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Contents Introduction................................................... 4 Tip #1: Relaxation............................................. 5 Tip #2:

Anticipation and Tension.............................. 8

Tip #3: Communication.......................................... 9 Tip #4: Patience & Persistence................................ 10 Tip #5: Awareness............................................. 11 Tip #6: Oral Sex – Clitoral Circles........................... 12 Tip #7: Oral Sex – Horizontal Licks........................... 13 Tip #8: Oral Sex – Clitoral Suction Cup....................... 14 Tip #9: Combine Penetrative Fingering With Clitoral Licking... 15 Tip #10: Fingering - How To Find The G-Spot: Get Her Aroused FIRST......................................................... 17 Tip #11: Fingering – G-Spot Stimulation In The Straddle Position .............................................................. 18 Tip #12: Fingering – The Finger Flutter....................... 19 Tip #13:

Fingering: Come Here................................ 20

Tip #15: Fingering – Tapping The G-Spot....................... 21 Tip #14: Fingering – G-Spot Rub............................... 22 Tip #16: Fingering - Combining penetrative fingering with Clitoral Stroking............................................. 23 Tip #17: Sex Positions – Knees Pulled To Chest................ 24 Tip #18: Sex Positions –

Modified Missionary Position........ 25

Tip #19: Sex Position – Woman On Stomach...................... 27 Tip #20: The “Magic Wand”..................................... 28 Tip #21: Sensory Deprivation.................................. 29

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Tip #22: For WOMEN: Increase Your Orgasm Intensity By Strengthening Your PC Muscles................................. 30 Tip #23: For WOMEN: If You Can Orgasm By Yourself, You Can Orgasm During Sex............................................. 32 Tip #24: Erogenous Zone Amplification......................... 33 Tip #25: Setting The Stage for Her Next Orgasm and Getting Her To Want Sex With You All The Time............................ 34

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Introduction My name is Lee, and I’m the author of the Female Orgasm Black Book. But, what you have in your hands now are my 25 of my best tips, techniques and tricks to bring about a female orgasm. Some of it is taken right from my book (The Female Orgasm Black Book). Other techniques are totally new. You probably won’t find them anywhere. While I was compiling and writing these tips, I wanted to make sure that this list of 25 tips is better than 99% of some of the stuff you would pay money for. What I want you to do is to take these tips, and try them out as soon as you can. Try them out, and see what difference it makes to your love life! Also, feel free to email this guide to anyone who you think will benefit from better sex. Lastly, if you haven’t signed up for my FREE Female Orgasm Black Book newsletter, what are you waiting for? I’ll send you even MORE tips, tricks and techniques to give women orgasms. Just go here and tell me where to send your addition tips:

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<< Anyway, let’s get to the tips!

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Tip #1: Relaxation A woman has to be completely relaxed to have an orgasm. If she has her mind on her job, self-conscious about how her body looks, trying to have an orgasm, or whatever the case may be, she’s not going to be relaxed. She’ll be tensed, and her body won’t allow her to release an orgasm. Your job? To help those troubles melt away and disappear (even if only temporarily) with your words, touch, attitude and preparations. Your lover must be totally and completely relaxed and free from tension. The only tension she should be feeling is sexual tension! An easy way to get someone relaxed is through massage: The 3 Step Formula For Relaxation The formula for relaxation that I always use is covered in 3 steps: Step 1: Set the Stage How to create a relaxation environment in your bedroom was covered in the last chapter, so there’s no need to go over it again. But, what you want to do is bring her into the bedroom for only a few moments…and then…take her out of the room! You’ll be building the anticipation for sex in her mind, and she’ll start getting aroused. Where are you going to take her next?

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Step 2: Shower (or Bath) You’re both going to take a shower or a bath together. Personally I like a shower best, because it’s faster than a bath and you can move into massaging quicker. Sometimes I opt for a bath instead, but it really depends on how much stress I sense my partner is in. If she’s not too stressed out, and is already excited for sex, I’ll go for the shower. If she had a long and stressful day, I’ll set up a bath. The goal here is two folds: 1) Relaxation – there’s nothing like a hot shower to get the both of you started in a state of relaxation. Also, the shower (or bath) acts as a transition period from the regular routines of everyday life to love making. Try not to rush the shower or the bath. You want to take it slow and enjoy each others’ company while you’re in there. 2) Cleanliness - obviously, showering will eliminate sweat, dirt and odors from both of your bodies. But what amazes me is how often people engage in sexual activities without cleaning up first! I don’t know about you, but the last thing I want to see is toilet paper bits on her anus while I’m about to eat her out. Or taste and/or smell urine residue on her vagina. Yuck. Also, if you’re doing this in the evening, she probably went to the toilet a few times during the day. And if you know anything about sitting on the can, sometimes, some of that toilet water splashes up…and…well, you get the idea.

