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Research tour operators and guides before hiring them. If a site like TripAdvisor or Trippy gives a guide mostly negative reviews, that’s very telling. Many times, you’ll be approached by independent guides once you arrive in a city’s airport, train station or ferry port. They can actually be a helpful way to see a city and offer affordable rates, but keep in mind they may be receiving kickbacks from restaurants, shops and attractions along the way.
Consider a vacation rental: Rather than staying in a touristy neighborhood at a hotel, a vacation rental allows you to stay in an area that provides a totally different view of a destination. It also lets you have a leisurely coffee or breakfast before getting ready for the day since a kitchen is often included, and local owners are usually full of great info for exploring the area.
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In Your Relationship? Whether you’ve been married for years or you’ve just met that special someone, every relationship can be full of loving, loathing or somewhere in between. Not sure where you fall on the spectrum? Take this quiz to find out.
His favorite color is… a) I don’t remember. b) It is… c) I think I know it…
When you watch movies, you… a) Argue over what to rent. b) Take turns choosing the film. c) We’re both working full time -- we don’t have time for movies.
When you make a joke, your partner… a) Makes fun of you. b) Laughs; he always thinks you’re funny. c) Doesn’t respond.
When he decides to start a new diet, you… a) Roll your eyes. Not this again. b) Join him – the more the merrier. c) Wonder what he’d look like 10 pounds lighter…
When you talk to your friends about your partner, you… a) Complain about his bad habits. b) Talk about the exciting things you’re doing together. c) Say, “He’s good.”
When you go out for a drink together… a) You each have one (or three) too many. b) You often make new friends. c) You worry about the housework that isn’t getting done.
If you made a mistake, you would… a) Hide it from your partner. b) Admit your mistake and apologize. c) Either way, he probably wouldn’t care.
When you argue, you… a) Tend to hold grudges. b) Talk logically about the problem. c) Let the anger fizzle away without solving the issue.
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Uh-oh, it seems like you’ve got a few things to work on. Somewhere down the road, you and your partner lost sight of all the reasons you fell in love. Instead of caring about and supporting each other, you tend to spend more time butting heads. Sit down and talk to your partner seriously about your relationship, and be sure to discuss things in an open, loving way. Bring up those little things he does that bother you, but don’t ignore your own faults, either. A little communication can go a long way.
If you answered mostly B: Make way for the happy couple! You’re comfortable together and it shows. Your relationship is one big, exciting adventure – and you both love it! By maintaining that open, fun-loving connection with your partner, you can be sure that happiness will last as long as you both shall live.
If you answered mostly C: You’re just coasting along. Things aren’t bad, but they aren’t great either. With work, kids and a mortgage to pay, love just isn’t your number one priority right now. And yet, a stressful day and a hectic work schedule is no excuse to let your Mr. Right fade into the shadows. You two are still committed to each other and his support can really make a difference! Take some time to reconnect. Write him a surprise love note inviting him to a romantic dinner for just the two of you. A break from work and a little quality time is exactly what you need to get the feelings flowing once more. If the facts don’t fit the theory, change the facts. Albert Einstein
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If there was one word to describe Stacia Pierce, it would be this: Empowered. This award-winning life coach and entrepreneur has worked with everyone from the Hollywood elite to big-business gurus, using her contagious energy to turn obstacles into opportunities. Here, Pierce shares her best business wisdom for women.
Stacia Pierce Interview By Sarah G. Mason
Tell me a little about your background – when did you realize constant requests for private mentorship motivated me to begin success coaching. It you wanted to be a life coach? I first felt the entrepreneur bug when I was 13 years old. I’ve successfully launched and developed my own makeup line, opened a clothing store and launched an image and branding company. Once I began writing books, it opened the door to speaking engagements, so I added a speaking itinerary while running my companies. Eventually, this grew into me hosting my own women’s conference and later into my coaching business for entrepreneurs. I have always wanted to help women find their passion and profit from it. Most people just don’t know how to make this happen. They have never been taught how to do business, love it and be able to live off of it. When women left my live events they would always call back asking for more. The
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You were named ‘Top Women Who Mean Business’ by the Orlando Business Journal for What does the word your system of turning passions “empowerment” mean to you? How into paychecks – what mindset can feeling empowered change does it take to be a successful someone’s life for the better? entrepreneur?
was the best avenue to do what I love and help others do what they love too.
Empowerment is about being well equipped with the information and skills to accomplish your dreams and goals. Information changes the seasons of your life. Once you’ve been empowered with knowledge your confidence grows and you’re more likely to go after your dreams. Oftentimes people find themselves in a hopeless, helpless state because they lack the proper perspective to change their situation. Before you can be empowered you must first be open to change and improvement.
To be a successful entrepreneur, you must believe you can do it and that you deserve the rewards that come with it. Oftentimes people have a desire to head out on their own, but hold themselves back, searching for validation from others. You have to give yourself permission to profit. Once you start going for your dreams, you need to adopt a tenacious attitude. No matter what comes your way, never give up on your dream. Learn from your mistakes, create a new plan, get help when you need to but never give up.
All our dreams can come true – if we have the courage to pursue them. Walt Disney
“You don’t have to sacrifice your family to have a great career” What advice do you have for women who are afraid to chase their entrepreneurial dreams? Don’t be afraid to take risks. It may sound counterintuitive, but you can spend years analyzing every detail of your business plan and never pull the trigger. When intuition tells you that you have a winning idea – even if you don't know every single detail – just get going on implementing it!
What advice do you have for busy women and moms about ﬁnding balance between work and family? Finding balance is being able to make adjustments to do what is essential at the time. It is incorporating what has to be done with what you want to get done. For example, when balancing work and family, you may have to get done with your projects during the week then take a day to hike or garden on the weekend. Go out with the kids and really enjoy that moment. If you’re feeling imbalanced, creating a plan can be life changing. Writing out a strategy to get your work done or even just creating a simple to-do list gives you a feeling of focus. You can map out everything in your life from an exotic vacation to time with family to a new business venture. Plans bring balance because you have a road map to accomplish all that you want to get done. You’re more likely to do what is written. Reviewing your plans keeps you on track and reminds you of other commitments that you should give attention to.
What’s the biggest thing that holds women back from starting their own business?
When I started, I had to first overcome the struggle of choosing between being a stay-at-home mom or pursuing my dreams of entrepreneurship. Choosing between family and a career is something that many women struggle with. In the mid-to-late ‘90’s’ when I started my conference and workshops, women were looking for someone to show them how to pursue purpose and go after their dreams. My entire platform is built on balancing it all, a successful career, great relationships and family. By eliminating the excuses and believing in yourself, anyone can overcome this limiting way of thinking. You don’t have to sacrifice your family to have a great career and vice versa. Yes, it requires hard work and the help of others to pull it off. Learn to ignore the guilt-ridden feelings that you are doing your children and family an injustice because you want to start a business. You can make it a family affair. Use your business as a way to empower your children to go after their own dreams as well.
Have you seen a change in the men to women ratio in the business world? Now more than ever before women are launching businesses. I think it’s because of the enticing lure of doing what you love and being with the ones you love more often. Many women become at-home entrepreneurs so that they can have a flexible schedule and be there for the family. Plus, it’s so easy now to run a profitable online business from home. Online marketing is very cost effective and eﬃcient with all the social media platforms available to reach your target audience.
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My friends know that I’m a big “fake it ‘till you make it” advocate, especially when it comes to exuding confidence. It makes sense because your mind and body strive to agree. (You Neuroscience buffs know it as “cognitive consistency.”) So if your mind tells you that you’re anxious, your body acts accordingly. Happily, the reverse is also true. When your body constantly ACTS confident, real self-assurance follows. Here are a few tips. By Leil Lowndes
Little Tricks to Look More
1) When entering a superior's oﬃce, don't hover by the door. The closer you come to their desk, the more confidence you display.
