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DEC-JAN 2015

KAMBUA

ON LIFE, FAITH AND MUSIC Your Children & Christmas by Maureen Okinda

Mind, Body and Spirit:

A FITNESS CHALLENGE! BASIC BUSINESS PRINCIPLES for the African Woman by Beatrice Oreta Success Feature

EV. HILDA KAHIA


PUBLISHER AND CEO Catherine Gathuka Franklin

Mission Statement

To help African women navigate life in the diaspora.

Vision Statement

To be a God-centered magazine that empowers African Women to navigate life in the diaspora eectively in order to thrive in all areas of their lives.

We Thrive Magazine is published by Thrive, Inc. USA P.O.Box 25312, Dallas, TX 75225 info@wethrivemagazine.com

contents

EDITOR IN CHIEF Remi Roy

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OFFICIAL Photographer 214-529-8427

Beauty Tips for

Winter

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EDITORIAL

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COVER STORY

Kambua: On Life, Faith and Music

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CHRISTMAS

A message of Hope by Beatrice Wambui Njujuna

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SINGLES

An out-of-the-box Christmas by Faith Imani

COO Musi Kiarie

10-11 PARENTING

Your Children & Christmas by Maureen Okinda

12-13 GIVING BACK

Faith Wanjiru: Selfless Service by Julius Irungu Njuguna

14-15 DEVOTIONAL

A Faith Experience

16-17 MARRIAGE

Avoiding Conflict with Relatives during the Holidays by Julia N. Sanna

18-20 SUCCESS FEATURE

Evangelist Hilda Kahia

21-22 BUSINESS

Basic Business Principles for the African Woman by Beatrice Oreta

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Office Party Etiquette by Eleanor Maree

ETIQUETTE

25-26 HEALTH & FITNESS

Mind, Body and Spirit: A fitness challenge!

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How to avoid overindulging during the holidays

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Let's Talk Freebies by MMHodari

30-31 FASHION & STYLE

Velile Nkolomi

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5 Beauty Tips for Winter

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by Diddy Roselyn


Letter from Publisher

Diaspora is whether or not to embrace Santa Claus. To what extent do we want our children to be engrained in the Christmas culture in the countries where we live? Further, how do you handle this time of the year that can feel lonely as we miss our loved ones back home? For those of us who have many relatives in diaspora, how do we handle the get-togethers that can be quite so stressful? For the New Year resolution makers, we present to you four lovely ladies with busy lives who just decided enough was enough. They got off the couch and decided to bring back fitness in their lives. The end result was successful completion of a half marathon in

Greetings,

We are excited to bring to you our December –January issue. December is always a special month of the year. Not only is it the month we celebrate the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ, it is also a time of reflection as the year comes to an end. January is the month to begin again when we set goals and set pace on the rest of the year. We worked on this issue with all this in mind as we asked ourselves, “what does the Diaspora African Woman need at this time of the year?” In this issue we feature two inspirational individuals. On the cover story Kambua Mathu, a gorgeous multitalented young lady who relocated back to Kenya from diaspora. She shares about her faith, music and life including the challenges to relocating back to Kenya after living in diaspora. The second inspirational story is under our success stories column where we featured Evangelist Hilda Kahia a beautiful woman who also is multitalented and a successful businesswoman. Far away from our countries of origin, we are adopting or have adapted to new ways to celebrate Christmas. One of the topics that are of question to us in the 2

5 months. These women are wives, mothers most with small children, career women and extremely involved in their churches. They share how they did it on this issue. Draw inspiration from them as you work out your own goals for 2015. In this season of giving and sharing we bring you a must read story of a young man as he acknowledges how one woman made the difference in his life and the lives of many others. From a street boy to a young married man who holds a college degree. He beams with joy, living a life full of promise and zeal having accomplished so much already. This story is sure to warm your heart. These are just a few of the stories you will find in this issue and we hope you enjoy them. We await your feedback. Send us your thoughts to our email – info@wethrivemagazine or make a comment on facebook .

From all of us at We Thrive Magazine, Merry Christmas and a Blessed New Year


cover story

Kambua:

On Life, Faith and Music

Her music is inspirational and soul lifting, her demeanor calm and confident. She has graced stages and TV screens and has blessed us with her words, both sung and written. Her life has not been a fairy tale but she credits the Almighty for all she has been privileged to do and experience. Kambua is a breath of fresh air. This wife, musician, blogger and all round media personality just shines with grace. It was our pleasure to talk to Kambua and bring this interview to you.

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WTM: Please tell us about yourself. In your own words, who is Kambua? K: I am a daughter of the Most High God, a wife, a music minister, a blogger (kambuam.blogspot.com), and a media personality. WTM: How was your growing up years like? Was there any indication in your early years that you would be where you are today? K: My childhood and growing up was very adventurous and a lot of fun. I grew up in a Christian home, and have two brothers. I was a tom-boy for most of my early years‌climbed trees with the boys, rode bikes;

sing but I never imagined the magnitude of the vision God had placed in my heart. God continues to blow my mind! WTM: When did you become a Christian and what has the journey been for you? K: I gave my life to Christ when I was a very young, but it was later in my teen years that I made a commitment to walk with God. This decision was yet to be tested through the preceding years. I made many choices, some of which were unfavorable, but I thank God that He used them all for His glory. My life is a testimony of what the grace of God can do.

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WTM: Our mission at We Thrive Magazine is to help women navigate life successfully and we do know that sometimes unexpected things happen that challenge our faith. In the light of this how do you handle adversity? What encouragement would you give to young women out there going through a hard time? K: Challenges are part and parcel of life’s journey. Scripture says that the testing of our faith produces patience. I have learned through my fair share of adversity that God is closest to me at those times. I see how much I have grown through the difficult situations in my life. This year for instance, I had to say goodbye to my beloved Father. I never imagined my life without him, and yet God called Him home. The pain is like no other I have ever experienced, but I continue to see traces of God all around me, because had He not carried me, I would surely have fallen apart. God has built in each one of us the capacity to endure whatever comes our way. And then He uses those situations for our good and His glory.

there was never a dull moment! Being brought up in a Christian home was a blessing, but not necessarily the easiest place to be. I wrestled between wanting to do what was right, and fitting in with other young people. The struggle eventually led to my personal journey- a search for truth. I wanted to form a belief system based on a personal encounter with God. As a child I had big dreams. I knew that I would one day want to

WTM: What is your favorite scripture? K: I have lots, because different passages speak to me at different times. Allow me to state several: Psalm 23, Jeremiah 29:11, 1Corinthians 2:9, and Psalm 91. WTM: Today you are known all over East Africa and beyond, how has your faith impacted your career? 4


