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EDITORIAL Voices of Real Life


heshvan, real life! The two seem to go together. No holidays. No excuses to take off school or work, or to cheat on your diet. Cheshvan is a month of real-life action, after holidays filled with real-life fun, activities and celebrations. This month’s Voices was published later than usual, because I too took some days of family fun and activity during last month’s holiday season.

Now I’m back at my computer and once again behind the camera. A big question that everyone’s asking, “Is there a freeze? Has anyone started building?” I have a different question. During the past almost-year when we couldn’t build, has anyone done anything else to connect with our Land in any other way? If you’ve read Voices editori-

als over the past years, you probably know that I feel that connecting to the land does not mean building a six story skyscraper. It means digging a six centimeter hole and planting a sapling. Nothing connects a Jews to his land more than actually connecting physically to the land itself, the soil, the earth of Eretz Yisrael – yes the aretz. That’s what folks have done in Netzer, and as they’ve planted, they saved Jewish land in Gush Etzion from being stolen by Arabs. Working the land is also what they’ve done near the Orot Yehuda Yeshiva High School in Efrat. The cover photo by renowned photographer Gershon Ellinson catches the students of Orot Yehuda harvesting Jewish grapes and preparing for a ceremony of the fourth year of the vineyard. This is a great example to be followed by every high school and every elementary school in Israel. We must teach our children to reconnect with the land for their future and the future of Am Yisrael. Read on. Cheshvan, real life. Why not begin by planting a tree, a field, getting back to soil of our holy land? Happy healthy safe winter. Hoping for lots of rain. Read a daily mini Voices on line, http://voices-magazine. . May your Voices be heard.

Sharon Katz



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ince the days of Noah, the Jewish people have been intrigued by vineyards, said HaRav Shlomo Kimche, Rosh Yeshiva of Orot Yehuda Yeshiva High School in Efrat. Our attachment to the vineyard stems from a combination of its beauty, its smell, its color and an appreciation of the delicious wine it produces.

“The vineyard has a special bracha to itself. A special bracha for the wine. And special halachot that restrain a person from

using its produce until it reaches its fourth year – which is Kerem Revai.” The fruit of the fourth year may not be eaten until it is either brought to Jerusalem to be eaten there in purity or until its kedusha (holiness) is redirected into a coin that is then taken to Jerusalem and used to buy food, that is eaten in a state of purity. “Today since we have no purity,” Rav Kimche explained, “and letzarieinu, we don’t have Bet HaMik-

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dash, the coin is destroyed. Until this act is done, the fruit of the vineyard cannot be used.” Since this year is the fourth year of the Jewish vineyards next to Yeshivat Orot Yehuda, the rabbis and students participated last month in the Kerem Revai ceremony. Rosh HaYeshiva HaRav Shlomo Kimche explained to the yeshiva about the importance of Kerem Revai mitzvah. (Continued)


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zion winery for the production of wine. (Continued from page 5) he owners of the vineyard (both of whom are parents of Orot Yehuda) discussed the spiritual experience of redeeming the vineyard, as well as the practical aspect. The boys were taught how to use harvest clippers, so that they wouldn’t clip off their fingers or damage the trees. Class by class, the students worked in the vineyards, filling up crates and crates of the first produce of this vineyard.


“We made a bracha on Kerem Revai, shehechianu and then explained to the boys about the significance of the coin,” Rav Kimche said. Following the ceremony, the grapes were shipped off to the Gush Et-

Shraga Rosenberg, owner and vintner at the Gush Etzion Winery, welcomed the region’s newest Jewish vineyard. Shraga told Voices that Orot Yehuda harvested 1300 kilos of Cabernet Sauvignon grapes. In about a year and a half, those grapes will be enjoyed as Gush Etzion Winery’s Nachal HaPirim wine. Rav Kimche commented that he felt blessed that he and his talmidim were involved in the development of the vineyard over the past four years. The rosh yeshiva explained, “The Jewish people have had a problem since the time of Yosef HaTzaddik. Yosef knew he was bringing our people into galut (exile) for the first time, and he made sure that we stayed shepherds, because that was a portable profession. Since then Jews have

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[consecrated the fourth year crop].” (Continued from page 7) always been portable professionals – dentists, architects, accountants, etc. These are all professions of the galut.” “Now we’re back in Eretz Yisrael and we have to connect back to the land. That’s why Rav Kook loved the kibbutznikim.” Despite their secular ways, kibbutznikim had reconnected to the land.

