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Dear reader,

O n more than one occasion, I have been broken up with within a week or so of Valentine’s Day. The first time, I was a junior in high school who had just ended things with her boyfriend of nearly three and a half years. I could have spent my night inside, bawling my eyes out. I could have curled up on the couch with Gilmore Girls, ice cream smeared in my hair and used my stuffed bear as a tissue.

Luckily, a good friend went with me to Barnes & Noble to buy a new journal and then to Best Buy to pick up Disney’s version of Hercules. From there, I went to my neighbors house to watch Tosh.0.

The next year, after a surprise breakup, I spent Feb. 14 working the night away with a promise from my now-boyfriend, then “just friend” that we would eventually go eat burgers and waltz around Nashville in an effort to cheer me up.

Each time, I don’t remember ever feeling heartbroken.

Well, maybe about the fact I had been dumped but not about “missing” Valentine’s Day. Instead, I always

remember my heart warming at the idea of an entire day dedicated to publicly showing off your love.

Couples walk around with huge, cheesy grins, parents dote on their kids with candy and kisses and friends surprise each other with trinkets. My mom would share the candy her preschool kids would give her and always bought us a box of the conversation hearts.

But as a college student, Valentine’s Day seems a little overrated. It’s either about sex or having to impress your partner. But we’ve got you either way.

At The Daily Beacon, we get that Valentine’s Day is probably not your favorite holiday (though I just tried to convince you otherwise). You’re more interested in where to get brunch with your girls or how to convince your partner to start using sex toys or how to make dorm sex sexy.

This issue is just as much about your relationships in your everyday life as about Feb. 14. But maybe this issue will put you in the mood to take our advice on the cheesiest holiday of the year.

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Building a marriage brick by brick Presley Smith

Contributor Katie Mathews and Nathan Zipper met their sophomore year at UT, but became close when they both ran, unsuccessfully, for student government.

“Looking back, I think that is one of the best things that could have ever happened to us,” Katie said. “If we would have won, I don’t think we would have ever dated.”

The two stayed on campus after graduating, working for the university. One night, before a Georgia football game, Nathan told

• Photo Courtesy of Katie Mathews and Nathan Zipper Katie they were needed to work an event.

“He had me park at Tyson House, and we

walked through campus, presumably on our way to the event,” Katie said. “We stopped in Circle Park in front of the Torchbearer.

Nathan showed me where a new brick had been placed on the sidewalk — a brick that said, ‘MKM, will you marry me?’ Then he got down on his knee and proposed. Several of the cars passing by honked and cheered for us.”

Katie’s sister was aware of the event and hid in Circle Park to take pictures.

The two were married on August 6, 2010.

They moved to Nashville after Katie graduated from the UT College of Law, but they still visit Knoxville often. They welcomed a “Vol Baby” in August of 2015.

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SAFE SEX IS GOOD SEX Jenna Butz

Editor-in-Chief

Let’s talk about (safe) sex, baby.

While most people may be generally aware of the risks of STIs and unplanned pregnancy, there are certain specifics when it comes to safe sex that college students may not fully understand, starting with condoms.

Condoms are not one size fits all. While most penises fit into a regular size condom, that rule does not apply to everyone. If a condom is too tight with no room at the tip or sliding off, then a condom is more likely to break and not work properly. A correctly fitting condom can bust the myths that condoms are uncomfortable or ruin sex.

Billie Amatuus-Salaam, wellness director for the Center for Health Education and Wellness, recommended finding a sample pack with various condom sizes and finding what your size is.

“Wearing the right size increases the likelihood that you’re going to continue to use condoms because it fits — it’s not uncomfortable,” Amatuus-Salaam said.

Condoms aren’t just to prevent unplanned pregnancies though. Condoms and other barrier methods, like a female condom or a dental dam,

There’s going to be someone else who will respect those boundaries.”

Billie Amatuus-Salaam, wellness director for the Center for Health Education and Wellness

also protect from STIs and HIV while other contraceptives that only prevent pregnancy cannot provide the same bacterial protection.

While the dangers of STIs are always something to be careful of, Amatuus-Salaam stressed being especially careful when pursuing sex with partners you may not know as intimately.

“You don’t know if they also practice safer sex with their other sexual partners,” AmatuusSalaam said. “I do think if you’re making those decisions you kind of have to weigh your risks.

