendants, so your bridesmaids may not be happy with the results. Also, going to a department store may be “free,” but beauty advisors do expect a purchase in return for their time. Let your makeup artist do a run through in advance so that on your wedding day, there are no surprises and you will get exactly what you want. If you do choose to go to a department store, be sure to ask if the same beauty advisor will be able to do your makeup on the big day. Clip examples from magazines with the look you’re trying to achieve to show your makeup artist. Always purchase and carry your lip product(s) and a translucent powder compact with you to keep your look fresh the entire day.

Remember: makeup can do only so much to make you look radiant. Your skin will speak for itself. At least six months before your wedding day, begin a skincare regimen, especially if you have problematic skin. A proper cleansing, moisturizing and treatment routine will give your skin the beautiful glow you’ll want to remember in the photos for years to come. If you plan on jetting away for your honeymoon, well-balanced healthy skin will also be less likely to go haywire when heading for warmer climates. Consult an esthetician for an appropriate skincare regimen and product suggestions. Ask about travel size products to bring with you on your honeymoon. Start your skin care regimen at least six months in advance. Do not plan a facial (especially a peel!) within a couple of weeks of the big day. Most facials will instigate impurities to come to the surface, and you don’t want to be caught on your wedding day with unsightly blemishes, redness or peeling.

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For the bride that has very oily skin, oil blotting sheets are essential.This thin little package will help keep skin looking photo fresh and satiny smooth. Use powder more sparingly and alternate with oil control. $3.99. Clean & Clear Oil Absorbing Sheets


For convenience and reliability, choose a long-wearing lip color. Apply color and wait approximately one minute, or until dry, and then apply clear gloss. Color will last all day and only occasional reapplication of clear gloss will be necessary (this you can do without a mirror!) Because of its two-in-one packaging, this is a no-brainer for the special occasion small purse! $7.99. Revlon Colorstay Overtime® Lip color


Another two-in-one must-have is a compact. A little translucent powder to take care of any shinies and a mirror for the occasional “head check.” $4.99. CoverGirl Smoothers Pressed Powder


Finally, a little super hold and hair shine (again a two-in-one convenience) in a travel size bottle will help maintain your lovely up-do, especially on a windy day. $5.99, 3.4oz. Paul Mitchell Firm Style Freeze and Shine Super Spray

Marianne Bockheim has been waving her magical mascara wand for more than eight years. Her makeup mission includes journalism, freelance makeup artistry and providing marketing services to beauty and fashion businesses. Marianne is a Fashion Group International director and a fashion teacher at her local community college.



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Helen DeVos Children's Hospital has added pediatric sleep specialist James Chamness, M.D. and pediatrician Karen Thompson, M.D. to its medical staff. Dr. Chamness provides care for sleep-related needs of infants, children and adolescents on an outpatient basis. Dr. Thompson provides care, primarily on an inpatient basis, for infants, children and adolescents with lung and respiratory needs. ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Opera Grand Rapids has named Michael W. Havlicek as its new executive director. A seasoned development executive, Havlicek brings to Opera Grand Rapids more than 30 years of high level fundraising experience. Havlicek's experience includes serving as president and CEO for the Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis Association (ALSA), vice president of development for The National Easter Seals Society and director of program development for the Muscular Dystrophy Association. ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– The Grand Rapids Public Library launched its new Web site, The new site features a blog; wikis on various topics for both children and adults; and new, easier-to-use site navigation tools. It also offers staff recommendations for books, movies and audiobooks, as well as 42 databases where a patron can read a newspaper or magazine online, do market research for their small business, look up genealogy records or access online car repair schematics. A patron can also access the library catalog and their account; find answers to frequently asked questions and learn more about Library programs and events. Women’s LifeStyle welcomes your submissions. Please send your company or organization news to Editor, Women’s LifeStyle Magazine, 820 Monroe Ave. N.W., Suite 320, Grand Rapids MI 49503 or email WL cannot return photos.

February 2009

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by Sara Cosgrove

There is no time like February to invest in new bras, and not just for Valentine’s Day, but for every day. Visit boutiques that offer free, private fittings. Victoria’s Secret associates recommend a fitting every six months to ensure you’re wearing the right size and buying the best bra for your body. Perhaps you’re looking for comfort – a wireless bra that is seamless under form-fitting tops. Maybe you’re in the mood for a sexy ensemble. Or your most glamorous, backless dress just made its way to the front of the closet. All you need is the perfect bra to go with it. As for panties, there’s no need to sacrifice style for comfort. Tangas, boyshorts and thongs are all popular this year, in lace, mesh and plenty of color choices.

barely there Invisible Look Wire-Free Bra. $30 This seamless, wireless bra is perfect under tees, and has a sexy keyhole accent. Comes in five colors.

Satin Tracings Minimizer Bra by Bali. $29 You don’t have to sacrifice comfort for beauty with this pretty shimmering satin bra. It features unlined cups, four row hook and eye back closure, and comfort straps to gently cushion the shoulders.

Victoria’s Secret Very Sexy Corset demi bra. $48 to $51 (depending on the size). Very Sexy waist cincher and V-string panty. $35 and $18 This is a glamorous set with sheer embroidery and faux corset details. The demi bra has underwire cups and offers push-up without padding. The waist cincher has a back closure and adjustable garters. All three items come in either burgundy or black (shown in black).

Wonderbra Uprising Strapless Bra. $30 This cleavage-enhancing, underwire strapless bra has padded cups and delicate embroidery. It includes detachable straps, and is offered in frost, midnight black and taupe.

Discover Mademoiselle Serena padded bra, 30A to 38DD, and boyshort in dazzle blue. $42 and $22 This dazzling bra has a layer of contrast lace over the lining, ribbon roses at the center and scalloped edging around the bustline. The boyshort offers plenty of coverage, and the set showcases a bold watercolor effect.

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Shish Kabob Chicken Sandwiches Makes three servings

male 'ana, and on the mainland, we call it a wedding. The connection, you ask? An annual national survey of travel agents reveals that more newlyweds regularly travel to Hawaii for their honeymoon than any other destination. Friends and families can pay tribute to nearly-weds through a variety of colorful functions, ranging from bridal showers to bridesmaid brunches. Regardless of whether or not the bride and groom are

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pieces chicken thigh meat ounces Italian dressing teaspoon dried oregano teaspoon dried basil green bell pepper, cut to the size of sweet roll red bell pepper, cut to the size of sweet roll ounce red onion, cut to the size of sweet roll pieces of King's Hawaiian Sweet Bread rolls, cut horizontally in half Pineapple half (for garnish) 6 pieces cherry tomatoes Pickle and olives to garnish 3 ounces Lilikoi mayonnaise (recipe below)

headed to Hawaii on their honeymoon, you can bring paradise to them by hosting a Hawaiian-themed pre-wedding party.

Combine Italian dressing, oregano and basil; divide. Marinate chicken thighs with half of the dressing mix for several hours and vegetables with the remaining dressing mix for half an hour. Grill chicken and vegetables. Arrange on a skewer, cherry tomato first, top of bread, onion, bell pepper, chicken, bottom of bread and a cherry tomato on the bottom to hold a sandwich in place. Stick the skewers into the pineapple half for presentation. Serve with Lilikoi mayonnaise.

Lilikoi Mayonnaise

Here are some festive tips and recipes from King's Hawaiian breads.

Kenny Omiya, executive chef of Hilton Waikoloa Village on the Big Island of Hawaii, offers the following recipes for party platters with authentic island flair.

1/4 cup mayonnaise 2 tablespoons Lilikoi (passion fruit) preserves Whisk together mayonnaise and preserves until smooth.

