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Kent County

Women’s Journal

December 2012/January 2013

A A Bi-Monthly Bi-Monthly Resource Resource for for the the Women Women of of Kent Kent County County Take Take One One It’s It’s Priceless Priceless

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In This Issue:

C Happy Healthy Holiday

C How to be Pinteresting

C A View from Above

C ‘Tis the Season for Safe Driving

C Holiday Cookies

C Dancing with the Delaware Stars

C Diamonds…

C Filling Your Cup With a Fire Hose

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Yoga & Aerial Yoga Retreat............2 food andfun 5 Myths About Low Back Pain......11 Hormone Balancing Creams........12 fashion andbeauty Are We Poisoning Our Children?...13 Help... Build... Heal.......................14 home andgarden Be Happy, Healthy & Strong.........15 The Truth..........................................16 Pilates... Beyond The Mat.............17 The Merits of Accountability..........18 living &well andfit Fibromyalgia Massage.........….19 Smoothies With A Purpose.............20 Kaya: Now Open In Wilmington...20


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Surviving The Holidays.....................5 It’s Our 6th Anniversary....................6 Happy, Healthy Holidays................7 community andeducation Give The Gift Of Life.......................8 home andgarden Let’s Talk About Incontinence........9 Nuclear Stress Testing....................10

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Disability Income Insurance........21 I Recently Tied The Knot Again...22 health andmedical Five Biggest Credit foodMistakes.........23 andfun ‘Tis The Season For Safe Driving....24

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community andeducation community andeducation home home andgarden andgarden d I Am For The Child…...................…25 community an education The Dancers!...............................…26 business andfinance Filling Your Coffee Cup.................28 Holidays Are Family Video Time...34 living well andfit Our Women Who Serve................35 “Be A Winner...”..............................37 food andfun Kritter Kove Pets..............................37 Elderly at Risk in aExtreme Cold...38 ndbeauty fashion How To Be Pinteresting.................39 4 DSCC Events!..................................40 home andgarden A View From Above.....................41 First Fridays......................................46 Changes More Than One Life......46 Dancing With The Stars Benefit......52

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Taste A Delmarva Tradition..........45 Recipes!..........................................47 home andgarden Saketumi - A Must Stop...............48 home andgarden Literal Lissa......................................49 The Holidays & Winter...................51

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As we draw close to the end of the year, as always seems to happen, we start to feel a subtle emotion or maybe not so subtle. Typically this emotion is one of thanks for family and friends and it tends to lead to an atmosphere of giving. Our sense of community becomes more prevalent. One of the things that I have become more aware of the last couple years is the awareness or sometimes lack thereof, of those in our community less fortunate than ourselves, as well as those in our community that do so much more than is expected. The 80 / 20 rule where 80 percent of the work is done by 20 percent of the people seems to hold true. There are people in our community that give so much, and sometimes they must feel like they have given all they have to give, and yet they still move on, move forward, and continue to give. Our goal is to recognize these outstanding individuals and thank them for all they do. This month in addition to Our Women Who Serve we have added our CASA volunteers’ page - both of these pages are dedicated to those that serve us as a community, going above and beyond every day.

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We also want to thank the families, of those brave military members deployed, who stay home and serve by giving up their spouse, mother, father, son or daughter, and continue to run their households, doing the job of both mother and father. They are chauffeuring their kids to sports commitments and school, running the house, making all the day to day decisions, and in many cases doing all this under a significant amount of stress. All this while holding their marriage together and keeping up a strong appearance. These are our local heroes, our brave men and women who many times go unnoticed. If you know a family deserving of this recognition, we encourage you to help us with this endeavor by nominating them. Please call 302-450-4900 or email me at kevin@

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On The Cover... This month on the cover we have the students from Kaizen Karate Academy who have reached the level of black belt. They are featured individually in the People in Profile section where they give insights on their experiences in karate. We hope you enjoy their profiles and consider taking up the sport for your health or safety in learning to protect or defend yourself. Thank you to the Academy for sharing your students with us.




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health andmedical By Kristy Handley Marketing & Admissions Director, State Street Assisted Living State Street Assisted Living is an assisted living community that is conveniently located in historic downtown Dover, Delaware. This community offers an array of quality services, as well as a secure memory unit for those with memory impairments. If you are looking for a home that will allow you or your loved one to experience independence, security, and a variety of activities, then contact State Street Assisted Living. For more information or to tour the community, please contact Kristy Handley, Marketing Director at (302) 674-2144 or check out their website at

Surviving The Holidays


As the holidays quickly approach all of us, the feeling of being overwhelmed and stressed may start to set in for many. Although the feelings of warmth and happiness are prevalent during this time, many aging adults begin to fall into the holiday blues. This frame of mind can be caused by several things, including: the remembrance of a loved one who has passed away, financial concerns, overwhelming health issues, or loneliness. In order to stay in a balanced state of mind, these individuals can start by acknowledging their feelings. Remember, it’s okay to cry and be sad; however, make a plan to look towards the future with great energy and strength. Finding support from friends, family and/ or neighbors is also a good way to bring you out of the loneliness portion of the blues. Never be

afraid to “ask”. Ask for anything. This could be a shoulder to cry on, someone to talk to, help with shopping or a place to celebrate with others. Getting involved is the key. There are always church groups, assisted living facilities, hospitals and other areas that could use the help of a volunteer. The feeling of giving to others, not so much monetarily, but physically or mentally, can be very rewarding in itself.

That homemade pumpkin pie can come from a box rather than taking the significant time to prepare one by hand. Stress will only add to the ailments in your life. Try not to focus on the illness, remember laughter is the best medicine. Spending time with others will also allow you to minimize your thoughts about your illnesses. Most of all, during this season, put yourself on a budget! Family members do not always need that expensive gift. A homemade gift, a simple “I Love

Yet, another suggestion is to remain realistic. Do not set yourself up for a disappointing day(s). As we all grow in age and families change, we must realize that traditions may also change. This is not always a terrible experience. Experiencing new traditions is what makes our lives more enriched. Relax…do not push yourself to make up for those lost traditions.

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You” or volunteering your time are all things that do not cost but only take a few minutes of your time and maybe a few dollars. Whether you experience the preholiday blues or the post-holiday blues, keep in mind the following: reach out for help or to others, take charge of your life, maintain or get back to a healthy lifestyle, and remain focused on managing your stress levels. You are what you make of yourself and the days ahead. Enjoy the holidays!

health andmedical By Dr. Philip Chao Dr. Philip Chao graduated from Yale University and continued his studies at the University of Rochester School of Medicine and Dentistry, receiving his medical degree in 1983. Dr. Chao has been interested in MRI technology since its very beginning – the first MRI scan took place in 1981 while he was pursuing his medical studies. The University of Pennsylvania was at the heart of the development of this technology and where Dr. Chao was able to work with pioneers in MRI on the first GE Signa 1.5T (tesla) scanner. His advanced research and specializations complete, Dr. Chao left the University of Pennsylvania for a position as Director of MRI in Wilmington DE – a position he held for 14 years. Dr. Chao eventually left that position to create the best MRI center in Delaware, using the very latest technology: 3T MRI.


It’s Our 6th Anniversary In February 3T MRI is 100% sensitive for finding breast cancer and is generally better for all other MRI studies. A 3T MRI scanner shows details that no other scanner can see. Just today, a case where there was old healed tendonitis was able to be seen. This is something that could still be painful but would not be visible on any other scanner. On a different patient, breast cancer was found at a very early stage that was missed by several mammograms. In the cervical and lumbar spine, scans are done with thinner sections and more detail than other scanners in Delaware - 2.5mm contiguous images. Herniations that are missed by other, less powerful, scanners can be found. Most people do “3mm skip 1mm” the scanner “skips” 25% of the anatomy scanned. Stronger means both sharper and faster! Twice as good!

neurosurgeon or neurologist.

Offering state of the art MRI and many procedures that other providers may not offer - routinely including Diffusion Tensor imaging (DTI), which shows fiber tracts in the brain and spinal cord and picks up brain damage not seen by any other test. [We are unaware of anyone else doing this] We do metal subtraction imaging, noncontrast angiography with NATIVE, cancer screening with REVEAL. We add these innovative scans for free once your doctor orders a regular MRI of that body part. And all of this involves very little additional time on the scanner. At an October 2012 conference in Montreal, the doctors talked about the BEST MRI scan for a patient with a brain tumor. They said “routine imaging” should be done — which is what Medicare pays for. MRI Consultants offers these techniques and will do them for FREE when asked by your

SPEED. 3T MRI is the highest magnet strength for MRI in clinical practice. We have two 3T MRI scanners. We are happy that some doctors (or businessmen) have followed our lead. Our 32-channel head coil is twice as fast as a 16-channel head coil.

When you have more room inside you are likely to hold still and get a better study. We also have a special sequence called BLADE which freezes motion. So if you are moving a lot we use BLADE for your scan and get clear pictures.

Patients should know that 3T Breast MRI is best but we also have the best OPEN MRI at 1.5T. Scanned were two patients that did not fit at two different top facilities located in Delaware. What is quite remarkable is that both had mammograms and sonograms that were difficult to interpret. Neither knew if they had cancer. Neither fit in any other facility’s MRI at that time. The tests were also able to be shortened to a mere 12 minutes with the safest MR dye injection in the world. We spent extra money on contrast to offer the safest MRI contrast available. Both studies were positive for breast cancer (quite large, in fact) and both could have been found earlier if their doctors had ordered the test earlier. Missed by mammogram

ADVANCED SOFTWARE. DTI, DWI, SWI and NATIVE are just four examples of the advanced software available at our facility. DWI helps us to detect and characterize cancers in the body, which is very useful in finding liver, pancreas and kidney cancers. This advanced technique spares patients from unnecessary radiation, as MRI does not use ionizing radiation. SWI is a technique, which finds microscopic blood and calcification in the brain. We use this when you have had brain trauma and have seizures, memory loss or unexplained headaches. Without this software, other scanners would simply not see the lesion. Your brain can have many lesions not seen by other scanners. REVEAL technique, which shows us your arteries without any dye injection. It works very well in the legs and abdomen and pelvis. It shows us the arteries just by using the pulsations of your arteries. It is a very advanced technique and it is quite possible your doctor might be unaware of its existence. However, you can avoid an injection of dye, by asking your doctor to request REVEAL.

COMFORT. Our 70 cm (30 inch) OPEN BORE scanner is more open than a traditional “open” MRI with a 0.3T scanner—which is only 19 inches wide. The so-called standup MRI scanner with a 0.6T magnet is only 18 inches wide. The 30 inches wide OPEN MRI we have (the most spacious in the world) has a weight limit of 550 pounds. It is the best MRI for anyone. We have many patients who are claustrophobic on other MRI scanners who can be scanned without sedation at our facility. You have not had a comfortable MRI scan till you try our Siemens 18 channel Espree.

SAFETY. But if your scan does require dye injection, the MR contrasts we use have never caused a single case of nephrogenic systemic sclerosis. This is not true of all MR contrast. We use Prohance at 3T and Multihance at 1.5T and Eovist if the patients have poor renal function. Consult our website


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health andmedical By Sandra Zaragoza, RPh Sandra Zaragoza is a licensed pharmacist with 25 years of experience and a newly appointed member of the DE State Board of Pharmacy. She and her business partner Ruth Dixon, are both graduates of The Philadelphia College of Pharmacy and Science. They opened The Corner Apothecary in April of 2012 after managing a hospital pharmacy together for 5 years. They are certified members in Pharmaceutical Compounding and the Fundamentals of BHRT through PCCA (Professional Compounding Centers of America). They are also members of the Delaware Pharmacist Society and the International Academy of Compounding Pharmacists (IACP).

Happy, Healthy Holidays


“It’s the most wonderful time of the year”, or so Andy Williams said in his popular Christmas tune, and many of us agree. Unfortunately, it can also be a very stressful time of the year which makes it even more important to take preventative measures in guarding our health. So instead of worrying about all of the things you shouldn’t do, think of some small positive changes you can make.

an hour, you just have to move! Joining in on the line dance, especially if you don’t know how, can provide both mental and physical exercise. Or how about taking the gang on a brisk outdoor walk after the holiday dinner dishes have been cleared? Even a mile covered in 30 minutes burns 100 calories in the average adult and strengthens muscles and bones and aids in immunity.

Drink more water- health experts agree that consuming 64 ounces of water daily can improve your overall health. All of that water makes you feel fuller, hence decreasing your appetite. It can boost your metabolism, and enhance your immune system. Increasing your water intake flushes toxins from your body, prevents kidney stones and hydrates your skin. Drinking water as the first and last glass during cocktail hour is a sensible and relatively easy thing to do.

“An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure”. Most of us were taught by our mothers the basics of precaution against illness. Wash your hands, cover your mouth when you sneeze and don’t share food or drinks with someone who is sick. But with the cold season approaching and all of us spending more time in large holiday groups, often those techniques are not enough. Since the pandemic flu outbreak in the late 1970’s, health care officials are advising that the entire population over the age of 6 months should be vaccinated against the flu. Because the strains of the flu virus change from year to year, the World Health Organization (WHO) holds two strategic meetings annually to decide on subtypes to be targeted. As soon as this information is released, the medical labs begin formulating the year’s shot. For this reason, the vaccination must be repeated each year.

“An apple a day…” Although it’s hard to get the same “wakeup” from fructose that you get from caffeine, nutritionists are advocating replacing your morning cup of coffee with an apple. The argument is that the energy provided by one apple far outlasts that of a cup of coffee. While both foods are a source of anti-oxidants (which aid in fighting infections and disease), only the apple supplies fiber and vitamins. Hard to imagine the start of the work day without the java, but how about substituting the apple for cup number two? Get off the couch and on the dance floor. You don’t have to have rhythm to burn 300 calories

flu vaccine is easier to get than ever. Most pharmacies provide the service without making an appointment and receive their supplies early from the manufacturer.

Flu shots are now available at The Corner Apothecary!

Laughter is still one of the best medicines. Research has shown that laughter reduces stress, decreases pain, lowers blood sugar levels and improves blood flow to the heart and brain. In addition to providing a positive mental state, laughter also serves to establish or restore a connection between two people. And spending time with others tends to makes us more watchful of our own health and habits.

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Like my Nana used to say “Everything in moderation”, so go out this season and enjoy, but enjoy responsibly.

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The flu season historically starts in December or January. Because it takes the body about 2 weeks to develop antibodies to the inactivated virus in the vaccine, it is a good idea to get the shots as early as they are available. The



health andmedical By Christine E. Serio External Communications Specialist Blood Bank of Delmarva Giving the gift of life is as easy as rolling up your sleeve. Be someone’s hero this holiday season, make an appointment with Blood Bank of Delmarva by calling 1-888-8-BLOOD-8 or visiting

Give The Gift Of Life


Ask most people what the holiday season means to them and many will respond with memories of holidays past spent with family and friends. Some will mention a special gift they received while others will relate how they’ve helped someone else in need. The holidays seem to bring out the best in all of us as the spirit of giving seems to consume us in one way or another. There’s a gift that blood donors share every day and it’s the most personal gift imaginable, the gift of life. More than 20,000 patients a year are in need of blood and blood products. The Blood Bank of Delmarva needs 350 donors a day to meet the needs of the 16 hospitals on Delmarva. Each blood donation can save up to three lives and takes about an hour to complete from start to finish, with the actual donation lasting about five to six minutes. Those donations have saved people like Wyzhir Johnson, a senior in high school, who would not be with us today if not for blood donors giving during the holiday season. On Christmas Eve 2010, Wyzhir was cutting a strip of molding with a miter saw when the holiday turned from festive to tragic. With a sudden slip, Wyzhir instantly lost his left hand just above the wrist. He was flown to a trauma center and immediately taken into surgery early Christmas morning. It took surgeons more than 12 hours to reattach his hand. That night complications set in when he developed a high fever and high blood pressure and was taken back to surgery. It took six hours to stabilize him.

Over the next couple of days, various treatments and surgeries were attempted, but ultimately the doctors determined Wyzhir’s hand could not be saved.

the platelets,” says his mother, Molly. Ironically, Gage’s father, Jonathan, is a regular platelet donor and has been for several years.

of transfusion,” says Molly. “I am so grateful to Jonathan and all those people who take the time to donate,” she says. “It truly is a lifesaving gift.”

Wyzhir’s brave response was, “It’s not what I wanted to hear, but I know it was in God’s plan for me.”

“It was a shock to us that our little boy would be a patient in need of platelets. You hope that your children will never need any type

Gage recently had surgery to redirect the flow of blood to his liver. Doctors will know in several months if it was successful.

Although his hand could not be saved, Wyzhir’s life was spared because of the many blood transfusions he received. He is now a healthy, happy 17-year-old senior at Mardela High School in Mardela Springs, MD.

This holiday season, give someone the best gift of all...

