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Spring 2010


National Kidney Month

Ashlei and Stephanie's Story.

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Rainy Day?

Curl up with some of these good reads.

LBD: Reimagined

This season, slip into something more playful.

Our Guys: Jack Easterby

A chat with USC's basketball chaplain.

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Girls Go Fast

An interview with jockey Danielle Hodsdon.

Rebecca's of Ridgeway

Upscale Cuisine with a Southern Flair.


Wink: Your 2010 Carolina Cup Fashion Source

Florals, lace, and steeplechase! An annual celebration of all things Southern and fancy.

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Mandi is wearing a Sequined "Rainelle" dress by Tory Burch, $695 at Van Jean


Ashlei's Gift


by Elaine Floyd

"I was diagnosed in April of 2000. From that period I really didn't know for about 3 years if I needed a kidney. They were trying to do everything they could not to get to that point."

The snow vigil is underway. Ashlei Jones sits in her living room as snowflakes begin quietly collecting on the grass and street. Outside, her daughter is standing out on the curb studying the weather's progress. The observation is soon interrupted as the need for warmth outweighs that of vigilance. Back inside, Ashlei's infectious laughter and friendly smile reveal her kindness and generosity. But no one could ever guess how great that generosity would prove to be. Seventeen years ago, Ashlei met Stephanie Flemming at the church she attended with her mother. It wasn't long before both women became good friends. As the years went by, it became clear that Stephanie was not well. The answers were difficult to accept. Doctors told her she had a kidney disease. Kidney diseases are subtle and often remain undetected until the curious symptoms cannot be ignored. A combination of anemia, fatigue, swelling, itchy skin, and changes in urination could be a sign of kidney trouble. At best, the disease can be caught early and treated with medication and lifestyle changes before ever reaching the worst case scenario: kidney failure. Some people with chronic kidney disease can live out their entire lives without ever losing kidney function. For others, the disease is managed with dialysis, more medication, and ultimately a kidney transplant. "The whole diagnosis of kidney disease is a scary thing," Stephanie admits. "I was diagnosed in April of 2000. From that period I really didn't know for about 3 years if I needed

a kidney. They were trying to do everything they could not to get to that point." For a while, she was able to get by on dialysis machines at home. But that wasn't enough. Stephanie was told a kidney transplant would be the next step to ensure her health and survival. Stephanie was put on dual waiting lists for kidney donors both in South Carolina and her home state of New York. Though two lists seemed more promising, there are over 60,000 people awaiting transplants in the United States at any given time. Their needs are usually fulfilled by individuals who agree to donate their organs after death. Very rarely will a live donor volunteer to give one of their kidneys to a complete stranger on the list. Since the human body can survive perfectly with just one kidney, it is possible for a living person to give one away and keep the other. As news of her condition spread, friends and family rallied with a great deal of emotional support. "Early on I told Ashlei's mother. By this time I was hysterical." Stephanie knew she had people in her life she could depend upon. But she wasn't at all prepared for what happened next. Stephanie recalled the conversation that changed everything. One Sunday after church service, she was approached by Ashlei's mother. "Her mom came to me and said 'Ashlei says you need to call her. She will be willing to give you a kidney.'" It was both unexpected and shocking. The sheer weight of the gesture was overwhelming. "I literally started bawling right


there in the middle of the aisle." Ashlei had been a faithful blood donor in the past, but had never before discussed the prospect of organ donation. Even today Stephanie can remember the feelings that came over her after their talk. She called her friend's expression "beautiful" and "awesome," beyond words. She was especially eager to share the news with her doctors. "I said, well, we can wipe the slate clean because I have a donor!"