There’s also the option to engage in sexual activity

that’s less risky too. Maybe instead of having penetrative sex with someone you just met or maybe you weren’t prepared with condoms or anything, there are other things you can do. “ Amatuus-Salaam and Ashley Blamey, director of the Center for Health Education and Wellness, also emphasized another aspect of safe sex: consent.

“All this is a choice,” Blamey said. “As far as consensual sex and consensual alcohol use, those things don’t happen without your participation.”

This includes continued consent while with someone that you know well and have been intimate before. However, Amatuus-Salaam explained that intimacy without sexual activity, like kissing and cuddling, can still show someone you care about them without having to cross your comfort zone.

“You’re young, you’re still dating. There’s going to be someone else who will respect those boundaries,” Amatuus-Salaam said. “It’s important to be a little selfish sometimes and look out for yourself that way.”

To actively, enthusiastically consent, regardless of how far they want to go, Blamey encouraged students to “find your voice about where your own personal lines are drawn.”

“I think that’s something that maybe some of our students haven’t heard before — every

individual having the responsibility,” Blamey said. “Because I always ask at orientation whose responsibility is it to come up with how you’re going to manage sexual safety, and it’s not unusual that people tend to say the guy or tend not to say anything. Then we reemphasize it’s everyone’s responsibility because if you’re going to make this choice, you’re also taking on the inherent risk in it.”

This boils down to sexual agency, or having ownership and control over your own body.

Amatuus-Salaam said this is the best practice for participating in safe sex.

“Throughout your life, that’s really something you should have,” Blamey said about AmatuusSalaam’s explanation of sexual agency. “… Like, I’m in charge of my body and I can make decisions about my body and that’s my job … The reality is we need to be responsible for our body and we get to make choices about it.”

Regardless of how you practice safe sex though, Blamey said these are issues students need to be talking about, regardless of any stigma they might have grown up hearing.

“This is a health issue,” Blamey said. “Even talking about condom fit, though that may make some people uncomfortable, those are the things you have to talk about to make sure people are staying safe.”

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The Daily Beacon • Friday, February 12, 2016

Get more bang for your buck on Valentine’s Day It’s Valentines Day. If you are single, you are probably spending the day moping around in your apartment because you are very sad that no one loves you.

This is a stupid way to spend Valentines Day. Every day is an opportunity for self-improvement, and being alone in life is not a valid excuse to take the day off. Instead, use Valentine’s Day as an oppor-

Courtney Frederick, Copy Editor

Jonathan Toye,

Sports Editor

Wake up with a seize-the-day mentality and make breakfast for your roommates. They might occasionally forget to flush the toilet, but, at the end of the day, your roommates are very important people in your life.

Show them that they are appreciated and surprise them with breakfast. (If cooking is not your forte — and it probably isn’t — buy them breakfast at Hardees.)

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tunity to make a positive contribution to society.

After all, Valentines Day is about love (I think?).

This is an opportunity to show love to the entire world (or at least to your close friends and family).

Here is your Valentine’s Day itinerary for you single college students out there. Its purpose is to ensure that all the undergrads without significant others have a significant Valentine’s Day.

Make a list of the all the couples that you actually like. (This should only take 30 seconds.)

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Self-Evaluation: gazing into the dark recesses of your soul is a pretty fun activity. You should first search for reasons why you are alone on Valentine’s Day. Is it because you lack drive? Is it because you think the Star Wars prequels are good movies? Once you find answers to these thoughtprovoking questions, you will become a better person.

Follow your heart, and your heart is telling you to go to Chili’s. Invite your fellow single friends to accompany you, but there is no compromise on restaurant. You have to eat at Chili’s because the Honey Chipotle Chicken Crispers are the best.

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Don’t binge watch a show on Netflix. You will have a feeling of emptiness after watching the false reality portrayed in unrealistic TV shows. Read a book instead. Books make people smarter and more thoughtful.

Smart and thoughtful people have better odds at making society better than stupid and thoughtless people.

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1. Dinner and a movie - $64 This date is classic and a guaranteed solid date. Dinner prices vary depending on where you want to eat, but a nicer restaurant probably is around $20 per person — but that’s if you don’t get drinks or dessert.

As far as the movie goes, Regal Riviera Stadium 8 is a fairly priced movie theater near campus. Tickets for two people are $24, which isn’t too bad either. If you can convince your date into attending a matinee before dinner, you can make it out with even more money saved.

2. Netflix and Chill - $19 Tell that couple how much you like their relationship and that you hope they have a great Valentine’s Day. (The list you made ensures that this action is sincere.)