4) Be the last to break eye contact when passing someone in the hall.
2) When going through a large door or open double doors, don't walk on one side. Stride straight through the middle.
5) Here’s one of my favorites. When you agree with someone, nod your head UP from neutral (jaw parallel to the floor). Nodding down from parallel looks more subservient.
3) Entering a party or gathering, head for the dead center of the room. That’s where self-assured people instinctively gravitate.
6) In a social gathering, choose the highest chair. If it's a business meeting, though, don't sit higher than the boss!
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7) At a table meeting, go for the chair directly to the right of the most important person at the meeting. 8) Confident people's bodies occupy more space. Insecure people’s take as little space as possible as if to say, "Excuse me for taking up this much of the earth." So make larger gestures. Men can put one arm up on the back of the sofa or seat.
9) Gentlemen, to look like a leader, swing your arms more significantly when you walk. And ladies, square your body toward the person you're talking to. And beware of smiling TOO much. 10) And, of course, need I even mention posture? Think of slumping as the “Whatever you say, Sir” position and stand tall.
Find more tips like these at www.lowndes.com If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door. Milton Berle
Cursing in the Workplace is a
Lose-Lose Strategy for Women By Susan T. Spencer, briefcaseessentials.com Do you curse at work? Do you think your colleagues think itâ€™s cool? Have any of your associates told you that they think your language is offensive? Is your use of profanity at work sending a positive or negative message about you, your values, and your leadership? Women communicate differently than men and thatâ€™s a good thing. Cursing by a male is generally accepted in the workplace while the same words, spoken by a female, are considered offensive. Using foul language to prove that you are as tough as any male is a losing strategy. Hereâ€™s why. A Womanâ€™s way of communicating is one of her most dynamic talents. Women are natural communicators. Men listen, and women talkâ€”to everyone. Our ability to communicate is not just about talking, we are also aware of what others are thinking. We are keen observers and instinctively notice such things as body language, facial expressions and tone of voice, which collectively give us the unique skill of perceptive communication.
As perceptive communicators we are able to tailor our message to fit the listener. This distinctive talent is forfeited when we resort to the use of foul language.
By injecting curse words into your conversation all you accomplish is to distract the listener from hearing your message. Using profanity calls into question your credibility and judgment. Although it might feel good for an instant, this foolish moment of pleasure defines you and affects your career for a lifetimeâ€”there are no take backs.
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Here you are. You’ve worked early mornings and late nights, nailed that first promotion and then the second, and now you’re sitting behind an oak desk with a gold nameplate and a team of workers at your beck and call. You’re the leader, but are you a good one?
Leadership Habits By Sarah G. Mason
Leadership isn’t a skill we’re all born with – sometimes, it must be learned. And yet, great leadership skills are essential to the efficiency of businesses and the morale of the staff. Ask yourself. Do your subordinates respect you as a leader? Do they admire you? Are you approachable, fair and open? Here are a few of the top complaints about poor leaders and our tips to ensure you don’t become one.
because they can’t admit when something is wrong. Overcome it by starting your day with a motto: I will put my pride aside. Write it on a sticky note and stick it on your computer screen, your work folder or the back of your phone. The next time someone brings up a concern, repeat your motto before answering; I will put my pride aside. Commit to never letting your personal feelings get in the way of progress.
My boss is controlling.
My boss is never satisﬁed.
A controlling leader makes all the decisions, no one else’s opinion matters and input from the staff is never heard. Overcome it by holding a meeting once a week specifically for comments, concerns or suggestions. Think your staff might feel uncomfortable speaking up in front of the group? Leave a comments box in the break room or bathroom where others can quietly slip in their thoughts. Still not getting any feedback? Switch a solid box for a clear one and secretly add a few comments of your own. If your staff sees messages already inside, they may feel more confident leaving some, too.
An unsatisfied leader doesn’t care how large the win is – they’re always asking “What’s next?” Overcome it by taking time to celebrate your staff’s achievements. Did you close a big contract or meet your monthly sales goals? Buy a cake and some balloons and give your team a well-earned break. It will boost their spirits and make them more eager to hit the next milestone.
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My boss sits behind their desk playing games all day. A lazy boss expects others to pull all the weight and contributes nothing themselves. Overcome it with the phrase, “How can I help?” Say it as often as you can, and don’t let the size of the task deter you; no leader is too great to help file paperwork or run to the post oﬃce. Not only will your staff
appreciate the help, but you may learn a thing or two about the inner workings of your oﬃce.
My boss is afraid of change. A stuck leader loves routine and structure – so much so that they can’t move forward. Overcome it by imagining what it will be like when things go right, not what could go wrong. Each opportunity for change may seem frightening, but you must set those fears aside if you want to succeed. For instance, does the company need to update their computer software? Think positively. New computer software may be hard to learn at first, but once you get used to it, you’ll be able to process data twice as fast and your company will gain eﬃciency.
My boss is nice – a little too nice. A fearful boss is afraid to hurt others’ feelings and wants to please everyone. While their intentions may be good, a strong leader has to put their foot down from time to time – everyone can’t always get their way. Overcome it by listening to both sides of an issue, then making the final decision alone in your oﬃce. Solitude may bring the clarity you need to make the right choice and will remove the influential sight of your staff’s expectant faces.
It’s not whether you get knocked down, it’s whether you get up. Vince Lombardi
Should I Use Their
Name Nickname? or
By Leil Lowndes It's natural to assume people would feel friendlier if you use their nickname. But be careful! A lot of people prefer their more formal name. For instance, if someone you meet has a name which usually has a nickname (like Bob for Robert, Lou for Louis, Liz for Elizabeth, or Candy for Candace) DON’T use it until you’re sure THEY do. It distances you from the person and they can be offended. For more great tips like this, visit www.lowndes.com
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Whether you’re traveling across town or across the country, moving can be an exciting, rewarding experience. However, before you start collecting cardboard boxes, here are a few important steps to keep in mind.
Move By Kat Freestone
snacks, towels, sheets, important files and
Plan Plan Plan medical records. If you’ve hired movers, it’s The move date is set, and you’re eager to get started! And yet, there are still many unanswered questions. What’s your moving budget? Do you want to hire movers, or do it yourself? Have you made the travel and storage arrangements? Before you jump into a hectic relocation, take some time to consider all of your options. Moving can get expensive; between selling your home, buying a new one, packing and traveling, you’re bound to stretch your financial muscle. You’ve thought of all the obvious costs, but don’t forget hidden fees like utility deposits, property taxes and parking fees. When it comes to hiring a mover, do your research. Learn the difference between van lines, van line agents, independent carriers and moving brokers. Contact your insurance agent to ask about coverage while you’re in route and research moving protection options as well.
Moving Day You’ve prepared yourself for a perfect move. Now it’s time to hit the road! On the day of the move, have a box of essentials handy. Include items like bottled water, aspirin,
important to let them run the show; you don’t want to get in the way of the loading and unloading of heavy furniture. Once the house is empty, do one last walk through to make sure nothing was left behind. Check the attic, closets, medicine cabinets and the drawer under your oven. Also, check for any damage caused by the movers; you don’t want to lose your security deposit over someone else’s mistake.
House to Home Congratulations, you’ve done it! As you’re getting settled into your new home, take some time to pat yourself on the back; moving is never easy and now the hardest part is behind you. As you’re unpacking, look over your belongings to see if anything was damaged along the way. If you do find any items that are lost or broken, file a claim within nine months of the move; the sooner the better. As for unpacking, it’s easiest to do
one room at a time. This will help you keep your focus and allow you to watch your progress. Choose one room as your “sanctuary,” which you should fill with all of your favorite items. You can retreat to this room when you need a break from the rest of your work-in-progress.
With a little luck, your move will be smooth and headache-free. Then comes the fun part; exploring new places, meeting new people and getting used to calling this new house your home.