There was no way of knowing whether the pair would ever be compatible until Ashlei was tested. But once the final decision was made to move forward, they never looked back. "After that, they started testing to see if we were matches." In a situation where transplant candidates' own blood relatives are often disqualified from donating, would there really be a chance with Ashlei? While compatibility with a willing donor isn't always a reach for the stars, it's not a shoe-in either. According to a report released by Dorry L. Segev, M.D., a surgeon at Johns Hopkins, 33% of patients with donors ready and willing are found to be incompatible right off the bat. Several factors must align in what is considered a "weeding out" process before proceeding into another set of tests more time-consuming and expensive than the first. A potential donor must undergo blood tests that determine blood type, compare tissue types, and assess cross-matching compatibility. In most of the tests, blood is required from both patients. In a crossmatching test, for instance, white blood cells from the


donor are mixed with blood from the recipient. If the recipient's immune system does not attack the donor's cells, the transplant is more likely to succeed. As the process to determine compatibility commenced, Ashlei was required to attend an informational class for prospective organ donors. Her family was nothing but supportive. "No one tried to talk me out of it," she says. Blood tests were performed at the Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston. Eventually the news everyone had been waiting for was announced. It was possible for Stephanie to receive a healthy new kidney from her friend. Ashlei and Stephanie were a match. "For a non-related kidney to match was almost too perfect," says Stephanie. For Stephanie and everyone impacted by her story, no one doubts God's hand in the whole process. "We can't even question," she says. That new hope was just the beginning. September of 2007, Ashlei and Stephanie traveled to Charleston on a Monday for the transplant surgery that was scheduled for Wednesday. Ashlei's full commitment was tested as she underwent vigorous and repetitive psychological evaluations. Some of the questions seemed more outrageous than others. "They asked me if I was getting paid!" she said. Tuesday, they were sent home. A seemingly insignificant detail was cause to start all over again. "We were going to do it in September, but we both had colds," Stephanie recalls. "They said 'We're not going to do this while you both are sick.' So then we had to do more blood work!" Doctors didn't want to risk complications for either patient recovering in less than perfect health. After a bit of regrouping, the surgery was rescheduled for October 3, 2007. Back in Charleston a month after their first delay, the pair was finally approved for surgery. Ashlei went in first. Doctors removed one of her kidneys and immediately began working to place it in Stephanie. Both families had driven down the day of the surgery. Ashlei's daughter was picked up from school by an aunt to join the rest of their friends and family at the hospital. Of the six different transplant surgeries performed that day, theirs was the only one from a live donor. Says Stephanie, "I think we got a little special attention!"

What happens during the kidney transplant procedure? Kidney transplantation involves placing a healthy kidney into the body where it can perform all of the functions that a failing kidney cannot. The new kidney is placed on the lower right or left side of your abdomen where it is surgically connected to nearby blood vessels. Placing the kidney in this position allows it to be easily connected to blood vessels and the bladder. The vein and artery of your new kidney are attached to your vein and artery. The new kidney's ureter is attached to your bladder to allow urine to pass out of your body.


Ashlei recovered enough to be released from the hospital on Friday. But doctors were concerned about the way Stephanie's new kidney was adjusting. "It wanted to act up," says Stephanie. "It didn't recognize where it was!" Stephanie was experiencing rejection, a complication fairly common in live kidney transplants. Even with a nearly perfect match, not all transplant outcomes are completely predictable. Stephanie was given a dynamic treatment called Plasmapheresis to counteract the effects. Her blood was filtered to remove the harmful antibodies that were causing the rejection. "It was painful, but we're past that now," Stephanie says. After three weeks of recovery, Stephanie was allowed to return home to Columbia. While Ashlei's life has peacefully settled back into the normal routine, things have changed dramatically for Stephanie since the operation. The days of hospitals and home treatments are over. She describes Ashlei's gift as a second chance. "My energy level is up. I can just go and not have to worry about carrying machines. Life is great for me because of her." Friends and family have noticed a change in her entire demeanor. Ashlei has her own unique theory on why. "She probably got a little bit of my personality!" she laughs. For Ashlei, the experience has had a positive effect on her sense of self-worth. "I just feel like a better person." One less kidney hasn't slowed her down at all. Only those close to Ashlei know that inside her something is "missing." But the act of giving freely and without condition has made her more whole than ever before.  ■ Sources: • • • •

Did You Know? • March is National Kidney Month.

