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6 n Getting Them Outside: How To Swap Screens for Spring Sunshine by Shannon Dean
8 n 10 Steps to Spring Clean Your Kids’ Rooms by Rebecca Hastings
12 n 7 Simple Tips for Finding the Perfect Preschool (And Why Now Is the Time to Look!) by Rebecca Hastings
13 n Alternatives to Sleepaway Camp by Rebecca Hastings
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39 n Pick of the Literature by Dr. Donna Phillips
40 n Raising Digital Kids
Unbox the Magic: Top Crates for Curious Kids by Mike Daugherty
42 n The Daddy Track
Welcome to a Minivan Dad’s Midlife Crisis by Shannon Carpenter
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St. Patrick’s Day!
Everyone is Irish on St. Patrick’s Day! Here are some craft and snack suggestions that will make the celebration fun for both you and the kiddos!
Alex, mom of three, at Three Little Ferns, provides the inspiration for this clever suncatcher. Although she used her Cricut machine for the black clover outline, she also provides a printable template on her site. She then places the black clover outline on a sheet of clear sticky Contact paper. Small squares of tissue paper in shades of green and gold are then placed overlapping each other on the sticky paper. Once covered completely, place another sheet of sticky clear Contact paper over it and press firmly to “sandwich it” in between. Trim the excess contact paper around the black border and you’re ready to hang it! Check it out at: https://threelittleferns.com/2016/03/four-leaf-clover-sun-catcher.html
Sam at Simple Everyday Mom came up with this idea for St. Patrick’s Day themed friendship bracelets. Rainbow colored beads, rainbow alphabet beads, and some stretchy bead cord, teamed up with a tag that says “I’m Lucky to Have You for A Friend” make an adorable way to celebrate the day. The printable link on the site for the tag seems to have disappeared, but it’s easy enough to make one by hand or design your own. You’ll find the bracelet info at https://www.simpleeverydaymom.com/st-patricks-day-freeprintable-craft/.
Liz over at Hoosier Homemade puts a festive, sweet-and-savory twist on the usual party mix with this recipe that both the adults and kids will love. It’s a snap to make and the children can even help you put it together. Classic cereals that you may already have in your own pantry make up the base of the mix—Lucky Charms, Honey Nut Cheerios, and Cinnamon Toast Crunch. Mix with peanuts, pretzels, and green M&M’s, and you have a tasty treat for all to enjoy. Find the recipe at https://hoosierhomemade.com/leprechaun-snack-mixfor-st-patricks-day/.
Looking for something a bit more on the healthy side? This no-fuss, super green vegan snack board, provided by Elaine over at Eating by Elaine, is a bright and colorful mix of fruits and vegetables. Create a rainbow and a pot of gold for the center of your board with whatever items you choose—a list of options for each color can be found at https://www.eatingbyelaine. com/st-patricks-day-snack-board/.
Variety, the children’s charity of Buffalo & WNY is thrilled to announce The 64th Annual Variety Kids Telethon which serves and helps children and their families right here in our hometown! Variety is proud to be the longest running locally produced Telethon in the United States.
The 64th Annual Variety Kids Telethon will once again originate from the Variety Club Headquarters located at 6114 Broadway in Lancaster, New York.
The Telethon will air on WGRZ-TV, Channel 2 from 6pm – 11pm on Saturday, March 21st, 2026. The presentation will also be streamed LIVE at www.wgrz.com.
The Sunday telecast will air on Sunday, March 22nd, 2026 from 10am – 8pm LIVE on WBBZ-TV-5, Your Hometown MeTV Station, Channel 67.1 on-air & DirecTV. The Sunday presentation will be streamed LIVE on the Variety Club of Buffalo Facebook page.
For The 64th Annual Variety Kids Telethon, Variety is proud to announce Sully Mettille, as the 2026 Celebrity Child; Russell Salvatore as Celebrity Chair; Kathy Kaminski as Telethon Chair; and Susan Grelick, as Telethon Co-Chair.
Learn how YOU can help and grab all of the information for the 2026 Variety Kids Telethon at varietybuffalo. org/64th-telethon/.
For the 64th Annual Variety Kids Telethon, the charity will be coming together to celebrate “Hearts United for Children.” Variety looks forward to having a wonderful celebration filled with memories, stories and focusing on the future!
The Variety Kids Telethon has continued because of the support from tens of thousands of Western New Yorkers who tune in and pledge their support each year, along with business partners who participate in their “Corporate Match.”
Telethon proceeds benefit dozens of local children’s non-profits right here in Western New York, in addition to the Variety Tent #7/Robert Warner MD Rehabilitation Center at Golisano Children’s Hospital. The Variety Kids Telethon raised over One MILLION Dollars in 2025.
Variety looks forward to sharing more details including announcing talent, bands, hosts, the 2026 Telethon Credit Card Premiums and much more. Please visit varietybuffalo.org for the latest on The 64th Annual Variety Kids Telethon! Be sure to tune in!
—by Shannon Dean
Spring arrives like an invitation, with longer days, warmer air, and a world that practically begs to be explored outdoors. However, for many families, the pull of video games and devices stands in strong opposition. If you want to help your kids trade pixels for playgrounds without turning every afternoon into a struggle, routine, or lecture, here are some tips:
Understand Why It Matters: Time outdoors is not just something that is nice for kids to have. Regular physical activity supports bone and muscle growth, helps with sleep, and benefits cognition and mental health in children and adolescents. Public health guidelines recommend that kids get about 60 minutes of moderate-to-vigorous activity on most days.
When that time is crowded out by screens, the effects are noticeable. A family-based clinical trial found that deliberately cutting leisure screen use for just two weeks led to measurable improvements in children’s emotional symptoms and social behavior.
Beyond emotional health, time outdoors supports another essential but
often overlooked skill: creativity. Unstructured outdoor play encourages children to invent games, solve problems, and explore their world imaginatively. Importantly, as outdoor play has declined since 1990, creativity scores among children have steadily fallen.
At the same time, research reminds us that not all screen time carries the same weight. Educational and co-viewed content tends to be less harmful than non-child-directed programming, suggesting that a balanced approach often works better than a strict zerotolerance policy.
Make It a Family Project, Not a Punishment: Kids respond better when change feels shared. Sit down for a five-minute family huddle and brainstorm spring goals: a backyard obstacle course, evening family walks, or a Saturday nature scavenger hunt.
The American Academy of Pediatrics encourages families to focus on balanced activities rather than obsessing over minutes.
Replace, Don’t Forbid: Blanket bans create resentment. Instead, swap a
block of screen time for a specific outdoor activity. For example, 45 minutes of biking in the neighborhood can be traded for 45 minutes of gaming.
Set Screen-Free Places and Times: Designate meal times, the hour before bed, and one screen-free evening a week. These predictable boundaries help children recalibrate without feeling they’ve been singled out. The AAP recommends screen-free family mealtimes as a simple, evidence-backed habit that supports connection and sleep.
Make The Outdoors Irresistible: Pretty, playful spaces get used more. Even modest investments like chalk markings on the driveway, a small obstacle course, a “story trail” in the yard, or a nature-photo challenge invite kids to stay outside longer.
Let Them Lead Play: Independent, child-directed play builds creativity and resilience. Allow time for unstructured outdoor play where kids choose the rules and the games. Parents who support spontaneity often find children invent longer, richer play sessions than any adult-planned activity.
Recruit Friends: Kids are social creatures. Organize a neighborhood kickball game, trade playdates with other families, or create a weekly “mud club” with a neighbor. When play is social, screens often lose their appeal on their own.
A Harris poll of 500 children underscores this point: the most compelling reason kids gave for setting aside their phones was the chance to play freely with friends.
Clinical psychologist Corinne Masur advises parents to follow that insight at the community level. “Parents need to look for opportunities in their own communities for children to get together and play without too much imposed structure. Is there a park or a program nearby? A community pool or a rec center? Is there a playground?”
Come Prepared: Playing outdoors sometimes means you’ll have to deal with unpredictable weather. Keeping a lightweight “go-bag” with sunscreen, a hat, and a water bottle makes spontaneous outings simpler.
Model The Behavior You Want to See: Children notice how you spend your own free time. When parents prioritize walks, gardening, or outdoor chores, kids get silent permission to do the same. Try simple rituals: a 20-minute after-school walk, a family dog-walking slot, or a weekend garden photo hunt.
Persistence Beats Perfection: You do not need to be perfect to make a difference. Research shows that short, intentional reductions in leisure screen time can improve kids’ mood and social behavior, and that steady investment in outdoor play supports physical, social, and mental development.
Start with one small change this week, celebrate the wins, and let spring do the rest. The goal isn’t to banish screens forever. It’s to open enough space for sunlight, dirt, and laughter to take root.
Use The Season As A Reset: Spring feels new by nature. Kids are often more open to routine changes now than during the school year grind.
Start With Ten Minutes: Short outdoor bursts often turn into longer play once kids get moving.
Make Transitions Physical: A quick walk, scooter ride, or backyard game helps kids shift out of screen mode.
Invite, Don’t Instruct: Phrasing matters. “Want to help me outside?” is usually more effective than “Go play.”
Let Outdoor Play Be Imperfect: Mud, boredom, and unfinished games are part of the benefit.
Use Technology Strategically: Timers, step counters, or nature-photo challenges can help ease the transition away from devices.
End Before Burnout: Coming inside while things are still fun makes kids more likely to say yes next time.
Author Shannon Dean is the mother of two sons. She enjoys writing about the health and happiness of families.
It is no surprise that kids’ rooms can get pretty messy, even if your child is great about putting things away. Between toys, outgrown clothes, craft supplies, books, and dust bunnies, there’s plenty to do. But for most parents, the idea of spring cleaning kids’ rooms can feel daunting.
Kids’ rooms are unique. They aren’t like the rest of the house. Think about your child and how much they change in six months. Those changes can often be seen in their room. That’s the primary reason it feels difficult when it comes to keeping their rooms truly clean.
Kids are evolving and so are their space, belongings, and needs. Just take a look at how fast they outgrow clothes or how they lose interest in a toy they were obsessed with only a month ago. This creates a space that is constantly growing and changing just like they are. Stay-
ing on top of it can feel impossible. But it doesn’t have to.
Most of the time parents focus on keeping things tidy. This makes sense on a daily or weekly basis. Put the books on the bookshelf, get the toys in the bin, and hopefully get the laundry put away. These are great goals. But sometimes the room needs more.
Spring cleaning is a great way to get a deep clean, go through their belongings, and reset the space to match their current needs. It is a lot of work, but breaking it down can help. Spring cleaning your kids’ room can feel refreshing for spring. Here are some steps to get the job done:
1. Declutter: This is the biggest job, but it makes the most difference. Start by getting rid of items your child no longer needs or uses. The more thorough you can
be the better. Consider what toys they truly play with, make sure their clothes fit, and toss things that are broken or stained. Donate or discard things that are taking up space unnecessarily.
2. Organize: You may be tired from all the decluttering, but don’t give up. It’s time to arrange things systematically. It is tempting to go online and find the best organizing solutions, but start with what you have. You can always fill in the gaps later. Consider using storage solutions around the house such as bins, baskets, or shelves to keep things tidy. Then make a list of what you still need. Always organize before you buy new storage solutions.
3. Dust and Wipe: The hardest part is over! Now it’s time to deep clean the space. Start by dusting all surfaces, including shelves, furniture, and electronic devices. Wipe down surfaces with a damp cloth or foam sponge like a Magic Eraser to remove accumulated dirt or grime.
4. Vacuum or Sweep: Next, clean the floors thoroughly. Vacuum carpets and rugs, and sweep or mop hard floors. Be sure to get corners, around heat sources, and under furniture. Deep-cleaning carpets or area rugs with a service or a carpet cleaner is also helpful.
5. Wash Bedding: Launder all bedding, including sheets, pillowcases, and blankets. This can contribute to a fresh and clean atmosphere in your room. If you use seasonal bedding, swap out the winter bedding and store it in a tote or vacuum-sealed bag for colder weather. Spring is also a good time to replace worn pillows or sheets. If pillows are yellowed wash them as directed or replace them.
6. Clean Windows: Clean all windows inside and out. This will allow more natural light to enter and brighten up the space. Don’t just clean the glass. Be sure to clean the sills, tracks, trim, and screens so things are fresh and clean. Also, wipe down blinds or shades to remove any dust or dirt and make sure they are in working order. Remove curtains and wash as directed.
7. Check and Rotate Mattress: If possible, rotate or flip your mattress. This helps to maintain its shape and comfort over time and improves longevity. Be sure to follow directions for your specific mattress as some types do not get flipped. Also, check to see if the mattress needs replacement. A quality mattress is important for sleep and overall wellness, even for kids.
8. Inspect and Clean Furniture: Take a close look at your furniture. Clean any stains or spills, and consider using furniture polish to keep surfaces looking new. Make any necessary repairs or note what you need to make them. Consider if your child has outgrown any furniture or if anything needs replacing.