Other blood product recipients require on-going treatments, such as Gage Waddell who needs regular platelet transfusions. His treatments don’t take a vacation during the holidays and the short shelf life of platelets, make them a high demand product. Four-year-old Gage was a seemingly, healthy little boy until October 2011, when after a week of high fevers, he suddenly began vomiting profuse amounts of blood. After several months of testing and uncertainty, he was diagnosed with portal hypertension, a serious and potentially fatal condition caused by impaired blood flow to his liver. Portal hypertension is an increase of blood pressure in the portal vein from his intestines to his liver causing an enlarged, overactive spleen and esophageal varices (blood vessels in his esophagus that bleed very easily). Gage depends on platelet transfusions prior to diagnostic and reparative procedures since his platelet counts are always low and leave him at risk for bleeding easily

...the gift of life. Give blood. Please call

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health andmedical By Babak Vakili, M.D. Babak Vakili, M.D., is the director of the Center for Urogynecology and Pelvic Surgery. Dr. Vakili is a fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology. He completed a fellowship in Female Pelvic Medicine and Reconstructive Surgery at the Louisiana State University Health Science Center in New Orleans, LA. The Christiana Care Center for Urogynecology and Pelvic Surgery is located in suite 1208 of the Medical Arts Pavilion 2, on the campus of Christiana Hospital in Newark. Appointments are also available at the Christiana Care Center for Women’s Health, 3706 Kennett Pike, Greenville or the Smyrna Health & Wellness Center, 100 S. Main Street, Suite 215, Smyrna. For more information or to schedule an appointment call 302-623-4055 or visit

Let’s Talk About Incontinence


At one time in her life, at least one of every two women will experience incontinence, that annoying “wet” feeling, because she couldn’t make it to the bathroom in time. Sometimes, even a good laugh -- or a cough or sneeze -- can result in leaking. But incontinence is no joke. Here’s the good news. There is a highly specialized and growing subspecialty of obstetrics and gynecology called urogynecology that is devoted to pelvic floor conditions such as urinary incontinence, fecal incontinence and pelvic organs that have prolapsed, or dropped. It’s a very fulfilling field in medicine because urogynecologists help to restore women to active, productive lives – often without surgery. At Christiana Care Health System’s Center for Urogynecology and Pelvic Surgery, I work with Emily K. Saks, M.D., and Howard Goldstein, D.O. We have offices in three locations and are the only urogynecologists in Delaware who have completed three-year fellowships in female urology and highly specialized treatments and surgical techniques. That means we can handle complex cases, including reconstructive surgery. One of the conditions we see often is overactive bladder, also called OAB or urge incontinence, in which the muscles in the bladder contract at the wrong time. Symptoms include an urgent feeling to go to the bathroom, heading to the bathroom many times during the day and night, and leaking urine on occasion before you make it to the toilet. Don’t think of an overactive bladder as an inconvenience you have to endure. Instead, imagine how much better you will feel if you don’t have to worry about dashing to the ladies room.

Patients often tell us how relief from incontinence has improved their lives in very personal ways.

lives in just a few days. A small percentage of cases are stubborn. But that doesn’t mean they can’t be fixed.

“It’s so nice not to have to wear black all the time.”

One treatment is neuromodulation, in which an electric stimulator is implanted next to a nerve. It’s an outpatient procedure that takes 30-minutes. The risk is extremely low;

“I lost 100 pounds after I started exercising again.” “I used to stay home all the time. But now I go out and meet friends.”

the success rate is very high, about 80 percent. Acupuncture also is emerging as an alternative treatment to neuromodulation. The most important thing to remember is you have a lot of options. If you have an overactive bladder, don’t suffer in silence!

We encourage our patients to go out and share the good news with their friends. Frequently, they discover they are suffering from the same problem. Often, OAB can be treated with changes in lifestyle. Even losing a modest amount of weight can make an improvement. So can pelvic floor exercises, in which you train your muscles by stopping the flow of urine in midstream, then repeat sets of contractions when you aren’t going to the bathroom.

We take incontinence issues seriously.

Cutting back on caffeine and alcohol helps, too. Artificial sweeteners irritate the bladder, as well, so use them in moderation. Can you drink a cup of morning coffee with Splenda? Yes, you can.

Dr. Babak Vakili, Dr. Howard Goldstein, Dr. Emily Saks

Can you drink 12 diet sodas a day? No, you should not.

Specializing in advanced care for pelvic problems that disrupt your daily life.

There are a number of different medications that can reduce the urge to go if lifestyle changes don’t do the trick.

The specialists at Christiana Care’s Center for Urogynecology and Pelvic Surgery offer personalized attention and the latest diagnostic tools and treatment options.

New patients accepted, call 302-623-4055.

There also are techniques you can learn so that you can train yourself to go to the bathroom on a schedule, gradually increasing the time between trips. Think of it as mind over bladder.

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health andmedical By Gaetano N. Pastore, M.D., F.A.C.C. Dr. Gaetano Pastore has been a member of Cardiology Physicians since July of 1998. Dr. Pastore attended Villanova University as an undergraduate. He then went to the Milton S. Hershey Medical Center of the Pennsylvania State University for his medical degree. He did his Internal Medicine residency at Hahnemann University Hospital and his cardiovascular fellowship at the Hahnemann University Hospital in Philadelphia. Dr. Pastore has contributed as a co-author on papers that have appeared in the New England Journal of Medicine and has presented at the annual scientific sessions of the American College of Cardiology. (continued below)

Are You At Risk?


Nuclear Stress Testing 50% of patients who suffer a heart attack never make it to the hospital! Nuclear Stress testing (SPECT imaging) has been the gold standard for the non- invasive evaluation of patients with symptoms that suggest the presence of coronary artery disease. SPECT imaging has been in existence for decades and has proven itself to be highly sensitive and specific for the detection of significant coronary artery disease. Moreover, SPECT imaging has proven life saving in many cases by detecting severe coronary artery disease before a major heart attack or sudden death. In order to image the heart and its blood supply the patient receives an intravenous radioactive isotope such as Technetium 99 so that a special gamma camera can visualize the heart and its blood supply. The test also provides vital information about the heart’s wall motion and ejection fraction which is an expression of the heart’s strength as it pumps blood to the body. This information is invaluable to the physician as it provides a comprehensive evaluation of the heart in a single test! Humans are exposed to many types of radiation on a daily basis from natural background radiation, irradiated foods, UV exposure, microwaves, cell phones and even your TV and computer screen! Medical imaging exposes patients to what is known as ionizing radiation, perhaps the most potent and potentially harmful form of radiation exposure. During SPECT imaging the patient is exposed to this radiation from the administered isotope. During the last decade the utilization of medical imaging has expanded, as new technologies have

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emerged designed to aid in the diagnosis of various medical conditions. The most common of these diagnostic tests include x-ray, CAT scan and nuclear SPECT imaging. Given this expansion of medical imaging there has been heightened concern about the sometimes significant radiation exposure to patients undergoing some of these specialized diagnostic tests.

Newer scanning protocols are also teacher/preceptor by the utilized today that further reduce Care Family if you haveChristiana increased riskPractice patient exposure. Residency Program. He is a fellow of the American College The American College of of Cardiology and serves as the Cardiology (ACC) is a worldwide Governor of the American College medical society dedicated of Cardiology for the state of to enhancing the lives of Diabetes Delaware. cardiovascular patients through continuous quality improvement, Dr. Pastore has a strong Smoking commitment to clinical and patient-centered care and professionalism. The ACC has consultative cardiology. Dr. channeled much of its efforts in Pastore has a special interest in Family history of Vascular Disease The primary concern regarding this the last several years to assure echocardiography. This includes exposure is the risk of developing the safety and continued quality transthoracic, transesophageal, Family History of Aortic Aneurysm cancer. In fact, ionizing radiation of SPECT cardiac imaging. and stress echocardiography. is a proven cancer-causing agent. Worldwide experts in the field He has expertise in the Coronary Artery Disease The primary evidence for this of cardiology have devised interpretation of nuclear imaging comes from studies from atomic specific recommendations for in cardiovascular medicine. bomb survivors in Japan and appropriate stress testing. Uncontrollable These hypertension from those exposed to high doses recommendations are designed to Dr. Pastore resides in Avondale, of radiation from the Chernobyl assist the physician’s decision as to Pennsylvania with his wife Linda Elevated cholesterol and three children Mia, Luke and nuclear accident. In most cases which patients are appropriate to Gianna. He enjoys spending his these exposures were significant, receive stress testing. In doing so, spare time with his family, generally much higher than the radiation patients can be assured that they on vacation in warm climates. Dr. exposure of any one patient are receiving the appropriate test Pastore enjoys tending to his 180 undergoing a diagnostic test. for the appropriate reason at the gallon saltwater coral reef tank Therefore, it is not clear what the appropriate time. As a general and is an avid fan of thoroughbred effect these medical tests have rule, the benefit of the information horse racing. At Physicians,obtained P.A. Wefrom Are Performing Today’s Latest Testing on Cardiology patients and their subsequent a nuclear stress risk of cancer. It is important to test, when done appropriately, far understand that it has never been exceeds the danger from radiation proven that nuclear SPECT imaging exposure! has ever caused cancer. However, In conclusion, nuclear stress testing nuclear SPECT imaging and CT remains a safe, highly effective scanning do have some of the Abby Medical Center modality for the diagnosis of highest radiation exposure levels Suite 200 coronary artery disease and compared to other diagnostic One Centurian Drive imaging modalities and therefore it impending heart attack. It is the Newark, De 19713 is imperative that these tests should goal of your physician to keep 302 366 8600 be reserved for those patients who your lifetime exposure to radiation to a minimum. It is also important are felt to benefit the most. Foulkstone Plaza to remember that medical Suite 201 Thanks to the latest technology, testing, including nuclear stress 1401 Foulk Road the amount of radiation exposure testing, can provide valuable and Wilmington, De 19803 to patients during their stress test sometimes life-saving information 302 478 5055 continues to be less and less. so that the risks of exposure should Newer isotopes with higher energy be weighed against the benefits of WWW.CARDIOCPPA.COM but less radiation exposure are performing the test. now used almost exclusively. More Top Row (L to R): Dr. Clay, Dr. Pastore, Dr. Kelly, Dr. Sarter, Dr. Micklin (Dr Pastore’s Bio continued from sophisticated CT/PET scans are above) Dr. Pastore has been now available that expose patients Bottom Row (L to R): Dr. Furey, Dr. Leidig, Dr. Rahman recognized as an outstanding to a fraction of the radiation.

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By Chas Barker, DPT Dr. Barker received his doctorate in physical therapy from the University of Delaware. He is currently a full-time physical therapist at American Therapy and Rehabilitation and plans to pursue a residency in orthopedics in 2013.

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Low back pain is more rest for just a day or two can mild to moderate benefit on no symptoms whatsoever. This potentially prolong your recovery low back pain when compared is why insurance companies will common than you may think. Therapy American & Rehabilitation Av Dover DE take long for you time. It doesn’t to no treatment or ineffective not typically pay for such tests Approximately 8 out of1015 10 S Governors to experience muscle atrophy therapies. However, our best upfront unless the physician has Americans will experience low and deconditioning. Overall, evidence suggests that matching reason to suspect that a serious, back pain in their lifetimes. It research suggests that staying patients with a specific treatment underlying pathology is present has become one of the most active and going about your approach based on their unique (ex. a fracture or compressed expensive conditions to treat in TQCP normal activities of daily living is characteristics is critical. Simply nerve). Believe it or not, 9 times the U.S., and research is being the best thing that you can do. put, I wouldn’t want to solely give out of 10, a thorough clinical conducted around the clock This is why I incorporate activeall of my low back patients a core exam gives us the information we to shed light on the potential based treatments as soon as my stability program and expect need to effectively treat your low causes and cures. Unfortunately, patient’s are ready. As the old that 100% of them will get better. back pain. low back pain is still a poorly With that approach, I might as understood phenomenon making saying goes, “If you don’t use it, Myth #5: The only real cure for my you lose it.” well save my time and not even treatment difficult at best. VZ-010115-DOVER, DE Physical Therapists back pain is surgery. Remember, perform an evaluation. Myth #3: If a particular treatment there is no panacea for low back I often meet patients who have worked for my friend, then it Myth #4: Why won’t my doctor pain. With that being said, every either been told something or should work for me. There is perform an x-ray or an MRI? That treatment has some benefit come to believe something no “cookie-cutter” approach should tell me what’s wrong with and some risk associated with that is simply not true regarding to treatment of LBP even my back. When we look at the it. Therefore, don’t be quick to back pain. With that in mind, I though many folks, some of research, there is little data that go under the knife unless you would like to address a handful them well educated, would forms direct causative links, for have severe, unrelenting pain of common myths and share have you believe otherwise. It instance, between degenerative and no other form of treatment with you what we healthcare can be argued that, in and of changes in the spine and back seems to work or you develop a providers do and don’t know themselves, treatments such as pain. Even if an MRI shows a neurological deficit like foot drop about low back pain. spinal manipulation, McKenzie protruding disc, this does not or bowel/bladder dysfunction. Myth #1: I need to accept that I exercises, lumbar stabilization, necessarily mean it is the cause Even if you do elect to get will be disabled because of my core muscle strengthening of your back pain. Many people surgery, you will be expected back pain. Research suggests and graded activity/graded have abnormal findings on their to undergo a lengthy course of that a majority of patients with exposure are all shown to have diagnostic imaging and report rehabilitation. acute low back pain will fully recover within a short period of time (about 6-8 weeks). It is important to know that flareups are common and do not represent a failure of treatment. Also, I find that patients who have specific goals (ex. return to work) and believe that they can • Most Insurance Accepted • One on One Service recover seem to get better more • Auto & Workers’ Comp. Injuries • Board Certified Orthopedic Specialist quickly. Indeed, the research • Arthritis & Fibromyalgia • Orthopedic & Sports Injuries would indicate that our beliefs Chuck Barker Chas Barker about illness are pretty important • Back & Neck Care • Treatment of Neurologic Disorders • Orthotics DPT, OCS, ATC DPT when it comes to the healing process.

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Why are we exposing our children to toxic chemicals? Most parents don’t realize that everyday household products are putting our children in danger. There are more children under four who die of accidental poisonings at home than accidentally killed with guns! The average home today contains more chemicals than were found in a typical chemistry lab at the turn of the 20th century. The Consumer Product Safety Commission has determined that cleaning products are some of the most dangerous substances in the home. Of chemicals commonly found in homes, 150 have been linked to allergies, birth defects, cancer and psychological abnormalities. If you were to go under your sinks and look at the cleaning and personal care products, you will probably find bleach, laundry bleach, dishwashing soap, window cleaner, mouthwash shampoos and conditioners, right? These products contain chemicals that can be lethal to your children and pets. The reason we do this is because we don’t know or understand how harmful these products can be. Most people don’t even realize the dangers of using these products. By using safer products, we are no longer taking unnecessary chances with our children. Most poisonings happen over a period of time by daily exposure to toxins in the air and toxic chemicals that come into contact with the skin. Household products are among the most toxic substances we encounter. In a study conducted over a 15 year period, women who worked at home had a 54% higher death rate from cancer than those who had jobs

away from the home. The study concluded that daily exposure to the hazardous chemicals found in everyday cleaning products, increased the death rate in women. Obviously our children are exposed to these same chemicals on a regular basis. The irony is that we use these products to clean and sanitize our home to keep “germs” away, and the very thing we are using is the thing that is hurting them. Imagine if they were to accidentally ingest these toxins. Why did a three old little boy have to die because he accidentally swallowed some hair conditioner? Or what about the child who crawls on the floor and crawls through a puddle of bleach that was spilled and receives thirddegree burns on over 50% of his little body? How about a little girl who had 7 operations to re-open her scarred esophagus because her mother turned her back for a second to put a glass away from the dishwasher and there was some un-dissolved Electrasol powder that she put in her mouth. These are not meant to scare you, but rather educate you on the dangers that lurk in nearly every home. It’s important to say that household cleaning and personal care products are not the only source in our homes, but they are some of the most deadly and toxic. Knowing that you have chemicals in your home that are potentially harmful and dangerous to your children, doesn’t it make sense that you would want to find a cleaner, safer and effective alternative? Can you think of any reason you wouldn’t want a home that is not putting your child at risk! Don’t wait any longer to make your home a healthier and safer place.


living well andfit By Denise Hartrick, BCCS Anchor Program Director Denise Hartrick, LCSW, ICADC, ICCDPD, ICCS has worked for Brandywine Counseling and Community Services (BCCS) since 2006. Denise started as the first Co-occurring assessor in the company determining the most appropriate services for individuals who have mental health and substance abuse disorders. Denise is a graduate of Eastern Michigan University where she received a Bachelors degree in Science, majoring in Social Work. Denise then chose to work with families who were at risk due to multiple life stressors (mental health, substance abuse, financial, relationships, and hardships). In 2003, Denise earned a Masters degree from Wayne State University, Detroit, Michigan. Denise continued working with individuals with co-occurring disorders as a therapist in a Partial Hospitalization program. Denise currently is the program director of BCCS’s first mental health clinic, the Anchor program, and is looking forward to expanding these services to meet the needs of communities throughout the state of Delaware.

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The Anchor Program is founded on the principles of meeting the needs of the community and establishing itself as a strong and trusted resource for people from all walks of life. Since the program opened the number of persons served has grown, often as a result of referrals from their friends, neighbors and other family members. The persons we service come from New Castle County, and nearby Pennsylvania to receive services from the Anchor Program for their mental health and counseling needs. Anchor is a client-focused program that provides individual and family counseling, psychiatric evaluations and medications (if needed), group sessions, anger management classes, resources for housing and food banks, and referrals for training, testing, and education through the Delaware Division of Vocational Rehabilitation. All services are by scheduled appointment only for the convenience of Anchor’s customers. At the Anchor Program, we are proud that we offer prompt service so quality time can be spent on learning how to resolve problems rather than waiting to be seen. The Anchor Program is focused on providing persons, 18 and older, with the necessary coping strategies and tools to rebuild their lives and heal from their experiences. The goal of counseling is always the same: to assist one in reaching their individual and unique goals through a treatment plan designed just for them that is trauma informed. As Program Director, I am proud of the success of this program, and would like to see our services expanded

throughout the State of Delaware. I have witnessed many significant success stories in the short time that the program has been operating. It is very rewarding to see those who have come to us, faced with significant obstacles, i.e., anxiety, family issues, and homelessness – receive the guidance, coping skills, resources, and support to assist them with improving their quality of life using recovery oriented systems of care.

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Emotional Well-Being Group Medication Group Anger Management Group (starting December 12, 2012) Women’s Empowerment Group Men’s Group Life Skills Group Women’s Education Group

All groups meet weekly for one hour to an hour and a half, with the exception of the Anger Management group, which is a one time, six-hour¬ group to provide assistance in exploring anger issues and learning and practicing anger management and reduction techniques. The anger management group may meet court requirements for anger management classes, in some instances.