Bond with your friends. The best way to make a deep connection is to ask people questions about themselves. Ask them what is their deepest fear. If they don’t want to answer this, ask them if they have watched “The Office.” And, speaking of the office ...

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There’s a lot to look forward to on Valentine’s Day — dropping loads of money on a date isn’t one of them.

Buying gifts for your significant other, dinner or whatever else dates entail can get pricey, but the Beacon is here to help. So, look at what you’ve got in your wallet, and let this price guide help you plan a fun and affordable date.

We all know what this means, but it does make for a good date when you want to stay in and watch movies instead of putting fancy pants and pretending to enjoy socializing.

If you add pizza to this date, it’s pretty perfect. Netflix is $8 a month, and Pizza Hut runs an $11 any size, any topping deal online all the time. Enjoy.

3. Bowling - $8.20 Bowling may seem like an old-fashioned activity, but it’s still so much fun. One of the best bowling alleys in Knoxville is Family Bowl Strike and Spare Family Fun Center.

They have rates and specials for every day of the week, and they stay open until midnight or 2 a.m. The Sunday special from 7 p.m. — 2 a.m. for two people is priced at $8.20.

4. The Sunsphere and World’s Fair Park - Free For the broke romantics, consider a walk around World’s Fair Park and a trip to the Sunsphere to look at the city at night. It’s absolutely beautiful, day or night. And the best part: it’s free.

Bring some snacks, a few drinks, put on your coat and enjoy a night under the stars with your favorite someone.

Eat a turkey sandwich. You might still be full from the Honey Chipotle Chicken Crispers, but you still need the protein from that delicious lean meat.

5. Ijams Nature Center - Free

Host a movie night. You need to have the movie night at your apartment to establish yourself as the alpha friend in your group. The movie has to be “Hot Rod.” It’s a realistic epic about a young male protagonist who overcomes obstacles to accomplish a lifelong dream. It will inspire you to do the same.

If you and yours are the athletic, nature-loving types, Ijams Nature Center is just the place for you.

The Visitor Center is very informative, both about the Ijams Family and the Nature Center itself. Along the many hiking and biking trails are a few things you definitely will want to check out, including the river boardwalk, the keyhole at Historic Ross Marble and Hayworth Hollow.

Go to bed with a smile on your face. Congratulations! You may be alone, but you had a great Valentine’s Day. You can sleep like a champion.

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• Photos Courtesy of Tyler Reynolds and Danielle Walker

Kneelin’ in Neyland Presley Smith

Contributor Tyler Reynolds and Danielle Walker attended the same elementary, middle and high school together, but did not connect until their freshman year of college.

“I needed two extra tickets for the Tennessee vs. Florida game, and I answered a post on Tyler’s Facebook about the two extra tickets he was selling,” Danielle said. “It was the Friday before the game, and I worked late. So, by the time I could meet him, he was already out at the bars. I had to meet him there. After a very frustrating 20 minutes of trying to get him to

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I didn’t even let him put the ring on my finger at first — I just kept hugging him.”

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come outside to sell me the tickets, I left saying the most awful things about him.”

Two weeks later, they were both at a party for a mutual friend. The next day, they had lunch and even washed their dogs together.

“Go figure, two people can grow up five minutes down the road from each other, but it’s football tickets that bring them together,” Danielle said.

The day after Thanksgiving in 2014, Alyssa Drummer of the Tennessee Athletics Hospitality group worked with Tyler to set up a surprise proposal in Neyland Stadium.

As they drove silently to their date destination, Danielle said Tyler was wearing a ridiculous grin and “would not talk to me to save his life.”

That should have clued her in, she admitted.

When they got to the stadium, Tyler explained they were going to sneak in and have a picnic. What Danielle did not know was that Alyssa and a photographer were waiting inside to capture the moment.

As they walked in, Danielle saw flower petals on the ground and told Tyler that they could not go in because they might be interrupting another couple’s special moment. He ushered her in nonetheless.

Tyler wasted no time.

“He made it to the rose petals and hit his knee in what felt like one fluid motion,” Danielle recalled. “He nervously mumbled how I am the best thing that ever happened to him and that he had to spend the rest of his life with me. Then he asked. I was so overwhelmed I didn’t even let him put the ring on my finger at first — I just kept hugging him.”

Tyler then pointed out Alyssa and the photographer in the stands, and after a few minutes, Tyler was finally able to get the ring on Danielle’s finger.

They are getting married in May.