K: My desire is that ultimately people will get to know God through my life. It’s a great honor to have my music grow beyond Kenya, but it gives me greater joy when people have an encounter with God through my music and career in general. Having my music play beyond our borders is purely God’s favor, and I am continually awed and honored. WTM: What decision have you made in life that can be credited for your success? K: Simply, my decision to follow Christ. My success this far can only be credited to God. Every other decision I have made has been as a result of Him ordering my steps. And where I have at times ‘missed it’, He has graciously steered me back on to the path designed for me. WTM: Your decision to pursue music must have been a pivotal one; you have also worked as an actress, radio and TV host, how would you encourage young women still struggling to discover their purpose in life? K: I would encourage young women to identify their area of interest- the thing(s) that they do that give them the most satisfaction. Seek to discover what you’re most passionate about. I have learned that if you can discover something you would do even free of charge, then that is where your passion lies. It is important to love what you do in order to find the drive to do it. WTM: You lived in Canada before moving back to Kenya; please tell us about your experience as a young African woman studying abroad. K: My experience was great, and yet bore its fair share of challenges. I was among the minority, and that in itself was a challenge, but I thank God that He accorded me the opportunity to share with North America a little bit of what Africa is all about. I realize that there are a lot of stereotypes about Africans in general, and I was determined to be an ambassador of my country and my continent, by enlightening the people I lived and worked with simply by living and telling the African story. If each one of us can play our role in representing our countries and continent, we would demystify a lot of assumptions about what Africa is.

whose health had been deteriorating. I began working on my music at the time, and before I knew it God began opening doors for me. Eventually, I found myself caught between a rock and a hard place. I knew that I had plans to go back to Canada, but I also felt that it would be a great disservice to the opportunities God was bringing my way. After deliberating for almost a year, I finally made the decision to move back. A year later I attended my graduation in Calgary, AB, and officially moved back to the motherland. I believe it is one of the best decisions I ever made, although it has had its fair share of hurdles. WTM: What challenges did you face at the beginning of your career and ministry? Were there people in your life you looked to for support and encouragement? Please tell us about them. K: Initially the challenge I faced was trying to get my music ‘out there’. I remember doing a lot of interviews that never aired or went on print. No one knew me, and very few people want to take a chance on someone they do not know. I knocked on many doors, most of which remained shut, but God opened some which were very strategic and served as a stepping stone to greater things. I appreciate people like Esther Wahome, Mbuvi, Kevin Mulei, and K-Krew who gave me platforms to minister and grow my music. The other challenge I faced was trying to re-adjust to a different system of doing things. I have learned not to ‘sweat the small stuff’. I have also had to deal with a lot of misconceptions about who I am, simply because I spent a good chunk of my young adult life out of the country. I would not have it any other way though. In fact, I encourage people to allow their children to study abroad, live abroad, or even travel on short visits just to broaden their perspective and worldview.

WTM: How was your experience of transitioning back to Kenya? Why did you decide to go back and was it a difficult decision to make? Did you expect your career to take off the way it did? Or did you have doubts about making it in Kenya? K: Well, initially my intention was to visit home and return to Canada for my Masters degree. I wanted to spend time with my family, and especially my father 5


WTM: What encouragement would you have for women in diaspora considering moving back home to Africa to pursue their dreams? Any specific things they need to consider or put in place before taking the plunge? K: I will say this: taking the plunge is VERY scary. But, just like your dreams, they’re not worth pursuing if they do not scare you. You have what it takes to move home and start a life here. It’s not for everyone though. I know people who have no intention of moving back home, and that’s perfectly OK. But I also know a lot of people who are buying time because they are afraid to face the unknown. I would suggest even a summer vacation. Come home for a short while and test the waters. My guess is that you will realize you actually have what it takes to move back and build a life here. Above all, your steps are ordered by God. Whether you choose to live abroad or move back home, my desire for you is that you will bloom and thrive wherever it is God places you.

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christmas

Growing up, Christmas was all about the nice things. It meant good food, new clothing, a visit to distant relatives or a big family get-together. It was always something to look forward to. My mum would buy us new clothes at a certain boutique. We went there every year without fail. Unfortunately my mum died and things changed. One Christmas, with mum gone and Dad working away from home, I gathered my sisters and we went and got our dresses from the boutique and never said a word to anybody. We just couldn't imagine Christmas without new outfits. That is what Christmas meant to us. Now we are grown and Christmas has taken on new meaning. Times have changed and we don’t have to wait until Christmas to have something new. So the question is, what is Christmas? What is the message of Christmas? The Christmas story is intriguing. As a little child I could not imagine why my precious savior had to be born in a manger. I could not comprehend why nobody had space for him at the Inn. Worse still I could not imagine how cold it must have been for the new born. This thought slowly erased my desire for a very fancy Christmas; my savior was humble and lowly. He did not mind the circumstances of his birth. He was here to save and rescue the souls of men. I also imagined it must have been tough for the teenage girl, Mary, the mother of my savior. How could she possibly handle the pregnancy, as an unmarried girl? She was a virgin but she risked the ridicule she would face. She risked losing it all including her beloved fiancÊ, Joseph. She was ready for the mission from her womb to the tomb. I learnt from this woman that Christmas is about surrender and yielding to the calling of God in our lives. It is about the courage to be an extraordinary person, to exhibit the glory of God in the most unfavorable circumstances. Christmas is a beautiful story of goodwill to all men. It is a story of selfless, God-guided endeavors. With Christmas and obedience comes honor and rewards. A couple that was poor and lowly, that could barely afford a motel room was rewarded. Gifts of gold were sent from afar. Instead of the horrible smelling cow dung there was frankincense and myrrh. (Matthew 2:1-12) 7

I learnt that when we obey and carry the vision God places in our lives, then we will have the provision that enables it to happen. God will send people from afar just to bless us and bring whatever we need to be effective and efficient in our calling. Christmas carries with it a message of hope to the vision bearers. Your mission will be made possible, it will happen and it will be a blessing without sorrow. Today, may our hearts be filled with love beyond ourselves. May our minds be coupled with the joy of Christmas that we may touch a soul. May we have a chance to redefine Christmas and the joy it brings to all humankind Merry Christmas and Blessed Holidays By Beatrice Wambui Njujuna

Christmas:

A message of

Hope


singles

For most people the holidays are probably the most exciting time of the year. Think getting off work, travelling for leisure, spending time with loved ones, receiving and giving gifts, or just taking a well-deserved rest after a long year. However, amidst all that merry making, it can be one of the most challenging times for singles.