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So what can someone expect when first introduced to the Anchor Program? “Every one of our customers are offered dignity, respect, hope, and an opportunity to heal,” says Marc Weisburg, therapist. The first appointment, (assessment) at Anchor involves a holistic interview where problems and strengths are identified, which provides the Anchor Program therapist with insight into the customer’s history and current situation. At the next appointment, customer and therapist discuss which goals are most meaningful. One may choose at this time to schedule a psychiatric evaluation with BCCS Nurse Practitioner Margaret (Molly) Shaw. If prescribed medication, regular medication checks will be scheduled with Mrs. Shaw to monitor the effects of the medication. Many choose to work on their issues without medications through applying newly acquired coping skills and mood management strategies with great success. The choice of treatment strategies is always decided by the customer.







Brandywine Counseling and Community Services (BCCS) opened its first mental health clinic, the Anchor Program in August 2010. The program was the vision of BCCS CEO Lynn Fahey, PhD, who recognized the importance of addressing the complex needs of individuals in Wilmington and surrounding areas who have mental health issues.









living well andfit By Colleen Stone Colleen Stone is a Certified Hypnotherapist through the Banyan Hypnosis Center in California and a member of National Guild of Hypnotist, Inc. She has a successful business, ADVANCED HYPNOTHERAPY OF DELAWARE,, located in Felton, Delaware. Colleen is also certified in Anti-Aging Principles and Natural Hormone Replacement Theory through Giovane Medical Services Inc., member of American Academy of Anti-Aging Medicine, and sells natural hormone trandsdermal creams. She is trained in Energy Medicine by Donna Eden through Omega Institute in New York, and all of Colleen’s clients are taught how to use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) a form of acupressure, and Self-Hypnosis.Colleen holds a Bachelors Degree of Education with thirty plus hours of graduate work. She spent sixteen years in the classroom teaching in addition to four years at the Caesar Rodney School District Office training teachers. She has also presented workshops across the country through involvement in two national projects. This nurturing, giving quality and her trusted rapport has carried over to her practice by helping her clients achieve positive changes in their lives through hypnosis for nine years.

Be Happy, Healthy & Strong


With so much unsettling news these days, much of our country lives in fear, stress and anxiety says Colleen Stone, Certified Hypnotherapist. In working with her clients, Colleen sees and hears similar complaints such as, “I am so afraid …”, “I have so much anxiety that I cannot sleep!”, “My migraine headaches are so much worse” or, “I cannot leave the house without taking a pill!” Colleen believes that core beliefs play a big part in how the mind/body operates affecting our thoughts, emotions and our health. The body can heal itself once the negative energy from these emotions has been resolved and released and Ms. Stone states, “This is what I do everyday….with the use of hypnosis, self-hypnosis and EFT.” In addition, Colleen believes that ENERGY MEDICINE is the medicine of the future…just think if we could resolve and release negative energy before they manifest into an illness! Look what Dr. Candace Pert has to say in her book, “Molecules of Emotions”, about the power of releasing negative emotions with the use of forgiveness, and how the process actually affects our mind/ body, and the immune system:

resentment and rage). If you experience a constant, suppressed state of anger in your body/ mind over many years, holding grudges and not forgiving people for incidents that happened in the past, then you are most likely using energy to make antibodies, and keeping yourself in a chronically inflamed state. As a result, you tax your immune system to overreact, aggravating autoimmune disorders such as Fibromyalgia, lupus, CFS, and rheumatoid arthritis, and many other illnesses. Colleen’s goal for each client is self-awareness through positive changes in their core belief systems allowing for desired behavior changes, ultimately self-love and reconnecting with the original/ true self that is happy, healthy and strong!

By Releasing Negative Emotions Colleen uses a five-step process of one-on-one hypnosis, including one session of Direct Suggestion, and four other steps of letting go and resolving negative emotions including “Forgiveness of Others” and “Forgiveness of Self”. Forgiveness is about no longer having to carry around the pain and anger caused by these negative emotions. This is when the self-healing begins!! Colleen teaches her clients what she has learned after ten years of researching and working successfully with other clients that, “the bottom line to healing is learning self-love and allowing the body to heal itself!” Forgiveness is a gift to self and it is not about the other person. Self-Hypnosis and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) are two methods of self-healing that Colleen teaches to all her clients, along with the one-on-one process of 5PATH. Self-Hypnosis is a method of resolving and letting go of negative emotions daily so

“Releasing blame requires a quantum shift in which the whole body/mind is altered, a true state change that affects the entire system. It isn’t a small thing that is done by degrees, but a whole-body turnaround. Who you are when you forgive yourself and others is someone living a new reality. You are free and experience true happiness. You can also be healthier; because physical inflammation in your body is diminished, (it is no longer continuously triggered by


that they no longer accumulate and manifest into illness. EFT is an amazing healing technique that is easy to learn and has profound effects. It is a simple, rapid and remarkably effective approach to healing emotional disorders that is based on a synthesis of Chinese Acupressure and Applied Kinesiology. As clients clear away the negative emotions related to the illness, they experience a process of improvement and inner peace and find a transformation of energy for the good. From there many clients use that energy in a positive way to achieve lifetime goals. Ms. Stone provides workshops and talks in many of the titles listed in this article. Colleen also does treatments on Tuesday and Saturday by appointment at Kaya Wellness and Yoga Center –  301G Rehoboth Avenue, Rehoboth Beach, DE. Call 302-227-3450 for an appointment.

living well andfit By Dean Roles

The Truth


In the world it seems that the simple truth is hard to come by. People are quite capable at manipulating words in order to alter belief systems. People do this to benefit themselves for various reasons (this article is far too short to explore these reasons). In the horse world, 90 percent of the training methods utilized are based on manipulated belief systems, that are usually derived from other belief systems. These systems are usually developed to attract people and create income. Then these systems are changed as time passes to attract more income. Or even worse, the system is recreated by Johnny come lately, based on beliefs off the first faulted system. In reality, these faulty methods are a huge problem in the horse world, and the problem has gotten so bad that over 90 percent of all horses are not ridden. Out of the remaining 10 percent that are ridden, 80 percent of those are not safe mounts. Do the math – that means that every 2 in 100 horses are safe. In my younger years, the percentage of safe, well-trained horses was around 70 percent. That number has shrank so exponentially that if I had not seen it happen with my own eyes, I would not have believed it. Although there are other factors at work here, such as the physical and mental condition of the rider and horse, feed, unnatural care methods of the horse and so on, the fact that the truths of horse training have been replaced by heavily faulted belief systems seems to me to be the primary cause of this. So what are the truths that training should be based on? I’m glad you asked! 1. Never harm the horse.

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Testimonial Onyx came into my life in January 2009. In the past 3 years she has battled strangles and founder. In the spring of 2012 I decided this mare needed to have a job and I was desperate to find someone who would work with her without sacrificing my horse’s soul. And so it begins…

3. A  ll horses communicate with body language thru pressure and release. Horses know what you want by the application of pressure and will desire to do what you want because of the release of pressure.

On June 9 I brought Dean a horse with soundness issues due to her foundering previously. I brought him a horse that had no desire to please a human, but who would rather intimidate people with her size and power.

4. A  lways use enough pressure to obtain the desired results, and always use as little as possible (see rule 1.) 5. If you cannot get a horse to desire your company at all times, it will result in you being dismounted. 6. Y  ou cannot scare a horse into not being scared ( also known as de-spooking) 7. H  orse training should always be interesting for the horse and should never be exciting for the people.

Dean saw that Onyx’s issues ran deep and they weren’t all psychological…her physical well being needed to be addressed as well. He took such care to get my horse physically comfortable in the first three weeks by trimming her feet, giving her massages. Anything he could think that would help,

he did. He could have physically pushed my horse, took my money for a month’s worth of training and sent us on our way, but he didn’t! This man cares about the horses and he cares about the people who own these horses that come through his gates. He has a plethora of knowledge and he loves to share it. He spent hours talking to me and sharing the lessons he has learned in his career…and he does it with passion! He is teaching me how to speak horse and to translate the information my horse gives me and to have a relationship with Onyx. It’s been a beautiful experience to have Dean train me and teach my horse and I’m excited to say my journey isn’t over. I’m continuing lessons with Dean and he is also continuing to trim Onyx’s feet to keep her sound. ~ Donna Austin, Clayton, DE

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8. H  orses should always move away from pressure and never apply pressure to a human. It is the humans responsibility to create space for the horse to move away into.

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9. A  lways remember you tell a horse where not to be (not where to go – that’s a predator mentality!) 10.Make the good thing easy – make the bad thing hard (for example – you cannot make a horse stand still, he must desire to do so!) These are 10 of the golden truths of horse training and just so you know, these truths can be applied in other aspects of life. That’s how truth works – it is always true whether it’s a horse, a career decision or correcting your child. The truth will set you free!


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living well andfit By Nancy Hawkins Rigg Nancy Hawkins Rigg is the founder and owner of Forever Fit Foundation, a personal training business specializing in Pilates Gyrotonic, Gyrokinesis, Yamuna Body rolling and sport-specific training. Forever Fit Foundation accepts clients at three sites: Dover and Lewes and Mendenhall Station, Pa, just over the Delaware line. A certified athletic trainer, she earned her Bachelor Degree from the University of Delaware and her Master’s in Exercise Science and Sports Medicine from Miami University in Ohio. Please call 302.432.1816 or 698.5201 to schedule an appointment or for more information.

Pilates... Beyond The Mat


Pilates offers an opportunity to improve strength, flexibility and balance. Students find themselves becoming longer and leaner and so much more. Pilates has invisible, intangible benefits . . . lessons for life that go way beyond the mat. Consider, for example, balance. Balance is so much more than the ability to stand on one foot without falling. Balance is a state of equilibrium, serenity and calm. Balance is also associated with the ability to manage your life, to deal with challenges, to keep things in perspective, to handle adversity with a positive response. Practicing Pilates offers an opportunity to develop both physical and mental balance, and you’re never too old to practice this discipline of body, mind and spirit. Pilates is an exercise system developed by Joseph Pilates, a German immigrant, who was a World War I prisoner of war in England, then moved to New York City in the 1920s. Rather than call his system with his own name, he named it Contrology because he believed in using the mind to control the muscles in order to develop strength and flexibility of the body and mind. Joseph Pilates believed strongly in the mind/ body connection . . . balance and harmony. In the early years, Pilates’ principles were embraced by the dance community. The exercise system focuses on developing a strong core and a strong mind, and he created apparatus so that students could train their bodies. You really can’t execute the exercises without concentration, focus and control. In today’s exercise world, Pilates has almost become a generic term that is frequently used by instructors

who have not earned the credentials to properly train clients on the apparatus. Inquire about your trainer’s education for your own safety and ultimate success. Instructors must be trained to properly adjust springs and pulleys to individualize resistance training. A credentialed trainer will welcome your questions. So how does training on oddlooking pieces of apparatus or a mat on the floor develop better balance? These pieces of equipment are extremely versatile and can be used for a variety of exercises, some of which are challenging even to the most dedicated student. The equipment was designed so that the instructor guides the student, one-on-one, through a series of movements, isolating specific areas of the body. This aspect of Pilates is especially useful when a client may need rehabilitation from injury or surgery, such as hip or knee replacement surgery.

their minds on the exercise they are performing; there’s no place for distraction. Since Pilates challenges core strength, the client must keep her mind in the movement. As a result, daily activities may become easier, and minor aches and pains may decrease. That’s motivation! As clients progress with Pilates, the trainer is able to adapt the exercises, making them more challenging by offering variations not only in movement but also in the resistance created by the springs.

The client’s own body weight also offers substantial resistance as well so that Pilates exercises can be executed on a mat without the support of the apparatus. Pilates, when practiced on a regular basis, assists the client in developing strong muscles that are long and lean, sculpting the body while strengthening. What happens beneath the skin is that resistance training also creates strong bones, and that’s important because as people age their bone mineral density decreases. Pilates, as resistance training, helps maintain strong bones. In addition, Pilates sharpens mental focus because clients must keep


With Pilates, there’s always something different to raise the bar, increase your strength, coordination and flexibility and decrease the chance of injury. One of the main principles of Pilates is concentration. Students must focus on their bodies while executing each exercise. During a Pilates session, the teacher will remind the student to focus in order to be precise and strong. In other words, students can’t be distracted by life outside the Pilates room. . . at least during the training session.

living well andfit By Patrick Preece Mr. Preece is a graduate of KMAI Newark’s leadership team; he has gone on to become the chief instructor of our Dover location. Mr. Preece has been training with KMAI since the year 2000. He holds a 3rd Degree Tang Soo Do, a 3rd Degree Sin Moo Hapkido, and a 1st Degree Tae Kwon Do. Mr. Preece’s teaching strengths include both youth and parent’s classes. He says his favorite part about the martial arts is teaching leadership skills to a new generation as well as encouraging families to train together to reach their full potential.

The Merits of Accountability


This month we will focus on accountability. Accountability is closely linked in with being dependable, responsible and trustworthy. It’s word that asks people to keep their promises, admit mistakes, and take action when they realize that they didn’t make the best choice. Being accountable takes courage. Many people fear the consequences of their mistakes and choose to blame others rather than be accountable for their choices. Others get so caught up in feeling like their mistakes are a reflection of their own intelligence that they are quick to berate themselves rather than take productive action. A recent study published in Psychological Science (Oct. 2011), shows that those who think that they can learn from mistakes have different brain reactions to mistakes than people who think intelligence is fixed and that they can’t learn from mistakes. In other words, those who reflect the mantras “when the going gets tough, I put in more effort” or “if I make a mistake, I can learn from it” are going to perform better in school and in life than those who run from their mistakes. Not surprisingly, accountability is a vital part of success both in and outside of school. Accountability often makes the difference between goal failure and goal success. Those who make an accountability plan and stay true to their commitments are the ones who achieve their goals. After all, it’s one thing to make a plan and it’s another to stick to it. Those who ensure accountability truly know the difference. Accountability is also an important part of growing up and stepping forward

when we make mistakes. It takes courage and confidence to admit wrongdoing and it takes initiative and action to make things right again. Some adults are still quick to blame others when mistakes are made or leave the mess for others to clean up. True leaders are accountable for their own choices, mistakes and actions each and every time. For the young people we lead, what is the reward of being accountable for their own choices, actions and mistakes? In other words, why should they step forward (why should they WANT to-what’s the reward?) if adults are willing to “fix” the mistake for them or let them off the hook? On the flip side, what is the consequence of stepping back or hiding from accountability? Sir Josiah Stamp once said, “It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.” How can we impress this upon our young people? As part of accountability, children must learn to both look back and

look forward. By looking back at the choices they’ve made and asking themselves; “What did I do? What happened when I did that?” they claim their contribution to the outcome or mistake. As comedian, George Burns once quipped; “No snowflake in an avalanche ever feels responsible.” We also need to encourage them to look forward and ask; “What can I do?” and “By when can I do it?” How can you see these questions benefitting those you lead? How do you see using them? By looking forward set a plan to take action, fix the mistake and charge forward. They must practice this over and over so that it becomes a habit. Having an “accountability partner” can help with the process. When we can report to someone and let them know our plans and when they’ve been put into action, accountability can become more likely!

promising.” As Publilius Syrus, a first century writer of Latin maxims once wrote; “Never promise more than you can perform.“ That’s good advice. How can we challenge those we lead to be specific about their plans and stick to them in a timely fashion? How can we be their accountability partner who ensures that they do what they promise without micro-managing?

We want to encourage those we lead to create an accountability plan that announces what the person plans to do and by when he plans to do it in order to achieve his goal. The key to an accountability plan to stretch without “over-

Who will you bring with you? If no one comes to mind, you will inevitably find someone that’s already here. One of the most gratifying things I see are the bonds created through these shared experiences.

Martial Arts is a great activity for finding an accountability partner. We have found tremendous success from those that join with a family member or a friend, those people become accountability partners by default. As partners train together and rise through the ranks together, that shared experience creates a bond, and compounds the effectiveness of the training. Creating lifelong results.

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living well andfit By Pete Lerza LMT, NCTMB, CHP, Manager Kaya Wellness & Yoga Pete Lerza is the Spa Manager at Kaya Wellness & Yoga in Rehoboth Beach, DE. Pete is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Certified in Holistic Pathology. Pete also serves on the Program Advisory Committee at the Dawn Career Institute. He takes a holistic approach to helping you relieve yourself of the physical and emotional stresses of everyday life. Primarily practicing Swedish & Deep Tissue Massage, and having a strong understanding of the nature of “knots” & general wellness, Pete strives to help his clients enjoy a better quality of life. Pete uses the knowledge from his certification in Holistic Pathology to address complaints of pain with various techniques & perspectives. For more information or to schedule an appointment, visit or www. or call (302) 227–3450.