9. Freshen Up the Air: The best part of spring cleaning is fresh air. Open windows to let in fresh air. Consider using child-safe air fresheners or natural options like oil diffusers to add a pleasant scent to your room. You can also consider whether your child would benefit from an air filter to improve air quality in their room. If you use an air filter, be sure to clean the device and replace the filters.
10. Evaluate and Rearrange: Now that you’re done, take a moment to evaluate the layout of the room. Is everything working well? Do you notice any gaps or things that are not functional? Does the space feel restful? Consider rearranging furniture or creating zones for a new look and improved functionality.
Bonus tip: This is also a great time to ensure the safety of the space. Here are some important things to check:
• Check all smoke detectors, putting in fresh batteries and testing them to verify they are in working order.
• Make sure you have appropriate childproofing for your child’s age for things like plug outlets, lights, heating elements, and doors.
• Verify that furniture is anchored appropriately.
• Check to see if your child’s crib is at the right height and away from any dangers.
• Ensure windows are appropriately secured.
Remember, you don’t have to do everything in one day. Break down the tasks over a few days or weekends to make them more manageable. Create a timetable or plan for getting things done and stick to it.
Spring cleaning is not only about creating a clean environment but also about creating a space that feels comfortable and organized. If you do these tasks once or twice a year, you will create a space that is healthier and more comfortable for your child and your home.
Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.
— by Meagan Ruffing
The birds are chirping, the sun is shining, and the flowers in your front yard are starting to bud. Things feel good. Life feels less heavy and yet, there is still a feeling of the winter blues lingering inside your head. Sometimes, even when life has slowed down a little bit, especially when life has slowed down a little bit, the quietness and stillness of the day can feel like a lot. It can even feel overwhelming and, at times, we’re not ever sure what to do with that quiet. In these small, still moments, self-care rituals can make all the difference. They don’t have to be grandiose events but rather, comforting, nurturing, and simple routines that bring familiarity. Try these 10 self-care rituals to get you ready for spring.
1. Splurge on a couple of springlike candles and put one in each room that you think you would enjoy the most. I always keep one on my nightstand and one in the kitchen. The smell and feel of the candles are calming and help me slow down when things feel rushed.
2. Put on comfy clothes. If you’re working remote for the day, throw on a
cute sweatsuit and hunker down at your desk. If you’re at the office, start by picking your outfit out, starting with your shoes first. You heard that correctly! Start with your shoes in mind and go up from there. Think about how you want to feel for the day and then dress accordingly.
3. Grab something warm (or iced) to drink and find a place to sit and people watch for a while. I love to do this at coffee shops to help clear my head and relax a little bit. Where I live, March is still kind of cold, but I can see signs of spring all around me. Visiting local coffee spots is a fun way to get out of the house and still keep it simple.
4. Go for a walk and get some fresh air. Getting outside and moving your body can help with anxiety and feeling stuck. Sometimes a different environment and getting your heart rate up can increase your self-care and productivity for the day.
5. Rest is a productive thing you can do for yourself and your kids. This specific self-care ritual has taken me some time to implement for my own
care but I’m happy to report that I am continually trying to improve by allowing my mind and body to rest. Rest can look like taking a nap, laying on the couch to read a book, closing your eyes for a few minutes, or just sitting down in silence while you take deep breaths in and deep breaths out.
6. Take yourself out to lunch once a week or every other week. This is a great way to spend some time with yourself and engage in mindful eating. Mindful eating is when you focus on the food in front of you and don’t have any other tasks going on at the same time (not looking at your phone, not jotting down notes, not reading a book, etc).
7. Journaling is a free and easy way to dump your thoughts out and clear your head. This self-care practice is very popular with therapists because it works. Your thoughts need somewhere to go, other than circling around in your head. Why not put them on paper and free up space to allow peace in?
8. Plan and make a nice dinner for you and your kids. When you’re at home on the weekends, think about what you
and your kids enjoy eating and then make it happen. You might be surprised at how nurturing and fulfilling it can feel to make a list, shop for ingredients, prep, bake, and eat a meal start to finish. This is a very tangible way to take care of yourself and the ones you love.
9. Play your favorite playlist at home while you do small errands around the house. Spring self-care can look different for everyone, and maybe organization is something that makes you feel good. If that’s you, blare that music and get to it! Spring cleaning is some of the most productive cleaning out there.
10. Head to the greenhouse and pick out some new plants to decorate your yard. There is so much grounding work that can come from putting our hands in the dirt and slowing down long enough to take in the fresh air.
Use this list as a starting point to think about ways you can bring routines, new or old, into the spring season this year. Think about how you want your month of March to look and feel and then plan accordingly. Spring self-care rituals for the single parent are a refreshing way to invest time and energy into the New Year.
Meagan Ruffing is a parenting journalist, mental health therapist, and single mom who tries to do her best each day. She doesn’t always get things right but continually strives to do better.
e were running errands when one of my teenagers shouted and pointed, “Look! It’s our old preschool!” Soon my other two teens were chiming in, “I loved it there!” and “That was my favorite school. Do you remember when…” And just like that, we were walking down a memory lane of craft projects, field trips, and even that time when the teacher helped with a loose tooth that just wouldn’t budge.
It made me happy that my kids remembered their days there as fondly as I did. Finding a preschool may seem stressful but when you focus on the right things, you can find the perfect place for you and your kids.
While it may seem early, now is the perfect time to look for the best preschool for your family. Schools are still in session so you can visit and see things in action. Visiting a school when there are kids there and activities going on is far better than when it is empty. It allows you to see class sizes, how teachers interact with students, and the way the school operates on a daily basis.
Parents are often surprised at how early preschool slots fill up. If you want to avoid falling in love with a school just to be put on a waitlist, now is the time to explore your options. Starting early also gives you the opportunity to see a variety of schools, including different preschool models.
1. Talk to kids. At the park, at the library, at your friend’s house. Find out what the kids loved doing on a given day or their favorite thing about preschool. Ask to see their latest project. Most kids will be thrilled to share their expertise. You can learn a lot from kids if you pay attention.
2. Talk to parents. See what schools they love and why. Find out if they are friends with other families there. Ask about the teachers that make it great. The most important thing is to talk to real people. Don’t rely on social media for accurate information.
3. Consider the schedule. Does the school have a schedule that works for your family? The days and hours must align with your family schedule, but also with your child’s preferences. There are schools with two-day-a-week programs and schools that meet five days a week. Some meet for two hours while others are the whole day. Think about what you and your child would benefit from.
4. Ask about educational philosophy. Every school has a unique approach. Some schools focus heavily on
—by Rebecca Hastings
academics while others focus on social skills. Some schools stress nature-based learning while others focus on the arts. Don’t get caught up in what these approaches are called, but think about your child and how their interests line up with what the school offers.
5. Talk money. The cost must work for your family. Consider tuition costs as well as extras like fundraisers, field trips, and parties. Be bold about asking these questions before you choose a school so you are not stressed later about unexpected expenses. Finding a school that your family can afford will create a less stressful environment for you and your child.
6. Find out about parent involvement. Ask how much parents are expected to be involved and make sure it is something you are comfortable with. Some schools ask parents to volunteer regularly during the school day while others only invite parents for holiday and year-end programs. Extras like fundraising or events can also be a requirement. Find out what is expected so you know if you can participate at that level.
7. Ask to observe. See if there is a good time for you and your child to visit during the school day. Watching the school in action is one of the best ways to discover if it will be a good fit. Chat with some parents at drop-off or pick-up. Observe the kids as they work together. All of it fits together to create the atmosphere where your child will learn.
Finding the perfect preschool doesn’t have to be stressful. Be realistic about your family’s needs and how they match up with the school. With these simple tips, you can discover a learning environment that will be perfect for your child.
Sending a child to a sleepaway camp is a big step for many families. While many kids have fun going to sleepaway camp in the summer, it isn’t the right choice for everyone. There are many reasons why it may not be the best fit for a family such as a child not being ready, finances, medical concerns, and personal reasons. If sleepaway camp isn’t the best option for your family, there are plenty of other options that will help your child learn, meet new friends, and most importantly, have fun.
Many families opt to send their kids to a day camp. It is set up just like a sleepaway camp, except the kids come home every day to sleep. Day camps vary in length, but are often Monday through Friday, lasting a week at a time. The schedule typically follows an extended school day schedule starting in the morning and finishing in the late afternoon. Some day camps even provide transportation.
The activities at day camp can vary. Traditional camp settings offer many of the things people think of when camp comes to mind. Things like swimming, arts and crafts, games, and hiking are common.
Some camps offer specialized activities as well. These can range from archery and riflery to boating and waterskiing. Meals may be included, but each camp varies. If kids bring their meals, this can be a great alternative for families concerned about food allergies as all your child’s food comes from home.
A growing trend is a program that offers specialized content to kids during the summer. These can be similar to a day camp program or just for a few hours each week. The time at a specialty program allows kids to explore a specific topic or interest for the whole time they participate.
STEM (science, technology, engineering, and mathematics), art, music, athletic, and hobby programs are great ways for your child to learn and connect with other kids with similar interests. Some kids thrive in specialty programs because they are given the opportunity to explore in depth. These programs can be sponsored locally. Colleges and universities are also great places to find specialty summer programs for kids of all ages.
Sometimes families need a more flexible option that is local and more affordable. Looking at local resources such as public school-sponsored programs, libraries, museums, churches, recreation departments, and nature centers offer a wealth of opportunities for kids in the summer.
The possibilities vary but can include things like a summer book club, LEGO club, volunteering at an animal shelter or organization, VBS, writing club, farm help, state park programs, craft times, zoo programs, and more.
Utilizing local resources is a great way for kids to explore a variety of things. This option does require a bit more legwork to plan, but can be a very economical and fruitful possibility.
A creative way to foster summer fun with other kids might be in your backyard. This works when multiple families create a plan and schedule to share the
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responsibilities and reap the benefits of summer camp for their kids.
Each family is responsible for a specific time. This could be a whole day, part of a day, or any arrangement that works for everyone. On a family’s designated day, all the kids go to that house and participate in activities. These could be things like playing outside, swimming, crafts, games, science experiments, cooking, and more.
The other parents simply drop their kids off and pick them up at the predetermined times while the host family handles all the kids’ activities for that day. This is a great option for people who need some time to work or run errands sans kids. The days you host will be busy, but you will have free time when the other families host.
A simple, fun alternative to a structured program is to assign a certain day every week or even a whole week for your kids to spend with a close family member. Extended family like grandparents often look forward to some special time with the kids to go places, bake, play, and explore.
This is a wonderful way to help your child connect more with their family members. It fosters relationships beyond what kids find when the whole family is together as it provides dedicated time for them with a family member.
When you are choosing a camp option for your child the most important thing is that it works for your family. There is no shame in opting out of sleepaway camp, especially with the array of possibilities that await.
Whatever you sign up for, be sure to research the activities offered, staffing, and schedule, and sign up early. Discover what is best for your family, and everyone can have a great time at summer camp.
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Pet therapy
— by Shannon Dean
Anyone who is part of an extended family may one day care for a loved one who cannot care for themselves. At some point in our lives, many of us will tend to a small child, an ill family member, or an aging parent. We step into caregiving out of love, out of necessity, or simply because it feels like the right thing to do. But even with the best intentions, the role often carries a heavy cost. Careers and finances may be put on pause. Physical and emotional health can take a hit. And when exhaustion sets in, it’s hard to give our loved ones the care we want for them. That’s why caring for yourself isn’t selfish. It’s essential. Here are some practical tips to help you stay healthy while caring for those you love.
Embrace The Role: Caregivers often downplay their efforts. But pausing your life to give so much of yourself is significant and may require a change in thinking. Identifying as a caregiver allows you to accept the help and the resources that make life easier. Although caregiving may mean a shift in
priorities, this doesn’t mean that you come last.
Leave The Guilt: Statistics from The Caregiver Alliance indicate that caregivers spend anywhere from 2441 hours per week tending to someone else. So it is normal to feel exhausted, frustrated, resentful, or to wish for an occasional break. Barry J. Jacobs, the author of The Emotional Survivor’s Guide for Caregivers, reassures that “ambivalence toward caregiving should be a normal, expectable reaction that doesn’t invalidate your love or devotion.”
It’s understandable to want to care for your newborn or elderly parent yourself. But friends and family can do laundry, supply a meal, or run errands. Loved ones often want to help but aren’t sure how. So, accepting whatever aid you are comfortable with benefits everyone.
Out Local and Digital Resources: Many communities offer free or low-cost caregiving
resources. Medical centers may provide classes and support groups. Social services offer transportation, meals, or education. Check with your local government for possible offerings. And be aware that many national organizations provide help online.
Caregiving can feel isolating, but you don’t have to face it alone. Support groups connect you with others who truly understand what you’re going through. Whether in person or online, they offer a safe space to share your experiences, exchange advice, and find encouragement. Many groups also point you toward helpful resources, which saves precious time. Cynthia Orange, author of Take Good Care: Finding Joy In Compassionate Caregiving, says that support groups prove that “there is strength in the common struggle.” They provide “a place where caregivers can share their feelings and fears without being judged or told what to do or feel.”