1) Packing fees Many movers will charge extra to pack and carry 2) Extra fees for unusually heavy items Extra manpower and equipment can cost you 3) A thumb-twiddling fee Waiting until the last minute will often cost you more 4) Additional cost for an inconvenient location Moving out of a house is a lot easier than from the seventh floor of your elevator-less apartment 5) Money to move yourself Don’t forget it will cost you to get from point A to point B!
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Glow By Heather Aulisio
Gorgeous A great glow starts from the inside and works its way out. Be sure to drink plenty of water and limit your caffeine intake, which can dehydrate the skin and make it look dull and dry. When gathering groceries, spend extra time in the produce section. Reach for sweet potatoes, apples, carrots, berries, lemon, spinach and beets – they help strengthen the skin and have antiinflammatory and anti-aging properties. Blend or juice your favorites to combine several of these skin superfoods for a maximum effervescent effect. 18 Flourish Magazine | June/2014
Supplements can make skin glow as well. Fish oil and flax seed oil capsules are perfect additions to your balanced diet – they’re high in EFA’s (essential fatty acids) which are great for your skin! Plus, they can be consumed when you are too busy to make a smoothie – an added bonus!
Invest in some beauty product staples. Apply liquid or powder luminizers just above the cheekbones, high on the brow bone, down the bridge of your nose and in the corners of your eyes for a luminous contouring
effect. Cheek stains and tints can be applied in conjunction with a luminizer and are light weight so you won’t look or feel weighed down. Look for sheer cheek stains to get a soft, transparent glow with the slightest pop of color. Finish the look with a high quality moisture spray; during warm spring and summer days, it will keep your skin hydrated, smooth and shimmering. Anyone can get a gorgeous glow. Follow some of the suggestions above to get noticed and get “glowing!”
Ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country. John F. Kennedy
Should You Try? By Heather Aulisio
Are you looking to try something new with your ‘do? If so, take some cues from a few top celebrities who’ve recently undergone a hairstyle switch up. Complete this quiz to determine the look that 7. How long have will best complement your personal you had your current preferences and lifestyle! hair color? 1. How do you normally style your hair for work? a) I wash it and wear it b) I use a straightener c) I use a curling iron
2. Describe your facial features. a) Oval face and delicate bone structure b) Round face and defined features c) Square or Heart shaped face with a strong jawline
4. Describe your usual weekend. a) I’m always on the go, I hardly ever sit down. b) I hit the gym but also enjoy shopping and lounging around. c) I venture out for brunch and take in a movie or read on the couch.
a) A few weeks – I get bored easily b) A few months c) I’ve never colored my hair
8. Your friends would describe you as: a) Edgy and outgoing b) Posh and polished c) Classic and traditional
5. Which kind of make-up is your favorite?
9. Which hair accessory do you use the most?
a) Nude lip gloss b) Liquid eyeliner c) Rosy blush
a) Headbands b) Hair clips c) Hair ties
3. On a scale of 1-10 (with 10 being the most), how daring are you?
6. What do you think your best facial feature is?
10. Which article of clothing is your go-to item?
a) 8 to 10 b) 5 to 7 c) 4 or less
a) My lips b) My eyes c) My cheekbones
a) A leather jacket b) Skinny jeans c) A comfortable t-shirt
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Sun-Tzu
Mostly A’s- Jennifer Lawrence Go for shock value! J. Law’s short, bold pixie cut made jaws drop, and now you too can make a lasting impression. You aren’t afraid to try new things and you tend to be trendy and edgy when it comes to your personal style. A super short cut works great for you because you have delicate facial features and lead a no-fuss, low-maintenance lifestyle.
Mostly B’s- Beyonce Go for a bob. Beyonce traded in her long extensions for an angled, shoulder length bob. This is a great hairstyle because it looks sleek when worn straight but sexy when loosely curled and tousled. You have the flexibility to pull the two sides up when you want to get the hair out of your face, but in will complement your round features when let loose and parted down the middle. This posh and polished look will complement your put together style.
Mostly C’s- Kate Middleton Go for bangs. This hairstyle change works for you because you just can’t seem to part with your long hair. Plus, you love pulling your hair back since you’re all about comfort and convenience. By cutting your bangs, you’ll satisfy your craving for something new, soften your square or heart shaped face and play up your favorite feature -- your cheekbones! Flourish Magazine | June/2014 19
Beauty by Amy Smith
Yes to Blueberries Travel Cleansing Facial Towelette
Yes to Cucumbers On-The-Go Facial Towelettes
Great for any skin type, these towelettes gently exfoliate revealing smooth, glowing skin. The travel pack contains 8 towelettes that are rich in antioxidants like Vitamin C.
Cleanse, remove makeup and nourish skin all at the same time! This convenient travel size fits nicely in your purse or desk and is 98.7% natural. The pack contains 10 towelettes that’ll leave you clean and good looking.
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Dr. Lin Skincare Acne Cleansing Wipes Purify clogged pores and control breakouts with these convenient wipes. The medicated formula penetrates deep into pores while the exfoliating towelette wipes away dirt & oil.
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Neuma neuSmooth Gift Set
Achieve smooth locks with a collection that treats, tames and protects hair no matter where your holiday travels may take you. Inlcudes neuSmooth shampoo, neuSmooth leave-in condition, neuStyling smoothing crème, neuSmooth illuminating mist and a travel bag.
Lush Each Peach Brighten up your skin and give yourself a blissful massage with fruity avocado and mango kernel butters. This bar is light and melts into the skin easier for even softer, luxurious massage. $10.95 LUSH.COM
Nourishing Meadowfoam Facial Serum Formulated with a rich blend of meadowfoam seed oil and DMAE, this lightweight formula hydrates and provides the nourishment skin needs. Ideal for stressed complexions. $69 CLAIRVOYANTBEAUTY.COM
NEUMA’s neuMoisture Don’t let hair experience a drought this time of year, moisturize and repair damaged locks with this perfect on-the go kit. Includes neuMoisture shampoo, neuMoisture condition, neuRepair argan treatment, neuStyling smoothing crème and a travel bag. $24 NEUMABEAUTY.COM
Oribe Thick Dry Finishing Spray (Purse Size) Create full and dense hair without endless amounts of product. This finishing spray inflates hair to create a voluptuous appearance without dullness. This purse size allows it to conveniently fit anywhere for any future plumping. $21.50 ORIBE.COM, BARNEYS, BERGDORF GOODMAN AND NEIMAN MARCUS
Hydrating mist travel size Tone and hydrate with this refreshing blend of rosehip, ylang ylang, resveratrol grape seed oil and antioxidant-rich organic juices for a fresh, radiant complexion. $10 JUICEBEAUTY.COM
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Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere. Albert Einstein
Godiva Shampoo Bar This 2-in-1 shampoo bar cleans and conditions your hair with moisturizing nut oils and shea butter while perfuming it with jasmine. Perfect for dry locks, this bar will leave you with glossy, shiny, and softened tresses. $11.95 LUSH.COM
Cleure SPF 15 Sunscreen This natural sunscreen shields against UVA and UVB rays, and prevents premature aging, which is essential for sensitive skin. Safe for all skin types and ages, this product is formulated with non-micronized zinc oxide to provide FDA-approved broad spectrum protection. $6 CLEURE.COM
Green apple cleansing gel
Organics to Go
Brighten, lighten and tighten with this plant-based cleanser. It is antioxidant-rich with organic lemon, apple and sugar cane hydroxy-acids and purifying botanicals that exfoliate for a deep clean. $15 JUICEBEAUTY.COM
A kit to help you achieve an organically radiant glow.This complete system is for all skin types and includes Cleansing Milk, Green Apple Peel Sensitive, Antioxidant Serum, Hydrating Mist and Nutrient Moisturizer.
