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ANNISSA ANDERSON, a freelance writer and public relations consultant, also studied culinary arts and worked as a pastry chef in another life. Though she’s lived in the Northwest for the past 20 years, she spent her childhood living abroad.

An avid crocheter and origamist, JOHN CAL worked as a baker, head chef, ukuleleist and Sno-Cat driver before settling into writing. He enjoys filling his time with yoga, postcard writing and collecting bowties. John also collects candy from around the world — he has a 100-plus specimen collection (and counting) — and lives in Sisters with his dog, Hank. In a world full of unique people, ideas and practices, KARI MAUSER has a desire to uncover and share the inspiring stories that surround us. When she’s not discovering new and intriguing things through her writing, she and her husband are re-discovering the magic of the world through the eyes of their two little boys.

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GREGG MORRIS is a local writer and musician. You can find him around town finishing articles at the local tea shop, performing with his band Organic Music Farm or homeschooling his 6-year-old daughter. Free time is spent in the woods with his family or executing his duties as a member of the Deschutes County Search and Rescue team. KATHY OXBORROW is a writer and consultant who helps her clients tell their stories in a compelling way. A former pubic affairs TV producer in Portland, Kathy’s curiosity and inquisitive mind bring a fresh perspective when conducting research or interviewing people for a project. She lives outside of Bend and enjoys riding her horse, Sara. BUNNY THOMPSON is an internationally published writer living in Sisters. She cruised on a sailboat for six years and 40,000 miles where she wrote a novel and published travel and adventure articles in national and international magazines such as Sail, Cruising World, Southern Boating and Island Scene.

Magazine Editor’s Note

Table of Contents Contributors .................................................................................... 4

In the Spotlight Just a Little Charm ....................................................................6 Local artist Jen Aylward creates memorably pithy charms using copper salvaged from the old Bulletin building.

Worth a Hill of Beans ............................................................ 11 Some of the most flavorful legumes aren’t necessarily considered your ordinary beans.

Sanctuary for Renewal........................................................... 17 Fall River Women’s Retreat offers a place where women can find peace and quiet for the sake of personal reflection.

Sisters Saddlebags .................................................................. 23 Central Oregon women form a group based on their collective love of horses.

Knowledge & Advice What We’re Reading ...............................................................................9 Food Recipes: Beans .............................................................................12 Hidden Causes of Weight Gain............................................................ 14 To Your Health: Run to the Finish Line, Not the Bathroom ........... 16 A Helping Hand: The Heart of Oregon Youth Corps .......................20 High Desert Life Styles: Swimwear....................................................26 Caring for Others: The Sandwich Generation...................................28 Workplace Harassment ........................................................................29 At the Workplace: The New Look of Temp Work.............................. 31

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is a product of The Bulletin’s Special Projects Division, P.O. Box 6020, Bend, OR 97708. All content is the property of The Bulletin/Western Communications Inc., and may not be reproduced without written permission. Printed by Northwest Web Press, Story ideas may be submitted to editor Ben Montgomery for consideration. Contact him at 541-383-0379 or bmontgomery@ Published: Saturday, June 1, 2013.

On a recent day off from work, one that I set aside to spend with my 4-year-old daughter, Maya, I was rummaging through the mental Rolodex trying to come up with something fun for the both of us to do together. “We could go to the park,” I suggested. “Or maybe you’d rather ride your bike?” Maya, who is typically game for anything involving playgrounds or pedaling at high speeds, responded with a lukewarm “sure.” I could tell she was racking her brain for something more extraordinary — an option that would knock the socks off my ideas, which I concede lacked some imagination. Then suddenly, her face lit up like a firefly, leaving no doubt she was about to take command of the day’s intinerary. “I have an idea, Daddy,” she said with obvious pride. “I think today would be a good day to go do something awesome!” And that was that — so simple and yet so brilliant. Our task that day had been defined: do something — anything — so long as it fits within the realm of “awesome.” Words to live by. I was reminded of this moment while I was reading the story, “Just a Little Charm,” featured on page 6 of this U Magazine. Local artist Jen Aylward has become known for the simple charms, earrings and necklaces she creates, many often featuring clever and sometimes poignant phrases that are meant to be inspiring and thought-provoking. She makes these charms from copper salvaged from the old Bulletin building that was demolished more than a dozen years ago. As I was looking at samples of her work, pieces with sayings such as “Remember This Moment” and “The World is Waiting,” I couldn’t help but think that Maya’s “Make Today Awesome!” would fit right in.

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Local artist Jen Aylward creates memorably pithy charms using recycled copper salvaged from the former site of The Bulletin.

Just a by Kari Mauser, for The Bulletin Special Projects | Photos by Nicole Werner When Jen Aylward noticed the necklace worn by a mom at her kids’ school, something about it struck her. In that very moment, though she didn’t know it yet, her life took a turn. “It was one of those mom necklaces that has your kids’ names on it, and I just thought it was so cute that I wanted it,” she recalled. But when she started looking online for something like it, she found herself exploring the process of creating the charm jewelry instead.

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“I always wanted to get back to art someday,” she stated matter-of-factly. Twenty years ago, the East Coast native was living in California making and selling candles. When she married and started a family, it was a new beginning and the end of candles. “Hot wax and little kids just didn’t go well together,” Aylward laughed. So the new mom left the art world behind, knowing in her heart it wouldn’t be forever. The family later moved to Bend where they settled in to the restaurant industry – a business they’d excelled in over the years, he as a manager and she as a server. A couple years later they also bought Sargent’s Café. Despite their busy lives, Aylward was eager to pursue a new beginning in the arts. With a general sense of the charm-making process and a lot of self-confidence, she started to search for materials. Determined to find something unique and trendy, she focused her search on recycled and reclaimed metals.

After hitting many dead ends in her hunt, she stumbled upon a local salvage yard owner who had bought rights to the building materials from the 2001 demolition of the old Bulletin building. Amazingly, though 10 years had passed, the copper roof flashing still sat in his backyard. Aylward bought a sheet of the salvaged metal from him, bought herself some tools, and simply started cutting and creating. From that first trial, she was filled with enthusiasm. The copper was just what she’d been looking for, and it was particularly special because of its history. She immediately bought 50 more sheets and ordered more metal-working tools and stamps. With a stack of copper and a head full of ideas, Aylward took some of the pieces she’d created to an artist friend and asked for her opinion. The fellow artist loved Aylward’s charms and invited her to an upcoming art fair in Yosemite, CA. “That fair was my first exposure besides to my friends, and it went gangbuster!” she said. Recognizing that she was onto something, Aylward called the salvage yard owner once again, this time to buy every last bit of the reclaimed copper. In March of 2011, “Just a Little Charm” was born. Using various techniques including stamping, riveting, etching, embossing and enameling, Aylward transforms the cast-away copper into unique charms that she then makes into necklaces and earrings, zipper pulls and key chains, dog tags, and her own personal favorite: rear-view mirror charms. “If there’s something you want to say, but you might not want to wear it … well you can hang anything on your mirror,” she said. “My philosophy is ‘put a charm on it’ – it doesn’t matter what it is, put a charm on it.” It was that thinking that propelled her business, soon allowing her to leave the restaurant world behind while she poured herself into creating her one-of-a-kind charms. Once she cleans the copper, she cuts it into different sizes and shapes, then stamps or etches words, sayings, designs and symbols into the discs. Aylward finds inspiration for her charms all around. “I’ll be having conversations with friends and we’ll be laughing or crying and I’ll say, ‘There’s a charm there!’” she said. From song lyrics to ancient Chinese symbols and Germanic Runes, to plays on words such as ‘Kick Asphalt’ and ‘RV There Yet?’ – from quirky, fun and whimsical to sentimental and U MAGAZINE | Spring 2013 | 7