The bride-to-be and her guests will love these tropical touches, which are sure to make the event a success. • Send bridal shower invitations three to four weeks in advance and include a small crepepaper drink umbrella or a small amount of beach sand in each invitation's envelope. • Greet guests with a tropical drink (pina coladas make a festive party cocktail) and a fresh orchid lei upon arrival. The lei serves as a party favor for guests and helps get everyone in the mood. • Gather palms and ferns (houseplants you may already have on hand) into the party area to add an island feel. • Create centerpieces by filling clear glass bowls with beach sand and placing a candle firmly in the center, surrounded by a sprinkling of seashells. • Be sure your menu reflects the islands with items such as coconut shrimp, ambrosia fruit salad and grilled pineapple.


February 2009

Sweet Bread Pudding Parfait Makes five to eight servings.

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quart whole milk large eggs ounces sugar teaspoons vanilla extract pound King's Hawaiian Sweet Bread Assorted seasonal berries or fruit Use the butter to grease a 9 x 13 baking pan and dust with sugar. Cut sweet bread into 1-inch cubes and place into a pan. Whisk together eggs and sugar in a bowl. Pour milk and vanilla in and stir it until it is well incorporated. Pour mixture over the bread and let soak for 10 minutes. Cover with foil and bake at 350 F degrees for 35 to 45 minutes. Let bread pudding cool for two hours. Using a round cutter, sized for a glass, cut out three sets per glass. Alternate fruits and bread pudding in the glass. Chill before serving. Top with purchased vanilla dessert sauce or melted vanilla ice cream for a quick sauce. These and other seasonal recipe ideas are available at




Dr. Brian D. Bearie Julie A. Bekius RN, MSN, FNP-C Michael T. Burcon, B.Ph., D.C. Michael L. Bennett, M.D. Kevin P. Flood, DDS Michael Kwast, DC, CSCS Prerana Manohar, MD, FACC This month, Women’s LifeStyle introduces you to area specialists who complement west Michigan’s premier medical community. On the following pages, meet area medical specialists on a more personal level. Be sure to check out the medical advice each of them offers.


February 2009

Dr. Brian D. Bearie Now Accepting New Patients

Grand Rapids Eye Institute As an ophthalmologist, Dr. Brian D. Bearie provides total eye care, specializing in LASIK and cataract surgery. For Dr. Bearie, having LASIK surgery changed his life and, as a result, is dedicated to helping others realize the benefits of refractive surgery. He received his degree from Michigan State University Medical School and completed his fellowship at Colorado Institute. Dr. Bearie is also a clinical assistant professor for the department of neurology and ophthalmology at Michigan State University College of Osteopathic Medicine. Originally from Detroit, he has found west Michigan to be a wonderful place to raise his three children, ranging from 12 to 24 years old, and in his free time he enjoys kayaking, cycling, golfing and cooking.

Dr. Brian D. Bearie Grand Rapids Eye Institute 1959 East Paris SE, Grand Rapids, MI 49546

Advice: "We deliver world class outcomes."

To schedule an appointment with Dr. Bearie, call (616) 285-3700 or visit

Julie A. Bekius RN, MSN, FNP-C Now Accepting New Patients

DoThe Julie A. Bekius RN, MSN, FNP-C received her B.S. in Nursing from Grand Valley State University and M.S. in Nursing from Michigan State University. Bekius is state board-certified as a nurse practitioner and specializes in family practice allergy and asthma. Bekius is a member of Sigma Theta Tau, the honors society for nursing, and received post-graduate training in the treatment of respiratory allergy, asthma, food sensitivities and bariatric medicine. Born and raised in Allendale, Bekius is married and has three daughters, ages seven, four and 11 months. She enjoys gardening, scrapbooking and volunteering in children’s ministries at her church. Julie A. Bekius RN, MSN, FNP-C Office of James T. Bishop M.D., PC 388 Garden Ave. Suite 110, Holland, MI 49424

Advice: “Don’t delay treatment of your allergies any longer. Your immune system is your body’s defense against illness and disease. Suffering with untreated allergies can weaken your body’s defense system. Immunotherapy is a treatment for respiratory allergies that will help your immune system heal itself and allow you to feel well again.”

To schedule an appointment with Julie A. Bekius RN, MSN, FNP-C, call (616) 393-0567 or visit

February 2009


Michael L. Bennett, M.D. Now Accepting New Patients

Female Pelvic Medicine & Urogynecology Institute of Michigan A practicing OBGYN for nearly 30 years, Dr. Michael L. Bennett earned his doctorate in medicine from Wayne State University and is board certified by the American Board of Obstetrics and Gynecology. He is a clinical associate professor at Michigan State University, receiving six “Teacher of the Year” Awards since 1984. As Medical Director of Clinical Research, Dr. Bennett has been an investigator in trials for women's health including heavy menstrual flow, fibroids, cervical cancer, anemia, female sexual dysfunction and vulvodynia. He guides his staff with good clinical practice and approves appropriate research trials for the company. In addition, he also has a dynamic practice specializing in chronic pelvic pain, pelvic organ prolapse, vulvar diseases, interstitial cystitis and minimally invasive surgery with the da Vinci robot. “My philosophy is to encourage patients in their decision-making processes; to give my patient as much information as I can to help her feel confident and secure in the final decision that her medical care is unique and perfectly suited for her." Dr. Bennett enjoys sailing, biking, gardening, traveling, canoeing and Ferraris. He is married to Dr. Kristen Anderson and has two grown children. Michael L. Bennett, M.D. Female Pelvic Medicine & Urogynecology Institute of Michigan (a division of Grand Rapids Women’s Health) 555 MidTowne St. N.E. Suite 450, Grand Rapids 49503

Advice: “Seeking knowledge about medical problems from reliable sources gives you power to develop your own good health.”

To schedule an appointment with Dr. Bennett, call (616) 588-1800 or visit

Michael T. Burcon, B.Ph., D.C. Now Accepting New Patients

Burcon Cervical Specific Chiropractic and Medical Massage Therapy Michael T. Burcon, B.Ph., D.C. specializes in one-sided brain stem disorders such as Meniere’s disease, Trigeminal neuralgia, Bell’s palsy, migraines and Parkinson’s disease. He also treats patients for chronic and acute whiplash injuries and other difficult cases. During his career, Dr. Burcon has presented research and has published peer-reviewed research papers in medical and chiropractic journals, as well as in a medical textbook. He received an award for volunteering at Ground Zero and appeared in People Magazine (1979) for developing the largest-selling natural food product that year. Dr. Burcon also led a team of software engineers in developing the physicians’ computer system, AMOS, used by NASA for the manned space station. Dr. Burcon holds an undergraduate degree from Grand Valley State University and graduate degree from Sherman College of Straight Chiropractic, Spartanburg, South Carolina. He’s a member of the Community Media Center and host of “Health Talk” on GRTV Channel 25. He and his wife, Jane, live in Comstock Park.

Michael T. Burcon, B.Ph., D.C. Burcon Cervical Specific Chiropractic and Medical Massage Therapy 3501 Lake Eastbrook Blvd., SE, Suite 252 East Lake Office Building, Grand Rapids, MI 49546 Advice: “Anyone who has been in an automobile accident or suffered head/neck trauma should be checked by a specific chiropractor. It often takes as long as 15 years from the time of the injury until the onset of symptoms.”

To schedule an appointment with Dr. Burcon, call (616) 575-9990 or visit


February 2009

Kevin P. Flood, DDS Now Accepting New Patients

The Dental Health and Wellness Center Kevin P. Flood, DDS specializes in holistic general dentistry, with an emphasis on TMJ, chronic head and neck pain, Dentistry for Diabetics, and nutrition. Originally from Chicago’s west side, Dr. Flood graduated from Loyola University, magna cum laude, and from University of Illinois Dental School. Dr. Flood’s practice is mercury-free and emphasis is placed on a patient’s overall health through nutrition, exercise, relaxation and through association of other health care professionals as needed. “My mother suffered for years with autoimmune issues and heavy metal toxicities,” said Dr. Flood. “Frustrated by the lack of information on both of these entities, I’ve studied extensively how exposure to heavy metals and other bio-mechanical influences impact nutrition and overall health.” Dr. Flood is a member of several professional organizations including American Dental Association, Michigan Dental Association, West Michigan Dental Association, International Academy of Oral Medicine and Toxicology, and American Academy of Craniofacial Pain.