Kat Burki Beauty Elixir
Bath & Body Travel Kit This on-the-go pampering set will keep any traveler happy with its delightful combination of Relax Bath Salts, Awaken Spray, Embrace Body Lotion and Breathe Body Wash. All products fit neatly into a custom travel case. $30 ERBAVIVA.COM
This skin boost in spray features lavender and Aloe Vera for a soothing and hydrating repair. Great for at-home or on-thE-go use, your skin will feel hydrated and refreshed with these essential vitamins and minerals. $42 KATBURKI.COM
Lush Tin Can Perfect for on-the-go use, you can find a tin can in a shampoo bar, body butter, or massage bar shape so you can bring your favorite Lush products with you wherever. $3.95 LUSH.COM
t/8SE4USFFU 4VJUFB 5IPSOFCSPPL7JMMBHFt(BJOFTWJMMF Never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today. Benjamin Franklin
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NECESSITIES How to Choose a Necklace According to your Neckline By Heather Aulisio Believe it or not, there is actually a science and an art behind choosing the perfect necklace in order to enhance your ensemble. Read on to learn about the most popular necklines and how you can pick the right accessory to effortlessly accent your attire.
strand of pearls, a medium length strand of shiny circular stones, or a necklace that boasts layers and circular pendants will fill in the scoop space while reflecting the cut correctly.
A V-neck comes to a point and dips down low on the chest, much like a scoop neck. The key to Crew Neck accessorizing a V is to fill the A crew neck has a slight dip above the collar bone exposed area with a statement piece, but leave and is rounded. This neckline is most popularly some skin showing to featured on tees, sweaters complement the plunge. Look for statement necklaces and basic knits. When pairing a necklace with a whose stones are clustered together to form a V to mimic crew neck, look for a the shape of the neckline. jewel embellished Peter Pan collar. They can be tied or fasted on and Strapless make the most casual of Many women think that tops look polished and wearing a strapless top or pulled together without dress means that any taking away from the style necklace will do. In fact, one of the shirt. of the best necklaces to wear with a strapless item is a long, jeweled necklace that Boat Neck falls just below the bust and A boat neck sits straight across your dĂŠcolletage. To is composed of shiny, shimmering accents; or one emphasize this shoulder that features some fringed defining cut, wear a few ends. These necklaces work long strands of pearls (or any other beaded necklaces) with a strapless neckline to keep the emphasis on the because they add some movement to your look and strong lines that the shirt or dress creates. It will also add keep the eye focused on your exposed neck. length to the overall look.
Scoop Neck A scoop neck is round and dips low on the chest. When choosing a necklace, be sure to pick a piece that mimics this rounded scoop. A short 22 Flourish Magazine | June/2014
When you know how to choose the right accessory based on your outfitâ€™s cuts, you are sure to create a wow factor that makes all embellishments look perfectly positioned.
The quickest way to double your money is to fold it over and put it back in your pocket. Will Rogers
Radiant Orchid! Radiant Orchid is the 2014 top pick for color of the year according to Pantone, the world renown experts on color and style. Not only can you work it into your wardrobe, but you can use it as an exciting and unexpected accent throughout your home décor. This spring-inspired tone is filled with confidence, mystery and charm. Its warmth will make you yearn for summer weather and it radiates joy and passion. A marriage of pink undertones, fuchsia and purple, Radiant Orchid is incredibly wearable and complements a variety of skin shades, giving you a gorgeous, rosy glow. One way to wear the color of the year is to use it as a striking statement piece. Look for wrap dresses, three-quarter length knits or printed skirts that boast this bold shade. For a more subtle style, add pops of this color into your ensemble by slipping on a pair of Radiant Orchid heels, sliding on a silky printed scarf, carrying a
Introducing 2014’s Color of the Year
structured day bag or even adorning your lips and nails with this wildly wearable color. Some other colors that work well with Radiant Orchid are basic black (think work wear), mint green, grey, petal pink and navy blue. Are you inspired to being mixing and matching yet? If you need more Radiant Orchid in your life, why not bring it into your home? You can purchase accent lamps, pillows, picture frames, curtains and table runners in this fun color, or fill ornate vases with playful purple flowers. Radiant Orchid is ideal when paired alongside wall paint with neutral base tones like grey, beige and taupe. If you have a lot of color already in your home, this bright, cheerful hue works wonderfully with olive and hunter green, turquoise, teal and light yellow. Try incorporating this trendy tone into your home and wardrobe to give your everyday surroundings an instant, beautiful and bold pick me up!
That which doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. Friedrich Nietzsche
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Fitness by Amy Smith
Flower of Life Embossed Yoga Block
Tree of Wisdom Cargo Mat Bag
Ergonomic and functional â€“ this foam yoga block provides extra height, stability and support, and the embossed pattern adds style and extra traction.
Keep your mat clean, dry and portable in the Tree of Wisdom Cargo Mat Bag. $19.98 TARGET.COM/ AMAZON.COM
$11.98 TARGET.COM/ AMAZON.COM
Paisley Flower Printed Yoga Mat Restore Compact Foam Roller Work and relieve stress and tightness in smaller regions or target specific areas with the compact foam roller.
Durable and chic, this Paisley Flower Yoga Mat provides a stable, non-slip surface for your yoga practice. $21.98 TARGET.COM/ AMAZON.COM
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Restore Multi-Grip Stretch Strap The multiple hand holds along the strap encourage increasing degrees of stretch, allowing you to progress and increase your range of motion. $12.98 TARGET.COM/ AMAZON.COM
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When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. Franklin D. Roosevelt
1) Lima Capri
4) Petra Short
These mid-rise capris are smooth, chafe-resistant and feature a convenient hidden pocket. Made with moisture release technology, they’re available in a ton of colors including raspberry, olive and flame orange. $39.95 FABLETICS.COM
Feel confident in shorts that are as flexible as you. They are smooth, chafe-resistant and made with moisture release technology.
2) Mahe Run Short
With a drawstring waist and convenient pocket, these nylon mid-rise shorts will make the perfect fit. $29.95 FABLETICS.COM
Feel the breeze in this flowy top with a mesh back and adjustable hem. Pick from five different color combos and enjoy the relaxed, chafe-free design. $34.95 FABLETICS
3) Omemee Tank
A built in bra and fitted bodice makes this tank an all time favorite. Boast an edgy geometric design or enjoy the subtle pastels with this fitted piece.
Dare to be darling, even at the gym with this open back design. Available in black with a touch of teal or grey and black, you’ll actually look forward to working out. $34.95 FABLETICS.COM
5) Norwalk tank
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Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
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This Guy Got
Here’s What He Said about His Ex-Wife.
Marriage Advice I Wish I Would Have Had #1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. 26 Flourish Magazine | June/2014
Gerald Rogers got divorced after 16 years of marriage. He publicly wrote this confession on Facebook: Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert, but there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done differently. After losing a woman who I loved and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had:
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. Ralph Waldo Emerson
#2. Protect Your Own Heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.
#3. Fall In Love Over and Over and Over again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other every day. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.
#4. Always See The Best in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see are reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.
#5. It’s Not Your Job To Change Or Fix Her. Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.
#6. Take Full Accountability for your own emotions. It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.
#7. Never Blame your wife if YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings, take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed.
#8. Allow your woman to Just Be. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s OK. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you. DON’T RUN AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.
Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.
#15. Be Vulnerable. You don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
#9. Be Silly.
#16. Be Fully Transparent.
Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING. Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know if she will like what she finds…Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK. If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.
#10. Fill Her Soul Every Day. Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 things that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority every day to make her feel like a queen.
#11. Be Present. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.
#12. Be Willing To Take Her Sexually. To carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.
#17. Never Stop Growing Together. The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.
#18. Don’t Worry About Money. Money is a game, so find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.
#13. Don’t Be An Idiot.
#19. Forgive Immediately
And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.
and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that you or she makes is like a heavy anchor to your marriage, and it will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.