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Step 3: Massage Now, once you’ve cleaned up, head back into the bedroom. ready for the massage. Note: Lay You’ll be oil, baby get it on

She’s

down a large towel on the bed before you start. using oil during the massage (you can use grape seed oil, or specialty massage oils), and you don’t want to your bed sheets.

Also, later on when you’re fingering her and having sex, she might ejaculate, so it’s a good idea to have a towel covering the bed sheets right away. If you have no idea about how to give a massage, don’t worry about it. I’ll take you through each step as we go alone. Also, you don’t have to be a professional masseuse to give a relaxing massage. With the basic massage techniques you’ll learn, and, more importantly, the sequence of where to massage, you’ll get her relaxed and sexually aroused even if you’ve never given a massage in your life!

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Tip #2:

Anticipation and Tension

Anticipation (otherwise known as “teasing” and “excitement”) is a powerful and effective tool to use. In order to multiply the effects of your sexual techniques, you’ll have to add anticipation into the mix. Anticipation will get her more aroused, give her a greater chance to have an orgasm and focuses her mind on the physical pleasure she’s experiencing (and about to experience). And…while you’re building up anticipation, at the same time you’re cranking up sexual tension as well. The sexual tension will have to be released (in the form of an orgasm). The key to building up anticipation is to focus on the areas surround the main “target” before you actually hit the target. For example, you can do this by rubbing her inner thighs, buttocks and hips before actually touching her vagina. While you’re rubbing those body parts, she’s getting wetter and wetter by the second, anticipating you to finally move onto her vagina. At the same time, the tension is growing within her and at some point, it’ll have to be released. Another example is with oral sex. You can spend a minute licking the outer lips, inner lips, kiss her inner thighs etc. And once every minute, flick your tongue on her clitoris. But only once. This will drive her crazy, building that tension in her pelvis, making her anticipate her clitoris being stimulated again. Do this right, and she will be begging you to focus more on her clitoris, to release the tension you have created. A note: when you’re building up the anticipation in her, it’s going to build up in you as well! It’s going to be your job to maintain self control, and keep the escalation at the right pace. © JP Publishers, All Rights Reserved.

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Tip #3: Communication Not every technique will work on every woman. One woman may prefer one particular stroke, pressure or rhythm more than the next woman does. To find out what really makes your woman tick, you’ve got to open the lines of communication. You need to find out what she likes as you’re applying a technique. That way, you can optimize your rhythm, speed, stroke etc. to match what she likes best. Aim for open verbal communication, but if your lover isn’t as brave speaking her mind (especially when you’re face is buried between her thighs) you can opt for more non-verbal communicative methods, such as squeezing hands or body response. Communicating well with your partner can make it much easier to bring her pleasure, and ultimately, more and better orgasms.

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Tip #4: Patience & Persistence Take your time. Generally speaking, for guys, there’s a natural tendency to get right to the point, and move fast. Guys can be ready to have an orgasm in literally minutes, but women on the other hand, will need more time. Time to relax, time to get into the mood, time to build the tension, and time to release that tension in the form of an orgasm. Also, when you’re trying something new (such as some of the sex tips you’re about to learn), you might not “get” them right away. I certainly didn’t. But over time, by being patient and persistent, I figured out what worked and what didn’t. Patience and persistence is a trait of any great lover, don’t forget that.

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Tip #5: Awareness Pay attention to her and be aware of what she’s telling you. What you want to develop is being acutely aware of what you're doing, and how she is responding. You need to pay attention to whatever communications and signals she’s giving, so you can adjust whatever it is you’re doing. Knowing what feedback she’s giving you allows you to select the appropriate response. But first…you have to pay attention and be aware of the feedback she’s giving you!