powerful, Aylward feels she offers something that could appeal to nearly everyone. Despite her wide collection of pre-designed charms, Aylward loves making custom pieces. At every fair, she sets up inside her booth and hammers away on the copper. Anything anybody asks

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for, she’ll try. That’s one of Sue Philip’s favorite things about Ay l w a r d ’ s work. “She’s very creative and she has this unique material that’s recycled but also because it’s copper it will patina and change,” Philip described. “It’s also interesting because it has this great Bend history attached to it.” Because they can be personalized, the charms are popular gifts. Philip had Aylward make a rear-view mirror charm for her sister that says “happy camper” and is stamped with little symbols representing the things she likes to do such as kayaking. Beyond Aylward, the artist,

Philip said she appreciates Aylward as a person. “She is always doing thoughtful things,” she said. When tragedy struck Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Conn. last December, news reports hit close to home for Aylward. Her niece is a second-grade student at the school and was in class the day of the shooting. “It could have been us that day, but it wasn’t,” Aylward said. “And how grateful and yet how completely grief-stricken we were.” Aylward launched the “From Me to You Project.” She created a special charm and, for each one purchased, she made another for a child or teacher at Sandy Hook, for family members of the victims, and for the first responders. “There is something incredibly powerful that comes when large groups of people wear the same token,” she said. Aylward often makes and gifts charms with symbols of strength and protection for people who are battling cancer or confronting other difficult circumstances. Whatever heartbreak or challenge someone is facing, Aylward’s hope is that in some small way, she’s helping.

“If I can bring strength to people, to help them stay positive and move forward … I have a post-it on the front of my computer that says, ‘If it makes a difference, it means something,’” she said. “And I feel like I am making a difference in people’s lives.” Because she genuinely loves what she does, Aylward travels throughout the West to a whole circuit of craft fairs, art shows and festivals. While being away from her family is tough, her little vintage trailer she calls Trixie makes traveling easy and fun for Aylward. The restored 1967 Serro Scotty has a special place in Aylward’s heart. “A huge part of who I’ve become is me and Trixie on the road,” she said. “There’s a certain sense of freedom to be able to go and take my work, and my bedroom, with me.” Aylward’s copper art can be found locally at a few shops including The Foot Zone and Paper Jazz. She can be found inside her booth at all the local festivals, and online at www.

What We’re Reading

by Bunny Thompson, for The Bulletin Special Projects

Brief reviews of recent selections made by Central Oregon book clubs.

Several of our area book groups read and discussed the Deschutes Library 2013 Novel Idea book, “Snow Child.” The Evergreen Book Club in Redmond had a lively discussion about the book’s genre. Was it simply fiction? Realistic fantasy? They finally decided on “magic realism,” defined by Merriam Webster as “painting (or writing) in a meticulously realistic style of imaginary or fantastic scenes or images.”

bumble bees, Finn writes with a poetic tone and great compassion. This group chose to have each person tell of their own meaningful animal encounter. From redtail hawks to mountain sheep and ouzels, their memories were very clear and made the evening, and the book, special.

“Wild Delicate Seconds: 29 Wildlife Encounters” by Charles Finn

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Pine Meadow Book Group A beautiful book with an exquisite cover, Finn writes 29 essays about encounters with animals, birds and insects in North America. From black bears and mountain lions to muskrats and

“Defending Jacob” by William Landay District attorney Andy Barber finds himself in a precarious and unimaginable position: his own 14-year-old son is accused of murdering a fellow student. As a father, Andy must believe in his son’s innocence. But as the facts reveal themselves, Andy is forced to face his own trial between family loyalty and


justice. Everyone in this book group loved this book. “The author does a wonderful job of keeping you wondering ‘who done it’ until the very end,” said one member. It’s a fast read and one that you will not be able to put down.

“Over the Edge of the World: Magellan’s Terrifying Circumnavigation of the Globe” by Laurence Bergreen Read, Wine & Bleu book club in Crook County In 1519, Ferdinand Magellan and his fleet set sail from Seville, Spain, to find a water route to the Spice Islands in Indonesia. Magellan may be a household

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word associated with circumnavigation, but his sixteenth century, three-year voyage was filled with sex, violence and adventure. He was an ambitious visionary who was not above using torture and murder to maintain control of his ships and sailors. For this discussion, the hostess of this book group had bells scattered around the room. You’ll have to read the book to find out the significance of the bells and just where they were worn.

“The Light Between Oceans” by M.L. Stedman Bend Bookies Tom Sherbourne and his wife, Isabel, are lighthouse keeps in a remote area of Australia. The supply boat only comes to Janus Rock once a season. Lucy has survived two miscarriages and one stillbirth when a boat washes ashore with a dead man and a living baby. Sticking to his stiff moral principles, Tom wants to report this incident, but Isabel prevails on him to view this as a gift from God and they keep the baby. The Bend Bookies were divided. Some understood the reasoning for keeping the child; others were less tolerant. “This is an excellent book for book groups,” reported one member. “So much food for thought.”

“In the Woods” by Tana French Chapter Chicks In the summer of 1984, three children in a small Dublin suburb do not return from their play in the nearby woods. Police arrive and discover only one boy, Rob Ryan, bloody and clinging to a tree unable to remember anything of the ordeal. Twenty years later, Ryan is now a police detective and finds himself involved in a chillingly similar case. His buried memories and shadowy past must emerge to guide him. “The weaving of present and past is masterful,” says one member. Two members of this group are retired police officers and brought a level of realism to this discussion that was exceptional.