#14. Give Her Space. The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing. (OK, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point.)
What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say. Ralph Waldo Emerson
#20. Always Choose Love. Always Choose Love. Always Choose Love. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices are governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure. Flourish Magazine | June/2014 27
Shelly Interview by Lauren Douglass
BHUSHAN Music and Motherhood
NYC-based musician Shelly Bhushan thought she had it all under control – until her daughter was born, that is. Now, this new mom fights a little “baby brain drain” to discuss all the beautiful ways her newborn has changed her outlook, her music and her life.
Shelly Bhushan’s newborn inspires her passion Tell me about your new album, Something Out of Nothing.
I know you just had a baby – how has motherhood been for you?
It’s my fourth album and my second full length album, and it celebrates different aspects of New York. It uses a theme that I’ve used many times, but looks at things through a different lens. This is the first time I’ve ever done anything like this. For me, it’s been a really beautiful writing process. As a singer, I worry about what I sound like, but this is the first time that I really made the album about the songs and the meaning behind the songs, not about me.
It’s been good and crazy. Everyone tells you, “Get ready because it’s going to be really hard,” but I didn’t really take them seriously. I’ve always balanced a lot of different things in my life and I’ve gone through my own hardships, but having a baby has been a completely eye-opening experience. My baby is great but my brain is just not the same right now! I’m definitely experiencing those first few hectic weeks of parenthood that everyone talks about.
What type of audience is this album geared toward?
How has having a newborn aﬀected your music?
I think it’s for everyone. I don’t consider myself or my music inaccessible. A common theme of mine is defying odds and living your life and overcoming things. Also, I talk about being observant and taking time to reflect on what’s going on in your life.
It’s interesting because I wasn’t sure how this would affect me musically. I thought maybe I’d come up with a lot of miracle content, but it’s not all “Oh, I love my baby” so much. My content has been very random. As I said before, one of the great hallmarks
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of my music is being able to reflect on the world around you. I’ll be sitting on a train and see a feather floating around and really be struck by that. Finding that inspiration and turning that into an analogy is something that I’ve never done before. I feel as though I used to be a superficial writer, but going through motherhood has made me look at life in a whole different way.
How has being a mom changed your view of the world? It’s hard to say because I’m still so new. The weight of having a life in your hands is enormous. I know that I can change everything about her life. This may sound crazy, but this is the first time that I’ve really felt like an animal. I feel very primal, and I’m not making myself feel this way, nature is. I sometimes feel like I don’t have control over myself, and it’s a really unique feeling.
Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts. Albert Einstein
What’s the strongest piece of advice you’ll have for her as she grows into a woman? I think a strong piece of advice would be to listen to people. Don’t just hear them, really take in what they’re saying. When you pay attention to people, you get so much from that. Whether it’s learning about a person or a situation, you can then assess the situation, the world and yourself. It’s something I’ve had to learn how to do, and the better I get at it, the more it’s helped me as a person and a musician.
What are your hopes for yourself as a mother? I want to be the best mom I can be. I’m not going to be perfect – no one is – but I want to show her that she can be whoever she wants to be. I think by being the best me, I can teach my daughter how to be the best her.
Be sure to check out Bhushan’s latest album Something Out of Nothing today at ShellyBhushan.com!
“I want to be the best mom I can be”
Having a child turns you into a very different person.
Do you think you worried a lot before your daughter? Sure, I’m always thinking about a lot of different things and I definitely look both ways before I cross the street. Now as a mom, I’m like “Holy cow.” [Laughs] Obviously the goal is to keep yourself intact and you can’t be too crazy because that’s not what’s best for your child. After you have a baby, I always describe it as though your heart has left your body and is now with your child. If something happens to your child, it happens to your heart. We haven’t really left the apartment much, so I haven’t really exposed her to the world yet. My whole life right now is completely catered to her. Before, my life was about a lot of different things and I still want to keep my life balanced, but now it seems as though she’s the only thing that matters.
I don’t think that will change as she gets older. I dropped my 5-year-old off today at school just like I do every day, but I started tearing up. There’s an overwhelming protectiveness that comes out when you become a mother.
What are some of your hopes for her as she grows up? I want her to be a good person. My husband and I are both very musical and we hope that she’ll appreciate music, though I don’t necessarily need her to be a musician – in fact, I’m secretly like, “Don’t do it!” I want her to be smart and to be able to be herself. I want her to have both of her eyes open and enjoy the world and not be cynical. I just want her to be happy and to find people who love her. Just basic, good things.
Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. Mark Twain
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Kids by Amy Smith
Feature SmartyPants Grade 5 SmartyPants Fifth Grade cards lets kids test their smarts and load up on new facts and funny trivia. Designed for independent use (so a child can play alone or with a parent or friend), the cards are colorful, creative and packed with illustrated activities, including trivia quizzes, problem-solving puzzles, rebus puzzles, fun facts, creative storybuilding games and much more. $12.99 MELISSAANDDOUG.COM
Welch’s PB&J snacks
Kidz Gear Volume Control Headphones
Kids will love these easy to eat, no mess treats! Available in either grape or strawberry and crunchy or creamy, these delicious bite sized snacks are gluten free, made with natural flavors and are a good source of Vitamins A & E.
These headphones limit volume to approximately 80 percent of the maximum volume while delivering a safe listening experience for children of all ages. Ergonomically designed with soft padded child-sized ear-cups, they are also the perfect travel accessory.
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Fire Chief Role Play Here is everything your little firefighter needs in an emergency: A bright red, machine-washable jacket trimmed with reflective material, a fire chief helmet, a “fire extinguisher,” a bullhorn with sound effects, a shiny badge and a nametag for personalizing. $29.99 MELISSAANDDOUG.COM 30 Flourish Magazine | June/2014
These reusable pureed food pouches are easy to fill, clean and store, and they’re great for those on-the-go families! Squeez’Ems reusable food pouches are perfect for all ages and are freezer, microwave and dishwasher safe. $9.50 BOOGINHEAD.COM
People who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do. Apple Computers
Suspend Try this hanging balance game and you’ll be hooked! Suspend comes with 24 notched, rubber-tipped wire pieces to hang from a tabletop stand. Each time a bar is added, the balance shifts, the diﬃculty changes and the incredible midair sculpture transforms. Can you add all your game pieces without making it fall? $16.99 MELISSAANDDOUG.COM
Splash Mat Stay clean and cute with the unique 52” reusable and durable splash mat. Place it under your child’s chair to catch spills and messy art projects or bring it on the next family picnic to the park or beach.
Create Your Own Paci Pacis that don’t suck! Give your baby a customized pacifier with your choice of multiple fonts, colors, designs and photos. Using state of the art, patented technology these pacifiers are 100 percent BPA, PVC and Phthalate free and come in two nipple sizes.
Incredible Illusions Magic Set Young magicians will improve their confidence and fine motor skills as they amaze family and friends with five exciting tricks! This fabulous set includes “Wizard’s Wonder,” “Mystery Cube,” “Dragon’s Den” and more! $24.99 MELISSAANDDOUG.COM
PaciGrip Put a leash on that paci with a universally compatible pacifier grip. Its simple design is strong but gentle on clothing, washable and available in a wide range of darling designs. Durable and non-toxic. $4.40-$5.50 BOOGINHEAD.COM
Paci Pouch Keep your pacifiers clean and close by with a pouch that is convenient and cute. With a zipper closure and snap strap, this pouch can easily attach to any item, is washable and can hold two pacifiers. $8 BOOGINHEAD.COM
SippiGrip No more lost or dirty cups! SippiGrip is an award winning, mom-invented product that prevents your child’s cup, bottle or toy from falling to the floor and getting lost or dirty. Perfect for on-the-go, SippiGrips are washable, durable and available in adorable colors and patterns. $6-$7.50 BOOGINHEAD.COM
You must be the change you want to see in the world. M.K. Gandhi
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By Ginger Henderson
School’s only been out for a week and you’re already hearing the dreaded, “I’m bored,” from the kids. Don’t despair! Grab a seat and a deck of cards and cure the summer boredoms with one of these fun math games.