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Tip #6: Oral Sex â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Clitoral Circles Press your tongue on her clitoris, and use it to create tiny circles. Alternatively, you can tease her clitoris by using your tongue to create circles around the clitoris.

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Tip #7: Oral Sex – Horizontal Licks Lick from left to right, and back. Alternatively, you can lick up and down. Experiment with both, vary the speed and pressure until you find something that works.

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Tip #8: Oral Sex – Clitoral Suction Cup Pucker your lips around her clitoral head, and gently apply suction. This increases the blood flow to the clitoris, and has the effect of making the clitoris even more sensitive. You may even find that her clitoris will look larger because of the suction. While her clitoris is sucked into your mouth and you’re applying suction, try this: Suck and Flick Combo 1. Gently suck her clitoris into your mouth 2. At the same time flick the tip of her clitoral head with your tongue. Start off slow, and gradually build up speed. directions of your tongue flicks.

Also, vary the

To gauge what speeds/direction she likes, insert a well lubricated finger into her vagina and feel for any vaginal contractions.

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Tip #9: Combine Penetrative Fingering With Clitoral Licking You can enhance the effects of oral sex by adding your fingers (take a look at the tips below). I find that the best position to do this is to have the woman lying on her back with her legs spread, and the man positioned perpendicular to her (but this can change depending on what technique you’re using). The man’s head should rest on her mons pubis, allowing the tongue easy access to the clitoris. In this position, the side of the tongue is naturally placed on the clitoris. Elbows should be on the bed supporting the man’s bodyweight. Pictured below:

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Tip #10:

Fingering - How To Find The G-Spot: Get Her Aroused FIRST

The G-spot swells up and gets bigger the more she’s aroused, so if you’re having trouble finding it, chances are, she might not be aroused enough. So what do you do? Before you insert your fingers, get her aroused through oral sex first. From this point on, you’ll feel her clitoris has become erect, see her inner lips will redden in color and engorge with blood, and she’ll look like she’s more in the “mood”. The G-spot is located about one and a half to two inches up, on the anterior (toward the front) wall of the vagina, at about 12 o’clock, or really anywhere between 11:00 and 1:00. As you begin your explorations, start with inserting your forefinger gently inside of her, curving and hooking it behind the pubic bone, and then moving it forward, in the “come-hither” motion. Once you feel a small mound of spongy tissue that ranges in size from that of a nickel and quarter - and having a rough texture different that the immediately surrounding tissue - you’ve found it.

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Tip #11: Fingering – G-Spot Stimulation In The Straddle Position In this position, she’s on her knees with her legs spread apart. Now, the key to this position is to have her tilt her hips forward. This will make the G-Spot much easier to reach. If it’s more comfortable, she can place one or both hands behind her for support. The best techniques for this position are the “Cum Here” and “tapping” techniques. You’ll be pulling your fingers in toward your body, and to add more pressure and intensity, you can use your arms to add a forward-backwards pumping motion (don’t pump too hard though!) Also, this position allows for face-to-face intimacy. You can kiss her, kiss her neck, lick her ears and do other fun things to her erogenous zones.

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Tip #12: Fingering – The Finger Flutter With the palms facing sideways, and the thumb pointing up, you’ll apply pressure with the side of the index finger. Move your finger from left to right and “flutter” her G-Spot. The great thing about this technique is that you can use it in the 69 position (which, when done traditionally, doesn’t normally allow for an ergonomic fingering experience). To enhance this technique even further, you can use the thumb on the same hand to stimulate the clitoris. You can just place your thumb on her clitoris, and allow the movement of the “fluttering” of your fingers to vibrate your thumb.

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Tip #13:

Fingering: Come Here

Also known as the “come hither”, this motion is identical to the finger motions when signaling someone to “come here”. With your fingers extended inside of her vagina, apply pressure upwards and move your fingers downward. The motion is circular, so you don’t want to be rubbing your fingers forward and backwards on her G-spot. You’ll be making contact with the G-spot as you’re pulling in, but once you’re moving to the back of the vagina, make as little contact with G-spot as possible.