• 1 in 9 adults have kidney disease. • 18 people die every day waiting for an organ transplant in the US

Click Below to Get Involved: • Become an Organ donor

• Volunteer with the National Kidney Foundation • Donate Online or via Your Mobile Device





The Name of the Wind,

Wicked All Day

by Patrick Rothfuss

by Liz Carlyle

This was one of the few books I've come across recently that I just couldn't put down. Rothfuss's debut novel tells the story of how the famous (or infamous) Kvothe became a legend. It is the first of a trilogy and I am anxiously awaiting the next book. Because Kvothe attends a school that teaches magic, The Name of the Wind has drawn comparisons to Harry Potter; but I don't think that is fair to either series.    


by Krista Anderson-Denk

     While romance novels are frequently dismissed as fluff, I find that good romance novels (like good romances) involve complex, engaging characters. Wicked All Day is a great example of that. It was the first novel of Liz Carlyle's that I have read, although she's written many and I've read a few more since. So far, this is the best.    

We are first introduced to Kvothe as an adult, but I connected to him most when he began the telling of his life's story. We meet the adolescent boy with a precocious personality and wonderful parents. We follow him through his teenage years and feel both his heartbreaks and triumphs. The last eighth or so of the book does get a little bogged down in an adventure that, while important to the legend of Kvothe, feels strained and slightly disjointed from the rest. The majority of the book is, in my opinon, strong enough to carry it and it still warrants a reading. I've already lent my copy out numerous times!

In Wicked All Day we watch Zoe, a beautiful but impetuous young woman who has taken London by storm despite being her father's illegitimate daughter. Instead of allowing herself to become intimidated by whispers of her parentage, she takes it as license to be a flirt and enjoys her reputation as a man-eater. After an ill-conceived and emotional mistake involving her childhood friend, Robert, she finds herself engaged. Robert's brother, Stuart the Marquess of Mercer, has spent his life rescuing Zoe from one scrape after another. Seeing his brother with the woman he never realized he loved results in a tangled and confusing love triangle that has the reader hoping the characters can get their heads on straight. The spicy loves scenes didn't hurt either!

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The Six Wives of Henry VIII

The Borrowers

by Alison Weir

by Mary Norton

     Using public records and historical documents, Alison Weir has written a rich and informative book about the ill-fated wives of Henry VIII. As a Tudor history buff, I've read a few books by Weir in the past and found this book most interesting because of the portraits she creates of each individual woman. You can see why Katherine of Aragon, the Princess meant for Henry's brother, appealed to him and why she was so hugely popular with the English people, while at the same time you understand how Henry's head could be turned by the provocative and driven Anne Boleyn. The book quite successfully walks a fine line between being enjoyable for the casually interested and being detailed enough for those with a background knowledge of the times. By the end of the book the reader feels like they have gained a true sense of the world these women inhabited. It also leaves the reader feeling like they got a sneak-peek into the private lives of the noble family.

     Ever since I found out that my husband and I can expect our first baby in July I've been going back and reading some of the books I fell in love with as a child. I've become reacquainted with Clifford the Big Red Dog and Amelia Bedelia, and I've revisited the Ivy Cottage. The ones I remember most, though, are the chapter books I could read on my own. The Borrowers stands out in that crowd.     

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The Borrowers is about a tiny family that lives under the floors of a human family's house. Pod and Homily Clock reside under the kitchen floor with their daughter Arrietty and "borrow" items from their human neighbors. In a homey space filled with matchbox dressers and stamp wall hangings, they live in fear of being spotted by either the "human beans" upstairs or a wayward family pet. Only father Pod ever ventures out to find the items the family needs. But Arrietty is adventurous and soon tries to find a way to befriend the human boy who lives above them. It's a great story that both kids and their parents can enjoy while helping young readers gain confidence and expand their vocabulary.