Fibromyalgia & Massage


Roughly 7 million American have the disorder which is largely classified by intense chronic pain: Fibromyalgia (FM). Though the cause is still not entirely understood, some progress has been made in the treatment of FM. Many pharmaceutical products which induce an increase in serotonin levels have been tested, but have had limited results. So far, the only treatment that has proven to be effective is regular massage. Usually, patients will notice clear & significant positive changes within the first 10 - 15 massage treatments. Due to the circulation of oxygenated blood to the tense, de-oxygenated blood, which is found in many FM patients, there is a 1 in 10 risk that a FM patient will experience an aggravation of symptoms. This does not last long, but is important to know when attempting this route of therapy. It is recommended that FM patients receive their first 10 massages in increments of 2 sessions per week for the first 5 weeks. This may be a financial challenge, but when weighing out the gains in freedom from pain as well as not risking any long term side-effects, this modality of treatment is priceless. If a Fibromyalgia patient were to pursue this route of treatment, the price of sessions could be adjusted to fit a more comfortable budget. However, many insurance companies will reimburse a patient who truly has a need for the service simply with the presentation of a receipt & physicians referral. One of the key factors which separates my practice from others in the field is my conceptual understanding of the body from a holistic point of view. I know that the phrase, “no pain, no gain”, is fairly inaccurate & I use

my knowledge of the body to my advantage. I use a specialized technique to work out knots, which may still cause discomfort but it is much more effective & less painful than other techniques. I also use my knowledge of the GTO (Golgi Tendon Organ) which is a little organ in our tendons that senses when we are stretching. When the GTO gets this message from the muscle, it allows the muscle to relax & stretch further to avoid injury. I employ this system by applying pressure to tendons to make them “think” that the muscle is being stretched, which relaxes the muscle, making the experience easier for myself & my clients. I also use Ischemic Compression to catalyze the healing process. What Ischemic Compression does, essentially, is temporarily cut off blood to a specific muscle cluster. This tells the brain that there is an injury, which causes the brain to respond accordingly & rush oxygenated blood to the area. Typically, this blood would be met by a wound & begin to form a scab, but there is no wound so we’ve simply tricked the body into sending healthy blood to an area which was tight. This will help break down adhesions such as knots & general tightness.

He asked for feedback as to pressure and touch, but little verbal feedback was actually needed because Pete was so sensitive to the cues and responses my body provided to the bodywork. Pete gave an excellent massage, working deeply into some very blocked places without creating pain or discomfort. I felt safely held

in his skillful touch throughout the massage. In summary, I am very pleased, satisfied, and grateful for my experience at Kaya. I will definitely be returning the next time I am able to get away for a few days of rest and restoration. And yoga and bodywork at Kaya will be central to my plans.” ~Cathy

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Preparing Smoot hies wi t h a Purpose

living well andfit Debbie Lonski has dedicated herself to helping others to achieve a healthy lifestyle and weight, and with that decided to open Exquisite Nutrition to provide nutritious blended beverages to the folks in and around Dover. “We call it a protein smoothie with a purpose,” Lonski said. “It’s a perfectly balanced meal.” Exquisite Nutrition located at 321 Independence Blvd. offers customers a range of services to reach their desired weight goal. Services offered include free personal consultations/coaching, free nutrition classes, free body analysis and shape scans, free recipes and newsletters, free wellness evaluations, coupons, access to the big loser challenges and a full line of nutritional products for children along with Facials, and Body Wraps. “Being in a place like this is wonderful; it’s a club for nutrition. It is our nutrition club.” Helping Debbie, who is an owner and wellness coach, is her husband, Ben, her partner, Diane Acker, and many others who have trained with Debbie and Diane. “We have over 30 years of testimonials in 84 countries. We know the products work. We just don’t know what you are going to do,” Debbie continues. “Exquisite is not about dieting. We are not a diet. This is all about good nutrition and personalizing programs.” Debbie, who now lives in Magnolia, says of her husband that while using the products has lost 73 pounds in 10 months and has kept it off for 7 years along with building 15 pounds of lean muscle. “I am so proud of him; he went from a size 38 down to a size 32.” “We are always looking to train wellness

coaches because of the need for good health in Delaware. We work with them side by side to teach them. Starting this nutrition club is just the beginning.” Those interested in training to become a wellness coach can choose to work out of their homes or the club. “Our whole mission is to take nutrition to one person at a time, all around the world,” she says. “We customize it to you. One size doesn’t fit all with our products. It’s a good healthy way of getting in a well balanced meal that’s fast and simple.” The business features herbal green tea in original, peach, raspberry, and lemon flavors as well as over 100 different flavors of shakes, and a range of other products. The smoothies can be used to lose, gain, or maintain weight. Jeni Tieman, of Hartly, a new wellness coach is amazed at the energy she sees each day. She has lost 30 pounds and is working on the next 30. “I love it here. Debbie and Diane have helped me every step of the way and with the training I now have a wellness coach in training myself.” The club is open from 7am to 5pm Monday through Friday and open on Saturdays only for special events. At $35, anyone interested can join a weight loss challenge, which is an 8 to 12 week program of nutrition training and support through a group setting. Our next challenge starts now. Everyone who finishes is a winner to us. We can’t wait to let people know about the advantages of a healthier way of life. For more information, call 734-2842 or “We want to help you change your life. We want to make a difference, that’s our goal,” Debbie finishes up. “This really gives us a chance to make a difference in our community.

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business andfinance By John Still John Still brings over 35 years of successful insurance, retirement, and financial planning experience to individuals, families, and businesses. He specializes in business planning and employee benefits, as well as life and health insurance for business owners of small and large businesses. John is well known and respected not only in the insurance field, but also for his civic involvement, which is broad and extensive. He graduated from both Wesley College and the University of Delaware, was the first Delawarean to earn the coveted “Registered Health Underwriter” designation in 1980, and became securities licensed in January 1981. He maintains and updates his professional life and health knowledge and credentials with comprehensive continuing education courses annually. In 2010, he completed the “Certificate in Financial Planning” through the University of Delaware, Lerner College of Business and Economics. He has taught LUTCF insurance courses and conducted employee benefits seminars throughout his career.

Disability Income Insurance


What is your most valuable asset? Your home? Your car? Your retirement plan? NO . . . it is your ability to earn a paycheck. Imagine what would happen if your ability to earn income suddenly disappeared? Statistical evidence on disabilities is sobering: Between the ages 35 and 65, there is a 30% chance of suffering a disability lasting three months or more; Should you suffer a disability lasting longer than six months, there is a 30% chance that the disability will last longer than five years! (Commissioner’s Disability Table A, Society of Actuaries). Sources of Disability Income: Income protection is provided through three (3) sources: Government-sponsored programs such as Social Security disability insurance or workers’ compensation; Employer paid or employer sponsored group disability insurance; and Individual disability income policies (private insurance), which protect individuals when they are not covered by government or employer programs, or when these programs fail to provide adequate coverage to protect an individual’s income needs. Government Disability Programs: Social Security will provide benefits to individuals with qualifying disabilities expected to last at least 12 months. The amount of your disability benefit depends on your covered compensation, the number of years you have been covered, your martial and family status, and whether

you are entitled to benefits under workers’ compensation or other government programs. Workers’ Compensation pays if you suffer an accident at work or an illness that results directly from your employment. You may be eligible for disability benefits under the Veterans Administration pension program, a state vocational rehabilitation program, or other state program (miner-black lung program). Some states (CA, HI, NJ, NY, and RI) have non-work related shortterm disability benefits plans. Employer-Paid or Sponsored Group Disability Insurance Programs: Most employers provide shortterm income protection from 26 weeks to 52 weeks and many employers provide “long term” disability benefits, which start after a waiting period from 90 days to 365 days. Key questions to ask are: How long must I wait before benefits begin? How long will payments continue during my disability? How will other disability coverage, such as governmental or individual programs, affect my long term disability payments?

income protection is less than your income needs, you should consider an “individual” policy. It is highly recommended that you speak with a qualified professional broker well versed in the contractual differences, definitions, benefits, and key provisions of varying income protection plans.

*Definition of disability *Extent of coverage *Amount of monthly benefit

What to look for: If you are an individual or business, look for a “disability buy-out” plan, Key person plan, retirement income protection plan, and/or business overhead expense (BOE) plan. Key provisions to consider are:

An insurance professional can summarize the above and make a qualified recommendation once they determine your needs. We recommend you find a professional who is a member of his or her professional association such as: NAFIA or SFSP.

Other Disability Income Sources: Private programs may be offered by a union group, through your automobile insurance policy for an auto accident, or credit disability insurance, which makes monthly loan payments when you are disabled. Despite these wide-ranging income protection sources, a disproportionately large number of people don’t have coverage or they are vastly underinsured. If your

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business andfinance Contributed by J. Paul Jones, CLTC Paul was raised in Rehoboth Beach and currently living in Dover. He is a Financial Advisor with Diamond State Financial Group (DSFG) in Newark, Delaware. Additionally, he has been awarded a professional degree in the field of long-term care, Certified in Long-Term Care (CLTC). The certification program is independent of the insurance industry and focuses on providing financial service professionals the tools needed to meet their client’s extended care needs. Paul is a Registered Representative and Investment Advisor Representative of Securian Financial Services, Inc., member FINRA/SIPC, Securities Dealer and a Registered Investment Advisor. 544999 08.2012

I Recently Tied The Knot Again


Sometimes life gives us another chance... a “do over.” We’re hopeful and with good reason. We’re also aware that a second marriage is a bit more complicated than the first time we tied the knot. When two families join together, it’s not always like the Brady Bunch. Remarriage creates instant extended-family responsibilities that can affect more than one household. The impact is not just emotional, but also financial. As a couple planning to re-marry, you may be strolling through a legal and financial minefield. It doesn’t matter if you’re young, with dependent children, or enjoying a new beginning in your retirement years. You can’t afford to sidestep issues that could lead to bad feelings among family members or undermine your relationship with your spouse. Worse, should anything happen to either of you, undecided issues could lead to legal wrangling that can last for years and harm loved ones. By taking steps to clearly define the financial relationships and rights of all family members, you can guarantee that everyone is protected and treated fairly.

An outdated will could lead to embarrassing (and financially devastating) consequences. Just imagine if your new spouse is not mentioned in the will… while a former one is! The following ideas can help ensure that all family members are provided for according to your wishes: • Update your auto insurance. Review your coverage and make sure all licensed family members are under one auto insurance policy. Look for ways to cut your auto insurance costs. Talk to your auto insurance agent for details. • Bring your wills in line with your

new relationships and objectives. Reminder: Your will is your voice from beyond the grave. It assures that assets are distributed according to your wishes. An outdated will could lead to embarrassing (and financially devastating) consequences. Just imagine if your new spouse is not mentioned in the will… while a former one is!

necessary steps to protect each other – not just emotionally, but financially as well.

• Consider trusts and prenuptial agreements (marital property settlement agreements, if you’ve already married) to make sure everyone’s needs are met. Some couples balk at this idea, as if having an agreement reflects a lack of trust. On the contrary, it is nothing more than a legal document that lays out how assets are to be used and allocated when one of you eventually dies. It helps protect both the surviving spouse and each spouse’s family.

The bottom line: Take time to review your financial arrangements to ensure they reflect your marital status. Talk to your attorney, tax advisors and financial professional. If I can be of any assistance, please contact me. 1Who needs disability insurance?, Copyright © Custom Communications 2010. Material

• Review your life insurance. When you marry, your financial responsibilities can change dramatically. Review and change beneficiary designations as needed on all existing policies. You also may need to add coverage to reflect the situation in your new household. • Maintain disability insurance. Nearly one in three women and one in four men will suffer a disability that keeps them out of work for 90 days or longer, according to a 2007 survey.1 If you become disabled, disability insurance helps protect your family by replacing a portion of your income until you can return to work. • Obtain property insurance. If you are living in an apartment, purchase renters insurance. It will help protect your possessions from fire, theft or other calamity. If you own your home, review your homeowners insurance. This is a time of renewed opportunities for you and your spouse. Be sure to take the


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business andfinance Written by Linda Ferrari, Presented by Kevin Phillipson Kevin Phillipson has developed custom applications and solutions for small and large businesses, as well as the federal government, and has a case study published by Microsoft. His understanding of business processes and procedures has enabled him to bridge the gap between operations and technology and how it is applied in today’s market. With 6 years’ experience in the mortgage business, and 4 years of that specializing in working with people with unique and difficult financial and credit situations, Kevin has developed and copyrighted 2 processes, Mortgage Ready© and Ready for Business©. Both are designed to take people from where they are today to where they want to be, detailing all the steps along the way, a clear in depth, proven process of getting people Mortgage Ready, or Ready for Business. Kevin earned his MBA in 2010, and is working on his Doctorate in Business Administration (DBA) at Wilmington University.

Part 3 The Five Biggest Credit Mistakes


Here is the last of the five biggest credit mistakes. Hopefully you are all now happily on your way to perfect credit! Mistake Number 3: Going Over 50% of Your Credit Limit Consumers tend to use credit cards for all of their needs, running up big balances. It is crucial to keep credit card balances below 50% of the available limit at all times to maintain your score. In addition, the rules are even tighter if you are looking to get a loan. For the 3-6 months prior to applying for a loan, keep those balances below 30% or less of your limit so you can increase the score as much as possible-the lower the balance, the better. Never max out or go over the limit! Fair Isaac & Co. says that you can lose up to 80 points by maxing out on a credit card, even when you pay the balance down; you only get 40 of those points back immediately. It will be months before you get the other 40 points back. If you have to max out a credit card to make a purchase, make sure to pay the balance down BEFORE the statement date so that the maxed out balance is not reported to the bureaus. If you cannot pay down your credit card balances to 30% of the available limit prior to applying for a loan, try calling your credit card companies to ask for a temporary limit increase without pulling your credit. Tell them you are in the process of wanting to purchase a home and that your balances are affecting your score. Some creditors will oblige if you have maintained a good payment history on the account. This aspect of your credit score is part of the

Amounts Owed factor, which accounts for 30% of your credit scores. Mistake Number 4: Shop ‘til Your Score Drops Shopping for loans can be a fast way to bring down your credit score. Why? Because when you apply for a loan, they pull your credit. This is a hard inquiry that automatically whacks anywhere from 2-30 points off your score. The good news is that Fair Isaac realized that consumer’s shouldn’t be penalized for something as logical as shopping around for the best interest rates before making buying a car or home, so they came up with something called De-Duplication. What it means is this. Consumers can have their credit pulled by as many mortgage or auto lenders as they

want within a 14-day period, and it will only be counted as one hard inquiry against their score. In addition, even better news is that the new scoring model released by FICO has expanded the 14-day period to 45 days. Note: Not all lenders are using the new model yet, so it is best to be safe and do your shopping in a 14-day period. Mistake Number 5: Opening Accounts You Don’t Need Just say “Thanks, but no thanks” when it comes to new offers for credit, do not open accounts you don’t need. Just because credit is offered to you, does not mean that you should accept it. When you receive one of those pre-approved credit card letters in the mail, your credit report has not been pulled yet, so you are NOT approved for the account.

Once you pick up the phone to call the creditor, they will pull your report and you will be penalized immediately for the hard inquiry. Remember, one hard inquiry can cost you anywhere from 2-30+ points from your score, depending on other elements in your report. In addition, the lower your score, the more points you will be penalized. Therefore, it is best to avoid these types of special offer credit cards (including Department Store offers of “Open an account today to save 15% off of your purchase.”) The scoring system frowns upon third party finance cards. To sign up for the Mortgage Ready© process go to www. or call 302-264-9094 between 8am and 7pm (EST) and use WJP ID # 2012-05.

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business andfinance By Susan D’Alonzo Ament Susan D’Alonzo Ament is a partner with Morris James LLP and has practiced for 30 years representing personal injury victims. She was born and raised in Wilmington, Delaware and attended Widener University School of Law. Susan is dedicated to representing clients injured at work and in serious automobile accidents in their claims against insurance companies. Clients describe her as compassionate and tenacious. She says that she finds it rewarding to work with her injured clients to protect their rights. She is driven by her faith to help others, not only at work, but in her personal life and volunteer work. Over the years, Susan has found that some of our clients don’t understand the crucial need to have adequate automobile insurance coverage in the event of a serious accident. Susan educates her clients on Personal Injury and Worker’s Compensation law every day in her practice and in seminars that she presents throughout the year.

‘Tis The Season For Safe Driving


It’s easy to get caught up in the magic of holidays in Delaware. Everyone seems to be in a better mood, and all of the hustle and bustle – including shopping, parties, and visiting with loved ones – makes the cold weather a little easier to bear. Of course, making merry has its price, as travel can be especially dangerous during this time of year. Whether you are traveling locally or planning a trip to visit friends or family out of state, it’s important to take some extra precautions when driving during the holiday season. To best avoid unpleasant situations like collisions, theft or more, follow these safety suggestions: Perform routine maintenance. One of the easiest ways to avoid car mishaps is to drive a safe vehicle. Check and rotate your tires, get a tune-up and have your oil changed regularly, at least every six months. Keeping up with these tasks ensures that your vehicle will be in top driving condition for Delaware’s often-treacherous holiday weather. Prepare for inclement weather. Due to the unpredictability of the East Coast’s weather conditions, it’s always a good idea to keep an emergency kit in your vehicle. Emergency kits include items that can help signal others in times of distress, make minor repairs, or help keep you protected from excessive temperatures while stalled. These kits can be purchased for as little as $30, or you can make your own. Some items that you might want to include are blankets, water, road flares and tools. For more ideas on what to include in your vehicle emergency kit, speak to your auto insurance agent or visit www.

Drive defensively. Just as the old adage goes, sometimes the best offense is a good defense. The lack of a sales tax draws more people into Delaware during the holiday season, which means the chances for collisions increase. When driving, be on the lookout for erratic drivers, slippery roads, snowdrifts and other unusual conditions. Never drive at speeds that would prevent you from taking necessary corrective actions, particularly in the evening when hazards are more difficult to see. Also, keep your eyes on the road, as you never know what other drivers have had too much eggnog. Don’t leave valuables in the car. When you travel, there’s a good chance that you’ll leave your vehicle unattended in places with which you’re unfamiliar. In order to avoid holiday breakins, don’t leave valuables in your car, especially in clear view of anyone who walks by. Many criminals take advantage of holiday shoppers’ generosity, and when your new purchases are visible, they make for a tempting target. If you must leave items in the car, opt to put them in the trunk, away from prying eyes.