Christmas An out-of-the-box

Let’s face it, you don’t want to be the only person in the room who came alone, or the one who gets to answer those nerve grating questions about when you’re getting married. As hard as that may seem, it is NOT the end of the world. And no, you don’t have to avoid those family gatherings. What happened to enjoying your single days? And making the best of every day, not to mention every holiday season that comes along? So let’s explore, shall we? What fun, out of the box things can you do during the holidays that can bring joy to others? Remember, giving never goes out of fashion. Plus it gives you that inner glow. 8


HERE ARE SOME IDEAS:

1.Know a couple looking to spend some time alone during the holidays? Why not offer to baby sit their children? Children love the holidays. What a great opportunity to share their pure joy and maybe even help them better understand the reason for the season. I recently offered to spend time with the children of a couple as they went out on a date. I was not prepared for the fun that I had with these little ones.

2. Volunteer at a shelter, a hospital, or orphanage - the options are limitless. Some people would give anything to be in your shoes; single or not. They have no one to call their own; they are ill and unable to enjoy the simple pleasures of life; they have nowhere to live. Bring a gift along. Share the joy and the spirit of Christmas. 3. Get your friends together and have a blast. This is not a pity party; this is a thank-God-for-such-a-great-year get together. Never mind that this isn’t November, take the time to share the things you’re grateful for. You’re be amazed at how blessed you really are. 4. Help plan holiday events at your church. Christmas Carols, Concerts, Outreaches, Community Service, etc. happen during the holidays. Why not get involved and serve with other like-minded people excited to be able to help make something awesome happen during the holidays? 5.Take that dream trip. What’s on your bucket list? Visit China? See Princess Elsa at Disney World? Or finally go on that scary ride at six-flags? Whatever it is, do it at Christmas! Save and plan if you must. If you can make it happen, don’t hold back! Don’t let the holidays be a boring, lonely or dreaded time. Be creative! Come up with ideas and activities that will make it that time of the year to look forward to. You deserve to live life to the full! By Faith Imani

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parenting

What is Christmas to you? The celebration of Christ’s birth? A time to be with family? A time of festivities, shopping, gift giving, travelling? Or maybe a time to just stay at home and relax? Does Christmas elicit sweet memories, or thoughts you’d rather not remember? By Maureen Okinda

Your

CHILDREN & CHRISTMAS Your idea of Christmas will influence how you approach it and this will in turn affect your children’s experience. This is 2014 and believe it or not, your children have expectations at Christmas time. So let’s explore a few concerns African (and most immigrant) families have concerning Christmas.

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1.Gifts under the Christmas tree?

For children Christmas is all about gifts. In first world countries kids expect to receive the gifts they have dreamt about all year. It is different in other parts of the world but that is the reality here. Gifts can be extremely overwhelming during this season but you don’t have to despair. One thing you want to do however is cut down your children’s gift list and begin to talk to them early enough about your capabilities. Now, it doesn’t matter what the gifts are, just try and make the moment special for them. Children love surprises and nothing excites them more than looking under the Christmas tree and finding gifts with their names on them. I must say this is a western tradition that I have comfortably adapted to.

2.Is Santa Claus real?

This is a huge deal for kids during Christmas. Most children under the age of ten believe in the Santa Claus myth. Even though it is not true I must say it makes the season fun. So do you tell them if Santa is real or not? Well, I would say wait until they are about nine or ten and naturally begin to have doubts, and then tell them how Santa came about. History tells us Santa was a monk in the 3rd century named St. Nicholas who gave up his wealth to help the poor and sick. Santa may not be real but the story of St Nicholas sure makes a great teaching moment.

3.Keeping it all under budget.

Christmas can be very overwhelming financially. Irrespective of your plans for the season, budgeting is one of the most important things to consider. Save money in advance for affordable gifts, use layaway opportunities and only shop gifts that you can afford. Begin to talk to your children early about your capabilities for the year. Financial situations may vary from year to year. If you are planning a trip make sure you save and plan early. Look for great deals; I love me some groupon!

4.Do fun things with your children.

Bake cookies or cook a special holiday dish. Take them along as you volunteer and visit the less privileged. Teach them the real value of Christmas. Spend time with them. Make memories. Have fun. Your presence is more important than any presents they may receive. Merry Christmas!

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giving back

Faith Wanjiru:

Selfless Service

by Julius Irungu Njuguna 12


I was born in 1985 as the last of four siblings. My mother didn’t earn enough to keep us in school; but, she tried to provide us with one meal a day. We spent our days playing with other kids and ferrying water using donkeys to supplement her income.

We were so poor even the poor called us poor. We would loiter the streets and spend time at the huge Dandora Dumping Site, in Nairobi, Kenya which is a common breeding ground for criminals. I started collecting waste papers, plastics, and scrap metals to sell and make a living. I soon adjusted to the street life, and could not stay away from hardcore drugs and in particular glue-sniffing; which is common among most street children. I was about my usual business one rainy evening in December 1992 when I got the attention of Ms. Faith Wanjiru –Founder of Imani Children’s Home. She approached me and told me she had seen me crossing the road. She asked me deep questions about my past and what I was doing in the streets. I told her my story and she offered to take me back to school. I was reluctant. I told her I was too old for school. She insisted and invited me to her apartment. She took me to Imani Children’s Home, where she welcomed me, dressed me with new clothes and offered me breakfast. I happened to be the tenth child admitted in Imani since its inception in January, 1992. Surely the Lord delivered me from the pit of destruction. Mummy Wanjiru began homeschooling me and later signed me up in primary school. I passed my exams and attended a Boys High School from 2000-2003. In 2004 I went on to Kampala International University-Uganda where I graduated with a bachelor’s degree in Business Administration with 4.5/5 GPA. After graduation I went from hawking Safaricom Airtime to working in an AAR office filing and sorting invoices. I later worked in several positions as a Claims Assistant to the Claims Manager, Personal Assistant to the Marketing Director and Client Relations Executive until February 2011. I settled in Dallas in 2011 with Catherine, my beautiful wife of five years. Today, I work with Santander Consumer USA as a Senior Credit Analyst. Words cannot express how I feel when I remember who I was and all it took for me to be where I am today. I thank God and the gifted angel who is our mummy. I thank God for this unsung heroine who has committed her life to rescuing over 3,000 children. She has a big heart. She shared her bedroom with abandoned bed wetting babies. She sacrificed her youth, and her own chance of having biological children to take care of us. I thank all the donors and supporters of Imani Children`s Home. If you are reading this, kindly support this unsung heroine in her work. For more information on Imani please visit www.imanikids.org. To donate send funds to imanufunds@gmail.com

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A devotional

experience A Message for You! Luke 1:29 & 35 (NKJV): (29)