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The Daily Beacon • Friday, February 12, 2016

Eat your heart out

Spending a romantic day with your partner can be great, but nothing really compares to wearing your comfiest sweat pants and tossing back mimosas in between bites of chocolate chip pancakes.

So, this Valentine’s Day, start your day with your real soul mates: your girlfriends, carbs and alcohol.

By Bradi Musil, Managing Editor

Knox Mason If you can summon enough energy this early in the morning to even make sense of the Knox Mason brunch menu, I commend you. There are a lot of adjectives and words I can neither comprehend nor pronounce. If you ask me, the way to do the Knox Mason brunch is to skip the “Main” options entirely and get “To Shares” for the table and drinks for yourself. Not only is this the simplest method for your recently awoken brain, it’s also the cheapest. Most “To Shares” are about $5, and alcoholic drinks are $3 to $5. The Knox Mason Funnel Cake with Maple Glaze and Benton’s Bacon sounds too good not to try, and I don’t even know what a Michelada is, but if beer is allowed at breakfast, I’m in.

Downtown Grill & Brewery Although they lack reputation as one of the fanciest places in Market Square, Downtown Grill & Brewery boasts staple brunch menu items and some of the best brunch cocktail deals in Knoxville. They have a whole menu dedicated to Bloody Marys, and Happy Hour lasts from 11 a.m. — 10 p.m. on Sundays. They also have a jazz band on Sundays, so you can eat huevos rancheros, sip Bloody Marys and enjoy the sound of sweet, sweet jazz.

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Five Bar While Downtown Grill & Brewery has a Bloody Mary menu, Five has a Bloody Mary Bar. They also have three different variations of fruity-champagne cocktails, with mimosas starting at $3. Their only carb-heavy option is beignets, but those beignets are $7. They also serve some traditional favorites with a bit of a twist, like Crab Cakes Benedict and a frittata with goat cheese and Red Bay Jam. Five is certainly not the cheapest option, but if you’re down to splurge or just spend all your money on mimosas, this is the place for you.

The Plaid Apron Before you read any further, know that the Plaid Apron is closed on Sundays. So, if this is your brunch destination of choice, you’ll need to go on Saturday. But everything on their menu is delicious. For $9, you can get either the French Toast, covered in whipped cream and powdered sugar, or the Special, which is basically pigs in a blanket over eggs — yum. They also have healthier options like the bacon and asparagus omelet. Mimosas are $4 and plain-Jane champagne is $5.

Gourmet’s Market & Cafe Gourmet’s Market & Cafe is the place to go if you’re looking to carb-load before 11 a.m., and I hope you are. Gourmet’s serves regular pancakes, strawberry pancakes, my favorite chocolate chip pancakes and Nutella-stuffed french toast. Their only downfall is that they don’t serve alcohol, so you can’t even drink away the guilt you’ll feel after downing so much sugary, doughy deliciousness. But, it’s Valentine’s Day, so treat yourself. The prices are beyond reasonable for the quantity and quality of food you’ll get, with meals averaging around $6.

OliBea OliBea is a little on the fancy pants side, and, I’ll admit, I’ve never been. Everyone says it’s delicious, and OliBea prides itself on only using locally grown, fresh ingredients. They also don’t serve alcohol, but their list of specialty coffees is longer than most breakfast hubs. They have off-the-wall breakfast options like tacos with egg and pork and a breakfast grilled cheese sandwich, which sounds like the most comfiest of comfort foods ever imagined.

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The Daily Beacon • Friday, February 12, 2016

Know your kinks Megan Patterson

Arts & Culture Editor

In the late 1800’s, Barnum & Bailey Circus attempted to obtain a new exhibit from Salt Lake City that they knew would draw the country’s attention — a polygamist, Brigham Young.

In early 2015, another sexual deviant captured the attention of the American populace — Christian Grey.

Mary Campbell, assistant professor of art history and specialist in the intersection between stereography and early Mormon theology, said that Young, along with other Mormons in Salt Lake City, were one of the most popular spectacles of the late 19th century for reasons similar to the Grey obsession today.

“There’s this kind of urge to see that I think very much goes along with this 50 Shades of Grey mainstreaming of S&M and bondage and all of that,” Campbell said. “People who wouldn’t be caught dead in an actual dungeon will go to the Megaplex to watch a dramatized version.”

Kinks, defined as unconventional sexual tastes or behaviors, have always held the general public’s fascination and simultaneous condemnation.

“The Mormons were like a fetish item for them. They might have been so overtly offended by it but that doesn’t mean they weren’t turned on by it at the same time,” Campbell said. “Whether you want to take that kind of turn on as just intellectual curiosity or an actual erotic impulse — they were into it.”