Kevin P. Flood, DDS The Dental Health and Wellness Center 4990 Cascade Road SE, Grand Rapids, MI 49546 Advice: “Nutrition plays a pivotal role in maintaining optimal health.”

To schedule an appointment with Dr. Flood, call (616) 974-4990 or visit

Michael Kwast, DC, CSCS Now Accepting New Patients

Peak Performance Chiropractic It was his own struggle with migraines and the relief he received through chiropractic care that encouraged Michael Kwast, DC, CSCS to study and practice chiropractic medicine. His unique approach to healthcare and his compassion for people are what make him a sought out chiropractor in west Michigan. Dr. Kwast has been in private practice for 10 years. He received his doctorate in chiropractic from Palmer College of Chiropractic West and is a certified strength and conditioning specialist. Dr. Kwast is a member of the Michigan Association of Chiropractors and speaker for The Foundation of Wellness Professionals and for the Employee Awareness Association. He received the Palmer College of Chiropractic West Clinical Excellence Award in 1998 and is a member of the school’s Phi Tao Delta Honors Society. Originally from Lansing, Dr. Kwast is married with two children. He volunteers at Mel Trotter Ministries Chiropractic Clinic, and in his free time, Dr. Kwast is an active outdoorsman who enjoys hunting.

Michael Kwast, DC, CSCS Peak Performance Chiropractic 4150 E. Beltline #3, Grand Rapids MI 49525 (616) 447-9888 Advice: “Most people wait too long before they see a chiropractor. The longer you wait, the worse the problem becomes, the longer it takes to correct, and the more it costs in time, money and effort. It’s like waiting until your teeth hurt badly before going to the dentist. You will have major issues. Don’t wait.”

To schedule an appointment with Dr. Kwast, call (616) 447-9888 or visit February 2009


Prerana Manohar, MD, FACC Now Accepting New Patients

The Heart + Wellness Institute Prerana Manohar, MD, FACC treats individuals with known cardiovascular disease such as heart attack, heart failure and peripheral vascular disease, and she’s passionate about helping people prevent having their first or subsequent cardiovascular event, such as stroke or heart attack. Dr. Manohar is a committed advocate for the prevention of heart disease. To this end, she works extensively with the American Heart Association and the Go Red For Women event. She also serves on the Cardiovascular Committee of the Department of Community Health for the State of Michigan. Dr. Manohar completed her education at the University of Michigan Medical School, graduating summa cum laude with distinction in research. She has been practicing cardiology for over 10 years. Dr. Manohar has chosen to live in Grand Rapids because of its beauty and the warmth of the people in the community.

Prerana Manohar, MD, FACC The Heart + Wellness Institute 5043 Cascade Road SE, Grand Rapids, MI 49546

Advice: “The road to wellness and great health starts with one small change at a time.”

To schedule an appointment with Dr. Manohar, call (616) 719-5939 or visit

Heart Attack Warning Signs for Women Some heart attacks are sudden and intense, but most of them start slowly, with mild pain or discomfort. Often the people affected aren’t sure what’s wrong and wait too long before getting help. Here are some of the signs that can mean a heart attack is happening: Chest discomfort. Most heart attacks involve discomfort in the center of the chest that lasts more than a few minutes, or that goes away and comes back. It can feel like uncomfortable pressure, squeezing, fullness or pain. Discomfort in other areas of the upper body. Symptoms can include pain or discomfort in one or both arms, the back, neck, jaw or stomach. Shortness of breath. This feeling may occur with or without chest discomfort. Other signs: These may include breaking out in a cold sweat, nausea or lightheadedness. As with men, women's most common heart attack symptom is chest pain or discomfort. But women are somewhat more likely than men to experience some of the other common symptoms particularly shortness of breath, nausea/vomiting, and back or jaw pain. If you or someone you are with has chest discomfort, especially with one or more of the other signs, don’t wait longer than five minutes before calling for help. Call 9-1-1. Calling 9-1-1 is almost always the fastest way to get lifesaving treatment. Emergency medical services (ems) staff can begin treatment when they arrive — up to an hour sooner than if someone gets to the hospital by car. The staff members are also trained to revive someone whose heart has stopped. And you will get treated faster in the hospital if you arrive by ambulance.

Top Ways to Help Children Develop Healthy Habits Be a positive role model. If you’re practicing healthy habits, it’s a lot easier to convince children to do the same. • Get the whole family involved. Take walks, ride bikes, go swimming, garden or just play hide-and-seek outside. • Limit TV, video game and computer time. These habits lead to sedentary lifestyle and excessive snacking, which increase risks for obesity and cardiovascular disease. • Encourage physical activities that children really enjoy. They’ll stick with it longer if they love it. • Be supportive. Everyone likes to be praised for a job well done. Celebrate successes and help children and teens develop a good self-image. • Set specific goals and limits, such as one hour of physical activity a day or two desserts per week other than fruit. • Don’t reward children with food. Find other ways to celebrate good behavior. • Make dinnertime family time. Get the kids involved in cooking and planning meals. • Make a game of reading food labels. The whole family will learn what’s good for their health and be more conscious of what they eat.

Want to get your kids involved in planning healthy meals? If you’re the one having symptoms and you can’t access emergency medical Try these Web sites for healthy tips and recipes: services (ems), have someone drive you to the hospital right away. Don’t drive yourself, unless you have absolutely no other option. Courtesy


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These recipes are reprinted with permission from Healthy Soul Food Recipes, Copyright © 2008 by the American Heart Association. Published by Publications International, Ltd. Look for Healthy Soul Food Recipes at grocerystore checkouts nationwide throughout the month of May, or while supplies last.

Curried Pork and Sweet Potato Stew Serves 4; 1 1/2 cups per serving Cooking spray 3/4 to 1 pound lean boneless top loin pork roast, all visible fat discarded, cut into 1-inch cubes 1 medium onion, chopped 4 medium garlic cloves, minced 2 medium sweet potatoes (10 to 13 ounces each), peeled and cut into 1-inch cubes 3 medium carrots, cut crosswise into 1/4-inch slices 1 large parsnip, peeled and cut crosswise into 1/4-inch slices 1 tablespoon curry powder 1 teaspoon ground cumin 1/8 teaspoon salt 1/8 teaspoon pepper 1 14.5-ounce can fat-free, low-sodium chicken broth 1 tablespoon cornstarch 1 tablespoon cold water 2 tablespoons snipped fresh cilantro Lightly spray a Dutch oven with cooking spray. Cook the pork, onion, and garlic over medium-high heat for 5 minutes, or until the pork is lightly browned, stirring occasionally.

Pineapple Upside-Down Cake Serves 12; 3-inch square plus one heaping tablespoon topping per serving Cake 1 12 1/2 1 3/4 1

20-ounce can pineapple tidbits in their own juice, undrained maraschino cherries cup fat-free caramel topping 18.25-ounce package yellow cake mix cup egg substitute 4-ounce jar baby food puréed apricots with pears and apples Cooking spray

Stir in the sweet potatoes, carrots, and parsnip. Sprinkle with the curry powder, cumin, salt, and pepper. Pour in the broth and stir. Increase the heat to high, cover, and bring to a boil. Reduce the heat and simmer, covered, for 20 minutes, or until the vegetables are tender. Put the cornstarch in a cup. Add the water, stirring to dissolve. Stir into the stew. Stir in the cilantro. Increase the heat to medium. Cook for 5 minutes, or until boiling and slightly thickened, stirring frequently.