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Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte

     I think this is one of those books that most women intend to read and never get around to. After years of intending, I finally read it in the beginning of January. While I wasn't blown away by it, Jane Eyre maintains a quiet presence that has lingered in my mind ever since.     At first I was turned off by the two main characters, Jane and Rochester. After a difficult and lonely childhood, Jane accepts employment as a governess at Rochester's Thornfield Hall. She falls in love with the tempestuous and domineering Rochester, much to my astonishment, and is forced to make some terribly difficult decisions for the sake of her heart and sanity. The surprising lovers withstand true trials and I came to really admire Jane's hidden core of steel. So, while I may have been annoyed at times, in the end I came to appreciate their tale of hard-won love. This novel perfectly illustrates the saying "there's someone for everyone".

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Wraeththu by Storm Constantine

     I'm going to make this one short. I read Wraeththu for the first time about five years ago and it's one of the few books that I will re-read. The language and mood are rich and compelling, while the characters are multifaceted and intriguing. It is a fantasy novel of the first order, staying away from all of the worn out fantasy tropes. I can't tell much about the story without ruining it, but I strongly recommend it - with the addendum that there are some who might be uncomfortable about the author's experimentation with sexuality and gender.

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000000 dress Revitalized landmarks, confident framework, Downtown charm; the perfect backdrop for a classic. Our favorite wardrobe staple takes on a vibrant new visage for spring. This ain't your grandma's black dress! PHOTOGRAPHY : : ELAINE FLOYD ART DIRECTION : : JA'MAAL MOSELY WARDROBE STYLING : : TIA RAWLINSON HAIR & MAKEUP : : SALON SOLE ::MODELS::

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On Gregg: Black suspender, $16 at American Apparel; Gibson Les Paul Robot Guitar "Blueburst," contact Sims Music (803) 772-1185 On Mandi: Sequined "Rainelle" dress by Tory Burch, $695 at Van Jean; black sparkle heel pump by Pelle Moda, $155 at Kicks


On Italia: strapless dress with magenta detail by A.B.S., $284 at Round Robin; black mod bow pump by Badgley Mischka, $150 at Kicks


On Gregg: charcoal pinstripe suit by Express Men


On Mandi: Tulle party dress by Bestey Johnson, $435 at Round Robin On Italia: Satin gown with cream bow detail by Faviana, $208 at Round Robin



On Mandi: Strapless dress with

pleated detail by BCBG Max Azria, $248; jeweled clutch, $184 both from Round Robin; black and silver pump by Nanette Lepore, $100 at Kicks On Italia: Halter shift w/ bright ribbon detail by Beth Bowley, $264 at Belladea; pink suede platform by Betsey Johnson, $114 at Kicks



strapless dress with blue beaded detail by French Connection, $149 at Belladea On Mandi:



On Italia: sheer floor length gown by Janine, Exotica


On Mandi: Belted sheath by Don Caster, $330 at Belle Vie


Our Guys

An Interview with USC's

Jack Easterby On Jan. 26, the USC men’s basketball team took the floor at the Colonial Life Arena, with the intention of beating No. 1 Kentucky. If a poll had been taken of the sportswriters at the game, they likely unanimously would have picked the Wildcats to win. It didn’t happen that way, and the Gamecocks pulled off one of the biggest wins in the history of the program. In college sports, winners and losers can often have as much to do with a player’s mind. That’s where Jack Easterby comes in. He’s the director of the Fellowship of Christian Athletes at USC and counsels the men’s basketball team. He said the preparation for that game was the same as the others. “One of the things about working for Coach [Darrin] Horn that’s so awesome, is we do the same thing. We really believe it’s a system, it’s a process,” he said. “It’s not just one game or one time or anything like that. It’s a process. These kids, we try to engage them in a process that will allow them to be successful no matter what the situation is. Everybody asks, on that game, what’s the difference, but to us it’s really about making sure