This shows that our relationship to our land should be like our relationship to our wife or our home. “It is the strongest possible connection to Eretz Yisrael,” he said. “We have to develop a relationship with the land in a direct way – and there is nothing more direct that planting, sowing and reaping.”

Photos by Gershon Ellinson

He continued, “Hebrew is the only language in which a man can be the husband of a wife, husband of a home and husband of a vineyard. And those are the three people who leave a war – one who engaged a woman, but had not yet married her; one who built a house and not done chanukat habayit (dedicating his new house), and one who had planted a vineyard and hadn’t

After the Kerem Revai ceremony, Rav Kimche said that they tasted the grapes, and they were “fantastic!”

The Rosh Yeshiva added, “It is very exciting, reaping the fruit of this land with boys who were born or raised in this land, who learn the Torah of this land, and are soon to be soldiers defending this land.” “This is urai vanim livaneche, shalom al yisrael (and may you see your children's children, peace unto Israel).” Psalms 128:6

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stranded in Europe due to the sudden outbreak of World War I.

Born in Saint Gallen, Switzerland in 1921, James Kimche was the youngest son of Avraham Kimche, an important member of the Jewish community there. The Kimches trace their family tree back to the Radak, who wrote a commentary on the Tanach in the 12th century. In more modern times, the family hosted HaRav Avraham Yitzchak HaCohen Kook, ztz’l between 1914 and 1916 when he was

When World War II broke out, Yisrael Kimche’s father passed away and Yisrael traveled to London, England, to study in Schneider Yeshiva with Rav Eliayhu Dessler. Meanwhile Yisrael’s brothers in Switzerland had assimilated, so that they would not be identified as Jewish if Hitler

hile Aliyah has its difficult moments for everyone, making Aliyah today cannot compare to doing so 40 years ago, 50 years ago or 60 years ago. Jerusalem resident Yisrael James Kimche, o’h, who passed away on the eve of Rosh Hashana, tried them all. The third time was the charm.

Yisrael Kimche, the youngest of seven children, was sent to Frankfurt, Germany, to study with HaRav Shimshon Rafael Hirsch before World War II. There he grew up in the home of his cousins, the Aumann family (Yisrael Robert Aumann won the Nobel prize in economics in 2005).

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(Continued from page 11) swept through all of Europe. After World War II, they had opened their own Swiss bank, the Kimche Landau Bank. When Yisrael became an accountant in 1950, the brothers came to London to offer him a partnership in the bank. Yisrael declined, because the bank was open on Shabbat. They offered to find a replacement for his Sabbath work. He declined again. They said, “We're offering you riches, and you're talking to us about Shabbos. Take your Shabbos and get lost." Unfortunately, through the years their families went the way of assimilated families.

Yisrael, on the other hand, married Sybil, and the two shared a dream of raising a large family and living in Jerusalem.

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Having turned down the partnership in his brothers’ bank, Yisrael took Sybil and their little daughter and tried in 1950 to make Aliyah to Jerusalem. Unsuccessful in finding proper work or learning Hebrew, the family left downhearted for Australia. Israel James Kimche at groundbreaking ceremony of Yeshiva High School Orot Yehuda in Efrat. Courtesy photo

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n 1958, they gave Aliyah another try, but failed again. They returned to England, where a son was born to the couple. The son, Shlomo, is today the Rosh Yeshiva of Orot Yehuda Yeshiva High School in Efrat, Gush Etzion. In 1969, the Kimches tried once more to make Aliyah to Jerusalem. When they failed yet again at finding employment, they downheartedly decided to return to England. Just then, a friend, a professor at the Technion in Haifa, offered them an apartment for three months, so that they could try out life in Haifa. Within that time, both Yisrael and Sybil found jobs and Shlomo Kimche grew up as a Haifa boy. Yisrael worked as an accountant for 17 years in Haifa. Still, however, he was determined to retire to Jerusalem and learn in Kollel.