Topping 1 cup frozen fat-free whipped topping, thawed in refrigerator 2 tablespoons fat-free caramel topping Preheat the oven to 350°F. Lightly spray a 13x9x2-inch baking pan with cooking spray. Drain the pineapple, reserving 3/4 cup juice. Pat the pineapple dry with paper towels. Drain the cherries. Cut in half. Pat dry with paper towels. Drizzle 1/2 cup caramel topping in the pan. Cover the bottom with the pineapple. Evenly arrange the cherries with the cut sides up over the pineapple. In a large mixing bowl, stir together the cake mix, egg substitute, baby food, and reserved pineapple juice. Using an electric mixer, beat according to the package directions. Gently spoon the batter over the fruit, lightly smoothing the top. Bake for 35 to 40 minutes, or until a cake tester or wooden toothpick inserted in the center comes out almost clean.Transfer to a cooling rack and let cool in the pan for 5 minutes. Run a spatula around the edges of the cake to loosen it. Invert onto a large flat platter. Let cool for at least 15 minutes. Meanwhile, in a small bowl, stir together the whipped topping and remaining 2 tablespoons caramel topping. Spoon onto the cake. Serve warm or at room temperature.

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by Julie Hogan

The Master Suite hen life is hectic and you’re frazzled from dusk to dawn, it’s easy to forget that the master bedroom is not a dumping ground for unfinished laundry and other household chores. The master bedroom is meant to be a comforting retreat that recharges and revives you so that you can face your life with a clear and fresh outlook. With a heap of unmatched socks all over your bed, recharging is not an easy task.


How about leaving the socks in the laundry room and imagining what sort of space really relaxes you. For design inspiration think of a favorite vacation spot or travel destination and replicate its ambience in your bedroom. Create a calming environment that takes you away from your day. First, consider the color of your walls. To start with, recommends choosing quiet, muted colors for the walls. Muted colors are soothing, comforting and calming, lending themselves well to sleep and relaxation. Keep the bold, vivid hues in your more public spaces, such as the living areas and the kitchen, and out of your personal oasis. It may seem subtle, but a neutral color scheme is an excellent choice. Nuetrals are earthy, such as creams, tans and light browns and offer flexibility, allowing you the option of making subtle changes to suit your mood or design tastes. The cool color family, such as blues and greens are psychologically calming and evoke feelings of peace and tranquility. Think sky and water when choosing cool colors. Also, cooler colors recede visually, making your room appear larger than it really is. Opposite on the color wheel are the warm colors of buttery yellow, peach or delicate pink. These lovely colors create a soothing ambience. Think warm


. . .Think warm sunshine or the glow of candle light when applying these colors to your sanctuary design.” sunshine or the glow of candle light when applying these colors to your sanctuary design. Again, consider that favorite destination. For example while you may love the tropical pinks, blues and greens that are so prominent in, say, Key West, Fl., reflect that look and feel with the warm, sandy color of the beach or the crisp, clear blue of the sky. Include a complementary green that represents the palm trees. Concentrate on the relaxing ambience and natural elements that you enjoy so well in the Keys rather than the obvious commercial colors that jump out at you while you’re there. The master bedroom as a sanctuary includes not only the right paint color to create the perfect mood but also appropriate furniture pieces. To match or not to match, that is often the question. Clearly, you need a bed to sleep in and a place for everything and everything in its place (remember those socks?). If you’re sleeping on a mattress without a headboard and using a hand-me-down dresser and night stands, not to worry. There is no reason why you need to wait until the bedroom suite of your dreams goes on sale to have the beautiful room you deserve. This step takes you back to the paint. Old, outdated furniture can and will look beautiful with a couple coats of paint and new knobs or pulls. When you paint your nightstands and dresser the same color and use the same hardware on each piece, you’ve not only created a lovely bedroom group, but also saved yourself hundreds of dollars.

Shown above: Copeland Berkley bedroom suite Copeland Furniture, founded in 1974 by Tim Copeland, started as a one-man operation in a garage in rural Vermont. For 33 years, Copeland Furniture has produced furniture for consumers who have an appreciation for good design, quality and value. They use sustainably harvested hardwoods from the American Northern Forest and are FSC (Forest Stewardship Council) certified. The eclectic style of the Berkeley group is inspired by Asian design and the Arts and Crafts movement. Expertly crafted in solid cherry with American black walnut accents in four finishes. Copeland Furniture enjoys national distribution through quality furniture retailers. Available at D2 Design Quest.

Black paint with a satin finish is a favorite choice of mine. A complementary color from your wall choice would also be a fantastic. Choose new hardware (knobs and pulls) that pop and all the odd pieces will suddenly match. That mattress without a headboard can look complete with a curtain rod hung above the bed, covered with a lovely fabric to complement your bedding. Complete your sanctuary with adequate lighting on each side of the bed and a comfortable chair to read in and you have created a master bedroom environment that soothes and provides peace in a hectic world. An interior designer and artist, Julie Hogan has more than 20 years experience in retail and residential design. Her artistic spirit and open mind provide her clients with creative perspectives and fresh ideas for their projects. To contact Julie with a design question or to check out what she is currently working on, visit her Web site at

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music, dance and food representing the various ethnic groups that call west Michigan home.

February 10

February 15 Celtic Woman performs at 7:30 pm at Van Andel Arena. Tickets available at the DeVos Place and Van Andel Arena box offices, Ticketmaster ticket centers including D&W Stores, Macy’s and select Family Fare locations; charge by phone at 456-3333 or on-line at

Special Events

Music & Dance

Shine On, A special night of live music, good drink and friends – to celebrate the life and accomplishments of Dirk Koning (1957-2005) at Wealthy Theatre. We Can Do Bells reception and benefit at 5:30 pm. $50. Shine On concert featuring Ralston Bowles, Seth Bernard and Daisy May begins at 7:30 pm.

Tuesday, February 3

Through February 24

February 11

Forest Hills Fine Arts Center welcomes the Golden Dragon Acrobats, today’s premier Chinese acrobatic touring company. Their daredevil feats, acrobatics, traditional dance, spectacular costumes, ancient and contemporary music combine for a show of breathtaking skill and spellbinding beauty. 7:30 pm.

Swing Dancing at the Public Museum of Grand Rapids. Tuesdays 7-10 pm, Instruction 7-7:30 pm. $3 Donation. Come and bring a partner if you want or find one there. This is an all-ages event and lots of people of all ages show up. 617-4842

Bring your beloved to Armenta Studio’s 7th annual couples yoga workshop for a fun, uplifting and invigorating experience. Breathe and stretch together and enjoy Hors' Dourves featuring sensuous recipes. 6 to 9 pm. 235-4692 or

February 5 and 19

February 13

WGVU Jazz Night at Z's Grille & Bar, downtown Grand Rapids. 8 pm. No cover.

Steppin' In It, a Michigan-based country, swing and blues band, performs at 7 pm at Bethlehem Church, 250 Commerce in the Heartside District of Downtown Grand Rapids. Suggested donation of $10 to benefit the Grand Rapids Coalition to End Homelessness.

The 2009 Cabin Fever Blues Series moves into its third week at Billy’s Lounge with Liz Mandeville who performs with a healthy joy for life, wicked humor, and total disregard for political correctness. Doors open at 8 pm, music starts at 9:30 pm.

February 14

February 28

The 2009 Cabin Fever Blues Series continues at Billy’s Lounge with Biscuit Miller and The Mix. Biscuit Miller and The Mix are once again on the road and ready to bring you a smorgasbord of fun. Doors open at 8 pm, music starts at 9:30 pm.

WYCE and the West Michigan Blues Society’s 2009 Cabin Fever blues series at Billy’s Lounge concludes with Tad Robinson, one of the finest living singers of soulful blues. Doors open at 8 pm, music starts at 9:30 pm.

February 8 The World Famous Lipizzaner Stallions proudly presents their 39th anniversary presentation of the “Dancing White Stallions” at Van Andel Arena at 2 pm and 6 pm. 456-3333 or on-line at

February 27 WGVU and D&W present The Great Wine & Food Symposium at The Public Museum in Grand Rapids. Tickets are $50 in advance or $55 at the door, if available. Call 800-442-2771 for tickets or visit for more information.