Learning Is In SCHOOL’S OUT BUT
“Double It” (1 or more players) • 1 deck of playing cards, Jokers and face cards removed • 1 sheet of grid paper and crayons How to Play: Each player picks a different colored crayon. Shuﬄe the cards and place them all in a single deck, face down. The first player draws a card from the top. The player mentally doubles the number drawn and colors in that number of squares on the grid paper. Play continues until all spaces have been colored in. Whoever has the most boxes colored in at the end, wins!
Each 10 found is placed face up for other players to verify. First player then asks another player of their choosing for a number that will go with a number in his or her hand to make a 10. If the player has that number, it’s handed over. If not, the other player says “fishing for a 10” by taking a card from the deck. Game play continues until one player has no more cards in his or her hand. Variations: For a more challenging game, players can be allowed to use three cards to make a 10.
“Ten’s Castle” (2-4 players)
have picked up (10, 20, 30, 40…). The player with the most 10s wins. Variations: This game can be played with varying target numbers for additional practice – “Sixteen’s Castle” for example, where players would find combination to create 16. For a greater challenge, build the “card castle” face down so that players have to rely on memory to find the combinations. By spending a few minutes immersing your children in these games, you’ll not only cure their boredom, but you’ll extend their learning, too!
• 1 deck of cards, Jokers removed Variations: For older players, have the players choose two cards and use multiplication instead of addition.
“Fishing for a 10” (2-4 players) • 1 deck of playing cards, Jokers and face cards removed How to Play: Game play is similar to the game “Go Fish.” The dealer deals seven cards to each player and places the remaining cards in a pile. The players then look for 10s in their hands (two cards that, when added together, equal 10). 32 Flourish Magazine | June/2014
How to Play: Begin by creating a “card castle” – five cards face up on the first row, four cards face up on the second row, three cards face up on the third row, two cards face up on the fourth row and one card face up on the fifth row. Place the remaining cards in a deck near the castle. The first player searches the card castle for a 10 – a face card or a combination of cards that total 10. The player replaces the cards taken with cards from the deck. Game play then rotates to the next player. When all cards from the pile have been used, players count the 10s they
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Nothing is more important than family. It’s vital to have an emergency plan in place so your family knows exactly what to do in the case of an emergency. It’s also extremely important to make sure your children understand what an emergency is and how they should react in the event of one. Most importantly, hold practice drills until the plan is second nature; this will reduce panic in the event a real emergency occurs. To help parents in this task, here’s a list of ideas and reminders that will guide you through making an emergency plan for your home.
By Daddy Nickell, daddyncompany.com
Your Family Safe In the Event of an Emergency Teach Your Child to Call 911. Communicate. Parent-child communication is essential for success. Start by talking to your children to learn what they already know about dealing with emergencies, discuss different types of emergencies and ensure they understand exactly what constitutes an emergency. Make sure your discussion is age-appropriate; how you discuss the idea of an emergency will vary from toddlers to teenagers. Knowing there is a plan in place will make them feel secure. Communication is important before, during and after the emergency. Communicate before to ensure they know the drill and understand its importance, communicate during to keep them safe and calm and communicate after to understand how their experience was and to minimize trauma and stress.
Practice on a turned off cellphone or play phone. They will need to be able to give emergency people their full name, address and telephone number. This seems to be a very scary thing for a child to do since they understand the weight of calling it. Also practice answering the door for the police or EMT. Make sure they know only to open the door to uniformed oﬃcers.
Proper Alarms for Early Warning. Make sure you have smoke alarms and carbon monoxide detectors in place and test them every six months to ensure they’re working properly. These early warning devices could save your life. For information on where to purchase these devices and how to properly install them in your home visit www.firstalert. com or an alternate credible source. Explain to your children what they are and why they help.
Write Down Numbers.
Look to the Media.
Have emergency numbers written down on or near the fridge. Consider keeping an emergency binder that has phone numbers like the neighbors’ phone numbers and grandparents’ phone numbers. If your child is old enough to carry their own cell phone, make sure they have all of the important numbers programmed inside. Be sure your child knows how to use these numbers in case of emergency. Practice what they will say, and how they respond to the person arriving at the scene.
There are plenty of ways to teach children about emergencies. Use kid-friendly books, television shows or movies to help solidify the idea of an emergency, get advice from an additional source and help your child become more familiar with the whole concept. No matter how you develop an emergency plan for your family, the most important thing is that you’re prepared. You can also take a trip to your local fire or police department to have them meet and talk with some of the emergency personnel
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there. This will make them not quite as scared should they need to interact with them in a real emergency.
Keep an Emergency Safety Kit in the House. Make sure your children know where they can find the flashlights, blankets, heaters and other essentials they might need during the emergency.
Set a Meeting Place. Be sure to set a meeting place outside of your home in case of a home emergency, but also have one around town should there be a school or city-related emergency. Oftentimes cell phone use is impossible during an emergency so do not count on being able to talk to each other. If there is a place you all know to meet, you will eventually find each other. Include neighbors, friends and family in this plan. Make sure your child knows exactly who to call or who they are allowed to leave with. Robert Nickell (a.k.a. Daddy Nickell), father of 7, offers his "5 cents" worth of advice to expectant and new parents. Daddy Nickell is the founder of daddyncompany.com, delivery room duds, gifts and apparel designed to celebrate fatherhood and being a dad, and the Daily Daddy blog, where he covers topics about parenting from a Dad's perspective. Daddy Nickell is also the creator and producer of the ground breaking web series, My Life as a Dad, mylifeasadad.com, which showcases celebrity dads offering their personal fatherhood experiences and parenting tips.
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It seems that no matter how disciplined we are to declutter and purge, we’ll inevitably hang on to our favorite stuff. Just ask my mom. While she has never been one to collect antiques, vacation souvenirs and the like, she has meticulously collected family memorabilia. On my 40th birthday, she compiled a visual scrapbook of my life, including “welcome new baby” cards, a kindergarten art-fair painting, report cards and high-school prom newspaper clippings. Then, a few years ago, out of her treasured cedar chest came patches, pins, ribbons, dog tags and photos from my dad’s service in WWII and the Korean War. These were the unique makings for arrangements that she would create in shadow boxes for her grandsons, who were too young to know him when he passed away in 1988. “Knowing that I couldn’t part with these items was half the battle; the other half was knowing what to do with them,” she said when I asked about the inspiration behind creating these eye-catching glimpses of a chapter in my dad’s life. Now, thanks to the inspired visual gift, the treasured mini museum is on display to
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There is a collector in all of us, I’m sure of it. Even the minimalist architect must have paint swatches and “less is more” articles stashed away somewhere.
best advantage in their homes for friends and family to appreciate.
Father’s Day is coming up on June 16. It might be just the occasion to share with your kids or grandkids memories of an important man in their lives, whether he’s a grandfather, uncle or close friend.
them in a scrapbook or three-ring binder with short descriptions. Plastic sleeves designed for business and baseball cards have nice compartments for smaller items.
Here are some ideas:
Shadow boxes Collect small mementos and photos, and display them in shadow boxes, available online and at craft stores. Develop the visual story around a theme, such as a favorite sport, hobby or accomplishment.
Scrapbook Make copies of photos and documents such as immigration papers, academic degrees, newspaper articles, etc. Compile
Purchase, make or use an existing attractive case or a box with a lid. Place memorabilia inside, along with notes to describe the objects.
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By Ginger Henderson
That’s the number of married fathers who, according to the 2011 U.S. Census, act as the primary childcare provider for their children. While many still consider mothers to be bestsuited to rear children, today’s fathers are facing a whole new world – one where they are in charge of the household.