But when she saw

him, she was troubled at his saying, and considered what manner of greeting this was.‌ (35) And the angel answered and said to her, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Highest will overshadow you; therefore, also, that Holy One who is to be born will be called the

SON OF GOD. 14


HAVE YOU EVER BEEN A RECIPIENT OF SOME NEWS AND COULDN’T QUITE TELL IF IT WAS GOOD OR BAD? DID YOU FIND YOURSELF RUSHING OFF TO SEE YOUR BEST FRIEND WILLA AND TO ASK HER OPINION OR MAKE A WILD DASH TO THE PHONE TO CALL SISTER “PRAY SOME MORE” FOR INTERPRETATION OF THE NEWS? Or were you too perplexed that you fell on your knees and asked God what was the meaning of the news is? We probably may have done all three and some, or even possibly dismissed the news as ‘fake’ and ‘not for me’ – But dear Woman of God, Mary was not only perplexed by the manner in which the news was relayed, but also at the content of the news! So, we are on the same page thus far….

However, has it ever occurred to you why Mary was chosen and why the news had to be delivered in such a manner? For goodness’ sake, Mary was only 14 years old and a virgin when the ‘great annunciation’ was made and what could she possibly know about sex and being pregnant out of wedlock? And she was to be ‘with child’ - the son of the Living God?

perfect, yet the Bible says that He is the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob (all of these men had ‘issues’, yet it is by the God of these men that we embrace, turn to and call upon!) and He is no respecter of persons. And just to imagine that He, God, will show up and show off at your expense, and that He will glorify Himself in your life, and through your mistakes, hurdles and imperfections! So you, Ms. Immigrant lady, the woman with the heavy accent and thick eyebrows, God has a special message for you this Christmas season, and it has your name written all over it. Don’t worry about your imperfections and your limitations. Quit thinking how impossible, or how unlikely your situation is to be destined for greatness. Our words may limit us, but we serve a limitless God. God sent this message, in this season, at such at time as this, just for you! Take it - it is yours! May your heart, mind, body, soul and spirit, thrive! Thriving In His Love, Musi Kiarie – COO/ We Thrive Magazine

Point number two, where else did an Angel, and not just one of the many angles in heaven, but Angel Gabriel himself, who stood before the Almighty God the Omniscient, Omnipresent and Omnipotent God – go to deliver such news? How many times do we gawk our eyes and question our thinking into what God is doing in our lives, in spite of our limitations, inadequacies and social status? Why would God wait for the ‘imperfect timing’ to show up and show off, amidst our brokenness and naiveté? But isn’t that just like God – making the foolish things to confound the wise? Paul wrote in 1st Corinthians 1:27 that “But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty” (NKJV). And pray do tell, where did God use the perfect person for the right kind of news to be delivered to His people? It surely wasn’t Moses the stutterer, nor was it Noah the drunk. And it definitely wasn’t David the adulterer and murderer or Jacob the liar. And girlfriend, it wasn’t even Hosea’s wife the prostitute, Miriam the gossip or Martha the worrisome worry-wart. HA! None of these were 15


marriage

AVOIDING

Conflict

with Relatives during the Holidays By Julia N. Sanna, MS, LMFT

So your relatives are coming over for the holidays and you are in a panic about having your family or in-laws in the same room due to familiar long-standing conflicts. Here are a few pointers on how to host them and not lose your mind or your marriage:

•GET ON THE SAME PAGE WITH YOUR SPOUSE BEFORE YOUR RELATIVES GET THERE. Express your concerns to each other and agree on a plan of action. Each spouse addresses their side of the family – blood speaks to blood. •SET THE TONE WITH THE FIRST ARRIVAL. Have a funny welcome mat on the door maybe with the words ‘peace in this house’ or use the word ‘peace be with you’ in welcoming your guests. They will laugh and get the point at the same time. •HAVE A TACTFUL CONVERSATION WITH HIGH CONFLICT RELATIVES. Cover yourself by explaining that you have the same requirements of everyone this holiday – fun without fights.

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• HAVE A PLANNED SCHEDULE. Estimate your meal times and offer your guests local attractions to visit that will enrich your family experience. You could also plan for home based activities like cooking together, creating a family photo project or documenting family history. •LIMIT OR ELIMINATE ALCOHOL ALTOGETHER. Most holiday family conflicts revolve around alcohol. For relatives that must drink, they can visit a local place in town, just plan for a safe sober driver. This discourages unnecessary drinking and fights. •PLAN THE MEANINGFUL FAMILY MEALS AROUND LUNCHTIME IF POSSIBLE. You limit conflicts fueled by exhaustion from activities or restlessness from doing nothing all day. •PLAN A SEATING MAP. Don’t seat fighting relatives together. If you have a married couple that tends to fight, place them next to peace-oriented relatives or across from each other. Steer the conversation with funny interjections to diffuse the tension. •PLAY A FUN FAMILY GAME TO INCREASE POSITIVE INTERACTIONS. Plan a low stress funny game that does not involve intense competitiveness like ‘mad gab’ (words that sound like others). •PLAN FOR DOWNTIMES. Too much activities fuel crankiness and conflicts. Give guests hours to rest without a schedule. •HAVE A GRATITUDE MOMENT EACH DAY. Have everyone focus on what they are thankful for. Ignore backhanded comments by redirecting the conversation. Most importantly - enjoy your holiday! Your attitude as a couple sets the best tone for the visiting relatives and the holiday season. A thankful heart is a contagious heart! Julia N. Sanna, MS, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in the State of Florida. She works with couples, her passion is premarital counseling and marriage enrichment. Julia and her husband Julius Sanna, a Worship & Youth Pastor, are both from Kenya. They have three children, two boys ages 9 and 5 and a baby girl born in July 2014. She can be reached at www.earlyfamilyyears.org.

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success feature

Evangelist

Hilda Kahia

Hilda Kahia is a Bible teacher, Gospel Artist, Evangelist and business owner. Founder and President of Mercy Ministries Outreach in Fort, Worth, Texas she is a counselor with American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) and Deputy Director in the singles department, KCFA. She shares with We Thrive Magazine about her childhood, her inspiration and heart for ministry.