February 17 88.1 fm WYCE presents the 10th annual WYCE Jammie Awards Show featuring many different styles sure to please any music lover in a smoke-free environment at The Intersection Lounge, 133 Grandville SW. Attendees who arrive dressed in pajamas (a.k.a. “jammies”) will receive their choice of free music from WYCE’s collection of prize CDs!

February 14

February 7 WYCE and The West Michigan Blues Society kick off the 2009 Cabin Fever Blues concert series with Nick Moss and the Flip at Billy's Lounge. Doors open at 8 pm, music starts at 9:30 pm.

February 7 DTE Ethnic Heritage Festival at the Public Museum of Grand Rapids. 9 am-6 pm. A day-long celebration of

February 2009

7th Annual

VÉâÑÄxá jÉÜ~á{ÉÑ Wednesday, February 11• 6 to 9 pm Ailyn Pérez Grand Rapids Symphony and Opera Grand Rapids Regional Chorus bring The Elixir of Love to life with a stunning national cast. The role of the love interest Adina will be sung by soprano Ailyn Pérez. In February 2008, Pérez performed alongside Plácido Domingo on his World Tour. Most noteworthy on the program, she sang the love duet from Otello with Domingo. Last season she also joined the roster of the Metropolitan Opera for “Le nozze di Figaro” and “Hansel und Gretel,” and made her debut at the Michigan Opera Theater. Opera News has hailed Pérez as “ . . . .a magnificently assured artist with ample vocal resources and a magnetic stage presence.”

Nemorino pines for the breathtaking beauty Adina. A tender comedy that leads up to one of opera’s happiest endings. By Gaetano Donizetti. Sung in Italian with English Titles. 451-2741 ext 3

Theater & Film Through February 20 Public Museum of Grand Rapids Winter Planetarium show “Star Trek: Orion Rendevous,” daily at 2 pm. “Under Starlit Skies,” Saturdays and Sundays at 3 pm. “Solar System Safari,” Saturdays and Sundays at 1 pm.

Through May 24

Creative Arts Repertoire Ensemble presents “Peter and the Wolf” at St. Cecilia Music Center. Saturday 11 am & 3 pm, Sunday 3 pm. Adults $10, Students $7. 464-3682 or

February 12-21

Through May 10

Calvin Theatre of Calvin College celebrates 75 years of inspiration with the production “The Government Inspector” at 8 pm in the Gezon Auditorium. There will be a special Homecoming performance on Friday, February 20 at 6 pm. Call the Calvin Box Office at 526-6282 for ticket information.

Frederik Meijer Gardens & Sculpture Park hosts an exhibition by celebrated American sculptor Jonathan Borofsky.

February 5-21 Master Arts Theatre presents “Solid Gold Cadillac” by Howard Teichmann and George S. Kaufman. Can a little old lady, with ten shares foil the plans of the board of directors of the General Products conglomerate? This David and Goliath comedy will keep you laughing. Call 455-1001 or (800) 455-5003 for reservations or visit

February 13 and 14 Opera Grand Rapids presents “The Elixir of Love” at DeVos Performance Hall, 7:30 pm. Luscious. Humorous. Magical. Romantic. Donizetti’s charming and sentimental score spins a lighthearted vision of love, as the humble and young

Cindy Krzykwa, studio manager and professional Chef, will bring delicious and fun Hors' Dourves featuring sensuous recipes. Call soon to register. Class size is limited.

Try it for free.

Art White House in Miniature, Monday through Sunday 9 am-5 pm at Gerald R. Ford Museum. Adults $7, Seniors $6, Military $6, College Student with ID $5, Youth (6-17) $3, Under 6 Free. This exhibit gives an insider’s tour of the President’s House without the hassles of traveling to the nation's capital. 254-0374 or

February 7 and 8


ring your beloved to a fun, uplifting, and invigorating class. Breathe and stretch together! Even if you have never tried yoga before you will experience and share bliss as you enjoy a healthy, playful, and life-affirming evening. From asanas, to breathing techniques we will adapt postures to accommodate various body sizes, flexibility levels, and all levels of yoga experience. Class includes a section for Yoga-Thai Massage techniques to develop closeness and connection through gentle body manipulation and breath work

During February you may experience a Salsa Dance class for free. Just pick a class time, call to register and put on your dancing shoes. No partner needed.


955 Wealthy St. SE • Grand Rapids Full Mighty Belly Dance Vinyasa Yoga Zumba Fitness

Through May 3 Grand Rapids Art Musuem presents Saturday All Day with the Arts. Museum Admission: Adults $8, Senior Adults (62 and over) & College Students with ID $7, Youth (ages 6-17) $5, Children under 6 Free. Films supporting the themes of the current exhibitions start at 1 pm in Cook Auditorium.

Through March 1 Grand Rapids Art Museum presents “A Gift of Art: The Legacy of Mabel Perkins.” Adults $8, Senior Adults (62 and over) & College Students with ID $7, Youth (ages 6-17) $5, Children under 6 Free. Mabel H. Perkins (1880-1974) was an international art collector whose generosity was crucial in building the collection of the Grand Rapids Art Museum. 831-1000 or

February 2009

Enjoy Ladies Day Every Wednesday Your ticket includes: All day lift pass Group lesson for ski or snowboards Rental equipment (if needed) Fireside buffet lunch with guest speakers Complimentary nursery Tickets must be purchased before 1:00 pm. Must be 18 or older.


Tickets only $30 - Save over $75 on your entire day of fun!


Go Red for Women with Diana Nyad Member of The International Women’s Sports Hall of Fame speaks at the Go Red for Women Luncheon at Meijer Gardens on February 27. In 1979, Diana Nyad stroked her way to the longest swim in history, for both men and women. The distance was 102.5 miles – from the island of Bimini to the Florida shore – and that incredible record still stands today. Diana was front page news throughout the Western world, the lead story for Walter Cronkite on “CBS Evening News,” and led to many guest appearances on “The Tonight Show.” She held long distance records for ten years (1969-1979) including the 50-year-old mark for circling Manhattan Island (7hrs., 57 min.) in 1975. Diana was honored in 2006 with an induction in the International Women’s Sports Hall of Fame. In 1986, Diana was inducted into the National Women’s Sports Hall of Fame. Today Diana is heard by eight million people each week on National Public Radio. She is a columnist each Thursday on “All Things Considered” and is the sports business reporter for the award-winning show “Marketplace.” On television, you can now see Diana on the prestigious CBS News Sunday Morning program as well as “CBS Early Morning,” where she delivers thought-provoking commentary. While an announcer with ABC’s “Wide World of Sports” (1980-88), Diana covered three Olympic Games, the New York City Marathon, the Ironman, and dozens of other events around the globe. Capitalizing on her background as an adventurer extraordinaire, she swam with 100-ton “Right” whales in Patagonia, kayaked over 40-foot waterfalls in Borneo, and biked the length of Vietnam. Diana has written three books, “Other Shores,” “Basic Training” and “The Keyshawn Johnson Story.” She also writes for “The New York Times,” “Newsweek,” and other publications. Diane will be speaking at the Go Red For Women Luncheon event in Grand Rapids at Fredrick Meijer Gardens and Sculpture Park on February 27, 2009. Go Red For Women is the American Heart Association’s nationwide movement that celebrates the energy, passion and power women have to band together and wipe out heart disease. The fight against the No.1 killer of women is a national effort that involves all women and their loved ones. The Luncheon raises money for research and education of heart disease in women. For tickets or information call (616) 482-1520.



february 13 & 14, 2009 7:30 PM DEvos Hall This year don’t settle for flowers and chocolate. Treat yourself to a night on the town. Tickets through ticketmaster or 616.451.2741 32

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behavior and more from instructor Edward Nelson. Parents are invited to a classroom “In-formance” on the last day of class. Session A: 9:30 am-11 am; Session B: 12:30-2 pm. Tuition: $40. ($50 when registering less than 10 days before start of class).