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egistration is now open for this year's Melabev “Don’t Forget Us” Walkathon scheduled for Nov. 23–25. The Walkathon aims to increase awareness of Alzheimer's disease and raise funds to enable Melabev's quality care. Now in its seventh year, the walkathon has become a popular event for walkers of all abilities. The hour-long Moonlight Walk - an evening hike by the light of the moon - a Melabev tradition - is scheduled for Tuesday, Nov. 23 (when the moon is at its fullest, in the middle of Kislev) along Nahal Kesalon, close to Beit Shemesh. On Wed. and Thurs., Nov. 24–25, trekkers will hike in the varied beauty of the lower Carmel Range through “Little Switzerland”. Call Elana Wahlhaus, 02-993-4269; email; or visit

Rav Shlomo Kimche told Voices that on the day his father turned 65, he sold his house and business, and joined a Kollel ballebatim (kollel for businessmen) in Bayit Vegan. Rav Shlomo said, “I met him on the day he started growing a beard. I said, ‘Daddy, what's the beard?’ He said with a chuckle, ‘I'm assimilating into Bayit Vegan.’” At the age of 89, Yisrael Kimche had surely lived his dream. He had passed away after 40 years in Israel – 17 years in Haifa and 23 in Jerusalem - with 113 descendants, bli ayin hara. He might not have been the partner in a bank, but his more than 100 G-d fearing children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren proved that he had made the right investment.

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Women for Israel's Tomorrow (Women in Green) mourns the sudden passing

of Carl Freyer who died on the eve of Sukkot, on his way to Israel. His official age was 90, but Carl was younger than all of us in his enthusiasm and passionate love for the Land of Israel and the People of Israel. He was a friend and supporter to so many of us here in Israel, including Women in Green. Carl was a proud Jew and a fighter. As was mentioned at the funeral, he was like a lion; the roaring lion of Judah, teaching all of us to stand up for our ideals and not be afraid to express them publicly. He did not limit himself to talking; he was a do-er and thanks to his help, support and

partnership, many projects were able to be realized. Just a week before his passing, Carl called us. He was very disturbed by Bibi Netanyahu's weakness and urged us all to be strong and determined in our fight for the Land of Israel. We will always remember Carl and draw strength from his memory; his faith,his passion, his determination, his steadfastness and his loyalty to continue the struggle for the People and the Land of Israel. We send our condolences to his entire family. May you be comforted among the mourners of Zion.

Nadia Matar and Yehudit Katsover

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ukkot brought lots of exciting events. Here’s a sampling of the happenings in which our Voices readers participated. Thanks for sending in your adventures, readers! (There were eating-sukkot everywhere.) Cindy Kline and family attended three great festivals. The Diaspora Museum (Beit Hatfusot),, taught visitors how to set up family trees. Then Delilah beach in Ashkelon held a recycling festival. The entrance fee was one bottle or bag per person. Highlights: the Tararam drum dance show and of course, a swim in the sea. Lastly, they enjoyed the 14th annual Beit Shemesh festival.

The Atlows were among the hundreds of families that pressed grapes at the Festival. Afterwards, they cooled off in one of the many refreshing Gush Etzion springs.

The Grape Harvest Festival of Gush Etzion was a tremendous success. Shraga Rosenberg of the Gush Etzion Winery surveyed his latest fruits. (Photo by Miri Tzachi)



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that was abandoned a few months ago (below). Speakers included HaRav Dov Lior, shlita, MK Aryeh Eldad and Machon HaMikdash’s Rabbi Yehuda Glick. Rabbi Glick spoke about Talya and Itzchak Imas, HY�D, who were killed a few short months ago near Beit Haggai. The Imases were supporters of Adurayim activities, plus those at Netzer, Shdema and on the Temple Mount.