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— by Laura Shriver-Brown
When I was a little girl, like many others, I held my baby dolls, played dress up & thought of being married one day. As I got into my teens and twenties, I would dream about what my ideal partner would be like and if I could see us growing old together. I could visualize the “porch test” and see us sipping tea (ok, more likely wine) and talking about anything and everything.
Rarely, if ever, are we thinking about what am I going to do after my spouse passes away? How can I live in my home the rest of my life, safely and happily? What will happen to everything we built over the years if I go into assisted living or a nursing home? What are the most cutting-edge things I can do for my health to not only have longevity, but more importantly, have quality in my remaining years? I don’t think people fully understand how important those questions are until they are experiencing or approaching those scenarios. The problem is, often, it is too late. This is why I am giving you the cliffs notes on how to plan to age gracefully! For care givers out there, you get a huge head start for yourself while helping your aging loved one; a hidden gift during this very trying, but also beautiful, time of your life.
When I took that porch test we talked about earlier, it always included laughter. How do you keep laughing while living alone? How do you keep laughing when you’re going through menopause while taking care of your kids and your aging loved one(s)? How do you keep smiling when you are in pain? Sometimes the HOW is what gets us stuck. Let’s talk about the WHY! It has been scientifically proven by a Harvard University study that even if you fake smile for 30 seconds (hold a pencil between your teeth if you must), your brain receives signals to reduce stress and improve your mood. Of course, real smiles are always best, so watch funny movies, go to comedy shows, play with kids (they can teach us/remind us of a lot), join a senior center, start a club yourself around something you love, spend time with people you care about, get a pet, volunteer somewhere (I know of many things you can do right from home, so text or call me if you would like me to connect you at 716-228-4482), learn something new, invest in Netflix and binge watch old shows. Do something that makes you happy, every day, even when it feels like
you don’t have time or don’t want to. It matters more than you know! Happiness Hack: Use your Medicare card to join a gym (most of them offer free memberships; if they don’t, call me and I can help—716-228-4482). You can score a free or discounted ride there (call myself at 716-228-4482 or NY Connects to get the proper phone # in your area at 1-800-342-9871), and don’t work out! That’s right, you don’t have to work out to have fun and feel good! The YMCA & Jewish Community Center have pools. LA Fitness has a hot tub & sauna at some of their locations. Catalyst Fitness has a water massage table. Planet Fitness has tanning beds and massage chairs. Of course, you can work out too! All great options to feel good and bring a smile to your face! Sometimes you must be like Nike and “just do it” for a while, and eventually, you will look forward to it!
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Did you know that taking a simple walk around your building, block, or around a park daily (now that the snow is starting to melt) can improve your
...so grab one of those kiddos in your life and hug them until they wiggle out!
cardiovascular health and mood significantly? Just the sunshine and fresh air alone is good for you. If you can’t walk today, go soak in some vitamin D, sit outside and say hello to someone!
Social interaction is just as important as exercise & eating healthy! There was a study done in England at an orphanage where some babies were given hugs and lots of physical touch and the others did not. The babies who received the bare minimum physical touch “failed to thrive” which was the study’s softer way of saying they died. A good hug for 10 seconds or longer actually improves your health, so grab one of those kiddos in your life and hug them until they wiggle out! Seriously though, emotional health matters just as much as physical health! There are also energy healings you can do, like reiki or IET, to help you heal past trauma or emotional stress. A local licensed practitioner I use, who is amazing, is Evlena at Untangled Roots. She can do sessions remotely or at her gorgeous office. She can be reached at 716-771-0541.
There are also alternative medicine practitioners all over that can help if traditional medicine isn’t helping with some of your physical ailments.
One in particular comes to mind, Deb Lattuca, who can be reached at 716908-1792. She has a Quantum Bed, BEMER, and multiple homeopathic options, which any senior can easily take advantage of, no matter where they live, and experience incredible benefits (Fun Fact: The Buffalo Bills and other professional sports teams have something similar the players use to heal their bodies after playing/training so hard).
Have you heard of stem cell therapy? It is being used at Excelsior Orthopedics, Roswell Park and many other local medical facilities to help people experiencing pain or even cancer. The federal government has approved stem cells for over 80 major health ailments and counting. My own husband needed 2 knee replacements, and instead of surgery, received stem cells, and now has almost no knee pain, is bowling again, and no longer needs surgery. Stem cells have even been scientifically proven to help stop the progression of MS, dementia and other diseases (go to pubmed.gov to look up the studies). Canada has been giving stem cell treatments to their patients for years. To learn more about stem cell therapy, call Jeff Brown at 716969-6471.
TO IMPROVE YOUR FINANCIAL HEALTH
Did you know the United Way can help you get your taxes done for free? Go to MyFreeTaxes.com to take advantage of this incredible benefit! If you are one of the seniors having the $202.90/month deducted from your social security check to pay for your Medicare, you can potentially have all or some of that credited back to you! Call or text me and I am happy to check on what you personally qualify for: 716-228-4482. There are jobs out there with the Foster Grandparents Program, or through Supportive Services (716-881-6350 or supportiveservices.org), who both specialize in finding seniors jobs! I could go on and on. My point is your financial health matters! With the cost of everything going up, it can be tough to make ends meet sometimes. You can call 211 and find local food pantries in your area where you can get free groceries and meals. If you are a caregiver, did you know you could be getting paid for the help you are providing your loved one? Read tip #4 for more details on that!
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FOREVER! I don’t know anyone who wants to go to a nursing home. Sadly, especially for those with dementia or Alzheimer’s, it can’t be avoided. However, when it can be avoided, I want you to know what to do, and how to do it! There is nowhere I have found that lays out a step-by-step plan for where you plan to live out your final years, and how to give yourself choices, yet the quality of the last portion of your life depends on this information. Without planning properly on where you want to live, you may eventually be mandated by a hospital and not have any say in the matter, or worse, stay in your home, only to lose everything you ever worked for, and eventually be forced to go into assisted living or a nursing home (usually with a roommate) because you run out of money for homecare. Please keep this magazine, because even if you continued on page 25
Releasing frustrations or recording triumphs via the written word allows you to commiserate even when alone. Plus, you’ll have one place to record your loved one’s important milestones, events, or symptoms. Many find that writing about gratitude or even small victories helps maintain optimism. You can use a physical journal, or you may be more comfortable with a password-protected option.
A Priority: Statistics show that around 72% of caregivers do not receive regular medical care. Avoid putting your own health last. Regular checkups, a healthy diet, adequate exercise, and stress management are vital. “Your own self-care can help you stay healthy and strong enough to do one of the most important things you will ever do in your life. And that is good news for both you and your loved one,” says Jane Meier Hamilton, author of The Caregiver’s Guide to Self-Care: Help For Your Caregiving Journey.
Stress: Although we carefully watch our loved one for any signals of distress, we miss these signs in ourselves. Be on the lookout for weight loss, changing sleep patterns, sadness, or chronic physical ailments. Your body may be telling you to consider accepting help or to take more time for yourself.
Give Yourself Credit: One of the unfortunate realities of caregiving is that your loved one may not be in a position to thank you for your efforts. So, acknowledgment may need to come from you. Although it is easy to experience doubt in the absence of affirmation, acknowledge the gift you’re giving those you love.
Author Shannon Dean is the mother of two sons. She enjoys writing about the health and happiness of families.
don’t need this now, you will need it one day! It is better to plan sooner than later!
Step 1: Protect your Assets! You can use your family lawyer, but I highly recommend using an elder law expert. After 18 years of working with seniors, I recommend Bill Berard, because he has been doing this for over 4 decades, teaches on the matter, and is very affordable compared to many of the others you will find by simply Googling “elder law lawyer.” He can be reached at 716-2853288. You can protect your house, savings, investments, etc. from going to an assisted living or a nursing home, and ensure they go exactly where you want them to go to.
Step 2: Decide if Medicaid is right for you! Most people think you must be in poverty to get Medicaid. That is not true. If you are disabled (most people over 80 are), you can qualify. Why go through the process of getting Medicaid? Because you can get up to 24-hour care, in your home, at no cost to you. Every senior I know wants to stay in their home, and planning for 24-hour care ensures that you can (unless it is dangerous for you to be home). I know of a woman who made over $100,000/ year that had Medicaid. She was not working the system at all. Do the math: 24 hours, times 7 days a week, times $30/hour, times 30 days is more than she earns (over $20,000/month).
Step 3: If you do decide to go the Medicaid route and your income is over $1,800/month, you will need help because you will get denied. You can call your local Medicaid office to have a Medicaid application & Supplement A mailed to you if your income is under $1,800/month, because you likely qualify now! If you are disabled in some way, and earn more than $1,800/month, any pooled trust can help you. I support a local 501c3 non-profit, called Wellness for All, who can walk you through the entire process. Wealthy people have been using trusts for generations to protect their income and assets, and this nonprofit make it accessible to anyone! For more information, call 716-948-7797.
Keep this magazine! Take notes on things you hear and ask your doctor their opinion, while remembering eastern and “alternative” medicines also have a lot of merit. Your doctor is likely not trained in those modalities. I believe the best way to stay healthy and happy is to remain curious. Continue advocating on your behalf and always get a 2nd opinion (I recommend a 3rd opinion from a holistic practitioner also), because information is more available than ever, so don’t be afraid to look for what is best for you! Sadly, those who advocate for themselves typically get what they need more often than those who don’t, especially in assisted living facilities and nursing homes. Your mindset is more powerful than you think. YOU are more powerful than you think. Ask questions & listen to credible sources. Technology is advancing quicker than most can imagine, so stay curious and be open minded! Asking the right questions to the right people could quite literally change your entire life, and remember, no one has all the answers! We are all humans just doing our best!
For more information on anything you have read today, please give me a text or call at 716-228-4482. I am a local woman supporting my community with all I have learned since 2008. There is quite a bit that didn’t make it in this article that I am happy to share. Bonus Tip: After spending thousands of hours with senior citizens, I can’t forget the easiest thing you can start doing right now, which is to drink a lot of water, sleep well and be grateful! Many of my clients joke around and say things like, “growing old sucks” or “aging is painful” and I always say back, “the alternative is worse.” We all have one life to live and it is up to us how we live it! Everything, even our happiness, is a choice.
Laura Shriver-Brown is a former school teacher who has always strived to make a positive impact in her community. Since teaching, she received state licensing and national certification to start multiple businesses, including the non-profit Wellness for All Services which helps people with disabilities, seniors, and their adult children in taking the stress and confusion out of all that comes with the various stages of aging.
— by Cheryl Maguire
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When Lisa, age 57, first noticed that her mother seemed confused, she assumed it was typical behavior from an 80-year-old. She continued to take it in stride when her mother tried to make a phone call using the TV remote. Lisa became somewhat concerned when her mother started sautéing onions in a pan and then walked outside to get the mail, forgetting the stove was on. When her mother began seeing her long-dead mother in bed with her, Lisa realized there was more to the picture than normal aging. She knew her mother required full-time care.
Lisa is not a rarity. According to the Pew Research Center, there are 40.4 million unpaid caregivers of adults ages 65 and older in the United States. Ninety percent of those caregivers are related to the care recipient.
More families in the coming decades will be faced with what is referred to as being the “sandwich generation,” meaning that adults will provide care for both their
parents and their grandparents, says Dr. Lisa Hollis-Sawyer, Gerontology Program Coordinator at Northeastern Illinois University.
Hollis-Sawyer says, “Families rarely anticipate that their parent will need care.” This lack of planning can result in a breakdown of communication, leading to stress and frustration among family members. She recommends discussing a “care plan” with your parents before it becomes necessary.
Hollis-Sawyer researched daughters who provided care for their mothers. She found their previous relationship influenced how the daughter felt about their role as a caregiver. If the daughter had a positive relationship with their mother, often they felt happy to be a caregiver since they thought they were reciprocating care their mother provided for them as a child. On the other hand, if the daughter had a negative relationship with their mother when growing up, then they felt resentful about their caregiver role.
Hollis-Sawyer found that the care recipient felt guilty or a burden on their child regardless of their previous relationship. Even though it is no fault of their own that they required care, the care recipient felt as if they failed at being a parent.
Your role as a caregiver can be less stressful if you have open communication with other family members and with the care recipient. Hollis-Sawyer stresses the importance of asking for help when needed and expressing your feelings about the situation. She also suggests talking to the care recipient about their feelings or what they need assistance doing and ways they can be independent.
“It is important not to assume the care recipient is unable to do anything,” says Hollis-Sawyer. Allowing the care recipient to complete everyday tasks within their capability may help them to feel independent. The caregiver and recipient should figure out together what the care recipient is capable of achieving.
Self-care is an important aspect when you are caring for others. Hollis-Sawyer recommends the key to self-care is understanding yourself by writing in a journal or diary on a daily basis. This will help you to recognize when you need a break or when to ask for help to prevent burn-out.