Through March 1 Grand Rapids Art Museum presents “Eugene Masselink: Drawings for Frank Lloyd Wright.” Adults $8, Senior Adults (62 and over) & College Students with ID $7, Youth (ages 6-17) $5, Children under 6 Free. 831-1000 or

February 7, 14, 21 Kidsplay, Too provides more drama for the first grader just starting out or the kindergartner returning from two sessions of Kidsplay. Instructor Angela Peavey has more lines, more acting tips and more fun for bigger kids! “In-formance” on the last day of class. Session A: 9 am-11 am; Session B: 12 pm-2 pm. Tuition: $55. ($65 when registering less than 10 days before start of class).

February 6-27 Gallery Uptown hosts its 12th annual Winter Art Festival, 201 Washington Avenue, Grand Haven. Gallery hours Mon-Sat, 10 am-6 pm; closed Sunday.

February 13-25 The 36th anniversary of Celebration of the Arts, a juried exhibit of spiritual and sacred art is held at First United Methodist Church, 227 East Fulton Street, Grand Rapids. Admission is free and open to the community.

February 16 – March 16 (Mondays)

Fridays Friday nights from 5-9 pm, Grand Rapids Art Museum offers a relaxing Immersion in the Arts. $5 general admission and free if you are a member. Gourmet buffet and cash bar served 5-8 pm; Art Forum at 7 pm.

Children & Teens

Imagination Station is an introduction to acting technique specially for 2nd graders. Teacher Angela Peavey builds on the lessons of “Kidsplay, Too” with more in-depth work on characterization and story-building. Classroom “In-formance” on the last day for parents. Mondays, February 16 March 16, 4:30-5:55 pm. Tuition: $70. ($80 when registering less than 10 days before start of class).

March 13 - 15 DeVos Place Downtown Grand Rapids Friday, March 13 • 5 pm - 8 pm Saturday, March 14 • 10 am - 8 pm Sunday, March 15 • 11 am - 5 pm

Bridal Dress Sale! Say “I Do” and Plan Your Wedding Day all Under One Roof

February 17 – March 17 (Tuesdays) “Kids Combo” is an introduction to Musical Theatre for kindergartners and 1st graders Students sing and learn staged movement to child-friendly songs in this class taught by Edward J. Nelson and Franklene Baker. Family invited to classroom “In-formance” on the last day. 4:30-5:25 pm. Tuition: $70 ($80 when registering less than 10 days before start of class).

February 7 Costumes (for teens) by Grand Rapids Civic Theatre’s assistant costumer Susan Strohmer, will discuss concept, design and practical applications from the first reading of a script through production. 9:30 am-Noon. Tuition: $30 ($40 after 1/28).

February 7 Sound Design (for teens) explore universal design principles with the gurus of sound, Randy Hoekstra and Sam Johnson, including sound reinforcement for actors/musicians and sound effects. This workshop is not equipment specific and can be applied to any theatre. 12:30-3 pm. Tuition: $40 ($50 after 1/28).

February 21 The Public Museum of Grand Rapids presents DINOSAURS: Just Imagine! exhibit and “Dinosaur Chronicles” planetarium show.

Saturdays Literary Life Bookstore & More presents First Saturday for Kids. First Saturday of the month 11 am. 758 Wealthy St. SE. 458-8418

February 7, 14, 21 Kidsplay is a great first drama class for 4-year-old pre-schoolers and kindergartners. Learn the basics of live performance, lines, projection, audience

More information and discount coupons availble at Convenient DeVos Place Parking Off Michigan Street or Free Parking in Dash Bus Lot 9

Second Annual Sage-ing Fair Saturday, March 07, 2009 8:30 AM-1:00 PM For everyone in the “second half of life,” come and enjoy a wonderful opportunity to relax, reconnect, and recharge. We can gift our sage as we "season" the world around us! Enjoy healthy cooking demonstrations, massage, bodywork, gentle exercise, beauty tips, etc. We will conclude with a nutritious and relaxing lunch! Cost: $20.00. Call 454-1241to register.

2025 E Fulton St, Grand Rapids • (616) 454-1241 •

Do you want to help someone, but don’t know what to do?

Carol’s Earthly Angels can help . . . 3 Easy Steps 1. Call us to purchase an angel certificate 2. Your recipent selects desired service including cleaning, laundry, child care, in-home medical care and so much more 3. Earthly angels arrive and assist.

Carol’s Earthly Angels (616) 862-2299 w w w. C a r o l s E a r t h l y A n g e l s . c o m Fully licensed, bonded& insured professionals to assist

February 2009

Do you know all the new tax laws? Tax preparation laws are constantly changing. The regulations and corresponding paperwork are more complex than ever.

Tax Problems? Call the Expert.

(616) 691-8107 Mon-Fri 9 to 6 • Sat 9 to 1 Call Judy at J. Kelly & Associates today for your personal or business tax and accounting needs. Judy is a professional. She is reliable and cares about your business. She has been my acountant and tax consultant for 17 years. She would be an asset to any business. – Tom Skipper, Cannonsburg Sand & Gravel


Professional Development February 12 “Introduction to GROW” is the required first step for anyone eager to enroll in additional classes at Grand Rapids Opportunity for Women (GROW). Get an overview of our programs and services, meet the staff, and watch our graduates describe their experiences in our inspirational video. Free. Register at 458-3404.

~ No Boss ~ No Commute

February 27

February 21 (9 to 3 PM) GROW’s 10-week business plan writing course, “Minding Your Own Business,” kick-off. Thereafter, classes run every Monday and every Thursday, 6-9 pm. Sliding fee scale based on household income & size; contact GROW at 458-3404.

~ No Stress

Arts and Worship, on the campus of Grand Rapids Christian High School, 2300 Plymouth, SE, Grand Rapids, 8:30 am-12:15 pm. Free of charge and open to the public. No registration required. Professionals in the areas of psychology and social work, representing five local agencies, will present over 10 workshops in two, one-hour sessions for parents, covering practical information and tips for raising young people today. 574-5600

Tuesdays Develop your communication skills with Early Bird Toastmasters. Meets on the 2nd and 4th Tuesday, 7:45-8:45 am at Michigan State University ExtensionKent County Office, 775 Ball NE. Contact Sandra at or Bonnie at

Come to Barnes & Noble at RiverTown Crossings Mall in Grandville at 7 pm for its Fourth Friday Book Club to discuss “The Audacity of Hope” by President Barak Obama. Free and open to the public. 531-5875

Ongoing Is someone's drinking bothering you? Al-Anon/Alateen can help. For meeting schedule: 257-8089 or visit

Volunteers & Fundraisers February 4 and 9

Tuesdays 1-800-727-8613 rec. msg

North Kent Toastmasters Club meets the first and third Thursdays, 7-8:30 pm at North Rockford Middle School in the Teacher’s Lounge. For more information, contact Sue Popma at 866-3509 or

Third Wednesdays GROW’s “Lunch with PUNCH!” networking and support group. Bring a friend, lunch and your business cards. Free. 12-1 pm. Reservations at

The Literacy Center of West Michigan has scheduled two information sessions to provide information to people in the community who want to learn more about becoming volunteer reading and/or English tutors. Feb. 4 at The Cascade Library, 2870 Jacksmith Avenue, SE – Grand Rapids, 6:30-7:30 pm; Feb. 9 at The Grand Rapids Public Library (Main Branch – Downtown G.R.), 111 Library Street, N.E. – Grand Rapids (meeting held on 4th Floor – VanderVeen Center), 6:30-7:30 pm. Call Nancy at 459-5151 ext. 10 to register.

February 21

Ladies, welcome to Saturday night at

Fun & Games Through March 8

Male Dance Revue Every Saturday Night 8 pm to 2 am

Featuring Cory

Expand Your Horizons

seen on Jay Leno


February 8

The Dance King

"Being Love,” a Sunday morning message on how to be love's presence in the world today. Author Janice Lynne Lundy. 10:30 am. Presented by Unity Church of Practical Christianity, 1711 Walker, NW, Grand Rapids. Booksigning at 11:30 am after the service. 453-9909 or

Scorpion Mr. Body Perfect

Sebastian Entertainer of the Year

February 10


Mateo Warrior Robert Steel

(Pearl Street Exit. 1/2 Mile West)

The American Sewing Guild holds its monthly meeting at the Plainfield Senior Center located at 5255 Grand River Dr. NE at 6:30 pm.