According to a 2015 survey conducted by the University of Quebec, out of 55 sexual fantasies listed in the survey, 30 were commonly desired (favored by more than 50 percent of participants) as a pleasurable sexual scenario.

For example, being masturbated on by an unknown person and making love openly in a public place were two common fantasies.

For Spencer Olmstead, professor in child and family studies, those numbers don’t seem very far off.

“When it comes to sex, both within and outside relationships, people like to use their imaginations and engage in a range of sexual behaviors,” Olmstead said.

“The reason that we don’t hear a lot about atypical sexual behavior is purely by the

fact that people don’t know a lot about them … Though I’m sure many people are engaging in them.”

Olmstead said that persistent taboos surrounding kinks and common myths circulating through popular culture are damaging to the healthy practice of atypical sexual acts between partners.

“For example, if a sexual partner has a particular interest in a specific body part ...” Olmstead said. “But if someone is censoring themselves because they’ve been taught their whole life from their family or their friends or from media that it is inappropriate and perhaps even shameful, then you can start to imagine that it will start to interrupt their sexual interaction and sexual enjoyment.”

However, Olmstead acknowledged the strong line that needs to be drawn between unconventional sex and harmful paraphilia. Among other considerations, one of the most pronounced factors dividing the two is consent.

“It becomes very problematic when the person who has the desire to engage in a particular behavior sexually, browbeats their sexual partner or forces it on them,” Olmstead said. “Essentially, it is taking away the agency or freedom of their sexual partner to disagree … Now we’ve taken something that could be a nice point of discussion and opportunity to grow the relationship by having open communication into creating an unsafe sexual environment for the couple(s).”

Olmstead emphasized open-mindedness and remaining non-judgmental during the discussion.

It is during this open conversation that misconceptions propagated by the media can be particularly harmful. Often media portrayal only introduces one facet of an atypical behavior, leaving ample room for miscommunication between the couple.

A common misconception regarding sadism is that it is about inflicting pain, but Olmstead said that it is about a power exchange rather than violence.

Misinterpreting the purpose of BDSM can lead to other inappropriate conclusions regarding the sexual practice.

“For example, a book or a movie might show that if it’s in a heterosexual diad

then the male is always the dominant and the female always the submissive, which then places the female in a point of diminished power whereas in reality that should not necessarily be the case so to speak,” Olmstead said.

However, rather than discouraging sexual partners from branching into atypical sexual acts of their choice, Olmstead encouraged healthy, mutual exploration.

“One of the things that I think can be very healthy for promoting sexual communication are games from an adult store ... That’s a nonthreatening way to gauge someone’s initial reaction,” Olmstead said.

The ubiquity of adult stores points to an already greater societal tolerance towards kinks than the Mormons of the 1800’s experienced. For Campbell, this trend seems sure to continue.

“People seem to have a long history of fetishes, of wanting to see and engage in the things they’re not supposed to be around,” Campbell said, “that kind of urge to see something that our society labels as aberrant, or licentious or lascivious.”

It’s goin’ down, I’m yellin’ Tinder You know the one — that notorious little app with the fire symbol.

Don’t lie, you have a Tinder. I know you do. Everyone has one.

Not only does everyone have a Tinder, everyone has their fair share of reasons for having one: “I’m on there to make friends, have a casual hookup, find out if my boyfriend secretly has one, etc.”

But whatever your reason for Tindering might be, keep it classy — not creepy.

Nothing is worse than swiping on a cute guy only to have him commit one of the Seven Deadly Sins of Tinder (as listed below).

1. Convo Killer: This isn’t middle school. Do not message “Sup?” Seriously, why would you even make an effort to message someone if all you’re going to say is “Sup?” In fact, don’t even send any one word responses at all. This includes “Hey,” “Yeah,” and one of the biggest conversation killers: “Haha.”

2. Bad Pick-up Lines: Sure, some can be hilarious, and a clever pick-up line is always appreciated. But don’t cross the line. No one appreciates a gross, and most likely cringe-worthy, line. Examples include “Is that a mirror in your pocket...,” “Did it hurt when you fell...?” and — throwing this in here because GO VOLS — “Are you from Tennessee? Because you’re the only ten I see.”

3. The Tinder Hater: “Tinder is stupid.” Okay, Billy...

Then why are you here? Don’t put that in your bio. That’s like saying “I hate chocolate milkshakes,” and then proceeding to drive to Cook Out and ordering a chocolate shake.