Worth a Hill of


Some of the most flavorful legumes are not considered your ordinary beans. by Annissa Anderson, for The Bulletin Special Projects Photos by Nicole Werner Beans are a nearly perfect food. High in protein and fiber but low in fat, beans are energy giving foods that should be part of a daily diet. But there is more to the bean family than your ordinary pinto, black and kidney beans. Exploring a variety of lesser-known — but still readily available — beans can make regular inclusion more exciting and flavorful. All beans — as well as peas — are part of the legume family, a large group of vegetables with double-seamed pods containing a single row of seeds. Of the hundreds of known varieties of beans, some, like green beans, are used for their edible pods and others, like favas, for shelling fresh. Dried beans are left in the pod until mature, then shelled and dried. Among the dried beans are some that show up less often in recipes but can be cooked and utilized in nearly the same way as the common varieties.

A few that are locally available are adzuki, Anasazi, cannellini, Great Northern, and soybeans. Here are some short descriptions of their appearances and primary uses.

Adzuki Bean

Also called azuki, this is a small, dried, russet-colored bean with a sweet flavor. The most common use of adzuki beans is in Japanese cookery, where the cooked beans are made into a paste to fill confections, but they can also be cooked in soups and stews or mashed, spiced and formed into patties for a vegetarian, high-protein variation on crab or salmon cakes.


This large, white dried bean with distinctive maroon markings is named for the Native American cliff dwellers who cultivated it 1,500 years ago. Anasazi beans have a fresh, slightly sweet flavor that pairs well with spicy

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High in protein and fiber but low in fat, beans are energy giving foods that should be part of a daily diet. foods. They can be easily substituted for pinto beans in recipes for chili, burritos and casseroles. The dried beans rehydrate to three times their size and cook faster than other beans.


A rich, fleshy bean, the cannellini bean is grown in Central Italy but is widely available here in both dried and canned forms. Cannellini beans are most often used salads, stews and soups infused with Italian flavors.

Great Northern

A large white bean that resembles the lima bean in shape but that has a delicate, distinctive

flavor. Grown in the Midwest and generally available in dried form, Great Northern beans are popular for use in baked bean dishes and soups, although they can be substituted for any white bean in most recipes.


Dried soybeans are mature beans that have been shelled and dried. These beans, so important to the Chinese — who first cultivated them thousands of years ago — that they are considered one of the five sacred grains, have extraordinary nutritional value. Soybeans come in many colors — red, yellow, green, brown and black — but the dried or canned beans are more commonly

found as yellow or black in grocery stores. Dried soybeans can be cooked like any other dried bean and used in soups, stews and casseroles. These out-of-the-ordinary beans share the nutritional benefits of other legumes. Many healthy eating plans recommend that you eat at least one-half cup of beans daily. Dried beans are rich in protein, calcium, phosphorous and iron. Their high-protein content makes them an important part of a vegetarian diet, but is also advantageous to anyone trying to increase their protein intake without adding animal fats. Beans — the dried kind in particular — are also a relatively

inexpensive source of protein. Most dried beans require the same basic process for cooking, though some do cook faster or slower. With few exceptions, they need to be soaked in water before cooking. Soaking softens and rehydrates the beans, thus reducing cooking time. (Soaking them 8 to 12 hours is also said to reduce gas or bloating). After soaking, beans are most often simmered slowly or baked in a liquid until soft and tender. Like grains, beans absorb the flavors of what they are cooked in, so cooking them in a flavorful broth enhanced with chopped onion, garlic, herbs or spices will offer the most delicious results.

Tuna and Cannellini Bean Salad (Serves 4) Canned tuna and white beans combined with fresh greens create a nutritional powerhouse of a salad, perfect for a quick summer lunch or dinner. For this recipe, resist the urge to buy tuna packed in water. The oil from the tuna can is a requisite part of the process.


2 6-ounce cans tuna packed in oil 2 15-ounce cans cannellini beans, drained and rinsed 1/2 red onion, sliced thin 1 tablespoon drained capers 5 ounces fresh arugula leaves, roughly chopped 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 1 tablespoon red- or white-wine vinegar 3/4 teaspoon kosher salt 1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper


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Adzuki Bean Stew (Serves 4)

This unusual bean stew makes a tasty – and healthy – side for grilled meats that when paired with a green salad, completes the perfect summertime meal. Dried adzuki – also called azuki – beans can be found in the bulk foods section of most health food stores.


1 lemon 2 teaspoons honey 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 1 medium onion, finely chopped 1 fennel bulb, cored and finely chopped 2 cups low-sodium chicken broth 1 cup water 1 bay leaf 1 teaspoon ketchup 1 cup dried adzuki beans, soaked in water overnight and drained 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce Kosher salt and freshly ground pepper, to season


1. Bring a small saucepan of water to a boil. Using a vegetable peeler, remove the zest from the lemon, leaving behind as much bitter white pith as possible. Slice the lemon zest into thin julienne strips. Add them to the saucepan and simmer over moderate heat until softened, about 10 minutes. Drain and mix with the honey. 2. In a medium saucepan, heat the olive oil. Add the onion and fennel and cook over moderate heat until softened, about 8 minutes. Add the stock, water, bay leaf and ketchup and bring to a boil. Add the adzuki beans and simmer over low heat, stirring occasionally, until the beans are tender, about 1 hour. 3. Using a slotted spoon, transfer the beans to a bowl. Boil the cooking liquid over high heat until reduced to 1/2 cup, about 8 minutes. Return the beans to the saucepan. Stir in the Worcestershire sauce and the lemon zest and honey mixture and season with salt and pepper. Discard the bay leaf and spoon the beans onto plates.

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For Your Health

Hidden Causes of

Weight Gain

Most causes of weight gain are obvious, but for some, the challenge of uncovering the source of weight gain is difficult to diagnose. by Bunny Thompson, for The Bulletin Special Projects Do you ever accuse your bathroom scales of secretly plotting against you and your body? If that weight number is slowly creeping upwards as you age, is it too many doughnuts? Too little exercise? Just part of aging? First, it’s important to look at the age-old adage “calories in vs calories out.” It seems quite simple but, as it turns out, it’s a bit more complicated than just diet and exercise. Basal metabolic rate, the rate at which we expend energy at rest, decreases about one to two percent per decade. What does this mean? Basically, the number of calories burned per day decreases with age. “What it boils down to is that, every year we age, we must be willing to give up something,” advises Dr. William Clairidge, a family practice physician St. Charles Family Care in Redmond. “This may mean 14 | Spring 2013 | U MAGAZINE

cutting out snacks between meals, avoiding second helpings, switching from 2 percent to 1 percent milk. The best way to lose weight is to not gain it in the first place.” Weight gain is insidious and typically occurs as a slow progress over time. So, how do we evaluate our need to be concerned? “It could be a simple thing such as your jeans becoming a little tight and uncomfortable,” says Dr. Clairidge. “Instead of resolving to buy a larger size, look at your lifestyle and health condition.” The despised bathroom scale does not give you the entire picture, so Dr. Clairidge suggests calculating your Body Mass Index (BMI). BMI measures your weight in relation to your height and is a reliable indicator of body fatness for most people. You can calculate your BMI by taking your weight in pounds, divide it by your height in inches squared, and multiply