Give a copy of your itinerary to a friend. Whether you are headed out to the mall, a party or a relative’s house, let someone know where you are going and how you intend to get there. In the event that you are in an accident, stranded or are incapacitated, your contact will know your intended route and be able to pass relevant information along to the authorities.

protective measures, we can significantly reduce the number of serious accidents that occur on our state’s roads and highways. Sadly, every day in our law practice, we see victims seriously injured in automobile accidents due to another person’s negligence or reckless driving. Be sure to follow these guidelines to protect yourself and others during one of the most wonderful times of the year.

A little extra vigilance and a lot of common sense go far in keeping everyone safe during the holiday season. If we all take these simple

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I Am for the Child…

Angela Lynch

Lois Clifton

Angela Lynch loves helping people, especially children, the most vulnerable.

Lois Clifton knows that once someone is committed to someone or something, age is but a secondary consideration.

After moving to the U.S. from the Philippines in 2008 to study human services in Washington, D.C. she began volunteering in the Library of Congress, the Smithsonian National American History Museum, and other school and community related organizations.

The 78-year-old retired school teacher and CASA volunteer shares vivid memories of growing up on a Wisconsin farm with no electricity during the 1930s. No electricity meant bringing in wood for the heater and cook stove, filling lamps with kerosene, washing clothes in the gasoline powered Maytag washer, line drying, scrubbing, cleaning, cooking and canning.

By 2010 she moved to Dover and began volunteering with USO Delaware and the American Red Cross. But her most satisfying opportunity was yet to come.

She and her three siblings fed their chickens and gathered eggs to exchange for flour, sugar, salt, seasonings and cloth for dresses and shirts. Yet they felt secure in their closeness.

It was at the USO where Angela met someone who had just been sworn in as a CASA volunteer and told her about CASA’s mission of providing independent and quality representation to neglected and abused children in Kent County.

She recalls her rural school with all eight grades in one big room with one teacher.

She immediately applied. After several months of training she was sworn in and received her first CASA case. She struggled at first to connect with the child, the court process and others involved in the case. But with help from her supervisor and ongoing training, she successfully represented her child in court.

After graduating from Cornell High School in central Wisconsin in 1951, she entered Eau Claire State Teachers College and later taught in the same type of one-room schoolhouse she attended. A former military wife, Lois lived in Florida, Michigan, Minnesota, Wisconsin, and Berlin Germany before coming to Dover AFB.

“Ensuring that neglected and abused children have a stable family environment is what keeps me focused and involved in the CASA program,” she said. “It has provided me the tools to conduct the investigative part of cases and has provided an understanding of how to best interact with younger people.”

She taught at Welch and Arnold Elementary until retiring in 1999, later volunteering with the Parents as Teachers Program that involved at-risk single, first time parents. In 2009 a friend introduced Lois to CASA. Since then she has been a court advocate for five different children. “We are the eyes, ears and legs of Family Court judges. We observe all factors of the wellbeing of the child,” she said.

Her supportive family life and training in the Philippines is the driving force behind Angela Lynch’s desire to help Kent County’s abused and neglected children to have the continuous support and love she had growing up.

CASA is perhaps the most satisfying chapter in Lois Clifton’s life of caring.

For information call the CASA office in Family Court at (302) 672-1067 or (302) 672-1037 or (302) 672-1114. Applications are being accepted now for volunteer training.


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One night when I was looking for something to do in Honolulu, Hawaii, I observed some folks partner dancing. So I told myself, “I think I can do that since my mom and dad were ‘Jitterbug’ dancers when Rock & Roll first started. Then, I join Aliamanu Chapter of Hawaii Ballroom Dance Association (HBDA) in 1997, I soon became the president of that dance chapter, then I was selected to be a Junior Standing instructor. Later, I was elevated up to senior standing instructor until my transfer to Boston to accept a Psychosocial Fellowship at the Bedford VA Medical Center, working with seriously ill homeless Veterans, September 2006-2008. During my time dancing with HBDA, I participated in two solo performances and 8 group routines. As a former Domestic Violence Social Worker I couldn’t ask for a better stress reliever hobby, ballroom dancing.

Deborah Edwards


Deborah is the Membership Relations Representative for the Central Delaware Chamber of Commerce, after having been a member of the CDCC for six years. She moved to Dover in 1973, graduated from Dover High School, and received her B.S. degree in Finance from Wilmington University. She was a banker for 13 years before transitioning into the health and fitness industry where she an integrative health consultant, a certified personal trainer, and a CrossFit instructor. Deborah is a third degree black belt in Isshynryu karate and has volunteered for the American Heart Association, the CDCC, and the Kent County Theatre Guild. Her most significant accomplishment however is the raising of her two children, Aubrey and Kevin. They are a great source of pride and continue to amaze her everyday. Deborah is competing in the Dancing with the Delaware Stars fundraiser for Mom’s House because she has had the desire to do so since its inception and strongly supports the Mom’s House program. Mom’s House is a non-profit agency that offers single parents the opportunity to continue their education by providing childcare services free of charge. Like us on Facebook, donate to support us, likes are great, cash is better



community andeducation By Dave Skocik David Skocik is president of PR Delaware LLC, a Dover-based public relations and communication consulting business. A former college administrator and assistant professor of communication, he has been a PR practitioner for more than 25 years and is nationally accredited by the Public Relations Society of America. He is author of “Practical Public Relations for the Small Business: Tools and Tactics for Competitive Advantage,” for small businesses and organizations to help save them money through earned publicity and effective audience research. Between 1987 and 2008 Dave hosted The Comcast Academic Challenge, a TV quiz show for Delaware’s high school students. He is active in community organizations and emcees parades, fund raisers, debates, concerts, dedications, competitions, and special events throughout the year. He can be reached at 302-736-8500 and

Filling Your Coffee Cup With A Fire Hose T That’s a concept easily visualized. Consider the powerful stream of water as the thousands of messages we receive every day. The cup represents public awareness. The stream is made up of individual drops or messages.

If you’re a business owner or your organization’s communicator, how do you keep your drop in the cup of consciousness? Thousands of small businesses close their doors each month, many because they aren’t successful in getting their message out and grabbing the attention of their publics. According to the SBA Office of Advocacy, small businesses: • represent 99.7 percent of all employers • provide 64 percent of the new jobs added to the economy • make up 98 percent of firms exporting goods • provide 49.2 percent of private sector employment in the country Although small businesses are the ‘sleeping giant’ of our economy, many are isolated and try to reinvent the communication process on their own without measurable success or outside help. Getting the word out can be broken down into three basic but equally important steps that should be reviewed in an ongoing basis: 1. Research your publics – who is most likely to purchase your product or service? Hint: It’s not the public at large. When someone tells me that it’s

almost always because they haven’t thought it through;

2. Choose the right communication channels to reach your target audiences. This determines whether your message will get to the right decision makers. It will also save you money and time;

3. Tailor your message to demonstrate the benefits you offer your clients or customers. Their needs may not align with your features. Everyone listens to WIFM -- What’s In it For Me? Make certain your selling message answers your audience’s internal WIFM question. Research your publics. Practice Demographic Due Diligence by determining which groups are most likely to need your products and services, according to age, gender, economic status, ethnicity, religious affiliation, or whatever other factors are relevant. Demographics may change gradually, but they do change. Some businesses are trying to sell products that have been sitting on the shelf because they no longer appeal to their changing publics. Consider a periodic SWOT (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunity, and Threats) analysis done by a PR firm. The SWOT provides a roadmap of where a business is and where it should be going. Choose the right communication channels. We are deluged by messages on TV and radio, newspapers, magazines, news programs with crawling messages, billboards, surveys, phone solicitations, signs on vehicles,

posters, flyers, envelope stuffers, sign twirlers, coupons, pop ups, computer screen links, handouts and others. Choosing the right one(s) is crucial to success.

• Always remember you are an expert in what you do. There has never been anyone like you and there never will be.

Tailor your messages. Once you complete the first two steps, make certain your messages match the needs of your customers and prospects. An example is that of a car dealer who advertises a Saturday sale at his dealership as the largest with the greatest selections in the area. Unless Joe and Sally Prospect have an immediate need for a car they will likely pass because there will always be a sale somewhere.

• Once you become a public figure be on your best behavior both on and off duty.

However, adding that he’s got a play area with a babysitting service while dad and mom look at the deals would make a difference to families with kids. Aligning messages to needs may also include reflecting the culture and even the language of your target audiences. The fastest growing and most tech friendly users today are Hispanics. Should your advertising and service be multi-lingual? Some Thoughts: “If a man is called to be a streetsweeper, he should sweep even as Michelangelo painted. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great streetsweeper.’” Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.


• You are your own best advocate. Never miss an opportunity to let people know what you do and how well you do it.

• Always speak kindly of others. • Laugh a lot. Smile when you’re stressed. Smile harder when you’re angry. People will flock to you. (They’ll also wonder what you’re up to.)

n i People Profile Allison Rossi My name is Allison Rossi. I am 16 years old and have been involved in martial arts for 4 years. I think the biggest challenge is overcoming the fear of being hit, especially when I have to spar people much bigger than myself. In martial arts you’re trained to take a punch, to take a kick, and it’s important to do so. Of course, we are always in a safe environment whether we’re sparring with padded gear or practicing target kicks using padded targets. Nobody wants to get hit, but without knowing what it feels like you won’t have the respect for the technique. The most rewarding thing to me is confidence. With the knowledge and skills I’ve learned I feel that if I were put into a hostile situation where I felt threatened, I would be able to handle myself and keep myself safe. It’s nice to have that peace of mind that a lot of people don’t have. I have always been a real big nerd, and after seeing so many cool tricks and moves from movies or videos on YouTube I wanted to try it out. Now, after training for a while I realized that it’s probably not the greatest reason to join and it’s almost embarrassing to admit, but it’s not what has kept me going. What has inspired me to keep going is that I know the skills learned in the time it takes to reach black belt are very important. Not only do you learn how to defend yourself, but you learn discipline and responsibility. Getting to black belt was getting down the basics and learning all of the material you need to know. Now I feel it’s going to be a hard and long road to refining all of the techniques I have learned over the past four years. Getting to second degree I feel is going to be a lot about just making everything so much better than it was before. Since about my first year in martial arts I looked up to one of the higher ranks Zifeng Zhuo. Not only is she fantastic at karate, she is a wonderful person in general. Zifeng is the type of person who is incredibly selfless, always thinking about others before herself. She helps out in practically every way possible and has devoted much of her time to the school. She’s the type of person a martial artist should look up to, and I am very grateful to have a friend like her help me and guide me on my way to black belt. I’d have to say staff is my favorite and who doesn’t love it when someone pulls one out in a movie and starts twirling it around? It’s flashy, very fluid in motion, and looks awesome. It’s probably the weapon I picked up on the fastest out of the ones we train with and it’s always fun to work with. I feel that it’s the weapon I have the most control over and the most skill in. Not only is it fun, but it’s a great arm work out. Perseverance resonates with me the most. I am really stubborn in almost everything I do. If I don’t get something right, or don’t understand something, I will keep trying and trying. I don’t get discouraged when something doesn’t work out the first time, and it’s helped me grow and move forward.

Andy Roumillat My name is Andy Roumillat I am 50 years old and have been involved in martial arts for 3 ½ years. I found the greatest challenge for me in martial arts has been attending class at least three nights a week after working fulltime in construction. I did not start until age 47. After winning a bid on a three-month membership at Korean Martial Arts Institute at a benefit auction for a child dying of a brain tumor, I decided to see what martial arts was all about. My inspiration to become a martial artist was that as soon as I started, I immediately loved it. I have found the Nun chucks to be my favorite weapon, because of the difficult degree of mastering the weapon. My most rewarding experience in martial arts has been that I achieved a Black Belt in both Tang Soo Do and Sin-Moo Hap Ki Do in the same year. I expect my biggest challenge from1st to 2nd degree will be understanding the depth of the philosophy of martial arts, more than the physical or time consuming aspects. My instructor Patrick Preece is my role model because of his commitment for the art of Tang Soo Do and his passion for teaching others. He makes learning fun as well as educational and is compassionate for the varied learning abilities of his students. Of all principles of black belt, the one which resonates the most with me is attitude. Without the proper attitude you cannot accomplish anything, particularly something that requires the commitment and dedication as that of learning martial arts.


n i People Profile Carter Wright-Sanders My name is Carter Wright-Sanders. I am eleven years old and have been in martial arts for six years. My greatest challenge in martial arts is passing the series of written tests in order to get my black belt. The Most rewarding experience for me had been teaching the new members martial arts. My friends and family at karate motivated and inspired me to become a martial artist. I believe my biggest challenge moving forward from 1st to 2nd degree will be fine tuning all of my knowledge and being able to sharpen my skills. I have two martial artist role models; first is Mr. Preece because he is a great teacher and always very patient, and Zifeng for her level of commitment to the school and she is always pushing me to do my best. The Staff or Bong is my favorite weapon because it feels natural when practicing my forms. The principle of black belt that I relate to the most is Indomitable Spirit, because I try to never give up.

Zai Cook My name is Zai Cook, I am 15 years old and have been in martial arts for six years. My greatest challenge in martial arts has been testing for 2nd degree black belt. And receiving it has also been my most rewarding experience in martial arts. I was inspired to become a martial artist because of how it could be practically used in my daily life. I expect that studying for my written test for 2nd degree will be my biggest challenge. I do not have a role model; I usually stride just to perfect myself. My favorite weapon is the staff because it’s long and simple to use. Of all principles of black belt, obedience to my parents resonates most with me because I’ve always believed in respecting adults especially your parents because they do so much for you.

Joseph Herriman My name is Joseph Herriman and I am 11 years old. I have been involved in martial arts for four years. My greatest challenge in martial arts is doing demonstrations in front of people and testing for my next belt. Once I get into the demonstration or the test I start to feel more confident about what I’m doing. My most rewarding experience in martial arts is when I got my black belt and when I placed in tournaments. It takes me a long time to get my forms tournament-ready and make my moves and stances good. I became a martial artist because I thought it would be a fun and challenging experience. I have really learned a lot through karate. It has been fun sometimes and then sometimes it has been really challenging. My biggest challenge in advancing from 1st to 2nd degree I think will be learning new forms and remembering the forms from white belt all the way through black belt. Master Watters is my role model because he does his moves right and his stances are right. He is also very friendly to everybody and is a good karate instructor. My favorite weapon is the sword because it’s fun learning forms with the sword and doing blocks and cuts. Of all principles of black belt, behavior is the one that resonates with me the most because it helps me act right and listen no matter what we’re doing or who’s instructing.


n i People Profile John Henry My name is John Henry and my greatest challenge in martial arts was going all the way to black belt. Getting to black belt takes a lot of work and practice, and trying to juggle the work of school and family obligations can put a lot of pressure on someone. I was inspired by watching martial arts movies to become a martial artist. They are so awesome looking when they take out the bad guy. I wanted to be able to do that also. But I stayed in because of the skills and attitudes martial arts taught me. My parents were the ones who enrolled me in Tand Soo Do when I was five and the self-control and focus martial arts taught me has helped me in school and the sports I have played. I expect my biggest challenge from 1st to 2nd degree will be trying to do everything that interests me and do it well. I joined when I was five and I am now eleven, so I have been doing this for more than half of my life. I am now in two after school clubs and am involved in other activities. My favorite weapon is the staff. I really took to the staff and the forms and exercises were pretty easy for me to learn and understand. It is an elegant weapon with a lot of ways to use it and a lot of things to learn about it. My most rewarding experience in martial arts was standing on stage and having Mr. Preece tie my black belt around my waist. I saw my parents and my older sister get their black belts and nothing was going to stop me from being on that stage. My role model is our founder, Master Godwin. He started out just like me, with no knowledge of the art and has reached an advanced Master’s level; he has started schools and is responsible for helping and training thousands of men and women to be martial artists. O fall of the principles of black belt, perseverance is the one that means the most to me. I have been in Tand Soo Do for six years, so I have learned to finish a project when I start one. It has also taught me that no matter what the challenges life throws at you, and there will always be challenges, when you make a commitment you have to see it through to the end. I made that commitment six years ago, so learning long-term goal setting is something that will serve me for the rest of my life.

Stephanie Payne-Turner My name Stephanie Payne-Turner, I am 32 years old and have been in martial arts for three years. My greatest challenge in martial arts has been learning to be okay with making mistakes in front of others. I wanted to be the best from the moment I stepped on the mat. What I have come to realize is that it’s not about being the best on the mat, it’s about the journey. It’s about recognizing and appreciating every bit of effort you put in. The most rewarding experience for me is watching my whole family train together. My daughter, son and significant other train. My daughter asks me for help, my son asks her and I ask my significant other for help. We have all grown together and it has made us a really strong family unit. My daughter began training under Mr. Preece several years ago. I had always wanted to join martial arts and to be honest; I was living a bit vicariously through her. After a few months of seeing how much she LOVED it and getting over my fear of looking silly in front of people, I got on the mat. I haven’t regretted a moment of it. Moving from 1st degree to 2nd degree is not about the amount of new knowledge that can be attained; it involves understanding and learning about the depth of what you have already learned. I once heard that being a 2nd degree isn’t really being a 2nd degree, it is about being a great 1st degree. The challenge lies in being able to understand and apply that over the next 2 years. Weapons should be viewed as an extension of your physical self. Originally, my favorite weapon as nunchuks simply because they looked so cool. As my physical strength has grown, so has my affinity for the sword. When I began martial arts, the sword felt very clunky and awkward to me. The sword was unnatural, but I am beginning to develop and refine my sword work as a true extension. I am developing finesse with the sword and that is really rewarding. Perseverance is defined as a steady persistence in a course of action, purpose, or state especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles or discouragement. Life is filled with all of these. Martial arts teaches us to simply keep going. Our school is a family. We support each other and stand together, so when we experience frustration or obstacles, we have someone that gets behind us and helps us see the value in that obstacle. These experiences in martial arts give us the opportunity to grow ourselves, more mentally than physically. Both of my children train in martial arts and I hope as they mature they will see challenges as an opportunity for growth; an opportunity to just keep going in a broader sense; in life itself.


n i People Profile Dylan Bonilla My name is Dylan Bonilla and my greatest challenge in martial arts was teaching people in class and getting over my fears of being nervous in front of a crowd. As I started school it was becoming more of a challenge due to the fact that I was also in public school. It’s not easy keeping the honor roll in school and learning forms and studding for my black belt exam all at the same time. What can I say “I love a challenge.” The most rewarding experience in martial art was receiving my black belt. It took a lot of hard work and dedication. With Mr. Patrick P knowledge and his understanding of the sport, I became a better person. He has taught me how to be very respectful to my parents and well as my friends and teachers in school. He has changed me to be a better person. What inspired me to become a Martial artist was the love of the sport. I watched many movies with my dad and he in courage me to pursue my dreams of becoming a black belt. Having met with Mr. Preece and my dad’s guidance I couldn’t go wrong. I started going to class and I realized that with the right people next to me I can reach for the stars... My biggest challenge from 1st degree to 2nd will be to perfect all my old forms and learn new forms. To study hard and try to learn the Korean language so I may achieve my goal in passing my exams. Also, learning a new language allows you to have an open mind and see the world in a whole new light. My role model in marital arts is my dad. He is always training with me at home so I can have a better understanding of how important it is to reach my goals. As I was training with my dad he told me he too was a black belt but never pursued his dreams of becoming a master. I would like to be a master one day. I know when you have the right people standing next to you anything is possible.