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1.Tell us about yourself. You are a minister, business woman, musician etc. But in your own words who is Hilda Kahia? My Name is Hilda Kahia. I was born in Ndumberi, Kiambu, Kenya to Moses Kahia and Penninah Mwihaki. I am the last of nine children. Today I live in Fort Worth, Texas. I’m single but not desperate. I am business person and minister of the word without compromise. 2.Tell us about your childhood. I grew up in a loving family. I was a daddy’s girl. My dad was an entertainer and a business man and my mum was a devoted Christian who always made sure we went to Sunday school. I loved God. I told everyone I was born again even before I knew what that meant deep in my heart. In my teenage years l joined the church youth ministry and l started teaching Sunday school. I was also chosen as a Kenya Anglican Youth Organization Leader. I developed a love for people at a young age. I hated to see little children and old people without clothes so with the support of my family and our Anglican church Pastor I provided food and clothes to the poor and needy in our neighborhood. We held crusades and many gave their lives to Christ. From there l started preaching on radio, in schools, visiting hospitals and sharing the love of God . I also sang in church and also performed on the TV program ‘Joy Bringers.’ 3.How did your childhood experiences and background shape your ministry today? I knew from a young age that God was leading me. I would dream about things that would eventually come to pass. I had a hunger to share the gospel and bless people. I had an urge to provide for the needy. As I grew older and could afford to do more I started feeding 250 orphan children who lost their parents to HIV. Everything began to unfold as a reflection of the desire God had placed in me as a child. 4.What drives you? The driving force for me is to see the Ministry grow, to see people to come to know Christ and for the work of God to continue. Also I put God first in all that I do. I have a clear vision for my life and what I want to accomplish. I stay focused on my vision and endeavor to live in integrity.

5.What guiding principles have helped you succeed and be where you are today? “The three things that have been pivotal in my success today are (i) Faith in God; (ii) A Sincere love for God and (iii) Desire to walk in Holiness. One scripture that I hold dear to my heart is Galatians 6:9 – “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap and harvest if we do not give up. “ I also believe that God has equipped me to do every work that He has called me to do, therefore I am clear on the path that God has set before me in ministry and in business. In addition, I intentionally stay focused only on these things and I approach them with the mindset that “I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me.” 6.What odds or challenges have you had to overcome in life? I have gotten very discouraged in the past in sharing with others the dreams and visions from God and those whom I share this with either don’t seem to understand or see ‘what I see’ . But I have to keep doing what I am doing. When a vision is from God, you cannot fight it. It will certainly come to pass. That’s why l always inquire from God in whatever l do. Jehovah always has the final say. I have also learned not to despise humble beginnings. Anything that you do in ministry or business starts small. And that can be discouraging. That’s why we have to work by faith and not by sight. If you will stay faithful and focused it will grow and your vision will come to pass. 7.How do you properly balance and be effective in all the roles that you play? I have found that when I put God first everything else falls in place. I also spend a lot of time in prayer. One of the things that has been a real pillar in my prayer life is our intercessory prayer line. I have had to be on that prayer line every day and that has kept me consistent in my prayer life. It is through prayer that I have found wisdom understanding and discernment to be effective in the different roles that I play. I know that to be effective I have to value my time, therefore, I am selective about whom or what I devote my time and effort to.

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8.How would you encourage women to manage their lives so they can be all God has made them to be? How can women maximize their gifts and potentials? • Know who God has called you to be. • Believe In the gift God has put in you. • Commit to utilizing those gifts. • Do not limit yourself because you’re a woman. 9. Some people are of the opinion that one cannot or should not be a minister and also be in business. What are your thoughts on this? I believe that is a very wrong theory. The Bible says whoever will not work will not eat. It also says that God blesses the work of our hands. What is the difference between having your own business and being hired to manage someone else’s, at least in the context of this discussion? May God open our eyes and to be quite honest, I would not be where I am today if I believed in this theory. 10. We noticed that you carry your faith in the market place, how are you able to manage that? We are all spiritual beings with a human experience and God has placed us here for a purpose. Money principles according to the Word of God still work in the marketplace. The same godly principles in the Word are very much applicable in the marketplace and this is a concept that is not well taught or emphasized in our society. We’ve been taught that money is evil and is bad. The correct statement is that the love of money is the root of all evil. I go into the marketplace and conduct various businesses with the mind set of godly principles. So it’s imperative to understand and practice godly principles in the marketplace and I have not shied away from that.

having a husband. It is your thinking that will limit you. You are what you think. I always say your mind is like a soil whatever seed you plant will grow. Also, your tongue has the power of life and death. Speak it out and it will come to pass. 13. Have you ever been in a situation where you were the only woman in the room? How do you handle such situations? Yes, I have been in numerous situations where I was the only female in the room and what I do is simply focus on business. I have found that men are very focused on business, . So when we’re discussing business, we’re all business people and they respect me as a lady, and as a business woman. 14. Please share a few business principles with our readers. In a nutshell, I can summarize a few business principles, and these would be: • Put God first in everything you do. • Have a clear vision. • Work with integrity. • Focus on success in your business and you will achieve it.

11.What ministry principles have helped you in business and vice versa? Persistence is key. Persistence in business leads to success just as persistence in faith leads to salvation. Above all, prayer has always been a strong foundation in the area of business. I desire to walk in holiness, and this too applies in business. Doing things right and doing the right things. 12.Many African women still think that being successful will make it difficult for them to find a husband. How would you address this and encourage women to not be held down by such limitations? I encourage women to not be held down by such limitations. Success does not have anything to do with 20


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BASIC BUSINESS PRINCIPLES for the

African Woman

The African Diaspora community is seeing an increase in women turning needs, opportunities and talents into successful money making ventures, a sign that self-employment isn’t as scary as it sounds.

Here are some factors to consider before gearing into SELF-EMPLOYMENT: 1) INVEST INVEST IN IN YOUR YOUR PASSION PASSION 1) Being an an entrepreneur entrepreneur requires requires hard hard work work and and Being dedication. ItIt is is important important to to invest invest your your capital capital in in aa dedication. venture you you are are passionate passionate about. about. Any Any productive productive venture thought, idea idea or or opportunity opportunity can can be be turned turned into into aa thought, successful business business enterprise. enterprise. For For example, example, ifif you you are are successful passionate about cooking, you can turn your passion passionate about cooking, you can turn your passion into aa catering catering business. business. Are Are you you aa business business minded minded into 21

nurse who who loves loves her her job? job? How How about about starting starting your own nurse home health health care care service! service! IfIf you you are are not not sure sure what home you’re passionate about, identify an area of need you’re passionate about, identify an area of among people people you you know. know. Meeting Meeting aa need need is is the true art among of entrepreneurship. entrepreneurship. of