The Atlows also enjoyed the Binyanei HaUma Judaism in Action happening. Machon HaMikdash (The Temple Institute) had a lechem hapanim exhibit. Abigail Browning joined Women in Green and the Judea Action Committee and hundreds of Jews in Adurayim, the army base in the southern Hebron Hills

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There were even exciting local activities in Efrat (at right). Debbie Shochat, head of children’s activities in the Zayit Raanan synagogue of Efrat said that Zayit Raanan opened the new year with a special 5771st Birthday Party for the World. The kids participated in an organized sukkah hop, and then



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Yoana Yehudah said that veteran South African olim joined in the ancient city of Sussya for a Boerewors Braai. In addition to the traditional SA barbecue, they toured Sussya (below). The event was sponsored by Telfed African Zionist Federation (Israel) Judean Hills Regional Committee.

had their own learning on Leil Hoshana Rabba. Before Simchat Torah, the children received a surprise visit by all of the seven ushpizin, (pictured above) who told the children their stories. They ended the holiday with children’s hakafot on Simchat Torah.

Author and lecturer Roy Neuberger spoke at the Kever Rachel annex (above) about “The Rise and Fall of Yishmael.” The program was held a week before Parshat Lech Lecha, in which Yishmael (the progenitor of the Moslem culture) is first encountered in the Torah. (Continued on following page) Vol. 14 13 Issue 09 09


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Steve Leavitt explained that another Zayit synagogue, Amutat Kehilat Menorat Hamaor of Efrat, cleared the ground (Continued from previous page)


r. Neuberger spoke about the current worldwide antiIsrael coalition between the Western and Moslem Worlds, and how our Prophets and Sages predict that internal friction within that coalition will fatally weaken both parties and usher in the Age of Moshiach and the Final Redemption of the Jewish People. for a new shul in the Zayit to service the 100+ families in Hefziba-Barkan (plus future families if the planned apartments get built). Fifty of the families moved in over the past year alone.



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Abigail also attended the Likud rally (left) during Chol HaMoed. The rally declared an end to the building freeze in Judea and Shomron, along with an emphatic statement "It will never happen again!" For more events snapped by Abigail, visit http://myromancewithisrael. blogspot. com/

Abigail Browning visited the Western Wall on Sukkot. Every day of Chol Hamoed (right) crowds gather to pray and rejoice in the celebration of Succot, a significant reminder of the hope for the unity of Am Israel for which we pray.

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A World After This - A Memoir of Loss and Redemption “Lola Lieber”

by Alida Brill Published by Devora Publishing Company 278 pages Reviewed by Sharon Katz



olocaust narratives are a vital part of our collective memory. Their plots share many storylines, but each one contributes its unique black, purple and red threads to the tapestry of the darkest part Jewish history. Author Alida Brill’s biography of Lola Lieber portrays a Jewish woman of faith, ingenuity, strength and street smarts. Devora Publishing’s A World


After This – A Memoir of Loss and Redemption tells the story of Lola Lieber’s bravery and unbreakable determination to survive in the face of one deadly-close call after the other - proofs of the eternity of the Jewish people. Her story is a constant jolt to our shopping mall-based reality, “Could Jews really have suffered through all that and survived?” The author reminds us that Jews have been endur-

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ing persecution and extermination throughout their history. Hitler’s plans were nothing new. Long before the Inquisitions, Jews had to be identified with special clothing or accessories. The yellow star spread from ninth century Baghdad to Europe of medieval times. Variety gave way to Jewish belts, cone hats, shoes, armbands. Jewish bodies were reduced to ashes long before Nazi crematoria in Roman and later Inquisition-era auto da fe spectacles where Jews were burned at the stake. Hitler, yemach shmo, continued where others left off. Lola Lieber’s country of Poland was his most fruitful target. Home to Europe’s largest Jewish community, dating back to the tenth century, Poland watched as three million Jews, ninety percent of its Jewish population, were exterminated.

her book, Alida told the story of Shoah survivor Lola Lieber, who tried through the horrors of the Holocaust to keep her hopes alive, her dreams vivid, and her personal identity strong, even as she hid it in public. Lola’s story began in the pampered and serene Munkach home of her grandparents. Here she gained skills that enriched and even altered her fate. She discovered her lifelong gift as an artist, gained an air of sophistication and also learned how to speak a proper German, which ironically saved her life. She changed almost instantly from an innocent and privileged 15-year old to a (Continued on following page)