Fatherhood Redefined “My wife enjoys calling me ‘Mr. Mom,’” said stay-at-home dad Sean, father of an 11-year-old daughter and 7-year-old son. “I take it as a term of endearment.” It’s dads like Sean who truly feel the ever-changing perceptions surrounding fatherhood, childcare and gender roles. To him, these role reversals are a necessary – albeit unexpected – part of their family dynamic. “When I lost my job, I tried to see it as a new beginning,” said Sean. “My wife took on the role of breadwinner; right now, my biggest challenge is accepting that. My contribution to my family is to now help shape the kids and take care of the house rather than support it financially.” Though some men find it diﬃcult to adjust to such role reversals, others see their newfound purpose as only natural.
“Honestly, I haven’t paid much attention to people’s perceptions,” said temporary stay-at-home dad Matt. “The biggest thing I’ve learned from this experience is that unless you’ve experienced it for yourself, you truly can’t understand, so people’s perceptions really don’t matter to me.” “I get a lot of ‘How do you do it?’ comments, especially from women,” said Bo, single father of 10-year-old daughter, 9-year-old twin sons and 7-year-old son. “Most women I talk to seem to think that it’s too tough of a job for men to handle. I get the impression that they think I need a woman to help me.” Society’s skepticism is but one of the many hurdles dads like Sean, Matt and Bo must overcome. Financing child support, balancing daily routines and disciplining strategies also top the list. “For me, it’s been about balance,” said Sean. “I’ve had to find the balance between being the disciplinary figure in the home to the one that the kids turn to for help.”
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“I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve relied on my wife up until this point to handle things with the kids,” said Matt. “So, finding myself the one responsible for the daily routines and needs has been diﬃcult. There’s a loss of freedom that’s tough to swallow – I can’t make plans on the fly like I could before. Everything has to be thought out and planned for ahead of time. “Getting help with child support is a large hurdle for me,” said Bo. “There’s a perception in society that men should be the only ones to be held financially responsible for their children, but that’s simply not true.” Childcare costs can be a real struggle, especially for single parents. The U.S. Department of Agriculture estimates that it costs $241,080 to raise a child to the age of 18 – that number doubles or triples if you have multiple children and no, it doesn’t include the cost of college. That’s a lot of dough for one person to raise. And yet, stay-at-home dads experience something many can’t – the joy of watching their children through every step of life. Caring for children, no matter if you’re a man or a woman, is certainly a labor of love. Flourish Magazine | June/2014 37
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You’ve read that growth hormones in milk might be causing early puberty. You’re concerned that increases in breast cancer are related to growth hormones in meat and dairy products. The World Health Organization has expressed concern about antibiotics in meat and dairy products, which has resulted in a ban in Canada and parts of Europe. The thought of pesticide laden produce makes your squirm. And yet, you just can’t afford to eat organic on a budget. Think again! Be Familiar with the “Dirty Dozen List” - It’s the list of the 12 most contaminated fruits and veggies: Apples, bell peppers, celery, cherries, grapes, lettuce, nectarines, peaches, pears, potatoes, spinach and strawberries. On the flip side, the least contaminated produce is asparagus, avocado, bananas, broccoli, cabbage, corn, kiwi, mango, onions, papaya, peas and pineapple. Use this information to prioritize your organic shopping list.
By Kristl Story, thebudgetdiet.com
Eat Organic ON A Budget
If you can’t garden in your own backyard, look for a community garden. What is a community garden? It’s a piece of land gardened by a group of people, and you typically rent your plot. Visit LocalHarvest.org to find a community garden near you.
Buy in bulk If you avoid organic produce at Costco and Sam’s simply because you can’t use it before it spoils, try this…split it with a neighbor! When it comes to organic meats, buy in bulk and freeze.
Visit Your Local Farmer’s Market
Try store brands
You’ll find super-fresh organic produce, meat and dairy products for less!
Organic store brands are popping up every day, and store brands will typically save you
The more I want to get something done, the less I call it work. Richard Bach
25 percent! Even better, most grocery chains will offer you a full refund if you don’t like their product as well as the name brand … sounds like a win-win!
Buy seasonal produce Don’t buy watermelon in December or pears in August. If you buy seasonal produce, it’s always cheaper.
Kristl is the CEO of her family and also the maid, the cook, the coupon queen and yes, the bargain shopper. Kristl’s tips have been featured in publications like Consumer Reports, All You Magazine and Good Housekeeping as well as Mint. com, MSN Money and KHOU-TV. Discover more frugal living tips at TheBudgetDiet.com. Flourish Magazine | June/2014 39
People’s Pharmacy By Joe Gra ed and Teresa on, M.S., Graedon, P h.D.
Treatment Out Of Control?
pointed out that treating such patients does not offer them any benefit but does pose risks (JAMA Internal Medicine online, May 13, 2013). In the 21st century, doctors pride themselves on practicing evidence-based medicine. Recent studies of treatment for hypertension suggest, though, that practice is sometimes influenced by belief and habit as much as by evidence. Prescribing drugs for patients whose blood pressure is 160/100 or higher is well-supported by research that shows such treatment saves lives. What is less clear, however, is whether patients with milder hypertension actually benefit from drug treatment. A systematic review of high-quality clinical trials by the independent Cochrane Collaboration revealed that antihypertensive drugs have not been shown to benefit patients with mild hypertension and no pre-existing cardiovascular disease (Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews, Nov. 14, 2012). Mild hypertension was defined with the upper number (systolic blood pressure) running between 140 and 159 and the lower number (diastolic blood pressure) between 90 and 99. Most physicians in the U.S. have been trained to treat patients with blood pressure in this range using medications. British doctors, on the other hand, tend to be more conservative. A recent commentary by a London physician, “Waste and Harm in the Treatment of Mild Hypertension,”
The author underscores the influence of the pharmaceutical industry on existing treatment guidelines. Lowering the threshold for blood pressure treatment has been called “disease creep.” It created 13 million new “hypertensive” patients in the U.S. overnight. The physician who pioneered hypertension screening, Dr. Julian Tudor Hart, responded to the Cochrane analysis, “Why has it taken more than 30 years to reach this conclusion, when it was already evident from any careful and critical reading of the trials claimed originally to justify intervention in the diastolic range 90-100 mm Hg?” People’s Pharmacy readers know that our first recommendations for lowering mildly elevated blood pressure usually are the nondrug approaches doctors refer to as therapeutic lifestyle changes (TLC). These include diet, exercise, relaxation therapies, smoking cessation, alcohol moderation and certain mineral supplements. Following through on such lifestyle interventions is challenging, but it can lower blood pressure nearly as well as medication. TLCs do not trigger side effects and often have additional health benefits. Both the Mediterranean diet and the DASH diet (Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension) have strong evidence to support their positive influence on cardiovascular outcomes.
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People often complain about dizziness or sexual side effects with blood pressure medicine. ACE inhibitors like lisinopril and ramipril can lead to persistent coughing that can be incredibly disruptive. One reader reported: “My doctor told me that the cough that developed a month after taking lisinopril could not be due to the medicine. He said it would have happened anyway. I was given an inhaler for asthma. After using it to no avail, I insisted that we change the BP medicine, and the cough disappeared.” To practice evidence-based medicine, doctors need to keep up with the research and follow their oath to “First, do no harm.”