Stress, genetics, medications, and horomone imbalance can contribute to weight gain.

this number by 703. A person with a BMI of 18.5 to 24.9 is considered healthy. Someone with a BMI of 25 to 29.9 is considered overweight. A BMI of 30 or more is considered obese. If your BMI is trending upwards, Dr. Clairidge suggests taking a look at what you’re eating and just how fast those calories are being burned. This is called the glycemic index or a measure of how quickly carbohydrates are converted to blood sugar. These sugars are in turn converted to fat. “The sweetened soda goes

into your stomach and is rapidly converted to sugar and stored as fat,” says Dr. Clairidge. “The slice of whole grain bread is also a carbohydrate, but it takes energy and time for the body to break down the grains. It’s not a straight shot.” You’ve monitored your BMI, you’re eating healthy and exercising well, but those pounds still seem to hang around your midsection. Could there be something else? Although rare, less than 1 percent of the causes for weight gain, there are other

Weight gain is insidious and typically occurs as a slow progress over time.

factors that can come into play. These are the hidden causes and are generally associated with the endocrine system. These factors usually have few symptoms and are difficult to identify. “It’s important to have a good relationship with your doctor and to look for blood chemistry changes over time — one year, five years, 10 years — it’s the changes that matter. These changes will allow your doctor to catch a problem before it becomes pathogenic,” says Dr. Evelyn Brust, a naturopathic physician and licensed acupuncturist and the director of the Westside Family Clinic in Bend. “We don’t listen to our bodies and often ignore the small changes. Weight gain over time is serious. Your risk factors go up and your life span goes down. These are changes that should be taken seriously.” Hypothyroidism is a condition in which the thyroid gland produces too little thyroid hormone or is underactive causing your metabolic rate to slow down. According to the Mayo Clinic, women, especially those older than age 60, are more likely to have hypothyroidism. Clinical evaluation and blood tests

are needed to identify hypothyroidism. Symptoms of hypothyroidism include an inability to lose weight, fatigue, hair loss, dry skin, joint pain, muscle weakness, increased sensitivity to cold and depression. Tests for hypothyroidism include a TSH (thyroidstimulating hormone) screening. In general, traditional normal values for TSH levels are between .45 and 4.5. The higher your TSH level, the slower your thyroid. Treatment is usually a prescription for a low-dose thyroid hormone. Other hidden causes can be diabetes, genetics, medications, stress, depression or other hormone level imbalances. These causes can be rare and difficult to pinpoint, but they are real and should never be ignored. “That’s the art of medicine,” says Dr. Brust. “It’s a mission of minds, the doctor/patient interaction and listening. You’re a team of detectives finding the cause. Your body is like a Ferrari, when finely tuned, we are in high performance.”

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Running to the Finish Line, not the bathroom Last summer, it seemed like my best girlfriend and I ran in a 5K every weekend. This year she tearfully told me that she couldn’t be my running buddy anymore. She wasn’t fighting an injury though; she was fighting her bladder. She said that she was afraid of leaking on a long run or that she wouldn’t be able to find a bathroom fast enough if the urge struck her. She was too embarrassed to bring this up to her doctor and, besides that, she felt that this was a normal part of aging after having kids. I sent her to see my urologist at Bend Urology. Incontinence, defined as the involuntary leakage of urine, affects millions of people every year, but people don’t talk about it much. It is estimated that 30-50% of women and 20-30% of men will deal with urinary incontinence at some point in their lives. Childbirth, past surgeries, and neurologic problems can all increase the risk of urinary leakage. But even though it is a common problem, it shouldn’t be considered a normal thing that one must

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suffer through. Doctors can help people understand the source of their leakage and come up with a solution tailored to their needs. My friend was worried that she would have to have surgery and she really did not want to do that. I told her that surgery is just one of many treatment options for urinary incontinence. Medications, nerve stimulation therapies, biofeedback, and physical therapy are all useful treatments depending on the individual and their type of incontinence. This summer I want my friend to be racing to the finish line, not running to the bathroom. If bladder control issues are starting to control you, talk to your doctor right away. Don’t waste another day worrying about it. Find your solution and get back to doing what you love.

Sanctuary for


Fall River Women’s Retreat offers a place where women can find peace and quiet for the sake of personal reflection. by Kari Mauser, for The Bulletin Special Projects | Photos by Nicole Werner

Not far from the hustle and bustle of everyday life sits a quiet space, a space where to-do lists don’t exist and worries fade away. Surrounded by pine trees, warmed by abundant sunshine, and awake with the subtle sounds of wildlife, tucked just southwest of Sunriver, the Fall River Women’s Retreat offers a sanctuary where participants can leave everything else behind and get lost in finding themselves. “When we get really busy, especially working moms, we forget who we are,” said owner Julie Russell. “Everything goes out to everyone else first, so this is a renewal, a time to remember who you are and to take care of yourself.” From the time she moved to her home in Fall River with her husband and youngest daughter nearly 14 years ago, Russell began hosting family and friends whenever they wanted to get away. “This is a very peaceful, quiet and wonderful place to come and relax, so it’s really been a retreat place all along.” So when Russell asked her friends and family what they thought of opening it to the public, they were supportive and enthusiastic. For Russell, the positive feedback was

the perfect inspiration to pursue the dream that had surfaced while journaling and drawing with her daughter-in-law, Christina Counsellor. Russell had given Counsellor a book by SARK entitled, “Make Your Creative Dreams Real.” Every week, the two women spent time exploring the book and enjoying each other’s company, and it was through this process that Russell realized her dream of creating a retreat for women. U MAGAZINE | Spring 2013 | 17

Fall River Women’s Retreat Center founder Julie Russell stands before the teepee that serves as gathering space.