It is also important to find social support for both the caregiver and recipient. There are many different forms of social supports such as counseling, community resources, senior centers, friends or other family members. “These social supports can help the pair identify both frustrations and triumphs which can optimize coping strategies,” says Hollis-Sawyer.
Through her research, Hollis-Sawyer witnessed many positive effects of daughters caring for their mothers. “Daughters learned about their own aging process which helped them understand how to prepare for it,” says Hollis-Sawyer.
She also noticed that the grandchildren benefited from seeing a role model of good care experience.
The caregiver and recipient often develop a stronger bond that was not there prior to their new roles.
“There is much to be gained through increased self-awareness and learning for all involved,” says Hollis-Sawyer.
Cheryl Maguire holds a Master of Counseling Psychology degree. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Parents Magazine, AARP, Healthline, Your Teen Magazine, and many other publications.
If you have a loved one who resides in a participating skilled |nursing, assisted living or adult care facility in Western New York, Independent Health’s Medicare Family Choice® HMO I-SNP plan can provide them with an extra level of care and support to meet their special needs. Members enrolled in the Family Choice plan receive regular visits from a nurse practitioner (NP)/physician assistant (PA) who is on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Family Choice NP/PA works with the member’s physician and facility staff to help identify potential problems before they become serious and minimize
unnecessary emergency room visits and hospital stays whenever it’s safe and appropriate. In addition, they keep the member, their family and all other team members informed through ongoing communication.
Family Choice members enjoy no or low out-of-pocket costs. Plus, enrollment for the plan is year-round. To learn more, visit www.independenthealth.com/medicare or call Independent Health at (716) 635-4900 or 1-800-958-4405 (TTY users call 711), October 1 – March 31: Monday – Sunday, 8 a.m. – 8 p.m.; April 1 – September 30: Monday – Friday, 8 a.m. – 8 p.m.
Independent Health is a Medicare Advantage organization with a Medicare contract offering HMO, HMO-SNP, HMO-POS and PPO plans. Enrollment in Independent Health depends on contract renewal. This plan is available to all Medicare eligibles that are entitled to Medicare Part A and enrolled in Part B. Members must reside in a participating facility in Western New York. Members must receive all routine care from participating providers.
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New York recently joined a host of states in passing legislation that allows a victim of economic abuse to free themselves of debts that they are not responsible for. Governor Kathy Hochul signed Senate Bill S1353/A3038B into law on December 19, 2025, creating new statutory rights and procedures for individuals subjected to financial exploitation through coercion, fraud, or abuse. The law will take effect 90 days after the signing and presents a significant protection for financial abuse victims throughout New York State.
The Center for Elder Law & Justice’s Consumer Protection Department represents many clients who are victims of financial abuse. Our clients are saddled with debts incurred through fraud or coercion from another individual. Many individuals entrust another to help them with their finances, only to become victim to debts that skyrocket with high interest rates. Victims of economic abuse can be at extreme risk of losing their homes and their income as a result of the coerced debt. These debts can make it impossible for victims to find an apartment or apply for a loan. Without this new law, victims and their advocates often ran into dead-ends trying to advocate with creditors as to why they should not be held responsible for a debt. Victims are often told that the dispute lies between themself and the abuser, and that they are still responsible for the debt.
Coerced debt is a form of economic abuse where an abuser manipulates and forces a victim to incur a debt. This law was initially framed in a domestic violence context but has been expanded to include relationships between caregivers; family members; as well as individuals exploiting a victim through a fiduciary relationship, such as a power of attorney or guardian. Examples of coerced debt can include forcing a person to sign a mortgage, auto loan, or credit card application. On a broader scope, this law would benefit anyone who incurs a debt where an abuser receives a financial benefit. It is important to remember that these new protections pertain only to debts incurred on or after the time the law takes effect.
There is a detailed process that must be followed to make a showing that a
Coerced debt is a form of economic abuse where an abuser manipulates and forces a victim to incur a debt.
— by Kevin M. Quinn
debt is coerced. An individual who seeks protection under this law must provide proper documentation and a sworn statement under the penalty of perjury that the debt is coerced. Proper supporting documentation may include a report made with a federal, state, or local law enforcement agency; an identity theft report made with the Federal Trade Commission; and/or a statement from a qualified third party (such as a social worker, attorney, doctor, nurse, therapist, employees from non-profit organizations that work with victims of domestic violence, clergy, elected officials, and law enforcement officers) verifying that the individual was a victim of coercion and did not freely choose to take on this debt. Victims can make the same showing as a defense to a lawsuit that is brought against them for the debt as well.
The creditor has certain responsibilities they must follow once an initial showing of a coerced debt is made by a victim. Upon receipt of the victim’s sworn statement and accompanying documentation, creditors have ten days to cease collection activity until completion of their
review. If the debt has been listed on a victim’s credit report, creditors must also notify the credit reporting agency that the debt is disputed. Creditors must complete their investigation within thirty days.
The creditor must then determine whether the debt is coerced or not. If it is found to be coerced, collection against the victim must stop and the debt must be removed from the victim’s credit report. If the victim provides sufficient proof that the debt is coerced as a defense to a lawsuit, the lawsuit can be withdrawn by the creditor or it can be dismissed by the court. If the creditor deems the debt to be coerced, this law gives them the ability to pursue collection activity against the abuser.
If the creditor does not find sufficient showing that the debt has been coerced, they must notify the victim in writing of their decision. As mentioned, the victim may still assert that the debt is coerced in court if they are sued for the debt. Additionally, the victim may bring their own legal action against the creditor and seek a judgment, finding that the
debt is coerced. If successful, the creditor would then be required to cease collection and remove the debt from any credit reports.
This law is set to take effect in March, so much remains to be seen as to how this will look in practice. Providing the sworn statement and accompanying evidence alone is not enough to relieve the victim of the debt. A victim is relieved of the debt only after the creditor finds there to be coercion, or if a court determines that the debt is coerced. But many advocates still see this as a big step in giving a voice to victims of economic abuse throughout New York State. Non-profit legal service providers like the Center for Elder Law & Justice look forward to the opportunity to advocate for victims to help them maintain their financial well-being while holding abusers accountable.
Kevin M. Quinn is a Managing Attorney for The Center for Elder Law & Justice. The Center for Elder Law & Justice (CELJ) is a non-profit, civil legal services organization providing assistance to individuals throughout Western New York. CELJ has offices in Erie, Niagara, and Chautauqua County. CELJ’s mission is to improve the quality of life for older, disabled, and low-income adults through the provision of free legal services, primarily in Western New York. CELJ uses the legal system to ensure that its’ clients may live indepen-
Source: Alzheimer’s Association—WNY Chapter
Last year marked a turning point in Alzheimer’s disease research, with major strides in diagnostics, treatment options and public understanding of cognitive health. Here are five key developments from 2025:
The Alzheimer’s Association’s U.S. POINTER study revealed that both structured and self-guided lifestyle interventions improved cognitive function over two years in older adults at risk for decline. Participants in the structured group—who engaged in regular coaching and peer support sessions focused on exercise, nutrition, cognitive training and health monitoring—showed significantly higher gains. These benefits were consistent across populations, underscoring the program’s potential for broad public health impact.
The Alzheimer’s Association, which has invested nearly $90 million in
the study, will continue working with participants for at least four more years and explore a variety of local programs to implement the U.S. POINTER lifestyle “recipe.”
Building on this momentum, the Association will launch new initiatives, including a personal brain health webbased tool and a virtual training program for health care providers.
In a landmark advancement, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) cleared two blood tests for Alzheimer’s disease in 2025.
In May, the FDA cleared the Lumipulse G pTau217/ß-Amyloid 1-42 Plasma Ratio test, which detects amyloid plaques—a hallmark of Alzheimer’s—in adults 50 and older with symptoms. While not a standalone diagnostic tool, it offers a less invasive option to support diagnosis.
The Alzheimer’s Association has
developed clinical guidelines to help specialists determine appropriate use.
In October, the FDA cleared the Elecsys pTau181 plasma test for use in primary care. Approved for adults 55 and older with cognitive symptoms, the test helps rule out Alzheimer’s-related brain changes and may reduce the need for PET scans or spinal taps in certain clinical settings. The Association emphasizes that diagnosis remains a multi-step process and urges providers to use blood biomarker tests alongside established “gold standard” tests, clinical judgment and evolving guidelines.
A nationwide survey conducted by the Alzheimer’s Association in 2025 found that nearly 4 in 5 Americans (79%) aged 45 and older want to know if they have Alzheimer’s before symptoms impact their lives. Additionally, 91% said they would take a simple test—such as a blood biomarker test—if available.
Nearly 3 in 5 respondents (58%) said they would accept a moderate or high level of risk from a medication that could slow the disease’s progression.
“Our survey shows that people want to know if they have Alzheimer’s—and they want to know early,” said Elizabeth Edgerly, Ph.D., senior director of Community Programs and Services at the Alzheimer’s Association. “They’re eager for simple tests and early access to care, including treatments that can slow progression. This underscores the importance of making diagnostic testing widely available.”
In August, the FDA approved a new delivery method for Leqembi, a treatment for early Alzheimer’s. Patients who complete the initial 18-month intravenous (IV) regimen can now receive weekly subcutaneous injections at home using an autoinjector.
This change may ease the burden on patients and caregivers by reducing travel and simplifying treatment. Studies show that continued use of Leqembi helps preserve memory and thinking skills, with side effects remaining stable or improving after the first year.
The Alzheimer’s Association encourages participation in ALZ-NET, a program collecting real-world data on Alzheimer’s treatments. This information will help improve care, support research and ensure equitable access to effective therapies.
In 2025, the Alzheimer’s Association launched ALZPro, a centralized online hub offering clinical guidelines, training, research publications and practical tools for professionals advancing dementia research and care.
Designed to empower researchers, clinicians and care providers, ALZPro
delivers timely, evidence-based resources to support high quality, person-centered care. The platform helps professionals stay current with breakthroughs in science and treatment while addressing the evolving needs of diverse populations.
ALZPro unites trusted resources in one accessible location, supporting professionals in translating research into practice and improving outcomes across all stages of the disease.
“This year brought remarkable breakthroughs in Alzheimer’s research from earlier, more accessible diagnosis to new treatment options that offer hope to millions,” said Amanda Nobrega, vice president of programs for Upstate New
York Chapters. “As we look ahead, the Alzheimer’s Association remains deeply committed to accelerating progress and ensuring that every community benefits from these advances in care and science.”
The Western New York Chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association serves all eight counties of WNY—Allegany, Cattaraugus, Chautauqua, Erie, Genesee, Niagara, Orleans and Wyoming—with FREE education programs, support groups and other helpful resources for those living with dementia and their care partners. Visit alz.org/WNY for more information.
It’s hard to know when the time is right for an older adult to move from home to a residential care setting. This can be one of the most difficult decisions a family must make. Many people keep caring for the person at home, even though it becomes physically and emotionally exhausting for them to do so. Sometimes, moving to a residential care setting may become the most realistic decision to make sure that the person will get the best care.
Moving from home into a residential care facility should be considered when 1 or more of the following things is true:
• The older adult needs round-theclock care.
• The older adult can’t manage eating, toileting, and bathing (activities of daily living) without help.
• The older adult is prone to violent outbursts (physical or verbal), or is a danger to himself or herself or to others.
• The older adult has wandered away from the safe surroundings of home or neighborhood.
• The caregiver’s health and wellbeing is negatively affected.
Many types of out-of-home care options are available for older adults, depending on the level of care needed. These may include:
• Assisted living facility (ALF). ALFs provide maximum independence for older adults who remain relatively active and healthy. Typically, a healthy spouse and an impaired spouse can live together in an ALF. Most ALFs feature apartment-style living with individual kitchens, and many services for older adults. These include 24-hour security, transportation, and recreational and social programs.
• Residential care facility (RCF). RCFs are for those who can no longer live alone and independently, but who don’t require skilled nursing care. At an RCF, the older person can receive help with personal hygiene, grooming, or other activities of daily living. They can also have bedside care for minor and short-term (temporary) illnesses. Typically, RCFs offer rooms, not apartments. They provide some recreational and social services for older adults.
• Skilled nursing facility (SNF). SNFs are also known as nursing homes, convalescent centers, and rest homes. At SNFs, older adults receive continuous nursing services under the care of a registered nurse or licensed vocational nurse. SNFs can provide more extensive care services than assisted living or residential care facilities. Such services include IV (intravenous fluids), blood pressure monitoring, medicine injections, and care for patients on ventilators. SNFs often provide recreational, rehabilitative, and social programs for residents.
• Others. Special care centers are available for people with particular medical conditions, such as Alzheimer’s disease or dementia. Special psychiatric facilities may be an option for people with violent or disruptive behaviors, or people who present a danger to themselves or others.
In general:
• Is the facility staff willing to have you take a tour and stop in at mealtime to visit with residents?
• What care services are provided and do these services match your own individual needs?
• How much input do residents and their families have in daily life and care?
• What choices of accommodations are available?