that we know we put the kids in a position to be confident, that they can play well and win. That’s what we do every game. Nothing special, no pixie dust or anything of that sort.” Easterby knows of what he speaks. He lettered six times in basketball and golf while attending Newberry College. The past few years, though, Carolina hasn’t exactly been burning up the court. This season’s had its highs and lows, like following three straight wins with three consecutive losses. USC is considered by analysts to be a bubble team for the NCAA Tournament. When events in the games aren’t panning out, Easterby suggests looking to your faith. “There is no greater adversity that anyone will face in their life than what Christ went through,” he said. “What I do, when we talk about adversity, I try to make sure guys understand that hope and faith in God is the only way to get through adversity. Jesus went through the ultimate adversity for us on the cross.” Easterby continued, “We try to maintain a constant, solid root and help them develop

faith, and what it would look like to have faith in Christ, and have a solid base so when they get into a problem in their life – maybe the death of a relative, or things pop up that are out of their control, it really puts us in a good position, that we’re going the same thing we’ve always done.” In addition to ministering to athletes at Carolina, Easterby is also branching out to get character coaches and chaplains hired for men’s basketball programs around the country. He said the program, in partnership with groups like FCA and Athletes in Action, is moving along well. One goal right now is to have people placed with every team in the Southeastern and Atlantic Coast conferences. Athletes have a lot of responsibilities -- being a Division I player is like a full-time job in itself, then you have a full load of classes and try to find a way to have some personal time in between. For a lot of people, this is the first time being away from home. Easterby is making sure that he can help these players grow and mature, and become good people off the the court while striving to be winners on it.

by Wes Wolfe




Danielle Hodsdon started riding horses when she was given her first pony on her fourth birthday. She rode all through her youth and competed in horse shows until she went away to college and had to sell her horse. At that point she started looking for opportunities to ride and fell into the sport of steeplechasing while pursuing any opportunity to spend some time on a horse. Danielle never anticipated that this lucky chance would lead to an exciting career. Steeplechases are some of the oldest forms of horse racing and used to be known as the "Sport of Kings." Today most think only of flat, oval tracks when they think of horse racing, but steeplechases are very different. They take place over longer, rougher courses that involve hills, turns, and (most recognizably) jumps. The horses and jockeys thunder around the course and go over hurdles in breathtaking arcs. Danielle calls steeplechases "more of an endurance race" than flat races because there are no races under two miles long.

The Carolina Cup is one of the few notable steeplechases that take place in the Carolinas, and is an important event for both spectators and participants. Danielle recognizes the significance of the Carolina Cup as being "the first big race of the spring and the first race with a purse". The purse is important as the jockeys compete not only for the money, but to be the top earner of the season, which starts in March and continues until November. The Carolina Cup also stands out as one of the most difficult races of the season, as it is one of only two races that have bigger jumps stuffed with natural brush. "It requires more effort from the horse and the rider", Danielle says.   Danielle has a lot to live up to heading into the 2010 season, during which she will compete in between sixty to eighty races. Last year she was recognized as the Leading Money Earner and has previously been honored for having won the most races. "I'm only the second woman to have won the Races Won jockey title," Danielle admits, but she is nonchalant about her success saying, "it's a neat accomplishment to be able to look back on".   While Danielle may not have planned out a career as a jockey, she's certainly enjoying it. In the future


she plans on moving from being a jockey to training race horses, but she doesn't see that switch happening any time soon. "I'll let my body and mind tell me when I'm done," Danielle says, "when it stops being fun, I'll move on to training." For now, she splits her time between trainer Jonathan Sheppard's main farm in West Grove, PA and his training farm in Camden, SC. Currently, she rides between 6 and 8 horses a day, starting at 7am and finishing around 2pm. To keep in racing form she says, "I pretty much just ride and do yoga." For a girl who grew up with a love of horses and a competitive spirit, she has created for herself a challenging home in a sport dominated by men. She will likely be the only woman riding in the Carolina Cup, but she is nonplussed by that. Danielle has gone from being a college kid unfamiliar with steeplechasing to one of the most recognized jockeys, regardless of gender. She is an exciting athlete and will hopefully continue her winning streak in 2010.  â–



he Carolina Cup is known for summer dresses, hats, horses and of course great food and drinks. One of the leading caterers shaping and creating the Cup’s culinary reputation is Rebecca’s of Ridgeway.  With over forty-four years of catering and restaurant experience between owners Brad Klieve and his mother Rebecca Watts, their food reflects the many years of perfecting their recipes.