(616) 454-3026

February 21

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Rosa Parks Circle Ice Rink is open. Skates available Monday & Tuesday 6 pm-9:30 pm, Wednesday & Thursday Noon-9:30 pm, Friday & Saturday Noon10 pm, Sunday Noon-9:30 pm. Skating is $1, Skate rentals are free with a picture ID. 235-0303 or

Annual Grand Rapids Christian Parenting Conference themed Celebrating the Family, is held at the Richard and Helen DeVos Center for

Comprehensive Therapy Center, Lake Michigan Academy and SLD Center team up with GVSU student organization to host a local MONOPOLY® Game Tournament on at the Women's City Club 254 E. Fulton in Grand Rapids. Check-in starts at 11:30 am with games beginning at Noon. Proceeds benefit children with disabilities. $20 to join, but if you gather at least $50 from friends and family, the registration fee is waived.

February 28 A benefit for The American Cancer Society Hope Lodge Peter M. Wege Guest House – a home away from home for adult cancer patients and their caregivers – takes place at First United Methodist Church, 227 E. Fulton St. at 7:30 pm. Come and enjoy an evening of healing music performed by Grand Rapids Women’s Chorus. Purchase tickets at the door or at Spirit Dreams, 1430 Lake Drive SE; Kostume Room, 835 36th Street SW. For more information on Hope Lodge call 551-4000.

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February 2009

But don’t forget to save room for dessert; Bar Divani’s extensive dessert list will tempt your palate. Surrender and indulge in dreamy crème brulee or molten chocolate cake. Find rapture in the perfect wine from a list of over 60 by the glass, and some by flight, that best complements your meal. May I recommend:

By Kelli Kolakowski This month, bring out your inner romantic and treat the one you love to a special night out. Grand Rapids is home to some of the finest dining, entertainment and relaxation in west Michigan. Here’s a peek at some ideas to get you started.

Date Night at the B.O.B.

The Elixir of Love

20 Monroe Avenue NW, Grand Rapids (616) 356-2000 Looking for something to do Friday night? The B.O.B.’s Friday Night Special is just $19.95 per person and includes a three-course dinner at Bobarino’s, Gill’s or Judsons; admission to Dr. Grins Comedy Show; and live music and dancing. Reservations required by calling 356-2000. Or . . . Indulge in the sexy atmosphere of the Monkey Bar, Grand Rapid's own premiere resto lounge, providing the low-key comforts of a down tempo lounge and the flair of an Asianinspired bistro. Experience, share and return for Grand Rapid's best value, the $3.99 Asian Small Plates Menu. Pomegranate Lacquered Chicken, Sesame Crusted Salmon and Thai Coconut Shrimp are a few favorites. Enjoy wine flights, beer flights or meticulously prepared cocktails, while you delight in an atmosphere that appeals to the senses. Located in the B.O.B.’s lower level. –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––

DeVos Hall February 13 & 14, 2009, 7:30pm Experience Grand Rapids Opera’s presentation of the luscious, humorous and magical “Elixer of Love.” Sung in Italian with projected English titles, Gaetano Donizetti's charming and sentimental score spins a lighthearted vision of love, as the humble and young Nemorino pines for the breathtaking beauty Adina. His belief in the power of a magic love potion allows this tender comedy to become a gentle expose on romance, class and hope, all leading up to one of opera's happiest endings.

Mangiamo! 1033 Lake Drive SE, Grand Rapids (616) 742-0600 Treat your loved one to Italian-inspired cuisine in a beautiful historic mansion at Mangiamo! The attitude, thoughtfully designed menu and exquisite service is refreshingly modern and approachable. Abundant parking and magnificant decor. Complete menu available by visiting their Web site as well as seasonal specials.

Pre-Show Dinners: Enjoy an elegant dinner and still make it to the show on time. Dine, mix and mingle with other opera goers at the University Club, located across the street from the theater. –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––

Bar Divani 15 Ionia Ave. SW, Grand Rapids (616) 774-9463 Tantalize your Valentine’s taste buds with dinner at Grand Rapids’ premier wine bar, Bar Divani. Relax in the comfort of a stylish and romantically lit atmosphere, with soothing music and plush surroundings. Enjoy a delicious appetizer such as seared tuna or, my favorite, spinach artichoke dip served with pita points, the perfect start to a succulent entrée. The tenderloin Vesuvio will enhance your senses with its delicate texture and spicy white wine garlic sauce.

• Chateau Montelena Chardonnay, Napa, CA, 2005The elegance of this wine will capture your senses and its ripe tropical fruit flavor and hint of oak will leave you with the perfect finish. • Laetitia Pinot Noir, Arroyo Grande Valley, CA, 2005Choose a wine for your love that is just as special as they are. The refreshing texture of Laetitia, perfectly paired with bold berries and a touch of oak, will leave you wanting more. • Jean Laurent Brut Blanc de Noirs, Champagne, France, NV- Nothing says Valentine’s Day better than bubbles. Indulge in the fruity red berry and black currant flavor of Jean Laurent. The perfect balance with a long finish; a delicious end (or just the beginning?) to a special night. –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––

Oasis Hot Tub Gardens 5041 Alpine Ave. NW, Comstock Park (616) 784-2020 Imagine escaping the pressures of daily life and relaxing in the clean and soothing waters of a private hot tub. This Valentine’s Day, share a relaxing experience with your special someone in a tranquil hot tub at Oasis Hot Tub Gardens. Each individual garden is different and features calming music, its own shower and a changing room. Choose from indoor or outdoor garden room suites, with high walls surrounding each garden. Guests can also choose the covered outdoor tubs. Soak sessions range from one to two hours for maximum relaxation and enjoyment. Oasis uses a state-of-the-art disinfectant and filtration system, so there’s no need to question cleanliness. Oasis strives to ensure guests the water they soak in is as clean and bacteria-free as any city drinking water. Whichever garden you choose, you will be astounded by its cleanliness and aesthetics. The tranquility of your garden will be all you need to enjoy a peaceful night with your Valentine. –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––

Other Fun Ideas: Skate under the stars at Rosa Parks Circle Ice Rink. Admission to the ice is only $1 and skate rental is free with an ID. For more information, call Griff's Icehouse at (616) 235-0303. ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– See the current exhibitions at the Urban Institute for Contemporary Arts. Showing until Feb. 27 are: Feedback Loop (Jessica Serran), Paper Work(s) (Buzz Spector), Respirae II (Lynn Lukkas), False:Start (Caroline Gore), and Counterfeit Escape Route (Ryan Molloy). 41 Sheldon Boulevard SE, Grand Rapids. 454-7000

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suggests that up to 90 percent of illness is stress related. This is due to the physical wear and tear of stress that damages the cardiovascular system and suppresses the immune system. The list of medical problems that can occur is pages long, but some of the most significant include heart attack, high blood pressure, diabetes, irritable bowel syndrome, infertility, asthma, arthritis, depression/anxiety and eating disorders. How do I reduce my stress? It’s amazing how a few little things can go a long way to reduce your stress and improve your health. • Breathe. Taking 2 minutes from your busy schedule to do deep breathing can make you feel like a new person. • Write. Write down your thoughts, to-do lists and stressors and make necessary changes that can help ease your stress. • Sleep. Get enough sleep. Most adults need seven to nine hours a night. • Eat well. If you fuel your body right, it will treat you right. Avoid getting tricked into the short-term high associated with sugar and caffeine. Healthy fruits, veggies, whole grains and protein will sustain you throughout your day. • Exercise. Physical activity releases endorphins which are mood elevators.