Zifeng Zhuo

Assistant Instructor 2nd degree Tang Soo Do

Patrick Preece

Owner/chief instructor 4th degree Hapkido 3rd degree Tang Soo Do

This issue’s cover and people in profile were photographed at Kaizen Karate Academy, Korean Martial Arts Institute in Dover. “Master selfdefense, and live a more confident, disciplined and focused life.” Classes for children and adults alike.

Thank you to Mike Baker of CM Baker Photography for all of the wonderful photos this issue, from the cover and profiles to the women who serve and more.


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community andeducation By Paul Joslow Paul Joslow has been shooting video since it was called film. His career has spanned three film formats and numerous video formats. His credits include documentaries, TV spots and a feature film. He has lit and/ or shot scenes for dozens of major corporations. He currently heads, a Delaware based production company featuring web video campaigns. He also specializes in live business events, as well as weddings and other events. Paul may be reached by email at, and on his mobile phone at 215.280.1212.

Holidays are Family Video Time


With the holidays upon us, we are bound to be in the company of family and friends. Wonderful opportunities will present themselves to capture many special memories on video. So this is a good time to learn more techniques to help put great finishing touches on your video recordings. SOUNDS GOOD TO ME! Just as we discussed the unsettling nature of shaky camera work in our last article, poor sound quality can be just as annoying. If the audience cannot hear or understand the speaker, they will likely become impatient and lose interest in the video. Working with what you have. Most cameras have small microphones built into the body of the unit. Generally, these are low quality mics which can easily transfer handling noise from holding and moving the camera to the audio recording. When this is your source of your sound, try to get as close to the subject as possible and handle the camera with a gentle touch. By moving closer you will record a higher percentage of direct sound as opposed to reflective sound. If your subject is being electronically amplified, consider being in a closer position to one of the loudspeakers. Most camera mics are forward directional, so try not to place your main sound source behind you. The sound may be more muffled. Environment is everything. When you have options, try to select the most audio friendly environment available. Rooms with soft surfaces such as draperies, carpeting, upholstered furniture and acoustic ceilings will help mute sound reflections and minimize distortion of the subject.

Likewise, rooms with hard floors, walls, ceilings and furniture tend to amplify reflections resulting in less clear sound.

to aim at, where to focus and when to start and stop recording.

Close your eyes and listen for a few moments to the different sounds present in a supposedly quiet room. Do you hear the neighbors and traffic outside your windows? How about the refrigerator down the hall in the kitchen? Heater/AC? Evaluate how these inherent sounds may affect how well you record the soft voice of a child playing quietly. Consider your subjects and environment, and position yourself accordingly. Turn off TVs and radios. Adding Some Special Touches You may choose to add an offcamera microphone solution to provide higher quality sound. There are some reasonable priced options for various purposes. You can add a better-quality directional mic that can mount on the camera, if your camera has an auxiliary mic input. These mics may also be mounted on a stand or piece of furniture closer to the subject, provided you have a cable or wireless system to connect the signal to the camera. A wireless lavalier mic is handy for many situations where you want to mount a mic directly on- or in closer proximity to- your subject.

Thinking like a director is a lot like thinking like the audience. Pretend you are watching the finished program as you go while you are recording. This will help you pace what you see when you start and stop the camera. Let your mind’s clock “tell” you when to stop one shot and change to another to enhance and maintain interest. Let the subject “tell” you what to shoot next. Image in your mind what should follow by analyzing what has already occurred. Try to tell a story with your selections. When you start a new shot, make sure to mix up compositions. Provide different and perhaps unusual angles to vary the point of view and add interest. Get down low for your child’s perspective on life – don’t just view them from your own perspective.

LEARNING TO EDIT IN THE CAMERA It takes some practice, but editing in the camera is a great technique to develop. Once you get the hang of it, while applying the concepts we have already covered, the quality of your videos will show a remarkable improvement. While you are shooting, it helps to get into the mindset of a director, because you really are calling your own shots. You are deciding what


If you are continuing the recording with the subject of your previous scene, change the magnification or the angle you are using significantly enough to avoid “jump-cuts” where the subject jumps position suddenly within the frame, while the background remains mostly unchanged. RE: ZOOMING AND FADING Overuse of zoom and fade functions looks amateurish. Zoom only when necessary – out to reveal, in to highlight, as necessary to follow action. Don’t zoom too fast and don’t overdo it. It will help develop your other editing skills. PRACTICE. WATCH. REPEAT. Practice these techniques. Watch and analyze your results. Be critical. Repeat often. As you do, you will improve your timing and story-telling skills. Just in time for the holidays.

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Our Women Who Serve

By Dave Skocik

Jennifer Lynch Lacresha Abraham Nicole Carey There isn’t any family history or tradition of law enforcement in Jennifer Lynch’s family. But a “ride-a-long” during her junior year in high school in 1994 was the first step on a life changing journey in police work.

Showing the attributes of a good future detective, she planned ahead. Knowing she couldn’t apply to become a police officer until her 21st birthday, she enlisted in the Air Force Reserve in 1997 and served in the 512th Airlift Wing Security Forces at Dover AFB to get her foot in the door. She added to her experience during the summers of 1999 and 2000, serving as a seasonal police officer in Ocean City, Md. Her military service included numerous deployments across the globe, including a tour in Kuwait in support of Operation Enduring Freedom. In 2003 she received a much awaited call from the Dover Police Department. She was assigned to the patrol unit until mid-2007 when she was promoted into the Criminal Investigation Unit. Det. Lynch is a graduate of the National Forensic Academy in Oak Ridge, Tenn. The 10-week academy focuses in forensics and crime scene investigation. The training included the University of Tennessee’s Research Facility, aka, “The Body Farm.” As a detective she handles a variety of criminal complaints ranging from financial crimes to robbery and homicide and loves investigating crime and making a personal connection with victims. Besides catching criminals her goal is to make a positive impression on the lives of victims by listening and showing compassion for them. “I want them to know that I care and I will give their problem 100 percent of my attention. Being compassionate is an important characteristic for a police officer,” she said. Every police officer can recall a case the particularly affected them. Hers was a homicide investigation of a newborn child that been discarded by his parents and left to die. Thorough investigation resulted in the arrest and conviction of both parents. While not an easy case to work on, everyone involved focused on justice for the newborn. For the past year Jennifer Lynch has been practicing and playing with the Delmarva Wave, an all-women’s ice hockey team in Harrington. The team consists of all ages and skill levels. “It is fun, keeps you in wicked good shape and is a great stress reliever,” she said. “I love serving my country and have a great deal of pride in the many uniforms that I have worn and still wear.”

Family. That’s what drives Air Force Staff Sgt. Lacresha Abraham, a 3rd generation military member and proud of it.

Though her father was a Navy man, she has opted to follow in her grandfather’s footsteps in the Air Force. Born in Jackson, Mississippi and raised between there and Memphis Tennessee, Sgt. Abraham has been assigned to Dover AFB since June, having come from Beale AFB, California. Her six years in the Air force include a year in Korea and a six-month deployment in 2010 to Kandahar, Afghanistan, when her daughter Mikihlynne was only one-year-old. A single parent, she is most proud about her ability to be resilient, but admits her greatest challenge was leaving her daughter with her mother during her 6- months in Afghanistan. “My mother has been my number one supporter and driving force for the past six years, especially during my deployment,” she said. “It’s like she’s been with me on every assignment.” Her mother’s unconditional support has given her the ambition to move ahead in life while focusing on family. She has earned rank at every opportunity and continues to push herself educationally. Sgt. Abraham seems to have incorporated her military specialty as a Knowledge Operations Manager (website management) into a personal philosophy. She earned a bachelor of science in psychology and recently completed work for her master’s degree in Human Services with a concentration in Mental Health Administration. She expects to receive her diploma in January. The notion of family encouraged her to do volunteer work in a Korean orphanage during her 2007-08 assignment there. Spending time with abandoned children, helping them to bond and transition to life beyond the orphanage buttressed her interest in psychology. That interest increased in Afghanistan two years later. In addition to her duties as an IT client services administrator, she volunteered to work at a NATO international hospital. Her non-medical volunteer work included anything from folding towels to mopping floors and assisting Navy corpsmen in moving equipment. But it also provided the opportunity to read to injured children. Sgt. Abraham has excelled beyond her own expectations but sees her greatest role as educating Mikihlynne, who will be four-year-old in February, to believe in herself. “If you have high expectations they will rub off on your children.” In the long run, it’s the little things we do for family and others that shape the future.


When Nicole Carey came to Dover from Flemington, New Jersey to attend Wesley College a dozen years ago she never dreamed the Capital City would not only become her hometown but that she would become a member of its fire department.

Always active, she was involved in Pop Warner cheerleading, field hockey, and her high school marching band color guard. She played alto sax in her school’s symphonic band after her grandmother told her she could keep her great, great grandfather’s saxophone if she learned to play it. At Wesley she majored in media arts with a focus on video news broadcasting and a minor in business management. She joined the cross country team and was elected class president. By her junior year, one year after 9/11, Nicole assisted in National Fire Prevention Week with the Dover Fire Department and was later accepted as an auxiliary member. “Once I graduated from college and knew I would be staying in Dover I joined Holy Cross Church. In 2006 my family traveled from New Jersey to celebrate my marriage to fellow firefighter David Carey at Holy Cross, a church I love. Religion is very important to me,” she said. Since then Nicole has become a life member of Dover’s Fire Department. She’s served on the insurance, fund drive, and by-laws committees. She was the first female executive board secretary and personnel director. Her training includes the Kent County and State Special Operations Teams and she continues to participate in 5K, 10K and 10-mile runs and has completed two stay in shape. Her voluntary outreach includes donations to the Blood Bank of Delaware every 56 days as a local ‘Life Saver.’ “Giving blood is important to me. When my sister was very young she needed a transfusion. It made me realize that every day someone needs blood.” “I love coming home at the end of a long day to our two pups, Sandy and Oreo. They are always so happy to see us. If we are blessed with our own children along with my step-daughter Amanda, we will be the kind of parents we both grew up with and teach them right from wrong and to think and do things for others.” Nicole’s paying job is as a sales representative at Holden Dodge Chrysler Jeep Ram in Dover. In conjunction with her focus on health, she has also started an Arbonne business, a vegan botanicallybased health and wellness organization. “It is difficult being busy and involved, however, staying fit and eating healthy and having a supportive spouse is what is most important in living the kind of life that benefits others. I consider myself so lucky to have all of this.”

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By Ron Sayers – Graduate Gemologist (GIA)



We have all heard the line diamonds are a girls best friend but did you ever stop to think how true it is ? Diamonds will be guaranteed to compliment your appearance with virtually any outfit you wear. Whether blue jeans or an evening gown, diamonds compliment any fabric or color you can imagine. They are also compatible with any skin tone, makeup or hair style. Diamonds are also available in many natural colors such as yellow, brown, pink and black, as well as some colors created by man. The most dramatic and versatile however is still the colorless round brilliant and unlike the outfits you wear them with, they can be worn in any season and don’t go out of style. Diamonds are well suited for any age group. We have sold tiny diamond pendants for Christining gifts as well as a single add-a-link diamond bracelet which can be added to yearly. By the time the child is in college they can have a completed diamond bracelet which can be worn a lifetime. You are never too young or too old to wear diamonds. Think about it, the very diamond your grandmother or mother so lovingly wore on their wedding day can be remounted in a modern ring or pendant for you to touch and enjoy every day as they did. And the best part is you can pass that love on to the next generation. Diamonds truly are beautiful and durable tokens of love to cherish forever. A great investment ? Let’s say you buy a pair of diamond stud earrings for $ 800.00. If you wear them only four days a week for the first year, your cost is $ 4 per day. That is about the cost of a Cappuccino and you saved all those calories. The rest of your life

Beautiful and affordableA great investment

you wear them for free and when you hand them down to the next generation they will probably be worth much more. You don’t have to pay property tax yearly and you don’t have to waste money upgrading to the newest version.

professional, caring attention to my needs for the award that you so courteously provided today. Sometimes when we deal with the best it is easy to forget to say thank you. We accept it as the norm. It is with you, but not all businesses. - Again many thanks. Best wishes and prayers, Dan

What about love and romance ? Diamonds are the ultimate token of love when used as an engagement ring. They speak any language eloquently and are available in many shapes and sizes. Our sales staff includes Graduate Gemologists who can guide you in the selection of the ultimate diamond for the love of your life set in a ring she will cherish. We will show you the color, clarity and cut combination that will give your diamond the maximum brilliance.

Dear Sayers Jewelers Gang, A special thank you to Dawn for helping me pick out Orbis for Mom’s birthday last week and for the extra effort to ship them to me quickly. She loved all the Summer colors, especially the lime green

We carry Lazare ideal cut diamonds and the very exclusive Forever 10 brand of ideal cut diamonds as well as diamonds from Antwerp Belgium, the diamond capital of the world. The key to diamonds is quality. If you spend money for an ugly diamond it will be ugly forever. A quality diamond is a cherished, work of art that remains beautiful forever. A DIAMOND IS FOREVER choose it wisely and enjoy your best friend.

Testimonials: Dear Tom, Ellen, Ron and Staff: Thank you so much for your prompt,


The ultimate possession!

opal. I am now the lucky recipient of the magenta one, thanks to her too! I always appreciate the service and selections at Sayers! Thanks again for another successful birthday celebration ! Jennifer Dear Gretchen, Thank you so much for the great customer service received recently during my purchase of an Orbis ring. It is so refreshing to visit a business and receive great service. It was our anniversary week and thank you for making it so special. I love my ring! Enjoy the brownies!

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“Be A Winner…”

A Chamber Showcase, Open to the Business Community.


Come and find out what the Central Delaware Chamber of Commerce offers for all of its members & more on January 15th from 5-7 at the AMC Museum located in Dover! If you are reading this article and own a business or would like to connect with the Central Delaware Community; mark your calendars and plan to attend The 3rd Annual CDCC Showcase! Come tour the AMC Museum and enjoy snacks & beverages brought to you by: Maple Dale Country Club, Modern Maturity Center, Sheraton Dover Hotel, Chick- Fil-A of Dover and Bayhealth, (as of November 13, 2012). If you are already a member, invite a guest to this once-a-year event. This is the perfect opportunity to learn about the CDCC and find out all of the opportunities, savings and connections the CDCC can offer you! There will be an array of tables around

the room that illustrate the many different benefits the CDCC offers. Now is your chance to learn more about the benefits of: The Sunset Business Mixer, The Member to Member Expo, The 55+ Expo, Power Networking, The Club Card Member Savings Program, The Leadership Central Delaware Program, and Kent County is Open for Business (a free monthly business development program) and so much more. The CDCC staff, Marketing Committee and members of the CDCC Board of Directors will be on hand to answer all of your questions! The entertainment for the evening is THE CDCC GAME SHOW brought to you by Alex Vaughan Mobile Entertainment! BE a contestant and win some great prizes! Registration is FREE! Please call the CDCC office to reserve your name tag today! 302-734-7513

By J.R Ennis, Marketing & Program Development Director of the CDCC

Kritter Kove Pet Shop 3950 N Dupont Hwy Dover, Delaware 19901 302-674-8008 We are a local Pet Shop family owned and operated just north of Del Tech. We have a wide selection of animals and supplies. Animals include: Reptiles, Salt and Freshwater Fish, Small Animals, Exotic Birds and Dogs that are bred locally (NO PUPPY MILLS).

Mon-Sat 10-8 Sun 10-6 Please call for holiday hours.

Kritter Kove opened November 28, 2011 and thanks to our customers and word of mouth we have grown considerably. This past year there have been several projects to get the store ready and looking its best and renovations are still in progress. I would like to thank our customers for standing by us and helping us become a great pet store for the Dover area. We will be in The Dover Mall a few Sundays for Holiday Shopping. We will also be a sponsor this year for CARING SANTA. Mention The Kent County Women’s Journal and receive 10% off your purchase (excludes puppies)

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community andeducation By Heather Steuer, Community Liaison & Tiffany Coker, Marketing Manager Founded in 1994 in Omaha, the Home Instead Senior Care® network is the world’s largest provider of non-medical in-home care services for seniors, with more than 875 independently owned and operated franchises in 14 countries and 15 markets, spanning four continents. The local offices employ 65,000+ CAREGiversSM who provide more than 40 million hours of each year through activities including companionship, meal preparation, medication reminders, light housekeeping, errands and shopping. Founders Paul and Lori Hogan pioneered franchising in the non-medical senior care industry and are leading advocates for senior issues in America. At Home Instead Senior Care, it’s relationship before task, while continuing to provide superior quality service that enhances the lives of seniors everywhere.