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Counsellor, in turn, recognized how her skills as a licensed massage therapist went hand-inhand with the idea of a women’s get-away. “We were in the dream part of it, but realizing that we could do it together,” Russell said. “It all started with her right then and there, and now it has just manifested.” Having extended her leave of absence more than once after the birth of her first grandchild, Russell recognized that she didn’t intend to return to her teaching career and embraced the idea of a new professional adventure. “This was really something I felt like I had been preparing for all of my life,” Russell said. In June of 2012, a group of eight women left their daily lives behind while they immersed themselves in a weekend of total relaxation and re-energizing as they helped Russell launch The Fall River Women’s Retreat. Their experiences during that first official retreat helped create ideas that would transform what was already an ideal place into a perfect space. A spacious courtyard nestled next to the home centers around a peaceful water feature where the sounds and sight of water flowing through the stacked river rock and streaming into the pond creates an energizing yet peaceful setting. Adorned with lounge chairs, benches and a fire pit, as well as a quaint gazebo with a table and chairs, it’s an ideal space for settling in with a good book or

kicking back for a restful nap, and even for enjoying a nice meal outside. Russell loves to cook and during each retreat, participants enjoy healthy gourmet meals she prepares using ingredients from her own organic garden. From a Mexican quiche for brunch to a dinner pairing a big green salad loaded with vegetables with fresh caught Kokanee from her husband’s latest fishing trip, Russell strives to share the great feeling that comes from a good healthy organic meal with her guests. For Susan Sahnow, the amazing dinner Russell prepared and served the first night of her weekend retreat was the perfect indulgence and set the tone for allowing herself to just enjoy the time while someone else did all the work. Sahnow, who is the director of the Oregon Natural Resources Education Program at Oregon State University (OSU) in Corvallis, decided to come to the retreat for some much needed down time from her busy work life. She immediately found that Russell had created a safe and easy environment for the participants to get to know each other, with activities such as a movie and circle time to ease any tension right from the beginning. The rest of the weekend was designed for self-care, with many options for activities laid out, but nothing required. “More than anything it’s about being in a safe place with an open

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U LT R AT H E R A P Y structure where the stage is really set for taking care of yourself,” Sahnow said. “Our lives are very full and rich and at times it can be too much so in order to reenergize and be the best we can be we have to stop and take time to relax and reflect.” Each morning and each evening the women are invited to a meditation session in the authentic Native American teepee. Tucked at the side of the property, the teepee is a perfect place to learn to slow down and embrace time. “The weekend opened me up to meditation,” Sahnow said, confiding that she had never done it prior to the retreat. “Now I go out every morning to a rock in my yard and sit thinking only about what I want the day to be, or even just focusing on something in my yard that I appreciate.” The teepee is also where the women gather for drumming circles. “Drumming can be a form of prayer, or meditation, or just stress relief,” Russell said. “Even for those who have never even touched a drum, it is just an amazing thing – it’s organic and it just goes all by itself. It’s soothing and it’s fun and it sounds really cool.” Another group activity is the labyrinth walk, where the women all consider something intentional as they make their way through the maze, following the pattern as it’s outlined with

rocks until they reach the center. Once all the women come together there’s a small ceremony with a chance to share thoughts and feelings before winding their way back out. Fall River is just a short walk away, and the Fall River Falls is an easy 45-minute hike, so many women spend part of their time just meandering through nature. Others sit in the hot tub and enjoy being next to nature. Most also schedule a massage with Counsellor at some point during their experience. Russell, though admittedly biased, believes her daughterin-law excels as a massage therapist and appreciates having her there for the women to treat themselves. “She is very healing, loving, kind and gentle,” Russell said. When the days draw to an end the women can stay up late playing cards or watching movies or just talking together in the cozy open living space of the solar powered home. Or they can opt to slip into their rooms where the décor is warm and inviting and full of classic charm. And when the retreat concludes, Russell’s hope is that they each take a little piece of it home with them. “I hope that when times get tough they can close their eyes and remember a time of peace when they were in this place where they were nurtured and relaxed and simply remember how that feels,” she said.

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HEART Inspiring Hope and Effecting Change OREGON IN YOUNG PEOPLE THE



In the U.S. today, there are roughly 6.7 million disadvantaged, disconnected or at-risk young people aged 16 to 24 who are neither working nor in college.

In one year, a single “lost youth” will cost all taxpayers nearly $14,000. These youths earn less later in life and may rely on government support. The lost generation will cost taxpayers $437 billion over the next five years. In 2013, the Heart of Oregon Corps will have served 270 young people.

Over the past five years, the Corps’ young people have: • Contributed more than 317,000 hours of community service; • Protected more than 3,000 acres from forest fires; • Rehabbed or built 12 homes; • Provided affordable housing for 45 families; • Built, improved or maintained more than 1,000 acres of recreation trails; and • Recycled tons of tires and 715 appliances. The program contributes to economic development by paying wages and stipends to program participants. In the last five years, that amounts to more than $4.6 million. In that same time period, the Corps has awarded $665,000 in scholarships. The Heart of Oregon Corps’ 2011-12 budget of $1,409,000 came from foundation grants, donations, thrift store operations and the federal government’s AmeriCorps program. To learn more about the Heart of Oregon Corps, its mission and its people, visit, email, or call them at 541-633-7834.

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Heart of Oregon Corps helps youths make changes for the positive. by Kathy Oxborrow, for The Bulletin Special Projects | Photos Courtesy of Heart of Oregon Corps

The Heart of Oregon Corps aims to make to make a big difference in the lives of young people by inspiring hope and empowering positive change through jobs, education and stewardship. While recent economic news has been a bit rosier with an upswing in new jobs nationwide, Oregon’s unemployment rate remains high at 8.2 percent. Only 12 other states have higher unemployment rates than Oregon. According to the Heart of Oregon Corps, the youth unemployment rate is double that of the unemployment rate for all Americans. Laura Handy, the organization’s executive director said they use a “work, earn, learn model” in their programs to engage young people ages 16 to 27 to make positive changes in their lives. “They might build houses, they might do weatherization, they might work on public lands and build trails, they

might do fire fuels reduction or they might build fences to protect watersheds,” said Handy. The guiding force behind “work, earn, learn” was Denny Maloney, a long-time leader in juvenile justice issues both locally and nationally. Together with Dan Saraceno, a school counselor in Sisters and David Holmes, a probation officer who became the Corp’s first executive director, they founded the organization in 2000. Maloney was the director of the Deschutes County Department of Community Justice for 16 years and the building housing that pro-

gram was renamed the Dennis Maloney Community Justice Center following his untimely death in 2007 at age 55. The three men saw a need for youths who were on probation and those at risk of entering the juvenile justice system to have a positive way of becoming involved in the community. “They wanted young people to have a way of developing a work ethic, to have real bootson-the-ground job skills training so they would be ready for the workforce,” said Handy. Offering alternative ways for young people to continue their education was also a priority. Program participants can work

on their GED or college classes while in the program. “We’ll help them select a class that really helps them dip their toe into the college environment while they’re still with us in a supportive environment so they can successfully launch after the program,” said Handy. Amy Mentuck, the director of development at Heart of Oregon Corps, pointed out that giving back to the community is another element of the program. “Young people also get something back,” she said. “They get a sense of pride for the community that they reside in.” The Corps has numerous partnerships with government, businesses and other nonprofits. Robin Cooper, community outreach manager at the Bend

Area Habitat for Humanity, has been working with the Corp’s program participants for several years. The youth work on home repairs and weatherization projects. Cooper said the work experience builds skills but it also “gives youth an opportunity to be better than they were yesterday” by serving their community. The backgrounds of the young people in the program vary widely. Sarah Laroucque, 30, said she got into trouble with the law in her late teens and early 20s and her probation officer introduced her to the program. At the time she had a one-month-old daughter whom accompanied her to the Corps’ interview. During the program La-

roucque obtained her GED through Central Oregon Community College. Next month she will mark her five-year anniversary at BendBroadband where she is a senior representative for customer care in billing. Laroucque said she touts the program to young people who aren’t sure what they want to

do. “It creates so many opportunities if you have the drive to want to do it.” Current Corps member, Joe Overland, 25, has a much different story than Laroucque. His has college degree in construction management but had no work experience when he saw and an ad in The Source for the Corps’ program. As the crew leader working with Habitat, Overland is responsible for making sure his team is at the right place at the right time. He says he’s learned a lot and now has a successful work history that he can put on his resume. Overland’s advice to anyone considering the program is to “make sure you’re ready to work and get your hands dirty.”