moved from Ridgeway to Blythewood and have made their mark in the catering world. They cover everything from small cocktail parties and business lunches to large corporate functions.  For the past two years Rebecca’s of Ridgeway has been the exclusive caterer serving the 6,000 sq foot Lexus tent, now a landmark of the Carolina and Colonial Cup races in Camden, South Carolina.   Rebecca’s of Ridgeway has fed thousands and to great praise.

Rebecca Watts started in the restaurant and catering business in 1980 and helped start Tronco’s Catering in Columbia, while Brad entered the business in 1986. Brad has worked in Cafe Europa in Hilton Head and restaurants in South Florida before returning to South Carolina.  In 1997 Brad and Rebecca decided to open up their own restaurant and started Rebecca’s of Ridgeway restaurant and catering.

The Carolina Cup is a unique event for Rebecca’s of Ridgeway. In just six hours they will feed over three thousand guests, serve three completely separate menus, fill over 1,500 glasses of champagne, and pour over ten gallons of vodka!  The precision and organization needed to pull off such a large outdoor event like the Carolina Cup is where Rebecca’s of Ridgeway excels.  They bring in refrigerated trucks of food, drinks and appliances to create an outdoor

Since opening Rebecca’s of Ridgeway they have


kitchen that most chefs dream to work in. Because of their outdoor kitchen, everything is grilled, sautéed, baked and created fresh on site.  With a staff of 30 people in the kitchen and over a dozen bartenders, the guests under the Lexus tent are never without delicious food and refreshing, inventive drinks. A typical menu at the Lexus tent starts at 11:30 am with lunch.  Heavy hors d'oeuvres, shrimp and grits, pasta, grill items, salads and sandwiches are just the beginning.  After the first few races a heavy snack is served at 2 pm, and the day of racing is finished off with a low country boil.  Keeping their signature dishes, Rebecca’s of Ridgeway always creates new and unique foods for each race. If you have tickets to the Lexus tent you are in for a culinary treat best in the South.  For everyone else who wants to experience Rebecca’s of Ridgeway’s they also supply food for the Kershaw Healthcare tent.  Whether you visit them at the Cup or at their restaurant in Blythwood, Rebecca’s of Ridgeway is always upscale cuisine with a Southern flair.

Mouth Watering? You can download a preview of Rebecca's 2010 Carolina Cup Menu by    Clicking here

by Brett Floyd



On Katherine: Lily Pulitzer Adelson dress in coral $278, Petula  long dress  in green $188, Pink Sorbet. On Steven: Lily Pulitzer Patch jacket, $398, Cashmere sweater $398, Shirt $175, Pants $178 Katerine and Steven's hair and makeup by Cristie McConnell and Jessica Palyok, of Logan Raye.


Custom design by LaRoque

On Katherine: Petula long dress  in green $188, Pink Sorbet. On Steven: Lily Pulitzer Shirt $175, Pants $178, and coral print tie $95



Custom design by  LaRoque

Custom design by  LaRoque

On Katherine: Lily Pulitzer Betsey dress in blue $248, Good as Gold sandals $228, Pink Sorbet. On Steven: Lily Pulitzer Patch jacket, $398, Cashmere sweater $398, Shirt $175, Pants $178, Pink Sorbet.



We'll see You at The Cup!

WINK Spring 2010  

WINK Columbia's most anticipated issue yet. Our spring issue is full of fashion, art and the best coverage of the 2010 Carolina Cup.