2) UNDERSTAND THE SET UP Every aspiring businesswoman must know the different forms of business organizations for tax reasons. Is your business expected to be a sole proprietor, a General partnership, an LLC or a Corporation? Take the time to learn how these forms of businesses affect your tax payments. Do not rely solely on your CPA. The business registration process is simple and can be found in most local government websites. Once your business is registered, obtain your business tax id number also known as an EIN. Remember to write up contracts that properly define contributions, distributions and dissolutions. 3) FUNDING My vision of being an Entrepreneur begun before I immigrated into the United States. When employment opportunities came along, I saved more than I spent as an investment to the business that I had hoped for. After my last I was able to transition into business because I was financially equipped. If self-funding is not an option, the United States Government has given women access to loans and grants through various local organizations. Information on how to apply for these loans or qualify for grants can be found on WWW.SBA.GOV. Women are also encouraged to certify their businesses as either a Women's Business Enterprise (WBE) or a Minority owned Enterprise. These certifications open doors for women and minority specific funding. You will also have access to US government and US private contracts which are similar to “Government tenders” as known in Kenya. 4) NETWORK WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE Networking creates marketing and growth opportunities. As a business woman, I am constantly on a mission to connect with people who have entrepreneurial interests. I recently participated in the CEO Boot camp Event, an online forum sponsored by American Express. Such events help me understand the US market and how well my business can sustain itself. Other events such as the “Dallas Queens Night” are also great places to network. Always have business cards and other marketing tools with you while attending networking events as the next person you talk to could be your future customer.

5) MONEY MATTERS One lesson that I have learned is that the money my business makes is not mine except for what I pay myself as a salary. You cannot use business money for personal use. Always keep in mind that your business is your employer and just like a regular 9-5, your business will have bills, tax bills and so on. It took me two years before my business gave me a raise. I had to reinvest income into the business to ensure a strong foundation. These are a few basic points for aspiring business women. Your talent and passion is where your wealth is so, get busy and begin to write down your business vision. Remember, passion must be the main ingredient in everything you do and if you don’t like what you do, the chances of your business surviving its first 6 months are limited. BEATRICE ORETA

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Office Party Etiquette By Eleanor Maree

Dear Reader, with the falling temperatures, sprinkled with prayers for white snow days and gorgeous boots in all designs practical and otherwise (who wears four inch heels in the middle of a Dallas freeze) are Christmas party planning committees. Their daunting task? Plan an Oscar awards worthy party on less than a shoe-string budget for a myriad of people who do not get along.

The dos and don’ts for the corporate holiday party are known to most of us. More and more companies are planning their Holiday parties after work on Friday. However, Dear Reader, please do not let the word holiday deceive you. This is not a pre-screening event for next year’s summer holiday fashions! If when you get to work in the morning, there are whistles and cat calls, and many of your work colleagues are talking to other parts of your anatomy besides your face, then it is a sure slam-dunk that your outfit was in-appropriate for the office party. Do not forget that while this is a holiday party presumably away from work, you do have to work with your boss, Mr. Conservative, on Monday and do yourself a great disservice if seventy two hours earlier he could accurately describe your undergarments! It is quite disconcerting that it has to be reiterated that perfume and cologne are intensely personal ‘accessories’ for the utter indulgence of the wearer only. That means Dear Reader, that other party goers 24

should not smell your arrival when your car pulls up into the garage, five levels below in the basement. One too many a spray, has clouded an otherwise well put together individual. We would be remiss if we do not touch albeit briefly, the issue of alcohol. Dear Reader, just because the boss has decided to order enough wine to single handedly support the GDP of a small wine growing country, it is not all yours to drink. Many a job have been lost when the employee with one too many under their belt proceeded to insult fellow

colleagues. For those who will also be attending a church Christmas party, the same impeccable manners will also be expected. The Pastor, deacons and elders will have to continue praying for the flock, so do not let their minds be flooded by images of scantily or poorly dressed men and women. Unless of course you wanted the Man of God to pray for you by name and this is one way to accomplish that objective. Finally, do not forget your party mood at home. Nothing screams poor manners more loudly than one who complains about how the party menu does not fit his or her diet regulations. Enjoy yourselves this Holiday season, Dear Reader and know that the New Year will bring with it a chance to continue perfecting our decorum.


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MIND, BODY AND SPIRIT

FITNESS CHALLENGE! Living a healthy life is more than being able to stay out of the doctor’s office; it’s taking the difficult daily steps to keeping fit, strong and agile. We caught up with four lovely ladies, Naomi Mwangi, Grace Kungu, Lucy McKenzie and Mary Mwaura, who made the all-important decision to go on a daily journey to a healthier existence and, of course, lose some weight along the way. Their words will motivate and encourage you to get going on your

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WTM: What informed your decision to go on a fitness journey? Grace: I had 3 kids in less than 3 years, most recently a set of twin boys. Needless to say, this stretched my body to its limits. I gradually pushed the scale, ballooning to a size 14/16. For my little petite frame, this was too much. The biggest wakeup call came during Queens Night 2014. I was so excited and anxiously awaited this day, but I couldn’t find anything to wear! I went from store to store; anything that looked cute was too small! I also had several friends who had recently shed significant pounds, I thought to myself, why not? WTM: Was it a difficult decision? What drawbacks did you encounter before embarking on the journey? 25

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Naomi: It was not as much a difficult decision as it was emotionally overwhelming, because I had to constantly undo the prior assumptions that running was not meant for people like me. A childhood memory about one girl telling me that my thighs were too fat for me to run in the track team played in my head. But I listen to the voice of truth that said that ‘I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.’ Now I love my thighs because they push me to leap into the next stride and the next! It also helped that Lucy McKenzie was my support pillar all along. The support we have for each other is definitely vital to our strength individually.


WTM: Please share your fitness routine with our readers. Lucy: Sunday and Monday – Insanity workout; Tuesday – Bodypump; Wednesday – Zumba; Thursday – Spin or out jog in the park; Friday- Rest day; Saturday – Bodypump or a jog in the park. As I got stronger and built endurance, I would extend the workout sessions. WTM: Many women complain about going on a diet, how important was your diet as part of your fitness challenge? Grace: Diet is important, but don’t think you are going on a diet; otherwise you’re setting yourself up for failure. Think of a lifestyle change, not a short-term diet. Mary: Food is very important to me because that's the fuel that keeps me going. If I don't eat well, it affects my exercise and general wellbeing. WTM: Did you get a personal trainer? In your opinion is it necessary to have a personal trainer in order to succeed in one’s fitness goals? Grace: No, I didn’t get a trainer. I don’t think it will do you good, if you’re not internally motivated. I have had gym memberships that I never used. Mary: Yes, I engaged a personal trainer at the gym and also while training for the marathon. It's very important to get the right information from the right people. WTM: Do you have children? Work full time? How did you manage to stay consistent on your fitness journey considering the demands on your time as a busy woman? Grace: Yes, wear all those hats…..the key is find the time slot that is least likely to be interrupted or replaced with other activities. Also figure out what time you’re most productive. If you’re a morning person, don’t save your workout until the end of the day, you’re most likely to skip, or give excuses. For me, I started going to the gym at 5AM! Got to sacrifice, there’s only 24hrs in a day. I figured this time worked best for me, because my evenings would be clouded by all other household activities and routines.