Author Alida Brill commented, “For each death, there is a name, a face, a smile, a laugh, a cry, a life’s story, an identity, a song, a poem, a lost voice, a vision, a dream, a hope, a word, a whisper, a painting.” With this premise as the foundation of

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(Continued from previous page) sudden-woman on the run with false names, fake passports and forged documents. She saw Auschwitz transformed from its 1939 state as a “fairly irrelevant railroad town” into the hub of Jewish annihilation.


ogether with her resourceful and devoted husband and partner Mechel, Lola ran from Krynica to Krakow, Niepolomice, the Bochnia Ghetto, Kosice, Budapest,

Debrecen, Bucharest and finally Munich, until she settled in New York, where she still lives today. Along the way she met unsavory and desperate characters, both Jewish and non-Jewish, and noble ones, like the Bobover rebbe, with whom Mechel and Lola became close friends at the start of the war. While the experiences she endured were “unspeakable horrors”, Lola never wished to suppress them. In fact, every Pesach from then on, Mechel and

Lola spoke of their own personal trials and tortures, and B”H “yetziat Mitraim” (escape from death). She saw babies smashed to mush, dug her family’s grave with her own bloody hands, lived alone when her husband was jailed, dodged between dead bodies during the bombing of Budapest and more. As the Nazi grip on the Jewish people became tighter and more lethal, Lola realized that “the only way to survive was by your faith in Divine Intervention, your wits and intelligence and the longing hope” of an Allied victory. She considered her strongest form of protest to the crushing Nazi decrees as keeping Shabbat and as many mitzvoth as possible. While the subject matter might not lend itself to poetry, sometimes A World after This reaches sensitive and lyrical beauty. And in the end, Lola became strengthened, experiencing personal triumphs, looking past the grief to build a new life. She began that new life by giving birth to the first Jewish baby in Munich after the war. Today Lola Lieber lives in Boro Park, where



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she continues to paint and participate in many chesed activities. Like her fellow Holocaust survivors, her beautiful growing family is her triumph over Hitler and his deadly plans. A World after This gets its title from the determination and faith that Mechel Lieber always possessed throughout their years of suffering, there would “a world after this.” B”H for the Liebers, there was. It is a great book. Get it at quality bookstores near you or on line at http://urimpublications. com.

Preview of Eliaz Cohen’s new book, Hear O’ L-rd


n the next issue, IY”H, one of the books to be reviewed is Hear O’ L-rd, Poems from the Disturbances of 2000-2009 by Kfar Etzion’s Eliaz Cohen, recipient of the Prime Minister’s Award for literature in 2006. Here’s a short taste of what’s to come:

and suddenly spring burst forth in the middle of this Marcheshvan and I saw the beautiful soldier (before I was swallowed into the mouth of the tunnel) leaning on the large stone barrier, in the pose of a gentle conqueror O who can roll the autumn heat the soldier and the huge stone off the mouth of this screaming land

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Cheshvan Means Back to Real Life


began writing this column on Friday, Isru Chag Succot/Simchat Torah. I had just taken down the decorations from the succah. The posters, pictures and various crafts by my older grandchildren are stored away for next year. At this point if I had a succah large enough for a few dozen people, instead of our simple 2x5 meter simple one, I’d have enough decorations!

It’s a new year. Last year was the “year of my father.” During Succot 5770 I went to New York to bring my father here to Shiloh on Aliyah and prepare for my mother’s Aliyah. He enjoyed his time in Shiloh, but my mother decided that they’d be better off with my sister in a senior residence in Arizona. So, early in the summer my father was packed up again and we took him to Arizona. And there they are… Last year I didn’t have much of a Succot and no Simchat Torah. I heard Kohelet, Ecclesiastes, twice, though. So this year I looked forward to a much more Jewish Holiday season, and Baruch HaShem I had it. And as a bonus, G-d gave us a new granddaughter, too. Please enjoy the pictures of our succah, the “Hachanasat Sefer Torah in memory of Shmuel Yerushalmi, HY”D, Avi Siton, HY”D and his mother Penina Siton, Z”L; the fantastic activities for the entire family at Tel Shiloh; and the Avihu Keinan, HY”D, Chai Land of Israel March. What this year will bring, I wouldn’t guess. I’ve registered for three Bible courses in Matan that I’m looking forward to, and I do need a paying job, too. I wish you all a wonderful, healthy year full of blessings. Read more of Batya’s writings http://shilohmusings. http://samizdatblogfree. http://shilohpics. http:me-ander.