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Tip #15: Fingering – Tapping The G-Spot This technique involves the “come here” motion with your fingers, combined with a quick “up-and-down” motion with your hands As you’re doing this, you’ll be “pumping” your arms up and down, and in effect her body will start bouncing up and down as well. To hold her in place, put your free hand just above her pubic bone, and push down so she doesn’t bounce up too much. I’ve found that 2 fingers works best. You can use your index and middle finger, or your middle and ring finger.

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Tip #14: Fingering – G-Spot Rub This is a variation of the “come here” technique. Simply rub her G-Spot in a forward and backwards motion. Be sure to keep the focus on the G-spot itself (upward pressure), and not simply entering in and out with your fingers.

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Tip #16: Fingering - Combining penetrative fingering with Clitoral Stroking Make use of the thumb on you non-fingering hand to stimulate her clitoris. I find it more easy to stimulate her clitoris with my thumb on my left hand. Maybe this comes from years of playing videos games and my thumb (on my left hand) is especially dexterous (it's the thumb on the left hand that is used on the directional pad of a controller). Place your hand on top of her mounds (pubic hair area) and your thumb facing down towards her feet. Your thumb should be on her clitoris. From there, incorporate your favorite fingering technique with your right hand, and use your left thumb to stimulate her clitoris. Again, always be aware of what is working for her!

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Tip #17: Sex Positions – Knees Pulled To Chest This position offers benefits that can only be enjoyed one at a time: intense g-spot stimulation or deep, hard thrusting. Have her place her knees on her chest. She can have her feet on your shoulders, or dangling in the air. Make sure that her legs are close together, and not spread apart. When she places her knees on her chest, this lifts her pelvis upwards so that the angle your penis is thrusting towards her vaginal ceiling (hitting her G-spot). While you’re thrusting, it’s best that you have your upper body erect, and not leaning forward. This will add a greater upwards pressure to her G-spot. To further enhance this position, you can just place a pillow or a Liberator Wedge under her buttocks to elevate her hips. With the Liberator Wedge, you can position your body close to your partner’s and still effectively stimulate the G-spot, because her hips are elevated so much.

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Tip #18: Sex Positions – Modified Missionary Position Get into missionary position. she is penetrated.

The next steps are all done while

Place her ankles near your head (her feet should be dangling behind your neck). Have her bring her knees to her chest, elevating her own pelvis. You can assist her by lifting her pelvis. Once there is enough room underneath her hips, draw your knees together under her buttocks. Her buttocks should now be resting on top of your lap. At the same time, you are on your knees and she’s still penetrated. Now as you're having sex, stimulate her clitoris with your fingers. This position is great because the added elevation of her hips allows the penis to thrust into the G-Spot, and the clitoris can be easily stimulated. However, it might be uncomfortable on the guy's legs. To support yourself, reach back with one or both hands, and place them on your ankles. Added Tip: You can apply pressure just above the pubic bone (below her navel). This will push her G-spot closer to your penis.

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Tip #19: Sex Position â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Woman On Stomach In this position, the woman is lying flat on her stomach. You want to position your body so that your pelvis is nearly on top of hers. This will allow for your penis to thrust downwards into the G-spot. To enhance this position, the man or woman can reach under and stimulate the clitoris during sex.

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Tip #20: The “Magic Wand” No, it’s not a sex toy made by Hatachi. But, after trying this technique out, you might think that your penis is a magic wand. It is a technique that can result in simultaneous orgasms without much physical effort. But first…a word of warning. Just like intercourse, it feels best without a condom. But make sure you take any necessary precautions to prevent STDs etc. And because it feels really good, you both may want to have sex right then and there. Be sure to be smart and use a condom if you do choose to move into intercourse. The idea is to use your penis on her clitoris. The woman should be lying on her back, with her legs spread. The man positions himself in between her legs, and sits upright. I find that sitting on my knees works best. VERY IMPORTANT: Put some lubrication (natural or synthetic) on the head of your penis. Now, place the head of your penis on her clitoris. With her legs spread, tell her to masturbate you. You want to make sure during all this time that the head of your penis is touching her clitoris. As she is doing this, you’ll feel good, and she’ll start to feel really good as well. Before you know it, she may stop masturbating you, and use your penis as a “tool” and stimulate herself! It’s really great to watch. If you want to help her out, you can try pressing your penis on her clitoris (gently) and move it side-to-side, or up-and-down. © JP Publishers, All Rights Reserved.