• Are there graduated levels of care available? For example, can residents move from an assisted living environment to a higher level of care as needed?
• What personal items can be brought from home? What items are not allowed?
• Can residents have their own car on the premises?
• What is the visitation policy?
• Does the facility have a certain religious affiliation? If so, is your loved one happy with this affiliation?
• How would an emergency situation be handled by the facility? This includes a fire or severe winter storm. Does the facility have an emergency or crisis management plan in place?
The facility:
• Is the facility clean and tidy throughout? Are sanitary standards strictly enforced?
• Are appropriate safety measures taken? These include clearly marked fire exits, well-lighted hallways, bathroom grip bars, and an in-room emergency call system.
• Is the facility located in a safe and convenient location?
• Is 24-hour security provided?
• Rooms:
• Are individual rooms bright, cheery, and roomy?
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• Do room arrangements allow for privacy?
• Do individual rooms have windows, allowing for natural light and a pleasant view?
• Are the common areas (activity rooms, lobby, and gathering rooms) large, bright, and well kept?
• Is the dining room welcoming, spacious and not too crowded? Is it easy to move around in?
• Is the kitchen area clean and organized?
Respect for the older individual:
• Does the facility have a written policy about residents’ rights and responsibilities? Is it made readily available?
• Is the staff trained to treat residents with dignity and respect?
• Are residents and their families involved in developing the individual care plans?
Staff:
• What is the number of staff members available per shift?
• Is the staff friendly and respectful of residents?
• Are continuing education and training a priority?
• Specifically, what staff medical services are provided? Does the facility offer healthcare providers, nursing, physical therapy, respiratory care, and occupational therapy?
Nursing care:
• What is the resident-to-nurse ratio?
• Is nursing care provided 24 hours a day?
• What are the credential requirements for the nursing staff?
Licensure and certification:
• Is the facility licensed by the state?
• Is it licensed to provide Medicare and Medicaid coverage?
Costs:
• Which services are included in the standard rate? Are other services provided for additional fees?
• What are the facility’s Medicare and Medicaid policies?
Medical considerations:
• Is a healthcare provider available for emergencies?
• Are personal healthcare providers allowed to follow residents at the facility? Or does a facility-appointed healthcare provider treat residents?
• Does the facility have arrangements with a nearby hospital in case of an emergency?
• Is emergency transportation available?
Activities:
• Is a well-rounded program of social and recreational activities available for groups and individuals? For example, does the facility offer outdoor outings, arts and crafts classes, movie outings, exercise classes, and reading clubs?
• Does the facility stay active and connected with the surrounding community?
• Are outside trips and activities planned regularly?
Nutritional needs:
• Are meals provided at the facility, and what are the meal plan options?
• Does a licensed dietitian approve all menus?
• Can the facility accommodate people with special dietary restrictions?
• For people who want to take some meals in privacy, is there a small kitchen or kitchenette available in the individual room or apartment?
Additional services:
• Does the facility provide chaplain services?
• Is a rehabilitative specialist or physical therapist available for rehabilitation?
• Is massage therapy offered?
• Are housekeeping and laundry needs available? If so, are they included as part of overall fees or provided at an extra cost?
• Is transportation available for trips to the local shopping center, grocery store, library, and bank?
When your elderly family member unexpectedly winds up in the hospital for a month and there’s no way to pay her bills or even know what bills are due, or you suddenly find that you need several years of bank statements and records of other assets to apply for Medicaid, the task will be much easier if someone has taken the time to find and organize the following important documents or duplicate copies.
Purchase a plastic file box with hanging file folder dividers and use this as your “command center.” Even if your elderly family member is perfectly healthy, this is a good project to work on together. From a purely practical standpoint, these papers will be needed eventually, and getting them in order is a smart thing to do. (While you’re at it, think about how your own important papers are organized? What would happen if you were in an accident and incapacitated for any length of time? Perhaps
it’s time for you to do a bit of organizing as well!)
If you parent is willing and able, just buy them the supplies to get them started and give them control over getting the job done. Just ask them to let you know where they keep the box so that, in case of emergency, you will know where to find it.
• Full legal name
• Social Security number
• Legal residence address
• Driver’s license
• Passport
• Date and place of birth
• Full legal names and addresses of spouse and children
• Location of birth and death certificates and certificates of marriage, divorce, citizenship, and adoption
• Employers and dates of employment
• Education and military records
• Names and phone numbers of religious contacts
• Memberships in groups and awards received
• Names and phone numbers of close friends, relatives, doctors, lawyers, and financial advisors
• Health insurance card(s) and benefits documentation
• Medications taken regularly (be sure to update this regularly)
• Location of living will/advance directive
• Health care proxy
• Health care power of attorney
• Last will & testament
• Pre-arranged funeral information, if any
• Deed to a pre-purchased cemetery gravesite
• In this digital age, User IDs and Passwords to important online accounts; security password for their computer or cell phone.
• Sources of income and assets (pension from your employer, IRAs, 401(k)s, interest, etc.)
• Social Security and Medicare/ Medicaid statements/information
• Insurance information (life, health, long-term care, home, car) with policy numbers and agents’ names and phone numbers
• Names of your banks and account numbers (checking, savings, credit union)
• Investment income (stocks, bonds, property) and stockbrokers’ names and phone numbers
• Copy of most recent income tax return
• Liabilities, including property tax — what is owed, to whom, and when payments are due
• Mortgages and debts — how and when they are paid
• Deeds for any properties owned
• Vehicle titles and registrations
• Credit and debit card names and account numbers
• Location of safe deposit box and key
— by Dr. Donna Phillips
March is the month of waking up! After the long silent winter, the juices of the plants and animals are beginning to stir. Bits of green may poke up out of the snow. With the March equinox our energy starts to change too, as longer days and more sun activate our circadian rhythms. More exposure to daylight increases serotonin production, a mood-enhancing neurotransmitter that makes us feel happier and more energized. Spring is about to spring and so is all in nature! Our spirits begin to soar, as well as our mood and energy. It is time wake up and to get out to enjoy what has been waiting for us all winter!
Let’s start March with Awe! (Scholastic Press, New York, 2026, $19.99), written by Chana Stiefel and illustrated by Susan Gal. According to Jay Wilkinson, “by cultivating awe, we can increase well-being, reduce anxiety and depression, and feel more connected to the world around us, our purpose, and the larger human community. This sense of wonder helps us feel part of something greater than ourselves, such as nature or the universe.”
Children have a natural sense of awe, but adults often lose this as life takes over. Awe! is a beautifully illustrated book for young and old to awaken the awareness of what spring and life has to offer. Surprises on every page act like the surprise that awe creates in us. Sights, sounds, smells, moments of unexpected beauty and the magic of nature are celebrated in the simple yet very powerful book for all ages.
Awesome Wondrous Empowering emotions await you!
Awe can inspire us to dream and When You Dream Big (Scholastic Press, New York, 2026, $19.99) by Peter H. Reynolds is just the book to help us do it. Charley’s teacher challenges the class to share what they want to be when they grow up… but Charley has no idea. The more her classmates share their ideas the more confused she gets. As days pass and more and more children are wearing the wings they made to celebrate their dream, Charley has yet to take off. One step at a time, she looks around for inspiration until she realizes she is already on her path to becoming her dream. She may not know exactly where she is going but
she wants to be a bit braver and a bit happier on her journey to her dream. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “It’s not the destination, it’s the journey.” Charley has earned her wings and is on her way!
Kites are another way to fly and A Year of Kites: Traditions around the World (Bloomsbury Children’s Books, New York, 2026, $18.99), written by Monisha Bajaj and illustrated by Amber Ren, is a great book to inspire us to get outdoors and moving in March. This book takes us on a tour
of the world and shares how kites have been used to celebrate milestones, bring good fortune, honor gods and ancestors, communicate, and connect communities across the ages. They have been used as toys, for experiments, for sports like kitesurfing, creating energy, and for navigation and even just for fun! Imagine a sky filled with different, colorful kites on a breezy day on a beach or in an open field. The image alone creates a sense of freedom, space, happiness, and awe. Kites don’t have to be fancy and are easy to make. The author provides directions on how to make one along with a much more detailed section on the history of kites. This book is perfect to inspire us to get out and celebrate the awesomeness of March and the beginning of spring!
Dr. Donna Phillips is an associate professor in the College of Education at Niagara University where her specialty is literacy and children’s literature. She lives on Grand Island, NY and is the mother of two adult children and the grandmother of one.
— by Mike Daugherty
Subscription boxes for kids have become a popular way to mix learning with fun. These “crates” arrive at your door filled with hands-on activities that help kids explore new interests, build skills, and stay engaged without screens. Imagine the sheer delight on your child’s face when they spot a colorful package on the porch, ready to transform a rainy afternoon into a science lab or an art studio. I’ve subscribed to some of these in the past and I can honestly say my kids really enjoyed them! Whether they are budding engineers or aspiring chefs, these kits turn everyday moments into opportunities for joy and discovery.
From STEM and reading to cooking and crafts, today’s crates offer something for nearly every age and interest. Below is a look at some of the best options available in 2026.
KiwiCo remains one of the most well-known STEM subscription services for kids. Its strength lies in its wide range of age-based crates, starting with Panda Crate for babies and going up to Eureka Crate for teens. Each box includes a hands-on project designed to be engaging and educational, with clear instructions that allow kids to work independently or with minimal adult help.
Projects rotate monthly and cover topics such as engineering, science, and design. Pricing typically falls between $22–$24 per month, with discounts available for longer subscriptions. Families appreciate the
consistent quality of materials and the way each crate encourages curiosity and problem-solving.
Created by engineer and YouTuber Mark Rober, CrunchLabs focuses on teaching kids how to think like engineers. By 2026, CrunchLabs has expanded into multiple tracks, including kits for younger kids, a core Build Box, and advanced options for teens interested in robotics and coding.
Each box includes a build-it-yourself project and access to a video lesson that explains both how the project works and the science behind it. Pricing ranges from about $27–$33 per box depending on the plan. CrunchLabs stands out for its high-energy approach and strong connection between physical building and real-world STEM concepts.
Bitsbox takes a different approach to STEM by focusing on coding. Designed for kids roughly ages 6–12,
Bitsbox teaches programming through game and app creation. Kids follow step-by-step guides to write simple JavaScript code, then see their apps run on real devices.
Families can choose a digital-only option or a physical box with printed guides and small extras. Monthly pricing starts around $17 for digital plans and goes up to about $30 for deluxe boxes. Bitsbox works especially well for kids who enjoy technology and want to move beyond just using apps to understanding how they are made.
Amazon Book Box offers a simple way to build a child’s home library. Available to Prime members, the service delivers age-appropriate books on a monthly or quarterly schedule. Younger children receive board books, while older kids receive hardcover chapter books.
Parents can preview selections before they ship and swap titles if needed, which helps avoid duplicates. At around $19.99 per box, it’s a straightforward and affordable option for families who want a steady supply of new reading material without a lot of decision-making.
(Note: Popular services like OwlCrate have closed their subscriptions, making options like Bookroo an appealing alternative.)
Little Sous combines cooking, culture, and science into a single box. Each crate includes recipes, hands-on experiments, art projects, and themed learning activities. Designed for kids ages 5–12, the boxes provide several hours of engagement per month.
Subscriptions typically cost between $20–$25 per month. Families often describe Little Sous as a “cooking class in a box,” thanks to its depth and variety. It’s especially appealing for kids who enjoy hands-on learning and exploring food from around the world.
The Young Chefs’ Club brings the trusted approach of America’s Test Kitchen into kid-friendly cooking kits. Each box focuses on a theme and includes kid-tested recipes, cooking tools, and food science explanations.
Bookroo has grown in popularity for its thoughtful book curation. Each box includes books chosen to be high-quality but less likely to already be on a family’s shelf. Options are available for board books, picture books, and early chapter books.
Books arrive individually wrapped, adding to the excitement of unboxing. Pricing generally ranges from $21–$25 per month depending on the plan. Bookroo is a strong choice for families who want to discover new stories while steadily building a home library.
At about $24.99 per month, the kits are reliable, well-organized, and designed to build real kitchen skills. Clear instructions and optional challenges make the boxes accessible to beginners while still engaging for more confident young cooks.
Raddish Kids has become one of the most popular cooking subscriptions for children. Each monthly kit includes illustrated recipe cards, a kitchen tool, a
collectible patch, and educational extras that tie cooking to culture, math, and science.
Raddish offers multiple tracks, including general cooking, global cuisine, and baking. Prices start around $24 per month on longer plans. Families like the flexibility, the high-quality materials, and the way Raddish turns cooking into a shared family experience.
Annie’s Creative Girls Club is designed for kids who enjoy hands-on art projects. Each monthly kit includes two complete crafts with all required materials. Projects vary widely, introducing kids to different techniques such as painting, beading, and paper crafts.
The subscription costs about $20 per month, with frequent discounts for first-time subscribers. It’s a good fit for kids who like variety and enjoy finishing projects they can proudly display or gift.