WTM: Did you ever feel like quitting at some point? Was there anyone to hold you accountable on your journey? Naomi: I don’t recall any moment where I felt like quitting, but what I have dealt with is excusing myself from a week’s workout, you know- procrastinating. Again, Lucy really is the one who holds me accountable and I don’t know where I would be without her! Mary: Down moments present themselves everyday but I thank God for the accountability of the team we ran the half marathon with. WTM: What changes have happened in you since you started your fitness journey? Naomi: My health has improved and so has my confidence. I am seeing results in the way clothes fit me better and it also feels good to be able to sit down and cross my thighs!! Lucy: When I first started this journey, I could hardly run for 1 minute…now I am able to run for 10 miles non-stop. I have lost 40+ pounds and dropped dress sizes. I have now run 3 (5k Runs); 2 (10K Runs) and 1 (Half Marathon) since March 5th 2014. WTM: Please share your fitness tips and tricks with our readers. Naomi: What I can say has helped me greatly is learning to breathe properly during a run. Deep slow breaths will not only help you run longer but will also keep the stitches at bay. Planking has also reduced my belly. I do this first thing in the morning for as long as I can withstand the sting. Lucy: Don’t wait until you feel motivated to get out…your body takes a while to catch up…pick a day and commit do an activity no matter what. When I have my gym bag in the car, it’s much easier than when I have to get home to change then head out to the gym. WTM: What encouragement would you give our readers considering going on a fitness challenge? Grace: Just do it! Today is a great day to get started! Lucy: Start where you are – don’t worry that other people have been doing this for a long time. Naomi: Above all, keep God in the loop of all your desires and plans. He is faithful to complete the good work He began and will begin in you. Mary: It is well worth it. Invest in yourself and you'll have something to share with others 26


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AVOID overindulging during the holidays How to

By Diddy Roselyn

The Holidays are here. Foods and sweet breads appear out of every corner and you can’t help but dig in. There’s commercial after commercial on holiday’s treats and what you shouldn’t miss out on. But does your body really benefit from the overloading of fried, sweet, and savory foods? No! Especially after a Thanksgiving or holiday meal when all you want to do is sleep away the feeling of regret that just lingers. Then you think “I’ll do better next time.” But next time comes and we just can’t help ourselves. Our bodies should not control us. So are we practicing self-control? That can be the key to avoid overindulging during the holiday season and at all times. Ask yourself these important questions: Will this food benefit my body? And, Do I feel good after that meal? Let this be your Motto:

Eat good. Feel good. Look good. It’s not always about appearance but who doesn’t like to look good? So if you have to bake that turkey instead of frying it or skipping the mac and cheese for more veggies or eating just one slice of pie instead of two, do that. Watch your portions and avoid all processed foods. While staying healthy is a daily exercise, it is not about restrictions. If you have to eat that pie go ahead and schedule a time to go walking or exercising. Remember it is about us controlling our bodies and not the other way around. Since holidays are a time we are gathered with our families this can be an opportunity to agree and implement healthy eating because at the end of the day we want our families to be healthy and well. So before piling the plate with food that will leave us uncomfortable or eating half a pie or snacking during late hours, let’s think twice. Will this food benefit me?

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Let's Talk Freebies...

and My STRUGGLE To

Lose Weight

I am sure 80% of those who read that title rolled their eyes. I heard it all the way over here. Let me just put it out there in the universe, I do not appreciate that! Now on to serious matters.

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In my very real quest and very real struggle to shed lots and lots of pounds I have accumulated over the years, I have literally thought of everything. From pills, to fad diets, to surgical 'help.' I have spent a ridiculous amount of time, pouring over pages and pages of reviews, websites, testimonials over the methods mentioned above, and so much more. Until I realized that short cuts won't help me. Imagine my shock and horror! Well, they may for a while, but like any free thing, they will quickly fade and disappear.

So I turned my attention, and extremely limited budget to looking into proper,

CLEAN DIET AND EXERCISE.

pressed a button and the thing almost ejected me as it started moving suddenly! Still flying as I arranged my water, brand spanking new towel, adjusted my brand spanking new ear buds stuck to my brand spanking new iPod, loudly blaring 'Agiginyani' by Shiru wa GP. And she was still flying as I panted, grunted and was super itchy 5 minutes later, as I collected my belongings and hit the lockers to get my brand spanking new gym bag. And yes, you guessed it...still flying as I passed her on my way out of the gym. But on a more positive note, I had completed 25 whole minutes at a gym for the very first time! WOW! But I digress. My point is, I detest gyms. Next solution, invest in said machines. So I start my research again. Good golly gosh is a treadmill expensive!!! Late one night as I was sitting, sleepless in Dallas, chowing down the 12th little piece (you believe me, lol!) of cake, I came across that infomercial for the magical trend climber. "For 9 easy payments of $33.33, this could be your new body in 30 days!" "(Rapid talking) Taxes, shipping and handling not included." Then those annoying testimonials start again! And I thought, maybe, just maybe, if I ate nothing but noodles and water for 9 months, I can have that body in 30 days! I mean, think about it, by the time 30 days are over and they come to repo the thing, I'll already have "that body."

This was spurred on by the very popular ladies movement dubbed Dallas Queens Fitness Challenge, a Facebook group created about mid-2014 to encourage a healthy lifestyle.

In my excitement, I enrolled in a gym. I promise you, I even went a couple of times! Until that fateful day when I was stuck on the treadmill, panting like a dog after 3 minutes of 'power walking' at 5mph...pay attention here now...behind this lady who appeared to be a soccer Mom of four, probably a size 1, weighing at all of a buck five, flying on the elliptical (I had no idea that's what it was called at the time). She had been flying as I walked in to change in the lockers. She was still flying as I gingerly pretended to know what to do, while peering under my lashes and copying others. I learned that you wipe the machine before and after use, yaaay me! She was STILL flying as I tried to figure out the machine, until the poor soul to my left just