Joe Graedon is a pharmacologist. Teresa Graedon holds a doctorate in medical anthropology and is a nutrition expert. Their syndicated radio show can be heard on public radio. In their column, Joe and Teresa Graedon answer letters from readers. Write to them in care of this newspaper or email them via their Web site: www.PeoplesPharmacy.com. Flourish Magazine | June/2014 41
By Sarah G. Mason
If you haven’t yet met this wonder-food, it’s about time you were introduced. Though flaxseed has been around for centuries, many of us are only just discovering flax’s incredible health benefits. Don’t be fooled by these unremarkable little seeds; the potential of this superfood might surprise you. Flaxseed is composed of a variety of healthy elements, primarily omega-3 fatty acids, fiber and lignans. The powerful combination of omega-3 and high fiber is the ultimate diabetes fighter, nutritionists say. Others, such as the chemical engineers at the Indian Institute of Technology, tend to agree. This team of engineers conducted a 3-month study of flaxseed’s effect on diabetic patients, finding that a therapeutic, flaxseed-enriched diet significantly reduced participants’ blood glucose levels. Additional research also suggests that lignans – the third important element in flaxseed – modestly improves blood sugar in adults with type 2 diabetes. Overall, flax is a diabetes-fighting machine. Omega-3s found in flaxseed can help combat other diseases, too. The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition published one investigation which studied how flax oil affects inflammation. Patients who consumed a little flax oil each day saw a 30 percent decrease in inflammatory disorders, such as rheumatoid arthritis. In addition to arthritis, omega-3s can combat Alzheimer’s, heart disease, ADHS and osteoporosis. Since flaxseed is the richest plant-based source of omega-3 fatty acid, it’s certainly something worth noticing! Feeling down in the dumps? Try adding 2-3 tablespoons of flaxseed to your daily diet. Flax contains docosahexaenoic acid (DHA), a mood-boosting 42 Flourish Magazine | June/2014
compound that is essential for our brain cells’ proper functioning. It’s especially important that woman add this to their diets, since 85 percent of us aren’t getting enough of it. Now, if you’ve got the blues from menopause symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats, and moodiness, you’re in luck. Flax is a phytoestrogen, which acts as a natural hormone stabilizer and will lessen the symptoms of menopause. Try incorporating flax into any of your normal meals; your mind and body will thank you. Of course, we all know about the importance of getting enough omega-3’s and eating a diet high in fiber, but what about lignans? Flaxseed is certainly high in them; it contains 800 times more lignans than any other tested plant food. Why is this important? Lignans are thought to be cancer-protective compounds. One study published in Oxford Journals, Carcinogenesis researched this theory, finding that “Flaxseed and its lignin components reduced mammary tumor growth at a late stage of carcinogenisis.”Apart from breast cancer, studies have also shown flaxseed to prevent the development of colon cancer and prostate cancer. It’s a potentially life-saving finding. Though flax was once an unknown plant, it’s quickly rising in popularity. Incorporate flaxseed into your normal meals or make it in a special dish. Either way, this small superfood isn’t one to overlook.
To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing. Elbert Hubbard
Who wouldn’t love to burn extra calories while lounging on the sofa? All it takes is a little metabolic nudge and you can! Give your metabolism a boost by adding these simple daily habits to your routine. Eat breakfast within one hour of waking to jumpstart your metabolism. Be sure to choose foods high in fiber and protein, like eggs and berries.
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By Sarah G. Mason
QUICK TIPS TO
Metabolism Pour a cup of coﬀee with cream, no sugar. Studies show that caffeine slightly boosts your metabolic rate, as long as you stay away from sweet creamers – the extra carbs will negate your efforts.
at work and then take the stairs – not the elevator. These small steps will elevate your heart rate, even after you’ve settled into your oﬃce, boosting your overall metabolism.
Next time you hit the gym, take advantage of interval training – bursts of high-intensity followed by short breaks of low-intensity. No matter whether you’re running, swimming or walking, you’ll consume more oxygen and make your body work harder to burn energy.
Trying to lose weight?
Add salmon, herring and tuna
Don’t starve yourself. Gone are the days of 1,000 calorie diets – cutting calories significantly will only do your metabolism harm.
to tonight’s dinner menu to get your omega-3s. Omega-3s balance blood sugar and reduce inflammation, helping your body regulate metabolism.
Go ahead and graze. Snacking throughout the day can help you curb hunger and eat fewer overall calories – just be sure to keep snacks around 300 calories each. We see things not as they are, but as we are. H. M. Tomlinson
Hit the weights Yes, you too ladies! Muscle uses more energy than fat, even while resting. The more muscle you have, the faster your metabolism will be. Flourish Magazine | June/2014 43
WHAT DOES YOUR
Handwriting Say About You?
Did you know that as you scribble away on that to-do-list, your handwriting is revealing over 5,000 unique personality traits? The size, shape and spacing of your letters all allude to different characteristics and can even be used to detect lies or health issues. Read on to discover what your handwriting says about you.
Letter Style • Rounded letters – you’re creative and artistic • Pointed letters – you’re intelligent, forward and curious • Letters that string together – you are logical and make careful decisions
Your E’s Loop • Your e’s have a narrow loop – you tend to be skeptical of others and are not easily influenced • Your e’s have a wide loop – you are open minded
How You Dot Your I’s Letter Size • Large letters – you’re outgoing, people-oriented and outspoken • Medium letters – you’re flexible and well-adjusted • Small letters – you’re meticulous, cautious, studious and concentrated
Space Between Letters • Wide spacing between letters – you enjoy freedom and adventure • Small spacing between letters – you prefer to be in the company of others
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• Letters slant to the right – you are open to new things and enjoy making friends • Letters slant to the left – you’re introverted. If you are right handed and your letters slant to the left, you may yearn to rebel • Letters don’t have a slant – you’re practical and aren’t easily influenced by your own emotions
• You dot your i’s high up – you’re creative • You dot your i’s with a hollow circle – you’re a visionary and a little child-like • You dot your i’s with a slant – you’re self-critical and don’t easily learn from your mistakes • You dot your i’s directly over the i – you’re detailoriented and emphatic in what you say and do • You dot your i’s to the left – you tend to procrastinate
Pressure While Writing • You write with heavy pressure – you take things seriously and do well with commitment • You write with light pressure – you are sensitive and empathetic
Writing Speed • You write quickly – you are impatient and don’t like wasting time • You write slowly – you are methodic and organized
The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones. Chinese Proverb
Every Day is Gameday
In Gainesville every day is Gameday, only the venues change! Paddle the Santa Fe River, dine at one of our delicious local restaurants or search for treasures at local boutiques and vintage shops downtown. So whether you love going outdoors or simply going out to eat, we’ve got just what you’re looking for. Gainesville, where nature and culture meet.
Gainesville is more than gameday. Within 45 minutes you can paddle a 72 degree spring fed river and then be in Downtown Gainesville watching an award winning play at the Hippodrome Theatre.
Two of those are definitely a cut above the rest, Blue Highway Pizza and Satchel’s Pizza offering delicious, mouthwatering pies. Pizza always pairs well with delicious beer. Gainesville is home to the award-winning Swamp Head Brewery. You can find their brews, like Stump Knocker (an American Pale Ale) or Big Nose (an India Pale Ale), in local bars and restaurants and you can tour Homemade pies at Blue Highway the brewery on Tuesdays. tasting room, ‘The Wetlands’, is now open seven days a week.
The University of Florida’s Cultural Plaza is home to several attractions, Craft Beer at Swamp Head Brewery in Gainesville including the Florida Museum of Natural History. Here visitors will find Florida fossils, the largest collection of moths and butterflies in North America, and much more. Step into the Butterfly Rainforest and walk with butterflies, moths and birds from around the world. Gainesville’s restaurants truly embrace local and organic food. Some of our favorites include Emiliano’s Café, Blue Gill Quality Foods, and Manuel’s. Being a college town, of course Gainesville has its share of pizza joints.
You can also enjoy local brews in downtown Gainesville at Tall Paul’s Brew House, where Alligator Brewing Co. creates their own craft beer.
Butterfly Rainforest at the Florida Museum of Natural History
Experience Gainesville, the place where nature and culture meet.
Vision without action is daydream. Action without vision is nightmare. Japanese Proverb
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