Elderly at Risk in Extreme Cold


Local Senior Care Company Advises Family Caregivers to Keep a Close Eye on Older Adults during Frigid Temperatures The extreme temperatures and snow of winter can be particularly dangerous for older adults. The elderly and those with heart disease are at special risk, according to the American Heart Association. As people age, their ability to maintain a normal internal body temperature often decreases. Because elderly people seem to be relatively insensitive to moderately cold conditions, they can suffer hypothermia without knowing they’re in danger, the Heart Association reports (http:// jhtml?identifier=4570). Hypothermia means the body temperature has fallen below normal. It occurs when your body can’t produce enough energy to keep the internal body temperature warm enough and the condition can kill. Heart failure causes most deaths in hypothermia, the American Heart Association notes. The following tips, from the local Home Instead Senior Care® office, will help you safeguard a senior loved one or neighbor. • Fill the cupboard. Help your senior stock the staples and groceries they’ll need in the event of a large snowstorm or cold spell. • Maximize energy. Encourage your senior to make sure they have adequate insulation and to check and clean the fireplace and furnace. Replace furnace filters monthly. • Minimize drafts. Help your senior fill old socks with sand and

use them in drafty windowsills and door jams. Weather-strip around windows and doors. Keep doors closed to unused rooms and close curtains at night.

Make sure your senior has made arrangements to have driveways and walkways cleaned. Salt and sand should be available to speed melting.

• Stay toasty. Advise your senior to add an extra blanket to the bed and warm the bed in advance with a hot water bottle. Never use electric blankets. A senior may not be able to operate the controls if the temperature needs to be adjusted in the night.

• Stay in touch. Check on your neighbor or loved one frequently during periods of cold and snowy weather.

• Dress warmly. A senior’s circulation decreases with age. Encourage your senior to wear an extra sweater or sweatshirt, and sweat pants during the winter. • Monitor the thermostat. Check with your senior to make sure that they’re keeping the thermostat above 65 degrees during the cold weather. Older adults are particularly susceptible to hypothermia, which can develop over a few days and weeks even in the mildly cool indoor temperatures of 60 to 65 degrees. • Beware of budget problems. Make sure your senior isn’t trying to save money by keeping the thermostat down. Many communities have energy assistance programs for lowand fixed-income households. • Avoid slips.

business/medical/legal experts will be on hand to assist us with the Stages of Senior Care. This session will begin at 6:00pm, for more information contact Heather Steuer at 302-697-6435 Ext 804. We still have a few seats available, and welcome those who are interested in attending this informative session. Some topics will include, financial planning, medical expertise, and the many services available to you in our community. We look forward to hearing from you.

• Build a network. You can’t always be around to help your elderly loved one. Call on neighbors, family and church members to help. Or contact your local Home Instead Senior Care office. Since we are on the topic of winter, this winter, January 24, 2013, we will be partnering with Subject Matter Experts on the wonderful topic of the Stages of Senior Care. Some of the areas most respected

For more information about the cold, visit the National Weather Service Web site at http://www. and the Federal Emergency Management Agency Web site at Or, to learn more about Home Instead Senior Care, log on to www.

Call for a free, no-obligation appointment 302.697.6435

Your parents want to stay in the place they call home. We can help.

Serving Southern New Castle, Kent and Sussex County

Whether you are looking for someone to help you or a loved one a few hours a week, or need more comprehensive assistance, Home Instead can help. • Companionship • Light Housekeeping • Meal Preparation

• Shopping & Errands • Medication Reminders • Personal Care

• Incidental Transportation Each Home Instead Senior Care franchise office is independently owned and operated. © 2012 Home Instead, Inc.


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By Andy Ryan Andy Ryan is a husband, father, early adapter, geek and Co-Founder of SoMM, a Social Media Management company. SoMM provides daily management and monitoring of social media accounts for businesses. When Andy isn’t teaching a class, facilitating a training, or consulting a business on social media, he enjoys spending time with his family and friends with a locally crafted brew and good music you haven’t heard of yet.

How To Be Pinteresting


Have you heard of Pinterest? By now you probably have. Pinterest is a place to organize and share online images that you find interesting or inspiring. Once uploaded or shared on Pinterest, these images become known as Pins, which the user can place on customized, themed Boards. You can create Boards for any topic imaginable, from Baking to Yoga. The possibilities are endless. Beginning in March of 2010, Pinterest launched to a small group of 5000 people. The creator of Pinterest, Ben Silbermann, wrote a personal invitation to this first group offering his personal phone number for feedback. The photo based social media platform was only accessible by the users who were invited. I was invited to join in June 2011 and have been addicted since. On 10 August 2012, Pinterest was opened to everyone without an invitation.

for each room in the house for decorating ideas. Artists create inspirational boards. Baking, cooking, and healthy recipe boards are popular. There are hundreds of thousands of boards for DIY projects with instruction. Because Boards can have multiple contributors, you can collaborate with your friends on a project. It makes it easy to keep everyone’s ideas and inspiration in one place. Pinterest has created a “Pin It Button” that you can download to your web browser. Once installed in your browser, the “Pin It” button lets you grab an image from any website and add it to one of your pinboards. When you pin from a

website, Pinterest automatically grabs the source link so it can credit the original creator. If you find inspiration on the go, take a picture with your iPhone or Android and add it to your Boards with the mobile app. Pinterest is a social media network. This means that you’re not doing this alone. Find your friends by connecting your Facebook account and importing your email contact lists. Follow their boards to see what they are pinning. Chances are that you’re friends are interested in the same things. To find other Pinners, access the “Everything” drop-down menu and filter Boards

by category. Since Pinterest is similar to twitter, you don’t have to follow Boards or people that you aren’t interested in, even if they are following you. Pinterest recently released the ability to select boards to be private. This is especially helpful when planning a surprise or if your husband to be is also on Pinterest. We don’t want him seeing that wedding dress. Pinterest plays nicely with your Facebook and Twitter account so that you can share your activity across your other platforms. Andy Ryan 302.757.6440

Over the last few months you have probably heard about Pinterest quite a lot. The site’s popularity has exploded from 1.2 million users in August of 2011 to over 30 million today. But like any new social site, there’s always the question, “How does it work?” Have no fear. Read on and find out. For a lot of people Pinterest could just be a casual window shopping experience. You could just pin cool stuff all day long. Yet, Pinterest can be a really valuable tool to organize or plan for a specific purpose. For example, many people have ditched the mess of ripping pages out of magazines to store in a binder. Wedding planning has gone digital. Boards are created 302.757.6440


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“With so much going on in my life , I need a publication that speaks directly to me . I find Kent County Women’s Journal has informative and objective articles on subjects that really matter to me . In this crazy world , it helps me make the best decisions for me , my family and my life . Thanks Kent County Women’s Journal!”

The Delaware State Chamber of Commerce wants you to be at the

176th Annual Dinner January 14, 2013 4:45 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. Chase Center on the Riverfront Wilmington, Delaware

To reach your best audience call Kent County Women’s Journal today at 302 450 4900

We at the Women’s Journal wish you all a very safe and Happy Holiday Season. Enjoy time with family and friends. Find some time to relax and reflect on the year that’s gone by. Then look forward to the year ahead with a new focus and determination to exceed your goals. Nothing is impossible to those who believe.


A View From Above


By Mike Baker

Most people see things with their feet planted firmly on the ground. Maybe even see things from a building a few stories higher. Few people get a view from above as I do unless you are a frequent flyer as part of our local Dover Air Force Base. I see them hundreds of feet (or a thousand or two) higher. I have one problem with that though. I am acrophobic! I have a fear of heights. There is something about going up in a plane or helicopter that feels different and looks different. I cannot stand on my 2 story house roof or even look out on the edge of the Dover International Speedway bleachers as easily as hanging out the window of a Cessna plane. I must say that I am a fair weather aerial photographer. Two reasons- one is that it makes for better photographs when the view is clear and you’re not bouncing around. Secondly, if it is rough flying around, my acrophobia kicks into high gear. In the 15 years that I have been doing aerial photography, we seem to attract a wide variety of clientele. The work that we do for developers and contractors is usually from start to finish. Usually the construction site is photographed and then incremental photo shoots are done at the specified time periods. This usually comes to an end after all construction is completed and in use. In Kent County alone, I have seen many changes from the air. With Route 1 being put in place, our Dover streets being upgraded, the Dover Downs site’s many changes, along with the major additions to the Bayhealth Hospital’s KGH site. Although most of our aerials are done in Kent & Sussex counties, we do cover all of Delaware and eastern shore Maryland. Most of our aerials are done by airplane. We do use helicopters occasionally but not often. The cost of using a helicopter is much more expensive to operate which reflects a higher cost to use. Most helicopters are not in the area, hence even more expense incurred. During race week in Dover, we usually have an available helicopter sitting on their property. They actually have a helipad behind the facility during race weekend. No I do not operate a plane. I leave that to someone else. I am too busy getting my shots. When looking for an airplane, I have access to one within ¼ mile down the road from my home which makes it very easy. Aerial photographs are also great gifts. Individuals may have their homes photographed and given as birthday gifts, anniversary gifts or Christmas presents. Some companies even give their work sites as part of their retirement gifts. Businesses can promote themselves by projecting their sites, whether it is a hotel, retail area, or a golf course. Some schools even like to show off their campuses. Real estate companies can always show off their properties to display for sale. With the internet as it is now, it makes it a huge marketing tool. Some real estate companies have even used these as “closing” gifts for the buyers. Whatever the subject is, an aerial photograph is perfect for the “hard to shop for” person. If your situation shows a need for an aerial, call us to discuss what we can do for you.

Call Mike Baker of C.M. Baker Photography at 674-8118 or 335-1500 or visit our website at

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AMC Museum American Cancer Society American Heart Association American Lung Association Bayhealth Medical Center Central Delaware Chamber of Commerce • Chamber of Commerce of Greater Milford • Compassionate Care Hospice

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DE Breast Cancer Coalition Delaware Hospice Delaware State University Delaware Technical and Community College Dover Downs Casino & Hotel Dover International Speedway Dover Rotary Club Ducks Unlimited Halpern Eye Associates


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Holy Cross School Kent County Tourism Maryland Kidney Foundation Modern Maturity Center Nellie Stokes School Newark Charter School Smyrna Middle School USAF – Dover Air Force Base USO of DE University of Delaware

home andgarden By Christina Lessard Christina has worked in her family’s company, Lessard Builders, since she was in seventh grade. Since then, she has held many different job titles, including office cleaning crew, job site cleanup, receptionist, secretary, and errand runner. More recently, after graduating from Wilmington University with a BS in Finance, Christina became comptroller for Lessard Builders. She is proud to work in her family business alongside her parents Brian (CEO) and Kathy (Executive Administrative Assistant) and her brother Brian (Sales and Marketing Manager) as a fourth generation home builder. She looks forward to continuing this tradition into the next generation.

Christina’s Corner


Though Hurricane Sandy has left the house, and everything may look intact, she may have left some unwanted effects that can result in later damage. Inspect the following: • Check your home’s rain gutters for any debris thrown around by the wind • Check for sink holes where the ground has settled to create hidden pockets within 5-10 feet of your home.

to breathing problems in adults and children and structural damage. • Check your roof. Stand far enough away so you can see the entire span. Make sure no shingles have blown off, especially at the top part called the ridge. Missing shingles will cause leaks throughout your home. If you have binoculars this is a great time to use them.

The secret to maintaining your biggest investment is taking care of problems before they become too big to handle yourself. The DIY (do it yourself) movement is growing today and can even be seen on TV shows. Fixing things that don’t involve electricity, heavy tools or even construction material is something that the average person can do. That said, we understand that the first time anyone does something new is almost always the most difficult time. Anyone who has put a child’s bicycle or other toy together on Christmas morning knows that. After much discussion, we at Lessard Builders have decided on a special Christmas gift for you.

• If you have a crawl space or basement, check the entire perimeter to make sure there are no puddles or wet spots. Ninety percent of all wet basements and crawl spaces are due to poor drainage around the house. Most drainage problems can be resolved by adding 10-foot extensions to your downspouts.

Our gift is a free, seasonal newsletter called Christina’s Corner. The first issue can be had now by clicking on and then on her link. It will cover easy fixes, do-it-yourself tips, preventative maintenance you can easily do, current building news, picking contractors and other tips that will save you money and aggravation. Christina’s Corner will also feature a Q&A section to respond to our subscribers. We hope you will sign up with us and that you will also consider donating to your favorite charity during this holiday season. Have a blessed and safe holiday and a prosperous 2013.

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Lessard Builders is a family business that personally meets with every client with a focus on education.

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home andgarden By Scott Davis Scott is a recently retired 20-year police officer who gave pulse to his own pest control company, PestPRO, in 2011. Scott worked part-time in the pest control industry for several years prior to retiring and developed a fascination with the science. He is a graduate of Wilmington University, a member of the Delaware Pest Control Association, the National Pest Management Association and possesses numerous professional certifications related to the pest control industry. Although he is intrigued with various resolutions for pest problems, he is equally committed to the service that provides that resolution. PestPRO marries oldstyle customer service with modern technology. Scott and his team are driven to provide service excellence; leaving clients with an unmatched total service experience.

Have a Fire Starter?


Although the house mouse can be a problem year around, the cooler months are always more problematic for rodent intrusion. As the temperatures decline chances are beady eyes are upon your home. Mice and other pests are looking for a warm place to spend the winter. Once inside they begin to multiply and may be more dangerous than what you think. Nearly one quarter of fires with unknown causes are believed by experts to be caused by rodent damage. Rodents chew on everything. Their teeth are constantly growing. As a result, they constantly gnaw in order to file down their teeth. Wiring with soft protective material is all throughout the warm confines of your home and is a welcomed delight to rodents. Plastic insulation surrounds electrical wiring for a reason. Electricity is hot when it travels through wire. When this protection is no longer there due to being chewed away by rodents the hot exposed metal becomes a fire hazard. Damaged wires resting next to wood supports or in and around insulation are often the fuel for these types of fires. We cannot turn a blind eye to the health hazards that rodents present either. Rodent excrement carries pathogens. Excrement will dry, become airborne and enter our living environment at some venture. Micro droplets of mouse urine can also cause allergies in children. And, lets not forget, rodents also bring fleas, mites, ticks and lice into your home. So you may have a family or neighborhood cat. Although cats,

dogs and other predators may kill mice, they will not render effective control in most cases. Mice have a rapid reproductive rate and family pets simply cannot keep up. It is not uncommon to find rodents living in very close proximity to dogs and cats. Mice and rats often eat from a pet’s dish or from what is spilled. Simple Game Plan - Modification & Exclusion Stop leaving the door open. Mice are attracted to structures when they detect openings and escaping heat. The house mouse can enter an opening Ÿ inch or larger. Conduct a careful inspection of the outside perimeter of your house or building. All cracks should be sealed, paying special attention to the areas where utilities enter. These areas are often found to be in need of caulking. Use copper mesh for larger gaps topped off with expandable foam for an airtight seal. Although rodents are typically good climbers, we should not help them out. Tree branches

that over hang your house and overgrown shrubbery often provide rodents excellent access to your roof and vents. Keeping these rodent ladders trimmed often adds to curb appeal, is healthier for the specific plant and is part of the plan. Mice are extremely attracted to pet food and birdseed. Bird feeders are commonly found to be a major contributing factor to many rodent infestations. Bird feeders should be positioned well away from the house if not removed altogether. All pet food food inventories should be stored in sealed plastic containers. Cluttered garage, basement and

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attic areas should be organized. Cluttered areas provide mice plenty of places to hide and nest. Try and store items in plastic containers opposed to cardboard. Mice love to chew through cardboard to make their nests. Following these suggestions will make your property less desirable to rodents. It will be like pulling up to a one-star rated hotel‌. they wont stay too long. Most homeowners can complete rodent Proofing. However, a trained and licensed professional will always conduct a needs analysis of your property and complete the service to ensure you, your family and home are properly protected.

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home andgarden By Mark Gandy Whether you’re interested in redecorating, remodeling or new construction, it pays to rely on experienced professionals who can meet all of your needs, from start to finish. Bath, Kitchen and Tile Center has been fulfilling those needs for close to half a century for customers throughout Delaware, Pennsylvania, New Jersey, Maryland and Virginia. We back everything we do with the knowledge and reliability that can only come with time and experience. Yet we remain on the cutting edge in our industry, providing you with the latest selection of high quality products and the best ideas in design and functionality. Visit one of our showrooms in Wilmington, Newark or Harbeson, Delaware and see for yourself why we’re known as the region’s premier remodeling company. As you browse installed bathroom vanities and showers, custom countertops and complete kitchens, you’ll quickly see that we have everything you need to create the home of your dreams – including expert designers and professional installers.