On my way to get my credit card, armed with the cell phone, reciting the 1-888 number that kept scrolling across the screen...with some lady with seriously tight abs standing next to her flabby 30 days before picture, it hit me. Wham! Don't they have trial clinics advertised all the time? I mean, I see them all the time on the same late night infomercials, while chowing down whatever, thanking God I do not have XYZ disease they were seeking people to participate in the clinical trial. I stopped mid chant and thought, do they have trial clinics for these machines? I mean, they had to if they have that tightly abd-ed girl smiling smugly on my 50 inch Visio ultra HD, 1080dp TV screen, right? And thus began my new research. Two and a half months later, with my run keeper app reminding me daily that "your next work out is tomorrow," I'm still searching for said trial clinics. This is an urgent appeal, please if you know where they are, help a sister out. Send your help to mwanamwandishihodari@gmail.com I do thank you in advance. ~Humorous Ramblings of MwanaMwandishi Hodari

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Vel i l e Nkolomi

Originally from Bulawayo, Zimbabwe, fashion and design has always been her passion. As a teenager she developed her love for design and dressmaking under her mother’s instruction. Coming from a family of five sisters who often shared clothing, re-designing hand-me-down outfits worn by her sisters, to make the look her own, became common practice for her. Embracing African culture and fashions by blending it with modern-day looks is Velile's goal. This has always been her dream and passion to create an ethnic clothing line that embraces African culture with a western touch. Velile draws her inspiration from nature and women around her. Velile believes there is a Queen in every woman. "Simply Afrosheek" encourages all women to "Unleash the Queen in You and Dance to the beat of your own Drum!"

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WTM: What was your motivation for going into fashion? V: Fashion has always been my passion. I have been creating and drawing since I was a young teen, finding pleasure in creating my own pieces and making my own clothes. I have no formal education in fashion and design; I am completely self-taught with some direction from my mother who can sew as well. I live and breathe fashion and it resides in me. I’m motivated to design and create and it’s a natural de-stressor for me when I spend hours at my work table. WTM: What inspires your pieces? Tell us about your creative process. My inspiration is mainly based on my Southern-African heritage. I am Ndebele from Bulawayo, Zimbabwe. Our art; paintings and beading rich in texture and color, is easy to draw inspiration from. I am also inspired by Zulu, Xhosa and Sotho cultural wear and prints. I continue to draw inspiration from the earth and nature around me. I can look at what one may call junk and turn it into priceless treasure. This is a gift from the Almighty and I am thankful for this talent. WTM: How was your experience been, working in diaspora? V: Working in the diaspora has its challenges. Clothing in the United States is very cheap and affordable to the masses. While there’s a demand for ethnic-inspired clothing, man-hours spent do not always equate the cost of the garment and what one is able to charge for it. Africans in the diaspora often have the expectation to pay the same price for custom outfits as if they were made in Africa. There are some who understand the dynamics of the business but it’s a thin line to walk on. Sticking the balance is difficult so one has to work on targeting outside of the African community as well. WTM: What major challenge have you experienced while running your business? How did you overcome it? V: Production has been my hardest challenge. It is costly to make clothing using local labor, China, India and Mexico are options for outsourcing labor but they often require large quantities for production. I make a sample and then outsource some of the labor to 3 ladies I employ in my hometown of Bulawayo. I chose my hometown so as to bring some revenue back home and provide gainful employment as well. I have also used a local factory here in the USA but again, cost and production minimums are still a challenge. This is still a working progress and I am still working out the kinks till all is in place! WTM: What are your goals for your company?

Where do you see Afrosheek by Velile in 5-10 years? V: My goal is for Afrosheek by Velile (aka Simply Afrosheek) to run as a store, opening a few outlet stores while also available online. In the next two years we plan a Marketing campaign once we have ironed out all the kinks and hopefully have some financial investors in place to function on a larger scale. WTM: You took a bold step to fulfill your dreams, how would you encourage other women out there to step out with that business idea or dream and make it happen? V: My advice is look within first. It sounds cliché but it’s true. Do what you love first and the rest will follow. You do not have to convince anyone that you are good at something you love as it shows – naturally. Start slow and steady. Set the bar high but give yourself room for setbacks and disappointments. I went into a two year hiatus while I restructured after a few disappointments. I learnt from my mistakes and because I love what I do, it was like riding a horse; I was back on the saddle without difficulty. Do your homework though. Look for what makes you unique, pay attention to compliments given to you by people as they will help guide you on how you are seen by the public. This matters in business. Do not completely shut out negative comments. Some of the best lessons are learnt this way but do not take them to heart. I suggest talking to other people who have walked the walk as they can help guide your steps so you avoid some pitfalls. The last thing- Never give up on yourself. The only crime you commit in following your dreams is not trying at all!

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Beauty Tips for

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Just like you change your wardrobe during the different seasons, your face, skin and body also needs some TLC to accommodate the ‘weather changes’ – here are a few beauty tips, without having to cringe over your checkbook, for this ‘wintry white weather’:


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Vaseline works as good as regular Chap Stick to heal chapped lips. It can also be used on your feet – it keeps your feet supple and tender and helps soften calluses. Extra tip: Dab little on to your wrists and pulse points. Then spray your perfume. The scent will last much longer.

2.Olive oil and Coconut Oil - used on cuticles will

moisturize your nails and cuticles. Olive oil works as a cleanser and skin moisturizer.

Extra tip: Rub a little coconut oil into dry hair, put a shower cap on and leave for several hours

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Face Mask - In winter, due to chapped and flaky skin, these four ‘pantry items’ will help restore the natural oil balance on your skin: Avocado, Egg White, Honey and Lemon Juice. Mix all the ingredients together to a smooth consistency with a spoon or a fork. (Use ¼ of an ripened Avocado, ½ tbsp organic honey; ½ tbsp of lemon juice and ½ egg white) - If mixture is too runny just add more avocado to thicken up mixture. Benefits of each: Avocado Contains vitamins A, D and E and softens skin.

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Your usual foundation may be too dry in the winter time so try changing it to a moisturizing foundation for the cold season. Dry skin produces very little oil, so using moisturizer to help balance your skin's natural dryness is essential. Thoroughly remove your makeup before you go to bed. It allows your skin to breathe and reduces break outs. Some makeup removal wipes do not do a thorough job. Use a cleanser that’s suitable for your skin type.

Extra tip:

If your skin is prone to flaking or dry patches, use liquid or cream foundations that contain oil Note: The holiday season comes is quite inviting to a change in diet, after all, the New Year is around the corner and there’s room for indulgence before jotting down New Year resolutions. Watch Out! And watch your diet – you could be one of those whose skin breaks out after consuming certain foods. Try to avoid foods that cause this and drink plenty of water.

Honey has antibacterial properties and will further moisturize the skin. Egg white minimizes pores and firms up skin. Lemon evens out skin tone.

4.Cocoa butter used in winter could seal moisture in

your skin where many lotions don’t work.

Extra Tip: Cocoa butter is high in antioxidants, which help fight off signs of aging.

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