4. Where’s Waldo?: Why are all your pictures group pictures? How is your potential match supposed to figure who you are if every picture you have up is of you and your 15 bros at some keg party? That is so confusing. No one wants to play “Where’s Waldo?” on Tinder. That’s just too much work.

5. Hotline Bling: Tinder is great because you can freely talk to someone without having to worry about them texting you obsessively, especially if your match turns out to be a complete dud. Stop asking for phone numbers within minutes of matching with someone. Giving away a phone number is a huge commitment. And the safety of the “unmatch” button is sometimes hard to give up.

6. Split Personality: This is the second most annoying Tinder sin, because there is nothing worse than a hypocrite. Be yourself — even if you’re a jerk. Be upfront and let your potential match know what they might be dealing with. Your bio might say “Trying to live like Jesus” — but that 2 a.m. “Nudes?” message says otherwise.

7. Nudes?: Speaking of nudes... Here we go. The worst of the worst of Tinder sins. Do you approach people on the street and ask them to take their clothes off? No. Be a civilized, functioning member of society and have some decency. Stop asking for nudes. Just stop.

Avoid committing any of the Seven Deadly Sins of Tinder, and steer clear of anyone who does.

Hannah Moulton is a junior in journalism & electronic media and cinema studies. She can be reached at hmoulton@vols.utk.edu.

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According to a survey by AdamAndEve. com, 82 percent of American adults use sex toys.

Despite the historically taboo nature of sex toys, they are a normal piece of people’s sex lives. Regardless of this large number of users though, public opinion still makes it seem like sex toys are distasteful.

Julie Edwards, sophomore in psychology and SEAT executive board member, plans to be a sexologist someday and spends much of her free time researching sex toys and reading reviews. She said certain misconceptions about sex toys lead to this unmentionable mentality.

“A lot people are kind of intimidated by sex toys,” Edwards said. “Whether you’re in a relationship or not in a relationship, I think they view sex toys as something daunting and for people who want more excitement in their sex lives. I guess people don’t always think it’s something they can incorporate into their own.”

This intimidation stems from a lack of research and regulation in the sex toy industry. Because it is hard for beginners to find information about where to start, it is hard for people to start conversations on the topic.

Lack of regulation by the government also keeps people in the dark when it comes to what is safe.

“We live in a non-sex positive society,” Edwards said about lack of regulation. “Sex toys aren’t FDA regulated. There’s no real check on the materials that have to be used in sex toys. There are a lot of sex toy companies that still use materials that aren’t even safe for dog or children’s play toys.”

Sex toys aren’t FDA regulated.

There’s no real check on the materials that have to be used in sex toys. There are a lot of sex toy companies that still use materials that aren’t even safe for dog or children’s play toys.”

Julie Edwards, sophomore in psychology and SEAT executive board member

Because the sex toy industry is not regulated, there are certain materials to look for to make sure your sex toy is safe for your body.

These include glass, 100 percent silicon, ABS plastic, wood coated with medical grade sealant and stainless steel. Edwards recommends the blog Dangerous Lilly for reliable reviews on body conscious toys.

“A lot of those chemicals are really unsafe for your body,” Edwards said, specifically mentioning carcinogens and phthalates.

“They’re toxic, and a lot of those are found in jelly sex toys … rubber. There’s no organiza-

tion that puts a check on sex toy manufacturers and makes sure they’re building sex toys with safe materials for the body.”

Edwards also advised not buying sex toys on Amazon or eBay because not all of the sellers are reliable. Instead, she recommended Romantic Escapades on Chapman Highway or online shopping for brands like Lelo, SheVibe, Adam & Eve and Good Vibrations.

“Sex toys aren’t something you really want to sacrifice quality on for a good price,” Edwards said.

For those interested in getting started with sex toys, Edwards recommends just starting with Googling sex toy reviews and “beginner’s guide to sex toys.”

From there, figure out what works best for your body, especially before trying to incorporate toys into sex with a partner.

“For yourself, you need to figure out what your body needs to orgasm or what feels good on your body,” Edwards said.

“Figuring out all those different concepts and how they apply to your own body will help you communicate those to your partner. So, whenever you try to incorporate sex toys into your sex life, regardless of your sexual orientation, being able to communicate what your body needs to your partner is the first step.”

What Edwards thinks is most important for making sex toy incorporation work in a relationship though is just open, comfortable communication. Start a conversation with your partner and let them know what you want “Just being comfortable enough to communicate and knowing that it isn’t directed to you or your performance,” Edwards said. “It’s wanting to enhance your sexual experience with each other.”