Guide Dots offers a more structured approach to art, focusing on drawing skills. New subscribers receive a starter kit with art supplies and a light-up tracing tablet. Each month after that,
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– by Shannon Carpenter
I am no longer a minivan dad, and I feel that part of me has been buried. There was no eulogy of that part of my life, nor any kind words said at a nonexistent wake. The minivan that I had driven for the last thirteen years decided that it had enough, and with a tow truck as the only pallbearer, it left my driveway. Godspeed, old friend.
I had taken the kids on dozens of road trips in that minivan. From the World’s Largest Ball of Twine in Kansas to the World’s Largest Six Pack in Minnesota. And even though the last several years it wasn’t healthy enough to do these road trips, it was always there in spirit as the rental SUV took its place.
And now, it’s time to replace the minivan with something else, but that something else won’t be a minivan. We’ve undergrown it, so to speak. One kid is already in college, and another is on his way in the fall. My youngest still has five more years with me, but the others have gone. I don’t need third row seating, and I don’t need to care about the storage capacity. My days of carrying around soccer gear or buckets of baseballs is long past. So, getting a minivan is no longer a viable option.
But a Ford Mustang certainly is!
Apparently, I don’t get to be that cool. For the last 18 years, I’ve been a stay-at-home dad, and I say that I get to be that awesome. My wife disagrees with me and rolls her eyes. She’s a very sensible woman, where a flashy car doesn’t mean as much to her as a flashy 401(K).
My daughter also says that a muscle car is not for me. She says that I’m a minivan guy and always will be, and I should get another one. At the very least, she doesn’t want me to be the cliché old man going through a cliché midlife crisis.
Look, I’m a solid guy. I don’t drink and carouse with the lady folk. I don’t have a secret pill habit on the side, and I’m never getting hair plugs. Thus far, my midlife crisis has consisted of going to the gym four days a week and checking my blood pressure. As far as breakdowns go, mine is pretty stable. So, dude, let me get a muscle car.
Then, of course, I made the mistake at looking at the price of muscle cars. Then used muscle cars, and then used age-appropriate vehicles like a truck. I know that it’s been a while since I bought a new car (or minivan), but am I wrong to be completely flabbergasted? I immediately jumped into old-man lingo and said, “Back in my day, a car with 90K miles would have been under two grand! Why is this over thirty?!” It’s here that I reminded myself that I have two kids in college and one who is as smart as a whip. And while it may be cheaper for him to become a ditch digger (they actually bank), he’s gonna want to go to college as well.
I could get a Jeep, though. Something that has those big, fat tires and climbs mountains in its down time. I could have a snorkel on the engine so that it could cross rivers, because that comes up a lot when adventuring solo, right? And the spare tire on the back could have a witty cover that says some-
thing like “I’m a Jeep guy. Show me the mountain.” Now that is a proper midlife crisis.
The only one that I could really afford, and that my conscience would be ok with, is as old as the van that I just got rid of. It appears that I have been watching the cost of eggs for the last five years and not the cost of cars. Could I pay for the car in eggs? That might actually be a good deal.
So, it appears that my midlife crisis will be limited to getting hair plugs, but I refuse to see how much that will cost. Maybe insurance could pay for them. Do hair plugs come in hotrod red? Probably not.
I’m no longer a minivan guy, and that’s a bit sad for me. But it also appears that I’m not a muscle car guy. I will be a nice and responsible used car guy that gets great mileage, highly rated reliability according to Consumer Reports, and comes with adequate cup holders. That is going to be my midlife crisis. Or, I could get a motorcycle.
Shannon Carpenter is the father of three and has been a stay-at-home dad since 2008. He’s the author of the book “Stay-at-Home Dad: Your Essential Manual for Being an Awesome Full-Time Father.” as well as the co-host of Dadhouse Pod. In addition to his writing on parenting, he is also a humor writer trained through the famous Second City. And we all know that having a sense of humor is essential to surviving parenthood!
Standout: The Ben Kjar Story
Will is completely obsessed with roarball, a high intensity sport dominated by the strongest animals. To everyone’s surprise, the young goat manages to earn a spot on his hometown team. Now he needs to prove that he’s what the team needs...GOAT is a fine underdog sports flick, hitting all the expected genre beats, and doing so with skilled animation and plenty of humor. Pacing issues and unresolved plot points may irk adults but not kids, most of whom will thoroughly enjoy the film. Photo ©Sony Pictures Releasing
Matt’s dreams of a romantic Italian wedding come crashing down when his fiancée leaves him at the altar. Bereft and bewildered, he continues on the prepaid honeymoon tour while also befriending an empathetic café owner who introduces him to Italy and helps him rediscover forgotten talents. This is a sweet story of second chances, but it is marred by some annoying secondary characters and excessive alcohol consumption. Photo ©Angel Studios
It’s 2029 and skyrocketing crime levels have spurred Los Angeles to create the Mercy Courts. Rather than use judges, lawyers, or juries, these courts give people 90 minutes with an AI judge. Now in the hot seat is Chris Raven, a cop accused of killing his wife who needs to persuade the AI judge or be summarily executed. This thriller has several plot holes but is well paced with numerous twists and turns. It’s also full of negative content, including bloody violence and frequent profanity. Photo ©Amazon MGM Studios
Born with Crouzon Syndrome, a rare craniofacial disorder, Ben Kjar has a supportive family who realize that he is likely to face challenges but are determined that he will be well loved When he discovers wrestling, his talents become apparent. This docudrama combines dramatized scenes, home movies, and interviews with Ben and his family and friends. Inspiring and uplifting, this is an excellent choice for family viewing. Photo ©Angel Studios
Leah is certain that she is a shoo-in for the next promotion on her talk show until the network brings in a new guy – her cheating ex. Jarrett insists that he’s changed thanks to a pastor’s book but Leah isn’t sure she can believe him. Less a movie than an ad for a real book published by Amazon, this is a ghastly film that repeatedly tells women they should settle for flawed men rather than face the dreadful fate of remaining single Photo ©Amazon Studios
kids receive guided drawing lessons paired with video instruction.
We Craft Box is designed for younger children and families who enjoy crafting together. Each themed box includes four to five projects, all materials included, and clear instructions with optional videos.
Most boxes provide enough supplies for siblings to work together, making it ideal for family craft time. Pricing starts around $30 per month, with discounts for longer subscriptions. We Craft Box stands out for its simplicity, creativity, and emphasis on screen-free play.
While the upfront cost is higher than most craft crates, families often see noticeable improvement in drawing confidence and technique. Guide Dots works well for kids who want to seriously develop their artistic skills.
Kids’ subscription crates continue to evolve, offering creative ways to learn, explore, and have fun at home. Whether your child is interested in building, reading, cooking, or creating art, there’s likely a crate that matches their interests and age
level. Beyond the activities themselves, these boxes provide something just as valuable: time spent learning through play, building confidence, and discovering new passions…one box at a time. Plus, the sheer anticipation of a special delivery addressed just to them turns an ordinary Tuesday into a mini-celebration. It’s the ultimate excuse to unplug, get messy, and dive headfirst into a world of wonder!
Mike Daugherty is a husband, father of three young children, author, speaker, Google Innovator, and possible Starbucks addict. He is a certified educational technology leader who has served in a variety of roles through his twenty-year career in public education. Currently, Mike is the Assistant Superintendent of Innovation, Technology, and Communications for the Chagrin Falls Exempted Village School district in Northeast Ohio. As an IT director he has developed creative, well thought out solutions that positively impact teaching and learning.
— by Deborah Williams
Daytona Beach is known as the “World’s Most Famous Beach” and is home to the fabled Daytona International Speedway.
But this Atlantic coast Florida town an hour north of Orlando also boasts playful manatees and dolphins; the state’s tallest lighthouse; one of the country’s largest consignment shops; hiking, biking, and kayak trails; and glorious sunrises over 23 miles of beaches.
Daytona Beach was first dubbed the Most Famous Beach in the early 1900s when its hard-packed, smooth sand became legendary for automobile testing and racing.
The racing sport evolved from the early beach road course races beginning in 1936 to the founding of NASCAR in 1948 and culminating in the opening of the Daytona International Speedway in 1959.
Today there are daily Speedway tours ending at the Motorsports Hall of Fame of America that showcases the stars of all forms of motorsports. For the ultimate Speedway experience, visitors can drive a real NASCAR race car for a timed racing session.
Don’t want to drive? Take a NASCAR Ride Along. Sit back and hold on tight as you ride shot gun with a professional racing instructor driving top speeds for the ride of your life.
Visitors can still drive a car out on designated sections of the beach with a beach driving pass. There are strict speed limits and no racing allowed. Biking is also permitted on the beach and a beach walk is the top choice for many visitors.
The beach also offers an ideal viewing spot for rocket launches from the Kennedy Space Center, about an hour drive to the south. A rocket launched in the afternoon during our visit and it was easy to spot from the beach—a fun but quite brief experience. Check out the rocket launch website for the launch schedule.
Our expedition to the Ponce de Leon Inlet Lighthouse and nearby historic hotel museum and dolphin tour was a trip highlight. The visit was topped off with ice cream at Lighthouse Ice Cream at the Lighthouse Boatyard and Marina where the motto is “fish are friends, eat more ice cream.” Who could argue with that advice? There are cones, dishes, sundaes, banana splits, extreme milkshakes, and other ice cream concoctions.
The lighthouse has guided mariners along Florida’s coast for more than 135 years and the original light could be seen 20 miles out to sea. It was completed in 1887 replacing the 1835 lighthouse that was destroyed. It is Florida’s tallest
lighthouse and one of the tallest in the country at 175 feet. Visitors are invited to climb the 203 steps to the top for a grand bird’s eye view.
It is a National Historic Landmark and one of a handful of lighthouses with the lighthouse keeper and other buildings still intact and restored. The original Fresnel lens was made in Paris in 1867 and is now part of the museum’s permanent display which is considered one of the finest collections of restored Fresnel lenses in the world.
If you are lucky enough to be in the area for a full moon, sign up for the Climb to the Moon adventure. Refreshments are served before the big climb to the top for a special view with the light of the moon. Reservations are required and sell out fast.
Across the street is the Constance D. Hunter Historic Pacetti Hotel Museum, a 19th century hotel that has been meticulously restored and is one of the oldest structures in the area. After four years of restoration, the hotel opened as a museum in 2024.
For water lovers, the best part of our adventure was the Dolphin & Manatee Eco Tour with our enthusiastic and knowledgeable guide Jordan. The dolphins put on quite a show, swimming
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alongside our boat and rolling over and showing their bellies. They reminded me of water loving Labrador retriever dogs.
There were hundreds of true snowbirds on a beach we passed. They were white pelicans who fly down from Canada and western states and stay for the winter. They start making the flight home in March. They are much bigger than native brown pelicans.
Manatees are another favorite sight. They are remarkable creatures who are sometimes called sea cows. They can eat up to 100 pounds of aquatic vegetation daily and weigh as much as 1200 pounds. This marine mammal is more closely related to elephants than to dolphins or whales. They are an endangered species and protected by federal and state laws. Boat strikes, habitat loss, and cold-water stress are their biggest dangers.
best chance to see the manatees. Later in the day, they often go to the St. John River for their meals.”
A short drive from Blue Springs is De Leon State Park, home to the Old Sugar Mill Pancake House, a perfect choice for breakfast or lunch for the whole family. Located in a 100-year-old replica of the original 1830s sugar mill, it features cook-your-own pancakes at the table. There are other food choices for the nonpancake eaters but what is more fun than creating your own pancakes?
Chocolate lovers should make a pilgrimage to Angell & Phelps Chocolate Factory in the historic downtown district of Daytona Beach. Since 1925, the company has been making sweet treats. Step into the shop and watch the candy making process through windows and then enjoy some samples. In keeping with the beach and tropical theme, there are chocolate shells, starfish, miniature palm trees, white chocolate sand dollars, and even chocolate covered bacon and potato chips—not tropical but hard to resist.
Manatees cannot survive cooler winter water temperatures and seek refuge in warmer habitats such as springs and power plant outflows. The cold in Florida this winter meant crowds of manatees in some of their favorite haunts.
Blue Spring State Park, about 30 miles from Daytona Beach, has been attracting hundreds of manatees daily as they seek the 72-degree spring waters. On February 2nd, a record of more than 800 manatees was counted at the park spring. The slow-moving sea creatures are remarkably endearing.
Many regular manatee visitors have been named by the Save the Manatee Club. Sadly, scars from motorboat encounters often differentiate one manatee from another.
“There is something quite peaceful about watching the manatees,” explained Alex Russell, director of education with Save the Manatee Club. “I love to go out and listen to their breathing early in the morning. Visitors should arrive early for
Rosie’s Café in Dunn’s Attic, a huge consignment shop in downtown Ormond Beach about six miles from Daytona Beach, offers another unusual area dining experience. The Dunn family has owned and operated businesses in the county for 125 years spanning seven generations. Wes Dunn opened Dunn’s Attic in 1913.