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Tip #21: Sensory Deprivation Have your partner wear a blind fold and ear plugs. Because her vision and hearing is blocked off, her sense of physical awareness and sensitivity is heightened. Her sense of TOUCH will be magnified, so whatever you do to her, sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll feel it a lot more. I find it best to use during the entire lovemaking process (from massage to orgasm)

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Tip #22: For WOMEN: Increase Your Orgasm Intensity By Strengthening Your PC Muscles One of the main reasons why women have a hard time having an orgasm is because of weak pubococcygeal (PC, or Pelvic Floor) muscles. These are the muscles that surround vaginal opening, and are the same muscles a woman uses to hold in her urine (guys have these muscles too). When a woman has an orgasm, the PC muscles spasm. However, the problem comes in when she has weak PC muscles; if there’s an object inside her vagina (such as your fingers or penis), it’ll be hard for it to spasm at all. Additionally, weak PC muscles can cause a reduction of sexual pleasure because the vagina is loose. On the other hand, if the PC muscles are strong, more blood will flow to the pelvic region during arousal, it’ll be easier to have an orgasm, and the PC muscles will contract more strongly. This leads to her having orgasms that last longer and feels more intense. On top of that, women with strong PC muscles can clamp down on the penis, increasing sexual pleasure for both the man and woman, and sometimes develop the ability to ejaculate! How do you strengthen your PC muscles? By doing Pelvic Floor Exercises (also known as “Kegel Exercises”).

Become More Orgasmic With Pelvic Floor Exercises! These exercises target the PC (pubococcygeal) muscles and are a powerful way for you to increase the tightness of your vaginal walls, improve continence, as well as heightening your sexual awareness and response.

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Pelvic Fitness in Minutes a Day Working out your PC muscles can take as little as 5 minutes, three times a day. And you get the hang of squeezing your PC muscles, you can do it discreetly just about anywhere. These exercises will give you a feel of what it’s like to squeeze your PC muscles. Every time you go to the bathroom to pee, try to stop the flow of urine when you are sitting on the toilet. If you can do it, you are using the right muscles. Urinate, stop, urinate again, stop, and repeat. Lie down and put your finger inside your vagina. Squeeze as if you were trying to stop urine from coming out. If you feel tightness on your finger, you are squeezing the right pelvic muscle. Once you know what it feels like to squeeze the PC muscles, you can strengthen them by squeezing the muscles you use to hold back your urine. Hold for two seconds and then release. Repeat 20 times, three times a day. You can perform this exercise in your car, while watching TV, in the office…just about anywhere…and no one will know! Some Notes: Try not to squeeze other muscles at the same time you’re contracting your PC muscles. Be careful not to tighten your stomach, legs, or other muscles. Squeezing the wrong muscles can put more pressure on your bladder control muscles. Just squeeze the pelvic muscle. Don't hold your breath. Repeat, but don't overdo it.

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Tip #23: For WOMEN: If You Can Orgasm By Yourself, You Can Orgasm During Sex If you can already orgasm by yourself, you can orgasm during sex. If you’re not having an orgasm during sex, it might be the case that you’re putting the responsibility of your own orgasm on him. This is a lot of pressure for one guy! Listen, not all guys are skilled lovers. Some guys are still learning how to do basic things in bed, while others simply care about their own pleasure. But whatever the case may be, to have great sex, both people should be happy. To orgasm, incorporate your own self pleasure during lovemaking. You can also guide your man on where your hot buttons are and teach him to be a better lover for you. Who knows, if you guide him to the point where he has participated in releasing your orgasm, he might feel a sense of accomplishment. This can lead him down the path of activity learning to become a better lover.