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The Daily Beacon • Friday, February 12, 2016

The realities of interracial dating Tanner Hancock News Editor

“Ni zai zuo shen me ne?�

That was the moment I knew things were different.

For a little under a month, I had been seeing the woman that would eventually become my girlfriend. Jet black hair, round brown eyes and typical Asian features. The fact that she was Chinese came as no surprise, yet the reality of it set in only after I heard her speaking with her mother on the phone. “Wo zai...�

For 10 solid minutes, I watched with wide eyed amazement as the girl I was getting to know rattled off sentence after sentence of incomprehensible Shanghainese.

I had entered into the world of interracial dating.

And I’m certainly not alone. Forty-nine years after interracial marriages were given the OK by the Supreme Court, the American perception of interracial relationships has seen a dramatic shift. According to a 2013 Gallup poll, 87 percent of American adults said they were fine with the idea of mixed race marriages, compared with only 4 percent in 1958. Between 2000 and 2010,

interracial and interethnic married couples grew by 28 percent over the decade, according to the 2010 census.

College students are finding themselves in relationships with partners of different races, which is less of a novelty and more a reality of changing race perceptions in America.

Changing, not changed, is the key word. As a white, straight male, any form of discrimination I face must necessarily be experienced through someone else, which in my case would be my partner of a little over a year. No, we’ve never been thrown out of a restaurant, nor have we eloped to escape the cruel disapproval of our parents (though that might have made for a more exciting story). Twenty-first century racism, as I’ve come to discover, takes a very different form. “Who invited the Chinese girl?�

That was perhaps one of the angriest moments of my life. Liquored up and enjoying a friend’s party, my happy stupor shifted to rage as I overheard a giggling sorority girl degrade my girlfriend because she wasn’t white. Until then, racism was something that happened to others; an outdated cliche more prevalent in old movies than in real life. Turns out not everyone is open minded. Some people are just better at pretending.

Racist remarks, ill-meaning or not, make up

at least some portion of interracial relationships, yet that’s not to suggest they always come from people outside the relationship itself. Of the many fights I’ve had with my significant other (and there have been many), the one I regret the most came after I referred to my girlfriend as “Chinese.� “I’m not Chinese. I’m American,� my girlfriend told me, abandoning the playful tone she’d been using before. Driving down the interstate, I reeled, slightly taken aback by the apparent turn in the conversation. My remark had not been meant as a slur but simply a statement of what I thought to be a fact. Looking at her, a woman fluent in Chinese, with a Chinese name and immigrant parents from China, I had never doubted her identity as a Chinese person.

Our disagreement was a minor one, but it was eye opening nonetheless. I, and many other couples in interracial relationships, tend to award ourselves subconscious trophies for conquering racism. “I can’t be racist,� goes the common phrase, “I’m dating an X girl.� At best, the idea inspires arrogance, yet at its worst, it propagates the same ignorance at the root of all racism. If you’re truly interested in understanding someone, make a real effort. Take a crack at their native language, read up on the history, the cultural practices, the essence of what makes a

• Photo Courtesy of Connie Wang race a race. If ignorance is the friend of hate, make it your enemy.

Tanner Hancock is a senior in journalism & electronic media. He can be reached at thancoc7@vols.utk.edu.

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FAVORITE SONGS TO GET IT ON Jacob Albright Contributor

There are songs to run to, songs to fall asleep to and songs to bang to.

Whatever genre interests you and your partner, there is surely a song that will allow the night to go a little smoother. Here are the top songs that will not only allow you to have the perfect day, but the perfect night as well with your Valentine’s Day 2016 Sex Playlist.

6. “Latch (Acoustic)” - Sam Smith The original version of this song may be a good twerking beat for the club, but the acoustic version really brings out the heartfelt affection in the song that the artist intended for it to be. This stripped down version is perfect for your playlist if you really want to convey a powerful meaning to your lover while your in bed.

5. “Good For You” – Selena Gomez There’s no questioning that this song deserves a spot in the top five. This song offers every sexual fantasy any man or woman may have. Although the thought of having sex while a former Disney Channel star is singing may be kind of awkward, just listen to the lyrics. It will ultimately make for a great night.

4. “Often” – The Weeknd What better song to have sex to than a song completely about sex? This song from one of the hottest new stars of the past year steers away from the romantic, classic sexual song and goes right into the sexual feelings you and your partner are currently feeling bumping and grinding. If you’re looking for a way to strengthen the sexual mood after your drunken date, this song will be perfect.