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Interior Design Styles, Simplified Although there are hundreds of styles to choose from for designing your home, most interior design styles can be neatly grouped into 4 major categories.

1. 2. 3. 4.

Casual Formal Traditional Modern

We often see a room in a magazine that we like (or don’t like) but we really can’t pinpoint why. There is just something about it that speaks to us. Oftentimes, it’s because of a specific key design element that was used to create the space. Knowing which style’s elements appeal to you most, can help you when shopping for home products, or when working with your designer. You can “mix” styles brilliantly within the same space. The trick is to choose most of your elements from the same major style, and add to or accent that style with elements from one of the other major categories by having something that ties them all together, such as color or the general era represented. Here are some key characteristics of the 4 major design styles. THE CASUAL STYLE is homey and comfortable. Furnishings tend to be chunky and oversized. Commonplace and welcoming items are used for accessories, such as birdhouses, jars,

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wooden trays, baskets, and books. Wood finishes on furniture and flooring are mostly light and medium toned, with painted wood tables a common feature. Window treatments tend to be gathered, with whimsical hardware in themes like birds or grapes. Upholstered pieces are overstuffed, soft, and cozy. Cotton printed fabrics show up in many areas, with a lot of fabric and pattern mixing of plaids, florals, stripes, and prints.

THE FORMAL STYLE is elegant and stately. Vertical line is important, and wood furniture is often tall and stained in dark, polished finishes. Heavy trimmings and fringes adorn window treatments and the skirts of upholstered pieces. Window coverings are often layered, and Queen Anne swags with cascades and long, puddled draperies are representative of the formal style.

Upholstered pieces are pulled tight in rich fabrics like damask, brocade, and silk. Accessories show up in perfect pairs, with displays in mirror images. Materials such as crystal, marble, and porcelain are common in formal accents. Antiques and fine reproductions fit perfectly into these spaces.

THE TRADITIONAL STYLE is a perfect blend of the casual and the formal styles. It reflects understated elegance. Furnishings have classic lines and understated detail. There is often a mix of dark wood finishes with more medium toned pieces. Window coverings are simple yet refined, with pleated panels on rings hung from fluted wood poles—with finials—being a common treatment. Jacquard fabrics, silks and linens are used on upholstery and window treatments. Leather is common as well. Accents include brass, porcelain, and crystal lamps, decorative china plates, leather bound books, and timeless accessories. THE MODERN STYLE is urban, fresh, and sleek. Clean lines and contrast

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of color are used as design tools to distinguish and separate furnishings and accessories from their background. The use of “negative space” is a key component—space is deliberately placed around items so they appear as though they are “on display”. Upholstery on furniture is usually in neutral colors, and fabrics are pulled tight, with black, white, or colored leather in saturated hues being common upholstery materials. Pops of bold color and geometric pattern on throw pillows and accessories are used deliberately yet sparingly for effect. There is very little “frill”. Window treatments tend to be in hard materials with clean lines and right angles, with very little fabric— if any— used at the window. Accent lighting strategically highlights art and sculpture. Accessories are few and are always “artistic” in nature. With this lesson on decorating styles, you can now create your own style by mixing design elements from the four main styles to create an interior that is unique to you, and one you’ll want to come home to again and again.

Group of Sisters area women created an informal club long ago based on their collective love of horses. by John Cal, for The Bulletin Special Projects

Photo courtesy of Lynn Woodward Creative

Suzi Bradley is an artist specializing in leather and wool. Marcea DeGregorio manages the Sisters Branch of Washington Federal. Sheryn Bagley is a bookkeeper for an electical contractor, and Shawn Biggers pilots for Southwest Airlines. At first glance, their varied interests seem too divergent for

these women to belong together, but unwittingly through their distinct bond, they’ve been keeping a celebratory tradition in Central Oregon alive for over 25 years. They’re all Saddlebags. “We don’t all ride,” said Pat Stephanson, 83, and longtime member of the Sisters Saddlebags. “Some of us are trail riders. Some

of us are combined drivers or do cutting or are draft horse riders.” “I don’t even have a horse right now,” laughed Bradley, “but I just love riding and love getting together . . . It’s the camaraderie. Everybody’s got such a different background, but we all love horses, and we all love spending time together.”

Originally started by a group of local Sisters women who liked getting together to go trail riding in the mountains, the Saddlebags aren’t a club per se, at least in the traditional sense. And they aren’t philanthropic or volunteer oriented like the Lions or the Kiwanis, though they do participate in local parades, many U MAGAZINE | Spring 2013 | 23

“It’s the camaraderie. Everybody’s got such a different background, but we all love horses, and we all love spending time together.”

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of their members are on the Sisters Rodeo Committee and they regularly help to maintain riding trails. Its origins are simpler than that. They’re all women who love horses. “We don’t have officers or anything like that,” said Bradley. “When we have to make a decision or something, we just vote.” “There’s no political garbage or power struggles,” added Bonnie Knox. “We disagree sometimes, but we just talk about it and figure it out.” “If anything, Bonnie’s kind of the boss, or at least our self-appointed bossy person,” said Stephanson, laughing in honest humor. “Oh, I’m not the boss,” interrupted Knox in compulsory modesty, but it wasn’t false or insincere. These women in their fierce love for horses all also have a fierce love for each other, and so their differences aren’t in struggle, but in a way complementary and natural, as in a herd of horses or a string of ponies. 24 | Spring 2013 | U MAGAZINE