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Our Remodeling Services As a full service design build company, our in-house staff provides everything you need for a remodel, addition or commercial project from start to finish, including installation, electrical, lighting, dry wall, painting and more. Our services include: • Design Services • Wholesale Product Sales • Kitchen Remodeling • Custom Cabinetry • Bathroom Remodeling • Flooring • Countertop Fabrication • Plumbing & Electrical • Commercial Remodeling • Lighting Our Showrooms Whether you are interested in remodeling your kitchen or bathroom, redesigning your office or constructing an entirely new addition, our showrooms will make it easier for you to decide what you want to include in your new room. Many homeowners come to us with a general idea of what they want, but do not know exactly what features to include in their room, especially since they are not aware of all the options currently available. Our beautifully appointed showrooms, the largest of their kind in the area, include an everchanging, wide array of kitchen and bathroom displays. These displays help you discover your design preferences and give you the ideas that will bring your imagination to life. They also feature the finest quality products by top-of-the-line manufacturers to give you the best selection available. You’ll find everything you need, including

cabinetry, countertops, vanities, plumbing fixtures, whirlpool tubs, appliances, tile, accessories and more. Furthermore, we feature customized furniture for the home and office to add a one-of-a-kind feel to every room. Unlike a catalog, a showroom allows you to stand in a kitchen with the cabinets you’ve had your eye one, to touch and feel the countertops, to walk into a shower and to truly experience different product options. Our showroom helps you pick and choose all the little details you will want to include your room, from towel bars and toilet paper holders to drawer pulls and spice racks. Even if you’re set on the ideas in your head, our showrooms have such a large selection of products that you might even find something that you like more than your original choice! So call us TODAY and make an appointment for one of our award winning designers to walk you through the remodeling process!

Mark was always present when a subcontractor arrived for the first time to ensure the scope of work was well understood. Subsequently the workers always showed up when they were supposed to and left the work area neat and clean clean when they were finished. We would be happy to use Bath, Kitchen and Tile Center South for our next project.” - Robert and Vicki H., Lewes, DE “I was so confident in the workmanship and follow through I was getting from BKT, that I signed a second contract for a complete tear-out and redesign of my

master bath before my kitchen was complete. Mark has been a pleasure to work with - so helpful and intuitive. He took the time to understand my ideas and allowed me to lead the planning of both projects, helping me balance my choices with my budget. I never felt rushed, and he followed through promptly with every request, contact, email and phone message. My kitchen upgrades look terrific, and I cannot wait until the bathroom project begins...It is a wonderful surprise when your expectations are met and even exceeded.” - Kathy D., Bear, DE


Testimonials “I had my kitchen in Lewes completely gutted and redone. Having had a cottage in Lewes for thirty years, I know that getting anything done can take a long time. Mark got right on my kitchen and had it completed before the deadline he gave me. He addressed any complaints, no matter how small I had and took care of everything in a professional and prompt manner.” - Diane B., Lewes, DE

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Taste a Delmarva Tradition

The debut flavors are still the most popular - Peanut Butter and Coconut. Later, Irene starched her chef’s hat and created the Butter Creme and subsequent Fruite and Nut and Maple Pecan. The key to Graces’ are the wonderful flavors. The twins have tried to keep the flavors mellow and pleasant without that sugar overload found in much of the candy on the shelves at the candy stores and department stores. We get many compliments comparing our product to many world renowned candy makers and we are judged to taste superior to them. Graces’ ceased production and business operations in 2005. In 2011,

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I decided to revive the business with the goal to NOT let this treasure rest in history. My mother is still very active with the company. Together, she and I have created 14 additional flavors! I’ve had the great privilege of meeting with the former owner of Vitale’s Ice Cream and Italian Ices and created a delectable atmosphere at my store by selling Graces’ Candies, Jelly Belly products and Vitale’s Frozen Treats. On a limited basis, Graces’ candy pieces were mixed in with Vitale’s Ice Cream for an awesome flavor experience! We have also worked with a supplier to provide a Sugar Free and Reduced Sugar (NSA) variety of candies for those on restricted diets. We‘ve made many attempts to discover and formulate the optimal flavors for those with limited selections.

Maybe you’ve experienced the unique flavor, texture and colorful presentation of the delicacies at Spence’s Bazaar, craft shows and local events, Cheswold Fire House and at the cottage along Rt. 40 in Bear, DE? After the brief idle period, THE TASTE IS BACK! Come and discover or rediscover the most flavorful experience in Confections!

Previously, the twins created and sold the delicacies during the Easter season. Now that Graces’ is present at our Greentree location, the selections can be enjoyed year round! Our selections are great for host/hostess gifts, birthdays, anniversaries or parties and add that special local flavor to your event!

Graces’ originated in Dover, DE at the hands of Ina Sales in 1988 with her twin sister Irene. Initially made as a treat for her small family as far back at 1975, soon it became desired by her brother, sisters and their families. After her three children shared them at church and school, a few people wanted to place orders. 1987, Ina decided to utilize the creative skills of her twin sister, Irene, who was also active school affairs with her own twin daughters and church activities, thus creating more

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requests. Demand grew and that next year Graces’ Incorporated became a reality and was up and running.

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“Yes, Boomer, there is a Santa Claus” The gift of a shelter pet changes more than one life

In 1897, a newspaper in New York ran perhaps the most famous editorial in American history. It included the words, “Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus.” Some shelter animals are equally as skeptical as young Virginia. Their only wish is to get a home this holiday season. Giving an adopted pet? A pet is more than a holiday gift, it’s a beautiful addition to your family, and requires careful consideration. Can the person you’re gifting take care of the pet? Age, financial situation, and commitment are important to think about. DON’T SHOP, ADOPT: An adopted pet is a gift that changes many lives. Obviously, it gives the greatest gift of all to a shelter pet – a home. But bringing an adopted pet into your heart also changes the fabric of your home and family in more ways than can be imagined. Come in to one of our shelters and talk to our staff. They can help match you with a pet that meets your preferences and is a good lifestyle fit. We always recommend bringing the gift recipient in to help with selection. In addition, when you adopt from the Delaware SPCA, you know the pet is up to date on all his/her shots, and is spayed or neutered. It makes your job as gift-giver a lot easier. Of course, if you decide against a pet for a gift, the Delaware SPCA has some great alternatives for any pet lover. Donate in honor of a loved one and receive a festive certificate perfect for gift giving. Donate a dog or cat bed in honor of someone special, or purchase Delaware SPCA fan gear from one of our shelters. Check out our website for more ideas at At the Delaware SPCA, there’s always a Santa Claus. The spirit of the holidays is ever-present in our tireless staff, volunteers, Board of Directors, and contributors who work all year to give homeless, abused, and neglected animals a chance.



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By Lisa Dolbey

It’s the time of year when we bring out the cookie recipes – at each of our homes we all have our favorites. My friend Mary and I got together to make these recipes our favorites for the holidays. And baking was so much more fun with a friend! So together we bring you four holiday favorites Spritz, Meringue Cookies, Almond Bars, and Corn Flake Holiday Wreaths. We hope you enjoy making them as much as we did, we think a cookie exchange will be our next order of business!

Spritz Cookies

Meringue Cookies

1 cup butter ¾ cup sugar 1 large egg 2 tsp vanilla 2 ¼ cups all-purpose flour ¼ tsp baking powder ½ tsp salt

2 egg whites 8 tbsp sugar 1 tsp vanilla food coloring (can use any color according to the occasion) Cover cookie sheet with unglazed paper, brown paper bags work well. Preheat oven to 250°. Beat the 2 egg whites until stiff, add 6 tbsp of sugar one at a time continue beating until stiff, add vanilla then carefully fold in last 2 tbsp of sugar and add food coloring. (Divide into bowls if you want to use different colors i.e. red and green for Christmas) Drop by teaspoons onto paper covered baking sheet, shape should come to a peak. Bake for 50 minutes, allow to cool, and then remove carefully from the paper. Makes 18 cookies.

Cream together butter, sugar, egg and vanilla with mixer beat until light and fluffy, slowly add dry ingredients. Dough should be stiff. Use cookie press with desired disc onto ungreased cookie sheet. I use the one pictured and put long strips on cookie sheet sprinkled with colored sugars and cut immediately after removing from the oven. Bake at 375° for 10-12 minutes until edges are lightly browned.

Norwegian Almond Bars

Corn Flakes Holiday Wreaths

1 ¾ cup flour ½ cup instant mashed potatoes ¾ cup sugar ½ cup water 1 tsp baking powder 1 tsp cinnamon ½ tsp salt ½ tsp cardamom ¾ cup softened butter 1 egg 1 ¼ cup powdered sugar 1 can or tube (7-8 oz) of almond paste

/3 cup margarine 1 (10oz) pkg marshmallows 1 tsp green food coloring 1tsp vanilla extract 6 cups Corn Flakes Cereal Red Cinnamon Candies 1

Preheat oven to 375°. In a large bowl combine flour, sugar, baking powder, salt and butter. Blend until crumbs form. Press half of the mixture into ungreased 13x9 pan. Set aside. Save remaining half for topping. In a second bowl combine remaining ingredients and mix well. Spread this filling mixture into the 13x9 pan. Then sprinkle the remaining crumb mixture on top.

In large pan melt margarine over low heat add marshmallows and stir until completely melted. Stir in food coloring and vanilla. Add cereal stir until well coated. Using a ¼ dry measuring cup coated in cooking spray evenly portion cereal mixture. Using buttered fingers quickly shape into wreaths (or trees if you prefer) dot with candies.

Bake for 25-30 minutes or until a light golden brown. Cool completely and cut into bars. Taken from Comings & Goings: Recipes for Annapolis Living


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Chic Lounge & Outdoor Space, Along With Happy Hour Specials Make Saketumi

A Must Stop At The Beach B

y now, hopefully you have all had the opportunity to try the spectacular range of specialties at Saketumi in Rehoboth Beach, off of Route 1. Saketumi, the sister restaurant of Jasmine in Wilmington, is the lower shore’s most chic restaurant. Saketumi offers well-prepared, modern Asian cuisine; Japanese, Chinese, Thai, and Korean. As a soup lover, I am always impressed with the spice and freshness of Saketumi’s soups. The Thai Spicy Lemongrass Soup with Shrimp is my favorite. With bell peppers, shitake mushrooms, fine lemongrass and lime, it is a combination of flavors that will thrill your taste buds. One of my newfound favorites at Saketumi, as well as Jasmine, is their wonderfully priced Bento Box Specials. A complete meal that is sure to leave you with plenty of delightful leftovers, these are offered in Thai, Chinese, Korean, or Japanese. The Thai, for instance, starts with Thai soup, followed by a complete divided tray of papaya salad, jasmine rice, spring roll, and Tom Yum Goong. What a delicious selection at a price that will keep you coming back to try all of the varieties. If you prefer to stick with an entrée, the succulent Braised Korean Shortribs with Kimchee offer a combination of spicy and sweet that play wonderfully off of each other. Another favorite, the Rainbow Roll, has a gorgeous presentation, as does all of Saketumi & Jasmine’s sushi. The fresh tuna, salmon, and avocado topped with roe, will make you remember why you crave sushi. Saketumi offers a fantastic Happy Hour that includes drink specials from wine, to cocktails, to beer. The Happy Hour special not only includes a large selection of sushi and vegetable rolls, but also tempting appetizers such as Crispy Crab Wonton. The best part is that everything is priced starting at $1.75 to $5.00 and is offered seven days a week from 4-6 pm. Now that is something you can’t afford to pass up in this economy. An exciting edition to Saketumi that’s sure to be a hit this spring and summer is the new upstairs Ai Lounge and outdoor area. What better way to enjoy their fantastic martinis such as the Flirtini, complete with raspberry puree and a splash of champagne than on their hip upstairs patio? So be sure not to miss out on all of these wonderful offerings in the south. Make it a point to experience Saketumi on your next beach trip, because they are so much more than great sushi.


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By Melissa Johnson Melissa Johnson is a twenty-something young woman with a grand affinity for arts & entertainment. She has over six years of work experience in the Delaware Public Libraries and is an advocate of reading. She is currently in the process of earning a BA in General Studies with a heavy concentration towards Literature and Humanities at Wilmington University.

Literal Lissa


Seasons greetings! Welcome to the December/January installment of “Literal Lissa.” This is a continuing feature of the Kent County Women’s Journal. Each issue I will be hand-selecting a series of novels sometimes new and sometimes old - but always encompassing a vast array of genres and subjects; in an effort to further pique you and your family’s interests, expand your knowledge, and broaden your love for the printed (and now digital) page. At this point it’s particularly difficult to disguise it. Shopping malls and boutiques are packed to the brim with customers rushing home with their gifted treasures. City streets and sidewalks are dressed up in charming wreaths with vibrant red ribbons. Trees can be seen in the windows of homes with vibrant, twinkling lights and accoutrements hanging from their boughs. The air is frosty. Snowflakes may fill the air. The kitchen is filled with the familiar aromas of fresh baked cookies and other enticing treats in preparation of a grand celebratory feast… This can only mean one thing: the holiday season is upon us once again! And all too soon another year will lay waste to its reputable end. It’s time to start reflecting back on the past year and list those almost impossible to stick to resolutions. But before you brace yourself for another New Year, take a moment or two for yourself or beloved to revel in the awe, wonder, and enchantment, the holiday season has to offer. Curl up by the fireplace with a nice hot mug of cocoa and a classic book or two. Find out why this is truly THE most wonderful time of the year after all. A Christmas Story By: Jean Shepherd Yes, this is the original novel that inspired the classic 1983 cult holiday film of the same title. It’s always been a personal favorite film of mine and the novel is no exception. There is something wildly endearing and comforting of Shepherd’s humorous autobiographical portrayal of your average Depression-era American family’s triumphs and tribulations at Christmastime. It’s timeless. Fans of the film and newcomers alike will find entertainment in young Ralphie’s unrelenting attempt to receive an official Red Ryder carbineaction two-hundred-shot range model air riffle only to be told time and time again “You’ll shoot your eye out!” A Christmas Carol By: Charles Dickens No holiday book list could be complete without this iconic and quintessential novel. It’s spawned countless reimaginings and

interpretations and for good reason. Dickens’ classic tale of miserly old Ebenezer Scrooge’s journeys through Christmases past, present, and future and his transformation from a cold-hearted, bitter man to a charitable and compassionate human being has latched itself to the very core of the holiday season since its original publication and inception in 1843 by resonating so well to every man’s deepest desire to be loved and valued. Letters From Father Christmas By: J.R.R. Tolkien This is a truly charming collection of letters written by well-known fantasy author of Lord of the Rings, Tolkien, to his children over the years under the guise of St. Nicholas himself. The letters kept Tolkien’s children updated with magical hijinks and stories going on at the North Pole including slapsticky North Polar Bear and all the things he broke, firework explosions, the discovery of ancient caves full of old cave drawings, and battles with the goblins. As delightful as the letters are Tolkien’s own detailed, intricate, and fantastical colorful illustrations which will be sure to warm the hearts of children of all ages. The Polar Express By: Chris Van Allsburg Van Allsburg’s tale of an old-fashioned steam train that takes children to the North Pole on Christmas Eve to meet Santa Claus and see him off on his annual big sleigh ride has become a true classic since it was published more than twenty years ago. It always been a personal favorite holiday story of mine ever since I can remember being in first grade and having my teacher read this aloud to the class. As a class room activity, I remember being asked to come to school in our pajamas and robes to pretend as if we were riding on the Polar Express ourselves. My teacher even fashioned desks and chairs to look like the inside of the train. Those memories of the story still resonate with me and will in any child young and old who long to believe. Good news, everyone! All of these selections are available at your disposal, completely free of charge at your local area Delaware Public Library. Log on to to find the nearest library near


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food andfun By Sandra M. Winfrey Sandra M. Winfrey, President & Owner, of Cajun Queens Cuisine catering appeared in Delaware Today December 2005 issue “Women in Business” 37 who are making great changes. Sandra M. Winfrey is also the recipient of the 2006 Home Based Business Champion of the Year award from the Small Business Administration. Sandra is also member of the Better Business Bureau, Manchester Who’s Who, Cambridge Who’s Who, and Business Networking International (Dover lunch meeting group). Sandra is also involved in her church as Lector, Eucharastic Minister, Gospel Choir Coordinator, Catholic Charities Board Member and a member of the Ministry for Black Catholics in the Diocese of Wilmington. Here involvement in the community also has a part in her busy life. She is an honorary board member of The Sheppard Place, and a past board member of Mom’s House Entrepreneur.

The Holidays & Winter


Thanksgiving china is back in its closet til next year. Now we’re preparing for to the next big holiday, Christmas, which gathers people around the table. For Christians around the world, it is the ultimate feast. It is a banquet where all the fine china, crystal and decoration are displayed. Cajun Queens want to bring that flair of elegance, that wonderful taste of exquisite food, a delicacy that is expected for such an occasion. Cajun Queens offers a wide range of experience that allows us to give you the solutions you need in hosting your next eloquent event. No matter what size, we will assist you with the solutions you need. Whether you’re planning and event for five or a wedding reception for 500, we’ve got you covered. You decide what dish you want to have for this wonderful gathering and we will provide it. If it is just a fruit tray or our famous Mandarin Orange cake to add a final touch to your elegant dinner, it would certainly empress your family and friends. Glazed pineapple ham, crawfish pockets, sweet potato pie, New Orleans bread pudding/bourbon sauce are only a few of our most popular dishes that could add to your most perfect meal. If you are traveling to be with loved ones and need to take a special dish, let us take care of that for you. We can prepare it, package it, and even deliver it for you, if needed. Unexpected surprises, not a problem for Cajun Queens Cuisine, we can accommodate you in a short notice as early as twenty-four hours. When looking to planning a great

party, look to Cajun Queens Cuisine, we can help you from beginning to end. We specialize in creating a day and night to remember, leaving you with only to enjoy. New Year’s Eve is also fast upon us. It’s not too late to ring in the New Year without the fuss. Call us and we can provide an excellent and varied menu… that appeal to every palette. We deliver on time and always with a smile.

because they are reliable, my family, friends, and acquaintances rave about the meal, and best of all, and I get to enjoy the delicious meal myself! If you want the best, Cajun Queens

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is it. Their quality, personal interest in your success, and great service sets them truly apart. I recommend them to anyone who is looking for catering (personal or professional). -Sylvia L. Wyche Falls Church, VA

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2012 December / January Kent County Women's Journal  

A bi-monthly educational resource for the women of Kent County, Delaware

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