The store boasts more than 30,000 items in stock, 4,600 consigners, 28,000 square feet, and 85 seats in the Café. The cafe is named after his wife and offers breakfast, lunch, snacks, and drinks. It is hard to imagine any diners leaving without wandering the aisles filled with a mind-boggling array of items including child friendly stuffed animals, dolls, and train sets.
“I opened this place because I was missing retail and wanted to bring back old-time shopping experiences,” explained Wes Dunn. “We have the most eclectic mix of items, and I am proud that I have returned more than $4 million to the community after selling people’s items.”
There is a wide array of accommodations in the area, many beach side. The Shores Resort & Spa was an ideal choice. Located on the beach, it offers a wonderful beach side pool and hot tub, firepits perfect for cooking s’mores, a spa, dining inside and out by the pool, and great sunrise viewing from your own balcony.
Travel Tip of the Month: For Daytona Beach information visit daytonabeach.com or call 386-255-0415. For the latest information on rocket launches from the Kennedy Space Center visit rocketlaunch.org.
For manatee information visit savethemanatee.org. For The Shores Resort & Spa visit shoresresort.com or call 866-934-7467.
Deborah Williams lives in Holland, NY and is a veteran travel writer whose work has appeared in national and international publications. She is the recipient of the Society of American Travel Writers’ Lowell Thomas Gold Travel Writing Award.
— by Tasha Wagner
Welcome back to another fun and exciting date idea! Let’s face it—the winter blues are very real and they hit a lot of us here in Buffalo. Once 5:00 p.m. rolls around and it’s already pitch-dark outside, finding the motivation to leave the house can feel uninspiring. You’re not depressed and you’re not lazy—you might just prefer a date day over a date night this time of year.
At-home dates are great (and that’s another article, LOL), but if you’re craving
a reason to get out of the house, keep reading. Some of my favorite dates have happened during the daytime—exploring restaurants, shops, cafés, and experiences with no rush and no pressure. The best part about a day date? Time is actually on your side.
That’s why Ellicottville is such a perfect choice. Just about an hour from Buffalo, this charming ski town offers far more than slopes and snow. While staying overnight is always an option, the beauty of a day date is having the freedom to do everything—and still be home by bedtime if you want.
The drive itself is about an hour, which makes for ideal uninterrupted time to reconnect. No kids, no chores, no background noise—just conversation and decompression. Starting early also gives you the chance to truly expand your vision of what a day date can be. Here’s my perfect Ellicottville day date itinerary.
Plan to arrive at Dina’s around 11:00 a.m. (or earlier if you’re ambitious—they open at 7:30!). Their breakfast menu strikes the perfect balance: elevated enough for those craving something different, yet comforting for anyone who prefers the classics.
The ambiance feels like a high-end restaurant and bar you’d find in Aspen. Exposed brick, leather and hide accents, dramatic booth seating, and ram heads adorning the walls create a space that’s equal parts cozy and stylish. Cowboy hats encouraged.
After breakfast, grab a coffee and hit the shops. Katy’s Café and Ellicottville Coffee Company are both great starting points before wandering Main Street.
Despite its small size, Ellicottville is a town you can easily spend hours exploring. Lately, there’s been an influx of new, up-and-coming shops, so take your time and pop into every single one.
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A must-stop for us is always Watson’s Chocolates. We love choosing an assortment and letting the chocolatiers behind the counter surprise us. Trust me—they know what they’re doing.
By now, you’re probably ready for a break and a little pick-me-up. Head over to Ellicottville Brewing Company for an impressive selection of beers on tap, a cocktail if that’s more your style, and/or an appetizer/snack.
EBC is spacious and inviting, with multiple bars, plenty of seating, and excellent service. On a nicer day, the courtyard and outdoor bar are ideal for sipping and chatting. This could absolutely be the end of your day… or, if you’re still going strong around 4:00 p.m., it’s the perfect lead-in to dinner.
If you’re staying for dinner, Ellicottville delivers.
Trattoria Partenope is a top pick for an elevated Italian experience. They’re famous for their cheese wheel pasta—and yes, you should order it. You will not be disappointed.
West Rose offers a metropolitan vibe with a polished, foodie-forward menu and standout wood-fired pizzas. It’s also a great stop for cocktails.
Prefer something more laid-back? Tap & Bottle Taqueria serves some of the best birria I’ve ever had. The vibe is relaxed, the décor is vibrant, and their library of tequila selections are impressive. While laid back, the vibrancy of the decor matches that of the vibrancy of the flavors!
“...yes, you should order it.”
If you decide to turn your day date into a weekend getaway, I highly recommend it. You could even add skiing at Holiday Valley or HoliMont.
For lodging, consider the Tamarack Club, which features an indoor-outdoor heated pool that’s open year-round. Yes— you can swim outside in the snow, and it’s just as fun as it sounds.
Alternatively, Ellicottville and nearby Salamanca offer fantastic Airbnb options within a short drive/Uber.
And finally—if you’re staying overnight and you love a well-crafted cocktail—you must visit The Banq on a Friday or Saturday night.
This gem of a cocktail bar—inside of an old bank—blends mid-century modern with art-deco glamour inspired by the 1920s. It’s intimate, inviting, and effortlessly cool. Whether you snag a seat at the bar, grab a high-top, or luck out with a velvet couch, the atmosphere feels indulgent yet comfortable. The cocktails are exceptional, and the entire experience is one to savor. And the old vault is still there right next to the bar!
They open at 5:00 p.m., making it the perfect finale to a weekend escape—and you’ll never hear me say no to a good getaway.
Cheers and enjoy date day to the fullest!
Tasha Wagner is a Buffalo born and raised, recent empty nester, known for her connections in the local foodie scene. Tasha is fully equipped to be your personal date night concierge.
– by Peggy Gisler and Marge Eberts
Helping all parents make their children’s educational experience as successful as possible
Across our country, we are facing some serious problems that are making it difficult for all children to get the best possible education. And of course, having so many schools go online during the Covid Pandemic has contributed a lot to these problems. We see that standardized test scores have declined, and children have gaps in skills making it difficult for them to learn new, more advanced materials.
It is especially concerning that so many children are not reading on grade level by fourth grade. Based on the 2024 NAEP (National Assessment of Educational Progress) reading assessment results, only 31 percent of fourth-grade students performed at or above the NAEP Proficient level. This was a decrease of two percentage points compared to 2022 and four percentage points lower than in 2019. Being a good reader is so important by fourth grade as this is when reading skills are absolutely necessary to master the now more challenging subject curriculum which includes social studies, history, literature, and science.
The number one problem causing so many children to not receive the education that they deserve is a teacher shortage. Last year, there was a mindboggling shortage of 400,000 teachers
who were needed to fill positions or to handle subjects like math and science. This has resulted in larger class sizes and a lack of qualified teachers for both grades and subjects. What parents need to realize is that for children to meet with success in school, they need good teachers. This is more important than class size and having a first-class facility. One of our children experienced this in middle school when there were not enough algebra teachers, and an English teacher was recruited to be her algebra teacher. She tried mightily; however, she had to re-teach herself algebra. The answers to her test questions were so unusual such as 372/8450 that it was impossible to check if one’s answers were correct.
The shortage of teachers is caused by many things. The profession offers lower salaries than many other professions requiring an equivalent education. And unfortunately, being a teacher is not always highly respected. Plus, after Covid the demands on teachers have increased as they try to make up for students’ educational deficits and emotional issues. Right now, more teachers are leaving the profession than are being replaced by newly-graduated teachers.
Violence has reared its ugly head in many schools. Today, police or security personnel are part of the personnel at many schools. There are drills that focus on what to do if there is a shooter in a school, and students may have to be screened before they can enter a school. Plus, there is an increased problem with bullying. These problems do not make for the best learning environment.
Parents can significantly improve a school’s environment by actively engaging in various activities and fostering open communication with the school and their children. This includes participating in parent-teacher organizations, volunteering in classrooms, advocating for school improvements, and supporting learning at home. By building positive relationships with teachers, staff, and other parents, and by creating a welcoming atmosphere at home that supports learning, parents can contribute to a more positive and productive school environment.
1. Help your school have the funds for more field trips, materials, and other extras by participating in fundraising.
2. Assist teachers with daily activities and special projects in the classroom.
3. Organize and participate in events celebrating the school’s teachers to let them know they are valued.
4. Be informed about what is happening at the school by attending board meetings.
5. Engage with school councils or committees, participate in decision-making processes, and advocate for policies that benefit students.
Parents should send questions and comments to dearteacher@dearteacher. com and visit the dearteacher.com website to learn more about helping their children succeed in school.
—by Kimberly Blaker
Teen sleep habits are an ongoing frustration and battle for countless parents. Many teens stay up into the wee hours of the night. Then they struggle to wake up during the week for school and sleep through the day on weekends.
But sleep is crucial to adolescents’ well-being. School-age kids between ages 6 and 13 need nine to eleven hours of sleep per night, according to the National Sleep Foundation. Teens, from ages 14 to 17, need eight to ten hours. Yet, studies find only a small percentage of teens are getting the necessary sleep.
The problem, as experts point out, is that during puberty, teens’ circadian rhythm shifts. In earlier childhood, kids begin feeling sleepy around 8:00 or 9:00 p.m. But during adolescence, sleepiness doesn’t set in until around 10:00 or 11:00 p.m. This is called ‘sleep phase delay’ and is likely caused by a delay in the release of the body’s melatonin.
Sleep phase delay, however, isn’t the only reason teens don’t get enough sleep. Increased demands on their time—ranging from additional household responsibilities and homework to extracurricular activities, socializing with friends, and media use—also contribute to teens’ shortage of sleep.
So what’s a parent to do? In a perfect world, all high schools would adjust the school day to begin and end at least an hour or so later each day. This would make it easier for teens to get the sleep they need and would benefit students significantly.
To exemplify this, Kyla L. Wahlstrom et al. conducted a 3-year study of 9,000 students. The study, reported in “Examining the Impact of Later High School Start Times on the Health and Academic Performance of High School Students: A MultiSite Study,” found in high schools that start the day at 8:30 a.m. or later students reaped several benefits.
First, 60% of the students were able to get at least eight hours of sleep per night during the school week. Those gaining the extra rest also had lower rates of depression and caffeine use and were at lower risk for substance use. These students had better academic performance and achievement test scores as well and a reduction in tardiness. Also, in communities where schools shifted the start time to 8:55 a.m., teen traffic accidents were significantly reduced.
If you’d like to see later start times implemented at your teen’s school, talk to other parents in your district about the teen
sleep dilemma and share with them the benefits of later school hours. Then create a concerted effort to take the issue up with the school board. Keep in mind that this is a longer-term solution that won’t likely be implemented until at least the following school year. But once implemented, it’ll improve your teen’s chance for success in future years and pave the way for other kids who will soon be entering high school.
Fortunately, there are several things you can do right now to help ensure your teens get the sleep they need.
Set a regular bedtime routine. Teens should go to bed and wake up at roughly the same time each day. It can also be helpful to allow your teen to sleep in a little later on the weekends to catch up a bit. But don’t let your adolescent sleep in too late. Otherwise, your teen will likely stay up later as well. This makes it difficult to fall into an early bedtime routine during the week.
Remove media from bedrooms. Televisions, computers, music, and cell phones serve as distractions to keep kids awake late into the night. Have your teen remove all media from the bedroom before bedtime. If your teen uses a phone alarm, replace it with an alarm clock.
Restrict caffeine. Soda, coffee, and energy drinks late in the evening impede sleep. Set a curfew of at least two to three hours before bedtime for drinking these beverages.
Keep the bedroom cool. Being too warm at night interrupts sleep. Set the thermostat to 3 degrees cooler at night than during the daytime. Just make sure your teen has plenty of blankets to maintain comfort.
Eat some carbs before bed. Have your teen eat a light, high carbohydrate snack before bedtime. Fruit and white grains are generally high in carbohydrates. Just make sure your teen doesn’t overdo it since feeling stuffed can also make it difficult to fall asleep.
Practice relaxation. Have your teen start winding down 30 to 60 minutes before bedtime. Your teen should do something relaxing, such as read, listen to calm music, or watch a light TV show. Better yet, see if you can get your teen to practice meditation or yoga.
Restrict work hours. Teen jobs often require working the late shift. So during the school year, restrict the hours your teens can work both on weeknights and weekends so they can get their z’s.
Take a hot bath. This is a good way for your teen to relax before bed. It can also provide your adolescent an extra 20 minutes of sleep in the mornings by getting the bath or shower out of the way the night before.
Seek medical advice. If you’ve tried everything and your teen still isn’t getting enough sleep or feels sleepy during the day, talk to your doctor. Several sleep disturbances such as insomnia, sleep apnea, or a sleep movement disorder can contribute to the problem. Certain mental health conditions, such as ADHD, depression, and bipolar disorder, can also lead to sleep disturbances.
Kimberly Blaker is a freelance writer. She also owns an online bookshop, Sage Rare & Collectible Books, specializing in out-of-print, scarce, signed, and first editions; fine bindings; ephemera and more at sagerarebooks.com.