Still, why horses? Why is that the common bond that brings these and so many women together? “I think it goes back to fairy tales,” said Tammi Palmer, horsemanship director of Big Lake Youth Camp, also in Sisters. “As little girls, you get the idea of riding your horse in a meadow with the wind in your hair. You want to be pretty and to connect with the animal. . . Horses play to something emotional and romantic in women.” Tammi has been the horsemanship director at Big Lake for more than a decade, managing both a staff of wranglers and the campers they serve, a group she says that, at large, is mostly made up of young girls and women. “Boys like horses, too, but usually grow out of it,” Palmer continued. “And there are great cowboys out there, of course, but girls have a special emotional connection with horses. “I’ve heard my wranglers tell me so many times over the years that horses are good listeners. Then

you clue into the emotional state of the horse, too, and treat it more like a friend than an animal; and horses need that. They need you to be strong, but calm and gentle, to nurture and sooth.” This is perhaps the reason the Sisters Saddlebags have been together so long — why they make so much sense and work so well as a group. It’s not just a group of women who are looking out for each other, but also a group of horses who are looking out for their women, that in their size

and strength, in the power of their flanks and withers, they too are nurturing and soothing the women who they have taken into their care. They have their monthly potlucks, and the infamous biannual camp-outs complete with eight-hour trail rides and coconut bras, but the formality of the group is definitely only a small part of who these women are. “I’m going to keep riding ’till they make me stop, and these ladies right here understand that,” said Stephanson, who oddly enough got wildly bucked off her horse the last time the Saddlebags marched in the Sisters Rodeo Parade. “She just got back on and kept going,” said Bradley. “We’re all tough old birds,” Stephanson responded. Even though the Saddle Bags

are a women-only organization, they do sometimes allow men to play a small role in their group. For example, they have an annual Cinco de Mayo dinner to which they invite their husbands and partners. “We have to let them come to something cause they help support our cause,” said Knox. “Yeah, they get our horses ready for us and bring us our wine,” laughed Bradley. You can see in their interaction that they don’t take themselves too seriously (at least where it doesn’t matter). Because it’s true that they’ve all fallen in love with the fairy tale of a girl on her horse, but even more powerful, they’ve brought this fantasy into focus and made it a reality. They’re living their childhood dreams of belonging, of being saved by prince charming, but

instead of having him ride in on that white horse, they decided to do it themselves, to be their own saviors through community and camping, with trail rides and long conversations. “I can talk to these ladies about anything — dogs, horses, life,” said Bradley. “We can talk about any and all of that,” added Knox, “spouses, marriage problems ...” “And we don’t gossip ... not too much, at least,” laughed Stephanson. They didn’t need the fairy tale to save them, but instead got to enjoy it on their own terms. And though they didn’t need Prince Charming to come charging in on his noble stallion to rescue them (they actually own their own stallions — Arabians in Bonnie’s case), they are nonetheless thankful when he comes bearing a glass of wine.

Celebrating Sisters

Horsewomen The Sisters Saddlebags photo that appears page 23 of U Magazine was taken by Sisters photographer Lynn Woodward, who’s quick to share that the image is part of a much greater story — one that began as a modest idea yet resulted in the distribution of $6,000 to three Central Oregon animal charities. It all began in 2011, around a table at Bronco Billy’s Ranch Grill and Saloon in Sisters, where four friends — Darlene Johnston, Carol Statton, Susan Aylor and the late Patty Swarens — were chatting and sipping margaritas. Around that table, an idea emerged: to create and sell a calendar that features photos of area horesewomen wearing 19th-century garb, then give the proceeds to charity.

Woodward volunteered to handle art direction, photography and production, and others, including the Sisters Saddlebags, agreed to model for photos. Advertisers and sponsors helped defray the printing costs, and the final 800 copies sold out quickly. Of the money raised, $1,000 was donated to Furry Friends Foundation, $1,000 was given to Wild Wings Raptor Rehabilitation, and $4,000 went to the Deschutes County Livestock Animal Rescue Shelter. To view the images featured on this 2012 fundraising calendar, visit lynnwoodwardphotography. com and click on “Sisters Horsewomen Calendar” under the “Galleries” header.

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THE SANDWICH GENERATION: Feeling the Squeeze The Sandwich Generation, a new buzz word, refers to caregivers who find themselves squeezed in between caring for younger loved ones such as children, and their elder parents or other elder family members.

on the caregivers own well-being as they struggle to take better care of themselves.

members have an opportunity to talk abut and share their thoughts and feelings.

Some of the most common stressors that affect both urban and rural sandwich generation caregivers are:

Currently, the typical American Sandwich Generation caregiver is in their mid-forties, married, employed and cares for his/her family and an elderly parent, usually a mother. Women in the sandwich generation often try to do it all. It is important to note that there are more and more men that find themselves in a caregiving role. Likewise, there is an increasing segment of family and sandwich generation caregivers that live in rural communities. And, often rural caregivers find themselves removed from readily available and professionally organized support services and care networks. They may also find themselves not only carrying the normal burdens that are associated with providing care for a loved one, but also with such challenges as geographic barriers to resources and isolation from other caregivers, family members and informal supports. This lack of service availability can add to caregiver stress, burnout and even depression. This stress takes its toll not only on personal relationships with spouses and children but also

• How do I find resources that I need for myself and my parent?

Hold a family meeting: This provides an opportunity to discuss the many caregiving tasks that need to be accomplished each day or week. Mutual expectations should be set regarding how many tasks of caregiving will be accomplished. Caregiving is often a one person show but it does not need to be if you have family support. The family meeting also allows family members to take part and share in the gift of caregiving which can be very rewarding.

• How much of my time is too much time in caregiving roles? • How do I divide my time between by own family/children and my parent? • How do I keep generational peace between my kids and parent? • How do I find time for my marriage? • How do I find time for myself? • How do I deal with my feelings of isolation? • How do I deal with my feelings of guilt for not having enough time to accomplish all that I “should” be doing? To counter act some of the above listed stressors, following are some tips that may help sandwich generation caregivers: Communication: Encourage children and elders to communicate with one another. Make sure that all family

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be “in” your marriage or significant relationships. Listen to your body. Too often we do not listen to our bodies no matter how loudly they may be talking to us. As we just observed, Mother’s Day is a good time for moms and their families to recognize the importance of addressing stress and managing it in healthy ways. Mothers often put their family needs first and neglect their own. Every caregiver situation is unique but there are always common factors which bridge these situations and caregivers together. It is easy to become lost in the caregiving you are providing but it is important to remember that support can come in many different sources. For those who are feeling “squeezed” in the sandwich generation, you are not alone and assistance can often be just a phone call away.

Although seeking help to aleviate workplace harrassment may be difficult, laws exist to protect victims. by Gregg Morris, for The Bulletin Special Projects harassment is done by staring, posting sexual pictures or sending emails of a sexual manner. Lastly, harassment can be done through actions such as physical contact, put down gestures or other unwanted acts. “You never know how that is going to be perceived by the other employees,” says Kurt Barker, chair of the Employment Law Department at Karnopp Petersen LLP in Bend. “You have to think about the co-worker sitting in the next cubicle.” If an employee asks, demands or shows any attempt to get unwelcome sexual attention from another, it can be considered sexual harassment in the workplace. Almost 50 years ago, the Civil Rights Act of 1964 was enacted to ensure basic liberties to all Americans. Title VII of the law made workplace harassment a violation. Obviously, the workplace is any environment where people are employed and conduct work. Harassment is any act committed by a person that makes another feel uncomfortable, offended, intimidated or oppressed.


