Spanish kissing Melody Momper It was less than a year ago today that I went to Granada Spain, and it has
left me with enough stories to write several novels. I could talk about the Spanish Gelato, rides on the back of a motorcycle, Friday night drinks, or
even about the insane amount of people who come into the city every day looking to get hitched. Yet what I am going to tell you about it something
that shocked me almost immediately upon my arrival, Spanish kissing. You
would never believe how complicated kissing can be in Spain. But you don’t need to worry because I am about to walk you through everything I know
about the intricacies of a Spanish kiss, starting with two kisses on a cheek, a single kiss on the cheek, and a kiss on the lips.
Before I continue I want to make clear who exactly is kissing who. It is the
rule that hangs over all the others I am about to talk about. This rule is gender. Gender is what you have to keep in mind when determining if you are
going to kiss someone. Girls can kiss girls and boys can kiss girls, but boys
never kiss other boys. Instead, you will see the two of them shake hands in a way of greeting. The only times they will kiss is if they are family or they
have a really close friendship that resembles family in its own way. This is
yet another complex layer to the proper way of kissing someone in Spain. When I first got off of the bus in Spain, I was greeted by my host family. It
was a blur of grabbing bags and people waving hello. My first introduction
was with my host’s father. He came right up, leaning in, and gave me a kiss
on both cheeks. Never before in my 18 years of life has anyone kissed me on both cheeks, let alone an older man! However, that is a normal occurrence
in Spain when greeting someone for the first time. The two cheek kiss is for
greeting someone you don’t know or have just met. Typically you start it off by leaning to your left then going to kiss them on the right. As an American, I was greatly shocked by this because kissing of any kind is for people who are deeply familiar with each other and not for strangers.
Now the next kind of kiss is only on one cheek. You might think that knowing someone for longer would mean more kisses but that is not the case. After
knowing someone a while they stop being a stranger and become a friend or an acquaintance who you kiss once on the cheek in greeting and parting. In
fact, if you try to kiss them a second time on the cheek it can come across as rude. Yet what you need to keep in mind, is that the rules of kissing are the same. You start by leaning in left, except this time you don’t lean right and
kiss their cheek. So, by the time I had finally started to get the hang of all the
Spanish kissing, I was thrown for a loop once again. Even greeting a friend in Spain is complicated by this simple yet complex greeting. The next kind of kiss throws cheeks out the window entirely and moves on to your mouth. As straightforward as you may think this one may be, it is not. Yes, family members will kiss each other on the lips and so will significant others. 76 >
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