—by Carolyn Tomlin
Ten-year-old Allen is a child with special needs. He has Down Syndrome and is low-functioning, non-verbal and has been diagnosed as having the cognitive ability of a 24-month-old toddler. When he was about 3 years old, his parents realized he was not progressing in skills others his age had accomplished. At that time, his pediatrician recommended a specialist for this disorder. At that time, he was diagnosed as having autism. This condition, being a Down syndrome child also, can be challenging for his parents.
Due to frustration, Allen often bites himself. In addition to biting, he bangs his head on hard objects and pinches himself. This self-injury causes bruising and abrasions on his body. He often wears a protective helmet when he begins this type of self-injury.
Katie, now 7, is in the second grade. An autistic child, she had a one-on-one aide in the classroom. When other parents complained that Katie was biting their children, she was moved to a special school for children with this disorder.
Phil, who is now 8 years old, is also autistic. Like his siblings, Phil enjoys car trips with his family. However, he needs to be buckled in like the other family members. If another sibling is in the back seat and he can reach them, he bites or pinches very hard. For even short trips around town, the parents usually take two cars.
Each of these children has sensory issues. These are only a few of the ways they carry out their frustrations.
In interviewing a mother of an autistic child who is low on the spectrum, she says, “In general, self-injury can come from communication frustration, sensory overload, pain, or fatigue. What has helped in my family is that I try to find the source of the self-injury. This may be to reduce stimulation, keep routines predictable, redirect to safe input, and teach alternative ways to communicate. Remember, what works really depends on the child, and there isn’t one single solution.”
Therapists and your child’s physicians are most familiar with your child’s needs. Always discuss these issues with those who have cared for your child. Children who are autistic may have trouble maintaining a “just right” state of being says Rebecca Connick, MOT, LOTR as reported in the February 2025 Autism Parenting Magazine. “A child may be easily overwhelmed by the input around him/her or on the flip side, need a larger amount of input than others in order to be at his/her optimal arousal level. Children can often tell us with their actions what their sensory needs are, and it is important to look at your child’s behavior as a detective would to figure out what sensory “need” he may be trying to meet when biting, hitting, and pinching.”
For children who engage in self-injury, parents, teachers, and caregivers may problem solve by providing other forms of input throughout the day. These activities may work for your child.
• Water exercise. Autistic children enjoy water play. Some health insurance companies will pay for water therapy if your child needs muscle stimulation. Splashing,
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After 18 months of research and planning, the Erie County Department of Health (ECDOH) has completed its Community Health Assessment (CHA) and Community Health Improvement Plan (CHIP). This work, coordinated with leaders from Catholic Health, Kaleida Health, Erie County Medical Center (ECMC) and Live Well Erie, fulfills New York State Department of Health requirements and establishes a roadmap for improving population health over the next six years.
“Our Health Equity team and local hospital systems have created plans that connect concrete, valuable actions with aspirations about how we will improve our residents’ health,”
said Commissioner of Health Dr. Gale Burstein. “Our collective priorities to focus on mental health, housing stability, nutrition security and employment, represent urgent and persistent community needs, and we are ready to get to work together.”
The CHA provides a comprehensive review of the health and well-being of the people who live in the county. The 20252030 CHA report has three main sections:
Community Description, which describes the geography, population and demographics, and hospital systems within the county
Social Determinants of Health, which explores data on the community factors that influence health
Health Status Description, which explores local data on life expectancy, mortality, and a range of health conditions
Key findings from the CHA include:
• Examining statistics that are specific to individual demographics, such as race and ZIP code, is crucial to realizing the diverse experiences and outcomes among the various communities within Erie County.
• The COVID-19 pandemic impacted many aspects of health and life. Trend data throughout this CHA shows notable differences in rates of risk factors and outcomes, primarily in the years 2020 and 2021 as a result of policies and control measures during the pandemic as well as direct impacts from the virus.
• Communication and information access, and adult literacy affect the ability of residents to connect with resources to meet their basic needs.
The CHA report includes data sources built from community research conducted by the ECDOH and hospital partners in addition to existing publicly available data. Community input that was collected through research specifically for this CHACHIP included:
• 2,510 community survey responses
• 143 medical provider survey responses
• 8 health care provider interviews
• 5 interviews with parents of children enrolled in the Erie County Children and Youth with Special Health Care Needs (CYSHCN) program
• 4 focus groups with community members
This input was also used in the process of selecting CHIP priorities. The CHIP is a blueprint of plans to achieve specific goals for community health improvement, informed by extensive input from local grassroots and community-based organizations, other Erie County departments, and elected officials.
The CHIP focuses on four health conditions or community factors as priorities, selected through a ranking process using input from community research and community partner voting. The result was a set of ranked issues based on perceived issue scope, issue severity, the ability to positively affect the issue considering local capacity and willingness to address the issue. Also considered were the current resources, solutions or programs already working to address the issue.
This process resulted in the selection of the following priorities for the CHIP:
• Mental Health (anxiety and stress)
• Unemployment
• Nutrition Security (food access)
• Housing Stability and Affordability
The CHIP details interventions and strategies to address these priorities, including asset mapping related to multiple priorities, campaigns to raise awareness of existing resources, and pilot programs. The Erie County Department of Health will continue to meet with the local hospital systems and community-based organizations throughout the 2025-2030 CHA-CHIP cycle to monitor progress and reassess objectives as needed.
View the full CHA-CHIP report at https://www3.erie.gov/health/.
walking, pouring water from one container to another are stimulating for autistic children. Some colleges and universities encourage students majoring in special education to earn credits or accept a paying position to transport and care for children to an area pool.
• Deep pressure massage is relaxing for some children. Massaging the neck, shoulders, and arms may reduce the need for self-injury.
• Become active and move. Stomping, clapping, jumping—just moving to music may help. Make this exercise fun. All the family can participate and enjoy exercising together. This can be a favorite time of family togetherness.
• Beating a drum. A set of homemade bongo drums may be noisy, but it may help reduce self-injury.
• A moist towel squeeze after a bath. Your child may enjoy the human touch of gently rubbing their skin with a soft towel after a soak in the tub.
• Throwing a rubber ball into a low basket helps with handeye coordination and muscle development.
• Sleeping with a stuffed toy animal and holding it may keep him/her from biting.
• Wearing protective sleeves. These sleeves cover the arms and leave the hands free.
• Using a fidget toy or something to bite on can be a distraction to biting him/her self.
The golden rule is this: each autistic child is different and responds in a different way. Not everything works for every child. Hopefully, you have a parent support group where you can share your ideas. If not, start one yourself. There are many alternative ways to distract a child who is engaged in biting and self-injury.
Carolyn Tomlin has taught Early Childhood Education and Child Growth and Development at Union University, Jackson, TN. She often writes on special needs children.
—by Leah Rogers
hen someone you love dies, you grieve much more than the person. You grieve a version of yourself and the life you lived before they died. Some of the people you once found comfort in make you feel worse, and the number of people who would check on you dwindles each day. People assume you’re better, but you’re silently screaming on the inside, forced to function in a life you never chose nor planned to live.
During my first year of graduate school, my dad and sister Sara died nine months apart from each other. I had my whole life ahead of me and was just starting to figure out who I was and how I wanted to fit into this world, but when they died, that sense of possibility was gone. Instead of imagining who I could become, I was forced to confront a far more painful question: Who was I without a dad, a sibling, or having a family of four?
It was a lonely feeling not being able to speak or confide in two of the closest people in my life. I felt frozen in time, while I watched all my friends having fun, starting their careers, and traveling the world. I didn’t feel like I could relate to anyone my age anymore or enjoy the things I used to. I felt like an outcast. I felt like I didn’t belong anywhere.
I started working at WNY Compassion Connection in October 2025. It had been a few years since my dad and Sara died, but I was still struggling to find a sense of purpose and community. The second I walked through the door, I knew that I was where I was meant to be. I couldn’t have dreamt of a more perfect place, job, or group of people. Being surrounded by people who walked a similar path and understood grief, made me feel like they understood me. I felt so
seen by a group of people I had just met. I finally found my community. I finally felt like I belonged.
Grief is a universal human experience. Yet, we struggle to talk about it. We don’t know what to say to the people closest to us when they are grieving or even worse, we say nothing at all. In workplaces and schools, meaningful support for those who have lost a loved one is still painfully lacking. If loss is inevitable and everyone we love will one day die, then why does our society, our communities, and even the city we proudly call “the City of Good Neighbors” fall so short in offering the care and compassion grief demands?
1 in 11 children in Erie County will lose a parent or sibling by the age of 18. That’s about two students per classroom, and it doesn’t account for other significant losses like a friend, grandparent, cousin, etc. Bereaved youth are 175% more likely to develop substance use disorder and 25% of youth suicides are bereaved children. WNY urgently needs stronger grief support and greater grief education in our community because it quite literally saves lives.
We cannot continue overlooking the grief of children, employees, neighbors, and loved ones and expect them to suppress their pain and move on.
Being surrounded by people who normalized grief without trying to “fix it” made it easier for me to accept parts of myself I once felt ashamed of. I deeply admire my coworkers and everyone who walks through WNY Compassion Connection because it was through their openness that I found the courage to lean into my grief and embrace the messiness that comes with it.
For WNY Compassion Connection, support doesn’t end at our doors. A core part of our mission is to bring grief education into the community by training schools, employers, counselors, first responders, policymakers, and beyond. When someone experiences a loss, they deserve to be surrounded by people who know how to show up, know what to say, and how to offer real support when it matters most.
Our goal at WNY Compassion Connection is to help make WNY a safer and more compassionate place to grieve. Where pain isn’t something to hide, silence isn’t the default, and grief is normalized.
WNY Compassion Connection: A Center for Grieving Children and Families is an expanded service of the nonprofit P.U.N.T. Pediatric Cancer Collaborative bereavement program for any origin of loss. WNYCC’s mission is to help children and adults navigate their journey to healing and resilience following a loss to death through the power of peer support and grief education.
When cold and flu season calls for savory and satisfying meals, remember you don’t have to be sick to enjoy the best this time of year has to offer. Skip the same old soups and stews, though, and level up your comfort food cache with the flavor and versatility of pearl couscous.
Distinguished from traditional Moroccan couscous by its slightly larger and rounder shape, plus its less dense, firmer consistency, pearl couscous is thoroughly versatile and a perfect fit for cold weather classics. With Success Boil-in-Bag Pearl Couscous, you get high-quality semolina wheat pearl couscous made just right. After the water boils, it’s ready in under 7 minutes and prepared similarly to pasta.
It features a slightly nutty flavor on its own but can absorb any flavors of soups and salads while retaining its density and chewy texture. You can use it in your family’s meals to complement a range of greens, veggies, fish, meats and stews, making it a pantry staple to keep on hand throughout the year.
A hearty solution, this Italian Penicillin Soup is ideal for those feeling under the weather or simply craving a filling meal after a chilly day. It’s loaded with rotisserie chicken, tender veggies and pearl couscous simmered in broth then finished with fresh lemon, Parmesan cheese and parsley for a meal that’s as satisfying as it is appetizing.
Elegant in its simplicity, this Simple Lemon Butter Pearl Couscous is a perfect partner for grilled seafood, chicken or vegetables. Easy to serve as a standalone dish or a savvy side that practically cooks itself, you can add this highly versatile grain to your family’s
menu any day of the week—whether you’re cooking for a crew or just two— and enjoy steamy leftovers for a light lunch.
Don’t let the cold sap your creativity in the kitchen; turning to versatile, flavorful ingredients can make winter meals a cinch. Discover more pearl couscous-inspired dinner ideas by visiting SuccessRice.com.
Prep time: 10 minutes
Cook time: 15 minutes
Servings: 4
2 bags Success Pearl Couscous
4 cups low-sodium chicken broth
1 cup carrots, sliced
1 cup celery, sliced
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 cup rotisserie chicken, shredded
1 teaspoon Italian seasoning
1 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon pepper
4 lemon wedges
shredded Parmesan cheese, for garnish
chopped fresh parsley, for garnish
Prepare pearl couscous according to package directions.
In large pot, bring broth to boil. Add carrots, celery and garlic. Reduce heat to medium-low and cook 5 minutes until vegetables are slightly tender.
Add chicken and Italian seasoning; simmer 5 minutes. Add pearl couscous and cook 5 minutes. Season with salt and pepper.
Ladle soup into four bowls and squeeze fresh lemon wedge into each bowl. Garnish with Parmesan and parsley.
Prep time: 5 minutes
Cook time: 10 minutes
Servings: 4
1 bag Success Pearl Couscous
3 lemons, juice only, plus 1 teaspoon zest
2 tablespoons butter
1 small shallot, finely diced
1 tablespoon fresh parsley, finely chopped
Prepare pearl couscous according to package directions, adding lemon juice to water.
In small pan, melt butter over medium heat. Add shallots and lemon zest. Cook 3 minutes. Stir pearl couscous into pan.
Divide pearl couscous into four bowls and top with parsley.