By Robyn Hubbard, M.D. If I told you there was one thing you could do to decrease your risk of heart disease, obesity, infection, anxiety, depression and memory problems, would you do it? Of course, every one of us would go for that magic cure-all. The truth is that stress is connected with all of those things and more. So one thing you can do to decrease your health risks and improve your quality of life is to reduce stress. Reducing stress may be easier said than done. But if you analyze your own life just a little bit, you may find that a few small changes go a long way toward a less stressed, healthier you.

What is stress? (from Stress is a mental, emotional and physical response to events that upset our personal balance in some way. When we are faced with a threat, whether to our physical safety or emotional equilibrium, the body’s defenses kick into high gear in a rapid, automatic process known as the “fight-or-flight” response. This stress response feels like heart pounding in the chest, muscles tensing up, faster breathing and every sense on red alert. (Imagine the last time you nearly missed a car accident.) Small doses of stress can be good for us. Stress keeps you on your toes during a presentation at work or keeps you studying for your exam. Large amounts of stress, however, can be too much; pushing our mind and body beyond what we are able to cope with. This can affect our overall mental and physical health. This also can happen when any degree of stress occurs over a long period of time (chronic stress).

What are some of the most stressful events people experience? Major life events are stressful, no matter who you are or what you do. If you’ve experienced one of these “most stressful events,” give yourself credit for the amount of stress your body is under. If you are experiencing more than one stressor at a time, your stress is compounded.


Top 10 Stressful Events • • • • • • • • • •

Death of a spouse Divorce Marital separation Spending time in jail Death of a close family member Personal illness or injury Marriage Dismissal from work Pregnancy Retirement

Source: Holmes and Rahe Scale of Life Events *I would like to add that other sources quote death of a child and going to war as two of the most stressful events. What are some of the most common causes of stress? Among the most common things I see in my practice as an obstetrician and gynecologist is stress associated with daily life, the workplace and family responsibilities. It’s hard to stay calm and relaxed in our hectic lives. As women, we have many roles: spouse, mother, caregiver, friend, employee and the list goes on. With all we have going on in our lives, it seems almost impossible to find ways to de-stress. But it’s important to find those ways. Your health depends on it. What are some early signs of stress? Stress drives people to eat too much, sleep too little, skimp on exercise and shortchange fun. Stress often contributes to symptoms of illness. Common symptoms include headache, sleep disorders, difficulty concentrating, short temper, upset stomach, job dissatisfaction, low morale, depression and anxiety. What are serious signs of stress? Being exposed to stress over a long period of time (such as caring for a sick family member or going through a divorce) can significantly affect your health. Major medical problems are more likely to occur and problems that we already have can get worse. Recent research

• Talk. A good support network is imperative: let friends, family, co-workers and/or a therapist to help you work through your stress. • Set limits. Women are very likely to multitask all day long. Learn to say no to the things that steal time and energy from you so you can focus on the things that enrich and motivate you. • Drop unhealthy habits. Stress commonly pushes us toward alcohol, cigarettes, drugs or overeating. Healthy, low-stress living avoids these things.

Recent research suggests that up to 90 percent of illness is stress related. In our society, most of us are used to being in control. Loss of control can cause big-time stress. The trick in these kinds of situations is to make yourself feel, little by little, as though you’re in control. Simple things like prioritizing, breathing and cutting back on caffeine may make you feel like a new person. Why not give it a try? For more information, contact your health care provider or a therapist. Also, there is great web information out there at: National Institute of Mental Health: American Psychological Association: National Mental Health Association: American Institute of Stress:

Robyn Hubbard, MD is a practicing obstetrician and gynecologist with Grand Rapids Women’s Health.

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Lauren Fix’s Guide to Loving Your Car By Lauren Fix St. Martin’s Griffin, 2008, $16.95

In the words of author and automotive safety and driving expert, Lauren Fix (no relation to this reviewer), “This book is designed to give you Car Smarts, to empower you to make the right maintenance and driving decisions, to educate you on buying, selling, and leasing, and to provide a wealth of safety details that are too easily overlooked in our busy lives.” There’s a great section on the initial purchase of a car and the considerations that should go into that choice. Fix discusses insurance terms you need to know and the pros and cons of warranties and roadside assistance packages. Her driving tips include The Ten Commandments for courteous driving. An excellent section of the book clearly explains what to do in handling an extensive list of accidents and emergencies. These range from keys locked in a car to a gas pedal stuck in acceleration; from lightning strikes to black ice encounters; from deer in the headlights, all the way to what to do if you’re driving when an earthquake occurs. A very complete section advises readers on how to use your senses and explain a car problem to a technician. A thorough description of car parts will serve well as a handy reference when you do get that ominous car problem diagnosis.

Dying far too young at the age of 60, Barbara leaves behind her diary, and for each of her daughters, a letter and a gift. The siblings bond and clash over these messages from their “mum.” What could be maudlin is not. This novel is thought provoking and at times joyful and humorous. This is a very real family whose lives are cluttered with the good and the bad of it all. Even Barbara is a complicated character, less perfect than she at first seems. We come to know her through her words and her offspring. All four sisters have issues not yet resolved in their lives and each has missed an opportunity to glean some final advice from her mother. Lisa, the oldest, is in her thirties and having a difficult time making a decisive commitment to a long-term relationship. Jennifer, married but childless, is unhappy with the mediocrity and emptiness of her life. Amanda, always restless, always traveling, is in her twenties and seeking a direction in her life. Hannah, the youngest daughter, is just 15 and on the brink of young womanhood. Living at home, she struggles with her dad’s loneliness. As Barbara’s life story unfolds more completely, each daughter comes to understand her own life and choices a little better.

Things I Want My Daughters to Know By Elizabeth Noble William Morrow, 2008, $22.95


(Note: Although true to the character’s voice, there is occasional language that some readers may find offensive.)

Conversation Starter: Loving Frank By Nancy Horan Ballantine, 2008, $14 In the early 1900s, Frank Lloyd Wright was an up-andcoming architect in the Chicago area. His innovative designs were all the rage and Edwin Cheney wanted a part of that new look. Commissioning Mr. Wright to design his new house in Oak Park, Ill. would set into motion a connection that would ultimately destroy that very home and the Cheney marriage. This historical novel is the story of the love affair between Mamah Borthwick Cheney, Edwin’s wife, and Frank Lloyd Wright, Catherine Wright’s husband. Their illicit liaison rocked the Oak Park community in which they lived. Neither aggrieved spouse wanted to grant a divorce, so Mamah and Frank were living on scandalous ground together. Leaving their children behind, the couple moved to Germany for a period of time, hoping to live what they called an “authentic life.” In her own right, Mamah’s influence on Frank’s creativity was significant. A graduate of the University of Michigan and a librarian by profession, Mamah found great satisfaction in translating the works of Ellen Key, a Swedish feminist. The couple returned from Europe when Frank began to build his beloved Taliesin in Wisconsin, but they continued to face pressure for their socially unacceptable living arrangement. A shockingly tragic ending marks the very high price paid by this couple for living outside of society’s standards. This novel gives narrative to the complicated lives of Frank Lloyd Wright and Mamah Borthwick Cheney. Written in Mamah’s voice, readers are privy to her agonizing decisions about self fulfillment, choices in relationships and love of her children. Throughout the book, there are moments when readers are drawn to and repelled by both lead characters. The issue of Mamah’s mothering choices will surely provoke intense discussion. The early years of the suffrage quest and the feminist movement in Europe and America will provide interesting conversation. Attitudes and relationships create focal points for discussion. One great addition to the conversation will be the publisher’s Web site with its suggestions of additional resources, including photos, for those who get caught up in the facts about these individuals’ lives.

Alexandra Fix is the author of ten non fiction children’s book, including the series Reduce, Reuse, Recycle (Heinemann Library). She is a former children’s librarian, registered nurse, freelance writer and avid reader. Enjoying college one class at a time while her children were growing up, fed her love of literature and creative writing. She and her husband have five grown children and multiple grandchildren living all over the country.

February 2009

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