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Tip #24: Erogenous Zone Amplification Whatever youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re doing during love making, you can amplify the effect and bring her over the tipping point by hitting one of her "hot buttons" at the same time. For example, if you know that kissing/licking her neck really arouses her, and you're stimulating her clitoris, try doing it at the same time The results are typically better than the sum of its parts

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Tip #25: Setting The Stage for Her Next Orgasm and Getting Her To Want Sex With You All The Time Physically, after a woman has an orgasm, her body is cooling down and returning to her normal, un-aroused state. Her breast size, clitoris, inner and outer lips return to normal size, and the reddish “sex flush” is starting to go away…this is Resolution. Psychologically she’s coming down to her normal mindset…but…it’s in her mind where you “seal the deal” and guarantee that she’ll be wanting more of you in the future. Too many men get so caught up in the performance review of how many times (and how hard) she came that they lose sight of one of the most critical phase of a woman’s sexual response – Reflection. And, for any of you that may believe otherwise – this isn’t an elective, its core curriculum. Women crave and require it. And men that understand this, and take advantage of it, have discovered a secret that we touched upon earlier in this book: The pleasure and satisfaction during one sexual experience doesn’t just end after the point of orgasm. Smart lovers know that it can be continued on and lead to the seduction phase of your NEXT intimate encounter. If, during the period after sex, the experience didn’t seem to offer her pleasure and satisfaction, she may not even desire to give you the chance for a “rematch”…in other words, if the sex wasn’t good for her both physically and psychologically, there’s no reason for her to want to have sex next time around. To a woman, it’s during the space of time after you’ve cum that shows what you’re all about – whether you’re considerate, compassionate, intimate or romantic, or if you’re just a big

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selfish lug who, minutes after an orgasm, is already asleep and snoring.

What Are My Options? When it comes to your post-climax activities, you’ve got about three ready options, each with their own consequences and rewards. Admittedly, each of these options has their own time and place, but when it comes to deciding which option you’ll choose to be your “norm”, consider carefully… 1. Rolling Over and Going to Sleep A tempting option, I know – especially if you’ve spent the last hour heroically tending to her sexual needs. But, before you roll over and sleep, you’d better weigh your options… Rewards: Well, you get some sleep, and some relaxation, but that’s about it. Sure, there are times when it’s in order. After a real marathon, if you’re both spent, it can be ideal. But even when you do go this route, try to snuggle up a bit (if only for a few minutes) before you start really snoozing. Consequences: When it comes to your lover, this is about the second worst route you can go. You definitely do NOT want to make this your normal routine. If you do, you’ll either lose her respect or her attentions. 2. Getting Up And Doing Something Else Another option, though perhaps not as tempting as a good nap, is running off to “seize the day” within moments of your orgasm. To be fair, this response is associated with the way our chemicals and hormones react after we orgasm.

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Once we cum, we’re finally able to STOP thinking about sex and get back to the more mundane things in life. And though it may help you get your goals accomplished, she’ll more than likely be left less than pleased. Rewards: The ego boost of making your lover cum, added to the satisfaction of your own orgasm can be fantastic fuel to get out there and “Get ‘er done!” You’ll have a little extra bounce to your step and your mood will be greatly improved, but maybe not hers… Consequences: Remember how I said that the last option, falling asleep, was the second worst option? Well, as far as your lover is concerned, this one is THE worst option. Why? Because to some women, hopping right up, getting dressing and running off can make them feel less like lovers and more like a mere “booty call.” Sure, if both of you already know that you’ve got plans for the day, or you’re running late for an appointment, you can let it slide. But, otherwise, for your sake, choose one of the following two options. 3.

After Play

Want your lover to stay madly and completely in love with you? Then don’t scrimp when it comes to what you do AFTER sex! To women, what you do after sex really shows her what you’re all about. The little things give her the small indications about what kind of man you are (and what she thinks you think about her). Take the time for a little “after play” and enjoy your afterglow. You’d be amazed what an extra fifteen minutes can accomplish, so don’t take this opportunity for granted. So, get ready to snuggle up, share a few kisses and spend a little time talking, smiling and touching together.

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This allows you to stay “connected” and strength the emotional bonds that lead to a healthy relationship – sexual, emotional and otherwise. Tapping into this, and giving her the attention and respect she deserves means that you’ll have the key to making her want (and want to give) more sex the next time around. Simply cuddling, talking, and “being” with her physically and emotionally after love making…combined with the fact that she thinks you’re responsible for her orgasms is like making little deposits in the “Desire” account. The better she feels about her sexual experience with you this time, will create more desire to be with you next time. So remember that psychologically during this stage, you’ll want to reinforce the positive sexual experience she just had, so when the cycle loops back into “Desire”, she’ll be thinking of you more, be more attracted to you, and want sex more often. Not a bad deal for an extra 15 minutes of time, don’t you think?

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