Harassment can be verbal through degrading words, jokes or other unwanted comments. Visual

Sexual Harassment

While there are many types of harassment in the workplace, sexual harassment is still the most common. Federal law distinguishes two sets of legal grounds for declaring sexual harassment in the workplace. The first, quid pro quo, refers to a person in authority demanding sexual favors from a worker in exchange for employment or security or job benefits. The second set is called hostile work environment harassment. According to the U.S. Supreme Court, hostile work environment

harassment occurs when the offensive conduct is so severe the employee does not want to return to work because of it. While men are subject to sexual harassment, women still make up the largest group of sexual harassment complainants. A recent pole by ABC News states that one in four women, as compared to one in 10 men, has experienced workplace sexual harassment.

Title VII of the Civil Rights Act

The law states: “It shall be an unlawful employment practice for an employer to fail or refuse to hire or discharge any individual, or otherwise to discriminate against any individual with respect to his compensation, terms, conditions, or privileges of employment, because of such individual’s race, color, religion, sex, or national origin.” While the federal law refers to businesses that employ 15 or more workers, businesses who employ fewer than 15 are covered under state laws and regulations. In an effort to add weight to the law, the State of Oregon increased its fines and penalties in 2008. “While the core of the law has not changed, there has been an expansion of its areas of coverage over the years,” Barker said. The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC)

enforces Title VII along with state fair employment practices agencies. They investigate, mediate, and may file lawsuits on behalf of employees.

Oregon Law

According to Jeff Burgess of the Oregon Bureau of Labor and Industries, “Oregon law provides several additional protected categories, such as sexual orientation and gender identity, marital status, family relationship, injured workers, credit history and victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, stalking and criminal harassment.” Oregon law also protects individuals who report criminal activity, testify in a trial, or file a lawsuit from retaliation.

Is the Environment Hostile?

Harassment must be viewed in its totality. It is important not to confuse rudeness with harassment. The harassing behavior must be severe or pervasive enough to change the conditions of employment and create an abusive working environment. Generally, a hostile environment claim must show a pattern of offensive conduct. The EEOC has established a set of factors to determine whether a hostile environment exists. They ask if the conduct was unwelcome, verbal or physical, a one-time U MAGAZINE | Spring 2013 | 29

occurrence or repeated. They also ask if the conduct was hostile and offensive, if others joined in, and if the harassment was directed at more than one individual.

Appropriate Employee Conduct

Here are some steps to ensure appropriate behavior: • Avoid behavior that demeans or shows disrespect. • Recognize that some remarks may seem fine for some, but not others. • Consider how you would react if the same behavior was directed toward a loved one. • Ask yourself if you would act the same way in front of a significant other. • Ask yourself how you would feel if the behavior was captured on video or featured on the nightly news.

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Appropriate Employer Conduct

By law, the employer must take all reasonable steps to prevent workplace harassment and discrimination. If harassment does occur, the employer must take immediate action to stop further harassment and correct the initial problem. Finally, the employer must create and implement a harassment preventative policy.

Location, Location, Location

“Harassment laws don’t stop at the front door of the company,” says Barker. Harassment can occur outside the workplace at a company event like a picnic or a party. Also, if a direct supervisor is at your home and commits harassment, it still falls under workplace harassment because they have direct power over you at work.

Love Contract

One tool that is gaining momentum in business is called a “love contract.” Many couples meet and enter into a relationship while at work. The love contract is a document that explains to your employer that both of you entered voluntarily into a relationship and you understand the company’s sexual harassment policy.

If You’re Harassed

Often, the most effective method of stopping workplace harassment is simply telling the person to stop. The victim should let the responsible person know, in a direct manner, the actions are unwelcome. If the direct approach doesn’t work, then report the situation to a supervisor, a human resources representative or a member of management.

At the Workplace

by Connie Worrell-Druliner, for The Bulletin

The New Look of Temp Work Business owners are increasingly relying on temporary staffing in this changing market.

There’s been a fundamental shift in the way companies do business today as staffing services have become a more vital part of business and hiring strategies. Since the great recession, U.S. staffing firms have created more jobs than any other industry and are expected to grow faster and add more new jobs in the next decade, according to American Staffing Association (ASA). Business owners are increasingly using temporary and contract staffing as a means to help them quickly react to changing market conditions. This change in hiring preference can be seen in recent data from ASA, which confirms that the number of Americans employed by staffing companies rose 6 percent in the first quarter of 2012 to an average of 2.78 million daily. And according to the Association of Canadian Search, Employment and Staffing Services (ACSESS), the Canadian Staffing Index, which measures the hours of labor performed by temporary and contract staff, increased 21 percent in June, year to date. Express Employment Professionals recently conducted a survey of 665 employers throughout the U.S. and Canada and found that many planned on adding temporary workers in the third quarter, especially in the commercial and light industrial sectors. Staffing agencies are allowing businesses the flexibility to expand and decrease their workforces to meet demand. Like employers, workers are also seeing the benefits of flexible employment. According to a recent story by National

Public Radio, temporary employment is a good way to get a foot in the door with a company in a down economy. Contingent workers also have the freedom to travel and work in different fields. Working on a temporary basis for different employers allows individuals an opportunity to increase their skill sets, widen networking circles, and have flexibility in their work life. Because of this freedom, more workers are using temporary work to stay effective in their specific fields. By working in different environments, social settings and businesses, workers have to

adapt their specific skills and training to fit in the ever-changing company cultures. This is one reason contingent workers are becoming more effective and experienced in the workplace. Another trend in this industry is that staffing employees are working for firms longer than ever before. The staffing industry has lately seen an increase in tenure compared to previous years. While employers cautiously wait to see if the economic growth will be sustained, they are keeping contract workers for extended periods. Workers are seeing this as a great way to potentially be hired on full time with companies later. A study by ASA in 2011 found that when the economy is growing at a normal rate, 53 percent of staffing employees who remain in the workforce bridge to full-time employment. This is why temporary work is becoming so attractive to top talent. It provides them more opportunities while giving employers a first-hand look at their potential to thrive in a company. In the next 10 years, the U.S. staffing industry is expected to grow faster and add more new jobs than nearly any other industry, according to ASA. And to solidify its proper place, the BLS believes the demand for temporary help will generate a significant amount of employment growth during this next decade. The staffing industry is growing and becoming a more vital aspect of the business environment, and temporary workers are on the front end leading the change.

Connie Worrell-Druliner is the founder of a locally owned business, Express Employment Professionals, offering human resource solutions. Express can help your organization, by finding qualified workers, solving your retention needs, and providing knowledge based training to your workforce.

U MAGAZINE | Spring 2013 | 31

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