3. “Can’t Help Falling in Love” - Haley Reinhart Now, unlike “Often,” this song is truly a romance classic. A remake of the infamous Elvis chart topper, this song triumphs over all other classic love songs. The sweet words and tune of the song showcase the romance and the pureness of true love, making it perfect to begin the night with someone you care about after your Valentine’s Day date. If your looking for something a bit softer and meaningful, this will be perfect to add to your playlist.

2. “Crazy In Love (Remix)” - Beyoncé For any hopeless romantic, this song will take you into the world of “Fifty Shades of Grey.” This remastered Beyoncé classic and movie theme song will allow any pop lover to travel into the romantic connection between the main characters, Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele. Warning though, be sure not to channel Christian and Anastasia too much. Be safe.

1. “Falling Slowly” - Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova Now for the final song on the songs to bang to playlist.

Falling Slowly takes the number 1 spot. Although it’s an older song, it’s perhaps one of the most romantic songs to date. The song features a sweet duet of love that can easily translate to the bedroom. It takes the feeling of both sides of the relationship and throws them into one. The lyrics spell out exactly what being in love on Valentine’s Day truly means.

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How to have a sex life living on campus Dorm rooms can be great for socializing, sleeping and maybe studying, but when it comes to having sex, it can get a little tricky.

A tiny room and even tinier bed can be difficult to navigate. Throw a roommate in the mix, and you have a potential disaster. Here are some tips on how to make dorm sex the best sex of your life:

cut it, bring your sex to the shower. The technique is a little tricky at first, but practice makes perfect. Try it.

my partner’s ass several times. She lets me know when she’s on her way home, but I’m often preoccupied when I get that text. Lock the door to avoid those awkward moments. You never know when she’ll casually be bringing her mother by.

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and they are likely to get you back later. If you insist on having sex with your roommate present (don’t get me wrong, I have several times), I suggest spoon sex with small thrusts and lots of biting the pillow.

Let’s Talk Sex Communication is sexy — practice it. Trust me, you will both benefit from acknowledging each other’s expectations before your pants are on the floor. Consent is not something to be played with. Asking your partner what they want before, during and after the experience is the best way to ensure maximum pleasure.

When you do get lucky, be prepared ahead of time by keeping condoms, lubricant and any personal preferences in the area of your dorm that sees little traffic.

Location, Location, Location Talk logistics with your partner. Whose place are you headed to after the party? Are you spending the night? How are you getting home? Yes, these are the questions your mother asked you in high school, but she did it to keep you safe. You deserve to do the same for yourself. Plus, there is nothing worse than waking up after a night of great sex to a parking ticket. Plan ahead.

Roommate Contract Establish a system with your roommate. You’ll get to the point where you know each other’s schedules, so plan around it when you can. Don’t be a sexiler and send your roommate away five times a week to get lucky. If your roommate is home for the night, be respectful. Unless your roommate is a borderline narcoleptic like mine, they are awake. They are not sleeping through the thrusting and soft moans you’re trying to hide,

Know What Works For those celebrated days when you do have more than 20 minutes to spend with your partner, you’ll want to know your best positions before you start working your magic. In such a small space, I recommend classic missionary, a smaller version of the downward dog, spoon sex or, my personal favorite, the prone bone.

Experiment with your partner on what works best.

Study Abroad Limiting yourself to a twin mattress just is not feasible. You’re paying for the room, so take advantage of all it has to offer.

The same positions that work on the bed, work on the floor – and more. You don’t have to be flexible or athletic to have sex standing up either, so no more excuses. Chairs are wonderful things to utilize. Just try it. Some of the best sex of your life will happen off the bed.

Shower Schedule More likely than not, you have an understanding of the shower schedule in your dorm. Whether you have a suite style or community shower to share, there is a time of day when no one is in the bathroom. If the dorm room doesn’t

Keep it Down I can’t help it, I’m a noise maker. Yes, the respectful thing is to keep the noise to a minimum, but when my neighbors come knocking, I knock back and move on. So do as I say and not as I do and keep the noise down. Your dorm mates will respect you more for it.

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Bedtime Story All done? Talk with your partner about the amazing sex you just had. Tell them how much you liked it when they tried that new thing or how sexy it was when they showed you they could do (blank) with their (blank).

No one is too cool to spoon, and it’s the best way to fit two adult bodies on one tiny mattress anyways.

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