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Conversions by Marilyn Broder

Food for Thought

No recipes this time, just a query.


s soon as we made Havdalah after each of the past Chagim, my town’s local e-mail list was full of inquiries as to which, if any, grocery stores were open at night. The following morning I bumped into most of my friends and neighbors in those groceries stocking up again. It made me wonder, if I was snowed in or if for some reason all the supermarkets and makolets were to close for a period of time, how long could I survive on what’s in my pantry (cabinet) and freezer? How long could you survive on what’s on hand now? I’m afraid the answer for me is – a looong time! A family member of mine used to tease me that we had all our money tied up in food inventory. If it’s on sale, why not stock up, has always been my attitude. So if all the stores were closed I might not have fresh milk or fresh vegetables or every ingredient I’d like, but I’m sure I could put together quite a few meals. Thus, I decided to look through my stock and see what I could come up with. I was


amazed at how many nice meals are in my home without setting foot in a supermarket.

Try this exercise in imagination. It can be interesting, fun and enlightening. And I’m not advocating throwing good nutrition out the window. If you were truly snowed in, however, you probably would be more concerned with avoiding hunger than counting fat grams. The important thing here is to think about using your available resources. Even if you aren’t snowed in or the stores


aren’t closed, if you lengthen the interval between trips to the store by using up things you have on hand, you’ll save money and waste less food. Have you ever gone to the store to buy two or three items and come home with just those specific items? I haven’t. It doesn’t do any good to accumulate food if you don’t use it up. Lots of food is thrown away because we don’t use it before it spoils. Years ago, mothers would tell their kids to think of the starving people around the world and to clean their plates. That has gone out of fashion, but we still need to keep in mind that wasteful conspicuous consumption is epidemic. Many communities are trying to go green. Living more responsibly by cutting out waste in your home is very green! And you might even be able to buy a share of Ben & Jerry’s stock with the money you save! Sue Epstein is a cookbook author, Voices food expert and columnist. She can be contacted at

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: When praying for a person (whether male or female) and referring to him by his Hebrew name, when is it correct to describe him as the child of his father and when should we use his mother's name? A: In most instances, Ashkenazi Jews refer to an individual by his/her name as the son or daughter of their father. That's how an individual is called to the Torah, that's how a baby girl is named in the synagogue and that's how a bride and groom are identified and named in the Ketubah (marriage contract). Within Sefardic Jewry very often both paternal and maternal names are used and even, in some instances, only the maternal name, especially if the mother was more dominant. Increasingly, even in Ashkenazi com-

munities, the mother's name is being added on ketubot and gravestones. From a purely halakhic perspective, the more clearly defined the individual is, the better, so that although surnames were originally foisted upon us by secular governments, most ketubot include the surname and in many Sefardi synagogues, men are called to the Torah with their surname as well. The exception to the general rule is when making a "mi she'berakh" prayer for one who is ill. Almost universally, the mother's name is exclusively used. I believe this has its origin in a Midrash that has become one of the most well-known elegies on Tisha B'Av. At the time of the destruction of the First Temple, Jeremiah visits the graves of our patriarchs and asks them to intercede on behalf of the Jews who are about to go into exile. The AlMighty does not listen to any of them until the spirit of Mother Rachel rises to the challenge. "Mother Rachel weeps for her children", and the Al-Mighty responds "there is a reward for your labor (the loving kindness you showed to your sister Leah when she was under the nuptial canopy ) your children will be returned to the borders of their homeland." (Jeremiah 31: 14) From then on, Jews pray for one who is ill using his mother's name.

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